You don’t understand her because you cheated. Everything she thought she was you ruined. She is worthless to you. I bet if she cheated on you, you’d probably have a stroke.
I’m not sure why he’s complaining? He’s the one who cheated. He’s gotta be able to take the baggage with consequences. She’s there to make you suffer like you made her. The love is gone because you chose to end it. You broke her everything and you still want us to empathize with you? Lol. You deserve it but both of you need to get over it or get out of each others’ way because of the misery you’re living in.
Moral is don't cheat. But if both people agree that they want to work it out, then don't slander one another and bring havoc into one eachother's life because that defeats the point of working out an already struggling marriage.
I don't agree with you if she's willing to accept his apology and forgive him then she shouldnt be bringing up what's happened.. otherwise she should leave if she can't accept what he's done.. because both of them are just going to be miserable by bring up the past.
It’s funny how the husband thinks it’s ok to cheat on their wife and expect forgiveness and think that a relationship will still be the same as before. But when a wife does it the husband can’t forgive and turn the table like it’s all her fault. Time has changed we are no longer the way our mothers and grandmothers use to be… You reap what you sow, what a clown.
Cia koj tus niam tsev mus tham hluas nraug es nws rov qab los seb koj puas zam txim rau nws? Don’t expect her to forgive you that easily. Besides, you’re the one that started this whole cheating. I believe you did not truly love her otherwise you wouldn’t cheat on her. Cheating is not a small problem. Your wife will be happier without you. Wife find someone who love and cares about you. Let’s hear your wife side of the story…
But if she’s really that resentful, she should leave him. She’s also torturing herself by staying with him. I have no energy for that. Life would be so much more peaceful if she leaves him.
She forgave him though… so it’s her fault that she kept bringing it up too .. leave if she can’t forgive.. at the end, I’m glad he divorce her since she can’t divorce him..
My husband cheated on me over 20yrs ago. The pain still hurts like it was just yesterday. We're still together. But my love for him is different. Don't expect everything to go back to the way it was.
Same thing happened to me too, I chose to forgive, the pain is still there. We women dealt with it differently, some vent it out like this house wife and some just chose to hide their pain away.
For the txiv tsev here- you started the cheating and you spent the expense of your family time to the poj nraug for years. So, what do you expect from your innocent wife??? Your job is to serve her as your queen from now on if you want to keep your marriage. You need to understand the consequences you made in your marriage. You need to understand if she cheats on you and takes your expense for another guy do you still stand in silence???? Of course she has lost her trust in you. You need to earn her trust in you again. You either serve her as your queen for life until she is over with what you did to her. Or you leave her and become a loser like other hmong home less dogs. You apologized to her it doesn’t mean she forgives you. She needs time to get it over. You need to understand sometimes it never gets over because it hurts so much when an innocent person gets impacted by this type of issues. She deserves her rights so good job you let her go to a good man. I am sure she is happy now!
She can forgive you BUT can’t forget!!! I’m sure if the table was turned, you’d have done the same thing to her as she did to you. Stop playing victim bc I Don’t blame your wife for all her hatred feelings toward you, after all you did cheat on her. She’s forever damaged inside.
Ab Yog ib tug poj niam es ho Tsi to taub npaum ko lawm ce tsum thiab lau cov zoo2 tseem muaj os cov txiv zoo2 lo yeej tseem muaj cov niam zoo2 lo tsuav ntau os lawv aw yom
Twb yog koj ua rau nw xwb os yog nw ua rau koj ma koj twb tsis yuav nw ntev lawm ne Ca nw tseem khuv xim koj thiab lau cuag lu tsis muaj lwm tu li lawm tiag yom
Several years ago, my sister and her husband were having infidelity issues so she came to my husband and I for advice. My husband said: 1. You can forgive him. You talk it over, fight about it, cry about it and get all ur frustration out. And then you don’t bring it up again. OR 2. You leave him. Because you cannot get over the fact that he cheated. You will never trust him again and will always wonder what he is doing or who he is with or why he is late coming home. I think this is the best advice. It has nothing to do with the kids. Your marriage is a long term relationship. Either patch it up and grow from it, or you realize that it’s something you cannot get over and go your separate ways. No need to fight or find excuses to stay together.
You betrayed someone that trusted you with all his/her life, don’t expect forgiveness to be instant. If you just come back to the relationship and expect her to pretend as if nothing has happened. No one can do that. You won’t know until you wear her shoes.
If it was your wife, you wouldn't even take her back. Those who cheat, of course, their spouse is gonna be strict on them. Because they are not trust worthy.
Only thing to this story is once trust is gone it's gone, you both made the decision to remained together and worked on your marriage. But she hung onto her anger and created and unlovable and impossible situation to live together. When it has come to this it is best to go separate ways.
I hope and pray that you go through the same pain, heartbreak and torment that your wife experienced. I hope and pray that your next wife will torment you to the point that you receive a stoke. No one has the right to complain when they sin, just shut up and leave.
All I hear is me, me, me! This guy is so entitled and has no remorse for what he did. You cheated on your wife and got caught and therefore ruined your marriage. Your wife shouldn't have taken you back if she can't forgive you. You didn't mention what you did to reassure her you love her and that you made a mistake. You just expected things to continue as usual and thought your wife should be grateful because you decided to stay.
Since I listen to May stories. I never finish the story…My comments start when the introduction start😂 I hate Hmong man like this one. After 30 years of marriage he decide to cheat. For what purpose🫵🏼 If the wife cheat Hmong man will get a niam yau but if the man cheat is ok to forgive him🤦🏻♂️ This guy still think his wife is the bad one 😂😂😂 Do not lecture anybody with your story!!!
