3 Things: Conversation on Negging, Mother's Day Post, Dad was useless when daughter needed him
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- Опубліковано 16 жов 2024
- Conversation on Negging #negging #manipulation #redpill #pua
"AITAH for telling my husband Happy Father's Day today because it felt like I was doing it all alone today?" #mothersday #weaponizedincompetence
"AITA for being too distant from my daughter when she was going through her first period?"
#relationships #burbnbougie #storytime #marriage #reddit #aita #emotionalstruggle #personalexperience #support #4bs
The Neg: "You're beautiful for your age." My Response: "You're not."
😂😂😂
Right. Are these males attractive for their age? Nope. They make it a part time job to insult women over 30 because we are the hardest women to get. A lot of men don’t want a 21 year old gf but they have no choice bc a beautiful successful 30 or 40 something woman won’t even look at them.
😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣
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Mine..."and you're an alright guy, I don't care what they say 🤗"
My ex didn’t start with negging, he started with jokes and mild criticisms about other people mostly women. Stay away from those too.
Wow soo true. Men that always criticize women are just waiting to lunge at you when they get comfortable.
I run from guys who think it’s a compliment to put down their ex or other women. A micro peen (only saw it in pics) was talking down on his ex gf. Like dude, you’re lucky she was willing to work with _that_ . She outta get a tax break for it…
Yeah! Why listen to a dude drag other women!
@TheePrincessBrat 😂🤣😂🤣😂
Had one like him too. Complete narcissist. Engage at your peril.
Mother's day post is why nobody is signing up to be a mother.
Right lol
I hope she gives him the same energy on father's day. Or serve him divorce papers
Naw, get somebody else to do it…
Maybe the real mother's day strike was 4b on the horizon.
@@KenniseL Love this idea! Maybe even a breakfast with a side of papers.
LADIES, normalize getting up mid sentence and leaving the date onsite, block, and delete.
Right and do not apologize or say excuse me, just get up and leave!
Amen sister . I don’t even sit through terrible dating experiences. I immediately exit in whatever creative way I need to. I’m not going to stay.. period
Exactly!!
Facts!
That's what my dsd taught me. Don't srgue with men. Have your own taxi monry and money for dinner.
That father just gave his daughter her first experience of men not being there for her needs. Great job dad!🤮🤢🤮🤢🤮🤢🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡
Now she’ll associate love with neglect. It’s okay that my BF withdraws when I’m “PMSing”, I know he still loves me
It also says daughter can't rely on her mother. Great job mom!
In what way? Dad *could've* called literally *any* woman he was acquainted with.
@@jeromehenry4484 this was her first period, there’s no established cycle so there’s no way anyone would’ve known. And a lot of girls cycles are irregular for awhile after they get their first period.
I got my first period in the middle of lunch time during middle school. I didn’t even notice until later and got freaked out. I was lucky that a friend let me borrow their sweater to tie around my waist. I went to the nurse for a pad.
He doesn’t say in the story whether he discouraged her from contacting her mom or not, or whether she was even reachable or not. We don’t know what kind of work she does.
And it really doesn’t matter. *He* was the parent that was there. He’s not a babysitter, he’s her father and grown adult. He could’ve figured it out by coming on Reddit (like he just did) or calling a woman he knows or calling her pediatrician. Who would you blame if mom wasn’t in the picture at all?
Yup. This is why you don't raise children with toxic people. You're making their adult lives much harder as they grew up learning that feeling neglected or ab'used was normal. And when they meet people who are genuinely caring and nice, it will feel icky and foreign. Stop doing this to your kids, people.
That time a guy said to me, "You have a great ass for 40." And I said, "Dude, don't neg, I have a great ass for any age." And, not to body shame, but I was doubly shocked that he would make any comment at all about my body because he was very obese.
As an obese person myself, I don't consider that body shaming. It's not so much the pot calling the kettle black as the pot calling the shiny silver teapot black. The bs is pretty obvious LOL
Audacity is all they have as they are morally and maturity bankrupt.
Men don’t care who they look- handsome or not, fat or muscles , long meat or short meat. They always feel as though what they appear as is irrelevant . The only one who needs to be perfect and attractive is the woman.
I see it all the time, repulsive men with detailed comments on their expectations of women beauty wise.
Insecure men do crazy things
Those be the one who criticize women the most. I knew a guy who was a hoarder and didn't have running water for a year. He constantly talked about how irresponsible black women were and how he was better than everyone. They're delusional
Women must normalise walking away from disrespect. Do not allow desperation or society pressure, pressurise you in accepting insults from these men.
I hate that there are people out there who actually think, "Maybe if I make her feel as bad about herself as I do about myself,I might have a chance to actually talk to/ have relations with her." Just disturbing.
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He wanted to point out her possible personal insecurities in case she points out his. Sad. 🤦🏽😞
It's to make you feel desperate to have a man, any man, starting with him. The verbal and emotional would continue so you will be too worn down to get rid of the parasite.
