Therapy Session: Couples Counseling - Gottman Method - Dreams Within Conflict. Kim Lampson, PhD

Ever wonder why some issues in marriage keep coming up over & over again? They just don’t go away. They don’t get resolved. Sarah and James learn how to talk about perpetual issues using the Gottman Method Dreams Within Conflict exercise. According to John & Julie Gottman, 69% of all issues are perpetual so couples need to learn to talk about them calmly without fighting. Understanding the dreams underneath the issues can make all the difference.
This video is also a great teaching tool that demonstrates how to use the Gottman Dreams Within Conflict intervention using telemental health. Dr. Kim Lampson is a Certified Gottman Therapist who helps the couple listen to and support each other. The video also teaches therapists how to introduce this technique and coach a couple through the process of learning how to communicate understanding, postpone problem solving, and show empathy. Most importantly, both partners learn about honoring each other’s dreams and being sensitive to each other’s enduring vulnerabilities.

[@martinmwanzia9472]

great learning aid to me as a psychology student.

[@WestleySherman]

Hoping I'm remembering correctly, surprisingly useful guidance I heard from Dr. Julie Gottman was along the lines of, "Don't give your wife advice unless she asks for it."

[@aracellyquezada887]

Great video !

[@ultramanmountainadventurer6769]

At around 7:00 minutes in the "issue" is not given. I know this is just an example using role play, but it would help to mention what issue they are discussing.

[@josephstanton7386]

I am a new therapist and I was wondering, why did you start with the first question rather than having the speaker begin by explaining their position?

[@cfcreative1]

Cute couple.

[@timheller4727]

Is this Dreams in Conflict meant for young couples just starting out or is it meant for any couple anywhere in the lifecycle ?

[@kimlampson704]

It is meant for any couple anywhere in the lifecycle. Often couples who have been together for many years will learn something new about each other that is helpful for the relationship by doing this exercise.

[@kimlampson704]

The Dreams within Conflict works well for all couples. Often, couples who have been married for many years learn new things about each other through doing this exercise that deepen their relationship.

[@cassiesalinas509]

What sheet was used here?

[@margieharper910]

Maybe it's this? www.thecouplescollege.com/wp-content/uploads/Gottman-dreams-within-conflict.pdf