I am so immensely happy to find information about this online because I had felt so ashamed and disgusted with myself and have cried so much over feeling this way while nursing. It sucks social conditioning has brought us so far away from our true nature. This topic should definitely be spoken on a whole lot more without feeling worried of the backlash by those that are heavily socially conditioned.
What people think of pedophiles is that 40 or 50 year old man, I guess with society and you a woman or mom can get aroused during breastfeeding and not be labelled a pedophile because as I said in society's minds a pedophile is that 40 or 50 year old man.
This definitely caused me to EP and I believe contributed to premature weaning (in addition to moving baby to own room/bed). I’m lucky that we were able to make it about 14 months of breastfeeding. I freaked out because I am a survivor and it was a combination of feeling taboo and being extremely triggering. Thank you for talking about this topic, understanding the mechanics has made me feel less shameful for the way my breastfeeding journey ended.
It’s so much more common than many realize. I can only imagine how much more difficult this situation would be as a survivor! How amazing that you made it 14 months. Thank you so much for sharing ♥️
Before i even finish the video i want to thank you in advance!!! I haven’t had a baby yet but while i’m considering to do so in the next years, one of my main concerns was that i for sure did not want to breastfeed, cause of the fear of how my breasts would feel! I’m going back to the rest of the video but sincerely, thank you!
Yes, sexual arousal or even nipple orgasms are definitely possible, to normal while a woman is breastfeeding her children. I am so glad this topic was discussed so that when this does occur, women know what is going on.
it’s fascinating how we as a society separate motherhood and sexuality. Yet one cannot be without the other, Biologically sex is intended to procreate. Thus isn’t it better for us to learn what our incredible body’s functions, rather than trying to create what our body should do?
Your real problem was not enjoying what nature intended ,why do you think humans are the only mammal that has breasts all adulthood and not just when they have babies , think about it.
Thank you for have the courage to speak on this topic. As you said, so many women feel ashamed because society has taught us to do so. It really irritates me when I hear someone try to sexualize breastfeeding. So, it is extremely refreshing to hear another woman speak on this topic in such a mature and educational manner! I absolutely LOVED breastfeeding my son because one, I knew that he was getting the very best through ME, and there is just something SO empowering in that. And two, because it FELT GOOD. My body would relax, my mind would relax, I'd feel happy and almost euphoric. Truly such an incredible journey and I am so excited to breastfeed my daughter when she arrives in July! Thank you for sharing and educating!
My pleasure! As you mentioned, it’s such a shame when people try to twist breastfeeding into something that it’s not. Simply put, it’s just a beautiful, healthy way for a mother and child to connect. So glad you’ll be going on that journey again soon! Congrats!
@Maria Shapiro hi Maria. I'm not exactly sure what you mean here? Are you wondering what causes these sexual feelings during breast feeding? And how understandably it can freak women out into not wanting to breast feed their child because they feel wrong for feeling such a thing?
It's been 2 years 8 months of breastfeeding and I hate it. It just feels weird and he rubs the other nipple while he drinks from the other aggressively too. The sensation is too much for me and I can't wait until he weens off.
This was extremely informative and helpful to women who are not sure how to deal with this issue. I have no idea how I ended up here, but watched and learned a lot. I do think, however, the offer of a hug or cuddle would be met with aversion my some men... :)
Thank you for speaking on this. I’m not a mother, nor do I ever want to be, but I am a feminist and very sex positive. I’ve thought of this so many times over my lifetime. My beloved Grandma would light up talking about how much she enjoyed nursing her 5 children (my Mom is her youngest). My Grandma certainly was the most “pure” human I’ve ever known. She died at age 99, in January 2020, but I’ll never forget the sweet, joyful look on her face when she would recollect to me (I was always so inquisitive and asking her lots of questions). I feel that this should be known and heard by all people. Also, while not at all the same thing, it would mean a lot to me (and so many other countless survivors) to have you discuss how some (no way to know how many) women experience orgasm during an assault. They feel shameful and so devastated, but it was just their body responding and/or attempting to protect itself. We are human beings. I hope to live long enough to see women released from the shackles of our puritanical and misogynistic society and culture. Again, thank you, dear sister in this journey. ♥️🙏
Thank you for sharing! And I totally hear what you’re saying about assault. Women absolutely shouldn’t feel ashamed for any responses their body might have.
but you should ultimately think for baby, is it worth the health of the baby because of breastfeeding to just stop it all together just because of shame caused by societal stigma.
