i have struggled with this sense of loneliness for the last one year since I enter college, and I like never before feel this deep urge to find a person with whom I can depend, attached, and feel a hole in my heart. I know that it is wrong, but I can't help myself from looking for someone to fill that void. Something from this talk from Mr. Krisnamurti awakened something within me, the intelligence that I let sleep, to free me from this restraint.
I too have that package...every human being comes with this package..some people deal with it by trying to find the one..but somewhere we know that "a person" wont be able to fill that void no matter how so called perfect or compatible he is with you. I too am dealing with that void. Nobody is exempt from it..the negative connotation that this package has is what makes us avoid or turn away from it. If that package is in everyone then it might not be a negative thing. In fact it might be the ultimate possibility which is gifted to every human being. Only if we have the courage to be with it, to cherish it and not run away from it, will it transform us, will it reveal to us that which is beyond our conception. The only question is will we just be with it or will we run away from it for the rest of our lives, keeping ourselves busy with one thing or the other till we die. This is definitely not for the faint hearted and I relate with people who try to fill that void or try to run away from it.. because i myself also do that...But i think we must trust in that higher power that is sustaining this life.. trust that it has put this package in us for a reason, and it will also guide us in navigating this package, this void, this remarkable mysterious possibility.
You first need to fill the void you have created within yourself and then you can enhance it with relationships with others similarly fulfilled. As for yourself, you are stuck with your self so you may as well seek to make friends with it. If you are alone and something is missing, it is missing in YOU. Loneliness is being in a bad relationship with yourself, an abusive one actually. You have to be present to view the abuse and ask yourself to stop and choose better.
Become the love you seek . Become that one without expectations. Love yourself so much , you stop creating void and hurtful attachments. It this point , any reasonable person who gets close will enjoy you as much as you enjoy yourself . You are perfect .
Its ironic how observation is the most direct form of relationship. No distortion. Instead, we formulate images of one another. And relationship to that image is what becomes important.
Lovely Soul with so much wisdom , I only wish my dad mom grandparents would have told me about these type of Men :( :) Now i am old but still able to relate and learn from Eastern Philosophy Namste
I got my start in practicing mindfulness reading one of JK's books back in the 70s, and JK can arguably be called the father of modern mindfulness practice, even though we need to pay homage to the real father, Lao Tsu, whose timeless wisdom still stands out thousands of years later. Mindfulness is a matter of degrees though, and simply being aware of the present, as beautiful as this embrace by become, is only the entry point of awareness, not the end of the matter, and far from it. We need to use this greater clarity to obtain greater awareness of not just the present but everything, as an arbitrator of our mind and thoughts, and to indeed make judgements, not of our true self which is absurd, but of circumstances. In order to do this properly we need to understand our true self, the subject, and this is actually very key otherwise we'll allow our confusion to seek to judge our "self" without even knowing what our self even is. This part JK can provide a lot of help to people with, those who think they are their body or their memories, or their interests or talents, or anything else objective. Treat yourself like an object and you will lose yourself in exchange for a barrage of self-inflicted pain. When we put our hand on a hot burner, we have the experience of pain, and hopefully the lesson. Placing ourselves under mental hot burners, we get the pain but tend to miss the lesson. Watch, learn, and adapt.
The way our culture deals with death creates a strong enough bond that even a self-professed expert on mindfulness can completely lose their perspective. I wanted to throw this in as example of a mental hot burner, and this is indeed a good one. I watched this video of hers for over an hour, as even though it was all very introductory, paying attention to your breathing and turning back thoughts, it wasn't all that bad and would get people's toes dipped into the water even though I don't believe even she has a full foot in. Then she made a remark that we must grieve death because it is necessary. So she can also turn her mind off, as the first question needs to be, who are we grieving for exactly, and the answer is clearly, ourselves. We then need to wonder, what purpose does being embroiled in deep self-pity serve? Why would this be desirable, let alone necessary? Take your hand off the burner lady and understand your mistake.
It is not that, as JK says, that we create neuroses by seeking to escape what is, it is more like we seek to become neurotic which involves, among other things, escaping what is. This is a very important distinction, as otherwise we'll be stuck in a wrestling match between newfound attempts to become aware of the present and our perceived need to self-harm by way of negative and misguided thoughts. Become aware of and address the negative thoughts first, and then and only then can you really appreciate the beauty of the blissful present.
6:09 Light (of consciousness) clarifies and dissolves what is (images). IF PROFESSIONALS could understand that simple thing, not as an IDEA from the book/article, but as their OWN EXPERIENCE and steer their patients toward self-knowledge, we would have a SANE society. Instead, they (7:40) "help people become more neurotic". I call it MISEDUCATION.
i have struggled with this sense of loneliness for the last one year since I enter college, and I like never before feel this deep urge to find a person with whom I can depend, attached, and feel a hole in my heart. I know that it is wrong, but I can't help myself from looking for someone to fill that void. Something from this talk from Mr. Krisnamurti awakened something within me, the intelligence that I let sleep, to free me from this restraint.
