"I believe Black women are going to save us all..." | Khadija Mbowe

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  • @michellehanson984
    @michellehanson984 3 роки тому +2785

    "Hey, sorry we made this mess for you, thanks for cleaning it up for us, you're so good at cleaning, wish I were!"

  • @Nykesia
    @Nykesia 3 роки тому +1309

    It feels like black women can only exist in two ways to people. We’re either the villain or the hero. Never just regular human beings with a range of different emotions tho.

    • @LadyAstarionAncunin
      @LadyAstarionAncunin 3 роки тому +111

      It's not even being the "hero." It's being the help. We're either the villain or the help.

    • @Nykesia
      @Nykesia 3 роки тому +30

      @@LadyAstarionAncunin I only say hero because any “compliments” that black women get are always attributed to being strong and protectors. We’re the ones carrying the community and everyone notices/ acknowledges it while simultaneously looking down on us. The white woman who made that tweet didn’t even look out for the biracial woman on the show she wrote on. She was always killed off and had the weakest storyline.

    • @janellejulianajoy
      @janellejulianajoy 2 роки тому +13

      Villain? We're never the villain. We're usually the sacrificial or sassy token friend.
      I would love to see a Black female villain written with the complexity of a Cersei Lannister.

    • @aliaali6421
      @aliaali6421 Рік тому

      Can I ask a question when Julie plec wrote something about black women saving us what was bad about that letter like I know that she is racist but I want to know what is racist about that letter or message

    • @dragonslastfyl2203
      @dragonslastfyl2203 Рік тому +1

      @@aliaali6421 bruh u didt watch the video.

  • @mazwimadiba9618
    @mazwimadiba9618 3 роки тому +1687

    Just love how Bonnie had no urgency other than to save and serve Elena and her white friends. Takes the whole 'Magical Negro' to new heights

    • @zaria7209
      @zaria7209 3 роки тому +2

      XD

    • @omowhanre
      @omowhanre 3 роки тому +2

      Hahaha 🤣🤣🤣

    • @marshallwayne9270
      @marshallwayne9270 3 роки тому +15

      Or no heights

    • @LadyAstarionAncunin
      @LadyAstarionAncunin 3 роки тому +8

      It's like how sis got got in Behind Her Eyes.

    • @dianaselnekovicova948
      @dianaselnekovicova948 Рік тому +6

      I think she was like solution to every problem to writing like when writers were not able to come up with solution for some situation in plot they just used her to save a day

  • @myasmith1820
    @myasmith1820 3 роки тому +2488

    “ I believe Black Women will save us all,” what is this? Avatar? We are not the Avatar of America.

    • @phoenixmoon3
      @phoenixmoon3 3 роки тому +108

      I sure hope not. I have real stuff to do. Lol.

    • @aazhie
      @aazhie 3 роки тому +42

      If it's Avatar, then the Fire Nation ladies are all acting towards Aang: WELL, AREN'T YOU GONNA FIX THIS...??!
      Cripes Dx

    • @yjk5737
      @yjk5737 3 роки тому +30

      Help me, Obi Wan Kenobi. You're my only hope.

    • @LoveAndSnapple
      @LoveAndSnapple 3 роки тому +45

      “But I believe, Black women will save the world…”

    • @charnellduncan9932
      @charnellduncan9932 3 роки тому +11

      I’m cackling😂🤣

  • @zharak843
    @zharak843 3 роки тому +440

    twilight has always made me mad. so the wealthy white vampires vs the ethnic poor werewolves...

    • @KhadijaMbowe
      @KhadijaMbowe  3 роки тому +136

      Like…

    • @kristineilochi4615
      @kristineilochi4615 3 роки тому +58

      THAT PART!

    • @softjytsu
      @softjytsu 2 роки тому +32

      wait i never noticed that OMG

    • @imjustbetter2010
      @imjustbetter2010 Рік тому +2

      Is it really bout race though

    • @zharak843
      @zharak843 Рік тому +25

      @@imjustbetter2010 that's the only thing I can see looking at it. and she stole the lore from indigenous ppl :/

  • @bug688
    @bug688 3 роки тому +2075

    Lets be honest, Kat was one of if not the best actor on Vampire Diaries and she brought Bonnie to life even though the writers kept trying to kill her off.

    • @angelaholmes8888
      @angelaholmes8888 3 роки тому +82

      You are so right I absolutely hated the way the character of bonnie was treated kat is a great actress I really do feel sorry for the way she was treated

    • @luizadelpoz9444
      @luizadelpoz9444 3 роки тому +74

      The fact that every time writers brought her back they did it because fans didn't want the character nor the actress gone, not because they actually thought she was a great asset to the show is ridiculous.
      Like who's the one saving MF every single time? Not Matt, not Elena, not Caroline...
      Also, yes, the finale sucked in general (imo), but Bonnie deserved so much better!!

    • @angels.digitaldiary
      @angels.digitaldiary 3 роки тому +31

      there was no VD with bonnie because the way they NEEDED her was insane

    • @sanuhanu9818
      @sanuhanu9818 2 роки тому +2

      @@JwanDeFleursrsly?

    • @yeahnah4303
      @yeahnah4303 2 роки тому +5

      yeeeeeeeeeeeessssssss!!! EEEXACTLYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @danidkg4071
    @danidkg4071 3 роки тому +1039

    julie plec really said "white woman are failing us" when she's a white woman

    • @mewmew6158
      @mewmew6158 3 роки тому +255

      Exactly... like who is us, Julie? YOu are failing poc, julie.

    • @emfarah3758
      @emfarah3758 3 роки тому +44

      @@mewmew6158 Delusional. Same way I’ve had heard whyte women blaming whyte men for everything 😂

    • @angryotter9129
      @angryotter9129 3 роки тому +140

      So the call is coming from inside the house, but it’s this lady and she doesn’t even realize she’s holding the phone.

    • @BellesView
      @BellesView 3 роки тому +33

      @@angryotter9129 🤣🤣🤣

    • @didy6235
      @didy6235 3 роки тому +81

      I thinks she is just trying to twist her racist ’s thoughts into compliments. As we are too stupid to read between the lines. Her tweet is racist. She only see black women as disposables products. Not humans as yt. It show in all her blacks characters wrtting. There is a study about how some yt people’s brains react when they see à poc. Their brains detect us as object. This thing is deepppppp

  • @Shanspeare
    @Shanspeare 3 роки тому +1080

    Listen, the Freud costume was a necessary evil okay! 😂 edit because I finished the video: see, now I’m gonna have to look more into TVD because I always saw people alluding to Bonnie’s treatment but never got around to actually watching the show. Even with that in mind, this video was BEAUTIFULLY put and applies to so many other topics outside of TVD. Painting black women as superheroes because we somehow just “know what to do” or “can actually do it” frustrates me, whether it be in politics, media, or even just every day life. Let us be multifaceted! 👏🏾

    • @KhadijaMbowe
      @KhadijaMbowe  3 роки тому +172

      I knew if I yelled Freud in a video you would come 😈
      Lol jkjkjk

  • @CoicouReal
    @CoicouReal 3 роки тому +505

    I remember asking myself why Bonnie never really had a love interest when I was younger. I remember internalizing that black women just were not attractive and were only here to save the day. The impact of what Julie Plec does on impressionnable young mind...

    • @skfdlr
      @skfdlr 3 роки тому +17

      yeah same

    • @themelanatednomad6989
      @themelanatednomad6989 3 роки тому +61

      That’s why it was so toxic, especially considering that Damon is Bonnie’s love interest in the books.

    • @MichouThe
      @MichouThe 3 роки тому +27

      She isnt black but mixed but I get your point.

    • @shantiaelise
      @shantiaelise 3 роки тому +13

      @@MichouThe mixed with black = black and other, so still black lol

    • @userbeyou
      @userbeyou 3 роки тому +46

      @@shantiaelise Huh? It's simple biology. Mixed with black is mixed not black. Folks need to let go off the slav3 masters one drop rule. Damn!

  • @pykenotpike
    @pykenotpike 3 роки тому +643

    White woman CAN do the work. Julie is just so clearly trying to absolve herself of any harm and it’s sickening. Like of course white women shouldn’t be talking over black women and other minorities, but they can absolutely be part of the solution.

    • @fr33f4l4st1ne
      @fr33f4l4st1ne 3 роки тому +48

      agreed. Yes, white people are failing. Its not because we r incompetent, its for a whole range of factors.
      If we started doing the work together we could get shit done.
      putting our responsibility on the backs of black folk and other poc is nothing but racism.