@@brooklove90I never had any sexual feelings breast feeding, if anything I would just feel slight contractions in my uterus and it helped my uterus shrink and my tummy go down
@@brooklove90 You can use the pumps and then put the milk in bottle to feed them keep that up till 1 year it should be enough then u can slowly switch to normal milk and don't worry about their health that much tbh i have survived without my mum milk because she wasn't able to make i only had those powered milk with nutrients in it meant for baby And here I'm 6'1" perfectly fine and good and my sister who was born after me she was in dire condition Because she came out before 9 months from womb and she also survived and at that time too mum couldn't make any milk And I'm not lying we both are doing fine I'm going to turn 18 this nov and my sis is 16
My ex-wife breastfed our 4 kids for 9 years. Her breasts were off limits for those years (basically half of our marriage). It felt kind of icky because she was aroused by breastfeeding kids instead of me. And she CLEARLY was really into it. She never really wanted to be a wife, so I know I'm not completely off here. But women can be stimulated sexually by being a mother and naturally it's ok. Ewww. It's frustrating because male sexuality is shamed endlessly by comparison. We are called creepy and slimy for getting turned on by anything other than our spouse, while women essentially get turned on by their child. Whatever.
A lot of men order their wives not to breastfeed because the breasts were "his" and the baby doesn't deserve that attention, he does. I was told this as a student midwife.
@@pweetypoo I've never met nor known any men who asserted this. Bottle feeding was popular for a few decades, but breastfeeding is back in full force now.
@markcollins1012 my ex actually told me that he didn't want me to breastfeed because my breast were his. He said he would get jealous. This is why he is my ex.
@@aqglitter1 Yeah that’s immature. You have every right, and the child has the right, for natural breastfeeding to occur. I do think it’s ok, however, to have empathy for men’s feelings about this. Each person’s feelings matter. Did you care about his feelings? If it’s your way or the highway, that’s not an equal relationship. If it becomes just about Mom and baby, and you shut out the man’s needs, that’s a dysfunctional family. We all have ‘ex’ stories. There are extreme inappropriate men and women.
Im a young man where since i was 17 i start remarquably feel a need of breastfed, the curse that when im getting older it got worse, the need is getting bigger and bigger where i see this as a part of me. i dont need any female whom just a woman can breastfed, i need a women who also need to complete the puzzle and her tits got a need and attraction to just me. Why because neither my case nor a woman need like my cases doesn't exist, so its considered a weird /disgusting/sick thing, the fact that its not something i choosed to or can control it, i discovered this when i realize that these feelings got the strongest when my awarness are at my lowest (when i am going to sleep or woking up) its emotional and psychological feel more than sexual (maybe its related sexual feelings bcz of my hormones) but the problem i kept trying killing that baby inside me, in nights sometimes i feel i wonna cry but i can't . Thats an embarrassing thing and cant be revealed to anyone except the internet bcz no one will know you. but also i found myself acting exactly same as baby where most of the times i dont recognize i just keep being patience by sucking the pillow's corner feeling lonely maybe i dream for huge tits (size of my head each at least) because i grew up being just a baby who developed and experienced getting smarter unlocking new things in many things but relatevly a baby and a boob are similar also as head size, when i see big rounded boobs it trigger me more feeling almost crying needing it wanting to be carried with tenderness treated like baby receiving intense of emotions by this relation recognizing my partner orgasm and need and enjoyement sinking me in it moaning and sleep.... I don't have any problem live on this milk, and a lot of other details similar to baby's behavior (i dont know why im posting that while nothing will change and neithor find a way to kill this problem, nor finding a female that i dream nor stop thinking for, nor getting off this lonliness)I'M REALLY SORRY IF I GOT RUDE IF SOMEONE FELT UNCOMFORTABLE NOTIFY ME TO DELETE IT
So I'm a 56 year old male. I've asked my best friend that's a female and asked her if she experienced pleasure breastfeeding & she said "Yes, It felt so good" after she had two kids. I had no doubt since there's nerves all over our body so you go figure🤫😉& us men to have sensitive nipples..
