First story: I see brother and sister's side in this, I do understand that you can have the requirements you want at your wedding, but SIL was being petty. It was pretty clear she was using her to get her stuff and she didn't even invite her to her party. And if it was really too expensive for sister to afford, brother should have at least been considerate and tried to actually help her go instead of just saying she's selfish because she thinks she can't. Second story: Yeah, I thought wife would have ended up in the wrong but no. Husband can reschedule his plans with friends and spend time with his son. His wife made a promise to stay with her friend during chemo and now he's trying to tell her not to. I will admit that calling him controlling nay have been much, but he obviously wasn't thinking of how he could've done what he wanted while helping his wife keep her promise. Third story: I mean, I would've given it to him, but yeah, he should have said what he wanted more clearly. Maybe his friends would have understood him, but not everyone would, so he should have owned up when he realized that she didn't understand him. Love your videos Kyutie!
Why should he be forced to be inconvenienced? And his family as well? Rubbish. She obviously cares more about her friend than her husband. She should take the child with her or hire a baby sitter. If he starts ignoring her and not giving her the time of day I bet it's gonna be a different story.
@@shershan254 ummm,maybe because it's his son too and it should not be a problem to take care of his own son ,it's not only one parent job to look after kids 😒.him not being able to hangout with his friends and,wife supporting her friend in rough time which is more selfish ? And she is only going for certain days even then husband can't take care of kid , you are making it sound like it's only her duty to look after kid but taking care after kids is a duty of both parents. If roles were switched and wife just wanted to hangout with her friends, have lunch and was annoyed to look after kid for some time because husband was supporting his friend through rough time then,she would be instantly a 'not so great wife' 🤷which would be right then,why husband makes you think different. "Father taking care of kids is normal " (Taking care of your own child is not an forced inconvenience,but one parent being annoyed at it and only ordering other to do it as 'his or her duty ' is)
@@Cinnamo_4700 Yes, taking care of kids are both parent's responsibility, but the problem here is, the wife gave too much commitment to her friend. To the point where the father can't even have lunch with his sister and mother. How long can a lunch gets? Let's say maximum 2 hours, and the wife can't even take care of the son for two hours? Imagine this: Both husband and wife has a job that takes equal time to work. Then they share an equal amount of time to take care of the son. The remaining time would be their spare time where they could hang out with their own friends and family. Now, because wife have to take care of cancer friend so she uses all her spare time on him. Okay, that's fine, it's her spare time. But she then also takes the time where she should be taking care of the son and use it on her friend instead. So to make up the time to take care of son, the husband have to turn his spare time into taking care his son. Now in short term, this would be an okay arrangement. But cancer treatment is not a short term thing. It could take up to years and the cancer would still be around. If this schedule keep going up, what would happen? The son hardly sees his mother, the husband would also be unable to spend time with his friends, family, and even some alone time for himself. Don't you think it's unfair for the husband?
@@Cinnamo_4700 Her obligation is to her husband. Imagine putting a friend over your vows. Absolute bullshit! Her husband's feelings are not considered at all but it's the typical modern female why would I expect different. She's wrong and full of it, much like yourself but hey these excuses are expected.
@@shershan254 I do get what you're saying, but it his his child too. Chemo isn't everyday, so there should be one night where the wife doesn't have to stay with her friend that he can go out with his. And why can't he take his child with him if the place is kid friendly?
The girl should have told her brother to come pay for his fiancée. Who walks out of a store without paying? What's with the relatives supporting the abusers? Is the husband jealous? Is he feeling abandoned by his wife? Did they discuss this or did the wife unilaterally decide this? I have so many questions. the boyfriend is freaking immature. Who gets upset over a mayo pack? He could have asked for another one from the cashier. I can't. I would rather offer my food.
The story with the husband asking wrt his wife helping out her friend with chemo. Umm, yeah. Thing is, we don't know much of the story, honestly. I think it's great that the wife wants to support her friend. At the same time, I wouldn't say that the husband doesn't want to watch his son or anything - more that he can't do much of anything because his wife has made this commitment to her friend and it looks like the appointments aren't standing appointments - like each successive appointment is scheduled one at a time. So one week, appointment is at 2pm on Wednesday. When that appointment is over, they schedule the next one for 4 pm on Monday, then 1 pm on Friday, and so on. He probably loves spending time with his child, but wants some time for himself as well, and is unable to schedule it. Also, he may be feeling abandoned by his wife, who seems to be putting the needs of her apparently single and definitely male friend above the needs of her husband. This is how emotional affairs begin, and emotional affairs can become physical affairs. Of course, if he were to ask her, she'd probably get defensive and say that he's being jealous.
Yes. I already respect him for agreeing to go with the promise she made to her friend without informing him, eventhough it would affect their life as a couple. And it doesn't seem like the dates are prefixed, unlike his dinner with his family. It seems to me that she just springs it onto him the day/moment she's leaving and is guilt tripping him into ignoring his life, events and people he cares about because "my friend is dying, this is more important and if you don't ignore the fact that I'm neglecting the effect this has on our life then you're cruel" it seems to me that she's the one who's kinda excusing herself out of staying with her son. I agree with the emotional affair bit, some wild romances begin between childhood friends let alone trauma bonding, she's getting carried away and her husband is allowed to ask for a limit since she's not establishing one herself.
2nd story: many factors haven't been explained..par example, for how long has the chemo been going on already? How was the relationship with that "friend" before his treatment? How is the relation between the Husband and that "friend"- Maybe I'm wrong but I feel that both partners are not acting right; It seems they are both a bit inmature and lacking in communication and honouring each others needs.
ngl when i first heard this story, i defs started thinking that the wife is just useing the chemo therapy as an excuse and is possibly cheating on the husband w that "friend", cuz it wouldn't be the first story where smt like this has happened, along w the fact that the husband and that "friend" not getting along in the first place, its all just iffy, but we don't know the whole story and i might just be jumping to conclusions, but who knows
they have been friends since childhood and she she was the only one he had, he also could just take his kid for lunch too, and its a bit immature to be mad at your WIFE, bc shes going to support a friend with cancer so he could go out to party with his friends.
@@LEO-dn7rk honestly I'm getting the same vibe the whole "childhood friend" thing doesn't help since its just info he got from his wife which that could be a cover up to
@@freddiefazzy8572 you realize the lunch would probably be at a bar right? also from what it seems the op has limited days off the "friend" could get someone else for one day shes not there and fact is the OP also needs time to himself instead of his wife ignoring the OPs needs and her own son it feels way to much like an emotional affair
@@blazikenowen ?? An emotional affair? To stay by your best friend with CANCER?? If you think that's an emotional affair, just stay single, cause it's really f*cked up to stop someone seeing their friend with cancer because they dare care for anyone besides their partner. Don't wanna watch your kid and drink with the men instead of caring for someonewith cancer? Get a f*cking babysitter. If you don't trust your partner, why are you still with them??? Like I totally get she could be lying, but if her friend does have cancer, you do realize how f*cked up you sound, right?
Last story: As someone who would probably have this same fight with one of my siblings I have some insight on this situation🧐, He should have asked for the packet, when she kept taking it back he should have realized that no rational person would do that unless they were joking, and he overreacted when he didn't get his mayo. The ending issue is that when he got upset and blamed his girlfriend for something she didn't mean to do, she felt the need to react at the same level. Moral of the story; it's F***ing mayonnaise, and if you can't get over this then your relationship is going to sink.
Dude, for the second story I was full on expecting the wife to be the entitled one, but no she’s not. Her friend has CANCER, and your mad cause it’s interfering with YOUR plans to see your FRIENDS, and you don’t want to stay home to take care of your SON. Bring him with! Or invite your friends over! So freaking selfish to think of yourself and your plans over someone who is most likely going through extreme emotional, mental, and even physical pain.
