I have 4 kids i work I'm a single parent life can get stressful..about Bill's and everything else...I don't drink wine ..but in the morning I would open up a Corona bottle..instead of coffee..my only brother passed away..so I was drinking more through out the day.. even when I was at work on lunch time I would go to Circle K get something to drink put it in my Thirst Buster and drink at work... I don't do that anymore if I do have a drink it's once in a blue moon but now instead of drinking when I'm stressed or depressed I just pray to God to guide me to help me..
I can't tell how old her son, Maverick, is now, but for the age he appears to be in the clip, his delivery is extremely well-spoken and insightful. Maybe he will retain his unbiased judgement skills for the rest of his life. I'm astounded, considering the confession by his mother about her anger toward the kids.
The narration is a bit misleading, which said he noticed his mom drinking as early as 6 but then didn't state how old he was at the time of the interview
You go girl. I'm a writer blogger, and raising my grandson. I UNDERSTAND. It sneaks up on you. I am so proud of you for opening up and being vulnerable to the truth. Keep it up. What an inspiration!
@Lucky Catnip the drinking doesn't sneak up on you, but the chaos it creates does....one drink at a time. Of course you know your doing it. And that it's bad. But there are underlying issues that keep it going. Don't be so quick, as to judge someone, on their failures....we all have them, even you. And one day you'll need someone to understand you through it....just like her.
Good on her for being so honest! 👏🏼 I hardly ever drink and that is pretty much socially unacceptable in Australia. Always being asked why...am I pregnant or is it just a once off!! People cant believe it is just my choice.
Bugger people's insecurities. I had a stroke and drank alcohol to release dopamine for nearly 20 years. Then I stopped because I always drank to get pissed.
I don’t drink. My parents were alcoholics. When I was younger I didn’t realize that they were addicted. I thought it was normal to have an 18 pack a day. And two 4 packs on top of that for “lunch”. My neighbor would always watch me and she would say “oh your mom has already had her liquid lunch so she’ll be fine”. My sister and I don’t drink. We do fear alcohol.
yeah i used to fear it too but it was more of an at the time my parents were like its okay for us to drink because we are adults and we pay the bills and that kind of thing. and if you drink you are out of the house. my dad was an alcoholic my mom barely drank infact since my dad stopped drinking i cant recall the last time my mom drank. i am 35 now i have been drinking for 10 years and honestly i have it so under control as unless i make a plan to go out and drink usually like weeks or months ahead of time i can look at beer or liquer or whatever and just go meh or feel indifferent towards it. sometimes if a friend does randomly ask me to go on the same day i will say sure if i have nothing else to do the next day(if i get asked on a friday/staturday) with rare expections on a sunday or even after work on weekday.
I always thought it was weird that all these women couldn’t wait to drink wine all the time.. and the onslaught from the merchandise and acceptance was weird. Did the housewives show heighten this or start it?
It has been 6 months since my last drink. I feel so much better and clear headed. Thank-you ABC for doing this story. I would rather be BLISSFUL than BUZZED!
I used to see these mom drinking at play dates thinking “how do they drink that much with their kids??” Every one told me it was normal. I was like OK. However my kids weren’t allowed at play dates where mom’s would be drinking because everyone one would look at me crazy if I chose not to drink.
yup i feel like people tend to look at you kind of crazy if you chose not to drink at social events as an adult. like i feel people will think ironically something is wrong with you.
you are not wrong and part of the problem is people think something is wrong with you if you do not drink and will feel kind of uncomfortable with you. and if you are hanging out with people while everyone else is drinking and you are not it can be alkward.
