For the frogs situation: you don't get to start dating someone who has an interest or a hobby or pets and then tell them that you don't like that thing so they have to compromise for you. If you don't like something, that's fine, but you don't get to enter a relationship with someone who does and demand that they have to change that thing about themselves for your comfort. Keep the frogs, ditch the dude.
I'm trying to put myself in that position. If I had four dogs all well cared for and by bf asked me to rehome 2. I'd be beyond upset, I'd be absolutely hysterical. Trying to see it from his perspective... I have a gf who has 20 spiders as pets. But, in that situation if they so generously offered to pay extra for another room to keep the spiders so I didn't have to deal with them. I'd think that was the sweetest thing, and I'd agree to pay half of the extra costs of that room. Heck, I may even offer to pay for the extra room myself since she's making that compromise for me. Yeah, I fail to see it from his perspective really. She's already tried to compromise and I thought she was being very generous. If I were the GF I'd probably get rid of him. If I were the BF I'd want a compromise that kept us both happy.
@@Stettafire Yeah, I think if you're getting into a relationship with somebody and that person already has 20 spiders and you hate spiders, that's on you to choose where your heart lies, not the other person. Because, at the end of the day, your home is your pet's home and if someone comes into your home and says "change this or I won't be with you" then I will not be with them. Someone else will come along who likes my 20 spiders and helps me take care of them.
it's a 6 month relationship compared to the pets she's had for TWO YEARS. I think the choice is clear. She'd have to abandon 11 of them if she listened to him, that's awful.
For the last story: I swear some people don't know what it means to be a simp 🙄 being affectionate towards your S.O isn't being a simp lmao. The term simp is used for people that incessantly pine over someone that clearly shows no interest in them. Simp is the last thing you would call someone in a relationship where the romantic and/or sexual feelings for their S.O are reciprocated 💀😂
I mean my girlfriend calls me a simp but she's got a pretty ironic sense of humor so to each their own Edit: wrote this before I watched that part, but yeah I hate they emotional distance guys are pushed towards by being called stuff like simp
God reminds me someone called my boyfriend a simp for a now ex-friend because he was a good teammate in Mario Kart's battle mode... while i was present
honestly the simp one made me kind of sad, like why do we live in a world where men showing affection is considered weird or like “unmanly” of them? even as a joke, i think it starts to become a bad habit. like i have friends who use simp jokingly (mostly) but it still used to always bother me since there shouldn’t be the world notion abt what you have to do to not be a simp and even more so, why is being a simp a bad thing? i will say tho, if you’re a guy and your friends keep calling you a simp to the point where it actually starts to make you feel bad or feel conscious, that’s not good and you should tell them honestly that it affects you and that it’s problematic. and if they laugh and still call you a simp for admitting that, idk if you’re really friends honestly 😅 like i get jokes and making fun of each other but be conscious of when it stops being fun and it becomes hurtful and quick note abt the frog one: honestly if you are willing to make sure that the frogs do not make life harder for him and he really does not have a genuine reason aside from “thinking they’re ugly”, honestly don’t move in with him 😂 you shouldn’t have to give up so much of smth that makes you happy for a kind of dumb reason
the word simp does have a meaning, and i quote :Simp is a slang insult for men who are seen as too attentive and submissive to women, especially out of a failed hope of winning some entitled sexual attention or activity from them. I don't get why these people are confused about that, being a decent boyfriend isn't simping 🤦♂️. honestly these boys should be embarrassed that they cant even understand a simple meme.
Because misogyny always seems to overtake. I think "Karen" is a useful term, but just look at the comments underneath UA-cam Karen compilations. So much misogyny. Actually, people ALWAYS find a way to be misogynistic, no matter the subject.
If former friends drive the boyfriend away by teasing and namecalling, it may push the young couple closer together, which is a potential benefit in the greater scheme of things.
@@chanapatrchangprasert9581: She mentioned it in another podcast. Maybe the one where they answer random questions and comment on cancel culture? He sent her one in PR. They’ve never talked.
I can’t relate on a famous level but my boyfriends first and last name are so common that you cannot find him. My friend and i tried googling him when we were first going out and there were so many people with his name. And the fact that he lived in nyc made it near impossible
On the shoe story (AHEMMMM I watched a lot of day time court in my past) he is liable for those shoes. He’s responsible for the dog and therefore the damage to her shoes. BUTTTTT I doubt they’re new so she’s only entitled to the depreciated price of the shoes. Not a brand new pair of shoes
See the Three letter word but. Also if she says she’s a sugar baby then sugar baby it up 🤷♀️🤷♀️ also she went somewhere completely new tho not knowing what was gonna happen. So she could of been like hey “ I haven’t been to his house before so idk if o should wear my expensive items. “ let me where something not as much value until I get a feel for the house”
I think technically the dog never having done this before PLUS it being at the guy’s house WHILE ALSO both of them being in another room together the whole time is prooobably more in favor of him than her. Especially because if she was worried she shoulda said somethin beforehand. Also like.... he’s a stranger why wear 1.2k shoes to his house??? That’s insane like bruh ya don’t know what might happen like geez
I mean maybe she went to his house already wearing those shoes, not really thinking about only going there. But also nothing would had happen to her shoes if he wouldn’t made her take her shoes off🤷♀️
Right? Like what’s the retail value on a used pair of shoes? Even if they’ve only been worn once and are in spectacular condition... Probably not worth the lawsuit. I think it would make sense for him to pay some money but I think if she’s trying to do a lawsuit she would have to get a really expensive lawyer to win the case and that would without a doubt cost more than she would get for the shoes and for that reason I highly doubt that any lawyer would be willing to take this case pro Bono... if they were like million dollar shoes or something and the person was financially able to cover the damages then that’s another story. A lot of the time you need to look at what a reasonable person would expect in that situation. Was it implicitly stated that the shoes would be safe in the entry way? Was the shoe owner doing her due diligence to ensure that her shoes were not ruined? Was it reasonable for him to assume that she would be bringing 1,200 dollar shoes to his house? Had the monetary value of the shoes come up beforehand? I would argue that you do assume some risk when you take your shoes somewhere no matter the price for example if you go ice skating and someone steals your 10,000 shoes from the cubby where you left them it’s not typically up to the rink to pay for them because you assumed some risk by taking off your shoes and putting them into the cubby and the ice rink may be responsible to cover a reasonable amount for the loss of your shoes but at the end of the day they offer the cubby holes but do not claim they are a locker/will keep your personal belongings safe so it would be stupid to take super expensive shoes there.. but I’ve only taken a few business law classes and am def not a lawyer so I might not have a feel for the situation
Right? Like are they all in different tanks or does she have like a large aquarium to house all the frogs? I’ve never taken care of multiple frogs I’ve only ever had the one and I’m not sure if you’re able to keep them all in the same tank so idk
Not sure if it’s the smell but it could be the noise. I’m not sure how noisy 14 frogs would be but when I lived in Japan there were lots of frogs in the rice paddies I lived near and it was very loud through the night, it was the soundtrack through the rainy season
@@Rin-ef2tp it depends on the species of frog. As far as I know, most species commonly kept as pets aren’t loud enough to disturb you if they’re in a separate room. Or even in the same room. My African dwarf frogs make noise, but it took me forever to realize that it was actually them calling and not just their filter running, and the noise doesn’t wake me up or bother me at all.
While everybody is commenting about each single story i just can't stop looking at Cristine's nails... 😍😍😍😍 sneak peek of holo taco holiday collection? Like a mirror crome polish???? 💖💖💖💖
About 16:38, law student’s perspective - a person is liable for the actions of their animals and, accordingly, he is indeed liable for the damage to her boots. As she had not been to his house previously, there is no reasonable basis for her to expect that her shoes would be destroyed by his dog nor is such behaviour to be expected in the ordinary course of life. Furthermore, even if she had previously been to his house, he stated in the Reddit post that such an incident of his dog chewing up shoes has not happened in years - she would not have reasonably expected this to have occurred. Accordingly, it cannot be said that she knowingly undertook any risk for wearing her Gucci boots to his house nor should she have been afforded a lower standard of care so as to justify the dog’s behaviour and circumvent the imposition of liability on the owner. The fact that he is unable to afford $1,200 shoes is immaterial to whether he is legally responsible for the damage caused to her boots. Otherwise, many criminals would be vindicated on the grounds that they cannot afford to compensate the damage they caused - it’s just logically inconsistent with the service of justice. In other words, he’s gotta pay. Literally.
