Salaam walikum sisters, I love your podcasts, I just wanted to say I like your old camera angles where you are both in the frame 😭it’s weird lol but there’s something about seeing both your facial expressions at the same time when reading the questions.😅
As much as I would really love for her to get back with her ex-husband, she needs to take into account that a lot of people (especially men) that are raised by clingy parents/strict parents tend to run away from conflict. It becomes a part of their personality almost. Can they change? Sure. But you cannot force that. They have to realize that there's something wrong with their parent's thought-process first. And thats hard to do because they identify with that. Also a part of me thinks maybe he's not the man she thought he was. Maybe she overlooked certain stuff. I think as women we assume men by default are independent courageous beings. He's a hero who rises up from the ashes like phoenix in the pouring rain and raises his sword to fight off the bad guys 😂😂😂😂 To be fair, sometimes it's because he's the one who wants to foster misconceptions about himself to her. But in reality he's a co-dependent. And men's co-dependency is covert. Us women are just more open about it. Thats all. We get hate from them for it, but they're actually more co-dependent than us. You won't see that side of him until well after you marry him and he opens up to you. They're also very systematic and a one-trick pony on average. We're more versatile. If you're cool with his system, go for it. But she needs to accept certain realities and proceed with caution respectfully.
Agree with the comments. Don't entertain any conversations about getting back together because that ship has sailed. He showed you his true self so believe him. Set clear boundaries for him about your child. Get lawyers involved if you need to. Protect your daughter from the mother in law too and make sure to set boundaries with her. Good riddance. Hope you find the right person for you. Wishing you all the best love, and sorry for what you went through. Xx
Asalaam alaikum warahmatullahi wabaraktu kaltun and hodo just wanted to tell you both how much you inspire me and motivate me into being a better Muslim and human being. love you both ❤❤❤ wishing you both the bost of both worlds Ameen
Asalamu Alaykum girls, Just a correction, at 13:09 it was said Allah's throne shakes when people divorce, that hadith is fabricated. May Allah SWT bless you both :)
Hey dear thanks guys how you shared us the worst things from your listeners 😊so it’s better to share as an comments the whole scenario as a text bc some people among yr fan’s of listeners are like to read rather than watching. Thanks🎉
He has as an avoidant attachment style. He needs alot of therapy, he is hard work, I wouldn’t run too fast back into that relationship he will break ur heart again. But check Islamically I don’t think you should keep him away from his child, check with ur local scholar about this
Hi guys, Could you do any videos where the woman is the villain and not the man. Seems to be every episode, a man is at fault and the woman is blameless. Most if not all stories I’ve listened to on this channel are completely one sided. Don’t worry, I’m not a hater, just an observation I’ve noticed. I’m wondering if it’s because you probably have a female dominant viewership, and therefore most stories would be from their perspective - fair enough. It’s good to not be in a bubble. Do you think my criticism is fair, and what can you do about it if you agree? I think people need to take more ownership for issues they have caused and contributed to. I think delusion and lack of ownership is a REAL problem in women in general (I don’t mean this in a horrible way). Please could you talk about this in a future video. It’s a problem that I think needs women leaders to help address (and to be honest even acknowledge and maybe hopefully begin to discuss). It’s really needs to be in a spotlight. I think this would do so much to help communication between men and women, improve openness, and resolve conflicts. Mainstream and social media villainises men too much and infantilises women too much. It’s only from experience and an open mind do we realise that reality is very different from what we’re lead to believe where actually both sides are both bad and good in similar and differing ways.
Its only when the guy has divorced her three times. If she got one divorce , she can remarry him. Even after 2nd divorce she can remarry him. But not after the third divorce. You can research this online.
At this point this is a man bashing and careless in laws, there are millions of men that do women right and it is sad that your young views are getting one impression of men.
@@Siiiiiiiiiid The problem are not always men, there are plenty of toxic women there too. We all have our own issues, stop blaming all men for everything bad, the world would be a miserable place without men.
Seems like you guys are just having a blast..don't like the laughter and smiles when you discuss people issues. They trust you and so you should show some respect
Salaam walikum sisters, I love your podcasts, I just wanted to say I like your old camera angles where you are both in the frame 😭it’s weird lol but there’s something about seeing both your facial expressions at the same time when reading the questions.😅
Noo this is way better the old one is horrible lol this is better alot more neat and tidy i love this setup for sure its alot better
As much as I would really love for her to get back with her ex-husband, she needs to take into account that a lot of people (especially men) that are raised by clingy parents/strict parents tend to run away from conflict. It becomes a part of their personality almost. Can they change? Sure. But you cannot force that. They have to realize that there's something wrong with their parent's thought-process first. And thats hard to do because they identify with that.
