I realized this week that i have this false belief that if i cry, i am letting someone down. Im the okdest of 12, and i also have this belief that i somehow have to protect everyone. That if i feel weak or sad, i am not being strong enough, and i should be pushing through it.... 36 years old..been carrying this since childhood... 😢 funny how whats modeled to you or said too you (youre too sensitive) really sticks with you. Learning how to be human❤ i dont have to feel guulty about feeling things, even if sometimes i feel them more than others.
I can relate to your well spoken comments. I agree that a strong sense of responsibility is often developed in the oldest sibling, usually out of necessity by the parents to have a better functioning household. That sense of responsibility can lead to traits of do-goodism or rumination, with a healthy dose of reflection. It can be viewed by others, incorrectly, as one being too sensitive. To let the playful or emotional or curious sides shine through can help to put things in better perspective. I wish you lots of happiness going forward.
@@brucerennie9583 thank you for your kind words 🥺💓🤗 yes I have given my parents much grace and forgiveness, it wasn't their fault or intention, just everyone trying to survive and thrive. It didn't hit me til later, the negative aspects of it. I have been going outside in nature more, watercolor painting, trying to do more fun or silly things with my kids.... soften to strengthen is my new mindset. There is strength in softness and flow or relaxing too, one that allows yourself and others to be comfortable and ok....don't have to try so hard all the time🥰
Also there is good and beauty in being sensitive...I think I appreciate nature and music and other people emotions more than some, because I am more sensitive. It heightens my experience of joy, and deepens my experience of sadness. But there is beauty in that.
The biggest hang-up people are having is thinking they are going to get better after reading a book. This is a long process and you have to stick with it. If you have had symptoms for 20 years its going to take months or years to get better.............. stay the course and you will get better!!!!!!!!
Happiness is something you decide over time. It's a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have the choice; I can spend the day in bed, going through the difficulty I have with my body parts that don't work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the parts that do work.
Love you too Dan ❤ very valuable reminder to feel our feelings. My cat Ted was fascinated as you were waving your hand around a lot today... He gave you many High Fives as he was trying to catch your hand on the screen 🐱
Been so tearful lately, coming out of nowhere , that's probably not true but better out than in. I'm blaming antibiotics. Today my body aching top to toe, it's a struggle. Anytime the story telling starts I'm interrupting it. Somehow I've got out and managed a small walk and a trip to local shop. Now sat in my car, with the door open absorbing the sun rays, it's better then going home and getting in my bed. Thank goodness for PFY🙏 Wishing this family a calm enjoyable weekend. X
Hi Dan , I have arrived at the party rather late , just this week . And your videos have had such an impact on my wellbeing , I would just like to thank you for explaining things very simply . You are a good man . Thank you . Chris.
Dan, you are an absolute godsend. Every now and then when I am suffering from some TMS symptom, I get back to your video's and they always manage to teach me something new. I am forever grateful that you are providing all of us with guidance on this long journey 🙏❤
Thanks Dan !!! This video was very very useful !!! I realize that I have been judging myself for feeling sad / frustrated that my symptoms have come back even more colourful than before…. I was scared that I was delaying my recovery by doing this . Also my attention was heading towards the severity of my sensations and the the WHY instead of to the knowing that it is TMS and it is all temporary.. I am back on track ! Thanks 🙏
Ty🎉 needed this today and continuing on today. Honoring my emotions and it's ok. There's also joy and happiness too. It's a journey. Love this Dan. This will pass. It always does and I learn. ❤🎉
Dan ma main man. Got some fantastic news. Yes my pain is 100% TMS. And I mean 100%. Pain is much lower and I can now sleep. Will let you know more later. What a journey. I aint gonna moan and whinge no mo. Sending love and to all those out there. KEEP THE FAITH and DON'T GIVE UP
It’s such a bumpy road dear Ellie! Tears are cleansing for your mind and soul ! Don’t hold them in but let them flow.. hey that’s a little rhyme 😀sending you a big compassionate hug❤
Thank you for this video. I am stuck in the cycle all day long. I keep trying to figure out what is going on. I had so much happen in a short time span, that led to PPPD which has some crazy uncomfortable symptoms. Also found out that I am in perimenopause, which has a whole set of symptoms, too. It's so hard to deal with in the middle of teaching second graders. I have been learning a lot on this journey.
Oh my--you’re a teacher AND hormones hopping AND TMSing!!! My heart is with you. EVERY single day can be soooo hard amid a stress bucket that is at the top or spilling over the side. I feel your despair. And yet, I think we can get through this. Baby steps. One thing at a time. I’m trying to focus on small things to feel safer--slow down my walk, pause and take a breath or two, do one task at a time, chew my food slowly and deliberately, stop and give thanks. And hopefully with time I will be cured and will look back and say I DID IT. Do what you can amid the chaos and clamor of 2nd graders. Teach them calm-show them calm. And you’ll learn along with them. ☀️
That's a stressful situation. Try body identical serenity progesterone/estrogen, depending on symptoms. Saved my life. Not on prescription in UK, I buy in from USA.
