Any body in the sports development can relate to this talking! I wish more coaches can be humble enough to admit, that they are responsible for the massive drop out of children in Sports! When a coach don't give children the same level plain field to participate,it becomes obvious that those that play less will begin to develop low self esteem which makes them pull-out . When children begin to play with fear of been penalised for every error they make in the game,they begin to loss Self-confidence, which is one of most important factor in life.
Matt has addressed an important problem we are facing in the sporting world. Instead of enhancing self esteem, determination and collaboration we are ending up making children and youth either lose the joy of playing sports or give up sports. Well done!!
This is great insight on the role parents/adults play on the development and participation in youth sports. Another thing to note is favoritism. I’ve seen teams lose players and championships over a coach allowing the mayor’s son to play a sport they don’t enjoy. I was the mayor’s son’s friend and I have yet to meet anyone with such high level of anxiety and stress. This was 10 years ago.
An incredible message from someone that knows the landscape better than almost anyone. More coaches need to hear this and more parents need to understand this. Thank you for your dedication to challenging the need for change.
Absolutely incredible talk! Having had a kid at 13 burn out on a sport he once loved so much, I feel this is in my core. We have carved a new path supporting him to find things he enjoys doing!
Well done. Thank you for calling out the industry. The Flintstones called it out decades ago with one the best exchange of all time; "What kids need are the fundamentals" "No, what kids need is the FUN."
So many profound insights shared in this wonderful talk. I resisted sports as a kid because I didn't like the coaching environment. My parents weren't fans either. Kids are so susceptible to negative feedback. It's imperative that we make experiences about growth and learning as well as achievement.
So good Matt! And 100% bang on! My son switched to House League for his last two years of youth hockey and it was the most fun he (and I) had ever playing the game. He still plays, now in Men's league.
Matt, your words ring true. I've seen kids burned out or disillusioned about a sport they once loved. The joy is gone. It's been sucked out of them by parents who push them and live vicariously through them. By overbearing coaches who belittle, demoralize, and use punitive tacatics. The toxic environment that a few parents, in collusion with certain coaches create, is saddening. I grew up participating in sports because I wanted to and I chose to specialize in wrestling. Well, truth be told, it chose me. It became my passion. I didn't have parents who pushed me. I had coaches who had high standards and expected all of their wrestlers to train and to compete at the best of their abilities. Practices were hard, very hard, but we were never abused. If a parent was inappropriate, that was nipped in the bud quickly, either by another parent, a school administrator, or the coach. I agree we need to rein in expectations and allow our kids to be kids. Thanks for sharing this important message, my friend. It will help many.
A powerful message that needs to heard by parents and sports officials everywhere. No kid should have their love for a sport stifled by a parent or squashed by a coach. Thank you Matt for telling it like it is.
Sometimes my parents were motivated for me to win then I was, it was fun, we won a bit, but even today I miss some of those people, they made life better for us a group :)
Bravo Matt! Auch wir in Europa haben diesbezüglich Nachholbedarf, da auch unsere Sportstrukturen die meisten Kinder im Alter zwischen 12-16 Jahren verlieren.
Another problem in the sports is favoritism, I have seen it happen so many times, and the sad thing is that kids are able to understand when someone does that
Awesome talk and glad to know you are in there making change. Methinks some poor 'elite' coaches almost or briefly "made it to the big Game". Now they too quick to declare "elite" skills in kids -- becasue they need to grow their coaching business. Keep on Keeping it FUN!
I've seen this kind of things a million times. I remember a show covering Little League in a small city. They had to pick about 8 teams. The coaches got together and held a fantasy type draft. Each coach was given so many credits and they bid on one child at a time. They were not thinking of a game for kids, they were thinking of a game for themselves.
Nothing has changed about youth sports. He said everything that we already knew for so long. This "America Number One" mentality that I like to call for parents and coaches never works in America. It's time to change the culture.
