Not always. I believe and treat my relationships the same way. You don’t have to marry someone to stay committed to them or to love them. Papers don’t mean anything
@@DanieB322but what motivated your viewpoint on that? I feel the same but it’s frankly because I never saw a healthy marriage modeled to me in my formative years
I think it can go both ways. I never witnessed good, healthy, successful marriages growing up; but that motivates me to grow to become a good person so that one day I can be a good wife in a successful marriage one day. Some people just don’t believe that legalising it and wearing a ring is their symbol of commitment, to each their own.
I'm with you. Been with my partner for almost 6 years, so "boyfriend" sounds weird and like we're 14 😂 nah we live together and share bills and stuff lol
Partner is a very common term to use in Australia for everything…girlfriend, finance, wife, most people just say partner. There’s a sense of equality in the word partner and it feels more formal and grown up then saying girlfriend.
Marriage is very traditional and not everybody loves that. I married after 14 years of relationship and still don't like to call my partner husband. Never dreamed of marriage either
Wow that’s kinda cool lol 14 years and y’all are married. & from what it sounds like, it was ur choice and not bc he “didn’t wanna marry you” which is what traditional woman project onto women who don’t marry after a year of dating.
@@SupernaturalLove100 yes, we just married because we would like to adopt a child which is only possible as married couple or single person in our country
Y’all are ridiculous marriage is not for everybody it’s a choice at that end of the day not a requirement it’s not illegal to have babies and not get married. I would want to get married because I choose to not because of stupid people who put pressure on me.
Right! People really don’t realize that marriage is just a social ritual we do 😂 it’s just something that is very normalized (ofc it has a little more meaning) but does not have to be a part of our life, we’re just here to live our lives at the end of the day, not necessarily be forced into a joined one.
I like the word partner tooo ! Wife and husband can still be used but partner just makes me personally feel seen and supported and together as a unit … Becuase it does take teamwork and communication and all that to be married where wife can seeeem more like ownership in that old world traditional sense
To each their own! Do what works for you PERIOD! Marriage ain’t for everybody and not all of them are successful once you make the transition. Love that she’s confident about her approach which opposes tradition and doesn’t feel the need to subscribe to other people’s perception of what rules women “need” to follow in order to find joy. She has her children and her man.
@@mattszalay8819why would feminists care? They usually applaud modern approaches to motherhood. They’d def love her independence and that she feels she has a partner
She just said shes not his wife? Only meaning she doenst like the word or she literally isnt married to him? If they arent married that would make total sense why she doesn't want him to claim they are and why she likes girlfriend but if they are married she wasn't ready for that mentally but partner sounds more mature than girlfriend. 🤷♀️ Idk whats happening here.
Jesus I just looked her up and as far as i can find they are NOT MARRIED. Duh she has a problem when he calls her wife, she isnt his wife. He hasnt asked her to marry him! He shouldnt be acting like he can just claim her as his wife when she hasnt agreed.
It’s crazy af to me to make people with someone you wouldn’t be comfortable marrying, I feel like the hesitation to marry should show you not to make children with someone. If her ideal man came along she’d marry him.
Except for there are defined roles. And not every relationship that works - in fact, I’d argue the majority of relationships that work - has a 50/50 share of the work or power or however you like to look at it. In almost every relationship, one does more of this while the other might do more of that. Do they ever tally up and equal each other? NO! But there are absolutely defined roles of a man and a woman in a relationship, whether it offends some peoples’ sensibilities or not. And this right here is why many men feel actually emasculated when referred to as someone’s partner rather than their husband. You’re right: partner does suggest a lack of role and a shared 50/50 input and output in the relationship. And a lot of men don’t work like that. We serve our roles in a marriage and it gives us pride and happiness - it’s something we help build. To any woman reading this that can’t get the voice in her head to stop saying “what an asshole” to what I’ve written, you might want to stop and take note. The reality I’ve shared may help you to have a healthier and longer lasting marriage.