I was wondering about all that "mommy drinking" merchandise, like... don't you need to drive your kids around? What if there is an emergency? People assume me an alcoholic because I bring vodka instead of wine. Nice thing about vodka is you can pour as little as you want, close the bottle and throw it back on the shelf for any other day - open bottle shelf life is like 10 years or more. With wine there is a pressure to finish it once opened or you have to pour it down the sink. I see my neighbours dumping several bottles of wine in the recycling every week...
yup pretty much i rarely drink whine myself i tend to go for hader liquer like vokda because as you said you can drink as much as you want and then keep the rest for later on. granted me and my friend when we pre drink going out to a club sometimes the smaller bottle is not enough for us but my friend says she still has some of our bottles we saved for the next time we pre drink.
CPS doesn't say a think about this, but as soon as a parent smokes a single solitary joint before bedtime they're in there taking away the kids and the whole nine yards
Glad she came over to the other side... it's so much better. We gave to appreciate our children when they're young because once they're gone... they're gone...
I went thru alcohol hell. I smoke now. I can assure you you don't get addicted to weed and it does NOT have the negative effects. one toke I can relax instead of the hell of Xanax and wine/beer world I lived in. even if I indulge I am not going to black out or wake up to the shakes. in fact weed has HELPED me with my health not destroyed it. I am not a "stoner".
Don’t forget that no one has ever died from a marijuana overdose & it has medicinal properties. It’s also natural & doesn’t have to be processed to be used at all.
Oh yeah, it’s also not physically addictive. When you stop, you’ll miss the act of smoking but I guess you could use something safer, like vaping. Oh wait, that’s killing folks left & right. More people have died from vaping (which has only been around a few years) than died from a marijuana overdose.
What I don't get is how all these US moms manage to drive home after drinking at kids' play dates. Or do you drink only at events in your neighborhood and walk home?
That nine year old son is one smart kid. Not only is he articulate, but think of his statement "sure, I noticed Mom drinking, but it was all I knew, so I didn't think it was abnormal"
See this shit a lot, actually, and some are even proud to post about it on social media - wine is apparently the answer to being a good partner and parent. That is, proud until the gov comes knocking on their door for a child welfare check....
Wells that's no surprise, If u pay close attention to people's "passion or favorite pass time" their consistent online presence is about frequenting different wineries, bar hopping, memes about needing wine instead of sleep. Some people even find ways to employ their passion/bad habit as their paid gig or hobby, as entrepreneurs. It's no secret, a new "business front or venture" has always been a clever way of disguising unethical behavior and/or illegal practices. Sooner or later, a small business crashes or right before hires an "assistant" and larger corporations realize successful businesses run smoother with sober staff with sound minds.
Also we teach our kids how to deal w/stress-pain-shame-trauma by how we deal with it. Gabor Mate: “Not why the addiction but why the pain.” If I could do it all over again, I’d heal my trauma-pain before I picked my partner (another traumatized child in adult body) then guess what we taught our kids? Now they’re spending their adult lives falling & picking bad people, drunk driving accidents, now they’re having cope w/their trauma of being adult children of alcoholics.
A couple of girlfriend have taken to working for Scout and Cellar, and it’s very off putting to me how easily they joke about needing wine everyday to deal with their day to day moments. I don’t say anything...because maybe I’m just putting my issues on them...but yeah, I wonder. Mommy drinking culture will definitely leave at least a few women struggling. I don’t get it.
I love her honesty. Women are often shamed if they admit being a stay at home wife/mom isn’t less stressful than being an employed mom for them personally. I don’t get the stigma over admitting something is really hard to deal with
Funny how the so called moderate drinkers have to justify that they are not an alcoholic when a recovering alcoholic speaks about the benefits of sobriety.
God keeps me faithful and free from alcohol. I've never been drunk, and my first drink was my last. Largely due to the fact that I don't want to end up being an alcoholic like my family members and I want to please God with the way I live. However, people cannot stay free in their own strength. You NEED God's help to stay free from anything addictive. Christ puts us over.
