I think people need to get over the idea that social needs being fufilled for financial compensation is inherently wrong. Like humans are social creatures its a part of well being, and for some people they may want to live a lifestyle that doesnt leave enough time and mental energy to a traditional relationship, so why would be so bad for them to supplement their contribution financially? I think its lowkey respectful, its showing they value the other persons time and effort.
This just amplifies the fact that in societal norms, the idea of needing financial support is almost always seen as inherently wrong. Support from the government is bad, support from your friends is begging, support from your parents is looked down on (unless it's nepotism for some reason), and support from anyone else is desperate. The thought process obviously is very situational and the act of receiving money depends on a person's bias of what they think is a just cause or not. Like no one thinks a gofundme for medical bills are wrong, but if you ask your parents for financial help lord help us what happened to your independence!! ( /s) I've been very adamant lately that the ideas of needing support, not even just financially, are stigmatized and ridiculed when they should be accepted and valued. The norm of picking yourself up by the bootstraps and doing it yourself is flawed and harmful. I mean this as someone who realized it was okay to ask for help, that it's okay to not have knowledge of everything. (edited for better formatting :] )
Probably because the fact that its compensated means the relationship is fake (think about it; if you need to pay someone to spend time with you, doesn't that mean they don't actually like you?). Not going to comment on whether this is right or wrong, but i think this is how the general public sees it.
@@cys5891 I also think there's an additional layer of sexism to the sugar baby/daddy thing. Most of the time it is women in these sorts of relationships and historically the patriachy has always tried to take control of women's sexuality and financials. I think that remnants of that idea have continued to this day. The idea that a woman has decided that she doesn't need a proper relationship and has a purely transactional one makes people uncomfortable.
I had a sugar momma, and she had empty nest syndrome, so she would take me to go shopping and make food with her, hang out at her house, and go on dinner/lunch dates. She gave me 3000 a month, and my parents knew her and were cool with it, no dirty stuff she just missed having a kid around and me and her broke it off bc her son moved back closer(he switch colleges closer to home) and she was really thankful, she taught me a lot of life lessons and was like a second mom to me
@@sntanaa you don’t really find them, they find you, I just genuinely try and be nice and down to earth with everyone. She came through the drive through at Dutch bros(coffee place I work at) and so I was conversing with her and she would come back a few more times and she came by at the end of my shift and she said she wanted to talk to me so I got off and we talked by our cars and she talked to me about her missing having a son and I reminded her of her son, and asked if she could pay me to be her “son” for a while to kinda cope with it. I invited her over, and my parents and me had a conversation with her and talked over all the details. I would go to her house every other week. It was kind of like therapy for her
I basically had a sugar daddy situation by accident where it was very platonic. I am straight, he is straight. He just had no benefactor and I became his friend because I thought he was an interesting older figure with lots of different outlooks on life. I did it not knowing he was extremely rich. I never even asked for anything. He just suddenly started giving me money every time I met up with him in increasing increments. Since he was much older we stopped hanging out during 2020 and have spoken on the phone a handful of times instead. It benefited him because it made him feel good helping me out and gave him much needed company, it benefited me because I was very poor at the time and genuinely enjoyed talking to him and hearing about his past, and in the long run I obviously faced insane criticism and accusations. Unfortunately though people do tend to look at things really black/white and love to judge things they don't understand.
@@allietricaso well hopefully things get better with open dialogue and the shift in society from older to younger generations. I won't hold my breath though. It's good to see someone having such open and honest conversation about it though. Some people wont ever consider things outside their normal perspective no matter what unfortunately, but the best thing people can do is continue speaking our own personal truths. Good luck and I enjoyed the video.
I think jubilee often frame the people in their video in a way that can “fit” into the message “they” want to convey instead of what the opinions people in the video really has. It’s sad how it was supposed to be a video expressing different view points being edited and filtered out the things you want to express and I’m so glad that you make this video to point out these things:)
This is concerning because in a recent julibee video about Trans women the way they edited the video was such a mindfuck. They literally put a transphobe who gets paid to be transphobic in every scene vomiting her ideologies
And it's actually way more wholesome than being exploited by a job which barely pays your bills as it is. Gotta love how passionate people are about being judgmental pieces of sht when they're telling you how immoral your choices are.
agreed. people who have to brown nose all day to a boss that doesnt give a shit about them, looking down their stinky nose at two people who have a transactional relationship is wild@@toxihex876
Yeah, both jubilee and cut do that a lot with their videos, and I’ve heard this so many times from many people that have been in all different kinds of their videos!
I always had the misconception that being a sugar momma/daddy was a sex work kind of thing. THANK YOU for posting this video and informing me and many others (most likely) that this is NOT that!
i did too!! i knew it could be a bit more casual but i didn't consider that people might have completely platonic arrangements. it kinda reminds me of a caretaker, just without the medical side of it. just someone to talk to and a chance to socialize
It’s a girlfriend/boyfriend experience, instead of actual relationships they get a hollow one that might feel good in the moment but they know that the second the money drys up or the other persons get a better client there “relationship” is gon and there alone
@@Jtd1138 They go in to it knowing that it’ll be this way so they are prepared when it ends. Also I’m pretty sure that busy people who really don’t have the amount of time to make relationships just pay to have a form of closer connection to another human. I don’t think a majority of these sugar relationships are bf and gf type scenarios more like friends with pay
@@JackFrosteee they should make time so there able to have a better emotional and mental health over all it’s like drinking to forget trauma instead of therapy, one works right away but doesn’t fix the problem
When I had an SD in 2019 he was giving me money every week and at first I blew it afterwards though I started using it to pay off debt It was just as well as he randomly disappeared after 6 months of constant money. I only ever met this guy once and we mainly spoke on whatsapp but he still sent me money. He just enjoyed my company and attention. Now my lovely fiance gives me an allowance every month and I do my best to use it wisely❤
ive seen people talk/react to jubilee/cut/buzzfeed videos but ive never seen someone speak about their personal experience this really gives us another side of the story we don't get to see often thanks sm for sharing
I've seen like an article of someone complaining that they were edited poorly. Which doesn't surprise considering their editing is terrible half the time.
i liked that none of you guys where catty and like genuinely seem to get along. which was refreshing none of you saw each other as competition. which was so nice
@@alphauno6614 what? Did you even watch the video? If so you missed the whole point. And why act like sugar parents are unaware and being scammed? It's made clear what things are at the beginning of the relationship. They are not being stolen, they give/pay by will. If they don't wanna anymore they can just straight up stop. So to say they ruin lives is just painfully wrong
@@alphauno6614 that was not what I was saying tho ; if that is your point, the only ones to blame are the sugar parents who went out of the terms of their relationship, not the sugar babies. They simply do what services they are paid to do, no more, no less. it's not their job or duty to preserve your relationship. They provide services for who wants to pay them for it and that's it. The 'people who ruin lives', as you said, are the sugar parents who went for it knowing they were not allowed to in their relationship. As I said, no one is forcing them. It's their decision. The blame shouldn't be put elsewhere. In no way am I saying it is ok to cheat.
I’m a bartender, and even that is kind of Platonic Sugaring Lite edition. I mean people tip me based on our conversations we have. Regulars return to the bar to see me because we have a platonic relationship. How is that any different? In my mind, it’s not!
the fact their video NOTICEABLY cuts right after you basically said “this is the most important part”…BLEW MY MIND. how has this not gotten more views?!
Idk why people would slander yall. We live in a capitalist society that takes everything from us. Whatever someone does to comfortably make money and survive in the least scummy ways is all goods. People who pay for sugarbabies know exactly what the service and relationship is, that's why they're paying for it. In a good sugaring situation no one is getting treated badly. Also your hair is exactly what my friend wants so I hope you don't mind her using you as reference for next time she gets are hair done cuz wow it's gorgeous 😩
@@Theoneandonlybish "some paper" is what puts food on the table and pays rent. Stop using obviously manipulated language just because you don't have an argument.
I'm so sorry that they cut all of those important clips out. Especially with "sensitive" topics like this it is very important that everyone gets to explain and tell their story and their perspective. Also it's kinda icky that they cut the warning parts out of why you should be careful. I hope they will take care of it in the future!
Platonic sugaring honestly sounds like so much fun tbh. I'm AroAce, I never get that much social interaction and I do love interacting with other people. Maybe something to look into later in life lol.
Based on what I've seen from other people who've been on Jubilee, they always cut out a ton of stuff. I wish they wouldn't do that cuz it rly changes a lot of stuff without context. But that aside, I loved u in that video your whole look is so so cool and you guys were all so nice.
I know a guy who had a sugar momma for about a year, nothing sexual about it, her son died and was around the same age as my friend and she was genuinely just grieving and supporting my friend financially helped her process the grief and helped her recover. My friend already made enough money to survive, albeit not particularly comfortably, pretty rough neighborhood, he decided to never keep the money (aside from the month he was robbed) and he gave most of it to a variety of charities. He never told the woman that he did this but I feel like it’s okay, for about 12-14 months different charities and nonprofits were being given 3-4k a month anonymously. The two still see each other frequently, they no longer have a financial element to their relationship, but he even gets invited to her family’s thanksgiving and Christmas dinners every year.
What's funny is that in Japan, this is seen as perfectly normal. I'm not saying it isn't dangerous and that some girls haven't been taken advantage of, but working ridiculously long hours every single day of the week is the norm in Japan. So much so that people have next to no time to form meaningful relationships. That said, a lot of men, particularly older men who crave human connection/conversation, visit these hostess girls for 30 minutes to an hour after their shift and pay them for plutonic interactions. The men report feelings relieved afterwards because they haven't so much as SPOKEN to someone about something other than work all week. It's almost never sxual, though the girls can make arrangements for that outside of the company at their own leisure/risk.