If you cheated and you decided to stay with your wife. You need to be on your knees and kiss her ass until she said you no longer have to . That’s when she truly knows that you truly do love her and you really did make a mistake. That’s when you can rebuild your marriage again. That’s when the trust will start to build again. These selfish cheaters . SMH..,,,,
Txiv dev aw koj yog tus tsim teeb mem ces kav tsij mloog koj poj niam ntsws qub lus kom tag tiam no mas cas tseem hais tias tsis so siab thiab na yog koj poj niam yog tus tham hluas nraub mas ntshe koj hauj yam ua phem tshaj os
Honestly..every guy will have excuses. But at the end..its his fault. Maybe she is the way she is because he never show her he changed. Never prove his changed. Trust cannot be rebuilt once you messed up.
So annoyed with this story. Cheaters being the victim. Please, let’s see his wife cheat on him and see how he handle the situation to ua siab ntev. If the situation was reverse, he would have divorced her. Karma will hit him soon when his wife cheats on him, you will learn how painful it is to be cheated on, brother. Cheating is NOT a small problem like this guy claim.
You have to understand that the reason why the poj nrauj is able to sweet talk to you is because you haven’t create a scar in their heart and also you haven’t break the trust between you and the poj nrauj.
Cov niam txiv a txiv ua txhaum los niam tsis zam txim niam ua txhaum los txiv tsis zam txiv ces yog tsis xav sis hlub lawm tus poj niam los tus ntdws lus lis no mas ruam tshaj plaws nawb
The wife has been hurt too much .. she still loves him and she has somehow forgiven him but she just can’t forget what he did because the pains are too deep … and first of all this man shouldn’t tell us women how to act or tell us our only purpose was child bearing and raising children or that we get old faster… a person gets old faster due to neglect .. no love and support and of course from working way to hard to keep her family fed and together…. Don’t say you’re looking for someone new because your wife is getting too old . We are all human beings. We all are going to get older . Just because your girlfriend or mistresses are younger than your wife doesn’t mean that they will never get old at all. Hmong men think like this all the time . And then gets offended or mad when they see their women with a different race SMH
Tus mi txiv tsev aw yus Twb yog Tus ua txhaum es Cas yus tseem muaj Cai tshaj luag lawm es yus Twb uv tsis taus na, yog koj tus poj Niam Tham hluas nraug CES koj Twb uv tsis taus thiab os 😭😭
Kuv xav mas koj yeej tsis xav yuav koj tus poj niam lawm .Vim koj twb ua rau koj poj Niam mob yuav tuag los koj yeej tseem xav tias li Ntawv xwb me me xwb koj yeej tsis kam hais ib los tiag tiag hauv koj lub siab tuaj nws thiaj chim ua luaj los koj twb tsis tsum koj tseem rov mus ua dua ntxiv thiab ces qhov Ntawv yog tim koj lawm . Peb xav hnov koj tus niam sab thiab
Tus no mas thiab yog txiv dev xmb os. Is he really trying to lecture us when he's the lose*? And at the end he says...his cheating is something small. Hopefully, your ex wife learns to love herself and sees that you leaving was a blessing and a gift from god. She doesn't need someone like you. She deserves better.
Trust is the most important factor for any relationship. Without trust, the relationship is not worth keeping. Mister, when you decided to cheat, your heart already left her. Your wife stayed with you because she hasn’t find anyone yet. Trust me, she would have ran out the door if another man came into her life.
To all the cheaters, you cannot expect your spouse to forgive and don’t mention any of your cheating. To all the souse who got cheated on, if you can’t forgive and then move on with someone else. It’s best to live your own separate life if you both can’t forgive each other. There’s nothing of being a single parent and start all over. We have so many murder cases because of jealousy.
Cheating is not something small, it's something big that destroyed your marriage. Why mens always said Cheating is a small issue. Don't give advice to others, a cheater will always be a cheater.
Bro cheated on his wife and expect things to go back normal. You broke her trust and it’s gonna take a long time to regain that trust but instead he played the victim lol
If she still has her doubts it's because ur not doing everything u can to make her believe that ur done with her. She shouldn't have any reason to doubt u. Obviously she is still insecure because of ur daily actions.
I bet you never sincerely apologized to her for what you did or owned up to cheat8ng on her. I listen to your story, it still sounds like you feel like you didn't do anything wrong. You don't sound remorse for cheating. When she asked what's wrong with you. You probably shouldn't have answered "I'm broken hearted" Yeah, you choose to come back to your wife but all your words and actions doesn't say that.
My thoughts exactly! Like, how the f@%k do you think she'd feel when you mope around acting all sad and go telling her you're broken-hearted? Bi@@tch! You know who's effing broken- hearted? YO WIFE! What you did cut her deep! How the f@ck are you gonna expect her to sweet talk you? Did you sincerely try to make it up to her? Ugghh...SMH! The audacity to insult her by saying that she's no longer good-looking anyway. If she was, and he knew there'll be others knocking on her door, you bet he would've stayed and kissed ass tuag nthi.
Brother, all that you are saying and asking and stating each and every one of us has been thru. The cheater always plays the victim but doesn't realize that the damages you have caused is what is left of that shell. The injured person gonna used that mistake and find reasons to cause you hurt and throw it back at you at every turn, not only to hurt you but to dish it ten fold. But as extreme as your wife have taken it, it is toxic and miserable to stay in that marriage. It is best to walk away than to stay in it.
