I think something else that is super important to talk about is that women also struggle with this issue! If you make a part two this would be a good point of discussion to bring in. Thankful for you and for this video.
I don’t know if you’ll see this but me and my best friend recently stopped talking and she moved on but I’m just here thinking of all the memories and thinking that I’ll never be that happy again so what do I do to let go and to make my self feel okay instead of lonely. I really can’t do this on my own not this time could u help?
Feeling like I wasnt enough, was part of the reason why I left my first husband. It's never a good feeling. For anyone wondering what it's like, I hope you never experience a marriage or any serious relationship where you feel like you are never enough.
The thing is though is it's not up to someone else responsibility to make you feel like you are enough. It's up to you and only you to decide you are enough. There is too many different perspectives to leave being enough up to someone other than yourself.
Yes please, please make a part two! This video was so inspiring and touching. I’d love to hear more of your thoughts on sex, particularly about how they relate to scripture. Thanks for always putting out such awesome & genuine content!
Part 2 please!! Can you please touch more on how a person can cope with their partner watching porn due to past sexual trauma. I watched this and it helped educate me but I still don’t feel like I’m enough. When I’m not with him he turns to porn instead of turning to me to satisfy his sexual need and I feel useless for that ..
Im going through that feeling of not being enough rn. My bf still watches it even when im there and asleep. Without detail, he is never “fulfilled” when he does it with me. Its hurts so much but i love him so much. I feel like porn is so normalized i know that he may not mean it and i shouldnt care as much, but i still hurt everytime he tells me it happened.
Yes, part two would be wonderful. It’s so rare to find someone willing to really talk about it, not just at it...to discuss accept it’s existence but not simply choose a side of “it’s all good” or “it’s all bad”. I’ve struggled in the past and never had anyone open my eyes to needs it was truly addressing in my life. Instead it was always, “you’re weak, try harder” or “your flesh is too strong, pray harder”. More people need to hear this. Thank you for being so open in a public forum.
Sooo this is an eye opener. I- this is such an uncomfortable topic, and I think part of that is because there is a lot of shame culture in my church when it comes to porn. But having someone who is a believer in Christ talk about it so openly and non judgmentally really softens the heart to receive your words. This is going to sound so dumb, but this video literally just changed my life 😅😅 I have so much to think about now... thank you for making this video, and sharing your time and thoughts with us.
Thank you, I’ve dealt with this since elementary and never really had someone explain it and help me with it besides when they’d yell and say it’s a sin and all that madness, I thank you again for the new outlook and wise words on it 🥲
Thank you so much for your words here Matthias. My husband and I have been struggling to unpack his struggles with porn and how to actually deal with it in a comprehensive way that goes beyond just quick fixes and the shame tactics we are used to. This video was so great and is exactly what we needed - thank you for providing deeper perspective and help to these situations. Thanks you again! Please keep these UA-cam videos coming!
Love your videos! I have always thought that NOT being sexual with someone before marriage can fog your vision because you may be more likely to marry someone because you just want to finally have those sexual experiences with them? Or rush into things because you want the end goal of sex? Like the anticipation and desire and need to have sex clouds your judgement? Just my thoughts.
The problem I have is I'm trying to stop and go back to my imagination and memorys and to masturbate less as a whole. At this point it's not that I need it it's just habbit
I feel that whenever he watches porn it’s cheating but in his perspective he thinks it’s not and that he thinks it’s not cheating because they don’t look at the looks but they look at what’s happening so their point is lets say they like that women but will they be able to date them but no and my point there was it don’t agree and i feel that I wasn’t enough to make him watch those things.
I agree with you. It’s emotional cheating. Yah know when people say well “he/or she didn’t physically cheat but....” the feeling you have is that he cheated. It’s not complex.
I think we will address a lot of the porn addiction and dependency when people can honestly answer the question you asked "what are you searching for?"
how can i have a one on one conversation about this with you? is there? i have literally JUST gone through this type of conversation and i turn to your videos or tiktoks in time of need. you are seriously very healing.
There is so much wisdom in this video! Thank you so much! Your notes for pastors or religious leaders are incredibly helpful. I think it helps a lot of us to look more objectively at why someone may be struggling with this area in their life. It certainly helps promote healing for those who have struggled with feelings of inadequacy. Absolutely love your videos! You’re doing incredible work.