She doesn’t want commitment and when he calls her his wife she sees herself committed to him for life. She prefers to think of him as his partner because she he ditch him whenever she is bored of him.
or maybe bcs historically being someone’s wife meant they “own” you and she doesn’t want to feel that type of “control” even if it’s just the certain words we use
Nah, I think she has a preference and isn't afraid to state it. She's an incredible mother and girlfriend among the other successful roles she takes on in her life. She definitely does not have a teenage mentality.
I’ve been with the father of our 4 kids for over 18 years. We’re not married but love as we are. He’s my partner. Everything she said except the girlfriend part and not liking being called wife. He calls me his old lady or wife, I don’t mind I think it’s cute.
The problem is she doesn’t want to feel like she is in a submissive relationship. Husbands and wives submit to each other all the time, but when the man of the house is indeed leading the house and supporting it with his efforts, the woman tends to be in a more submissive position than the man. She doesn’t want to feel like she ever has to “submit” to his decision making, so she uses words like “partner” to insinuate that everything is split up and taken care of 50/50 and so there’s no need for submission. It’s rude and delusional. It’s going to be impossible for people to, every single day, do EVERYTHING 50/50. There will be many days one does more than the other. There will be many days where one of you is going to want to do something incredibly stupid and you’re going to have to submit to your husband or wife when they tell you “no”. A partnership is not a relationship.
16 years in our relationship, we are still partners. Yes, sometimes we have to compromise, but we are equal and no one is submitting to anyone. My partner is not my parent
Wife is unfortunately related so much to a lot of bad things, including getting bored and stuck in a relationship, it could make you feel old or also it could mean some mysoginistic thing to you cause for a long time being a wife was the only job a woman was allowed to have and it was under abusive conditions.
People get cheated on within marriage too tho. People also have children before marriage thus, lack of commitment and they usually just become each other baby mommas or fathers. Being married isn’t a be all and end all thing.
That man should think twice! it only means that either he isn’t a husband material for her/ not the one for her. Or possible, she knows herself well that she isn’t a wife material and she’s not ready to give up her YOLO life. 😄
If it was me and she kept calling the relationship a partnership after I have corrected her so many times I would have left her. There’s no way I would take that kind of disrespect from a woman that doesn’t respect the relationship.
@partylikeanavatarthat’s not a partnership. That’s companionship. Marriage is not a partnership, because we are not equal. And that’s not a bad thing. Us not being equal does not diminish my wife, or somehow make her less than or inferior. I love her she loves me, but we have our roles in our relationship. A partner doesn’t take care of you in your twilight years, a partner doesn’t help you build legacy, my wife excepted me, my name, and her role as my wife just as I excepted my role as her husband. In my opinion when you reduce something as important as a relationship to a mere partnership, you put it on the level of a business deal, a lease, or some other secular agreement. Our relationship is far greater than something as frivolous as a partnership. A partnership, is something you can walk away from, but true companionship and a relationship is something you can’t. We’re in this for life.
I find it absolutely insane to call a man that you live with that you share House with and you have kids with your partner is so bizarre. I feel sorry for what she’s going to teach her daughters to be crazy feminist.
It's a sin to be together and not married. It just feels weird and out of place. If their Christians, they better know that they can't be together, and not be married because its a sin. Co-habitating is a big no no.
So you don’t want to be committed and be called a wife? Which your children is seeing you live with a man without being married? Where is God in your Life?
She wants to be married lol shes jumping through so many hoops to explain herself. Bet she had a relationship where the guy made her feel bad for wanting to be called his GF.
She is not in love. She is clearly with him out of convenience and will leave him when something better comes along. Ugh, and she comes off SO self absorbed. Women like this end up single at 50, no one is biting and they're wondering what the hell happened.
You can make babies with the man and be tied to him forever on that sense but you don't know about marriage. I miss the traditional definitions of things. Next thing you know they have broken up and are dating other ppl🤨
Is she the one denied she has a Filipino blood? 😂😂😂 she actually looks Filipina to me. I never heard her name until I watch one of the vlogger’s video about this woman. 😂😂 if she denied her ancestors no problem she is nothing to Filipino people waste of time !!