To this man in the story! Stop preaching for all the women’s! You can’t even handle your beautiful wife from the beginning but cheated, cheated on her! Koj puas uv koj tus poj niam mus pw nrog ib tus txiv neej nas!! She loved you from the beginning but you not man enough but a cheater!!
Wow… One day you will be in your wife’s shoe. I hope once you’re there you better not say one word or feel insecure and feel unloved! Your wife knew your true intentions but she wasn’t willing to give up but just expressed her hurt and pain! This is only your side of the story, I’m sure you did nothing to reassure her you truly love her! Also giving her a time limit to forgive you!? Again… I know you’ll be in her shoes one day and you better not say anything!
You cannot expect your wife to go back and trust and believe in you like she used to when you broke her trust and believed in you. You made her to be like that when you cheated. Just because your heart broken because you cheated on her that don’t make her to come and kiss your behind just to make you feel better. You knew the consequence when you cheated so you will have to deal with it..poj nraug will always act nice to you until she get what she wants. Once she have it she will be worse than your wife..
Wait a minute...You cheated and expected her to still see you as her man....NO. This story makes zero sense. It does NOT work that way!! Once the relationship is stained, bad omen forever. Good Bye.
It’s both at fault . First he shouldn’t cheat .. 2nd if the wife forgive him then she should let go of the past if not then she shouldn’t agreed to forgive him at first and leave, if you can’t leave then shush up!
It’s easy to say than done. No body know for sure how it felts until you’re wear her shoes. She had tried to forgive him so far until she learned more that her txiv dev vwm has done more to his poj nrauj by used their resources they had earned together for spending on her.
The trust is no longer there. She hates you and is bitter towards you, but she still has an ounce of love for you. It will take about 10 years for that pain to start healing. You have to be patient with her because you did hurt her. You both need professional counseling.
tell me 1 story when the wife cheat on the husband and the husband treat her like his queen til their old age and one pass away. never heard one yet. some i heard he took her back til she's older then he started to cheat and blame still blamed her for his wrong doing after he supposedly forgive her 20 some yrs ago. Hmong Men are DEV
Kj yog txiv dev xwb...😆 Twb ua luag mob siab lawm los tseem muaj plus hahaha kj ua neej yeej tsis kawg txhob maj khav khav os txiv dev . Zoo siab kj tus poj niam loj nrauj kj nws mus tau zoo lawm os ☺️
This story all started from you cheating on her so you deserved what you got. Not happy then leaves. Tej laus hais tias yus lob nrhab rau yus tob hau ces yog li no tiag thaub. You can't be mad. Paying back time from her. People don't take cheating advice on your spouse like yours. Bad...bad....bad!
You really hurt her and she couldn't get passed that dude! You are at fault, and you're expecting her to pretend nothing happened? Koj tsi yog ua txhaum me me li koj hais ko na. You life will not be a sunshine and rainbow without her either.
To the husband : Why you playing the victim when your the one who started it all. You new exactly of the consequences if your wife new but your affair but you were willing to risk it. To the wife : If he can replace you , you can as sure replace him to. You need to moved on be happy. Things will never be the same.
Sorry but his guy is full of himself. He's the one that committed adultery. He asked for forgiveness, but never really cares or try to understand how she feels. People said one thing but meant something else totally. Famous quote: " Hell Hath No Fury Like A Woman Scorned." I don't think she will ever forgive or forget him for he has done. Once you crossed the line, there is no going back. Best of luck.
A cheater expects the spouse to not say anything and just move on?!?! She's in a lot of pain. You the cheater will never understand her pain. Trust is never the same. I hope she finds peace within herself. This man is looking for sympathy. Not a chance. She'll continue to twist that knife which you totally deserve 🤣😂. What did this man expect??? Be ready to take sh** when you're sh**😂🤣. Best to go your separate ways. Glad that looser left. This lady needs to heal and move on. Cheater don't come and lecture women...looser.
He freaking wanted her to understand him and give him time cause his ass was "broken-hearted." Why the fuck couldn't be understand her and give her time to heal? He was like, "she ain't good looking anymore, and she doesn't treat me right, so I can justify my cheating again." If she was still good-looking, and he knew that she could've moved on, he would've been kissing her ass until she's healed.
Having an affair is not something small. Complaining about making his wife making something small into a big problem. Ummm….an affair is a big problem.
Her bitterness towards him is the consequence he will have to bear for the rest of their marriage. The scar from him cheating will never heal back to normal.
A story of a victim cheater. How pathetic 🙄. There is no timeline for anyone to heal from being betrayed. Good thing you ended with your wife. She will be much happier in the long term....and hopefully you will to. Your marriage ended the day you cheated.
Niag txiv liam. Koj puas paub tias koj twb yog tus xub mus tham niag pojnrauj ua ntej nad! Koj tias koj mam rov los hlub koj pab niam tub tiamsis koj lub siab tseem nyob raws tom niag maum dev pojnrauj. How do you expect your ex wife to forgive you? She had lost all trust in you and you did not once showed her that you earn that trust back. Txhob mus hais hais li koj nim yog niag txivtsev zoo zoo os mog. Koj ces yog niag txivdev liam txwv xwb. Good thing you both got divorce. Your new wife probably dont even know your egg.
When the person who started cheating.. that person already decided to go to the other side...due to different wants and needs. No matter what the consequences for the hurt person behind n children. Please don't make excuses.
