No sympathy for any woman who marries someone else's husband. In this day and age, why would you disrespect yourself and become a second wife. Don't expect to be treated like a queen.
No matter how you spin it, you will always be the bad person in that 3-person marriage because you are naimyau! What don't you understand?! If your ex-husband had truly loved you, he WOULD HAVE divorced his wife first before marrying you! The fact that he didn't divorce her meant that he just "wanted his cake and eat it too," making him incredibly selfish and you naive for falling into his niamhlob niamyau scheme! Regardless of his claims about niamloj's behavior while he was sick, you still should not have entered into a 3-person marriage! For claiming to be a picky person, you sure made a horrible choice in husband----a married man----back then!
Sounds like u only know one side of ur hubby's story, u were lied to...love and relationship is one with one..never shared...ur hubby is not as innocent as he make it seem to u..through times relationship changes but it can also be admended...image if u were the 1st wife and experienced all the ups/downs and know the worst of who he is..u probably could be worse than the 1st wife...so, ur in the wrong as well..u will not be able to share ur spouse cause a good person will not cause any harm either emotionally, mentally to anyone, it was wrong to be 2nd wife bc he was never urs
I would love to hear the other side of this story. As a woman I would never allow my ex to marry another wife. I left him before he married his new wife. Next time you date, make sure you know if the man is married. Do not engage until the guy is single. His wife is not that bad. If she was, he would have left her long ago.
Don't wish on it lady, because the first wife will be the number 1. But don't feel sorry just move on and live a life where it's yours. And remember they may say it doesn't hurt but it does really hurt. So love yourself
Sorry, there's no sympathy here. You're 30, and you should know better than to date a married man! It's common sense!🤦♀️ honestly, whatever hardship you endured, you did it to yourself. What did you expect when you married a married man????? You're not going to get a warm welcoming to the family, much less accepted at all.
Niam loj cov me nyuam mas tsis muaj leej twg yuav tswj tau vim lawv niam tseem ua niam nyob, tab sis tej niam tij niam ntxawm tej nyab sawv daws tsis muaj cai yuav los ntxub tus niam yau vim nws tub tsis yog los yuav nej cov txiv nws tsuas yog los yuav tus niam loj ntawd tus txiv xwb nej sawv daws tsis tsim nyog ntxub nws, ua neeg nyob yog luag twb tsis ua rau yus, yus tsum tau tsis txhob saib tsis taus tsam ces muaj ib hnub ho yog yus ces yus yuav ab tsis tau.
Hais rau tus tswv dab neeg... 1 tim koj xwb koj txaus koj siab mus yuav lawv tus txiv... 2 yog yus twb xav mus yuav luag lawv ces yus yuav tau ua ntsej muag lag ntseg.
You feel “tricked” by the 1st wife but you not a good person anyways. Funny how your mom also said 1st wife is a bad person. Sorry girl but no matter how in love I am I will never ever be someone’s 2nd wife while the 1st wife is still alive a d married to the man. If you were a good person and if wife 1 was nice to you when you guys were dating you should of known how much it hurts her watching him love you. If you are also a woman you should know how much it hurts if you were to share your boyfriend or husband with someone else. If you were wife #1 you would also feel the same too. You think you would still allow ur husband to marry a 2nd wife and treat her like a queen too?
Me ntxhais aws. Yus yog ib tus nkauj xwb es cas yuav rua muag plias mus yuav luag tus txiv naj. Luag tus poj niam twb tseem nyob ua ib tse, nws tus txiv twb nrauj tsis tau nws naj. Cas tsis ua zoo xav es yuav cia li mus yuav luag tus txiv ua neej rau luag Ntshia, leeg twg los yeej txawj mob siab. Tsis txhob lam mus yuav luaj tej txiv, twb yog lawv cov menyuam siab zoo nkauj Koj thiaj tseem muaj sia nyob, yog lawv phem thiab siab nyoos li koj ces ntshe lawv twb muab Koj xyuas sab tshai ko lawm nawj
You should have known this is what you r getting into. Who in their right mind will let their husband cheat on them. Smh. Should always divorce b4 starting a new relationship.
As a second wife, it doesn’t matter if the first wife is in the wrong or not. You knowingly knew that your husband had a wife and you still married him anyway.
