We dont know whats happened. However in the UK its best to keep yourself to yourself. Ive always found group activities in the UK to be odd. People spend more time running others down than working together. Avoid groups in the UK.
It’s human nature, people are worried about being at the bottom of the social pecking order, so they find a target to keep them safe and everyone else focused on that target. If the target gets driven out, it’s soon going to be someone else’s turn, probably one of the people picking on the last victim.
@jackworsley2562 so what actually happens is someone tries to become a leader. They then turn the group against a individual. This is a phenomenon known as group think. It's a sad part of human psychology.
I hate these kinds of video, thst discuss the aftermath of a conflict wanting understanding / empathy but not explaining what the conflict is actually about.
It all started when we got the news that the barn would be demolished in January and Ade asked me not to promote it anymore on my channel. As we were over booked anyway. I knew then that my time was up as I was no longer needed and the space I was taking up was more valuable to Ade than me. So I was expecting something like this to happen. So when Becky’s van got damaged I wasn’t surprised by the way Ade handled the situation and turned things around to make Becky seem reasonable for damaging her own van turning everyone else at the barn against her literally making her feel unsafe and unwelcome so when she stood up for herself making a video on her channel this upset everyone at the Barn made things difficult for me so I decided that I would leave as soon as I could and started to film this video that same day Ade and his so called community ask me to leave given me 5 days notice but made things so difficult I left in 4 days. Hope this helps you understand what’s happening thanks for your time and your support really appreciated. Mel
@@BigVanSmallWorld something to think about is someone that’s willing to make you both feel like that really isn’t worth the time or friendship. You obviously had something in the beginning that he valued and decided somewhere along the line he didn’t need anymore. Unfortunately these things happen as people can really cruel! Had a similar thing happen to myself and it makes you realise how used you were essentially. You’ll both get over it and become stronger because of it! His loss, go onto bigger and better things!! ☺️ Goodluck
I gave up on friends years ago, now I have distant acquaintances , very distant 🤣 good luck on your new lockup , things usually happen for a reason so in hindsight moving on to pastures new is probably going to be a blessing for you both👌
We full-time living in our motorhome. We tend not to over mix with groups of us humans as usually the first to walk away from the group will be the first talked about.
Mel "Bread Eaten is Soon Forgotten " 😢😢 I'm 80 in six months and the amount of men n women I've helped over the years Not One of them ever checked to.see if I needed help It's a Sad world (people wise) Any wonder their is Conflict Everywhere Stay Free and Safe. 😊
Thank you and yes all it good now I think you get good and bad in any community it’s just a shame that someone managed to turn everyone against me in this one but not to worry as the barn will be demolished soon and they will all be forced out and that’s the end of there little community 😂👍
Hi Mel sorry to see the problems that you are having and we hope you have a much nicer time in the future keep smiling and keep on keeping on all the best Kevbo &Babyjack
1st time watching your videos, I have no idea what occurred, but I hope your new location works well, good luck with the reorganised workshop after you have had a long break.
Having had a similar end to something a couple years ago. I completely understand how the emotions of this situation have affected you both. I truly hope you can now move forward towards your dream with dragonfly. Love to you both ❤
Don't know the full story Mel, but if it was me I'd move Dragonfly out now even if you have to pay for a tow truck. Better than having it possibly damaged. Hope it all works out for you. Stay strong Mel.
@@BigVanSmallWorldthe only paperwork you need for a situation like that is insurance provided the vehicle is safe to drive. MOT & Road Tax are needed for normal driving not for emergencies or for moving home.
@@alanhat5252 The only exemption that exists to drive without a current valid MOT and tax, is when going to a pre-booked test, or driving home from a test failure. I'm sure you mean well, but such advice if taken, could well leads to someone else's day in court.
She didn’t do it herself Becky reversed into the parking spot there was nothing there when she did the as she had to use her mirror to actually reverse logically she would have noticed her mirror was push in at that time Becky did not do it herself
I've just had to subscribe to you again, so pleased your video showed up in my feed. How Rebecca has been treated I don't blame you for getting all your stuff. They sound a bad bunch to be around. I think 5 days is unreasonable. Xx
I'm gutted for the both you Mel. I've been following your channel for a good few years now and you strike me as a pukka bloke. When you and Rebecca introduced us to the barn I was immediately impressed with the concept... It's a bloody shame how you and Rebecca have been treated... Oh well, it's their loss. You two appear to be a great team so, keep on keeping on! 👍
So sad it has come to this. Glad you and Becky are ok and Becky has the right idea! Go get a holiday!! Mel your channel is wicked and I’ve always enjoyed your content. Think the five days notice was harsh! The amount of business you’ve put the barns way too. Keep your chin up. If you do go on holiday take us with you. All the best
Bring back waffle on a Wensday! You have a lot of loyal followers Mel, put the barn behind you, look at some of your back catalogue and bring it back. Petty squabbles are so draining, I’ve been caught up in a few myself. Cant wait to see the Luxury Overlander taking you on your travels.
@@Smudge64 thank you for the positive feedback I really do appreciate it as for waffle on Wednesday I will be bringing it back in the winter months 👍🍻👍
Hi Mel Been watching your Chanel for years I enjoy your churpy and positive outlook its very sad to see you upset and despondent , we as your subscribers will continue to follow you where every go on your journeys . Keep your chin up mate 😎 Gary Mon and Ruby🐶 This will be our Chanel once I get my self organised but struggling with video editing etc formally (something blue)
Thank you so very much for your support and kindness good luck with the channel it’s not easy being in the public eye but the reward is always getting the support from people like yourself ❤️🩹👍🙏
Mel, Rebekah, we so feel for you. I can’t believe after all that you’ve done for the barn etc, that the ‘committee’ have done this to you. We had exactly the same done to us a couple of years ago. Enjoy your holiday.
