IMHO Lets not put our shovels where there ain't no ish. That's what my grandma used to say. Fannita has mentioned MULTIPLE times how she was never taken seriously until she lost weight. Now people are being hyper critical of her because her voice all of a sudden matters. Everyone has issues, Fannita is just public.
I lost a friend to weight loss. They lost 100 pounds, and changed like this, and it was such a shock after a decade of being close friends. Their entire personality changed. Now I've lost weight too, they want to be friends again, but I'm not interested. If they didn't like me fat, then they wouldn't like me skinny.
People like this often dont realize that they have a lot of issues linked to their weight and self image that simply losing the weight doesnt solve, and it can cause them to flip a switch to the exact opposite of what they used to be. I've lost friends because i lost weight and i no longer was interested in eating out at fast food places with them all the time anymore, our interests shifted and no longer aligned, but id still try to find other things we had to bond over while they distanced themselves from me. I ended up being the only one making effort until they just straight up ended up ghosting me. It goes both ways honestly.
@@starlette7820you are so spot on! I'm very proud of you for doing all of the very hard work, and I'm sorry you got ghosted by people who are supposed to be your friends. I hope you found your new tribe.❤❤❤
They have just always been shallow people, which is why when they saw themselves as a "higher" social status, they ostracized you. It's sad to find out someone you used to be close to was only your friend situationally. You made the right call.
shae did say something similar to this. i remember a video of her saying “i could get away with saying stuff when i was fat because they never took me seriously. and i was just the fat friend” something like that
Especially with the surgery. Easily can backslide because she really hasn't the main issue that had her overweight. She should be humble because the world is going to enjoy the fall
@@playablyExactly! From the outside looking in, and based on the thing’s coming from her mouth her motivations for the weight loss are extremely vain. Not saying you shouldn’t want to look good, but addressing those traumas and self hate is the start to true healing.
IMHO Lets not put our shovels where there ain't no ish. That's what my grandma used to say. Fannita has mentioned MULTIPLE times how she was never taken seriously until she lost weight. Now people are being hyper critical of her because her voice all of a sudden matters. Everyone has issues, Fannita is just public.
@@chandlerbingbong5773 YOU! I genuinely think everyone’s just going into this joining the hate train. She has been the exact same person before she even lost all of this weight- it’s insane. THANK
0:38 Leo didn’t say “if you can’t fit into a brands clothes, you need to lose weight.” That’s just what everyone took it as. He actually said “if you can’t fit into the clothes of one brand, focus your attention on the brands you do fit into instead of dragging the brands you don’t fit into”
I don't think his point was bad, it was his delivery that irritated me. I've had an hourglass shape since I was 13 and it made finding clothes very difficult. I have had to make my own clothes or alter things I buy, so I understand the frustration. Not everyone can afford to "work with brands that want you" and the lack of fabric stores these days (thanks to Walmart) just increases the struggle. The way Leo said what he said was dismissive and full of attitude. Nobody wants to be talked to that way.
@@annjepsen1621 I totally get that, but he also talked about his own experience being super tall and having really big feet and saying if he was always upset about all the things that didn’t fit him, he’d always be in a negative headspace. In his apology video, he admitted that his mentality is kinda like “f it, I’m gonna do my own thing” but he understands that’s not everyone’s mentality and that’s where he misjudged the situation. Even with me, I have a very abnormal body, so a lot of things don’t fit me. I can ONLY wear tops and bottoms with a lot of stretch in the fabric. Suits always have to be tailored, etc. And even I just find one or two brands that fit my body well and just shop exclusively at those places.
The hard part is that - i was Fannita in the first year of my drastic weight loss. And it took another year of looking inward to even realize the privilege i had to lose the weight naturally how i did it. And i did go through a fatphobic phase after because "well if my lazy ass can do it and keep it off why cant anyone else?" And it was all because i was being hateful towards my past self, rather than grateful. Instead of shame, now i just appreciate the work and research my past self did, and thank her daily for the motivation she had to change so that i can live the healthy life i am living now.
I know it's cheesy, but I really do believe that everyone is beautiful in their own way. There is beauty in the way someone smiles, how their eyes shine when you talk to them, how their voice gets softer talking to you etc. People have a hard time slowing down and just living life and appreciating the small things, because those small moments are what matter the most.
She’s a person who never dealt with her own insecurities. She has not dealt with the pain she felt from being overweight and poor. So now that she’s not those things when people criticize her she lashes out in the ways that she thinks hurt them, because she knows those same words would have hurt her.
I agree. And I think there’s probably some subconscious or conscious sentiment of like “I heard these hurtful things when I was fat and I still lost weight so you should be able to handle it and you need to hear it too” or something. But shame is never a long term motivator. It may motivate someone in the very beginning but to feel ashamed of yourself over and over just crushes people’s spirit.
After losing 227 lbs naturally, I have not forgotten where I came from, but I have experienced the negativity in my personal life from family and friends who criticized me before my weight-loss journey, then cheered me on during it, now they are critical from how I eat, exercise, etc...I have stopped talking to most of them, so I not only lost weight but also the opinions of others.
Creators like fannita need to realize that their fame and fortune is fleeting. They also need to realize that it is possible to gain that weight back. She’s just turned into such a mean person.
1000% agree with your opinion on this phenomenon. I watched my mother go through the changes out of hatred for her old self instead of love for a new life and not only did she become a bully after reaching her goals, after a few years her health/weight deteriorated to right back to what it was before she did all that work to become “healthy” which is why I now only use that word to describe a situation where the mental/emotional work has been done too.
Honestly I don't think it's just insecurity. I suspect she has replaced one addiction for another aka she is abusing substances the pipeline from food addiction to drug/alcohol addiction is too common. She needs to address her internal struggle
8:48 that's not a mean opinion to have, it's just an objectively true statement. It only sounds mean if you place all of your value on aesthetic beauty and have nothing else to offer. If you have higher values, then it's not mean because your worth is tied to those other values and not on physical beauty.