@ggkinz8506 She’s not saying she “doesn’t need a man” - they live together and have been together many years. They have 2 children together and if “marriage” wasn’t called “marriage”, they would already be married because they already act like husband and wife. She has never implied that she doesn’t need him or doesn’t want to be with him, she just doesn’t require marriage to be in a happy and committed relationship
So stupid a man needs that respect that's why he uses the word wife. So in that case if you are not his? Wife then he. Can see other women? She just Doesn't want to submit to anybody and commit to a relationship. It shows me how immature She is
Omfg you guys bitch and moan about anything I promise you it’s not that deep☠️ she just preferred the word partner it’s not the end of the world my God
Difference between wife and partner is literally a piece of paper and a one hour ceremony. Makes zero long term difference in the quality of the relationship good or bad.
Just because you’re not married doesn’t mean you can see other people. If you’re in a relationship with someone, you should be loyal. If the dude is gonna go see other women, then the women can go see other men.
Yet her and her man have been together for years and have a beautiful home and family. A husband needs to submit to his wife to it's not a one way street. Or are you one of those alpha male assholes why thinks otherwise?
In her mind, the connotations of a “wife” is far less attractive or sexy than the connotations of a “girl-friend” and therefore she likely feels more empowered in being the “girlfriend” than the wife. She feels as if he hasn’t really “caught” her yet, and she’s able to stay in the courting stage.
She probably didn’t like the marriages she saw growing up.
Not always. I believe and treat my relationships the same way. You don’t have to marry someone to stay committed to them or to love them. Papers don’t mean anything
@@DanieB322but what motivated your viewpoint on that? I feel the same but it’s frankly because I never saw a healthy marriage modeled to me in my formative years
I think it can go both ways. I never witnessed good, healthy, successful marriages growing up; but that motivates me to grow to become a good person so that one day I can be a good wife in a successful marriage one day. Some people just don’t believe that legalising it and wearing a ring is their symbol of commitment, to each their own.
Her parents are together
Maybe she did. And still doesn’t feel it necessary
The term girlfriend seems immature after you've been together for 5+ years
Exactly and 2 kids
I'm with you. Been with my partner for almost 6 years, so "boyfriend" sounds weird and like we're 14 😂 nah we live together and share bills and stuff lol
Not when benefits and commitment are not guaranteed, I understand her
Partner is a very common term to use in Australia for everything…girlfriend, finance, wife, most people just say partner. There’s a sense of equality in the word partner and it feels more formal and grown up then saying girlfriend.
I prefer husband and wife
It sounds hella gay, and like your roomate, if someone said that to me, I will think their roomates, not relationship type.
And more formal and distant than saying husband and wife
It’s just personal preference, you can use whatever you want in your own relationship 👍🏼
Marriage is very traditional and not everybody loves that. I married after 14 years of relationship and still don't like to call my partner husband. Never dreamed of marriage either
Well obviously if your a whore you won’t liek idea of marriage
Wow that’s kinda cool lol 14 years and y’all are married. & from what it sounds like, it was ur choice and not bc he “didn’t wanna marry you” which is what traditional woman project onto women who don’t marry after a year of dating.
@@SupernaturalLove100 yes, we just married because we would like to adopt a child which is only possible as married couple or single person in our country
Y’all are ridiculous marriage is not for everybody it’s a choice at that end of the day not a requirement it’s not illegal to have babies and not get married. I would want to get married because I choose to not because of stupid people who put pressure on me.
Right! People really don’t realize that marriage is just a social ritual we do 😂 it’s just something that is very normalized (ofc it has a little more meaning) but does not have to be a part of our life, we’re just here to live our lives at the end of the day, not necessarily be forced into a joined one.
But when you 50 I bet you wish you were when age hits hard
I like the word partner tooo ! Wife and husband can still be used but partner just makes me personally feel seen and supported and together as a unit … Becuase it does take teamwork and communication and all that to be married where wife can seeeem more like ownership in that old world traditional sense
I’m not alone in this! I have these feelings too and have been called crazy for it
To each their own! Do what works for you PERIOD! Marriage ain’t for everybody and not all of them are successful once you make the transition. Love that she’s confident about her approach which opposes tradition and doesn’t feel the need to subscribe to other people’s perception of what rules women “need” to follow in order to find joy. She has her children and her man.