There is a Dutch song made in the 80´...Friendship is a illusion, a packet of scrap with a thin layer of chrome.... ( ruffly translated ). And I never forget this song , because it is the truth. As long they can `feed` of you and you are giving they are so called friends.....
I had similar thing happen to me I sold up to move to Cornwall to be closer to my family they promised me I could put a mobile home on some land a static but never happened due to brother in law lying so I left with all my stuff still there and can't get it because he wants storage money to release my stuff at to buy a camper to live in who can you trust !! My life ruined
Some "friend(s)" he was(they were)... You and Rebecca had added so much value to that barn. I had begun to like some of those guys even... This is no way to treat people one had shared so much and broken bread with. How they treated you and Rebecca in no way diminishes you or takes anything away from you. Please keep up the good work and 'em videos coming and hold your spirits high. You guys deserve to be treated so much better.
Sorry it has come to this Mel but I subscribe to you to watch you convert your vans regardless of where you are. Walk away with your head high and don't look back. The other barners will be moving on soon anyway when it shuts down so no loss there and you know who your friends are. You and Beckie have successful channels with your subscriber base who will mostly stay loyal. Keep it up mate and I for one will keep subscribing and enjoying what you do.
It’s so sad to see you in that situation. I’ve watched you from the start of this build on this fan. You put a lot of work into that community with all the different people and I cannot believe it ended up like this..
Sorry to hear of your troubles, we have enjoyed all the videos you and Becks made at the barn. May be it's time to start enjoying all your hard works and start traveling again. Look forward to seeing you both on adventures.
Also Mel there are some big storage units the containers near me. They have onsite shower , water fill and toilets ect. 24 hour access as an upgrade with security cameras. In Southampton
As they say Mel, what dont kill you makes you stronger. Its like a book, you finish one chapter turn the page and onto another chapter. Looking forward to your adventures in Dragonfly 👍
Stay positive Mel I think you should have been given 30 days notice. I feel your pain and frustration with the situation. Hopefully new goals will take shape and the location change will be good for both you and Becky TC ❤
Mel and Beck's sorry to hear this has happened, I have enjoyed watching you guys doing your vans. Take some time and when you're ready come back anew. All the best guys John Marie and Teddy the dog.
It is a normal procedure that these folks take, make things as difficult as possible for you but making out its all your doing, you are right to move on .!
I would think about upgrading the locks on your lock up, looks too easy to break into and with all that good stuff inside you don't want that going missing
I am sure you will find another place and sort everything out out mell some times it’s unbelievable what can happen may be it’s a blessing in disguise best of luck mell
You're making a great job of the van and have a wonderful relationship and people will get envious,this manifests in out of character behaviour from insecure people. good luck guys
One new subscriber.. one thing I’ve learned from disputes is, you can’t reason with unreasonable.. I’ve learned to be pleasant and extra nice to difficult People because it really annoys them and the can say anything.. no one needs toxic people, and most are like this because you were valuable and they want to justify their actions
In my experience, there are infact three sides to a story. Your side, their side and what really happened. When I first heard that you have been forced to leave as your partner didn't feel safe, I feared something terrible had happened. I went over to watch her video (I'm not a subscriber), and I must admit I thought "is that it??!!" Anyhoo, I love your channel Mel and wish you well.
Hi Mel sorry to hear all this , I have been there before and know how you both feel. The feeling you get going back somewhere you don't want to be. It's time like this you realise who your friends and enemies really are . 5 days notice is not enough. I would have jumped out and lampedusa the prick. It's your stuff and he has no right to make your life hard. It'll make you stronger and maybe a small place for you both is a good solution 👌
The Barn always seemed to be an idyllic place as you portrayed it, so I’m sorry to see that it has lost its shine right when its days were numbered anyway. Move on to better things, take the good memories with you, and leave the negativity behind for others to sort out - ultimately they will all have to leave too.
So sorry to hear how they have treated you and Becky the barn would never of been the success that it was without your input hold your head up high and walk away with pride Hope you are still going to show us the completion of dragon fly
I have watched for longer than the barn days and tbh I think the concept is great but Mel should find somewhere he owns and do something similiar but properly. Good luck
Thank you for your support over the years I’m planning on building my channel to the point where I can get my own work shop to be able to continue to grow 👍🫶
Thanks for sharing the reality of things. There's always 2 sides to every story but it's nice to see some reality. If you're ever in West Wales can accom You were more than reasonable asking for 30 days. Meeting halfway to give you extra time especially over the bank holiday would have been a nice thing to do.
Yeah it doesn’t cost anything to be civil,sounds like you’ll both be better off out of it.Ive subscribed to Becky’s channel so ill hear more about what’s been going on god bless.and hopefully you both have had a terrific holiday 👍.✊🙏❤️👌👊😎
Sad to see it come to this but things happen for a reason which is probably for the better! Best of luck from someone that has watched all of your content.