Yes, thank you! I can't believe they came to the conclusion they came to lol. If I was that dude, I would be incredibly apologetic and embarrassed, and at least TRY to pay her back for her damaged property...
THANK YOU!! I'm only a first year law student and was sure he was liable for the reasons you brought up, but got thrown off by the conclusion they came to... thanks for giving me back a teeny bit of confidence in my major!
He also explained that he directly ASKED HER to take off her shoes before coming inside, because he doesn’t like guests wearing shoes in his apartment!The only way she could’ve avoided getting them eaten was by disrespecting his wishes and insisting she keep them on.
@@amelianekomimi1936 Doesn't matter if she bought them or not, as long as she has legal ownership over them. Same as a gift- You own it, and you'd be owed a replacement if someone destroyed it.
Exactly. As long as she able to care for all of them he need to accept them if he want her. I not a fan of frogs so would not date someone with frogs. But I would not start date that one either because I need to accept they like frogs. Get in a ton of new ones after move together different story.
The second one, aaaah! If someone said they dont want to date you, dont persue them romantically at all. If you like them as a person, you can continue to hang out with them and be friends, and who knows! Maybe they will change their mind! But dont go into it hoping for that, thats how you become a Nice Guy and get your heart broken.
In reference to the young woman who’s BF was lying about being a doctor. Point of fact most hospitals in the US who have residency programs have them listed in an online directory. For example my husband is currently a resident at a large research hospital and when I googled his name and program he was the first google result. So it’s pretty easy to confirm if he’s a doctor. Big question is if the hospital he says he’s at even has a residency program. In the US they typically are only at larger public or private hospitals. That being said resident schedules can be very sporadic depending on their specialty. Also if it’s a large hospital and the if the BF is not in her uncle’s specialty he might not interact with him at all. So would definitely do some more research before confronting this guy.
Not to mention she's going to school to be a biologist because of the frogs. Like... he knew what he was getting into. On a lighter note, I bet those are *really* well taken care of frogs.
As a dog owner, regardless of how much the shoes or item costs, it is the dog owners responsibility to replace whatever was destroyed by your animal. Just because they cost 1200 dollars doesn't give us to right to judge the girl that owned them just because she owned them. It is his responsibility to replace the shoes, or she can and should sue him as he was an irresponsible dog owner and should've known the possibility of any dog to chew anything regardless of how much they cost.
I agree he needs to pay her back for the shoes. It also doesn't matter where the money for them came from, they're still an investment in herself that she made and clearly, they were important to her, otherwise, she wouldn't insist that he pay her back. At the end of the day, his dog ruined her shoes, and he is responsible for the animal. Also, I wonder how they would react if it was a different expensive object, like are they judging her because they're expensive shoes? What if it was something else?
I think it’s more the fact that she asks that he pays the full amount if he has explained he doesn’t have that kind of money. I know me living in Canada on minimum wage and almost half of my money monthly is my rent for my one bedroom appartement. So it would take me a pretty crazy time to put that money to the side. And maybe that’s just me but I don’t think the person in the scenario would be fine with the guy taking 6 months to give her the money back. What if the shoes can’t be replaced because they were limited edition ? Is it about the money or about the shoes in that case ?
She can sue, but most likely wont win. You take the chance when you go on private property that you can be injured. This includes damage to your personal property. I know it sucks, but she should have paid better attention in where she put them.
@@CharlotteeSmithhh It seems like the shoes were a gift from her sugar daddy, not something she bough herself. And you can't pay for something with money you don't have. Its not like his attitude was "tough shit" but that he really can't afford to pay 1k for her shoes, and I couldn't either.
@@CharlotteeSmithhh not the full amount surely, she likely didn't buy those shoes as a sugar baby. They both didn't assume something like that would happen and no one working average jobs/salaries can afford 12k shoes replacement on the jump. I think she needs to be more reasonable in a way to come to some reparations but not the full amt. That's way too much to expect.
For the frogs thing: 14 frogs is a significant amount of enclosures. That means a lot of outlets for heat fixtures, lighting, filters for aquatic species, and humidifiers. That many enclosures, if properly maintained, all adds up in electrical bills and sheer square footage in an apartment. Frogs are loud, so are the sheer amount of crickets you need for 14 frogs. My sister has 2 frogs and we buy crickets 100 at a time. 4 frogs is a being a hobbyist. 14 is being a pet hoarder. It sounds like she’s in her early 20s and only started this pretty recently. I think scaling back the number of frogs kept is a completely reasonable compromise. He’s not saying no frogs, he’s saying that’s too many. And frankly, yeah.
I agree about "soup cat" husband only doing it for the reaction. My boyfriend does that to me all the time. I try not to react, but after 11 years, he knows what buttons to push. It's frustrating sometimes, but I know why he does it. So...🤷
Yeah, honestly even if you're getting free food/stuff from a guy, you're only going to tolerate his presence for so long if you don't actually like him. Unless you are a straight up gold digger, people are not going to let a guy give them free food forever if you don't enjoy his company...
Depends on why you didn't like them in the first place. I'm personally not into pursuing someone or being pursued forever after a rejection, but if they weren't interested for purely superficial reasons or because they didn't actually get to know you or something similar, then they *might* actually see your personality after spending more time with you. If they just don't like you as a person, you've gotta give it up 🤷🏽♀️
There is totally a fetish where there are "feeders" and "eaters". It's exactly what it sounds like. The "feeder" gets off on feeding the "eater" and vise versa. I only know about this because of TV, so I don't know the specifics. 🤣
If I was frog girl, I would dump him ASAP. It’s only been 6 months, and he’s going to grad school. It probably won’t last anyways. Keep your frogs girl.
and the thing about social media, is that not everyone uses it personally. so what i do on my own time when i'm not working has nothing to do with my employer
I tell my dogs all the time "oh no you were naughty, time to sell you now"... there's no serious intent behind it. It's just funny. The soup cat story is so funny.
Home owners and renters insurance exist for the shoe situation. A lot of people don't know damage property can be covered by that. If she takes him to small claims, his insurance can also cover the suit. KNOWLEDGE!
The food gift thing: in high school I used to make my Ex gifts because I sew but he would buy me things and at some point it turned Toxic that I couldn't see because we were the first person we each dated. And at some point I expected him to get me things and was childish when he didn't. we are currently don't talk to each other as friends but will talk if we bumb into each other. He is currently happy with his new girlfriend and I'm happy that we don't have the relationship we once had because it was not a healthy relationship. he admitted that he only would buy me things because he didn't want me to leave.
As someone with autism and sensory issues, I relate to the beans guy. I can’t stand the smell of food. I don’t want to smell it in my room. And I especially hate the smell of onions and garlic. My bf can eat whatever, but I’m not going to kiss him if he’s just had garlic. He understands this and it’s completely fine. It doesn’t make you a bad partner to not want to kiss your partner if they taste like something you dislike. I’m surprised how many people think he’s in the wrong.
Fellow soup cat proclaimer here: My mom's cat is very skittish and isn't very nice to me. In response to that, I ALSO said "If you keep acting like that I'm gonna put you in a soup", started calling him soup-y, made a song about cat stew, etc. I would NEVER actually hurt the kitty or do anything of the sort, it was just a way to kind of get back at him, in a joking way, for annoying me without actually hurting his feelings or doing anything of the sort. Cat people sometimes talk to their cats weirdly, what can I say
that feeding story reminds me of my ex who was really into feederism (idea of constantly feeding your partner and having your partner gaining weight) and i gained a good amount of weight without realizing it. It was definitely strange once i realized it and kind of tried to take control of it, which became a very sensitive topic for us. Ended the relationship for other reasonns, but was able to kind of take back my eating and get back to the weight I enjoy. As you two said, communication is key !
Reminds me of that SATC when Carrie lost her shoes at someone’s house because they asked her to take them off. It doesn’t matter how much the shoes were they were hers and that’s your dog so you need to pay for them do an installment plan you asked her to take them off so your responsible for what happens in that house and for your dog
The frog post: when my mom was in university she had a few frogs. She would keep the frogs in her apartment during the school year, and in the summer she would move back in to her house that she shared with my dad. He liked the frogs but wasn’t the biggest fan of them. But he knew how much my mom loved them, so he felt with the frogs. Compromise and communication is key to healthy relationships
Re: washing/drying faces with socks, dude probably likes the mitt aspect of her socks. Guys socks are either stretchy or scratchy. She should buy him a few pairs of ladies socks or cleansing mitts on Amazon just for him. Re: Cat in the soup - when our cat lays on the kitchen counter, we tell her she’s going into the roasting pan if she doesn’t get down. She looks like a chicken. She usually hops right down. We would NEVER put her in a roasting pan even as a joke.
