@@BoredAgainChristiann @ who decides that. Who decides what’s fair. Do you think life is fair? Do you think I had a say to decide where I was born and in what timeline? Does a person who’s born into poverty have that choice as well? Who do you want to blame for the ever present inequality in all aspects of life- whether it’s a gap between financial holdings or educational and professional opportunities. If you are the arbiter of getting to choose who deserves what can you even do anything about it? So if you feel people in poverty deserve the wealth I had does that mean they deserve yours too? Are you also donating any and all discretionary income available to charities as much as possible to try to balance the scales? You see my point
Not sure how this was suggested on my feed but man did I need to hear this. It feels nice to know that I’m not the only one that feels this way. Praying for your thriving future of self fulfillment! We got this brother💯
im sorry you're going through similar struggles as I did. I hope you're able to find ways to manage them while you figure out what it is that you want out of life and to make a plan for an exit strategy or a different job that's able to provide you the type of flexibility or fulfillment you're looking for
At some point in time, you will have to make a decision. Your body and mind knows best. Money we can always make, but time and health we can never get back. I'm wishing the best for you and that it all works out.
Dropped out of most prestigious school when I was 20 due to anxiety and depression, then got addicted to gambling and wasted all my 20's and early 30's, then went back to school, and lucked into grad schools for social work and now working as a therapist as a 38 year old. I've never made as much as 230k and I'm sure never will make that much as a therapist, but I'm grateful for this opportunity because I know I'm not that smart and honestly lucky to even hold a job with my intelligence. You sound like a very sincere guy. Wish you the best of luck and you will be great. Thank you for sharing your wisdom!
Incredible story of resilience and working through the difficulty. I applaud you and want to challenge you to think the opposite. You are smart. You are intelligent. You figured out a new path and learned a new trade. I believe in you
What a beautiful and honest video. Thank you for sharing. Your willingness to be authentic and vulnerable inspires me. This is what we need. I wish you joy, peace, and growth.
If you’re born, you are blessed, you have time to try another field. I knew a lady that was in corporate for 25 years, left that job and decided she wanted to be a nurse. And a truck driver who is switching careers to IT. As long as you’re breathing, you can make a change! Go for it!!
@jeimuzuriivu Because of its oversaturation, I'm speaking from personal anecdotes from friends, and myself included, with a bachelor's in CS AI has made getting a job much harder because skill is easier to replicate. Don't drop everything for tech is all I'm saying, definitely have an option b
In a similar situation - making $160k in the Midwest where cost of living is lower than other areas, work remotely and work for one of the big tech companies. However, I’ve never been so depressed and anxious in my life. Never thought I’d feel this way after working so hard to get this position. Like you, I know there is so much more to life. 60 hour work weeks, every week, performing a job that isn’t fulfilling is a silent killer
Depends how you choose to look at it, jobs were invented to make money not to be passions… just save as much money as you can so that you can invest and keep generating more money so that you don’t have to do that job anymore and focus on your passions…
You're only 35, still young with a better chance of starting another path, there are so many paths to choose and change course at your will...I'm now 54 with neuropathy pain everyday from complications of diabetes and will deal with much more coming at me. I've just sold my house after my husband who had abandoned me and spent my entire life savings and now I'm about to move back to live with my parents in a tiny town house that I'm grateful for, otherwise I'd be homeless by now. I'm also starting over and looking forward to what will be thrown at me in this life. My dog is currently my therapist and we will walk in nature each day, God willing to figure out one day/hour/minute at a time....thank you for sharing your video. Praying for your healing and recovery and to get back on your feet.
You seem like a strong individual, have gone through life a bit. And I hope you continue to get better every single day. I would caution though with saying “you’re only 35” it’s somewhat condescending. 35 is what he’s lived. People find massive success by 35 and when it’s gone it’s gone. That’s a lot to bear for anyone. Trying to figure it out again is not for the weak. Self reflection is such a great thing. I appreciate you sharing a bit about yourself and your situation. Stay up!
Being age 35 is still being age 35. Yes it may be younger than you are but none of us know how long this life will be for us. Some of us don't even make it to age 10 let alone age 35. I had a sibling they were here one day and gone the next without warning. They were only 34 years old. Every day is precious. It is a gift. Tomorrow is not promised to any of us.
@@user56gghtf I'm sorry to hear about your loss. You're right, we have no idea how long our timelines are, it's important to live our days full of life
Matthew 6:34 Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble. Love you brother.
Bro I lost my $48k a year job and I’m still reeling from it. It wasn’t even how much I was getting paid but, it helped me have organization in my life and some purpose cause I was doing something I enjoyed. Now I’m out of a job, continually applying for jobs for months and I’m either too experienced or too old for any positions I am applying for. I realize that just like you, I have to make my own way. Doing this now at almost 40 but feeling like 30.
Isn’t it so ironic you reach middle class. . . knowing anyone in middle class is struggling financially. For example, the biggest credit debt holders are the Middle Class. They simply do not have the liquidity of cash in 2024
@@joonjonjew I cut my cards up at 30 and have been debt free 24 years. It hasn't been easy all the time without credit card to use but I certainly haven't suffered one bit. Compared to having a bill every 30 days?!?! I've avoided about 300 of those already.
I spent my 20's floundering in college and wasting away in the military. Late 20's to mid 30's was finishing up college with my undergrad and masters, and getting my first $100k+ career job. Only 3 years in and they were pushing me into leadership and towards management. Men on one side of my family tend to die in their 40's, and I started suffering the same sort of illnesses you were facing while in that job (minus the degenerative illness, which who knows?), and the same after quitting that job to finish my PhD. Now near 40, quitting my PhD, walking away from my career, and just making music without much money coming in. I'm currently at the happiest point in my life, waking up everyday and making music, even without that money. Due to my military service, I have some cash coming in, enough to cover rent, eat, and pay off debt (honestly one disaster away from failure). But, the rat race was going to kill me. I spend more time now getting to know my extended family. I now know some of my cousin's dreams and fears, something I never spent the time before to learn all these years. I have people around me that truly love me and that I love back, and I no longer take advantage of believing that they'd always be there. Our time is limited, and we have to find our own happiness in this world. Too many people look at that money and think "yeah, that's the dream!" No, it's not. And living that life, chasing that money, gets expensive. The debt starts to pile up. Your health starts to suffer. And if none of that is true, your time definitely disappears. One of my successful co-workers kept telling me how much he wanted to just have a goat farm instead of leading projects. Finding something that makes you happy, with enough time to see and enjoy life, while living within your means, that's true happiness. I spent 6 hours straight just now working on a beat, after spending 2 hours with a person that I love, and 4 hours before that helping my mother and grandmother. Rather than feeling fatigued and foggy, I just feel tired and ready for bed. Such a difference. I should be worried about the future, worried about retirement, worried about an accident, but I can't be anymore. Let's rest and find our meaning. Because if I were to go back and start job hunting, I know what I'm not stepping into again.
I listened to this video again. It is like a therapy for me. I’ve been through all emotional movements and awareness you mentioned. When hearing you, it is like hearing my self voice. I read lots of books, learnt to love my life and put my self being first, declutterred my life, practice minimalism, eat healthy, go for long walks, have a good sleep, and listen to Buddhism philosophy to heal my soul and have a better look at life. The fact is if you don’t know how to take care of yourself well, you cant and won’t know how to take care of your beloved ones well. I wish you well and find lots of happiness in little thing in life
Appreciate you. It’s very true. I think a majority of problems we face come from not understanding ourselves and how to take care of ourselves. I hope you’re able to find your own peace as well
I sat and cried after hearing this… the self realization I had. The not feeling present in my own life due to the hustle and bustle and the fear of failure. The uncertainty,the constant feeling of being behind took over my life. I hope for change. - Thank You
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I'm 32 and will be made redundant soon. I remember after graduating uni, I was starting my own business but I was convinced to get a corporate job by my family and kill that dream. 10 years later, I still have that itch so I'm taking this is opportunity. I also learnt that life is so much more than money and career, it's about relationships and spending time with loved ones, being present.
Same, I was working at a dream job at 23, my mom yelled at me I should get a stable corporate job and make a career out of computer science. I was born an artist. I've been dead inside for 13 years, just barely waking up. Quit my job as I felt I could get a heart attack due to stress and anxiety, and I'm trying to rediscover myself as I work odd jobs here and there. Hoping the best for everyone trapped out there ❤
We all come to a certain resignation. You either resign to where your at or you quit and move on. Most unhappy people think that the job is supposed to be fullfilling when in fact it just supplies you the means to figure out what you want.
It’s different for everyone in terms of propensity to feel one way or another. Trust me I’ve tried to just look at work as a duty but like I mentioned in the video, the issue was the gap between the reality I was living and the reality I wanted to live without making a plan or progress to get there and not being able to understand the value of life being overlayed to this rote work. Different lives different perspectives different lessons but your approach may work for you and if it does cheers
I agree with this comment. Just work a job you like enough and reduce your hours if you can. Then you can just live most of your life how you want. I work a job that’s 12hr shifts. So I only work 2-3 days a week depending on the week. I spent 70-80 percent of my life doing what ever I want. I can put up with my job duties for this trade off.
Thank you for sharing this. An ex colleague of mine passed away two weeks ago at 40, left his wife and his daughter just days before her 4th birthday. He had spent most of his time working a job which he did not fully enjoy. Life is shorter than we think, enjoy life, embrace changes, feel the pain and grow from it. Do not worry too much about finance, we dont need a lot of money to be happy. Wishing everyone can leave this planet feeling they had lived a fulfilling life.
I can totally relate 100 percent to everything you have gone through. I worked a job I hated for 20 years feeling stuck and hating everyday of my life doing something I did not want to do. I'm 42 years old and I finally quit the career I was in and am unemployed trying to figure out my next chapter.
Listening to you and seeing you, I perceive you to be starting on a very strong foundation, and I believe in you. I'm 40 and having to start over on a lot less, and I do mean a lot less. It is difficult, however, there is a chance that it very well may just work out. And if it doesn't, I have to work towards being at peace with that too. All the best Sek Plus. :}
I believe this is part of an awakening our generation is currently living. We are realizing there is more to life than creating an image to be able to be accepted in this modern age. I am seeing more videos similar to this one. It could be corporate is becoming more demanding than before and making a job more dreadful, which will bring us health issues. I am sure there is more to it depending on the individual, but it does feel like we are incarcerated without an escape. My respects to you and everyone who chooses to step out of this matrix and endeavor into something you love. Keep it going!!!
the amount of friends and strangers that relate to this is an indication of a larger problem and you're right. lots of people are waking up to taking control of their lives
@SekPlus i have the same issue. I am 38 now and absolutely hate my life. I make good money but i hate everything else about my career. I cant see a way out.