My comment has nothing to do with religion when you are a sober recovered alcoholic there's nothing to cope with there's nothing to have anxiety over and there's nothing to worry about because it's a simple fundamentals of spirituality two people are supposed to come together and make each other a priority and never lose the gratitude they've been blessed with a family for example you need to be grateful that your family didn't end up in a divorce or perhaps you killed somebody in a car accident and ended up in jail because those are very real realities for some people if your higher power is responsible for everything that happens in the world even though you got to make the choice and it came out positive and your choice was the right Choice of the outcome of whatever thing you were trying to produce or make a decision on if the outcome came out positive you still need to pay homage to your higher power for those results in humility and people often struggle on what's my higher power your higher power is anything but yourself there's nothing to cope with there's nothing to worry about and there's no anxiety when you're living a spiritually fit life our maker is responsible for all outcomes meaning man did not make sperm and man did not make egg this has nothing to do with religion this is the basic fundamentals of spirituality I'm really enjoying that you're pointing this out to society this is very important stuff after we came through Covid and people had time on their hands thank you for airing this the realities are once somebody becomes a daily drinker they're an alcoholic that's the reality it doesn't matter that you're babbling trunk you become two different people because alcohol as a coping mechanism and again there's nothing to cope with when you're living a spiritually fit life has nothing to do with Jesus Christ or the Bible
Hey, how are you doing now? I believe anyone can be sober if they really want it. I am freshly sober and I want to stay that. Almost all my family is addicted, lost some due to alcohol. I decided to take back control of my life. All the best. Seek help if you have to. Sending love and good vibes
Did you actually watch it? Her being “privileged” or a “stay at home mom” has nothing to do with her having a drinking problem which is more of a disease than a choice for most people, as well as many other reasons which a few were stated in this video!
@@nycgirltee other reasons like what? Packing school lunches? Driving the kids to soccer? Spending her husbands money? She chose to drink because she has nothing else to do all day.
@@chrissy15101 I can remember when I used to imbibe to make the everyday seem more exciting. And it worked. It wasn't about having time to drink-any alcoholic will MAKE time for drinking, thus appearing they FOUND time for it. It's a lot more complex than what your questions suggest.
@@3chapagirls I know enough. We have kids and jobs and we aren't over here drinking everyday. I'm helping my kids with homework and making dinner and going to bed by 9 to start the day over. Don't know when she has time to drink
@@alexrmz86 You made my point! That's how YOUR life runs...you know NOTHING about hers. I was a stay-at-home mom also and my life was nothing like what you just described yours is and nothing like hers is. Again, you know nothing about her. We all have our own battles.
@@3chapagirls then go back to work if you feel like you have to drink all the time. Or take up a healthy hobby. Making up excuses and making wine look like the enemy. The friend she drank with also thought she drank excessively. Which means she couldn't control her drinking.
I have 4 kids i work I'm a single parent life can get stressful..about Bill's and everything else...I don't drink wine ..but in the morning I would open up a Corona bottle..instead of coffee..my only brother passed away..so I was drinking more through out the day.. even when I was at work on lunch time I would go to Circle K get something to drink put it in my Thirst Buster and drink at work... I don't do that anymore if I do have a drink it's once in a blue moon but now instead of drinking when I'm stressed or depressed I just pray to God to guide me to help me..
3 years later after your response... how are things? Your drinking?
I can't tell how old her son, Maverick, is now, but for the age he appears to be in the clip, his delivery is extremely well-spoken and insightful. Maybe he will retain his unbiased judgement skills for the rest of his life. I'm astounded, considering the confession by his mother about her anger toward the kids.
He was almost 11 at the time of the interview.
The narration is a bit misleading, which said he noticed his mom drinking as early as 6 but then didn't state how old he was at the time of the interview
Kids are so amazing and aware ❤
Parenting is hard but we can do it together.
Admission is the first step toward being sober. It is a constant process to recovery.
That boy has a brilliant mind. They should nurture that to the fullest
Her son is wise
You go girl. I'm a writer blogger, and raising my grandson. I UNDERSTAND. It sneaks up on you. I am so proud of you for opening up and being vulnerable to the truth. Keep it up. What an inspiration!