Also a part of me thinks maybe he's not the man she thought he was. Maybe she overlooked certain stuff. I think as women we assume men by default are independent courageous beings. He's a hero who rises up from the ashes like phoenix in the pouring rain and raises his sword to fight off the bad guys 😂😂😂😂 To be fair, sometimes it's because he's the one who wants to foster misconceptions about himself to her.
But in reality he's a co-dependent. And men's co-dependency is covert. Us women are just more open about it. Thats all. We get hate from them for it, but they're actually more co-dependent than us. You won't see that side of him until well after you marry him and he opens up to you. They're also very systematic and a one-trick pony on average. We're more versatile. If you're cool with his system, go for it. But she needs to accept certain realities and proceed with caution respectfully.
Absolutely
I think his mom send him to take the child away from her😂
Agree with the comments. Don't entertain any conversations about getting back together because that ship has sailed. He showed you his true self so believe him.
Set clear boundaries for him about your child. Get lawyers involved if you need to. Protect your daughter from the mother in law too and make sure to set boundaries with her. Good riddance. Hope you find the right person for you. Wishing you all the best love, and sorry for what you went through. Xx
😂😂😂😂 love y'all channel! Crazy situations sheeesh lol
Asalaam alaikum warahmatullahi wabaraktu kaltun and hodo just wanted to tell you both how much you inspire me and motivate me into being a better Muslim and human being. love you both ❤❤❤ wishing you both the bost of both worlds Ameen
Wow you guys are doing great! Your energy seems off today. Love you both hope you're doing ok. ❤
Love the new glasses kally x from admirer 😉
Asalamu Alaykum girls,
Just a correction, at 13:09 it was said Allah's throne shakes when people divorce, that hadith is fabricated.
May Allah SWT bless you both :)
Hey dear thanks guys how you shared us the worst things from your listeners 😊so it’s better to share as an comments the whole scenario as a text bc some people among yr fan’s of listeners are like to read rather than watching.
Thanks🎉
He has as an avoidant attachment style. He needs alot of therapy, he is hard work, I wouldn’t run too fast back into that relationship he will break ur heart again. But check Islamically I don’t think you should keep him away from his child, check with ur local scholar about this
I did prefer it when you were both in the frame
Hi guys,
Could you do any videos where the woman is the villain and not the man. Seems to be every episode, a man is at fault and the woman is blameless.
Most if not all stories I’ve listened to on this channel are completely one sided.
Don’t worry, I’m not a hater, just an observation I’ve noticed.
I’m wondering if it’s because you probably have a female dominant viewership, and therefore most stories would be from their perspective - fair enough.
It’s good to not be in a bubble.
Do you think my criticism is fair, and what can you do about it if you agree?
I think people need to take more ownership for issues they have caused and contributed to.
I think delusion and lack of ownership is a REAL problem in women in general (I don’t mean this in a horrible way). Please could you talk about this in a future video. It’s a problem that I think needs women leaders to help address (and to be honest even acknowledge and maybe hopefully begin to discuss). It’s really needs to be in a spotlight.
I think this would do so much to help communication between men and women, improve openness, and resolve conflicts.
Mainstream and social media villainises men too much and infantilises women too much. It’s only from experience and an open mind do we realise that reality is very different from what we’re lead to believe where actually both sides are both bad and good in similar and differing ways.
its not on purpose. probably because the only people sending them stories are women
@@Yasmine-wn4wyyh that’s true 👍
Even if she wanted to get back she has to marry someone else to get back with her ex husband
Its only when the guy has divorced her three times.
If she got one divorce , she can remarry him.
Even after 2nd divorce she can remarry him.
But not after the third divorce.
You can research this online.
At this point this is a man bashing and careless in laws, there are millions of men that do women right and it is sad that your young views are getting one impression of men.
Where? I wish it was that easy to come accross a good guy
@@Siiiiiiiiiid The problem are not always men, there are plenty of toxic women there too. We all have our own issues, stop blaming all men for everything bad, the world would be a miserable place without men.
@averyj5446 I can only speak from my own experience 🤔
@@Siiiiiiiiiid Your experience is not transferable to all plus you could be the toxic one.
Seems like you guys are just having a blast..don't like the laughter and smiles when you discuss people issues. They trust you and so you should show some respect