good vid on channel sorry over wot happed over you at the work place hold head up mell and beckey keep up the great vid you do and share with use thanks lee
good afternoon Becky and Mel i love watching your videos on your UA-cam channel I hope you are all well and enjoying your conversion on your campervan sorry to hear that you and Becky are leaving the barn I hope that you too can still finish your conversion on your campervan please mel why it is called Dragonfly Can you say why please keep safe and warm please keep up on your youtube channel don't get up set please
So sorry to hear all this and just watched Becky’s video too. I know it was a couple of weeks ago now but wish I could have helped you both. (Not that my back is much better😎). Onwards and upwards. You will be better off away from this negativity. Just such a shame after how much you put into building the barn community…
Hi Mel, right what i thought halfway the video: alfter you would have left the barn, take a good two weeks of holliday to set your mind strait, before moving on with your project(s) Greetings from Carlo and Mascha (blue curtains) Ps we are doing oke now, as we had to leave our shop and restart our business from a appartement/van. Have a nice holliday you two and hope to see you happy again in a couple of weeks❤
I don’t know why, but I thought the Barn was yours. There have been times when you were the only rig there. You certainly brought business to it. In America, 30 days is very reasonable and it’s the law unless you have committed serious violations. Anyone who watches you knows you are a meticulous planner who gets anxious. 4 days out was designed to be petty and increase your stress. You deserve better.
Hi Mel, sorry to see all s×!t your having to put up with at the barn, no rimes a good time i know. Anyway i bought you a few coffee's a couple a weeks ago, but aint received any stickers, cheers mate, im copy ing your hot water idea (brilliant) all the best to you both steve payne
Hi why don't you get a TENS machine you can get them from a chemist they're not overly expensive and they do help back pain just do not put it on any bony areas like your elbows or head putting it on pulse points also can be very dangerous only suitable for like backs and places like that they are good I use one.
Wow Mel what a nightmare I’m glad your nearly out of there if you can get dragonfly into another workshop soon so that’s safe then I think you both need a rest and a think where you go from here I’m still hoping you’ll continue filming the van build and after that as well as you say I wish you well😉
I've not (had time to) check into this channel for some time, so I'm astonished about the totally different vibe (it was my happy place). Being suddenly homeless /baseless can be quite stressful (been there, sans véhicule)- and all matériel goods become a burden. Hope everything is resolved with minimal damage, and nothing is posted (by any party - or viewer) that will be regretted down the line. Take care, and here's to brighter beginings
@@BigVanSmallWorld we're disabled and we get picked on by a horrid man on the estate police don't help us me and my partner. Green smokers all around us no good.
Van life for me personally is a way of creating a gap between myself and others. It can take 10.....20..year's to trust another. Enjoy the solitude and sanctuary that our country offers. Amen bruv. Keep calm x
How many times have we heard this happen to people...as soon as a group of folk band together and put some folk" in charge" everything goes to shit... regardless of who's fault it is... its a lesson to us all... dont get involved... do your own thing... as sad as it si to say it... its the only way... then you only let yourself down, only fall out with yourself, and can praise yourself time and time again...Hope it all works out though Mel...your a decent guy... Yoki..
People, eh! Hope you and Becky can move on from this soon. Sounds like you were the adults in this unfortunate situation. Crazy how simple situations can so easily escalate into full on conflict. Maybe a simplistic, utopian wish, but why can't folk just be nice? Good luck with finding somewhere you can safely and happily finish off Dragonfly.
Omg you both are so kind & always helping them in that place bit sounds of your voice they defo have got to you. I am like you I would help anyone now I look out for number One me, I did help a person now he is making ££££ from my free help so now I do not show anyone how to get stuff it is a sad live when we have to do this onwards & upwards for you both
I have been watching you on youtube for 5 years and I am really disappointed to see you both treated like that. Two very nice people who have promoted the barn to others right from the start. One saving grace is it will be gone soon anyway. All the best and keep the content coming.
If you decide to start a new workshop area plz do a go fund me or something similar, will support as best we can. Without you the van world is a sad place. Can not comment on the situation as dont know facts, not going to pry but you have taught us so much over years. Grateful. Be you . Your better than they seem to be.
hopefully you,ll get some peace once you get Dragon fly out ,a holiday and a bit of a well deserved rest will give you both a chance to reflect and maybe build a few bridges or not ,look after yourself Mel
Two sides to every story, it maybe would be good for the other people involved to tell their side of the story.What is their reasoning for doing this to you both.There has to be a reason.You both cant be completely innocent in this.
Hi those locks on your lock up needs upgrading .I had my lock up broken into with those on simply twisted them off no bother,just thought would tell you 😮
It's funny how 'Love' can distort reality Mel ... Your situation started out a bit like a MumsNet Post .. Nothing to write home about! - New vehicles can bring the Ugly side out in people as they fall in LOVE with the vehicle and Woe-Betide 'Anyone!' who touches/damages it in any way .... The Honey-Badger in us shows it's TEETH! and the Prey go into Defense! Mode ..... I think that's what's happened here. Becky showed her TEETH! ... The lads in the barn went into Self-Preservation Mode ... And YOU!! Saw Your source of LOVE! under threat and decided to 'make a stand' with her........ I've seen the video Becky made ... I think if it had been one of the 'other' chaps in the barn trying to protect 'their' partner over such a trivial affair You might WELL have gone with the Lads ... You'll look back on this in the not-too-distant-future (If not already) and think - WOT! A Plonker! ?? 😵💫😵🥴
I’m laying on a beach right now next to Becky and I have absolutely no regrets about my decision to stand by her it’s what real men do they protect their women
I commented on Rebecca's channel too. But she's shadow blocked me (so essentially only I can see my comment) whilst I'm aware it didn't fit her narrative. It does seem like there have been childish remarks on both slides. You mentioned a couple of times that the lock isn't locked..maybe someone forgot. Busy working busy getting on with stuff, busy removing stuff....hence why you left the light on. People forget when they are busy. You introduced it as a community some years back and even today you refer to it as a community, yet this is one of Rebecca's talking points (should be run as a business not a community) and all the while she claims she was instrumental in the set up and helping the place thrive, yet doesn't like the way the place was ran . You said you would be civil, yet you wasn't. I'm sure the other bloke (guy in the digger) wasn't civil either. But he's not airing his laundry on a social platform and name calling others via his platform. I've watched both you and Rebecca for years, yourself for a long, long, long time. But this just seems like as someone has already said. Primary school children on both sides Mel. I wish you well and look forward to seeing great work from yourself. I don't mean to offend and that's not my intention, but airing laundry when you have a disagreement isn't the way to go about building a community on social media which is what you have here. Very best of luck Mel.
