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  • @DUSDawah
    @DUSDawah  11 місяців тому +10

    Purchase the book translated by Sh AbulHasan Maalik from America titled Marry Women of Your Choice: A Defense of Plural Marriage, here: amzn.eu/d/edHoKvz 4:34

  • @learningandgaining
    @learningandgaining 11 місяців тому +27

    I dont have problem with polygany but i have problem with irresponsible, mannerless and bad character men who in the name of deen play games

  • @lilinoona830
    @lilinoona830 11 місяців тому +14

    May Allah reward you immensely for defending the Sunnah 🤲

  • @donevma8415
    @donevma8415 11 місяців тому +13

    1:23 I can tell where the hatred comes from, at least in some cases. There are some men - some, I am not talking about everyone - who don't care about the woman's feeling at all. Firstly, they don't fulfill their obligations to the first wife so how they will be able to care for two or more ? And some men treat woman as if they have only little value and hurt them with their words. But this is a problem I have experienced and heard of regardless of plural marriages: Men who put great importance that their rights are given to them, and they become angry if the woman makes mistakes. But when the woman wants to have her rights, but the husband doesn't give it to her, he expects her to have mercy on him. I wish some men would treat their wives the same way they like to be treated ..... When a woman gets married she often sacrifices a lot more than a man. I wish, it would be appriciated more often.
    But I think plural marriages can also have advantages for woman or for her marriage. Sometimes not seeing each other everyday makes you appreciate the other person more and enjoy the time with him/her more. Also it can be nice for the woman to have a "break". When the husband is with her, she tries her best to cook good meals, to keep the apartment tidied up. When he is not there, she maybe will do things more relaxed

  • @knucklehead4787
    @knucklehead4787 11 місяців тому +37

    Alhamdulillah, as muslim I stand with polygyny even my mum and sister was once furious but due to their intellect and trust in Allah, they are positive and are not triggered

    • @mohamedadan3848
      @mohamedadan3848 11 місяців тому

      Are you a woman

    • @rossmanmagnus
      @rossmanmagnus 11 місяців тому +1

      your mother and sister are right to be mad, they just probly quit arguing with you because you are stubborn knucklehead

    • @ajassimanwar
      @ajassimanwar 11 місяців тому +1

      Jazakallahu khair

  • @loubie654
    @loubie654 11 місяців тому +10

    I rather have a husband who marries (an)other sister(s) than a husband who commits zina. I swear by Allaah that sisters don´t know what they´re talking about if they refute this...trust me as a sister that u will much happier when u know ur husband is to his other wife than to a different woman every time...Fear Allaah sisters ❤

    • @Insaniya.humanity
      @Insaniya.humanity 11 місяців тому +3

      @@mishmash7776unfortunately, it’s much easier to take another wife than to work on oneself and try to work it out with your current wife. Why would these men change their character if they just can go and marry up to 4 different women? They never question themselves, they think that whatever they do is Allah approved, and if you disagree with them, you’re a kafr. To those men that go marrying other women out of lust I would advice to try and control themselves.

    • @danielo5805
      @danielo5805 11 місяців тому

      I Wish my wife would think this way. I am close to falling in sins everyday bcz of this allahulmustaan

    • @Quranalqarim01
      @Quranalqarim01 11 місяців тому

      @@danielo5805well have you tried talking to her?

    • @oddi-trea6099
      @oddi-trea6099 11 місяців тому +3

      @@Insaniya.humanity I've been following the discussions on this video which have mostly been positive and healthy الحمد لله but I think your points get missed from this discussion so often. Polygyny is halal and beautiful and works for the families it works for but that's not every family. I really believe that if the issue is a true or perceived deficiency with the first marriage that's motivating the husband to remarry, he should at least try to remedy that. He might still want to remarry but at least try so that the relationship has a better chance of being healthy even if there's another wife. Many issues are often resolvable, including those related to lust and desires. Wives also deal with that challenge in many marriages and they don't have additional outlets, so that might make them more willing to do that work to try with the spouse before leaving or giving up in a marriage where their needs aren't met.