Tsis paub yuav hais li cas tabsi kom tus niam yau xav kiag hais tias yog nws yog tus niam loj nws puas ua tau zoo tsaj tus niam loj ua no vim peb poj niam yeej paub zoo poj niam txoj kev ntshaw thiab paub zoo txiv neej lub siab phem.
Hoyo.. cas e yuav dag li dag xwb os.. nim yov muaj ibtug niam loj nyob hauv lub qab ntuj no e pom pom zoo rau tus txiv yuav niam yau na… lawv., koj twb muaj peevxwm mus yuav kiag lawv tus txiv ces uv tiag tiv tiag tej lus cem phem ua phem ntawd xwb vim tias lawv tus txiv thiaj li muaj qau xwb ne.. lwm tus txivneej tsis muaj qau., koj yeem2 li ntawd ces No complain about them!
If the table were turned and the wife is the one that is sick, the husband, too, would go out to have fun and find himself a new wife. I doubt he be home taking care of his sick wife. Kuv tsis qhuas koj los tus txiv tsev no lios. For you it's just an excuse like the husband's excuses to married him. Because any young, educated woman in their right mind would've not married a married man no matter what his excuses are. SMH.
cas ho xum mus ua niam yau na. Txawm lawv thiab lawv tus pojniam yuav muaj teeb meem li cas los yog tseem muaj niam loj ces txhob tham txhkb yuav mas. Yus yuav tsum tham thiab yuav tug kav tug xwb thiaj kaj siab mas. Cas tseem mus koom nrog luag yuav ib tug txiv es txiv neej tag lawm los?
To the lady, this is all your fault. Nobody will like you if you marry someone else's husband. Nobody likes a second wife. It doesn't matter if first wife said yes. You didn't use your brain to think. Sorry, first wife doesn't need to convince others to hate you. They already do. You are in the wrong. Now that you have left, fo find an available man.
Tsis muaj neeg tiam ntawv ua niam yau li os. Yog tib neeg xaiv ua xwb. Txheej thaum ub mas muaj ib feem poj niam yeej tsis xaiv ua niam yau vim lawv raug quab yuam los raug zij. Txheej niam no yog neeg xaiv xwb tsis Yog lawv tsis muaj hau kev. Muaj ib txhia poj niam yeej txaus siab xav ua niam yau thiab ntshaw mus txeeb luag tug. Koj yog ib tug txaus siab xav ua niam yau. Txawm li cas los luag tseem muaj ib tug niam loj nyob ntawd. Cas koj tsis tos nws nrauj niam loj koj mam mus yuav nws mas?? Xaiv xaiv txiv es ua niam yau xwb. Sorry but not sorry. You never believe any woman when they give you permission to marry their husband….don’t pretend that’s all good. Stop calling him “my husband” cause he’s his first wife’s husband. You should’ve had him divorce her first before marrying him. Don’t let that experience stop you from getting married again. Not all marriages are like that.
0if he's so hurt and broken hearted he should've just divorced his wife when he got better. But he chose to stay with her. I do not believe if his wife was the one that was sick he would stay with her and do for her. He has hands and feet to cook and feed himself. Best decision to divorce him. You can do better than another woman husband.
Why would you want to be some loser dude's "second best?" NEVER think that you are going to take first wife's place. EVER!!! Most guys can NEVER let go of their first love, even if she did him wrong. NEVER allow yourself to be disrespected and put yourself in that position no matter how much you think you love him!
Why would you go be the second wife anyways? Is he the last man on earth? If the 1st wife is that horrible then why didn’t he divorce her 1st before marrying you? No one feel sorry for you. Playing victim, when you knowing went into a marriage with a married man 🤦🏻♀️
Koj twb yuav thiab txeeb luag tus txiv lawm es koj tsem yuav us tuaj piav thiab na tus vivncaus. Koj sim xav seb yog sm rau lawv txhas khau seb ho mob koj kaw taw npaum cas thiab khib npaum li cas naw poj hmoob twb nyob teb chaws mekas no lawm cas koj tseem mus yuav luag tus txiv thiab ua luag niam yau naw.