Of course its a natural thing. I breastfeed all my boys till they didn't feel comfortable anymore , its a beautiful bond . Society puts so much shame on so many things, even womens breasts. If a woman goes without a bra again, shame . Im not responsible for other people's negative thoughts. And bras are bad for you from my experience.
@Bailey Gaddis the Bible instructs man to cleave unto a woman's breast. It's the glue that binds them together strong enough to raise a family together. I have helped a few older women re-lactate and one I know is mid 50s nurse who donates her milk. It's the perfect food for any age it actually helps erectile dysfunction and boosts immune system antibodies in adults. More physical and mental health benefits of breastmilk are being discovered in time. Thanks for the video, very educational 😊
I am so immensely happy to find information about this online because I had felt so ashamed and disgusted with myself and have cried so much over feeling this way while nursing. It sucks social conditioning has brought us so far away from our true nature. This topic should definitely be spoken on a whole lot more without feeling worried of the backlash by those that are heavily socially conditioned.
I’m so glad you found it helpful and it released your shame! Thanks so much for letting me know 😊🙏
What people think of pedophiles is that 40 or 50 year old man, I guess with society and you a woman or mom can get aroused during breastfeeding and not be labelled a pedophile because as I said in society's minds a pedophile is that 40 or 50 year old man.
This definitely caused me to EP and I believe contributed to premature weaning (in addition to moving baby to own room/bed). I’m lucky that we were able to make it about 14 months of breastfeeding. I freaked out because I am a survivor and it was a combination of feeling taboo and being extremely triggering. Thank you for talking about this topic, understanding the mechanics has made me feel less shameful for the way my breastfeeding journey ended.
It’s so much more common than many realize. I can only imagine how much more difficult this situation would be as a survivor! How amazing that you made it 14 months. Thank you so much for sharing ♥️
Before i even finish the video i want to thank you in advance!!! I haven’t had a baby yet but while i’m considering to do so in the next years, one of my main concerns was that i for sure did not want to breastfeed, cause of the fear of how my breasts would feel! I’m going back to the rest of the video but sincerely, thank you!
So glad you found it helpful!!
Yes, sexual arousal or even nipple orgasms are definitely possible, to normal while a woman is breastfeeding her children. I am so glad this topic was discussed so that when this does occur, women know what is going on.
it’s fascinating how we as a society separate motherhood and sexuality. Yet one cannot be without the other, Biologically sex is intended to procreate. Thus isn’t it better for us to learn what our incredible body’s functions, rather than trying to create what our body should do?
Yes, sex is intended to procreate but our incredible body’s function is to exite admiration
You are amazing. Thank you so much for addressing this huge subject ❤️
Absolutely. It’s much more common than many realize.
Eeeeverybody and their mother should hear this.
Agree!!
I breastfeed for over two years now and thank God I don't have this problem 🙂.
That’s it though isn’t it.. It’s not a Problem, it’s nature.
@@leafside Well yes, maybe I used wrong words 🙂.
Your real problem was not enjoying what nature intended ,why do you think humans are the only mammal that has breasts all adulthood and not just when they have babies , think about it.
@@paulinab.7665I agree! It’s so fucking weird if your getting sexual pleasure from a baby.
Thank you for have the courage to speak on this topic. As you said, so many women feel ashamed because society has taught us to do so. It really irritates me when I hear someone try to sexualize breastfeeding. So, it is extremely refreshing to hear another woman speak on this topic in such a mature and educational manner! I absolutely LOVED breastfeeding my son because one, I knew that he was getting the very best through ME, and there is just something SO empowering in that. And two, because it FELT GOOD. My body would relax, my mind would relax, I'd feel happy and almost euphoric. Truly such an incredible journey and I am so excited to breastfeed my daughter when she arrives in July! Thank you for sharing and educating!
