Marriage Myths That Are Ruining Relationships (Rabbi Manis Friedman)

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  • The myths of love and marriage, revealing why unconditional love can be dangerous and why many relationships fail. Rabbi Manis Friedman explains that true intimacy isn’t about love but deep commitment. Discover the real reason marriages succeed and how to build a strong, lasting relationship. If you're struggling with love, dating, or marriage, this conversation will change your perspective.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 84

  • @gabrielcaplan6887
    @gabrielcaplan6887 11 днів тому +7

    I love this! 24:19 in. Rabbi Freeman is asking the tough questions of us without easy answers to make us tease it out. And he’s making the big points. I love this approach to understanding the world and yes, the struggle of finding the right words for concepts is part of it. Oh, Christopher Reeves is Superman.

  • @Joe-dw1dy
    @Joe-dw1dy 5 днів тому +5

    As a non Jew, I get true value from this channel, I learn a lot, it’s like being an honorary Jew, I get to sit in a Jewish place of wisdom without the birthright.

  • @AB-dj1mr
    @AB-dj1mr 11 днів тому +17

    I think you can love unconditionally and still be disappointed when they do things you don't approve of.

    • @Judy-s9j9h
      @Judy-s9j9h 8 днів тому

      I agree, I think a parent should love their child unconditionally and conditionally. Children make mistakes or purposely do things that parents don't appreciate but the reason the parent stays in pain is because they love - they care so much - it is an emotiona! Whichever way you want to define the word "love".

    • @muma6559
      @muma6559 6 днів тому

      I think what you mean is you can continue to be committed and care even when you are disappointed and hate the behavior (see! People don't even want to use the word hate)

  • @robertgarletts3701
    @robertgarletts3701 11 днів тому +6

    I have learned that when one finds Your Best friend.. that is a start to Choose to Love the your with.

  • @gabrieltopman
    @gabrieltopman 8 днів тому +2

    Love starts with acceptance, and it is maintained by caring enough. You deserve love from where you are mostly acceptable by the nature of the functions and roles you represent.
    Some people come up with an excuse to refuse to love, while some find reasons. The more reasons to accept and care, the better. The more meaningful those reasons are, the more sustainable.
    Butterflies will follow meaningful relationships when you know your commitment and appreciation.
    Things in marriage:
    1. Belonging
    2. Cooperating
    3. Looking after each other
    4. Acceptable roles | functions.

  • @leroy893
    @leroy893 5 днів тому +1

    Thank you, this was very helpful and informative podcast.

  • @DovidChaim-nc4pi
    @DovidChaim-nc4pi 7 днів тому +2

    Brilliant.

  • @FreddiesMountainCafe
    @FreddiesMountainCafe День тому

    I liked your interviews and wanted to hear more of you Qs; so a longer show! Also, I'd like to hear an interview with him re the relationship between parents and adult children, FROM the parents' perspective. Children are children for much much longer, it seems, so many parents need his wisdom on managing a difficult parent:adult child relationship

  • @anitajacob22
    @anitajacob22 10 днів тому +2

    'LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL, AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND'

    • @LuigiSHALOMDEYESHUA
      @LuigiSHALOMDEYESHUA 10 днів тому +1

      The ahava in torah is not Love, is an action and not a feeling, is giving all your intention, with all your body and spirit and all your things, money and atention in the propose of work for Ha’Shem, like a vessel and Light. Love in english is a feeling, and feeling in love of Ha’Shem is not the same of working and been a vessel of Ha’Shem

    • @LuigiSHALOMDEYESHUA
      @LuigiSHALOMDEYESHUA 10 днів тому

      =)

    • @anitajacob22
      @anitajacob22 10 днів тому

      @@LuigiSHALOMDEYESHUA For most people LOVE is fish love - " I love fish"

    • @JeannieSoko
      @JeannieSoko 5 днів тому

      So what is the correct translation if it doesn't say love, does it really say action?​@@LuigiSHALOMDEYESHUA

    • @JeannieSoko
      @JeannieSoko 5 днів тому

      Correct, and there are other parts that he says he loves his children, I will just have to look for it

  • @flabberGiSTed
    @flabberGiSTed 9 днів тому +2

    Baruch Hashem. 🙏

  • @muma6559
    @muma6559 6 днів тому +1

    If you're looking for love, why involve someone in your problem? Lol.. i totally agree

  • @abem1004
    @abem1004 11 днів тому +2

    A lot of it seems to be how you define certain words. Really makes you think

  • @rebeccaskalare9445
    @rebeccaskalare9445 9 днів тому +3

    Please Hashem, help me to find a man to marry and be my soulmate, like the man Rabbi speaks about cause I’m 65 and never ever met a man like this!

