It was hilarious. The best looking woman rates herself a 6.7. The other attractive woman, even before Miss 6.7 rates herself, is watching her suspiciously the whole time. The remaining three all rate themselves 10s.
That’s a sweet comment but it’s not entirely true. Women know exactly where they stand in the pecking order. That said, even the most beautiful woman will be self-critical. And, yes, a little humility goes a long way. When it comes to relationships, most men would prefer a down-to-earth 8 than a conceited 10.
@@todesque Knowing where they stand and telling everybody are two different things. Thats exactly what the comment said/meant. Finally you agreed, with your last sentence.
wouldn't that be nice? But I don't think such a woman exists (a literal 10 that rates herself as low as 8). Correction: such women don't exist where I live.....
Being humble is not a part of SMV, being "easy" might be but honesty maybe not, rating is not usually practiced unless in reference to "pick-up" or hook up.
then there's how women rate each other: when everyone is watching, everybody's a queen, everybody's a goddess, everybody's a perfect 10, you go girl! but behind each other's backs, it's who has a flat chest, who has a fat ass, who's a slut, etc.
Not really. They are humble they say they are an 8 but a guy who would be a 6 normally is considered a 4 in their eyes. They use the same game as the american girls, just a slightly different metric
OMG. There is absolutely nothing wrong with feeling a bit ugly from time to time. It keeps people Humble. Humility, when done correctly, can be way more attractive than false confidence. A person who knows what their strengths and weaknesses are, tend to have a huge headstart and advantage in life. People who lie to themselves... not so much. Nice work Lynn.
I'm from Poland and in our culture there's always been this expectation to always tell women that they're good looking, which was always annoying the hell out of me, starting from my childhood, because there was this straight on pressure to lie to make women feel better and I don't mind keeping it to myself that I don't like something about someone else's appearance but if I'm the one receiving a direct question from someone else with a very clear expectation of what I'm supposed to say, that's too much for me, I hate this kind of dishonesty. At the same time, it's perfectly common to imply that men are ugly both on individual and collective level. We even have this expression "the beautiful sex/gender" about women that's been used commonly as a synonym for word "women" in media etc. and for example my mom once told me "if a man is just slightly better looking than a pig, he can already be called handsome". There's also this commonly repeated myth that here in Poland we have the most beautiful women in the world (which doesn't align with the data of how foreigners actually rate women from different countries- I've never seen Poland on top of these rankings) but there are no equivalent myths about the inherent superiorty of Polish men over men from other nations. And I get it that culturally it's probably a bigger insult for a woman than a man to be called ugly as men have more ways or "redeeming" their physical ugliness to gain high status otherwise, but as a young boy I often felt so undervalued and worthless compared to girls and women, because, among other things, there was this cultural pressure to give them these unearned compliments that boys or men never received. This contribued to making me resentful and asocial because I felt like girls and women were unjustly preferred over boys and men in many situations, so why contribute to a society that doesn't value me? And then, when I was a bit older, I realised that if we correct for our sexual and cultural biases, there's probably nothing that makes women universally better looking than men. For example I noticed how the skin on my forearms and my legs looks so much nicer and healthier than that of the vast majority of women I see on the street and pretty much every woman out there has something about their bodies that's much uglier than the equivalent on my body and I'm not even that healthy and good looking myself as compared to other men.
From a British man's perspective and has met and known many Polish women, they're far more deserving of praise and compliments compared to their British counterparts. Polish women are objectively more beautiful simply because their efforts are minimal. Healthy diet/active lifestyle and minimal make up, that's it! I believe British women would be far more naturally prettier if they followed this example and stop deluding themselves.
I’m from the US, just returned from a trip to Poland, and yes the women there are much more beautiful and it’s noticeable the difference (both sexes honestly are more appealing). You see more frequently in the US abuse of makeup, poor dietary habits and health that are a turn off physically. But yes I agree culturally it’s bizarre to me to openly agree socially to give default praise in the manner you describe. I think it does more harm and can be damaging to the self esteem to both sexes even
women in Poland are beautiful, not all, but 30% of young women are as beautiful as 2% in USA or UK. Not only in Poland, the whole eastern Europe has more attractive women then in other countries. The problem is, those women are very emotional and they have a very strong personalities. Many famous actresses, models etc. have polish ancestry. Polish men are the same as other men.
Same here in the USA but 10x worse, especially considering the sheer amount of single mothers raising boys. It’s been pounded into our heads at a young age to give utmost respect and non stop complements just to make someone feel good who doesn’t deserve it and does not reciprocate.
As someone who lived in the U.S for a very long time, I’ve seen the decline of social norms stemming from toxic feminism. Women here thinks they’re too good for the average blue collar men. Which is why I am leaving this place for Scandinavia. Where the 10’s are really 10’s, and not a self proclaimed rating.
Lived in Scandinavia for a few years. Its not that their 10 is better than another countries 10. But there seems to be a huge amount of 10's and very few sub 6's.
At the beginning, when you asked the question, “Whom do you think of?”, only one name flashed into my mind: *_Audrey Hepburn._* Consistently lovely (and the consistence is important), superbly talented (actress, model, dancer, singer, humanitarian, etc.), and (by all reports) a pleasure to work with. In Hollywood, an area over-saturated (dripping) with the most vicious gossip imaginable, I never heard (I'm a 73 year old USNavy veteran, retired) one reputable critic utter a single bad word against her. If you want to be a 10, inner beauty is even and ever more important than outer. There are, of course, many, many other beautiful, talented, and genuinely nice women, but as I said, she was the FIRST to blaze in my brain. This is a *_good video;_* thank you for sharing this with us!
The age difference between you and I is quite significant, but the person who flashed I to my mind was Dolly Parton, for many of the same reasons you said Audrey Hepburn. It's nice to randomly click with someone despite differences.
@@themainc this is actually kind of funny, because I am going to guess you're in your 60's meaning you and Frank would have a similar spread as you and me (56) and my immediate thought was Laura Branigan. Perhaps there is one celebrity woman in each generation who defines "the perfect woman" for that age group, since I would describe for much the same reasoning (physically attractive, certainly, but also humble and personable, but perhaps most of all, womanly.)
Now I understand why people from Canada and people from the Nederlands like each other so much. In both countries, being pretentious is considered vulgar. We Canadians are far more likely than Americans to poke fun at ourselves. To us, self-effacing humour is considered a healthy way to remind ourselves that we're just flawed humans, like everyone else. It's fun and it keeps us grounded.
These women display the Miss Peggy logic: "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And it may be necessary from time to time to give a stupid or misinformed beholder a black eye". Find us beautiful, we'll beat it in you. We all have eyes, and we know better.
Thank you for making this video, every woman feels insecure about their appearance when they are younger if you work on herself, she will feel better by ageing. (this happened to me; I'm 30, and I feel much better about myself to compared to the past)
@@Lynneverly At the same time these... "Look I'am a 10, gorgeous" do say again, they are around perfect direction. At the same time they are thinking like histionics in life, narcissistic. It means doing value rankings, seeing themselves as a piece of art in such a mission. Seeing themselves as princesses, queens. They love to present themselves and want the upaling scoring applause, they love to manipulate+dictate no matter what reality demands and use this overpower as well as pushup in this artificial value race. And then they have a selfconcept as a toddler, no he is much more clean of these narc ideologic delusions. Btw, they often do say... that it is not a compensation out of hard issues. it is a real addiction, it is like the natue of normal being and these acts, thoughts feel so good. O ther ones want to justify themselves in some cases and say, its the other ones fault(trauma and so on), that they did choose this way of the thinking, persuasion offers of the role models out there. They have had not just one role model to answer in diverse ways on asholes in family or so...