What about the rules women "need" to follow now days or they'll be shunned by feminist and the industry
@@mattszalay8819why would feminists care? They usually applaud modern approaches to motherhood. They’d def love her independence and that she feels she has a partner
Also she started out saying FOR ME not yall so let her live
She just said shes not his wife? Only meaning she doenst like the word or she literally isnt married to him? If they arent married that would make total sense why she doesn't want him to claim they are and why she likes girlfriend but if they are married she wasn't ready for that mentally but partner sounds more mature than girlfriend. 🤷♀️ Idk whats happening here.
Jesus I just looked her up and as far as i can find they are NOT MARRIED. Duh she has a problem when he calls her wife, she isnt his wife. He hasnt asked her to marry him! He shouldnt be acting like he can just claim her as his wife when she hasnt agreed.
He's not her ONE
Because of a word? You're fragile.
BRING BACK CHAD😂😂😂
Bruh she’s gonna leave
"In life... that we're living right now" 😬
I thought the same..
It’s crazy af to me to make people with someone you wouldn’t be comfortable marrying, I feel like the hesitation to marry should show you not to make children with someone. If her ideal man came along she’d marry him.
Because wife and husband quo-notes a ROLE. Partner is better - 50/50
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Except for there are defined roles. And not every relationship that works - in fact, I’d argue the majority of relationships that work - has a 50/50 share of the work or power or however you like to look at it. In almost every relationship, one does more of this while the other might do more of that. Do they ever tally up and equal each other? NO! But there are absolutely defined roles of a man and a woman in a relationship, whether it offends some peoples’ sensibilities or not. And this right here is why many men feel actually emasculated when referred to as someone’s partner rather than their husband. You’re right: partner does suggest a lack of role and a shared 50/50 input and output in the relationship. And a lot of men don’t work like that. We serve our roles in a marriage and it gives us pride and happiness - it’s something we help build.
To any woman reading this that can’t get the voice in her head to stop saying “what an asshole” to what I’ve written, you might want to stop and take note. The reality I’ve shared may help you to have a healthier and longer lasting marriage.
@@alexbaum2204 yea this only works for heterosexual couples…and it’s sad to say men always wants to dominate and can’t let go of toxic masculinity
She doesn’t want commitment and when he calls her his wife she sees herself committed to him for life. She prefers to think of him as his partner because she he ditch him whenever she is bored of him.
or maybe bcs historically being someone’s wife meant they “own” you and she doesn’t want to feel that type of “control” even if it’s just the certain words we use
@@cyrenavirachiright!! And partner sounds and feels like they’re on equal ground
I think she’s still stuck in a teenage mentally.
Nah, I think she has a preference and isn't afraid to state it. She's an incredible mother and girlfriend among the other successful roles she takes on in her life. She definitely does not have a teenage mentality.
not everybody has to have a craving to get married it seems you’re the one with the small mind here
Please refrain from calling someone your wife if you have havenf married them! It makes no fucking sense 😂
My partner and I have been together for 8 years, and I've got no interest in getting married either.
Omg she’s so edgy and unique and condescending yassssss you go queen 🙄🙄🙄
I’ve been with the father of our 4 kids for over 18 years. We’re not married but love as we are. He’s my partner. Everything she said except the girlfriend part and not liking being called wife. He calls me his old lady or wife, I don’t mind I think it’s cute.
The problem is she doesn’t want to feel like she is in a submissive relationship. Husbands and wives submit to each other all the time, but when the man of the house is indeed leading the house and supporting it with his efforts, the woman tends to be in a more submissive position than the man.
She doesn’t want to feel like she ever has to “submit” to his decision making, so she uses words like “partner” to insinuate that everything is split up and taken care of 50/50 and so there’s no need for submission.
It’s rude and delusional. It’s going to be impossible for people to, every single day, do EVERYTHING 50/50. There will be many days one does more than the other. There will be many days where one of you is going to want to do something incredibly stupid and you’re going to have to submit to your husband or wife when they tell you “no”.
A partnership is not a relationship.
well said!
