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  • @katewilliams5230
    @katewilliams5230 Рік тому +12236

    Thank you everyone for the kind comments. I'm so happy that people are resonating with my words. My biggest fear going into this was not representing the OCD/mental health community well enough. Your kind comments are proving to me that I did it to the best of my abilities. To any of the negative commenters: your misunderstanding of other people's struggles push me to end the stigma that comes with mental illness even more than before. To all of the people that found solace in my words: thank you for hearing me; you are not alone. MUCH LOVE MARK

    • @purpleonmymind
      @purpleonmymind Рік тому +101

      They are just words after all, its the meaning you attach to them which create the heartache, you will be fine, I know it .🙂

    • @SoftWhiteUnderbelly
      @SoftWhiteUnderbelly  Рік тому +699

      You are amazing Kate.

    • @transmaniandevil
      @transmaniandevil Рік тому +83

      thank you for sharing your story and experience Kate! it seems like you’re really self aware and emotionally intelligent now since growing through the OCD

    • @AKayfabe
      @AKayfabe Рік тому +78

      Kate I also have OCD and started having terrible issues with it very young at like 5 or 6. It’s really hard to have an issue that you know logically doesn’t make sense but that you are still compelled to do.
      I had to have psychological therapy for OCD for a long time. It improved from what it once was. I still have issues especially when stressed out. And who isn’t stressed out these days.
      Thank you for sharing your story with us.

    • @brunolima7402
      @brunolima7402 Рік тому +41

      All the best to you, Kate. Thanks for sharing your story.

  • @yadisjourney1875
    @yadisjourney1875 Рік тому +2187

    Her mother was definitely an amazing woman for not ignoring or downplaying her daughter’s condition.

    • @tiffb1300
      @tiffb1300 Рік тому +38

      But also contributed to it. Let's be honest. Unintentional obviously but yep

    • @craigslist6988
      @craigslist6988 Рік тому +61

      @@tiffb1300 how so?
      I think whatever ways she contributed must pale in comparison to all the things she did right. Honestly she's super lucky, of course relatively considering having OCD isn't lucky, because even most well off parents wouldn't know what was going on and react super poorly. Her mother appears to basically support her without putting any guilt on her for not doing it herself at her age. Most parents would have probably done the whole "tough love" routine and kicked her out to figure out her problems alone... which would be obviously bad.
      I could go on but seriously her mom sounds much better than most in that situations

    • @farmerchick3040
      @farmerchick3040 Рік тому

      Many doctors would say she actually made it worse. Ocd is only a 1st world problem.

    • @LS-ry5ey
      @LS-ry5ey Рік тому +18

      @@craigslist6988 totally agree with this, her mom seems really supportive

    • @elpida6071
      @elpida6071 Рік тому +14

      I totaly disagree. Her mother did not protect her from the beggining of her life. She's her fault what her child is getting through.

  • @revelationbisaillon
    @revelationbisaillon 11 місяців тому +831

    i’m on the verge of tears… this is the first time anyone’s explained how OCD feels almost perfectly for me. she did a great job.

    • @ayamata8950
      @ayamata8950 10 місяців тому

    • @patrickcirenza1824
      @patrickcirenza1824 9 місяців тому +6

      Yeah, the first time I even knew what OCD was when I was 16 watching a UA-cam video. Didn’t go to a physiatrist till I was 22, this was my whole life and I didn’t tell my parents till I was 22. If you haven’t seen a professional I would recommend it, Prozac really helps.

    • @revelationbisaillon
      @revelationbisaillon 9 місяців тому

      @@patrickcirenza1824 i take prozac!! it’s been great for me. i’m glad you’ve been able to recognize the help you needed, i know it can be hard. i was diagnosed at 16 but didn’t really understand why until i spent time researching it and in therapy.

    • @helenayount507
      @helenayount507 9 місяців тому +1

      @@patrickcirenza1824i wish I had access to resources like that. I’m religious ocd, it’s so hard

    • @spyder_33
      @spyder_33 9 місяців тому +3

      I had ocd as a young boy and was washing my hands down to the bone from dry skin especially in winter time. As an adult I don't wash my hands enough yet feel much better lol

  • @unforgivenkd
    @unforgivenkd 9 місяців тому +367

    I have never heard someone admit to the things she has admitted too. I can relate to some of the things she deals with as far as intrusive thoughts. Very brave of her to be so vulnerable and transparent.

    • @DeeGee-fw7qd
      @DeeGee-fw7qd 4 місяці тому +6

      Same it's crazy because I thought I was crazy for having these intrusive thoughts and have never felt validated and I've always been scared to voice these ugly thoughts I have been able to deal with it on my own but just hearing her story lifted such a big weight of my shoulders you're so brave and thank you for doing this for all of us and letting me now that I'm not alone in this 🫶🏽

    • @Sunnydayz5656
      @Sunnydayz5656 2 місяці тому +1

      Very brave, and so appreciative that she did...think i have ocd.. intrusive thoughts are pure torture.

    • @unforgivenkd
      @unforgivenkd 2 місяці тому +7

      @@Sunnydayz5656 a friend of mine told me one time that “we are not our thoughts” that helped me understand to disconnect thoughts and my self. As a newly religious person, I chalk it up to the devil trying to confuse me or bring me down. A few prayers and the devil ain’t got shit on me!

    • @heidimichellemoenkhaus3569
      @heidimichellemoenkhaus3569 Місяць тому +3

      Same!!! I'm so grateful to her for being so vulnerable cause some things you just feel like you can't tell people because they'll think you ARE your thoughts.

  • @autonomousindividual7780
    @autonomousindividual7780 Рік тому +1066

    People have no idea how someone with an active imagination and anxiety can torture themselves. Especially if they are sensitive and empathetic. Living HELL.

    • @dawnholmes2136
      @dawnholmes2136 10 місяців тому +3

      Your such a sweet caring girl ❤

    • @emilywheeler1199
      @emilywheeler1199 10 місяців тому +5

      I felt this

    • @lorriest.pierre4236
      @lorriest.pierre4236 9 місяців тому +2

      I know exactly what it’s like to have gone through most of what you have as a result of OCD. Thank you for being brave enough to speak out about what it’s like living with OCD!

    • @fjb3544
      @fjb3544 8 місяців тому +3

      Sums me up in one paragraph. It is

    • @fjb3544
      @fjb3544 8 місяців тому +1

      This video has made me realize that I am not alone. OCD of this nature is a living hell. It makes you believe you are evil.

  • @alissamassey
    @alissamassey Рік тому +1643

    "The anxiety is worse than the actual event" is so relatable. Thank you for sharing.

    • @nicolasjeannet1063
      @nicolasjeannet1063 Рік тому +16

      In chess there is a saying that the threat is stronger than the execution

    • @marquel325
      @marquel325 Рік тому +4

      So real

    • @marquel325
      @marquel325 Рік тому +3

      So real

    • @erikmorales17
      @erikmorales17 Рік тому +4

      I feel like I do this to myself on purpose cause I overhype the event so it’s not so bad but leading up the anxiety kills me

    • @Cnm4200
      @Cnm4200 Рік тому +7

      My tattoo say “the fear of suffering is far worse than the suffering itself” I feel this

  • @MikeJ2525
    @MikeJ2525 10 місяців тому +532

    I’ve had OCD for 7 years and one thing I’ve found with people with OCD is that they are very self aware and gentle people. We are gentle because our OCD beats us down until we are humble. And we are self aware because we spend 80% of our day in our heads trying to understand our thinking and constantly analyzing our behavior. It’s exhausting. But at least it makes us have some good qualities we might not have developed without it.

    • @annethompson4886
      @annethompson4886 8 місяців тому +1

      ❤😢❤

    • @jackiewey1962
      @jackiewey1962 8 місяців тому +4

      yes! very much so that I am finally realizing to always detect my energy level and to know when to recharge and replenish with food . you know?

    • @taylerthecreator8078
      @taylerthecreator8078 8 місяців тому +3

      This is so beautiful. Thank you for this, brought a lot of comfort to me.