Y’all are so funny. I like how you guys interact with one another. I hope your relationship is very much like you portray it in your videos. You are kind to one another and take care and accept one another. That’s my problem with the guy and the girl with the frogs. I don’t think she should uproot her life and follow him if she’s already in school studying for her biology degree. Especially if she genuinely loves these animal and it’s not bothering him and she’s taking care of them in a reasonable and healthy way for all involved. He seems a bit rigid about it after her offering to pay more to provide a space for them. But that’s just me and we didn’t get both sides of the argument. I feel you should try to accept your loved one’s interests if they don’t negatively impact your life. Love y’all! Glad Cristine is feeling better. I love how Phil Defanco shouted you out the other day on his show!
So like, frog terrariums do have a smell and many frogs will croak at night, and with frogs comes crickets (they eat them) and crickets chirp so they aren't always quiet pets to have and then they have heat lights which need to be on so maybe someone would be bothered by the sounds, light and upkeep that frogs require.
I'm rewatching podcasts lol So I know this is old as hell, but for the frog one that's perfectly normal. Lots of folks keep multiple reptiles/aquariums/amphibians/arachnids, some even end up devoting entire rooms to their collection. While they do require at least weekly if not daily maintenance it's nowhere near as much as taking care of a cat or dog. Having 15 frogs is nowhere near the equivalent of that many cats or dogs. It's an awesome hobby because there's animal care involved and also the habitat to build and design. Look up aquascaping if you're ever bored. I've never had frogs, but I've kept snakes and bearded dragons. Freshwater aquariums are by far my favorite animal keeping hobby. A separate room for the frogs is pretty reasonable. They wouldn't smell, but they'd probably be quite loud, so I'd want them in a different room. Although once you dedicate a room to a hobby like that I guarantee it's gonna eventually be filled.
for the cat soup story: sounds like that person is being racially insensitive by assuming just because the guy is half vietnamese, that he’s going to eat a cat
Ben said the one thing that matters most when he said you don't have to ask your partner for permission to do anything. My husband and I have been married just over 19 years and together for about 23. We consult each other on major purchases, etc. of course, but permission? Think about how you might feel if someone told you what you may and may not do, then don't do that to someone else. That's just not how partnerships work, & Ben's answer is spot on correct.
Growing up my sister used my socks to remove her nail polish growing up so my socks always had nail polish all over them but it was a thing she used to bully me so that would be weird for my so to use them to wash his face. I’d maybe talk to him about maybe buying some face washing socks if he really needs to but idk I’ve only really experienced this kind of thing with my sister bullying me by ruining my socks because they “worked better” than cotton balls. I know you guys think this is fake but because of my experience I 100% believe it
Spent the entire time watching for cristines nails but she had them under the table and the lighting wasn’t good. 3 days later I finally finish the pod cast and SHE SHOWS HER NAILS! Thank god
For the dog ruining the shoes thing, the reaction of the girl should depend on how much value it holds for her. If $1200 is a drop in the bucket for her, she ideally shouldn't want repayment from a person who can't afford it. But many people who like luxury things but can't afford it also save for a piece for a long time and then get it, and then they're justified in asking for a replacement. In either case, op is responsible for the actions of his dog and a person who goes out with luxury things isn't responsible for something else destroying it (expect for their own carelessness). So some reimbursement is necessary along with an apology and they shall try to work something out. The way op is planning to respond to this isn't very responsible or respectful and I feel many things in this conversation are getting influenced by the background of the woman and that she is probably in a comfortable place, which we can't be sure of.
Reading everyones comments about fictitious harm to their pets has me cracking up! I am so glad i’m not the only one, i tell my cat i will eat his ears or grill his legs or tell my dog she will get ran over and be a pancake if she doesn’t listen. I would never harm either of my pets and i love them very much 💗
Hey i really like the short cuts from simply podlogical yall have been doing! It's easier to commit to and usually results in me watching the full thing anyway
The shoes question... In my early 20s I had started dating a guy & he had a dog. When I would spend the night he would have his dog sleep in the living room or in his crate instead of in bed with us. I got up to go the bathroom & his dog got ahold of my shoes & chewed them to shreds. They weren't super expensive (only like $75) but the guy I was dating didn't offer to buy me a new pair or even offer to pay for part of the amount for me to get a new pair. Luckily I hadn't had them too long & was able to buy the same exact shoes but it was still very frustrating.
What is the endgame for lying about an entire job? Some people do it compulsively. Some people find it fun. Most people I know who lied about a job, or who pretended to go to school everyday but really hid in a coffeeshop instead, were already in a relationship when the lie started. They didn't want to face losing their job, or dropping out of school, what have you. There wouldn't really be a rational endgame or plan, either they would think they'll be able to get a new job before they have to tell their partner, or they just thought "I can't handle saying it today, I'll wait until tomorrow" and then they did it again, and then it was "too late" to own up, so they kept doing it. It tended to be really intense denial and anxiety, and it made the people miserable, it wasn't some strategic scam.
If the sock guy realllly like his gf socks to wash his face, then HE should buy her exact pairs to use. Idk why so many of y’all think she should pay for socks he steals 😂
I kind of relate to the cat eating joke cause my teacher told all of her students how to skin a cat and grill one and she also make joke saying that you need a big fat cats to make a good meal
For the shoe situation: he has to pay. True if she voluntarily took the shoes of herself, there is the assumed risk that something may happen to them. But she entered the property and was TOLD to take of her shoes by the owner. The owner is basically saying your shoes are safe if you take them off because they fall under his realm of responsibility. I get that they're really expensive, but sometimes shoes can be fixed. I broke the clasp on my gucci bag and paid for the fix, which is cheaper than buying a whole ass bag
About the cat soup one, that's literally how asian parents talk to us when we're kids. It's either "if you misbehave i'm gonna throw you out on the streets to starve" or like "i'm gonna call the cops to arrest you" or like "i'm gonna give you to the roadside food seller man" LOL My mom says that to my cat every time she comes over and my cat isn't being friendly to her, "i'm gonna throw you downstairs (apartment) you ungrateful cat" (jokingly) while she reaches for the cat treats.
the dog shoes story is the reason why in Germany, dogs have insurance if they destroy stuff. it's something many Ppl do and it is highly advised. like what if they run into the street and cause an accident? always insure your dogs
The shoe situation reminds me of the sex and the city episode where Carrie’s shoes got stolen at a friends baby shower 😂 if I was the guy, I would pay for the shoes even if I didn’t have the money.
i have a phobia of frogs, but if my boyfriend was extremely passionate about them I'd do the extra frog room solution because I love him. its that simple, really. just make a compromise.
I would like to see you do another podcast with more of the same topic. But please next time tell us a little bit about what the people online are saying in response to the original poster too
Some of these feel like hidden kinks like foot fetish, feederism and ddlg/mdlb etc that are common kinks that constantly get bashed online and made to be weird or criminal when they are not, a lot of that can be helped with education and an open mind when it comes to sex and relationships. Hopefully, these people got the right advice and followed it to a more open mindset 👌🏼
Cristine I’m so sorry, I have the same issue with my hips turning too much and one leg being longer. It affects my knee a ton (which is already bad), and can be so painful. I see a chiropractor in the us (not sure if physio is the same?) and it helps a lot, this reminded me that I need to make an appointment!!
My boyfriend jokes about our chubby cat a lot. He'll grab his back legs (the cat doesn't mind) and says "look at these chicken wings!!" and jiggle his squish XD
As far as the frogs, the fact that the girl is trying to compromise and the boyfriend won’t move an inch makes me wary for her. She asked if she can keep half (instead of three) and he said no. She offered to pay with her own money for them to have a Frog Room, he said no. He’s decided without her input that she MUST keep exactly 3. Everyone should be suspicious of partners who can’t even try to meet you in the middle.
I think asking her to keep only three instead of none of them is a compromise. Also keep in mind that we only have the girl's side of the story and maybe he did try to further compromise. That said, with only the girl's side of the story, I probably would side with her.
@@ava_lavender You don’t decide on a compromise by yourself, you and the other person work on it together until everybody’s satisfied. Also nothing about the story leads me to believe that she would gain anything from leaving out other attempts to compromise on his end.