I grew up at a time that encountering porn video was much harder. I never encountered it as an adolescence. I encountered other early sexual exposure that I should not have. It was jarring and it has had continued detrimental effects. The access to porn today, and hardcore especially, is a recipe to totally destroy normalcy in coming of age sexuality.
So, what about masturbation? It’s difficult to imagine one without the other. It seems like porn has become normalized in our culture. What about watching porn with a partner? SO MANY QUESTIONS. Is there a context where it’s ok?
I live with my heart on my sleeve... But i'm a tough guy... I have triggers That need to be addressed.... But the trouble I have doesn't scare me... I'm not scared to relieve these things... And rewrite em. To heal. Calm state.. Talking about the traumatic days. Is nothing to me... I can stay pretty calm talking about the worst times... It's when they catch me off guard suddenly... Unprepared for it.. Or I could be doing really good... And the drop of a dime turned into an jerk. And then I get guilt.
Amazing...I’ve definitely prayed that prayer of take away this temptation. I’ve never looked at it from this side though. That it’s not something to pray that God takes away but instead say “God help me to be satisfied in You alone”. Great videos, sir. Please do more on this topic!
Thank you for your wisdom you are really gifted by God to help millions of broken hearts, I have learnt a valuable lesson just listening to your message so I can help my children when they are old, thank you God bless you more and more you are very precious 🙏
Ive gotten better more aware of what i think is an addiction to pornography but as youve said that if the emotional need if not met then it is really hard to fight the temptation to watch porn even with all those blocker apps to stop people from watching. It feels like Ive hit a plateau on what I can do. I want to recognise the power God has over my situation and choose Him but it's like everytime i start watching his voice gets silenced out subconsciously because i guess the body wants what it wants (?). Would love to get some advice also this video was really good seeing sexual sin and desires from a different perspective
Thank you for this, I’ve been trying to quit for years now. I’m 17 and i’ve been doing it since i was 12. I’ll always try to do the self discipline groups and think i have to muscle my way through it, but i’ve always wondered if there was a deeper reasoning. I think it’s because I feel like i’m a disappoint and i’m not special and not living up to what i think i should be, so i do it to feel special to somebody. How do i go about healing?
When I first got married, I found a porn search for cheating wives on my husband's phone. I was devastated, and I am still not sure what to think about it.
Matthias I’ve always loved what you’ve got but today was shattering the fearfully and wonderfully made but got me I know God loves me and I know he gave me this to be a part of my story but to hear someone say that out loud was something else
I hope there’s a part two! i love how you give different views on the topic. Both me and my fiancée have struggled with pornography, unfortunately from being exposed at a really young age. it’s been really hard not to feel insecure or feeling like you’re not satisfying their needs, but i’m learning it really isn’t always about you at all, i think it comes from a place of hurt and everyone has been hurt in some way or another. We started going to counseling together and about to start solo. we’re trying to stay positive. Although putting software in place and having someone to talk about it doesn’t take away the habit, we still have them in place for some accountability while we work through figuring out why and how to get rid of the habit. It’s been rough and we have our bad days, but it got us to open up in a different way and it really helps having a partner who understands and wants to walk with you through the process and just be your support system. anyway, love your videos!!
Matthias, I have to say that thank God I dont struggle with the topics you discuss in your videos, but I find them so very contemplative and inpirational. Not only is the videography wonderful and your voice calming, but your perspective is so fresh and logical. Your stories and anecdotes are excellent and always on topic. I look forward to your videos to help reinforce healthy and functional thoughts and thinking in my life. Keep up the wonderful work and thank you!
This was said in a way that’s so modern and I wish I heard this when I was younger. I think when we’re repressed in the way you’re speaking of, we’re so mature areas of adult hood, but in the area of sex we’re still a 16 yo trying to process those things. It’s sad to go through, cuz it doesn’t develop a “balance” as an adult on how to think about this. Just 2 far extremes...
Love this! The church perpetuates the belief that you’re dirty, sinful and disobedient if you struggle with sexual sin. But when you flip the script and make it more about respect and love for the other person’s body, mind and spirit and your own body, mind and spirit; it’s so much easier to abstain... and if/when you do struggle you don’t feel like you’re condemned to hell for being human.
Can you do a video like this on adultery? What leads to one stepping out on their spouse? The trauma? How the victim can heal? What the spouse who stepped out can do to heal the relationship? Etc anything!
