Malcolm Gladwell on Gender Identity in Kids, Becoming a Dad, and Working From Home
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- Опубліковано 14 вер 2022
- Megyn Kelly is joined by Malcolm Gladwell, best-selling author and host of the "Revisionist History" podcast, to talk about unintended consequences of his book "Outliers," how parents are hurting their kids by holding them back, parents trying to "game" the system, whether kids should specialize early or try lots of different activities, introverts vs. extroverts, gender identity in kids and nature vs. nurture, the truth about the power of parents, "desirable difficulty," the need for kids to overcome obstacles, becoming a dad and raising his daughter, the power of Hollywood, who has influence in today's society, the need for shared experiences and a shared space, the military in today's culture, trans activists alienating allies by focus on sports, the isolation of "work from home," backlash to Gladwell's comments about working from home, what's causing unhappiness in our society today, and more.
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‘Lia Thomas was 1 case’. True. However, how many women were directly affected by this ‘single case’? How many were displaced from their rightful place on the podium? How many lost out on the accolades, awards and scholarships? How many were silenced when raising concerns about a male presence in their intimate changing area? And how many young girls are now thinking ‘Why would I give up the time, effort and sacrifice to compete in elite sports if I’m only going to be overtaken by a male in the competition?’
And make no mistake, should we as women not fight now, this ‘single’ case will soon expand to multiple cases and have exponentially detrimental impact for women. So in short, no thank you. It’s not for women to be accommodating to solve the trans issue. Being agreeable and accommodating is precisely why we’re now in a position where we are losing our language and sex-based rights.
Exactly!
well said and I agree 100%....they created this trans group so they can create their own trans sports.
EXACTLY. He has no clue.
well said.
I am a female,76 years old, Singapore citizen of chinese ethnicty. I know who and what I am. This is my identity. Together with many Asians , i am more than stunned why a people, in a self acknowledged , most powerful nation in the world , would want to discard the most basic element of his/her identity. If gender identity is lost through idiotic philosophies, then USA can say goodbye to nationhood forever. When someone has a baby we first ask "boy or girl"?. We never ask black or white?, republican or democrat.? I pray that my country's leaders will not be swayed to follow this idiocy of USA FAR LEFT. God save us!
No worry. We will be saved. Human follies have their day, and they vanish, followed by new ones. Biological nature will endure.
I agree! It has become insane here!
I hope other countries do not follow what is happening here with respect to "gender identify". I put it in quotation marks because it has become a thing these days.
Because this is what happens when Marxian ideas are deflected away from class and applied, instead, to matters of personal identity. Unsurprisingly, this deflection is powered and financed by billionaire "philanthropists" and corporate interests.
Around the globe we are forcefully persuaded to give in to the tyranny of the minority just because partisan media megaphone their causes.
How about us in the majority who believe that marriage is between a man and a woman. Or that our physical genitalia determines our gender!!
We don’t want our descendants to say in the morning “ oh I feel like being a girl” and the next day say”today I’m a boy”!!
The west laughed at the terrible idiocy of China’s Cultural Revolution which cost it 10 years during which insanity reigned.
Is the current USA Cultural Revolution not heading in the same direction?
Beware of pointing fingers because three fingers point back at your face!!
Regarding the standardized testing problem given the observation that some kids are ~11 months younger than others, the idea Malcom proposes (testing older kids at beginning of year and younger kids at end of year) won’t work. Why won’t it work? It’s because the test taker needs to have taken the full year of instruction before taking the test. What we fundamentally are discussing Is a good-faith attempt at equity, why equity cannot be implemented at scale, and why equality of opportunity (within constraints) is the best we can do.
Amen, and accept that there are advantages and disadvantages to all placements. We all have to accept the hand that we've been dealt and make the best of it. Malcom's solution would expand to an impossibly handy cap system including: month of birth, age of parents, marrital status of parents, gender, economic status, immigrant or non immigrant, whether they got a good daycare or a bad one, the number of kids in their with out of control behaviors in their daycare, preschool, elementary school, highschool, family, it just goes on ....