@@sleepy-peepy I was specifically referring to the "won't move an inch" part because he did offer a compromise. The post didn't seem to include why he didn't want her to have more frogs, and I wonder if that's because she doesn't know or didn't include the information. Either way, I think more information is needed to make a judgement.
I was also concerned about that “compromise”. It seemed to me as a way of controlling her, which can lead to more serious relationship issues later on.
As a fellow reptile/amphibian rehaber... 15 frogs is not a lot of frogs, its kind of average. Especially if they're more sedentary frogs that basically plant themselves in their enclosures and wait for food. I don't like spiders but my wife does. So we compromised and we have 27 tarantulas.
Question @Rae Grainger, I used to live near a creek, can’t frogs be incredibly loud? And how much time would it take to care for them? Plus I don’t think she ever said how many there are, they just used 15 as an example, but what if there were more?
@@alisha9803 They're fine in the enclosures. I get super nervous when my wife opens them to feed and water them, ngl. She actually started keeping them to get over her fear and its mostly worked.
The story about the boyfriend always wanting to feed the girlfriend had an update and it escalated to him getting mad at her for refusing and they broke up
Was looking for this comment. I didn't see the original, only the update, and holy heck. Here's the link www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/j0dgqk/update_my_boyfriend_loves_to_feed_me_my_meals/
As a sex and relationship therapist I find it so funny that Christine is having a hard time believing some of these because she thinks they're too wierd, they wouldn't even crack the top 100 weirdest things I've encountered with couples! People be weird, that's why I have a job ☺
This was very entertaining. BTW Cristine as I was showing off my Menchie nail polish in front of my boyfriend he told me he grew up playing with you at the cottage... remember Kevin and Andrew? LOL what a small world! Can't wait for the new polish!
Once after a bad breakup I found a post from my ex about me on r/relationships. It basically boiled down to, “she asked me to leave her alone, should I honor that wish?” And almost all of the commenters told him that no, he should pursue me to “let me see how much he cared.” There was one single person who told him to back off, and that person got downvoted into oblivion. Not surprisingly, he ended up stalking me.
That’s a very common issue, it’s prevalent. A lot of people think if you try hard enough or want it bad enough, you’re entitled to it. And to a lot of men (and women), that applies to potential romantic partners. I’m sure the responses on the: if I buy her food will she love me, are varying degrees of “keep trying, you’ll wear her down eventually”. It comes from a lot of rom coms, I think,where there are men who are persistent when the woman is clearly not interested or has said she’s focused on work or whatever, and they keep following her around and trying to get her to like them and then there’s a big grand gesture and she changes her mind. It’s a control thing, they want power over you. Big red flag if they can’t respect your wishes, the things you clearly tell them, and think you’re just a part of their story they want to force to happen and try to dominate you as a result. Unfortunately it leads to a lot of stalking, manipulation, and domestic abuse in real life.
For the frog story: she needs to leave him. He is being controlling. Forcing her to act in a way he wants. It definitely is a power move. No one should force you to get rid of your beloved animals. She isn’t hoarding frogs, she rescues them. 14 frogs is nothing compared to what others have. I have 4 African Dwarf Frogs, but they are tiny and live in a fish tank, but I wouldn’t hesitate to get 10 more. I also have 3 dogs. Three dogs that all have their own expensive medical issues. I’d never give them away. This girl needs to find a man that loves her frogs as much as she does.
Especially to invite her to a new area where she has no connections, and require that she get rid of her lifeline. That is a serious set up for abuse fosho
I agree so much. Frog enclosures aren't even that big of a nuisance. It's not like she has a bunch of frogs hopping around the house. If it bothered him that much, he shouldn't have invited her to move with him to begin with instead of making it a conditional offer
Here’s the real question: she had frogs when they met. He didn’t like them all along. Now he gas her hooked on him and asks her to rehome them. Why did he infiltrate her life past date 1 if he didn’t like frogs and knows she does? Abuse set up. Control freak.
@@maryhorn2028 I told a dude one time I couldn’t date guys with dogs. He thought I was crazy. I asked him which was better. To not like dogs all along, and then come to the dog or me, or to just not date people with dogs?
For the frogs situation: you don't get to start dating someone who has an interest or a hobby or pets and then tell them that you don't like that thing so they have to compromise for you. If you don't like something, that's fine, but you don't get to enter a relationship with someone who does and demand that they have to change that thing about themselves for your comfort. Keep the frogs, ditch the dude.
I'm trying to put myself in that position. If I had four dogs all well cared for and by bf asked me to rehome 2. I'd be beyond upset, I'd be absolutely hysterical. Trying to see it from his perspective... I have a gf who has 20 spiders as pets. But, in that situation if they so generously offered to pay extra for another room to keep the spiders so I didn't have to deal with them. I'd think that was the sweetest thing, and I'd agree to pay half of the extra costs of that room. Heck, I may even offer to pay for the extra room myself since she's making that compromise for me.
Yeah, I fail to see it from his perspective really. She's already tried to compromise and I thought she was being very generous.
If I were the GF I'd probably get rid of him. If I were the BF I'd want a compromise that kept us both happy.
@@Stettafire Yeah, I think if you're getting into a relationship with somebody and that person already has 20 spiders and you hate spiders, that's on you to choose where your heart lies, not the other person. Because, at the end of the day, your home is your pet's home and if someone comes into your home and says "change this or I won't be with you" then I will not be with them. Someone else will come along who likes my 20 spiders and helps me take care of them.
Thank you!
it's a 6 month relationship compared to the pets she's had for TWO YEARS. I think the choice is clear. She'd have to abandon 11 of them if she listened to him, that's awful.
Especially exotic pets! My snake is a lot of work and she comes with me
Beyyyyyn: what if I hated cats?
Menchie: * bumps her head into his shoulder * no you don't, dad
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Aww 😊
I'm only 20 minutes into this podcast and I already need at least 5 more episodes where Cristine and Ben give reddit relationship advice!!
Same!!
I just need Ben to have a channel or a segment just shading other you tubers. I NEED IT.
Agreed. This should become a regular segment on the podcast.
same!!!
@@girltwink0 I like your name : )
For the last story: I swear some people don't know what it means to be a simp 🙄 being affectionate towards your S.O isn't being a simp lmao. The term simp is used for people that incessantly pine over someone that clearly shows no interest in them. Simp is the last thing you would call someone in a relationship where the romantic and/or sexual feelings for their S.O are reciprocated 💀😂
I mean my girlfriend calls me a simp but she's got a pretty ironic sense of humor so to each their own
Edit: wrote this before I watched that part, but yeah I hate they emotional distance guys are pushed towards by being called stuff like simp
Well some people have changed the meaning of the word and now alot of people call their so a simp, it depends on how your using it
God reminds me someone called my boyfriend a simp for a now ex-friend because he was a good teammate in Mario Kart's battle mode... while i was present
FROG GIRL DESERVES TO BE IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE WHO LOVES FROGS AND WHO WANTS TO HAVE A BEAUTIFUL FROG FAMILY TOGETHER 🐸💚🐸
Menchie rubbing her head on a $2000 laptop is everything
Are they $2000? Thought they were more like $1500, still crazy expensive
@@cuddlingteddybears it depends on the type of CPU, RAM and storage. The price can go up easily if you start personalizing it.
My cat does the same thing on my mac every time I work on the couch 😹
@@unefillesimplee they know how to appreciate quality stuffs, lol
My cat uses my MacBook as a bed 🙃
Ben said let’s “hop” right in to the frog story and no one is pointing out this precious pun so Ben I SEE YOU AND I APPRECIATE YOUR PUN
"That's why you're going in the soup" is one of the funniest things I've ever heard
honestly the simp one made me kind of sad, like why do we live in a world where men showing affection is considered weird or like “unmanly” of them? even as a joke, i think it starts to become a bad habit. like i have friends who use simp jokingly (mostly) but it still used to always bother me since there shouldn’t be the world notion abt what you have to do to not be a simp and even more so, why is being a simp a bad thing?
i will say tho, if you’re a guy and your friends keep calling you a simp to the point where it actually starts to make you feel bad or feel conscious, that’s not good and you should tell them honestly that it affects you and that it’s problematic. and if they laugh and still call you a simp for admitting that, idk if you’re really friends honestly 😅 like i get jokes and making fun of each other but be conscious of when it stops being fun and it becomes hurtful
and quick note abt the frog one: honestly if you are willing to make sure that the frogs do not make life harder for him and he really does not have a genuine reason aside from “thinking they’re ugly”, honestly don’t move in with him 😂 you shouldn’t have to give up so much of smth that makes you happy for a kind of dumb reason
the word simp does have a meaning, and i quote :Simp is a slang insult for men who are seen as too attentive and submissive to women, especially out of a failed hope of winning some entitled sexual attention or activity from them. I don't get why these people are confused about that, being a decent boyfriend isn't simping 🤦♂️. honestly these boys should be embarrassed that they cant even understand a simple meme.
because patriarchy and toxic masculinity lol
Because misogyny always seems to overtake. I think "Karen" is a useful term, but just look at the comments underneath UA-cam Karen compilations. So much misogyny.