@@schabowy6149 Within a hostess company, they're all of age. 18 or older, 16 with parental consent. Most teens in Japan need a parent's signature to even get a part-time job.
@@alphauno6614 It's not really "telling on itself". Everyone knows that the girls can be hired for sxual activities if they so choose, but it's actually pretty rare when it comes to hostesses in Japan. It's not a secret.
the phrase:"time is money" never made more sense than in this situation. this is a respectful and honest job like any other. She is not taking money from an individual who really needs it badly. And another, it's more than fair for the person to win in exchange for giving their time to someone else, one thing makes up for the other. you know because some Are they so indignant? because they don't accept that it's an honest work.
@@unfortunatefish3322 You’re right, this comment you made isn’t going to change my mind. Not because I’m dim witted with a low mental capacity, but because what you presented is a logical fallacy. The first thing is, you don’t always have a “job” just because you do work for someone. Am I working a job because I walk my neighbors dog twice a week for a little money? No typically we wouldn’t classify that as a job. Number two, is your second logical fallacy, that every job is taking someone’s money, therefore making it dishonest. Most jobs are actually dishonest on behalf of the employer. The dishonesty comes from output of work vs pay. Most 9-5 jobs are actually the other way around, in which the work you do is typically way more than your getting paid. Sugar babies make way way more than the work they are outputting, and people in 9-5 jobs are making way LESS than they are outputting.. Bridging this into my next criticism is the work out put. Really explain to me what activities you’re doing as a sugar baby, that can even closely equate to working a 9-5. Now keep it mind that’s what my comparison was. To a regular, 9-5 job. Calling me dim witted for saying that it isn’t a job to see a person twice a week, and make damn near close to minimum wage for even a FRACTION of the work, is delusional. I’ll be charitable here and say it’s definitely “work” just as much as it’s work for me to hang out with my bigoted family members on Christmas. There are things people have to do far more often that we don’t get payed for. Anyways I spent way to much time responding to this brain dead argument. If you want to make the argument that it’s “work” I’ll agree, if you want to argue it’s a “job” then I don’t know what to say to you.
Some people LOVE financially helping others and don't want anything out of it. They see someone truly doing good in this world and want to help them succeed. Hanging out is just a bonus. Not everyone thinks the same so it can be hard to understand it from the daddy/mommy point.
im happy you posted this and im sorry they cut out a lot of what you said bc thats really upsetting. i think its important to teach the cons just as much as the pros especially with the rise of social media making it look easy to get a “platonic online friend”. in the end i don’t understand why people care so much about how people spend their money. if all parties have equally consented and set boundaries and are happy with the outcome it is no ones place to judge.
@@passiveaggresivesquirrel2052 Use your brain and ask yourself who’s paying for women just for some conversation (and probably more). Is the 19 year old acne ridden twitch obsessed fool? What will he pay in, Doritos? Think.
I am a sugar baby and am SO HAPPY you posted this. It can be dangerous and they really editted out the reality of some of those situations. I have amazing emotional connections with my partners. We talk about all sorts of life stuff and they give me advice and counsel for my business and professional development. It is so much more than people make it out to be. I get judged a lot and told to respect myself... how about yall respect me and my choices?
Truthfully, I got into it because I got in a rough financial position when I got to LA and needed some cash. A friend tied me in with hers and from there i kept trying to find the right one!
One thing I hope people take into consideration is that if you don't work a traditional job while you're in an arrangement, you'll have to explain the gap in your resume somehow. I did OF through college and I don't regret it at all but trying to find a job in my field is more difficult now because I have to lie about the nature of my past work. It's hard because I'm such a bad liar 😅
@@india.rubber 🙄🙄 I'm literally just sharing my experience so people don't make the same mistake I did. I'm not blaming anyone for my decisions, and like I said, I don't regret my choice at all. I just wish I had given it more forethought
I’m so SO SO HAPPY to hear that you have no idea! I don’t blame people for having negative connotations towards the subject at all, not enough people talk about it, but continuing to have a closed mind is where im like aghhhhh
@@allietricaso Yeah it’s kind of upsetting because the only time people bring up sugaring is through negative remarks. Everyone has different needs and some people just become so judgmental because of how people bring up the topic. I am so happy that I found your video because without it many people would’ve missed important parts like I did before.
Glad you're reacting to this! It's how I found your channel, and I'm so glad I did because I really enjoyed your videos about internet friends and Tumblr and such. Subscribed with notifications. =D But yeah, as for what you said in the video... I was thinking of writing a whole thing about my situation and such, but I'll just say that I'm glad there are young women like yourself willing to provide this sort of service and support in exchange for money (and respect, and proper behavour, and such). And good on your guy for cutting things off to prioritize fidelity. I still can't wrap my head around why someone who already has a partner would go off and pay for... Eh, I could go on. But yeah the ideal form for me, basically, is rich single guy and not-so-rich youthful lady. He gives her money, she shares with him her youthful energy and everyone's happy and nobody's hurt and there aren't any lies or betrayals of trust.
So well said! I’m glad you were able to find me through the video at least!! It’s really not as gross as people think it is, there’s good and bad to everything of course, but to spend so much time hating??? Spend that time on something actually important😂😂
@@FeatheredCreature I think the goal of sugaring is the opposite of winding down so you would be losing out on $$ from married men if you did that. Food for thought
Her and Candice were the most interesting, intelligent and mature sugar babies, and I liked them a lot in the video, but there was def one of the sugar babies that fell into the negative stereotypes which I hope wasn’t put on all of them.
I have an OF, but have always been very interested in the platonic type of sugaring. My entire OF page has some revealing stuff, but even in my bio I say I like to focus more on building relationships with people who message me. When I am messaged I keep it platonic, and I like forming friendships with these people if they’d like. I wish I just knew how to break into the companionship-based sugaring I’d like to one day get into.
Just found your channel yesterday and I love what I’ve seen so far! Keep it up, and thank you for talking about topics that need to be spoken on and not being afraid to share your personal perspective
As a sugar baby who just entered the sugar dating world not too long ago, I want to tell people who look into sugar dating as just getting money for sex, it’s not really all that, you’d be really surprised how many sugar daddies/mommies are looking for a non sexual, platonic, or even just casual relationship. However, sure there are some sugar daddies/mommies require sex into the contract but of course you’re given the option to opt out and maybe find someone else who will accommodate you for your comfort. I still work part time as a college student but, the reason why I got a sugar daddy was to help me and my family financially due to heavy hospital bills plus other debts my family have got into. My sugar daddy and me made an agreement to just keep it slow, discreet, and also not serious due to our busy lives (also he’s in an unstable marriage with kids). I hope one day people can step by step slowly remove the stigma of sugar dating.
I'll always be so flabbergasted by how extreme hospital bills are. I think taking care of your family should be top priority over paying a bill - take note, American Government.
one day i might take this path of platonic sugaring. im disabled and most jobs just arent designed for me. being able to have so much freedom in the work would be so helpful. (ps $3000 is more than double what i get paid right now... it is a NICE chunk of money!)
this actually helped me join a couple of dots i was missing. i was confused and probably have disappointed with my responses to one of my friend who was a sugar baby at one point but now i look back and think how out of the loop my answers and questions to them were. i recently read a fanfiction where the mc did this same thing for older women i.e., getting paid to accompany them at galas and stuff yknwo the usual. but yeah this made me join all the dots and actually focus on my bigotry so thank you for this. and tbh if i had enough money i really think i would be a sugar parent or something it stems from my own parental issues but i don't think it's so bad if you know how to handle it just like any other relationship (professional/personal) it has it's dangers and rewards. so yeah a lot to think about.
This video did help open my mind to the idea that there are wider spectrums of people who do this job. Before I thought people just had sex with older guys to get money but thats mainly because of the way other influencers I've seen have portrayed it. I think the idea as a whole makes sense to me now because as an old rich guy what else are you gonna do with your money tbh?🤷
Honestly I don’t blame you, so many people promote it so wrong. That’s why I tried to have an open mind to the comments where I could tell they just genuinely haven’t been educated about it ya know???
Yes! I signed up to be a sugar baby because I just wanted to see how different people live. I mean I only got to see what similar people to me live like and I was just curious to what others do in their tax bracket. I remember on my profile I said, "Hey I don't mind paying for myself when we go out (unless it's a very expensive place that I can afford) I just want to get to know people who are different from me." I went on a couple nice dates but they always wanted more. I don't hold that against them I just told them I had to dip cuz we wanted different things out of the relationship.
Wow, I was not at all expecting my comment to be featured in the video, let alone be seen by like 5 people lol. I really appreciate you breaking down parts of the original video and the comments, as well as explaining which parts Jubilee had purposely edited. I've always admired Jubilee's dedication to spreading empathy but them rephrasing your words through careful editing goes right against their ultimate objective. I'm really disappointed because there's a high possibility they've given this same treatment to all of their other videos, too: twisting people's words to make them sound like they're saying something completely different; potentially making one person in particular the "bad apple", etc. It's so disrespectful to the people who were casted for the videos.
I went through cancer and I can tell you I didn’t realize I was not only going to become one of my doctors, but like pretty much all of them. And they got payed not me. Dear god, I’d loved a sugar parent, not only to help pay for the expenses, but also to give me happiness, because it was so awful having to basically do a lot of it alone (mind you, my mom was there through most of it). Like I can definitely see why people might want a sugar parent, because it can be a money thing, or a relationship (not only sexual and/or romantic, but like a friendship), because I definitely could have used a trauma buddy to vent to, because doctors definitely don’t behave like they do in tv shows/movies (I think them having sex made more sense to me, because not a one seemed into helping me; pretty sure there is a cure for cancer, but broken people pay better). But I think people have that conception, due to fiction and stigmas against it.