Thats all shes given at the moment. Respect that w her, right?
16 years in our relationship, we are still partners. Yes, sometimes we have to compromise, but we are equal and no one is submitting to anyone. My partner is not my parent
@@c.m.8972THIS ONE
You almost got it but then you missed the mark. Compromising is also partnership because it balances it eventually.
def to each their own. I use partner when talking about other couples, but I would prefer wife/husband. it will def take time getting used to xD
this is....interesting.
Love Shay❤
I say partner
I mean, Oh my gosh! I'm like, I'm like
Wife is unfortunately related so much to a lot of bad things, including getting bored and stuck in a relationship, it could make you feel old or also it could mean some mysoginistic thing to you cause for a long time being a wife was the only job a woman was allowed to have and it was under abusive conditions.
I relate so much to this
Peach
Emily
Thats y shes not married .she is the one not into it. Do whats best for her. If they break up. I can see an amazing woman in her life
well… if you’re not married i don’t blame her for not wanting to be called wife cause that title don’t come easy lol
Too old to be thinking the word “girlfriend” is cute.
I get her point but don’t be weird we he calls you his wife. Your reasons for partner are equal to his reasons for calling you wife
But they aren't married,why use the term wife then?
Because he’s probably embarrassed to call her partner because he wants her to be his wife.
A real aries, we just wanna feel we're still independants
Shakira said the same thing and look what happened... but you do you ✌️🥂👀🫥
Literally
Yikes u know I was thinking the same thing I remember Shakira giving the same answer in an interview and look now 😢
People get cheated on within marriage too tho. People also have children before marriage thus, lack of commitment and they usually just become each other baby mommas or fathers. Being married isn’t a be all and end all thing.
that’s totally okay, i love that ❤
She doesn't like it because modern-day feminism makes women think it's somehow negative.
What did she say? Van someone explain to me, i am deaf
bf and gf forever i’ll just tell everyone we’re married haha
My parents use partner for work business partners, so that’s all she sees this as, as a wife is much more.
That man should think twice! it only means that either he isn’t a husband material for her/ not the one for her. Or possible, she knows herself well that she isn’t a wife material and she’s not ready to give up her YOLO life. 😄
She is the perfect woman. He is so lucky.
She’s extremely immature
Love shay
Red flag
That’s the same thing Shakira said. 😬
I can confirm the club is dead in Atlanta and London
If it was me and she kept calling the relationship a partnership after I have corrected her so many times I would have left her. There’s no way I would take that kind of disrespect from a woman that doesn’t respect the relationship.
Corrected her? lol they're not married, she's the one who's correct here.
@partylikeanavatar I have already explained myself in what I just said.
@partylikeanavatarthat’s not a partnership. That’s companionship. Marriage is not a partnership, because we are not equal. And that’s not a bad thing. Us not being equal does not diminish my wife, or somehow make her less than or inferior. I love her she loves me, but we have our roles in our relationship. A partner doesn’t take care of you in your twilight years, a partner doesn’t help you build legacy, my wife excepted me, my name, and her role as my wife just as I excepted my role as her husband. In my opinion when you reduce something as important as a relationship to a mere partnership, you put it on the level of a business deal, a lease, or some other secular agreement. Our relationship is far greater than something as frivolous as a partnership. A partnership, is something you can walk away from, but true companionship and a relationship is something you can’t. We’re in this for life.
I find it absolutely insane to call a man that you live with that you share House with and you have kids with your partner is so bizarre. I feel sorry for what she’s going to teach her daughters to be crazy feminist.
Agreed 😨
Language police. Jezebel always searching for something to have a problem with and control.
Deep down maybe she really can see herself with a girl just saying lol she said she’s attracted to girls more than guys so who knows .
*I wanted to be her PARTNER, but then I found out....she came up pregnant*
She doesn’t want to fully commit. This is a classic child like reaction to something.
That’s crazy I hate girlfriend lol
She’s getting divorced🙃
Facts
She was never married
So... He hasn't proposed?
hmm interesting
It's a sin to be together and not married. It just feels weird and out of place. If their Christians, they better know that they can't be together, and not be married because its a sin. Co-habitating is a big no no.