    • @imjustbetter2010
      @imjustbetter2010 Рік тому +4

      Periodt

  • @nazarisreyes6037
    @nazarisreyes6037 3 роки тому +619

    Even that "compliment" bs is trash because when a yt person is the hero of the story they're compansated with love, success, etc, Bonnie was never allowed to rest and be loved

    • @chloedsmith
      @chloedsmith 3 роки тому +106

      She was allowed to rest... *in peace*
      They straight up had her save the day and then DIE for another season til they needed her again

    • @gateauxq4604
      @gateauxq4604 3 роки тому +54

      The closest Bonnie ever got to resting was when she was a ghost

    • @Enlighten_825
      @Enlighten_825 3 роки тому +11

      @@gateauxq4604 Ouch so true.

    • @mimiad397
      @mimiad397 3 роки тому +20

      Notice how all her love interested were always into other friends before her? It was always as if she was the very last option. Enzo became Bonnie's love after being rejected by almost everyone. Jeremy became Bonnie's love after all his love interests died and it always felt as if he HAD to be with her because she saved him. There was no true love between them. Meanwhile Elena was always the first choice for any guy she dated and Caroline had Klaus who was making her out to be some kind of goddess and then Enzo who couldn't stop babying and obsessing over her. A lot of people wanted Bonnie to end up with Damon or one of the witches e.g. Kai or Klaus brother (forgot his name). Julies argument against Kai was that he was psycho but then so was Damon, stephan, Klaus etc yet they were all allowed to be with other female leads who were made out to be angels. If they didn't want Bonnie with Damon then the best choice would have been Damons brother, the one with the most knowledge on witchcraft. It would have made the most sense considering they planned on having a spin off that would be mostly about witches. Also they could have done a storyline of him mentoring her and them getting closer.

    • @mimiad397
      @mimiad397 3 роки тому +22

      @@chloedsmith Bonnie had fake friends. Any time she died they would mourn her and then live on. But then as soon as someone else died they would suddenly feel the need to bring back Bonnie from the dead because they need to safe the last person who died. They never tried to get Bonnie back simply because they loved her but only ever because they needed her to save someone else

  • @AlexisMitchell87
    @AlexisMitchell87 3 роки тому +873

    Julie was just telling us how she really feels. Black women are here to serve her and do the heavy lifting.

    • @khem127
      @khem127 3 роки тому +92

      Exactly!!! How is that different from our roles during enslavement????

    • @lubnan08
      @lubnan08 3 роки тому +18

      Yup

    • @AlexisMitchell87
      @AlexisMitchell87 3 роки тому +67

      @@khem127 precisely! My strength, intelligence, time, and resilience belong to *me* . I can choose invest in others, however, Julie (nor her counterparts) can demand it.

    • @delaliakussah6631
      @delaliakussah6631 2 роки тому +2

      💯💯🤦

    • @imjustbetter2010
      @imjustbetter2010 Рік тому

      Think she had good intentions

  • @JC-yy8iv
    @JC-yy8iv 3 роки тому +280

    “Elena sneezed, Bonnie use your magic to heal her, she must be getting sick” girl I HOWLED

    • @k101-c8y
      @k101-c8y Рік тому +6

      I don’t know why Elena can’t just save herself for once. Urrrrgg
      I kept screaming through out the show - leave Bonnie alone.

  • @laurenjcoates
    @laurenjcoates 3 роки тому +549

    Bonnie CARRIED that show. I’ll die believing if they hadn’t been racist as fuck, we would’ve gotten bamon or klonnie as canon - it just would’ve made sense

    • @brit_brat
      @brit_brat 3 роки тому +52

      In the books Bonnie and Damon were a thing

    • @ereristark425
      @ereristark425 3 роки тому +83

      @@brit_brat Bonnie was a ginger witch in the books. So they made her black (which I'm not complaining about) but they just couldn't make her black AND give her a love story 🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @sseraphim2818
      @sseraphim2818 3 роки тому +61

      @@ereristark425 Bonnie could be a ginger witch while black. It wouldn't have been impossible or out there to do.

    • @tasiah.6402
      @tasiah.6402 3 роки тому +15

      @@sseraphim2818 my cousin is a ginger

    • @mimiad397
      @mimiad397 3 роки тому +32

      If they didn't want her with Damon then they should have had her get with Klaus younger brother. They were planning a whole show centered around witches but didn't think to include Bonnie somehow? Bonnie who was supposed to be so powerful?

  • @vodka9384
    @vodka9384 3 роки тому +656

    And can we talk about how Kat Graham was also a singer throughout her time on the show but that was never given a spotlight to actually showcase her singing ability, and yet, Candice Accola was put behind a mic many times despite being tone deaf? I distinctly remember there being an ad in the middle of an episode back in the day about her country music album, but I had to find out Graham had a music career by chance online.

    • @chloedsmith
      @chloedsmith 3 роки тому +100

      And they shoehorned that shit in whereever and whenever, it was cringy! There is just one thing that I cannot sit through, and that is the second hand embarassment of watching someone sing badly

    • @LemonDove
      @LemonDove 3 роки тому +131

      The time they practically paused an episode for everyone to watch Caroline sing Eternal Flame was especially cringe. And they kept finding excuses for her to sing, but no singing scenes for the performer with actual singing talent and successful music career. I can’t qWhite figure it out… 🤔

    • @emilyt182
      @emilyt182 3 роки тому +20

      I also found out about her music online and I loved it! I even named my cat Sassy after her song (I even used to sing to her that song as a lullaby, lmao.) It was so sad seeing Bonnie go through the ringer... I gave up when they killed off Enzo out of nowhere. It was bullshit. She deserved everything! It was so frustrating to watch, uuugh

  • @Lonelyallie
    @Lonelyallie 3 роки тому +212

    The way Bonnie was used to save all the white folks while they never helped her or cared about her in return is not surprising considering that’s how she feels about Black women. That’s why it’s never just tv. She thinks Black women’s main purpose is to save others and so she created a show all about that.

  • @mynameisuju
    @mynameisuju 3 роки тому +684

    The most frustrating thing about Bonnie and Damon not being allowed to happen is that the fans wanted it! Like do you know how hard it was back then for any fandom to wish love unto a black female character? Almost impossible. But the chemistry was so strong, it just made sense, even the racists could see it.
    But every time interviewers brought it up, that director looked irritated, like she was annoyed at Bonnie even being mentioned. When i found out how Kat was treated behind the scenes i wasn't even shocked, it showed in the interviews

    • @brit_brat
      @brit_brat 3 роки тому +150

      In the books they ended up together so Julie went out of her way to shaft Bonnie continuously

    • @mynameisuju
      @mynameisuju 3 роки тому +91

      @@brit_brat honestly it felt so forced to keep them apart.

    • @ereristark425
      @ereristark425 3 роки тому +108

      The BONNIE + DAMON was literally nominated as a category on some choice awards show. Like people REALLY wanted it

    • @LadyAstarionAncunin
      @LadyAstarionAncunin 3 роки тому +34

      It's the same thing that happened in Sleepy Hollow. Ugh! It still annoys me. I didn't want Abby and Ichabod to get together, but they had that kind of chemistry/energy, even off camera, and everyone knew it, and a lot of fans, including white fans, wanted them to be together. But what did they do, marginalize her in favor of a white female character meant to only be in the first season, get rid of her, and THEN tried to paint her with the "difficult" brush as an actor.
      FOX took a show that started to catapult the two leads into superstardom (look at the first season ratings/responses) and killed it because...? The first season was notably diverse and the chemistry between the cast, especially the leads, was also notable. Now what is Nicole Beharie doing? What is Tom Mison doing? I mean big projects. FOX took what could have been the new The X-Files and peed it down their legs. And part of the failure is the bait-and-switch with black female actresses in prime time TV.

    • @TititoDeBologay
      @TititoDeBologay 3 роки тому +23

      @@LadyAstarionAncunin Nicole Beharie, who plays Abbie was actually sick. Her and the her costar got sick. He was allowed to go back to England to heal and recover.
      Meanwhile Beharie was made to work while sick, to the point She ended up at the hospital. Her doctor asked her to rest, the studio had their doctors confirm the diagnosis. Still They had her working, and sending doctors on set to check that She was sick. Then they used her sickness to slowly push her out, then tried to blackball her, by running a whole "Blind Item" campaign about her being difficult to work with.
      Thankfully Karma was looking after Beharie coz Her career is quietly but surely thriving. While the show crashed and all of her unsupportive co-workers are where again?