I love this comment. The awakening is amazing. Often, many of these corporations (ran by our human counterparts) are not solving real problems to the extent that they are raking in revenue and they are more so perpetuating global and national havoc, so it makes you question deeply… how much of your own life force and your greatest asset (time) do you want to fork over to these companies simply in exchange for money? Depending on the kind of corporate work that you do, you then begin to ponder, if I am doing this almost exclusively for money, certainly there has to be another way and I better have a clear strategy about how long and how deeply I will do this. Also, really once you start to realize what you’re doing, you ask yourself is this even sustainable and do I truly have a set period of time that I will be doing this until I pivot to a path of greater alignment, a path of increased ownership over my daily life, a path of actual fruitful productivity (as in creating something that actually helps you live that you can own that helps you actually live more sustainably, healthily and purposefully) in my life.
Lol. You guys are funny. This “awakening” is merely the realization of the vacuousness of what we thought was so important . Millions of people before you have come to this realization. This generation is not unique for “discovering” something that generations before you have gone through. It’s phase of life. To get to this point you have to reach certain milestones ( be able to provide a decent standard of living, be mature enough to know yourself and achieve a level of detachment from yourself etc. Have developed skills that we are expert in etc). This is just a phase of life. This too shall pass and acceptance will take its place.
I was working for a solar company. The money was good but it felt pointless. I didnt feel I was making any change, in fact i felt i was getting people into more debt. Most people dont need solar and the few that do get it get into massive debt and most Americans can't afford it. I started to hate that job and since it was sales, everyone had a quota therefore you had to find ways to get the client to sign. I quit. And in a few months I would be making way more money but I didnt care. Im about to get a new job, that pays less but ill have time to start a side hustle and train MMA which ive been wanting to compete. Great video my friend, it seems like many men are in the same boat. Hopefully we all open our eyes.
@@WARLOBO excited for you and proud that you took the situation into your own hands and made a decision to quit which I didn’t have the balls to do. Wishing only the best as you go on your journey to fleshing out your future and dream
Those solar panel companies are super predatory mostly , at least from what I’ve heard from ppl screwed by them.. and those working there are complicit in this con.. at least once they realize what is going on and how it works.. screw extra money be PROUD of yourself for making a conscious decision not to be a predator on families and Americans.. morals over money is rare these days which is why this country is decaying
@@daniela9171 it's not only solar sales, it's most sales jobs. When you have a quota to meet, many sales people lie to get there or offer you something you don't need but will make you feel like you do. I never lied to the customer but managers would get mad that I didn't push for more closes, but I just didn't want to push something I didn't feel the client needed, hence why I quit and didn't like the environment, it was very cutthroat.
Like you, I was so driven by my career that my 30's are a blur. In my 40's I had a job with half your pay working for a boss that was merciless. After 2 years, I had to just walk away and needed to take a year off to recover. I still have nightmares that I'm showing up at the job but no one acknowledges my presence. A fate worse than death is to live and not know you've lived. You're young so take some chances to discover what you really enjoy. I'm now 55 and quality of life is more important to me than anything at work.
Looks like he needs a family of his own. This is the "lost longing" that many men feel, but can't quite put their thoughts on to express it out loud. Go start a family. Go on, young man!
I remember reading a Navy SEAL book and he explains how he went so hard and gave up so much to become 1 because he thought becoming a SEAL would make him happy, make him a better person but when he finally accomplished that goal nothing changed. He was still depressed and miserable with his life. You have to find a balance in life. The sweet spot of accomplishing your goals and keeping a small circle of people in your life. At the end of the day life is crazy especially in today’s world but just know you’re not alone trust me. Just keep pushing and doing what you can do. Will always be good days and bad days just stay healthy keep your mind sharp you’ll be fine
Don’t give up. Get good sleep so your cells recover, get some Sun for vitamin D, it makes people happier. Been there too and I walked out of a very stressful job. Went to the doctor before health insurance ran out and doctor said my blood pressure was extremely high I could have heart attack. That stressful job did it. Now I’m happier and stress free with my simple job, not a lot of money but stress free. 😊
Bro I am literally in the same exact situation as this guy is explaining. I literally felt like he was explaining my life. Almost cried ngl. Im 28, am near 300k total comp, 65 hours per week, no sleep, brain fog, always exhausted etc.
@@pencilpenred1 sorry to hear you’re struggling with the same things I was. My advice is to try to a break and spend time mediating to try to calm your central nervous system. Take time to be honest with yourself to try to pinpoint what it is you’re wanting or need in your life. Wish you all the best and you are not alone in your journey
Brrrrrooo. Literally going through this exact struggle right now. Glad you made it out on the other side, and ready to join very soon 🙏🏼 much love to everyone else struggling through this.
I pray that you get well soon. Thank you for your words of encouragement for others right now. Your life is precious, so I hope you live it doing what you want to do most. I have seen many people who were sick in the past, but are now healthy and living joyfully. You will definitely do the same. why? Because we pray for you. We are always by your side...
what you going thru is what most people are going thru. nice to hear an introspection of someone else online. life is a lot of up and down for sure; while temporarily helpful solutions to impove your mental health are dating/relationship, meditate, hobbies, breaking away from the job grind, drinking to mute your deep thoughts, talk to friends about your thoughts/life.
@@exposedthat I’m finding that to be the case. I definitely would try those things and while they helped, the deeper issue was never addressed so it kept gnawing at me for years. But here’s to a new start 💪🏼
@SekPlus yes to a new start. you are not alone. the deeper issues can challenge us. change of mindset, help those less fortunate, work on your tradeoffs (new company or another job that is less soul crunching and find days off for some fun), and the reality sometimes then comes to the acceptance of the unfairness in life, rat race, expectation adjustments. some people bury their thoughts and expression and hide... The unexamined life is not worth living, Socrates. being self-aware can guide you to self-improvement. however, maybe... it is better not to be so deep in thoughts!! Just live life and find goals that can fulfill you.
I have been there when I was younger several decades ago. I graduated from college and was laid off from job after eight years. I was scared that I couldn’t get over the hump after I had gone thru a divorce 3 years earlier. I had two small children who were relying on me for child support. I was behind in payments. It was the fear of failure and ending up being homeless. When I found a job, I had to keep it going although i felt being trap. I’m retired now and no longer in chains to my desk after 36 years. Yes, freedom was therapeutic for a job we love to hate.
"If your life is a gift, why does it feel like a prison" that hit hard and resonated with my soul. Much love to you, and thank you for sharing your story.
Wow, I really like this story. I appreciate you taking time to share it. When you spoke of the various health incidents that you were experiencing at some point and how they were a sign of betrayal to self, it really reminded me that when you’re lying to yourself perpetually with your actions, even your own body will start to recognize it and reject or respond adversely.
I’m 37 and totally feeling the same. I have the same thoughts almost everyday. Looking for purpose that justifies my existence. I’m lucky to have my partner, family, friends, and health. But I still find myself struggling. My workplace and commute is soul sucking. Some days are better than others. I’m trying my best to redirect my energy into my side projects whenever I can in hopes something takes off. It’s a rough journey right now but I’m hopeful. Thanks for posting this video.
Damn!!!!! This spoke to me so hard this morning! A few years ago, I thought I have made it in my career with title and salary but had one of the worst health years in my life with prostate and colon scares. Walking stress ball and constantly in my head with a functional smile telling everyone that I was fine when I wasn't. Now, totally different outlook and not give my all to these companies and explore what is important and interests. At 5pm, I am out the door. I use all of my PTOs without a care in the world and always exploring other options. My health is top priority and if i am not in the mood, I aint doing it.
For so long, it felt like I was asleep, caught in a dream that wasn't really mine. I was going through the motions, letting life just happen to me instead of living it consciously. My spiritual awakening felt like waking up from a long nightmare, where I was tangled in fear, self-doubt, and old patterns that kept me stuck. Now that I’m awake, I see things clearly-myself, the world, my purpose. It’s like finally seeing the beauty and the light after living in a fog. It wasn’t easy, but I know now that the pain was part of my growth. And starting fresh at 35 is like giving myself permission to truly live and thrive. I’ve come to a place where I’m comfortable with myself, realizing I’m smarter than I ever thought. I’m enjoying my solitude and actually loving myself now. I’m not sure when I will die, but I no longer care. I live in the now, and living in the now has been the most beautiful transition in my life. This is the beginning of an end, the end of that old life and the start of a beautiful new journey. I wish everyone a beautiful journey, too. Thanks for this video. It helps more than you know.
Bless your heart!!! Thank God that you are finding your way in this journey in life .Life itself and material things really don’t mean much unless you are truly happy and at peace with yourself. I know your video will encourage many to follow their heart to a happier life.
I have an engineering degree and it opened doors in manufacturing, IT, insurance industry. After my last layoff on 2009, I decided to go back to school to study electron microscopy and get a tech job at Intel at age 45yo. I only have a mortgage cant wait to retirement at 62yo.
Life is a "gift" because we are alive and living in the "present"... Although, life is significantly easier today than for those that came before us. Our own personal temptations and the societal norms we've created, drive us to create the mental and financial life long prison we trap ourselves in. This man has awakened and has free'd himself mentally and will free himself financially as well in order to live his 2nd life... $$$ isn't everything and we exist in a miniscule amount of time... Spend time with your family and loved ones. Try to make amends with those you feel you have wronged and forgive those that have wronged you. Many blessings to you and your family...Our sweet Lord Jesus Christ provides the blessings we need to free ourselves. His love, his teachings guide us and we are led to this man's video today because our Lord is showing us another path. "Jesus Christ knows about algorithms too"... Much love to you and my many brothers and sisters in Christ!!!
S**t happens in life for a reason. Leave the past behind and move on. Your next job will always be better than your last. Don't over think about your life. Just live your life.
30s year old man here the last 7 years I’ve been living what you call a life of self betrayal. I have a good job a lot of people would love to have my job or be in my position. I’ve told my parents how it’s not for me that I don’t want to do this anymore, they think I’m crazy that I’d be dumb to give the job up. I’m also trying to find my way in life trying to get to a job that makes me happy I’ve been looking into the medical field. I also have developed all the health issues you mentioned the gut issues, lack of sleep, brain fog, tiredness I also gained 80 pounds so that don’t help. Thank you for sharing it goes to show I’m not alone in this battle I hope you find your way and answers in life.
Thx 4 your honesty, life is an adventure and you're on the right track. Just live. Less is more, less stuff, more love. Be true to yourself. Millions go thru the same questions quietly.
This is the main reason why me and the wife are sending our two daughters to college fully paid so when they graduate they wont have debts. Also, since we are close to them we help discuss what they like to study and the fields they choose are ones that are employable and can financially pay them enough to live a comfortable life.
100% That's our strategy, as well. I know not a lot of families are capable of this, but anything to reduce the debt burden, even if a little, would be helpful for college students. Truthfully, it's the college system that's broken. There's really no reason it should take 4 years of education to develop a solid foundation in journalism, history, math, business, economics, etc. In other words, Math majors shouldn't have to take a foreign language class to graduate or any other liberal art class, unless they choose to.
