I just want to say "yes" to everything you said, as usual, and to real ice cream. Not ice cream made from bananas. Not Halo Top or another "lite" version. Real food for real people with real talk. Keep rocking, woman. You're quickly becoming one of my favorite Internet people in a non-creepy way.
You are such a warm, kind, funny and intelligent woman Megsy. Every vlog of yours makes me smile and laugh out loud :) You have helped me sooooo much! Thank you for sharing your journey with us :)! Greetings from Belgium!
I legit went out and got ice cream from the grocery store last night because I watched the video where you ate ice cream and I craved it for hours and then just decided I needed to go and do it. And I did. And I made it out without crying (came very close, but didn't cry haha)! Love love love your videos, they are so helpful!
You’re always the best you. No one else can be you, let alone a better version of you. One of my mantras is ‘meet yourself where you are, not where you’re aiming to be’.
I honestly adore you gorgeous girl. You are so open and honest and although you struggle you seem so aware of your disorder and that is such a beautiful thing. Where you are living is where my disorder first started so I feel an odd connection to you. Sending love gorgeous girl xx
Oh honestly? Yeh I think it’s quite the place for it, if you know what I mean! Hope you’re on a good path now & managing to get some life & you back 😘😘😘
Megsy Recovery oh absolutely the place haha. I was born and raised in Sydney, Australia and went there when I was 12! I think it was a combination of the change, age etc etc. 22 now and back in Australia, but aim to go back and visit soon! Keep fighting, you beautiful human xx
This video is basically me just expecting perfection in everything I do but not holding the rest of the world up to those standards. Thank you so much for sharing your take and what you do. I think that, in my case, the orthorexia or obsession with clean eating only came as another side effect of wanting to do everything perfect which only back fires in the end.
There you are, spilling your lovely heart, and the cat is looking off saying, "Yeah, you talk, Human. But I'm completely perfect and we both know it." On days when I struggle most with my own expectations, I remember that perfectionism is merely choosing to be lonely and small. I'm a creative person, and being generous with mistakes is the only way to heal:) Hooray for you and thank you!
I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for your bravery in sharing your journey and documenting your struggles and experiences. I’m currently in recovery from AN myself and have found it extremely difficult to explain my thoughts and feelings, or indeed verbalise them! You have made me feel so much less alone in the world and I have shared your videos with my parents in the hope that they can understand that bit more. Sometimes you explain things and it’s like you’re in my head! So much love for you and your beautiful personality. Again, Thankyou. I wish you all the best in the world and I hope with all my heart you fully break free from this horrific illness and live your life to the full, just as you want to❤️ Emily, Manchester, England 😊
Oh my god I wish ALLLL of that for you as well lovely! That’s so nice your parents are wanting to understand & help. It can be hard to get your head around. Keep fighting it, there’s so much more fun to be had when we’re away from EDs 😘
My dad used to tell me 'every meal doesn't need to be a feckin Japanese tea party!!' and every time I get the urge to reheat a meal or something like that, I think of him saying this! . Overthinking leads to over obsession and overtaking and it's a vicious cycle!
Wow. All I can say is that I was so amazed and inspired by your speech about perfection and people loving you even if you don’t reach it. I’ve always struggled with my self esteem around grades and body Image, which eventually resulted in unhealthy eating habits. Im so grateful that my family noticed this early and got me help before I got to a critically low weight or anything, but I often find it hard to eat that little bit more just because I was never a ‘low enough’ weight, somehow meaning that my recovery is invalid. It’s people like you that really help me get through the day so I cannot thank you enough. Keep doing what you’re doing, you are amazing, ❤️
Thank you! Fellow perfectionist here 🤦🏼♀️It's so exhausting! And the satisfaction so short lived! It seems that your vlogs/blog/comments have helped me to finally jump on the recovery bandwagon after saying and thinking I might want to for a while but not thinking I deserved it or quite being able to put my thoughts into actions. So here we go! I don't need to punish myself anymore, my ed won't fix my problems long term, I am "ill enough" even though I've been lower in weight before and I deserve to be happy. Thank you 💙
I’ve also been lower in weight before & that was a big sticking point for me getting treatment. But then I thought, so do I want to live rest of my life with my head like this just because my body’s not as skinny as it has been?! You’ll never suddenly find happiness in your ED, you’ll just lose more years trying to. Massive good luck, you’re lovely & deserve to be happy. I always really like your comments by the way, they’re really caring. Thank you 😘
Megsy Recovery thank you! 😁 yes exactly! Lower will never be low enough. I kept telling myself I would start recovering once I got a bit worse (so that I would consider myself sick enough to need it) but what kind of twisted logic is that?? At some point I will need to stop this (or die) and start gaining weight (and my life), so I might as well start now. Besides, I felt AWFUL at my lowest weight, why on earth would I want to feel like that again?? You're comment about "never feeling ready" also really hit home for me. It was always "tomorrow" but tomorrow never came. I want to be able to enjoy my holiday with energy and without worrying about what/where/how I'll eat and so many other things that I'm going to sacrifice if I continue the way I have been. Anyway, enough about me. Out of interest, what was your "turning point" from relapse to recovery this time? Or was in not really anything specific (don't share if you'd rather not 💜). Have a great day and battle on! We've got this 💪
The way you speak of how we perform in school, our job, and how we compare ourselves to others...it is exactly how I feel. I am always paranoid I am not perfect enough for mu mom, my sister, my boss at work...i also start thinking if i am thin enough, pretty enough, smart enough, dressed well enough... and it ALL HAS TO BE DONE AT THE SAME TIME. I make myself sick over it. I don't feel so alone now, and I thank you for making this video. You are inspiring.