    • @kathycamac1011
      @kathycamac1011 7 місяців тому +7

      Just want to say be kind to yourself and your OCD thoughts/behaviors. We are self aware and many times beat ourselves down because of the OCD behaviors. Just allow the thoughts to happen and let them pass. Don't speak negatively to yourself. It only makes the anxiety worse and spiral into panic attacks

    • @lennarthagen3638
      @lennarthagen3638 7 місяців тому +2

      "we" ?

  • @sew75962
    @sew75962 9 місяців тому +263

    The ocd around telling your mom about all of your sexual experiences makes sense to me. Durning the time you were being molested, it was a secret that you wanted to tell but couldn’t, and felt shameful about. And then as a teenager having sex and feeling ashamed about it, you were immediately compelled to tell. Something you weren’t able to do as a kid. You’re an amazingly strong, beautiful person.

  • @DeeRayOfSunshine
    @DeeRayOfSunshine Рік тому +1815

    She understood the assignment 👏🏾. One question and she took us the entire journey. OCD is a very serious overlooked disorder. She’s right, it’s not a joke or something cute like people make it seem. It is utterly exhausting. I pray she continues to get better.

    • @mikemccaine4229
      @mikemccaine4229 Рік тому +55

      You know what must be so frustrating for her? When people say "Oh I have OCD, that's why my cushions have to be neat on the bed". Like, really? What this woman has gone through and the volume of knowledge she has on this horrific illness is astonishing. She is so strong to have come out of this without a major addiction to opiates or alcohol or anything that temporarily quiets the mind

    • @ashleylapsley3294
      @ashleylapsley3294 Рік тому +27

      Absolutely! It’s quite annoying hearing people mention that they “have” OCD when they know absolutely nothing about the true horrors and struggles with the disorder. I’m 30 and still battling it but it does go overlooked.

    • @Chris-rv5mm
      @Chris-rv5mm Рік тому +12

      I forget what vitamin. I think B complex? Dr. Berg covers this on his video on OCD. It covers anxiety and OCD. It's going to give relief. I have a friend who was only eating chicken, sugar and carbs. What a mental nightmare until she changed her diet. What finally pushed her to healthier eating behavior was the candida and rashes, I think hair loss, too. I had to tell her the physical and mental were all related. She's doing well, now.

    • @EllEss331
      @EllEss331 Рік тому +10

      I hope she continues to get better also.

    • @katewilliams5230
      @katewilliams5230 Рік тому +13

      Thank you

  • @4316rodney
    @4316rodney Рік тому +696

    There you have it, I’ll never say I have OCD again. What a brave person.

    • @EboniFlowers
      @EboniFlowers Рік тому +41

      I agree…. I think it’s definitely Overused and thrown around carelessly, almost like it’s just the “trendy” thing to do…claim to have OCD, the same way they muse Anxiety.
      BUT……. I think just because someone doesn’t have it as severe as this woman Doesn’t mean they don’t also have it. It’s always a spectrum with things like this and yours doesn’t have to look like hers in order for you to feel like you can also acknowledge that you too may have OCD.

    • @4316rodney
      @4316rodney Рік тому +8

      @@EboniFlowers Excellent point, thanks 🙏

    • @amyk.2500
      @amyk.2500 Рік тому +13

      It took you this long to figure that out? We’ve been saying this for a decade at least

    • @tracib8757
      @tracib8757 Рік тому +2

      @@EboniFlowersI agree, I have always said I have Tourette’s, but a mild case. I think it’s also a spectrum. I was never diagnosed but I have ticks that I can’t control very long. I read that ADHD causes ticks too and I have many of the symptoms of that so… IDK!!!

    • @susanbennett9062
      @susanbennett9062 Рік тому +13

      Thank you from a lifelong ocd sufferer.

  • @Omegaman101
    @Omegaman101 9 місяців тому +304

    Fascinating. I’m a therapist and just learned more about OCD from this interview than in all of my study and experience. Thanks!

    • @endokrin7897
      @endokrin7897 8 місяців тому +48

      Not making a very good case for seeing a therapist.

    • @PeronuPeric-wm9hx
      @PeronuPeric-wm9hx 7 місяців тому +4

      Dr.Nick Riviera college I presume.

    • @ToniMilak
      @ToniMilak 7 місяців тому +10

      It’s true - most therapists are not trained in how to treat OCD. You have to ask if the therapist has had experience successfully using ERP to treat it. Most do not.

    • @elleestdaria
      @elleestdaria 6 місяців тому

      @@ToniMilakUnfortunately. However, they should be.

    • @tjjones-xj7kq
      @tjjones-xj7kq 5 місяців тому +10

      @@endokrin7897 Therapists are typically like GP. They can identify there is a problem and point you were to go. Sure they can treat a fever or a sprained ankle but if you have cancer or a badly broken ankle they will send you to a specialist.
      Most therapists have a general knowledge but if you want trauma treatment for C-PTSD/PTSD then you seak out that specifically. If you have OCD you seak out someone who has extra knowledge on the subject. It's no different. No need to hate on the guy who is saying this helped him be a better shrink.

  • @kateglastic9826
    @kateglastic9826 9 місяців тому +90

    I'm 52..I've had crippling OCD my whole life..this had me in tears. What a beautiful soul❤

    • @LBowen-wg5rn
      @LBowen-wg5rn 6 місяців тому +1

      What should we do? What helps?

    • @claudiaj2138
      @claudiaj2138 5 місяців тому +2

      @@LBowen-wg5rnlots of practice and building a strong support system

    • @Chungalhunga
      @Chungalhunga Місяць тому +1

      Hello, two common things Kate and the other guy with OCD have is traumatic childhood with sex abuse. What do you guys think, is sex abuse important trigger for OCD, or abuse happens as a consequence of being vulnerable like people with other mental illnesses often are?
      OCD is pretty interesting to me because i have this tendency to count stripes at zebra crossings, floors of the buildings, floor tiles and similar. If numbers are not even, or sometimes odd like 14 instead of 12 i wish they were, this feeling goes away in a few seconds so it doesn't really bother me. The same thing is going on when doing electronics where i prefer certain numbers over others, in the last three days i was kind of bothered by getting 273 volts instead of 275 when both are technically correct, they could be well over 10V higher or lower. In my twenties i told this to a social worker who thought it is happening because my intellectual capacity wasn't used to full potential, which made sense at a time. I hope what i wrote makes sense, English is not my native language.

    • @lori5404
      @lori5404 Місяць тому +1

      I'm 53. I have developed the existential ocd. My whole entire mind is consumed with death and dying. Its causing panic attacks, last night was the worse one yet. I was completely convinced I was dying. Im glad this came to my feed when it did because I think I understand the problem now.

    • @Chungalhunga
      @Chungalhunga Місяць тому +1

      @@lori5404 Try psychologist? Dealing with ocd like this on your own must be hard, i mentioned psychologist because some of them can help us change very fast.

  • @DrummerKen85
    @DrummerKen85 Рік тому +375

    The brain is a scary place no one knows what’s going on in there , thank you for your story.

    • @_.10.cents._
      @_.10.cents._ Рік тому +9

      “You all stare, but you’ll never see. There’s something inside me.”

  • @MB.77
    @MB.77 Рік тому +607

    Wow. I wonder if this young lady realizes just how many people she is helping and in which ways by being so candid on this interview. Hats off to her for her courage. She’s articulate and very self aware. Love her depth and I wish her peace and health.

  • @brianmery761
    @brianmery761 6 місяців тому +158

    Listen to every word this girl says, as an OCD sufferer myself, she hit the nail on the head, down to every last theme, every thought every compulsion. Wow, I’m not alone.

    • @TheHumanExperience1000
      @TheHumanExperience1000 6 місяців тому

      Check out Dr. Chris Palmer.

    • @pinkandjewels
      @pinkandjewels 6 місяців тому +2

      Right. I've never been diagnosed with anything except major depressive episodes but wow. This makes me feel less alone in some of my experiences.

    • @werbnaright5012
      @werbnaright5012 6 місяців тому

      Have you seen the clown, Steve? He not only tells it from his perspective, but he does it in a funny, yet admittedly priveleged way. @@pinkandjewels

    • @fabianawilliams2454
      @fabianawilliams2454 6 місяців тому +2

      Group therapy was a game changer for me and I realized that I wasn't going crazy, they are very similar themes

    • @calvin...
      @calvin... Місяць тому

      you're never alone

  • @abigailmartinez5086
    @abigailmartinez5086 7 місяців тому +37

    A lot of people ask me why I spend so much time alone and I always say , "My brain is too loud. It's easier that way." What she describes is why. Thank you for being so honest and explaining it so clearly.

