I've been asked how much my monthly pension is. My answer is always "I have enough to put a roof over our heads and food on the table". Sometimes I'll add that we need to find a cheaper place to live for added effect. I also keep small sums of cash in different pockets. No need to pull out a big roll of money for eyes to see.
If I had a girlfriend who took any money that I left for a tip she would not be my girlfriend anymore. When she does that she is showing her true character and not the kind of person I want to be around.
@@jasoncatron1039 correct remember, it’s your money that you are giving to the waitress as a tip so your girlfriend has no right to touch it especially without your authorization
Flaunting your wealth is just stupid,inviting trouble, look at me, look at me, daft as brushes, rather keep my wealth private and below the radar, sensible approach, donate quietly and respectfully.
My father always said that nobody needs to know everything about you. Always keep something about yourself to yourself. How much money you have is probably the best thing kept to yourself.
With respect to the tipping issue, you are correct! I am probably the most generous among my local family there and every time i leave a generous tip, my mom and/or my siblings will say "that's too much"! I make sure I am the last to leave the table and that the service person gets the tip.
Nothing like putting a target on your back flaunting your wealth. Being an expat does target you up to a point, but showing your wealth...well....we all know what will happen. Nuff said. Thanks for the video.
Great video. Good advice for anywhere. Wealthy people I have known dressed as if they were day laborers or street urchins on the weekends, and this is in the US. I always look forward to your videos.
Good advice Steve I dress simple but neat as does my wife. Wedding rings only as far as jewelry. My wife is in charge of ordering food, paying the bill, and the tip. Her standard tip is 50p. I've only been asked how much I make a couple of times and my answer is always "not enough". My wife is the ONLY one that knows that. I like the Suzuki vans. We used to have one and we loved it. Key is buying one from a good rebuilder.
Good message Steve. Surely some if not many could use it ! -- You are loaded with wisdom and sound advise for the many needy who are often not even aware they are in need ? - (🤗) I highly value your direction & guidance through all the potential complications and obstacles expats must deal with over there ! -- Your channel has been a real blessing and service to many. Keep up the good works. ❤👍🙏
It's not just about the Phiippines or personal safety. It's about being a real man. Real men don't brag because it's a sign of weakness. The weakest man in the room is easy to spot. He's always the one who is talking about himself. A confident man doesn't care what you think of him. Good video.
So a wealthy man must 'act' poorer to be a real man? I don't think so Chrissy. Was Muhammad Ali a 'real' man or not? In the Philippines it's mostly about safety, that should be obvious.
Well - when I was young, the loudest one yelling all the time was my sergeant. LOL. I never thought once he was weak. And the funny one will usually be one w/ the meanest streak when they get angry. So there -
@rabidfarmer9765 Ya..... I was a sergeant once too so...... There's a huge difference between military leadership, which is basically a form of coaching and bragging. Come on, dude. You know better than that.
Flaunting wealth in a low-income area is rude, but it's important to not shame our Filipino families. Going out of our way to look poor would be disrespectful of the plight of the truly poor. There is a broad cultural expectation of an appropriate living standard for a family with a foreigner in the house. It doesn't have to be extravagant, but the family should not look poor in the basic needs of food, clothing, comfortable furniture and pleasing decor, educational materials and reliable internet. Visitors who may find it hard to keep up the basics at home can then enjoy them during their visits, benefitting from the foreigner's means presented in a lowkey way, in his own house, not broadcast across the town.
Carry a second "fake" wallet. Load it full with old business cards, receipts, etc to make it look legit. If someone tries to rob you hand over the fake wallet. You can even add some pesos if you want to just to "appease" them and send them on their way.
Seriously? If you live in a country where you think like that then just stay home, never been accosted in 20 years, be street smart but no need for gimmicks.
Do you mean a country like the USA? Because if you live in Chicago, LA, Baltimore, New York that is exactly what I do when I have to go to big cities here ESPECIALLY when I have to walk at night after conventions, meetings etc. My real wallet goes into a zippered belly band under my shirt and my fake wallet goes into my back pocket.
I find the Philippines to be a lot different when it comes to people asking personal questions about your finances, That's something that doesn't happen in my country my family and friends don't know how much salary or savings i have it does depend on your family and the friends you have. Even if you have been married for years and you have some funds in a high interest savings account if you had the money before you met your wife its best to keep that to yourself any marriage can turn sour. Telling everything about your finances can also turn you into a target not necessarily from the girl but a family member or distanced relative might think they will have access to some of the money if you were out of the way.
Context. In BGC or Makati, the wealthy Filipinos wear all the jewelry and fine clothes. No one looks twice at you there. I wouldn't do that in seedy areas or in the province just like I wouldn't do that in far more cities in the US.