  • @sparklyninja12
    @sparklyninja12 3 роки тому +151

    The way plec literally distanced her self from white women and tried to align herself with black women with the “white women have failed US”. “Us?” Who’s “us” ms. Plec???

    • @MissYoonyul
      @MissYoonyul 8 місяців тому +2

      I call that ‘racial pick mes’

  • @kyra4178
    @kyra4178 3 роки тому +913

    So we are just going to ignore that Damon was a Confederate soldier during the 1864 flashbacks or was it just me

    • @GwendolynnBY
      @GwendolynnBY 3 роки тому +429

      jenny nicholson's had a section where she pointed out that the show constantly flashes back to and even celebrates the confederate south, while blatantly ignoring slavery.

    • @ZadnoleyaEdits
      @ZadnoleyaEdits 3 роки тому +300

      It's a running theme in contemporary vamp media. Twilight, TVD, and True Blood all have them.

    • @mewmew6158
      @mewmew6158 3 роки тому +247

      Right?! Like, these vamp shows love ignoring slavery💀

    • @zhenali6752
      @zhenali6752 3 роки тому +66

      @@ZadnoleyaEdits Beautiful creatures can be added to the list too

    • @LemonDove
      @LemonDove 3 роки тому +246

      And this was an adaptation choice by Plec and Williamson! In the books the Salvatores were from the Italian Renaissance. Maybe they didn’t want to make the actors do accents in flashbacks, but there’s other American history settings they could’ve chosen.

  • @CaraRowen
    @CaraRowen 3 роки тому +486

    The issue with that tweet to me that annoys me the most is like. No Plec, just do better. White folks can just choose to do better, educate themselves.

  • @ellelongacre3723
    @ellelongacre3723 3 роки тому +418

    Yeah, even when watching the show when I was younger part of my brain was going. "Dang Bonnie is sacrificing alot for her friends who are mostly obsessed with boys. I'm not sure these friendships are healthy for her." And it was weird how few romantic plotlines she got. Like the doppleganger girl gets two powerful vampires and the all-powerful witch gets... The annoying younger brother? How dare the show ever imply Jeremy was in Bonnie's league.

    • @brittneyharmon6647
      @brittneyharmon6647 3 роки тому +35

      😂 FORREAL

    • @workinprogress3329
      @workinprogress3329 3 роки тому +57

      That show was always about the ships, especially towards the end. It’s the only reason I watched for so long, not because the content was actually that good 💀 They wrote Katherine and Caroline dating every MF but Bonnie could only date Jeremy ? Nah …

    • @brittneyharmon6647
      @brittneyharmon6647 3 роки тому +44

      @@workinprogress3329 Right. They all were swapping the same partners in their friend group. And didn’t Bonnie have to keep that relationship a secret anyways 😭 she just couldn’t win

    • @pinkmapviolin
      @pinkmapviolin 3 роки тому +68

      Caroline literally has a romantic and/or sexual relationship with every major male character in the show (Damon, Matt, Tyler, Klaus, Alaric, Stephan) whereas Bonnie gets just Jeremy and Enzo, and she dies for Jeremy and Enzo gets killed. Trash.

    • @somebody2474
      @somebody2474 3 роки тому +48

      Jeremy literally cheated on Bonnie with his ghost ex girlfriend 😂 like they hated Bonnie so much

  • @shelbyw.
    @shelbyw. 3 роки тому +386

    bonnie carried that entire show on her back and got so little recognition for it. i will never forgive julie plec for what she put bonnie (and many other Black and Brown characters) through

  • @imani0nline
    @imani0nline 3 роки тому +1027

    I can’t believe Ms Julie Plec had my girl Bonnie dying left and right for the yt folk and she couldn’t even get a love interest who didn’t immediately KO 😩 we can’t get nothing out here!

    • @keepingitkianatural
      @keepingitkianatural 3 роки тому +65

      Idk why my mind immediately went to True Blood and Tara. The way they killed Eggs and she was SA'd the ENTIRE next season.... *sigh*

    • @tblizzi1369
      @tblizzi1369 3 роки тому +22

      I keep reading yt as "youtube" then get confused

    • @ozmalee7114
      @ozmalee7114 3 роки тому +1

      Then why don't you "black folks" make your own love interest shows and movies and stop expecting others people who don't look like you to do it for you. If there wanst a black character on there y'all would call it racism but since y'all character didn't get shine y'all wanted y'all still complain.

    • @pitpat2928
      @pitpat2928 3 роки тому +74

      @@ozmalee7114 i just wanted to inform you this comment is hilarious, embarrassing, and sad

    • @ozmalee7114
      @ozmalee7114 3 роки тому

      @@pitpat2928 Its only "boring and sad" because I told the truth. I know reality is a hard pill for you feminist women to swallow but that Is how the market is ran. People only direct shows and movies on what they see fit and what sells. Black people need to film THEIR OWN LOVE shows and movies ans stop depending on people who don't like them to do it FOR THEM. so me telling them to DO IT THEMSELVES is "sad and embarrassing"? Grow the hell up and quit being a bunch pathetic, weak with no back bone liberals. All y'all do is CRY ABOUT EVERYTHING and GET NOTHING done. Think about it, people who Cry, complain and BEG don't get ANYTHING done. Because y'all expect people to do it FOR Y'ALL.

  • @SaraM-sj8xg
    @SaraM-sj8xg 3 роки тому +593

    They made Bonnie go through so damn much. And when they killed off Enzo towards the end I was just sitting there like "Are y'all serious🤨".

    • @lunalipsb
      @lunalipsb 3 роки тому +40

      I wanted them to end up together so fucking bad!!! They were so cute

    • @fbercy
      @fbercy 3 роки тому +99

      Did you even notice the fact that in the final scene for Bonnie, mofos has her going to visit Africa in the brochure...not an actual country in Africa but the whole damn continent of Africa. VD was so trash with their treatment of Bonnie and actress Kat Graham.

    • @ziau.s9283
      @ziau.s9283 3 роки тому +50

      I literally remember watching it and thinking nah this is just a prank y'all are gonna bring him back like you brought back Katherine like twice, Matt was always getting saved...but then the show ended and I was just shocked that they did that to her

    • @luizadelpoz9444
      @luizadelpoz9444 3 роки тому +5

      Yes! Both of them werr put through so much and then when they have 1 good thing it's taken away like that

    • @didy6235
      @didy6235 3 роки тому +14

      The actor playing Enzo was so rude towards her out of acting, their kissing scène were ackwards. He always treat her with contempt out of acting. So disturbing to watch knowing all of it....

  • @edgarallenhoe3518
    @edgarallenhoe3518 3 роки тому +548

    the context for the tweet is actually mind-boggling. When i saw it in isolation I figured it was a standalone comment about the role of black women in US elections. That wouldn't have made it a good thing to say, but I remember that exact sentiment of "black women will save this country" becoming super common in 2016 and showing up in elections since. But in the context of an individual woman being attacked online for experiencing intimate partner violence... there are no words for how inappropriate that was.

    • @tblizzi1369
      @tblizzi1369 3 роки тому +101

      Right? One of the times where context makes things a lot worse

    • @wrestlinganime4life288
      @wrestlinganime4life288 3 роки тому +35

      The US have always made everything about POC political and when you try to expose their bias, the arguments of IT's Not a RAcE ThiNg

    • @youwomanyou
      @youwomanyou 3 роки тому +80

      Literally JUST got shot and this WW fixed her mouth was like you’ll save us! How fucking out of touch with reality do you have to be to say something like that when someone expresses that they are 1. Emotionally hurt 2. Physically hurt?

    • @JulianSteve
      @JulianSteve 3 роки тому +11

      Yes, I do remember this happening a lot in the media💯

    • @mynameisuju
      @mynameisuju 3 роки тому +70

      This!! How is a black womans fresh bullet wound making you immediately think "yes, you are here to save us black women. Get over that blood gushing from your flesh and back to the front lines". Where did that thought even come from?

  • @jahipalmer8782
    @jahipalmer8782 3 роки тому +172

    Even in shows about supernatural entities, we still get to be the magical Negro...

  • @Chuuzus
    @Chuuzus 3 роки тому +202

    the way Bonnie died over and over and over again just because of Elena and her friends just for Elena’s brother who was dating Bonnie to cheat on Bonnie with a ghost and for Stefan to kill Enzo who was Bonnie’a actual soulmate…

    • @softjytsu
      @softjytsu 2 роки тому +5

      The insane part is when Elena was casted asleep, the plot of the show should've been centered around Bonnie because it's suppose to be about Bonnie living her life out before Elena.