Allie you’re so sweet and I’m grateful and proud of you for you putting yourself out there! I think the REAL problem is our society has been programmed to think that “doing everything in your own” is the highest form of success and that’s the REAL sad fact. They’ve stripped us of the community we deserve. Imagine a world where you are proud of the tight knit group of people who lift you up and you lift up in return DAILY. Imagine being in love with an entire tribe and getting to give a receive, platonically from everyone 24/7 and being proud that you NEVER LEAVE OR ABANDON eachother. Don’t worry about the comments or Jubilee for using you to try to make a buck and cutting out the message you were trying to spread (very admirable btw my dear). Pity them all because they will never truly get the amazing feeling of GIVING WITH NO EXPECTATIONS. Because being there for people is the best feeling in the world. I hope that made sense and if you see this, don’t sweat the haters you’re lovely and absolutely perfect as you are!
The thing is. No one is independent. We all rely on a person or group or corporation paying us or if we're already wealthy one of those having paid us in the past. How is this any different?
I LOVED you in particular in the video, and I loved this video so much it’s insane. This started off a whole lot of truth for me. And helped me feel so much less alone in not just one way but a few. I relate so heavily to not having a father figure and needing it and finding it this way. I never said I suggested it, lol I always just said it worked for me 🤷🏼♀️ and alll I ever wanted was support. My whole life all I’ve ever wanted was support. This video supported me. So thank you. Seriously. So much. I’m so glad I now have your channel too, your dope af 🫶🏻
I mean, how sugaring is portrayed in movies and such, they show it as prostitution, which is where I believe that comes from, I 100 percent agree with you on it.
I think there's a stigma against feeling lonely or not being able to form the typical social relationship, kind of an implication that there's something wrong with you and you should be the one to figure out why you can't make those connections. And if you settle for something else, like paying someone, being in a parasocial relationship, talking to an ai, etc, then it's considered sad. Then you're better off just being sad and alone instead of seeking something considered less genuine to ease your loneliness. In today's society we see it can be hard to form genuine long lasting relationships and we should normalize being lonely and using coping mechanisms healthily instead of just finding it sad.
dude omg I remember you! I loved you in this ep! It’s great to hear the perspective of someone who has been on Jubilee’s set I’ve been wondering about it. Subbed!
some people’s love language is gift giving this is basically very similar imo ! also you are amazing with your commentary and replies 🧡 it’s so stupid that they cut important parts of the video 😭
This video definitely changed my view of sugaring. I feel like the internet and society has this dark light around that topic and that’s why people hate on that.
People are so alone rn and it's not always about sex or anything like that. Sometimes, they need to talk or spend some time with someone - kind of like a friend.
oh my god that’s where i know you from!! i watched this ages ago, thought you were adorable and so nice. i watched one video of yours and thought you looked familiar! and just liked how you did your content and how you approached the topic so i stuck around and subscribed, been watching at least one of your videos every day for 4 days now, love your content and your character
So weird that you popped up on my page, I saw the sugar baby video on Facebook a couple days ago. You're so down to earth and cool. I like that you're realistic about the situation. Good luck with everything! ❤️
disclaimer by no means am i technically a “sugar parent” nor do i consider myself such, but i am a young adult (18) and female who is middle class-high class & who many times have been told by friends who are less financially privileged to me that part of our friendship(s) very much remind me of a sugar parent ( because I offer or provide to help them out / buy stuff for them, etc. a lot ) + i have seen around me time and time again how sugaring works and understand the general psychology, so I feel quite qualified to talk about it. for those saying it’s immoral / sad / taking advantage of the sugar parent - it’s not. these people know what they are doing, they are adults. they know it’s a transaction and a service, plus most of these sugar parents sometimes even do it for a boost ( ego wise or emotionally ) to know they can provide for someone, help someone out or sometimes even show off. almost everything in this world is a transaction in way or another, including social relationships, so relax. you can cry and argue, you can shame others, you can say it’s wrong but if you ask anyone who is on the providing end they would tell you the same. those saying it CANNOT BE PLATONIC, you are so wrong- yes it may be hard to find especially if that’s your goal and you’re on sugar dating apps, looking for it but it is very much possible, have you never wanted to have someone with you when you feel lonely or down ? some people just want companionship and that’s it. there are people who feel fulfilled going out with someone, hanging out or talking with someone- or merely having someone’s presence around. there are people who feel immense happiness to help others or to provide for someone as said before. everyone who wants to put sugaring into this little generalized box of what the media has created it to be, you have to understand that just like any other social relationship out there, there are differences and exceptions, not all sugar parents are the same nor the sugaring experience for everyone, have an open mind, research and inform yourself about it. don’t just shame people and put it under the guise of a discussion or criticism or “concern”, knowing that you just want to be correct. feel free to add or ask anything to my comment.
Can I ask the way you described the term sugaring. Would that also apply for this internship im doing right now? To explain it to you in short. I’m spending time with elderly people so they won’t feel lonely and I get money in return for the hours I spend with them. Kind of a part time job. It kind of reminds me of sugaring but it sounds like its the “moral” way to do sugaring because its socially acceptable and not looked down upon… even though I feel like it the same concept. Correct me if i’m wrong tho.
@@cloudberry7425 i wouldn't say this is sugaring although the concept of it and the service is similar to sugaring but as you said, morally viewed. the difference between the two isn't too noticeable, since it's a similar concept, but it is distinct- i don't know how to outright explain it on what makes it distinct in simple terms but : sugaring is the service of giving platonic or romantic services to someone in exchange for money, this could be anyone not strictly elderly. not only that but it's not viewed as a "job" and you seek sugaring via sugaring websites or contacting wealthy people online. in difference, your situation although a service as well is legally a job with solid pay, and it is strictly platonic company for the elderly and as you say, you got this job from an internship not a sugaring website nor was your intention sugaring, which is the difference. i hope i explained it well :)
Your video made me realize that I previously had an online platonic sugar baby/daddy relationship without realizing it! The little mutual comfort we were able to provide for each other was a very important part of my life for a while. Thank you for sharing this!
I'd absolutely love a story of how you got involved. It's been heavy on my mind. I desperately feel the need to go to college for veterinary medicine. There's absolutely no way I'll ever be able to afford it. I've had a calling to go be an equine vet. It's been negatively affecting my own mental state.
If I may ask- I've always wondered how channels like Jubilee or Cut find the people they need for a video? Like- did you sign up online? Did you get an e-mail for this? Do they ask people on the street? I'd imagine they don't just walk up to random people and ask "Hey, do you perhaps have a sugar relationship you'd like to tell a few million people about?" like- how odd would that be to someone who isn't? I'm at a loss trying to figure this out XD
I think it depends! They have on their website a casting page where you can fill out an application to be in a video, but they also have castors. For this one, a few of them got reached out to for the video since they talk about being a sugar baby publicly. I just applied and heard back, did 2 interviews, and then was told I was in
This video popped in my home page and I'm so, so glad that I clicked and watched it!! I love your insight, energy and truths especially when you said that everyone's morals is different. Honestly, they just salty they aren't getting any money/help
This was actually really interesting and educational. Didn’t go into this with much knowledge or opinion on the subject but I still found it really enlightening on the subject matter and are a lot more open to the idea. Really good video, I love your commentary :D
help i’m a gaming k-pop music enjoyer how did i end up here okay but in all seriousness i had zero clue how this video started started playing but it was really informative, people are so quick to judge others when they don’t even know wat they are talking about smh. and hope ur enjoying ur day :)
Hey wellll I’m into K-pop and gaming as well!!!! I guess your recommendations knew;) what groups are your fav? I have some albums in the bookshelf behind me lmaooo
@@allietricaso lolol go u haha :) my favorite groups are twice, itzy, and xdinary heroes :) hbu? :D and yea my recommendations prob knew haha :)) love my recommendations sometimes
@@kurtapika7991 wats ur opinions on sticker by nct 😭/genq and also yay I love itzy and skz are great and I like nct dream the most out of their units :)
Thank you so much for this video, you're very well-spoken and i agreed with you entirely on every point you made. Jubilee's editing is so unfair and it's always nice when people in their videos speak out on it
we all need a hustle so why not! our time is precious, if someone wants to pay for it and they will pay well, then all the better. You dealt with the negative comments so well
I honestly gotta say good for you for being a sugar baby! People envy you because they think it's easy but I don't think it is. Not everyone can do it and if it isn't hard for you, why not get money for it? I hate when people talk about morality like they are the gods who can do no wrong. Morality is definitely too subjective to talk about it like it's a common thing. Many people use morality as a way to put others down. The irony of them doing the morally wrong thing lmao
will this be seen? probably not, gonna do it anyway, though- started watching you last night because your tiktok shop video popped up in my recommended videos, staying because (alongside enjoying you and your content) your short haired cat looks so much like my old one if he'd had both eyes and it's so pleasant seeing them and the other cat in the videos.
This was very informative, I'm sad to say I was rather uninformed before this video, such as I never knew there could be more platonic sugar parent relationships, and was rather judgemental to the thought of somebody doing that. Thank you for this new view of these relationships! :)
I am so grateful for this video because I love seeing all kinds of perspectives on life. I love expanding my world with all of these experiences and honestly all of your videos leave me with this feeling by the end. I feel like i learned something new about the world around me and that is super dope! thank you!