@Lucky Catnip the drinking doesn't sneak up on you, but the chaos it creates does....one drink at a time. Of course you know your doing it. And that it's bad. But there are underlying issues that keep it going.
Don't be so quick, as to judge someone, on their failures....we all have them, even you. And one day you'll need someone to understand you through it....just like her.
Good on her for being so honest! 👏🏼 I hardly ever drink and that is pretty much socially unacceptable in Australia. Always being asked why...am I pregnant or is it just a once off!! People cant believe it is just my choice.
Bugger people's insecurities. I had a stroke and drank alcohol to release dopamine for nearly 20 years. Then I stopped because I always drank to get pissed.
I don’t drink. My parents were alcoholics. When I was younger I didn’t realize that they were addicted. I thought it was normal to have an 18 pack a day. And two 4 packs on top of that for “lunch”. My neighbor would always watch me and she would say “oh your mom has already had her liquid lunch so she’ll be fine”. My sister and I don’t drink. We do fear alcohol.
yeah i used to fear it too but it was more of an at the time my parents were like its okay for us to drink because we are adults and we pay the bills and that kind of thing. and if you drink you are out of the house. my dad was an alcoholic my mom barely drank infact since my dad stopped drinking i cant recall the last time my mom drank. i am 35 now i have been drinking for 10 years and honestly i have it so under control as unless i make a plan to go out and drink usually like weeks or months ahead of time i can look at beer or liquer or whatever and just go meh or feel indifferent towards it. sometimes if a friend does randomly ask me to go on the same day i will say sure if i have nothing else to do the next day(if i get asked on a friday/staturday) with rare expections on a sunday or even after work on weekday.
I always thought it was weird that all these women couldn’t wait to drink wine all the time.. and the onslaught from the merchandise and acceptance was weird.
Did the housewives show heighten this or start it?
I’m in shock now how I thought the drunk mommy jokes were hilarious and now I see it’s disturbing
It has been 6 months since my last drink. I feel so much better and clear headed. Thank-you ABC for doing this story. I would rather be BLISSFUL than BUZZED!
Her son shows how amazing she’s always been
I used to see these mom drinking at play dates thinking “how do they drink that much with their kids??” Every one told me it was normal. I was like OK. However my kids weren’t allowed at play dates where mom’s would be drinking because everyone one would look at me crazy if I chose not to drink.
yup i feel like people tend to look at you kind of crazy if you chose not to drink at social events as an adult. like i feel people will think ironically something is wrong with you.
It's truly so hard to quit drinking. Wine is EVERYWHERE. It's ridiculous. I've been drinking on and off for 20 years. It's very difficult to quit.
you are not wrong and part of the problem is people think something is wrong with you if you do not drink and will feel kind of uncomfortable with you. and if you are hanging out with people while everyone else is drinking and you are not it can be alkward.
I was wondering about all that "mommy drinking" merchandise, like... don't you need to drive your kids around? What if there is an emergency?
People assume me an alcoholic because I bring vodka instead of wine. Nice thing about vodka is you can pour as little as you want, close the bottle and throw it back on the shelf for any other day - open bottle shelf life is like 10 years or more. With wine there is a pressure to finish it once opened or you have to pour it down the sink. I see my neighbours dumping several bottles of wine in the recycling every week...
yup pretty much i rarely drink whine myself i tend to go for hader liquer like vokda because as you said you can drink as much as you want and then keep the rest for later on. granted me and my friend when we pre drink going out to a club sometimes the smaller bottle is not enough for us but my friend says she still has some of our bottles we saved for the next time we pre drink.
That kid is so smart
I relate
My kids are grown now but in hindsight I the guilt. Putting them in danger
I'm not judging anyone
CPS doesn't say a think about this, but as soon as a parent smokes a single solitary joint before bedtime they're in there taking away the kids and the whole nine yards
that is weird i wont lie.