I've only recently started watching your videos and I'm so happy that I have. You are constantly positive and supportive and you have such a beautiful soul. I don't understand why the world puts good people through such shit but I'm so proud of you for fighting and being here today and inspiring others to do the same! I wish you nothing but the best for your recovery and your followers are always here if u need them! xx
Oh my god Meg, can totally relate to this. I think part of my ED came from wanting to be the best at something as I was like you and always an 'in the middle' person...but we need to think that being perfect (whatever that is) or the best at something or whatever doesn't really say anything about us as a person or make us have a better life or be liked more. I used to think all of this but I am now slowly trying to not think it as much and just be me and not copy, compare or try to force my body to be anything other than me. Love you!!!! xxx
Yessssss exactly, we are who we are. We're shaped how we're shaped, as smart as our brains are built, as tidy as we can be arsed to be haha..... We can compare to others and hate how we're naturally made and try to fix it all we want... But we wont change whats natural to us.... And then we will just be miserable because we're fighting against our natural state and forcing ourselves to be something we're not. This is a BIG topic for me!
thank you for this! i recognise so much for needing to be perfect. i always felt like i needed to be the perfect dancer and i took it to the extreem.. now i'm physically allowed to dance again. but i'm to scared to start because it has been years and i think i will be no where near good enough/perfect to allow myself to dance again.. but i mis it sooo much
Love this video! Perfectionism can be so hard to work through and move past. Thanks for talking about it and being so real and honest! You are awesome girl, keep doing you!! :)
Thank you for making these videos! You have helped me so much! I love listening to you talk, and it’s comforting to know someone else had/is going through the same things as me! I get so worked up if I don’t do things perfect :/ Thanks again!
I've been working on perfectionism in therapy this week, so this was really helpful. I like what you said about how there will always be someone better or more whatever than you, but there will never be anyone exactly who you are. I never thought about how like anorexia perfection is, like constantly moving the goalposts and always requiring ridiculous effort to maintain. In therapy we were talking about how perfection is not actually achievable, it's a theoretical concept that doesn't take account of real world conditions. We came up with the phrase 'real-world perfection' and 'the sweet spot', which are better places to aim at - the place where you get the best balance of EVERYthing, INCLUDING what is most achievable, comfortable, and sustainable - and that really helps me to aim for instead. I giggled about your cats! I'm imagining them having a chat at night, going, Stevie: "i hope she makes another video tomorrow coz she always wipes something yummy on me," Beyonce: "yeah, i know right! I hope she has those chocolate oats agin because omg WOW!" Stevie: "right?! I'm not so sure about the mayonnaise though. I mean it was nice, but then i found some carrot-cake icing behind my other ear and idk it just didn't really go together." Beyonce: "Hmmf you have no taste. Next time, call ME, and i'll have it. I am an aristocat and i have a sophisticated palate..." Stevie: Do Ben & Jerry make salmon flavour? PS thanks for the book idea! I needed a new audiobook so i got a rachel abbott one to try :)
Oh my god this is so funny! I just laughed at the rugby & my fiend was like “what you laughing at?”. Hahaha. “Errr, nothing”. So funny, haha thank you 😘😘
oh my gosh i totally relate to food imperfection! when i was in treatment my sandwich had a hole in and i threw a literal tantrum...today my bagel fell in the sink when i was making it (there was no water in it thankfully!) and i was like ah well going to eat it anyway cos your girl aint gunna waste that expensive marmite! Keep making videos, they brighten up my day! xxxx
Hahahaha food tantrums! I cried in the cinema with Brendan because my ice cream got a bit melted hahahaha. That was a proper WTF sort your shit out moment haha. Food doesn’t have to be perfect!
Hi Meg, I just wanted to say that I really enjoy your channel. Your thoughts on anorexia really put things into perspective for me. Your videos are very helpful and I adore your personality! I love how you're always laughing at yourself and trying to share your food with your cats! Thank you for sharing part of your journey ♥ Sara
Ooh wow, yea..I can relate to just everything..at the very end about you asking Brenden if he wanted an ice cream..oooh man...I get that a lot..feeling of guilty and gross...idk where it comes from but it seems really wierd and sad. But yea...I get it, proud of you for keeping recovery up. I do really like you as you are, imperfect... 😎👍🖤🌟I've been seeing a lot of other recovery people talking about the whole thing about the he thigh gap...this is another thing hard for me...what goes through your mind about something like this..about your body. I love you support and encouragement...Megsy is amaz-balls 😎👍🤘💕
This so resonates with me. It is so true that perfectionism is an unattainable state and so damn exhausting. I work on this quite a bit so it was perfect 😂hahahah, to have this be your next vlog. Thank you for this vlog and your honesty. I could never share so much of me out loud. Love following you. 🧡 Now, off to have a lovely imperfect Saturday with my love!