@@skyteddy5205 here comes with dumb roles reversed analogy and pseudo equality bs. Don't y'all get tired of making hypothetical scenarios and then playing victims. Bloody clown
I see what you mean but it isn't exactly fair for the husband put his plans on hold so the wife can see her friend. I honestly think they were both wrong in that story but if the husband is always looking after his son when the wife is with Anthony then he may need a break. Parents need time for themselves too
@@shaylaaaa701 There is this wonderful thing called babysitters, and it's oft overlooked cousin, playdates. Also, why can't he bring the son to a lunch with auntie and meemaw? I bet they would have loved to see him. Chemo treatments are not everyday. They are usually once, maybe twice a week. The person getting the treatment is generally so sick and weak afterward that they really need someone to see them safely home, they might even have trouble walking on their own to the car; goes without saying they definitely can't drive. It's usually scheduled the same day(s) every week unless there is some sort of problem or change, and usually the amount/frequency is adjusted during your oncology checkup every month or so. If you were that sick and weak, would you want to take public transit or even an expensive cab ride by yourself? Guy's got enough bills without that added stress & cost.
About the second story, I'm really not sure. Unless it's a close friend I don't see why the wife would want to visit every day, but the husband could also just reschedule his things. They could sit down and discuss a time for the wife to visit her friend and a time for the husband to visit his friends so there isn't arguing and there is clarity.
Because her friend has cancer and she’s all he has, what do you mean you don’t see why she wants to visit every day? Her friend could literally die at any moment, cancer is a bitch, anyone with a heart would be there for their friend.
If I'm being honest as someone who has had cancer and chemo I honestly think the time range varies on the person because sometimes it can take days, weeks even months It definitely took forever for me when I had it I can't exactly remember how long because I was 3 when I was diagnosed and i did defeat it until a few years later I'm not sure on the exact age maybe like 5 or 6
Wow, a relationship possibly ruined over a pack of condiments.... Dodged a bullet there I think. When the breakup happens, she should send him a big jar of mayo as a parting gift. For the wedding... I'd not go to some wedding where I am expected to spend $$$$$ in travel, etc. May depend on ones level of wealth of course. Some in-laws of my sister got married in a "destination" wedding that meant 1000s in travel expenses for any guests that went. I doubt they had a lot of attendees.
On the second story: Chemo is very physically draining and she's going to help him not only by going to the apps but is probably helping with driving or chores. Her husband is a big TA
hes really not the guys a friend he probably has other people who can help the fact the wife is ignoring the husbands need for time to himself is incredibly selfish everyone needs time to themself to help themselves mentally and yet the wife is ignoring that because of her friend it smells more like they were having an affair before the friend got cancer then its just a friend because of how shes putting her friend over not only her husband but her own child also the friend could literally get a taxi and someone hired to help also do I even need to point out the friend would be irradiated which would also irradiate the wife who would go near her son later on? the wife is TA it smells way to much like an emotional affair
No, she is not JUST supporting him, she is ignoring her husband. She is not thinking of him in the least by not telling him when treatments are ahead of time. As to the son, not all restaurants are child appropriate and he would need notice to change. It's rude toward the sister and mom as well.
Third story seems like just a stupid fight lol. Depends on how long they have been dating I guess? I grab some food from my friends without asking and they do the same. We don’t care. But I wouldn’t do that on the first few dates lol
3rd story: I partially find it silly to fight over this, but on the other side it infuriates me. I share food gladly. To the point where I get offended if someone takes just one piece. But if I don't invite you to take. Then I will be PISSED. Or if I'm ordered to give. Or asked without please and thank you. If you feel like you're entitled to anything of mine you sure as hell won't get it.
I disagree, I think the wife is being _hella_ petty. My guy was just raised differently, if she can't laugh off their differences and make compromises then that's a bit of an issue in my eyes. Even if he should've communicated more clearly, she had no reason not to give him the mayonnaise afterwards, she doesn't need to scold him or teach him the manners that _she_ learned growing up.
The wife and chemo thing, can the husband not get to go out sometimes too?? Like she's with Anthony just about every day and the husband can't go out for a break from time to time cause he's always at home with their son while she is out with Anthony. I would have wanted to take a break from the house as well no need to be mad that he wants to get out for a little and not have to take the son with him all the time
1. She needed to explain that sil has very expensive taste and you just can't afford it, not that it wasn't worth the expense. 2. Actually everyone sucks (op more than wife). Yes, op is being a little selfish here, but wife needed to make sure that they were on the same page BEFORE she made promises that could affect her spouse's and child's lives (even a little bit) 3. His guy friends? Does she look male to him? Come on! This guy needs to stop being rude to his girlfriend!
That is a terrible take on no. 3 imo, at least in how it was worded. If you can't get along with your partner as you would a friend, your relationship isn't meant to last. And if you mean that you should use better manners towards your female friends, then that's just a bruh moment. If you just meant that she isn't the same as his guy friends and has different preferences then that's chill, but I still think she was being really petty by not just handing him the mayonnaise afterwards.
My husband and I have been married for 35 years, and neither of us would take something off of the other's plates without asking first. Manners show respect, and our relationship is going strong because we show respect to each other. All OP's boyfriend had to do was ask, IMO. But I do agree that they shouldn't have been arguing in the restaurant.
Doesn't the the Grandma want to see her little grandson and have lunch with him. Very strange. The wife seems like phenomenal friend. Matey here, the husband, is jealous of his wife spending her time and attention on her sick friend. In the next story about the mayo, isn't it interesting how people become so primitive around what they decided is "their" food entitlement. Not only that, but they get weird and controlling about what other people choose to eat. There must be a lot of psychology around food.
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I see a lot of people kept saying the second story husband was being selfish, but I feel like the wife is the selfish one? Because it seems like for the wife, being supportive of her cancer friend was more important than valuing the needs of her family (husband and son). Because cancer treatment is not a monthly or yearly thing, with her accompanying *every single one* of her friend's cancer treatments, would mean she spends more time with her friend than her family. To the point where the husband couldn't even have LUNCH with his sister and mother. How long can a lunch take? Maximum 2 hours? And she couldn't even spare that 2 hours for her son? Don't you think that's an excessive commitment to make just for a friend? Like I get it, this is a friend with cancer that we are talking about. But life isn't just about friends though. The whole point of having a family means they should be the bigger priority in your life than friends, yet here the wife is sacrificing her son and husband's needs for her friends. Are you sure this friend of hers isn't the real family she should be with? Since the wife considers her friend as a bigger priority than her family she might as well just get married to the friend instead of the husband.
i don't think she was completely throwing their needs aside. it doesn't say she was missing huge events of the husband and son like graduation or something. her friend is fighting for his life and like kyutie said having no one there for you while you're going through that can make it feel pointless. agreed she probably doesn't have to go to every singe one but damn bruh she's just trying to help her friend, not jeopardize her whole family relationship
It's not only the wife's job to look after the kids. You're acting as if she full on neglected her son. If she promised to be there for her friend for every session, then they must be close. Also, the husband has a history of being jealous of their friendship. Life isn't just about taking care of kids and if it was just 2 hours for lunch, the husband could easily take his son
Well on the other hand, the wife can also take the child with her to the appt. Well she's putting everything on hold for this persons, and it wasn't his friends, it's family. And it seems that the wife just drops everything for this one friend, not fair to their relationship. And you don't know where they are going to lunch or what they planned.
5:18 I'd understand the husband being upset if he had a funeral to attend or something serious like that, or if he had to miss work because of it and his job was being threatened, however, he only wants to hang out with friends and family which he can do ANY OTHER DAY. His wife, being a good friend, was comforting and supporting her friend in his time of need. My advice to the wife is leave the bastard, if he can't accept that he isn't the most important person in the world who's needs and wants all have to be met, then leave him.
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Y’all are tripping, (the husband and wife’s friend story)- the husband is not in the wrong here, sure she’s supporting her friend but this dude isn’t the only parent of the child he should be allowed to hang out with friends, and also hang out with family
This reminds me of a story from before I was born, when my mom and dad were younger in their relationship and had less money my dad ate my moms fries. He said he never stole her fires again after that
I think it depends on how frequent the chemo appointments are and how many of them. If they're taking up all the husbands free time I'm pretty sure anyone would start to get annoyed. Yeah support to your friends is important but your family should come first.