Wow! Just wow! You did her wrong and expect her to understand your broken heart? You didn’t give her a chance to heal! You broke the trust so face to consequences like a man. Let the wife talk about the affair as much as she like until she is healed! As long as it takes. You take the hit until she is ok to finally talk less and less about her pain! The one really hurting here is her. She is better off without you. With you she will hurt and heal too slowly, without you she will soon forget and move on. Cov neej neeg zoo li zam no mam ua rau kuv kub raug lawm tus phem twb yog koj nas! Koj tsis tsim nyog tau koj tus poj niam. Thov ko nws nriav tau tus hlub nws tshaj koj rau koj ntsia neeg siab tsis ncaj phem tshaj
Cov txiv neej no mas nws hais nws qhov zoo xwb . Yog peb cov pojniam ua li nws uas no nws puas ntau thiab. Thiab nws puas yuav quav tau thiab mas los. Ws txhob cob qhia peb cov pojniam Kom peb xyaum coj zoo os . Nws yuav tau xyaum ua ntej tso o nawb. Koj twb uas rau koj tus pojniam no tu siab tag lawm ne. Es koj tseem tias koj zoo kawg li thiab no los.
Now that you have seen how hard it is to gain another person’s trust I hope you learn from it and be faithful to your new wife but like they said qub nqaij ces tshw qub ntxhiab qub neeg ces coj qub siab! 😅
So you’re saying that when you broke ties with your gf, you expected your wife to treat you well because you’re going through a rough time? HAHAHA bruh! Are you serious? Ugh makes my blood boils! You’re the one who did your wife dirty. Did you ever consider her feelings? Did she even matter to you? So before you start blaming your wife for your dumb excuses, blame yourself first. She’s even dumb to take you back. I would of left if I was her!
LOL! Really! Raus peb cov txiv Hmoob. When they cheat, it's a SMALL issue. And the wife should just uv thiab uv ntsis. Tabsis when the wife does it, oh boy, all hell broke loose! And he ends up divorcing the wife. Txij ib tug niam tsev go cheating ces enough is enough because God know how long he's been cheating on her.
Im with your wife on this. You cheated on her. Imagine if she cheated on you first, you probably wouldn't be able to see her the same way. You can't expect her to forgive you and forget about it.
You don’t understand her because you cheated. Everything she thought she was you ruined. She is worthless to you. I bet if she cheated on you, you’d probably have a stroke.
Agreed!
Koj hais yog tshaj.
Txiv neej ua, poj niam quaj. Poj niam ua, txiv neej TUAG!
I’m not sure why he’s complaining? He’s the one who cheated. He’s gotta be able to take the baggage with consequences. She’s there to make you suffer like you made her. The love is gone because you chose to end it. You broke her everything and you still want us to empathize with you? Lol. You deserve it but both of you need to get over it or get out of each others’ way because of the misery you’re living in.
Moral is don't cheat. But if both people agree that they want to work it out, then don't slander one another and bring havoc into one eachother's life because that defeats the point of working out an already struggling marriage.
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I don't agree with you if she's willing to accept his apology and forgive him then she shouldnt be bringing up what's happened.. otherwise she should leave if she can't accept what he's done.. because both of them are just going to be miserable by bring up the past.
@lovely kellies yog Los mas. There's no sense in staying anymore, and the relationship just becomes toxic
There’s so much problems with this story. The cheater playing the victim and wife is still complaining but can’t leave.
LOL! They always do. They are at fault, but think come think go, the wife is the issue.
Seriously💯! A cheater looking for everyone to emphasize with him. Oh Please. Tsk tsk
this guy has a big ass face to play the victim here.
Is it called gaslight
She needs to leave! Obviously she can't deal with it and it's eating her up inside.
It’s funny how the husband thinks it’s ok to cheat on their wife and expect forgiveness and think that a relationship will still be the same as before. But when a wife does it the husband can’t forgive and turn the table like it’s all her fault. Time has changed we are no longer the way our mothers and grandmothers use to be… You reap what you sow, what a clown.
That's the truth. I am more than happy to be as many times poj nrauj than suffer a damn relationship!
I'll
Cia koj tus niam tsev mus tham hluas nraug es nws rov qab los seb koj puas zam txim rau nws? Don’t expect her to forgive you that easily. Besides, you’re the one that started this whole cheating. I believe you did not truly love her otherwise you wouldn’t cheat on her. Cheating is not a small problem. Your wife will be happier without you. Wife find someone who love and cares about you. Let’s hear your wife side of the story…
Don't blame your wife! She has every right to get mad and angry for your cheating! You'll have to pay the price for the consequences you'd caused.
But if she’s really that resentful, she should leave him. She’s also torturing herself by staying with him. I have no energy for that. Life would be so much more peaceful if she leaves him.
She forgave him, that’s why he came back. She should’ve stopped bringing the affair up.
Truth! You wanted it…there you go.
@@janievee279 Pojniam yeej tsis sawm zoo.
She forgave him though… so it’s her fault that she kept bringing it up too .. leave if she can’t forgive.. at the end, I’m glad he divorce her since she can’t divorce him..
Just because she forgave you does not mean that she has forgotten what you’ve done. Forgiving does not mean forgetting.
Agrees 200%.
If you forgive, you have to accept that he cheated and hurt you. Otherwise, do not beg him to stay because you're only doing more damage to yourself.
Agree 110%
My husband cheated on me over 20yrs ago. The pain still hurts like it was just yesterday. We're still together. But my love for him is different. Don't expect everything to go back to the way it was.