  • @CHI-mFriedrich
    @CHI-mFriedrich 11 днів тому +14

    He is completely not in touch with what today’s generation kids need. And yes, they do need unconditional love. And through that unconditional love we bring about them following the Torah ways. And yes, Hashem loves us unconditional.

    • @gabrielcaplan6887
      @gabrielcaplan6887 11 днів тому +1

      He had a pretty good point though. I think we’re all talking about the same thing but for him the term of conditional love is superseded by the term, “mother”or “father” and he has a point about Hashem being pretty mad at us with the golden calf.

    • @stephaniechandler3842
      @stephaniechandler3842 10 днів тому +1

      You completely did not understand what he said

    • @gabrielcaplan6887
      @gabrielcaplan6887 10 днів тому

      @@stephaniechandler3842what part did I miss?
      After the golden calf God was going to smite everyone and start over with Moses’ kids but Moses intervened. That was not unconditional love. There was a condition. BUT whether He Loved or was Angry and Smiteful, He was/is still God.
      If a child does something horrendous, should a mother still love him or her for it? She can be angry. She may need to take actions that have conditions. But she’s still the Mother.
      Maybe it’s semantics.
      One thing I don’t appreciate is your chutzpah. That I completely misunderstood means you completely understood. 😂😂 i don’t think so.

    • @LuigiSHALOMDEYESHUA
      @LuigiSHALOMDEYESHUA 10 днів тому

      @chi-fredrich the rabi says Emet and True Torah, you say Met and Bad things in form of false love, that is why this generation is becoming crasy and divorse is so in high

    • @gabrielcaplan6887
      @gabrielcaplan6887 9 днів тому

      @@LuigiSHALOMDEYESHUA hmmm. 🤔
      Where do I say Met and Bad things? I’m recounting a story from the Torah. Is what I wrote not from the Torah?
      If anything is driving us crazy it’s that we spend too much time on our phone commenting on people’s comments instead of talking to other human beings. You’re spending too much time in your head.

  • @tatianaabdurazakova3839
    @tatianaabdurazakova3839 8 днів тому

    TODA RABA dear LIVING LECHAIM!!!

  • @sagibracha7865
    @sagibracha7865 11 днів тому +2

    Hashem bless you all❤

  • @eliabraham3693
    @eliabraham3693 11 днів тому +3

    How cool...you guys are always discussing different topics. Very cool! Congratulations!

  • @TeamAutismpedia
    @TeamAutismpedia 11 днів тому +7

    You should do an episode on autism. I'd be happy to help

    • @Emunaboy
      @Emunaboy 11 днів тому

      Please do one on autism

    • @rafi-vo2nb
      @rafi-vo2nb 9 днів тому

      @@Emunaboy yes 100%

  • @elibouzaglo426
    @elibouzaglo426 9 днів тому +1

    You can understand the him only if you have past this kind of experience.
    And let me tell you that he is very correct. And it's right for all times.

  • @shaylinparks3945
    @shaylinparks3945 10 днів тому +1

    I loved this conversation a lot, thank you for the open dialogue, so beautiful, taking notes over here actually, I loved the points about love being a fixation, love not about a person but the person, not things, but person, as a lot of time with God we don't come to love Him, but what He can offer, and we do misuse the word love and use it inconsistently. But the one thing respectfully I was questioning is about the soulmate aspect because the concept comes from Buddhism, as with Genesis 2:20 the word “comparable," there does mean opposite to, we do need a person who can't think, speak, be as us because then you are marrying a clone and not another, beautiful point, but about a spirit dividing to find it's reunion just doesn't sound right, even with the word soulmate not being a word in the Bible, that word being a modern, worldly word. But thank you, we are always learning from one another by God.