Oh my goodness, thank you!! I know this is an old video but who cares, I have struggled with this my whole life and you just helped me think through it and I will think through it and pray through it more. Thank you for tackling the delicate things.
I really needed this, I follow you on tiktok and you have been a much needed guidance. Thank you for what you do. This won’t change anything immediately but this has giving me a starting point on how to look for the long term resolution.
Wow. You have such a beautiful heart! And God is using that beautiful heart to heal his people. The last few mins real hit and cut deeply. Thank you! God Bless!
Someone reached to me for help on this. And it was so hard cuz I really didn't know what to say or do nevertheless helping myself too... But this really gave me an insight and I am sure this video would be of great help. Thanks so much
Wonderful please do a series eventually especially about what could be underlying for darker interests (pegging, being beaten cut and hurt and dominated ) i had a former partner that wanted those things but also hated wanting them ... I've been trying to make sense of this from a Christian perspective but also a psychological one
I just had a girlfriend who we were very sexually active and we did it like multiple times everyday or atleast we did it every other day. I thought I wanted to marry this girl and she honestly wasn’t mature enough and I feel like without sex I might have seen our differences and wouldn’t have gotten hurt by her. I honestly feel like if I’ve never gotten into have sex and watched porn I would be better. I watch porn just to be able to have that self pleasure and I want the dopamine from it. It makes me feel good and it makes everything better granted it doesn’t last long but it makes me feel better and that’s why I feel like doing that won’t help anymore. When you’ve done it so long it’s a habit and it’s hard to break. I’ve never looked at it from her side when she did say something I feel honestly bad because I never thought of it that way. So thank you for helping I appreciate what you do and I love listening to you talk and explain things.
I’m going to be completely honest I don’t think I’ve learned more about myself more than today than I have in the past year and I think that p0rn was a blockade to that so I’d like to thank you very much for opening my views on things.
A movie that touched my heart deep on this subject, The Heart of Man.. it answered a lot of questions and at the same time provided me freedom on the sex topic in general. If anyone feel interested to watch it don't give up on testimonies of the first minutes if it doesn't apply to you, it has a message toward the end to reflect who we really are.
Where is the line drawn. What if the S.O. pays for a premium snap or pays a lot of the shared money you make with him to talk to them or buy the sets. Then kept it from you your entire relationship? Is it then just porn? Or is it more? I wish I knew where the line is. At what point has it gone too far? At what point is it cheating?
i think just occasional free porn is normal while in a relationship where sex is involved imo. when it gets to the point when they are paying for premiums, talking to them, and other things thats when it crosses the line. Thats only my opinion though! I can only imagine how it feels to be on the other end of that :(
There really isn’t a defined line because all relationships are different, if you’re uncomfortable with it and you’re partner doesn’t respect that and continues to do it then it’s wrong.
This video helps so much. I'm 19 and I've been struggling since I was 12 and I've grown up in a lot of the same environments as you and been told the same things you were, but I see now that I can't just will it away. Thank you.
Yes, great commentary! To add on, I firmly believe that porn is damaging to your heart, soul, and mind. When I use to watch it, it plagued my mind. I would look at men differently. I wanted to change but couldn’t on my own. When I turned to Jesus, my whole life changed! I dont watch porn anymore and I don’t want to. If you’re struggling, know that if you turn to Jesus, He will change you, I promise! You don’t have to feel shame/guilt anymore. He doesn’t want you to feel shame. Shame is from the devil.
Hey Matthias, I found your channel just a couple of weeks ago, but I am totally digging watching your thought provoking and inspiring vids. I truly enjoyed listening to your stance on pornography and how there is always an underlying issue. That is something to take into consideration anytime an addiction is present. I also appreciated how you offered practical tips on how to overcome those challenges. However, and I realize I may be placing a target on myself with the following comment, but I am disappointed with your stance on expressing sexuality. I could have interpreted it incorrectly, so feel free to voice your thoughts if I’m off base. As a therapist, I would use caution in vocalizing the rhetoric behind sex can’t be “just sex,” that there’s no room for it to be a novel expression of self, as that notion only further contributes to shame culture. Many of your listeners are young, and I would hate for them to watch this video and feel guilty for choosing to have sex before marriage, or exploring their sexuality with multiple partners. I think it’s important to remind people that sexuality and sexual expression is a spectrum and it is up to the individual to decide what they want for themselves (I know you briefly mentioned this, but I think it should have been more heavily emphasized). That there is no one size fits all approach, and it is OKAY to be sexual in whatever form that takes. I also grew up in the I Kissed Dating Goodbye culture and am still recovering from the impact of it. I think this video was a good start, but I do hope you’ll make another one clarifying that we should not be ashamed of our sexual encounters with people.