It's sick.
@@victoriahardin1560the fact Most women recognize this young and old is horrendous. I'm still in shock when I THINK about a guy that did this to me in college over 25 years ago. The mind fuck is astounding as I think bsck on it. No one wants you but they do and use you as a trophy. But need you emotionally tied to them until they can't keep up the charade and marriage is on the table. They will let you salk thinking you will come back. BOY BYE! I love you but I love myself more. Not worth it. Soon as you let them know you won't have a kid, it changes EVERYTHING.
Men: the logical thinker
Also Men: I don’t know what to do
💀💀💀 as useful as boobs on a fly
Interesting he goes to Reddit to ask if he was wrong, but he couldn’t go onto Reddit to ask what to do for his daughter?🤬
So true ! It is because he is important to himself and she is not important to him.
My father probably invented this. He's in his seventies now and before I went no contact with him his favorite insult was to openly laugh at me and exclaimed that I thought I was so smart. I took this for years until one day I shot back at him, "and a good father WANTS his daughter to KNOW she is smart. What does that make you." In a lot of cases fathers groom their daughters to accept negging as normal joking behavior. It would make me angry as a little girl when I would see him make sexist jokes at my mother's expense. Too bad she's also a toxic boy mom. 👍
Same. He had this phrase “Use your head for something besides hair” whenever I didn’t do a task the way he wanted. It still plays in the back of my mind as a full grown adult & I’ve been in therapy for years
Ouch. damn
@@suuchi6309sometimes kids with absent dads are better off
@@noistune5707 very true.
I grew up in a very similar situation
My friend at work was from Jamaica and he moved to the states by himself and ended up having a daughter. Her mom abandoned her so when she started her period he came to women he trusted at work to give him tips on what to do. He did so good off of our tips to not only provide what she needed but also the comfort she needed so she wouldn't feel bad. The dude in the story is just an ass.
Great Dad!!
As someone who's pushing 60 and has been largely 4B-ing it for the past 11 years, I really REALLY hope younger women understand what a gift they're being given through social media channels like these.
I wish I could go back and tell my 20something self: "It's NOT YOU! It's THEM!" On some level I must have known though because I never allowed myself to get completely trapped and dragged down by a man...but I still went through YEARS of wondering what was wrong with me. It didn't help that I was surrounded by women-hating women who weren't interested in supporting each other.
Young women, PLEASE don't take this information for granted. It will end up saving you a LOT of pain and grief!
That father who was so freaked by his daughter's first period never heard of Google? Didn't ask the wife for advice? Didn't have the compassion and emotional maturity to just sit with her?? Disgusting.
My sister's ex thought girls only got their period after having $ex for the first time, no joke. I was like "Dude you have a mother, sisters, and a young daughter!"
@@aaunyea4799With some of the dumb things that these males say. I know that they were sleeping during sex ed
Sisters, Aunties, GlamMoms ...hell a Woman neighbor for God's sake!!
Right it's not hard to have normal Compassion for your child since they're in pain LOL
Right?
The guy is giving off that "banishment to m3n strual hut" vibes.
I’m a teacher and at my old school, there was a counselor who would constantly make comments about my height. Mind you, he was short himself. At first I would ignore him, then finally I said, “Look if you don’t like your height or my height, I don’t care. That’s your problem. As for me, I like my height and there is nothing you can do about it.”
😦 a school counselor?! Omg. I hope it doesn’t come out during his counseling sessions. Wtf
@@TheePrincessBrat I know!!!!!!!
Did he stop the nonsense?
If his car was making a weird noise, that dad would have put more effort, care, and research into helping the car than his own daughter.....
This is so incredibly true.
These mothers need to start matching these men's energy when they don't act accordingly on Mothers Day. Men only understand actions not words or talking.
Make sure to mention how you “thought that he just didn’t want to celebrate this type of thing” and that “he should have mentioned wanting to do something for fathers day sooner”. Don’t forget the “it wouldn’t be fair for me to put much more effort into father day than you did Mother’s Day.”
In Dinè (Navajo) culture a girls first period is a huge deal for the community. She’s considered very special at that time and her relatives, especially fathers, put together a whole ceremony that lasts for days. I went to a cousin’s kinaalda once (I didn’t have one) and there was a medicine man, a feast with a butchered sheep, and because she’s in such a transformative stage she’s able to bless others. People bring little kids so she can “stretch” them so they grow tall. And put their car keys and wallets in front of her while she’s being sung over.
She also has to run before dawn each day and others with run with her for support, including her father.
Just thought I’d share. ❤
That's beautiful ❤
Neat! Thanks for sharing ❤
Agreed. That is beautiful. I wish more cultures had ceremonies like this.