Sometimes it takes a life struggle to help you realize that life is more than working a 9-5 job. For me, being laid off the first time was the best thing that happened to me. It gave me a chance to stop my hectic life of the rat race to understand my purpose in life. You’re right , life is short. You only have one life to live so live a more fulfilling life doing something you love. This diagnosis and layoff you encountered was a blessing because better sooner than later to start living life 😊
You know what? I don't even know you. I writing from another country, from a thousands of kilometers away. But I can tell you that you are on the right path of your life my friend. Your words have inspired a man from far far way in a quite similar situation. So thanks for this, and keep going.
this encourages me. thank you for taking the time to write. being able to bring any sort of encouragement to anyone makes being vulnerable and putting this out worth it.
If my life is good, why does it feel like a prison? That statement caught my attention when said that, because I can’t absolutely relate! I’m still trying to cope with life and my purpose here on earth! Keep the faith and appreciate you sharing this video!😔
This is such an incredibly relatable video. When you said that you experienced health issues all because you were living a life of self betrayal, I felt that in my core. This is powerful and I share this same feeling. I have some soul searching to do . Thank you for providing this honest insight!
I started over at 35, when I lost eveything, ended up living in the street, in and outta jail but only blamed myself for it was ALL on me - the person in the mirror. Shocking how powerful accountability is. Dove into real estate, started flipping land, then single fam, then multi fam and eventually ended up in commercial. I've made a couple million since then and recovered in a way I wouldn't ever trade the experiences and friends I've made a long the way. To success for the driven 🥂
Yah but admit it..jail was kinda fun...i had forgotten but just did a week inside..man, its good to be around real hairy men and just not a bunch of whining gen-z twerps in fingernail polish.
So let me get this straight, you "lost everything" and started living in the street and still had money to go into real estate?? Either you're making this up or you really decided to be clueless and homeless before coming back to the real world.
Wow, youtube’s algorithm does it again. I was having some of the exact same thoughts about second generation immigrant guilt yesterday night and was thinking of making a video about it too, but i don’t think i could have possible put it as succinctly as you have, bravo 🎉. Your life experiences truely speak for itself and you have a lot to give to this world.
I appreciate the compliment but I want to strongly disagree. It's your story that's important and once you start, the better you get. No one knows this but I recorded this video over 10 times and it took me 2 weeks where I kept redoing it because I kept stuttering, my thoughts were everywhere, I wasn't coherent, and it was objectively a bad video. It's okay to put out bad content and iteratively get better. Thats how you get better at anything. Please don't keep yourself from posting cause I did and I regret it. I could have been so much happier sooner the earlier I committed instead of preventing myself from doing what I really wanted to do which a part of it was putting out videos. Share your story, take a chance on yourself, and put out your "bad" content. You have to put out your bad ideas and executions out first in order to get better and have your good content reach the surface. If you never start, you keep extending that timeline of living your dream and it stays a dream. It's all just a part of the process. You got this.
Man this one HIT. I am in a similar situation and age range. Just left a Fortune 500 company and started at a new one. Making more money than I ever have but I’m empty and dead inside. I’m not working in my field of study. There is no passion behind my day to day. Can’t help but think I’m just a cogwheel for these companie$ and the years go by. Chasing money and possessions for what? Life is so short and precious. Wish I could just leave it all
Exactly, all this for what. If you don’t have anyone to share it with in a meaningful way what’s it all for? Hope you’re able to find a purpose for all that you’re doing
Whatsup bro ✌ we grew up together in VA. UA-cam told me to watch your video on my homepage. Powerful message, hope you figure everything out. Sounds like you're already on your way to better times ahead👍
Life is life. Whatever decision you made or about to make, just dont have regret. I didn't regret getting married and have kids. I didnt regret hustling big time because i was such a failure. I had to because i know i wanted kids. Now my hustle paid off and i have kids at 35. My next chapter of my story is looking toward retirement. No regrets. That's my life.
I feel you bro. I was he same way as my parents expected me to go to college and major in engineering, which I hated. I didn't know what I wanted in life at 18, so the thing to do is to go to college. I was lucky that was 30 years ago, and my life turned out okay as I got into a profession that I wanted to be in, which is investment finance. It was not an easy path to get to where I am today. I really feel for the young people starting out their lives today, as it is much harder to succeed in today's economy and world we live in. Having a +100k in tuition debt at 22 yo is not the way to start off your adulthood.
I’m starting over at 31,last year was probably the toughest year of my life for my wife and I, getting arrested, not knowing if I was going to do time or not, luckily I didn’t, but losing my job and my entire savings during that time. Now I’m starting over, going back to school and recently gotten back into fitness and running again. Starting from the bottom again, I’m extremely stressed out about it, but I oddly feel extremely free and I know there’s only up from here. Thank you for sharing what you are going through man!
I don't know what you believe in my friend but I have faith God shows the way to those who seek it. Take something you like to do, figure out a way that can help people, become the best at it.
Sometimes you need a reset as a solution to fatigue and burnout. It would be nice if jobs were ran like schools where you get a summer break, winter break, and spring break (of course staff would have to rotate and alternate schedules for business continuity). Or it would be nice if corporations start adopting the 4 day work week. Another solution would be to save a year worth of salary and take a gap year from work.
Samantha here, lol. I can very much relate to this. Also the heart issues as well. Both my Mom and Grandpa have “pacemakers” which I find interesting, as I see the body as a metaphor for life, and the heart as beating in time with everything. Not too fast or too slow. Just right in the middle. I have experienced some weird things lately with my heart/body but I can tell it’s related to something more than just a physical experience. We tend to go through these sort of “rebirths” or level-ups after each phase of awakening as we move closer to our true self. You’re healing as you do, leaving behind what you don’t need and taking with you all that is important and that is you. (You as in the all). The realization that everything you want is you. Life is like the centre of a circle. Living in imagination is or going after something in life is like chasing your own tail or a carrot in front of you. While living in the past is like biting your tail, not allowing you to move at all. But then finally there is the realization that you are never going anywhere, you never really left. And that is the present. There is no other place to be. At that point you can still choose to “go after things you want” but you realize it’s just you selecting a part of yourself to experience. A part of the whole. You can only watch one show at once, so once you select it in your mind, you go live your life and watch the show unfold. That’s when you’re able to let go and “live the dream”. I wish you all the best 🙏
I was listening to the podcast “how I built this” and Jim Koch who built Samuel Adams Beer said that complacency is the most dangerous silent killer. It seems like your high paying job, your flexible schedule and being remote, though not fulfilling, kept you there. This may just be a blessing in disguise and we see the transformation recorded and shared here. Thank you for sharing! Many of us are in the same situation 🙏.
This was such and awesome and timely video. You articulated so well how I’ve felt my whole adult life. No matter how “good” the 9-5 is, there will always be that push and pull struggle inside me between doing the thing that I should do and doing what sets my soul on fire. I thought I was alone in this, but your video and the comment section reminds me that I’m not alone! Thanks for sharing your story 💕
I am also 35 years old and I am currently facing the dilemma you went through. I got into law-enforcement at 23 years old and have been in it for 12 years now. I would technically need another 22 years before I could retire. I feel like it has destroyed my mental health by giving me chronic anxiety, I go through bouts of the blues. I am not alone in these feelings either. I feel like a majority of my coworkers are also burnt out and on the same page. Tricky when you have a family too. Just trying to come up with something else that would “work”.
@@MrRussianGerman Sorry to hear about work giving you stress and anxiety leading to burnout, I can definitely relate. That stress however showed me the importance of finding ways to maintain my mental health throughout all this through necessity and thankfully I’m more equipped to manage that stress whenever it arises. Still figuring things out one day at a time
Hopefully you’re one of the rare good cops who treats people like people and actually protects and serves .. you’ve got a very tough job, one that is necessary, and sadly often done by people who have no business wearing a badge, carrying a gun, and given authority. You could work 22 more years and retire probably fairly comfortably and perhaps younger than many of Americans will.. you could also intend on that but die in a car crash or whatever at any point between now and 22 years. If you aren’t happy and fulfilled then what’s the point I suppose. Hell i don’t know.. but whatever you decide.. thanks for your service dude. Sincerely.
I feel this. I'm in my 40's. I was laid off and had a brain tumor at 30. I can say any motivation I had was sucked out of me. Trying to find meaning will always be a struggle. I find family and animals brings me joy
Thank you for conjuring the strength to create and post this. I've recently had to completely walk away from everything I've known and my family. I'm 41years old and I was born into a family of addicts. I want to break the generational curse and stop allowing them to control how I feel. I'm essentially homeless but I'm not tormented anymore. I raised my son as a single mom and these last few years have been crazy for everyone so I'm sure there's no need to explain in detail for now. I was wanting to go towards a life of sustainability and lower my carbon footprint about 10years ago and they told me I'm unrealistic and living in a dream world. About 5 years ago I lost my will to go on. I'm still battling this. Now I'm working on finding out if I'm battling lung cancer because my health has declined. Your message helped me feel like I'm not alone. That there's more to this small but Amazing existence. Thank you ❤
What a great video. Not quite sure how this came up in my algorithm…as someone who just graduated school, got a masters, and am now starting my first corporate job, I share many of the feelings you mentioned. Landing a great first job at a good company felt great for a while but it ends real quick. My dreams to pave my own entrepreneurial road remain, but life is tough.
I don't smile at all these days. I don't thank anything I have and I've a lot to be thankful for. The money worry is everything now. Life feels like hell but it shouldn't. I'd like to give you a big hug. Thank you very much for your words.
We’ll take this massive eHug from me bro. I’m right there with you and we’re more in control than we think we are. A hard lesson I’m learning is having to take full accountability for everything no matter how good or bad. Much love to you and sending strength your way
I totally understand your feeling because i'm in the same situation like you, loosing a source of big income is very scary at this age. You can be so pessimistic as you want, release all of them out until you can feel ok again. It's ok to feel like nothing in the middle of chaos in this market. I don't know when this situation is gonna end but hopefully we can get through this one day very soon, maybe with a bigger plan or a better plan for our life, not to live dependently to a corporate job like now. I was thinking about saying goodbye to this life for months, but i didn't have the courage to do it so i'm now typing these words to you. Wish life can be so gentle and generous to us
@@SekPlushey I saw another video of this neurosurgeon that quit his job. Reminded me of your video. He said that the surgeries did nothing in the long run. But people that had human connection, ate well, slept well, meditated etc would heal miraculously. Many times before the surgery date. Not needing surgery. This is spine surgeries. Brain surgeries are less common so they also do spine surgeries. But this was very insightful. When the body heals, everything heals.
Bro, it's better late than never. I'm not saying you're late at finding out. You may just needed to go through what you need to in order to better yourself overall. I had to do it at 38 where I was working from home and I hated the room that I dedicated for work. It's like my house wasn't my house anymore. I had to leave that job. 3.5 years later I don't stress like that anymore and I sleep better and wake up better. They pay us a lot of money to deal with the stress we take along with it. Bless to you and thank you for sharing brotha.