Enjoyed that is always mate hey in regards to the Suzuki van my brother bought one and it what's a bad ride with low gearing and bad cornering in my opinion I would recommend anything else what about all those little four by four things that get around one of them would be pretty cool anyway regardless be wary of those Suzuki vans I'm telling you his drove like s*** that was 2000 ish model maybe stuff has changed but I have seen the same model over there looks the same kicking around over there so I'm not sure which one you're planning on getting but anyway be wary with them
Seems like some did that back home, and then do the same here in the Phil. There is no need to flaunt your wealth, better to be humble and fly under the radar. In the west it is really not that noticeable, but here you can really stick out. For some locals it is a turnoff.
I buy mostly cheap stuff because if they are broken, lost or stolen its no big deal to replace them and no regrets. From time to time, i will buy top of the line things if quality and value matters. I tend to wear old things and repair them because I like the idea that I'm milking my money's worth to the last drop. If I am going or meeting people upscale, then I will dress and look the part bec you get better treatment if you look distinguished and sophisticated than if you look like a bum. The height of power and success is to walk into an upscale establishment in shorts and slippers while everyone is dressed up and you don't and everyone doesnt bat an eye out of respect because you're a big deal and can do as you please and they all know it.
I have been coming to the Philippines since 2018 and it's now my joint second home with the UK 🇬🇧 , I have a 5 year old son here now too with my ex piny girlfriend over on Negros , I am a fast learner and in my opinion from seeing guys do this with their money is the more you flaunt the more you loose!! You show your wealth here as a foreigner and all the bad types will buzz around you like vultures & say how hansom you are & you will see the artists at there work. Don't hate them for doing it because they are turned in on survival mode .
We live a simple life. We could live in a lavish house in Boracay or Palawan but we're both cheap and don't let people know about our finances. Her family has jobs and their own money and rarely ask for anything. We have mama living with us and her and I get along fine. My Filipina won't even let me give the homeless people money. She said it's like feeding a stray cat. They never stop
Flaunting your wealth is true If one is not in an area where people of your stature are not common. If you live in BGC / Makati etc., then you are safe from...!
Great advice... I told my filipina I'm not supporting her family... I'm not loaning them any money... I have no problem telling people NO... NO MATTER WHAT THE CONSEQUENCES ARE.. once you loan one person money.. they will go tell everybody they know.. then it becomes a major problem Just say no
Leaving here in South, made us bought a car because the transportation is not 24/7....sometimes we had an emergency and there's no trisicyle nor jeepney so getting a car was really a good decision. We live here now in Trece for 5k pesos and the house has aircon. 🙂
If your living in a typical Filipino area, poor side of course “cut your cloth”. But the phil’s is not all about poorer areas and province/poor Filipina and their attitudes. For instance who are the most successful Filipino vloggers ..the wealthy Filipino celebrities, there’s no problem with having a nice car or indeed wearing nice clothes. How do you think that you get a high value Filipina ..professionals, educated, they are not shopping in the ukay ukay shops. They are shopping in the malls ..wearing nice clothes and travelling to nice resorts etc. Most foreign vloggers show only one side ..maybe one day a vlogger will come along showing there’s another side to the Philippines.
Not all Filipina who shop at the mall are high value women. Most are just showing off like they have money. And sometimes the women who shop at ukay ukay have money and business. Most of us are frugal.
Most expat vloggers would be considered poor in their home country. If you live in a super nice condo all your neighbors dress very well newer t.shirts and shorts and shoes. I have never heard any of my neighbors talk about money. They only talk about girl friends.😅😅
@@glendacastillo6504 lol a Filipina middle class professional generally do not shop at ukay ukay and any Filipina with a good job say corporate banker are not just at the mall to be seen ..it’s a place to vibe with friends.
Hello. A few houses in the neighborhood have been broken into and burglarized. Since then we have installed barbed wire in certain areas and bars on all windows. Is this a form of flaunting. Someone told me that bars and barbed wire is a sign of wealth and can be a target.
The only people I give to are the disabled or the elderly. They receive little (if anything) from their government. Usually it’s 20-30 pesos max and they’re happy.
A small loan to a neighbor or in-law can act as a buffer against future requests for money. If they don't pay the small loan back, it's much easier to say No to future requests. Just remind them that they did not repay the earlier loan, no matter how small.
Taught since childhood: ‘Neither borrower, nor lender be’ - learn to say ‘No’. I watched a recent video of a popular vlogger who was having a sit-down interview with a couple of other guys, where one of the guys went out of his way 2 or 3 times to clearly state that he didn’t need any money, “I have multiple streams of income, I could live anywhere I want in the world, I can buy whatever I want, I’m not hurting for money”etc.. So stupid - why would you ever say that out loud, let alone on a very popular UA-cam channel? Whether it’s true or not - why put that target on yourself?