It sounds amazing! stretching of the kids sounds very fun too😄
I'm happy to learn about this, thank you for sharing! It's a shame so many cultures don't have something like that
My ex negged me about how I was tying my shoes. So I told him he can tie them every day for me since he is so good at it as an act of service. Shut that shit down so fast and soon after broke up😂
I think its time women start giving dudes back handed compliments. Like you are kinda handsome for a big guy or bald guy or whateves.
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Anyone notice how Mother's day can be like crap corporate work anniversary awards? Here's a pen with the company logo!😃 Back to work!
I had a guy call me last week telling me he had been thinking and he had a plan for me to get pregnant for him in September because he “needed another baby and you need a baby”. Y’all WTF?! And on top of that he tried to diagnose me as bipolar (not even knowing the criteria or causes) and that I was crazy because I would go days/weeks/months without talking to him. So I asked him, “So you sat in my degree program and did the clinicals with me and are now licensed to diagnose mental disorders? Because based off my studies and research combined with observation of your behavior, I’d actually diagnose you if I hadn’t changed careers.” Absolute crickets with a quick conversation end 😂😂😂
Y’all, you can’t make up the audacity that these fools spew daily. Seriously, the bear is the best choice right now. Choose the bear! 🐻
Even the bear looks at them ,And say to themselves this what you poor women have to deal with. No wonder you prefer us bears.!!!😅😅😅😅
#TeamBear
My ex is a debater. He argues with everything you say. He would constantly be proven wrong by me. He always thinks he is the smartest person in the room and he thinks he knows everything about everything. When you call him out and ask why he thinks you are stupid he makes an excuse and changes the subject.
Now that I understand what negging is, I can't unsee it. They do this so much and then wonder why you're not just happy to have their attention!
This guy recently went ''you're so attractive. I usually find black women to be the least attractive of all, they're not my preference but you look so good''...and this guy just couldn't understand why I wasn't flattered...🙄
And then what do you know? He happens to be super insecure about his looks!
Meanwhile, it's not even like I'd actually entertain his kind for 2 sec but oh well, he's got the audacity for sure.
Yep. And they also tell DSBW “you’re pretty for ads girl.” Or “I don’t usually fw darks, but your pretty.”
This can’t be my lived experience, but darker hued sisters say these dudes really say this mess! Then fly into a rage when they say “no thank you” to their horrible overtures! 😮😢
It’s usually the ones insecure about their own looks who behave like this.🙄
@@kittykatz4001when I come back from Jamaica one tried that crap with me I told him he looked like all his life he had to fight n his face still at war
😂😂😂@@shaypope4732
Wowsers, what a winner he was. The only time I can ever everrrrr imagine “usually I’m not into….______ ” working is if the other person was already flirting with you, and the blank was filled in with a form of a compliment. Like if a dude in the gym came up to a girl she might say “I’m not _usually_ into muscle bound hunks, buuuuut…”
Guys we have to talk about these old creeps hounding 35 and under down for babies. A 47 year old man with baby fever seemed cool at first but then tried to talk me into getting pregnant… we barely had a relationship and he wanted to go raw. These same men hate single mothers. But these past middle aged men wanting children no matter what is out there. Ladies keep your eyes open they are desperate.
Do not use expired sperm!!
Well I'm to old for him I hit the eallt I'm 38 I can't give men ant children at least he told on himself though they really do think younger women are baby favorites so trust the older women when we say this get on birth control and don't tell them your taking it.
Timon: You're almost as cute as me. What's your name?
Every woman: My name is "Get the f away from me, you creep". It's a bit long but easy to remember, even for you.
I was on vacation relaxing in the hotel pool, living my best life and feeling cute when a man came up to me to talk. After 2-3 min he said "If you would just put effort into getting in shape, you would be dangerous."
At this point, I'm comfised because If I'm not your cup of tea, why are you in my space. So at this point I decided to view this as a science experiment and literally let him talk, which he did for the next 30 minutes. All while his voluminous belly and flabby arms were on display.
He ended this by saying that we seem like very similar people and he hopes we run into each other again on our stay at the hotel. Just a bizarre situation.
Now I know I experienced negging and that this is a thing in the world.
Men barely even notice women they find unattractive, much less take time out to speak to them. So it already brings their claims of “not being attracted” into question.
Lordy! Really fine and fit dudes too busy getting “P” to be out here “cold” approaching women with this mess!
If fine and men “cold” approach, it won’t be somebody whom they feel is ugly or do not wish to smash.
It’s always the types that are no Adonis themselves. You were patient, I would have told him to get lost.
@@islandgirl8067 Yup. Any time I hear a man being hyper critical of women's looks, it's one of the most hideous men I've ever seen before in my life lol
He knew you looked great, and he knows he has no chance with you, so he made extra effort to put you down while praising himself. He a Weirdo. 🤷🏽♀️🤦🏽😞
My dad avoided me when I had my first period and didn’t tell my mom till a few days later that it was because he thought girls didn’t get their periods till they lost their virginity. So he was not only disgusted in my period but in me for “losing purity” as well. I was 11, he was 47..