@@Lynneverly And "self Love" is a popular phrase of Psychology. It is out of a concept of "self hate is not healthy, as it is to see on these persons". But it is disordered to create a great love bucket and to use it. Narcissism theorry of these populists in Psychology avoids extremely, that a great part of them does not compensate self hate. It is no compansation mechanism there. All the cases of too much confidence and a real grandiosity and a real feeling thrilled about oneself (self love as a normla person would love someone, what is really delusional to do it with oneself generally, like feeling hyped, want sex and babies with the self). The seeng of the self is more a. Okay, fine direction, or not in this and that, a "Well, be and go!". A knowing of properties to topics, and about believes, persuasions, knowlege, habits, momently habitualized reactions and being fluid in this with gaps, construction sites. Who just thinks yeah/wow, or neah... has problems in self concept. And just saying love the self is dangerous pupulism, while it is the base of standard narcissism of the masses and to a huge part of the highest grade with competitive sadism fun, all such.
@@Lynneverly And then the "covert Narcissism", (hits the point, the mind more than vulnerable in these mass cases). It is here in Europe and Asia, sometimes in Lat.Am. and the populat mass Left of the more often the case. They learned, especially as women to play humle, kind and cover their exploitative and measuring, valueranking ego. They are these ones, that try to find justifications if caught. They take usable ones as partners and have nearly the same low interest in growth. They would do it just out of their own, learning from themselves, so they stay sectretly as the master. And they can hide ith behind 4th wave feminism as well. So they have real command, not eyeheight and a upper position in all situations. You do see them posing, but less, maybe just happy in more passive dominance. Communal narcissists are here falling together with these ones. Humble heroes, that are interestingly selfish in many act of their mission or main mission. And it all is as well influenced, because in tendence male socialized narcs are in tendence a bit differen to tendencially female socialized narcs. The women with about rating a 6.7 is absolutely not free to be it. I know a person, that is absolute like her surface and behabior at the first glance, but after some thousand psychologig deep talk words, in which she opens up in feeling safe, it is such a cometitive, upvaluing, control and kicks addicted person. She coses the nice ones, sometimes or often lower looking as herself with the overower she has then and plays out in a way. She changes places since USA, after nevery used out soil as she is a bit more extreme than some and is now after germany ... in netherlands.
@@LynneverlyA secret is that attractiveness is a bonus to men. It is a "plus factor." On the other hand, any man who wants a lot of children will care a lot more about age. And women do naturally become more unattractive due to aging.
I'm a man in my 60s, this just reaffirms what I've always known, women are from another planet. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, in my opinion only 1 in that group approaches a 10 & 1 other is an 8, the rest I wouldn't touch with a 10 foot pole.
Real confidence does not only come from facing your own insecurities, it is finding meaning in life. It is developing yourself. Study. Learn a trade. Find a profession and a hobby you like and have some talent for. Aspire to be good at something. Choose people around you that support you, and that includes telling you things may not be great. That is how you develop a degree of social standing, which has little to do with wealth. These same '10's' will tell you all the above is 'just the bare minimum' in life, 'normies' just scraping by. They have it wrong. If you tie in looks to self-confidence, you're setting yourself up for failure, as you'll never be as beautiful as between the ages from 16-25. And you have at least 50 years to go after that... There is another misconception in it too... People are drawn towards the average, not the extremes!
8:12 "Instead of focusing on how we look to others maybe it's time to start working on our morals" - I saw this thought in Decameron (1350-1353), but I bet it is even much older than that. ;)
I love this down to earth perspective about the dating market. Its unfortunate how so much narcissism, ego and hostility have pervaded society. Unfortunately a great number of people have lost their way. I would know, I lost my way, but fortunately i found my way back to this kind of humane perspective. Thank You!
I am a 6. Just straight up. Maybe 6.5. My big bros are a 8 and a 9 respectively My cons -Born with lots of chronic pain -Thanks to that lots of mental trauma and physical scars -Can't be employed -Mentally about 10 years younger then my body -Can be childish My pros -Intellectually about 10 years older then my body -Looks approachable and good natured -Have traveled across the world -Am extremely sensitive to others emotions -Addicted to leaning, both physical skills and knowledge in general Also Dutch, Hallo
I don't know what you are talking about. The rating discussed here is only tied to looks. Nothing to do with personality, accomplishments, experience, etc. I even hate people who use muscles, tattoos, piercings, wigs, extensions, etc.. to enhance their looks, like you are just hiding the real you. In my prime I was a genuine 8.. I would get stared in awe by 80% of people on a daily basis, been asked out by same-sex, got compliments that I didint deserve, got opportunities more easily than others, women fell in love at first sight., babies looking at me more than others.. etc. It's a whole other level that most people would find arrogant or narcissist, etc. and i get it.. but until you experience it firsthand, you will never know what I;m talking about.
Good video. From my perspective, I don’t think or remember ever being around a 10, female or male, but plenty of 9’s. And when you are, you really really know it. Every feature, any part of them you look at, your brain just screams at you saying wow, this person has spectacular features and also just has a personality that just exemplifies something special. It is not common at all. That’s just what I think. And I rate myself in the middle
Very insightful video. What I observed spending a year writing a book in a coffee shop next to Columbia University: girls grouped by their ranking. That is, 4s were friends with 4s, 7s with 7s and 9s with 9s. And this makes sense because women's appearance is so important (to everyone unfortunately) so it is less stressful not having to manage potential competition within a friendship. Perhaps there is even some kind of deeper strategic intuition along the lines of how males will interact with them as a group (ugly friend scares them away, pretty friend steals them). Shallow but realistic?
Thank you for doing a deep dive on this weird phenomenon. I considered it Delusion but did not factor peer pressure as you pointed out. You are very beautiful!
I always look forward to your videos and insights Lynn! This fight for status in America is as bad as you think and I think a lot of it has to do with social media 100%. Women, who are the largest users, are always in a constant comparison mode. I can only imagine the insecurity this induces and I think to combat this insecurity women are told to have an irrational amount of self confidence. However, this isn't to say that social media only has a toxic affect on women. Men are also being influenced into a perpetual cycle of self improvement and told they are never good enough. Body building or as I like to call it "body destruction" is become very popular among young men here in the states. So I think the solution is promoting a digital cleanse in our societies, a big push for people to get off these social sites and out into reality. I actually watched an interesting video recently about the affect that mirrors have had on society and I think it's synonymous with the affect social media has had. They both have broke our perceptions of ourselves. Just imagine, mirrors as we know them to be have only been around since around 200 years ago, developed by the German chemist Justus von Liebig. Prior to this only the rich had access to "mirror" which were limited to finely polished metals that didn't give the replication quality that modern mirrors have. In prior centuries you'd have really only looked at yourself in reflections from glass or water which gives distorted views. It makes you wonder what society would be like without the ability to efficiently look at ourselves. Maybe a topic for a future video? Feel free to use the idea.
I like your take. The constant comparison mode really does have a negative effect on your happiness. And for a lot of people it is hard to turn off, since it is partially subconscious. If you are constantly shown people who seem to have better lives, you will start to feel like you are not up to par. While in reality you might be doing just fine compared to most. Even if you move "up the ladder", you will start comparing yourself with people who are doing even better. You only compare up, not down. You can never win this game. But what do you mean by "body destruction"? I don't see going to the gym as a negative. Unless you are going to the extreme by taking steroids, or have some insane unhealthy routine.