Thanks for sharing. I felt this way for years after college working my dream jobs-child welfare and shelter for unhoused pregnant women. Low pay, long hours, secondary trauma, monthly doctors visits I couldn’t afford. I am actually in corporate America now and am thriving and loving it. It’s never too late to start over and the company makes a huge difference in workplace satisfaction. Now I see my job as a vehicle to afford the life I want and I can hopefully move somewhere cheaper and work less. I hope everything works out for you.
I feel ya. I was in Corporate America for 4 years. My first try at freelancing, I became a teacher for a year after being pressured by my family. I loved the kids, but the Admin SUCKED. I spent so much time on their goals and almost forgot about mine. In 2019, I made a choice to get serious about my own business. I haven't looked back. I've been tempted to get a 9-5, but I just know the anxiety and stress that comes with that. Wish you the best of luck with your new chapter!!
@@EpartnersMarketing thank you for sharing it’s very encouraging. Wish all the best for you and hope I can follow in your footsteps. Cheering for you 📣
Don't feel down from all the people using "You are privileged!" arguments. Your feelings are valid. A meaningful life is not always found from a higher income job.
Don’t give up because this is a time of reflection and recovery. Life is indeed precious and don’t let fears overwhelm you. You are realistic and gifted spiritually. You are where you supposed to be. My grandmother used to say everything happens for a reason and things could have been worse. We are drop in the universe but when we exist we vibrate in the cosmic dust. You can make it. Right now you are where you meant to be spiritually, emotionally,,mentally and completely free . Keep the faith and don’t be afraid ,discouraged and listen to naysayers. You are someone special. The old saying “we make the proposal and the outcome is not up to us. God bless.
This is such a refreshing video in the current cesspool of brainless crap that’s out there these days. I didn’t think people were capable of this level of honest self-reflection anymore. You are exceptionally well spoken and courageous for laying it all out there. I think this will really reach a lot of people out there. Thank you for sharing your story I hope you continue to do so
@@Ninjadasian thank you so much for your encouraging and kind words. This means a lot even though we’re complete strangers. Thank you for taking the time to drop by
Though unemployed, I do feel that time helped build mental enrichment and a lot of realisation about life, about oneself , about value the meaning of value, unpacking things and go through them , pack them up and be comfortable with things you regret , missed , disliked, start somewhat new and search for more happiness. Happiness comes from small things, treasure them.
somehow the algorithm led me to your vid. well said, sort of in the same situation as your title, except i’m a bit bit older, and after watching, i share a lot of your thoughts. i appreciate putting your insight into the ether. it helps many going thru the same and questioning their lives and their struggles. we’re definitely not alone in our plights to self discovery and defining and chasing our happiness. it’s not easy, because the challenges enrich our path toward augmenting our wisdom. in an odd way, i try to appreciate those challenges, but also appreciate what i do have. ya dude. cheers ☕️
appreciate the sincerity and glad we could connect on a common thread most people can relate to. like you said, it's a strange balance of going after your dreams and still being grateful of what you have
@@SekPlus agree. sometimes you have to trust the universe that you’re on the path toward the dreams, and just be proactive on that path. i actually really enjoyed my job of many years while making some good denero, but the uni tapped me on the shoulder and said, dude, it’s time to move onto something else, you’ve gotten as much as you can and have learned much from this. time for the next chapter in your book. it was and has been tough to accept, and it’s easy to be frustrated and upset about it, but that’s part of the challenge. happiness and your dreams isn’t a destination, it’s a journey as they say. just buckle up with a smile on your face because that makes it easier. we’re just a speck on a speck in the universe anyway, as you showed. i just hope to look back when it’s all said and done, and say i made the right decisions toward attaining maximum happydom while here. ☕️
I’m asian and grew up with that same pressure. Back in the 1980’s, my sister and I were the second and third members in our family’s history to graduate from college. We had no say in it. It was our duty to move each generation ahead. I start my first job as a college grad and I’m miserable. Money’s good but the hours are long, work environment is cut throat and toxic. I eventually start experiencing chest pains, weight loss and shingles. Just like you, I couldn’t enjoy my time away from work. My father, after seeing what I’m going through tells me to quit my job and pursue a career that I could enjoy. After that talk everything fell into place. It’s easier to be successful in something you enjoy because it becomes your passion. I pray that you find a career that will bring you happiness. With that happiness, I pray you’ll be in a better place for your future family. It’s your life and you owe it to yourself to find happiness and contentment.
This was so encouraging to hear and I’m so happy that you now live a life you love. I hope to follow in the same footsteps and to live a life I enjoy living. Thank you
You're very lucky to have discovered this realization of life at an early age. I didn't see this til my late 40s after a layoff of chasing useless expectations of other people expect you to be and do. You reflect on what's important to you and not worry about what other people think. Eventually something will turn for you to take you on a different path that's more fulfilling. It's hood you spend the time on personal reflection to move forward. Yes, life IS hard so we grow and learn, and every human on the planet feels this too. We all struggle; no person is immune.
35 is so young! Someone used to say “one door closes so another can open.” I find it true looking back at life. It’s a good opportunity to take a break until another door opens.
Powerful insightful confession. I saw myself in your story. I started out forcing myself into conforming to the expectations of family and society. Like you I eventually collapsed in on me.( My lucky break). I said F it, and let the universe take me where it wanted, and it mostly worked out for me.. You manage to talk extemporaneously for 30 min and shared some powerful thoughts. I think a lot of people feel they are in a similar situation. Maybe consider being therapist or life coach, You're sincere and authentic it comes across. Good Luck
You just inspired me. Thanks for sharing about your own journey and showing me that I can go just for it too. And you’d be surprised how many takes I’ve done to seem extemporaneous haha. I’ve been thinking those options as well so the affirmation was right on
Thank you for sharing 🙏 Just how you said you weren’t living your true authentic self I think most of us need to learn to living true. Integrity goes a long way!
Hey man thanks for the video. Sorry to hear about your illness but take it as a blessing you are still here. I’m somewhat of in the same boat as you, first generation Asian Australian with parents who migrated for a better life. I started to realise that as I changed jobs and my salary grew it made no difference to how much happier I was, arguably in lower paying shit jobs I was having more fun (with the team I was with). I’m also 35 years old and recently resigned from my corporate job a few months ago, spent a couple months travelling and back in Aus now still figuring it out. Take the time you have now to try new things, like what you said, we have 30 years of this work stuff to go, so you can always go back to a job in a few months, year or whatever.. You mentioned things about having to stay in a good job for your parents sacrifice, and being unemployed is a little embarrassing, make sure that isn’t just your ego. I don’t think your parents will mind you not having a prestigious job or are unemployed for a little while, they just want you to be happy and healthy. Don’t be afraid to ‘fail’, Life is a journey and all about learning your way through life. Keep going brother, goodluck!
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What a waste. Many people deserve that kind of money and you threw it all away to be selfish.
@@BoredAgainChristiann who said I threw it away. I was let go. And who do you think deserves it? What are the requirements to deserve anything.
@@SekPlus I don’t know. Maybe the billions of people living in poverty
@@BoredAgainChristiann @ who decides that. Who decides what’s fair. Do you think life is fair? Do you think I had a say to decide where I was born and in what timeline? Does a person who’s born into poverty have that choice as well? Who do you want to blame for the ever present inequality in all aspects of life- whether it’s a gap between financial holdings or educational and professional opportunities. If you are the arbiter of getting to choose who deserves what can you even do anything about it? So if you feel people in poverty deserve the wealth I had does that mean they deserve yours too? Are you also donating any and all discretionary income available to charities as much as possible to try to balance the scales? You see my point
@ you decided to quit your job and now you have a superiority complex about it. Sad
Not sure how this was suggested on my feed but man did I need to hear this. It feels nice to know that I’m not the only one that feels this way. Praying for your thriving future of self fulfillment! We got this brother💯
glad we got to connect on this and appreciate it Louie. WE GOT THIS
Same-thought I was the only one! Didn’t want to seem ungrateful-some are homeless! But, health started to decline
Staying in a toxic job has resulted in multiple health problems for me, very similar to the ones you mentioned. I have yet to leave the job…
im sorry you're going through similar struggles as I did. I hope you're able to find ways to manage them while you figure out what it is that you want out of life and to make a plan for an exit strategy or a different job that's able to provide you the type of flexibility or fulfillment you're looking for
At some point in time, you will have to make a decision. Your body and mind knows best. Money we can always make, but time and health we can never get back. I'm wishing the best for you and that it all works out.
Same! It’s just not worth it!
Dropped out of most prestigious school when I was 20 due to anxiety and depression, then got addicted to gambling and wasted all my 20's and early 30's, then went back to school, and lucked into grad schools for social work and now working as a therapist as a 38 year old. I've never made as much as 230k and I'm sure never will make that much as a therapist, but I'm grateful for this opportunity because I know I'm not that smart and honestly lucky to even hold a job with my intelligence. You sound like a very sincere guy. Wish you the best of luck and you will be great. Thank you for sharing your wisdom!
Incredible story of resilience and working through the difficulty. I applaud you and want to challenge you to think the opposite. You are smart. You are intelligent. You figured out a new path and learned a new trade. I believe in you
What a beautiful and honest video. Thank you for sharing. Your willingness to be authentic and vulnerable inspires me. This is what we need. I wish you joy, peace, and growth.
Thank you so much for the kind words 😭 I appreciate you
@@annaaa1518 I agree
@@SekPlus you just created a beautiful thing for yourself 👍
If you’re born, you are blessed, you have time to try another field. I knew a lady that was in corporate for 25 years, left that job and decided she wanted to be a nurse. And a truck driver who is switching careers to IT. As long as you’re breathing, you can make a change! Go for it!!
This is the sauce 💯
I don't encourage IT to be honest
@@juans9515 Why?
@jeimuzuriivu Because of its oversaturation, I'm speaking from personal anecdotes from friends, and myself included, with a bachelor's in CS
AI has made getting a job much harder because skill is easier to replicate.
Don't drop everything for tech is all I'm saying, definitely have an option b
@@juans9515 good point
In a similar situation - making $160k in the Midwest where cost of living is lower than other areas, work remotely and work for one of the big tech companies. However, I’ve never been so depressed and anxious in my life. Never thought I’d feel this way after working so hard to get this position. Like you, I know there is so much more to life. 60 hour work weeks, every week, performing a job that isn’t fulfilling is a silent killer
Would you rather be unemployed or making low wages in a crap job? It could be much worse for you.
@@DavidVonR Is a life terrified that you'll become poor a life worth living?
We’re all doing our best. Hope you’re able to figure out what it is that you want
@@xensan76 For many people, life at the bottom tier of society isn't worth living.
Depends how you choose to look at it, jobs were invented to make money not to be passions… just save as much money as you can so that you can invest and keep generating more money so that you don’t have to do that job anymore and focus on your passions…
Your’re not alone in this feeling. Go for it brother
You're only 35, still young with a better chance of starting another path, there are so many paths to choose and change course at your will...I'm now 54 with neuropathy pain everyday from complications of diabetes and will deal with much more coming at me. I've just sold my house after my husband who had abandoned me and spent my entire life savings and now I'm about to move back to live with my parents in a tiny town house that I'm grateful for, otherwise I'd be homeless by now. I'm also starting over and looking forward to what will be thrown at me in this life. My dog is currently my therapist and we will walk in nature each day, God willing to figure out one day/hour/minute at a time....thank you for sharing your video. Praying for your healing and recovery and to get back on your feet.