I’m glad I watched this, definitely opened my mind some more on what having a sugar daddy/momma is. I always knew there was more to it then the movies and crap makes it seem like. Thank you for educating me ❤️
Hello! 🙋🏻♀️ I found the way you explained everything to be very insightful. It's disappointing that some people are so judgmental and even mean-spirited about this (or anything, really) because what you said is so true - the sugar parent knows what they're doing and consciously wants/chooses to engage in the relationship. You didn't harm anyone, including yourself, and both parties involved got something out of it that in some way improved their quality of life and overall contentment. Anyway, that aside, this was the first of your videos I've seen but I just wanted to add I think you have the cutest smile/laugh ever! It made me smile every time you did. You have such a great energy and I love your hair too. Ok I'm gonna stop fangirling now, haha. 🤭
I will be honest I had negative thoughts on sugar babies and all that until you explained it. And now i see how it would be beneficial to both parties. Actually this would be something i would try just know that i could make someone happier and help my self financially in the process. Also just found this channel like 2 days ago and I’ve been binging your videos every since 😂😂 keep up the good work
the people being like "why would you pay someone to hang out, that's so weird" like... listen, having a friend you can go out and do stuff with is great. it's fun to go out and eat at restaurants and have someone to talk to while you're there. okay, i can't read minds, i'm not a sugar daddy, i can't tell you why every particular sugar parent wants a sugar baby, but it's really not hard to think with your brain and see that there are perfectly normal reasons to want someone to hang out with. also i'm obsessed with the "i pride myself on making my own money and not profiting off of others >:(" crowd, like buddy, unless you're sitting in your shed printing counterfeit bills, your money had to come from SOMEONE and you either received it in exchange for providing goods/services or by hurting someone. sugar parents want companionship and have the money to say "you know what? i'm willing to help out someone with less than me in exchange for the form of companionship i'm looking for." what's the problem with someone with a lot of money paying for services from someone with less money? are chefs bad people for profiting off people's hunger? are doctors bad people for getting paid to perform essential surgeries? what about therapists? and do they not have social workers in america? there are so many questions and these people clicked on a video and had the opportunity to learn about a line of work they don't understand but instead they decided to be judgemental assholes in the comments. i don't get it at all.
This just randomly showed up in my feed one day but it was actually very informative and taught me a lot about something I barely even paid mind to. Good video
Just curious, in a platonic arrangement is your company and friendship the only thing you have to give back or does it vary depending on the terms? I'm assuming everyone's arrangements are different, but are there specific consistent themes other than being financially supported that are present in every experience?
It really depends! For me it was literally just us going to dinner, we’d sometimes call and we’d text super casually just like about our days. It’s really whatever the two people are comfy with!
omg im so happy i got this video on my recommended. i remember watching the video on their channel and commenting how stunning you were and i couldnt find your socials so im so happy right now. your style and makeup are just SO PRETTY and the way you interacted with the others were so respectful and cuteeee
before i watched this video my information on this topic was completely wrong. i think now that i know more about it i think its only morally wrong depending on how the arrangment is like, it depends of the persons involved. but i mean otherwise i think its perfectly fine. i myself i do not think i will be doing this ever. thats ok.
Allie, I would like to know how you found a platonic sugar daddy ? I’m in nursing school and hurting for money and would love to have an arrangement like that, I don’t let myself have fun ever because I’m working so hard. thanks girl x
Great video!! Honestly changed my perspective on sugaring. Thanks for spreading awareness, I think a lot of people just don't take the time to try and understand
15:05 - 16:39 Yikes! Thank god Allie mentioned projecting! These people don't just climb out of the woodwork for sugaring, they also shit talk stay-at-home spouses.
yeah i had a big misconception as to what this was, I think i still don’t understand it full tbh, i’d be interested to see what the sugar parents point off view is on this
Hi Allie. I watched the video itself and a reaction video from a youtuber I like about it. I have to say, of all the contestants, you and Candace were easily more mature and I liked you both on screen. Sorry that you discussing the "importance of safety" was cut from the video- that actually seems pretty dangerous unless there was another warning somewhere. Not every rich(er) individual is nice even if they wish to share their finances and money. Your ending statement in the Jubilee video _is_ important and so is being aware of the dangers. It's mature of you to post this video now and clarify and I fully understand your frustration. Personally I'm from a single mother household and we're just about middle working class. My mum has always taught me to "make my own pound" and "you get out of life what you put in" and whilst I don't think theres anything wrong with this thinking, there's nothing wrong with an alternative perspective- such as 'Sugaring'. I think it's very much that, over the past few Years since the emergence of Sugaring- we've been fed a very sexualized, almost toxic and manipulative version of it. That it's "60 year old men preying on young privileged and selfish girls" and I don't doubt there's a lot of secret envy that goes alongside that lifestyle. To not have to worry incessantly about bills or food or ultimately where the finance is coming from and actually being able to treat myself... Honestly? Seems really nice. I think that envy is in part where the slander comes from. We've been fed a certain stereotype for Sugaring and when offered something that opposes that view (example: the fact that so many of the relationships were platonic and happened in public) has been a bit of a shock to people. And some refuse to believe it. But honestly good on you for speaking out about it. I'm gonna see what other content you have as well 🤍
I think people need to get over the idea that social needs being fufilled for financial compensation is inherently wrong. Like humans are social creatures its a part of well being, and for some people they may want to live a lifestyle that doesnt leave enough time and mental energy to a traditional relationship, so why would be so bad for them to supplement their contribution financially? I think its lowkey respectful, its showing they value the other persons time and effort.
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This just amplifies the fact that in societal norms, the idea of needing financial support is almost always seen as inherently wrong. Support from the government is bad, support from your friends is begging, support from your parents is looked down on (unless it's nepotism for some reason), and support from anyone else is desperate. The thought process obviously is very situational and the act of receiving money depends on a person's bias of what they think is a just cause or not.
Like no one thinks a gofundme for medical bills are wrong, but if you ask your parents for financial help lord help us what happened to your independence!! ( /s) I've been very adamant lately that the ideas of needing support, not even just financially, are stigmatized and ridiculed when they should be accepted and valued. The norm of picking yourself up by the bootstraps and doing it yourself is flawed and harmful. I mean this as someone who realized it was okay to ask for help, that it's okay to not have knowledge of everything.
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Probably because the fact that its compensated means the relationship is fake (think about it; if you need to pay someone to spend time with you, doesn't that mean they don't actually like you?). Not going to comment on whether this is right or wrong, but i think this is how the general public sees it.
@@iswearimcoolguys dude I love how you said this. I haven't seen anyone put that idea into words but you managed to hit the mark perfectly.
@@cys5891 I also think there's an additional layer of sexism to the sugar baby/daddy thing. Most of the time it is women in these sorts of relationships and historically the patriachy has always tried to take control of women's sexuality and financials. I think that remnants of that idea have continued to this day. The idea that a woman has decided that she doesn't need a proper relationship and has a purely transactional one makes people uncomfortable.
I had a sugar momma, and she had empty nest syndrome, so she would take me to go shopping and make food with her, hang out at her house, and go on dinner/lunch dates. She gave me 3000 a month, and my parents knew her and were cool with it, no dirty stuff she just missed having a kid around and me and her broke it off bc her son moved back closer(he switch colleges closer to home) and she was really thankful, she taught me a lot of life lessons and was like a second mom to me
That’s nice. Idk how someone could say that your ruining lives or something
Aww so she was literally being ur "mama", that's so sweet
where you find these people at? i need one
@@sntanaa you don’t really find them, they find you, I just genuinely try and be nice and down to earth with everyone. She came through the drive through at Dutch bros(coffee place I work at) and so I was conversing with her and she would come back a few more times and she came by at the end of my shift and she said she wanted to talk to me so I got off and we talked by our cars and she talked to me about her missing having a son and I reminded her of her son, and asked if she could pay me to be her “son” for a while to kinda cope with it. I invited her over, and my parents and me had a conversation with her and talked over all the details. I would go to her house every other week. It was kind of like therapy for her
man how'd you find somn like that?
I basically had a sugar daddy situation by accident where it was very platonic. I am straight, he is straight. He just had no benefactor and I became his friend because I thought he was an interesting older figure with lots of different outlooks on life. I did it not knowing he was extremely rich. I never even asked for anything. He just suddenly started giving me money every time I met up with him in increasing increments. Since he was much older we stopped hanging out during 2020 and have spoken on the phone a handful of times instead. It benefited him because it made him feel good helping me out and gave him much needed company, it benefited me because I was very poor at the time and genuinely enjoyed talking to him and hearing about his past, and in the long run I obviously faced insane criticism and accusations. Unfortunately though people do tend to look at things really black/white and love to judge things they don't understand.
YES EXACTLY!!!! like why do people see this as so fucked up, I’ll never understand lol
@@allietricaso well hopefully things get better with open dialogue and the shift in society from older to younger generations. I won't hold my breath though. It's good to see someone having such open and honest conversation about it though. Some people wont ever consider things outside their normal perspective no matter what unfortunately, but the best thing people can do is continue speaking our own personal truths. Good luck and I enjoyed the video.
Honestly that’s beautiful, glad you guys both benefit from your friendship.
That honestly sounds really nice
how did he give you money without u knowing? 🤔
I think jubilee often frame the people in their video in a way that can “fit” into the message “they” want to convey instead of what the opinions people in the video really has. It’s sad how it was supposed to be a video expressing different view points being edited and filtered out the things you want to express and I’m so glad that you make this video to point out these things:)
For real… it’s like ahhhh yes so I see the intentions. That or they need new editors lmao
100%
This is concerning because in a recent julibee video about Trans women the way they edited the video was such a mindfuck. They literally put a transphobe who gets paid to be transphobic in every scene vomiting her ideologies
Almost as if everyone has their own options, bias, and narratives 🤯
Yes jubilee tried putting really had to glam up home wreckers but still it wasn’t enough. Time to stop watching or supporting them.