@santropez680 If this message is an actual reply to my comment - I don’t get your point at all. In fact - even if it isn’t a reply to my comment, your point is unclear.
I understand your point not telling my monthly income but in my case to have them stop asking me for money I simply tell them the truth only make P50K a month and only enough to support me and my Wife and they stop asking ...
Never heard of a Filipina taking part of a tip left...lol...thats bad. Always give my tip directly to the person performing the service, its too attractive to others to just leave it on a table. Was wanting to get a Toyota Fortuner but decided maybe I'll get a motorcycle or 2 instead. Did not want to become a taxi for my wifes family : ( Good video, Steve...Jim
@@jsully4064 it's not common practice here. It's a North American thing mainly and some countries like Japan will consider it rude. Better off keeping that in NA.
@@Mjolnher9 Like I said, its common knowledge that Filipinos do not tip. Am not going to Japan and talking about tipping in the Philippines. You can do what you want but I always tip the trike drivers and others for good services performed.
How would you suggest I carry my 2 cellphones; one is a new Philippine phone and the other is an Iphone 14 Pro.? 2. Where to find a money belt here that’s under my shirt?
We had someone coming to the gate asking for money . After the 3rd week in a row my wife putba stop to it....i asked me mom what happened and sge just said he wont ever be back......
Getting a can or a motorcycle is a good investment and it is not flaunting wealth. Me and my wife from bacolod will visit Philippines. But I would not do any business deals or lend money to people in Philippines. When I am in Philippines I just wear shorts t shirt ten tennis shoes and hat. Congratulations on living on 80 a month, being happy with your life is important not how much money you spend or make.
if you cant afford to, then thats fine. it is what it is. but if a person has some extra, they should give some to others in need. its a good karma thing its being a good humanitarian. its part of being a good person. and no, it doesnt have to be money. it can be food, or a care package of diapers and such, etc.
I got rid of my Omega Sea Master, replacing it with a Timex and G-Shock 😅 All other jewelry already sold in preparation. Best to appear modest and avoid that "5 star lifestyle" look. Flies are attracted to shite.
@@jefflay8515 I sold my possessions and higher value items because they don't mean anything to me anymore. These are things I've owned for decades. Who says I'm going to be living like a poor person or flaunting anything? It's all in preparation for a life transition, nothing more than that.
If your girlfriend wants more money for her family because you gave $500 to a church/charity then tell her OK, and tell her she has to go ask the charity to give some of your money back so she can give to whoever. 🤔
Steve I agree with your thoughts in principal. You are in a culture that has no social security. You are also in a culture that thinks even an Expat that gets $ 1500 a month is rich by Philippine standards. I would not bother explaining to people why I can not give them money I do not have. They are not going to stop asking and why should they? If they feel I have nothing to lose by asking. My money my choice.
If someone asks me for money, I ask what they are going to do with it. if its for my neighbours daughter or sons fare to go to school, Or for school supplies, No problem, If i Have the money. I will help someone on occasion, but not support them. My G Fs Family has never asked me for anything. If I see that they are out of Medicine I will buy it. Sometimes her family will even try to hide the fact that they are in need of something. If I bragged about how much money I have or wore Gold chains or expensive clothes, You can be sure a lot of people would be trying to figure out how to get the money from my hands the theirs.
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This is a problem for expats living in the province/jungle. When you live in a nice neighborhood with likewise wealth everybody leaves you alone. Never been asked.
I was born in the province, not the slum in manila. We eat fresh foods and have a nice home with a nice size yard. We have a clean beach. I will not trade my life in the province for the city
Hey Steve, thanks for another great vlog subject. If you do decide to get one of those refurbished Suzuki vans, it would be great to do a vlog on the process. I also would like to get one of those refurbished vans, but don’t know a reliable place to go. There are many on FB that advertise, but just don’t know how to find one that won’t rip u off……thanks and that would be really helpful…….👍👍👍
Flaunting is bragging. Braggarts have insecurities and need to be esteemed. This behavior does not change based on where you live. So they have deeper issues.
You probably won't get robbed BUT, flaunting & showing is the beef I've always had with TimK's fancy $50k usd land cruiser, (with massive payments @ 20%) When I lived there I always tried to conceal my massive richness, lol.
When I visited the philippines. I went there with the soles of my shoes flapping. Holes in my shirt' and a pair of ratty looking shorts.. I looked homeless. 😂 I got a lot of stares.
Hey, I didn't work my butt off all these years to amass a sizable wealth just to live and look like you do. Get back to me when you're able to flaunt what you have, until then it's of no concern to you what I do.