Story 1: I would say no as well like OP who is not in the wrong. "No, unless the bride and groom are paying for me to come because I've already been made to pay for a bunch of other aspects of your wedding. Even though I wasn't even a bridesmaid." I'd hand them a receipt for how much they made me spend already. Also, I love how family members are complaining about her not going when they are complaining about the expense of going themselves. And they didn't have to buy all this extra stuff for themselves already. I would have someone live stream it for me. Story 2: I 've heard this story before. Basically, the husband is the complete jerk. All he had to do was bring the son with him, it's not like he was going to party and get drunk with friends. He was literally going to meet up with his mom and sister, aka his son's grandma and aunt. They probably would have been happy to see his son since he's literally family. Instead, he wanted to be a selfish a-hole and push the son off on the wife. If he ever gets Cancer one day he'll definitely realize how much the support is needed. And I would hope that he would personally walk to apologize to her friend. She has 1 day with the guy every once in a while when he has appointments. A lunch can literally be moved to any other day of that week or month. I would assume he already knows when the appointments are so he has plenty of notice in advance where he could have shuffled the meal to a different day. Or his friends can hang out with him at the house so they can all watch his son, he just as you put perfectly is treating it like he's a babysitter. Story 3: Wow at the mayonnaise, he was a child throwing a tantrum, OP was right he could have just asked. And I get what you are saying, being able to offer food is nicer. If someone just grabs it it makes you feel like they are just using you for your food or like they are stealing it from you. The polite and mature thing to do would have been to ask. Or he could have used his big boy shoes and walked back and asked for another one if he was that butthurt about it.
I mean for the whole cemo story I feel like they could’ve taken turns example - if kids goes with mom to friends cemo appointment last week , dad takes kid next week.kid could go along with either parents
The last story feels really weird. What else does he apply the “I should be able to take anything because you are my girlfriend” belief thing from. I’ve lived with a person who thought this way and they had no respect for me or my boundaries.
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So the real question here, is why did the second story wife, act like babysitters aren’t a thing. Unless she’s having an emotional affair with her best friend, like it’s obvious that they tried to date in the past, things didn’t work out but they kept having feelings. Like it sounds like “Anthony” doesn’t have a SO because that SO wouldn’t have had his best friend go every single time. Sounds like since he has cancer, they have a emotional affair. The only reason why people don’t see it, is because cancer was mentioned. Take away the cancer and voila Emotional affair red flags. Like it’s normal to take breaks from the child(ren), so why isn’t there balance between the two parents. Sure the husband sounded like a jerk but that’s because his wife was the original jerk. (There’s an obvious fishy smell, from the wife promising her best friend to go with him to the hospital. Like my maternal unit, had a guy best friend since high school. However due to safety reasons had to break their friendship, due to their spouse being jealous. So why isn’t the wife choosing to stay at home, with her family and maybe going every other appointments.)
Mayonnaise stealer needs a reality check. "I should be able to take anything off your tray because I would let you do so." I think not. If you would, then you wouldn't be coveting her extra mayonnaise pack. Pretend for a moment that you got 3 and she got 2, and she tried to take your "extra" packet off your tray. Yeah, I thought so.
The story about Anthony confuses me. Why doesn’t the husband go with the wife to support a friend in need? Her friends are supposed to be his friends too right? Because if she won’t allow him to go that’s a different issue. And also, why can’t you take your son with you to see your family? Or have your friends come over so you can keep an eye on your son? I feel like there’s easy solutions and the wife just ignoring Anthony and not going to the appointments anymore isn’t the answer. I’d need more context though to really understand why his wife seeing Anthony is such a big deal
Okay i get the perspective of the wife of the second story, but think about this. You made plans with your family and friends to go do something fun, and that day is the only day they're available. Then suddenly your wife/husband comes around the corner expecting you to stay home just because she/he's going to leave AGAIN just to go to the hospital with a friend. I wouldn't be too happy either, especially not if it's only that day that i can hang out with people i love and care for. If they had other free days, then yes. Rescheduling is okay. But you never know if people have that other option or not. And for those saying "oh he could've taken his son with him" you don't know if he had that option or not. If the kid is autistic, then no. Taking him with you into a crowded place is NOT a good idea, because the kid may have a panic attack from all the noise and then you're just way further from home than before. Because if they do panic, you're going to need to find an empty, calming space like the forest, and if that wasn't in the plans, then your day will still be ruined. Feel free to hate on me or whatever. I just see both sides in this, but i do agree it could've been handled better {on both sides for that matter.}
Nah, you're literally correct. I really hate when people couldn't give a little critical thought about op, wife and anthony situation. Although I'll go with ESH but I think people give OP some a lot of hard time. I won't repeat it here since a lot of commenters has better argument than mine
I'm pretty sure if the son in question had some type of developmental or emotional regulation issue, the husband (because he doesn't sound like much of a dad here) would definitely have said so to highlight how even more put upon he was to have babysit his own son a couple of fixed days a week. So, let's not go inventing things now. Also, speaking of babysitting, why didn't he line up a babysitter once he realized there was this conflict with their schedules? That's a perfectly acceptable solution that would allow both of them uphold their obligations while making sure their son is cared for for the few hours they were away.
@@raineblackstar3522 Of course, but, again, if there were actual problems with the child, poor whoa is me hubby would have mentioned them, whether there was an actual diagnosis or not. Hubby just does not want to dad.
In the second story, I think they're both being a little selfish here and not even trying to understand the other's point of view. Chemotherapy doesn't take all day and neither does lunch. Surely they can work out a schedule where they can both do what they want!
Is there some mayonnaise packet rule at Ikea that people can't go ask for another one? Like, am I missing something? And legit, I ask my husband if I can have a bite (French Fries typically) of his food if I am in the mood. He will do the same. We are super respectful and don't gobble it all up . Literally, if I ask for a fry I take one. One. But it is polite to ask. And since when is there a rule at Ikea about not asking for one mayonnaise packet more? It isn't like he's going to be taking the whole bin from the cashier. Weird. But no she isn't wrong.
2nd one, their both in the wrong (the dad is more in the wrong tho). The dads in the wrong for acting as if taking care of his kid is a chore but the mum should consider getting a babysitter every now and again, I guess the dad could do that too but this is my opinion.
i feel like if the roles were reversed in the second story it would hit different. If the husband put his family second to be there for every chemo therapy of his female friend? I dont know. She can be supportive and be there for him for some of the treatments but she should be able to make exceptions once in a while
I sympathize with Anthony but maybe it's not the fact he can't go see his friends just think if she is always at chemo with Anthony how much time is she spending with her child and if she with him all the time where is her time for her son
The story with Anthony: I see three sides to this. On one hand, I see a wife who is really supportive of her friend while he is in cancer and wants to support him. One the other hand, we have a husband who is understanding but wants to be able to spend time with his mother and sister instead of watching his son because his wife wants to visit someone he barely knows and doesn’t really get along with. The third side is this: A man’s wife wants to see a friend and support him, even at the cost of spending time with her own son and letting her husband enjoy family time. I’m not sure who’s wrong, but the man could be a bit more supportive and the woman can back off a bit. He is a very close friend, but he isn’t her husband and she could visit him later while the husband could accept the fact the cancer isn’t an easy thing to deal with and support is needed. I don’t mean to offend anyone who has/had cancer or anyone who knows/knew someone who did, but this is just my viewing.
I know that she said she’s all he has, but chemo sessions are once a week and even though it is painful (I’m saying this based on how chemo is killing blood, idk if they sedate the person or something), there is also the fact that she has a son and he has family. The person may be very close to her, but again, he has family and he has priorities just like her. So my solution is this: Either they come to an agreement, both of them take care of the kid, or they find someone to take care of the kid. I know this may sound cruel, but you have to really look at both sides of the story. What if the man hasn’t seen his mother and sister in quite a while because of the son and because of his wife going to the chemo sessions? What if Anthony really needs the support? I get that the child is a priority, and I get it if they don’t have anyone to watch over the kid, but is it really the worst thing to drop your son off at a relative’s house for a few hours and come pick him up? I feel like maybe all THREE of them are at fault. He said that Anthony sort of acted annoyed towards him. He has freaking cancer and she wants to be there for her friend. He wants to meet up with his mom and sister for lunch and who knows how long he’s been waiting for this?
The first story, no way would I be going! The husband is jealous of the guy with cancer. And too selfish to look after his kid. OMG's the couple with the mayonnaise, why couldn't he have just asked the cashier for another pack? He was wrong to think he can just take it from his GF without asking.