I struggle with perfectionism so much, especially with my Alevels. I always want to get the top grades and even when I get those grades I feel more pressure because I feel I need to maintain it. Then the perfectionism just spreads to every other aspect and it gets hard to overcome it. I actually failed my driving test this week which was so hard for me because I don't deal well with failing at things, however it's actually been a really helpful experience for me because I've been able to get through it and think about everything more positively!
Mate, I got 3 seriouses on my first driving test haha. & it was when I was obsessed with getting 100% in my a levels. I look back on that time now & I really don’t care what grades I got, I’m just so sad I missed out on having fun with my friends & being in the world!
So funny!!! :-D It reminds me of an incident where I wanted to bake a deep-frozen pizza in the oven... Until today I honestly don't know want went wrong, even if I managed to set the oven correctly in terms of temperature and programme, but in the end the pizza was still frozen in the middle and the dough was still not fully baked, what I recognised AFTER having tried a piece of it. But the cheese and tomato topping was fine and I was so extremely hungry. Well yes sometimes food does not have to be perfect :-D
Perfectly imperfect blog! 😀 Who or what inspired you start your channel? So brave that you have stepped outside your comfort zone and doing this, you are so strong already that you are able to do this! My perfectionism has really made me burned out, not able to work any more and caused a lot of physical symptoms/ED! Still working on recovering from them. Like you said, it's hard work and not comfortable at all! Totally different question: is peanut butter still a bit of a fear food for you or is it coincidence that you end up with it at your breakfast?
I was watching jen Brett & Stephanie Marie & fancied a go at my own channel. & PB kind of is a fear food yes; but more so I think I save the highest calorie thing til last still. I need to work on that!
One at a time, you are already tackling so many things and doing a great job! For me PB is also high on the list. And also cake! I saw the one your father gave you, that looked amazing!
Hi could you maybe touch on how to feel okay eating alone in recovery? I have recently just started and have my meal plan etc and so passionate about getting better but when I’m on my own I have the ‘food wall’ type thing you’ve spoke about before. Il have to eat at least 2 meals and a snack on my own most days and haven’t been able to do it but I desperately want too. I feel guilty for eating then guilty for not eating ! 🤯 I’m sure it’s a common thing but I was just wondering how you have over come this 💕💕💕💕
I also feel the pressure to be perfect in recovery and not to disappoint anyone because everyone is so desperate for me to overcome this and I feel like I SHOULD be able to do it since I really WANT to. Bit of a cluster fuck really 🤧
Good question, I have the same problem! Wanting to change, but when I am on my own I am too scared to take step! Too afraid to eat according to the meal plan!
Baby blue Eyes have someone to keep you accountable for three meals and snacks. It helps a lost, and even if your ED brain fights it in the moment, long term it’s good for you and helps to get rid of ED by fighting it
Saskia in Wonderland hiiii, yes good question & I have said this before. But Bren had a good point that I should use that to fuel wanting to get better. & it’s not really US that are disordered. He wants to be with the real YOU & so the better you get in recovery the more of you there will be in the relationship. I wouldn’t stay with Bren if I was planning to be AN for the rest of my life, because it wouldn’t be fair, but given you’re in recovery you shouldn’t feel guilty. You can’t help that you got ill, & it’s not the real you, & just do all you can now to get yourself better & find the YOU inside. If that makes sense: hope that helps 😘
I'm SUCH a perfectionist. It's so annoying. I've literally done whole exam papers (practice not real hehe) three times because they weren't neat enough. But I'm trying to challenge that, like I'm doing my mocks at the moment, and I've been forced to prioritise certain subjects over others. Months ago that would have BROKEN ME, but now I'm thinking more like, well I couldn't do it all, I couldn't, and that's ok
i literally feel exactly the same about the perfectionism with grades and everything like i dont expect anyone to be perfect except myself like WHAT? :))
When you are going to eat laying down like that next time because you need to stretch your tum, use a bendy straw. You can use it to stir the chocolate milk instead of swirling it and risking it sloshing out everywhere, and you can drink it easily without tipping the cup and risk spilling. Also, maybe lay on the floor instead of your bed so you don’t stain your bedding. :) and watch whatever it is you want to watch on your iPad so you don’t have to worry about ruining your hard drive if your spill, you aren’t going to ruin your iPad, it won’t be sitting in it because it will be propped up. Just some ideas!
Really? I try not to make it too personal because I thought people would care more about a recovery topic that and then I just slot in some examples or experiences.