  • @oddi-trea6099
    @oddi-trea6099 11 місяців тому +13

    The Salaf may have not spoken about such a condition و الله اعلم but scholars from the past, like Ibn Qayyim, discussed this issue and said this condition is permissible because for some people, polygyny is completely foreign to their upbringing and what they can tolerate and accept in a marriage for themselves. Many scholars of more current times like Ibn Baz, Ibn Uthaymeen, Al-Fawzan also allow it because the husband doesn't have to accept it to start and even scholars who say the condition is permissible but not binding for the husband including some I just mentioned say it still allows the wife to leave if he remarries and that she can also stay. Brother Shamsi is correct saying some scholars say this condition isn't permissible but many say it is and it's not a strange opinion. This is what Ibn Uthaymeen said replying to the people who take the position that it is not allowed because prevents a husband from something halal. To be clear, I'm also not praising or encouraging putting this condition here but I hope we can be fair and not look at people who did that like they did something so sinful if they took the view it isnt.
    وقال الشيخ ابن عثيمين رحمه الله : " إذا اشترطت أن لا يتزوج عليها فإن هذا يجوز .
    وقال بعض العلماء : إنه لا يجوز ؛ لأنه حجر على الزوج فيما أباح الله له ، فهو مخالف للقرآن : (فَانكِحُوا مَا طَابَ لَكُمْ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ مَثْنَى وَثُلاثَ وَرُبَاعَ) النساء/3 .
    فيقال في الجواب على ذلك : هي لها غرض في عدم زواجه ، ولم تعتد على أحد ، والزوج هو الذي أسقط حقه ، فإذا كان له الحق في أن يتزوج أكثر من واحدة ، أسقطه ، فما المانع من صحة هذا الشرط ؟!
    ولهذا ؛ فالصحيح في هذه المسألة ما ذهب إليه الإمام أحمد رحمه الله من أن ذلك الشرط صحيح" انتهى من "الشرح الممتع" (5/243) .

    • @Me-rv7nk
      @Me-rv7nk 11 місяців тому +1

      Can you provide link to your sources?

    • @Jsnnai98
      @Jsnnai98 9 місяців тому +1

      ​@@Me-rv7nkتوجد صوتيات فقط اكتب العنوان

  • @Hikmah1995
    @Hikmah1995 11 місяців тому +14

    Welp boys… tonight I’ll either be kicked out the house, or have 2 wives when I show my wife this video. Make dua for me In Shaa Allah 🤲🏽🏃🏽‍♂️

    • @MenkIsAMubtadiiDeobandi
      @MenkIsAMubtadiiDeobandi 11 місяців тому +3

      is this something that you really want though? it is not obligatory or sunnah, but permissible if you are able to. I dont know why many people go crazy on this topic including women, only 1% of households in the world are polygynous, if a woman or a man want/don't want it marry soemone who follows the same.

    • @nikka9184
      @nikka9184 11 місяців тому

      @@MenkIsAMubtadiiDeobandi polygamy is recommended by the scholars and the sunnah. It’s not just “permissible”

    • @Kazim058
      @Kazim058 7 місяців тому

      so what happened?

    • @GareedibnAhmed
      @GareedibnAhmed 4 місяці тому +2

      Are you still alive akh?? 😂😂😂

  • @TheSlaveOfAllah1992
    @TheSlaveOfAllah1992 11 місяців тому +9

    Shaykh al islam Ibn Taymiyah, rahimahullah, was asked about a man who married a woman, and she stipulated that he should not take another wife or make her move from her home, and that she could live with her mother, and he went ahead (with the marriage) on that basis. Is he obliged to adhere to that, and if he goes against these conditions, does the wife have the right to annul the marriage or not?
    He replied: Yes, these conditions and similar ones are valid according to the madhhab of Imam Ahmad and others among the Sahaabah and Taabi‘een, such as ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab, ‘Amr ibn al-‘Aas, Shurayh al-Qaadi, al-Awzaa‘i and Ishaaq. The view of Maalik is that if she stipulates that if he takes another wife or takes a concubine, she has the right to decide [whether to stay married to him or not], then this condition is also valid, and the woman has the right to leave him. This is similar to the view of Ahmad. That is because of the report narrated by [al-Bukhaari and Muslim] in al-Saheehayn, that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “The conditions that are most deserving to be fulfilled are those by means of which intimacy becomes permissible for you.” And ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab said: “Rights are connected to conditions.” So the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) made that by which of means intimacy becomes permissible more deserving of being fulfilled than anything else.
    from al-Fataawa al-Kubra, 3/90.