The chemo part I feel like your take is way too biased, helping a friend out is fine but there's boundaries and the wife seems to just be spending more time with her friend than with her son as well. This screams cheating and you had previous situations where you said it yourself that either the wife or husban were spending way too much time with a "friend" and neglecting her/his actual family.
let's be 100% honest if the husband was dealing with his female friend who was going to cancer and was by her side at the hospital all this time like his wife is with this guy that would be a big problem with it okay don't say there won't because yes there would be because it is a problem Anthony needed to find his own girlfriend and stop taking up the time of his wife and yes he is not babysitting his own kid he is the father it is called parenting but when your wife has been in so much time with another dude there's a problem ain't nothing controlling about it it's called having respect show and respect and doing what you're supposed to do yeah she could be there once or twice but there are so many times that it's inconvenience in the husband you're a liar if you tell me that if the rules weren't reversed that the woman would be freaking very upset that her husband was spending all that time with a woman I don't care explain away but it doesn't mean nothing because you know exactly what I'm saying is correct 100%
6:30 okay, I kind of disagree with Kyuite. She's read a similar one awhile back where the husband's friend lost his wife and was there for him and whatnot-- I think he was allowed to get angry that because he made plans to visit his mom and sister, but when he said he had to care for his son, that was low. It's an everyone sucks situation, not just the man.
Regarding Anthony, it's very likely that Anthony and the guy's wife have MORE than just a "comforting" relationship going on here. If I were the husband, I'd suggest that the husband AND son come along to one of Anthony's "chemo" treatments, so the husband can see what is going on, and also "comfort" Anthony. Hubby will also get a chance to see exactly what is going on, and if it really is a medical treatment visit his wife is going for with Anthony, or if it's something else. I think you're hating on the husband too much; I spent 8 years on dialysis, which as at least as intensive as chemo, and I went by MYSELF to those 5-hour appointments. Anthony could do so as well; I think there's more to this, and your perspective is very naive. If Anthony can't get along ALONE at a chemo treatment, there may be something wrong with Anthony! You say he should PARENT - so why does the mom continuously go with Anthony. You're having a pity party when you don't know the real story here. Third story - if that couple is THAT IMMATURE about a stupid mayonnaise pack, there's troubled water ahead. Are these people really this childish about this to make it worth fighting over? Jeez.
Damn, that's a better argument. Everyone literally are taking the pity party and didn't give a little thought to the husband. I'm sure the husband feels abandon and despite he voice he couldn't have some time with his friend, he still let her go until the people he wanted to spend time with was his family. Everyone are hard on OP to be a parent yet wife couldn't wait at least 2 hours to be a parent for her child?
In the first story I see the bother and sister in laws side of the story. I have been bought up in a culture where your brother's or sisters big days were supposed to be your big days too. Even extended family was an important component of a wedding. I get that she couldn't afford it but she shouldn't have said it wasn't worth it, she could've talked about how expensive it was for her and that it was getting hard for her fulfilling everything but saying your brother's wedding is not worth the trouble somehow tells me about their relationship. The sil and brother were also in the wrong with regards to gifts and asking op for gifts and not even inviting her to the wedding party. How do you not invite your only sister to the wedding party. It's so weird.
If he really wanted to go to the lunch he could have paid for a babysitter so yes he is wrong the wife is doing something wonderful for a friend and need and he is throwing a blind eye
So is the brother gonna support OP or has he supported OP to that extent. Don’t give me “well they’re family” crap. I’m sick of that excuse. Some just want it all but refuse to help or do anything in return. Take and no give, no nothing.
In the frnd story...the husband could have just invited his frnds home instead of going out ......or taken his son out for lunch or play dates....why complain about the sick....
On the Anthony's story I really think the wife is wrong!... Fine her friend is going through a rough time but now it's affecting her HUSBAND'S life as well I mean I don't think it was a problem just to miss 1 chemotherapy appointment NO WAY! and maybe the "lunch" he had with his mother and sister was in a NO KIDS place
Umm yeah the second one both r at fault, especially at communication but come one like dad u can't take ur kid to a lunch with ur sister n mom really 🙄. Ur mom would love to see ur kid bro 🙄. U shouldn't see ur kid as a burden 🙄.
I don't get it why can't you bring "YOUR" son to a lunch date with "YOUR" mom and sister who correct me if i am wrong are supposed to be "YOUR" son's *"GRANDMOTHER"* and *"AUNT"*
She's really good at supporting her friend but how is she supporting her husband? I understand the friend has cancer and needs someone but does he have no other family or friends? The wife seems to only care for what she wants but what about her husband? So far all I hear is I'm going to do this too bad for you deal with it.
chemo sessions are typically once a week or once every 2 weeks im not 100% sure, but im sure the husband can handle 1 day to take care of his son, yk, like a parent should? he has literally every other day of the week to hang out with his mates and family but just once a week needs to look after his kid while his wife is looking out for her friend, which is literally struggling with cancer. and evem then, he could improvise and either bring his kid with him to hang with his family, or invite his friends over to his house. shes not stopping him from seeing his friends and family all together, just that he needs to watch his kid for a day. the husband is being selfish by not letting the wife support her childhood friend through cancer because the friend has no one else in his life to support him. thats my opinion though
Maybe i'm wrong but I don't think chemo is every day. If he wanted to, he could've rescheduled some of his plans or brought his son to kid friendly places. I understand what you're trying to say, but I think husband could've improvised.
@@a1shahh true but he made plans let her know and she was like fu too bad. He could reschedule but it sounded last minute to me. He does need to step up a little but she is inflexible on this. Of course the problem is it's not the full story just what he said and not all facts are included. Like how many hours he works what kind of work he does her as well what day it days does he get off and so on. However as a couple it's give and take but she isn't giving or compromising according to him.
@@Theawesomeninja_XD true but it's only half the story as told by him there are details and facts missing but going by just the story, she is not compromising at all and not accepting his plans because they interfere with hers. But like I said only part of the story.
@@christianwiberg447 "she is not compromising at all". how could she? its her FRIEND that may or may not die of cancer. also its max twice a week. why are you expecting her to miss a chemo session (which is probably painful) so her husband can go out and have fun with friends or mum?
Listen. If it was mustard i might start a fight. *This is a joke.* But like mayonnaise? Thats his fault for liking mayonnaise so much to argue over it.
He said both. At the beginning of the story he mentioned that he wasn't able to hand out with his friends, later he said his mom and sister. Doesn't change that he's selfish though.
Really? Hahaha, i didn't notice...why can't he take his son with him so it could be easier. Or the wife too, like she's giving the husband so much when its also her son, her responsibility. I feel bad for the son and Anthony.☹
@@parillonchandre1302 I'm not sure. Seems like he wanted to throw himself a pity party for not getting to do what he wants instead of coming of with a compromise.
@@parillonchandre1302 wy would u take your kids to chemo? that's so sad. if I was her son id rather be at home. "like she's giving the husband so much when its also her son, her responsibility" bruh u r acting like shes abandoning her son to go party. that is such a disrespectful thing to say. she is going to support her FRIEND once or twice a week to support him through cancer geez.
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First story: I see brother and sister's side in this, I do understand that you can have the requirements you want at your wedding, but SIL was being petty. It was pretty clear she was using her to get her stuff and she didn't even invite her to her party. And if it was really too expensive for sister to afford, brother should have at least been considerate and tried to actually help her go instead of just saying she's selfish because she thinks she can't.
Second story: Yeah, I thought wife would have ended up in the wrong but no. Husband can reschedule his plans with friends and spend time with his son. His wife made a promise to stay with her friend during chemo and now he's trying to tell her not to. I will admit that calling him controlling nay have been much, but he obviously wasn't thinking of how he could've done what he wanted while helping his wife keep her promise.
Third story: I mean, I would've given it to him, but yeah, he should have said what he wanted more clearly. Maybe his friends would have understood him, but not everyone would, so he should have owned up when he realized that she didn't understand him.
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Why should he be forced to be inconvenienced? And his family as well? Rubbish. She obviously cares more about her friend than her husband. She should take the child with her or hire a baby sitter. If he starts ignoring her and not giving her the time of day I bet it's gonna be a different story.
@@shershan254 ummm,maybe because it's his son too and it should not be a problem to take care of his own son ,it's not only one parent job to look after kids 😒.him not being able to hangout with his friends and,wife supporting her friend in rough time which is more selfish ?
And she is only going for certain days even then husband can't take care of kid
, you are making it sound like it's only her duty to look after kid but taking care after kids is a duty of both parents.
If roles were switched and wife just wanted to hangout with her friends, have lunch and was annoyed to look after kid for some time because husband was supporting his friend through rough time then,she would be instantly a 'not so great wife' 🤷which would be right then,why husband makes you think different.