I actually agree with her that not everyone is beautiful. I think we need to stop saying that people are beautiful, and start to instill the idea that you dont need to be physically beautiful to have value. some people will never, ever feel beautiful, and that's ok because they don't need to. they still have value as a person regardless. we put way too much emphasis on beauty.
So you and influencers get to say who's beautiful? People who don't fit the standard mold are still considered beautiful to someone else out there. Let's start letting go of that ideology that beauty is everything without putting people in categories.
It’s literally a subjective attribute. You can’t say someone isn’t beautiful. You can say they are beautiful to YOU. But it’s not your decision. It’s literally not something can be objectively quantified and determined. It’s a construct.
honestly, i think a good chunk of the population feels this way. but it's just like, unkind and unproductive to say so. like as an example you've got the one social "rule" that you don't point out anything that can't be fixed quickly- don't point out an old persons wrinkles, don't point out missing teeth, don't point out acne or rashes etc.
Although I never approve of anyone being fatphobic and attacking people's appearance, this grosses me out on another dimension. It would be one thing if she lost weight naturally, but she only managed to lose weight because of surgery, so she should know how incredibly difficult weight loss can be for others. She should recognize the only reason she lost the weight was access to modern medicine, and so she shouldn't assume other people are "lazy" they just do not have the same resources as her! It definitely comes from a place of insecurity, but I do not feel sorry for her. This is who she's been all along.
The fact that so many people ran to her comments calling her ugly and unattractive proves her point that everyone is not beautiful, lol. People are all messed up now because they think they should be attractive to everyone, and im sorry but that just isn't true. There are very few people who are universally regarded as beautiful. And im speaking as someone who was called ugly my entire childhood. No, everyone is absolutely not beautiful and it feels gaslighty to those of us who have lived that experience. Just saying. Its dismissive and untrue.
Agree. It's like people magically forget people with physical deformities exist. Burn scars aren't beautiful. Reconstruction scars aren't beautiful. Deformed bodies aren't beautiful. But everyone wants to pretend those people are "just as beautiful" as anyone else. Maybe on the inside, but definitely not on the outside. Despite Fannita's bad attitude, she's 100% right. Not everyone is physically beautiful.
I think the only people that would be deeply offended by a comment like that are people who believe women's sole source of self-worth should be physical appearance. So women with internalized misogyny and the kind of men who attack women's appearance would be ultra mad at this. If you're like me and believe physical appearance should not matter it is very easy to state this fact, because it has no bearing on your true worth.
@@leahanderson7504Actually, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. It’s sad you haven’t learned that lesson for yourself, yet. There is more beauty in scars than stars, but you’ll never be able to see it. That’s so pathetic.
Well I can’t feel bad for her. If you say some people are ugly, don’t be surprised if people come out saying you are ugly. You put that energy out there. Some conversations need to be had in private
@alijane6675 No one chooses to look deformed because no one wants to look that way. No one wants to look like Quasimodo. No parent is happy when their baby comes out misshapen. No one thinks deformities are beautiful. When people start paying money to look deformed, then I'll be convinced people think deformities are beautiful. But society makes it very clear that deformed people are not physically beautiful. They can be the kindest people on the planet, but you know as well as I do they will never be treated the same as people who are considered beautiful.
The first time I lost weight in high school (2014) I lost it out of hatred for myself. I didn’t vocalize my hatred or mean opinions outwardly towards others, but I had a “mean girl” internal dialogue. I wasn’t the person I wanted to be inside. Tbh I’m grateful I gained the weight back because I’ve had the opportunity to lose it properly with love for myself. The compassion I had for my body the second time around can now radiate outwardly to others and I’m feeling good inside and out now. Also eating a diet consisting of more than just 20 bananas sure does help my mental health 😅
I watch a LOT of reaction channels on here and you are the one with the kindest heart. Highly fond of your delivery of nuanced opinions within controversial conversations.
The worst girls are the one going from fat to a normal shape, cause they want to make people feel less, but the girls that have always been pretty are some of the nicer ones.
My friend had weightloss surgery and I didn't. She became very critical of my weight and bringing it up constantly. A year after she had her surgery, she left me in the dust. I felt like she stopped being a friend because I wasn't what she wanted me to be.
Oh my gosh. I’m so old (compared to you lol) and I grew up in the 70s and 80s when if you were not a twig you were fat. I have always been trying to lose weight. I’ve never heard this concept until today of losing weight from self love rather than self hate. This is frickin mind blowing to me. Life changing really. Thank you for saying that ❤
7:10 It is so sad that many people just completely forget and disregard where they come from, especially people that are where they are with the help of those that you mock now. These type of people that think they are "the thing" because they made a bit of money and spit that to other peoples faces, are really frowned upon by people in general and especially mocked by people from old money in any European country. Those are the ones that really look like idiots rather then people that struggle. Good luck little kid. You will learn in no time what this means.
Honestly, I don't care how she's feeling or the reason behind it, there's no excuse to ever talk to someone like that and she should be ashamed of herself. The second you treat people like that I no longer listen to what you have to say. The only way to change this is to hold people accountable and stop watching their content. Why should she make money off of berating someone like that? F HER
Sadly, this isn’t uncommon as a bariatric patient one of the things that I was warned about in the therapy that they make you get before you get the surgery is that your attitude towards others can change because you do experience things completely different as you lose weight I’m really sorry to see that attitude shift and others as I’ve dealt with it myself don’t worry life has a way of humbling
shes not wrong. i am 100% certain i am not beauitful, but there are people out there who contradict me and tell me i am like its going to spare my feelings or make me feel good. Or make themselves feel good that they got me to have "confidence" or "self love" idk but rest assured, not everyone is beautiful and yeah people need to stop being lied to. Its not healthy for that level of delusion to exist in people
I kind of agree too but with the caveat that we should keep those thoughts to ourselves. I don’t think we should comment on people’s looks regardless of how pretty or ugly they are.