@@deanx1 I mostly mean "body building" or the obsession with overly unnatural large muscles. I think moderate exercise is fine but people who go to the gym multiple times a week, eat high amounts of calories, and obsess over being bigger are destroying their bodies. This constant stress will age you extremely fast and will essentially make you disabled when you're older.
Thanks! I always really appreciate your insightful comments and support! And I agree, social media hasn't done much good for either gender. It really helped me to just delete the apps from my phone. And sounds like an interesting video! Is it on UA-cam?
@@Lynneverly Unfortunately the video is behind a paywall but I'll give you a summary. Basically, mirrors prior to 1835 only consisted of finely polished metals which were mostly owned by the wealthy class of people but even so only provided a distorted blurry image. Most people prior to 1835 would have only saw their reflection in water but even then it was distorted. The theory is that after the introduction of mirrors in 1835 people started to focus on their own looks more and more. This created insecurity but also created an opportunity for advertisers later to create self-perception identity issues. For instance, every clothing store you enter into has lots of mirrors but there are also pictures of people wearing different types of clothing, you're actively comparing yourself to these "models" and the way you look. It shifts your perception of yourself. Just imagine how many times you see yourself everyday. You probably see yourself first thing every morning in the bathroom mirror. Then think about how this makes you compare yourself to others. Imagine a world where you could see yourself or at least wouldn't be able to see yourself so clearly. Imagine this was the case for everyone and how this might change society. Sort of interesting thought, no? I think social media is an even worse mirror. You're actively comparing your social content to other people's social content. It creates an existential feeling of not being "good enough".
Sounds very interesting indeed. Thanks for the summary! I never really about mirrors that way until you brought it up. You make good points. I also think social media is worse than mirrors. Mainly because it’s designed to make you addicted and keep you on the platform for as long as possible. They use your psychology against you. And using people’s insecurities of comparing themselves to others is one of their strategies. Of course it’s not all negative and there are also oppertunities that come with social media. But for most people it’s very hard to use it in a healthy way.
I grew up in a place where humility is valued and it's by far the most attractive quality in a woman for me. I think it's good to try and look as good as you can but the same way you want others to be forgiving of you one should be forgiving of them as well. In the long run you'll always fall more in love with someone who stays in shape and treats you well over someone who's naturally good-looking; people just don't realize the value of connections that build over time over instant attraction.
I love how brief yet informative and not overlaping your videos are. Showing lot of research and not publishing 10 videos monthly. Do you have a Buy me a Coffee? They take 5% fee compared to UA-cam's 30%...
Thanks for the compliment! 😊 I did not have one yet, but I created an account now. I put the link in my channel bio. Thanks a lot for the tip! 😊 Didn’t know that app existed.
Yes don’t worry, it’s me. Made the account late at night yesterday and just used the link it automatically gave me. I’ve customized it now :). But thanks for the heads up!
"Confidence" combining delusion and arrogance is never attractive. The kind of confidence which is attractive is relaxed and easy going. It is not trying to prove anything to anyone and is comfortable in one's own skin.
The irony of the Dutch girl considering herself a 7.5 and the larger US woman considering herself a 10 is hilarious. I am obviously biased in my preferences but the disparity really tickled me.
Heh, we had a slightly different (joke) scale from 0 to 10 - but even a 1 would have to be awesome already, since it was a "10 finger scale", as in, "how many fingers would I sacrifice for her" 😂
As far as most women are concerned according to past experiences I've had with them, as long as they have the appropriate plumbing, that makes them an automatic 5 from the very start. Anything else like a brain or personality just adds to their status...to them.
Wow! Good job! I haven't come across anything so psychologically balanced when it comes to this subject! The North American view on the subject is so toxic, and your approach is refreshing, to be honest. It never dawned on me to look outside my continent for cultural relevance in the approach. If humanity doesn't figure this shit out fast, we'll be facing a devastating population collapse!
This is the same as participation trophies The current drama happening with the WNBA is another great example of a participation trophy culture I really liked how you summed up this video Great advice for everyone
It's sad, that everything revolves around the looks. Yeah, I know it's all about social media and dating apps. I am 60 years of age and pretty happy that this madness doesn't influence my life. But I am sorry for the younger ones.
I believe that 7/10 is beauty on the outside the last 3 is personality. Being a nice person, caring about others, being funny, having a good work ethic exc..
The thing is they think saying lies to themselves will actually solve the deep dark insecurity they have about themselves but in reality it doesn't and it is pushing everyone away.
The 6.7 is the most adorable one and dressed feminine as far as i could notice. I am from Belgium (dutch part) but went to live in Philippines, coz my wife i married is really gorgeous in every way (i don't mean only the looks, but the modesty, behaviour, mentality...). 12 years later we are still happily together, and i should never trade her for a '10' i saw in the vid. About the female moderator here, good u stand up, saw it was all baked air and point these things out. Acknowledging u were wrong in the past and change the vision, is a sign of smartness. Only the stupid ones stay grounded in wrong thinking and behaviour. Gonna check more vids.
For me, the "10 point scale" is a TOTAL of the maximum "5 stars" that you can potentially get for the two halves of the overall picture of what makes up any person... That is the external/physical/looks part, and the internal/mental/psychological/Spiritual/moral/overall character part... and unless you're actually totally "perfect" enough in ALL of those things, (i.e. in order to actually get the full "5 stars" in BOTH your external AND internal qualities), then it is statistically impossible to actually be a "10"... One can come close to that, IF they are an absolutely amazing, positive energy person and good Spirit on the inside, AND ALSO they are extremely attractive AND healthy and in shape physically, however, since no-one is ever really absolutely "perfect", especially not in ALL ways, no-one can actually be a full on perfect "10" in all reality, and if they ever say that they indeed are that then they're just totally delusional and definitely lying to themselves, and also essentially stating that they have absolutely nothing to improve about themselves, which ultimately just completely shuts you down for any room for personal growth!
To the first part, that would make a 10 close to impossible, since physically attractive women frequently get the kind of "affirmation" that creates self entitled egocentric bitches, so scoring high in both categories is highly unlikely. While being a nice person will have little to no effect on your physical appearance, looking hot is almost guaranteed to make you an ugly person. As to the second part, very good point.
Thanks for the fresh breath of Dutch air. The USA could, and should, learn a lot from the Netherlands, which I found to be a cut above in nearly every respect.
You’re close to a 10 mainly due to the fact you said you don’t use social media. You’re also quite easy on the eye.. keep up the based work, it’s truly refreshing.
Very clever. Very true. And personality also comes into force in the scale when men view women. You can “look at 10” but if you have no personality you won’t be one.
It is interesting how rating yourself less makes others rate you more. Both behaviors overvaluing and undervaluing yourself are in psychology treated same way and called narcissistic trauma.
I saw a 10 once walking through a mall. From the walkway above, your could see a wave of heads turning to look at her as she's passed through. It was unreal.
I did some research too. There is an AI that can objectively measure the woman's pretty score, ignoring her makeup (it measures common facial features, like distance from nose to mouth, between eyes etc). Advice for men - measure different women 1000-2000 times, and you'll learn to do it without AI. Then it does not matter what she says. Next, measure two scores - their actual one, and their pretty score as perceived by you, if you were to ignore any logic. If your perceived score is higher than actual, you are both very compatible, it's a marriage potential. If it's lower, you are less compatible, but if perceived score is within your acceptable criteria for dating, it will might work, still. Based on mental compatibility and common values, for example. Reference: I know a woman who is 9.87 out of 10 as measured by her best pic, we are mutual best friends.