"Father taking care of kids is normal "
(Taking care of your own child is not an forced inconvenience,but one parent being annoyed at it and only ordering other to do it as 'his or her duty ' is)
@@Cinnamo_4700 Yes, taking care of kids are both parent's responsibility, but the problem here is, the wife gave too much commitment to her friend. To the point where the father can't even have lunch with his sister and mother. How long can a lunch gets? Let's say maximum 2 hours, and the wife can't even take care of the son for two hours? Imagine this: Both husband and wife has a job that takes equal time to work. Then they share an equal amount of time to take care of the son. The remaining time would be their spare time where they could hang out with their own friends and family. Now, because wife have to take care of cancer friend so she uses all her spare time on him. Okay, that's fine, it's her spare time. But she then also takes the time where she should be taking care of the son and use it on her friend instead. So to make up the time to take care of son, the husband have to turn his spare time into taking care his son. Now in short term, this would be an okay arrangement. But cancer treatment is not a short term thing. It could take up to years and the cancer would still be around. If this schedule keep going up, what would happen? The son hardly sees his mother, the husband would also be unable to spend time with his friends, family, and even some alone time for himself. Don't you think it's unfair for the husband?
@@Cinnamo_4700 Her obligation is to her husband. Imagine putting a friend over your vows. Absolute bullshit! Her husband's feelings are not considered at all but it's the typical modern female why would I expect different. She's wrong and full of it, much like yourself but hey these excuses are expected.
@@shershan254 I do get what you're saying, but it his his child too. Chemo isn't everyday, so there should be one night where the wife doesn't have to stay with her friend that he can go out with his. And why can't he take his child with him if the place is kid friendly?
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I agree with you on the husband who is upset his wife is looking after Anthony. It seems like he doesn’t even want to take care of his son.
The fight over the mayonnaise packet show a deeper control issue with the boyfriend. Lose him...NOW!
The girl should have told her brother to come pay for his fiancée. Who walks out of a store without paying? What's with the relatives supporting the abusers?
Is the husband jealous? Is he feeling abandoned by his wife? Did they discuss this or did the wife unilaterally decide this? I have so many questions.
the boyfriend is freaking immature. Who gets upset over a mayo pack? He could have asked for another one from the cashier. I can't. I would rather offer my food.
The story with the husband asking wrt his wife helping out her friend with chemo. Umm, yeah. Thing is, we don't know much of the story, honestly. I think it's great that the wife wants to support her friend. At the same time, I wouldn't say that the husband doesn't want to watch his son or anything - more that he can't do much of anything because his wife has made this commitment to her friend and it looks like the appointments aren't standing appointments - like each successive appointment is scheduled one at a time. So one week, appointment is at 2pm on Wednesday. When that appointment is over, they schedule the next one for 4 pm on Monday, then 1 pm on Friday, and so on. He probably loves spending time with his child, but wants some time for himself as well, and is unable to schedule it. Also, he may be feeling abandoned by his wife, who seems to be putting the needs of her apparently single and definitely male friend above the needs of her husband. This is how emotional affairs begin, and emotional affairs can become physical affairs. Of course, if he were to ask her, she'd probably get defensive and say that he's being jealous.
Amen 🙏 you spoke facts.
That's what I was thinking too.
Exactly what I was thinking.
@@ceciliajacobs5346 woman: My childhood friend could possibly die!
You: sounds like emotional cheating to me. 🤡
Yes. I already respect him for agreeing to go with the promise she made to her friend without informing him, eventhough it would affect their life as a couple. And it doesn't seem like the dates are prefixed, unlike his dinner with his family. It seems to me that she just springs it onto him the day/moment she's leaving and is guilt tripping him into ignoring his life, events and people he cares about because "my friend is dying, this is more important and if you don't ignore the fact that I'm neglecting the effect this has on our life then you're cruel" it seems to me that she's the one who's kinda excusing herself out of staying with her son. I agree with the emotional affair bit, some wild romances begin between childhood friends let alone trauma bonding, she's getting carried away and her husband is allowed to ask for a limit since she's not establishing one herself.
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LMAO who fights over mayonnaise but like also the whole thing could've been avoided if he just walked up to the lady and asked for an extra pack
Literally
2nd story: many factors haven't been explained..par example, for how long has the chemo been going on already? How was the relationship with that "friend" before his treatment? How is the relation between the Husband and that "friend"- Maybe I'm wrong but I feel that both partners are not acting right; It seems they are both a bit inmature and lacking in communication and honouring each others needs.
ngl when i first heard this story, i defs started thinking that the wife is just useing the chemo therapy as an excuse and is possibly cheating on the husband w that "friend", cuz it wouldn't be the first story where smt like this has happened, along w the fact that the husband and that "friend" not getting along in the first place, its all just iffy, but we don't know the whole story and i might just be jumping to conclusions, but who knows
they have been friends since childhood and she she was the only one he had, he also could just take his kid for lunch too, and its a bit immature to be mad at your WIFE, bc shes going to support a friend with cancer so he could go out to party with his friends.
@@LEO-dn7rk honestly I'm getting the same vibe the whole "childhood friend" thing doesn't help since its just info he got from his wife which that could be a cover up to
@@freddiefazzy8572 you realize the lunch would probably be at a bar right? also from what it seems the op has limited days off the "friend" could get someone else for one day shes not there and fact is the OP also needs time to himself instead of his wife ignoring the OPs needs and her own son it feels way to much like an emotional affair
@@blazikenowen ?? An emotional affair? To stay by your best friend with CANCER?? If you think that's an emotional affair, just stay single, cause it's really f*cked up to stop someone seeing their friend with cancer because they dare care for anyone besides their partner.
Don't wanna watch your kid and drink with the men instead of caring for someonewith cancer? Get a f*cking babysitter. If you don't trust your partner, why are you still with them??? Like I totally get she could be lying, but if her friend does have cancer, you do realize how f*cked up you sound, right?
Last story: As someone who would probably have this same fight with one of my siblings I have some insight on this situation🧐, He should have asked for the packet, when she kept taking it back he should have realized that no rational person would do that unless they were joking, and he overreacted when he didn't get his mayo. The ending issue is that when he got upset and blamed his girlfriend for something she didn't mean to do, she felt the need to react at the same level.
Moral of the story; it's F***ing mayonnaise, and if you can't get over this then your relationship is going to sink.
Dude, for the second story I was full on expecting the wife to be the entitled one, but no she’s not. Her friend has CANCER, and your mad cause it’s interfering with YOUR plans to see your FRIENDS, and you don’t want to stay home to take care of your SON. Bring him with! Or invite your friends over! So freaking selfish to think of yourself and your plans over someone who is most likely going through extreme emotional, mental, and even physical pain.
Ohhh how fun it would be if the roles were reversed 🙂🙂🙂
@@skyteddy5205 here comes with dumb roles reversed analogy and pseudo equality bs. Don't y'all get tired of making hypothetical scenarios and then playing victims. Bloody clown
Innit. What's wrong with the guy
I see what you mean but it isn't exactly fair for the husband put his plans on hold so the wife can see her friend. I honestly think they were both wrong in that story but if the husband is always looking after his son when the wife is with Anthony then he may need a break. Parents need time for themselves too
@@shaylaaaa701 There is this wonderful thing called babysitters, and it's oft overlooked cousin, playdates. Also, why can't he bring the son to a lunch with auntie and meemaw? I bet they would have loved to see him.
Chemo treatments are not everyday. They are usually once, maybe twice a week. The person getting the treatment is generally so sick and weak afterward that they really need someone to see them safely home, they might even have trouble walking on their own to the car; goes without saying they definitely can't drive. It's usually scheduled the same day(s) every week unless there is some sort of problem or change, and usually the amount/frequency is adjusted during your oncology checkup every month or so.
If you were that sick and weak, would you want to take public transit or even an expensive cab ride by yourself? Guy's got enough bills without that added stress & cost.
About the second story, I'm really not sure. Unless it's a close friend I don't see why the wife would want to visit every day, but the husband could also just reschedule his things. They could sit down and discuss a time for the wife to visit her friend and a time for the husband to visit his friends so there isn't arguing and there is clarity.