Beauty is subjective, I think everyone has their own idea of "attractive" and "ugly". But we should keep that to ourselves, we shouldn't be telling people that they look ugly. Doesn't mean you gotta find them attractive though
@@bruisedstar i agree, but at the same time people do gotta know that some people are @$$ holes and just gonna comment. we are definetly surrounded by a lot of people who take things to heart just WAY too much and a lot of people need to just ignore what others say when commenting on them. her need to tell people they are ugly is not necessary, but we cant control what she is going to say. We can control how we react to it and let it affect us tho
Ye Thats what put me off, like how he side steps on this issue cause people might get offended. But reality stands and what that girl said was right. If u are average/ above average looking its always "oh no beauty is subjective" ... and all that stuff, but the sec u face to face in a lot of situations that "logic" crumbles. Beauty is not Subjective never will be never was. Trends are. (but ye it was absolutely not necessary saying that what she said publicly, or at least thrase it a bit nicer... with some supporting arguments and with her own experience with it. If she would have done that she would have made the same point but would have looked better in the public eye.
My highest weight was 141kg I’m now about 73kg and if I had skin surgery smaller. I understand the ‘better’ feeling but for me it’s not about being better for me I felt better in myself and it showed me I could be a better person to myself not just physically but mentally which has in turn helped me treat others with more kindness and made me a better person with alot less resentment
@malik_alharb I'm referring to Alan Roberts not John. The other day Alan started out with, "I'm not a nice person. I don't give a f***. I don't want to be a nice person. "Now, for today's video..." That guy is announcing this on air. Why?
Alan Roberts tries too much to be hard. It's the name calling like a child that tells me he's emotional. He can't just make observations without getting angry.
In the therapy world, we talk about the triangle of victim, rescuer and persecutor by Stephen Karpman. I see many victims who adapt to their experience by becoming the abuser or rescuer themselves. And people can get stuck in these roles if they aren't getting to the root of their struggle and processing what needs processed.
just going to say this, just because someone is candid about their weight loss or they lose weight period does not make them better than anyone else nor should they speak as such. She knows the struggle and while yes many people lose weight, many people also don't change their personality to be liked more or have more attention drawn to them. Im down 70 lbs from my highest, still have about 30 left to be a healthy weight for my height (5'1) and I'm still the same person I have always been. Nor do I want to change who I am just so girls or guys like me...kinda pathetic tbh
I will never stop loving that original "not everybody is attractive and we need to stop lying" video. I love it so much. We do need to be more honest as a society. But she needs to be able to swallow those same honesty pills herself
😂 in world where anything we say can be used against us i find an old saying to hold true..."if you have nothing nice to say dont say nothing at all" in my opinion everyone is entitled to their views n opinions but dont back track only cuz you're getting backlash, if you're gonna retract it should be cuz you truly mean it. That your point of view has truly changed.
Never understood why these people have to curse so much during their videos. People of all ages watch the stuff, why.....nevermind, I think I already know the answer.
she’s angry and she needs to work on herself because she was probably bullied for being overweight so no, she’s lost the weight through surgery I may add and she didn’t look that big in the clip that you showed John so she is now venting and instead of helping and inspiring people to actually try The Gym first and try changing it in habits she hates herself because she probably didn’t try that in the beginning so she basically cheated. I and some people will say. maybe that self hatred and anger that she feels about her former myself needs to be worked on in therapy and in The Gym where? The endorphins will be released and probably make her feel much happier. Get her to being in a much better mindset and less of a bully.
I do agree that not everyone is aesthetically pleasing and people can be objectively physically ugly. However, Fanita has the nastiest attitude post weight loss and it's disgusting to see. You're actually the 2nd UA-camr I follow to cover Fanita.
This is why anyone dealing with insecurities needs therapy or to reflect. It’s one thing gaining confidence but not everyone takes humility on that journey with them. I’ve know people who are total bitches that obviously deal with a lot of insecurities and they had this confident persona they fronted. I’m on a journey of improving myself and I get it being too nice can get you into things you don’t like or feel uncomfortable but I see these types of people and don’t want to ever turn into that just to survive. I use to be scared of loving myself and choosing confidence in fear of being arrogant
People who lose weight out of self hatred almost always have baggage that is visible to others and it makes it difficult to be around them. They have attitudes that project onto other people, make mean comments, are in general miserable. They don't think so but everyone around them does. People who lose weight with support, support others, advocate for change for others don't have these issues and it's because they continue to unpack whatever trauma they've had in a larger body. It's sad that the former people skipped this step.
Wow, you look amazing with that hair. There was a time that I was not understanding your glasses flavor. I’ve been following you for years when you used to eat peanut butter oatmeal every day and go to the gym. You look amazing today.
I encourage large people to gradually lose weight. I was 221 pounds before the Pandemic, then changed how I was eating while I was sedentary, instead of 3 full meals a day, I began doing 1 to 2 meals a day using spices that helps speed up metabolism, and using mostly Olive Oil and Butter, no other fats, then had my Proteins, too. I am currently down to 176 pounds.