I’m sorry to hear about the difficult things you’re going through but thank you for sharing. All you have in life is your health and family to lean on
You seem like a strong individual, have gone through life a bit. And I hope you continue to get better every single day.
I would caution though with saying “you’re only 35” it’s somewhat condescending. 35 is what he’s lived. People find massive success by 35 and when it’s gone it’s gone. That’s a lot to bear for anyone. Trying to figure it out again is not for the weak. Self reflection is such a great thing.
I appreciate you sharing a bit about yourself and your situation. Stay up!
Being age 35 is still being age 35. Yes it may be younger than you are but none of us know how long this life will be for us. Some of us don't even make it to age 10 let alone age 35. I had a sibling they were here one day and gone the next without warning. They were only 34 years old. Every day is precious. It is a gift. Tomorrow is not promised to any of us.
@@user56gghtf I'm sorry to hear about your loss. You're right, we have no idea how long our timelines are, it's important to live our days full of life
@@SekPlus Thank you for the condolences. It is important to live our days full of life.
Matthew 6:34
Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.
Love you brother.
@@x.bobbybo love you Brodie
Thanks for sharing this Bobby. I love you bro.
Bro I lost my $48k a year job and I’m still reeling from it. It wasn’t even how much I was getting paid but, it helped me have organization in my life and some purpose cause I was doing something I enjoyed. Now I’m out of a job, continually applying for jobs for months and I’m either too experienced or too old for any positions I am applying for. I realize that just like you, I have to make my own way. Doing this now at almost 40 but feeling like 30.
Let’s goooooo you got this 🙏🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼
Sorry bro, been there too, probably will be again. I’m not an economist, but I think the economy sucks rn
Hang in there!! You are not alone.
Isn’t it so ironic you reach middle class. . . knowing anyone in middle class is struggling financially. For example, the biggest credit debt holders are the Middle Class. They simply do not have the liquidity of cash in 2024
@@joonjonjew I cut my cards up at 30 and have been debt free 24 years. It hasn't been easy all the time without credit card to use but I certainly haven't suffered one bit. Compared to having a bill every 30 days?!?! I've avoided about 300 of those already.
I spent my 20's floundering in college and wasting away in the military. Late 20's to mid 30's was finishing up college with my undergrad and masters, and getting my first $100k+ career job. Only 3 years in and they were pushing me into leadership and towards management. Men on one side of my family tend to die in their 40's, and I started suffering the same sort of illnesses you were facing while in that job (minus the degenerative illness, which who knows?), and the same after quitting that job to finish my PhD. Now near 40, quitting my PhD, walking away from my career, and just making music without much money coming in. I'm currently at the happiest point in my life, waking up everyday and making music, even without that money. Due to my military service, I have some cash coming in, enough to cover rent, eat, and pay off debt (honestly one disaster away from failure). But, the rat race was going to kill me. I spend more time now getting to know my extended family. I now know some of my cousin's dreams and fears, something I never spent the time before to learn all these years. I have people around me that truly love me and that I love back, and I no longer take advantage of believing that they'd always be there. Our time is limited, and we have to find our own happiness in this world. Too many people look at that money and think "yeah, that's the dream!" No, it's not. And living that life, chasing that money, gets expensive. The debt starts to pile up. Your health starts to suffer. And if none of that is true, your time definitely disappears. One of my successful co-workers kept telling me how much he wanted to just have a goat farm instead of leading projects. Finding something that makes you happy, with enough time to see and enjoy life, while living within your means, that's true happiness. I spent 6 hours straight just now working on a beat, after spending 2 hours with a person that I love, and 4 hours before that helping my mother and grandmother. Rather than feeling fatigued and foggy, I just feel tired and ready for bed. Such a difference. I should be worried about the future, worried about retirement, worried about an accident, but I can't be anymore. Let's rest and find our meaning. Because if I were to go back and start job hunting, I know what I'm not stepping into again.
Couldn’t have said it better. Thanks for sharing
“Rather than feeling fatigued, and foggy, I just feel tired and ready for bed.”
That alone feels worth it. Well said. 💥
Awesome dude!!
Wow..thanks for sharing ❤
Thanks for sharing, you found the secret to a happy life my friend!:)
I listened to this video again. It is like a therapy for me. I’ve been through all emotional movements and awareness you mentioned. When hearing you, it is like hearing my self voice. I read lots of books, learnt to love my life and put my self being first, declutterred my life, practice minimalism, eat healthy, go for long walks, have a good sleep, and listen to Buddhism philosophy to heal my soul and have a better look at life. The fact is if you don’t know how to take care of yourself well, you cant and won’t know how to take care of your beloved ones well.
I wish you well and find lots of happiness in little thing in life
Appreciate you. It’s very true. I think a majority of problems we face come from not understanding ourselves and how to take care of ourselves. I hope you’re able to find your own peace as well
I sat and cried after hearing this… the self realization I had. The not feeling present in my own life due to the hustle and bustle and the fear of failure. The uncertainty,the constant feeling of being behind took over my life. I hope for change.
- Thank You
Thank you so much bro. I wish only the best for you
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@@no0bbbb hard
@@SekPlus bro really watched a video and cried. Get it together bro lol
If you cant be okay with the act of crying you may be emotionally stunted
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I'm 32 and will be made redundant soon. I remember after graduating uni, I was starting my own business but I was convinced to get a corporate job by my family and kill that dream. 10 years later, I still have that itch so I'm taking this is opportunity. I also learnt that life is so much more than money and career, it's about relationships and spending time with loved ones, being present.
100%. I hope you never stop going after the things you want out of life
Same, I was working at a dream job at 23, my mom yelled at me I should get a stable corporate job and make a career out of computer science. I was born an artist. I've been dead inside for 13 years, just barely waking up. Quit my job as I felt I could get a heart attack due to stress and anxiety, and I'm trying to rediscover myself as I work odd jobs here and there.
Hoping the best for everyone trapped out there ❤
We all come to a certain resignation. You either resign to where your at or you quit and move on. Most unhappy people think that the job is supposed to be fullfilling when in fact it just supplies you the means to figure out what you want.
It’s different for everyone in terms of propensity to feel one way or another. Trust me I’ve tried to just look at work as a duty but like I mentioned in the video, the issue was the gap between the reality I was living and the reality I wanted to live without making a plan or progress to get there and not being able to understand the value of life being overlayed to this rote work. Different lives different perspectives different lessons but your approach may work for you and if it does cheers
I agree with this comment. Just work a job you like enough and reduce your hours if you can. Then you can just live most of your life how you want. I work a job that’s 12hr shifts. So I only work 2-3 days a week depending on the week. I spent 70-80 percent of my life doing what ever I want. I can put up with my job duties for this trade off.
@@spidermn17 spoiled RN!! Lol
Thank you for sharing this. An ex colleague of mine passed away two weeks ago at 40, left his wife and his daughter just days before her 4th birthday. He had spent most of his time working a job which he did not fully enjoy. Life is shorter than we think, enjoy life, embrace changes, feel the pain and grow from it. Do not worry too much about finance, we dont need a lot of money to be happy.
Wishing everyone can leave this planet feeling they had lived a fulfilling life.
@@WhereisJustice thank you for sharing
I can totally relate 100 percent to everything you have gone through. I worked a job I hated for 20 years feeling stuck and hating everyday of my life doing something I did not want to do. I'm 42 years old and I finally quit the career I was in and am unemployed trying to figure out my next chapter.
Let’s figure it out together 🙏🏼
Listening to you and seeing you, I perceive you to be starting on a very strong foundation, and I believe in you.
I'm 40 and having to start over on a lot less, and I do mean a lot less. It is difficult, however, there is a chance that it very well may just work out. And if it doesn't, I have to work towards being at peace with that too.
All the best Sek Plus. :}
@@southstaronline appreciate you and thank you for believing in me
I believe this is part of an awakening our generation is currently living. We are realizing there is more to life than creating an image to be able to be accepted in this modern age. I am seeing more videos similar to this one. It could be corporate is becoming more demanding than before and making a job more dreadful, which will bring us health issues. I am sure there is more to it depending on the individual, but it does feel like we are incarcerated without an escape. My respects to you and everyone who chooses to step out of this matrix and endeavor into something you love. Keep it going!!!
the amount of friends and strangers that relate to this is an indication of a larger problem and you're right. lots of people are waking up to taking control of their lives
@SekPlus i have the same issue. I am 38 now and absolutely hate my life. I make good money but i hate everything else about my career. I cant see a way out.
I love this comment.
The awakening is amazing.
Often, many of these corporations (ran by our human counterparts) are not solving real problems to the extent that they are raking in revenue and they are more so perpetuating global and national havoc, so it makes you question deeply…
how much of your own life force and your greatest asset (time) do you want to fork over to these companies simply in exchange for money?
Depending on the kind of corporate work that you do, you then begin to ponder, if I am doing this almost exclusively for money, certainly there has to be another way and I better have a clear strategy about how long and how deeply I will do this.
Also, really once you start to realize what you’re doing, you ask yourself is this even sustainable and do I truly have a set period of time that I will be doing this until I pivot to a path of greater alignment, a path of increased ownership over my daily life, a path of actual fruitful productivity (as in creating something that actually helps you live that you can own that helps you actually live more sustainably, healthily and purposefully) in my life.
@AnomalyBelleza dude i agree 100% with what you are saying and its beautifully thought out and expressed. But I got bills to pay...
Lol. You guys are funny. This “awakening” is merely the realization of the vacuousness of what we thought was so important . Millions of people before you have come to this realization. This generation is not unique for “discovering” something that generations before you have gone through. It’s phase of life. To get to this point you have to reach certain milestones ( be able to provide a decent standard of living, be mature enough to know yourself and achieve a level of detachment from yourself etc. Have developed skills that we are expert in etc). This is just a phase of life. This too shall pass and acceptance will take its place.
I was working for a solar company. The money was good but it felt pointless. I didnt feel I was making any change, in fact i felt i was getting people into more debt. Most people dont need solar and the few that do get it get into massive debt and most Americans can't afford it. I started to hate that job and since it was sales, everyone had a quota therefore you had to find ways to get the client to sign.
I quit.
And in a few months I would be making way more money but I didnt care.
Im about to get a new job, that pays less but ill have time to start a side hustle and train MMA which ive been wanting to compete.
Great video my friend, it seems like many men are in the same boat. Hopefully we all open our eyes.
@@WARLOBO excited for you and proud that you took the situation into your own hands and made a decision to quit which I didn’t have the balls to do. Wishing only the best as you go on your journey to fleshing out your future and dream
Those solar panel companies are super predatory mostly , at least from what I’ve heard from ppl screwed by them.. and those working there are complicit in this con.. at least once they realize what is going on and how it works.. screw extra money be PROUD of yourself for making a conscious decision not to be a predator on families and Americans.. morals over money is rare these days which is why this country is decaying
I hate solar sales people
@@SekPlus Thank you my friend, and I wish you well also.
