I Had A Baby I Cried A LOT Things Got Hard | Self Care | PND | Be Kind To Mums
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- Опубліковано 9 бер 2024
- It was so hard to give this video a title. I knew what I wanted it to be about, but naming it was really tough. It's not just PND, or being a new mum... again. I felt the need to explain why I've been absent, on Instagram and on UA-cam too. This video was something I definitely needed to talk about. I've been so emotionally bashed, I had lies being told about me when my baby was a few weeks old. My hormones were getting the better of me and I was feeling so distant from the person who I usually am.
I hope this video helps other new parents out there too. It's ok to not be ok, but it's not ok for someone to be nasty to you, especially when you have done nothing wrong.
This video isn't a total sad one lol, it does get better. But it definitely is an eye opener if you've not experienced seeing a new Mum or any parent struggle with their mental health before. Most of my issue was caused by someone else.
Don't forget to be kind 🫶🏻
Sending love, Rebecca xx
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Hello Rebecca, this is the first time I have watched your channel and I have subscribed to you. I am from Virginia in America. I do not know you but you seem like a lovely person. I am a mother and grandmother, my daughter actually had twins 18 months ago and she went through some of the issues you went through including NICU with the twins, they were born at 32 weeks. They are now perfect and a joy, my daughter now has a total of 6 children! I only had 2! But what I really want to say to you is do not let anyone steal your joy. Your blessings are many. People who are nasty are unhappy themselves, so they really should be pitied. You are to be celebrated as a mother and a person. God Bless❤️
Hi Jennifer, first of all I’d like to thank you for a lovely, kind and warming comment. I feel lucky to have some caring subscribers on my channel and I’m looking forward to producing more content for you all.
Secondly, please pass on my love to your daughter. It’s hard to know how hard it is unless you are in the thick of it. I’m so pleased to hear her twins are thriving 😀
Thank you for subscribing and I hope to see you in my comments again 🥰 x
Friends like that you don't need.❤ you are a great person.
Thank you Linda 🫶🏻 x
My heart goes out to you. I had something very similar happen years ago, but it was my DIL saying the things. Completely turned my son against me. I forgave her & things got back on track for a bit, but she’s done it many times over & now 6 years later, she’s fractured my relationship with not only my son, but my precious grandchildren. Hold your head high, let God guide you and above all, put yourself first above people like that ❤️🙏🏻
Oh my goodness that’s so awful for you, I do hope things get better between you and your son 😔 thank you for your comment and kind words, sending you a hug x
And also … never feel any shame for asking for help whatever it is you need. Xx
Know people are thinking of you & sending you kind thoughts xx 🩷
Thank you so much ❤️
Don't you worry. I can tell you are a fabulous mother. You are a beautiful woman with a sweet disposition. This person who hurt you is jealous and you are better off with that person out of your sweet lovely family. I think you are amazingly composed even when you are hurt. You were professional about not revealing what or who lied ❤
Awwww, try not to let other people project their anger and insecurities on you. I know it’s hard right now with so much on your plate. Know that you’re strong, happy and so very blessed. And yes some people can be awful , cruel, and spiteful. The only way they can be happy is by trying to crush other people’s happiness! Stay strong and know that all that matters is your and your wonderful family 💕
Sorry you’re having a tough time. Postpartum is rough enough without people being nasty. I’ve got a 2.5 year old and 4 month twins. It’s a lot, and I’m definitely done. I can only imagine what it’s like having 5. You’re doing amazingly. Sod the haters!
Thanks for the kind words, I am better now 🫶🏻 you know how hard and draining it can be so well done to you. Have 5, it’s always non stop here and I love it 😀
My children are grown now, but sometimes I wish I could have just one day to go back in time to when that were little and just enjoy all the fun , laughter and chaos! It really is where our wisdom comes from. You really do have a wonderful life.. enjoy 😊
I think about when they grow up and the house will be quiet. I miss them when they are at nursery! Thank you so much for watching xx
@@RebeccaRobertsSupertwinsWe are around the same age Rebecca but I did it the opposite way I had all four of my daughters by age 27 and my youngest is now off in her first year at Uni and my 2nd youngest has just finished. I had my 1st at 19, my 2nd at 21, my 3rd at 24 and my last at 27. My husband I have been together since I was 16 and we are finding it very very quiet in the house now and we do feel sad at times but we get to enjoy having the girls home together several times a year and now we are moving into the preparing for weddings and will be grandparents in the next few years as my eldest is planning on having her first next year. I would love to go back in time to the sleepless nights and the breastfeeding and the special times you get when your children are young. Hold onto the wonderful times and don't let anybody fill your life with toxicity or negativity.
