I played tough love with my daughter. The minute I stopped trying to understand and just said no. I had four younger children at home. She could not be in my house. Homelessness changed her trajectory. She has been clean and sober for fifteen years. I was terrified, but I still threw her out. Now we are best buddies. She thanks me often for not enabling her.
@@AotearoaAnge that’s not necessarily true. Most addicts are addicts because of some type of childhood or young adulthood trauma. Family definitely contributes to that.
@wendyraman8014 Did you actually watch the episode? Dude always told his family members and others he needed money for food and gas and other essentials when in reality he used the money that was given to him was used for drugs. Now, I would personally say I would make and/or buy him food or force him to take me to the gas station and I would put the gas in myself and pay for it. However, this is not what they did.
@KattelinaLace There isn't enough time in the day to keep up with this guys needs. You'd be running out every day to buy him stuff and take him places. Put the money aside, nobody has that kind of time and energy to deal with that
@nancydupuis8083 That is better than just giving him money to waste. Besides, after a while dude will get really tired of nor getting his way. And, I would not take him anywhere, I am vision impaired unfortunately. That would be the way it has to be in order to ensure his safety.
I think this is the first time I've started watching the Dr. Phil show and couldn't watch it. This man is no different than any other drug addict who can't get off the stuff. The addiction is too strong. The craving is overwhelming, and the feeling one gets from the stuff is not replaced by all the logic in the world, all the kudos, all the opportunities and loss of self. The drugs, after awhile, damage the brain to the point where it's easier to just stay stoned than get sober. It's too much work and too much discomfort. I've had it in my family (my brother, niece, great nephew, grand daughter and sister-in-law). This doesn't include the alcoholism. The pain it causes others is unmeasurable. And it's hard to let go because you still love them.
He doesn't care..hes one of those that will kill parents some day... How on earth can he get women...why would women give a man with a family, money? Never ever!!
You have lost your son to drugs. Been through this. I did tough love, no contact. Now have my child back. 4 years now. However, still on hightend alert.
What? This guy has had more opportunities for help than most could imagine. And he continues to use & manipulate people. Addiction brings out the worst in people but being an addict doesn’t absolve you from guilt.
Tough love works. My family did it to me and ill be 4 years clean tomorrow ❤ I've been off probation and parole for 4 years also. Alot of people think they're not strong enough to get clean. But they are. It takes more effort to stay high then it does to stay clean. To the ones still struggling, you can take your life back. You got this.
Parents don’t realize that giving cash to an addict just speeds up the end results of addiction….it doesn’t make them sober. The parents need a wake up call big time. “I got you a car and an apartment!! Why couldn’t you stay clean?!!!”….dude, that’s not how it works 🤦♀️
My kids were taught, from the high chair, "You are whip smart and I trust you to use good judgement. If you decide *not* to use good judgement, only *you* are responsible for your decisions."
I took Percocet once and I swear watching this no matter how much pain I am in I won't take such an awful thing ever! Thank you for the awareness Dr Phil!!
That is what happened to me in my alcoholism. I was so desperate at the end when I went to rehab I would have slept outside and ate dog food if they could show me how to quit drinking. That, in my opinion, is the only way you can stop your addiction is you need to get to a point where you are over it and just cannot do it anymore to yourself.
My ex was a druggy and lost it all. It hit him when he had no money, because money was everything to him, that it caused him to get clean. He got too tired of homelessness and trash living, that he was pin point focused on recovery. Now he’s living completely different. Clean and well off by slowly building back his life, with initial help from family, but not too much to where it enabled him. He actually decided he didn’t want to be enabled but crawl back on his own. He worked hard at getting a decent job. It can be done but you have to want it with every fiber of your being. I pray for this guy to find healing in Christ most of all but to just find healing all the way around.
I worked in a Methadone clinic for 6.5 years. If u aren't an addict you have no idea what it's like. As for the parents they r guilty of loving him too much. It's hard watching your child kill themselves one day at a time.
That is not ‘loving him too much’, it’s neither one can stand the discomfort of saying ‘No’. That’s about THEM, not him. Love is doing the tough stuff, that’s not what this is.
@wendyraman8014 30 days in prison for theft and drugs and who knows what else Theres plenty of felons he would be surrounded with Hes not ready for a sponser🙄 Hes ready to spend some time out way out
Unless you actually live that you have no idea what its like. Addicts are really good at manipulating and it seems so easy for people to say just kick them out, sink or swim, hit the streets etc. Parents may give money but an addict knows the game and how to play it. The unrelenting pressure, the outbursts, the threats of violence, all the damage to property etc. Its crazy. I believe most parents think they will change, it will get better but it never does. I so dont think parents give in to make themselves feel better....they are needing the short term peace that comes when the addict finally gets his high. That little bit of down time from an addict is priceless though it may only be for a short while. It takes a ton of guts to throw someone you love out on the streets. Parents of grown addicted kids are so not weak. They however do need support to deal with all the bologna they go through in hope that their prayers will be answered. I believe God does and has healed addicts. Im really hoping someone somewhere would start a program which instead of sending non violent drug offenders to prison they would go to a facility that would detox them, give them therapy, educate them, job train them and really make an effort to rehabilitate. The rule would be that if you mess up ONE time, its off to prison you go. I guess thats wishful thinking......and yes i agree that its mostly the parents fault. Not in all cases but probably most.