Loaning money causes AMNESIA ! Banca boatman said to me " I know you are rich ! Becuz how much you pay for Jet ticket to come here?" Suggesting to my Pinay GF that she send money to her mom....she said...the MORE you send the MORE they want !
Dress for where you are going. If you are going to a dive bar, you dress the same as the other patrons. If you are going to meet with bankers or something like that, then you dress up to them.
You know that a troll is just someone whose opinion that you do not like/agree with. Example: " i voted for candidate A. He is great." Reply: " i do not agree with you. Candidate B is much better." " You are a troll. Blocked and reported." Very overused word. I agree with with the rest of your post. I do not flaunt my income, but I do not hide it and live in fear. I have a certain comfort level I am used to and will not give it up. I live in a good neighborhood and keep to myself. I am anonymous to my neighbors. They leave me alone because they got tired of me chasing them out of my parking spots and having their cars towed. Probably not the nicest thing to do, but I have always stood up for myself, and will never be a victim. I tell my wife's family I will help them when I want to, and only if it does not inconvenience me.
Lol what's the sense of working hard to buy nice things if you can't wear it or show it off? I'm gonna be me no matter where I travel too if I need security then I'll get security not change my behavior. Poor people can be Poor around rich people but it's bad to be and act rich around Poor people? Ridiculous
I had a philipina girlfriend who assumed l was a bottomless pit for money when l was living there ...even though many times l told her the opposite fact....she didn't believe me coz lm a foreign guy that did hve the money to visit her and take her to nice places at certain times. It what it is and if you are involved with a Philipina any Philipina it comes with the territory
I tip at restaurants and she says that's too much. I know now to not tip 1000pesos cause they start to expect it. I do tip the ladies when they come do our nails and feet or a massage. You must take care of your feet here or you'll look like an eagle 😂😂😂
With the tip, you don't have to leave it in the table. Place the tip directly in their hand. Your girlfriend will be pissed but who cares. It's your money to spend how you see fit and really none of her business. That's why you don't get married as it then becomes her business.
Well if ya live in a poor area ..I think you better to be careful but if your living in a more affluent area it’s no problem. We lived in BGC and now live in Subic..I have three cars. One in excess of 9 million..but there are two of the same cars near me….so it’s not like it’s really stands out.
Not he who has much is rich, but he who gives much. We are rich only through what we give, and poor only through what we refuse. Wealth belongs to the person who enjoys it and not to the one who keeps it.
I've been asked how much my monthly pension is. My answer is always "I have enough to put a roof over our heads and food on the table". Sometimes I'll add that we need to find a cheaper place to live for added effect. I also keep small sums of cash in different pockets. No need to pull out a big roll of money for eyes to see.
Be discreet as so much is online now especially California state pensions!
If I had a girlfriend who took any money that I left for a tip she would not be my girlfriend anymore. When she does that she is showing her true character and not the kind of person I want to be around.
I can’t believe anyone would let their girlfriend do that
My thoughts exactly. That would happen 1 time.
I know you don't like the word Steve..but any guy who tolerated his gf stealing half of the waitress tip is a simp.
@@jasoncatron1039 correct remember, it’s your money that you are giving to the waitress as a tip so your girlfriend has no right to touch it especially without your authorization
I think that behavior like that shows a lack of training. And as the head of the household, that training is your responsibility! (joke).
Flaunting your wealth is just stupid,inviting trouble, look at me, look at me, daft as brushes, rather keep my wealth private and below the radar, sensible approach, donate quietly and respectfully.
Very wise man. Gotta do what you gotta do for peace of mind and sanity. Thank you
My father always said that nobody needs to know everything about you. Always keep something about yourself to yourself. How much money you have is probably the best thing kept to yourself.
With respect to the tipping issue, you are correct! I am probably the most generous among my local family there and every time i leave a generous tip, my mom and/or my siblings will say "that's too much"! I make sure I am the last to leave the table and that the service person gets the tip.
Well said!
Nothing like putting a target on your back flaunting your wealth. Being an expat does target you up to a point, but showing your wealth...well....we all know what will happen. Nuff said. Thanks for the video.
Good Sound Advice whether you're in the Philippines or in any country. One of your best videos.
I learned that lesson as a youth in Detroit, also I never loan money, I give and if it comes back to me that's a nice surprise😉
Great video.
Good advice for anywhere.
Wealthy people I have known dressed as if they were day laborers or street urchins on the weekends, and this is in the US.
I always look forward to your videos.
Good advice Steve
I dress simple but neat as does my wife. Wedding rings only as far as jewelry. My wife is in charge of ordering food, paying the bill, and the tip. Her standard tip is 50p.
I've only been asked how much I make a couple of times and my answer is always "not enough". My wife is the ONLY one that knows that.
I like the Suzuki vans. We used to have one and we loved it. Key is buying one from a good rebuilder.