This is such a comfort video. I know the topic was sad and I am sorry you had to go through that. But the style of the video of you just chatting away with us about everything is so comforting. Thank you for sharing everything you did. You said it was therapy for you, it feels like therapy for me too. It's like having a chat with an old friend that I dont have. I love it. Thank you!
Hi Rebecca, just started following you and my heart is breaking for you. It’s easy for someone to judge you. But usually it’s their own self loathing that makes them do things they shouldn’t do. This is no excuse of course, but frankly you need to distance yourself from them, block them, whatever. Don’t look for an apology, because they are narcissistic and revel in the own arrogance. After having a baby, postpartum depression is a real thing. People need to be accountable for their actions. Having children are a huge blessing! Please know I’m sending you lots and lots of love ❤️ hugs and prayers for you and your beautiful family! Love from Canada 🇨🇦
PS… you look amazing 🤩
Just how badly you’re taking this shows what a Sweetheart you really are.
Your “plate” is full …. Enjoy your life as you have it A BEAUTIFUL LIFE. 💝
Oh that’s so kind of you to say, thank you ☺️ I do enjoy my beautiful family very much, I know how lucky I am to have them xx
God bless and take care!❤
So sorry to hear that this so called friend of yours put you through that situation. All I can say is you know who you are as a person. Be true to that and who you are. Your opinion of yourself should not be based on other people's opinions of you. Don't let their small minds and opinions define you. She is obviously jealous. It's painful when someone you thought was a friend has hurt you. Wish her well and move on with your life. The best revenge is showing that her words and opinions haven't affected you. Let it wash off you like a ducks back.
Keep your chin up and focus on your husband and beautiful children. Thats what is most important not this woman's opinions. God Bless and greetings from Australia.♥
I feel for you,but people will be mean for no apparent reason. My mother had 5 children most 2 years apart and didn’t have any help from friends or family. Dad worked nights and mom worked days,this way they were always there for us. I don’t think mom was ever able to express all she felt at the time. I wasn’t blessed with children, but hearing you talking about your kids is very sweet. Thank you, for sharing your time .❤
Your parents sound fantastic 🫶🏻 thank you for your kind comment, I really do appreciate it. X
Hi Rebecca, This is the best therapy that a person could ever have to share how you feel instead of holding it in. Because people understand how you're feeling and can relate to you and encourage you not to blame yourself. Your friend is insecure and she was in your life when it was the right time for that relationship, and now you can go on to another journey at a different time and meet another friend that is for such a time as now. Hugs honey, keep strong. 💓🕊💞 you're a lovely young lady.
I did hope my video could help others in the same boat as myself. I’ve had a really lovely response, unfortunately it also does show how many new mums there are out there with people being nasty and rude with a second thought. Thank you for your kind words and thanks for watching x
Rebecca. Kindness has hidden itself in many places in our culture. Is there someone who can screen your comments? It's so important to be protected from the vultures.❤
This is the first time I have watched your channel and at 70 years old please take some advice, don’t let those people speak into your life. My motto is if you can’t say anything nice don’t say anything at all. You and your children are beautiful. I have been a professional Nanny for 20 years and life is not always easy. Chin up and carry on (shed a few mom tears along the way) children are a miracle. 💕
Rebecca, u r absolutely beautiful! I hate that happened to u. I am glad that u were able to see what was posted and it confirmed that u didn’t say what she spread. The fact that she lied is bad enough but the fact she didn’t apologize speaks volumes. Don’t give her another thought. U need your energy for your little ones. I hope this finds u having a good day. God Bless.
I saw one of your original postings on UA-cam and I binge watched the remainder. You are a lovely caring family and I am so sorry that one person has upset you so badly. It takes a lot of courage to share your heart. I pray that you will recover soon.