Yes please. For me you are an inspiration, and I would love to know the story of my favourite warrior ;) (sorry if my Engish is very bad, btw lots of love from Spain)
I just lost my shit for an entire week over a B+ that was worth 20% of my grade. I was so convinced that I would never get the career I want and life wouldn't be worth living (I even convinced my therapist that I was failing!) Around the same time I also spent an entire day trembling because I forgot to submit an assignment that was worth 1%. Looking back I can't believe what a gross overreaction that was, it's actually kind of embarrassing haha! I relate to what you mean about being numb in restriction. I remember having breakdowns regularly but otherwise I was very numb and calm. And by the way, I tried the avocado on crackers and they were amazing! Side Note: I hear a lot of negative stuff about kindle readers, how is yours holding up? Do you like it?
Oh noooo! Yeh I look back on my exams I think “what a waste of time” 😂😂 haha. Because once you’ve done enough to get into uni or whatever (which is probably a lot less than we expect we need to do) you really don’t need to keep going. Any extra work is just time spent missing out in fun!
Kindle.... I love mine. It’s just a bit slow because it’s like a proper tablet, has Facebook on it & all sorts. I think they went a bit too fancy if I’m honest
Such an important issue, thanks for addressing it! Have you watched Brene Brown's research on perfectionism? ua-cam.com/video/o7yYFHyvweE/v-deo.html. Also, I was wondering how you feel about travel in recovery since you're going to India soon for work? And do you ever find that your life right now is consumed with recovery and what do you do to ensure its a priority but not the centre of your life hence have a balance?
I’m just posting a vlog this minute about coping with change & travel (eg India). The other topic is a good one. Are you on instagram? Can we private message on there?
Also just wanted to say that you've come so far and I hope you look back every so often and reflect just how much you've grown as a person. Well done Meg. Well done for all your hard work. You're doing such a good job.
Thankyou for this video. It reminds me of the sweet honey bear song ua-cam.com/video/1oQfagXfBqE/v-deo.html :P One of my friends has 'perfection is boring' as a tattoo, and I really like that quote.
Love you love you Megs. Thank you 💖 Its comforting to know that I’m not the only one working through stuff. Do you have any advice on seeing a dietician/ED therapist for the first time? I know I need outside help to get me to eat, like a meal plan or therapist or someone or something, but I’ve got no idea where to start.
Where do you live? When I found mine I actually just googled it because the lady is private. But when I first went I just went to my doctor & they referred me to specialist services
Megsy Recovery im seeing a therapist for my ED who works through the school I attend. Neither of us have discussed getting additional “food help”, I guess, and I guess I feel weird being the first one to bring it up. Saying to my therapist “I need more help, who do I see?” Kinda seems like cheating. Like I’m not actually “bad enough” until SHE tells ME I should see a dietician. I shouldn’t be telling her. Ah well, it’s all so confusing :/ thank you for your help though, your channel is really uplifting and helpful
Noah Bradford it’s your life though! You can’t stay trapped or unhappy because you’re scared about saying something to her. You both have the same goal, for you to be free & happy... so whatever helps you get there 😘
Eating overnight oats, while watching Megs eat oats, while watching other recovery blogs, what a cycle of goodness 😂❤️
Hahahahaha amazing 😍😍😍
I just want to say "yes" to everything you said, as usual, and to real ice cream. Not ice cream made from bananas. Not Halo Top or another "lite" version. Real food for real people with real talk. Keep rocking, woman. You're quickly becoming one of my favorite Internet people in a non-creepy way.
Hahaha love it, be as creepy as you want hun 😂
You've helped me so much. I hope I'll be able to get to where you are mentally one day, it's hard to change habits you've conditioned yourself to. :(
You are such a warm, kind, funny and intelligent woman Megsy. Every vlog of yours makes me smile and laugh out loud :) You have helped me sooooo much! Thank you for sharing your journey with us :)! Greetings from Belgium!
Wonderful. They make me laugh out loud too 😘😘
I legit went out and got ice cream from the grocery store last night because I watched the video where you ate ice cream and I craved it for hours and then just decided I needed to go and do it. And I did. And I made it out without crying (came very close, but didn't cry haha)!
Love love love your videos, they are so helpful!
You’re always the best you. No one else can be you, let alone a better version of you. One of my mantras is ‘meet yourself where you are, not where you’re aiming to be’.
I honestly adore you gorgeous girl. You are so open and honest and although you struggle you seem so aware of your disorder and that is such a beautiful thing. Where you are living is where my disorder first started so I feel an odd connection to you. Sending love gorgeous girl xx
Oh honestly? Yeh I think it’s quite the place for it, if you know what I mean! Hope you’re on a good path now & managing to get some life & you back 😘😘😘
Megsy Recovery oh absolutely the place haha. I was born and raised in Sydney, Australia and went there when I was 12! I think it was a combination of the change, age etc etc. 22 now and back in Australia, but aim to go back and visit soon! Keep fighting, you beautiful human xx
"It never stops" so true! There will always be another aim.
Thanks Meg, it's a little mantra to note down "good enough is good enough" . Have a great weekend beauitful light.
This video is basically me just expecting perfection in everything I do but not holding the rest of the world up to those standards. Thank you so much for sharing your take and what you do. I think that, in my case, the orthorexia or obsession with clean eating only came as another side effect of wanting to do everything perfect which only back fires in the end.
