Why The Less F*cks You Give The MORE ATTRACTIVE You Are...
Вставка
- Опубліковано 18 вер 2024
- This video will help you become ATTRACTIVE AF right meow! Would you like me to answer one of your questions in my next UA-cam video? Text me your question here: ➡️ www.AaronDough...
The less you give a shit what other people think about you, the more magnetic you are.
And it's an interesting thing, because when you let go of giving a fuck, you will notice that people respond to you differently and that you're not attached to what other people say, think, and do, and it makes you so much more magnetic.
Now in this video, I'm gonna show you step by step, exactly how to do that. I think this video will completely change your energy from the inside out if you simply apply what I share with you in this video.
Now, have you ever noticed that the more you let go of caring what other people think about you, the more that they actually either come around, respect you, or appreciate you.
But have you noticed that the more you care what other people think about you, what their perspective is, the more you want someone else's validation, love, or support, the more resistant your energy becomes and the less they actually like you, validate you, or whatever?
That's because there is an attachment involved, an attachment creates resistance and attachment also displays the energy of neediness. Now, there's a direct correlation between that of neediness and having magnetic energy.
If you have non-neediness, so a lack of neediness, that's what makes you magnetic. The degree to which you have neediness inside of you is the degree to which you are repelling love and validation and support and all of that, away.
So this really is about a game, not a game, but this is about an energy of letting go of the neediness. Letting go of neediness. Now, a lot of the information I'm sharing with you in this video comes from that of the books by Mark Manson who has written the book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*uk.
And it's mainly, it's about understanding that when you give a fuck about what other people say, think, and feel about you, you're putting them on a pedestal, you're making them very important, but what ends up happening is you end up in a way abandoning yourself in the process of trying to get other people to like you and appreciate you.
He also talks about neediness and how neediness is the root of all like the energy that is literally repelling that what you want. And what the book is really about, it's about realizing that you have to give a fuck about something, but just don't give a shit about the things that don't actually serve you.
So really what the book's about is getting clear on your own sense of value and the values that you live by. This is something that I learned from Tony Robbins years ago, but always kind of rejected because I thought it was like, I didn't understand it completely.
I was like, well, beliefs create reality so whatever you believe to be true is reflected back to you. This whole value thing, I don't really understand. What values are is values make up your sense of identity, and values are the virtues that we live by.
Now, one of the strongest human desires there is is to remain consistent to the way we define ourself. And we all have these subconscious values that we think are important whether we realize it or not.
And these subconscious values a lot of times came from childhood. So in childhood, if our needs weren't met in childhood, which many of us had that experience of at some level, maybe even it's not that it's our parents' fault necessarily, it could be, but that's a perspective that normally needs forgiveness.
To me, everything in life is fundamentally neutral other than the meaning we give it, and we, many times, took on the meaning of things that happened to us growing up that then remain on autopilot until we become aware of it. So if we didn't get validated growing up, we may now crave and need and want other people to validate us.
And when it talks about giving a fuck, if we give a fuck that we want other people to validate us and then we start putting other people's validation and approval on a pedestal, that's when things get wonky because we're leading in life with wanting other people's approval and validation to help fulfill our own lack of childhood need that wasn't met when we were kids.
So this is about becoming aware of the virtues we are living by. So for a long time, I was living by virtues that really had me in needy energy. That really had me feeling powerless, hard for me to set boundaries, and that was because I was living by virtues and values that were outdated.
Those virtues and values were me that on one hand the thing that I wanted the most, that one thing that I really valued more than anything else was people's approval, their validation and approval.
Fix this and become MAGNETIC AF NOW! Would you like me to answer one of your questions in my next UA-cam video? Text me your question here: ➡ www.AaronDoughty.com/question
I’m going through a really rough time at the minute, your videos are helping, thank you x
God bless u immediately.... stay strong
Sending hugs 🤗
Sending you love!! You’re never alone! We are all connected & energetically I am there with you !!