  • @themisadventuresofnaomij
    @themisadventuresofnaomij 3 роки тому +123

    On top of that they sent Bonnie to AFRICA at the end of the series like which country in Africa? The jokes write themselves at this point

    • @darkservantofheaven
      @darkservantofheaven 2 роки тому

      Probably went to the same area of Africa that Nas went to in Belly

  • @duchessbrown5394
    @duchessbrown5394 3 роки тому +281

    The thing that really gets me is the way that Julie would undermine the show to make sure that Bonnie didn’t get the spotlight. Like in season 6, there was a rating bump with the Bonkai/prison world storyline. But she decided to kneecap that storyline because it was getting too popular (to this day, I am HEATED by how they resolved that storyline). She did the same thing earlier when she refused to put Bonnie and Damon together despite the fact that that’s what happens in the novels.
    Bonnie has the most potential out of any of the characters and the fact that Julie wanted to kill her permanently in season 5 just shows how artistically stunted she is when it comes to black women. Because black women could only be one thing in her mind and that’s a mammy. No matter how much she claims to be “anti racist” now 🙄

    • @kitj3301
      @kitj3301 3 роки тому +8

      WAIT bonnie and damon get together in the books?!

    • @themelanatednomad6989
      @themelanatednomad6989 3 роки тому +51

      @@kitj3301
      Yeah. That was always the most infuriating part. She gave her self-inserts (Caroline) more storylines and agency then the actual second female lead in the book (Bonnie). Bonnie and Damon are literally described as soulmates in the books. Recreated every relationship except for that one.

    • @kitj3301
      @kitj3301 3 роки тому +2

      @@themelanatednomad6989 that’s so crazy i thought elena and damon were always supposed to get together even in the books, maybe i will read them😂

    • @heartsbooklover1699
      @heartsbooklover1699 Рік тому +3

      Yeah the whole plot with how they handled the bonkai/bennett and Gemini coven arc will forever annoy me it was disgusting how they treated kat /bonnie this storyline practically wrote itself if this was Caroline this storyline absolutely would have happened Nina was leaving and Candice was pregnant at the time there's no excuse for it not to happen bonnie should have been the main character from that point on with kai as her love interest with a awesome witch storyline the show needed something fresh besides Caroline and Elena relationships drama

  • @tiemarie6027
    @tiemarie6027 3 роки тому +210

    Let alone how even though she was mixed she had very kinky hair and they never let her wear it natural ever... i've been seeing interviews where she asked to be able to do that and told no.. also she was one of the youngest people in the show and started the show at 19 so definitely got taken advantage of

    • @workinprogress3329
      @workinprogress3329 3 роки тому +67

      There’s a vogue interview where Kat did one of those GRWM. She talks about how she always hated her hair. She mentions the vampire diaries and how the wigs ruined her hair. That show had so much negative impact on Kat. She deserved better.

    • @tiemarie6027
      @tiemarie6027 3 роки тому +37

      of course she hated her hair everyone told her not to wear it that way ...so you wonder if something ma wrong with it..when the society tells you that it's ugly of course you're going to think it's ugly too.. Im mixed too and I can relate...I can not imagine how that conversation went and how uncomfortable and insecure she must of been made to feel

    • @bmwjourdandunngoddess6024
      @bmwjourdandunngoddess6024 3 роки тому +7

      @@workinprogress3329 Yup, Troyce TV also did a video on all the drama!

    • @workinprogress3329
      @workinprogress3329 3 роки тому +2

      @@bmwjourdandunngoddess6024 I gotta go find it. I haven’t seen many people talk about it. Thank you 🙏🏻

    • @forgetmenotjimmy
      @forgetmenotjimmy 2 роки тому +9

      @@workinprogress3329 Ugh, it was so emotional! I started crying with her! Seeing her gushing about her afro and how much she loves it was amazing.

  • @micheleslaughter457
    @micheleslaughter457 3 роки тому +304

    I remember being in 8th grade watching the vampire diaries just expecting Bonnie to get a solid love interest or even a happy storyline…

    • @angelaholmes8888
      @angelaholmes8888 3 роки тому +12

      Yeah I was furious that bonnie didn't get any great storylines her character potential was wasted

  • @DiscoBewts
    @DiscoBewts 3 роки тому +70

    The fact that Bonnie was such an integral part of TVD and in the second spinoff Legacies there is a musical about the Mystic Falls and Bonnie gets a throwaway line....literally everyone on that show would be dead if it weren't for her...
    I think Bonnie was the first time as a child I noticed the magical negro trope (even though I didn't really know how to word it or what is was exactly). She always came to the aid of the white characters but no one really had as much urgency to save her. She barely got to experience any happiness and was thrown Elena's little brother for a love interest, occasionally getting a little romance or two (all of which ended in her partner's death, leaving her traumatized). The show even introduced Black male witches and had Bonnie become connected with one but ends up killing him off. It was obvious that Kat was facing discrimination behind the scenes whenever the cast was at conventions; despite being one of the most popular characters, her fans cries for her were ignored by her coworkers and bosses and she was barely able to even respond to them without getting cut off.
    The fact that Bonnie's sendoff in the final episode shows her with a plane ticket to AFRICA speaks volumes...they couldn't even bother to google a country to send her to...

  • @dressacsb
    @dressacsb 3 роки тому +98

    There's a academic theory about how unfairly black girl characters are portrayed in speculative fiction, it's call the Dark Fantastic cycle by doctor Ebony Elizabeth Thomas and she analyses Bonnie's story in depth. It's so worth to check it out

  • @jenniferedmond2897
    @jenniferedmond2897 3 роки тому +89

    And this is why I continued to read Bonnie centric fanfics where Bonnie gets love or revenge !!

    • @aissalubisi_17
      @aissalubisi_17 Рік тому

      I've been reading fanfic too!!! Can ypu please recommend me good ones and the sites you read them from?

  • @twistysunshine
    @twistysunshine 3 роки тому +174

    I really can't get over WHERE Julie is doing this too... Like its bad enough to say any of this to begin with but then. Megan just got shot. Leave her the hell alone. "I know you just experienced domestic violence but come save me from- IDK trump or whatever" I cannot...

  • @BuoyB
    @BuoyB 3 роки тому +69

    It’s so weird that we’re only shown the strength black women have from how they deal with loss. Look at the POWER she shows when her loved one dies. Look at the EMOTION she expresses when she loses someone she cares about. Look how good she is at pushing her emotions down when she’s forced to protect someone else. Look how willing she is to put her feelings aside to support others.
    Is she not allowed to feel weak from loss and mourning? Are others not allowed to protect her or care for her in her time of need? Is anybody risking (or sacrificing) their lives to protect her other than her parents or partner ? Is she not allowed to express intense emotions or show her peak of power without trauma ?
    Everyone else is..

  • @haileyalice2763
    @haileyalice2763 3 роки тому +891

    i tend to find the pop-culture analysis videos so interesting regardless of whether i'm familiar with media they cover; because the videos themselves always end up traversing such an interesting range of ever-relevant topics. looking really forward to this one!

    • @Ramblinwithtut
      @Ramblinwithtut 3 роки тому +4

      rightt??

    • @lyrablack8621
      @lyrablack8621 3 роки тому +9

      I literally watched Jenny Nicholson's video about TVD and I completely missed all of this, so I'm really glad I saw this video. Perspective really matters, especially if you don't share that perspective
      (I haven't actually seen TVD xD)

    • @JulianSteve
      @JulianSteve 3 роки тому +2

      Absolutely, Hailey. This is why I try my hardest to watch pop culture analysis videos and make my bootleg version of the videos... Make me stop😭

  • @FantasyBookAddict
    @FantasyBookAddict 3 роки тому +156

    with the way Kat was treated behind the scenes, i just can’t give Julie the benefit of the doubt. Even if she meant it as a compliment the way the show runners treated Bonnie shows that they view black women as disposable imo.

  • @NotReallyAya.
    @NotReallyAya. 3 роки тому +206

    I loved this. When yu said we aren’t Alien or Magic . Like they literally think we LIKE to be strong. Or we LIKE to get everything done. Like I am not Super women , I’m tired too wtf. I want the Strong Black Women to stop being the way we raise daughters. We need help too. Everyone needs help. It’s not OK.