Because her friend has cancer and she’s all he has, what do you mean you don’t see why she wants to visit every day? Her friend could literally die at any moment, cancer is a bitch, anyone with a heart would be there for their friend.
It states that it was a childhood friend
also chemo sessions don't happen everyday, you bafoon
@@mohsinAli-hq1nd
I never said they did, might want to get your eyes checked out.
If I'm being honest as someone who has had cancer and chemo I honestly think the time range varies on the person because sometimes it can take days, weeks even months It definitely took forever for me when I had it I can't exactly remember how long because I was 3 when I was diagnosed and i did defeat it until a few years later I'm not sure on the exact age maybe like 5 or 6
oh yo, the first one was so freaking frustrating and disrespectful.
If he really wanted mayonnaise, why didn’t he just go up and ask for another pack…?
Wow, a relationship possibly ruined over a pack of condiments.... Dodged a bullet there I think. When the breakup happens, she should send him a big jar of mayo as a parting gift.
For the wedding... I'd not go to some wedding where I am expected to spend $$$$$ in travel, etc. May depend on ones level of wealth of course. Some in-laws of my sister got married in a "destination" wedding that meant 1000s in travel expenses for any guests that went. I doubt they had a lot of attendees.
On the second story: Chemo is very physically draining and she's going to help him not only by going to the apps but is probably helping with driving or chores. Her husband is a big TA
hes really not the guys a friend he probably has other people who can help the fact the wife is ignoring the husbands need for time to himself is incredibly selfish everyone needs time to themself to help themselves mentally and yet the wife is ignoring that because of her friend it smells more like they were having an affair before the friend got cancer then its just a friend because of how shes putting her friend over not only her husband but her own child also the friend could literally get a taxi and someone hired to help also do I even need to point out the friend would be irradiated which would also irradiate the wife who would go near her son later on? the wife is TA it smells way to much like an emotional affair
If she is his only friend...doesn't that make someone suspicious?
Yes because sometimes people get WAY to reliant that they don’t even try to make new friends….
No, she is not JUST supporting him, she is ignoring her husband. She is not thinking of him in the least by not telling him when treatments are ahead of time. As to the son, not all restaurants are child appropriate and he would need notice to change. It's rude toward the sister and mom as well.
Third story seems like just a stupid fight lol. Depends on how long they have been dating I guess? I grab some food from my friends without asking and they do the same. We don’t care. But I wouldn’t do that on the first few dates lol
Yea, I agree with that
3rd story: I partially find it silly to fight over this, but on the other side it infuriates me. I share food gladly. To the point where I get offended if someone takes just one piece. But if I don't invite you to take. Then I will be PISSED. Or if I'm ordered to give. Or asked without please and thank you. If you feel like you're entitled to anything of mine you sure as hell won't get it.
I disagree, I think the wife is being _hella_ petty. My guy was just raised differently, if she can't laugh off their differences and make compromises then that's a bit of an issue in my eyes. Even if he should've communicated more clearly, she had no reason not to give him the mayonnaise afterwards, she doesn't need to scold him or teach him the manners that _she_ learned growing up.
The wife and chemo thing, can the husband not get to go out sometimes too?? Like she's with Anthony just about every day and the husband can't go out for a break from time to time cause he's always at home with their son while she is out with Anthony. I would have wanted to take a break from the house as well no need to be mad that he wants to get out for a little and not have to take the son with him all the time
1. She needed to explain that sil has very expensive taste and you just can't afford it, not that it wasn't worth the expense.
2. Actually everyone sucks (op more than wife). Yes, op is being a little selfish here, but wife needed to make sure that they were on the same page BEFORE she made promises that could affect her spouse's and child's lives (even a little bit)
3. His guy friends? Does she look male to him? Come on! This guy needs to stop being rude to his girlfriend!
Very good takes, especially on number 2. 👍
That is a terrible take on no. 3 imo, at least in how it was worded. If you can't get along with your partner as you would a friend, your relationship isn't meant to last.
And if you mean that you should use better manners towards your female friends, then that's just a bruh moment.
If you just meant that she isn't the same as his guy friends and has different preferences then that's chill, but I still think she was being really petty by not just handing him the mayonnaise afterwards.
My husband and I have been married for 35 years, and neither of us would take something off of the other's plates without asking first. Manners show respect, and our relationship is going strong because we show respect to each other. All OP's boyfriend had to do was ask, IMO. But I do agree that they shouldn't have been arguing in the restaurant.
Doesn't the the Grandma want to see her little grandson and have lunch with him.
Very strange.
The wife seems like phenomenal friend.
Matey here, the husband, is jealous of his wife spending her time and attention on her sick friend.
In the next story about the mayo, isn't it interesting how people become so primitive around what they decided is "their" food entitlement.
Not only that, but they get weird and controlling about what other people choose to eat.
There must be a lot of psychology around food.
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That last one...he sure didn't give the impression she could take his mayonnaise....
It wasn't his, she got the extra pack and he was jealous and started a fight about it
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I see a lot of people kept saying the second story husband was being selfish, but I feel like the wife is the selfish one? Because it seems like for the wife, being supportive of her cancer friend was more important than valuing the needs of her family (husband and son). Because cancer treatment is not a monthly or yearly thing, with her accompanying *every single one* of her friend's cancer treatments, would mean she spends more time with her friend than her family. To the point where the husband couldn't even have LUNCH with his sister and mother. How long can a lunch take? Maximum 2 hours? And she couldn't even spare that 2 hours for her son?
Don't you think that's an excessive commitment to make just for a friend? Like I get it, this is a friend with cancer that we are talking about. But life isn't just about friends though. The whole point of having a family means they should be the bigger priority in your life than friends, yet here the wife is sacrificing her son and husband's needs for her friends. Are you sure this friend of hers isn't the real family she should be with? Since the wife considers her friend as a bigger priority than her family she might as well just get married to the friend instead of the husband.
I completely agree man I’m on his side too
i don't think she was completely throwing their needs aside. it doesn't say she was missing huge events of the husband and son like graduation or something. her friend is fighting for his life and like kyutie said having no one there for you while you're going through that can make it feel pointless. agreed she probably doesn't have to go to every singe one but damn bruh she's just trying to help her friend, not jeopardize her whole family relationship
You clearly have no friends
It's not only the wife's job to look after the kids. You're acting as if she full on neglected her son. If she promised to be there for her friend for every session, then they must be close. Also, the husband has a history of being jealous of their friendship. Life isn't just about taking care of kids and if it was just 2 hours for lunch, the husband could easily take his son
That is a good point
Well on the other hand, the wife can also take the child with her to the appt. Well she's putting everything on hold for this persons, and it wasn't his friends, it's family. And it seems that the wife just drops everything for this one friend, not fair to their relationship. And you don't know where they are going to lunch or what they planned.
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5:18
I'd understand the husband being upset if he had a funeral to attend or something serious like that, or if he had to miss work because of it and his job was being threatened, however, he only wants to hang out with friends and family which he can do ANY OTHER DAY. His wife, being a good friend, was comforting and supporting her friend in his time of need.
My advice to the wife is leave the bastard, if he can't accept that he isn't the most important person in the world who's needs and wants all have to be met, then leave him.
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Last one he could easily have asked the counter for another mayo packet
Y’all are tripping, (the husband and wife’s friend story)- the husband is not in the wrong here, sure she’s supporting her friend but this dude isn’t the only parent of the child he should be allowed to hang out with friends, and also hang out with family
8:38 ahhh it dawned on me, he's cheating and that's why he can't take his son, that's why he's so mad and why this story isn't a jealousy thing.
Wow the first story like they're so entitled
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No. She is with her friend every day. Which means he is effectively a single father, because her friend is more important to her than her own family.
Seems like there are some red flags with that fiance her brother has.....
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This reminds me of a story from before I was born, when my mom and dad were younger in their relationship and had less money my dad ate my moms fries. He said he never stole her fires again after that
SO SELFISH!!!
I think it depends on how frequent the chemo appointments are and how many of them. If they're taking up all the husbands free time I'm pretty sure anyone would start to get annoyed. Yeah support to your friends is important but your family should come first.
In the second story the brother and SIL were 100% gaslighting her and being selfish pricks😭
Story 1: I would say no as well like OP who is not in the wrong. "No, unless the bride and groom are paying for me to come because I've already been made to pay for a bunch of other aspects of your wedding. Even though I wasn't even a bridesmaid." I'd hand them a receipt for how much they made me spend already. Also, I love how family members are complaining about her not going when they are complaining about the expense of going themselves. And they didn't have to buy all this extra stuff for themselves already. I would have someone live stream it for me.