My pleasure! As you mentioned, it’s such a shame when people try to twist breastfeeding into something that it’s not. Simply put, it’s just a beautiful, healthy way for a mother and child to connect. So glad you’ll be going on that journey again soon! Congrats!
@Maria Shapiro hi Maria. I'm not exactly sure what you mean here? Are you wondering what causes these sexual feelings during breast feeding? And how understandably it can freak women out into not wanting to breast feed their child because they feel wrong for feeling such a thing?
@@BaileyGaddisDoulaYes breastfeeding is very natural and healthy and beautiful
It's been 2 years 8 months of breastfeeding and I hate it. It just feels weird and he rubs the other nipple while he drinks from the other aggressively too. The sensation is too much for me and I can't wait until he weens off.
So sorry you’re having a hard time. Have you started weaning?
🤣🤣🤣🤣
I thought it was a myth. Thank you for this informative video.
Definitely not a myth :)
This was extremely informative and helpful to women who are not sure how to deal with this issue. I have no idea how I ended up here, but watched and learned a lot. I do think, however, the offer of a hug or cuddle would be met with aversion my some men... :)
I’m nervous about breastfeeding my first baby…
That’s totally understandable. Most women experience a learning curve with it, but feel more comfortable after a week or so.
You look very uncomfortable talking about this 🫣
Thank you for speaking on this. I’m not a mother, nor do I ever want to be, but I am a feminist and very sex positive. I’ve thought of this so many times over my lifetime. My beloved Grandma would light up talking about how much she enjoyed nursing her 5 children (my Mom is her youngest). My Grandma certainly was the most “pure” human I’ve ever known. She died at age 99, in January 2020, but I’ll never forget the sweet, joyful look on her face when she would recollect to me (I was always so inquisitive and asking her lots of questions).
I feel that this should be known and heard by all people. Also, while not at all the same thing, it would mean a lot to me (and so many other countless survivors) to have you discuss how some (no way to know how many) women experience orgasm during an assault. They feel shameful and so devastated, but it was just their body responding and/or attempting to protect itself. We are human beings. I hope to live long enough to see women released from the shackles of our puritanical and misogynistic society and culture.
Again, thank you, dear sister in this journey. ♥️🙏
Thank you for sharing! And I totally hear what you’re saying about assault. Women absolutely shouldn’t feel ashamed for any responses their body might have.
Sorry , but may i ask why dont you want to be a mother?? Just curious, what made you make this decision???
Orgasms during labour, too. That's something that is forgotten.
But I want my partner alone to make me feel good not my baby. Sorry I'm not a mom yet but even after this video I'm even more freaked out
but you should ultimately think for baby, is it worth the health of the baby because of breastfeeding to just stop it all together just because of shame caused by societal stigma.
@@justin7023 never said I wasn't going to, just that I am freaked out by it
@@cperterpan6860 nah that's weird
@@brooklove90I never had any sexual feelings breast feeding, if anything I would just feel slight contractions in my uterus and it helped my uterus shrink and my tummy go down
@@brooklove90
You can use the pumps and then put the milk in bottle to feed them
keep that up till 1 year it should be enough then u can slowly switch to normal milk and
don't worry about their health that much tbh i have survived without my mum milk because she wasn't able to make i only had those powered milk with nutrients in it meant for baby
And here I'm 6'1" perfectly fine and good and my sister who was born after me she was in dire condition Because she came out before 9 months from womb and she also survived and at that time too mum couldn't make any milk
And I'm not lying we both are doing fine I'm going to turn 18 this nov and my sis is 16
Very educational video
My wife came all the time while breastfeeding
Lucky her!
@@BaileyGaddisDoula 🔥
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Awesome
Beautiful and well delivered content. I think you gave so many people much desired/needed content.
Thank you!
My ex-wife breastfed our 4 kids for 9 years. Her breasts were off limits for those years (basically half of our marriage). It felt kind of icky because she was aroused by breastfeeding kids instead of me. And she CLEARLY was really into it. She never really wanted to be a wife, so I know I'm not completely off here. But women can be stimulated sexually by being a mother and naturally it's ok. Ewww. It's frustrating because male sexuality is shamed endlessly by comparison. We are called creepy and slimy for getting turned on by anything other than our spouse, while women essentially get turned on by their child. Whatever.