    • @saturnhex9855
      @saturnhex9855 5 місяців тому +1

      Yup, fighting with your own thoughts is exhausting. I have a lot of the same obsessions as her that I've never admitted to anyone. Its good to know at least we aren't alone.

    • @jjd903
      @jjd903 Місяць тому

      We'd say stay out of your own neighborhood! But no joke, I was lucky to grow out of it

    • @wildtymes2429
      @wildtymes2429 Місяць тому

      ​​@@jjd903I've had OCD since I was about 9, so 56 years. In order to deal with my brain racing I began drinking at 18 and finally quit at 50. I thought I'd get worse with my mind being more clear without alcohol, but instead, my OCD lessened even though I still have some obsessive/compulsive thoughts. Thank goodness it didn't get worse because always waiting for when the other shoe would drop was exhausting.

  • @NicolePoliskey
    @NicolePoliskey Рік тому +871

    That pedophile fear is very common in OCD sufferers with intrusive thoughts. You explained it so well. Our biggest fears actually become our biggest fears. This is such an in-depth, well explained, interview on OCD, especially the intrusive thoughts. Most people think OCD is just repetitive behaviors, they forget or don't realize that intrusive thoughts are a big component. Coping mechanisms help us survive until they don't. Thank you so much for this interview. Kate is strikingly beautiful and so intelligent, I wish her love and peace xx

    • @x-raymind7778
      @x-raymind7778 Рік тому +16

      She is beautiful she could be a model

    • @SimplyAngelaRae
      @SimplyAngelaRae Рік тому +7

      I never knew this

    • @tommylee9123
      @tommylee9123 Рік тому +9

      Did you see the one with the clown man. That was a really good OCD explanation too!

    • @xoxoleidyj9085
      @xoxoleidyj9085 Рік тому +3

      This!!

    • @amandarios448
      @amandarios448 Рік тому +17

      I lost my best friend and husband a little over a month ago and he suffered from OCD for so long. He died at 34. OCD can be really cruel and he was a foster child.

  • @cherie7725
    @cherie7725 Рік тому +422

    I wasn't molested, but your spiral into OCD from childhood is almost exactly what I went through. From the intrusive thoughts, seeking reassurance, dissociation, religious compulsions, confessions to mom, and obsession with socks/underwear fit. It's wild and stuff I never thought anyone would share in such fine detail. Thanks for sharing, Kate.

    • @Kangaroooooo
      @Kangaroooooo 11 місяців тому +4

      Same

    • @dangitgayle555
      @dangitgayle555 11 місяців тому +4

      Sameeee

    • @JellyfishMotherfuck
      @JellyfishMotherfuck 10 місяців тому

      same wow

    • @annasmith5908
      @annasmith5908 10 місяців тому +2

      Same!!! I am so shocked at how this is literally me and I didn’t even know about OCD. So many realizations today about my life. I always thought something is just wrong with me

    • @kassidymontford4703
      @kassidymontford4703 9 місяців тому +1

      Same!!! I had so many similar experiences especially being confused about thoughts that sounded and felt like they weren’t coming from me. I wasn’t correctly diagnosed until my 20s

  • @denniszipps1202
    @denniszipps1202 9 місяців тому +136

    Being “a prisoner in my own mind” was the most on target description of OCD I’ve heard. Thank you for sharing your experience. Listening to your story was therapeutic to say the least. Never forget how much you are helping people.

  • @laylasilva7121
    @laylasilva7121 5 місяців тому +44

    "OCD makes you debunk every truth you tell yourself." .... Yeah. I felt that. Thank you for putting that in words xx

  • @Sara-sara86
    @Sara-sara86 Рік тому +211

    Can we just appreciate her honesty and vulnerability to tell her story..I hope this beautiful girl gets peace one day...

  • @tbev3363
    @tbev3363 Рік тому +371

    I had no idea about OCD went this deep. What an intelligent, articulate, well put together woman considering the struggles she has. So happy she has a supportive mom, and others around her. Best of luck to this young lady!!

    • @juliasemenihina3776
      @juliasemenihina3776 10 місяців тому +2

      Me neither. Had no idea it could affect the thoughts so hard😢 Sweetie, keep fighting this OCD bitch and what she's saying to you. It'not real, it's not true!! You are such a kind hearted ,loving, intelligent young woman´ i hope they'll find something to shut up these voices for good❤😢

  • @mandyd2319
    @mandyd2319 9 місяців тому +21

    The confessions, the need for reassurance, the cycles. It's a living hell.

  • @MrRE3P3R
    @MrRE3P3R 11 місяців тому +55

    Crazy I watched this because my wife saw this video and felt completely validated. She has had this her entire life as well and has always thought she was crazy. Recently we had been talking about her possible having OCD and after she say this video she could relate to so much! There needs to be more awareness to this in society so less people suffer in silence.

  • @LVLaFofolle
    @LVLaFofolle Рік тому +106

    I was in total shock for a bit when I saw Kate's face pop up on my Subscriptions page. We lived in the same city and hung out in mutual circles a few years back. She always struck me as insightful and empathetic and beautiful. It's inspiring to see her share her truth in an interview like this. Nicely done, Kate

  • @mariachica9852
    @mariachica9852 Рік тому +705

    Mark, thank you for the OCD videos. My daughter has OCD and it has completely taken over her life. its an awful disorder. Kate, your articulate details have helped me immensely to understand the struggle my daughter goes through everyday. thank you both.

    • @pambeforethestorm9784
      @pambeforethestorm9784 Рік тому +12

      I understand your daughter's frustration as my form of it is washing my hands a million times a day and don't know why! It's sooooo frustrating, especially at work!! I can hide it at home but Omg I'm sick of it!! I hope your daughter heals, truly 💗

    • @valleychick2509
      @valleychick2509 Рік тому +9

      My son also has ocd, it started when he was 8. My son is now 31, he didn’t tell me until he was 15. He says he didn’t know how to explain it until he did some research of his own. He started therapy immediately. Now he suffers with severe depression and has suicidal tendencies 😢
      I completely understand how you feel as a mother. My son until this very day is under psychiatric care and sees a therapist weekly . It breaks my heart 😢 And yes, Thank You Mark ❤

    • @ferguson8143
      @ferguson8143 Рік тому +2

      @@valleychick2509 what was his OCD if you don't mind me asking?

    • @lunamaharuni
      @lunamaharuni Рік тому +8

      My daughter also has OCD. Existential OCD along with order, cleanliness. She's 24 she still lives at home because of the severity of her mental health. It's a heartbreaking and terrifying disorder. Sending everyone hugs and prayers here in this thread. ❤️🤟

    • @austincelaya1139
      @austincelaya1139 Рік тому +6

      I healed my ocd doing three things: ERP, Meds and doing the heavy metal detox cleanse from medical medium. It saved my life, please check it out for your daughter.

  • @maclac48
    @maclac48 9 місяців тому +31

    The human mind is so very powerful. I manage my intrusive thoughts through prayer. This may not work for everyone, but it works for me. This young lady & I have a lot in common. I’m a 48 year old African American man, & leading Up to me viewing this video, I thought that I was the only one with a mind that functions like this young lady. I pray though, & I’m not going to stop. 🙏🏿

  • @Shanemanarrow
    @Shanemanarrow 8 місяців тому +12

    She's so classically beautiful. She's like a 1920s Hollywood star

  • @linds3904
    @linds3904 Рік тому +227

    I’ve been struggling with severe OCD for 14+ years and I’m so glad to finally see a video that talks about true OCD, the intrusive and obsessive thoughts, etc. So many people say “oh, i have ocd i have a clean house” and stuff like that. And downplay the seriousness of what OCD really is. It is debilitating. Thank you for this video, Mark! And thank you, Kate, for sharing your story! You’re amazing!

    • @rebeccalavoy6655
      @rebeccalavoy6655 Рік тому +11

      I have OCD as well. It can be so exhausting. I have had people ridicule it. I have told them, before they judge so quickly, they could not last one day in my mind and body. It takes a strong individual, to have this disease.