If I hadn't lived my life feeling ugly and being constantly reminded I was ugly, I would have been comfortable and complacent in eating myself into a grave. I was 400lbs. Do I personally think obese people are unattractive? No. Not at all. A lot of my closest friends have weight problems, and I would NEVER put them down. Fat does not = unattractive But morbid obeisity needs to be addressed when it is observed. Look at Chantal a.k.a foodie beauty and how swollen shes become. She looks worrying, not attractive. I look at her, and I feel scared that she is about to pass away with how full of fluid she is. Look at all of the people actively passing away, thinking they're ✨️beautiful✨️ and smashing the patriarchy. They don't need to be told they're gorgeous. They don't need to be told they're ugly either. They need help. A therapist, someone to talk to, a doctor to monitor their eating etc. I wish we would rehabilitate food addicts more, and I wish food addiction/obesity was discussed more in the medical field instead of everyone tiptoeing around it trying to spare feelings. If the people in my life spared my feelings, I would be gone. Facts sometimes really do matter over feelings, and if the fact is you're going to pass away before your own parents, that's something that should be taken seriously.
I remember Caitlyn Dougherty (Ask a Mortician) discussed this in a video on her channel. Obese 2 Beast Plus Ask a Mortician would be a wonderful collaboration!
Nope 🙅 my goal by end of summer is getting back under 200 lbs. I was looking through old pics like girl u let ur self get to far to get up to 218 lbs about a year half ago. Up to 208-211 lbs I was like that's it after this weekend of no power 🔋 for 3 half hours that's it. Like no more late-night stress snacking. I need to be a better example for my nieces my younger cousins ) like ok 👌 let's work 🏢 on getting down to a big girls shoe size 5 5️⃣. Yes 👍 I do migraines a lot unfortunately since I was 10/1/2 years spring 06. Nope get 25 lbs off by end of summer 😎. Been attacked for mentioning Juniors clothing sizes). Sorry 💔 they fit best for my secture, small waist,
An aside not all people get a gastric bypass because of their looks. I had one for health reasons, to stop diabetes and high Blood Pressure, which totally worked. I'm down eighty pounds. It's still early days and I'm in the transition period by right now.I definitely thought that I looked better when I was heavier. I knew that I would be sort of repulsed by the gooiness my body is going through right now. What I look like had nothing to do with my decision. It was truly all about health. And I'm hoping that once I reached my end weight that I'll be able to appreciate how my body looks again.
No one is obligated to follow anyone, and definitely not obligated to give money to a bully content creator who is full of herself for no reason whatsoever. Stop feeding her delusion. The followers have the power. Stop following her, and she will be nobody, as she deserves.
Wasn't she the one that bagged that guy out for hid thin lips and he said something about her weight and she was cut as .... next minute she lost weight 😂😂😂
In other news someone is QQing about something again today. Unfollow her, let her deal with the consequences. No need to make such a huge deal out of everything every time someone gets “offended.”
She wasn't lying though to be fair. If some people are beautiful enough to be on magazine and make a career out of it then obviously there's people in the opposite end of the spectrum that's a ugly. And it is okay. Nobody should be mean to anyone about their looks but yeah if beauty exists so do ugliness that's how the universe works.
If it’s a hot take to say not everyone is beautiful I don’t think I want to live on this planet anymore 🤡. I think most people are ugly to look at and that’s just a fact.
That was not the point of the video at all? She went from saying she didn’t have anything to eat due to poverty to calling people broke and telling them they don’t have enough money to talk to her. She also sent someone a voice message calling them a “stupid wh*re” for absolutely no reason. Overtime she’s gotten more aggressive and snaps on people out of nowhere and this video is about how its probably coming from a place of self hatred….nobody cares if she thinks everyone is beautiful??? 🥴
turns out she didn't hate "bullying/fatphobia" she just hated been the target of it . shocker
Some people are like "f*ck everyone else, I've got mine" when it comes to bad behaviour.
Good for her losing weight. Calling people broke is off putting for sure. The appearance comment (everyone is not beautiful) is rudely put but… true.
IMHO Lets not put our shovels where there ain't no ish. That's what my grandma used to say. Fannita has mentioned MULTIPLE times how she was never taken seriously until she lost weight. Now people are being hyper critical of her because her voice all of a sudden matters. Everyone has issues, Fannita is just public.
I lost a friend to weight loss. They lost 100 pounds, and changed like this, and it was such a shock after a decade of being close friends. Their entire personality changed. Now I've lost weight too, they want to be friends again, but I'm not interested. If they didn't like me fat, then they wouldn't like me skinny.
I’m so sorry. She was never your friend in the first place.
Good for you, she was never a friend. People sure do have a way of exposing themselves.
People like this often dont realize that they have a lot of issues linked to their weight and self image that simply losing the weight doesnt solve, and it can cause them to flip a switch to the exact opposite of what they used to be.
I've lost friends because i lost weight and i no longer was interested in eating out at fast food places with them all the time anymore, our interests shifted and no longer aligned, but id still try to find other things we had to bond over while they distanced themselves from me. I ended up being the only one making effort until they just straight up ended up ghosting me.
It goes both ways honestly.
@@starlette7820you are so spot on! I'm very proud of you for doing all of the very hard work, and I'm sorry you got ghosted by people who are supposed to be your friends. I hope you found your new tribe.❤❤❤
They have just always been shallow people, which is why when they saw themselves as a "higher" social status, they ostracized you. It's sad to find out someone you used to be close to was only your friend situationally. You made the right call.
My unpopular opinion is that she was probably always mean and people dismissed it as her "just being her" or something similar
shae did say something similar to this. i remember a video of her saying “i could get away with saying stuff when i was fat because they never took me seriously. and i was just the fat friend” something like that
Yeah, her fans are 100% okay with being a mean girl/bully only when it's directed at thin people..
She needs to humble herself, a lot of people can lose the weight, but don’t manage to keep it off. Karma can come back full circle.
Especially with the surgery. Easily can backslide because she really hasn't the main issue that had her overweight. She should be humble because the world is going to enjoy the fall
@@playablyExactly! From the outside looking in, and based on the thing’s coming from her mouth her motivations for the weight loss are extremely vain. Not saying you shouldn’t want to look good, but addressing those traumas and self hate is the start to true healing.