There you are, spilling your lovely heart, and the cat is looking off saying, "Yeah, you talk, Human. But I'm completely perfect and we both know it." On days when I struggle most with my own expectations, I remember that perfectionism is merely choosing to be lonely and small. I'm a creative person, and being generous with mistakes is the only way to heal:) Hooray for you and thank you!
Hahahaha Beyoncé so is 😹
I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for your bravery in sharing your journey and documenting your struggles and experiences. I’m currently in recovery from AN myself and have found it extremely difficult to explain my thoughts and feelings, or indeed verbalise them! You have made me feel so much less alone in the world and I have shared your videos with my parents in the hope that they can understand that bit more. Sometimes you explain things and it’s like you’re in my head! So much love for you and your beautiful personality. Again, Thankyou. I wish you all the best in the world and I hope with all my heart you fully break free from this horrific illness and live your life to the full, just as you want to❤️ Emily, Manchester, England 😊
Oh my god I wish ALLLL of that for you as well lovely! That’s so nice your parents are wanting to understand & help. It can be hard to get your head around. Keep fighting it, there’s so much more fun to be had when we’re away from EDs 😘
My dad used to tell me 'every meal doesn't need to be a feckin Japanese tea party!!' and every time I get the urge to reheat a meal or something like that, I think of him saying this! . Overthinking leads to over obsession and overtaking and it's a vicious cycle!
i love this one! i am always scared of not being 'perfect' whether its in looks , life, or schooling
Wow. All I can say is that I was so amazed and inspired by your speech about perfection and people loving you even if you don’t reach it. I’ve always struggled with my self esteem around grades and body Image, which eventually resulted in unhealthy eating habits. Im so grateful that my family noticed this early and got me help before I got to a critically low weight or anything, but I often find it hard to eat that little bit more just because I was never a ‘low enough’ weight, somehow meaning that my recovery is invalid. It’s people like you that really help me get through the day so I cannot thank you enough. Keep doing what you’re doing, you are amazing, ❤️
Thank you! Fellow perfectionist here 🤦🏼♀️It's so exhausting! And the satisfaction so short lived! It seems that your vlogs/blog/comments have helped me to finally jump on the recovery bandwagon after saying and thinking I might want to for a while but not thinking I deserved it or quite being able to put my thoughts into actions. So here we go! I don't need to punish myself anymore, my ed won't fix my problems long term, I am "ill enough" even though I've been lower in weight before and I deserve to be happy. Thank you 💙
I’ve also been lower in weight before & that was a big sticking point for me getting treatment. But then I thought, so do I want to live rest of my life with my head like this just because my body’s not as skinny as it has been?! You’ll never suddenly find happiness in your ED, you’ll just lose more years trying to. Massive good luck, you’re lovely & deserve to be happy. I always really like your comments by the way, they’re really caring. Thank you 😘
Megsy Recovery thank you! 😁 yes exactly! Lower will never be low enough. I kept telling myself I would start recovering once I got a bit worse (so that I would consider myself sick enough to need it) but what kind of twisted logic is that?? At some point I will need to stop this (or die) and start gaining weight (and my life), so I might as well start now. Besides, I felt AWFUL at my lowest weight, why on earth would I want to feel like that again?? You're comment about "never feeling ready" also really hit home for me. It was always "tomorrow" but tomorrow never came. I want to be able to enjoy my holiday with energy and without worrying about what/where/how I'll eat and so many other things that I'm going to sacrifice if I continue the way I have been. Anyway, enough about me. Out of interest, what was your "turning point" from relapse to recovery this time? Or was in not really anything specific (don't share if you'd rather not 💜). Have a great day and battle on! We've got this 💪
The way you speak of how we perform in school, our job, and how we compare ourselves to others...it is exactly how I feel. I am always paranoid I am not perfect enough for mu mom, my sister, my boss at work...i also start thinking if i am thin enough, pretty enough, smart enough, dressed well enough... and it ALL HAS TO BE DONE AT THE SAME TIME. I make myself sick over it. I don't feel so alone now, and I thank you for making this video. You are inspiring.
Oh my god perfection is so exhausting isn’t it! We deserve a bloody break, honestly. Life is tooooo short!
ive been anorexic for over 20 yrs and I stubbled across you have to say you have given me true hope and determination to get on with life :)
I've only recently started watching your videos and I'm so happy that I have. You are constantly positive and supportive and you have such a beautiful soul. I don't understand why the world puts good people through such shit but I'm so proud of you for fighting and being here today and inspiring others to do the same! I wish you nothing but the best for your recovery and your followers are always here if u need them! xx
So sweet thank you! Yeh it’s a horrible experience but it kind of makes you more aware I guess. Really hope the videos help 😘
imperfections are what makes us all more relatable, I really love your transparency.