"Every woman can be a ten." What a horrible idea of self-love and acceptance that is! Don't you know that your self-worth needs to be dependent on how men rate you? If every woman is a 10, what's the point of men objectifying women in the first place? What a blessing that Lynn Everly is here with her "research" to expose this feminist lie! God bless you, Lynn and your good work!
They started this horse manure in the 90s with self esteem projects in elementary schools. "Real confidence comes from doing the hard work and facing your insecurities" is absolutely correct.
@@DirtnapJack I am not sure which one is correct. I had chats with guys that often had a bit of both. Especially when you watch certain movies with them ;-)
the difference is if you're a guy and you claim to be "a Rambo" when you can't even bench 135, other guys will just laugh at you instead of confirming your delusions.
A lot of shortcut about confidence. Explore the concept of "imposter syndrome", it will help you understand a lot of things about the other side of the mirror. Especially when you face people overinflating their egos.
I recently watched a video by Chris Williamson where he interviewed Dr Tania Reynolds. The video was titled "The Hidden Motives Behind Female Friendships". I was raised by women, and I thought I understood them fairly well, but this was a real eye-opener. Highly recommended. A view into a potentially vicious world. Sheesh! As a guy, I found it almost incomprehensibly Machiavellian.
Something you forgot to mention is that this is also about signaling to men that they do not want them. This is a major way women get ego a well, by rejecting and in general being nasty to men. This is also one of the leading factors as to why women usually breakup with men and not the other way around. It’s extremely important to them to be the desired one, so they would rather do the breaking up than be broken up with.
I'm sure that's a factor, but I think the main reason for that is economics. A woman's standard of living is unlikely to decrease after a breakup, and will probably increase, while a man's standard of living will definitely diminish. Family law greatly favours women, and division of assets by contribution focuses almost exclusively on the man's contribution. If the man was the primary financial provider, he is most likely going to be continuing to provide for the woman after the break up, but a woman who was the homemaker will never be expected to continue cooking her ex's meals or cleaning the car he's living in so he can afford her alimony. Facing financial ruin is an incentive for men to keep the relationship intact, while the prospect of taking a financial win and being free to pursue the next mark is an incentive for women to end it.
Regards from Germany. It has become some sort of epidemic to behave like that. Social media has just multiplied the effect this is causing. It's a conflict averse behavioral pattern that backfires once you show your true colors. So in the end this is all about the value of attention, and of course how you learn how to get it. It's funny that you said that you were not the typical hot chick in school. This actually makes a lot of sense because you learned that kindness matters a lot more than looks. You can also recognize this pattern in a lot of women who only became attractive at a later point in their lives. They are happy and more appreciative of what they have for the most part. The ones that peak in high school, however often go into a different direction. That goes for men and women both by the way, it is just more visible in women because of the way a lot of them view themselves.
I’m a 6’3 tall man.Only 1 percent of the whole male population grows to that height.But I personally just give myself a 5,Im not ashamed of that.I know I don’t look like a model.The delusion feed to young women through social media is very concerning.
Love how by the end of the video the guy showed a woman that smokes as 1 on the scale 1-10, for me idc how good looking or nice a woman is, as soon as she smokes anything that's ruins it all. Like imagine coming for a kiss just to have this marijuana or vape smell all over the place, yuck
The Dutch girl who called herself a “7.5” is far prettier than any of the women who called themselves a “10” on the podcast and it’s not even remotely close
I find it kinda sad and a little funny that the "6.7" was easily the prettiest woman there.
It’s pretty common it’s a statement in itself it says she has the confidence to say a number.
It was hilarious. The best looking woman rates herself a 6.7. The other attractive woman, even before Miss 6.7 rates herself, is watching her suspiciously the whole time. The remaining three all rate themselves 10s.
usually the one rating themselves closest to 5 is the prettiest one in all aspects
Eeeeeasily…..
I find it kind of funny, I find it kind of sad, the dreams in which I’m dying are the best I’ve ever had….
"6.7" has a brain. She instantly made herself the most interesting woman in the room. Very clever.
even she is overrating herself. she's a 5.5
A truly '10' woman will rate herself '8' at most, because it's humility that takes you to '10'.
That’s a sweet comment but it’s not entirely true. Women know exactly where they stand in the pecking order. That said, even the most beautiful woman will be self-critical. And, yes, a little humility goes a long way. When it comes to relationships, most men would prefer a down-to-earth 8 than a conceited 10.
@@todesque Knowing where they stand and telling everybody are two different things. Thats exactly what the comment said/meant. Finally you agreed, with your last sentence.
wouldn't that be nice? But I don't think such a woman exists (a literal 10 that rates herself as low as 8).
Correction: such women don't exist where I live.....
Being humble is not a part of SMV, being "easy" might be but honesty maybe not, rating is not usually practiced unless in reference to "pick-up" or hook up.
A truly pretty woman will not rate herself at all. Its classless
then there's how women rate each other:
when everyone is watching, everybody's a queen, everybody's a goddess, everybody's a perfect 10, you go girl!
but behind each other's backs, it's who has a flat chest, who has a fat ass, who's a slut, etc.
its biggest idiocy to call out every woman a ten but then saying most men are 3 :D
Social media and simps are terrible.
As a man I must say, yeah!
The English are too polite to be honest. The Dutch are too honest to be polite. Right?
No, "far right" is the new buzz word
Your English is 'Perfect'. It is just that many English people feel it is normal and acceptable to be rude and vulgar.
The English I've met have always been rather blunt and direct like Russians
Not really. They are humble they say they are an 8 but a guy who would be a 6 normally is considered a 4 in their eyes.
They use the same game as the american girls, just a slightly different metric
@@cedricdellafaille1361 I don't consider referring to oneself as an "8" to be humble. LOL
OMG. There is absolutely nothing wrong with feeling a bit ugly from time to time. It keeps people Humble. Humility, when done correctly, can be way more attractive than false confidence. A person who knows what their strengths and weaknesses are, tend to have a huge headstart and advantage in life. People who lie to themselves... not so much. Nice work Lynn.
I'm from Poland and in our culture there's always been this expectation to always tell women that they're good looking, which was always annoying the hell out of me, starting from my childhood, because there was this straight on pressure to lie to make women feel better and I don't mind keeping it to myself that I don't like something about someone else's appearance but if I'm the one receiving a direct question from someone else with a very clear expectation of what I'm supposed to say, that's too much for me, I hate this kind of dishonesty. At the same time, it's perfectly common to imply that men are ugly both on individual and collective level. We even have this expression "the beautiful sex/gender" about women that's been used commonly as a synonym for word "women" in media etc. and for example my mom once told me "if a man is just slightly better looking than a pig, he can already be called handsome". There's also this commonly repeated myth that here in Poland we have the most beautiful women in the world (which doesn't align with the data of how foreigners actually rate women from different countries- I've never seen Poland on top of these rankings) but there are no equivalent myths about the inherent superiorty of Polish men over men from other nations.
And I get it that culturally it's probably a bigger insult for a woman than a man to be called ugly as men have more ways or "redeeming" their physical ugliness to gain high status otherwise, but as a young boy I often felt so undervalued and worthless compared to girls and women, because, among other things, there was this cultural pressure to give them these unearned compliments that boys or men never received. This contribued to making me resentful and asocial because I felt like girls and women were unjustly preferred over boys and men in many situations, so why contribute to a society that doesn't value me? And then, when I was a bit older, I realised that if we correct for our sexual and cultural biases, there's probably nothing that makes women universally better looking than men. For example I noticed how the skin on my forearms and my legs looks so much nicer and healthier than that of the vast majority of women I see on the street and pretty much every woman out there has something about their bodies that's much uglier than the equivalent on my body and I'm not even that healthy and good looking myself as compared to other men.