Glad she came over to the other side... it's so much better. We gave to appreciate our children when they're young because once they're gone... they're gone...
BRAVO FOR TALKING ABOUT THIS!!!!!
Is there a stoner moms culture ? I’m sure it wouldn’t be bad like this
norman smith there is. It isn’t bad, but society thinks that it’s inappropriate and child abuse.
I went thru alcohol hell. I smoke now. I can assure you you don't get addicted to weed and it does NOT have the negative effects. one toke I can relax instead of the hell of Xanax and wine/beer world I lived in. even if I indulge I am not going to black out or wake up to the shakes. in fact weed has HELPED me with my health not destroyed it. I am not a "stoner".
Don’t forget that no one has ever died from a marijuana overdose & it has medicinal properties. It’s also natural & doesn’t have to be processed to be used at all.
Oh yeah, it’s also not physically addictive. When you stop, you’ll miss the act of smoking but I guess you could use something safer, like vaping.
Oh wait, that’s killing folks left & right. More people have died from vaping (which has only been around a few years) than died from a marijuana overdose.
There is and I'm in one . Hell yes.
Wow, that is a SMART kid.
The big impact is being checked out but sober, we are present
What I don't get is how all these US moms manage to drive home after drinking at kids' play dates. Or do you drink only at events in your neighborhood and walk home?
That nine year old son is one smart kid. Not only is he articulate, but think of his statement "sure, I noticed Mom drinking, but it was all I knew, so I didn't think it was abnormal"
Yes wine culture cause drinking problems
I'm addicted
To pillows
Wow I needed this 😢
See this shit a lot, actually, and some are even proud to post about it on social media - wine is apparently the answer to being a good partner and parent. That is, proud until the gov comes knocking on their door for a child welfare check....
Wells that's no surprise, If u pay close attention to people's "passion or favorite pass time" their consistent online presence is about frequenting different wineries, bar hopping, memes about needing wine instead of sleep. Some people even find ways to employ their passion/bad habit as their paid gig or hobby, as entrepreneurs. It's no secret, a new "business front or venture" has always been a clever way of disguising unethical behavior and/or illegal practices. Sooner or later, a small business crashes or right before hires an "assistant" and larger corporations realize successful businesses run smoother with sober staff with sound minds.
Also we teach our kids how to deal w/stress-pain-shame-trauma by how we deal with it. Gabor Mate: “Not why the addiction but why the pain.” If I could do it all over again, I’d heal my trauma-pain before I picked my partner (another traumatized child in adult body) then guess what we taught our kids? Now they’re spending their adult lives falling & picking bad people, drunk driving accidents, now they’re having cope w/their trauma of being adult children of alcoholics.
A couple of girlfriend have taken to working for Scout and Cellar, and it’s very off putting to me how easily they joke about needing wine everyday to deal with their day to day moments. I don’t say anything...because maybe I’m just putting my issues on them...but yeah, I wonder. Mommy drinking culture will definitely leave at least a few women struggling. I don’t get it.
I love her honesty.
Women are often shamed if they admit being a stay at home wife/mom isn’t less stressful than being an employed mom for them personally. I don’t get the stigma over admitting something is really hard to deal with
Funny how the so called moderate drinkers have to justify that they are not an alcoholic when a recovering alcoholic speaks about the benefits of sobriety.
God keeps me faithful and free from alcohol. I've never been drunk, and my first drink was my last. Largely due to the fact that I don't want to end up being an alcoholic like my family members and I want to please God with the way I live. However, people cannot stay free in their own strength. You NEED God's help to stay free from anything addictive. Christ puts us over.
alcoholism: no thank you
Cannabisism: yessss
Arizona Lady With mutual consent 👍
I used to harshly judge moms like this until I became a mom 😂
I don't see anything wrong with a glass of wine several times a year, but just like anything, yeah. It can creep up on you for sure.
you are not wrong.