  • @audrey1053
    @audrey1053 3 роки тому +28

    *This tweet is ''Black women are going to be the only one in the group project to work, sorry for the anxiety.''*

    • @so.many.obstacles
      @so.many.obstacles 3 роки тому +4

      Whew Chile…this reminds me of my last two semesters in college. Literally had to do the group essay because everyone else was trash and lazy. Must be nice…

  • @CaraRowen
    @CaraRowen 3 роки тому +312

    When you talk about how a character your color would be treated I think of how abhorrent the character of Tara played by Rutina Wesley in true blood. He whole life and her family and any chance at love and even her humanity was sacrificed for her blonde bestie.

    • @TititoDeBologay
      @TititoDeBologay 3 роки тому +48

      I still want to fight about It. But I'm not shocked all those white writers my, even as talented as Allan Ball, have a lot of blind spot when It comes to writing non white character.

    • @TheKhaliente
      @TheKhaliente 3 роки тому +41

      Ugh Tara’s character went thru it.

    • @icalotdonthide2646
      @icalotdonthide2646 3 роки тому +8

      I wanted her to turn Vampire with the nutjobs who loved her and just kill everyone. 🤫🤫🤫

    • @michmiranda9405
      @michmiranda9405 3 роки тому +31

      And It was crazy bc I read the books first and In the books shes a light skinned black woman and goes through a lot of stuff but then the show made her dark skinned so I got excited and then THEY PUT HER THROUGH WORSE SHIT THAT NEVER HAPPENED TO HER BOOK COUNTERPART. Like WHY

    • @mimijansen3262
      @mimijansen3262 3 роки тому +22

      And worse, she got killed off screen!!

  • @RumpledRegina
    @RumpledRegina 3 роки тому +84

    The way I'm still salty about Bamon is unreal. The one time Bonnie was treated as a main character and Damon had a progression as a character and they had actual chemistry to boot, but noooo.... Delena had to be endgame for... reasons? Jf

  • @dykingout2018
    @dykingout2018 3 роки тому +66

    I can't believe Julie Plec exists in 2021.
    while many writers make genuine mistakes in their writing Plec is not one of them, she knew what she was doing in my opinion.
    There are many Delena and Klaroline scenes that were STRAIGHT UP stolen from Book Bamon, and yet Bamon show never got them. we all know why.

    • @cinnamongirl7519
      @cinnamongirl7519 3 роки тому +3

      👏🏽👏🏽

    • @asdfasdf9679
      @asdfasdf9679 3 роки тому +5

      I wasn't even a book fan, but the feeling of disrespect that they never did the bathtub scene

  • @ginkgobilobatree
    @ginkgobilobatree 3 роки тому +95

    I never watched this show, but what stood out to me in your video was you saying "Even in fantasy." All you have to do is think about whose fantasies are being depicted (the writers, and the rest of the cast and staff) to understand. Again, diversity behind the scenes is the key to it all.

    • @KhadijaMbowe
      @KhadijaMbowe  3 роки тому +39

      Intentional diversity behind the scenes cause everyone can be problematic if we aren’t checking ourselves

    • @bmwjourdandunngoddess6024
      @bmwjourdandunngoddess6024 3 роки тому +1

      Yup! I want places to be forced to put up their cast online on some type of online thing. So we can see the diversity.

  • @TikaRose222
    @TikaRose222 3 роки тому +60

    BLACK WOMEN SAVE YOURSELF, BE SELFISH, TAKE CARE OF YOUR MENTAL HEALTH.❤

  • @AmanirenaII
    @AmanirenaII 3 роки тому +107

    Bonnie was sooo mistreated in Vampire Dairies. Honestly, I couldn't watch past season 2 because of it. Also black women don't owe anyone sh!t expect human decency. I'm so tired of the "strong black woman" stereotype.

  • @minamoo08
    @minamoo08 3 роки тому +154

    I can’t wait to watch this. I remember finishing TVD a few months ago and then watching follow up vids and comments on Kat’s treatment. Also how fans wanted her and Damon as a thing and Julie shut it down, but also killing off Enzo and sending her to Africa. Like, she couldn’t choose a country so she said, whole continent sis! 🥱 then putting her away from camera shot in tvd press runs. Yo, Julie actually worked hard to minimise and dismiss her🙆🏾‍♀️

    • @cosmicmysteryy
      @cosmicmysteryy Рік тому

      i truly believe that woman is going to hell lmfaooooo.

  • @jessicawood2972
    @jessicawood2972 3 роки тому +65

    OMG I just remembered the reason Bonnie's mom supposedly abandoned her was also to save Elena! They wrote a storyline about how she lured a big bad Original and magically "put him down" and then just stayed gone. WTF! And don't get me started on how fast they killed off her Gram! I always thought it was crappy that she was the only one in the show with no living relatives that she felt close to (TBH their writing made me forget she even had a dad until she mentioned him in an exposition dump). Even the town "outcast" Vicky had her brother Matt.

  • @beardphrodite
    @beardphrodite 3 роки тому +30

    Kat Graham was treated very poorly as an actress, as a human being and as the character that she portrayed, and that's a conversation that we need to have.

  • @thepeopleslast2579
    @thepeopleslast2579 3 роки тому +40

    She doesn't even get peace in death bro she has to constantly be hurting

  • @mophead_xu
    @mophead_xu 3 роки тому +111

    that practice/habit of mystifying women really, based off experience and observation, more often than not is just a lazy and easy way out to sweep abuse and neglect under the rug. where i live, every ethnic group have their own version/ideals of what make women "great" but wherever and whichever it is, it's ... really not a compliment. especially when it comes from men or people in general who'd never had to shoulder the burden of the expected gender roles-which sometimes includes women of the upper class. it's because "women are so strong, smart, diligent, and resilient" decades of mistreatment of women get dismissed because "they can take it". it's not always explicitly said, but once you notice it you really can't unsee it. it's also used as an excuse for parents, relatives, and teachers to be harder and stricter with girls in various forms of education, bc supposedly we're inherently several steps behind the boys but due to our strong qualities should be able to catch up-we just need to put up with those multiplied workload. (don't dream of surpassing the boys, though. that's a no no unless you want to be a lonely, unwanted, old virgin.)
    am definitely coming from a different background, esp in terms of culture and geography; but that """compliment""" about how black women are so strong and capable that they'll "save us all" ... i just hear alarm bells ringing.
    anyway, bamon is endgame canon in my book and no one can ever change my mind.

    • @whoknows9085
      @whoknows9085 3 роки тому +13

      Yeah but this was about Black women and how society, including other NonBlack women tell us that it is our sole responsibility to lift everyone up

    • @bmwjourdandunngoddess6024
      @bmwjourdandunngoddess6024 3 роки тому +1

      @@whoknows9085 oop, that’s what I was gonna say. But I never knew this also happened to other none-BW. But those other women are always celebrating this toxic idea.

    • @Fantallana
      @Fantallana 3 роки тому +8

      That’s a good point. These “Compliments” can be used to ignore the suffering of a group so easily.

  • @DiegoSinclair1820
    @DiegoSinclair1820 3 роки тому +103

    It's so frustrating that Bonnie (and Kat) were not given the same treatment and opportunities that Elena and Caroline. I mean, the chemistry between Bonnie and Damon was amazing but it didn't happen bc the writers didn't wanted to, they didn't like the idea of it and in recent podcast Julie said that they didn't do it ““bc Bonnie had more self respect”, which it's absurd. And it's not only the writers to blame, the fandom too, until this day there are people that hates Bonnie even though she didn't do as harm as the rest of main characters and most of them only wanted Delena to be endgame, even though it was a toxic relationship.

    • @EleiyaUmei
      @EleiyaUmei 3 роки тому +25

      It's so ridiculous for Julie to insist on Bonnie and Damon staying friends when the whole main cast apart from her had relationships with each other despite them being friends before (especially Stefan and Caroline - they had a great friendship but the creators had to make it romantic for some reason). Like clearly the creators didn't value friendships between people of opposite genders more than romantic relationships. But the one time that Bonnie has a deep, potentially romantic connection with someone from the main cast it just gets treated as them being "best friends"..

    • @DiegoSinclair1820
      @DiegoSinclair1820 3 роки тому +14

      @@EleiyaUmei Exactly, just when it happens to Bonnie then they decided that a friendship needs to stay as it is. It was very stupid, Bamon had all the chemistry that Delena lost after S5. Then they gave Bonnie a love interest but they killed him, which was pure bullsh*t.