@@daniela9171 it's not only solar sales, it's most sales jobs. When you have a quota to meet, many sales people lie to get there or offer you something you don't need but will make you feel like you do.
I never lied to the customer but managers would get mad that I didn't push for more closes, but I just didn't want to push something I didn't feel the client needed, hence why I quit and didn't like the environment, it was very cutthroat.
Like you, I was so driven by my career that my 30's are a blur. In my 40's I had a job with half your pay working for a boss that was merciless. After 2 years, I had to just walk away and needed to take a year off to recover. I still have nightmares that I'm showing up at the job but no one acknowledges my presence. A fate worse than death is to live and not know you've lived. You're young so take some chances to discover what you really enjoy. I'm now 55 and quality of life is more important to me than anything at work.
I've realized that myself that the culture and boss I work for are incredibly important. thank you for the encouragement
Looks like he needs a family of his own. This is the "lost longing" that many men feel, but can't quite put their thoughts on to express it out loud. Go start a family. Go on, young man!
If you know anyone LMK 😂
I remember reading a Navy SEAL book and he explains how he went so hard and gave up so much to become 1 because he thought becoming a SEAL would make him happy, make him a better person but when he finally accomplished that goal nothing changed. He was still depressed and miserable with his life. You have to find a balance in life. The sweet spot of accomplishing your goals and keeping a small circle of people in your life. At the end of the day life is crazy especially in today’s world but just know you’re not alone trust me. Just keep pushing and doing what you can do. Will always be good days and bad days just stay healthy keep your mind sharp you’ll be fine
Great reminder and thank you for the tip
Don’t give up. Get good sleep so your cells recover, get some Sun for vitamin D, it makes people happier. Been there too and I walked out of a very stressful job. Went to the doctor before health insurance ran out and doctor said my blood pressure was extremely high I could have heart attack. That stressful job did it. Now I’m happier and stress free with my simple job, not a lot of money but stress free. 😊
Very happy for you! Yeah I’ve been experiencing high blood pressure symptoms as well but ever since I got laid off they’ve somehow gone away
Same! Never had high blood pressure until this role. Other health issues were “popping up”… just had to stop!
What job did you end up working?
Golden handcuffs. Once you realize that, you must ask yourself, how big would you dream?- if you knew you couldn’t fail.
Yessss
Bro I am literally in the same exact situation as this guy is explaining. I literally felt like he was explaining my life. Almost cried ngl. Im 28, am near 300k total comp, 65 hours per week, no sleep, brain fog, always exhausted etc.
@@pencilpenred1 sorry to hear you’re struggling with the same things I was. My advice is to try to a break and spend time mediating to try to calm your central nervous system. Take time to be honest with yourself to try to pinpoint what it is you’re wanting or need in your life. Wish you all the best and you are not alone in your journey
Brrrrrooo. Literally going through this exact struggle right now. Glad you made it out on the other side, and ready to join very soon 🙏🏼 much love to everyone else struggling through this.
I pray that you get well soon. Thank you for your words of encouragement for others right now. Your life is precious, so I hope you live it doing what you want to do most. I have seen many people who were sick in the past, but are now healthy and living joyfully. You will definitely do the same. why? Because we pray for you. We are always by your side...
what you going thru is what most people are going thru. nice to hear an introspection of someone else online. life is a lot of up and down for sure; while temporarily helpful solutions to impove your mental health are dating/relationship, meditate, hobbies, breaking away from the job grind, drinking to mute your deep thoughts, talk to friends about your thoughts/life.
@@exposedthat I’m finding that to be the case. I definitely would try those things and while they helped, the deeper issue was never addressed so it kept gnawing at me for years. But here’s to a new start 💪🏼
@SekPlus yes to a new start. you are not alone. the deeper issues can challenge us. change of mindset, help those less fortunate, work on your tradeoffs (new company or another job that is less soul crunching and find days off for some fun), and the reality sometimes then comes to the acceptance of the unfairness in life, rat race, expectation adjustments. some people bury their thoughts and expression and hide... The unexamined life is not worth living, Socrates. being self-aware can guide you to self-improvement. however, maybe... it is better not to be so deep in thoughts!! Just live life and find goals that can fulfill you.
Even though I graduated from college and actually worked in my field for 24 years, I co-sign this message!
Rare !
I have been there when I was younger several decades ago. I graduated from college and was laid off from job after eight years. I was scared that I couldn’t get over the hump after I had gone thru a divorce 3 years earlier. I had two small children who were relying on me for child support. I was behind in payments. It was the fear of failure and ending up being homeless. When I found a job, I had to keep it going although i felt being trap. I’m retired now and no longer in chains to my desk after 36 years. Yes, freedom was therapeutic for a job we love to hate.
Thank you for all your inspiration! This world is most blessed to have you. Much love.
Appreciate you
Being laid off is a GIFT sometimes!
And in this case it was 💯 a gift
TRUE
About to hit 35. Needed to hear something like this and thank you for your openness and vulnerability to share this.
@@Mattchuchu811 all the best
Having a healthy body and mind is the most important thing. It means you have hope today and can do whatever you want.
Health is first !!!
"If your life is a gift, why does it feel like a prison" that hit hard and resonated with my soul. Much love to you, and thank you for sharing your story.
@@Beezlbubbs thank you for stopping by
Wow, I really like this story. I appreciate you taking time to share it.
When you spoke of the various health incidents that you were experiencing at some point and how they were a sign of betrayal to self, it really reminded me that when you’re lying to yourself perpetually with your actions, even your own body will start to recognize it and reject or respond adversely.
💯. Your body is trying to tell you something’s off. Gotta Listen to it
I’m 37 and totally feeling the same. I have the same thoughts almost everyday. Looking for purpose that justifies my existence. I’m lucky to have my partner, family, friends, and health. But I still find myself struggling. My workplace and commute is soul sucking. Some days are better than others. I’m trying my best to redirect my energy into my side projects whenever I can in hopes something takes off. It’s a rough journey right now but I’m hopeful. Thanks for posting this video.
Damn!!!!! This spoke to me so hard this morning! A few years ago, I thought I have made it in my career with title and salary but had one of the worst health years in my life with prostate and colon scares. Walking stress ball and constantly in my head with a functional smile telling everyone that I was fine when I wasn't. Now, totally different outlook and not give my all to these companies and explore what is important and interests. At 5pm, I am out the door. I use all of my PTOs without a care in the world and always exploring other options. My health is top priority and if i am not in the mood, I aint doing it.
This is what I’m talkin bout lfgggg. Healthy boundaries and good priorities. Happy for you 🙏🏼
For so long, it felt like I was asleep, caught in a dream that wasn't really mine. I was going through the motions, letting life just happen to me instead of living it consciously. My spiritual awakening felt like waking up from a long nightmare, where I was tangled in fear, self-doubt, and old patterns that kept me stuck. Now that I’m awake, I see things clearly-myself, the world, my purpose. It’s like finally seeing the beauty and the light after living in a fog. It wasn’t easy, but I know now that the pain was part of my growth. And starting fresh at 35 is like giving myself permission to truly live and thrive.
I’ve come to a place where I’m comfortable with myself, realizing I’m smarter than I ever thought. I’m enjoying my solitude and actually loving myself now. I’m not sure when I will die, but I no longer care. I live in the now, and living in the now has been the most beautiful transition in my life. This is the beginning of an end, the end of that old life and the start of a beautiful new journey. I wish everyone a beautiful journey, too. Thanks for this video. It helps more than you know.
This was a poem
@@SekPlus sorry lol I just wrote what I felt after watching this
@@thickivicki89don’t apologize this was rad
@@SekPlus aww thank you! Hope you have been feeling a bit better 🥰
@@thickivicki89 thank you 🙏🏼 very
Bless your heart!!! Thank God that you are finding your way in this journey in life .Life itself and material things really don’t mean much unless you are truly happy and at peace with yourself. I know your video will encourage many to follow their heart to a happier life.
Thank you for your kind words Connie. We’re all looking for something deeper
I have an engineering degree and it opened doors in manufacturing, IT, insurance industry. After my last layoff on 2009, I decided to go back to school to study electron microscopy and get a tech job at Intel at age 45yo. I only have a mortgage cant wait to retirement at 62yo.
"If life is a gift,why does it feel like a prison?".....Wisdom
Life is a "gift" because we are alive and living in the "present"... Although, life is significantly easier today than for those that came before us. Our own personal temptations and the societal norms we've created, drive us to create the mental and financial life long prison we trap ourselves in. This man has awakened and has free'd himself mentally and will free himself financially as well in order to live his 2nd life... $$$ isn't everything and we exist in a miniscule amount of time... Spend time with your family and loved ones. Try to make amends with those you feel you have wronged and forgive those that have wronged you. Many blessings to you and your family...Our sweet Lord Jesus Christ provides the blessings we need to free ourselves. His love, his teachings guide us and we are led to this man's video today because our Lord is showing us another path. "Jesus Christ knows about algorithms too"... Much love to you and my many brothers and sisters in Christ!!!
@@johnwy2698 you lost me at Jesus Christ.
S**t happens in life for a reason. Leave the past behind and move on. Your next job will always be better than your last. Don't over think about your life. Just live your life.
I totally understand, I quit my job of 17 years. No more stress, just taking care of myself and my family. Working my garden and trusting in Jesus.
30s year old man here the last 7 years I’ve been living what you call a life of self betrayal. I have a good job a lot of people would love to have my job or be in my position. I’ve told my parents how it’s not for me that I don’t want to do this anymore, they think I’m crazy that I’d be dumb to give the job up. I’m also trying to find my way in life trying to get to a job that makes me happy I’ve been looking into the medical field. I also have developed all the health issues you mentioned the gut issues, lack of sleep, brain fog, tiredness I also gained 80 pounds so that don’t help. Thank you for sharing it goes to show I’m not alone in this battle I hope you find your way and answers in life.
Be brave and keep going 🙏🏼 I hope you find what you’re looking for to live a life of good health and wealth
Thx 4 your honesty, life is an adventure and you're on the right track. Just live. Less is more, less stuff, more love. Be true to yourself. Millions go thru the same questions quietly.
Thanks for the encouragement
Whoa! 🔥 That opening quote about two lives! Oh my goodness. Dynamite. One of the best thoughts / quotes I’ve read in a very long time.
This is the main reason why me and the wife are sending our two daughters to college fully paid so when they graduate they wont have debts. Also, since we are close to them we help discuss what they like to study and the fields they choose are ones that are employable and can financially pay them enough to live a comfortable life.
Amazing parenting right here. Your children are fortunate and blessed
100% That's our strategy, as well. I know not a lot of families are capable of this, but anything to reduce the debt burden, even if a little, would be helpful for college students. Truthfully, it's the college system that's broken. There's really no reason it should take 4 years of education to develop a solid foundation in journalism, history, math, business, economics, etc. In other words, Math majors shouldn't have to take a foreign language class to graduate or any other liberal art class, unless they choose to.