YES THANK YOU
Thank you for sharing this.
I love lamp.
My comment has nothing to do with religion when you are a sober recovered alcoholic there's nothing to cope with there's nothing to have anxiety over and there's nothing to worry about because it's a simple fundamentals of spirituality two people are supposed to come together and make each other a priority and never lose the gratitude they've been blessed with a family for example you need to be grateful that your family didn't end up in a divorce or perhaps you killed somebody in a car accident and ended up in jail because those are very real realities for some people if your higher power is responsible for everything that happens in the world even though you got to make the choice and it came out positive and your choice was the right Choice of the outcome of whatever thing you were trying to produce or make a decision on if the outcome came out positive you still need to pay homage to your higher power for those results in humility and people often struggle on what's my higher power your higher power is anything but yourself there's nothing to cope with there's nothing to worry about and there's no anxiety when you're living a spiritually fit life our maker is responsible for all outcomes meaning man did not make sperm and man did not make egg this has nothing to do with religion this is the basic fundamentals of spirituality
I'm really enjoying that you're pointing this out to society this is very important stuff after we came through Covid and people had time on their hands thank you for airing this the realities are once somebody becomes a daily drinker they're an alcoholic that's the reality it doesn't matter that you're babbling trunk you become two different people because alcohol as a coping mechanism and again there's nothing to cope with when you're living a spiritually fit life has nothing to do with Jesus Christ or the Bible
You could substitute the cell phone with a glass of wine for the ladiez of our gen.
Wow good desision!
My poppy is the only sober member in my Famiglia , I will probably never be :'(
Hey, how are you doing now?
I believe anyone can be sober if they really want it. I am freshly sober and I want to stay that. Almost all my family is addicted, lost some due to alcohol. I decided to take back control of my life.
All the best. Seek help if you have to. Sending love and good vibes
Hey hey hey.....
Smoke weed everyday day.
😎 done
Beautiful
one she is missing. nutrition depletion. be good if she educated herself on nutrition.
National news
Wow
"Bored stay-at-home mom needs to get a job" is a better headline. Seriously, how hard is your privileged life?
Did you actually watch it? Her being “privileged” or a “stay at home mom” has nothing to do with her having a drinking problem which is more of a disease than a choice for most people, as well as many other reasons which a few were stated in this video!
@@nycgirltee other reasons like what? Packing school lunches? Driving the kids to soccer? Spending her husbands money? She chose to drink because she has nothing else to do all day.
@@chrissy15101
I dunno. Aren't there lots of people who drink that have jobs outside of home?
@@chrissy15101
I can remember when I used to imbibe to make the everyday seem more exciting. And it worked. It wasn't about having time to drink-any alcoholic will MAKE time for drinking, thus appearing they FOUND time for it. It's a lot more complex than what your questions suggest.
@@WJValente yeah they believe after high school that college is the '13th grade'.
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Fucking seriously ..... Why in the fuck do we have to name everything now a days ... MOmmy wine culture ???? Really ..
Just sounds like someone has no self control.
You know nothing about her to be judging her that way.
@@3chapagirls I know enough. We have kids and jobs and we aren't over here drinking everyday. I'm helping my kids with homework and making dinner and going to bed by 9 to start the day over. Don't know when she has time to drink
@@alexrmz86 You made my point! That's how YOUR life runs...you know NOTHING about hers. I was a stay-at-home mom also and my life was nothing like what you just described yours is and nothing like hers is. Again, you know nothing about her. We all have our own battles.
@@3chapagirls then go back to work if you feel like you have to drink all the time. Or take up a healthy hobby. Making up excuses and making wine look like the enemy. The friend she drank with also thought she drank excessively. Which means she couldn't control her drinking.
@@alexrmz86 Again, unless you were there, you can't assume to know & judge.