    • @harveyplantharvester1502
      @harveyplantharvester1502 Рік тому +2

      @@rebeccalavoy6655 OCD is a form of poisoning/damage to the brain, the main culprit is childhood vaccines. There is a way to detox the toxins out of the body (sweating, herbal cleanses etc.) but nutrition is key as well -- brain food is plant based nutrients from whole foods from the garden.

    • @evehg117
      @evehg117 Рік тому

      @@harveyplantharvester1502 She was molested as a child but sure, must’ve been the vaccine.

    • @hannahedwards1626
      @hannahedwards1626 Рік тому +4

      Same ❤️ hate it when people use “ocd” as being an adjective to describe themselves just because they like order. People have no idea how hard it is to live with everyday

    • @lindseymirelle4946
      @lindseymirelle4946 Рік тому

      do you take medication

  • @sandonique
    @sandonique Рік тому +148

    “This thought does not hold power over me. It is just a thought”. I will remind myself of this when my mind & anxiety tries to take over me. Thanks for sharing your story.

    • @lovedbyU333
      @lovedbyU333 9 місяців тому

    • @kathycamac1011
      @kathycamac1011 7 місяців тому

      Oh wow! I didn't get to that part of the video yet, but I was once told by a psychiatrist to think of the thoughts as independent thought bubbles traveling through my brain. Almost like a comic strip thought bubble. He told me these thoughts are distressing to you and you don't want them, so they're obviously not your thoughts. Allow them to pass and keep moving?.

  • @evangelinagillespie1278
    @evangelinagillespie1278 9 місяців тому +48

    I had to comment on this. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and fears. I’m 29 and was diagnosed with OCD last year. Once I was diagnosed I realized that I’ve had this most of my life. I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. It feels like you’re under a spell. It’s debilitating and I felt like a monster at times. You describing the fear of hurting someone while you’re asleep is something I fear every night. You’re not alone & you seem wonderful 💚

  • @rebeccagabele3823
    @rebeccagabele3823 4 місяці тому +11

    I have never heard a more reliable, uncensored source than Kate. I love her and Thank You!

  • @Bob86339
    @Bob86339 Рік тому +119

    "The anxiety is much worse than the actual event."
    This is so true. Having OCD myself, I was constantly worrying about getting cancer and that it would be the end of the world if I got it. I did end up getting cancer when I was 20, but turns out, it wasn't the end of the world; I handled it pretty damn well.

  • @crybabynoir
    @crybabynoir Рік тому +433

    I have NEVER heard something so relatable. All of this. Your story is very close to mine. As much as it is torture to live with, I’m just relieved to know that my experiences are valid. Thank you for being so honest. I can’t even imagine the courage this took. There’s so much shame attached to our thoughts with OCD… I admire you.

    • @punk.rock.hippie
      @punk.rock.hippie Рік тому +7

      Same here. ❤

    • @coffeebean3627
      @coffeebean3627 Рік тому +9

      Me too, I feel so incredibly understood. Even down to the absolute minutiae of my obsessions and compulsions, like having to confess again b/c I'm afraid they forgot the original confession, or I wasn't detailed enough the first time. It's maddening!

    • @themountainsandthesea4121
      @themountainsandthesea4121 11 місяців тому +4

      Same.

    • @grimweeper2721
      @grimweeper2721 8 місяців тому +1

      Me too! 💖

    • @Currently_Gaming
      @Currently_Gaming 8 місяців тому +2

      I feel a lot less alone going through this now...

  • @darbs1977
    @darbs1977 9 місяців тому +20

    This was the hardest "Like" I can think of. I don't "like" knowing what this poor angel has been through, but I do very much "like" the courage it took for her to open up like this, and I very much appreciate and LOVE to the profound social good this channel is bringing to the world, by educating the masses. I just hope it never gets shut down or censored, because however difficult these stories are to hear, they are so preciously important to voice

  • @jttv2471
    @jttv2471 8 місяців тому +10

    Hi Kate, my name is Javen. I went inpatient a few years ago on my 18th birthday. My brain absolutely snapped. Every single thought you are describing, I was stuck on for about 2 years. Sadly it won't really ever leave and it's terrible. Seeing your video actually helped me, I tell my fiance constantly I wish I would meet someone who is experiencing what I felt and thought, but would never wish it on anyone. Yet here you are. Thank you for talking about all of this, I'm hoping in my future I'll be able to think that there are others like me. It is true when you say it attacks everything you care about. I ended up using my fiance as my compulsion, the same way you used your mom. It's heartbreaking to have to explain these things to someone you love. Even if they love/care, it still tortures your brain and makes you worry that they think you ARE what you're telling them. I can't express enough how much I appreciate you sitting down and explaining these things going on in your brain. You helped me immensely.

  • @RoaringJaguar
    @RoaringJaguar Рік тому +141

    I’m a 24 year-old man and I have OCD similar to yours, although slightly less severe. I just want to thank you for doing this interview. Your in-depth explaination of the disorder is invaluable. I’m going to show this video to my close friends and family so they can see I’m not alone. You’ve done an immense service to all of us who suffer from real OCD and also to those who interact with us and need a better understanding. Thank you so much again and I wish you lots of love and serenity on your journey of life ❤

    • @Jason.cbr1000rr
      @Jason.cbr1000rr Рік тому +3

      Quick question how do people with ocd even work a job? Do you work a job? I think most dont work

    • @RoaringJaguar
      @RoaringJaguar Рік тому +4

      @@Jason.cbr1000rr Hi thanks for the question! I personally am unable to work so I’m in the process of applying for disability here in Iceland. I’m fortunate enough that the health care system in my country is excellent. Working a normal job with OCD is damn near impossible, especially if one is on the autism spectrum as well, such as myself. I believe this is the case for most people with the disorder. It’s best to seek support. How easy it is to get accepted for disability benefit differs greatly from country to country. Nevertheless, I would encourage everyone in my shoes to start the process because it can be a lenghty one.

  • @loto7197
    @loto7197 Рік тому +197

    I admire how beautiful you make everyone look in your interviews. I don't know whether it's the frame, angle, lighting, etc., but everyone you put on that stool becomes a thing of beauty; regardless of whether they are attractive or not.

    • @student22044
      @student22044 Рік тому +14

      This is so true. Mark is great at this. It’s quite remarkable isn’t it. One person can take the same picture as another, one will look fantastic, and the other not so much. That ability has always fascinated me. I realise with Mark there’s a lot of thought goes into the shot, but still, it’s a great natural ability that not everyone possesses. The lighting, colour coordination with the backdrop, and all because he wants the person to look beautiful, and they always do ❤

    • @chuchaftw
      @chuchaftw Рік тому +7

      It really outshined in this interview with Kate. The olive green background 👌

    • @aliciae8751
      @aliciae8751 Рік тому +16

      Agree....it may be that he sees the beauty in each individual and somehow that translates. Although to be fair, this girl IS stunning so not hard to do with her.

    • @FlushGorgon
      @FlushGorgon Рік тому +8

      He had nothing to do here.

    • @student22044
      @student22044 Рік тому

      @@aliciae8751 indeed

  • @yesvember11
    @yesvember11 Місяць тому +3

    Her childhood trauma triggering her OCD makes a ton of sense. She’s a very strong young woman, thanks for telling your story.

  • @Teaally1913
    @Teaally1913 9 місяців тому +25

    Kate is just lovely. She has opened my eyes to this torture of OCD. I think she could definitely become a therapist to help others with OCD. Not often enough patients go through treatment with Doctors who DO really understand. Her being there for others could make the cure / ease the symptoms, easier to achieve.

    • @julieemery8963
      @julieemery8963 7 місяців тому

      Absolutely, i could begin to understand what she must go through everyday of her life. Shes had a bit of a raw deal since childhood. She would certainly make a great therapist.