Proud of you for enduring the pain and staying in a relationship like that
Of course it will hurt. It is the biggest betrayal. The most painful thing is, he destroyed your trust. I can’t do it.
Agree. Same situation, still together and like you, my love for my husband is different as well.
Story of my life too sister! Always a pebble on the road no matter what. Biggest regret is not leaving at that time.
Same thing happened to me too, I chose to forgive, the pain is still there. We women dealt with it differently, some vent it out like this house wife and some just chose to hide their pain away.
Blamed her all you want but you will feel her pain double later in your life.
Yep karma is real!
For the txiv tsev here- you started the cheating and you spent the expense of your family time to the poj nraug for years. So, what do you expect from your innocent wife??? Your job is to serve her as your queen from now on if you want to keep your marriage. You need to understand the consequences you made in your marriage. You need to understand if she cheats on you and takes your expense for another guy do you still stand in silence???? Of course she has lost her trust in you. You need to earn her trust in you again. You either serve her as your queen for life until she is over with what you did to her. Or you leave her and become a loser like other hmong home less dogs. You apologized to her it doesn’t mean she forgives you. She needs time to get it over. You need to understand sometimes it never gets over because it hurts so much when an innocent person gets impacted by this type of issues. She deserves her rights so good job you let her go to a good man. I am sure she is happy now!
Best answer! He deserves every bit of the bad consequences.
She can forgive you BUT can’t forget!!! I’m sure if the table was turned, you’d have done the same thing to her as she did to you. Stop playing victim bc I Don’t blame your wife for all her hatred feelings toward you, after all you did cheat on her. She’s forever damaged inside.
Txiv dev played victim card 😅🤣😂🤣🤣😂
I don’t blame your wife, you broke that trust between you both the scar you recreated that’s why…
Ab Yog ib tug poj niam es ho Tsi to taub npaum ko lawm ce tsum thiab lau cov zoo2 tseem muaj os cov txiv zoo2 lo yeej tseem muaj cov niam zoo2 lo tsuav ntau os lawv aw yom
You cheat on her but still play as a victim.
Typical Hmoob cheater
@@leefamily6061 and he find excuses to cheat again.
I would rub it in his face just as much too if not more for all of the emotional abuse he caused.
Dude just need to cheat again
Twb yog koj ua rau nw xwb os yog nw ua rau koj ma koj twb tsis yuav nw ntev lawm ne
Ca nw tseem khuv xim koj thiab lau cuag lu tsis muaj lwm tu li lawm tiag yom
Let your wife go cheat too then we will see if you can forgive her completely. It’s easier to say than done.
Several years ago, my sister and her husband were having infidelity issues so she came to my husband and I for advice. My husband said:
1. You can forgive him. You talk it over, fight about it, cry about it and get all ur frustration out. And then you don’t bring it up again.
OR
2. You leave him. Because you cannot get over the fact that he cheated. You will never trust him again and will always wonder what he is doing or who he is with or why he is late coming home.
I think this is the best advice. It has nothing to do with the kids. Your marriage is a long term relationship. Either patch it up and grow from it, or you realize that it’s something you cannot get over and go your separate ways. No need to fight or find excuses to stay together.
Agree
Well said...
Thank you for sharing this golden advice.
Agree.
Thanks for sharing. I totally agree
You betrayed someone that trusted you with all his/her life, don’t expect forgiveness to be instant. If you just come back to the relationship and expect her to pretend as if nothing has happened. No one can do that. You won’t know until you wear her shoes.
If it was your wife, you wouldn't even take her back. Those who cheat, of course, their spouse is gonna be strict on them. Because they are not trust worthy.
Only thing to this story is once trust is gone it's gone, you both made the decision to remained together and worked on your marriage. But she hung onto her anger and created and unlovable and impossible situation to live together. When it has come to this it is best to go separate ways.
I agree. People don’t realize that trust is the key to a healthy relationship. Without trust, the relationship will die or become very toxic.
Exactly 💯
I hope and pray that you go through the same pain, heartbreak and torment that your wife experienced. I hope and pray that your next wife will torment you to the point that you receive a stoke. No one has the right to complain when they sin, just shut up and leave.
Exactly!
What goes around will come around.
Karma..
All I hear is me, me, me! This guy is so entitled and has no remorse for what he did. You cheated on your wife and got caught and therefore ruined your marriage. Your wife shouldn't have taken you back if she can't forgive you. You didn't mention what you did to reassure her you love her and that you made a mistake. You just expected things to continue as usual and thought your wife should be grateful because you decided to stay.
Since I listen to May stories. I never finish the story…My comments start when the introduction start😂
I hate Hmong man like this one. After 30 years of marriage he decide to cheat.
For what purpose🫵🏼
If the wife cheat Hmong man will get a niam yau but if the man cheat is ok to forgive him🤦🏻♂️
This guy still think his wife is the bad one 😂😂😂
Do not lecture anybody with your story!!!
This is call a bad example hmoob man.
If you cheated and you decided to stay with your wife. You need to be on your knees and kiss her ass until she said you no longer have to . That’s when she truly knows that you truly do love her and you really did make a mistake. That’s when you can rebuild your marriage again. That’s when the trust will start to build again. These selfish cheaters . SMH..,,,,
Txiv dev aw koj yog tus tsim teeb mem ces kav tsij mloog koj poj niam ntsws qub lus kom tag tiam no mas cas tseem hais tias tsis so siab thiab na yog koj poj niam yog tus tham hluas nraub mas ntshe koj hauj yam ua phem tshaj os
You cheated on your wife. To her, it probably feels like just yesterday. So, you just be patient 100% or move on. Not her fault.