I think the same way 🤭
Just no .....
After you thought they will proposed at so or so time and they don’t you start talking like this ,to let them feel they ain’t sh&$t 😂
And again she nailed it with her over acting and unnatural behavior. Omg
So you don’t want to be committed and be called a wife? Which your children is seeing you live with a man without being married?
Where is God in your Life?
Namoy Buddhay Sathiyo 🙏☸️☸️🙏
Run bro
She's afraid to commit
AirHead$
I use life partner with my girl
Calling someone you chose to have kids with your "partner" is BS.
I'm the opposite
She knws the reason she doesnt like being called wife. Doesnt want to admit it.
he gives me the ick somehow
I prefer partner as well
Filipina by♥️
How do women say so much of nothing 🤔
Yikes
She wants to be married lol shes jumping through so many hoops to explain herself. Bet she had a relationship where the guy made her feel bad for wanting to be called his GF.
2 kids together for awhile . Your common law what we say in Canada 🇨🇦 your done what married anyways lol
She is not in love. She is clearly with him out of convenience and will leave him when something better comes along. Ugh, and she comes off SO self absorbed. Women like this end up single at 50, no one is biting and they're wondering what the hell happened.
nope, she’s okay being single at 50..
And why would bring single at 50 be a bad thing? Y’all act like having a man is the end all be all smh.
Sounds immature and impersonable, grow up
This chick crazy lol
She needs to grow up. How embarrassing.
so does she not want to be a wife anyone, or does she not want to be his wife?
Because partners are equal. Wife sounds like you belong to someone.
Who really cares??
Ewwww
BS
You can make babies with the man and be tied to him forever on that sense but you don't know about marriage. I miss the traditional definitions of things. Next thing you know they have broken up and are dating other ppl🤨
Is she the one denied she has a Filipino blood? 😂😂😂 she actually looks Filipina to me. I never heard her name until I watch one of the vlogger’s video about this woman. 😂😂 if she denied her ancestors no problem she is nothing to Filipino people waste of time !!
Eh bat nag comment kapa? Ibig sabihin affected ka. Desperado
Someone is a scaredy cat of anything r e a l
Girl thinks she's a feminist LOL
What does feminism have to do with choosing not to get married 🤨
@@renitabentick7869 um cuz she don't need no man obvi
@@gg_kinzidiot
@@gg_kinzust because a woman chooses not to get married does not make her a feminist. But you assuming that does make you a dumb*ss
@ggkinz8506 She’s not saying she “doesn’t need a man” - they live together and have been together many years. They have 2 children together and if “marriage” wasn’t called “marriage”, they would already be married because they already act like husband and wife. She has never implied that she doesn’t need him or doesn’t want to be with him, she just doesn’t require marriage to be in a happy and committed relationship
So stupid a man needs that respect that's why he uses the word wife. So in that case if you are not his? Wife then he. Can see other women? She just Doesn't want to submit to anybody and commit to a relationship. It shows me how immature She is
Omfg you guys bitch and moan about anything I promise you it’s not that deep☠️ she just preferred the word partner it’s not the end of the world my God
Difference between wife and partner is literally a piece of paper and a one hour ceremony. Makes zero long term difference in the quality of the relationship good or bad.
Just because you’re not married doesn’t mean you can see other people. If you’re in a relationship with someone, you should be loyal. If the dude is gonna go see other women, then the women can go see other men.
Yet her and her man have been together for years and have a beautiful home and family. A husband needs to submit to his wife to it's not a one way street. Or are you one of those alpha male assholes why thinks otherwise?
Yikes.
What lol
She’s like his gf? That’s what she said damn after having two kids together 😂
This lady has the highest character of didhonesty by denying her Filipino heritage!
Delusional
Cringe
In her mind, the connotations of a “wife” is far less attractive or sexy than the connotations of a “girl-friend” and therefore she likely feels more empowered in being the “girlfriend” than the wife. She feels as if he hasn’t really “caught” her yet, and she’s able to stay in the courting stage.
Ew.
prolly cuz shes sleeping with more than just him