Jesus...
No excuse. He should’ve been concerned, if that’s what he believed, not judging you 🙄
Can they honestly be this dumb??.
@@TheePrincessBrat for sure, when my mom first told me, I was confused and disappointed as to why he hadn’t stirred up a fuss if I he thought that I, a 5th grader with no extracurriculars, had been involved in something like that in any kind of way. Because the only possibility would have been SA.
Are your parents still together?
Go bears!!!
Yaaasss!
Random guy: „You’re kinda cute, but you have man hands“
Me: „Watch the man hand wave bye bye“
He was not happy 😂😂😂
Grizzle, grizzle 🙌🏽
#TeamBear
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I don't have many negging experiences, but my most recent was from a man I dated on the app (Hinge). He used to always call my boobs small and say they wouldn't "be fun" (I never took him to bed and never planned to). After my patience ran thin with him I started returning the favorite because I no longer liked him. The following time when he brought up my small boobs I asked him if the reason he had a bird chest was because he was in the Airforce. He was a slimmer guy and didn't have much muscle to him. He didn't talk to me for a couple of days and when he finally called he said we haven't talked because he felt some "tension" between use the last time we talked and that I was being "combative". If you cant take the heat stay out of the kitchen I am an undercover Chef my guy. Law of reciprocity. He's blocked now.
😂 loved the fact that he couldn’t sense the “Tension” when he was the one creating it
My favorite neg was "if you can talk about something other than Orange is the New Black you might stand a chance". Like cool dude. You don't like a show starring women and your opening line on a dating app insinuates that you think women are dumb. Hard pass. Blocked that guy.
Hmmm. One guy hounded me until I gave him my number and then told me I was too old but he would let me prove that he should still talk to me. I hung up then was bombarded with texts about how it was "a joke".
This also reminds me of the guy who called me fat, hurt my feelings then cried when I broke up with him and chases me down every time I see him.
Actually, I have one of these for damn near everybody I dated. Yuck, and this is why I don't feel like I'm losing anything by giving up on them.
They ruin events and occasions on purpose like the plants and pets stuff. (Remember the concert.. christmas.. now mother's day... Just impeccable timing for their bs)
THIS
I was sick this week. My husband of 3 years did nothing to comfort me. He was angry because I came home sick from work and he couldn't go out and have fun. Ge slept all day and night. I had to make my own tea, get my own medicine and I couldn't talk. I felt better and started cleaning and he did nothing but in his mind he does everything. I'm getting myself together and a exit plan because he is a great guy but maybe gor someone else. I got married in my pick me phase...
Forgive yourself then create a plan that let you find your peace again. I wish you well! 🌹💝
Nothing you wrote indicates that he is a great guy…..
@@Lee-ks1enRight!
I don't know how someone who's not there for you when you need him can be a great guy... He's either a covert narc or he doesn't care about you at all.
I hope you escape safely!
Be glad you saw his true colors early especially when you weren't seriously sick. Men are 6x more likely to leave a sick wife because it's "inconvenient". What the h*ll do they think that "in sickness & in health" phrase is about? Definitely make an exit plan, but take your time & have a bigger bag than him (hidden of course).
I dated a 28/29 year old dude when i was 23. he said I was bigger/older than girls he usually went for. Bigger as in taller. (edit: im 5 6, he was 5 11) He liked girls 18 to 21 because they are fun and youthful and girl his age dont want to do anything are are wrinkly. wrinkly. at 28. theyre too wrinkly for him. meanwhile i was looking at his deeply lined forehead and sun damaged craggy cheeks and crows feet and deep nasolabial folds like, man, the hypocrisy.
Nowadays most women know so much about skincare, I hardly ever see 28 y.o. women with wrinkles. He was trying to make you think that you only have a few years left to romantically conquer him. Because at 28 you'll be too wrinkly for him.😂
"That's a really rude thing to say. You must be embarrassed." I love that 😂!
I was told i had a "malnourished personality"
I laughed in his face because wtf
Lol you know he was holding onto that one for a while. He probably thought it sounded so cool and deep 😂 That's some 15 year old high school sh*t lol
I had some ash bandit last week try to quiz me on anime. Like golly gee willikers, I just spent all this money on all these enamel pins, anime shirts, and button pins just for the hope some drunk shooting star would fate that we would cross paths in order for me to encounter your dusty attention and trivia 🙄🙄🙄
Guuuurl, a lot of my hobbies are male-dominated interests and I just dropped them because it seems like when they see a fee-mail shares their hobbies they assume that I am doing that to pick up guys. Like, excuse you?! No. Ew.
@@continuousself-improvement1879Don’t let these lewsers drive you out!
I read a lot of stuff that mostly women read. We are always nice when men show up saying they love Jane Austen!
Don’t let douche bags drive you out! 😮
Those types are trying to shoot their shot but have no social skills.
