Yeah I remember in 2017 finding out my now ex was $60,000 in debt when we supposedly had a three year financial plan to pay off our debt and buy a house. End of 2021 found out about an affair with a coworker which I then walked away and filed for divorce. There were a lot of “I’m sorry” “I’ll disclose everything in the future” and I thought we were good, made it through a rough patch. When someone shows you who they are believe them.
I gave my ex girlfriend a 2nd chance but she betrayed me again, she wants me back but at that point i feel like im degrading myself because she's less than what i deserve
In Spanish, the words that roughly translate to “I’m sorry” are: “lo siento”. That literally means, “I feel it.” So, when you see that they feel it, feel the hurt or pain they might have caused, even accidentally, then you’ll see real change. Anything less may feel like an emotional band aid, to cover the moment and smooth things out without having to take real responsibility or go that deep in emotional intimacy.
I wanted to apologize to her because not only did I break up with her but also it was out of confusion and being afraid of getting hurt my self as soon as I could see her again I started to apologize and asked for a second chance I broke her heart and left her in pain I hurt her so much and now I feel like she won’t ever forgive me I just wish that I didn’t overthink every single thing maybe then things would be different I miss her but I think she’s moved on so now I’m forced to do so as well
Consider the situations, consider both perspectives & how was your behaviour. Then check what would have been your reaction to that exact mental situation they were in. Habitual abuse is not to be forgiven
When i breakup from a real relationship i don't really give second chances because people don't really change
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Yeah I remember in 2017 finding out my now ex was $60,000 in debt when we supposedly had a three year financial plan to pay off our debt and buy a house. End of 2021 found out about an affair with a coworker which I then walked away and filed for divorce. There were a lot of “I’m sorry” “I’ll disclose everything in the future” and I thought we were good, made it through a rough patch. When someone shows you who they are believe them.
I gave my ex girlfriend a 2nd chance but she betrayed me again, she wants me back but at that point i feel like im degrading myself because she's less than what i deserve
You have to make sure they’re changing for themselves and make them work really really hard
Don’t go back
Great advice. Thank you.
No apologies from him ..but wants to linger in my life....no way no second chance
Sometimes you don't get the chance
In Spanish, the words that roughly translate to “I’m sorry” are: “lo siento”. That literally means, “I feel it.”
So, when you see that they feel it, feel the hurt or pain they might have caused, even accidentally, then you’ll see real change.
Anything less may feel like an emotional band aid, to cover the moment and smooth things out without having to take real responsibility or go that deep in emotional intimacy.
I wanted to apologize to her because not only did I break up with her but also it was out of confusion and being afraid of getting hurt my self as soon as I could see her again I started to apologize and asked for a second chance I broke her heart and left her in pain I hurt her so much and now I feel like she won’t ever forgive me I just wish that I didn’t overthink every single thing maybe then things would be different I miss her but I think she’s moved on so now I’m forced to do so as well
Same with me your not alone😢
Sorry sounds good tho
If a person's hits you, should you forgive?
Consider the situations, consider both perspectives & how was your behaviour. Then check what would have been your reaction to that exact mental situation they were in. Habitual abuse is not to be forgiven
Anyone who is able to hit another person once is be able to do it again. That’s abuse. Move on. Forgive for yourself.
@@LindaQueLeenda Physical abuse is not tolerated. If it happened once it’ll happen again.
I teach my girls, if a man can allow himself to hit you- he has no self control and he could snap at ANY given moment.
Get OUT.
Sometimes women won't be with a man because they can't control him and that is what's killing relationships