If he and his first wife fell out of love, why don't they just get a divorce? Why did you even bother to get involved and continue the relationship when you found out he's still married? Why so desperate? Why shared a husband when there's options? I don't get it.
What generation is this lady from that she thinks being a Niam Yau is a good idea. 🤦♀ IDC how desperate you are for a man, that's a big No No. I really don't feel sorry for her at all. If his marriage is that bad then he would of left his first wife to begin with. And I bet he's still with his first wife to this day.
This is just one side of the story. But let me tell you sis. Tsov tsis noj zaub, tsov noj nqaij xwb. Koj rua muag plias cev tes rau nws qhov ncauj, Koj thiaj mag xo. Don't trust that tiger will eat veggie and be your pet.
Why are you acting all innocent? The man is married! Even if the wife said it's okay..it's really not! Anyone with any moral values would have just left as soon as they found out he was married.
You’re not innocent when you are the second wife. You are not blind you clearly see he has a wife. Do you put yourself that low to be a second wife. Don’t you feel disgusted that your husband sleep with his first wife than you. Don’t blame people for hating on you.
Txiv neej muaj coob tsis mus yuav tus tua seem li ties es yus txaus siab qhib qhov muag mus yuav luag tus txiv ces nyuam qhuav ntxiv xwb. Sorry not sorry
Kuv tsis nyiam tsis ntseeg PEB Cov poj Niam hmoob li os, ua Neeg nyob poj Niam hmoob CES tsuas yog mus Saj Tau luag Tus txiv lawm CES luag txawm muaj poj Niam lawm los yeej tsis Kam TSO luag Tus txiv tseg tseem mus CEM luag Tus poj Niam thiab nthuav luag Lub qe tsis zoo, tsis Tim luag yuav txw Tau ib tsoom Poj ntxub koj , Niag Niam yau yeej muaj tus cwj pwn rau Neeg ntxub xav hnov Niam koj sab seem thiab os 😂😂😂
Kuv twb ntxub koj thiab os. Ua cas koj twb yog pojniam, koj tseem mus txeeb luag tus txiv? Ntxim ntxub tshaj. Koj tus niam loj tsi tau hais. Tsuav yog niam yau xwb ces tag nrho cov pojniam nyob qab ntuj yeej ntxub.
No sympathy for any woman who marries someone else's husband. In this day and age, why would you disrespect yourself and become a second wife. Don't expect to be treated like a queen.
No matter how you spin it, you will always be the bad person in that 3-person marriage because you are naimyau! What don't you understand?! If your ex-husband had truly loved you, he WOULD HAVE divorced his wife first before marrying you! The fact that he didn't divorce her meant that he just "wanted his cake and eat it too," making him incredibly selfish and you naive for falling into his niamhlob niamyau scheme! Regardless of his claims about niamloj's behavior while he was sick, you still should not have entered into a 3-person marriage! For claiming to be a picky person, you sure made a horrible choice in husband----a married man----back then!
This story is dedicated to all young girls out there not to take someone's else's husband. Thanks for sharing!
Honestly, you shouldn't be surprised. You should never be a second wife in the first place no matter the situation.
Sounds like u only know one side of ur hubby's story, u were lied to...love and relationship is one with one..never shared...ur hubby is not as innocent as he make it seem to u..through times relationship changes but it can also be admended...image if u were the 1st wife and experienced all the ups/downs and know the worst of who he is..u probably could be worse than the 1st wife...so, ur in the wrong as well..u will not be able to share ur spouse cause a good person will not cause any harm either emotionally, mentally to anyone, it was wrong to be 2nd wife bc he was never urs
I would love to hear the other side of this story. As a woman I would never allow my ex to marry another wife. I left him before he married his new wife. Next time you date, make sure you know if the man is married. Do not engage until the guy is single. His wife is not that bad. If she was, he would have left her long ago.
Mus ua niam yau mas yuav tsum yog yus tus txiv hlub yus thiab tiv thaiv yus mas yus thiaj nyob taus nawb viv ncaus
Don't wish on it lady, because the first wife will be the number 1. But don't feel sorry just move on and live a life where it's yours. And remember they may say it doesn't hurt but it does really hurt. So love yourself
Sorry, there's no sympathy here. You're 30, and you should know better than to date a married man! It's common sense!🤦♀️ honestly, whatever hardship you endured, you did it to yourself. What did you expect when you married a married man????? You're not going to get a warm welcoming to the family, much less accepted at all.