Hi Bev, thank you for your kind comment. I’m feeling better now 🥰
I hope you’ve been enjoying all my other videos? X
Thanks Rebecca, it's lovely if you to reply. Yes I have definitely enjoyed all your postings. I'm from N.Z and I had my 3rd child about 2 months before I turned 40!
Hi Rebecca, I ran across your channel this evening and I wanted to let you know that you seem like a lovely person and mother. You are around my daughter’s age, keep on being the person that you are and hold your head high! Miserable people like making others miserable, don’t let them make you miserable when you know you haven’t done anything wrong. They are the ones with the problem. Don’t let them steal your glory and your happiness from you. My favorite saying is “Not Today”, and then I don’t let anything bother me and usually end up having a good day. Liked and subscribed from Kansas USA
Hi Joy, thanks so much for your lovely comment. When I was in the thick of it I couldn’t seem to find a way out. But time really is a good healer, I’m much better now. I love your saying and will adopt that too 😀 hopefully I won’t need to use it too much but let’s see how it works out for me. Have a lovely day ☀️ or evening as it is for you right now ⭐️xx
I just want you to know that it is your it is your friends loss, because you are an amazing mom, partner, and person!! Hold your head up and know you are the special one!! So proud of you!! Hugs from Texas, USA
Thank you ❤️ wow you’re in Texas, I’d love to visit there one day 😀
I just found your channel tonight and I wanted to say there is always someone out there that has to try to tear you down. They make themselves feel better by hurting someone else. Hold your chin up and go right on and live your happy life. ❤❤❤❤❤
Hi Rebecca - I just saw your story today. What an amazing experience, you handled it with so much grace. My only child is 19 and is at university. I can't imagine having more children when she was a tween. Having her at 37 was very difficult for me. So much so, we decided to not have any more. I used to feel so guilty we didn't give her any siblings but I had to work a demanding full time job and unfortunately continue to do so. I felt like I didn't have any extra to give a other child. You are strong and amazing - post if you are up to it and don't if you are not. You and your family are more important than social media. I live in the U.S. in Wisconsin. Some things are the same no matter where you live. ❤
Sweetheart, don't take this other person serious. You know who you are. She must have a problem. Much love.
Thank you lovely x
you are such a lovely person , truely you are and you most certainty don't need this person or anyone else who chooses to believe this about you . unfortunately it can happen when either people are jealous of you or they are ignorant and blinded by what they believe , unfortunately I've had this happen to me .
i had to cut away from people i thought we're friends for my own sanity and i wasn't post partum. Rebecca I'm sending you a hug , its a real hug from someone who follows you and your beautiful family . keep your beautiful head high , you're better than that rubbish xxx
Hi Elaine, thanks for your comment and your kind words, I really do appreciate it. There’s been some lovely people here on my channel 🥰
I’m sorry to hear you went through similar. I just don’t understand some people’s way of thinking sometimes. I hope you are all ok now though? Take care lovely xx
Hi Rebecca! I've just found your channel. I'm not a mom, but I feel you deeply, because I went through 11 years of narcissistic abuse from a partner and, omg, isn't that what they do! That's called gaslighting. Their goal is exactly to make us doubt ourselves and, by that, break us, break our sense of self-worth and self-love and also isolate us. That's exactly because you are a loving person and shine bright and your light and ability to love is triggering to them, cause it reminds them that they have lost access to their own light and capacity to love. Now, a mentally healthy person will be inspired by somebody else's light n' love to reaccess their own. But a mentally ill person, especially with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), will do exactly what this woman did. I hope you're feeling better now. I'm so happy you soon found out she was mistaken and that, yes, you were right, are and have always been a great person. If you ever feel the need for more clarity on that kind of behaviour, the YT channel that helped me got out of this abusive relationship is called Surviving Narcissism, great content on the subject. But I think you are fine, now, right? Cause it seems she's not someone you need to deal with anymore and that's perfect! Sorry I wrote a lot. Thought I'd share my story in case it could bring you some clarity and comfort. Sending you lots of love and a big hug to this beautiful heart of yours! 🤗🤗🤗💗💗💗✨✨✨
When I had my daughter in 1992 in Calgary, Canada, there was a set of superfetation twins born at the hospital I was staying in!! I remember hearing the nurses talking about it in the hallway. I had complications and was in hospital quite a while.