Remember that you are not the thought. It will come and go. And you will be ok.
I too have that package...every human being comes with this package..some people deal with it by trying to find the one..but somewhere we know that "a person" wont be able to fill that void no matter how so called perfect or compatible he is with you. I too am dealing with that void. Nobody is exempt from it..the negative connotation that this package has is what makes us avoid or turn away from it. If that package is in everyone then it might not be a negative thing. In fact it might be the ultimate possibility which is gifted to every human being. Only if we have the courage to be with it, to cherish it and not run away from it, will it transform us, will it reveal to us that which is beyond our conception.
The only question is will we just be with it or will we run away from it for the rest of our lives, keeping ourselves busy with one thing or the other till we die.
This is definitely not for the faint hearted and I relate with people who try to fill that void or try to run away from it.. because i myself also do that...But i think we must trust in that higher power that is sustaining this life.. trust that it has put this package in us for a reason, and it will also guide us in navigating this package, this void, this remarkable mysterious possibility.
You first need to fill the void you have created within yourself and then you can enhance it with relationships with others similarly fulfilled. As for yourself, you are stuck with your self so you may as well seek to make friends with it. If you are alone and something is missing, it is missing in YOU. Loneliness is being in a bad relationship with yourself, an abusive one actually. You have to be present to view the abuse and ask yourself to stop and choose better.
Find that someone, don't fall for the mistake of eschewing connection.
Become the love you seek . Become that one without expectations. Love yourself so much , you stop creating void and hurtful attachments. It this point , any reasonable person who gets close will enjoy you as much as you enjoy yourself . You are perfect .
Such a simple man putting the truth so simply.
Its ironic how observation is the most direct form of relationship. No distortion. Instead, we formulate images of one another. And relationship to that image is what becomes important.
Much needed right now.
Lovely Soul with so much wisdom , I only wish my dad mom grandparents would have told me about these type of Men :( :) Now i am old but still able to relate and learn from Eastern Philosophy Namste
K. is one of the greatest men of the 20th century. IMO of course. He pointed the way to the pathless land. There I am awake.
Thank you for sharing .🙏
Is the Truth!
The most important relationship is with yourself
Live for moments you cant put into Words
Very deep thoughts 🙏🏽
"There is nothing to learn." But live. Every second is to be lived...
Wonderful 🤍
I got my start in practicing mindfulness reading one of JK's books back in the 70s, and JK can arguably be called the father of modern mindfulness practice, even though we need to pay homage to the real father, Lao Tsu, whose timeless wisdom still stands out thousands of years later.
Mindfulness is a matter of degrees though, and simply being aware of the present, as beautiful as this embrace by become, is only the entry point of awareness, not the end of the matter, and far from it. We need to use this greater clarity to obtain greater awareness of not just the present but everything, as an arbitrator of our mind and thoughts, and to indeed make judgements, not of our true self which is absurd, but of circumstances.
In order to do this properly we need to understand our true self, the subject, and this is actually very key otherwise we'll allow our confusion to seek to judge our "self" without even knowing what our self even is. This part JK can provide a lot of help to people with, those who think they are their body or their memories, or their interests or talents, or anything else objective. Treat yourself like an object and you will lose yourself in exchange for a barrage of self-inflicted pain.
When we put our hand on a hot burner, we have the experience of pain, and hopefully the lesson. Placing ourselves under mental hot burners, we get the pain but tend to miss the lesson. Watch, learn, and adapt.
The way our culture deals with death creates a strong enough bond that even a self-professed expert on mindfulness can completely lose their perspective. I wanted to throw this in as example of a mental hot burner, and this is indeed a good one.
I watched this video of hers for over an hour, as even though it was all very introductory, paying attention to your breathing and turning back thoughts, it wasn't all that bad and would get people's toes dipped into the water even though I don't believe even she has a full foot in. Then she made a remark that we must grieve death because it is necessary.
So she can also turn her mind off, as the first question needs to be, who are we grieving for exactly, and the answer is clearly, ourselves. We then need to wonder, what purpose does being embroiled in deep self-pity serve? Why would this be desirable, let alone necessary? Take your hand off the burner lady and understand your mistake.
It would be better if you speed it up, uo to 1.5x
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It is not that, as JK says, that we create neuroses by seeking to escape what is, it is more like we seek to become neurotic which involves, among other things, escaping what is. This is a very important distinction, as otherwise we'll be stuck in a wrestling match between newfound attempts to become aware of the present and our perceived need to self-harm by way of negative and misguided thoughts. Become aware of and address the negative thoughts first, and then and only then can you really appreciate the beauty of the blissful present.
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6:09 Light (of consciousness) clarifies and dissolves what is (images). IF PROFESSIONALS could understand that simple thing, not as an IDEA from the book/article, but as their OWN EXPERIENCE and steer their patients toward self-knowledge, we would have a SANE society. Instead, they (7:40) "help people become more neurotic".
I call it MISEDUCATION.
I only wish I can hear him 🤦♀️
Bless me for my success❤