I dropped out of tennis at age of 10 because I was angry at my coach. He reached out many times, tried to get me back, but he did me wrong and I was really stubborn kid. After that I was so ashamed for years, that I avoided the courts just so the coach doesnt see me. I felt like a failure. After all these years now in this video I understood, that it was not my fault. Bittersweet feeling, I am 30yo now and still love tennis and regret that I stopped :( I will make sure this will not happen to my son
I don't know where you live all my parks are empty from kids I have seen more kid on drugs as a parent with little income and want my kids to succeed not to many colleges except a child with just a good grade they need something to offer as a coach for 20 years and a father of 2 athletes you should relate as a parent I beleive we do our best and if sports is the worst thing then we have a much bigger problem
I thought i was the only one that think adults ruin sports for kids that happened to me with soccer, when i joined a team i used to hate the yelling couch i just wanna play not being a profesional.
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I don’t necessarily disagree and I have seen first hand the evolution in my profession. I am part of the problem perhaps and am reflecting. He is wearing a Nike shirt, which seems a bit ironic.
A lil upset he didn’t mention trans kids in sports about them being themselves and being inclusive just child athletes on performance, value, and familial upbringing of expectations. I did Girls Track and Volleyball. And the girls and the coaches knew I was trans and been in transition for a long time, but the moment some parents found out acted like I had an advantage when I didn’t o had a female frame and female musclessmass not male at all bc I’m intersex. And I had gotten expelled from my high school and then kicked outta my moms house at 14 bc she had the expectations of me graduating and not dropping out or being expelled since I’d always been a failure at life-will probably continue to be a failure at life, but oh well. I just know I hat most cisgender people.
TEDx | Thanks for your role and # women do hold high positions√ -- BLESSED 🌏FRIDAY! -- That is the spirit we need today. People in every country should be free ★ ★ to choose and live their faith based upon the persuasion of the mind and the heart and the soul. This tolerance │ is essential for religion to thrive, but it's being challenged in many different ways. Among some Muslims, there's a disturbing tendency to measure one's own faith by the rejection of somebody else's faith. Freedom of religion│ is central to the ability of peoples to live together. We must always examine the ways in which we protect it√. So no matter where it takes hold, government of the people and by the people sets a single standard for all who would hold power: we must respect the rights of minorities, and participate with a spirit of tolerance and compromise; we must place the interests of our people and the legitimate workings of the political process above your party. Without these ingredients, elections alone do not make TRUE DEMOCRACY√. Thank you. And may God's peace be upon you. GOOD HEALTH ALWAYS EVERYONE !!!. # I Thank you. ### .
I was speaking to a solo mum this week whose son has been accepted into the top sports team of his school, .. but now that is taken away from him by govt promoted school mandates, because she wisely refused to allow him jabbed. His father passed away during lockdown. The social implications of this is huge, especially in our country where we are world leaders in this such sport....children are now risking their health getting themselves vaxt behind their parents backs.
TEDx | Thanks for your role and # women do hold high positions√ -- BLESSED 🌏FRIDAY! -- That is the spirit we need today. People in every country should be free ★ ★ to choose and live their faith based upon the persuasion of the mind and the heart and the soul. This tolerance │ is essential for religion to thrive, but it's being challenged in many different ways. Among some Muslims, there's a disturbing tendency to measure one's own faith by the rejection of somebody else's faith. Freedom of religion│ is central to the ability of peoples to live together. We must always examine the ways in which we protect it√. So no matter where it takes hold, government of the people and by the people sets a single standard for all who would hold power: we must respect the rights of minorities, and participate with a spirit of tolerance and compromise; we must place the interests of our people and the legitimate workings of the political process above your party. Without these ingredients, elections alone do not make TRUE DEMOCRACY√. Thank you. And may God's peace be upon you. GOOD HEALTH ALWAYS EVERYONE !!!. # I Thank you. ### .
Searching for more videos of yours. best wishes Matt.
Matt Young, you are a wonderful coach. No doubt about that.
Thank you
Pleasure watching your talk Coach. You are trully great.
Beautifully talked Matt. Sensitive topic.
I find my motivation of life here. I don't think tedx talk waste any of your time.
Sports can make our kids more focused in their life. Glad you raise the topic.
Sport is so essential part of our life. Often we forget about it.