Honestly..every guy will have excuses. But at the end..its his fault.
Maybe she is the way she is because he never show her he changed. Never prove his changed. Trust cannot be rebuilt once you messed up.
So annoyed with this story. Cheaters being the victim. Please, let’s see his wife cheat on him and see how he handle the situation to ua siab ntev. If the situation was reverse, he would have divorced her. Karma will hit him soon when his wife cheats on him, you will learn how painful it is to be cheated on, brother.
Cheating is NOT a small problem like this guy claim.
You have to understand that the reason why the poj nrauj is able to sweet talk to you is because you haven’t create a scar in their heart and also you haven’t break the trust between you and the poj nrauj.
Cov niam txiv a txiv ua txhaum los niam tsis zam txim niam ua txhaum los txiv tsis zam txiv ces yog tsis xav sis hlub lawm tus poj niam los tus ntdws lus lis no mas ruam tshaj plaws nawb
He trying to tell everyone that he cheated on his wife twice..shame on you man
The wife has been hurt too much .. she still loves him and she has somehow forgiven him but she just can’t forget what he did because the pains are too deep … and first of all this man shouldn’t tell us women how to act or tell us our only purpose was child bearing and raising children or that we get old faster… a person gets old faster due to neglect .. no love and support and of course from working way to hard to keep her family fed and together…. Don’t say you’re looking for someone new because your wife is getting too old . We are all human beings. We all are going to get older . Just because your girlfriend or mistresses are younger than your wife doesn’t mean that they will never get old at all. Hmong men think like this all the time . And then gets offended or mad when they see their women with a different race SMH
Tus mi txiv tsev aw yus Twb yog Tus ua txhaum es Cas yus tseem muaj Cai tshaj luag lawm es yus Twb uv tsis taus na, yog koj tus poj Niam Tham hluas nraug CES koj Twb uv tsis taus thiab os 😭😭
Kuv xav mas koj yeej tsis xav yuav koj tus poj niam lawm .Vim koj twb ua rau koj poj Niam mob yuav tuag los koj yeej tseem xav tias li Ntawv xwb me me xwb koj yeej tsis kam hais ib los tiag tiag hauv koj lub siab tuaj nws thiaj chim ua luaj los koj twb tsis tsum koj tseem rov mus ua dua ntxiv thiab ces qhov Ntawv yog tim koj lawm . Peb xav hnov koj tus niam sab thiab
Folks don't give advice to anyone when you're the one who created the mess. Everyone is different. Some can let go other's cannot
Tus no mas thiab yog txiv dev xmb os. Is he really trying to lecture us when he's the lose*? And at the end he says...his cheating is something small. Hopefully, your ex wife learns to love herself and sees that you leaving was a blessing and a gift from god. She doesn't need someone like you. She deserves better.
I agree. She needs therapy so she can get over him and love herself.
Trust is the most important factor for any relationship. Without trust, the relationship is not worth keeping. Mister, when you decided to cheat, your heart already left her. Your wife stayed with you because she hasn’t find anyone yet. Trust me, she would have ran out the door if another man came into her life.
Exactly 💯 💯
Cheating is the biggest betrayal that is the hardest to mend in a relationship.
To all the cheaters, you cannot expect your spouse to forgive and don’t mention any of your cheating. To all the souse who got cheated on, if you can’t forgive and then move on with someone else. It’s best to live your own separate life if you both can’t forgive each other. There’s nothing of being a single parent and start all over. We have so many murder cases because of jealousy.
Cheating is not something small, it's something big that destroyed your marriage. Why mens always said Cheating is a small issue. Don't give advice to others, a cheater will always be a cheater.
Sadly, to some people who have parents that cheat, cheating is a norm so it’s not a big deal to them.
Yep, they always used the word ‘accident’.🤦🏻♀️
Bro cheated on his wife and expect things to go back normal. You broke her trust and it’s gonna take a long time to regain that trust but instead he played the victim lol
Txoj kev lwj siab ko kuv taug lawm yeej lwj siab kawg yeej chim kawg.. peb ua neeg nyob txhob yuam yus lub siab hlub rau ib tug neeg yus zam tsis tau txim rau nws os..
Cov neej neeg li no quav dev xwb os ntsej muag tsis txhob mloog ntshav siab.
Twg yeej yog Tim koj xmb. Koj ua rau koj xmb. You did it to yourself, we don't feel bad for you. You aren't a victim, you caused her to be who she is.
If she still has her doubts it's because ur not doing everything u can to make her believe that ur done with her. She shouldn't have any reason to doubt u. Obviously she is still insecure because of ur daily actions.
I bet you never sincerely apologized to her for what you did or owned up to cheat8ng on her.
I listen to your story, it still sounds like you feel like you didn't do anything wrong. You don't sound remorse for cheating.
When she asked what's wrong with you. You probably shouldn't have answered "I'm broken hearted"
Yeah, you choose to come back to your wife but all your words and actions doesn't say that.
My thoughts exactly! Like, how the f@%k do you think she'd feel when you mope around acting all sad and go telling her you're broken-hearted? Bi@@tch! You know who's effing broken- hearted? YO WIFE! What you did cut her deep! How the f@ck are you gonna expect her to sweet talk you? Did you sincerely try to make it up to her?