Great video for starting into the weekend! Thank you Dan! ❤ And (thanks to the algorithm) I also watched your conversation with Gigi Cockell, the update one from august last year, that really was top! I highly recommend this to everyone here if not have watched yet, also the comments beneath. I love this highly intelligent and so friendly community here! ❤❤❤
Hi there, I was wondering Dan if you have considered changing the pain test or providing another test for other symptoms. I understand that the questions can be address to most symptoms, but the first two or three are basically just pain related. I think the first one ask if you put ice on the pain does it get better yes or no. Well for me I do not deal with pain at all. I deal with Chronic fatigue and have for years. I believe that TMS applies to me because I have been to all the doctors have done all the test haven taken all the supplements with no results. I also have the personality of someone that would have TMS. I only scored a 24 then a 29 on the test, but the FIT test a couple of those applied to me. I just feel like the test needs reworded somehow. I have been following your content and hopefully will be your next success story.
What if it’s not temporary though? I’m a carer (at home, long term). It’s the situation surrounding this that causes the stress, which causes the symptoms! There are no feasible ways of improving the situation beyond what we have in place.
I was a caregiver to my husband for 7 years. My only advice is be Kind, Gentle and Loving to you as best you can. Also do little things for yourself when you can. Sending you hugs. ♥
It’s the response to the stress I’ve learned. I thought I would have to escape my toddler but over time my response to him has gotten better and my brain has rewired over time to think more neutrally.
Hi Dan, I don’t have any pains, I have GAD and panic disorder. I experience extreme crippling fear and fight or flight symptoms, most persistant ones are dizziness, dpdr, and fatigue. I find that your teachings are the same to treat this as well because i perceive anxiety/stress/fear as being dangerous and im scared of feeling this and being stuck like this forever. Do we approach fear and anxiety the same way? Even tho its 24/7? by getting to a place of indifference to these feelings progressively?
I get restless legs right when im falling sleep. I have to get up and walk or shake for sometime to be able to sleep. Also i am tired with no reason after 2 pm. Sometime neck and shoulder pain sometimes back pain. I have done many tests but nothing. Is this TMS?
As mentioned in this and most videos, the best way to know if something is TMS is to take the assessments. There are two. The pain test and the FIT assessment. I would suggest the fit assessment and answer those questions for each of your symptoms. It is on this page: IsthisTMS.com
I think I get so frustrated/upset when new symptoms show up. I always feel like I need a reason for why this new thing is happening. What did I do to cause this new thing.
Hi Dan, what advice do you have for sitting? I have no idea how long I’m able to sit. My back gets tight and painful after 5 mins or so. I’m not sure if that’s natural stiffness due to sitting or PDP. Is sitting dangerous for the body? I’d love to be able to sit to meditate etc. but the clock is always ticking i feel.
Dan. Is premature ejaculation. And erectile dysfunction. Or sex issues are also Tms?. Because 10 years ago before tms i have no PE. But know I'm facing tms and also PE?
Me too.. intense dreams and sleep tormenting and wake up in so much pain and fear in body. From past events and trauma, but also just from the shock of daylight and of the pain..! I know I’m NOT in danger, but my brain feels like wet cake and paralyses me, for hours and hours, in derealised state. 🤷🏼♂️
I realized this week that i have this false belief that if i cry, i am letting someone down. Im the okdest of 12, and i also have this belief that i somehow have to protect everyone. That if i feel weak or sad, i am not being strong enough, and i should be pushing through it.... 36 years old..been carrying this since childhood... 😢 funny how whats modeled to you or said too you (youre too sensitive) really sticks with you. Learning how to be human❤ i dont have to feel guulty about feeling things, even if sometimes i feel them more than others.
I can relate to your well spoken comments. I agree that a strong sense of responsibility is often developed in the oldest sibling, usually out of necessity by the parents to have a better functioning household. That sense of responsibility can lead to traits of do-goodism or rumination, with a healthy dose of reflection. It can be viewed by others, incorrectly, as one being too sensitive. To let the playful or emotional or curious sides shine through can help to put things in better perspective. I wish you lots of happiness going forward.