“If the arrangement ends you will have no money.” So would you if you lose your job. It’s just like any job.
But jobs create marketable skills for you to get other jobs. Being a sugar baby/mommy/daddy isn't as widespread as actual jobs 😂
And it's actually way more wholesome than being exploited by a job which barely pays your bills as it is. Gotta love how passionate people are about being judgmental pieces of sht when they're telling you how immoral your choices are.
agreed. people who have to brown nose all day to a boss that doesnt give a shit about them, looking down their stinky nose at two people who have a transactional relationship is wild@@toxihex876
I'm sorry they cut out important parts of the video! I'm glad you are able to share that stuff now!
Yes absolutely!
Yeah, both jubilee and cut do that a lot with their videos, and I’ve heard this so many times from many people that have been in all different kinds of their videos!
Can someone sum this up quickly for me?
@@nuclearpugg Jubilee bent over backwards so hard they snapped their spine trying to glamorise this “profession” if you could call it that.
I always had the misconception that being a sugar momma/daddy was a sex work kind of thing. THANK YOU for posting this video and informing me and many others (most likely) that this is NOT that!
i did too!! i knew it could be a bit more casual but i didn't consider that people might have completely platonic arrangements. it kinda reminds me of a caretaker, just without the medical side of it. just someone to talk to and a chance to socialize
It’s a girlfriend/boyfriend experience, instead of actual relationships they get a hollow one that might feel good in the moment but they know that the second the money drys up or the other persons get a better client there “relationship” is gon and there alone
@@Jtd1138 They go in to it knowing that it’ll be this way so they are prepared when it ends. Also I’m pretty sure that busy people who really don’t have the amount of time to make relationships just pay to have a form of closer connection to another human. I don’t think a majority of these sugar relationships are bf and gf type scenarios more like friends with pay
@@JackFrosteee they should make time so there able to have a better emotional and mental health over all it’s like drinking to forget trauma instead of therapy, one works right away but doesn’t fix the problem
When I had an SD in 2019 he was giving me money every week and at first I blew it afterwards though I started using it to pay off debt
It was just as well as he randomly disappeared after 6 months of constant money. I only ever met this guy once and we mainly spoke on whatsapp but he still sent me money. He just enjoyed my company and attention. Now my lovely fiance gives me an allowance every month and I do my best to use it wisely❤
ive seen people talk/react to jubilee/cut/buzzfeed videos but ive never seen someone speak about their personal experience this really gives us another side of the story we don't get to see often thanks sm for sharing
I've seen like an article of someone complaining that they were edited poorly. Which doesn't surprise considering their editing is terrible half the time.
The back breaking work Jubilee does to normalise homewreckers just isn’t enough! 😡
bro lives under a rock
@@samu-chan Actually it’s a pineapple under the sea.
@@alphauno6614it's pretty sad to just keep seeing you replying to people trying to piss them off lol
i liked that none of you guys where catty and like genuinely seem to get along. which was refreshing none of you saw each other as competition. which was so nice
I loved that too!
People who ruin lives need to stick together
@@alphauno6614 what? Did you even watch the video? If so you missed the whole point. And why act like sugar parents are unaware and being scammed? It's made clear what things are at the beginning of the relationship. They are not being stolen, they give/pay by will. If they don't wanna anymore they can just straight up stop. So to say they ruin lives is just painfully wrong
@@laobozu549 Did the sugar parent make clear the term of his arrangement to his wife or is that unnecessary?
@@alphauno6614 that was not what I was saying tho ; if that is your point, the only ones to blame are the sugar parents who went out of the terms of their relationship, not the sugar babies. They simply do what services they are paid to do, no more, no less. it's not their job or duty to preserve your relationship. They provide services for who wants to pay them for it and that's it. The 'people who ruin lives', as you said, are the sugar parents who went for it knowing they were not allowed to in their relationship. As I said, no one is forcing them. It's their decision. The blame shouldn't be put elsewhere. In no way am I saying it is ok to cheat.
I’m a bartender, and even that is kind of Platonic Sugaring Lite edition. I mean people tip me based on our conversations we have. Regulars return to the bar to see me because we have a platonic relationship. How is that any different? In my mind, it’s not!
Yep you’re all cut from the same cloth
@@alphauno6614 And what cloth would that be? It's called the service industry. You clearly didn't listen to a word she said.
Your not banging them for tips , these guys are not hiring the cute goth 20 year old for her opinion on tumblr,
@@alphauno6614your nickname is alpha uno who are you to talk
I'd argue it's slightly different since you're being paid for your good service rather than being paid to service
the fact their video NOTICEABLY cuts right after you basically said “this is the most important part”…BLEW MY MIND. how has this not gotten more views?!
Idk why people would slander yall. We live in a capitalist society that takes everything from us. Whatever someone does to comfortably make money and survive in the least scummy ways is all goods. People who pay for sugarbabies know exactly what the service and relationship is, that's why they're paying for it. In a good sugaring situation no one is getting treated badly.
Also your hair is exactly what my friend wants so I hope you don't mind her using you as reference for next time she gets are hair done cuz wow it's gorgeous 😩
yes yessss well said! Also no problem at all haha!!! I hope the hair works out for her;)
Selling your body for some paper aint cute
@@Theoneandonlybish then i hope youre against sports, dancing, and basic retail work lmao
@@Theoneandonlybish "some paper" is what puts food on the table and pays rent. Stop using obviously manipulated language just because you don't have an argument.
@hello kitty 252 a lot of jobs aren't cute lmao, people can do what they want to put food on the table.
I'm so sorry that they cut all of those important clips out. Especially with "sensitive" topics like this it is very important that everyone gets to explain and tell their story and their perspective. Also it's kinda icky that they cut the warning parts out of why you should be careful. I hope they will take care of it in the future!
Platonic sugaring honestly sounds like so much fun tbh. I'm AroAce, I never get that much social interaction and I do love interacting with other people. Maybe something to look into later in life lol.
I KNEW it was you 😂, I hate how they framed you guys in some of it
For real… I’ve heard it’s a thing though. They know what gets views:/
@@allietricaso it’s scummy, they say they do things to start conversations, but it just seems like they’re doing things for the drama.
@@Sunshineattacks3 soooo scummy. We all should support home wreckers.
Based on what I've seen from other people who've been on Jubilee, they always cut out a ton of stuff. I wish they wouldn't do that cuz it rly changes a lot of stuff without context. But that aside, I loved u in that video your whole look is so so cool and you guys were all so nice.
So wackkkkk, but I’m still happy with the opportunityyy
Glad you’re speaking up about this!! I don’t understand why people were slandering y’all in the comments ): let people live their lives bro!!
FR!!!!
When you live involves wrecking another women’s home..😳🤢🤮🤑
When your life involves wrecking another woman’s home..😳🤢🤮🤑
I’ve seen a lot of other people on jubilee videos say the exact same thing.seems like they they cut clips to make their own narrative
I’ve seen it too! It’s sad:( so many people see these videos too so it can just be so dangerous to be so careless
I know a guy who had a sugar momma for about a year, nothing sexual about it, her son died and was around the same age as my friend and she was genuinely just grieving and supporting my friend financially helped her process the grief and helped her recover. My friend already made enough money to survive, albeit not particularly comfortably, pretty rough neighborhood, he decided to never keep the money (aside from the month he was robbed) and he gave most of it to a variety of charities. He never told the woman that he did this but I feel like it’s okay, for about 12-14 months different charities and nonprofits were being given 3-4k a month anonymously.
The two still see each other frequently, they no longer have a financial element to their relationship, but he even gets invited to her family’s thanksgiving and Christmas dinners every year.
What's funny is that in Japan, this is seen as perfectly normal. I'm not saying it isn't dangerous and that some girls haven't been taken advantage of, but working ridiculously long hours every single day of the week is the norm in Japan. So much so that people have next to no time to form meaningful relationships. That said, a lot of men, particularly older men who crave human connection/conversation, visit these hostess girls for 30 minutes to an hour after their shift and pay them for plutonic interactions. The men report feelings relieved afterwards because they haven't so much as SPOKEN to someone about something other than work all week. It's almost never sxual, though the girls can make arrangements for that outside of the company at their own leisure/risk.
Yeah school girl cult is real
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Within a hostess company, they're all of age. 18 or older, 16 with parental consent. Most teens in Japan need a parent's signature to even get a part-time job.
“It's almost never sxual, though the girls can make arrangements for that” The human mind has a way to tell on itself
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It's not really "telling on itself". Everyone knows that the girls can be hired for sxual activities if they so choose, but it's actually pretty rare when it comes to hostesses in Japan. It's not a secret.
@@kirikakirikakirika Isn’t there a commission of sorts tackling ‘crostitution’ in this industry in Japan?
the phrase:"time is money" never made more sense than in this situation. this is a respectful and honest job like any other. She is not taking money from an individual who really needs it badly. And another, it's more than fair for the person to win in exchange for giving their time to someone else, one thing makes up for the other. you know because some Are they so indignant? because they don't accept that it's an honest work.
Gaslighting continues
@@eve_______ what do you mean by gaslighting? Can you explain please
Stoooooop defending gold diggers weirdo
I’m sorry, did you really just say taking someone’s money is an honest job? I think you need some serious help.