    • @reinacrandall1553
      @reinacrandall1553 5 місяців тому

      I thought the same thing

  • @apriltheInvincible
    @apriltheInvincible Рік тому +189

    I have never heard anyone explain so precisely and completely what is in my head. I'm speechless. Thank you so much for telling your story. Love from Nova Scotia

  • @lukejholland2748
    @lukejholland2748 Рік тому +532

    Thank you for your bravery Kate. This is a perfect description of the hell that is OCD. Anyone reading this, I’ve come to know from suffering from OCD for decades, that we are the least dangerous people on earth. It’s your brain wiring torturing you and the fact that you’re horrified or afraid of your intrusive thoughts just goes to show, everything it’s telling you is bullsh*t. Be kind to yourself. Find someone who’s a specialist in OCD and go hard with exposure therapy. It’ll prove to you, that OCD is full of sh*t. You can be free of it’s grasp or at least get better at ignoring it. Sending Kate and all of you fighting this beast love 😃😀 Xx

    • @katewilliams5230
      @katewilliams5230 Рік тому +8

      Thank you

    • @cherrygirl64
      @cherrygirl64 Рік тому +9

      Yes her description is point on. I have battled as well and also tried to deal with this with only cognitive behavioral therapy. Without health insurance the suffering goes on. We need universal healthcare in this country. We are seeing the results with shootings and suicides sky high due to all the conditions people are suffering with untreated.

    • @ozomahtlikey9190
      @ozomahtlikey9190 Рік тому +4

      @@katewilliams5230 you're awesome Kate I pray for you and wish the best mental health is a huge problem in this country thank you for this video you're helping a lot of people out stay blessed ✌️✌️

    • @supermikeb
      @supermikeb Рік тому +12

      A shrink told me one time that you are not your thoughts, and your thoughts are not facts. It helped me so much.

    • @cherrygirl64
      @cherrygirl64 Рік тому +9

      @@supermikeb Yes but its not that simple when you have worn superhighways in your brain telling you the same things without mercy. Like a lightswitch you cant turn off. You have to do what addicts cant even do and thats fight each impulse to think something and not give in. If it were as simple as your remark we wouldnt have people in such distress and suicidal. Ocd is addiction, addiction to giving in and we do it because weve meshed pleasure and pain together. We have to abandon the security and familiarity of the negative thoughts. Once you break the patterns they no longer have power but as I said its an addiction and fighting your very brain is not as simple as hearing a quote.

  • @frankbaird8645
    @frankbaird8645 3 місяці тому +7

    Mark, thank you for videos like this. One of the main reasons I watch them is that they give me a window into the minds and world of people who I would never otherwise be able to see. I constantly relearn the lesson about being kind to others because you never know what they are going through.

  • @simoneelaine7468
    @simoneelaine7468 4 місяці тому +13

    As another person with OCD, thank you for your bravery & vulnerability in this video. So much of what you shared are also things I’ve experienced/continue to struggle with. The derealization, the doubting. Your knowledge and wisdom was wonderful to get to hear. Thank you.

  • @coraliejames7422
    @coraliejames7422 Рік тому +556

    Kate, when you mentioned your grandfather dying it reminded me of something. People with severe anxiety can be extremely competent and strong when something serious actually happens. They have to face their fears over and over every day for years in advance. Often when the event or loss they fear occurs, they respond far better than they ever anticipated. People around them often observe how they manage better than everyone else.

    • @sweetsexypickles
      @sweetsexypickles Рік тому +19

      This is extremely accurate. I can help others in very bad situations, but myself...not so much. Minus death of loved ones bc I've anticipated it for so long - it's the suicides & sudden deaths that bother me, but even suicide, I can deal with it. I guess that's why I make a very good CO in jail/prisons. 🤷🏼‍♀️

    • @LeonardoDiCapri-Sun
      @LeonardoDiCapri-Sun Рік тому +21

      This is so true. I have bad anxiety but I’m level headed and take action when actual emergencies happen. Same with other people I know who have anxiety.

    • @lucy-janewalsh9047
      @lucy-janewalsh9047 Рік тому +16

      This is so true. It’s almost a relief to have something to channel the anxious energy into

    • @turdfergusonoutdoors5070
      @turdfergusonoutdoors5070 Рік тому +13

      Yes indeed....at a young age i witnessed my brother pass away. Then at 17 i went into the Army in 2005 mind you. I feel like after youve witnessed so much trauma and tragedy you dont go into shock when things happen around you. You stay calm and take action to try and help.

    • @jonathangems
      @jonathangems Рік тому +5

      Anxiety cases make the best fighter pilots.

  • @g.v.9261
    @g.v.9261 Рік тому +60

    This interview shows how painful and tiring it is to live with a sick mind. While you are physically absolutely fine but in so much agony inside. And it just reiterates how crucial your childhood is. And how important it is for the parents to nourish and keep their children safe. Hope you get well soon sweet child. Thank you for sharing your life with us like this.

    • @marvinangel8832
      @marvinangel8832 Рік тому

      With mental illness that would be untreated the physical problems could soon follow... Like muscle cramps, eating disorder, self harm, anorexia, etc.

  • @toeachitsown2050
    @toeachitsown2050 11 місяців тому +28

    This is amazing. I had no idea OCD was this deep and paralyzing. This condition sounds so hard and exhausting. I really hope the medication and therapy helps.

  • @JMFHOriginal
    @JMFHOriginal Місяць тому +3

    I wish more people understood OCD.... brutal disease, and the toughest thing is explaining it. Well done.

  • @pssmith694
    @pssmith694 Рік тому +230

    What a beautiful, well-spoken and pleasant young lady. I learned a lot and I wish her the best.

    • @chera9951
      @chera9951 Рік тому +5

      Yes to that…..

    • @Anthony-dj4nd
      @Anthony-dj4nd Рік тому

      She can get the D

    • @onejacket4603
      @onejacket4603 Рік тому

      Totally disagree. I think she is an attention seeker and her issue is no issue. (Except for the molestation)

    • @adriannemason5451
      @adriannemason5451 Рік тому +1

      That's exactly what I thought, a beautiful articulate woman

  • @thehappyplace4u
    @thehappyplace4u Рік тому +127

    I’d love for her to do another video with her mother. It must have taken so much love to believe your child and get her the help she needs. That mother sounds like she was really there for her.

    • @jmarrocco
      @jmarrocco Рік тому +4

      That’s a great idea! 15:55

    • @thehappyplace4u
      @thehappyplace4u Рік тому +8

      @@jmarrocco it might give people who have children with these challenges hope and some guidance.

  • @Kris_413
    @Kris_413 9 місяців тому +9

    I’m never saying I have OCD ever again 😢

  • @MaliCat2.0
    @MaliCat2.0 9 місяців тому +8

    My stepdaughter we recently (about 8 months ago) got full custody of bc of a abuse situation with her mom. She’s been driving me crazy w these weird obsessions and thoughts and repeating questions daily. We have her in therapy but listening to you and your thinking is exactly what her kid brain explains to me when I pry in to the “why” thank you so much I’m going to advocate for professionals to look in to this because it describes her behavior and what she tells me way more than “anxiety” I’ve been told.

  • @elmartell5724
    @elmartell5724 Рік тому +54

    As someone with OCD and an eerily similar story- I promise you all that you can't imagine how much bravery went into her doing this interview. OCD is humilating and terrifying
    So much respect for her 😭😭 I'm so glad she had a good parent around to help

  • @caitlynkoerner5884
    @caitlynkoerner5884 Рік тому +256

    My husband was diagnosed with OCD before I met him. The part where you talked about how if you didn't think your mother understood you so you would say it again was eye opening for me. My husband does this. He repeats the same point over and over and insists I don't understand him to the point that I'm so over stimulated and frustrated I have to leave. Now it's clicking that this is probably part of his OCD. It helps me to be more patient with him knowing it's not something he can help.

    • @505olpha6
      @505olpha6 Рік тому

      Why not watch mohan c Lazarus in English version.

    • @TristanMundell
      @TristanMundell Рік тому +1

      I'm glad you had this understanding because I have ruined every single relationship I have ever been in by doing stuff like this.
      *Doing stuff like your husband

    • @MetalForLife1970
      @MetalForLife1970 Рік тому +2

      I can't imagine how frustrating OCD must be to outsiders....it's frustrating having this and understanding from our families is so important!