@@brucerennie9583 thank you for your kind words 🥺💓🤗 yes I have given my parents much grace and forgiveness, it wasn't their fault or intention, just everyone trying to survive and thrive. It didn't hit me til later, the negative aspects of it. I have been going outside in nature more, watercolor painting, trying to do more fun or silly things with my kids.... soften to strengthen is my new mindset. There is strength in softness and flow or relaxing too, one that allows yourself and others to be comfortable and ok....don't have to try so hard all the time🥰
Also there is good and beauty in being sensitive...I think I appreciate nature and music and other people emotions more than some, because I am more sensitive. It heightens my experience of joy, and deepens my experience of sadness. But there is beauty in that.
The biggest hang-up people are having is thinking they are going to get better after reading a book. This is a long process and you have to stick with it. If you have had symptoms for 20 years its going to take months or years to get better.............. stay the course and you will get better!!!!!!!!
I agree be ready for anything, but I was 80% better within a couple weeks of reading the book. Be open.
@@AnderWestgaard agree. Lifelong symptoms... 95% healed in a year or so. Many symptoms resolved in a few weeks.
Happiness is something you decide over time. It's a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have the choice; I can spend the day in bed, going through the difficulty I have with my body parts that don't work, or get out of bed and be thankful for the parts that do work.
I admire your strength Nancy! I have the same positive mindset, to start my day.. keep going, you are doing amazing 🤩 👏👏👏🍀🍀🍀🌷
Love you too Dan ❤ very valuable reminder to feel our feelings. My cat Ted was fascinated as you were waving your hand around a lot today... He gave you many High Fives as he was trying to catch your hand on the screen 🐱
So cute! 😅❤
So, just feel our feelings, validate them and then forget by doing something fun or important.
Been so tearful lately, coming out of nowhere , that's probably not true but better out than in. I'm blaming antibiotics. Today my body aching top to toe, it's a struggle. Anytime the story telling starts I'm interrupting it. Somehow I've got out and managed a small walk and a trip to local shop. Now sat in my car, with the door open absorbing the sun rays, it's better then going home and getting in my bed. Thank goodness for PFY🙏
Wishing this family a calm enjoyable weekend. X
Good for you. Crying, walking and getting sun. Wishing you a cozy weekend.💕
@@marieleak8731yes sometimes our bodies will just do it (cry). Got through the day, up n down but I'm still here. Thanks
Yes, okay to feel the emotion but don’t sit in the story all day. I can do this
Hi Dan , I have arrived at the party rather late , just this week . And your videos have had such an impact on my wellbeing , I would just like to thank you for explaining things very simply .
You are a good man .
Thank you .
Chris.
Thank you so much for this video Dan! I really needed this today. I wish you all a fantastic weekend and remember - we are not broken!
Dan, you are an absolute godsend. Every now and then when I am suffering from some TMS symptom, I get back to your video's and they always manage to teach me something new. I am forever grateful that you are providing all of us with guidance on this long journey 🙏❤
Thanks Dan !!!
This video was very very useful !!! I realize that I have been judging myself for feeling sad / frustrated that my symptoms have come back even more colourful than before…. I was scared that I was delaying my recovery by doing this . Also my attention was heading towards the severity of my sensations and the the WHY instead of to the knowing that it is TMS and it is all temporary..
I am back on track !
Thanks 🙏
Ty🎉 needed this today and continuing on today. Honoring my emotions and it's ok. There's also joy and happiness too. It's a journey. Love this Dan. This will pass. It always does and I learn. ❤🎉
Dan ma main man. Got some fantastic news. Yes my pain is 100% TMS. And I mean 100%. Pain is much lower and I can now sleep. Will let you know more later. What a journey. I aint gonna moan and whinge no mo. Sending love and to all those out there. KEEP THE FAITH and DON'T GIVE UP
❤ty Dan .Living in the moment. One day at a time.❤
Thank you Dan for this video. Love you and this loving community. 🥰
Tears are falling freely today... 😢 Something I've denied myself for so long.... No longer even sure of where they start or where they finish..... ❤
Hugs to you ❤❤
@@user-dianejcml 🙏💛
It’s such a bumpy road dear Ellie!
Tears are cleansing for your mind and soul ! Don’t hold them in but let them flow.. hey that’s a little rhyme 😀sending you a big compassionate hug❤
@@user-dianejcml 🙏💛
@@Inge508 🙏❤️
Thank you for this video. I am stuck in the cycle all day long. I keep trying to figure out what is going on. I had so much happen in a short time span, that led to PPPD which has some crazy uncomfortable symptoms. Also found out that I am in perimenopause, which has a whole set of symptoms, too. It's so hard to deal with in the middle of teaching second graders. I have been learning a lot on this journey.
It's just a nervous system state, nothing more and nothing less.
Oh my--you’re a teacher AND hormones hopping AND TMSing!!! My heart is with you. EVERY single day can be soooo hard amid a stress bucket that is at the top or spilling over the side.