@@unfortunatefish3322 You’re right, this comment you made isn’t going to change my mind. Not because I’m dim witted with a low mental capacity, but because what you presented is a logical fallacy. The first thing is, you don’t always have a “job” just because you do work for someone. Am I working a job because I walk my neighbors dog twice a week for a little money? No typically we wouldn’t classify that as a job. Number two, is your second logical fallacy, that every job is taking someone’s money, therefore making it dishonest. Most jobs are actually dishonest on behalf of the employer. The dishonesty comes from output of work vs pay. Most 9-5 jobs are actually the other way around, in which the work you do is typically way more than your getting paid. Sugar babies make way way more than the work they are outputting, and people in 9-5 jobs are making way LESS than they are outputting.. Bridging this into my next criticism is the work out put. Really explain to me what activities you’re doing as a sugar baby, that can even closely equate to working a 9-5. Now keep it mind that’s what my comparison was. To a regular, 9-5 job. Calling me dim witted for saying that it isn’t a job to see a person twice a week, and make damn near close to minimum wage for even a FRACTION of the work, is delusional. I’ll be charitable here and say it’s definitely “work” just as much as it’s work for me to hang out with my bigoted family members on Christmas. There are things people have to do far more often that we don’t get payed for. Anyways I spent way to much time responding to this brain dead argument. If you want to make the argument that it’s “work” I’ll agree, if you want to argue it’s a “job” then I don’t know what to say to you.
Some people LOVE financially helping others and don't want anything out of it. They see someone truly doing good in this world and want to help them succeed. Hanging out is just a bonus. Not everyone thinks the same so it can be hard to understand it from the daddy/mommy point.
A hooker with a dream of becoming an actress is probably gonna be blowing dudes till she’s 60
im happy you posted this and im sorry they cut out a lot of what you said bc thats really upsetting. i think its important to teach the cons just as much as the pros especially with the rise of social media making it look easy to get a “platonic online friend”. in the end i don’t understand why people care so much about how people spend their money. if all parties have equally consented and set boundaries and are happy with the outcome it is no ones place to judge.
It’s so important to teach the cons, otherwise you’ll have a bunch of young impressionable people who need money not understanding the dangers
But yes your last sentence is keyyyyy
How about the wife and children of the man whose life will forever be changed? Do they have your permission to judge?
@@alphauno6614 dude why the fuck are u assuming these people are sugar babies of married men?
@@passiveaggresivesquirrel2052 Use your brain and ask yourself who’s paying for women just for some conversation (and probably more). Is the 19 year old acne ridden twitch obsessed fool? What will he pay in, Doritos?
Think.
I am a sugar baby and am SO HAPPY you posted this. It can be dangerous and they really editted out the reality of some of those situations.
I have amazing emotional connections with my partners. We talk about all sorts of life stuff and they give me advice and counsel for my business and professional development. It is so much more than people make it out to be.
I get judged a lot and told to respect myself... how about yall respect me and my choices?
I’m so glad and I appreciate you telling your POV fr!!! I’m so glad you were able to find arrangements that work for you💗
I should respect you wrecking another woman’s home? 🤡
@@alphauno6614 what
@@alphauno6614 what the fuck are u talking about?
@@randomcat1962 I COME IN LIKE A WRECKIN’ BALL
I am glad that you are taking it upon yourself to speak about the dangers, too many people do think this type of lifestyle is all glamour.
For real!!! Like dude it can be so scary meeting them for the first time like YOU DON’T KNOW??
Unrelated but- YOUR SCREEN SAVER IN THE BACKGROUND WAS MINE FOR YEARS THE NOSTALGIAAA
So interesting! Your responses are very articulate. I’d love to hear more about how you got into sugaring, especially finding a platonic arrangement
Truthfully, I got into it because I got in a rough financial position when I got to LA and needed some cash. A friend tied me in with hers and from there i kept trying to find the right one!
One thing I hope people take into consideration is that if you don't work a traditional job while you're in an arrangement, you'll have to explain the gap in your resume somehow. I did OF through college and I don't regret it at all but trying to find a job in my field is more difficult now because I have to lie about the nature of my past work. It's hard because I'm such a bad liar 😅
Good point honestly, I kept working because I was v scared of thattttt
If it isn't the consequence of my own actions
@@india.rubber 🙄🙄 I'm literally just sharing my experience so people don't make the same mistake I did. I'm not blaming anyone for my decisions, and like I said, I don't regret my choice at all. I just wish I had given it more forethought
@@BrandiG31 Are you married now?
@@alphauno6614 what the heck does being married have to do with anything?
“it’s to… .. don’t judge ppl😁” THE WAY YOU SAID THAT BYE HAHDBD
LMAO
I watched a youtuber named Pegasus react to this video. I’m so glad the recommended got me here because this opened up a new perspective for me.
I’m so SO SO HAPPY to hear that you have no idea! I don’t blame people for having negative connotations towards the subject at all, not enough people talk about it, but continuing to have a closed mind is where im like aghhhhh
@@allietricaso Yeah it’s kind of upsetting because the only time people bring up sugaring is through negative remarks. Everyone has different needs and some people just become so judgmental because of how people bring up the topic. I am so happy that I found your video because without it many people would’ve missed important parts like I did before.
Glad you're reacting to this! It's how I found your channel, and I'm so glad I did because I really enjoyed your videos about internet friends and Tumblr and such. Subscribed with notifications. =D
But yeah, as for what you said in the video... I was thinking of writing a whole thing about my situation and such, but I'll just say that I'm glad there are young women like yourself willing to provide this sort of service and support in exchange for money (and respect, and proper behavour, and such). And good on your guy for cutting things off to prioritize fidelity. I still can't wrap my head around why someone who already has a partner would go off and pay for... Eh, I could go on.
But yeah the ideal form for me, basically, is rich single guy and not-so-rich youthful lady. He gives her money, she shares with him her youthful energy and everyone's happy and nobody's hurt and there aren't any lies or betrayals of trust.
So well said! I’m glad you were able to find me through the video at least!! It’s really not as gross as people think it is, there’s good and bad to everything of course, but to spend so much time hating??? Spend that time on something actually important😂😂
Definitely no betrayal “sugaring” a married man. Yep makes total sense. No need to dig
@@alphauno6614 bro, why did you reply to like, every positive comment. Next time, try taking a deep breath, and wind down a bit.
@@FeatheredCreature I think the goal of sugaring is the opposite of winding down so you would be losing out on $$ from married men if you did that. Food for thought
@@alphauno6614 ok? stay mad
Her and Candice were the most interesting, intelligent and mature sugar babies, and I liked them a lot in the video, but there was def one of the sugar babies that fell into the negative stereotypes which I hope wasn’t put on all of them.
I have an OF, but have always been very interested in the platonic type of sugaring. My entire OF page has some revealing stuff, but even in my bio I say I like to focus more on building relationships with people who message me. When I am messaged I keep it platonic, and I like forming friendships with these people if they’d like. I wish I just knew how to break into the companionship-based sugaring I’d like to one day get into.
The people who message you on a platform where you post sexual content clearly have 1 intention and its erotic… how do you even not realise that
@@Waltuhonyoutube Lonely men are the target demographic so...
@@dumbwhale4043 i know that, but them intentionally going on a sexual platform and messaging a sexual content creator sounds platonic to you?
Just found your channel yesterday and I love what I’ve seen so far! Keep it up, and thank you for talking about topics that need to be spoken on and not being afraid to share your personal perspective
Absolutely!!!! That’s the goal for sure!!! I’m happy you’re enjoying it:)
As a sugar baby who just entered the sugar dating world not too long ago, I want to tell people who look into sugar dating as just getting money for sex, it’s not really all that, you’d be really surprised how many sugar daddies/mommies are looking for a non sexual, platonic, or even just casual relationship. However, sure there are some sugar daddies/mommies require sex into the contract but of course you’re given the option to opt out and maybe find someone else who will accommodate you for your comfort. I still work part time as a college student but, the reason why I got a sugar daddy was to help me and my family financially due to heavy hospital bills plus other debts my family have got into. My sugar daddy and me made an agreement to just keep it slow, discreet, and also not serious due to our busy lives (also he’s in an unstable marriage with kids). I hope one day people can step by step slowly remove the stigma of sugar dating.
Thank you for sharing this!!!!!
where do look look for a sugar parent? i've always been curious
I just don’t like the term sugar daddy or mommy. It implies you’re only there for the sugar part, which is like, ???
But yeah I see
How were you able to find a suger daddy?
I'll always be so flabbergasted by how extreme hospital bills are.
I think taking care of your family should be top priority over paying a bill - take note, American Government.
one day i might take this path of platonic sugaring. im disabled and most jobs just arent designed for me. being able to have so much freedom in the work would be so helpful. (ps $3000 is more than double what i get paid right now... it is a NICE chunk of money!)
This was really insightful. Thank you sm for posting this!:)
I’m glad!!! Taboo subjects are always so interesting to talk about honestly
hey padmé, I thought you were dead!? :o
ayyy this is awesome thank you for speaking out 💕💕 I loved you in the video but I’m sorry they cut out important things, that’s frustrating.
this actually helped me join a couple of dots i was missing. i was confused and probably have disappointed with my responses to one of my friend who was a sugar baby at one point but now i look back and think how out of the loop my answers and questions to them were. i recently read a fanfiction where the mc did this same thing for older women i.e., getting paid to accompany them at galas and stuff yknwo the usual. but yeah this made me join all the dots and actually focus on my bigotry so thank you for this. and tbh if i had enough money i really think i would be a sugar parent or something it stems from my own parental issues but i don't think it's so bad if you know how to handle it just like any other relationship (professional/personal) it has it's dangers and rewards. so yeah a lot to think about.
This video did help open my mind to the idea that there are wider spectrums of people who do this job. Before I thought people just had sex with older guys to get money but thats mainly because of the way other influencers I've seen have portrayed it. I think the idea as a whole makes sense to me now because as an old rich guy what else are you gonna do with your money tbh?🤷
Honestly I don’t blame you, so many people promote it so wrong. That’s why I tried to have an open mind to the comments where I could tell they just genuinely haven’t been educated about it ya know???