I'm glad I watched your talk. It's a great one
Your students must be very lucky to have you. You are amazing.
Any body in the sports development can relate to this talking!
I wish more coaches can be humble enough to admit, that they are responsible for the massive drop out of children in Sports!
When a coach don't give children the same level plain field to participate,it becomes obvious that those that play less will begin to develop low self esteem which makes them pull-out .
When children begin to play with fear of been penalised for every error they make in the game,they begin to loss Self-confidence, which is one of most important factor in life.
Agreed. Thank you
Agreed
Best of luck for the future Matt.
One of the best TEDx Talks I've ever watched. adding to my TEDx Talk playlist.
Thank you Lucas
It should be in the Millions for sure.
Presented wonderfully Matt.
Gratitude, Matt🔥
Matt has addressed an important problem we are facing in the sporting world. Instead of enhancing self esteem, determination and collaboration we are ending up making children and youth either lose the joy of playing sports or give up sports. Well done!!
Appreciate you Azim!
Excellent talk! All parents, coaches, sport admin need to hear this talk. This talk has the power to save kids and save sports.
Thans JF!
What a brilliant talk. Thank you Matt for your authenticity and commitment to kids.
Thanks Rob!
Such a powerful, practical talk. Simple, actionable, and needed. Very well done Matt - off to share with my network!
Please do share with those who need to hear the message.
It was worth watching you Matt, So energetic you are!!!!
You are so cool and fit. I will be glad to follow you on social media.
Sports will keep our kids away from negative things. We should keep that in mind.
Love the way you talk Matt. Big fan🤘🤘😎
brilliant speech. It's so motivating
Wonderful Matt,
This is great insight on the role parents/adults play on the development and participation in youth sports. Another thing to note is favoritism. I’ve seen teams lose players and championships over a coach allowing the mayor’s son to play a sport they don’t enjoy. I was the mayor’s son’s friend and I have yet to meet anyone with such high level of anxiety and stress. This was 10 years ago.
Be the change
An incredible message from someone that knows the landscape better than almost anyone. More coaches need to hear this and more parents need to understand this. Thank you for your dedication to challenging the need for change.
Thanks Matt, spoken from the heart and full of Truth.
Matt, you speak so well. Best of luck
Appreciate that Jon.
Tedx Talk rocks💙❤
Go ahead Matt.
I'm a great lover of Tedx Talk. Loved it as well
Tedx Talk rocks.
Absolutely incredible talk! Having had a kid at 13 burn out on a sport he once loved so much, I feel this is in my core. We have carved a new path supporting him to find things he enjoys doing!
New path - great to hear Courtney
Great talk. It exposes the shortcomings in youth amateur sport and provides powerful steps to help fix the problem.
Thanks Craig P. Appreciate you.
😍😍 Wonderful topic you raise.
Another wonderful ted talk.
great talk coach 👏👏
Well done. Thank you for calling out the industry. The Flintstones called it out decades ago with one the best exchange of all time; "What kids need are the fundamentals" "No, what kids need is the FUN."
Super powerful message- thank you and yes, give it back.
Appreciate that Mark
This needs to be heard globally. Amazing message that cannot be ignored!
YOU are living this pal. Keep on keeping on
An important message that needs to be heard by everyone! Thanks for sharing, Matt.
So many profound insights shared in this wonderful talk. I resisted sports as a kid because I didn't like the coaching environment. My parents weren't fans either. Kids are so susceptible to negative feedback. It's imperative that we make experiences about growth and learning as well as achievement.
Big one Elaine. You are right on.
So good Matt! And 100% bang on!
My son switched to House League for his last two years of youth hockey and it was the most fun he (and I) had ever playing the game. He still plays, now in Men's league.