Mus ua neeg liam - neeg yuav cem
Mus yuav luag tus txiv - neeg yuav ntxub
Hluas nrauj muaj coob muaj ntau - yus zoo yus siab
Niam loj cov me nyuam mas tsis muaj leej twg yuav tswj tau vim lawv niam tseem ua niam nyob, tab sis tej niam tij niam ntxawm tej nyab sawv daws tsis muaj cai yuav los ntxub tus niam yau vim nws tub tsis yog los yuav nej cov txiv nws tsuas yog los yuav tus niam loj ntawd tus txiv xwb nej sawv daws tsis tsim nyog ntxub nws, ua neeg nyob yog luag twb tsis ua rau yus, yus tsum tau tsis txhob saib tsis taus tsam ces muaj ib hnub ho yog yus ces yus yuav ab tsis tau.
You made the right decision. It’s normal for the first wife to hate you. It’s nothing new
Sis, tsis ib tug pojniam zoo siab tso nws tus txiv yuav niam yau.
Koj yeej nrua muag mus yuav luag tus txiv ces yeej yuav tau ua siab ntev.
Hais rau tus tswv dab neeg... 1 tim koj xwb koj txaus koj siab mus yuav lawv tus txiv... 2 yog yus twb xav mus yuav luag lawv ces yus yuav tau ua ntsej muag lag ntseg.
Neg twb nyob mekass law cas treem ua niam loj niam tàu thiab
Cas txiv neeg tsis muaj lawm los cas tseem mus ua niam yau thiab???? Yuav tug kav tug ua neej thiaj li kaj siab.
You feel “tricked” by the 1st wife but you not a good person anyways. Funny how your mom also said 1st wife is a bad person. Sorry girl but no matter how in love I am I will never ever be someone’s 2nd wife while the 1st wife is still alive a d married to the man. If you were a good person and if wife 1 was nice to you when you guys were dating you should of known how much it hurts her watching him love you. If you are also a woman you should know how much it hurts if you were to share your boyfriend or husband with someone else. If you were wife #1 you would also feel the same too. You think you would still allow ur husband to marry a 2nd wife and treat her like a queen too?
Yus yeem yus. Lesson learned
Ah yo, cas si phib ua lua
Me ntxhais aws. Yus yog ib tus nkauj xwb es cas yuav rua muag plias mus yuav luag tus txiv naj. Luag tus poj niam twb tseem nyob ua ib tse, nws tus txiv twb nrauj tsis tau nws naj. Cas tsis ua zoo xav es yuav cia li mus yuav luag tus txiv ua neej rau luag Ntshia, leeg twg los yeej txawj mob siab. Tsis txhob lam mus yuav luaj tej txiv, twb yog lawv cov menyuam siab zoo nkauj Koj thiaj tseem muaj sia nyob, yog lawv phem thiab siab nyoos li koj ces ntshe lawv twb muab Koj xyuas sab tshai ko lawm nawj
No excuses and we just heard your side of the story, not his wife's side. Your side just sound so perfect, sorry but not sorry for you.
Hmmm ok woman.
You should have known this is what you r getting into. Who in their right mind will let their husband cheat on them. Smh. Should always divorce b4 starting a new relationship.
As a second wife, it doesn’t matter if the first wife is in the wrong or not. You knowingly knew that your husband had a wife and you still married him anyway.
Tsis paub yuav hais li cas tabsi kom tus niam yau xav kiag hais tias yog nws yog tus niam loj nws puas ua tau zoo tsaj tus niam loj ua no vim peb poj niam yeej paub zoo poj niam txoj kev ntshaw thiab paub zoo txiv neej lub siab phem.