    • @EleiyaUmei
      @EleiyaUmei 3 роки тому +12

      @@DiegoSinclair1820 tbh, I think Delena never had real chemistry to begin with (apart from physical I guess) and Bonnie was the person Damon had the most chemistry with... You can really see how much of a Delena shipper Julie is/was, mistreating better characters and compelling plot lines just for the sake of making Delena endgame. Using her power like that, it is evident that she could have done more with Bonnie and Bamon but actively chose not to...

    • @DiegoSinclair1820
      @DiegoSinclair1820 3 роки тому +3

      @@EleiyaUmei tbh Delena shouldn't event happen in the first place. I'm watching the show again and it's frustrating how Damon treats Elena, it's disgusting. And I agree with you, the chemistry between Bonnie & Damon was better, but neither Julie or the writers gave them a chance, just to keep safe the toxic main relationship.

    • @EleiyaUmei
      @EleiyaUmei 3 роки тому +3

      @@DiegoSinclair1820 I can't judge about Delena being problematic because my OTP was and still is Klaroline ^^' But I always felt like either Damon was making Elena to a different/worse person or TVD's creators changed a bit of her character in order for her to fit better with Damon... At the same time, the toxic cliché of a woman "fixing" a bad boy was perpetuated with Delena... (But also with Klaroline, so I *really* shouldn't judge that hard >.

  • @AgentPsyren
    @AgentPsyren 3 роки тому +79

    Child! This came at the perfect time! I was introducing my fiancé to VD and I was telling him how OP and great Bonnie was. But as I was rewatching it, Bonnie was only in episodes when her friends needed her, she never really got her own arc. Like, they go several episodes without her until she was needed like a prop.

  • @Slm99
    @Slm99 3 роки тому +463

    I also have problems with how some mythical humans were specifically supposed to be racialize people: travelers ( who are supposed to be romani people) and werewolves (who again are supposed to be indigenous) were potreid by mostly white actors and most of the time were villians and didn't always got the empathic treatment that mostly white vampires got, also don't get me started on how Katherine's Bulgarian and traveler ethnicity were so overshadowed and they could have used it more. This show like to combine different identities with mythology, but when it wasn't useful it threw them away.

    • @chloedsmith
      @chloedsmith 3 роки тому +77

      Tbh considering their utter lack of nuance and care, it's probably for the best that they didn't delve too deep into that.
      Remember how their whole little town was straight up built on slavery and Damon was a Confederate soldier and we just don't talk about that, ever? Even though his best friend is black, and her ancestor was Katherine's servant?

    • @analupelosi3319
      @analupelosi3319 3 роки тому +37

      @@chloedsmith i believe they said in the show that damon's dad forced him to join the confederacy, and he deserted bc he disagreed with it. but it's still depicted in a very weird way lmao. i never understood why she chose this background, so unecessary.

    • @acrossthesoftuniverse1575
      @acrossthesoftuniverse1575 3 роки тому +22

      and Mikaelsons were supposedly Norwegians but they never talked Old Norse/Norwegian and also lived in America for some reason (in 10th century!). they never referenced their culture, religion or history and don't even get me started on the names, because half of them are not even Nordic. the only thing suggesting they were Norwegian were the runes they've written on the walls of the cave. that's it. and i know that it's not as problematic as race and ethnicity , but it shows that the writers don't give a damn about either race or culture, no matter how significant the characters (and i'd say the originals were pretty significant, having their own bloody show)

    • @analupelosi3319
      @analupelosi3319 3 роки тому +1

      @@acrossthesoftuniverse1575 they mentioned that they came to america because of a plague that was afecting europe. that they heard from a witch of a "land where no one got sick" (because it was a werewolf colony), so that's how they ended up in america, which wasn't known by mortals yet. but later they explain that they had to leave because of dahlia and the curse.

    • @acrossthesoftuniverse1575
      @acrossthesoftuniverse1575 3 роки тому +5

      @@analupelosi3319 still, seems a bit unbelievable to me. couldn't they just live in Norway and then come to America? it wouldn't make a big difference when it comes to the plot and it'd be more realistic

  • @everafter2611
    @everafter2611 3 роки тому +23

    People don't like us but they want us to be the heros and protect them. :(
    Where's the help when we need it?

  • @emilyonizuka4698
    @emilyonizuka4698 3 роки тому +35

    kinda makes me think of a post I saw floating around about how instead of praising people for being resilient, take down the systems that force them to be that way. and there was another one about not wanting to be called resilient ever again.

  • @DeannaBaileytheRavensFan
    @DeannaBaileytheRavensFan 3 роки тому +86

    The whole "black women have to save us because white women won't" gives me "The Little Red Hen" vibes...

    • @peaxchyhearts3398
      @peaxchyhearts3398 3 роки тому +13

      I wouldn’t even be surprised if the Little Red Hen was inspired by how black women are treated in society

  • @GwendolynnBY
    @GwendolynnBY 3 роки тому +80

    bonnie was one of my favorite characters, and I am so here for criticizing how they treated her and kat graham

  • @coss1
    @coss1 3 роки тому +75

    Graham wanted to wear her hair nappy but the show runners would not allow it. There were many examples of passive aggressive racism that she had to endure both on set and behind the scenes.

    • @ereristark425
      @ereristark425 3 роки тому +15

      What? They stopped her from wearing her natural hair? Wtf

    • @natashahlongwane1773
      @natashahlongwane1773 3 роки тому +19

      Yep. She did a video for Vouge or Elle (not certain) talking about it and how she was learning how to embrace her natural hair.

    • @LadyAstarionAncunin
      @LadyAstarionAncunin 3 роки тому +4

      I can understand why they didn't. With straight hair, she looks as white as possible. I've never watched the show, but in any clips I've seen, she looks like a white woman with a very slight tan. Kinky/coily natural hair would disturb that image.

    • @cheerupbaby7792
      @cheerupbaby7792 3 роки тому +4

      @@LadyAstarionAncunin um???

    • @moonlightprincess449
      @moonlightprincess449 2 роки тому

      @@LadyAstarionAncunin she don’t look like no damn white woman she looks like a light skinned black woman who just has straight hair smh

  • @faithu.5028
    @faithu.5028 3 роки тому +144

    IVE BEEN WAITING FOR MORE PPL TO TALK ABOUT THIS. THEY DID BONNIE SO BAD!!!!! #Bamon

    • @darkservantofheaven
      @darkservantofheaven 3 роки тому +8

      I was on the Bamon train for a hot minute, but then I remembered he was a confederate soldiers

    • @Grimm_Butterfly
      @Grimm_Butterfly 3 роки тому +3

      @@darkservantofheaven ffs, his father forced him and he deserted. If youre gonna put so much into the storyline then get it right.
      Maybe Damon raping Caroline should have put you off instead of a random damn costume.

    • @artemis1796
      @artemis1796 3 роки тому

      @@Grimm_Butterfly god yes everyone was so quick to forget that and damon NEVER apologised or was held accountable for his actions.

  • @xtnabcn
    @xtnabcn 3 роки тому +8

    The strong black woman vs fragile white woman stereotype is actually related to the history of slavery in America. These women were considered immune to pain. The first gynecologists used enslaved black women to perform experiments on (surgery without anaesthetic). This stereotype still lingers, this is why black women are not taken seriously by the medical establishment and have a higher mortality rate.

  • @thecreativeaces
    @thecreativeaces 3 роки тому +59

    Just off the title alone....let's get into it!!! Bonnie deserved so much better and it really speaks to the cultural thought around the 'Black woman superhero/savior' mess

    • @TititoDeBologay
      @TititoDeBologay 3 роки тому +9

      Black women saviour/super hero of everyone but themselves. That's the thing, fiction explore the hero figure thro and fro but the moment said hero is black and a woman, the nuances of humanity are lacking

  • @izahra1997
    @izahra1997 3 роки тому +13

    I could really relate when Khadija brought up the example of being the employee the manager dumps all the work on and doesn't hold the coworkers not doing the work accountable. As black women, we need to stop letting people work us to death. Say No more often, and don't apologize. And let these people struggle until they get it together. Now, I'm only giving as much as I'm getting, and no more. It's like be a savior, for what? And they will definitely miss you when you're gone 😂

  • @thisisrandompodcast1603
    @thisisrandompodcast1603 3 роки тому +16

    I already side eyed Julie Plec for not allowing Caroline and Klaus to be together (toxic? yes, but they're my guilty pleasure). But the constant agony she put Bonnie through just infuriated me. Like it got to a point where it just felt uncomfortable to watch the show because Bonnie was either in physical pain or it was setting her up to be hurt in some capacity. If Elena or even sometimes Caroline are allowed to be selfish once in a while and do thing based on their own desires and wants, without the concern of how it affects those around them............then why can't Bonnie??
    Side Note: remember when Damon was trying to sympathize with Bonnie (i forgot the context) and he said "I love you....the way Elena loved you". I damn near flipped my table.