From a British man's perspective and has met and known many Polish women, they're far more deserving of praise and compliments compared to their British counterparts. Polish women are objectively more beautiful simply because their efforts are minimal. Healthy diet/active lifestyle and minimal make up, that's it! I believe British women would be far more naturally prettier if they followed this example and stop deluding themselves.
I’m from the US, just returned from a trip to Poland, and yes the women there are much more beautiful and it’s noticeable the difference (both sexes honestly are more appealing). You see more frequently in the US abuse of makeup, poor dietary habits and health that are a turn off physically.
But yes I agree culturally it’s bizarre to me to openly agree socially to give default praise in the manner you describe. I think it does more harm and can be damaging to the self esteem to both sexes even
women in Poland are beautiful, not all, but 30% of young women are as beautiful as 2% in USA or UK. Not only in Poland, the whole eastern Europe has more attractive women then in other countries. The problem is, those women are very emotional and they have a very strong personalities. Many famous actresses, models etc. have polish ancestry. Polish men are the same as other men.
Same here in the USA but 10x worse, especially considering the sheer amount of single mothers raising boys. It’s been pounded into our heads at a young age to give utmost respect and non stop complements just to make someone feel good who doesn’t deserve it and does not reciprocate.
Every Polish girl I've ever seen really is a 10
As someone who lived in the U.S for a very long time, I’ve seen the decline of social norms stemming from toxic feminism. Women here thinks they’re too good for the average blue collar men. Which is why I am leaving this place for Scandinavia. Where the 10’s are really 10’s, and not a self proclaimed rating.
Lived in Scandinavia for a few years. Its not that their 10 is better than another countries 10. But there seems to be a huge amount of 10's and very few sub 6's.
That hsppens when everything is labled freedom and independence, they forgot where theyr places are
Does it vary a lot state by state? I assume some states like Texas or Georgia are a lot more traditional in their gender views.
You are so mature for your age. Thanks for your thoughts!
that's a very weird comment. This lady is a mature adult in her 20's, she's not a child.
@@fuzzblightyear145this is the point, mature thinking is not automatically given with a mature body
It's honestly so attractive to hear a woman talking about those things with such clarity and directness. Kudos
You are AMAZING Lynn....You GET IT your a logical and intelligent human being a true rarity in the todays modern "feminist" world
@@mvpfocus thank you auto correct
@@mvpfocusnot if english is not his/her first language, chill!
you're a logic*
At the beginning, when you asked the question, “Whom do you think of?”, only one name flashed into my mind: *_Audrey Hepburn._* Consistently lovely (and the consistence is important), superbly talented (actress, model, dancer, singer, humanitarian, etc.), and (by all reports) a pleasure to work with. In Hollywood, an area over-saturated (dripping) with the most vicious gossip imaginable, I never heard (I'm a 73 year old USNavy veteran, retired) one reputable critic utter a single bad word against her. If you want to be a 10, inner beauty is even and ever more important than outer.
There are, of course, many, many other beautiful, talented, and genuinely nice women, but as I said, she was the FIRST to blaze in my brain.
This is a *_good video;_* thank you for sharing this with us!
The age difference between you and I is quite significant, but the person who flashed I to my mind was Dolly Parton, for many of the same reasons you said Audrey Hepburn. It's nice to randomly click with someone despite differences.
@@themainc this is actually kind of funny, because I am going to guess you're in your 60's meaning you and Frank would have a similar spread as you and me (56) and my immediate thought was Laura Branigan. Perhaps there is one celebrity woman in each generation who defines "the perfect woman" for that age group, since I would describe for much the same reasoning (physically attractive, certainly, but also humble and personable, but perhaps most of all, womanly.)
@@lamplighter1968 not quite, let's say late 20s, but still a good theory regardless. I don't know what the Millennial 'ideal' would be.
@@themainc I hope it isn't Miley Cyrus, but it wouldn't surprise me. Maybe Scarlett Johansson or Kaley Cuoco.....?
Audrey Hepburn, now there is a beautiful women.
Now I understand why people from Canada and people from the Nederlands like each other so much. In both countries, being pretentious is considered vulgar. We Canadians are far more likely than Americans to poke fun at ourselves. To us, self-effacing humour is considered a healthy way to remind ourselves that we're just flawed humans, like everyone else. It's fun and it keeps us grounded.
Like how you tolerate a radically terrible government as a way of saying hey we're not really a civilized country
American here, who has spent a little time in Canada and you are right. Canadians to me are just better people than Americans.
But what’s the problem? They are indeed all 10… on a scale from 0 to 100.
These women display the Miss Peggy logic: "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And it may be necessary from time to time to give a stupid or misinformed beholder a black eye". Find us beautiful, we'll beat it in you. We all have eyes, and we know better.
@@Edwin-- Wow, bro! That’s deep! They didn’t use to be like that 30-40 years ago and it makes us wonder: How did it get to this?
I LOL'ed.
10 out of 10 in body mass
😂😂 That was a nice one.
Thank you for making this video, every woman feels insecure about their appearance when they are younger if you work on herself, she will feel better by ageing. (this happened to me; I'm 30, and I feel much better about myself to compared to the past)
It's nice to have down-to-earth videos. And it's never easy to have a different opinion nowadays
Best video to date ✨.
Touched on so many points that aren’t discussed enough these days.
Thank you! Really appreciate it! 😊
@@Lynneverly At the same time these... "Look I'am a 10, gorgeous" do say again, they are around perfect direction. At the same time they are thinking like histionics in life, narcissistic. It means doing value rankings, seeing themselves as a piece of art in such a mission. Seeing themselves as princesses, queens. They love to present themselves and want the upaling scoring applause, they love to manipulate+dictate no matter what reality demands and use this overpower as well as pushup in this artificial value race.
And then they have a selfconcept as a toddler, no he is much more clean of these narc ideologic delusions.
Btw, they often do say... that it is not a compensation out of hard issues. it is a real addiction, it is like the natue of normal being and these acts, thoughts feel so good. O
ther ones want to justify themselves in some cases and say, its the other ones fault(trauma and so on), that they did choose this way of the thinking, persuasion offers of the role models out there.
They have had not just one role model to answer in diverse ways on asholes in family or so...
@@Lynneverly And "self Love" is a popular phrase of Psychology. It is out of a concept of "self hate is not healthy, as it is to see on these persons". But it is disordered to create a great love bucket and to use it. Narcissism theorry of these populists in Psychology avoids extremely, that a great part of them does not compensate self hate. It is no compansation mechanism there. All the cases of too much confidence and a real grandiosity and a real feeling thrilled about oneself (self love as a normla person would love someone, what is really delusional to do it with oneself generally, like feeling hyped, want sex and babies with the self). The seeng of the self is more a. Okay, fine direction, or not in this and that, a "Well, be and go!". A knowing of properties to topics, and about believes, persuasions, knowlege, habits, momently habitualized reactions and being fluid in this with gaps, construction sites. Who just thinks yeah/wow, or neah... has problems in self concept. And just saying love the self is dangerous pupulism, while it is the base of standard narcissism of the masses and to a huge part of the highest grade with competitive sadism fun, all such.