Koj yog niam yau siab phem lim hiam koj tsis txhob los nrhiav kev npog koj tus kheej li koj twb yog tim niam yau nkaus xwb kuv thiaj quaj los laus li no yog koj zoo zoo ces koj yeej tsis ua nkauj laug koj yeej tsis mus ntxeeb lawv tus txiv yuav koj siab phem lim hiam koj khaus pim koj thiaj mus tmn ntxeeb lawv tus txiv yuav koj tsis txhob los keb2 npog2 koj kuv ntxub niam yau
Hoyo.. cas e yuav dag li dag xwb os.. nim yov muaj ibtug niam loj nyob hauv lub qab ntuj no e pom pom zoo rau tus txiv yuav niam yau na… lawv., koj twb muaj peevxwm mus yuav kiag lawv tus txiv ces uv tiag tiv tiag tej lus cem phem ua phem ntawd xwb vim tias lawv tus txiv thiaj li muaj qau xwb ne.. lwm tus txivneej tsis muaj qau., koj yeem2 li ntawd ces
No complain about them!
Lady there is no excuse for being a home wrecker, a 2nd or 3rd wife. Bottom line if a man is unhappy in his marriage, divorce and move on.
Kuv li kuv yeej tsis nyiam cov niag pojniam es mus txeeb luag tus txiv as. Koj yeej paub tseeb tias kev ua niam ib niam ob teb chaw yeej ntxub yeej tsis nyiam tabsi koj tseem tsua muag plias mus yuav kiag luag tus txiv. Ntshaw txiv npaum ko cas tseem txawj chim thiab. Tsis muaj ib tug pojniam twg es nim yuav pom pom zoo rau nws tus txiv yuav niam ob. Koj yeej txhob txwm mus txeeb luag tus txiv.
If the table were turned and the wife is the one that is sick, the husband, too, would go out to have fun and find himself a new wife. I doubt he be home taking care of his sick wife. Kuv tsis qhuas koj los tus txiv tsev no lios. For you it's just an excuse like the husband's excuses to married him. Because any young, educated woman in their right mind would've not married a married man no matter what his excuses are. SMH.
cas ho xum mus ua niam yau na. Txawm lawv thiab lawv tus pojniam yuav muaj teeb meem li cas los yog tseem muaj niam loj ces txhob tham txhkb yuav mas. Yus yuav tsum tham thiab yuav tug kav tug xwb thiaj kaj siab mas. Cas tseem mus koom nrog luag yuav ib tug txiv es txiv neej tag lawm los?
You are wrong to marry that man. Two wrong doesn't make it right.
To the lady, this is all your fault. Nobody will like you if you marry someone else's husband. Nobody likes a second wife. It doesn't matter if first wife said yes. You didn't use your brain to think. Sorry, first wife doesn't need to convince others to hate you. They already do. You are in the wrong. Now that you have left, fo find an available man.
Really?????? What makes you think any woman will accept another woman married their husband.
Yus yog ib tug ntxhais nkauj xwb es tseem mus ua niam yau ces kawg mag npuaj xwb tiag.
Tsis muaj neeg tiam ntawv ua niam yau li os. Yog tib neeg xaiv ua xwb. Txheej thaum ub mas muaj ib feem poj niam yeej tsis xaiv ua niam yau vim lawv raug quab yuam los raug zij. Txheej niam no yog neeg xaiv xwb tsis Yog lawv tsis muaj hau kev. Muaj ib txhia poj niam yeej txaus siab xav ua niam yau thiab ntshaw mus txeeb luag tug. Koj yog ib tug txaus siab xav ua niam yau. Txawm li cas los luag tseem muaj ib tug niam loj nyob ntawd. Cas koj tsis tos nws nrauj niam loj koj mam mus yuav nws mas?? Xaiv xaiv txiv es ua niam yau xwb. Sorry but not sorry.
You never believe any woman when they give you permission to marry their husband….don’t pretend that’s all good. Stop calling him “my husband” cause he’s his first wife’s husband.
You should’ve had him divorce her first before marrying him.
Don’t let that experience stop you from getting married again. Not all marriages are like that.
0if he's so hurt and broken hearted he should've just divorced his wife when he got better. But he chose to stay with her.
I do not believe if his wife was the one that was sick he would stay with her and do for her. He has hands and feet to cook and feed himself.
Best decision to divorce him. You can do better than another woman husband.
Mus ua niam yau xwb mus txeeb luag tus txiv xwb es koj xav hais tias sawv daws yuav hwm koj pe koj .poj niam siab phem
U put urself into that position sis
All the reasons you said here don't justify you become your husband second wife. Please respect yourself and take responsibility for your actions.