Matt, your words ring true. I've seen kids burned out or disillusioned about a sport they once loved. The joy is gone. It's been sucked out of them by parents who push them and live vicariously through them. By overbearing coaches who belittle, demoralize, and use punitive tacatics. The toxic environment that a few parents, in collusion with certain coaches create, is saddening. I grew up participating in sports because I wanted to and I chose to specialize in wrestling. Well, truth be told, it chose me. It became my passion. I didn't have parents who pushed me. I had coaches who had high standards and expected all of their wrestlers to train and to compete at the best of their abilities. Practices were hard, very hard, but we were never abused. If a parent was inappropriate, that was nipped in the bud quickly, either by another parent, a school administrator, or the coach. I agree we need to rein in expectations and allow our kids to be kids. Thanks for sharing this important message, my friend. It will help many.
Appreciate you sharing your example mate.
Beautifully said. And such an important topic you raised. Well done. TEDxTalks
Thanks Lucina!
liked it all the way Matt !!!!!
This is soo cool Matthew. Lovely speech
Loved your talk Matt
Thanks Amos
A powerful message that needs to heard by parents and sports officials everywhere. No kid should have their love for a sport stifled by a parent or squashed by a coach. Thank you Matt for telling it like it is.
Really appreciate your guidance in crafting this message Dorothea
Way to go, Matt -- really well done.
Sport is so essential 🔥
This video should be shown to every parent putting their child in a sport! Give sport back to the kids! Let the adults play their own games, haha!
Thanks Nikita. YOU are up next!
Very Well Done Steve! Nice to see you.
such an amazing ted talk. Cool guy!
Sometimes my parents were motivated for me to win then I was, it was fun, we won a bit, but even today I miss some of those people, they made life better for us a group :)
Best of luck for the future. TEDxTalks
Fantastic message!
Bravo Matt! Auch wir in Europa haben diesbezüglich Nachholbedarf, da auch unsere Sportstrukturen die meisten Kinder im Alter zwischen 12-16 Jahren verlieren.
Appreciate ALL the work you're doing to bring this to your country Andy.
This was an awesome presentation!!
Thank you Jack
Another problem in the sports is favoritism, I have seen it happen so many times, and the sad thing is that kids are able to understand when someone does that
Agree
The problem with this solution is the parents buying into the current structure.
Matters a lot mate 💙
Awesome talk and glad to know you are in there making change. Methinks some poor 'elite' coaches almost or briefly "made it to the big Game". Now they too quick to declare "elite" skills in kids -- becasue they need to grow their coaching business. Keep on Keeping it FUN!
I had no idea that this was happening to kids. Thank you Matt for making me aware. Your descriptions of the problem and solution were powerful.
I've seen this kind of things a million times. I remember a show covering Little League in a small city. They had to pick about 8 teams. The coaches got together and held a fantasy type draft. Each coach was given so many credits and they bid on one child at a time. They were not thinking of a game for kids, they were thinking of a game for themselves.
Thank YOU for your continued leadership & mentorship Roger
Sports is as important as the study. I think.
Raise your hand if you are from Sports Background.
Nothing has changed about youth sports. He said everything that we already knew for so long. This "America Number One" mentality that I like to call for parents and coaches never works in America. It's time to change the culture.
Great talk. Not too sure if l would use the ACF as a great example of how to restructure a sporing organization for the benefit of everyone.
I dropped out of tennis at age of 10 because I was angry at my coach. He reached out many times, tried to get me back, but he did me wrong and I was really stubborn kid. After that I was so ashamed for years, that I avoided the courts just so the coach doesnt see me. I felt like a failure. After all these years now in this video I understood, that it was not my fault. Bittersweet feeling, I am 30yo now and still love tennis and regret that I stopped :( I will make sure this will not happen to my son
I am a committee member, the playground is Residents Association
But the games people play are same.manipulate to prioritize your way
Thank you for this speech ❤️
Most welcome Sharon
This is soooo good
Thank you Rik
Matt Youth - social media? Please drop this here!
I’m from a sports background.
I don't know where you live all my parks are empty from kids I have seen more kid on drugs as a parent with little income and want my kids to succeed not to many colleges except a child with just a good grade they need something to offer as a coach for 20 years and a father of 2 athletes you should relate as a parent I beleive we do our best and if sports is the worst thing then we have a much bigger problem
God damn this was a good talk!
Thank you
Thank you
I thought i was the only one that think adults ruin sports for kids that happened to me with soccer, when i joined a team i used to hate the yelling couch i just wanna play not being a profesional.