Meg I love that you're so perfectly imperfect! You make my day & encourage me so much in my recovery, thank you 😍
I never realized I was a perfectionist untill I watched this. This helped me so much Meg, thank you so much! 💕💕
Oh my god Meg, can totally relate to this. I think part of my ED came from wanting to be the best at something as I was like you and always an 'in the middle' person...but we need to think that being perfect (whatever that is) or the best at something or whatever doesn't really say anything about us as a person or make us have a better life or be liked more. I used to think all of this but I am now slowly trying to not think it as much and just be me and not copy, compare or try to force my body to be anything other than me. Love you!!!! xxx
Yessssss exactly, we are who we are. We're shaped how we're shaped, as smart as our brains are built, as tidy as we can be arsed to be haha..... We can compare to others and hate how we're naturally made and try to fix it all we want... But we wont change whats natural to us.... And then we will just be miserable because we're fighting against our natural state and forcing ourselves to be something we're not. This is a BIG topic for me!
thank you for this! i recognise so much for needing to be perfect. i always felt like i needed to be the perfect dancer and i took it to the extreem.. now i'm physically allowed to dance again. but i'm to scared to start because it has been years and i think i will be no where near good enough/perfect to allow myself to dance again.. but i mis it sooo much
Noooo, don’t let perfection or fear of imperfection get in the way of things you love. It’s so debilitating isn’t it!!
Love this video! Perfectionism can be so hard to work through and move past. Thanks for talking about it and being so real and honest! You are awesome girl, keep doing you!! :)
Thank you for making these videos! You have helped me so much! I love listening to you talk, and it’s comforting to know someone else had/is going through the same things as me! I get so worked up if I don’t do things perfect :/ Thanks again!
Such a waste of our lives isn’t it!
I've been working on perfectionism in therapy this week, so this was really helpful. I like what you said about how there will always be someone better or more whatever than you, but there will never be anyone exactly who you are. I never thought about how like anorexia perfection is, like constantly moving the goalposts and always requiring ridiculous effort to maintain.
In therapy we were talking about how perfection is not actually achievable, it's a theoretical concept that doesn't take account of real world conditions. We came up with the phrase 'real-world perfection' and 'the sweet spot', which are better places to aim at - the place where you get the best balance of EVERYthing, INCLUDING what is most achievable, comfortable, and sustainable - and that really helps me to aim for instead.
I giggled about your cats! I'm imagining them having a chat at night, going,
Stevie: "i hope she makes another video tomorrow coz she always wipes something yummy on me,"
Beyonce: "yeah, i know right! I hope she has those chocolate oats agin because omg WOW!"
Stevie: "right?! I'm not so sure about the mayonnaise though. I mean it was nice, but then i found some carrot-cake icing behind my other ear and idk it just didn't really go together."
Beyonce: "Hmmf you have no taste. Next time, call ME, and i'll have it. I am an aristocat and i have a sophisticated palate..."
Stevie: Do Ben & Jerry make salmon flavour?
PS thanks for the book idea! I needed a new audiobook so i got a rachel abbott one to try :)
Oh my god this is so funny! I just laughed at the rugby & my fiend was like “what you laughing at?”. Hahaha. “Errr, nothing”. So funny, haha thank you 😘😘
Wait til you see the latest video I’m making. Beyoncé’s tail gets covered in peanut butter & chocolate 😂
Perfect motivational start to my morning 💕👊🏻💕✌🏻️💕 You never fail to brighten up my day Meg! Don't ever change.....your amazing! 🌸 xxxxxxxx
oh my gosh i totally relate to food imperfection! when i was in treatment my sandwich had a hole in and i threw a literal tantrum...today my bagel fell in the sink when i was making it (there was no water in it thankfully!) and i was like ah well going to eat it anyway cos your girl aint gunna waste that expensive marmite! Keep making videos, they brighten up my day! xxxx
Hahahaha food tantrums! I cried in the cinema with Brendan because my ice cream got a bit melted hahahaha. That was a proper WTF sort your shit out moment haha. Food doesn’t have to be perfect!
I’m such a perfectionist and totally have black and white thinking ! This video helped a lot :)
Thankyou so much for this! Despite only just recently subscribing I relate so so much to your journey & love watching you whilst eating my meals xxxx
Welcome 🤗 so glad to be there whilst you’re eating 😘
Hi Meg, I just wanted to say that I really enjoy your channel. Your thoughts on anorexia really put things into perspective for me. Your videos are very helpful and I adore your personality! I love how you're always laughing at yourself and trying to share your food with your cats! Thank you for sharing part of your journey ♥ Sara
Yeh Beyoncé’s not big on the food is she haha. Also I don’t think I should crack up so much on my own hahaha. Glad you can relate though 😘😘😂
Thank you for starting my day on a good note! :)
Ooh wow, yea..I can relate to just everything..at the very end about you asking Brenden if he wanted an ice cream..oooh man...I get that a lot..feeling of guilty and gross...idk where it comes from but it seems really wierd and sad. But yea...I get it, proud of you for keeping recovery up. I do really like you as you are, imperfect... 😎👍🖤🌟I've been seeing a lot of other recovery people talking about the whole thing about the he thigh gap...this is another thing hard for me...what goes through your mind about something like this..about your body. I love you support and encouragement...Megsy is amaz-balls 😎👍🤘💕
Deyanira Ramos yeh that’s really tough for me. I’ll do a vlog on it for you 😘
I wish I could talk to my Mom about all this stuff. Thank you! My biggest problems stem from perfectionism.