    • @kimwam
      @kimwam Рік тому

      We (OCD sufferers) usually don’t understand how exhausting the reassurance seeking is to those around us until some light has been shed on the disorder by a proper diagnosis/ therapist. It would probably help to sit in on a therapy session w your husband and get some guidance on how to handle reassurance seeking so that it doesn’t drive you nuts. ❤

  • @deangirl3074
    @deangirl3074 Місяць тому +1

    What a selfless and courageous woman to share her story! My heart hurts for people who have this struggle. I can’t imagine a life with this mind battle. God bless this sweet Kate! ♥️

  • @patreilly9213
    @patreilly9213 8 місяців тому

    Thank you for sharing this…I can’t tell you how relatable some of this is and how healing it is to hear that someone else has gone through the same. Wishing you all the best in the battle against your brain, I’ve gotten better at it over the years and I think you will continue to do so as well❤

  • @PeaceLoveeNSN
    @PeaceLoveeNSN Рік тому +381

    People need to realize how many of these horrible mental health issues are solely from sexual abuse or some other childhood trauma. Why are SO many kids being abused. It's absurd. I know more people who have been abused than haven't. It's so horribly sad. I was as well, and here I am, I also have OCD, BPD, and probably CPTSD. Our children need to be protected so much better.

    • @PeaceLoveeNSN
      @PeaceLoveeNSN Рік тому +24

      Also holy moly I think I'm starting to realize a lot of my spirituality wasn't actually spirituality and was just OCD

    • @Francesco-cj3oi
      @Francesco-cj3oi Рік тому

      @@PeaceLoveeNSN be careful. It seems to me like the surge in mental disorders diagnosis is a scam by the pharma companies to hook you on medication. It doesn't mean you don't have problems, but it might not be an actual mental illness and medication might not be the solution.

    • @beautyalaritz3310
      @beautyalaritz3310 Рік тому +5

      Completely agree and appalled

    • @selfhelpwiththeuniqueshanique
      @selfhelpwiththeuniqueshanique Рік тому

      Agree

    • @upperechelon3686
      @upperechelon3686 Рік тому +15

      So true. It blows my mind as well. Every single girlfriend I've ever been with has at least A story of some abuse or molestation.

  • @CMLCML
    @CMLCML 10 місяців тому +15

    This hit home so hard. I’ve never related to a video so much in my life. Thank you Kate, I can’t tell you the relief I feel to hear someone speak about almost the exact same intrusive thoughts. It’s one of the least understood illnesses and it’s so refreshing to hear someone explain it as more than just hand washing and light switches

  • @stephaniebaker2079
    @stephaniebaker2079 8 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for stepping forward and telling your story. I have a soft case of OCD with intrusive thoughts. My biggest compulse being keeping my body clean I will take 2-3 showers a day. I also have intrusive thoughts, but most of mine just pertain to worst case scenarios in whatever is causing me anxiety at the time. I can't imagine what you went through/are going through. You're so strong for coming forward and I hope this video can help people. It absolutely helped me.

  • @starkrazi
    @starkrazi Рік тому +270

    OCD is a bully in our brain. I have a mild case and my son has it too. He’s in erp therapy. Thank you for sharing your story ❤

    • @EmilyP17
      @EmilyP17 Рік тому +3

      It’s that the truth!

    • @HooliganMomma
      @HooliganMomma Рік тому +7

      My 17 year old son is also in therapy for OCD and treated with ERP...it's such a tough road..OCD is ever changing for my son and so incredibly difficult at times!! Kate is just lovely and inspiring!!! Wishing you and your son the best of luck!!

    • @mochi_3600
      @mochi_3600 Рік тому

      It’s so hard to get through interviews when they use the word “um” and “uh” constantly 😓😓😓

    • @3wishes777
      @3wishes777 Рік тому +1

      Oh my my son and I both have it. It is hard to watch him battle everything I have already been through

    • @3wishes777
      @3wishes777 Рік тому

      I wish I could talk to you more

  • @the-helpful-stranger1154
    @the-helpful-stranger1154 Рік тому +29

    Her description of not having the words when she was younger and how it makes her feel now.. that is exactly what it felt like finding out I'm autistic at 30. So many hurts could have been avoided.

  • @VoteForElena
    @VoteForElena 9 місяців тому +1

    I can't tell you how much this helps me. I relate to her so incredibly much. Hearing her explain her reasoning helps, so, so much. Thank you for allowing us in to people's lives. A year of therapy was less helpful for me than stumbling across this video. I can't thank you enough. I know that it's probably algorithm that brought this video up on my home page, bc I watch you on Facebook, but I don't think my coming across this was coincidence. This is a major step in the right direction and she is so brave. ❤

  • @hustleburry
    @hustleburry 5 місяців тому +2

    I’m 34 and I’ve never known what I was going through, when my wife saw this she instantly shared it with me and knew this was what I have been going through my whole life. Thank you so much I’ve never heard anyone describe these things that can be crippling and make you feel so alone. I have a beautiful family and a business and now I feel like I can move forward with the right help when I go through a “thought attack”. Thank you so much for sharing.

  • @Armyofelves
    @Armyofelves Рік тому +185

    If I wasnt at work watching this right now I would be crying tears of gratitude. I'm really struggling with keeping it together right now. I am not diagnosed but I figured out by doing my own research that I am likely OCD and everything you just explained makes me feel so validated and understood its like a door just opened up. I'm going to ask my fiance to watch this because I think it will really help him understand me better. Kate, sincerely, from the bottom of my heart, thank you. You just changed the way I think about me.

    • @StarfayeArt
      @StarfayeArt 9 місяців тому +1

      Good luck out there, Olivia ❤️ see someone for this if you can as well because life can be hard and it helps to get help

    • @andijonesgrif
      @andijonesgrif 8 місяців тому +4

      My partner has OCD intrusive thoughts and this video has explained so much about the condition to me. I wish I had this information earlier in our relationship. We have been through a lot. It is very difficult for me sometimes, but he's worth it.
      Don't forget, a hug can make a huge difference if your partner is struggling a little.

  • @spiritually_drunk
    @spiritually_drunk Рік тому +270

    I definitely suffer with intrusive thoughts that I know I don’t mean, and never had an explanation until now. All thanks to her being so fearlessly candid.

    • @EmilyP17
      @EmilyP17 Рік тому +4

      It’s unreal. ☘️

    • @katerinatadenev96
      @katerinatadenev96 Рік тому +6

      same! I am so happy that people come out to talk about this. :) Sometimes it is helfpul just knowing that there are other people out there who have similar struggles.

    • @GiGiGGenerations
      @GiGiGGenerations Рік тому +3

      Same! I don’t feel alone now. I never understood my intrusive thoughts until now. Thank you for that!!!

    • @evaschroeder4614
      @evaschroeder4614 Рік тому +4

      Lots of people do actually even none ocd people.

    • @JohnWThompson1984
      @JohnWThompson1984 Рік тому +3

      Yeah man I’ve struggled my whole life with intrusive thoughts. I didn’t cope all that well as a teenager but in my adult life I think I cope a lot better, still really irritated with them tho. I’ve the religious side of OCD and have recently been diagnosed with having an extra chromzone in the 7th gene 🧬 which is an explanation as to why I do struggle a lot.

  • @peachiecheeks
    @peachiecheeks 8 місяців тому +1

    I am so glad for your channel with its relatable content. I imagine it helps others feel less alone. This in particular helps me know that what I went through with OCD was common. I relate to many of her obsessions and compulsions

  • @beckyhone4226
    @beckyhone4226 11 місяців тому +16

    I too have OCD and it came on during childhood. I could relate to SO much that you talked about and experienced. Funny thing is that I am a master level social worker and now help others dealing with OCD and other mental health challenges just as you are endeavoring to do. You will change lives and help so many , not only through this interview but also through your profession. Thank you for sharing your story and your courage!

  • @Toastergod44
    @Toastergod44 Рік тому +50

    as someone who developed OCD in high school this was really cathartic for me. Extreme weight loss because I believed my food was poisoned, spending hours at my locker checking the padlock until it felt right and I could walk away, convincing myself I had contracted HIV because I scratched my hand on a nail while working on a set piece for the Drama department. The anxiety attacks were horrible, especially when my mind was so out of control that I couldn't remember things I had done minutes prior to recalling them.
    I eventually got help, but I couldn't talk about it for the longest time because of the subsequent shame I'd feel about hitting that kind of a low point in my life and believing no one could relate to it. Things got better going into my 20s and now, on the eve of 30, it's nowhere near the constant oppressive companion in my life that it used to be.
    Thank you.