The son looks terrible. He looks like he's 50 years old and not 31. His mom looks like his daughter. He has a physical addiction. His body goes through withdrawal. He may need something to help him get through that part. Only he knows that. Everyone can scream and yell at him, but he has to make that decision.
Why bother getting clean when your father enables you to have cars, housing, food and more drugs. He doesn't have to face any consequences for his actions so he has no desperate NEED to change.
Weak old child ,weaker FATHER ,I feel sorry for the Father I’ve been in this situation but now I’m savvy and cut the apron strings and I’m now Financially good 👌🏻👍🏻💪🏻👵🏻
What is the father’s deal?? He musta done something to feel guilty or he’s mentally ill to have gone not only through that much money, savings, and then debt?! The mom’s like yeah he got about $10k in 10 years. Dad’s like yeah mine was like $100k.
Put him in a hotel, gave him a car that he smashed up. These parents need drug rehab, that is, to learn how to not enable a drug addict. The parents are addicted to their son's behavior. Donnie IS dying, you folks are slowing the process down.
Exactly what is the father trying to do/say here? Seems to me, he's trying to make himself look good, and not listen or learn, or look at his own contribution to this situation.
Both parents need to own what they have done there not the only parents that make mistakes most of us parents go down the wrong path I wish them all the best may Jesus Christ guide them
What is up with these WEAK parents? Let the streets have him and cut your losses.
I played tough love with my daughter. The minute I stopped trying to understand and just said no. I had four younger children at home. She could not be in my house.
Homelessness changed her trajectory. She has been clean and sober for fifteen years. I was terrified, but I still threw her out. Now we are best buddies. She thanks me often for not enabling her.
Were you ever afraid she'd take her own life? I'm so terrified of that ending 😢
@@Carnivore1959 it would be on the wayward adult child, not the parent.
@@AotearoaAnge that’s not necessarily true. Most addicts are addicts because of some type of childhood or young adulthood trauma. Family definitely contributes to that.
@@StrawberryJam806or, as this guy says some undiagnosed thing he’s been begging his parents to help him w forever
STOP PAYING HIS BILLS!!
Hes 31 and looks 50.
But acts like a teenager it's crazy what addiction causes
Why is it so hard to just say"NO!" , I am so confused. What is with parents? I have heard no all my life.
Just say no needs to be replaced with learning to stay dry. One day at a time with help ! keep yourself from halt hungry angry lonely tired!
@wendyraman8014 Did you actually watch the episode? Dude always told his family members and others he needed money for food and gas and other essentials when in reality he used the money that was given to him was used for drugs. Now, I would personally say I would make and/or buy him food or force him to take me to the gas station and I would put the gas in myself and pay for it. However, this is not what they did.
@KattelinaLace
There isn't enough time in the day to keep up with this guys needs. You'd be running out every day to buy him stuff and take him places. Put the money aside, nobody has that kind of time and energy to deal with that
@nancydupuis8083 That is better than just giving him money to waste. Besides, after a while dude will get really tired of nor getting his way. And, I would not take him anywhere, I am vision impaired unfortunately. That would be the way it has to be in order to ensure his safety.
I think this is the first time I've started watching the Dr. Phil show and couldn't watch it. This man is no different than any other drug addict who can't get off the stuff. The addiction is too strong. The craving is overwhelming, and the feeling one gets from the stuff is not replaced by all the logic in the world, all the kudos, all the opportunities and loss of self. The drugs, after awhile, damage the brain to the point where it's easier to just stay stoned than get sober. It's too much work and too much discomfort. I've had it in my family (my brother, niece, great nephew, grand daughter and sister-in-law). This doesn't include the alcoholism. The pain it causes others is unmeasurable. And it's hard to let go because you still love them.
Yeah, I was witness to it as well, smh.....Bad things happen on their watch when the adults are alcoholics or drug addicts, it's devastating.
How did your family members get to be drug addicts. What is going on in their homes.
You do them no favors by coddling them.
I was a addict but am celebrating 22 years clean November 28th. And proud of it
@@PrincessJessica1980 Congratulations! You must have had a very hard struggle through all of it. No one who has not been there can understand. (Hugs).