I think something else that is super important to talk about is that women also struggle with this issue! If you make a part two this would be a good point of discussion to bring in. Thankful for you and for this video.
I second this.
I agree!
Damn, imagine being married to this man.
*you stubs toe and starts crying* *him talking to you for 20 minutes about pain*
You can marry me
Gross. Mr. Teleprompter Actor Man. No thank you.
I don’t know if you’ll see this but me and my best friend recently stopped talking and she moved on but I’m just here thinking of all the memories and thinking that I’ll never be that happy again so what do I do to let go and to make my self feel okay instead of lonely. I really can’t do this on my own not this time could u help?
I'm not struggling, I'm beating it... And myself... Off ...
Feeling like I wasnt enough, was part of the reason why I left my first husband. It's never a good feeling. For anyone wondering what it's like, I hope you never experience a marriage or any serious relationship where you feel like you are never enough.
The thing is though is it's not up to someone else responsibility to make you feel like you are enough. It's up to you and only you to decide you are enough. There is too many different perspectives to leave being enough up to someone other than yourself.
Totally makes sense. I know many who have felt that same way. Thank you for sharing Katie!
Could you do a video on overthinking or being insecure in a relationship??
Omg yes! This please
Yes please, please make a part two! This video was so inspiring and touching. I’d love to hear more of your thoughts on sex, particularly about how they relate to scripture. Thanks for always putting out such awesome & genuine content!
Part 2 please!! Can you please touch more on how a person can cope with their partner watching porn due to past sexual trauma. I watched this and it helped educate me but I still don’t feel like I’m enough. When I’m not with him he turns to porn instead of turning to me to satisfy his sexual need and I feel useless for that ..
Oh gosh.... “I kissed dating goodbye”. I remember that. What a weird childhood I had....
Im going through that feeling of not being enough rn. My bf still watches it even when im there and asleep. Without detail, he is never “fulfilled” when he does it with me. Its hurts so much but i love him so much. I feel like porn is so normalized i know that he may not mean it and i shouldnt care as much, but i still hurt everytime he tells me it happened.
in my own personal opinion, porn has been normalized and is normal in my eyes. but your boyfriends behavior and lack of respect for you, is not.
@@brittanynblythe finally someone at least understands that part of it
Yes, part two would be wonderful. It’s so rare to find someone willing to really talk about it, not just at it...to discuss accept it’s existence but not simply choose a side of “it’s all good” or “it’s all bad”. I’ve struggled in the past and never had anyone open my eyes to needs it was truly addressing in my life. Instead it was always, “you’re weak, try harder” or “your flesh is too strong, pray harder”. More people need to hear this. Thank you for being so open in a public forum.
Sooo this is an eye opener. I- this is such an uncomfortable topic, and I think part of that is because there is a lot of shame culture in my church when it comes to porn. But having someone who is a believer in Christ talk about it so openly and non judgmentally really softens the heart to receive your words. This is going to sound so dumb, but this video literally just changed my life 😅😅 I have so much to think about now... thank you for making this video, and sharing your time and thoughts with us.
Not dumb at all I feel the eXACT same way.
You should look up more videos of strong Christians talking about this! There’s a lot of ppl finally willing to discuss this unnecessarily taboo topic
Feeling like you’re not enough or there’s something wrong with you. It feels like adultery to me.
Thank you, I’ve dealt with this since elementary and never really had someone explain it and help me with it besides when they’d yell and say it’s a sin and all that madness, I thank you again for the new outlook and wise words on it 🥲
Thank you so much for your words here Matthias. My husband and I have been struggling to unpack his struggles with porn and how to actually deal with it in a comprehensive way that goes beyond just quick fixes and the shame tactics we are used to. This video was so great and is exactly what we needed - thank you for providing deeper perspective and help to these situations. Thanks you again! Please keep these UA-cam videos coming!
Im so so glad Jordyn! Its a hard journey but so rewarding!
Love your videos! I have always thought that NOT being sexual with someone before marriage can fog your vision because you may be more likely to marry someone because you just want to finally have those sexual experiences with them? Or rush into things because you want the end goal of sex? Like the anticipation and desire and need to have sex clouds your judgement? Just my thoughts.