Ugghh...SMH! The audacity to insult her by saying that she's no longer good-looking anyway. If she was, and he knew there'll be others knocking on her door, you bet he would've stayed and kissed ass tuag nthi.
Leej twg tsis tau cov neeg sib tsim li no ces leej twg tsis paub
A cheater always blame others for his/her cheating games.
Brother, all that you are saying and asking and stating each and every one of us has been thru. The cheater always plays the victim but doesn't realize that the damages you have caused is what is left of that shell. The injured person gonna used that mistake and find reasons to cause you hurt and throw it back at you at every turn, not only to hurt you but to dish it ten fold. But as extreme as your wife have taken it, it is toxic and miserable to stay in that marriage. It is best to walk away than to stay in it.
To this man in the story! Stop preaching for all the women’s! You can’t even handle your beautiful wife from the beginning but cheated, cheated on her! Koj puas uv koj tus poj niam mus pw nrog ib tus txiv neej nas!! She loved you from the beginning but you not man enough but a cheater!!
cheaters will always find excuses to blame others and to leave so please do not put the blame on your wife.
Wow… One day you will be in your wife’s shoe. I hope once you’re there you better not say one word or feel insecure and feel unloved! Your wife knew your true intentions but she wasn’t willing to give up but just expressed her hurt and pain! This is only your side of the story, I’m sure you did nothing to reassure her you truly love her! Also giving her a time limit to forgive you!?
Again… I know you’ll be in her shoes one day and you better not say anything!
niag txiv dev yus twb ntxhaum los cas tseem muaj plug ua luaj thiab os txiv neej hmoob lub siab mas yog dev yug xwb os
You cannot expect your wife to go back and trust and believe in you like she used to when you broke her trust and believed in you. You made her to be like that when you cheated. Just because your heart broken because you cheated on her that don’t make her to come and kiss your behind just to make you feel better. You knew the consequence when you cheated so you will have to deal with it..poj nraug will always act nice to you until she get what she wants. Once she have it she will be worse than your wife..
Wait a minute...You cheated and expected her to still see you as her man....NO. This story makes zero sense. It does NOT work that way!! Once the relationship is stained, bad omen forever. Good Bye.
Ntsej muag ruam. Cas koj yuav muaj pluvs ua luaj? Once a cheater, always a cheater. And your homewreaking poj nrauj, xuab tshaj.
It’s both at fault . First he shouldn’t cheat .. 2nd if the wife forgive him then she should let go of the past if not then she shouldn’t agreed to forgive him at first and leave, if you can’t leave then shush up!
Pojniam yeej tsis sawm zoo.
It’s easy to say than done. No body know for sure how it felts until you’re wear her shoes. She had tried to forgive him so far until she learned more that her txiv dev vwm has done more to his poj nrauj by used their resources they had earned together for spending on her.
Seriously, if you pass the line of Infidelity, you must leave!
Lmfao! Serves you right! The headache she gives you is no where near the pain and anger you gave her.
You can’t blame her. She’s will never be healed. You did it you bare with it
The trust is no longer there. She hates you and is bitter towards you, but she still has an ounce of love for you. It will take about 10 years for that pain to start healing. You have to be patient with her because you did hurt her. You both need professional counseling.
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tell me 1 story when the wife cheat on the husband and the husband treat her like his queen til their old age and one pass away. never heard one yet. some i heard he took her back til she's older then he started to cheat and blame still blamed her for his wrong doing after he supposedly forgive her 20 some yrs ago. Hmong Men are DEV
Kj yog txiv dev xwb...😆 Twb ua luag mob siab lawm los tseem muaj plus hahaha kj ua neej yeej tsis kawg txhob maj khav khav os txiv dev . Zoo siab kj tus poj niam loj nrauj kj nws mus tau zoo lawm os ☺️
Ladies, stop being so kind and forgive your husband. He was the one who cheated and still have the guy to be mad at you for being mad at him. Lol
This story all started from you cheating on her so you deserved what you got. Not happy then leaves. Tej laus hais tias yus lob nrhab rau yus tob hau ces yog li no tiag thaub. You can't be mad. Paying back time from her. People don't take cheating advice on your spouse like yours. Bad...bad....bad!
Wow, what a petty Hmong Man.
He's playing a victim here
You really hurt her and she couldn't get passed that dude! You are at fault, and you're expecting her to pretend nothing happened? Koj tsi yog ua txhaum me me li koj hais ko na. You life will not be a sunshine and rainbow without her either.
What about her broken heart? You are not even trying to mend her heart. You are just expecting her to forgive you.
Exactly! 💯
To the husband : Why you playing the victim when your the one who started it all. You new exactly of the consequences if your wife new but your affair but you were willing to risk it. To the wife : If he can replace you , you can as sure replace him to. You need to moved on be happy. Things will never be the same.
Sorry but his guy is full of himself. He's the one that committed adultery. He asked for forgiveness, but never really cares or try to understand how she feels. People said one thing but meant something else totally. Famous quote: " Hell Hath No Fury Like A Woman Scorned." I don't think she will ever forgive or forget him for he has done. Once you crossed the line, there is no going back. Best of luck.
In oder for you guys to have a chance. You both need professional help. You need to feel her pain and admit how wrong you are, which is everything.
You have the audacity to give advice. You shouldn't. They are all incorrect. No one's going to support you. You are totally 100% wrong.