@@Lynneverly And then the "covert Narcissism", (hits the point, the mind more than vulnerable in these mass cases). It is here in Europe and Asia, sometimes in Lat.Am. and the populat mass Left of the more often the case. They learned, especially as women to play humle, kind and cover their exploitative and measuring, valueranking ego.
They are these ones, that try to find justifications if caught. They take usable ones as partners and have nearly the same low interest in growth. They would do it just out of their own, learning from themselves, so they stay sectretly as the master. And they can hide ith behind 4th wave feminism as well. So they have real command, not eyeheight and a upper position in all situations.
You do see them posing, but less, maybe just happy in more passive dominance.
Communal narcissists are here falling together with these ones. Humble heroes, that are interestingly selfish in many act of their mission or main mission.
And it all is as well influenced, because in tendence male socialized narcs are in tendence a bit differen to tendencially female socialized narcs. The women with about rating a 6.7 is absolutely not free to be it.
I know a person, that is absolute like her surface and behabior at the first glance, but after some thousand psychologig deep talk words, in which she opens up in feeling safe, it is such a cometitive, upvaluing, control and kicks addicted person. She coses the nice ones, sometimes or often lower looking as herself with the overower she has then and plays out in a way. She changes places since USA, after nevery used out soil as she is a bit more extreme than some and is now after germany ... in netherlands.
@@Lynneverly And you know it, the most I wrote by yourself as you say it at the end. 👍❤
What a great presentation, production and editing. Star in the making!
Subbed
Thank you! 😊
When the power stops working and there's no more food, they'll change their mind.
They can live for years on their fat
@@robertl2227 hahahaha I actually laughed out loud at this. Nice
That implies they have a mind - which seems unlikely when ham-planets declare themselves to be tens.
This channel is a 10! 😄☺
Subscribed. Hope for your sake that the channel gets big.
Thank you so much! 😊
Absolute 10!
@@LynneverlyA secret is that attractiveness is a bonus to men. It is a "plus factor." On the other hand, any man who wants a lot of children will care a lot more about age. And women do naturally become more unattractive due to aging.
Lying to yourself is not the same as loving yourself.
Lynn, thanks for your perspective and honesty. Blessings on you and may you have success in all you do.
Thanks!
Thank you so much for your support! I really appreciate it 🫶
Absolutely agree with 99% of what was stated here!
Good work on this subject :D
Also: I personally think you are a solid 7. Stunning eyes :)
Those words of true wisdom at the end are pure bliss😇.. Most people don't think that way these days
I'm a man in my 60s, this just reaffirms what I've always known, women are from another planet. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, in my opinion only 1 in that group approaches a 10 & 1 other is an 8, the rest I wouldn't touch with a 10 foot pole.
based
@Skivv5 Are you trying to say biased, & why?
@ look up the exact letters "based" it's a compliment.
@Skivv5 Ok
I think women are born with head games & manipulation in their DNA!
Thank you so much for your words, now i understand better what´s going on.
Real confidence does not only come from facing your own insecurities, it is finding meaning in life. It is developing yourself. Study. Learn a trade. Find a profession and a hobby you like and have some talent for. Aspire to be good at something. Choose people around you that support you, and that includes telling you things may not be great. That is how you develop a degree of social standing, which has little to do with wealth.
These same '10's' will tell you all the above is 'just the bare minimum' in life, 'normies' just scraping by. They have it wrong. If you tie in looks to self-confidence, you're setting yourself up for failure, as you'll never be as beautiful as between the ages from 16-25. And you have at least 50 years to go after that...
There is another misconception in it too... People are drawn towards the average, not the extremes!
at 5:00 the "6.7/10" girl is Billy Rae Brandt, also youtuber with similar content. Thanks for these videos.
she's a 5.5.
Comparison is the thief of joy.
"Brevity is the soul of wit ".
Appreciate sharing. Respect to Lynn.
Your honesty will take you far, but remember honesty and truth is not liked in this world.
Everyone likes your honesty until you are honest with them.....then you're an @$$hole.
8:12 "Instead of focusing on how we look to others maybe it's time to start working on our morals" - I saw this thought in Decameron (1350-1353), but I bet it is even much older than that. ;)
Proverbs 31:30 "Grace is deceitful, and beauty is vain; but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised."
I love this down to earth perspective about the dating market. Its unfortunate how so much narcissism, ego and hostility have pervaded society. Unfortunately a great number of people have lost their way. I would know, I lost my way, but fortunately i found my way back to this kind of humane perspective. Thank You!
I am a 6. Just straight up. Maybe 6.5. My big bros are a 8 and a 9 respectively
My cons
-Born with lots of chronic pain
-Thanks to that lots of mental trauma and physical scars
-Can't be employed
-Mentally about 10 years younger then my body
-Can be childish
My pros
-Intellectually about 10 years older then my body
-Looks approachable and good natured
-Have traveled across the world
-Am extremely sensitive to others emotions
-Addicted to leaning, both physical skills and knowledge in general
Also Dutch, Hallo
I don't know what you are talking about. The rating discussed here is only tied to looks. Nothing to do with personality, accomplishments, experience, etc. I even hate people who use muscles, tattoos, piercings, wigs, extensions, etc.. to enhance their looks, like you are just hiding the real you. In my prime I was a genuine 8.. I would get stared in awe by 80% of people on a daily basis, been asked out by same-sex, got compliments that I didint deserve, got opportunities more easily than others, women fell in love at first sight., babies looking at me more than others.. etc. It's a whole other level that most people would find arrogant or narcissist, etc. and i get it.. but until you experience it firsthand, you will never know what I;m talking about.
Suppose every single car is a 5 star car... Just buy the cheapest.
Smart girl. Your message is solid. Thanks for opening the conversation, I would be called a male mycogenist if I did.
Damn you are spitting FACTS
Good video. From my perspective, I don’t think or remember ever being around a 10, female or male, but plenty of 9’s. And when you are, you really really know it. Every feature, any part of them you look at, your brain just screams at you saying wow, this person has spectacular features and also just has a personality that just exemplifies something special. It is not common at all. That’s just what I think. And I rate myself in the middle
Informative and entertaining video, thanks, I subscribed and gave you a thumbs up. BTW I thought you were holding a make-up brush at first, lol.
Thank you for being honest and realistic.
Very insightful video. What I observed spending a year writing a book in a coffee shop next to Columbia University: girls grouped by their ranking. That is, 4s were friends with 4s, 7s with 7s and 9s with 9s. And this makes sense because women's appearance is so important (to everyone unfortunately) so it is less stressful not having to manage potential competition within a friendship. Perhaps there is even some kind of deeper strategic intuition along the lines of how males will interact with them as a group (ugly friend scares them away, pretty friend steals them). Shallow but realistic?
Cool to finally see a video like this from a Dutch perspective! Great video!
Thank you for doing a deep dive on this weird phenomenon. I considered it Delusion but did not factor peer pressure as you pointed out. You are very beautiful!
I always look forward to your videos and insights Lynn!
This fight for status in America is as bad as you think and I think a lot of it has to do with social media 100%. Women, who are the largest users, are always in a constant comparison mode. I can only imagine the insecurity this induces and I think to combat this insecurity women are told to have an irrational amount of self confidence. However, this isn't to say that social media only has a toxic affect on women. Men are also being influenced into a perpetual cycle of self improvement and told they are never good enough. Body building or as I like to call it "body destruction" is become very popular among young men here in the states. So I think the solution is promoting a digital cleanse in our societies, a big push for people to get off these social sites and out into reality.