Good message Steve. Surely some if not many could use it ! -- You are loaded with wisdom and sound advise for the many needy who are often not even aware they are in need ? - (🤗) I highly value your direction & guidance through all the potential complications and obstacles expats must deal with over there ! -- Your channel has been a real blessing and service to many. Keep up the good works. ❤👍🙏
He’s the man-respect-very few are like him-He has no thanks-reward button-to give him $- like practically all the other you tubers have!
It's not just about the Phiippines or personal safety. It's about being a real man. Real men don't brag because it's a sign of weakness. The weakest man in the room is easy to spot. He's always the one who is talking about himself. A confident man doesn't care what you think of him. Good video.
So a wealthy man must 'act' poorer to be a real man? I don't think so Chrissy. Was Muhammad Ali a 'real' man or not? In the Philippines it's mostly about safety, that should be obvious.
Well - when I was young, the loudest one yelling all the time was my sergeant. LOL. I never thought once he was weak. And the funny one will usually be one w/ the meanest streak when they get angry. So there -
@rabidfarmer9765 Ya..... I was a sergeant once too so...... There's a huge difference between military leadership, which is basically a form of coaching and bragging. Come on, dude. You know better than that.
Good advice right there! Thank you
Flaunting wealth in a low-income area is rude, but it's important to not shame our Filipino families. Going out of our way to look poor would be disrespectful of the plight of the truly poor. There is a broad cultural expectation of an appropriate living standard for a family with a foreigner in the house. It doesn't have to be extravagant, but the family should not look poor in the basic needs of food, clothing, comfortable furniture and pleasing decor, educational materials and reliable internet. Visitors who may find it hard to keep up the basics at home can then enjoy them during their visits, benefitting from the foreigner's means presented in a lowkey way, in his own house, not broadcast across the town.
Wise words. Be discreet.
Wise advice for anywhere, not just in the Archipelago.
We picked up a suzuki every wagon. Good rig afterci fixed a few things with it. Perfect size for the narrower roads and narrow parking spots.
Good advice thank you.
I remember the saying that empty tin cans make a lot of noise. I know a lot of UA-camrs who love to show off. They don't impress me
Carry a second "fake" wallet. Load it full with old business cards, receipts, etc to make it look legit. If someone tries to rob you hand over the fake wallet. You can even add some pesos if you want to just to "appease" them and send them on their way.
Seriously? If you live in a country where you think like that then just stay home, never been accosted in 20 years, be street smart but no need for gimmicks.
Do you mean a country like the USA? Because if you live in Chicago, LA, Baltimore, New York that is exactly what I do when I have to go to big cities here ESPECIALLY when I have to walk at night after conventions, meetings etc. My real wallet goes into a zippered belly band under my shirt and my fake wallet goes into my back pocket.
If you have a lot that’s great but remember be humble to those that are struggling !!
I find the Philippines to be a lot different when it comes to people asking personal questions about your finances,
That's something that doesn't happen in my country my family and friends don't know how much salary or savings i have it does depend on your family and the friends you have.
Even if you have been married for years and you have some funds in a high interest savings account if you had the money before you met your wife its best to keep that to yourself any marriage can turn sour.
Telling everything about your finances can also turn you into a target not necessarily from the girl but a family member or distanced relative might think they will have access to some of the money if you were out of the way.
Context. In BGC or Makati, the wealthy Filipinos wear all the jewelry and fine clothes. No one looks twice at you there. I wouldn't do that in seedy areas or in the province just like I wouldn't do that in far more cities in the US.
@kyleteme There are many impressive supercars in BGC. I know people who exclusively drive them in BGC and nowhere else.
Enjoyed that is always mate hey in regards to the Suzuki van my brother bought one and it what's a bad ride with low gearing and bad cornering in my opinion I would recommend anything else what about all those little four by four things that get around one of them would be pretty cool anyway regardless be wary of those Suzuki vans I'm telling you his drove like s*** that was 2000 ish model maybe stuff has changed but I have seen the same model over there looks the same kicking around over there so I'm not sure which one you're planning on getting but anyway be wary with them
Seems like some did that back home, and then do the same here in the Phil. There is no need to flaunt your wealth, better to be humble and fly under the radar. In the west it is really not that noticeable, but here you can really stick out. For some locals it is a turnoff.
I buy mostly cheap stuff because if they are broken, lost or stolen its no big deal to replace them and no regrets. From time to time, i will buy top of the line things if quality and value matters. I tend to wear old things and repair them because I like the idea that I'm milking my money's worth to the last drop. If I am going or meeting people upscale, then I will dress and look the part bec you get better treatment if you look distinguished and sophisticated than if you look like a bum. The height of power and success is to walk into an upscale establishment in shorts and slippers while everyone is dressed up and you don't and everyone doesnt bat an eye out of respect because you're a big deal and can do as you please and they all know it.