Actually, people ALWAYS find a way to be misogynistic, no matter the subject.
If former friends drive the boyfriend away by teasing and namecalling, it may push the young couple closer together, which is a potential benefit in the greater scheme of things.
Fragile & toxic masculinity is a horrible thing.
cristine not saying jeffree star’s name but saying “who shall not be named” sent me in orbit lmaoo
JEFFREE BOUGHT HER A BAG? When??
@@chanapatrchangprasert9581 a few years back
@@chanapatrchangprasert9581: She mentioned it in another podcast. Maybe the one where they answer random questions and comment on cancel culture? He sent her one in PR. They’ve never talked.
OMG HOW DID I NOT CATCH THIS ☕️😂
Especially since Michelle McDaniel always calls him Lord Voldemort haha.
”Google someone before dating”
Me: dating someone named Muhammad Ali....
Yup yup so easy 😂😂😂
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Relatable 😂😂😂
I m pretty sure you got atleast 500+ results😂😂
Thankfully mine is Hanafi Osman. Not that many Hanafis in the world. Thanks mother in law!!😂😂
I can’t relate on a famous level but my boyfriends first and last name are so common that you cannot find him. My friend and i tried googling him when we were first going out and there were so many people with his name. And the fact that he lived in nyc made it near impossible
On the shoe story (AHEMMMM I watched a lot of day time court in my past) he is liable for those shoes. He’s responsible for the dog and therefore the damage to her shoes. BUTTTTT I doubt they’re new so she’s only entitled to the depreciated price of the shoes. Not a brand new pair of shoes
See the Three letter word but. Also if she says she’s a sugar baby then sugar baby it up 🤷♀️🤷♀️ also she went somewhere completely new tho not knowing what was gonna happen. So she could of been like hey “ I haven’t been to his house before so idk if o should wear my expensive items. “ let me where something not as much value until I get a feel for the house”
Yep, I am a law student and he is liable for damage done by his dog. But there will be mitigating factors etc. Case by case how much he is liable for.
I think technically the dog never having done this before PLUS it being at the guy’s house WHILE ALSO both of them being in another room together the whole time is prooobably more in favor of him than her. Especially because if she was worried she shoulda said somethin beforehand. Also like.... he’s a stranger why wear 1.2k shoes to his house??? That’s insane like bruh ya don’t know what might happen like geez
I mean maybe she went to his house already wearing those shoes, not really thinking about only going there. But also nothing would had happen to her shoes if he wouldn’t made her take her shoes off🤷♀️
Right? Like what’s the retail value on a used pair of shoes? Even if they’ve only been worn once and are in spectacular condition... Probably not worth the lawsuit. I think it would make sense for him to pay some money but I think if she’s trying to do a lawsuit she would have to get a really expensive lawyer to win the case and that would without a doubt cost more than she would get for the shoes and for that reason I highly doubt that any lawyer would be willing to take this case pro Bono... if they were like million dollar shoes or something and the person was financially able to cover the damages then that’s another story. A lot of the time you need to look at what a reasonable person would expect in that situation.
Was it implicitly stated that the shoes would be safe in the entry way? Was the shoe owner doing her due diligence to ensure that her shoes were not ruined? Was it reasonable for him to assume that she would be bringing 1,200 dollar shoes to his house? Had the monetary value of the shoes come up beforehand?
I would argue that you do assume some risk when you take your shoes somewhere no matter the price for example if you go ice skating and someone steals your 10,000 shoes from the cubby where you left them it’s not typically up to the rink to pay for them because you assumed some risk by taking off your shoes and putting them into the cubby and the ice rink may be responsible to cover a reasonable amount for the loss of your shoes but at the end of the day they offer the cubby holes but do not claim they are a locker/will keep your personal belongings safe so it would be stupid to take super expensive shoes there..
but I’ve only taken a few business law classes and am def not a lawyer so I might not have a feel for the situation
Honestly I doubt 14 frogs are taking up much space. They’re probably small, and that’s very different from 14 cats lol.
Right? Like are they all in different tanks or does she have like a large aquarium to house all the frogs? I’ve never taken care of multiple frogs I’ve only ever had the one and I’m not sure if you’re able to keep them all in the same tank so idk
I thought that but then what if they’re croaking all day or night
Not sure if it’s the smell but it could be the noise. I’m not sure how noisy 14 frogs would be but when I lived in Japan there were lots of frogs in the rice paddies I lived near and it was very loud through the night, it was the soundtrack through the rainy season
I imagine them in multiple terrariums. They probably can't all be housed together. I also agree it's gotta be a noise thing over smell.
@@Rin-ef2tp it depends on the species of frog. As far as I know, most species commonly kept as pets aren’t loud enough to disturb you if they’re in a separate room. Or even in the same room. My African dwarf frogs make noise, but it took me forever to realize that it was actually them calling and not just their filter running, and the noise doesn’t wake me up or bother me at all.
I should be studying for my education research methods exam. But no, I'm watching this instead, I don't think Cristine would be proud lol
@KAREN.NIVEDITA Grade 7 I wish my brain could do both, but I can't pay attention to both things hahaha
Is that a sociology exam?
I’m supposed to being doing German revision but I’ve already done it for like an hour so I think I’m ok lol
Its self care to do things that make you happy, just be sure to know when to hammer down!
Its best to take a break sometimes, try using this as white noise as you make yourself a tea/buy some tea to calm your nerves.
Ben: "do you have any other good guy friends?"
Christine:" i don't know any good guys, I put them all in the soup"
@zonescat soory autocorrect
I didn’t like this guy but he kept buying me food, now we’ve been dating for 8 years. 😂
Between the two guys who was interested in me I dated and MARRIED the one who bought me food :D
These are both amazing
My husband coerced me to date him with soft pretzels LOL
Food has helped resolve many an argument in my household. Don't underestimate the power of a well timed meal.
My current boyfriend bribed me with Starbucks and Wendy's. We've been dating for 3 years now
While everybody is commenting about each single story i just can't stop looking at Cristine's nails... 😍😍😍😍 sneak peek of holo taco holiday collection? Like a mirror crome polish???? 💖💖💖💖
I was doing the exact same thing!
@@crissy040382 exactly!!
About 16:38, law student’s perspective - a person is liable for the actions of their animals and, accordingly, he is indeed liable for the damage to her boots.
As she had not been to his house previously, there is no reasonable basis for her to expect that her shoes would be destroyed by his dog nor is such behaviour to be expected in the ordinary course of life. Furthermore, even if she had previously been to his house, he stated in the Reddit post that such an incident of his dog chewing up shoes has not happened in years - she would not have reasonably expected this to have occurred. Accordingly, it cannot be said that she knowingly undertook any risk for wearing her Gucci boots to his house nor should she have been afforded a lower standard of care so as to justify the dog’s behaviour and circumvent the imposition of liability on the owner.
The fact that he is unable to afford $1,200 shoes is immaterial to whether he is legally responsible for the damage caused to her boots. Otherwise, many criminals would be vindicated on the grounds that they cannot afford to compensate the damage they caused - it’s just logically inconsistent with the service of justice.
In other words, he’s gotta pay. Literally.
Yes, thank you! I can't believe they came to the conclusion they came to lol. If I was that dude, I would be incredibly apologetic and embarrassed, and at least TRY to pay her back for her damaged property...
THANK YOU!! I'm only a first year law student and was sure he was liable for the reasons you brought up, but got thrown off by the conclusion they came to... thanks for giving me back a teeny bit of confidence in my major!
He also explained that he directly ASKED HER to take off her shoes before coming inside, because he doesn’t like guests wearing shoes in his apartment!The only way she could’ve avoided getting them eaten was by disrespecting his wishes and insisting she keep them on.
BUT it says shes a sugar baby- can she prove she bought them?
@@amelianekomimi1936 Doesn't matter if she bought them or not, as long as she has legal ownership over them. Same as a gift- You own it, and you'd be owed a replacement if someone destroyed it.
Oh hell no, the frogs stay! How dare he....
