I'm learning to be a kid again at 58.
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In this video, I explore how taking more risks is transforming my life in my 50s. Drawing from personal experiences, I share moments when I dared to step outside my comfort zone and the powerful lessons I learned from those decisions. I also break down a formula I developed to help me (and you?) understand better the process of risk-taking, which is instrumental to living a richer life.
I then dive into the challenges of droning (yes, droning!) and navigating French culture and the language, both of which have brought up in me high levels of fear and anxiety. But I’ve realized that without embracing these fears and discomforts and taking more chances, I can’t fully experience the freedom and fulfillment that I crave.
Join me as I share why taking more chances is so crucial to living a fuller and freer life.
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Fantastic video. You seem so much freer speaking here than in your previous videos!! Very brave of you to do this, I found it refreshing. Beautiful emotion at the end. Also 3:25 made me laugh, glad you didn't cut that out.
Sport mode all the way!!!!
Haha, yes, all thanks to you! You were also a driving force in me opening up in front of the camera. You've been pushing me in that direction for a long time. I finally got it, how to loosen up and just speak, be my imperfect self. Which is perfect as it is. :) If I could just keep getting out of my way...
Love the new format..great work! You have a sparkle in your eyes in this video. Bravo. I completely get where you are coming from, as I am a lot like you. We moved from Washington State to France last year, to north eastern Brittany. Your move shows that you are, in fact, a brave soul, as the moving process, being an expat, and day to day life here is fraught with challenges (and so worth it). You don't have to see the whole path before you take your first step.
Very true. That undertaking (moving to France) is STILL kicking our asses! Thank you so much for your support. 🙏😁
Bravo! If this was you unscripted, give us MORE! Your way of thinking, your experiences are a revelation to me, illuminating a path I might never have discovered on my on. Thank you!
Thank you so much. 🙏😁
I watch your wifes video channel also and I find it interesting on what I perceive the differences are. You seem kind of dark and moody, in your head a lot. Left brained logical. She seems lighter generally more open, right brained creative, happier. I'm interested to know how that works between you two.
I can indeed be dark and moody. But I counter it with inner feeling work and accessing guidance. It's a tricky thing being human! Thanks for watching. 🙏😁
Just a raw brain dump after watching this: I've been following Nathaniel since he was living in Mexico, then your channel since he introduced it to us, and now your wife's just a few months back and I just have to say I'm super proud of you specifically. Your personal growth through the minimal lens of YT is quite drastic compared to the rest of your family and being a man of similar age as yourself with two kids... huge props my friend. 👊🏼
Thank you so much. So appreciate your support. 🙏😁
I absolutely love your videos! ❤
Thank you! 🙏😁
You made the video a while ago about not having friends and I feel as if you are a friend o me because I resonate with both you and your wife with many things that you’ve spoken about. It’s been a challenge for me navigating through this new world of advanced technology and just seeing the death of so much that was great. I can’t express the gratitude of these videos because I realize that I’m not alone. Many of us gen xer’s are having a hard time. We do feel alone, we are all trying to figure things out and work through things. I moved back to my home country, Panama, because I lost my home over a year ago in the states. I’ve been very isolated for a few different reasons and I realize that it’s not good. I do want to eventually move elsewhere but I know that I have to unload this hurt and really devastation before I can move on. This video and all of your other videos have been extremely helpful. Thank you!
Thank you so much. I wish you all the very best! 🙏
Panama is beautiful. I used to live there for a year and traveled the entire Country. It's full of culture and nature. You're blessed to be from there...Enjoy it while you have it.
Love the new format. It feels more authentic and organic
Awesome, thank you. 🙏😁
Thank you for sharing ❤. I feel like you are speaking to me!
Ha! So great to hear! Thank you so so much. 🙏😁
Congratulations on your courage and thanks for sharing! I used to be afraid of talking to people but when I moved to Mexico, the people were so friendly and relaxed about everything, my fears disappeared. I could just scream or burst out laughing in the middle of the street without any care for what people would say now lol
Nice. The environment you're in can make all the difference. You're still there, right?