I actually watched an interesting video recently about the affect that mirrors have had on society and I think it's synonymous with the affect social media has had. They both have broke our perceptions of ourselves. Just imagine, mirrors as we know them to be have only been around since around 200 years ago, developed by the German chemist Justus von Liebig. Prior to this only the rich had access to "mirror" which were limited to finely polished metals that didn't give the replication quality that modern mirrors have. In prior centuries you'd have really only looked at yourself in reflections from glass or water which gives distorted views. It makes you wonder what society would be like without the ability to efficiently look at ourselves. Maybe a topic for a future video? Feel free to use the idea.
I like your take. The constant comparison mode really does have a negative effect on your happiness. And for a lot of people it is hard to turn off, since it is partially subconscious. If you are constantly shown people who seem to have better lives, you will start to feel like you are not up to par. While in reality you might be doing just fine compared to most. Even if you move "up the ladder", you will start comparing yourself with people who are doing even better. You only compare up, not down. You can never win this game.
But what do you mean by "body destruction"? I don't see going to the gym as a negative. Unless you are going to the extreme by taking steroids, or have some insane unhealthy routine.
@@deanx1 I mostly mean "body building" or the obsession with overly unnatural large muscles. I think moderate exercise is fine but people who go to the gym multiple times a week, eat high amounts of calories, and obsess over being bigger are destroying their bodies. This constant stress will age you extremely fast and will essentially make you disabled when you're older.
Thanks! I always really appreciate your insightful comments and support! And I agree, social media hasn't done much good for either gender. It really helped me to just delete the apps from my phone.
And sounds like an interesting video! Is it on UA-cam?
@@Lynneverly Unfortunately the video is behind a paywall but I'll give you a summary.
Basically, mirrors prior to 1835 only consisted of finely polished metals which were mostly owned by the wealthy class of people but even so only provided a distorted blurry image. Most people prior to 1835 would have only saw their reflection in water but even then it was distorted.
The theory is that after the introduction of mirrors in 1835 people started to focus on their own looks more and more. This created insecurity but also created an opportunity for advertisers later to create self-perception identity issues. For instance, every clothing store you enter into has lots of mirrors but there are also pictures of people wearing different types of clothing, you're actively comparing yourself to these "models" and the way you look. It shifts your perception of yourself.
Just imagine how many times you see yourself everyday. You probably see yourself first thing every morning in the bathroom mirror. Then think about how this makes you compare yourself to others. Imagine a world where you could see yourself or at least wouldn't be able to see yourself so clearly. Imagine this was the case for everyone and how this might change society. Sort of interesting thought, no?
I think social media is an even worse mirror. You're actively comparing your social content to other people's social content. It creates an existential feeling of not being "good enough".
Sounds very interesting indeed. Thanks for the summary! I never really about mirrors that way until you brought it up. You make good points.
I also think social media is worse than mirrors. Mainly because it’s designed to make you addicted and keep you on the platform for as long as possible. They use your psychology against you. And using people’s insecurities of comparing themselves to others is one of their strategies.
Of course it’s not all negative and there are also oppertunities that come with social media. But for most people it’s very hard to use it in a healthy way.
I grew up in a place where humility is valued and it's by far the most attractive quality in a woman for me. I think it's good to try and look as good as you can but the same way you want others to be forgiving of you one should be forgiving of them as well. In the long run you'll always fall more in love with someone who stays in shape and treats you well over someone who's naturally good-looking; people just don't realize the value of connections that build over time over instant attraction.
I love how brief yet informative and not overlaping your videos are. Showing lot of research and not publishing 10 videos monthly.
Do you have a Buy me a Coffee? They take 5% fee compared to UA-cam's 30%...
Thanks for the compliment! 😊
I did not have one yet, but I created an account now. I put the link in my channel bio.
Thanks a lot for the tip! 😊 Didn’t know that app existed.
I'm refreshing and refreshing and there are still no coffees to give :P Do you have to verify your IBAN somehow?
You're right. I hadn't verified it yet, but I have now :). I received a coffee from someone so I think it should work now.
I hope it's you editing your YT bio, because the coffee link changed. But actually from "/softwares1" what sounds quite phishy...
Yes don’t worry, it’s me. Made the account late at night yesterday and just used the link it automatically gave me. I’ve customized it now :). But thanks for the heads up!
They’re conflating perfection with confidence. You can feel amazing about yourself and recognize that someone else may look better than you.
"Confidence" combining delusion and arrogance is never attractive. The kind of confidence which is attractive is relaxed and easy going. It is not trying to prove anything to anyone and is comfortable in one's own skin.
Self-affirmation is a hell of a drug.
The irony of the Dutch girl considering herself a 7.5 and the larger US woman considering herself a 10 is hilarious. I am obviously biased in my preferences but the disparity really tickled me.
If every woman thinks she’s a 10, that just means she is average. I suppose we have to go to 20 for a rating now.
I rate women on a simple binary scale, 1 or 0. A 1 being datable, 0 is not.
@@musicisfree91 Well, I do like simplicity.
@@jeffreygonzales8071yes
Heh, we had a slightly different (joke) scale from 0 to 10 - but even a 1 would have to be awesome already, since it was a "10 finger scale", as in, "how many fingers would I sacrifice for her" 😂
They just always forget the dot between 1 and 0...
Excellent video. Love your content.
My hope is that even if this will mostly attract male attention, many women see this and learn a thing or two.
Lying is never empowering but being honest and self aware is. I'm glad this is limited to america even though I live here.
Dear LynnE
Your honesty,puts trust back in modern women.
As far as most women are concerned according to past experiences I've had with them, as long as they have the appropriate plumbing, that makes them an automatic 5 from the very start. Anything else like a brain or personality just adds to their status...to them.
Wow, excellent video essay on this topic
Wow! Good job! I haven't come across anything so psychologically balanced when it comes to this subject! The North American view on the subject is so toxic, and your approach is refreshing, to be honest. It never dawned on me to look outside my continent for cultural relevance in the approach. If humanity doesn't figure this shit out fast, we'll be facing a devastating population collapse!
This is the same as participation trophies
The current drama happening with the WNBA is another great example of a participation trophy culture
I really liked how you summed up this video
Great advice for everyone
It's sad, that everything revolves around the looks.
Yeah, I know it's all about social media and dating apps.
I am 60 years of age and pretty happy that this madness doesn't influence my life. But I am sorry for the younger ones.
No matter how good you are,
you cannot be good enough for such women.
I believe that 7/10 is beauty on the outside the last 3 is personality. Being a nice person, caring about others, being funny, having a good work ethic exc..
This gal is lit! Amazing video, fantastically articulated!
The thing is they think saying lies to themselves will actually solve the deep dark insecurity they have about themselves but in reality it doesn't and it is pushing everyone away.
The 6.7 is the most adorable one and dressed feminine as far as i could notice. I am from Belgium (dutch part) but went to live in Philippines, coz my wife i married is really gorgeous in every way (i don't mean only the looks, but the modesty, behaviour, mentality...). 12 years later we are still happily together, and i should never trade her for a '10' i saw in the vid. About the female moderator here, good u stand up, saw it was all baked air and point these things out. Acknowledging u were wrong in the past and change the vision, is a sign of smartness. Only the stupid ones stay grounded in wrong thinking and behaviour. Gonna check more vids.
For me, the "10 point scale" is a TOTAL of the maximum "5 stars" that you can potentially get for the two halves of the overall picture of what makes up any person... That is the external/physical/looks part, and the internal/mental/psychological/Spiritual/moral/overall character part... and unless you're actually totally "perfect" enough in ALL of those things, (i.e. in order to actually get the full "5 stars" in BOTH your external AND internal qualities), then it is statistically impossible to actually be a "10"...