Marry the frogs instead and make him the ringman
Exactly. As long as she able to care for all of them he need to accept them if he want her. I not a fan of frogs so would not date someone with frogs. But I would not start date that one either because I need to accept they like frogs. Get in a ton of new ones after move together different story.
Right! Her compromise was very fair, that she offered to pay extra and care for them herself
Me at yt: BREAK UP W HIMMMM
Like it's her passion, she studies biology, they help her etc and then the dude has the nerveee
I would initially side with the writer but I'm curious about the boyfriend's side of the story as well.
The second one, aaaah! If someone said they dont want to date you, dont persue them romantically at all. If you like them as a person, you can continue to hang out with them and be friends, and who knows! Maybe they will change their mind! But dont go into it hoping for that, thats how you become a Nice Guy and get your heart broken.
In reference to the young woman who’s BF was lying about being a doctor. Point of fact most hospitals in the US who have residency programs have them listed in an online directory. For example my husband is currently a resident at a large research hospital and when I googled his name and program he was the first google result. So it’s pretty easy to confirm if he’s a doctor. Big question is if the hospital he says he’s at even has a residency program. In the US they typically are only at larger public or private hospitals. That being said resident schedules can be very sporadic depending on their specialty. Also if it’s a large hospital and the if the BF is not in her uncle’s specialty he might not interact with him at all. So would definitely do some more research before confronting this guy.
I would love to see an “am I an asshole?” Reddit version 🤣
@@smk._.1416 haha ur right 🙈
Not to mention she's going to school to be a biologist because of the frogs. Like... he knew what he was getting into.
On a lighter note, I bet those are *really* well taken care of frogs.
"Basement Hummus" 😂😂😂😂💀
Oh, that has me crying laughing so hard. 😂😂😂😂😂
As a dog owner, regardless of how much the shoes or item costs, it is the dog owners responsibility to replace whatever was destroyed by your animal. Just because they cost 1200 dollars doesn't give us to right to judge the girl that owned them just because she owned them. It is his responsibility to replace the shoes, or she can and should sue him as he was an irresponsible dog owner and should've known the possibility of any dog to chew anything regardless of how much they cost.
I agree he needs to pay her back for the shoes. It also doesn't matter where the money for them came from, they're still an investment in herself that she made and clearly, they were important to her, otherwise, she wouldn't insist that he pay her back. At the end of the day, his dog ruined her shoes, and he is responsible for the animal. Also, I wonder how they would react if it was a different expensive object, like are they judging her because they're expensive shoes? What if it was something else?
I think it’s more the fact that she asks that he pays the full amount if he has explained he doesn’t have that kind of money. I know me living in Canada on minimum wage and almost half of my money monthly is my rent for my one bedroom appartement. So it would take me a pretty crazy time to put that money to the side. And maybe that’s just me but I don’t think the person in the scenario would be fine with the guy taking 6 months to give her the money back. What if the shoes can’t be replaced because they were limited edition ? Is it about the money or about the shoes in that case ?
She can sue, but most likely wont win. You take the chance when you go on private property that you can be injured. This includes damage to your personal property. I know it sucks, but she should have paid better attention in where she put them.
@@CharlotteeSmithhh It seems like the shoes were a gift from her sugar daddy, not something she bough herself. And you can't pay for something with money you don't have. Its not like his attitude was "tough shit" but that he really can't afford to pay 1k for her shoes, and I couldn't either.
@@CharlotteeSmithhh not the full amount surely, she likely didn't buy those shoes as a sugar baby. They both didn't assume something like that would happen and no one working average jobs/salaries can afford 12k shoes replacement on the jump. I think she needs to be more reasonable in a way to come to some reparations but not the full amt. That's way too much to expect.
For the frogs thing:
14 frogs is a significant amount of enclosures. That means a lot of outlets for heat fixtures, lighting, filters for aquatic species, and humidifiers. That many enclosures, if properly maintained, all adds up in electrical bills and sheer square footage in an apartment.
Frogs are loud, so are the sheer amount of crickets you need for 14 frogs. My sister has 2 frogs and we buy crickets 100 at a time. 4 frogs is a being a hobbyist. 14 is being a pet hoarder. It sounds like she’s in her early 20s and only started this pretty recently. I think scaling back the number of frogs kept is a completely reasonable compromise. He’s not saying no frogs, he’s saying that’s too many. And frankly, yeah.
Fourteen frogs is average in the frog keeping hobby. Any frog owner can tell you that. And also, it depends what kind of frogs.
13:00 I would love if we would teach young men in our society that no means no, instead of that no means keep harassing me.
Well, she said yes to the second date, or did I get that wrong?
I agree about "soup cat" husband only doing it for the reaction. My boyfriend does that to me all the time. I try not to react, but after 11 years, he knows what buttons to push. It's frustrating sometimes, but I know why he does it. So...🤷
Yeah, honestly even if you're getting free food/stuff from a guy, you're only going to tolerate his presence for so long if you don't actually like him. Unless you are a straight up gold digger, people are not going to let a guy give them free food forever if you don't enjoy his company...
Depends on why you didn't like them in the first place.
I'm personally not into pursuing someone or being pursued forever after a rejection, but if they weren't interested for purely superficial reasons or because they didn't actually get to know you or something similar, then they *might* actually see your personality after spending more time with you.
If they just don't like you as a person, you've gotta give it up 🤷🏽♀️
If this was my podcast it would’ve been over in ten minutes because my answer to 99% of that reddit thread is “break up with him” 😂😂😂
There is totally a fetish where there are "feeders" and "eaters". It's exactly what it sounds like. The "feeder" gets off on feeding the "eater" and vise versa. I only know about this because of TV, so I don't know the specifics. 🤣
If I was frog girl, I would dump him ASAP. It’s only been 6 months, and he’s going to grad school. It probably won’t last anyways. Keep your frogs girl.
1st one just throw him away
and the thing about social media, is that not everyone uses it personally. so what i do on my own time when i'm not working has nothing to do with my employer
I tell my dogs all the time "oh no you were naughty, time to sell you now"... there's no serious intent behind it. It's just funny. The soup cat story is so funny.
Home owners and renters insurance exist for the shoe situation. A lot of people don't know damage property can be covered by that. If she takes him to small claims, his insurance can also cover the suit. KNOWLEDGE!
The food gift thing: in high school I used to make my Ex gifts because I sew but he would buy me things and at some point it turned Toxic that I couldn't see because we were the first person we each dated. And at some point I expected him to get me things and was childish when he didn't. we are currently don't talk to each other as friends but will talk if we bumb into each other. He is currently happy with his new girlfriend and I'm happy that we don't have the relationship we once had because it was not a healthy relationship. he admitted that he only would buy me things because he didn't want me to leave.
"Floppy noodle feet"-Simplynailogical
Quote of a year.
My boyfriend isn't from Vietnam but he is from Asia and said the reason the "cat soup" guy says "soup" is because cat soup -> catsup -> ketchup.
I just went on a deep drive to find out what happened with “frog girl” I’m very pleased now
Ooo now I'm curious
Is there a good place to start to learn more?
@@scout4363 I went to look up her story on google and there Twitter showed up I’ll try looking for it but her Twitter basically shows the updates
@@cherryredrabbit2260 thank you!
Y'all are so understanding lmao I'm with the person disgusted by the frogs and the person disgusted by the beans
As someone with autism and sensory issues, I relate to the beans guy. I can’t stand the smell of food. I don’t want to smell it in my room. And I especially hate the smell of onions and garlic. My bf can eat whatever, but I’m not going to kiss him if he’s just had garlic. He understands this and it’s completely fine. It doesn’t make you a bad partner to not want to kiss your partner if they taste like something you dislike. I’m surprised how many people think he’s in the wrong.
Fellow soup cat proclaimer here: My mom's cat is very skittish and isn't very nice to me. In response to that, I ALSO said "If you keep acting like that I'm gonna put you in a soup", started calling him soup-y, made a song about cat stew, etc. I would NEVER actually hurt the kitty or do anything of the sort, it was just a way to kind of get back at him, in a joking way, for annoying me without actually hurting his feelings or doing anything of the sort. Cat people sometimes talk to their cats weirdly, what can I say
7:22 Menchie was like: Beyn you love cats. You love me!!
that feeding story reminds me of my ex who was really into feederism (idea of constantly feeding your partner and having your partner gaining weight) and i gained a good amount of weight without realizing it. It was definitely strange once i realized it and kind of tried to take control of it, which became a very sensitive topic for us. Ended the relationship for other reasonns, but was able to kind of take back my eating and get back to the weight I enjoy. As you two said, communication is key !