I don’t buy Malcolm’s “putting into perspective” the issue of trans participation in elite sports. He just avoids saying that it’s not right, full stop. No one should put up with biological males masquerading as women competing with biological women on their level. It’s simply not fair. Malcolm is too scared to say so.
Overdrivepony! What a great username.
Every person with a healthy common sense knows men should not compete with woman.I do not even know why this is a debate but to be honest i have never thought what a woman was even that debate to me is ridiculous
Malcolm is afraid of cancel culture
It feels like he supports it
I agree. I generally love his ideas and enjoy his books. But he could have definitely been more assertive here. This is not about empathy or compassion, despite some people make it seem that way. It is about fairness and common sense.
The much bigger problem is that the public education system does a poor job educating kids regardless of age, particularly inner-city kids.
If only the parents would raise children worthy of educating. Thomas Sowell hit the nail on the head when he said a child can not learn when someone (a parent, a caregiver) does not require them to go to bed at a certain time, to get up to go to school. If the homes are broken (with parental drug problems), the clothes are not clean, lessons are not learned, good nutrition is not fed, and Church is not attended, and the culture is not revered, then a teacher can teach all they want, and the students will not learn. I’m not saying that you do not make a valid point, but it is not the only one to consider.
@@shawnaweesner3759 agree with everything except Church. Not necessary for values and good upbringing, and in fact not helpful when trying to accustom the mind to critical thinking.
The real solution to the problem Malcolm is talking about is to get your kids out of public school. He actually thinks public schools will look at solutions to improve the learning of children? We are way past that in this country.
You guys should start with where you live, because I think that will make your perspective more honest and nuanced. Such a bold statement coming from the "comment section" you should at the very least talk about your real world experience that has led to this conclusion.
Malcolm is a good example of how really smart people are not always right. Just as really stupid people are not always wrong. Sent
If Malcolm's father was here he could easily answer the question on how to repair the problem of so many living in unhappiness. (The question addressed towards the end of this show). It's probably not so much unhappiness but not being content. When one learns to trust in God our Creator and get to know Jesus as Malcolm's father did, one then will know what true contentment is and through that will live a happier life. Malcolm had a wonderful father who I got to know just a short time before he died. What a wonderful man who truly lived his faith.
I held a child back because when they started kindergarten in one state the cut off was Dec, when we moved to another state the cut off date was September and he would have been youngest child in his grade. To me what mattered more was the maturity level, he was very young and even though he was beyond the level they were teaching he was just not there maturity wise. There are no regrets and my child thanks me often as an adult. So sometimes as a parent you need to be realistic and choose whats best for your child in the long run not to make your child the most advanced one academically in their grade level.
You did good. I have three nephews who were born in August. Their moms (my sisters) held them back, not for a sports advantage, but because the boys weren’t ready to sit still long enough for school. Every parent should decide what’s best for my kid now, rather than try to engineer a particular outcome.
@@joanhoffmann871 Thank you he was a much happier child I do believe
Exactly, Cheryl Easton. Good job. This guest seems to be under the impression that the state owns the children, and not the parents.
In the 60’s my sister and I were 12/16 and 12/2 bdays in a district in NJ that cut off 12/31. Thus we started school at the age of 4. We turned 5 while January kids turned 6. We were both top students, my sis was valedictorian. This age redshirting is BS. If you have brains you have brains.
Thank you! Exactly!
Agree. It's one data point among many not the least of which the impact of your parents and the school you go to.
You are an amazing communicator , Megyn. Thank you for inviting us to really think and evaluate all kind of subjects. You are so professional and handle every subject with such respect. Great guests, great program.
Thank you!
I think what Malcom is missing when we speak about the trans competing in women's sports is, that it isn't about how the trans person feels at that moment.
It's completely about the young women who have worked extremely hard to get to where they are, and should not have it robbed from them!