Why would you want to be some loser dude's "second best?" NEVER think that you are going to take first wife's place. EVER!!! Most guys can NEVER let go of their first love, even if she did him wrong. NEVER allow yourself to be disrespected and put yourself in that position no matter how much you think you love him!
Nobody likes a homewrecker. It's funny how you called him "my husband". No, no, no.....he's her husband.
Why would you go be the second wife anyways? Is he the last man on earth? If the 1st wife is that horrible then why didn’t he divorce her 1st before marrying you? No one feel sorry for you. Playing victim, when you knowing went into a marriage with a married man 🤦🏻♀️
There is no justification for marrying a married man, sorry. It was your choice and decision.
Koj twb yuav thiab txeeb luag tus txiv lawm es koj tsem yuav us tuaj piav thiab na tus vivncaus. Koj sim xav seb yog sm rau lawv txhas khau seb ho mob koj kaw taw npaum cas thiab khib npaum li cas naw poj hmoob twb nyob teb chaws mekas no lawm cas koj tseem mus yuav luag tus txiv thiab ua luag niam yau naw.
If he and his first wife fell out of love, why don't they just get a divorce? Why did you even bother to get involved and continue the relationship when you found out he's still married? Why so desperate? Why shared a husband when there's options? I don't get it.
Not 😊
What generation is this lady from that she thinks being a Niam Yau is a good idea. 🤦♀ IDC how desperate you are for a man, that's a big No No. I really don't feel sorry for her at all. If his marriage is that bad then he would of left his first wife to begin with. And I bet he's still with his first wife to this day.
This is just one side of the story.
But let me tell you sis. Tsov tsis noj zaub, tsov noj nqaij xwb. Koj rua muag plias cev tes rau nws qhov ncauj, Koj thiaj mag xo. Don't trust that tiger will eat veggie and be your pet.
Why are you acting all innocent? The man is married! Even if the wife said it's okay..it's really not! Anyone with any moral values would have just left as soon as they found out he was married.
vim li cas koj tseem muaj koj lub spoil egg tuaj nthuav kom teb chaws talk and cem koj na.
You deserve to be number 1 that should have been your number 1 priority.
You’re not innocent when you are the second wife. You are not blind you clearly see he has a wife. Do you put yourself that low to be a second wife. Don’t you feel disgusted that your husband sleep with his first wife than you. Don’t blame people for hating on you.
Txiv neej muaj coob tsis mus yuav tus tua seem li ties es yus txaus siab qhib qhov muag mus yuav luag tus txiv ces nyuam qhuav ntxiv xwb. Sorry not sorry
You knew he was married. Should have left when you found out. You are no good either. 🤷🏻♀️
You were not smart to continue dating him
Kuv tsis nyiam tsis ntseeg PEB Cov poj Niam hmoob li os, ua Neeg nyob poj Niam hmoob CES tsuas yog mus Saj Tau luag Tus txiv lawm CES luag txawm muaj poj Niam lawm los yeej tsis Kam TSO luag Tus txiv tseg tseem mus CEM luag Tus poj Niam thiab nthuav luag Lub qe tsis zoo, tsis Tim luag yuav txw Tau ib tsoom Poj ntxub koj , Niag Niam yau yeej muaj tus cwj pwn rau Neeg ntxub xav hnov Niam koj sab seem thiab os 😂😂😂
Kuv twb ntxub koj thiab os. Ua cas koj twb yog pojniam, koj tseem mus txeeb luag tus txiv? Ntxim ntxub tshaj. Koj tus niam loj tsi tau hais. Tsuav yog niam yau xwb ces tag nrho cov pojniam nyob qab ntuj yeej ntxub.
I don’t feel sorry for you bc when you found out he’s married the least you can do is let him go but it’s your fault for being so thupid! Haha
You're in a polygamy. What do you expect?
You try to justify your story but I don’t feel sorry for you. You did this to yourself. Why would you a single woman marry a married man
Oh yo, yeej tsis muaj ib tug pojnaim twg yeem yeem cia nws tus txiv yuav niam yau li os. Zoo tshaj koj yuav ib tug kav tug tiaj zoo xwb os.