  • @prinaranchhod8495
    @prinaranchhod8495 3 роки тому +9

    One thing that’s never sat right with me is that vampires (especially certain originals) literally lived through historical atrocities all the while knowing they had abilities to compel people

  • @skinni_the_P00hBear
    @skinni_the_P00hBear 3 роки тому +8

    Hell, both Ian Somerhalder and Joseph Morgan wanted Bonnie to get with their characters at some point. Pitched the idea hella times, but the showrunners turned both options down smh

  • @marissawilson4644
    @marissawilson4644 3 роки тому +49

    Kat Graham deserved better. The cast & writers treated her and her character like trash.

  • @Isa-ku8vp
    @Isa-ku8vp 3 роки тому +16

    Black women aren't seen as protagonist of their own lives, it's kinda painful

    • @juliekring7574
      @juliekring7574 3 роки тому +1

      Oh jeez... Thanks for sharing ❤️

  • @nanis97712
    @nanis97712 3 роки тому +13

    Omg I didn’t know that Julie Plec tweeted this under Megan Thee Stallion’s tweet about her incident of gun violence, that is even worse like Megan is talking about the violence she went through, I don’t think she needed to be told that while she’s speaking on a vulnerable situation

  • @lyn1.6
    @lyn1.6 3 роки тому +7

    I'm so glad that this is being spoken about. Nicole Beharie went through something very similar on Sleepy Hollow. Her character was supposed to be 1 of the 2 witness of the apocalypse, but often had to finish spells after Ichabod's struggle witch of a wife kept passing out. Also, both Nicole and the actor who played Ichabod got sick. He was allowed to go to England to recover, but she had to continue to work. She got so sick that a doctor had to tell the higher ups that she was too sick to work. After that, they killed her character off and black listed her. After she died, her spirit came back to tell ichabod that she was his stepping stone.

    • @LemonDove
      @LemonDove 3 роки тому +2

      Yes!! What the Sleepy Hollow producers and FOX did to Nicole Beharie was awful!!! And completely stupid because I think most viewers dropped off after they killed off Abby. They were also pretty shitty to Lyndie Greenwood too.
      And the way they kept trying to hype Ichabod/Katrina was such a waste when Nicole Beharie and Tom Mison clearly had better chemistry. I think Mison must’ve shipped it too because he always played Ichabod as practically having heart eyes for Abby while looking totally bored around Katrina lol.

  • @lunav8026
    @lunav8026 3 роки тому +22

    Even though the "strong black woman" trope is meant to be empowering, it has also created this layout for writing one dimensional black women, where they're not allowed to be soft or vulnerable (or you know, human). And it's not just a problem of representation, it has real life consequences like medical racism (among other things) because black women are perceived to supposedly endure more pain and therefore not given painkillers or proper treatment.
    The Take did a great video analyzing "the strong black woman" trope, I greatly recommend it.

  • @annette4718
    @annette4718 3 роки тому +43

    I haven’t seen the Vampire Diary series but Bonnie’s character eerily parallels Tara from True Blood - hell Tara’s might have been slightly more traumatizing 😭 She was literally there to protect basic ass blonde Sookie ALL the time

    • @alorapendrak9752
      @alorapendrak9752 3 роки тому +9

      Ugh! Tara should have been done with Sookie after she had her turned into a vampire knowing that Tara would have preferred to die because she hated vampires!

    • @annette4718
      @annette4718 3 роки тому +9

      @@alorapendrak9752 Exactly!! Sookie so selfishly wanted her best friend back that she literally violated her most paramount request likeeee???? How self centered can you be? Literally turned her into the thing she hated the most. Nah Sookie was actually so annoying

    • @juliekring7574
      @juliekring7574 3 роки тому +1

      They masculinized the hell out of Tara and it was clearly to make her seem less beautiful and womanly than a legitimate character trait. They also set up as stark Madonna/whore dichotomy with her relationship to Jason in comparison to Jason's relationship with Jess. Plus they played into the angry black woman trope HARD. They did her so dirty.

    • @annette4718
      @annette4718 3 роки тому +2

      @@juliekring7574 I completely agree, which is such a shame because she had the foundation to be a really good character with a genuine story but it felt like they just used Tara as a vessel for trauma porn and a side piece to elevate the other characters' story. She definitely deserved better
      Also, no amount of masculinization could take away Tara's beauty. The actress who played her is a stunnerrr (But i totally agree lol)

  • @bridgetcooney5085
    @bridgetcooney5085 3 роки тому +8

    One of your white women viewers here. My best friend in highschool was black. I was the naive kind of color blind back then, I just hadn't really thought about it. We were both anime nerds, theater geeks, and I loved her dearly. It wasn't until she pointed out how she was being treated when we were cast in shows, how the teacher/director was directing her to play characters ect... That I started paying attention. It wasn't her job to teach me, but just venting her frustrations like any friend would, and being honest with me, taught me a lot. And the fact that our whole theater club wasn't afraid to call people on their bullshit. That's when I learned to listen, learned to speak out, and learned to pay attention.
    Edit: This is in response to the Plec clearly doesn't have friends who care about these issues thing. I know I'll always have learning to do. But I learned how to learn while immersed in the very passionate and diverse theater environment.

  • @frigidbutfertileee
    @frigidbutfertileee 3 роки тому +48

    I already know this video essay is gonna be good... I've been waiting for someone to talk about Kat Graham's treatment on the Vampire Diaries for a whileee

  • @chroniclyjae2054
    @chroniclyjae2054 3 роки тому +16

    The black women as saviors trope and expectation is so tiring.

  • @FantasyBookAddict
    @FantasyBookAddict 3 роки тому +58

    idk about y’all but i’m not here to save the world. i don’t need that type of burden on my shoulders 🤷🏾‍♀️

  • @borkbork4124
    @borkbork4124 3 роки тому +46

    The job comparison solidified that for me. Yeah, why do I pick up someone elses slack but they dont get transferred or fired, they get to stay and do whatever the want. No ty. This is currently happening at my workplace.
    I stopped watching TVD after season 3 or 4, but couldnt even rewatch TVD after Jenny Nicholson covered all of its issues. She goes down rabbit holes with topics, and one brief point was that Bonnie was given nothing as a character, but had to do everything in the end to save everyone. AND that when she was stuck with Damon they were only “ best friends” but werent romantic, when everyone else at one time or another got together. Thank you for exploring this!

  • @aceofspades3533
    @aceofspades3533 2 роки тому +5

    Friendly Space Ninja's Vampire Diary video sent me here! So glad I was pointed your way!

  • @ProfessorFlowers
    @ProfessorFlowers 3 роки тому +21

    *Katara Avatar voice*
    Black People
    Latine
    Asian
    White
    Long ago, the 4 nations lived in harmony. But then, the white people attacked. Only black women, masters of dealing with bullshit on every level, could stop them. But when the world needed them most, they vanished. One day we found them at a hair product convention in Atlanta. And though their hair braiding skills were great, they still had a to learn. But I believe, black women can save the world.
    *Que Avatar music* Duuuuuuuuun-Dun-Dun-DUUUUUUUUUn
    That's immediately where my mind goes to.

    • @KhadijaMbowe
      @KhadijaMbowe  3 роки тому +6

      I can’t believe it took me so long to get the reference

  • @hanna401
    @hanna401 3 роки тому +26

    White women should probably do what they want supportive white men to do. Run interference, protect, show up, and talk about it. It's pretty easy to visualize and understand. Like, what do white women want from supportive white men? Cool, cool, maybe do that thing!

  • @CoquetFleur
    @CoquetFleur 3 роки тому +42

    I don’t think I Watch Vampire diaries until the end but I always thought that I rather watch a show that focuses on Elenas two best friends Bonnie and Caroline. Especially Bonnie seemed so powerful and was never used. She just could never be happy 😕 either like just make her have a great and chill life with a cool boyfriend and leave her alone.

    • @KaiInMotion
      @KaiInMotion 3 роки тому +2

      In season 5 Elena literally leaves and Caroline and Bonnie become the main characters for 2 seasons.

  • @williamj.dovejr.8613
    @williamj.dovejr.8613 9 місяців тому +2

    Don't forget how some of the actors treated her during one of the comic con panels.. trying to talk for her. She was fuming but she stayed poised and composed.