Though I do understand that this community is dealing with serious issues, like the suicide rate.
I think we could agree that these two subjects are very different and they cannot be put on a "most needs" list.
It will be interesting if his views change as his daughter grows & may be a hard working, high achieving athlete one day having to compete against biological males. This topic sure becomes more nuanced & personal when you have an athlete! Our college athlete daughter has just missed this issue affecting her - I sure have the most empathy for the young women who have worked tirelessly (and sacrificially) through their childhood & adolescence to be a highly competitive athletes)
I'm confused by this. Maybe someone can explain. The cutoff for age in the state I live in is kids must be 5 by Sept. 1st to begin kindergarten. Megyn said that as a November birthday she was one of the youngest in her class, but in my school Fall birthdays are the oldest in the class. Spring and summer babies are the youngest (unless they are held back a year). I also find the idea of giving standardized tests every month based on birthday to be absurd. The test covers standards that teachers need a year to teach. How could you test a Fall birthday over standards they have not yet learned? This is not possible. Also, going through the formalities of standardized testing every month all year would be a nightmare! I wish all schools required children to be 5 by July 31st so 4 year olds aren't starting kindergarten, but there really isn't a great way to address this issue. I do agree with him that older children have an advantage in many ways.
In some states, it used to be Dec. 2. About 10 years ago, they changed it to September 1st. So I also started kindergarten at age 4 and graduated high evil at 17 (I’m 42). But had I been born recently, then my parents would’ve been forced to hold me back a year. Good point about the standardized testing.
*school (not evil)
@@jm7174 I didn’t know it use to be December. Thanks for explaining!
I enjoyed this conversation. I remember seeing Malcolm years ago at a Focus On the Family program. He was discussing a book he had written on David n Goliath. Great to see him here....
Really interesting for me. In my family, my brother and I were born in the median months (I was born June 20th and my older brother was born July 13th) and our younger sister was born December 4th and was one of the youngest children in her class. We were all above-average students, in the upper percentage of our classes throughout our school years. My sister is an overachiever in all things, including athletics, and has been successful in her career and financially as an adult. My brother and I were honor students but never achieved in athletics and struggled in our adult careers, though I achieved as an equestrian, which was an extra-curricular activity. But in spite of my sister and brother excelling academically, I scored extremely high on SAT's compared to both of my siblings. My sister and I are both musically inclined, my brother is not. I excelled in mathematics and science, my sister and brother both struggled with those subjects. I am also an artist, my siblings are not. Just interesting to hear this, don't know if I agree or disagree with the thoughts put forth here.
The Tipping Point and Outliers have been some of my favourite books for a long time and I loved listening to Malcom’s interpretation of how he thinks. As usual Megyn teases out interesting insights from a rather brilliant mind.
OMG, the bombshell right at the end. I definitely will not miss Monday’s show‼️ Cant wait!
I adore this man immensely. If you haven’t read “Talking to strangers” by him I think you should. It his most palatable work to date in my perspective and such a wonderful read. As for Megyn I think it’s always important to hear the opinions of people you disagree with. Bill Maher taught me that so I’m glad I’ve stuck around to hear her out.
From my perspective and in my opinion it's always best to hear others' opinions while understanding their perspectives.
A man who thinks people don’t know what’s best for them (but he does), was notorious for not showing up at the office (oh he didn’t have an office…take a desk then), wonders why people are just working for a paycheck (what have you reduced your life to?) but admitted to looking down on service workers who are working for a paycheck…and you adore this man?
I love that book. We had to read it in my school as teachers to really think about the development of children and looking how that development effects their learning. Totally agreed with Philly having two separate graduation dates (which I think you mentioned)The problem is they don't keep systems in place long enough to see if it truly work.
Excellent guest. Great conversation. Malcolm Gladwell is always a breath of fresh air.