Yes! I signed up to be a sugar baby because I just wanted to see how different people live. I mean I only got to see what similar people to me live like and I was just curious to what others do in their tax bracket.
I remember on my profile I said, "Hey I don't mind paying for myself when we go out (unless it's a very expensive place that I can afford) I just want to get to know people who are different from me."
I went on a couple nice dates but they always wanted more. I don't hold that against them I just told them I had to dip cuz we wanted different things out of the relationship.
Same girl. Which website/app do u use
@@Nerutukiwa this was a few years ago. I think it was sugar daddy. The website had a cute picture of a couple on the landing page.
Women ☕
@@waefawawrgaw2835I'm broke and I have too much free time to spend online just to get mad at women☕
Wow, I was not at all expecting my comment to be featured in the video, let alone be seen by like 5 people lol.
I really appreciate you breaking down parts of the original video and the comments, as well as explaining which parts Jubilee had purposely edited. I've always admired Jubilee's dedication to spreading empathy but them rephrasing your words through careful editing goes right against their ultimate objective. I'm really disappointed because there's a high possibility they've given this same treatment to all of their other videos, too: twisting people's words to make them sound like they're saying something completely different; potentially making one person in particular the "bad apple", etc. It's so disrespectful to the people who were casted for the videos.
I went through cancer and I can tell you I didn’t realize I was not only going to become one of my doctors, but like pretty much all of them. And they got payed not me. Dear god, I’d loved a sugar parent, not only to help pay for the expenses, but also to give me happiness, because it was so awful having to basically do a lot of it alone (mind you, my mom was there through most of it). Like I can definitely see why people might want a sugar parent, because it can be a money thing, or a relationship (not only sexual and/or romantic, but like a friendship), because I definitely could have used a trauma buddy to vent to, because doctors definitely don’t behave like they do in tv shows/movies (I think them having sex made more sense to me, because not a one seemed into helping me; pretty sure there is a cure for cancer, but broken people pay better). But I think people have that conception, due to fiction and stigmas against it.
From this and your other recent vids I can honestly tell you're an incredibly responsible and genuine person. Good on you :)
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Allie you’re so sweet and I’m grateful and proud of you for you putting yourself out there!
I think the REAL problem is our society has been programmed to think that “doing everything in your own” is the highest form of success and that’s the REAL sad fact. They’ve stripped us of the community we deserve. Imagine a world where you are proud of the tight knit group of people who lift you up and you lift up in return DAILY. Imagine being in love with an entire tribe and getting to give a receive, platonically from everyone 24/7 and being proud that you NEVER LEAVE OR ABANDON eachother. Don’t worry about the comments or Jubilee for using you to try to make a buck and cutting out the message you were trying to spread (very admirable btw my dear). Pity them all because they will never truly get the amazing feeling of GIVING WITH NO EXPECTATIONS. Because being there for people is the best feeling in the world. I hope that made sense and if you see this, don’t sweat the haters you’re lovely and absolutely perfect as you are!
You’re coping so hard lmao. Just admit you’re a gold digger. Ain’t nothing wrong with that. You’re a leech. Be proud of it.
The thing is. No one is independent. We all rely on a person or group or corporation paying us or if we're already wealthy one of those having paid us in the past. How is this any different?
I LOVED you in particular in the video, and I loved this video so much it’s insane. This started off a whole lot of truth for me. And helped me feel so much less alone in not just one way but a few. I relate so heavily to not having a father figure and needing it and finding it this way. I never said I suggested it, lol I always just said it worked for me 🤷🏼♀️ and alll I ever wanted was support. My whole life all I’ve ever wanted was support. This video supported me. So thank you. Seriously. So much. I’m so glad I now have your channel too, your dope af 🫶🏻
I’m so happy you were able to feel heard and supported!!! That’s everything I wanna do💗
I mean, how sugaring is portrayed in movies and such, they show it as prostitution, which is where I believe that comes from, I 100 percent agree with you on it.
I think there's a stigma against feeling lonely or not being able to form the typical social relationship, kind of an implication that there's something wrong with you and you should be the one to figure out why you can't make those connections. And if you settle for something else, like paying someone, being in a parasocial relationship, talking to an ai, etc, then it's considered sad. Then you're better off just being sad and alone instead of seeking something considered less genuine to ease your loneliness. In today's society we see it can be hard to form genuine long lasting relationships and we should normalize being lonely and using coping mechanisms healthily instead of just finding it sad.
dude omg I remember you! I loved you in this ep! It’s great to hear the perspective of someone who has been on Jubilee’s set I’ve been wondering about it. Subbed!
I’m creeped out by the use of the words “sugar parent”
Yeah, it sounded like they didn't know which word to use and said that by accident 💀
i could listen to you talk for hours, your opinions never offend anybody and your words make so much sense.
some people’s love language is gift giving this is basically very similar imo ! also you are amazing with your commentary and replies 🧡 it’s so stupid that they cut important parts of the video 😭
Caregivers are just paid companions too but I don't make as much as a sugar baby and scrubs
Wow!! I really enjoyed this video. And the cat at the end of the video was a cherry on top!
HAHA a little Easter egg
This video definitely changed my view of sugaring. I feel like the internet and society has this dark light around that topic and that’s why people hate on that.
People are so alone rn and it's not always about sex or anything like that. Sometimes, they need to talk or spend some time with someone - kind of like a friend.
Exactlyyyy
I would argue that if someone expects financial compensation for your friendship (or vice versa), then you're not actually friends.
Your top and necklace look so pretty together and amazing on you .
I thought i recognised you in the video! Cant believe it was you wow! Loved your fit btw! X
Haha! Thank you thank you
oh my god that’s where i know you from!! i watched this ages ago, thought you were adorable and so nice. i watched one video of yours and thought you looked familiar! and just liked how you did your content and how you approached the topic so i stuck around and subscribed, been watching at least one of your videos every day for 4 days now, love your content and your character
So weird that you popped up on my page, I saw the sugar baby video on Facebook a couple days ago. You're so down to earth and cool. I like that you're realistic about the situation. Good luck with everything! ❤️
Thank you!!!
It is kind of weird how they edited that! But hey, that did allow you to get new fans (me included duh 😙😁) love listening to you🎼
Im so glad to hear that!!!
Btw, love the happy cat ending, concluded on a perfect note 😆
disclaimer by no means am i technically a “sugar parent” nor do i consider myself such, but i am a young adult (18) and female who is middle class-high class & who many times have been told by friends who are less financially privileged to me that part of our friendship(s) very much remind me of a sugar parent ( because I offer or provide to help them out / buy stuff for them, etc. a lot ) + i have seen around me time and time again how sugaring works and understand the general psychology, so I feel quite qualified to talk about it.
for those saying it’s immoral / sad / taking advantage of the sugar parent - it’s not. these people know what they are doing, they are adults. they know it’s a transaction and a service, plus most of these sugar parents sometimes even do it for a boost ( ego wise or emotionally ) to know they can provide for someone, help someone out or sometimes even show off. almost everything in this world is a transaction in way or another, including social relationships, so relax. you can cry and argue, you can shame others, you can say it’s wrong but if you ask anyone who is on the providing end they would tell you the same.
those saying it CANNOT BE PLATONIC, you are so wrong- yes it may be hard to find especially if that’s your goal and you’re on sugar dating apps, looking for it but it is very much possible, have you never wanted to have someone with you when you feel lonely or down ? some people just want companionship and that’s it. there are people who feel fulfilled going out with someone, hanging out or talking with someone- or merely having someone’s presence around. there are people who feel immense happiness to help others or to provide for someone as said before.
everyone who wants to put sugaring into this little generalized box of what the media has created it to be, you have to understand that just like any other social relationship out there, there are differences and exceptions, not all sugar parents are the same nor the sugaring experience for everyone, have an open mind, research and inform yourself about it. don’t just shame people and put it under the guise of a discussion or criticism or “concern”, knowing that you just want to be correct. feel free to add or ask anything to my comment.
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Can I ask the way you described the term sugaring. Would that also apply for this internship im doing right now? To explain it to you in short. I’m spending time with elderly people so they won’t feel lonely and I get money in return for the hours I spend with them. Kind of a part time job. It kind of reminds me of sugaring but it sounds like its the “moral” way to do sugaring because its socially acceptable and not looked down upon… even though I feel like it the same concept. Correct me if i’m wrong tho.
@@cloudberry7425 i wouldn't say this is sugaring although the concept of it and the service is similar to sugaring but as you said, morally viewed.
the difference between the two isn't too noticeable, since it's a similar concept, but it is distinct- i don't know how to outright explain it on what makes it distinct in simple terms but :
sugaring is the service of giving platonic or romantic services to someone in exchange for money, this could be anyone not strictly elderly. not only that but it's not viewed as a "job" and you seek sugaring via sugaring websites or contacting wealthy people online.
in difference, your situation although a service as well is legally a job with solid pay, and it is strictly platonic company for the elderly and as you say, you got this job from an internship not a sugaring website nor was your intention sugaring, which is the difference.
i hope i explained it well :)
Your video made me realize that I previously had an online platonic sugar baby/daddy relationship without realizing it! The little mutual comfort we were able to provide for each other was a very important part of my life for a while. Thank you for sharing this!
I'd absolutely love a story of how you got involved. It's been heavy on my mind. I desperately feel the need to go to college for veterinary medicine. There's absolutely no way I'll ever be able to afford it. I've had a calling to go be an equine vet. It's been negatively affecting my own mental state.