I know nothing about the situation or background to this though I wanted to comment on your point about sharing or airing dirty laundry on social media. Typically, what you suggest is a fair comment, though in this scenario, it does seem appropriate. Why? Well, Mel's journey with van life and the period he's been at the barn, has been showing (on social media) how people can be a powerful force when they work together. It would have been an unusual outcome to not equally show how that powerful force can also be reversed when it comes to disagreements. So even without any personal perspectives on what went wrong and how/why, it at least demonstrates the realities of life. If he hadn't shared this episode, it wouldn't be a truthful representation of how he feels and how he sees this through his own experience.and perceptions. So, my point isn't about the scenario but in the context of his channel being about the "life" associated with vans and conversions, it seemed not unusual that he would show this part of his life in the same, albeit proportionately limited, way he had extensively and positively covered his experience there over time.
Thank you for your support really appreciate it. You have no idea how much I stressed over uploading this video part of me didn’t but then I felt that my true long term followers actually deserve to know what has happened. Thank you so very much for taking the time to comment I truly do appreciate your feedback and support 🫶
When you use something that other people own ie rent or have help for free or park for free remember it can be taken away from you at any moment, own your own land, have zero debt and you can do near 100% of things by your self so needing help is something you don't need at all or not very often, life becomes safer and more predictable. Just count yourself lucky that you got the van sorted otherwise you would be begging people to help or to remain at any cost, always be able to move at a moment's notice only then will you have pure freedom. 🙂
I have been a huge fan of your channel for a few years and I love it. Carry on doing what you do best I think your being the bigger man and not talking about the issue online protect your channel. That’s what is important. Good luck Mel. I hope Rebecca’s video doesn’t reflect on your channel.
We might be able to store some stuff up here if you need
Thanks so much Liam, might well take you up on this offer ❤
@@SACREDTRAVELLER I’ll do what I can to help
What a sad ending... good luck, Mel.
Absolutely disgusting how you both have been treated. After all you've done for everyone, f**k them all !
You're a sound bloke too Liam.
We dont know whats happened. However in the UK its best to keep yourself to yourself. Ive always found group activities in the UK to be odd. People spend more time running others down than working together. Avoid groups in the UK.
Same in the US.
It’s human nature, people are worried about being at the bottom of the social pecking order, so they find a target to keep them safe and everyone else focused on that target. If the target gets driven out, it’s soon going to be someone else’s turn, probably one of the people picking on the last victim.
British people have become so miserable
Me too, always kept to myself, no cliques or anything like that.
@jackworsley2562 so what actually happens is someone tries to become a leader. They then turn the group against a individual. This is a phenomenon known as group think. It's a sad part of human psychology.
I hate these kinds of video, thst discuss the aftermath of a conflict wanting understanding / empathy but not explaining what the conflict is actually about.
“There are three sides to every story: your side, my side, and the truth. And no one is lying. Memories shared serve each differently.”
I love watching your UA-cam and Becky. I’ve learnt a lot. I hope you have no more problems and have a really good holiday. All the best.
Until we got the full story it’s hard to give an opinion without it being biased. That being said I hope you’re both okay. 💪🏻
Yup, there's always at least three sides to a story.
Hard to say if you’re being treated fair mate as we don’t know what’s been happening. Good luck though 😂
It all started when we got the news that the barn would be demolished in January and Ade asked me not to promote it anymore on my channel. As we were over booked anyway. I knew then that my time was up as I was no longer needed and the space I was taking up was more valuable to Ade than me.
So I was expecting something like this to happen. So when Becky’s van got damaged I wasn’t surprised by the way Ade handled the situation and turned things around to make Becky seem reasonable for damaging her own van turning everyone else at the barn against her literally making her feel unsafe and unwelcome so when she stood up for herself making a video on her channel this upset everyone at the Barn made things difficult for me so I decided that I would leave as soon as I could and started to film this video that same day Ade and his so called community ask me to leave given me 5 days notice but made things so difficult I left in 4 days.
Hope this helps you understand what’s happening thanks for your time and your support really appreciated.
Mel
@@BigVanSmallWorld something to think about is someone that’s willing to make you both feel like that really isn’t worth the time or friendship. You obviously had something in the beginning that he valued and decided somewhere along the line he didn’t need anymore. Unfortunately these things happen as people can really cruel! Had a similar thing happen to myself and it makes you realise how used you were essentially. You’ll both get over it and become stronger because of it! His loss, go onto bigger and better things!! ☺️ Goodluck
@@BigVanSmallWorld is it Ade’s barn?
I gave up on friends years ago, now I have distant acquaintances , very distant 🤣 good luck on your new lockup , things usually happen for a reason so in hindsight moving on to pastures new is probably going to be a blessing for you both👌
Friends are overrated.
@@JazzFunkNobby1964too bloody right.
We full-time living in our motorhome.
We tend not to over mix with groups of us humans as usually the first to walk away from the group will be the first talked about.
Couldnt agree more !!