The standardized test ‘solution’ malcolm proposes doesn’t make sense, ie, in 7th grade, 7th graders learn through the year the same info during the yr in prep for the test, even though one kid is 8+ months older than another, they are going through the same material at the same time. At the same time, the older kid *may* have an advantage of being more mature.
I was almost 19 going into college. Because I was held back in preschool as a November baby.
Ah, now I see why she wound up interviewing the goof Hintchcliffe. Everyone should check out the Munk Debate between Gladwell and Douglas Murfy. Your opinion of Gladwell will drastically change
I liked this conversation, Megyn, and appreciate you bringing people in from all walks of life and ideologies. Keep it up.
Well, I was born December 23, so guess I'm really screwed. Oh wait, I started a lawn care business and grew it to a successful small business and ran it 23 years before my back made me find something else to do. Now, I am running my second business which is now 10 years old and with the exception of the current administration throwing every roadblock ($5/gal. diesel) in front of me they can, is also doing well. So guess not. Your life is largely what YOU make it to be. You can be born in poverty and make it big, or vice versa, you can be privileged like Hunter Biden and be a complete POS.
Megyn you present so many fantastic guests and listening to their thoughts on relevant topics is freeing and continued education. Ever thought of follow up programs with the same topic but from another great thinker with perhaps an agreeable opinion and with different takes. Hope you know what I mean.
Some topics are so deep that even an hour and a half is just too short.
Thank you 🙏🏻 Megyn, most balanced news to be found.
Love Malcolm. Great show. On the subject of "choice," though, during your last clip - I'd have to say I used to fully believe, as Megyn claims, "One has the power." I don't think this is Universally True now - as I've traveled a bit of the world(solo) and across the USA and back, spending the last 2 years in the Deep South, South and SW. It's very easy for many of us< I've dealt with this narrative especially in the Spiritual Community and working with Surgeons in the North East(lived in NYC for 17 years) for us to live through these Myopic lenses. We like to say, "well, I did. it" "I pulled the boot straps up." "I changed jobs, why can't they?" And on an on with comparisons. Many people actual do not have choice because of their life circumstances. One only needs to work in the Hospitals in America - converse with anyone other than an MD or in a Suit with an office. The stories I have heard from the cleaning staff, to Nurses, to Scrub techs. These are the humans that get a deserving pay, only after their 40 hrs, work day and night jobs, make just above poverty wages.(cleaning personnel) Everyone is told what a great job they have, how appreciative they should be(to work in a "prestigious" hospital). They get gaslit, into staying in these positions and at the same time also know they need to feed their families, send money back to families in respective countries, and pay the bills. The bureaucrats of this Industry know this well. And yes, push them farther out of the cities(yet the cities pay more) - increase commuting time - well, this is disastrous. We have people falling asleep at the surgical table, humans unable to focus, cooperate together, and increasingly unhappy humans in Medicine. I speak on this, well because it's my field and I love listening to people. And the more I listen the more complex and Nuanced the free will and free choice mantra becomes. People also need to feel supported to make big moves. New choices. Also, tell me where some people in very specific industries are going to go? Or what new choice they have, without the education as that person in the office calling them a hero?
Thought provoking show. Thanks Meghan and Malcolm.
Love this guy. My first exposure. Megyn does it again. Love me some Megyn Kelly, lol. Fascinating, I'm spellbound. Great interview, terrific guest.
SO, Meghan's Dad taught at a University, that explains a lot!
It’s not practical to break kids born within six months of each other into cohorts. It would be great if the kid to teacher ratio was 1:1, but we live in a very populous world. Perhaps there’s a way to change assessments so they’re more sensitive. Just a thought.
Thanks for reintroducing me to MGladwell. I have enjoyed his books and look forward to returning to his Revisionist History podcast.
This guy is wrong about the military
He’s wrong about pretty much everything!
Excellent points made! Highly enjoyed this podcast!
This is the wrong episode to post this on but I thought it was announced on this broadcast that Russell Brand was going to be on tomorrow. I haven't seen that episode. Did it ever air?