IMHO Lets not put our shovels where there ain't no ish. That's what my grandma used to say. Fannita has mentioned MULTIPLE times how she was never taken seriously until she lost weight. Now people are being hyper critical of her because her voice all of a sudden matters. Everyone has issues, Fannita is just public.
If you don't go back to eating constantly, it won't magically reappear. Karma isn't real.
@@chandlerbingbong5773 YOU! I genuinely think everyone’s just going into this joining the hate train. She has been the exact same person before she even lost all of this weight- it’s insane. THANK
0:38 Leo didn’t say “if you can’t fit into a brands clothes, you need to lose weight.” That’s just what everyone took it as. He actually said “if you can’t fit into the clothes of one brand, focus your attention on the brands you do fit into instead of dragging the brands you don’t fit into”
I don't think his point was bad, it was his delivery that irritated me. I've had an hourglass shape since I was 13 and it made finding clothes very difficult. I have had to make my own clothes or alter things I buy, so I understand the frustration. Not everyone can afford to "work with brands that want you" and the lack of fabric stores these days (thanks to Walmart) just increases the struggle. The way Leo said what he said was dismissive and full of attitude. Nobody wants to be talked to that way.
@@annjepsen1621 I totally get that, but he also talked about his own experience being super tall and having really big feet and saying if he was always upset about all the things that didn’t fit him, he’d always be in a negative headspace. In his apology video, he admitted that his mentality is kinda like “f it, I’m gonna do my own thing” but he understands that’s not everyone’s mentality and that’s where he misjudged the situation.
Even with me, I have a very abnormal body, so a lot of things don’t fit me. I can ONLY wear tops and bottoms with a lot of stretch in the fabric. Suits always have to be tailored, etc. And even I just find one or two brands that fit my body well and just shop exclusively at those places.
The hard part is that - i was Fannita in the first year of my drastic weight loss. And it took another year of looking inward to even realize the privilege i had to lose the weight naturally how i did it. And i did go through a fatphobic phase after because "well if my lazy ass can do it and keep it off why cant anyone else?" And it was all because i was being hateful towards my past self, rather than grateful.
Instead of shame, now i just appreciate the work and research my past self did, and thank her daily for the motivation she had to change so that i can live the healthy life i am living now.
talking shit after surgery is like riding a bike with training wheels and talking shit to someone riding a tricycle
I know it's cheesy, but I really do believe that everyone is beautiful in their own way. There is beauty in the way someone smiles, how their eyes shine when you talk to them, how their voice gets softer talking to you etc. People have a hard time slowing down and just living life and appreciating the small things, because those small moments are what matter the most.
big facts. These people cant seperate beauty and attraction AT ALL
Not to mention, even if someone is unattractive TO YOU doesn’t mean they’re unattractive to everyone else. Beauty is subjective at the end of the day.
She’s a person who never dealt with her own insecurities. She has not dealt with the pain she felt from being overweight and poor. So now that she’s not those things when people criticize her she lashes out in the ways that she thinks hurt them, because she knows those same words would have hurt her.
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What does that even look like ?
Woah, more accurate words have never been said
Spot on
I agree. And I think there’s probably some subconscious or conscious sentiment of like “I heard these hurtful things when I was fat and I still lost weight so you should be able to handle it and you need to hear it too” or something. But shame is never a long term motivator. It may motivate someone in the very beginning but to feel ashamed of yourself over and over just crushes people’s spirit.
She’s in for a rude awakening if she regains that weight dude. It’s never okay to treat people the way she is treating them.
She's always been mean-spirited even when she was chubby from what I've witnessed.
After losing 227 lbs naturally, I have not forgotten where I came from, but I have experienced the negativity in my personal life from family and friends who criticized me before my weight-loss journey, then cheered me on during it, now they are critical from how I eat, exercise, etc...I have stopped talking to most of them, so I not only lost weight but also the opinions of others.
Creators like fannita need to realize that their fame and fortune is fleeting. They also need to realize that it is possible to gain that weight back. She’s just turned into such a mean person.
1000% agree with your opinion on this phenomenon. I watched my mother go through the changes out of hatred for her old self instead of love for a new life and not only did she become a bully after reaching her goals, after a few years her health/weight deteriorated to right back to what it was before she did all that work to become “healthy” which is why I now only use that word to describe a situation where the mental/emotional work has been done too.
She honestly sounds unhinged.
Honestly I don't think it's just insecurity. I suspect she has replaced one addiction for another aka she is abusing substances the pipeline from food addiction to drug/alcohol addiction is too common. She needs to address her internal struggle
8:48 that's not a mean opinion to have, it's just an objectively true statement. It only sounds mean if you place all of your value on aesthetic beauty and have nothing else to offer. If you have higher values, then it's not mean because your worth is tied to those other values and not on physical beauty.
Her boyfriend broke up with her that’s the real reason she was spiraling so bad
Yup
I actually agree with her that not everyone is beautiful. I think we need to stop saying that people are beautiful, and start to instill the idea that you dont need to be physically beautiful to have value. some people will never, ever feel beautiful, and that's ok because they don't need to. they still have value as a person regardless. we put way too much emphasis on beauty.
So you and influencers get to say who's beautiful? People who don't fit the standard mold are still considered beautiful to someone else out there. Let's start letting go of that ideology that beauty is everything without putting people in categories.
It’s literally a subjective attribute. You can’t say someone isn’t beautiful. You can say they are beautiful to YOU. But it’s not your decision. It’s literally not something can be objectively quantified and determined. It’s a construct.
honestly, i think a good chunk of the population feels this way. but it's just like, unkind and unproductive to say so. like as an example you've got the one social "rule" that you don't point out anything that can't be fixed quickly- don't point out an old persons wrinkles, don't point out missing teeth, don't point out acne or rashes etc.
Beauty is subjective. No one is truly ugly. Be quiet.
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This is why I like this channel. It condemns bullying while also being honest about obesity being unhealthy.