Sometimes it takes a life struggle to help you realize that life is more than working a 9-5 job. For me, being laid off the first time was the best thing that happened to me. It gave me a chance to stop my hectic life of the rat race to understand my purpose in life. You’re right , life is short. You only have one life to live so live a more fulfilling life doing something you love. This diagnosis and layoff you encountered was a blessing because better sooner than later to start living life 😊
Exactly how I’m feeling
You know what? I don't even know you. I writing from another country, from a thousands of kilometers away. But I can tell you that you are on the right path of your life my friend. Your words have inspired a man from far far way in a quite similar situation. So thanks for this, and keep going.
this encourages me. thank you for taking the time to write. being able to bring any sort of encouragement to anyone makes being vulnerable and putting this out worth it.
If my life is good, why does it feel like a prison? That statement caught my attention when said that, because I can’t absolutely relate! I’m still trying to cope with life and my purpose here on earth! Keep the faith and appreciate you sharing this video!😔
This is such an incredibly relatable video. When you said that you experienced health issues all because you were living a life of self betrayal, I felt that in my core. This is powerful and I share this same feeling. I have some soul searching to do . Thank you for providing this honest insight!
Happy to help and all the best on your self discovery journey 🙏🏼
Dont give up homie, live life , and be positive until you die , mental it's all . Just keep surviving life is all about surviving and be real . 💯
I started over at 35, when I lost eveything, ended up living in the street, in and outta jail but only blamed myself for it was ALL on me - the person in the mirror. Shocking how powerful accountability is. Dove into real estate, started flipping land, then single fam, then multi fam and eventually ended up in commercial. I've made a couple million since then and recovered in a way I wouldn't ever trade the experiences and friends I've made a long the way. To success for the driven 🥂
Yah but admit it..jail was kinda fun...i had forgotten but just did a week inside..man, its good to be around real hairy men and just not a bunch of whining gen-z twerps in fingernail polish.
Your hella gay
Fr one bestfriend is all you need to conquer a whole country!
How did you dive into real estate? Doesn't that take quite a bit of money to get started buying the first property to flip?
So let me get this straight, you "lost everything" and started living in the street and still had money to go into real estate??
Either you're making this up or you really decided to be clueless and homeless before coming back to the real world.
Wow, youtube’s algorithm does it again. I was having some of the exact same thoughts about second generation immigrant guilt yesterday night and was thinking of making a video about it too, but i don’t think i could have possible put it as succinctly as you have, bravo 🎉. Your life experiences truely speak for itself and you have a lot to give to this world.
I appreciate the compliment but I want to strongly disagree. It's your story that's important and once you start, the better you get. No one knows this but I recorded this video over 10 times and it took me 2 weeks where I kept redoing it because I kept stuttering, my thoughts were everywhere, I wasn't coherent, and it was objectively a bad video. It's okay to put out bad content and iteratively get better. Thats how you get better at anything. Please don't keep yourself from posting cause I did and I regret it. I could have been so much happier sooner the earlier I committed instead of preventing myself from doing what I really wanted to do which a part of it was putting out videos. Share your story, take a chance on yourself, and put out your "bad" content. You have to put out your bad ideas and executions out first in order to get better and have your good content reach the surface. If you never start, you keep extending that timeline of living your dream and it stays a dream. It's all just a part of the process. You got this.
Man this one HIT. I am in a similar situation and age range. Just left a Fortune 500 company and started at a new one. Making more money than I ever have but I’m empty and dead inside. I’m not working in my field of study. There is no passion behind my day to day. Can’t help but think I’m just a cogwheel for these companie$ and the years go by. Chasing money and possessions for what? Life is so short and precious. Wish I could just leave it all
Exactly, all this for what. If you don’t have anyone to share it with in a meaningful way what’s it all for? Hope you’re able to find a purpose for all that you’re doing
Come to the Philippines and nourish your soul.
@@lucyong8838 I may need to !
Whatsup bro ✌ we grew up together in VA. UA-cam told me to watch your video on my homepage. Powerful message, hope you figure everything out. Sounds like you're already on your way to better times ahead👍
Ayeee what’s good Ryan. Glad to see you’re doing well. Thanks for the encouragement 🙏🏼🙏🏼
This is a great video. Thanks for sharing! I really resonated how you painted the picture of our chances of existing at 14:00. I really dialed in
@@neettim let’s gooooo
One Hee Jin Lee 😊
Life is life. Whatever decision you made or about to make, just dont have regret. I didn't regret getting married and have kids. I didnt regret hustling big time because i was such a failure. I had to because i know i wanted kids. Now my hustle paid off and i have kids at 35. My next chapter of my story is looking toward retirement. No regrets. That's my life.
I feel you bro. I was he same way as my parents expected me to go to college and major in engineering, which I hated. I didn't know what I wanted in life at 18, so the thing to do is to go to college. I was lucky that was 30 years ago, and my life turned out okay as I got into a profession that I wanted to be in, which is investment finance. It was not an easy path to get to where I am today. I really feel for the young people starting out their lives today, as it is much harder to succeed in today's economy and world we live in. Having a +100k in tuition debt at 22 yo is not the way to start off your adulthood.
I 💯 agree. If I had to redo things I wouldn’t have jumped into debt
Listened to every second of this. Love you Sek. And so appreciate the message. That message is You.
Bro I miss you 😭
I’m starting over at 31,last year was probably the toughest year of my life for my wife and I, getting arrested, not knowing if I was going to do time or not, luckily I didn’t, but losing my job and my entire savings during that time. Now I’m starting over, going back to school and recently gotten back into fitness and running again. Starting from the bottom again, I’m extremely stressed out about it, but I oddly feel extremely free and I know there’s only up from here.
Thank you for sharing what you are going through man!
Let’s Fcking goooooo I’m right there with you let’s go 💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼
Thank you for the reminder, bro. I'm starting over in a sense too. Do you shot , and try create the life you want!
Let’s get after it boiii
Thank you for this message and sharing your experience! You are special and she is out there! As soon as you find yourself, she will find you!
Thank you for the encouragement 🙏🏼
I don't know what you believe in my friend but I have faith God shows the way to those who seek it. Take something you like to do, figure out a way that can help people, become the best at it.
💯 agree
Well said. I am trying to do that very thing right now and know that God has a plan. It's hard personally to not be anxious, I'll admit.
@@kirk1968 you got this
@@SekPlus Thanks man! And thank you for sharing this video, it's been great reading the comments as well.
So I lost my hob for the countless time. I am quitting the work life! I can feel a sense of relief
Sometimes you need a reset as a solution to fatigue and burnout. It would be nice if jobs were ran like schools where you get a summer break, winter break, and spring break (of course staff would have to rotate and alternate schedules for business continuity). Or it would be nice if corporations start adopting the 4 day work week. Another solution would be to save a year worth of salary and take a gap year from work.
100% and it's probably what I needed and your ideas for the change in work structure make a lot of sense
Samantha here, lol. I can very much relate to this. Also the heart issues as well. Both my Mom and Grandpa have “pacemakers” which I find interesting, as I see the body as a metaphor for life, and the heart as beating in time with everything. Not too fast or too slow. Just right in the middle. I have experienced some weird things lately with my heart/body but I can tell it’s related to something more than just a physical experience. We tend to go through these sort of “rebirths” or level-ups after each phase of awakening as we move closer to our true self. You’re healing as you do, leaving behind what you don’t need and taking with you all that is important and that is you. (You as in the all). The realization that everything you want is you. Life is like the centre of a circle. Living in imagination is or going after something in life is like chasing your own tail or a carrot in front of you. While living in the past is like biting your tail, not allowing you to move at all. But then finally there is the realization that you are never going anywhere, you never really left. And that is the present. There is no other place to be. At that point you can still choose to “go after things you want” but you realize it’s just you selecting a part of yourself to experience. A part of the whole. You can only watch one show at once, so once you select it in your mind, you go live your life and watch the show unfold. That’s when you’re able to let go and “live the dream”. I wish you all the best 🙏
Thank you 🙏🏼
I was listening to the podcast “how I built this” and Jim Koch who built Samuel Adams Beer said that complacency is the most dangerous silent killer. It seems like your high paying job, your flexible schedule and being remote, though not fulfilling, kept you there. This may just be a blessing in disguise and we see the transformation recorded and shared here. Thank you for sharing! Many of us are in the same situation 🙏.
Is is exactly what happened. Very insightful!
This was such and awesome and timely video. You articulated so well how I’ve felt my whole adult life. No matter how “good” the 9-5 is, there will always be that push and pull struggle inside me between doing the thing that I should do and doing what sets my soul on fire. I thought I was alone in this, but your video and the comment section reminds me that I’m not alone! Thanks for sharing your story 💕
glad you got to be encouraged and yes, you're not alone 💪
I am also 35 years old and I am currently facing the dilemma you went through. I got into law-enforcement at 23 years old and have been in it for 12 years now. I would technically need another 22 years before I could retire. I feel like it has destroyed my mental health by giving me chronic anxiety, I go through bouts of the blues. I am not alone in these feelings either. I feel like a majority of my coworkers are also burnt out and on the same page. Tricky when you have a family too. Just trying to come up with something else that would “work”.
@@MrRussianGerman Sorry to hear about work giving you stress and anxiety leading to burnout, I can definitely relate. That stress however showed me the importance of finding ways to maintain my mental health throughout all this through necessity and thankfully I’m more equipped to manage that stress whenever it arises. Still figuring things out one day at a time
You have to stay 34 years before retirement?? Fuck that
I thought you needed to work 20 to get full benefits on the force.
Hopefully you’re one of the rare good cops who treats people like people and actually protects and serves .. you’ve got a very tough job, one that is necessary, and sadly often done by people who have no business wearing a badge, carrying a gun, and given authority. You could work 22 more years and retire probably fairly comfortably and perhaps younger than many of Americans will.. you could also intend on that but die in a car crash or whatever at any point between now and 22 years. If you aren’t happy and fulfilled then what’s the point I suppose. Hell i don’t know.. but whatever you decide.. thanks for your service dude. Sincerely.