Dude chill, me and my girl both watch porn and neither of us care, porn is awesome, self pleasure my guy self pleasure
The problem I have is I'm trying to stop and go back to my imagination and memorys and to masturbate less as a whole. At this point it's not that I need it it's just habbit
I feel that whenever he watches porn it’s cheating but in his perspective he thinks it’s not and that he thinks it’s not cheating because they don’t look at the looks but they look at what’s happening so their point is lets say they like that women but will they be able to date them but no and my point there was it don’t agree and i feel that I wasn’t enough to make him watch those things.
I agree with you. It’s emotional cheating. Yah know when people say well “he/or she didn’t physically cheat but....” the feeling you have is that he cheated. It’s not complex.
Your OnlyFans is so hot.
I think we will address a lot of the porn addiction and dependency when people can honestly answer the question you asked "what are you searching for?"
In a part two, could you elaborate on what to do once you identfify the need that pornography is filling?
You should do more videos on porn, this has really helped me
Hey man, can you maybe do a video of why people cheat on there partners and how to forgive the other person and them selves?
how can i have a one on one conversation about this with you? is there? i have literally JUST gone through this type of conversation and i turn to your videos or tiktoks in time of need. you are seriously very healing.
This guy is literally a walking W. He needs his own show bro. Stay blessed man 🖤
There is so much wisdom in this video! Thank you so much! Your notes for pastors or religious leaders are incredibly helpful. I think it helps a lot of us to look more objectively at why someone may be struggling with this area in their life. It certainly helps promote healing for those who have struggled with feelings of inadequacy. Absolutely love your videos! You’re doing incredible work.
You should consider doing videos like these but as ASMR! Man, that would be relaxing.
This made me feel less weird about this after my assault cause I was struggling and I didn't know why
I grew up at a time that encountering porn video was much harder. I never encountered it as an adolescence. I encountered other early sexual exposure that I should not have. It was jarring and it has had continued detrimental effects. The access to porn today, and hardcore especially, is a recipe to totally destroy normalcy in coming of age sexuality.
So, what about masturbation? It’s difficult to imagine one without the other. It seems like porn has become normalized in our culture. What about watching porn with a partner? SO MANY QUESTIONS. Is there a context where it’s ok?
I live with my heart on my sleeve... But i'm a tough guy... I have triggers That need to be addressed.... But the trouble I have doesn't scare me... I'm not scared to relieve these things... And rewrite em. To heal. Calm state.. Talking about the traumatic days. Is nothing to me... I can stay pretty calm talking about the worst times... It's when they catch me off guard suddenly... Unprepared for it.. Or I could be doing really good... And the drop of a dime turned into an jerk. And then I get guilt.
Thank you so much for all guidance you have provided me!
I’m so happy I found you on tik tok & that you put full versions on UA-cam. The way you explain things makes so much sense.
Amazing...I’ve definitely prayed that prayer of take away this temptation. I’ve never looked at it from this side though. That it’s not something to pray that God takes away but instead say “God help me to be satisfied in You alone”. Great videos, sir. Please do more on this topic!
Thank you for your wisdom you are really gifted by God to help millions of broken hearts, I have learnt a valuable lesson just listening to your message so I can help my children when they are old, thank you God bless you more and more you are very precious 🙏
Ive gotten better more aware of what i think is an addiction to pornography but as youve said that if the emotional need if not met then it is really hard to fight the temptation to watch porn even with all those blocker apps to stop people from watching. It feels like Ive hit a plateau on what I can do. I want to recognise the power God has over my situation and choose Him but it's like everytime i start watching his voice gets silenced out subconsciously because i guess the body wants what it wants (?). Would love to get some advice also this video was really good seeing sexual sin and desires from a different perspective
Thank you for this, I’ve been trying to quit for years now. I’m 17 and i’ve been doing it since i was 12. I’ll always try to do the self discipline groups and think i have to muscle my way through it, but i’ve always wondered if there was a deeper reasoning. I think it’s because I feel like i’m a disappoint and i’m not special and not living up to what i think i should be, so i do it to feel special to somebody. How do i go about healing?
When I first got married, I found a porn search for cheating wives on my husband's phone. I was devastated, and I am still not sure what to think about it.