Although I never approve of anyone being fatphobic and attacking people's appearance, this grosses me out on another dimension.
It would be one thing if she lost weight naturally, but she only managed to lose weight because of surgery, so she should know how incredibly difficult weight loss can be for others. She should recognize the only reason she lost the weight was access to modern medicine, and so she shouldn't assume other people are "lazy" they just do not have the same resources as her! It definitely comes from a place of insecurity, but I do not feel sorry for her. This is who she's been all along.
The fact that so many people ran to her comments calling her ugly and unattractive proves her point that everyone is not beautiful, lol. People are all messed up now because they think they should be attractive to everyone, and im sorry but that just isn't true. There are very few people who are universally regarded as beautiful. And im speaking as someone who was called ugly my entire childhood. No, everyone is absolutely not beautiful and it feels gaslighty to those of us who have lived that experience. Just saying. Its dismissive and untrue.
Agree. It's like people magically forget people with physical deformities exist. Burn scars aren't beautiful. Reconstruction scars aren't beautiful. Deformed bodies aren't beautiful. But everyone wants to pretend those people are "just as beautiful" as anyone else. Maybe on the inside, but definitely not on the outside.
Despite Fannita's bad attitude, she's 100% right. Not everyone is physically beautiful.
I think the only people that would be deeply offended by a comment like that are people who believe women's sole source of self-worth should be physical appearance. So women with internalized misogyny and the kind of men who attack women's appearance would be ultra mad at this.
If you're like me and believe physical appearance should not matter it is very easy to state this fact, because it has no bearing on your true worth.
@@leahanderson7504Actually, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. It’s sad you haven’t learned that lesson for yourself, yet. There is more beauty in scars than stars, but you’ll never be able to see it. That’s so pathetic.
Well I can’t feel bad for her. If you say some people are ugly, don’t be surprised if people come out saying you are ugly. You put that energy out there. Some conversations need to be had in private
@alijane6675 No one chooses to look deformed because no one wants to look that way. No one wants to look like Quasimodo. No parent is happy when their baby comes out misshapen. No one thinks deformities are beautiful. When people start paying money to look deformed, then I'll be convinced people think deformities are beautiful. But society makes it very clear that deformed people are not physically beautiful. They can be the kindest people on the planet, but you know as well as I do they will never be treated the same as people who are considered beautiful.
The first time I lost weight in high school (2014) I lost it out of hatred for myself. I didn’t vocalize my hatred or mean opinions outwardly towards others, but I had a “mean girl” internal dialogue. I wasn’t the person I wanted to be inside. Tbh I’m grateful I gained the weight back because I’ve had the opportunity to lose it properly with love for myself. The compassion I had for my body the second time around can now radiate outwardly to others and I’m feeling good inside and out now.
Also eating a diet consisting of more than just 20 bananas sure does help my mental health 😅
I watch a LOT of reaction channels on here and you are the one with the kindest heart. Highly fond of your delivery of nuanced opinions within controversial conversations.
The worst girls are the one going from fat to a normal shape, cause they want to make people feel less, but the girls that have always been pretty are some of the nicer ones.
He just told people to take their business elsewhere if a brand doesn't carry their size.
My friend had weightloss surgery and I didn't. She became very critical of my weight and bringing it up constantly. A year after she had her surgery, she left me in the dust. I felt like she stopped being a friend because I wasn't what she wanted me to be.
Oh my gosh. I’m so old (compared to you lol) and I grew up in the 70s and 80s when if you were not a twig you were fat. I have always been trying to lose weight. I’ve never heard this concept until today of losing weight from self love rather than self hate. This is frickin mind blowing to me. Life changing really. Thank you for saying that ❤
7:10 It is so sad that many people just completely forget and disregard where they come from, especially people that are where they are with the help of those that you mock now. These type of people that think they are "the thing" because they made a bit of money and spit that to other peoples faces, are really frowned upon by people in general and especially mocked by people from old money in any European country. Those are the ones that really look like idiots rather then people that struggle. Good luck little kid. You will learn in no time what this means.
Honestly, I don't care how she's feeling or the reason behind it, there's no excuse to ever talk to someone like that and she should be ashamed of herself. The second you treat people like that I no longer listen to what you have to say. The only way to change this is to hold people accountable and stop watching their content. Why should she make money off of berating someone like that? F HER
i think shes on some sort of psychotic break.
Meh. This is really a non-issue imo. People are just too sensitive.
Sadly, this isn’t uncommon as a bariatric patient one of the things that I was warned about in the therapy that they make you get before you get the surgery is that your attitude towards others can change because you do experience things completely different as you lose weight I’m really sorry to see that attitude shift and others as I’ve dealt with it myself don’t worry life has a way of humbling
shes not wrong. i am 100% certain i am not beauitful, but there are people out there who contradict me and tell me i am like its going to spare my feelings or make me feel good. Or make themselves feel good that they got me to have "confidence" or "self love" idk but rest assured, not everyone is beautiful and yeah people need to stop being lied to. Its not healthy for that level of delusion to exist in people
I kind of agree too but with the caveat that we should keep those thoughts to ourselves. I don’t think we should comment on people’s looks regardless of how pretty or ugly they are.
Beauty is subjective, I think everyone has their own idea of "attractive" and "ugly". But we should keep that to ourselves, we shouldn't be telling people that they look ugly. Doesn't mean you gotta find them attractive though
@@bruisedstar i agree, but at the same time people do gotta know that some people are @$$ holes and just gonna comment. we are definetly surrounded by a lot of people who take things to heart just WAY too much and a lot of people need to just ignore what others say when commenting on them. her need to tell people they are ugly is not necessary, but we cant control what she is going to say. We can control how we react to it and let it affect us tho
Ye Thats what put me off, like how he side steps on this issue cause people might get offended. But reality stands and what that girl said was right. If u are average/ above average looking its always "oh no beauty is subjective" ... and all that stuff, but the sec u face to face in a lot of situations that "logic" crumbles. Beauty is not Subjective never will be never was. Trends are. (but ye it was absolutely not necessary saying that what she said publicly, or at least thrase it a bit nicer... with some supporting arguments and with her own experience with it. If she would have done that she would have made the same point but would have looked better in the public eye.