  • @אמת-ה5ט
    @אמת-ה5ט 11 днів тому +3

    לאהוב רק את אלוהים. ואהבת את השם אלוהיכ בכל לבבכ. ציווי מפורש בתורה הקדושה. זכרו תורת משה עבדי

    • @DodWine
      @DodWine 7 днів тому +1

      ומה תעשה במצוה של ואהבת לרעך כמוך, ואהבתם את הגר..וכן בפרקי אבות אוהב את הבריות, ובתלמוד אסור לינשית אישה עד שיראנה שמה ימצא בה דבר מגונה וכו'...

  • @jonathanbarone4708
    @jonathanbarone4708 9 днів тому +1

    Happy evening to all there

  • @alicejones3668
    @alicejones3668 10 днів тому +2

    Love is an emotion and can be many ideologies. It's not a viable
    emotion to trust.

  • @rutbrea8796
    @rutbrea8796 10 днів тому

    I think that love is just an expression for a feeling. I say stop using the word "love" is just a word. When a person truly feels something for another is commitment! When I got married, I realized that my husband didn't care for me because I didn't see any commitment from his part. Looking for someone to marry is when a person is ready for commitment. "Love" doesn't exist!

  • @Peace_5200
    @Peace_5200 6 днів тому

    Read the book "Yatharth Geeta" once in your life , it's available in 29 world languages
    This book will help in understanding universe top kept secrets with the simple explanation. This hidden gem is worth reading to transform life positively for the best !
    Great Book ever written on Earth

  • @hinaynihorvath3926
    @hinaynihorvath3926 16 годин тому

    Todah Rabbi from a thankful goy woman student. Todah to the man and woman hosts I am sorry I don't know your names

  • @Thenoobestgirl
    @Thenoobestgirl 9 днів тому +4

    Mmmmm idk man... Doesn't sound like solid logic to me... People marry people who aren't their soulmates all the time. If God means for you to marry an abusive partner then they are clearly not your soulmate. It doesn't make any sense.

  • @AvrahamMosheJacobson
    @AvrahamMosheJacobson 8 днів тому +1

    When there is unconditional love that brings disapointments but if there is no uncoditional love than who cares how the chiled acts also hashem loves us uncoditionaly so he recounts are sins and mitzvos

  • @aaronlangert5751
    @aaronlangert5751 11 днів тому +2

    Why do we eat food, because you love it or because you need it? Why do we learn Torah, because you love it or because you need it? The same with marriage, it can “taste good”, but that’s not why we do it.

  • @hinaynihorvath3926
    @hinaynihorvath3926 2 години тому

    what are the different Hebrew words for ahava?

  • @jonathanbarone4708
    @jonathanbarone4708 9 днів тому

    ❤❤❤

  • @raya1741
    @raya1741 8 днів тому

    Тот кто не любит себя не способен любить других и никогда не найдет любовь

  • @muma6559
    @muma6559 6 днів тому

    Im on his wavelength, for the most part😅

  • @PeterClevengerSr
    @PeterClevengerSr 11 днів тому +1

    God is love. God doesn't want anyone to perish but have everlasting life.
    God so love you. Accept Jesus Christ as your personal Savior today. Amen

    • @DaveB-lb4jk
      @DaveB-lb4jk 8 днів тому

      Leave idolatry and serve the one and only God, the god of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob.
      Read the Tanach Without your Jesus lens and purposely mistranslated and altered passages.

  • @ernestdonkor47
    @ernestdonkor47 11 днів тому +2

    How can I get true love fm Ghana

  • @julietcoles6245
    @julietcoles6245 9 днів тому +1

    It seems then that men cannot get married to get respect. Marriage will not be a happy place for either without love and respect, but you will only get these if you marry the person, not what they can give you. Isn't this another way of saying that you must be whole in yourself before getting married?