That’s so true it’s like being the first to leave a dinner party every one talks about you the minute you leave the room 😂👍🫶
Mel "Bread Eaten is Soon Forgotten " 😢😢
I'm 80 in six months and the amount of men n women I've helped over the years Not One of them ever checked to.see if I needed help
It's a Sad world (people wise)
Any wonder their is Conflict Everywhere
Stay Free and Safe. 😊
Sadly I’m learning this lesson over time
Happy 80th birthday 🎉
Sounds like the vanlife comunity everyone's out there for themselves we learnt the hard way hope all is well Mel
Thank you and yes all it good now I think you get good and bad in any community it’s just a shame that someone managed to turn everyone against me in this one but not to worry as the barn will be demolished soon and they will all be forced out and that’s the end of there little community 😂👍
Hi Mel sorry to see the problems that you are having and we hope you have a much nicer time in the future keep smiling and keep on keeping on all the best Kevbo &Babyjack
Thank you 🙏
This is why I pulled away from most people...less chance of betrayal.
You’re not wrong 🍻👍
Unsubscribed because of the DryRobe seat cover
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@@Grandpapiyorks 🤣
Awww man Liam! 😂😂😂
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lol 😮
1st time watching your videos, I have no idea what occurred, but I hope your new location works well, good luck with the reorganised workshop after you have had a long break.
Thank you so very much for joining us and for the positive comment it really means the world. Thank you 👍🤓👍
Having had a similar end to something a couple years ago. I completely understand how the emotions of this situation have affected you both. I truly hope you can now move forward towards your dream with dragonfly. Love to you both ❤
Thank you love you too x
I'm really sorry Mel that you had to leave I hope things settle down soon
Thank you buddy
Don't know the full story Mel, but if it was me I'd move Dragonfly out now even if you have to pay for a tow truck. Better than having it possibly damaged. Hope it all works out for you. Stay strong Mel.
Thank you we are out now and all ok 👍
@@BigVanSmallWorldthe only paperwork you need for a situation like that is insurance provided the vehicle is safe to drive. MOT & Road Tax are needed for normal driving not for emergencies or for moving home.
@@alanhat5252 The only exemption that exists to drive without a current valid MOT and tax, is when going to a pre-booked test, or driving home from a test failure. I'm sure you mean well, but such advice if taken, could well leads to someone else's day in court.
All this over a tiny tiny scratch on a wing mirror that she could have done herself without realising it. Bizarre.
She didn’t do it herself Becky reversed into the parking spot there was nothing there when she did the as she had to use her mirror to actually reverse logically she would have noticed her mirror was push in at that time Becky did not do it herself
I've just had to subscribe to you again, so pleased your video showed up in my feed. How Rebecca has been treated I don't blame you for getting all your stuff. They sound a bad bunch to be around. I think 5 days is unreasonable. Xx
Thank you for subscribing really appreciate it and appreciate your positive feedback 👍🍻👍
Anything with a committee steer clear.
You’re not wrong
I'm gutted for the both you Mel. I've been following your channel for a good few years now and you strike me as a pukka bloke. When you and Rebecca introduced us to the barn I was immediately impressed with the concept... It's a bloody shame how you and Rebecca have been treated... Oh well, it's their loss. You two appear to be a great team so, keep on keeping on! 👍
Thank you for the positive vibes really appreciated
Same I've watched mel on and off for a few yrs and he always comes across as a sound chap. Very knowledgeable on the van life.
@@BigVanSmallWorldfrom what I've watched your a sound chap and you don't need childish people like that around you.
For all the work you have done there to help people they wnated you out so sad to see that chapter end but am looking forward to the next one
I am so sorry that this has happened to both of you. ❤
Thank you 🫶
Sorry to hear this after all the work you put into the place x
So sad it has come to this. Glad you and Becky are ok and Becky has the right idea! Go get a holiday!! Mel your channel is wicked and I’ve always enjoyed your content. Think the five days notice was harsh! The amount of business you’ve put the barns way too. Keep your chin up. If you do go on holiday take us with you. All the best
Thank you and yes Becky has been busy filming all week
Bring back waffle on a Wensday! You have a lot of loyal followers Mel, put the barn behind you, look at some of your back catalogue and bring it back. Petty squabbles are so draining, I’ve been caught up in a few myself. Cant wait to see the Luxury Overlander taking you on your travels.
@@Smudge64 thank you for the positive feedback I really do appreciate it as for waffle on Wednesday I will be bringing it back in the winter months 👍🍻👍
Hi Mel
Been watching your Chanel for years I enjoy your churpy and positive outlook its very sad to see you upset and despondent , we as your subscribers will continue to follow you where every go on your journeys . Keep your chin up mate 😎
Gary Mon and Ruby🐶
This will be our Chanel once I get my self organised but struggling with video editing etc formally (something blue)
Thank you so very much for your support and kindness good luck with the channel it’s not easy being in the public eye but the reward is always getting the support from people like yourself ❤️🩹👍🙏
Take it easy, buddy & we really hope you both get that holiday ✌️🙏💙
Mel, Rebekah, we so feel for you. I can’t believe after all that you’ve done for the barn etc, that the ‘committee’ have done this to you. We had exactly the same done to us a couple of years ago. Enjoy your holiday.
Thank you
There is a Dutch song made in the 80´...Friendship is a illusion, a packet of scrap with a thin layer of chrome.... ( ruffly translated ). And I never forget this song , because it is the truth. As long they can `feed` of you and you are giving they are so called friends.....
That’s so sad but unfortunately in this case so true as soon as we were no longer needed to promote the barn that’s when they turned against us x
'A pile of scrap with a thin layer of chrome' I LOVE that! What a perfect way of putting it!