It might be a kink of his so watch out for it
Matthias I’ve always loved what you’ve got but today was shattering the fearfully and wonderfully made but got me I know God loves me and I know he gave me this to be a part of my story but to hear someone say that out loud was something else
I hope there’s a part two! i love how you give different views on the topic. Both me and my fiancée have struggled with pornography, unfortunately from being exposed at a really young age. it’s been really hard not to feel insecure or feeling like you’re not satisfying their needs, but i’m learning it really isn’t always about you at all, i think it comes from a place of hurt and everyone has been hurt in some way or another. We started going to counseling together and about to start solo. we’re trying to stay positive. Although putting software in place and having someone to talk about it doesn’t take away the habit, we still have them in place for some accountability while we work through figuring out why and how to get rid of the habit. It’s been rough and we have our bad days, but it got us to open up in a different way and it really helps having a partner who understands and wants to walk with you through the process and just be your support system. anyway, love your videos!!
This NEEDS a part 2-especially the ending.
I really, really needed this. Thank you so much! Please do a Part 2!
How can I become one of your clients?
Matthias, I have to say that thank God I dont struggle with the topics you discuss in your videos, but I find them so very contemplative and inpirational. Not only is the videography wonderful and your voice calming, but your perspective is so fresh and logical. Your stories and anecdotes are excellent and always on topic. I look forward to your videos to help reinforce healthy and functional thoughts and thinking in my life. Keep up the wonderful work and thank you!
Bruhhhh. This was *so* good. Thank you for this. I am encouraged by this.
I’m glad I found your message, thank you ....Hi Matt, Merry Christmas!🎄
Hey I got a question can you do Carl Jung psychology about persona and shadow. I really would appreciate it so much .
Thank you so much for posting this period I can't tell you how much this is helping me in this season of my life right now.
Thank you so much! this was just what I needed today, God bless!
So glad!
Dude loved this. Really shed some light into my life thanks man
Please make a part two - thank you for so much great content!
I really needed the last 5 minutes
This was said in a way that’s so modern and I wish I heard this when I was younger. I think when we’re repressed in the way you’re speaking of, we’re so mature areas of adult hood, but in the area of sex we’re still a 16 yo trying to process those things. It’s sad to go through, cuz it doesn’t develop a “balance” as an adult on how to think about this. Just 2 far extremes...
Love this! The church perpetuates the belief that you’re dirty, sinful and disobedient if you struggle with sexual sin. But when you flip the script and make it more about respect and love for the other person’s body, mind and spirit and your own body, mind and spirit; it’s so much easier to abstain... and if/when you do struggle you don’t feel like you’re condemned to hell for being human.
Can you do a video like this on adultery? What leads to one stepping out on their spouse? The trauma? How the victim can heal? What the spouse who stepped out can do to heal the relationship? Etc anything!
Wonderful words especially at the end! And I know that this video is 9 months old but I would love to see you have a discussion with Jonathan Pageau!
Oh my goodness, thank you!! I know this is an old video but who cares, I have struggled with this my whole life and you just helped me think through it and I will think through it and pray through it more. Thank you for tackling the delicate things.
I really needed this, I follow you on tiktok and you have been a much needed guidance. Thank you for what you do. This won’t change anything immediately but this has giving me a starting point on how to look for the long term resolution.
Wow. You have such a beautiful heart! And God is using that beautiful heart to heal his people. The last few mins real hit and cut deeply. Thank you! God Bless!
Someone reached to me for help on this. And it was so hard cuz I really didn't know what to say or do nevertheless helping myself too...
But this really gave me an insight and I am sure this video would be of great help.
Thanks so much
Wonderful please do a series eventually especially about what could be underlying for darker interests (pegging, being beaten cut and hurt and dominated ) i had a former partner that wanted those things but also hated wanting them ... I've been trying to make sense of this from a Christian perspective but also a psychological one
I just had a girlfriend who we were very sexually active and we did it like multiple times everyday or atleast we did it every other day. I thought I wanted to marry this girl and she honestly wasn’t mature enough and I feel like without sex I might have seen our differences and wouldn’t have gotten hurt by her. I honestly feel like if I’ve never gotten into have sex and watched porn I would be better. I watch porn just to be able to have that self pleasure and I want the dopamine from it. It makes me feel good and it makes everything better granted it doesn’t last long but it makes me feel better and that’s why I feel like doing that won’t help anymore. When you’ve done it so long it’s a habit and it’s hard to break. I’ve never looked at it from her side when she did say something I feel honestly bad because I never thought of it that way. So thank you for helping I appreciate what you do and I love listening to you talk and explain things.