Oh bless you. Mine too! Could you show her the vlog?
Yes team ice cream!!!! It's my fav too! Thanks to recovery :)
This so resonates with me. It is so true that perfectionism is an unattainable state and so damn exhausting. I work on this quite a bit so it was perfect 😂hahahah, to have this be your next vlog. Thank you for this vlog and your honesty. I could never share so much of me out loud. Love following you. 🧡 Now, off to have a lovely imperfect Saturday with my love!
Yesss fabulous! Go & be a wonderful imperfect human 😘
Megsy Recovery ☀️
I struggle with perfectionism so much, especially with my Alevels. I always want to get the top grades and even when I get those grades I feel more pressure because I feel I need to maintain it. Then the perfectionism just spreads to every other aspect and it gets hard to overcome it. I actually failed my driving test this week which was so hard for me because I don't deal well with failing at things, however it's actually been a really helpful experience for me because I've been able to get through it and think about everything more positively!
Mate, I got 3 seriouses on my first driving test haha. & it was when I was obsessed with getting 100% in my a levels. I look back on that time now & I really don’t care what grades I got, I’m just so sad I missed out on having fun with my friends & being in the world!
Seriously love you!! Very thankful for your videos!
So funny!!! :-D It reminds me of an incident where I wanted to bake a deep-frozen pizza in the oven... Until today I honestly don't know want went wrong, even if I managed to set the oven correctly in terms of temperature and programme, but in the end the pizza was still frozen in the middle and the dough was still not fully baked, what I recognised AFTER having tried a piece of it. But the cheese and tomato topping was fine and I was so extremely hungry. Well yes sometimes food does not have to be perfect :-D
First off, love ur videos. But secondly I LOVE UR JUMPER where’s u get it??? (Sorry if that’s weird but I tried to find it online and couldn’t 😂)
Lara Flynn I don’t think they sell it at Abercrombie any more. I went back to try & but more 😝
Perfectly imperfect blog! 😀 Who or what inspired you start your channel? So brave that you have stepped outside your comfort zone and doing this, you are so strong already that you are able to do this! My perfectionism has really made me burned out, not able to work any more and caused a lot of physical symptoms/ED! Still working on recovering from them. Like you said, it's hard work and not comfortable at all! Totally different question: is peanut butter still a bit of a fear food for you or is it coincidence that you end up with it at your breakfast?
I was watching jen Brett & Stephanie Marie & fancied a go at my own channel. & PB kind of is a fear food yes; but more so I think I save the highest calorie thing til last still. I need to work on that!
One at a time, you are already tackling so many things and doing a great job! For me PB is also high on the list. And also cake! I saw the one your father gave you, that looked amazing!
Hi could you maybe touch on how to feel okay eating alone in recovery? I have recently just started and have my meal plan etc and so passionate about getting better but when I’m on my own I have the ‘food wall’ type thing you’ve spoke about before. Il have to eat at least 2 meals and a snack on my own most days and haven’t been able to do it but I desperately want too. I feel guilty for eating then guilty for not eating ! 🤯 I’m sure it’s a common thing but I was just wondering how you have over come this 💕💕💕💕
I also feel the pressure to be perfect in recovery and not to disappoint anyone because everyone is so desperate for me to overcome this and I feel like I SHOULD be able to do it since I really WANT to. Bit of a cluster fuck really 🤧
Good question, I have the same problem! Wanting to change, but when I am on my own I am too scared to take step! Too afraid to eat according to the meal plan!
Baby blue Eyes have someone to keep you accountable for three meals and snacks. It helps a lost, and even if your ED brain fights it in the moment, long term it’s good for you and helps to get rid of ED by fighting it
I love your videos!!!
Thank you so much for this video ❤ I've been wondering so much lately, why is it that we even thonk a more slender body IS more perfect?!
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Saskia in Wonderland hiiii, yes good question & I have said this before. But Bren had a good point that I should use that to fuel wanting to get better. & it’s not really US that are disordered. He wants to be with the real YOU & so the better you get in recovery the more of you there will be in the relationship. I wouldn’t stay with Bren if I was planning to be AN for the rest of my life, because it wouldn’t be fair, but given you’re in recovery you shouldn’t feel guilty. You can’t help that you got ill, & it’s not the real you, & just do all you can now to get yourself better & find the YOU inside. If that makes sense: hope that helps 😘
That’s the difference between values and goals
I'm SUCH a perfectionist. It's so annoying. I've literally done whole exam papers (practice not real hehe) three times because they weren't neat enough. But I'm trying to challenge that, like I'm doing my mocks at the moment, and I've been forced to prioritise certain subjects over others. Months ago that would have BROKEN ME, but now I'm thinking more like, well I couldn't do it all, I couldn't, and that's ok
Exactly, we can do what we can do, but we also have to live our lives. GOOD ENOUGH IS GOOD ENOUGH!!!
i literally feel exactly the same about the perfectionism with grades and everything like i dont expect anyone to be perfect except myself like WHAT? :))
Indie Lifeex Yep, keep trying to treat yourself how you’d treat others. Perfections actually quite a boring trait 😂😂
Kayla Rose talks about overshoot and I am right on the edge of my high range, but still don’t have a period, etc. Opinions on overshoot theory?