Reminds me of that SATC when Carrie lost her shoes at someone’s house because they asked her to take them off. It doesn’t matter how much the shoes were they were hers and that’s your dog so you need to pay for them do an installment plan you asked her to take them off so your responsible for what happens in that house and for your dog
Exactly what came to my mind as well. He asked her to remove the shoes, she didn't make that choice on her own. He owes her.
The frog post: when my mom was in university she had a few frogs. She would keep the frogs in her apartment during the school year, and in the summer she would move back in to her house that she shared with my dad. He liked the frogs but wasn’t the biggest fan of them. But he knew how much my mom loved them, so he felt with the frogs. Compromise and communication is key to healthy relationships
Re: washing/drying faces with socks, dude probably likes the mitt aspect of her socks. Guys socks are either stretchy or scratchy. She should buy him a few pairs of ladies socks or cleansing mitts on Amazon just for him.
Re: Cat in the soup - when our cat lays on the kitchen counter, we tell her she’s going into the roasting pan if she doesn’t get down. She looks like a chicken. She usually hops right down. We would NEVER put her in a roasting pan even as a joke.
But why can’t he buy his own pair lol he can easily purchase the same brand she does. I wouldn’t pay for socks my bf steals lol
I'm a lady with many socks and I have no idea what the mitt aspect is. They're just stretchy.
This is what I thought too, just buy a few designated pair just for that?
@@starlinguk she means he probably puts them on his hands like a mitt and washes his face that way,
Y’all are so funny. I like how you guys interact with one another. I hope your relationship is very much like you portray it in your videos. You are kind to one another and take care and accept one another. That’s my problem with the guy and the girl with the frogs. I don’t think she should uproot her life and follow him if she’s already in school studying for her biology degree. Especially if she genuinely loves these animal and it’s not bothering him and she’s taking care of them in a reasonable and healthy way for all involved. He seems a bit rigid about it after her offering to pay more to provide a space for them. But that’s just me and we didn’t get both sides of the argument. I feel you should try to accept your loved one’s interests if they don’t negatively impact your life. Love y’all! Glad Cristine is feeling better. I love how Phil Defanco shouted you out the other day on his show!
So like, frog terrariums do have a smell and many frogs will croak at night, and with frogs comes crickets (they eat them) and crickets chirp so they aren't always quiet pets to have and then they have heat lights which need to be on so maybe someone would be bothered by the sounds, light and upkeep that frogs require.
I'm rewatching podcasts lol
So I know this is old as hell, but for the frog one that's perfectly normal. Lots of folks keep multiple reptiles/aquariums/amphibians/arachnids, some even end up devoting entire rooms to their collection.
While they do require at least weekly if not daily maintenance it's nowhere near as much as taking care of a cat or dog. Having 15 frogs is nowhere near the equivalent of that many cats or dogs. It's an awesome hobby because there's animal care involved and also the habitat to build and design. Look up aquascaping if you're ever bored. I've never had frogs, but I've kept snakes and bearded dragons. Freshwater aquariums are by far my favorite animal keeping hobby.
A separate room for the frogs is pretty reasonable. They wouldn't smell, but they'd probably be quite loud, so I'd want them in a different room. Although once you dedicate a room to a hobby like that I guarantee it's gonna eventually be filled.
for the cat soup story: sounds like that person is being racially insensitive by assuming just because the guy is half vietnamese, that he’s going to eat a cat
Ben said the one thing that matters most when he said you don't have to ask your partner for permission to do anything. My husband and I have been married just over 19 years and together for about 23. We consult each other on major purchases, etc. of course, but permission? Think about how you might feel if someone told you what you may and may not do, then don't do that to someone else. That's just not how partnerships work, & Ben's answer is spot on correct.
42:40 regardless a father should not think of his daughter as a sexual object if that makes sense, she is his kid
Growing up my sister used my socks to remove her nail polish growing up so my socks always had nail polish all over them but it was a thing she used to bully me so that would be weird for my so to use them to wash his face. I’d maybe talk to him about maybe buying some face washing socks if he really needs to but idk I’ve only really experienced this kind of thing with my sister bullying me by ruining my socks because they “worked better” than cotton balls. I know you guys think this is fake but because of my experience I 100% believe it
Spent the entire time watching for cristines nails but she had them under the table and the lighting wasn’t good. 3 days later I finally finish the pod cast and SHE SHOWS HER NAILS! Thank god
I feel bad for the woman with the frogs, I'm trying to imagine giving up my pets for a guy and it seems unfathomable.
For the dog ruining the shoes thing, the reaction of the girl should depend on how much value it holds for her. If $1200 is a drop in the bucket for her, she ideally shouldn't want repayment from a person who can't afford it. But many people who like luxury things but can't afford it also save for a piece for a long time and then get it, and then they're justified in asking for a replacement.
In either case, op is responsible for the actions of his dog and a person who goes out with luxury things isn't responsible for something else destroying it (expect for their own carelessness). So some reimbursement is necessary along with an apology and they shall try to work something out. The way op is planning to respond to this isn't very responsible or respectful and I feel many things in this conversation are getting influenced by the background of the woman and that she is probably in a comfortable place, which we can't be sure of.
Summary of this video: they need to hear the other side of the story and communication is key.
I'm here to find any response to their question about foot fetishes being about the foot itself or the who owns the feet.
Bens shade at Mike P*nce is absolutely gold
Listening to you explaining your back/hip/leg situation, I've never related to something so much in my life 😭😭
Reading everyones comments about fictitious harm to their pets has me cracking up! I am so glad i’m not the only one, i tell my cat i will eat his ears or grill his legs or tell my dog she will get ran over and be a pancake if she doesn’t listen.
I would never harm either of my pets and i love them very much 💗
that first story the biggest thing for me is it sounds like shes offering up compromises and the boyfriend is refusing to meet her half way
Hey i really like the short cuts from simply podlogical yall have been doing! It's easier to commit to and usually results in me watching the full thing anyway
The shoes question... In my early 20s I had started dating a guy & he had a dog. When I would spend the night he would have his dog sleep in the living room or in his crate instead of in bed with us. I got up to go the bathroom & his dog got ahold of my shoes & chewed them to shreds. They weren't super expensive (only like $75) but the guy I was dating didn't offer to buy me a new pair or even offer to pay for part of the amount for me to get a new pair. Luckily I hadn't had them too long & was able to buy the same exact shoes but it was still very frustrating.
I love how Cristine has no idea that foot fetishists exist. SO innocent LOL
What is the endgame for lying about an entire job? Some people do it compulsively. Some people find it fun. Most people I know who lied about a job, or who pretended to go to school everyday but really hid in a coffeeshop instead, were already in a relationship when the lie started. They didn't want to face losing their job, or dropping out of school, what have you. There wouldn't really be a rational endgame or plan, either they would think they'll be able to get a new job before they have to tell their partner, or they just thought "I can't handle saying it today, I'll wait until tomorrow" and then they did it again, and then it was "too late" to own up, so they kept doing it. It tended to be really intense denial and anxiety, and it made the people miserable, it wasn't some strategic scam.
I just listened to this and Ben's Alex Wassabi impression was so spot on. I'm laughing crying!
If the sock guy realllly like his gf socks to wash his face, then HE should buy her exact pairs to use. Idk why so many of y’all think she should pay for socks he steals 😂
Could that be a new holo taco metallic collection on her nails? I call it! (If it is, lol)
I kind of relate to the cat eating joke cause my teacher told all of her students how to skin a cat and grill one and she also make joke saying that you need a big fat cats to make a good meal
For the shoe situation: he has to pay. True if she voluntarily took the shoes of herself, there is the assumed risk that something may happen to them. But she entered the property and was TOLD to take of her shoes by the owner. The owner is basically saying your shoes are safe if you take them off because they fall under his realm of responsibility. I get that they're really expensive, but sometimes shoes can be fixed. I broke the clasp on my gucci bag and paid for the fix, which is cheaper than buying a whole ass bag
About the cat soup one, that's literally how asian parents talk to us when we're kids. It's either "if you misbehave i'm gonna throw you out on the streets to starve" or like "i'm gonna call the cops to arrest you" or like "i'm gonna give you to the roadside food seller man" LOL My mom says that to my cat every time she comes over and my cat isn't being friendly to her, "i'm gonna throw you downstairs (apartment) you ungrateful cat" (jokingly) while she reaches for the cat treats.
the dog shoes story is the reason why in Germany, dogs have insurance if they destroy stuff. it's something many Ppl do and it is highly advised. like what if they run into the street and cause an accident? always insure your dogs
Gosh listening to you guys is my salvation during this quarantine 💕
about the shoe situation. i know id be sad but it's also a dog sometimes they do that shit. i would never ask to be paid back id be too mortified
The shoe situation reminds me of the sex and the city episode where Carrie’s shoes got stolen at a friends baby shower 😂 if I was the guy, I would pay for the shoes even if I didn’t have the money.