I'm astonished that in the US children are allowed to go to school with one another, some being a full year younger than others. I live in the south and we do not allow children born on or after September 1 to start K or 1st until the following year. That does make them the oldest in the class the next year, but it makes more sense than allowing them to fail. My brother was born October 1, and he would've completely failed in academics had he gone to school they year he turned 5. He went to 4-year-old pre-school for half a day, then went home to my SAHM. I was born in July and was always one of the youngest in my class. I turned 5 just before we started school the first week in August. I was a different case though because I was intellectually gifted and went into the gifted and talented program at the end of first grade, then went into our state school for mathematics and science in eleventh grade. My brother ended up successful in school, A's & B's when he was younger. He did continue like that through high school, but only because my parents pushed him to do it because they believed he could make the grades. He had to study quite a bit, where I didn't have to at all. My daughter was born in February and would've needed to be held back had she been born later in the year. She was an average student. My son was born in July, and he does well, A's & B's, but I have to make him study to achieve those grades. I think I wouldn't have had to push him as much as I do now if covid hadn't robbed him of a critical year, especially in math, by missing third grade.
Why do we say handicap when we mean advantage?
I just signed up Megyn ,,,,,,I actually am a super fan , your memory mesmerises me.
I love Gladwell! The Tipping Point and David and Goliath have been referenced often in our household.
I am on the board of a private Christian K the 8. We give the parents the choice of holding back their young child if the child is struggling. It’s worked well.
Well, imagine that! A school board that believes the parents should make the decisions for their children, and not the state. Wonderful!
I just realized what was going on starting in gradeschool when I was growning up. I can remember the birthdays of the people who I went to school with back then. I went to small catholic school. The kids that were older than me did seem smarter and now I know why. Like I know a couple kids born October and November to my January.
Looking forward to the new news brief.
Malcolm Gladwell recently had a podcast episode based on the idea that we could or should put the Covid vaccine in our salt supply like iodine is and it really showed how out of touch he is on that subject and it turned me off on him. He straw-manned the reasons why people are vaccine hesitant.
I'm a huge Malcolm Gladwell fan, and like you, I was very disappointed in that episode. I was actually quite upset by it and it took me a while to go back and listen to the others for this season. I have no doubt that episode will be one he revisits with regret in the future. I love him, but he really missed the mark.
HE IS FASCINATING. HE CAN DO SMALL PICTURE AND MACRO SIMULTANEOUSLY, VERY INTELLIGENT
I was shocked when I signed up my kindergartener who was born in July and found out she was one of the two youngest kids in the class! When we signed her up for soccer,
the coach’s daughter was born in June the year prior
to her. But my daughter’s preschool teacher said she was ready to go kindergarten, so I sent her.🤷♀️
Reminds me how Russel Wilson is such a great quarterback, in part, because he played baseball.
Oooh I can't wait for Russell Brand!
I have a different solution. Kids are not put into a class by age but by ability. So say you have a blue, red and yellow class. It doesn't matter what age the child is but based on ability they go into the class based on what they capable of. I did follow his concept but it did not convince me it is as cut and dried as which month a child is born. I think each child develops differenty and the solution for children and teachers should be simpler not more complicated.
Excellent show … as always.
With school districts having a September 15th cut off age requirement, to start kindergarten, a December birthday is one of the older kids.
Signed up! Thanks M. 💚
NOW THAT IS SOMETHING TO TALK ABOUT!!
I'm a huge fan of the author Douglas Murray and there is a shocking video of him showing up for a debate where Malcolm was on the other team. Malcolm's behavior was was so rude and obnoxious that I couldn't believe it's the same guy sitting here talking about how people should come together and try to understand each other. Clearly, he had gotten it in his head that Douglas was a bad guy with "bad intentions" as he talks about here. All he did was attack him and try to berate him at every turn to the point where I think he made a fool of himself. His "arguments" were nothing but nonsensical virtue signaling mixed with personal attacks on Douglas. Meanwhile, clearly he hadn't actually read any of Douglas's books and repeatedly got his name wrong. Don't be fooled by him acting so sweet and affable to Megyn here. This guy is a total jerk once he gets it in his twisted mind that he has found a "bad guy." I was hugely embarrassed for him and his dopey haircut.