She can for give you
but she never forgotten what you did to her
A cheater expects the spouse to not say anything and just move on?!?! She's in a lot of pain. You the cheater will never understand her pain. Trust is never the same. I hope she finds peace within herself. This man is looking for sympathy. Not a chance. She'll continue to twist that knife which you totally deserve 🤣😂. What did this man expect??? Be ready to take sh** when you're sh**😂🤣. Best to go your separate ways. Glad that looser left. This lady needs to heal and move on. Cheater don't come and lecture women...looser.
Dude played victim throughout the whole story!! I believe she didn’t ask for him back and he made that up. Lmao
True! Just one side only
His words too! Exaggerated too!
Txiv dev cav txawj los qhuab qhia ib tsoom niam tsev thiab laiv pab txiv dev liam txaj muag
He has a point. If you can’t leave him for whatever reason, stop bringing it up every second or chance you get.
It’s a difficult to letting the past go if you’re the one that hurts. It’s going to takes time to healed.
Agree.
He freaking wanted her to understand him and give him time cause his ass was "broken-hearted." Why the fuck couldn't be understand her and give her time to heal? He was like, "she ain't good looking anymore, and she doesn't treat me right, so I can justify my cheating again." If she was still good-looking, and he knew that she could've moved on, he would've been kissing her ass until she's healed.
You torment her and now she is paying you back.
Zoo heev li os
Koj ces liam dhau os tus txiv dev tim koj siab phem tim loj tham poj nrauj tsis ua neeg zoo
Having an affair is not something small. Complaining about making his wife making something small into a big problem. Ummm….an affair is a big problem.
Her bitterness towards him is the consequence he will have to bear for the rest of their marriage. The scar from him cheating will never heal back to normal.
Another Hmong man who think that he is high and beyond.
A story of a victim cheater. How pathetic 🙄. There is no timeline for anyone to heal from being betrayed. Good thing you ended with your wife. She will be much happier in the long term....and hopefully you will to. Your marriage ended the day you cheated.
Niag txiv liam. Koj puas paub tias koj twb yog tus xub mus tham niag pojnrauj ua ntej nad! Koj tias koj mam rov los hlub koj pab niam tub tiamsis koj lub siab tseem nyob raws tom niag maum dev pojnrauj. How do you expect your ex wife to forgive you? She had lost all trust in you and you did not once showed her that you earn that trust back. Txhob mus hais hais li koj nim yog niag txivtsev zoo zoo os mog. Koj ces yog niag txivdev liam txwv xwb. Good thing you both got divorce. Your new wife probably dont even know your egg.
When the person who started cheating.. that person already decided to go to the other side...due to different wants and needs. No matter what the consequences for the hurt person behind n children. Please don't make excuses.
I wonder if the tables were turned, would this guy be able to love his wife the “same”???
Leave your wife alone. Let her go. She will always be bitter cuz you’re a cheater. Go separate way. Some people don’t deserve or need second chance.
Wow! Just wow! You did her wrong and expect her to understand your broken heart? You didn’t give her a chance to heal! You broke the trust so face to consequences like a man. Let the wife talk about the affair as much as she like until she is healed! As long as it takes. You take the hit until she is ok to finally talk less and less about her pain! The one really hurting here is her. She is better off without you. With you she will hurt and heal too slowly, without you she will soon forget and move on. Cov neej neeg zoo li zam no mam ua rau kuv kub raug lawm tus phem twb yog koj nas! Koj tsis tsim nyog tau koj tus poj niam. Thov ko nws nriav tau tus hlub nws tshaj koj rau koj ntsia neeg siab tsis ncaj phem tshaj
Bulls eye!
Cov txiv neej no mas nws hais nws qhov zoo xwb . Yog peb cov pojniam ua li nws uas no nws puas ntau thiab. Thiab nws puas yuav quav tau thiab mas los. Ws txhob cob qhia peb cov pojniam Kom peb xyaum coj zoo os . Nws yuav tau xyaum ua ntej tso o nawb. Koj twb uas rau koj tus pojniam no tu siab tag lawm ne. Es koj tseem tias koj zoo kawg li thiab no los.
Zaj no mloog nkim tag nro kuv lub sij hawm mloog-No point😂
Oh yo txiv dev tuaj complain os 😂
I can relate . Mos siab 🤣😅🤣😂
Now that you have seen how hard it is to gain another person’s trust I hope you learn from it and be faithful to your new wife but like they said qub nqaij ces tshw qub ntxhiab qub neeg ces coj qub siab! 😅
He will be cheating on his second wife too!
Hais tau yog tshaj li nawb....
Ntxov tso ntxov zoo thiaj tsis lwj2 siab xwb tiag
So you’re saying that when you broke ties with your gf, you expected your wife to treat you well because you’re going through a rough time? HAHAHA bruh! Are you serious? Ugh makes my blood boils! You’re the one who did your wife dirty. Did you ever consider her feelings? Did she even matter to you? So before you start blaming your wife for your dumb excuses, blame yourself first. She’s even dumb to take you back. I would of left if I was her!
Only one way to solve, let her have a boyfriend too😂🤣😂🤣
LOL! Really! Raus peb cov txiv Hmoob. When they cheat, it's a SMALL issue. And the wife should just uv thiab uv ntsis. Tabsis when the wife does it, oh boy, all hell broke loose! And he ends up divorcing the wife. Txij ib tug niam tsev go cheating ces enough is enough because God know how long he's been cheating on her.
Im with your wife on this. You cheated on her. Imagine if she cheated on you first, you probably wouldn't be able to see her the same way. You can't expect her to forgive you and forget about it.
Dude you cheated, you hurt her and yet you’ve the victim lol