Oh no, we had too much money and spoiled our kid. Now help us figure out where we went wrong?
Money ain't got nothing to do with it
@@Shlbizzy_21they’re literally funding his addiction and incompetence….with MONEY 🤦♀️
Father, WHY have you given him over $300,000?
He’s 31? Looks AT LEAST 61!😅
That dude is proud of his low life existence. Cut the cord
He doesn't care..hes one of those that will kill parents some day... How on earth can he get women...why would women give a man with a family, money? Never ever!!
You have lost your son to drugs. Been through this. I did tough love, no contact. Now have my child back. 4 years now. However, still on hightend alert.
“What’s keeping you from getting clean?” HE IS AN ADDICT!!! He needs help!!!
What? This guy has had more opportunities for help than most could imagine. And he continues to use & manipulate people. Addiction brings out the worst in people but being an addict doesn’t absolve you from guilt.
It seems he's had opportunities to get help and hasn't followed through
He's gotta get it in his head on his own that this is killing him. And he has to want to quit.
Tough love works. My family did it to me and ill be 4 years clean tomorrow ❤ I've been off probation and parole for 4 years also. Alot of people think they're not strong enough to get clean. But they are. It takes more effort to stay high then it does to stay clean. To the ones still struggling, you can take your life back. You got this.
Be proud of where you are today and keep going strong!!! Sending you positive vibes from Belgium!!! Big congrats!!!
Congratulations on 4 years of sobriety.
Parents don’t realize that giving cash to an addict just speeds up the end results of addiction….it doesn’t make them sober. The parents need a wake up call big time. “I got you a car and an apartment!! Why couldn’t you stay clean?!!!”….dude, that’s not how it works 🤦♀️
So the parents are paying for his drug habit.
And if they don't let him hit rock bottom he's going to keep doing it
My kids were taught, from the high chair, "You are whip smart and I trust you to use good judgement. If you decide *not* to use good judgement, only *you* are responsible for your decisions."
You said that while they were in a high chair? I call bs
I took Percocet once and I swear watching this no matter how much pain I am in I won't take such an awful thing ever! Thank you for the awareness Dr Phil!!
That is what happened to me in my alcoholism. I was so desperate at the end when I went to rehab I would have slept outside and ate dog food if they could show me how to quit drinking. That, in my opinion, is the only way you can stop your addiction is you need to get to a point where you are over it and just cannot do it anymore to yourself.
My ex was a druggy and lost it all. It hit him when he had no money, because money was everything to him, that it caused him to get clean. He got too tired of homelessness and trash living, that he was pin point focused on recovery. Now he’s living completely different. Clean and well off by slowly building back his life, with initial help from family, but not too much to where it enabled him. He actually decided he didn’t want to be enabled but crawl back on his own. He worked hard at getting a decent job. It can be done but you have to want it with every fiber of your being. I pray for this guy to find healing in Christ most of all but to just find healing all the way around.
I worked in a Methadone clinic for 6.5 years. If u aren't an addict you have no idea what it's like. As for the parents they r guilty of loving him too much. It's hard watching your child kill themselves one day at a time.
That is not ‘loving him too much’, it’s neither one can stand the discomfort of saying ‘No’. That’s about THEM, not him.
Love is doing the tough stuff, that’s not what this is.
He is gross and a loser. How can any woman be attracted to that!! He's parents can take a lot of the responsibility of this.
How does a girl in FL, accidentally text his mother????
Put Donny in prison Let him detox in prison too! Parents are enabling and catering to him. No sympathy here🙄
Agree
Send him to 30 day program stay in. Have him attend NA. Go with him if you have to !
He has to be surrounded by others in the same situation s he needs a sponsor to tell him what to do. Right away after 30 day program.
You can get drugs in prison too
@wendyraman8014 30 days in prison for theft and drugs and who knows what else Theres plenty of felons he would be surrounded with
Hes not ready for a sponser🙄
Hes ready to spend some time out way out
He needs food, gas, flat fixed....etc..tell him get a job....
🎶You know exactly WHO'S-TO-BLAME...
the mother and the father!!🎵
Yeah Mom, stop blaming your husband, it’s the BOTH OF YOU NEED TO UNDERSTAND, you’re dealing with a drug addict first, not your son.
No he's to blame but the parents need to stop and let him hit rock bottom with no help out
@PrincessJessica1980 I agree. I'm just a Willy Wonka fan. 😄
His parents are insane how do they ever expect him to get clean if they're enabling him and supporting his habit
I can understand how it happpens... that's literally your baby 😢 Your heart breaks to see them suffering and asking you for help.
Why???? WTH is wrong with these parents??? Both are guilty.
What spineless cretins.