Hang on I
Am too it gets better make sure you take care of your self
Great video life is so much easier when you can let go I don’t give a fffffuck about what they think their opinion of me is none of my business 😜
Absolutely I've found this to be the case in my experience as well. When we externalize our energy too much and chase and step into an energy dynamic of we're not in control of our frame and our energy, what happens is that this is extremely unattractive. When I decided to stop believing in my old patterns and what I thought I wanted, and starting embodying the energy that I ACTUALLY want to be in, this is when I personally started to actually love my life and things started to shift for me. Great video Aaron! Thanks for being one of the people that inspires me to post videos every single day : ) Much Love 🙏
Ty Aaron!
Around a year ago, I noticed my own hyper-awareness of other people’s emotions and questioned why I was so aware and/or concerned about other people’s emotions.
I was able to pin it down to a survival mechanism from childhood in which I had to know the moods of my parents in order to assess the safety of my own physical well being. “Was I safe if I walked into a room. Was I safe if I said this or that? Or would I be physically or verbally assaulted.”
I can’t believe I had spent my entire life trying to make everyone else’s emotions “ok” out of a pure survival mechanism from childhood. Just so that I could feel safe on the inside.
I’m so thankful this information is out and about and that we can all heal from the traumas of the past and grow into healthy and whole individuals!
Amen brotha! Keep rocking the party!! 🙏🏽
@Victor Aminu 👎
100% AGREE!! I am 54 and his explanation made me realize why I have driven away the women I really wanted the most
You are a special UA-camr & you stand OUT, Aaron (not trying to sugarcoat). All my life, I've always chased people. I was very desperate for girl-friends, a boyfriend, and so forth. It did nothing but REPEL them against me. People feel your energy --- especially the DESPERATE one. Now that I relax, I don't show TOO MUCH interest in people, I focus on myself, people gravitate towards me. I'm not joking: co-workers, friends, hell, I even got a boyfriend out of NOwhere when I wasn't looking for a relationship. It's because I gave the energy of "I'm already satisfied with myself and my life. I don't LACK. I don't need you." That's mind-blowing!!
I appreciate your honesty, and after watching so many times, the attachment is vanishing. 🙌🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼
yes agreed
Making yourself a priority can be challenging. But when you get there all you can ask yourself is: Why haven't I done this earlier?
Great video! Abandonment issues has many layers which leads to the same outcome you presented.
two people meet who makethemselves a priority equals nothing happening. One must always submit and the other must also be willing to compromise more often. This is the troubling thing with all these messages. If everyone plays leader nothing happens, or you butt heads. If everyone submits and just waits for things to come to them because if its meant to happen it will, nothing all gets done and both people end up waiting assuming the other doesn't care.
Eventually something in the middle has to happen which is just what relationships have always been. Both people need to make an effort but up to a point that doesn't mean giving up all they are. But you can't be completely only about you and your energy either. relationships don't work out.
were beginning to enter an era where everyone is overcomplicating things yet again.
@@guitarman0365 it's about equal give and take
You r right, I don't give a f... anymore. Period.
The funny thing is that after watching a lot of your videos i somehow manage to forget at certain momments about your advices/lectures and then you make another video. I swear, although I keep “relapsing” after each video I am genuenly happier and it becomes easier to let go for a longer period of time than the last one. Thank you for existing Aaron😁
Look, I would like my ex to come back, but I do not need her to come back. I still love her with my whole heart, but thats her choise not mine. I think that is the whole point of that. Thank you very much for your help, maybe I will consider it
Truth will set us free
The subtle art of not give a f**ck great read that correlates w this
It is amazing the power we have within... once we feel the power we have inside, the outside is merely a replay.
I've been listening to your excellent video's for months , but, although I heard what you were saying I wasn't resonating until today - where you say you had anxiety when you finally had freedom and I just realized that I have anxiety when I stay indoors during the day because I feel guilty that I'm not dong something like work or something - it makes me feel lazy and wrong because my Father was very controlling and we always had to be 'doing' something at all times , I had to mow the lawn, do the dishes etc. and although kids need chores, my Father Never told me that I did a good job, he never approved of anything I did. So, yes, it feels familiar . Yes, I fear rejection. Trying to work on these things.