I feel u😢
A lot of men order their wives not to breastfeed because the breasts were "his" and the baby doesn't deserve that attention, he does. I was told this as a student midwife.
@@pweetypoo I've never met nor known any men who asserted this. Bottle feeding was popular for a few decades, but breastfeeding is back in full force now.
@markcollins1012 my ex actually told me that he didn't want me to breastfeed because my breast were his. He said he would get jealous. This is why he is my ex.
@@aqglitter1 Yeah that’s immature. You have every right, and the child has the right, for natural breastfeeding to occur. I do think it’s ok, however, to have empathy for men’s feelings about this. Each person’s feelings matter. Did you care about his feelings? If it’s your way or the highway, that’s not an equal relationship. If it becomes just about Mom and baby, and you shut out the man’s needs, that’s a dysfunctional family. We all have ‘ex’ stories. There are extreme inappropriate men and women.
Im a young man where since i was 17 i start remarquably feel a need of breastfed, the curse that when im getting older it got worse, the need is getting bigger and bigger where i see this as a part of me. i dont need any female whom just a woman can breastfed, i need a women who also need to complete the puzzle and her tits got a need and attraction to just me. Why because neither my case nor a woman need like my cases doesn't exist, so its considered a weird /disgusting/sick thing, the fact that its not something i choosed to or can control it, i discovered this when i realize that these feelings got the strongest when my awarness are at my lowest (when i am going to sleep or woking up) its emotional and psychological feel more than sexual (maybe its related sexual feelings bcz of my hormones) but the problem i kept trying killing that baby inside me, in nights sometimes i feel i wonna cry but i can't . Thats an embarrassing thing and cant be revealed to anyone except the internet bcz no one will know you. but also i found myself acting exactly same as baby where most of the times i dont recognize i just keep being patience by sucking the pillow's corner feeling lonely maybe i dream for huge tits (size of my head each at least) because i grew up being just a baby who developed and experienced getting smarter unlocking new things in many things but relatevly a baby and a boob are similar also as head size, when i see big rounded boobs it trigger me more feeling almost crying needing it wanting to be carried with tenderness treated like baby receiving intense of emotions by this relation recognizing my partner orgasm and need and enjoyement sinking me in it moaning and sleep.... I don't have any problem live on this milk, and a lot of other details similar to baby's behavior (i dont know why im posting that while nothing will change and neithor find a way to kill this problem, nor finding a female that i dream nor stop thinking for, nor getting off this lonliness)I'M REALLY SORRY IF I GOT RUDE IF SOMEONE FELT UNCOMFORTABLE NOTIFY ME TO DELETE IT
So I'm a 56 year old male. I've asked my best friend that's a female and asked her if she experienced pleasure breastfeeding & she said "Yes, It felt so good" after she had two kids. I had no doubt since there's nerves all over our body so you go figure🤫😉& us men to have sensitive nipples..
It’s definitely more common than most people realize :)
Of course its a natural thing. I breastfeed all my boys till they didn't feel comfortable anymore , its a beautiful bond .
Society puts so much shame on so many things, even womens breasts. If a woman goes without a bra again, shame . Im not responsible for other people's negative thoughts. And bras are bad for you from my experience.
My gf loves breastfeeding. God bless Kate Plessis from Richer MB Canada
You know what i wrote before lol..
sus
Too much talk, no solution.... Lolll
The point of the video is that women don’t need to be ashamed of this happening :) Not figuring out how to make it stop.
@Bailey Gaddis the Bible instructs man to cleave unto a woman's breast. It's the glue that binds them together strong enough to raise a family together. I have helped a few older women re-lactate and one I know is mid 50s nurse who donates her milk. It's the perfect food for any age it actually helps erectile dysfunction and boosts immune system antibodies in adults. More physical and mental health benefits of breastmilk are being discovered in time. Thanks for the video, very educational 😊
Oooo
can i ask.have you breastfeed?
I have :) for three years
@@BaileyGaddisDoulaAnd did you experience sexual feelings? Did you ever orgasm, is this video from a place of personal experience?