I have been coming to the Philippines since 2018 and it's now my joint second home with the UK 🇬🇧 , I have a 5 year old son here now too with my ex piny girlfriend over on Negros , I am a fast learner and in my opinion from seeing guys do this with their money is the more you flaunt the more you loose!! You show your wealth here as a foreigner and all the bad types will buzz around you like vultures & say how hansom you are & you will see the artists at there work. Don't hate them for doing it because they are turned in on survival mode .
We live a simple life. We could live in a lavish house in Boracay or Palawan but we're both cheap and don't let people know about our finances. Her family has jobs and their own money and rarely ask for anything. We have mama living with us and her and I get along fine. My Filipina won't even let me give the homeless people money. She said it's like feeding a stray cat. They never stop
Flaunting your wealth is true If one is not in an area where people of your stature are not common. If you live in BGC / Makati etc., then you are safe from...!
True
This rule also applies to ones hometown, and it's a great rule worldwide.
Great advice... I told my filipina I'm not supporting her family... I'm not loaning them any money... I have no problem telling people NO... NO MATTER WHAT THE CONSEQUENCES ARE.. once you loan one person money.. they will go tell everybody they know.. then it becomes a major problem
Just say no
Leaving here in South, made us bought a car because the transportation is not 24/7....sometimes we had an emergency and there's no trisicyle nor jeepney so getting a car was really a good decision.
We live here now in Trece for 5k pesos and the house has aircon. 🙂
If your living in a typical Filipino area, poor side of course “cut your cloth”. But the phil’s is not all about poorer areas and province/poor Filipina and their attitudes. For instance who are the most successful Filipino vloggers ..the wealthy Filipino celebrities, there’s no problem with having a nice car or indeed wearing nice clothes. How do you think that you get a high value Filipina ..professionals, educated, they are not shopping in the ukay ukay shops. They are shopping in the malls ..wearing nice clothes and travelling to nice resorts etc. Most foreign vloggers show only one side ..maybe one day a vlogger will come along showing there’s another side to the Philippines.
Not all Filipina who shop at the mall are high value women. Most are just showing off like they have money. And sometimes the women who shop at ukay ukay have money and business. Most of us are frugal.
Most expat vloggers would be considered poor in their home country. If you live in a super nice condo all your neighbors dress very well newer t.shirts and shorts and shoes. I have never heard any of my neighbors talk about money. They only talk about girl friends.😅😅
@@glendacastillo6504 lol a Filipina middle class professional generally do not shop at ukay ukay and any Filipina with a good job say corporate banker are not just at the mall to be seen ..it’s a place to vibe with friends.
Hello. A few houses in the neighborhood have been broken into and burglarized. Since then we have installed barbed wire in certain areas and bars on all windows. Is this a form of flaunting. Someone told me that bars and barbed wire is a sign of wealth and can be a target.
The only people I give to are the disabled or the elderly. They receive little (if anything) from their government. Usually it’s 20-30 pesos max and they’re happy.
Better yet not to give because people will remember you for your generosity and will take advantage of you.
A small loan to a neighbor or in-law can act as a buffer against future requests for money. If they don't pay the small loan back, it's much easier to say No to future requests. Just remind them that they did not repay the earlier loan, no matter how small.
Steve, you got that right.
Any expat asking for money is bad news.
Well said..
Taught since childhood: ‘Neither borrower, nor lender be’ - learn to say ‘No’. I watched a recent video of a popular vlogger who was having a sit-down interview with a couple of other guys, where one of the guys went out of his way 2 or 3 times to clearly state that he didn’t need any money, “I have multiple streams of income, I could live anywhere I want in the world, I can buy whatever I want, I’m not hurting for money”etc.. So stupid - why would you ever say that out loud, let alone on a very popular UA-cam channel?
Whether it’s true or not - why put that target on yourself?
@santropez680 If this message is an actual reply to my comment - I don’t get your point at all.
In fact - even if it isn’t a reply to my comment, your point is unclear.
I understand your point not telling my monthly income but in my case to have them stop asking me for money I simply tell them the truth only make P50K a month and only enough to support me and my Wife and they stop asking ...
No one should flaunt their wealth wherever they see are period. Be quiet with your business.
I broke up instantly with a lady I was seeing when she tried to split the tip with the waitress.
I have a nice clic "family members " always by me, i always have them speak for me! But i did noticed that tipping thing by my girl!
Never heard of a Filipina taking part of a tip left...lol...thats bad. Always give my tip directly to the person performing the service, its too attractive to others to just leave it on a table.