  • @letsgettserious
    @letsgettserious 9 днів тому +2

    When a woman knows that she could go to court at any time and instantly get all of her husband's money, and when a man learns of the existence of these laws, it is impossible for a marriage to survive.

  • @joesmith-th3jq
    @joesmith-th3jq 11 днів тому +1

    Well, if there are two people to choose from, Then what do you do lol. Either two men that a lady can choose or two women that a guy can choose.

  • @SH-yo6em
    @SH-yo6em 11 днів тому +18

    Sorry but this is not true. You do need other people to get love and you are supposed to love your spouse. So over these click bait radical ideas.

    • @stephaniechandler3842
      @stephaniechandler3842 10 днів тому +4

      His ideas are not radical
      You’ve moved into a tik tok world Go for it

    • @Smokillo
      @Smokillo 9 днів тому +4

      I think you missed the point, you marry a person for the whole package of the human experience not just the fuzzy lovey feelings you sometimes get from being with them. Notice that you said “to GET love” why are you focused on getting? That’s why relationships are so short-lived, because a person feels once they stop getting they just move on to another person.

    • @abespill2064
      @abespill2064 8 днів тому +2

      You’re right about getting love, but he brings strong logical points. And he studied this for years and has seen over thousands of different couples. And knows what works and is right! Watch his other amazing content, and try to hear what he’s saying.

    • @WeGetItOutTheMudTv
      @WeGetItOutTheMudTv 5 днів тому +1

      He’s 100% right. Relationships and having children, have a purpose. What’s funny is, this has been well known for ages, and he’s just now learning this

    • @Smokillo
      @Smokillo 5 днів тому

      @ I don't think he's just now learning this, he's studied it all his life.

  • @ellamatatov1527
    @ellamatatov1527 11 днів тому +8

    Oh no! Not him! Bad news guys! Rosh Yeshivas warned against Manis Friedman! Please do your research before bringing people on your show.

    • @stephaniechandler3842
      @stephaniechandler3842 10 днів тому +7

      Thank goodness people were given a mind and choice by G-d and we can listen and decide for ourselves

    • @DaveB-lb4jk
      @DaveB-lb4jk 8 днів тому

      Rosh Yeshivos? Does your Rosh yeshiva know you go on the Internet is that approved?
      Great job bringing hatred and trolling to a frum forum

    • @DaveB-lb4jk
      @DaveB-lb4jk 8 днів тому +2

      No one says you have to accept another opinion, but your comment is not appropriate. think about it

  • @lesaheliorahavramsonkarapo4211
    @lesaheliorahavramsonkarapo4211 8 днів тому

    We thought this was a kosher Channel! We thought wrong.

    • @DodWine
      @DodWine 7 днів тому

      Sorry that it doesn't fit your "style" kosher...

    • @lesaheliorahavramsonkarapo4211
      @lesaheliorahavramsonkarapo4211 7 днів тому

      @@DodWine Direct your sorrow to HaShem, the G-d of Israel, as the person you are giving a platform, has waged a war against Him!

    • @DodWine
      @DodWine 7 днів тому

      @lesaheliorahavramsonkarapo4211 first off, thanks for "accusing" me of me giving him a platform...I dunno what makes you think that this is my platform, but whatever...
      Second off, if you personally really believe that he's waging war against hashem, heaven forbid, then you scream out to hashem..I don't see anything in that manner...

    • @lesaheliorahavramsonkarapo4211
      @lesaheliorahavramsonkarapo4211 7 днів тому

      @ Get his book entitled " I Didn't Ask To Be Born." It's all there.

    • @JeannieSoko
      @JeannieSoko 5 днів тому

      Kosher is something to be fundamental, and not through feelings

  • @OngSoonHaw
    @OngSoonHaw 11 днів тому +2

    it is superficial , unless it comes from our pure mind n conscience , deep in our heart n mind

  • @CiyanBen
    @CiyanBen 11 днів тому

  • @gabrieltopman
    @gabrieltopman 8 днів тому

    By listening to the end, here are good points you will hear facts from the elder. 🫡
    👍🏼 Love is God.
    👍🏼 Vibes generate vibes.
    👍🏼 Desired students take everything in (no back chatting). 👍🏼