Please tell me he bathed... Maybe not. 😅 🧼
@@SarboxCGJ I don’t know lol. I didn’t pay much attention to him. I was overwhelmed with irritation and trying to stay professional because I was doing a health and safety visit with my client at the day program.
I had a racial negging experience in Las Vegas. I had on an Alice in Chains t-shirt and some random guy on the street starts quizzing me about the band. Which I know a lot about because I love all 90's grunge bands. But I'm black and so I guess I shouldn't listen to that music? About 3 questions in I stopped answering him and he starts laughing with his friends saying she doesn't know anything about Alice in Chains. I said no I do actually, I just realized I have no need to prove anything to you and walked away.
I cannot try to even understand why this happens, from your example to ones we heard in the video. Is it because they want to keep a group they don’t see as equal “out” of their fandom/community? It’s messed up and stupid no matter the answer
You're the third person in these comments who mentioned a random guy trying to quiz them. What's wrong with these dudes? It's like they need to prove to themselves that you're not smarter than them. The fragile male ego is unbelievable.
Gatekeepers suck. And lots of white people feel threatened when POC are in "their" fandoms (like metal, or country music, or Star Wars).
The first guy looks like Mr Burns thinking that he’s cute. His momma LIED to him. 😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂 most of them have looks that only their mother can love. I have honestly never seen so many unattractive duffis looking men in my life.!!.
For mothers day when men want to they do great.
My husband started the day with gifts from him and our infant son. (Including jewelry)he took me out to brunch with our family. Not gonna lie the day was rough cause our infant refused to nap well -which i think might have been cause i had coffee with breakfast.
My husband then picked up dinner (which he ordered) for dessert we had homemade from scratch cheesecake which he made on Friday so it would have time to set up in the fridge.
Then once the baby was finally asleep. He had gotten the stuff to make a photo album as a quality time activity. And we spent an hour selecting photos for it.
Men are perfectly capable of planning and exacuring those plans.
Beautiful 😢❤
Awww! When my older sister had her first baby, her Mother's Day flowers that year were "from [Baby] and Daddy"
I used to date a guy who would neg me by finding new micro details about me bc he wanted me to start being insecure about everything. He would point out my non-existent moustache, "weird" beauty marks, "odd" shape of my nostrils etc. His reasoning? "I'M SO DETAIL-ORIENTED, I CAN'T HELP MYSELF"
Hmmm my SO does this…am I being negged??!!!
@kogo8107 absolutely! He's an ex now 😌
@@ladyeloiseherbert2195 I'm sorry 😔 Took me some time and reflection to realise he's doing that sh
Your SO constantly finds negative things to say about you? This person doesn't care about you. Care about yourself ❤
@@ladyeloiseherbert2195yes and (if it’s newish behavior) then his negging is also a red flag of cheating.
I could never imagine hearing my child crying in pain the next room over and do absolutely nothing about it. Not even a comforting hug? Like wtf, this is your daughter not a stranger
He looks like a slimmer, black version of Fester.
Yesss! He really does look like Uncle Fester!
But at least Fester was rich and sincere. 🤷🏻♀️
I think uncle fester was better looking.
Don't know who that is but he looks Edward scissors hands with the dark circles around eyes n ashy lips look similar
I was gonna say Nosferatu
My husband is about 4000 miles away and still sent me flowers, a card, and candies. I feel so lucky to have him, but I miss him a lot
Why do women not know about this? I see my friends bf do it to her all the time and all she says is "I don't let him get to me, he just playing" it's ridiculous
Distance yourself from her before it gets to you too. That man is too dangerous to be in the vicinity of.
@oanaion4899 I already had words with him, then he tells her I'm jealous of their relationship 😂😂it's just a situationship
@@user-fm7vg4dv1k bingo. Stay away from them both!
It’s emotional/mental abuse and if he gets her into a relationship, it will escalate
@@TheePrincessBrat you're right but she's not trying to hear it, so oh well
I got spies on the inside my 13-year-old says Riz is short for charisma.
This isn’t dating advice so much as incell culture. I think there was some rapist named Roche P, who would tell guys to always insult women to bring them down a few notches and to raise your own value, and these masters of critical thinking apparently could not smell the bullshit. But guys who are really popular don’t need to resort to grape these player influencers do society more harm. They make each guy into the very douchiest version of themselves.
His name was Roosh V, and he eventually converted to some stringent form of Christianity - Orthodox or something. Supposedly, he's sorry for all of the bad advice he gave to men, but it wasn't primarily them who were hurt by it, now were they?
I just had surgery to remove my uterus, and I had to stay overnight because I'm single and had no adult humans to take care of me at home. Based on other experiences of having men (my father, brother, ex-husbands) take care of me after medical procedures which were less painful and involved, I'm grateful I could stay at the hospital.
Negging needs to be avoided at all costs. No one who is healthy wants their partner so beat down they stay with them bc they don't have the esteem to look elsewhere.