Ps. Super guilty of perfectionist Ibc mentality. I’m rewriting my thinking in recovering and helping my kiddos to not head down that road as well.
When you are going to eat laying down like that next time because you need to stretch your tum, use a bendy straw. You can use it to stir the chocolate milk instead of swirling it and risking it sloshing out everywhere, and you can drink it easily without tipping the cup and risk spilling. Also, maybe lay on the floor instead of your bed so you don’t stain your bedding. :) and watch whatever it is you want to watch on your iPad so you don’t have to worry about ruining your hard drive if your spill, you aren’t going to ruin your iPad, it won’t be sitting in it because it will be propped up.
Just some ideas!
Hahahaha brilliant suggestions. Practical & smart. Thank you 😂😘
Do video of recovery update please...How do you feel? What changes have you noticed?
Really? I try not to make it too personal because I thought people would care more about a recovery topic that and then I just slot in some examples or experiences.
Yes please. For me you are an inspiration, and I would love to know the story of my favourite warrior ;) (sorry if my Engish is very bad, btw lots of love from Spain)
Sometimes unintentional food touching tastes THE BEST. I have found some of my favorite foods unintentionally that way. Maybe you will too!
I just lost my shit for an entire week over a B+ that was worth 20% of my grade. I was so convinced that I would never get the career I want and life wouldn't be worth living (I even convinced my therapist that I was failing!) Around the same time I also spent an entire day trembling because I forgot to submit an assignment that was worth 1%. Looking back I can't believe what a gross overreaction that was, it's actually kind of embarrassing haha! I relate to what you mean about being numb in restriction. I remember having breakdowns regularly but otherwise I was very numb and calm. And by the way, I tried the avocado on crackers and they were amazing!
Side Note: I hear a lot of negative stuff about kindle readers, how is yours holding up? Do you like it?
Oh noooo! Yeh I look back on my exams I think “what a waste of time” 😂😂 haha. Because once you’ve done enough to get into uni or whatever (which is probably a lot less than we expect we need to do) you really don’t need to keep going. Any extra work is just time spent missing out in fun!
Kindle.... I love mine. It’s just a bit slow because it’s like a proper tablet, has Facebook on it & all sorts. I think they went a bit too fancy if I’m honest
what kind of tea do you drink?
Where do you live? So sunny ☀️❤️
Such an important issue, thanks for addressing it! Have you watched Brene Brown's research on perfectionism? ua-cam.com/video/o7yYFHyvweE/v-deo.html. Also, I was wondering how you feel about travel in recovery since you're going to India soon for work? And do you ever find that your life right now is consumed with recovery and what do you do to ensure its a priority but not the centre of your life hence have a balance?
Thank you so much, I’ll watch this. I LOVE Brene Brown, I’ve watched her Ted talks on shame loads. I’ll watch this 😘
I’m just posting a vlog this minute about coping with change & travel (eg India). The other topic is a good one. Are you on instagram? Can we private message on there?
I'm not but I'd love to private message. I think you're inspiring me to open an account and upload some dodgy photos!
Also just wanted to say that you've come so far and I hope you look back every so often and reflect just how much you've grown as a person. Well done Meg. Well done for all your hard work. You're doing such a good job.
Rebecca Seehoo if you do get it send me a message!
i love your channel so much it really helps me! i was wondering, where are you living? it looks stunning! :)
I started eating oats
where do you live? it looks like dubai lol
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Thankyou for this video. It reminds me of the sweet honey bear song ua-cam.com/video/1oQfagXfBqE/v-deo.html :P One of my friends has 'perfection is boring' as a tattoo, and I really like that quote.
Alba Gizal just watched this song with Brendan. We love it! It’s so cute 💛💛💛
Yay :D
Love you love you Megs. Thank you 💖 Its comforting to know that I’m not the only one working through stuff. Do you have any advice on seeing a dietician/ED therapist for the first time? I know I need outside help to get me to eat, like a meal plan or therapist or someone or something, but I’ve got no idea where to start.
Where do you live? When I found mine I actually just googled it because the lady is private. But when I first went I just went to my doctor & they referred me to specialist services
Megsy Recovery im seeing a therapist for my ED who works through the school I attend. Neither of us have discussed getting additional “food help”, I guess, and I guess I feel weird being the first one to bring it up. Saying to my therapist “I need more help, who do I see?” Kinda seems like cheating. Like I’m not actually “bad enough” until SHE tells ME I should see a dietician. I shouldn’t be telling her. Ah well, it’s all so confusing :/ thank you for your help though, your channel is really uplifting and helpful
Noah Bradford it’s your life though! You can’t stay trapped or unhappy because you’re scared about saying something to her. You both have the same goal, for you to be free & happy... so whatever helps you get there 😘