Story 2: I 've heard this story before. Basically, the husband is the complete jerk. All he had to do was bring the son with him, it's not like he was going to party and get drunk with friends. He was literally going to meet up with his mom and sister, aka his son's grandma and aunt. They probably would have been happy to see his son since he's literally family. Instead, he wanted to be a selfish a-hole and push the son off on the wife. If he ever gets Cancer one day he'll definitely realize how much the support is needed. And I would hope that he would personally walk to apologize to her friend. She has 1 day with the guy every once in a while when he has appointments. A lunch can literally be moved to any other day of that week or month. I would assume he already knows when the appointments are so he has plenty of notice in advance where he could have shuffled the meal to a different day. Or his friends can hang out with him at the house so they can all watch his son, he just as you put perfectly is treating it like he's a babysitter.
Story 3: Wow at the mayonnaise, he was a child throwing a tantrum, OP was right he could have just asked. And I get what you are saying, being able to offer food is nicer. If someone just grabs it it makes you feel like they are just using you for your food or like they are stealing it from you. The polite and mature thing to do would have been to ask. Or he could have used his big boy shoes and walked back and asked for another one if he was that butthurt about it.
I mean for the whole cemo story I feel like they could’ve taken turns example - if kids goes with mom to friends cemo appointment last week , dad takes kid next week.kid could go along with either parents
I can't take the mayonnaise story seriously lmao😭😭
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The last story feels really weird. What else does he apply the “I should be able to take anything because you are my girlfriend” belief thing from. I’ve lived with a person who thought this way and they had no respect for me or my boundaries.
Husband feels abandoned by his wife and feels she is neglecting him.
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They were gaslighting her! In the first story!
So the real question here, is why did the second story wife, act like babysitters aren’t a thing. Unless she’s having an emotional affair with her best friend, like it’s obvious that they tried to date in the past, things didn’t work out but they kept having feelings.
Like it sounds like “Anthony” doesn’t have a SO because that SO wouldn’t have had his best friend go every single time. Sounds like since he has cancer, they have a emotional affair.
The only reason why people don’t see it, is because cancer was mentioned. Take away the cancer and voila Emotional affair red flags.
Like it’s normal to take breaks from the child(ren), so why isn’t there balance between the two parents. Sure the husband sounded like a jerk but that’s because his wife was the original jerk.
(There’s an obvious fishy smell, from the wife promising her best friend to go with him to the hospital. Like my maternal unit, had a guy best friend since high school. However due to safety reasons had to break their friendship, due to their spouse being jealous. So why isn’t the wife choosing to stay at home, with her family and maybe going every other appointments.)
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Mayonnaise stealer needs a reality check. "I should be able to take anything off your tray because I would let you do so." I think not. If you would, then you wouldn't be coveting her extra mayonnaise pack. Pretend for a moment that you got 3 and she got 2, and she tried to take your "extra" packet off your tray. Yeah, I thought so.
The story about Anthony confuses me. Why doesn’t the husband go with the wife to support a friend in need? Her friends are supposed to be his friends too right? Because if she won’t allow him to go that’s a different issue. And also, why can’t you take your son with you to see your family? Or have your friends come over so you can keep an eye on your son? I feel like there’s easy solutions and the wife just ignoring Anthony and not going to the appointments anymore isn’t the answer. I’d need more context though to really understand why his wife seeing Anthony is such a big deal
Okay i get the perspective of the wife of the second story, but think about this. You made plans with your family and friends to go do something fun, and that day is the only day they're available. Then suddenly your wife/husband comes around the corner expecting you to stay home just because she/he's going to leave AGAIN just to go to the hospital with a friend. I wouldn't be too happy either, especially not if it's only that day that i can hang out with people i love and care for. If they had other free days, then yes. Rescheduling is okay. But you never know if people have that other option or not.
And for those saying "oh he could've taken his son with him" you don't know if he had that option or not. If the kid is autistic, then no. Taking him with you into a crowded place is NOT a good idea, because the kid may have a panic attack from all the noise and then you're just way further from home than before. Because if they do panic, you're going to need to find an empty, calming space like the forest, and if that wasn't in the plans, then your day will still be ruined.
Feel free to hate on me or whatever. I just see both sides in this, but i do agree it could've been handled better {on both sides for that matter.}
Nah, you're literally correct. I really hate when people couldn't give a little critical thought about op, wife and anthony situation. Although I'll go with ESH but I think people give OP some a lot of hard time. I won't repeat it here since a lot of commenters has better argument than mine
I'm pretty sure if the son in question had some type of developmental or emotional regulation issue, the husband (because he doesn't sound like much of a dad here) would definitely have said so to highlight how even more put upon he was to have babysit his own son a couple of fixed days a week. So, let's not go inventing things now.
Also, speaking of babysitting, why didn't he line up a babysitter once he realized there was this conflict with their schedules? That's a perfectly acceptable solution that would allow both of them uphold their obligations while making sure their son is cared for for the few hours they were away.
@@maskedmallard537 you know people can be diagnosed *late* right
@@raineblackstar3522 Of course, but, again, if there were actual problems with the child, poor whoa is me hubby would have mentioned them, whether there was an actual diagnosis or not. Hubby just does not want to dad.
I think the word you were looking for with the first story was “Gaslighting” ....
In the second story, I think they're both being a little selfish here and not even trying to understand the other's point of view. Chemotherapy doesn't take all day and neither does lunch. Surely they can work out a schedule where they can both do what they want!
Is there some mayonnaise packet rule at Ikea that people can't go ask for another one? Like, am I missing something? And legit, I ask my husband if I can have a bite (French Fries typically) of his food if I am in the mood. He will do the same. We are super respectful and don't gobble it all up . Literally, if I ask for a fry I take one. One. But it is polite to ask. And since when is there a rule at Ikea about not asking for one mayonnaise packet more? It isn't like he's going to be taking the whole bin from the cashier. Weird. But no she isn't wrong.
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2nd one, their both in the wrong (the dad is more in the wrong tho). The dads in the wrong for acting as if taking care of his kid is a chore but the mum should consider getting a babysitter every now and again, I guess the dad could do that too but this is my opinion.
My guy did not just get pissed off at his girlfriend over a packet of MAYONNAISE 🤦
i feel like if the roles were reversed in the second story it would hit different. If the husband put his family second to be there for every chemo therapy of his female friend? I dont know. She can be supportive and be there for him for some of the treatments but she should be able to make exceptions once in a while
For that second story I think that both the husband and wife were being selfish in their own different ways.
I sympathize with Anthony but maybe it's not the fact he can't go see his friends just think if she is always at chemo with Anthony how much time is she spending with her child and if she with him all the time where is her time for her son
i don't think chemo treatments are everyday sir..
Well… that were some selfish story’s 😂
The story with Anthony: I see three sides to this. On one hand, I see a wife who is really supportive of her friend while he is in cancer and wants to support him.
One the other hand, we have a husband who is understanding but wants to be able to spend time with his mother and sister instead of watching his son because his wife wants to visit someone he barely knows and doesn’t really get along with.
The third side is this: A man’s wife wants to see a friend and support him, even at the cost of spending time with her own son and letting her husband enjoy family time.
I’m not sure who’s wrong, but the man could be a bit more supportive and the woman can back off a bit. He is a very close friend, but he isn’t her husband and she could visit him later while the husband could accept the fact the cancer isn’t an easy thing to deal with and support is needed.
I don’t mean to offend anyone who has/had cancer or anyone who knows/knew someone who did, but this is just my viewing.
I know that she said she’s all he has, but chemo sessions are once a week and even though it is painful (I’m saying this based on how chemo is killing blood, idk if they sedate the person or something), there is also the fact that she has a son and he has family. The person may be very close to her, but again, he has family and he has priorities just like her.
So my solution is this: Either they come to an agreement, both of them take care of the kid, or they find someone to take care of the kid. I know this may sound cruel, but you have to really look at both sides of the story. What if the man hasn’t seen his mother and sister in quite a while because of the son and because of his wife going to the chemo sessions? What if Anthony really needs the support? I get that the child is a priority, and I get it if they don’t have anyone to watch over the kid, but is it really the worst thing to drop your son off at a relative’s house for a few hours and come pick him up?