Right on.
Obviously everyone watched the same shows in the 70s because there was no other choice unless they wanted to learn about other avenues buy books or just by not watching TV
These days as much as I hate the overblown media blast you have unlimited choices pretty much which I think is much better than what I had in the 60s and 70s
I was a year young. As in, a kid with the same birthday day was a full year young. I decent marks, ended up a litigation lawyer, and was typically one of the biggest kids in my grade.
We already did the raise other gender experiment.
Gladwell's bumbling along on the trans issue is pitiful. Keep men out of women's spaces, and sports.
Also the self harm statistics are not as portrayed for propaganda. These individuals often have multiple co-morbidities, and are complicated cases.
Their problems are seldom solved simply by pills, and surgery.
He has no idea the kind of people who are pushing this agenda.
I'd love to hear him debate someone like Kelly-Jay Keen on this. She'd eviscerate him.
Well said. I am not impressed with this man at all.
Doing monthly - or even more frequent than anually - testing is not trivial as implied here. For starts, there's the matter of whether this month's test is equally hard as last month's test. And whether you administer the exact same test or not, there's the matter of test integrity. There inevitably will be cheating if a test is being administered over months. No system is perfect.
As much as i like gladwell, he doesn't get what Megyn is saying about the military, As much as he has great advice and information, he is obviously way to liberal in his thinking in some areas, The stay home one is a great start.Lets not kid ourselves most are lazy by nature they want to stay home that way no one can monitor their bad work habits.
Megan in Texas you can’t start kindergarten unless you turn five on or before September 1.
Thanks for the sanity check you two titans 🙏🏻
Will and Grace? What about the cultural impact of Modern Family for understanding gay marriage, adoption, and blended families
He sounds so much like Robert Greene.
Great Russell Brand impersonation Megyn!!
Question for ‘Ales’ assertion - how many of the 3m viewers are “regular” viewers vs “transient”.
The era of Cronkite was an oligopoly - 3 networks split viewers plus the NPR minority, plus the groupthink of the majors.
Archbishop said: Leaders of Service are even rarer. Those who serve will be remembered but those who cling to power & privileges are long forgotten. WONDER WHO HE IS TALKING TO???
That microphone needs to be bigger. WAY BIGGER.
"Happiness is a Choice!" Dennis Prager
I believe people are responsible for their own happiness. Relying on someone else to make you happy never works.
This explains why people born early in the year like Isaac Newton (Jan 4), Stephen Hawking (Jan 8), and Albert Einstein (Mar 14) did so well in life while people like Bill Gates (Oct 28), Marie Curie (Nov 7), Megyn Kelly (Nov 18), and Tiger Woods (Dec 30) were such losers. :>)
Why correct? Any effort to 'correct' some purported disadvantage creates a new and separate disadvantage. Life isn't fair. End of story.
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My kids both graduated at 17 as did.
Malclom....Megyn I feel bad now for my earlier comment. That guy Mcalcom is soo smart,,,,I loved it but do y have advice for a 15yr old that does not come out if their room, what should I do.
And also many businesses have moved out of New York City
He is so spot on on his world and social views...amazing mind😊
I found him very depressing, Ilistened on your podcast, which I love.
He keeps talking & emphasizing the largeness of the military keeping it from being a divisive org. Well our educational system is HUGE, look what a divisive force it has become.
Thanks for creating another social issue.
I was born in October and went to kindergarten at 4 and so did my sister and brother. Nobody even thought about that back then. We never had any trouble in school and are intelligent and well adjusted people.