I had similar thing happen to me I sold up to move to Cornwall to be closer to my family they promised me I could put a mobile home on some land a static but never happened due to brother in law lying so I left with all my stuff still there and can't get it because he wants storage money to release my stuff at to buy a camper to live in who can you trust !! My life ruined
I would definitely recommend getting some legal advice good luck 🤞
Some "friend(s)" he was(they were)... You and Rebecca had added so much value to that barn. I had begun to like some of those guys even... This is no way to treat people one had shared so much and broken bread with. How they treated you and Rebecca in no way diminishes you or takes anything away from you. Please keep up the good work and 'em videos coming and hold your spirits high. You guys deserve to be treated so much better.
Sorry it has come to this Mel but I subscribe to you to watch you convert your vans regardless of where you are. Walk away with your head high and don't look back. The other barners will be moving on soon anyway when it shuts down so no loss there and you know who your friends are. You and Beckie have successful channels with your subscriber base who will mostly stay loyal. Keep it up mate and I for one will keep subscribing and enjoying what you do.
Thank you
It’s so sad to see you in that situation. I’ve watched you from the start of this build on this fan. You put a lot of work into that community with all the different people and I cannot believe it ended up like this..
Yes it is sad after all the time, love and commitment of two years - oh well….time to move on 😅
I appreciate that!
New doors don't open until old doors are closed. Things can only get better 🙏 😊
That’s so true thank you for your kind words of encouragement 🙏🫶👍
Informative,and entertaining 👍🙂Look forward to more adventures. Beat wishes.
Thank you appreciate that 👍🍻👍
a barn committee for a barn getting knocked down sound like a bunch of losers
they sound like bunch of self important tossers 😂
Yes spot on mate, not a very successful committee then, lol.
Really does doesn't it, tosspots
Sorry to hear of your troubles, we have enjoyed all the videos you and Becks made at the barn. May be it's time to start enjoying all your hard works and start traveling again. Look forward to seeing you both on adventures.
Thanks for the words of encouragement really appreciated 🫶
Also Mel there are some big storage units the containers near me. They have onsite shower , water fill and toilets ect. 24 hour access as an upgrade with security cameras. In Southampton
As they say Mel, what dont kill you makes you stronger. Its like a book, you finish one chapter turn the page and onto another chapter. Looking forward to your adventures in Dragonfly 👍
Stay positive Mel I think you should have been given 30 days notice. I feel your pain and frustration with the situation. Hopefully new goals will take shape and the location change will be good for both you and Becky TC ❤
Thank you
Mel and Beck's sorry to hear this has happened, I have enjoyed watching you guys doing your vans. Take some time and when you're ready come back anew. All the best guys John Marie and Teddy the dog.
It is a normal procedure that these folks take, make things as difficult as possible for you but making out its all your doing, you are right to move on .!
Thank you for the positive vibes we are definitely moving on to a new chapter now 👍🤓👍
Good luck Mel and all the best in your new lockup keep putting up the videos
Thank you! Will do!
I would think about upgrading the locks on your lock up, looks too easy to break into and with all that good stuff inside you don't want that going missing
I’m on it now thank you 👍🍻👍
I am sure you will find another place and sort everything out out mell some times it’s unbelievable what can happen may be it’s a blessing in disguise best of luck mell
You're making a great job of the van and have a wonderful relationship and people will get envious,this manifests in out of character behaviour from insecure people. good luck guys
Wishing you both the best and hope you have found safe of road storage for Dragon fly and have a few weeks to get de-stress 😀
One new subscriber.. one thing I’ve learned from disputes is, you can’t reason with unreasonable.. I’ve learned to be pleasant and extra nice to difficult People because it really annoys them and the can say anything.. no one needs toxic people, and most are like this because you were valuable and they want to justify their actions
Thank you for your support and encouragement really appreciate that 👍🤓👍
In my experience, there are infact three sides to a story. Your side, their side and what really happened. When I first heard that you have been forced to leave as your partner didn't feel safe, I feared something terrible had happened. I went over to watch her video (I'm not a subscriber), and I must admit I thought "is that it??!!" Anyhoo, I love your channel Mel and wish you well.
Keep on doing what you’s do best put that barn behind you’s we have been a fan of your along time now keep it going😊👌onward👍
Thanks so much!! For your support over the years really appreciated
Hi Mel sorry to hear all this , I have been there before and know how you both feel. The feeling you get going back somewhere you don't want to be. It's time like this you realise who your friends and enemies really are . 5 days notice is not enough. I would have jumped out and lampedusa the prick. It's your stuff and he has no right to make your life hard. It'll make you stronger and maybe a small place for you both is a good solution 👌
keep posting Mel love your video 👍
Thank you, I will
The Barn always seemed to be an idyllic place as you portrayed it, so I’m sorry to see that it has lost its shine right when its days were numbered anyway. Move on to better things, take the good memories with you, and leave the negativity behind for others to sort out - ultimately they will all have to leave too.
" Forgot to turn the lights off again." .........like a Ninja.
Oh Mel I am so sorry for you both but I am sure something will come good for you.
So sorry to hear how they have treated you and Becky the barn would never of been the success that it was without your input hold your head up high and walk away with pride
Hope you are still going to show us the completion of dragon fly
Thank you and yes you’re right about that it would probably still be an empty barn without mine and Beckys hard work
I have watched for longer than the barn days and tbh I think the concept is great but Mel should find somewhere he owns and do something similiar but properly. Good luck
Thank you for your support over the years I’m planning on building my channel to the point where I can get my own work shop to be able to continue to grow 👍🫶
Thanks for sharing the reality of things. There's always 2 sides to every story but it's nice to see some reality. If you're ever in West Wales can accom
You were more than reasonable asking for 30 days. Meeting halfway to give you extra time especially over the bank holiday would have been a nice thing to do.