That title reminded me of the story a year ago where all the mom got for Mothers Day was a nap. And, she only got that bc she was so dog tired she literally couldn't wake up. No, man who can't cook or won't cook or won't make a damn list deserves a wife. On fathers day go out and enjoy yourself. Spa day, delicious meal, etc
Its unfortunate and incredibly cruel to allow it girl to suffer during her menstrual cycle. He ain't shot for the. 😮😮🤯🤯🚩🚩🚩🚩
The sci-fi dudes acting like no woman can be a real sf fan were gatekeeping. My usual response to guys like this would be something like "What woman edited the first Star Wars movie? What woman financed Star Trek when no one else would?" (Answers: Marcia Lucas, George's then-wife; Lucille Ball, president of Desilu Entertainment)
"Rizz" short for charisma or charismatic!
In my late teens and early 20's, I didn't even know what neging was.
I thought my really charming boyfriend was flirting with me! 🙄
I didn't know until we'd been together for YEARS and he met my mom.
And my mom had to be the one to tell me, men do that to "knock you down a peg or two" it's just a manipulative tool to chip away at your confidence and self esteem!
I gave him the benefit of the doubt and assumed he didn't know any better, because that's how his Dad speaks to his Mom.
But NOOOOOOOO!!!
He actually did that on purpose!
And not just with me!
He’s toxic.
Hope you got away from him.
@@phabulouss1 oh yes, he's long gone!
Hopefully he grew too!
Back in 2008, I turned down a guy who happened to be a BM and friendzoned him and he grew resentful and embittered. He would neg me and told me one time that I would make an ok wife, but a horrible girlfriend. He would tear me down under the guise of joking for years. It eventually stopped.
The "happy father's day" comment is 🔥🔥🔥
I've been negged by so many people in my life, when anyone hits me with any negativity, I just disappear. Folks get flabbergasted.
I had a misogynistic dad who treated me like i was disgusting for having a period and making mistakes. This caused me to grow up to feel ashamed and embarrassed about it. I really empathize with the young girl.
Why are they asking each other money to teach each other to engage in psychological abuse?
Please go on to talk about negging outside of sexual relationships. As soon as I learned the word negging (from your channel!) I instantly thought of my father. My father couldn’t say a nice thing without the end of the sentence being an insult/ joke. That’s where I normalized this behavior. “That’s just his way of showing love.” I’m glad I caught on before I carried that into my relationships with men when I got older.
How does it impress us to be mean to us?? What is the logic? How can you want to impress somebody you are trying to manipulate? Why do they not feel the same way when a woman comes for their looks?
I work with men. They are mean to each other. They think that's how you're supposed to interact with everyone I guess
I'm not even interested in talking about my mother's day because just thinking about it makes me cry.
I'm very sorry 😢
Ugh. I wish I could make you one of my fabulous dinners (cooking is my hobby).
Thank you both. I made chicken carbonara. It's one of my favorites. At least there was something delicious to enjoy. Also thanks for not asking about it.
Never heard this expression before until this channel. This explains a lot about my dad (he gone). 😂 He could say the most hurtful words in so called joking or not; and my mom wouldn’t say anything in my defense. I went no contact many, many years before it was popular.
😳 sometimes, I have to listen to paranormal horror stories while working on my beadwork because these nemz horror stories are way worse than fictional monsters.
About Mother’s Day, I was able to tidy up the house, get her some flowers and her favorite chocolates, and give her a handwritten card. But also, while she was gone for the day herself, my stepdad and my grandmother all went out for a Mother’s Day lunch. So it’s nice when she gets to go out, but I hope she and I get to one day have a mom son day out again like we used to. She does so much, she deserves the world.
Thank you for showing your mother love and appreciation! 💜
Mine was “your not Loreal but you’ll do” he was a real dbag
Did he assume Loreal was high-end or something? Clown.
I have been in the health and wellness industry for over 20 years and I pride myself on being in great physical condition. A couple years ago I was dating a man 11 years older than me who was a successful business executive and self identified as arrogant(my first sign that he was a bum), one day he leaned in to kiss me and whispered "BBL" in my ear and the continued to eat his meal as if nothing happened. I asked him to repeat what he said, and he looked at me like I was crazy so I let it go(until I dumped him days later) Mind you, he is built like a whole barrel and was 11 YEARS MY SENIOR #NEGGINGpro
Shoulda told him you don’t think he needs a BBL, but you’ll support whatever decision he makes.
Negging is such a weird concept. "Yeah, insult the woman, you're interested in. That'll work".
At worst i fumble my words and blush, when i chat up a woman. At best, my rizz, like the kids say increase by 0.5.
Unwarranted gratuitous disrespect is not part of my vocabulary.
And that is adorable.
These young men listening to “dating coaches” 👀 are gonna have long, confused, lonely, and bitter lives, while you find someone delightful and grow happily old together.
Men: (play Mortal Kombat, watch gory movies and violent corn)...