@@BeneaththeSurfaceYT Definitely. Yes, still here but next year I'll be living in other countries as well. Looking for my perfect country that would click with me just like it did for you and France :)
Great storytelling. I'd subbed to your channel a while back, yet lost the name of it somehow. Glad it popped up in my feed again. Love the authenticity.. and also your unique visuals and creativity :)
Thank you so much! 🙏😁
This resonated with me very much. I’m a retired empty nester who moved back into an urban area and I’m challenging myself getting involved with activism and arts classes. It can be intimidating and frustrating. I just say to myself, just try it, what do you have to lose?
That mindset can indeed help. Treating it as an experiment, giving it a chance and seeing what happens! So much can be learned, and it will always (guaranteed) be so different than what you thought... Good luck!
It's so strange - as a young adult, fear and anxiety wasn't an issue. The years pass, and I find myself reluctant to try new activities. I assume everything new that is presented to me is silly or boring. I finally became so bored with my sheltered normal - I forced myself to go out with (younger) friends to take part in life. Simple things, which I will not get into. It took me becoming so exhausted and bored with myself and the nudging of my therapist to open the door. BTW, fear has kept me from getting a drone. LOL I don't know where the fear comes from, but it's there. Cheers!
Yes, the getting fed up can makes us get in action, huh? And of course, outside support like your therapist. I challenge: get a drone and see what happens! 😁 Wishing you all the best. 🙏
Beautiful photography and your heartfelt, authentic message. Definitely a success and definitely worth my time as I sit on the precipice of a major life change. As always... thank you.
How sweet of you, thank you for your lovely words, and wishing you all the very best. 🙏
You’re much better not tied to a script. The script can make you sound pretentious and privileged, much less so in this video where you come across as being honest. (It’s still a privilege to do what you’re doing!)
I’m an inherently shy and introspective person but am lucky to be able to place desire over fear. Why make those emotions compete ? My first trip to Europe was on a merchant ship ; I wanted to do it so badly I didn’t even think of how stupid and risky it was (it was in 1977). Since then we’ve done a lot of risky things, but always in an in an informed way. Like you we have ended up in France, but have lived elsewhere in Europe previously. I’ve learned German and am always doing what you’re trying to do - finding ways to meet people and improve my French language competence. You can think too much about things and miss the opportunity to just do it.
So glad it translated well. Thank you so much for watching and sharing! 🙏😁
I guess I don’t have those feelings. Ive moved around a lot. I moved to Hawaii 6 years ago & forced myself to come back to Florida a few months ago to finish the renovation on my Airstream so I can move past it. Ive never been anywhere I don’t speak the language, so I can’t relate (unless moving to Miami counts). Good on you for continually challenging yourself to get out of your comfort zone!!
Appreciate you watching and your kind words. 🙏😁
LOVE this new approach! Definitely less ‘in the box’. The integrity of your stunning visuals is still intact. You always leave me wanting to see more, but then so very grateful for what you are sharing and for the quality.
Funny how deliberate and structured your stepping outside of your comfort is. Hearing/seeing what you have started to do brings me to realize that I have been doing (loads less intentionally!) the same in order to pull myself out of a ‘lowest common denominator’ style of rut.
35yrs ago I ski raced in an amateur club.
So I decided it was time to learn how to snowboard. All on my own, at 67. Well… I fell…. A lot!!! 🤣 lesson learned.
Now, on the regular, my greatest joy is playing in ensembles where in rehearsals, I have no idea which of my 3 instruments I will be asked to play! Just ‘put me in coach’ is my personal moto! No complaints! Just DO it! … and I’ve improved my playing, & reading tremendously!
I traveled alone to Italy, and was a student in Venice for 2 weeks for music that i didn’t particularly like. Had to use my dusty 40yr old college level Italian language skills. …. And I THRIVED!
Now I want to know why Finland is the happiest country and if it is possible for that happiness to transfer to a solo traveler!!! Let the adventures begin….and continue!!
Wishing you the best with your French! Practice improves EVERYTHING!!
Great comment. Love what you shared. Very inspiring! Wishing you all the very best and thank you so much for your support. 🙏😁
This was a very interesting video for me. I’m not at all prone to opening myself up to making decisions that will result in a huge change; also, I’m not good at listening to advice because I have had to overcome a lot of obstacles on my own.
I’m going to think about what you just communicated because we have to either move to France for family reasons or stay in the US for family reasons. We are sort of paralyzed by this. I appreciate your pov. Thanks.