Me too. I give you permission to take a nap or relax
I resonate with you too I feel worn out; working cleaning and trying to be loved by pleasing them.
You are helping me immensely. So very thankful.. ✨
🤯🤯 i have heard this time and time again but the way u just said this... resonated like a mo fo!!! OH MY LORDY! This was meant to find me thank you soul brother for this message!!! 🙏🙏🙏
I’ve been watching your videos for years now and they’ve helped me so much! Thank you for all you do Aaron!
Totally agree. I been there in the position,But dealing with my issues by doing shadow work on myself
Hey Aaron, I'm going through a very complicated situation at the moment, however by following your advice it has really helped my thinking and given me some mental clarity!
THANK YOU!
This Was I was looking for, cheers from far away, Colombo , Sri Lanka 👊🏼🙏
You are helping me so much Aaron. Thank you. My husband of 10 years walked out for another woman. I’ve been really at a all time low. You’re helping me come out of that put the energy into myself and really to just not give a PHUCK! I’ve learned some lessons one being I didn’t lose he did! Thank you and keep them coming friend.
Another great video… it’s insanely helpful to keep going over similar topics/ themes… I’ve been binge watching your content & I’m starting to integrate it after a few weeks 🙏🏻💫 Thank you Aaron xxx
I agree with you!!
Because of you i changed my energy ❤ listening to your Meditations every day. Thank you for changing my life
Thank you for another amazing video!
This is soooo good!!! Thank you thank you
I found out that we pick people to according to 3 things.
1. We attract people as healthy as we are.
2. We pick people who we think can fix the childhood wounds or neglects we carry.
3. The beliefs society has conditioned us to have. Such as an unmarried woman who turns 30.
Awareness is everything. It's awesome to see the world changing and becoming aware of these concepts and changing how we live.
Thank you for this again. And all you do. I was feeling really sad and shameful today and what you said gave me the right perspective. Brought me peace again. I havent created the best life for myself and my family and im a bit under attack but personally I am trying to improve my situation and having difficulty. But I do realize I am far too worried about other peoples opinions.
I'm a happily married man so I don't seek to impress orher women. But I agree with a lot of what he's saying. At one point I stopped wanting people to like me. I remember a guy once telling me he didn't like me. I just shrugged. He seemed shocked I had no reaction and asked "I just told you I don't like you; Doesn't that bother you??"
I just said " Not really" _ he was like "Why not??"
I said "Not everyone is going to like me" and walked off. He seemed really annoyed that I didn't care lol and I genuinely didn't
Lol
Thank you so much, you opened my eyes and soul! Your videos are the answer i was looking for so long! Now i am at peace! Keep doing, what you are doing!✨️✨️
You hit the nail on the head wiht this video!! Love you brother .. thank you for everything that you do 💚🙏🏾🙌🏾💯
Agreed perfect summation of all his teachings
I love the cursing it wakes me up! Thank you! Feeling really powerful I this moment
Remain in your frame! 💫🦋💫
value vulerablility wow I love it
Thank you so much Aaron🙏🏽 I can feel the changes it’s so peaceful to do things because they feel good or not do them at all, because you let go of caring what others think. Bye love it🧡
Aaron , you are so loved and hilarious 🤣 love ❤️ and light 🕯️.
Thank you Aaron I needed this little reminder to not give two shits and toss. I am that I am and if they don't like that, well that's there deal not mine.
Thanks thor
Thanks for adding this to yt not just on fb.
Thank You Aaron 🙏🏼
I’m reading the “Not giving a fuck” by Mark Manson and I am astounded by findings that resonate so well with me. I found answers I didn’t know I had questioned before.