Woman: I'm on my period
Men: ewww! Brother, ewwww! What's that brother?!
The lack of compassion and critical thinking skills amongst married men makes me want to stay single even more.
My Mother's Day was kinda great...I had a cheesesteak, hashbrown bowl w/eggs and a pecan waffle from the Waffle House for breakfast....did a little redecorating of my daughter's room, so it could be another sitting area (she's living with her boyfriend most of the time)....around 5pm made myself a ribeye, marinated shrimp, and broccoli dinner....watched K-dramas and Supermarket sweep all evening !!
A few things....
1. A male that I know told me that he goes out of his way NOT to compliment a beautiful woman. He says everyone else already tells her that so he's not about to tell her that. Like wtf
That only works on beautiful insecure women!
2. As I progressed into period age (I started at 9) I was also a bed wetter...One say both happened at the same time. My "father" got so mad and said a man would not want me because of it.
I also recall him running out of my doctors appointment when I was a little girl. I guess he couldn't handle it.
3. Idk if BURB said it...but can "negging" come from parents, too? If so, my "father" certainly did that.
One time a guy online told me “the bags under your eyes aren’t that prominent so you must be pretty young”. He was floored when i told him i was (35) at the time lol so funny how we regularly prove to them we don’t hit the wall when they say and they can’t believe it lol
I used to watch and read pick up artist stuff. I'll admit it was for entertainment, but also for self preservation. I think I learned about negging from RSD nation (Owen Cook aka Tyler Durden).
Does RSD mean something different to RSD Nation? Because among ADHD and autistic circles it means Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria 😂 which would be such an ironic acronym for a dating/pick up advice community.
It's good to know the enemy's playbook.
Mother's Day: ma'am, you are a married single mom. If no one told you this yet, let this be my PSA for you. You are a married single mom.
Period story: as someone who lost my mom at 10, my first period (at 12) was just as bad. I had to figure stuff out on my own, because I don't have any mom that I can wait to come home and be my safe space. I got through it, but I wouldn't wish that experience even on people I hate. 😵
I am just realizing I have been negged 🥴 seriously learning a lot from these videos too
Exactly, that mom should have left and get a pedicure then go eat somewhere.
There was literally a "Kill of the Hill" episode where Hank Hill had to help the neighbor's daughter Kahn Junior with her first period and he managed.
I was thinking of that! "Watch a whale documentary, it'll blow you away"
Go team Bear!
First story: These dudes will only understand a snappy comeback or totally ignoring them!! These trolls are useless, worthless and do not deserve a back and forth convo, even if its negative!! Second story is atrocious, the OP is certainly not the ah, but her husband is a POS!! I would suggest not doing anything on Mother's Day, no dishes, don't pick up trash/toys/etc, do NOTHING! To hell w/his wack a$$ feelings! I would suggest taking that whole day for yourself, go to your favorite restaurant, schedule a massage or spend time w/family and friends or go to a movie, I would spend a period of time from the home, AND treat him the EXACT same way he treated you on Father's day!! Third story is ridiculous, Dude, how long have you been w/your wife, to not know how to take care of your daughter during her first period? He sounds useless in this aspect!!! HIs wife was right to tear into him when she got home, its' like really? You couldn't at least look up online to see how to soothe her symptoms? What a bum!! He made this a day his daughter will never forget, and not in a good way!!
Aw that young girl might have endometriosis or something! The pain shouldn't be quite that bad.
(I have endometriosis & PMDD & I would cry from it growing up. It got a lot worse when I was older, but luckily treatment is working finally.)
It sucks she was stuck with someone who didn't even know what to do! No ibuprofen or anything!
Is he the one with the Muslim wife who isnt even allowed to speak on camera. She writes things down on a white board...
What?
No, Myron Gaines is the closet gay guy that gives advice to Manosphere miscreants.
I was shopping at a comic book store, just catching up on Batman's latest and this neckbeard decided to try to quiz me about Batman. Bro didn't even know how many Robins there'd been and tried to argue with me about it. His coworker started laughing at him and told him he was wrong, and he tried to play it off as just testing me, and I just told him that I wouldn't buy anything unless the other worker did my transaction. He was all huffy and glaring at me till I bought my stuff and left. His coworker apologized for his bs. For a split second, I was tempted to flirt with him just to be petty, but I had places to be.
Oh I WISH I'd been there! I'm 61, and I once got to meet Bob Kane at a party and thank him for helping to CREATE Batman!
@@gardnerhill9073 That's so cool!!! What was he like?
@@madalice5134 It was 1988 and the first Michael Keaton Batman movie was going to come out soon. He was creative consultant on the film and had a good feeling about the tone the movie would take (after seeing the silliness of the 60s TV show). He was very gracious to a younger female fan. I didn't get his autograph or anything, I just wanted to thank him.