  • @socoamarettojustine
    @socoamarettojustine Рік тому +151

    I love that Mark knows when to just let someone talk. This was fantastic and gave me so much insight into my own thoughts.

  • @chewonthis...
    @chewonthis... 6 днів тому

    Your words came across loud and clear, with an understanding of the OCD condition. It's wonderful that you've done the hard work to come to this knowledge. Which proves knowledge is power! I was raised by a lovely woman who suffered from this horrible anxiety disorder. It plagued her her life long and she lived for 85 years! I am presently 66yo. Which serves to make the timeline very clear to all who read this, that this was during the time when little to no medical intervention was available to these poor unfortunate individuals. And there was shame stigma attached to it. They either got put in asylums or received lobotomy !

  • @courtneymaguire1
    @courtneymaguire1 10 місяців тому

    This is definitely what I went through and my story is so similar. Thank you for your transparency and sharing your story!! It’s nice to know we’re not alone with this.

  • @LaSerpentDEden
    @LaSerpentDEden Рік тому +25

    Love the colour pallet in this one.

  • @fionadougherty8432
    @fionadougherty8432 Рік тому +96

    Kate's story is so similar to mine and it is very relieving hearing it being told. I hate that when I say I have OCD, people's immediate thoughts are "she's just very organized, she's a neat freak.." and the struggles that I actually go through don't cross their minds. This video is a great first step to having people understand where OCD stems from and how severe and debilitating it can get. Thank you Kate and Mark!

    • @taramay8174
      @taramay8174 Рік тому +1

      Same same

    • @supernova11711
      @supernova11711 Рік тому +6

      I think the problem is that the word is vastly overused. People that are extremely organized or particular about certain things call themselves OCD. It’s used lightly by people that don’t understand what it actually is.
      I had a traumatic childhood and started developing symptoms in my mid teens but thankfully was able to overcome it before it overcame me.
      It’s obsessive thought patterns and takes over your whole life. People don’t understand that part of it. For me it started with dieting and then branched out to other things. If I had certain thoughts I’d have to wash my hands until they got raw and bloody. I was so lost and nobody even knew.
      I don’t follow religion but became really spiritual. God saved me. God and Matchbox 20 lol

  • @andreacooley9428
    @andreacooley9428 7 місяців тому

    Wow!! Thank you so much Kate for sharing your story. My daughter was diagnosed with bipolar, ocd, and odd when she was 10!! This really helps make sense to me as her mother. You are a remarkable young lady.

  • @Kristina-su3lx
    @Kristina-su3lx 11 місяців тому +1

    This, all of this. I have OCD and relate SO much to this. Thank you for sharing your struggles. I often feel so alone

  • @jennyjenilton
    @jennyjenilton Рік тому +179

    Thank you Kate! You have incredibly big balls for coming on here talking about this. I think your video will help a lot of people. I suffer from OCD, and it really can feel like you are going crazy, and can be so terrifying. It’s nice to know we are not alone. Thanks Mark and Kate!

    • @unknown-sx8sn
      @unknown-sx8sn Рік тому +10

      Gross! Please reword and this time use adult language.

    • @hacky_sackin
      @hacky_sackin Рік тому +16

      @@unknown-sx8sn it’s internet slang. Get used to it. People will be who they are and use the language they do. You can choose not to read it, or ignore it.

    • @vaekkriinhart4347
      @vaekkriinhart4347 Рік тому +9

      big balls?
      c'mon, u couldn't think of a better phrase?

    • @vaekkriinhart4347
      @vaekkriinhart4347 Рік тому +6

      @@hacky_sackin it's a dumb phrase- especially, to a young lady

    • @unknown-sx8sn
      @unknown-sx8sn Рік тому +6

      Just because ignorant, immature teens use this”slang” doesn’t mean you have to spread it further by commenting on a lady sharing her story. Grow up and use proper etiquette in your comments from here forth.

  • @kace3235
    @kace3235 Рік тому +100

    Wow. I just realized I have OCD since I was a child. Everything she explains is what I have felt and struggled with. I thought it was just general anxiety.

  • @melindaeverett6905
    @melindaeverett6905 7 місяців тому

    So thankful for this interview Mark. And Also to you Kate for being vulnerable and caring enough to present your story and explain things so well. I too suffer with OCD and I can relate to many of the themes that you mentioned. I kept saying, yep, in my head. I don’t know when mine began but I do know that the genes are strong in my biological family. You explained it better than just about anyone I’ve heard or read. You are well spoken and very smart. I pray that you will have much success with therapies and that you can find peace with Existential OCD. That’s a BIG one for me as well. Probably my hardest. Hugs !

  • @laura-rj9kx
    @laura-rj9kx 10 місяців тому +5

    As someone who is also dealing with OCD this resonates so much. I have never seen someome explain it this detailed. Thank you❤

  • @linasofit1801
    @linasofit1801 Рік тому +173

    As an 11 year old I knew something was wrong with me when I had OCD thoughts, rituals etc, but I later learned it was my brain’s way of coping with trauma. I’m 37 and still deal with it including anxiety, anxiety attacks, depression etc. Hearing someone talk about issues similar to mine really help me understand and cope with mental health issues. Thank you for sharing your experience with us here on UA-cam.

    • @lucfierslight
      @lucfierslight Рік тому +10

      I’m like you: started having OCD symptoms at 11-12 and in my thirties now. It’s nice to hear someone else talk about it. I feel like it’s so misunderstood by others and hopefully her speaking about it will help others be more compassionate. ❤

    • @mikimarkos4696
      @mikimarkos4696 9 місяців тому

      It's genetic, trust me. It has nothing to do with trauma

    • @Michael-jq5pf
      @Michael-jq5pf 9 місяців тому +1

      ​@@mikimarkos4696those two things are not always mutually exclusive
      I have no take on whether OCD is one or the other. Just noting.

    • @AnHebrewChild
      @AnHebrewChild 8 місяців тому +2

      @@mikimarkos4696"It is x, not z"
      In actuality, it is x and z plus y and also
      Things are typically multi-faceted and dynamic. Peace.

  • @ItzLikeWhaa
    @ItzLikeWhaa Рік тому +57

    Your mother is an amazing person. The world would be such a better place if parents afforded more empathy, patience, and compassion to their children. Thank you for sharing your story with us, Kate

  • @erinmorvan5167
    @erinmorvan5167 10 місяців тому +8

    You are truly amazing. What a succinct and articulate description. I am sure you are helping so many people see in depth the reality of OCD and the anxiety that comes with it.

  • @katdeluxe
    @katdeluxe 9 місяців тому +1

    Wow. Between Lily Bailey’s book and this interview, I have never felt more seen and validated, and less alone with my OCD. Mine surfaced before grade school, a lot of “just rightness” and feeling contaminations on a cellular level, lotta compulsions and then spiraled into everything you touched on and more. This was just simply the best. Thank you so much for doing this, and to Kate for being brave and vulnerable and sharing what is so deeply misunderstood!!

  • @69161239
    @69161239 Рік тому +75

    IT WOULD BE GREAT IF SHE WOULD DO THIS INTERVIEW AGAIN IN LIKE 10 YEARS.

    • @hoganholo99
      @hoganholo99 Рік тому +3

      Yeah, kind of like the "Up" Series.

  • @Jason-by4ji
    @Jason-by4ji Рік тому +38

    She looks so well put together, would never have though she was dealing with this.

    • @tylertheguy3160
      @tylertheguy3160 Рік тому +18

      Some people are good at hiding their problems, or they just don't show. This is a good lesson to learn, always remember that you never really know exactly what's going on inside someone.

    • @mikemccaine4229
      @mikemccaine4229 Рік тому

      stupid thing to say

    • @houseofsolomon2440
      @houseofsolomon2440 Рік тому

      My thought exactly.