I feel your despair. And yet, I think we can get through this. Baby steps. One thing at a time. I’m trying to focus on small things to feel safer--slow down my walk, pause and take a breath or two, do one task at a time, chew my food slowly and deliberately, stop and give thanks.
And hopefully with time I will be cured and will look back and say I DID IT.
Do what you can amid the chaos and clamor of 2nd graders. Teach them calm-show them calm. And you’ll learn along with them. ☀️
That's a stressful situation. Try body identical serenity progesterone/estrogen, depending on symptoms. Saved my life. Not on prescription in UK, I buy in from USA.
@@1STBUCKLEYI'm on HTR as of the end of January.
Good one Dan love you ❤❤❤
Dan, this was such a great video. Clarity and peace for me thank you ❤ Have a beautiful day.
Thanks Dan, i have struggled with this question alot too! So helpful❤
Great video for starting into the weekend! Thank you Dan! ❤
And (thanks to the algorithm) I also watched your conversation with Gigi Cockell, the update one from august last year, that really was top! I highly recommend this to everyone here if not have watched yet, also the comments beneath. I love this highly intelligent and so friendly community here! ❤❤❤
I saw her interview several times I agree it was top. I also love this community, so loving. Thanks 💕
Hi there, I was wondering Dan if you have considered changing the pain test or providing another test for other symptoms. I understand that the questions can be address to most symptoms, but the first two or three are basically just pain related. I think the first one ask if you put ice on the pain does it get better yes or no. Well for me I do not deal with pain at all. I deal with Chronic fatigue and have for years. I believe that TMS applies to me because I have been to all the doctors have done all the test haven taken all the supplements with no results. I also have the personality of someone that would have TMS. I only scored a 24 then a 29 on the test, but the FIT test a couple of those applied to me. I just feel like the test needs reworded somehow. I have been following your content and hopefully will be your next success story.
Lovely video thank you.
Just what I needed to hear. Thanks, Dan !
Dan did you ever have tearful moments when you were in the thick of your back pain? Just curious. Thanks for this video today!
Thank you!
Loved the humour. made me laugh . Dan,s weather report . Thanks
What if it’s not temporary though? I’m a carer (at home, long term). It’s the situation surrounding this that causes the stress, which causes the symptoms! There are no feasible ways of improving the situation beyond what we have in place.
I was a caregiver to my husband for 7 years. My only advice is be Kind, Gentle and Loving to you as best you can. Also do little things for yourself when you can. Sending you hugs. ♥
It’s the response to the stress I’ve learned. I thought I would have to escape my toddler but over time my response to him has gotten better and my brain has rewired over time to think more neutrally.
Hi Dan, I don’t have any pains, I have GAD and panic disorder.
I experience extreme crippling fear and fight or flight symptoms, most persistant ones are dizziness, dpdr, and fatigue.
I find that your teachings are the same to treat this as well because i perceive anxiety/stress/fear as being dangerous and im scared of feeling this and being stuck like this forever.
Do we approach fear and anxiety the same way? Even tho its 24/7? by getting to a place of indifference to these feelings progressively?
Same here. 🙋🏽♂️
Same here 🙁
I use these techniques for precisely that.
I get restless legs right when im falling sleep. I have to get up and walk or shake for sometime to be able to sleep.
Also i am tired with no reason after 2 pm.
Sometime neck and shoulder pain sometimes back pain. I have done many tests but nothing.
Is this TMS?
As mentioned in this and most videos, the best way to know if something is TMS is to take the assessments. There are two. The pain test and the FIT assessment. I would suggest the fit assessment and answer those questions for each of your symptoms. It is on this page: IsthisTMS.com
You tried magnesium spray. Hour before bed
If you’re so positive that it’s TMS why would you be shocked when it really works
Many know hit's TMS but are still shocked when pain that has been with them for years or decades turns off.
I think I get so frustrated/upset when new symptoms show up. I always feel like I need a reason for why this new thing is happening. What did I do to cause this new thing.
Hi Dan, what advice do you have for sitting? I have no idea how long I’m able to sit. My back gets tight and painful after 5 mins or so. I’m not sure if that’s natural stiffness due to sitting or PDP. Is sitting dangerous for the body? I’d love to be able to sit to meditate etc. but the clock is always ticking i feel.
Dan. Is premature ejaculation. And erectile dysfunction. Or sex issues are also Tms?.
Because 10 years ago before tms i have no PE.
But know I'm facing tms and also PE?
Now it is bad dreams
Same here 😞
Me too.. intense dreams and sleep tormenting and wake up in so much pain and fear in body. From past events and trauma, but also just from the shock of daylight and of the pain..!
I know I’m NOT in danger, but my brain feels like wet cake and paralyses me, for hours and hours, in derealised state. 🤷🏼♂️