I feel this. I'm in my 40's. I was laid off and had a brain tumor at 30. I can say any motivation I had was sucked out of me. Trying to find meaning will always be a struggle. I find family and animals brings me joy
Sorry to hear about your health but hope you’re doing alright. Glad you got to find what you enjoy to be able to tap into that when things got rough
Thank you for conjuring the strength to create and post this. I've recently had to completely walk away from everything I've known and my family. I'm 41years old and I was born into a family of addicts. I want to break the generational curse and stop allowing them to control how I feel. I'm essentially homeless but I'm not tormented anymore. I raised my son as a single mom and these last few years have been crazy for everyone so I'm sure there's no need to explain in detail for now. I was wanting to go towards a life of sustainability and lower my carbon footprint about 10years ago and they told me I'm unrealistic and living in a dream world. About 5 years ago I lost my will to go on. I'm still battling this. Now I'm working on finding out if I'm battling lung cancer because my health has declined. Your message helped me feel like I'm not alone. That there's more to this small but Amazing existence. Thank you ❤
Thank you for taking the time to share. I hope you’re able to focus on your health and be in a place where giving up feels like a distant thought
What a great video. Not quite sure how this came up in my algorithm…as someone who just graduated school, got a masters, and am now starting my first corporate job, I share many of the feelings you mentioned. Landing a great first job at a good company felt great for a while but it ends real quick. My dreams to pave my own entrepreneurial road remain, but life is tough.
lets never stop dreaming bro
So lucky I was able to join the Marine Corps and learned a few of these lessons early on. 🙏🏽
@@dubyusmc truly blessed. Glad you were able to learn them earlier
I don't smile at all these days. I don't thank anything I have and I've a lot to be thankful for. The money worry is everything now. Life feels like hell but it shouldn't. I'd like to give you a big hug. Thank you very much for your words.
We’ll take this massive eHug from me bro. I’m right there with you and we’re more in control than we think we are. A hard lesson I’m learning is having to take full accountability for everything no matter how good or bad. Much love to you and sending strength your way
this may have cured my depression
If it has I truly hope you continue to find hope and a life that is meaningful
This resonated on so many levels brother. I hope your well and just know that this video is saved for me to review anytime I need to center myself.
I totally understand your feeling because i'm in the same situation like you, loosing a source of big income is very scary at this age. You can be so pessimistic as you want, release all of them out until you can feel ok again. It's ok to feel like nothing in the middle of chaos in this market. I don't know when this situation is gonna end but hopefully we can get through this one day very soon, maybe with a bigger plan or a better plan for our life, not to live dependently to a corporate job like now.
I was thinking about saying goodbye to this life for months, but i didn't have the courage to do it so i'm now typing these words to you. Wish life can be so gentle and generous to us
thanks for being vulnerable enough to share that with me. I'm so glad you're still here today with me bro. don't give up, it gets better 💪
Yea man hang in there. Even a decade of depression or more isn’t worth not seeing your story unfold. The toughest things being us closer to the truth.
@@SekPlushey I saw another video of this neurosurgeon that quit his job. Reminded me of your video. He said that the surgeries did nothing in the long run. But people that had human connection, ate well, slept well, meditated etc would heal miraculously. Many times before the surgery date. Not needing surgery. This is spine surgeries. Brain surgeries are less common so they also do spine surgeries. But this was very insightful. When the body heals, everything heals.
@@organicthug5220 health is wealth. We have nothing without it
Thanks for finding the courage to share your story. Your words are so similar to what I’d been thinking and experiencing this year.
God Bless!
Glad we got to connect through the same experience
Bro, it's better late than never. I'm not saying you're late at finding out. You may just needed to go through what you need to in order to better yourself overall. I had to do it at 38 where I was working from home and I hated the room that I dedicated for work. It's like my house wasn't my house anymore. I had to leave that job. 3.5 years later I don't stress like that anymore and I sleep better and wake up better. They pay us a lot of money to deal with the stress we take along with it. Bless to you and thank you for sharing brotha.
Thank you very much for the encouragement
You’re well spoken. I’m a stranger but I’m proud of you. You’ll do great things!
Thank you for the compliment and for believing in me 💪🏼
Such an encouraging word
This reminds me of the old saying, “For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?”
Not an old saying. It's a Bible verse.
That's scripture...not necessarily just some old saying. Jesus Christ said that himself. Amen.
Thanks for sharing. I felt this way for years after college working my dream jobs-child welfare and shelter for unhoused pregnant women. Low pay, long hours, secondary trauma, monthly doctors visits I couldn’t afford. I am actually in corporate America now and am thriving and loving it. It’s never too late to start over and the company makes a huge difference in workplace satisfaction. Now I see my job as a vehicle to afford the life I want and I can hopefully move somewhere cheaper and work less. I hope everything works out for you.
@@savtelly3817 thank you and I wish all the best for you on your own journey
I feel ya. I was in Corporate America for 4 years. My first try at freelancing, I became a teacher for a year after being pressured by my family. I loved the kids, but the Admin SUCKED. I spent so much time on their goals and almost forgot about mine. In 2019, I made a choice to get serious about my own business. I haven't looked back. I've been tempted to get a 9-5, but I just know the anxiety and stress that comes with that. Wish you the best of luck with your new chapter!!
@@EpartnersMarketing thank you for sharing it’s very encouraging. Wish all the best for you and hope I can follow in your footsteps. Cheering for you 📣
this is so real, thank you so much for sharing this!
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Don't feel down from all the people using "You are privileged!" arguments. Your feelings are valid. A meaningful life is not always found from a higher income job.
Agreed. Everyone’s life is different and Thank you for the affirmation 🙏🏼
Don’t give up because this is a time of reflection and recovery. Life is indeed precious and don’t let fears overwhelm you. You are realistic and gifted spiritually. You are where you supposed to be. My grandmother used to say everything happens for a reason and things could have been worse. We are drop in the universe but when we exist we vibrate in the cosmic dust. You can make it. Right now you are where you meant to be spiritually, emotionally,,mentally and completely free . Keep the faith and don’t be afraid ,discouraged and listen to naysayers. You are someone special. The old saying “we make the proposal and the outcome is not up to us. God bless.
wow thank you for all of the kind words. they mean a lot
Thank you for sharing your experience, and I wish you great health every single day. That's all that matters
Thank you so much and you are 100% correct. Blessings
Yeaaaah stay healthy everyone! 💛
This is such a refreshing video in the current cesspool of brainless crap that’s out there these days.
I didn’t think people were capable of this level of honest self-reflection anymore. You are exceptionally well spoken and courageous for laying it all out there.
I think this will really reach a lot of people out there. Thank you for sharing your story
I hope you continue to do so
@@Ninjadasian thank you so much for your encouraging and kind words. This means a lot even though we’re complete strangers. Thank you for taking the time to drop by
Your life is beautiful! If you always live happily and gratefully, every day will come as a miracle.:)
Though unemployed, I do feel that time helped build mental enrichment and a lot of realisation about life, about oneself , about value the meaning of value, unpacking things and go through them , pack them up and be comfortable with things you regret , missed , disliked, start somewhat new and search for more happiness. Happiness comes from small things, treasure them.
somehow the algorithm led me to your vid. well said, sort of in the same situation as your title, except i’m a bit bit older, and after watching, i share a lot of your thoughts. i appreciate putting your insight into the ether. it helps many going thru the same and questioning their lives and their struggles. we’re definitely not alone in our plights to self discovery and defining and chasing our happiness. it’s not easy, because the challenges enrich our path toward augmenting our wisdom. in an odd way, i try to appreciate those challenges, but also appreciate what i do have. ya dude. cheers ☕️
appreciate the sincerity and glad we could connect on a common thread most people can relate to. like you said, it's a strange balance of going after your dreams and still being grateful of what you have
@@SekPlus agree. sometimes you have to trust the universe that you’re on the path toward the dreams, and just be proactive on that path. i actually really enjoyed my job of many years while making some good denero, but the uni tapped me on the shoulder and said, dude, it’s time to move onto something else, you’ve gotten as much as you can and have learned much from this. time for the next chapter in your book. it was and has been tough to accept, and it’s easy to be frustrated and upset about it, but that’s part of the challenge. happiness and your dreams isn’t a destination, it’s a journey as they say. just buckle up with a smile on your face because that makes it easier. we’re just a speck on a speck in the universe anyway, as you showed. i just hope to look back when it’s all said and done, and say i made the right decisions toward attaining maximum happydom while here. ☕️
Very wise. Thanks for sharing your introspection. Very helpful.
Appreciate you 🙏🏼
I’m asian and grew up with that same pressure. Back in the 1980’s, my sister and I were the second and third members in our family’s history to graduate from college. We had no say in it. It was our duty to move each generation ahead. I start my first job as a college grad and I’m miserable. Money’s good but the hours are long, work environment is cut throat and toxic. I eventually start experiencing chest pains, weight loss and shingles. Just like you, I couldn’t enjoy my time away from work. My father, after seeing what I’m going through tells me to quit my job and pursue a career that I could enjoy. After that talk everything fell into place. It’s easier to be successful in something you enjoy because it becomes your passion. I pray that you find a career that will bring you happiness. With that happiness, I pray you’ll be in a better place for your future family. It’s your life and you owe it to yourself to find happiness and contentment.
This was so encouraging to hear and I’m so happy that you now live a life you love. I hope to follow in the same footsteps and to live a life I enjoy living. Thank you
You're very lucky to have discovered this realization of life at an early age. I didn't see this til my late 40s after a layoff of chasing useless expectations of other people expect you to be and do. You reflect on what's important to you and not worry about what other people think. Eventually something will turn for you to take you on a different path that's more fulfilling. It's hood you spend the time on personal reflection to move forward. Yes, life IS hard so we grow and learn, and every human on the planet feels this too. We all struggle; no person is immune.
and because of that common struggle, it unifies us
35 is so young! Someone used to say “one door closes so another can open.” I find it true looking back at life. It’s a good opportunity to take a break until another door opens.
Let’s goooooo :)
Powerful insightful confession. I saw myself in your story. I started out forcing myself into conforming to the expectations of family and society. Like you I eventually collapsed in on me.( My lucky break). I said F it, and let the universe take me where it wanted, and it mostly worked out for me..
You manage to talk extemporaneously for 30 min and shared some powerful thoughts. I think a lot of people feel they are in a similar situation. Maybe consider being therapist or life coach, You're sincere and authentic it comes across. Good Luck
You just inspired me. Thanks for sharing about your own journey and showing me that I can go just for it too. And you’d be surprised how many takes I’ve done to seem extemporaneous haha. I’ve been thinking those options as well so the affirmation was right on
@@SekPlus Carpe Diem. Keep posting
Thank you for sharing 🙏
Just how you said you weren’t living your true authentic self I think most of us need to learn to living true. Integrity goes a long way!
Hey man thanks for the video. Sorry to hear about your illness but take it as a blessing you are still here. I’m somewhat of in the same boat as you, first generation Asian Australian with parents who migrated for a better life. I started to realise that as I changed jobs and my salary grew it made no difference to how much happier I was, arguably in lower paying shit jobs I was having more fun (with the team I was with).
I’m also 35 years old and recently resigned from my corporate job a few months ago, spent a couple months travelling and back in Aus now still figuring it out. Take the time you have now to try new things, like what you said, we have 30 years of this work stuff to go, so you can always go back to a job in a few months, year or whatever..
You mentioned things about having to stay in a good job for your parents sacrifice, and being unemployed is a little embarrassing, make sure that isn’t just your ego. I don’t think your parents will mind you not having a prestigious job or are unemployed for a little while, they just want you to be happy and healthy. Don’t be afraid to ‘fail’, Life is a journey and all about learning your way through life.
Keep going brother, goodluck!
Glad we could connect and everything you said was true. I just had to learn it for myself I guess. Appreciate you and the encouragement!