Donny looks 59 yrs old
Who are these women that are wanting to date him? lmao
He shot his shot and Dr Phil said not on my show
Unless you actually live that you have no idea what its like. Addicts are really good at manipulating and it seems so easy for people to say just kick them out, sink or swim, hit the streets etc. Parents may give money but an addict knows the game and how to play it. The unrelenting pressure, the outbursts, the threats of violence, all the damage to property etc. Its crazy. I believe most parents think they will change, it will get better but it never does. I so dont think parents give in to make themselves feel better....they are needing the short term peace that comes when the addict finally gets his high. That little bit of down time from an addict is priceless though it may only be for a short while. It takes a ton of guts to throw someone you love out on the streets. Parents of grown addicted kids are so not weak. They however do need support to deal with all the bologna they go through in hope that their prayers will be answered. I believe God does and has healed addicts. Im really hoping someone somewhere would start a program which instead of sending non violent drug offenders to prison they would go to a facility that would detox them, give them therapy, educate them, job train them and really make an effort to rehabilitate. The rule would be that if you mess up ONE time, its off to prison you go. I guess thats wishful thinking......and yes i agree that its mostly the parents fault. Not in all cases but probably most.
The first mistake was naming him 'Donny.'
Where is the rest of this show?Stop showing half of a story.
31? He looks almost as old as his father. Oh my
Ppl have to hit rock bottom with no way out to get clean. Im celebrating 22 years Thursday November the 28th. Of being clean
This man needs to hit rock bottom and then run to Jesus big time...only thing that will turn him around
The son looks terrible. He looks like he's 50 years old and not 31. His mom looks like his daughter. He has a physical addiction. His body goes through withdrawal. He may need something to help him get through that part. Only he knows that. Everyone can scream and yell at him, but he has to make that decision.
Wow, this is almost like on of those catfish episodes. Except the catfish is their own son
Enforcement does not work. Its the person who does want change.
Say no, its called Tough Love...
Why bother getting clean when your father enables you to have cars, housing, food and more drugs. He doesn't have to face any consequences for his actions so he has no desperate NEED to change.
Saying addiction is a disease is a load of 💩 taking drugs is a choice getting a disease isn’t
Weak old child ,weaker FATHER ,I feel sorry for the Father I’ve been in this situation but now I’m savvy and cut the apron strings and I’m now Financially good 👌🏻👍🏻💪🏻👵🏻
It’s pretty obvious. Get him off the drugs!
Both his parents look worn down in debt. Keep buying him cars supplying him with a roof over his head.
What would anyone of us do in their place. 🇬🇧
Tough love is very hard. But, in this case, has to be done! He’s on tv, that should stop this as he will be recognize
What is the father’s deal?? He musta done something to feel guilty or he’s mentally ill to have gone not only through that much money, savings, and then debt?! The mom’s like yeah he got about $10k in 10 years. Dad’s like yeah mine was like $100k.
Put him in a hotel, gave him a car that he smashed up. These parents need drug rehab, that is, to learn how to not enable a drug addict. The parents are addicted to their son's behavior.
Donnie IS dying, you folks are slowing the process down.
You gave birth to him but he’s ungrateful and selfish, let him go he’s enjoying life and killing his parents. He needs to get a life
Put up a NEW SIGN .....NO BEGGING.
Nobody has to give you anything.
You drained your own 401K
Why put a show on about this piece of garbage?
Entertainment
Piece of garbage ? Most people are a- holes when using . It's a hideous life and there's no room for niceties
Why has no one ever told Dr. Phil that you don't wear a suit and tie with sneakers!?
you can! who are YOU? the gd "fashion police?"
bc he is worth $460M. You think he cares about sneakers?
That's actually a thing nowadays
It’s a cool look plus he’s talked about having bad knees as well.
I love how the brothers like why u keep going back to it why can’t u just get clean wtf u mean he’s a druggie drugs r addictive
Exactly what is the father trying to do/say here? Seems to me, he's trying to make himself look good, and not listen or learn, or look at his own contribution to this situation.
He looks pathetic
So what plans has he got to repay everyone he owes money to?
Both parents need to own what they have done there not the only parents that make mistakes most of us parents go down the wrong path I wish them all the best may Jesus Christ guide them
You created him. Now live with him.
Possibly self medicating for ADHD, based on whats said about him
A creep
Hes so gross looking who would give him $
Deadbeat
Total creep
I'm #2, that's still good!
Put him in the military
What makes you think the military needs drug addicts?
He looks 45
This man is my hero
Who?
No is no is no is no.
No no no .........
Poor minaputated parents
Ew
Dam man lot of doe
He’s an addict it’s a disease! 1 is too many and 1000 is never enough.
Roooooph.
First❤❤❤
You can tell him no as a kid wanting candy but bankrupt yourself giving him money for dope
He’s an addict it’s a disease! 1 is too many and 1000 is never enough.