  • @blessedbrebre
    @blessedbrebre 3 роки тому +63

    On a lighter note. Eileen saying "beast" in her best dramatic soap opera voice will always be hilarious🤣🤣🤣

    • @thobsss
      @thobsss 3 роки тому

      She was so sick for that😂😭

  • @LemonDove
    @LemonDove 3 роки тому +15

    Remember when they randomly inserted Caroline singing Eternal Flame but never gave Bonnie any musical moments even though Kat Graham‘a singing career has been way more successful than Candice King’s?

  • @mzgreenjeansapproves
    @mzgreenjeansapproves 3 роки тому +26

    I feel this so much! The job thing especially! Oh lawd I remember when I was a teen working in retail and a small earthquake happened. It's kinda common here and it was like a rumble and not life ending or even a bad clean up. The point is that an older yt woman grabbed me and asked me what to do? I couldn't shake her off and my manager told me I was cold and to be considerate of her feelings. It still irritates me to this day that I as a teenager had to make this woman old enough to be my mother feel better. Maybe it was part of the customer service gig but I hated it. Why didn't that frail grown ass woman go to the authority figure for protection and direction?

  • @jkhappy1234
    @jkhappy1234 3 роки тому +16

    Ian Somerhalder told the writers that if they kill off kat he would leave the show

  • @vodka9384
    @vodka9384 3 роки тому +89

    Honestly, as a whole, TVD, outside of the first two seasons, was poorly written. Hell, the only good and coherent season was S1, S2 only for Katherine's fuckery. And I have to disagree about Caroline, yeah she went through shit and was automatically more relatable than Elena who was blander than wonder bread, but her plotlines were far more consistent than anyone else's and I have to wonder how much of that was actually because she was pretty and blonde?

  • @BenjiXAddictX4Ever
    @BenjiXAddictX4Ever Рік тому +3

    Explains why Julie tried (and failed) to redeem herself by casting a black woman as the main character in her latest canceled work.

  • @ZeinaIan
    @ZeinaIan 3 роки тому +12

    Bonnie was my favourite female character and I always hated how they treated her and they even ruined her happy ending at the end which made me so mad. After seeing a video of the way the staff and some cast treated Kat I was even more angry. As a kid I didn't realise that Kat was being treated badly and I'm so upset that they did that to her.

  • @xXDeathMelodyXx
    @xXDeathMelodyXx 3 роки тому +18

    Bonnie LITERALLY carried the ENTIRE show🙃

  • @latfnltihtecwtfna4332
    @latfnltihtecwtfna4332 3 роки тому +7

    Now you got me thinking. It’s crazy how the only time (I think) when Elena’s life wasn’t chosen over Bonnie’s and when Bonnie was actually able to catch a break was when the actual actress, Nina Dobrev, decided to leave the show.

  • @Shandykey
    @Shandykey 3 роки тому +39

    I could like write a whole essay, have a whole dissertation about how this show fundamentally changed how I as a black girl (now more woman but that was back then lmao) navigate media as a whole. It was really the breaking point for me. It's the reason why I barely even watch tv shows anymore but since I still wanna watch things I just opted out to going 98% anime.
    Just literally can't stand watching a show where I can't even at least have a good black female side char. It was not even enough for me. If it's not a Lovecraft country, Blood and Water, Sella and the spades which are good or great examples for black female castings I simply do not want it, I'm really tired. As a major vampire fan since I was a kid that Twilight/TVD era rly sucked me dry which I realise the irony.

  • @TequilaMockingbird88
    @TequilaMockingbird88 3 роки тому +7

    This echoes what happened to Nicole Beharie on Sleepy Hollow. They really sidelined their lead actress to protect and highlight the white supporting character that they also paid dust to by kneecapping her abilities and giving her nothing to do.
    Nicole went to Juliard and had amazing chemistry with her co lead, but the writers were like “let’s ignore all that potential to focus on the weakass witch character who never casts any spells and never speaks above a whisper!”
    I’m still heated

  • @jupitergonewild4933
    @jupitergonewild4933 3 роки тому +69

    Some black women are too nice and forgiving practice more self preservation. Ladies it's not your responsibility to protect and defend the whole world that's too much of a burden to carry. Being too understanding of other groups of people can give them an open invitation to be disrespectful towards your emotions, needs and traumatic experiences ( look at the Asian doll Nikita Dragon situation). There's nothing sinful about making sure your needs are being met before you help someone else.

    • @so.many.obstacles
      @so.many.obstacles 3 роки тому +10

      That’s what I’m on in all regards, self-preservation.

    • @livinglife7515
      @livinglife7515 3 роки тому +5

      Yess👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

    • @k101-c8y
      @k101-c8y Рік тому

      I thought I was the only one that noticed this.

  • @Bsouls5678
    @Bsouls5678 3 роки тому +11

    I remember an episode in which Caroline had insinuated that Bonnie wasn’t pretty enough to have guys fighting over her like Caroline and Elena did. And I remember thinking that was so messed up. I think Caroline is beautiful but Bonnie is just as beautiful maybe even more beautiful. It really shows how race plays into how these white writers see beauty

    • @moonlightprincess449
      @moonlightprincess449 2 роки тому +5

      Caroline had nothing on bonnie I actually think she was the least attractive on the show

  • @pauli_joy
    @pauli_joy 3 роки тому +25

    Watching your videos,as a South East Asian who has never really dealt with racism ever,it made me realize how these priviledged white people just end up evolving their ways of racism to y'all and its honestly infuriating like wtf 😭

  • @MegaCassie83
    @MegaCassie83 3 роки тому +33

    Her tweet and this show gave me Daf in Get Put vibes. That whole "I voted for Obama" or the Karen's who say "I'm not a racist I have a Black friend".

  • @niyang4315
    @niyang4315 3 роки тому +33

    I never clicked so fast! Recently rewatched all the TVDU shows. I'm glad this is still a topic lol. It's just still sooo frustrating. Also on the topic of historic accuracy, I was kinda hoping to hear your opinion on the depiction of slavery in The Originals, with Klaus saving Marcel (literally being the white savior). But also how clear it is that racial discrimination was obviously a thing in this universe and could have as well been explored through the Bennet witches being the vampire's sidekicks/maids throughout history. No matter how rich Bonnie's story could have been, Julie Plec couldn't let her become more than the sidekick who exists to save everyone's asses.

    • @alorapendrak9752
      @alorapendrak9752 3 роки тому +1

      I stopped watching originals because I liked Klaus as a sympathetic villain on VD but on his own show, it seemed like every character was suddenly forced to validate pissy man baby Klaus's feelings constantly! Marcel got it the worst whenever his adopted parent threw a temper tantrum he was usually the one who suffered unless there was any kind of woman nearby.

    • @niyang4315
      @niyang4315 3 роки тому +1

      @@alorapendrak9752 Pissed off baby Klaus is spot on. TO was carried by JoMo's superior acting and H&E's relationship anyway. Don't worry, you didn't miss out on anything... it's basically 5 seasons of the same old, never ending family drama.

    • @niyang4315
      @niyang4315 3 роки тому +3

      That being said I did enjoy it almost more than TVD though(tho, TVD is more of a classic obviously). I like the actors, as well as the absence of an Elena-like character

    • @alorapendrak9752
      @alorapendrak9752 3 роки тому +2

      @@niyang4315 I thought so I would have returned if Elijah grew a backbone and realized the reason why Klaus never changed was that he never let Klaus hit rock bottom! took hope repaired his relationships with Rebecca and Marcel and decided to cut ties with his abusive brother and stop sacrificing any healthy relationships because Klaus doesn't like it! Weirdly enough Elijah and Klaus are the opposite toxic of the Salvadore siblings toxic. Who's biggest issue is their lack of support for one another because they're so fixated on playing out the roles their abusive parents assigned them! While Klaus and his brother are enablers who support each other beyond reason.

  • @tendibee
    @tendibee 3 роки тому +7

    Words cannot express how much I detest Julie Plec. Even when you think of that one episode of Legacies where they completely ignored Bonnie's existence when doing a TVD recap. They said she wasn't as integral to the show. Legacies is about witches but they choose to ignore the main witch of TVD?!? 🤦🏽‍♀

  • @Pinkladyisv
    @Pinkladyisv 3 роки тому +7

    Thanks for talking about this. It upset me so much how Bonnie’s character was frequently needed for major plot lines but never got any real storylines outside helping her friends.