Thank you that’s very kind of you
Get the hell out of there.... and don't look back mate!
Sorry you are having so much trouble. don't let the "bar stewards" grind you down!
These are stress levels you could both do without. Good luck moving forward 👍🏻
Yeah it doesn’t cost anything to be civil,sounds like you’ll both be better off out of it.Ive subscribed to Becky’s channel so ill hear more about what’s been going on god bless.and hopefully you both have had a terrific holiday 👍.✊🙏❤️👌👊😎
Thank you 👍🍻👍
As a iod Brickie I spray my back with deep heat in the morning before I start using my back which helps stop the back problem.
He’s got me to massage his back better 😊
@@SACREDTRAVELLER didn't Mel have Groin Injury Some Years Go Too 😮😂
That’s great advice thank you 🙏
Sad to see it come to this but things happen for a reason which is probably for the better! Best of luck from someone that has watched all of your content.
good vid on channel sorry over wot happed over you at the work place hold head up mell and beckey keep up the great vid you do and share with use
thanks lee
Mel.. I'm certain that someone out there in 'subscriber land' will have some undercover space for you to use/rent...🤷🏼♂️🙏🏼
good afternoon Becky and Mel i love watching your videos on your UA-cam channel
I hope you are all well and enjoying your conversion on your campervan sorry to hear that you and Becky are leaving the barn I hope that you too can still finish your conversion on your campervan please mel why it is called Dragonfly Can you say why please keep safe and warm please keep up on your youtube channel don't get up set please
So sorry to hear all this and just watched Becky’s video too. I know it was a couple of weeks ago now but wish I could have helped you both. (Not that my back is much better😎). Onwards and upwards. You will be better off away from this negativity. Just such a shame after how much you put into building the barn community…
Hi Mel, right what i thought halfway the video: alfter you would have left the barn, take a good two weeks of holliday to set your mind strait, before moving on with your project(s)
Greetings from Carlo and Mascha (blue curtains)
Ps we are doing oke now, as we had to leave our shop and restart our business from a appartement/van.
Have a nice holliday you two and hope to see you happy again in a couple of weeks❤
Oh my goodness me I do hope you are ok thank you for your kind comments over the years xx
Their loss Mel. I agree with others, and uf yiu can get Dragonfly out in case if any ' incidents' take care you two.
Chin up Mel, will work out for the best in the end, 👍
I don’t know why, but I thought the Barn was yours. There have been times when you were the only rig there. You certainly brought business to it.
In America, 30 days is very reasonable and it’s the law unless you have committed serious violations. Anyone who watches you knows you are a meticulous planner who gets anxious. 4 days out was designed to be petty and increase your stress. You deserve better.
I'm right behind you guys. Onwards and upwards. Fu***k the tos***rs. God look to you both. I love both your vlogs.❤❤
Hi Mel, sorry to see all s×!t your having to put up with at the barn, no rimes a good time i know. Anyway i bought you a few coffee's a couple a weeks ago, but aint received any stickers, cheers mate, im copy ing your hot water idea (brilliant) all the best to you both steve payne
Oh no! I will have to check what’s happened 👍
Hi why don't you get a TENS machine you can get them from a chemist they're not overly expensive and they do help back pain just do not put it on any bony areas like your elbows or head putting it on pulse points also can be very dangerous only suitable for like backs and places like that they are good I use one.
Stay stromg guys. Onwards and upwards! :)
Wow Mel what a nightmare I’m glad your nearly out of there if you can get dragonfly into another workshop soon so that’s safe then I think you both need a rest and a think where you go from here I’m still hoping you’ll continue filming the van build and after that as well as you say I wish you well😉
Never mind Mel there is always greener grass on the horizon
Don’t let it get you down things happen for a reason you and Becky will end up better than ever
I've not (had time to) check into this channel for some time, so I'm astonished about the totally different vibe (it was my happy place). Being suddenly homeless /baseless can be quite stressful (been there, sans véhicule)- and all matériel goods become a burden. Hope everything is resolved with minimal damage, and nothing is posted (by any party - or viewer) that will be regretted down the line. Take care, and here's to brighter beginings
Been watching you for years you are a nice person. There loss i think people have changed since kung ku.
Thank you x
@@BigVanSmallWorld we're disabled and we get picked on by a horrid man on the estate police don't help us me and my partner. Green smokers all around us no good.
Sorry to hear that
Van life for me personally is a way of creating a gap between myself and others.
It can take 10.....20..year's to trust another.
Enjoy the solitude and sanctuary that our country offers. Amen bruv. Keep calm x
Thank you 👍👍
best out of there --- they sound like people not to be around
I reallf enjoy your channel Mel, sorry thus happened. Youll look back and realise you were better off out of it anyway.
I hope so too!thank you for the positive vibes really appreciate that
How many times have we heard this happen to people...as soon as a group of folk band together and put some folk" in charge" everything goes to shit... regardless of who's fault it is... its a lesson to us all... dont get involved... do your own thing... as sad as it si to say it... its the only way... then you only let yourself down, only fall out with yourself, and can praise yourself time and time again...Hope it all works out though Mel...your a decent guy... Yoki..