My male neighbor does this. He always has something negative to say about me but then on several occasions asked me why I just don't give into him. Give in to what? I've been cured of that struggle love indoctrination. It reminds me of a verse from Meghan (not a fan), "I spared his feelings, now he thinks he hurt mone." Even without the comments, I'm insulted he thinks my standards are so low to do anything beyond saying "hello" or throwing my hand up. Now, I don't speak to him at all. Lesson learned.
It's a form of humbling u period cause think about it they need u to feel bad r lower ur standard to sleep with u
Rizz = charisma
Hm. Imo rizz is just bs-ing people lol
@@Maderlololohio I mean the origin of the word rizz comes from cha-rizz-ma
@@gemh89 yeah I know I just thought what does rizz actually entail. Game nonsense bs.
Would tell him naw to the date, my forehead doesn't like him.
The audacity!
I hope the moms in the comments had a great Mother’s Day! The Timon meme had me crying. I hope that more of us women start to really know our worth. The way women and men in my life have told me how they never celebrate the holiday with their significant other is so telling. I swear, a lot of men hate the women they are with. They just like having a maid with sexual access.
And most of them are not even good in bed!! If some of these men can only hear just how bad women talk about them to each. They would go underground and hide. Women can be so savage I absolutely love love love it 😂😂😂😂
The Mothers Day snl skit where Momma just wants to be left alone in a well and have thoughts to herself. 😳 It’s always been known. Mommas do not get respect or peace.
Second guy I dated- “you have chubby knees”
Me- 😳 (I literally went to the gym for 2 hours every day)
The next guy I dated was really sweet and he would say things like, “you’re the only person I’ve met that looks like a model”.
Apparently the only thing he could find to but me down physically was that lame bs. I was young and he was a bit older, so I feel for this at the time.
I figure when a dude feels free to make a comment about my body it’s game on and no holds barred I can say anything about his - men are usually not ready for that and they get butt hurt very easily so weird 😂😂😂
One really good thing that has come out of this ongoing pandemic for me and my family is that I put the store apps on both our phones and when we each see something that needs to be added to the groceries we can each do it from our own phones. We just check in with each other before I put the order in and schedule the curbside pickup. No more keeping a list or him telling me we need stuff. Not having to go into the stores and spend hours shopping every week at all the different stores has freed up so much time for us. I don't ever want to go back.
I would have rather been left alone than being told my pms symptoms and cramps were “signs of a demonic influence” and that praying to Jesus would subside them 🥴
Oh dang I talked about the negging I've experienced from an ex on the last video about it, but this one just reminded me of the types of negging I got from a different ex. I had forgotten about the dumb mess he'd say but now that I remember it it has me laughing. 😂
He also did the one about my breasts, about how they were "bigger than they needed to be, but it was okay, he liked me anyway." He'd also do the same thing and test me about nerd stuff (thinking I'd call Link "Zelda," and other similar things). So to get back at him I would ask questions I already knew the answer to repeatedly to get on his nerves, things like "Babe, what's the difference between Star Wars and Star Trek? And what's the difference between Guardians of the Galaxy and Battlestar Galactica?? They all seem the same to me . 😩" It drove him crazy and the payback felt good. 😆
But the one I got the most started out like this "I'm not usually attracted to white girls, but you're okay for one of them." This was coming from a white bread a$$ man. And it was always "God, white girls are so annoying. White girls are so basic. White girls talk too much. White girls aren't interesting at all, blah blah blah" And of course he's allowed to have his preference and all, but all that time I was trying to figure out what set him apart and made him so much more special and interesting than other whities? Like?? When he started another one of those rants one day I cut him off and asked "If you hate white women so much, please tell me why you're with one?" To which I received no response. He just sat there and wouldn't look at me. So I broke up with him not long after.
I used to keep Smart Water at my desk and this guy that wanted to date me worked beside me. I had turned him down for seriously about a year if not longer. He was married. One day one of his friends came by our desks he decided to ask me if I was “thirsty” I said know and offered him a bottle of water off my desk. Autistic me didn’t understand he was negging, but my unintentional response and his expression queued me in that he was doing this.
My dad got my mom a dozen wilted pink roses, and a card.
After saying the past 2 yrs I wouldn't celebrate Mother's Day, this year I was listened to. I don't need corporate pizza party performative acts when I'm still the de facto servant. So, I read, did couple chores and hung out w the dog.
Once they neg I don’t acknowledge their existence. It eats them alive. They’re physically there but you look right through them. Most of the time they keep talking to you so you ask the nearest person, “do you hear that noise? Annoying.”🙄😂
11:44 - She should have got dolled up and took herself to dinner.
Poor Mira 😢 he didn’t do anything about the physical pain? Didn’t tell her what to do? Come on, dude. It’s a physical thing; it requires physical care.
23:04 why didn't he buy a phone card for an international call and let the baby talk to her Mama? Do they not have phone cards anymore?
1:30 really looking like Timon but he out here teaching negging 😄😄
1:11 I was NOT ready to see Timon's face morph into Myron's goofy mug...