Was wanting to get a Toyota Fortuner but decided maybe I'll get a motorcycle or 2 instead. Did not want to become a taxi for my wifes family : (
Good video, Steve...Jim
Tips aren't expected here. Filipinos don't do it often
@@Mjolnher9 Common knowledge. Like to leave a tip though, it is greatly appreciated by most
Filipinos.
@@jsully4064 it's not common practice here. It's a North American thing mainly and some countries like Japan will consider it rude. Better off keeping that in NA.
@@Mjolnher9 Like I said, its common knowledge that Filipinos do not tip. Am not going to Japan and talking about tipping in the Philippines. You can do what you want but I always tip the trike drivers and others for good services performed.
@@jsully4064 well in my country we don't do this practice either
"Don't show all your beans". Haven't heard that one before. 😂😂😂 -point taken though.
How would you suggest I carry my 2 cellphones; one is a new Philippine phone and the other is an Iphone 14 Pro.?
2. Where to find a money belt here that’s under my shirt?
We had someone coming to the gate asking for money . After the 3rd week in a row my wife putba stop to it....i asked me mom what happened and sge just said he wont ever be back......
Many times I have been asked if I’m rich
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I’ve made it Custom to reply that “we are all rich if we are around people & things we love”
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If you leave a tip for a waitress, and your girlfriend takes it, it's time to dump your girlfriend. Unacceptable.
Boundaries are important
With all the information you guys say on UA-cam, i sold all my jewelry before i got here!
I still wear it but in safe places.
Getting a can or a motorcycle is a good investment and it is not flaunting wealth.
Me and my wife from bacolod will visit Philippines.
But I would not do any business deals or lend money to people in Philippines.
When I am in Philippines I just wear shorts t shirt ten tennis shoes and hat.
Congratulations on living on 80 a month, being happy with your life is important not how much money you spend or make.
Very wise
Hate to get kidnapped being Mr rich . Anything can happen
If you use the mc Donald’s app on your cell it’s cost 6.50 for the big Mac deal so use the it’s a better price.
I don't give money to anyone, I can't afford to...I earned mine, they can earn theirs.
if you cant afford to, then thats fine. it is what it is.
but if a person has some extra, they should give some to others in need.
its a good karma thing
its being a good humanitarian.
its part of being a good person.
and no, it doesnt have to be money. it can be food, or a care package of diapers and such, etc.
I got rid of my Omega Sea Master, replacing it with a Timex and G-Shock 😅 All other jewelry already sold in preparation. Best to appear modest and avoid that "5 star lifestyle" look. Flies are attracted to shite.
Telling us you sold your omega to live like a poor person is flaunting your wealth
@@jefflay8515 I sold my possessions and higher value items because they don't mean anything to me anymore. These are things I've owned for decades. Who says I'm going to be living like a poor person or flaunting anything? It's all in preparation for a life transition, nothing more than that.
If your girlfriend wants more money for her family because you gave $500 to a church/charity then tell her OK, and tell her she has to go ask the charity to give some of your money back so she can give to whoever. 🤔
Steve I agree with your thoughts in principal. You are in a culture that has no social security. You are also in a culture that thinks even an Expat that gets $ 1500 a month is rich by Philippine standards. I would not bother explaining to people why I can not give them money I do not have. They are not going to stop asking and why should they? If they feel I have nothing to lose by asking. My money my choice.
If someone asks me for money, I ask what they are going to do with it. if its for my neighbours daughter or sons fare to go to school, Or for school supplies, No problem, If i Have the money. I will help someone on occasion, but not support them. My G Fs Family has never asked me for anything. If I see that they are out of Medicine I will buy it. Sometimes her family will even try to hide the fact that they are in need of something. If I bragged about how much money I have or wore Gold chains or expensive clothes, You can be sure a lot of people would be trying to figure out how to get the money from my hands the theirs.
Flaunting your wealth puts a target on your back. People notice and one of them might decide to make a “withdrawal”
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This is a problem for expats living in the province/jungle. When you live in a nice neighborhood with likewise wealth everybody leaves you alone. Never been asked.
I was born in the province, not the slum in manila. We eat fresh foods and have a nice home with a nice size yard. We have a clean beach. I will not trade my life in the province for the city
@@glendacastillo6504nice mahi mahi 🤙😎✨
A word to the wise is sufficient. Thanks Steve for another good share.
You are very welcome
Good advise, but very sad that it still has to be mentioned. Common sense should be present.
flaunting your wealth is like saying "hello IRS!"
Lol
Yep elma where no gold i just put on flip flops and shorts
Greetings from new jersey
Welcome!
I don't even wear my watch. Wedding ring only. I only carry enough money I need for the day.
That’s right forget Rolex I would not wear a Casio G-Shock out there
There is nothing worse then going to paradise, meeting friendly locals, with Sick Grandpa in the mix!