One can come close to that, IF they are an absolutely amazing, positive energy person and good Spirit on the inside, AND ALSO they are extremely attractive AND healthy and in shape physically, however, since no-one is ever really absolutely "perfect", especially not in ALL ways, no-one can actually be a full on perfect "10" in all reality, and if they ever say that they indeed are that then they're just totally delusional and definitely lying to themselves, and also essentially stating that they have absolutely nothing to improve about themselves, which ultimately just completely shuts you down for any room for personal growth!
To the first part, that would make a 10 close to impossible, since physically attractive women frequently get the kind of "affirmation" that creates self entitled egocentric bitches, so scoring high in both categories is highly unlikely. While being a nice person will have little to no effect on your physical appearance, looking hot is almost guaranteed to make you an ugly person.
As to the second part, very good point.
"I don't have Tiktok, fortunately."
Good lass.
I am new to this channel just now and subscribed for goods, for sure!
I hope you will gain success in YT. You are saner than my sister probably %95 of my county's women.
Thanks for the fresh breath of Dutch air. The USA could, and should, learn a lot from the Netherlands, which I found to be a cut above in nearly every respect.
You’re close to a 10 mainly due to the fact you said you don’t use social media. You’re also quite easy on the eye..
keep up the based work, it’s truly refreshing.
Very clever. Very true. And personality also comes into force in the scale when men view women. You can “look at 10” but if you have no personality you won’t be one.
It is interesting how rating yourself less makes others rate you more.
Both behaviors overvaluing and undervaluing yourself are in psychology treated same way and called narcissistic trauma.
It is better to admit that you are not a 10, so that you can make improvements. If you say you are a 10, then you will continue to make bad choices.
The level of self awareness & honesty it takes to make this video is almost incompatible with the current culture. 10/10 for that.
I saw a 10 once walking through a mall. From the walkway above, your could see a wave of heads turning to look at her as she's passed through. It was unreal.
That was me, I noticed you.
Yap, 10. Correct. They are telling the truth. out of 100.
I did some research too. There is an AI that can objectively measure the woman's pretty score, ignoring her makeup (it measures common facial features, like distance from nose to mouth, between eyes etc). Advice for men - measure different women 1000-2000 times, and you'll learn to do it without AI. Then it does not matter what she says.
Next, measure two scores - their actual one, and their pretty score as perceived by you, if you were to ignore any logic. If your perceived score is higher than actual, you are both very compatible, it's a marriage potential. If it's lower, you are less compatible, but if perceived score is within your acceptable criteria for dating, it will might work, still. Based on mental compatibility and common values, for example.
Reference: I know a woman who is 9.87 out of 10 as measured by her best pic, we are mutual best friends.
Great content. Thank you.
"Every woman can be a ten." What a horrible idea of self-love and acceptance that is! Don't you know that your self-worth needs to be dependent on how men rate you? If every woman is a 10, what's the point of men objectifying women in the first place? What a blessing that Lynn Everly is here with her "research" to expose this feminist lie! God bless you, Lynn and your good work!
They started this horse manure in the 90s with self esteem projects in elementary schools. "Real confidence comes from doing the hard work and facing your insecurities" is absolutely correct.
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Wow thank you so much! 😊
The male equivalent would be this idea that every man sees himself as a Rambo or Terminator, but this is as you said taken to the extremes
By R or T, do you mean if everyone saw themselves as a killer (like the characters are) or as a buff muscukar guy (as the men portraying them are.
@@DirtnapJack I am not sure which one is correct. I had chats with guys that often had a bit of both. Especially when you watch certain movies with them ;-)
@@shanwyn they were a bit muscular and a bit of a killer, huh? See the latter is usually only applied to someone who has done it so ……
Orewa Gundam desu, only that I don't go about trying to fly and cut people in half with my beam saber
the difference is if you're a guy and you claim to be "a Rambo" when you can't even bench 135, other guys will just laugh at you instead of confirming your delusions.
A lot of shortcut about confidence. Explore the concept of "imposter syndrome", it will help you understand a lot of things about the other side of the mirror. Especially when you face people overinflating their egos.
I personally thought that the woman at 0:07 was really pretty! But that’s just me though.
Perhaps you are a very young person. If you were older, you would see she has loads of make-up. And no denying she is fat.
I recently watched a video by Chris Williamson where he interviewed Dr Tania Reynolds. The video was titled "The Hidden Motives Behind Female Friendships". I was raised by women, and I thought I understood them fairly well, but this was a real eye-opener. Highly recommended. A view into a potentially vicious world. Sheesh! As a guy, I found it almost incomprehensibly Machiavellian.
Something you forgot to mention is that this is also about signaling to men that they do not want them. This is a major way women get ego a well, by rejecting and in general being nasty to men.
This is also one of the leading factors as to why women usually breakup with men and not the other way around. It’s extremely important to them to be the desired one, so they would rather do the breaking up than be broken up with.
I'm sure that's a factor, but I think the main reason for that is economics. A woman's standard of living is unlikely to decrease after a breakup, and will probably increase, while a man's standard of living will definitely diminish. Family law greatly favours women, and division of assets by contribution focuses almost exclusively on the man's contribution. If the man was the primary financial provider, he is most likely going to be continuing to provide for the woman after the break up, but a woman who was the homemaker will never be expected to continue cooking her ex's meals or cleaning the car he's living in so he can afford her alimony. Facing financial ruin is an incentive for men to keep the relationship intact, while the prospect of taking a financial win and being free to pursue the next mark is an incentive for women to end it.
Regards from Germany. It has become some sort of epidemic to behave like that. Social media has just multiplied the effect this is causing. It's a conflict averse behavioral pattern that backfires once you show your true colors.
So in the end this is all about the value of attention, and of course how you learn how to get it. It's funny that you said that you were not the typical hot chick in school. This actually makes a lot of sense because you learned that kindness matters a lot more than looks. You can also recognize this pattern in a lot of women who only became attractive at a later point in their lives. They are happy and more appreciative of what they have for the most part.
The ones that peak in high school, however often go into a different direction. That goes for men and women both by the way, it is just more visible in women because of the way a lot of them view themselves.
I've personally seen only maybe a handful of tens in my life. Deluding oneself's image to be more than reality leads to narcissism.
The older I have become, the less I value "physical beauty" and more quality time together.
I'm not even sure why the question "How do you rate yourself?" warrants an answer. My scale is not relevant.
you are so right!
I’m a 6’3 tall man.Only 1 percent of the whole male population grows to that height.But I personally just give myself a 5,Im not ashamed of that.I know I don’t look like a model.The delusion feed to young women through social media is very concerning.
Each of these girls has a brain-they choose whether to use it.
Wait, did you actually watch the video? She quite clearly say they all know very well they aren't a 10. It's just a social thingy they are doing.
The end of mankind is coming, my friend.
6'5" here and reasonably handsome on a good day. I don't get women simp over me🤷♂️
@sinizzl I wish I was that tall.
You are a saint 🙏
Calling oneself a 10 makes them uglier. Why would they think the opposite?
You are a 10 in explaining things!
Love how by the end of the video the guy showed a woman that smokes as 1 on the scale 1-10, for me idc how good looking or nice a woman is, as soon as she smokes anything that's ruins it all. Like imagine coming for a kiss just to have this marijuana or vape smell all over the place, yuck
The Dutch girl who called herself a “7.5” is far prettier than any of the women who called themselves a “10” on the podcast and it’s not even remotely close