  • @user-ll7wy6tb2k
    @user-ll7wy6tb2k 11 місяців тому

    احسنت النشر سلمت يداك وطاب نشرك الجميل جزآك الله خيرا ونفع بكم الاسلام والمسلمين ودمتم سالمين بحفظ الله ورعايته.

  • @peace-ym4st
    @peace-ym4st 11 місяців тому +11

    you told about prophet SAW telling a man getting married two three times where is this hadith mentioned is the hadith authentic brother shamsi ???

    • @070uu
      @070uu 11 місяців тому +1

      The man ended up being rich with four wives and plenty of kids he still come back to Prophet Muhammad after the 4th one and mohammed pbuh told him he how can you be poor

    • @mutaabi-as-salaf
      @mutaabi-as-salaf 11 місяців тому +1

      He said the hadith is saheeh and you can early search for it

  • @anouaressanoussi
    @anouaressanoussi 11 місяців тому +9

    Women and men talking about their ex's? Wild I'd say

  • @smartmoneyplays4149
    @smartmoneyplays4149 11 місяців тому +5

    A man that don’t know his religion or how to do justice btw two women definitely learn first!
    But this is normal in Islam but the burden will be on you if you fail in your duties

  • @TheSlaveOfAllah1992
    @TheSlaveOfAllah1992 11 місяців тому +15

    I remember, Sheikh Deedat, rahimahullah, had a debate with a Christian Priest, the Priest said, " in Christianity, thete is one man and one wife, and i chose the best" ...
    Guess what, they found him bying a prostitute.
    He came OPENLY admitting what he has done after he has been exposed, fake cries.
    Guess what? He did it again.
    Deedat, rahimahullah, said, you laugh at us once, we will laugh at you twice.

    • @IZIKI-399
      @IZIKI-399 11 місяців тому +4

      Jimmy Swaggart

  • @mohamoha-sd3wu
    @mohamoha-sd3wu 11 місяців тому +2

    بارك الله فيك

  • @t.s.v9409
    @t.s.v9409 11 місяців тому +1

    الله يبارك فيك حبيبنا شمسي

  • @abqamuslim
    @abqamuslim 11 місяців тому +1

    أخي شمسي هذا الحديث الذي ذكرته أن رجلا أتى النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم يشكو الفقر موضوع لا أصل له في أي كتاب من كتب السنة المعتمدة. فعليك بارك الله فيك أن تبين ذلك ولا يجوز روايته

    • @oddi-trea6099
      @oddi-trea6099 11 місяців тому

      هل لديك مرجع لهذا؟ جزاك الله خيرا

  • @user-ll7wy6tb2k
    @user-ll7wy6tb2k 11 місяців тому

    التعدد مطلوب وسنه من سنن ألله الكونيه المهم الراجل يكون قد المسؤليه

  • @ikwilniet
    @ikwilniet 11 місяців тому

    Some of your video's contain adds with music in it. Maybe you didn't knew.

    • @mrb7935
      @mrb7935 11 місяців тому

      From what I know, UA-cam forces it on some videos

  • @muslimresponse103
    @muslimresponse103 11 місяців тому +18

    polygyny, not polygamy.

    • @dalla513
      @dalla513 11 місяців тому +2

      same thing

    • @AbdulHayy1423
      @AbdulHayy1423 11 місяців тому +4

      tomato tomato

    • @poltergeist4044
      @poltergeist4044 11 місяців тому +1

      ​@@AbdulHayy1423XD

    • @khayr1
      @khayr1 11 місяців тому +3

      ​@@dalla513it's not the same thing. Please educate yourself

    • @khayr1
      @khayr1 11 місяців тому +1

      ​@@AbdulHayy1423it's not the same thing. Please educate yourself

  • @starton5420
    @starton5420 11 місяців тому

    ظهور قمر على سطح الأرض ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