11:52 -- "Trying to mask your insecurities by being a bully."
My highest weight was 141kg I’m now about 73kg and if I had skin surgery smaller.
I understand the ‘better’ feeling but for me it’s not about being better for me I felt better in myself and it showed me I could be a better person to myself not just physically but mentally which has in turn helped me treat others with more kindness and made me a better person with alot less resentment
It's delivery. If she gets angry, emotional, and can't be objective about people who are her former size then that would be off putting.
I love this message! I have to search my heart and see how I’m treating others. ❤
Yep, John. Alan Roberts is awful to everyone. Makes me think that he doesn't like himself, fit or otherwise
nah soft people just arent ready to hear reality given to them with no filter. John is a soft, sensitive, emotional person
@malik_alharb I'm referring to Alan Roberts not John. The other day Alan started out with, "I'm not a nice person. I don't give a f***. I don't want to be a nice person. "Now, for today's video..."
That guy is announcing this on air. Why?
Alan lost weight himself and attacks plus size people after 😂
Alan Roberts is a bully@@malik_alharb
Alan Roberts tries too much to be hard. It's the name calling like a child that tells me he's emotional. He can't just make observations without getting angry.
In the therapy world, we talk about the triangle of victim, rescuer and persecutor by Stephen Karpman. I see many victims who adapt to their experience by becoming the abuser or rescuer themselves. And people can get stuck in these roles if they aren't getting to the root of their struggle and processing what needs processed.
just going to say this, just because someone is candid about their weight loss or they lose weight period does not make them better than anyone else nor should they speak as such. She knows the struggle and while yes many people lose weight, many people also don't change their personality to be liked more or have more attention drawn to them. Im down 70 lbs from my highest, still have about 30 left to be a healthy weight for my height (5'1) and I'm still the same person I have always been. Nor do I want to change who I am just so girls or guys like me...kinda pathetic tbh
I will never stop loving that original "not everybody is attractive and we need to stop lying" video. I love it so much. We do need to be more honest as a society.
But she needs to be able to swallow those same honesty pills herself
I don't think she was putting herself in the "not beautiful" class.
@@sprig5173 that was my whole point
😂 in world where anything we say can be used against us i find an old saying to hold true..."if you have nothing nice to say dont say nothing at all" in my opinion everyone is entitled to their views n opinions but dont back track only cuz you're getting backlash, if you're gonna retract it should be cuz you truly mean it. That your point of view has truly changed.
Plus ppl who turn "mean" after weightloss were always mean but didn't feel like they could be mean and fat at the same time.(imo)
I don’t think she’s responsible for what her friend says however, she’s a mean girl.
Never understood why these people have to curse so much during their videos. People of all ages watch the stuff, why.....nevermind, I think I already know the answer.
she’s angry and she needs to work on herself because she was probably bullied for being overweight so no, she’s lost the weight through surgery I may add and she didn’t look that big in the clip that you showed John so she is now venting and instead of helping and inspiring people to actually try The Gym first and try changing it in habits she hates herself because she probably didn’t try that in the beginning so she basically cheated. I and some people will say. maybe that self hatred and anger that she feels about her former myself needs to be worked on in therapy and in The Gym where? The endorphins will be released and probably make her feel much happier. Get her to being in a much better mindset and less of a bully.
I do agree that not everyone is aesthetically pleasing and people can be objectively physically ugly.
However, Fanita has the nastiest attitude post weight loss and it's disgusting to see. You're actually the 2nd UA-camr I follow to cover Fanita.
This is why anyone dealing with insecurities needs therapy or to reflect. It’s one thing gaining confidence but not everyone takes humility on that journey with them.
I’ve know people who are total bitches that obviously deal with a lot of insecurities and they had this confident persona they fronted. I’m on a journey of improving myself and I get it being too nice can get you into things you don’t like or feel uncomfortable but I see these types of people and don’t want to ever turn into that just to survive.
I use to be scared of loving myself and choosing confidence in fear of being arrogant
Looking really good John! The lighting is cool too.
People who lose weight out of self hatred almost always have baggage that is visible to others and it makes it difficult to be around them. They have attitudes that project onto other people, make mean comments, are in general miserable. They don't think so but everyone around them does. People who lose weight with support, support others, advocate for change for others don't have these issues and it's because they continue to unpack whatever trauma they've had in a larger body. It's sad that the former people skipped this step.
I hope she goes to therapy and heals from whatever is causing her to speak to and about people like this.
She most definitely has never been a nice person she was just preforming and she’s finally showing her true colors
It’s a weird place to be, but to be honest I get more judgy with people now that I’ve lost the weight
you should. you saw how it was possible and all the excuses are just that: excuses.
Maybe don’t then nobody deserves your judgment everyone is on their own fitness journey
The first step to solving a problem is realizing there is one. Our choices can make us cruel or kind just like they can make us fat or fit.
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Damn I’m such a early bird today! Totes by accident too 😂
Wow, you look amazing with that hair. There was a time that I was not understanding your glasses flavor. I’ve been following you for years when you used to eat peanut butter oatmeal every day and go to the gym. You look amazing today.
I encourage large people to gradually lose weight. I was 221 pounds before the Pandemic, then changed how I was eating while I was sedentary, instead of 3 full meals a day, I began doing 1 to 2 meals a day using spices that helps speed up metabolism, and using mostly Olive Oil and Butter, no other fats, then had my Proteins, too. I am currently down to 176 pounds.