Thank you 🙏
People, eh! Hope you and Becky can move on from this soon. Sounds like you were the adults in this unfortunate situation. Crazy how simple situations can so easily escalate into full on conflict. Maybe a simplistic, utopian wish, but why can't folk just be nice? Good luck with finding somewhere you can safely and happily finish off Dragonfly.
Any way Mel fuck em get out of there dust yourself down
Have a break and onward to the next chapter
Yepppp peeee
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Thank you 🙏
Omg you both are so kind & always helping them in that place bit sounds of your voice they defo have got to you. I am like you I would help anyone now I look out for number One me, I did help a person now he is making ££££ from my free help so now I do not show anyone how to get stuff it is a sad live when we have to do this onwards & upwards for you both
I have been watching you on youtube for 5 years and I am really disappointed to see you both treated like that. Two very nice people who have promoted the barn to others right from the start. One saving grace is it will be gone soon anyway. All the best and keep the content coming.
If you decide to start a new workshop area plz do a go fund me or something similar, will support as best we can. Without you the van world is a sad place. Can not comment on the situation as dont know facts, not going to pry but you have taught us so much over years. Grateful. Be you . Your better than they seem to be.
hopefully you,ll get some peace once you get Dragon fly out ,a holiday and a bit of a well deserved rest will give you both a chance to reflect and maybe build a few bridges or not ,look after yourself Mel
Thank you for the positive vibes 🫶
Two sides to every story, it maybe would be good for the other people involved to tell their side of the story.What is their reasoning for doing this to you both.There has to be a reason.You both cant be completely innocent in this.
You have friends here Mel !!!!!!
Hi those locks on your lock up needs upgrading .I had my lock up broken into with those on simply twisted them off no bother,just thought would tell you 😮
Thank you and yes that is on my list of things to do when we get back
It's funny how 'Love' can distort reality Mel ... Your situation started out a bit like a MumsNet Post .. Nothing to write home about! - New vehicles can bring the Ugly side out in people as they fall in LOVE with the vehicle and Woe-Betide 'Anyone!' who touches/damages it in any way .... The Honey-Badger in us shows it's TEETH! and the Prey go into Defense! Mode ..... I think that's what's happened here. Becky showed her TEETH! ... The lads in the barn went into Self-Preservation Mode ... And YOU!! Saw Your source of LOVE! under threat and decided to 'make a stand' with her........ I've seen the video Becky made ... I think if it had been one of the 'other' chaps in the barn trying to protect 'their' partner over such a trivial affair You might WELL have gone with the Lads ... You'll look back on this in the not-too-distant-future (If not already) and think - WOT! A Plonker! ?? 😵💫😵🥴
I’m laying on a beach right now next to Becky and I have absolutely no regrets about my decision to stand by her it’s what real men do they protect their women
.... Quite Right Too! - Enjoy Your break Mel 🤠
@@Clan501-Scotlandget a grip!
I commented on Rebecca's channel too. But she's shadow blocked me (so essentially only I can see my comment) whilst I'm aware it didn't fit her narrative. It does seem like there have been childish remarks on both slides. You mentioned a couple of times that the lock isn't locked..maybe someone forgot. Busy working busy getting on with stuff, busy removing stuff....hence why you left the light on. People forget when they are busy.
You introduced it as a community some years back and even today you refer to it as a community, yet this is one of Rebecca's talking points (should be run as a business not a community) and all the while she claims she was instrumental in the set up and helping the place thrive, yet doesn't like the way the place was ran . You said you would be civil, yet you wasn't. I'm sure the other bloke (guy in the digger) wasn't civil either. But he's not airing his laundry on a social platform and name calling others via his platform.
I've watched both you and Rebecca for years, yourself for a long, long, long time. But this just seems like as someone has already said. Primary school children on both sides Mel.
I wish you well and look forward to seeing great work from yourself. I don't mean to offend and that's not my intention, but airing laundry when you have a disagreement isn't the way to go about building a community on social media which is what you have here. Very best of luck Mel.
I know nothing about the situation or background to this though I wanted to comment on your point about sharing or airing dirty laundry on social media. Typically, what you suggest is a fair comment, though in this scenario, it does seem appropriate. Why? Well, Mel's journey with van life and the period he's been at the barn, has been showing (on social media) how people can be a powerful force when they work together. It would have been an unusual outcome to not equally show how that powerful force can also be reversed when it comes to disagreements. So even without any personal perspectives on what went wrong and how/why, it at least demonstrates the realities of life. If he hadn't shared this episode, it wouldn't be a truthful representation of how he feels and how he sees this through his own experience.and perceptions. So, my point isn't about the scenario but in the context of his channel being about the "life" associated with vans and conversions, it seemed not unusual that he would show this part of his life in the same, albeit proportionately limited, way he had extensively and positively covered his experience there over time.
Thank you for your support really appreciate it. You have no idea how much I stressed over uploading this video part of me didn’t but then I felt that my true long term followers actually deserve to know what has happened. Thank you so very much for taking the time to comment I truly do appreciate your feedback and support 🫶
When you use something that other people own ie rent or have help for free or park for free remember it can be taken away from you at any moment, own your own land, have zero debt and you can do near 100% of things by your self so needing help is something you don't need at all or not very often, life becomes safer and more predictable.
Just count yourself lucky that you got the van sorted otherwise you would be begging people to help or to remain at any cost, always be able to move at a moment's notice only then will you have pure freedom. 🙂
That’s really good advice thank you for taking the time to share
I have been a huge fan of your channel for a few years and I love it. Carry on doing what you do best I think your being the bigger man and not talking about the issue online protect your channel. That’s what is important. Good luck Mel. I hope Rebecca’s video doesn’t reflect on your channel.