Thank you for watching and best of luck with your decision. 🙏
I really enjoyed your video. We're all imperfect humans. We all need to laugh at ourselves, love ourselves, and forgive ourselves for our beautiful imperfections.
So very true. Thank you for watching. 🙏😁
I really like your formula. It resonates. For me the key is to get to the heart of what I really, really want and to make absolute sure that whatever I'm pursuing is truly for me. In the past, I've gone for things that were more about the status quo (job, house, etc.) and less about my hearts desire. Now I make sure that the thing I want is what I want. I also give myself permission to pivot if I get into it and realize it's not for me. I too struggle with getting out into the world. Lots to unpack there. I might just try the coffee shop challenge. Low stakes way to be in the world. Thanks for sharing with us all. Best to you.
Yes, passion will carry you far. If you can focus on what you love, that's an amazing driver. Thanks for pointing that out. And yeah, funny how the coffee shop challenge is low stakes for you. As I describe, not for me! Fascinating how that works. What are some areas that have been challenging for you? Really appreciate your support. 🙏😁
I loved everything about this! Many people will be able to relate to the trap of fearful thoughts and overthinking, myself included. Thank you for sharing!
Love hearing that. Thank you so much. 🙏😁
Beautifully said, so relatable and insightful. Such courage to show what really humans go through even without consciousness. Great sharing ❤
Thank you 🙏😁
I really enjoy your content. It nudges me to take more chances and realize that there is so much to learn and do at any time in your life. Just continue to challenge yourself, as hard as it may seem. Thank you!
Thank you right back! 🙏😁
I loved it .. gracias por todo lo que compartes, tú y tu esposa son una inspiración para mí .. 😊🥰
Mil gracias a vos! 🙏😁
First thing, thank you for the exquisite choice of music! And congrats on your spontaneity, you did really well without a script! I can relate a lot to having this inner fear that many times blocks me. I used to be more fearless when I was younger. I'm more cautious now. I'd like to think it's my life experience teaching me that it's not always a good thing to jump with my head forward into everything that crosses my mind or my heart. Adjusting to a new culture is difficult and it takes time. It's funny how much we are stuck in our ways of doing things and how difficult it can be to unlearn and relearn other ways of doing things. As always, you've given me a lot of food for thought.
Yes, it definitely translated - I love all of your videos. However, while I love your formula, I can't understand why it's so difficult to go out to a coffee place alone (I am much more like Cecilia), but I can easily translate that challenge with some other challenges I am having right now - like where do I want to move next. Keep the videos coming! I love them!
Thank you so much. Interesting how our own challenges can seem so hard while that of others can seem silly, huh? So appreciate your support. 🙏😁
@@BeneaththeSurfaceYTHave you done the Myers Briggs test? It generally explains why it's hard to understand for some than for others. Great video.
@@G..G.. I did a while back, yes. Thanks for watching! :)
This was great! Thank you!
Thank you!! 🙏😁
Your best video!
Wow, thank you!! 🙏😁
My advice is don't be so hard on yourself. From what i can gather from watching your family's UA-cams, Cecilia has had more practice at speaking French because she's constantly searching for products for the home. Her focus is on getting what she wants for the house projects and so she will do whatever is necessary 😅
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Wise ! 👍😉
Thank you for watching! 🙏😁
The yellow flowers are rapeseed plants which is what canola oil is made from. I love seeing fields of them. Stay trying, trying is good.
Thank you. 🙏 And yeah, I've come to learn that. Here you see it as colza, which I'd never seen before (all mayonnaise products use it, which drives us nuts because we love the true olive oil version, so much tastier!).
The drone flying rules in Europe are more strict than US, I believe
Couldn't say...
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Thank you 🙏😁
Rapeseed, not _G_rapeseed. Americans don't like that name, so you may know it better as oilseed, where canola oil comes from.
Yup, I did look it up but didn't feel it necessary to correct myself on-screen. Thanks for pointing it out! It's indeed an odd name.
@@BeneaththeSurfaceYT I didn't mean it to "correct" you per se, some of us annoying know-it-alls can't help ourselves sometimes 🙃
@@tinyhands7651 Haha, not at all. I actually appreciate that you pointed it out. I do really appreciate attention to detail. :)