I love watching the cats bother Ben during the podcast. Lol
My SO and I have the exact same hummus problem 😂 It's true, eating so much makes me concerned for his diet!
i have a phobia of frogs, but if my boyfriend was extremely passionate about them I'd do the extra frog room solution because I love him. its that simple, really. just make a compromise.
Take a shot everytime Ben or Christine say bean
"I go down to the basement and eat basement hummus"
I would like to see you do another podcast with more of the same topic. But please next time tell us a little bit about what the people online are saying in response to the original poster too
Ben mimicking alex crack me up omg 🤣
How have you gone 9 months without knowing if your bf is a dr or not? Pics at the office? On call convos? Dr certification? So many questions
Some of these feel like hidden kinks like foot fetish, feederism and ddlg/mdlb etc that are common kinks that constantly get bashed online and made to be weird or criminal when they are not, a lot of that can be helped with education and an open mind when it comes to sex and relationships. Hopefully, these people got the right advice and followed it to a more open mindset 👌🏼
Ben throwing that shade at alex at the end rofl
Cristine needs to try cold maple beans! 🍁
Cristine I’m so sorry, I have the same issue with my hips turning too much and one leg being longer. It affects my knee a ton (which is already bad), and can be so painful. I see a chiropractor in the us (not sure if physio is the same?) and it helps a lot, this reminded me that I need to make an appointment!!
I have a cat named carrot and whenever I make soup I literally go up to him and say "look carrot I put you in the soup" am I terrible lmao
that is REALLY cute actually hahaha not terrible at all!! my cat's name is oreo, so whenever i have oreos, i stare at him and just go "nom nom nom"
Sometimes I eat Oreos and tell my cat, Oreo that I’m eating her
I’m dying laughing at all of these 🤣🤣🤣 Thanks guys I need a good laugh today 😊
My boyfriend jokes about our chubby cat a lot. He'll grab his back legs (the cat doesn't mind) and says "look at these chicken wings!!" and jiggle his squish XD
omg these comments are great
hey katrina can you pet carrot for me please
As far as the frogs, the fact that the girl is trying to compromise and the boyfriend won’t move an inch makes me wary for her. She asked if she can keep half (instead of three) and he said no. She offered to pay with her own money for them to have a Frog Room, he said no. He’s decided without her input that she MUST keep exactly 3. Everyone should be suspicious of partners who can’t even try to meet you in the middle.
I think asking her to keep only three instead of none of them is a compromise. Also keep in mind that we only have the girl's side of the story and maybe he did try to further compromise. That said, with only the girl's side of the story, I probably would side with her.
@@ava_lavender You don’t decide on a compromise by yourself, you and the other person work on it together until everybody’s satisfied. Also nothing about the story leads me to believe that she would gain anything from leaving out other attempts to compromise on his end.
@@sleepy-peepy I was specifically referring to the "won't move an inch" part because he did offer a compromise. The post didn't seem to include why he didn't want her to have more frogs, and I wonder if that's because she doesn't know or didn't include the information. Either way, I think more information is needed to make a judgement.
I was also concerned about that “compromise”. It seemed to me as a way of controlling her, which can lead to more serious relationship issues later on.
I found the replies to the post online and everyone was supportive of her :)
As a fellow reptile/amphibian rehaber... 15 frogs is not a lot of frogs, its kind of average. Especially if they're more sedentary frogs that basically plant themselves in their enclosures and wait for food.
I don't like spiders but my wife does. So we compromised and we have 27 tarantulas.
The right way to compromise xD
Honestly that sounds really cute I want a book about the reptile/amphibian and spider couple
:0 how are you not scared of spiders :0
Question @Rae Grainger, I used to live near a creek, can’t frogs be incredibly loud? And how much time would it take to care for them? Plus I don’t think she ever said how many there are, they just used 15 as an example, but what if there were more?
@@alisha9803 They're fine in the enclosures. I get super nervous when my wife opens them to feed and water them, ngl. She actually started keeping them to get over her fear and its mostly worked.
The story about the boyfriend always wanting to feed the girlfriend had an update and it escalated to him getting mad at her for refusing and they broke up
Seriously?! I hope the girl is happy now
Yeah, and he said some awful things to her before he stormed out!
Was looking for this comment. I didn't see the original, only the update, and holy heck. Here's the link www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/j0dgqk/update_my_boyfriend_loves_to_feed_me_my_meals/
That's the problem with guys with fetishes. They can have their fetish but they always try to push it on other people
@@wolfferoni Yikes. Thanks for the link.
As a sex and relationship therapist I find it so funny that Christine is having a hard time believing some of these because she thinks they're too wierd, they wouldn't even crack the top 100 weirdest things I've encountered with couples! People be weird, that's why I have a job ☺
I’m really curious to hear about some of your stories now haha. If you’re allowed tell them of course
This was very entertaining. BTW Cristine as I was showing off my Menchie nail polish in front of my boyfriend he told me he grew up playing with you at the cottage... remember Kevin and Andrew? LOL what a small world! Can't wait for the new polish!
A like to push it up.
aww i hope simply sees this!!
Thats so cool☺☺ I hope she sees this!
I really really really hope she sees this
Commenting to boost this
Is it just me or... when guys don't want to be "simps" they're simping for their friends instead 😂😂
Exactly it seems 😂😂
i would LOVE an aita (am i the asshole) episode with ben and cristine omg !!
I would love this!
Yes! Absolutely
YES!
right??
Yessss
Once after a bad breakup I found a post from my ex about me on r/relationships. It basically boiled down to, “she asked me to leave her alone, should I honor that wish?” And almost all of the commenters told him that no, he should pursue me to “let me see how much he cared.” There was one single person who told him to back off, and that person got downvoted into oblivion. Not surprisingly, he ended up stalking me.
That's awful! 😳
That’s a very common issue, it’s prevalent. A lot of people think if you try hard enough or want it bad enough, you’re entitled to it. And to a lot of men (and women), that applies to potential romantic partners. I’m sure the responses on the: if I buy her food will she love me, are varying degrees of “keep trying, you’ll wear her down eventually”. It comes from a lot of rom coms, I think,where there are men who are persistent when the woman is clearly not interested or has said she’s focused on work or whatever, and they keep following her around and trying to get her to like them and then there’s a big grand gesture and she changes her mind. It’s a control thing, they want power over you. Big red flag if they can’t respect your wishes, the things you clearly tell them, and think you’re just a part of their story they want to force to happen and try to dominate you as a result. Unfortunately it leads to a lot of stalking, manipulation, and domestic abuse in real life.
We're you dating Ted Mosby? 😐
For the frog story: she needs to leave him. He is being controlling. Forcing her to act in a way he wants. It definitely is a power move. No one should force you to get rid of your beloved animals. She isn’t hoarding frogs, she rescues them. 14 frogs is nothing compared to what others have.
I have 4 African Dwarf Frogs, but they are tiny and live in a fish tank, but I wouldn’t hesitate to get 10 more. I also have 3 dogs. Three dogs that all have their own expensive medical issues. I’d never give them away.
This girl needs to find a man that loves her frogs as much as she does.
Especially to invite her to a new area where she has no connections, and require that she get rid of her lifeline. That is a serious set up for abuse fosho
Yup. I would be like sorry to see ya go.
I agree so much. Frog enclosures aren't even that big of a nuisance. It's not like she has a bunch of frogs hopping around the house. If it bothered him that much, he shouldn't have invited her to move with him to begin with instead of making it a conditional offer
Here’s the real question: she had frogs when they met. He didn’t like them all along. Now he gas her hooked on him and asks her to rehome them. Why did he infiltrate her life past date 1 if he didn’t like frogs and knows she does? Abuse set up. Control freak.
@@maryhorn2028 I told a dude one time I couldn’t date guys with dogs.
He thought I was crazy.
I asked him which was better. To not like dogs all along, and then come to the dog or me, or to just not date people with dogs?
Ben: “As your partner I want to be-“
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