Very true! Thank you! 👍🏻✅
To go safe the best thing to do is to say to everyone you have a date with "I am not sure why I like you..I must first learn something about you to find you why like you (or even love you) after 1 date"
Heck yeah bro!
Ok, agree. But how long can you continue to not give a f*k? How long can you stay needyless? Because neediness is a natural state for a human being. If it were not, we wouldn't crave for genuine connections and wouldn't need to act needyless.
@Ani reminds me of, "No man's an island, no man lives alone!"
You didn’t listen to the video, he literally says you have to give a fuck about some things, the point he’s making is that we should stop caring about things when the energy is harmful to us.
Thank you for this.
This is perfect, thank you!
Thank you bro for this video. Can you recommend positive affirmations that I can play as I sleep to try to get rid of these people-pleasing habits?
Check out Minds in Unison
facts
Thanks,this video is refreshing to me😆.I did hear this kind of explanation, but this is refreshing 🤣,thank you.
I wish you could be my life coach. I am just not around anyone who understands these principals. But I do realize then that is my valuable challenge. Because i shouldnt let other people affect my energy or self esteem so much. Trying to learn detachment. Man its a ride. I dont understand what I am so scared of.
So true not easy to do
Shit at this point I should be trapped / attached to a damn metal detector....I am OVER being single. F*CK.
Aaron, I’ve listened to so many self help/spiritual coaches and gurus. You are by far the best I’ve heard yet. Love your content man. Especially your stuff on ppl pleasing and frame. Thanks for all help!
💫
LMAO, my brother and I did the same thing with the TV remote when watching MTV 😂. Just recognized a lot of my story in this video
IDGAF ✨️🔥💕
When you are a lone warrior you haven't got time to give a fuck what people think about you.
That is not really logical on how highly empathetic people are formed. Some were ignored, shown no empathy and become narcissists!
5:00 DAMN SO IMPACTFUL...explains why I did what I did for 50 years
Wow interesting thanks 🧐
I don't care what people think of me because I am my own person
Hullo Aaron thank you dear you changed me ever since I started listening to u I changed I mind my business if it's dancing I dance enjoying my self then you see pple running after you I please my self yes I like that Aaron thank you more blessings dear
The bleach blonde long hair was so popular in the early 90s it's cool he's bringing it back.
Hey Aaron I'd love if you shared some of the books that you've been reading about psychology and stuff! Great videos 😁
Your videos are awesome 👌. We need to talk Brother 😒
Video is on point. Truth!
This girl I barely gave attention was attracted to me. The moment I started giving her a bit of attention she wasnt interested anymore.
Yeah it’s weird I’ve had something similar occur, full empathy it’s probably due to their trauma and conditioning and has nothing to do with, which is like liberating but also kind of sucks, all you can do, is let go, focus on yourself, strength your frame, and know you will attract a relationship that’s in alignment with you, without all the BS,
@@Infinite_exhilaration Exactly. Now I’m just looking for a girl who shares similar energy with me.
A! SAME SAME SAME.
Same happens to me Hundred times .I don't know why girls are complicated
Damn Skippy I realized this in 10th grade but thought it was just HER...at 54 I now realize that is true for 99% of women..Ignore them and THEY WANT YOU
I would love to be friends with Aaron
Hey Aaron what is the difference between not being emotionally attached to the outcome, not caring, knowing your value vs being apathetic and similarly not caring like let’s say if the person texts you back?
Good question.
I really don’t think this is the answer your looking for but I found being in your own frame/body when you feel attached, and doing your best to see the person or thing for what they really are.. the feeling you get tells you how you feel about the other person?
Having apathy has resistance. Like you’re fighting to have zero emotion, when in reality, there is emotion.
@@queencard1111 it’s kind of like I’m good if they respond but if they don’t I really don’t care, I don’t know if that is bad persay
Maybe it's good to be needy and make peace with it.. what is when sb committing a crime against you, should you be quiet and not stand for your truth? Am I fighting for validation from my lawyer then?
Peace to everyone!