Congratulations 🎉 on ur weight loss my goal is just to get back under 200 lbs). By end of the summer 😎.
@@jessicamontaperto810 my current goal is to reach 169. I find it easiest to set small incremental goals as I go.
@@MichaelBrooksmsb400 good 👍 idea 💡.
I heard that a lot of ppl change for the worst after wls. Idk why that is.
If I hadn't lived my life feeling ugly and being constantly reminded I was ugly, I would have been comfortable and complacent in eating myself into a grave. I was 400lbs.
Do I personally think obese people are unattractive? No. Not at all. A lot of my closest friends have weight problems, and I would NEVER put them down.
Fat does not = unattractive
But morbid obeisity needs to be addressed when it is observed. Look at Chantal a.k.a foodie beauty and how swollen shes become. She looks worrying, not attractive. I look at her, and I feel scared that she is about to pass away with how full of fluid she is.
Look at all of the people actively passing away, thinking they're ✨️beautiful✨️ and smashing the patriarchy. They don't need to be told they're gorgeous. They don't need to be told they're ugly either.
They need help. A therapist, someone to talk to, a doctor to monitor their eating etc. I wish we would rehabilitate food addicts more, and I wish food addiction/obesity was discussed more in the medical field instead of everyone tiptoeing around it trying to spare feelings.
If the people in my life spared my feelings, I would be gone.
Facts sometimes really do matter over feelings, and if the fact is you're going to pass away before your own parents, that's something that should be taken seriously.
Thank you for highlighting Bekah Day and her content!! She’s amazing
I remember Caitlyn Dougherty (Ask a Mortician) discussed this in a video on her channel. Obese 2 Beast Plus Ask a Mortician would be a wonderful collaboration!
Nope 🙅 my goal by end of summer is getting back under 200 lbs. I was looking through old pics like girl u let ur self get to far to get up to 218 lbs about a year half ago. Up to 208-211 lbs I was like that's it after this weekend of no power 🔋 for 3 half hours that's it. Like no more late-night stress snacking. I need to be a better example for my nieces my younger cousins ) like ok 👌 let's work 🏢 on getting down to a big girls shoe size 5 5️⃣. Yes 👍 I do migraines a lot unfortunately since I was 10/1/2 years spring 06. Nope get 25 lbs off by end of summer 😎. Been attacked for mentioning Juniors clothing sizes). Sorry 💔 they fit best for my secture, small waist,
Her response to that waiter situation was so wild. She needs therapy. Something else is going on with sis
An aside not all people get a gastric bypass because of their looks. I had one for health reasons, to stop diabetes and high Blood Pressure, which totally worked. I'm down eighty pounds. It's still early days and I'm in the transition period by right now.I definitely thought that I looked better when I was heavier. I knew that I would be sort of repulsed by the gooiness my body is going through right now. What I look like had nothing to do with my decision. It was truly all about health. And I'm hoping that once I reached my end weight that I'll be able to appreciate how my body looks again.
Isn't she the girl who got called out for body shaming (ironically as an FA supporter) when she made fun of the other podcaster's face/mouth?
No one is obligated to follow anyone, and definitely not obligated to give money to a bully content creator who is full of herself for no reason whatsoever. Stop feeding her delusion. The followers have the power. Stop following her, and she will be nobody, as she deserves.
I hated being fat and I just despise people who don’t take care of themselves- it’s traumatic
Like if you need a reaction of everythicc the gainer tiktoker (hope before he passes)
Wasn't she the one that bagged that guy out for hid thin lips and he said something about her weight and she was cut as .... next minute she lost weight 😂😂😂
Ugh I always hate it when people who used to be poor turn into complete POS once they get money.
"Not everyone is beautiful" is really not a hot take 😭 i cant believe she got bullied for that
She sounds so angry
I like the way you handle these things. Everyone thinks bullying is the way to go but it really just causes suicide and self harm.
Damn you still have those mouth blisters after all these years 😭😭😭
Some people need to humble themselves because she’s not all that.
Oceňuji jeho upřímnost, ale není nutné být zlý a používat sprostá slova.
Oceňuji jeho upřímnost, ale není nutné být zlý a používat sprostá slova.
Awesome commentary on this well done sir
She gives me bad vibes
In other news someone is QQing about something again today. Unfollow her, let her deal with the consequences. No need to make such a huge deal out of everything every time someone gets “offended.”
She wasn't lying though to be fair. If some people are beautiful enough to be on magazine and make a career out of it then obviously there's people in the opposite end of the spectrum that's a ugly. And it is okay. Nobody should be mean to anyone about their looks but yeah if beauty exists so do ugliness that's how the universe works.
The lifecycle is a wheel there’s a top and a bottom and everything comes around.
Some of yall in these comments can't seperate beauty and attraction and that's a sad, vapid way to live.
10:40 This is an excellent point and made me pause to reevaluate some of my own reasons and motivations for losing weight.
Exfats are the meanest.
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If it’s a hot take to say not everyone is beautiful I don’t think I want to live on this planet anymore 🤡. I think most people are ugly to look at and that’s just a fact.
could you imagine John doing this to a follower or just anyone in general?
Boo freaking hoo.
She said not everyone is beautiful.
What of it?
That was not the point of the video at all? She went from saying she didn’t have anything to eat due to poverty to calling people broke and telling them they don’t have enough money to talk to her. She also sent someone a voice message calling them a “stupid wh*re” for absolutely no reason. Overtime she’s gotten more aggressive and snaps on people out of nowhere and this video is about how its probably coming from a place of self hatred….nobody cares if she thinks everyone is beautiful??? 🥴
It’s fine when they’re being mean for the “right” reasons though? So weird how that works lol
While I think this girl is WILD and weird, I missed the part where she fat shamed someone. Can someone point it out?
4th here hehehe