    • @Jason.cbr1000rr
      @Jason.cbr1000rr Рік тому +1

      Not really just look at her eyes

  • @mabuhayPinay
    @mabuhayPinay 9 місяців тому

    Kate, I now have a better understanding of OCD than before. I feel like you can be a voice to the disease bc you know it so well, can articulate it and be brave in front of the public. You are helping many people. I wish you healing and all the best.

  • @kaiazion5351
    @kaiazion5351 2 місяці тому

    Absolutely, completely relate to this. I still at 55 have intrusive thoughts but have learrnt distraction techniques from the thoughts and the OCD triggers. You are a strong woman Kate. Thank you for being vulnerable and telling your story. Keep going with your studies as Ibelieve your experiences will be of benefit and help others. Thank you for your candidness and openness ❤

  • @cinthiasanchez-xc3do
    @cinthiasanchez-xc3do Рік тому +347

    I am literally in tears…I feel seen.
    I have so much respect and admiration for you to be able to share your story and your thoughts to educate
    I would love to learn more from you!

    • @raquelpinheiro6300
      @raquelpinheiro6300 Рік тому +7

      I feel the same. She exposed issues here that haunted me for a long time and I never dared to share with anyone. It can be dark and lonely.
      Kate is a very articulated and bright young woman and I am positive she will help many people in her life.

    • @Baylee_heart
      @Baylee_heart Рік тому +2

      Same. There are things I can recall from my childhood.. very similar. The part about her Mom saying “she can’t lie,” hit me hard, bc I remember my mom saying the same about me. Omg I needed professional help. I still do. Thank you so much for your honesty, bc I don’t feel so alone rn.

    • @DDRGurlie
      @DDRGurlie Рік тому +1

      Me too. I’m tears.. thankfully I no longer suffer from it but so glad I wasn’t alone with some of the thoughts I had prior to professional help.

  • @jaxonfordham6862
    @jaxonfordham6862 Рік тому +92

    OCD is an incredible struggle. I’ve struggled
    my whole life, it’s a monster. I was completely convinced I had HIV in high school even though I had no reason to. I thought it was on every surface. At 25 I can say it still finds ways to surprise me. I’ve had the insane rumination flare ups that unwillingly move in and take over my life completely. Childhood trauma absolutely amplifies it especially when family doesn’t recognize it and you’re alone. Thank you so much for making this video Mark. I wish all the best to Kate. I hope she can continue to work through her OCD.

    • @gutierrezp49
      @gutierrezp49 Рік тому

      Interesting. I run a subreddit called HIVparanoia and a lot of people have obsessions that they have HIV even though there’s no way for them to have contracted it. I always wondered why that specific disease plagues peoples brains.

    • @tiffb1300
      @tiffb1300 Рік тому +1

      I went through that too

    • @joshforeman1648
      @joshforeman1648 Рік тому +3

      The health anxiety part of OCD absolutely sucks. My first manifestation was being convinced I had schizophrenia.

    • @jaxonfordham6862
      @jaxonfordham6862 Рік тому +2

      @@joshforeman1648 I was just going through that earlier this year, you’re definitely not alone

    • @joshforeman1648
      @joshforeman1648 Рік тому +1

      @@jaxonfordham6862 thank you bro, I hope you’re doing well.

  • @cece4590
    @cece4590 9 місяців тому +5

    Thank you for the transparency in describing your struggles with OCD. I have had such a difficult time talking even with my therapist about these things because of the fear of what their reaction might be. Watching this is mind blowing. I don't feel alone in this anymore.

  • @LolaRose92
    @LolaRose92 9 місяців тому

    I think I’m going to send a link of this video to my therapist so she can understand me. I’ve never been able to research symptoms that match exactly what I’m going through, this video is the closest thing to it. And just listening to this and knowing others also experience this has already made me feel more normal and made me feel less anxious and like I may now have hope of getting better. Thank you so much for sharing

  • @kathybellptha
    @kathybellptha Рік тому +87

    Excellent explanation of OCD. Mine started in grade 2 and was on and off throughout my life. I am now 63 and had to deal with it myself. You did not talk about mental health in the 70’s. Once in University my psychology courses helped me to research this condition and that helped a lot. This young lady will help so many people just by discussing what it is. Excellent talk!!!

  • @DAVIDTORRESANI
    @DAVIDTORRESANI Рік тому +122

    I commend her on her raw honesty. She expressed her disorder where anyone
    Could have an ear to understand with no judgment but compassion.
    Masterclass by her in explaining her disorder.
    I was a student listening.

  • @MabelRD08
    @MabelRD08 9 місяців тому +1

    Got this listed on my YT feed twice so second time,decided to hit PLAY.
    Got diagnosed with several mental health conditions: G.A.D, severe depression and anorexia nervosa. I havent been diagnosed with OCD but I noticed I have intrusive thoughts throughout the whole day until I manage to fall asleep. Sometimes I worry that the thoughts would get stronger than me and make me act impulsively with no return back😩😭😔😞
    Thank you for this great channel.

  • @SineadHarteRhythmNation
    @SineadHarteRhythmNation 11 місяців тому +1

    What an amazing video, your explanation of your OCD is so clear. It sounds so hard for you but I love your resilience & self support. It is wonderful to hear your mum is supportive. What a strong young woman you are. Love to you from Ireland ❤

  • @lilysaxhull6095
    @lilysaxhull6095 Рік тому +37

    Don’t know what to say!
    This lady has succinctly and eloquently given insight into disorder that has at many times totally ruined my life, made me question my sanity and why I’m here.
    Thank you Kate!!!

  • @melanieduke5816
    @melanieduke5816 Рік тому +53

    I though I knew what OCD was until I listened to Kate explain it. Especially around the intrusive thoughts part as I always thought of OCD as mostly "behaviors". Kate, you are so intelligent and articulate - you would be an amazing teacher. Hugs to you and thanks for your profound insight.
    Mark, you also have profound insight for carefully selecting the individuals that you do and for so artistically bringing out their life story and experience.

  • @jac8495
    @jac8495 8 місяців тому

    Thank you Kate❤. You were so open and really really helped me understand that I have suffered my whole life with so many similar thoughts but never knew what it all meant. Misdiagnosed my whole life. You are truly a gift to this world and you will help so many people with your honest story. Thank you❤

  • @ashleytupper8395
    @ashleytupper8395 2 місяці тому +1

    I could literally cry. I 100% relate to THIS OCD. I hate when people say they have ocd or when they don't understand how much it controls your life. I have never felt so understood in my entire life.

  • @jaxi177
    @jaxi177 Рік тому +407

    This really helped me to understand people with OCD way more than I originally have. I am a Psych major and this interview was really enlightening and she is amazing at explaining what she experiences. I am truly grateful for this video.

    • @joselinzam1007
      @joselinzam1007 Рік тому

      @@Rebecca-hv2rbocd literally is Obsessive Compulsive Disorder which is literally a MENTAL ILLNESS 😅 . You constantly live with invasive thoughts hence the obsessive compulsion. She said she doesn’t act on it. You’d be surprise how many people have these thoughts and have no way of giving an explanation to it. The people who act on it are different.

    • @patrick-scotttopps5399
      @patrick-scotttopps5399 Рік тому +4

      Couldn't agree more Jacqueline, I loved this interview w/ Kate. She really made the most of this opportunity & did such a great job @ conveying her thoughts & how her OCD had manifested itself in her life... She's such a sweet soul & a very beautiful young lady, obviously smart as a tack... I really liked Kate & hope she continues on to do great things. Happiness & Health for you Kate🦋

    • @racheltucker8054
      @racheltucker8054 Рік тому

      @@Rebecca-hv2rb mentally ill means child molester, rapist, beastiality to you? If suggest you look up the meaning of mental illness. Me, my mother and brother are both mentally ill(aka dealing with mental health issues) . We are none of those things. LEARN before you spew. It'll save you embarrassment.

    • @racheltucker8054
      @racheltucker8054 Рік тому

      @@Rebecca-hv2rb YOU are the only one misinterpreting the meaning of words. Grow up, put on your big girl panties, and learn meanings.

    • @racheltucker8054
      @racheltucker8054 Рік тому

      @@Rebecca-hv2rb washing your hands repeatedly is a very very small part of ocd. You sound so painfully dumb it hurts. I dare you to read an article on ocd. Double dog dare ya. But I know how you fucks like to avoid research like the plague