15.09.2022
Parents don't control children & shouldn't try. They are the greatest influencers in their children's lives, and they should take responsibility for that. 🙏🕯️☦️
Malcolm’s take on the woke military was disingenuous - he’s smarter than that. And I’m surprised Megyn didn’t push back harder.
We need to sort out the intelligent people who do harm to us. When an intelligent person says " I think people should do this or that" send them packing.
That child psychologist is right but mostly wrong.
To say that parents have no effect on how a kid believes they are discounts abhorrent parents like the mother of ‘Desmond is Amazing’
I mean we have videos of mothers mouthing ‘trans’ kids’ statements as the kids are saying them and given that young kids tend to try to please their parents in whatever way they can, they will absolutely believe they are what their parents say they are.
As for Megyn’s magic wand experiment, she’s not wrong. We need flaws to overcome, bc without them we have no drive to overcome them.
Probably the most important character in the LoTR trilogy is Tom Bombadil. Most people overlook this and consider him a throw away characte, but he’s the most flawless character in the books. He’s the only character that couldn’t be tempted by the ring, and as such he couldn’t be the hero of the story.
His carefree nature would end up with him losing the ring, so we needed a ring bearers that could be tempted.
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Malcum doesn't seem to have understood therapy. In therapy it is never the the goal to "blame" anyone particularly not parents. it just isn't effective. his misunderstanding is just another reason to step back from thinking he is so smart. In therapy wounds from childhood are validated rather than dismissed or denied (often how parents deal with things). the former keep people stuck as does blame. Validation of wounds helps people let go of thewounds/forgive. Understanding how we have been affected and forgiving can free us from the patterns we learned in childhood and to be grateful for the things our parents have contributed to our development. The idea that parents have no effect on their child is just stupid. the problem is that most of what we do as parents is so automatic and unconscious, we feel powerless to change it and can't begin to comprehend how we are impacting our children. In most (not all) families parents are doing their best. In the end children are not passive participants, they can react in a number of different ways to the same situation and often make up for the flaws of their parents through corrective experiences in their social milieu. How may people have we heard of who made connections with coaches, teachers, peers, God, which enabled them to break from the disaster which was the family they grew up in.
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He basically said it’s not a big deal since it’s only small number of trans athletes participating in elite sport. That’s very stupid. Cause just like any issues, you can’t wait until there are a large number of them to do it for us to start doing something. It needs to be addressed from the get go. Unfair is unfair, no matter what.
Wonderful interview Megan! One of your best. My favorites are Gavin de Becker, RFK Jr. and Malcolm. These three came on to educate and inform. None was pushing a political agenda. Just here to help. Keep up the good work!
i’m kind of shocked that no one seems to have recognized the solution to the trans athletes situation. Malcolm mentions it when he’s talking about the ages of children in school and when they take the SAT tests… Handicap them !! either each kid takes the test on his birthday or you all take it at once and the people who are older are handicapped in someway. Couldn’t the trans athletes just acknowledge the fact that because of their. advantage by being born male, and then competing as female, they don’t have the same starting block so to speak… They get some amount of time added to their finished time or deducted from the finish time…
Malcolm, you cant design a system where all outcomes are EQUAL, without eliminating the freedom to excel !! So please stop trying to help kids "catch up" , it is NOT noble or desirable at all.
Thank goodness, someone said it.
Love Malcolm Gladwell's mind his books are incredible! I always learn something that I missed when I reread his work! He's a genius!
I find it very much off putting that he is so secretive about his private life, like he can’t say if he has a wife or a husband??? Why even ask him. That made him so unlikeable to me.
I notice he says “we” when he talks about minority groups. Maybe stop hiding and then someone could actually trust your opinion
I agree with your comment.
Thank you, Malcolm, for revealing the sickening gender experiments on the minds of our best and brightest researchers. These people think they are gods.
BUT I CAN'T GET CAUGHT UP IN CHILD REARING MINUTAE...
While this argument holds up for physical differences, I doubt it is necessary in intelligence. Intelligence seems to relate to the class your in regardless of physical age.