My carabao is sick now after having a scooter accident and needs cell load.
Bingo
I'd consider anyone that flaunts their wealth anywhere is an idiot... really shows me what kind of personality they have. 😅
When they ask about money…. Just say( secret)….
Hey Steve, thanks for another great vlog subject. If you do decide to get one of those refurbished Suzuki vans, it would be great to do a vlog on the process. I also would like to get one of those refurbished vans, but don’t know a reliable place to go. There are many on FB that advertise, but just don’t know how to find one that won’t rip u off……thanks and that would be really helpful…….👍👍👍
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Flaunting is bragging. Braggarts have insecurities and need to be esteemed. This behavior does not change based on where you live. So they have deeper issues.
You probably won't get robbed BUT, flaunting & showing is the beef I've always had with TimK's fancy $50k usd land cruiser, (with massive payments @ 20%) When I lived there I always tried to conceal my massive richness, lol.
When I visited the philippines. I went there with the soles of my shoes flapping. Holes in my shirt' and a pair of ratty looking shorts.. I looked homeless. 😂 I got a lot of stares.
Hey, I didn't work my butt off all these years to amass a sizable wealth just to live and look like you do. Get back to me when you're able to flaunt what you have, until then it's of no concern to you what I do.
Loaning money causes AMNESIA ! Banca boatman said to me " I know you are rich ! Becuz how much you pay for Jet ticket to come here?" Suggesting to my Pinay GF that she send money to her mom....she said...the MORE you send the MORE they want !
Good info but if I’m saying I’m a millionaire, Marites will run with that and the whole town will now.
Dress for where you are going. If you are going to a dive bar, you dress the same as the other patrons. If you are going to meet with bankers or something like that, then you dress up to them.
You know that a troll is just someone whose opinion that you do not like/agree with. Example: " i voted for candidate A. He is great." Reply: " i do not agree with you. Candidate B is much better." " You are a troll. Blocked and reported." Very overused word. I agree with with the rest of your post. I do not flaunt my income, but I do not hide it and live in fear. I have a certain comfort level I am used to and will not give it up. I live in a good neighborhood and keep to myself. I am anonymous to my neighbors. They leave me alone because they got tired of me chasing them out of my parking spots and having their cars towed. Probably not the nicest thing to do, but I have always stood up for myself, and will never be a victim. I tell my wife's family I will help them when I want to, and only if it does not inconvenience me.
Lol what's the sense of working hard to buy nice things if you can't wear it or show it off? I'm gonna be me no matter where I travel too if I need security then I'll get security not change my behavior. Poor people can be Poor around rich people but it's bad to be and act rich around Poor people? Ridiculous
Translation for advertising your wealth= Advertising you target
Id like to see you do a video on the Suzuki van
Maybe in the future
I had a philipina girlfriend who assumed l was a bottomless pit for money when l was living there ...even though many times l told her the opposite fact....she didn't believe me coz lm a foreign guy that did hve the money to visit her and take her to nice places at certain times. It what it is and if you are involved with a Philipina any Philipina it comes with the territory
I tip at restaurants and she says that's too much. I know now to not tip 1000pesos cause they start to expect it. I do tip the ladies when they come do our nails and feet or a massage. You must take care of your feet here or you'll look like an eagle 😂😂😂
but you're automatically rich if you're an expat. I know how much you're making each month without even telling me..😅😊😅 Great info.
With the tip, you don't have to leave it in the table. Place the tip directly in their hand. Your girlfriend will be pissed but who cares. It's your money to spend how you see fit and really none of her business. That's why you don't get married as it then becomes her business.
oh my god buying a car is not flaunting your wealth i guess you think that most people that build anice home here is flaunting there wealth
Well if ya live in a poor area ..I think you better to be careful but if your living in a more affluent area it’s no problem. We lived in BGC and now live in Subic..I have three cars. One in excess of 9 million..but there are two of the same cars near me….so it’s not like it’s really stands out.
This video was inspired by Mr. Ricky Drama and his five star lifestyle. If you know you know.
Good Guess !!!😂
I will NOT give someone who has a substance abuse problem money for any reason.
What kind of people do you give money to ?
@stevenundzid4765 I do not run a charity, does that answer your question?
@@oracleSD Sure does!
I’ll just tell them I live off Social Security.
Wow $80 for an apartment. I wonder in your case, how you came up with a sweet spot of $2500.
I sat down for a week and looked at everything needed to make it till death.
Not he who has much is rich, but he who gives much. We are rich only through what we give, and poor only through what we refuse. Wealth belongs to the person who enjoys it and not to the one who keeps it.
What percent of your income do you give away?
Did you have to go out of country to continue your stay here in the philippines, I am 10 to 12 hours by bud from Manila