I’m going to be completely honest I don’t think I’ve learned more about myself more than today than I have in the past year and I think that p0rn was a blockade to that so I’d like to thank you very much for opening my views on things.
A movie that touched my heart deep on this subject, The Heart of Man.. it answered a lot of questions and at the same time provided me freedom on the sex topic in general. If anyone feel interested to watch it don't give up on testimonies of the first minutes if it doesn't apply to you, it has a message toward the end to reflect who we really are.
Wow! Is there a Nobel prize for awesome and really really amazing content?
What camera did you use to film this? I’d like to buy the same camera
Thank you for sharing this with us. It answered questions about actions within my life. So thank you so very much much.
Such an amazing video. I struggle with it alot
I love the layout to fit my phone in portrait mode because I hate going full screen
Thank you! Honest and powerful
I respect this video man. I come from the same background as you. I wish I would ave heard this a long time ago.
Do you improvise these or do you write a script?
Oh this is his video!? I saw it on Tik Tok and thought he was just shouting out someone else’s bodeo
great video. what is the song in the outro?
Ive attempted suicide because of the shame of porn. Ive failed classes because i was depressed that i couldn't quit porn.
Did you by chance play a game of Cold War with me tonight (JakeTaylor TV)?
Im saving this until i get a girlfriend
Oh my gosh PLEASE do a part two this was so helpful
Do you have a podcast
This was so helpful
you’re amazing brother
So, so good!
Where is the line drawn. What if the S.O. pays for a premium snap or pays a lot of the shared money you make with him to talk to them or buy the sets. Then kept it from you your entire relationship? Is it then just porn? Or is it more? I wish I knew where the line is. At what point has it gone too far? At what point is it cheating?
i think just occasional free porn is normal while in a relationship where sex is involved imo. when it gets to the point when they are paying for premiums, talking to them, and other things thats when it crosses the line. Thats only my opinion though! I can only imagine how it feels to be on the other end of that :(
There really isn’t a defined line because all relationships are different, if you’re uncomfortable with it and you’re partner doesn’t respect that and continues to do it then it’s wrong.
Love your perspective thank you!
Please make a part 2.
Phenomenal overview
Wow, I needed this
Thank you
Are you religious?
or believe in God?
This video helps so much. I'm 19 and I've been struggling since I was 12 and I've grown up in a lot of the same environments as you and been told the same things you were, but I see now that I can't just will it away. Thank you.
I'm not struggling with porn I accept that I love it and my wife likes to watch some here and there as well.
Yes, great commentary! To add on, I firmly believe that porn is damaging to your heart, soul, and mind. When I use to watch it, it plagued my mind. I would look at men differently. I wanted to change but couldn’t on my own. When I turned to Jesus, my whole life changed! I dont watch porn anymore and I don’t want to. If you’re struggling, know that if you turn to Jesus, He will change you, I promise! You don’t have to feel shame/guilt anymore. He doesn’t want you to feel shame. Shame is from the devil.
Hey Matthias, I found your channel just a couple of weeks ago, but I am totally digging watching your thought provoking and inspiring vids. I truly enjoyed listening to your stance on pornography and how there is always an underlying issue. That is something to take into consideration anytime an addiction is present. I also appreciated how you offered practical tips on how to overcome those challenges. However, and I realize I may be placing a target on myself with the following comment, but I am disappointed with your stance on expressing sexuality. I could have interpreted it incorrectly, so feel free to voice your thoughts if I’m off base. As a therapist, I would use caution in vocalizing the rhetoric behind sex can’t be “just sex,” that there’s no room for it to be a novel expression of self, as that notion only further contributes to shame culture. Many of your listeners are young, and I would hate for them to watch this video and feel guilty for choosing to have sex before marriage, or exploring their sexuality with multiple partners. I think it’s important to remind people that sexuality and sexual expression is a spectrum and it is up to the individual to decide what they want for themselves (I know you briefly mentioned this, but I think it should have been more heavily emphasized). That there is no one size fits all approach, and it is OKAY to be sexual in whatever form that takes. I also grew up in the I Kissed Dating Goodbye culture and am still recovering from the impact of it. I think this video was a good start, but I do hope you’ll make another one clarifying that we should not be ashamed of our sexual encounters with people.
So it’s ok for people to hang themself because they get horny from that? Isn’t there a line that shouldn’t be crossed?