It's not just you - unfortunately
So, so sadly true! Kids need movement and the chance to grow in a safe, non-competitive environment.
Nice 👍🙂
The English only talk about humanity However there is a big difference between their saying and doing.
This is soccer
Wow
when
It's 4:40 AM in India,
Do any one thought about what TEDx..mean..???
TED is an acronym for Technology, Entertainment and Design. The little x means that the event is organized under a license granted by TED but independently of TED. I hope that that helps.
2:24 I felt that…. way too hard :(
Interesting that this came up right after the Olympic figure skating fiasco
He’s been working on and advocating about this for quite some time now
I don’t necessarily disagree and I have seen first hand the evolution in my profession. I am part of the problem perhaps and am reflecting. He is wearing a Nike shirt, which seems a bit ironic.
A lil upset he didn’t mention trans kids in sports about them being themselves and being inclusive just child athletes on performance, value, and familial upbringing of expectations. I did Girls Track and Volleyball. And the girls and the coaches knew I was trans and been in transition for a long time, but the moment some parents found out acted like I had an advantage when I didn’t o had a female frame and female musclessmass not male at all bc I’m intersex. And I had gotten expelled from my high school and then kicked outta my moms house at 14 bc she had the expectations of me graduating and not dropping out or being expelled since I’d always been a failure at life-will probably continue to be a failure at life, but oh well. I just know I hat most cisgender people.
Sports, like everything else in the USA are about money. Everything else is window dressing.
Sad reality
TEDx | Thanks for your role and # women do hold high positions√
-- BLESSED 🌏FRIDAY! --
That is the spirit we need today.
People in every country should be free ★ ★ to choose and live their faith
based upon the persuasion of the mind and the heart and the soul.
This tolerance │ is essential for religion to thrive, but it's being challenged in many different ways.
Among some Muslims, there's a disturbing tendency to measure one's own faith by the rejection of somebody else's faith.
Freedom of religion│ is central to the ability of peoples to live together.
We must always examine the ways in which we protect it√.
So no matter where it takes hold, government of the people and by the people sets a single standard for all who would hold power:
we must respect the rights of minorities, and participate with a spirit of tolerance and compromise;
we must place the interests of our people and the legitimate workings of the political process above your party.
Without these ingredients,
elections alone do not make TRUE DEMOCRACY√.
Thank you.
And may God's peace be upon you.
GOOD HEALTH ALWAYS EVERYONE !!!.
# I Thank you.
###
.
Tolke evil's Defense x God...this is what it is.
I was speaking to a solo mum this week whose son has been accepted into the top sports team of his school, .. but now that is taken away from him by govt promoted school mandates, because she wisely refused to allow him jabbed. His father passed away during lockdown.
The social implications of this is huge, especially in our country where we are world leaders in this such sport....children are now risking their health getting themselves vaxt behind their parents backs.
Exactly!
Sorry to say this, but this is a cultural problem. Dont see this here in my country. Not everybody parents are that fanatics.
And it's sometimes just a handful of high profile sports, too. But North American culture also steers a lot of kids towards those sports.
TEDx | Thanks for your role and # women do hold high positions√
-- BLESSED 🌏FRIDAY! --
That is the spirit we need today.
People in every country should be free ★ ★ to choose and live their faith
based upon the persuasion of the mind and the heart and the soul.
This tolerance │ is essential for religion to thrive, but it's being challenged in many different ways.
Among some Muslims, there's a disturbing tendency to measure one's own faith by the rejection of somebody else's faith.
Freedom of religion│ is central to the ability of peoples to live together.
We must always examine the ways in which we protect it√.
So no matter where it takes hold, government of the people and by the people sets a single standard for all who would hold power:
we must respect the rights of minorities, and participate with a spirit of tolerance and compromise;
we must place the interests of our people and the legitimate workings of the political process above your party.
Without these ingredients,
elections alone do not make TRUE DEMOCRACY√.
Thank you.
And may God's peace be upon you.
GOOD HEALTH ALWAYS EVERYONE !!!.
# I Thank you.
###
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