I feel like maybe all THREE of them are at fault. He said that Anthony sort of acted annoyed towards him. He has freaking cancer and she wants to be there for her friend. He wants to meet up with his mom and sister for lunch and who knows how long he’s been waiting for this?
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Geez..the dad from the second one. He totally has the mentality of “it’s not my job to care for the kids, I’m a MAN” like bro it’s your own kid.
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The first story, no way would I be going!
The husband is jealous of the guy with cancer. And too selfish to look after his kid.
OMG's the couple with the mayonnaise, why couldn't he have just asked the cashier for another pack? He was wrong to think he can just take it from his GF without asking.
The chemo part I feel like your take is way too biased, helping a friend out is fine but there's boundaries and the wife seems to just be spending more time with her friend than with her son as well. This screams cheating and you had previous situations where you said it yourself that either the wife or husban were spending way too much time with a "friend" and neglecting her/his actual family.
let's be 100% honest if the husband was dealing with his female friend who was going to cancer and was by her side at the hospital all this time like his wife is with this guy that would be a big problem with it okay don't say there won't because yes there would be because it is a problem Anthony needed to find his own girlfriend and stop taking up the time of his wife and yes he is not babysitting his own kid he is the father it is called parenting but when your wife has been in so much time with another dude there's a problem ain't nothing controlling about it it's called having respect show and respect and doing what you're supposed to do yeah she could be there once or twice but there are so many times that it's inconvenience in the husband you're a liar if you tell me that if the rules weren't reversed that the woman would be freaking very upset that her husband was spending all that time with a woman I don't care explain away but it doesn't mean nothing because you know exactly what I'm saying is correct 100%
Kind of sus that Anthony only has OPs wife, why does this grown man not have any other friends or family.
Seriously you're fighting over a pack of mayo, he can just ask for it
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6:30 okay, I kind of disagree with Kyuite. She's read a similar one awhile back where the husband's friend lost his wife and was there for him and whatnot--
I think he was allowed to get angry that because he made plans to visit his mom and sister, but when he said he had to care for his son, that was low. It's an everyone sucks situation, not just the man.
If someone takes mayonnaise packets from me I give them a big thank you because I hate mayo
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Regarding Anthony, it's very likely that Anthony and the guy's wife have MORE than just a "comforting" relationship going on here. If I were the husband, I'd suggest that the husband AND son come along to one of Anthony's "chemo" treatments, so the husband can see what is going on, and also "comfort" Anthony. Hubby will also get a chance to see exactly what is going on, and if it really is a medical treatment visit his wife is going for with Anthony, or if it's something else. I think you're hating on the husband too much; I spent 8 years on dialysis, which as at least as intensive as chemo, and I went by MYSELF to those 5-hour appointments. Anthony could do so as well; I think there's more to this, and your perspective is very naive.
If Anthony can't get along ALONE at a chemo treatment, there may be something wrong with Anthony! You say he should PARENT - so why does the mom continuously go with Anthony. You're having a pity party when you don't know the real story here.
Third story - if that couple is THAT IMMATURE about a stupid mayonnaise pack, there's troubled water ahead. Are these people really this childish about this to make it worth fighting over? Jeez.
Damn, that's a better argument. Everyone literally are taking the pity party and didn't give a little thought to the husband. I'm sure the husband feels abandon and despite he voice he couldn't have some time with his friend, he still let her go until the people he wanted to spend time with was his family. Everyone are hard on OP to be a parent yet wife couldn't wait at least 2 hours to be a parent for her child?
In the first story I see the bother and sister in laws side of the story. I have been bought up in a culture where your brother's or sisters big days were supposed to be your big days too. Even extended family was an important component of a wedding. I get that she couldn't afford it but she shouldn't have said it wasn't worth it, she could've talked about how expensive it was for her and that it was getting hard for her fulfilling everything but saying your brother's wedding is not worth the trouble somehow tells me about their relationship. The sil and brother were also in the wrong with regards to gifts and asking op for gifts and not even inviting her to the wedding party. How do you not invite your only sister to the wedding party. It's so weird.
If he really wanted to go to the lunch he could have paid for a babysitter so yes he is wrong the wife is doing something wonderful for a friend and need and he is throwing a blind eye
So is the brother gonna support OP or has he supported OP to that extent. Don’t give me “well they’re family” crap. I’m sick of that excuse. Some just want it all but refuse to help or do anything in return. Take and no give, no nothing.
I'd also fight over the mayo packet
In the frnd story...the husband could have just invited his frnds home instead of going out ......or taken his son out for lunch or play dates....why complain about the sick....
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On the Anthony's story I really think the wife is wrong!... Fine her friend is going through a rough time but now it's affecting her HUSBAND'S life as well I mean I don't think it was a problem just to miss 1 chemotherapy appointment NO WAY! and maybe the "lunch" he had with his mother and sister was in a NO KIDS place
Umm yeah the second one both r at fault, especially at communication but come one like dad u can't take ur kid to a lunch with ur sister n mom really 🙄. Ur mom would love to see ur kid bro 🙄. U shouldn't see ur kid as a burden 🙄.
I don't get it why can't you bring "YOUR" son to a lunch date with "YOUR" mom and sister who correct me if i am wrong are supposed to be "YOUR" son's *"GRANDMOTHER"* and *"AUNT"*
Man everyone in these stories have poor communication skills
She's really good at supporting her friend but how is she supporting her husband? I understand the friend has cancer and needs someone but does he have no other family or friends? The wife seems to only care for what she wants but what about her husband? So far all I hear is I'm going to do this too bad for you deal with it.
chemo sessions are typically once a week or once every 2 weeks im not 100% sure, but im sure the husband can handle 1 day to take care of his son, yk, like a parent should? he has literally every other day of the week to hang out with his mates and family but just once a week needs to look after his kid while his wife is looking out for her friend, which is literally struggling with cancer. and evem then, he could improvise and either bring his kid with him to hang with his family, or invite his friends over to his house. shes not stopping him from seeing his friends and family all together, just that he needs to watch his kid for a day. the husband is being selfish by not letting the wife support her childhood friend through cancer because the friend has no one else in his life to support him. thats my opinion though
Maybe i'm wrong but I don't think chemo is every day. If he wanted to, he could've rescheduled some of his plans or brought his son to kid friendly places. I understand what you're trying to say, but I think husband could've improvised.
@@a1shahh true but he made plans let her know and she was like fu too bad. He could reschedule but it sounded last minute to me. He does need to step up a little but she is inflexible on this. Of course the problem is it's not the full story just what he said and not all facts are included. Like how many hours he works what kind of work he does her as well what day it days does he get off and so on. However as a couple it's give and take but she isn't giving or compromising according to him.
@@Theawesomeninja_XD true but it's only half the story as told by him there are details and facts missing but going by just the story, she is not compromising at all and not accepting his plans because they interfere with hers. But like I said only part of the story.
@@christianwiberg447 "she is not compromising at all". how could she? its her FRIEND that may or may not die of cancer. also its max twice a week. why are you expecting her to miss a chemo session (which is probably painful) so her husband can go out and have fun with friends or mum?
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Listen. If it was mustard i might start a fight.
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But like mayonnaise? Thats his fault for liking mayonnaise so much to argue over it.
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I think you forgot that he said "mom and sister" not "friends"🤣...i agree, that he's selfish though...
He said both. At the beginning of the story he mentioned that he wasn't able to hand out with his friends, later he said his mom and sister. Doesn't change that he's selfish though.
Really? Hahaha, i didn't notice...why can't he take his son with him so it could be easier. Or the wife too, like she's giving the husband so much when its also her son, her responsibility. I feel bad for the son and Anthony.☹
@@parillonchandre1302 I'm not sure. Seems like he wanted to throw himself a pity party for not getting to do what he wants instead of coming of with a compromise.
Yeah, probably. But, still- does he think that taking care of his son is some kind of job or duty?
Does he think that his son is just a burden?
@@parillonchandre1302 wy would u take your kids to chemo? that's so sad. if I was her son id rather be at home.
"like she's giving the husband so much when its also her son, her responsibility" bruh u r acting like shes abandoning her son to go party. that is such a disrespectful thing to say. she is going to support her FRIEND once or twice a week to support him through cancer geez.
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