Maybe the misunderstanding is in hoping people stand and support us before we do it for ourselves. Is this what you mean? To switch the steps and start to recharge myself first before I hope another one is doing it instead of me?
To me it seems also really healthy to involve other people's perspectives especially when it's holy committed people and before we start doing stupid or evil actions out of the attacked pain body which can be stressful. I feel this is the holy social physical network which we are all praying for. We can stand together in a healing circle like the 🐧 no space for evil attacks!
Aaron how long did it take for you to get over 1k views on videos? I strive to be where you are you are my goal. I hope everyone has a great life and I hope you’re life is great too Aaron.
I disagree..I use think that way . not giving F or becoming an uncaring human in early-mid 20s. Many guys would call me a F bish , cause I was so mean where I didnt care. Young, stupid duh duh brain I'd say. As you grow older, Its ugly especially applying it your personal and professional life. Too many IDAF thirsty in IG.and idaf evil ppl in today world. We need more people who care. But know when to apply that rule.
Exactly. Everyone trying to not care like whats the point
Aaron can I be honest with you, I followed this channel for updates about what is happening in the world. The spiritual frequency that is raising within everyone and how to deal with this. All I see lately is how to become ATTRACTIVE AF and honestly I couldnt care less. Could you be a little bit more educative about real world issues than my relationship therapist. Would love to see some of your older videos updated. Anyway keep it up i guess
Never assume your attraction can seduce anyone
Your tee shirts though! Love them.
Im needy lol probably why I'm single 🤣 I'll pay close attention 🧐
Shifted my focus so much that i find it hard to work my 9-5 (customer service) and focus on other people.. what to do now?
Lol
yeah tru dat but society jus has a f*cked up way of handling weakness with rejection vs compassion & encouragement. i’m gonna use mycellf as an example, since we’re often miseducated. i was a cute & popular girl in high school & i would walk or eat with the handicap, loner, or uncool kids sometimes, cus i could feel their pain. also, my twin flame was at his lowest & least powerful, but i was still so turned on by his essence. we can’t always be on top & up. we need to be a kinder society, or stop complaining about mass shootings & criminals.
💯
Manager at Nordstrom 😂🤣🤣 who else can relate
Exactly what happened to me
hello
This is great Aaron! But what I dont get is when you say that showing vulnerability is a way out of this needy energy. But I think it would sound the opposite to other people, when you express your feelings than yes you sound needy. Hiding would be a better option no?
My stepmom hated me as well.
Can u make a video of how to settle a problem when boyfriend often ask for money other than breaking up? Please help 😔
So become the narcissist 📝 Got it! 🙃
Aaron
What ur mother was good at was controlling you "watching T.V."
As a mother I do the same because I believe watching so much TV makes children to depend on it.. they don't find fun in playing outside in the fresh air..
But if I stop to need a person I don't want him/her as well. There is no point of them to show up anymore!
Your ex step-mom sounds like a nightmare.
Not that I give a fuck, but it's "fewer fucks", not "less fucks".
😇🧡💛💙🙏🌿👍
First🕺
You’re definitely first
Great
I hate the cursing. I get it. You are emphasizing something. But the most influential, powerful people I know do not use foul language AT ALL. I appreciate your message but please rethink this.
I don’t think he GAF! Sorry, I had too😅
Cursing isn’t bad, he literally says it in the video that everything inherently is neutral and has no meaning besides the meaning you give it, you were probably raised in an environment where you were conditioned that cursing or swearing = punishment or = bad. That isn’t true, and if you so choose, you could change that belief at anytime, cursing is another form of self expression that I imagine feels pretty authentic to him. Tony Robbin’s swears all the time during his seminars to pattern interrupt peoples thinking, so they pay attention more, there is a purpose behind it
*isn't it pedestal and not pedestool?*
Hey what book is he talking about?
omg why is the same Fking argument?!?
Please...WE KNOW about your step-mom...you talk about her in every video...she has gone...stop ruminating about her...sheesh
no im first
Its all so dumb.