"alexa play independent woman by destiny's child" LMAO WHAT 😭
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No shade to destiny’s child but wtf😂😭
If I may ask- I've always wondered how channels like Jubilee or Cut find the people they need for a video? Like- did you sign up online? Did you get an e-mail for this? Do they ask people on the street? I'd imagine they don't just walk up to random people and ask "Hey, do you perhaps have a sugar relationship you'd like to tell a few million people about?" like- how odd would that be to someone who isn't? I'm at a loss trying to figure this out XD
I think it depends! They have on their website a casting page where you can fill out an application to be in a video, but they also have castors. For this one, a few of them got reached out to for the video since they talk about being a sugar baby publicly. I just applied and heard back, did 2 interviews, and then was told I was in
@@allietricaso Oohw, that makes a lot of sense! Thank you for replying ^^
@@allietricaso actually was wondering that myself just yesterday. thanks!
This video popped in my home page and I'm so, so glad that I clicked and watched it!! I love your insight, energy and truths especially when you said that everyone's morals is different. Honestly, they just salty they aren't getting any money/help
This was actually really interesting and educational. Didn’t go into this with much knowledge or opinion on the subject but I still found it really enlightening on the subject matter and are a lot more open to the idea. Really good video, I love your commentary :D
Well articulated gurl
i saw the video and absolutely loved your vibe
so happy i found your channel 🥺
Aw yay thank you!!!
help i’m a gaming k-pop music enjoyer how did i end up here
okay but in all seriousness i had zero clue how this video started started playing but it was really informative, people are so quick to judge others when they don’t even know wat they are talking about smh. and hope ur enjoying ur day :)
Hey wellll I’m into K-pop and gaming as well!!!! I guess your recommendations knew;) what groups are your fav? I have some albums in the bookshelf behind me lmaooo
@@allietricaso lolol go u haha :)
my favorite groups are twice, itzy, and xdinary heroes :) hbu? :D
and yea my recommendations prob knew haha :)) love my recommendations sometimes
i love itzy ( the dancing holy shit) skz (they’re so funny) and nct ( not a single bad song lmao)
@@kurtapika7991 wats ur opinions on sticker by nct 😭/genq and also yay I love itzy and skz are great and I like nct dream the most out of their units :)
@@FrostyPlayzYT i personally didn't like iot the first few listens but i liked it after a while lmaoo, also glad we like the same groupss!!
Thank you so much for this video, you're very well-spoken and i agreed with you entirely on every point you made. Jubilee's editing is so unfair and it's always nice when people in their videos speak out on it
not thinking 10k a month is a lot is wild... girl WAT
I am so glad UA-cam suggested your channel to me, I've been needing a good binge lol
Came from the original video! Youve earned a new subscriber !! Loving your personality ✨️
Important video, all of these people are totally valid, and so are you! I'd never participate myself but 0 judgements here
Omg yess u uploaded!! I was really looking forward to this video when I saw that u were planning on reacting to the jubilee vid:D
Hopefully it met your expectations!!!
@@allietricaso it absolutely did!🥰
we all need a hustle so why not! our time is precious, if someone wants to pay for it and they will pay well, then all the better. You dealt with the negative comments so well
I honestly gotta say good for you for being a sugar baby! People envy you because they think it's easy but I don't think it is. Not everyone can do it and if it isn't hard for you, why not get money for it? I hate when people talk about morality like they are the gods who can do no wrong. Morality is definitely too subjective to talk about it like it's a common thing. Many people use morality as a way to put others down. The irony of them doing the morally wrong thing lmao
will this be seen? probably not, gonna do it anyway, though- started watching you last night because your tiktok shop video popped up in my recommended videos, staying because (alongside enjoying you and your content) your short haired cat looks so much like my old one if he'd had both eyes and it's so pleasant seeing them and the other cat in the videos.
This was very informative, I'm sad to say I was rather uninformed before this video, such as I never knew there could be more platonic sugar parent relationships, and was rather judgemental to the thought of somebody doing that. Thank you for this new view of these relationships! :)
I am so grateful for this video because I love seeing all kinds of perspectives on life. I love expanding my world with all of these experiences and honestly all of your videos leave me with this feeling by the end. I feel like i learned something new about the world around me and that is super dope! thank you!
I’m glad I watched this, definitely opened my mind some more on what having a sugar daddy/momma is. I always knew there was more to it then the movies and crap makes it seem like. Thank you for educating me ❤️
Hello! 🙋🏻♀️ I found the way you explained everything to be very insightful. It's disappointing that some people are so judgmental and even mean-spirited about this (or anything, really) because what you said is so true - the sugar parent knows what they're doing and consciously wants/chooses to engage in the relationship. You didn't harm anyone, including yourself, and both parties involved got something out of it that in some way improved their quality of life and overall contentment. Anyway, that aside, this was the first of your videos I've seen but I just wanted to add I think you have the cutest smile/laugh ever! It made me smile every time you did. You have such a great energy and I love your hair too. Ok I'm gonna stop fangirling now, haha. 🤭
I will be honest I had negative thoughts on sugar babies and all that until you explained it. And now i see how it would be beneficial to both parties. Actually this would be something i would try just know that i could make someone happier and help my self financially in the process.
Also just found this channel like 2 days ago and I’ve been binging your videos every since 😂😂 keep up the good work
the people being like "why would you pay someone to hang out, that's so weird" like... listen, having a friend you can go out and do stuff with is great. it's fun to go out and eat at restaurants and have someone to talk to while you're there. okay, i can't read minds, i'm not a sugar daddy, i can't tell you why every particular sugar parent wants a sugar baby, but it's really not hard to think with your brain and see that there are perfectly normal reasons to want someone to hang out with.
also i'm obsessed with the "i pride myself on making my own money and not profiting off of others >:(" crowd, like buddy, unless you're sitting in your shed printing counterfeit bills, your money had to come from SOMEONE and you either received it in exchange for providing goods/services or by hurting someone. sugar parents want companionship and have the money to say "you know what? i'm willing to help out someone with less than me in exchange for the form of companionship i'm looking for." what's the problem with someone with a lot of money paying for services from someone with less money?
are chefs bad people for profiting off people's hunger? are doctors bad people for getting paid to perform essential surgeries? what about therapists? and do they not have social workers in america? there are so many questions and these people clicked on a video and had the opportunity to learn about a line of work they don't understand but instead they decided to be judgemental assholes in the comments. i don't get it at all.
This just randomly showed up in my feed one day but it was actually very informative and taught me a lot about something I barely even paid mind to. Good video
Just curious, in a platonic arrangement is your company and friendship the only thing you have to give back or does it vary depending on the terms? I'm assuming everyone's arrangements are different, but are there specific consistent themes other than being financially supported that are present in every experience?
It really depends! For me it was literally just us going to dinner, we’d sometimes call and we’d text super casually just like about our days. It’s really whatever the two people are comfy with!
omg im so happy i got this video on my recommended. i remember watching the video on their channel and commenting how stunning you were and i couldnt find your socials so im so happy right now. your style and makeup are just SO PRETTY and the way you interacted with the others were so respectful and cuteeee
Love you're taking a stand dude
People make every thing a big deal these days
You just gained a new subscriber Merry Christmas 🎁💖
before i watched this video my information on this topic was completely wrong. i think now that i know more about it i think its only morally wrong depending on how the arrangment is like, it depends of the persons involved. but i mean otherwise i think its perfectly fine. i myself i do not think i will be doing this ever. thats ok.
Allie, I would like to know how you found a platonic sugar daddy ? I’m in nursing school and hurting for money and would love to have an arrangement like that, I don’t let myself have fun ever because I’m working so hard. thanks girl x
I’d also like to know!
This video, especially replying to the comments part, was extremely informative. Thank you. :)
This video has shown me that being a platonic sugar baby is sort of like DMing for money. Thanks for the insight.
Great video!! Honestly changed my perspective on sugaring. Thanks for spreading awareness, I think a lot of people just don't take the time to try and understand
15:05 - 16:39 Yikes! Thank god Allie mentioned projecting! These people don't just climb out of the woodwork for sugaring, they also shit talk stay-at-home spouses.
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yeah i had a big misconception as to what this was, I think i still don’t understand it full tbh, i’d be interested to see what the sugar parents point off view is on this
lol idk why ppl think 1,200 is not a lot, thats literally a little less than what my mom makes in 2 weeks
Well you see some people are poor
@@chantelle7128 did u read what i said at all?
Hi Allie. I watched the video itself and a reaction video from a youtuber I like about it. I have to say, of all the contestants, you and Candace were easily more mature and I liked you both on screen.
Sorry that you discussing the "importance of safety" was cut from the video- that actually seems pretty dangerous unless there was another warning somewhere. Not every rich(er) individual is nice even if they wish to share their finances and money. Your ending statement in the Jubilee video _is_ important and so is being aware of the dangers.
It's mature of you to post this video now and clarify and I fully understand your frustration.
Personally I'm from a single mother household and we're just about middle working class. My mum has always taught me to "make my own pound" and "you get out of life what you put in" and whilst I don't think theres anything wrong with this thinking, there's nothing wrong with an alternative perspective- such as 'Sugaring'.
I think it's very much that, over the past few Years since the emergence of Sugaring- we've been fed a very sexualized, almost toxic and manipulative version of it. That it's "60 year old men preying on young privileged and selfish girls" and I don't doubt there's a lot of secret envy that goes alongside that lifestyle.
To not have to worry incessantly about bills or food or ultimately where the finance is coming from and actually being able to treat myself... Honestly? Seems really nice. I think that envy is in part where the slander comes from. We've been fed a certain stereotype for Sugaring and when offered something that opposes that view (example: the fact that so many of the relationships were platonic and happened in public) has been a bit of a shock to people. And some refuse to believe it.
But honestly good on you for speaking out about it. I'm gonna see what other content you have as well 🤍