One more thing, honey! What was said was probably done out of jealousy! How sad for that person! I am so sorry! I will pray for you as well as these other ladies! 💕💕💕💕
Oh, honey... You spent the first 3rd of this video trying to convince us you're a good person, friend, wife and mother...and how grateful you are.
And the last 3rd doing the same, and offering advice on how to be kinder to new moms.
I'm sorry that you're dealing with post-partum hormonal imbalances, and I hope that your doctor (probably your midwife) can help you...Don't stop seeking help for it! Your family needs you to!
And I'm so, so sorry your friend turned on you. She did not add good things to your life...and she never deserved your friendship.
Make it a great day, lovely...😊
I read a quote yesterday, "Sometimes protection looks an awful lot like rejection."
In other words, when people are horrible and you lose them from your life it can be protective.
It's such a vulnerable time! Such a normal reaction. I'm so sorry she did that and glad you were able to find out what the post was and not have to go over it and over it in your mind trying to wrack your brain, getting exhausted at such a delicate time questioning what you might have done.
I'm glad people are being kind in the comments.
Ughh I’m so sorry that you’re having to go through this. Women can be horrible to other women.
I had an ex friend do something horrible me too!
She was a best friend for 11yrs. She turned on me out of jealousy. Pure jealousy do to me sweet son swimming accompaniments. The lies were so horrible. She pulled so many people into her terrible lies.
My heart hurt for my son. It happened going into his senior year!
Why do women do the things they do negatively. I’ll never ever know. Stay strong my guess is she is very jealous of you.
Warm wishes from across the pond!
Rebecca I’ve been watching you since I saw your story on Instagram about having the twins & have watched all your UA-cam videos
Or think I have😀 Loved the Christmas ones, I’m sure it was a lot of work.
You always seem to be enjoying your family so much. It’s so unfortunate that people can be so mean at times.
I’m in the US & the amount of people I see that are so mean to others is disturbing. I believe it’s a worldwide problem. It’s very disturbing to me as a grandmother how the world will be by the time my youngest granddaughter is an adult, she’s only 9 months now.
I’m glad to see you back but so sad that you had to go through all that❤️
I’m a grandma here from Newfoundland Canada. I found you way back a few years ago when the story came about your precious twins. I have been following ever since. Always remember you are a good mom no matter how your day went you still are a good mom
Thank you so much for following our story. Can you believe the twins are now 3.5 years old?! And thank you, very nice of you to say xx
Hi Rebecca, I’m so sorry that you went through this betrayal of someone you cared about. I’ve been through something similar and it rocked my world. I too felt like a terrible person and I was so shocked that this family member would turn on me so terribly and right me off so easily. We did finally patch things up but our relationship was never the same and in the end she divorced my family member. Just know that you are a valued and genuine person. You are an amazing person and an amazing mom. I believe that this situation happened because it had more to do with her problems and her insecurities. Those who chose to not to find out the truth and listen to your side are not deserving of your attention. They should be ashamed of themselves for being drawn into something that was none of their business. Take care of yourself and your babies. Be happy because you deserve happiness. ❤️🇨🇦
Hi Rebecca just found your channel, I have Instagram but never use it. UA-cam is my favourite, ppd is hard without your friend being a **w, talking about your day, ups and downs is a great way of helping work through everything, plus its you time. Very important. Know that you are a good person and don't worry about the haters, that's their loss. Love to see you here on youtube, keep videoing 🥳🥳💕💕
Oh my goodness you are such a beautiful person. Inside and out! You have an amazing story. I am so sorry there are so many that just feel the need to be mean and ugly. I’m from Texas in the US and just subscribed. Keep educating and doing your videos you are teaching women that need this message. Maybe in turn we can be there for you.
I just found you today ….and I adore you I hope you will remember you are worth all the great things that have happened to you and your wonderful family❣️❣️❣️ please try to forget about of things these people have said…..they don’t deserve the great person that you are💖💖💖 I’m the Granny you said can text you. lol
Thank you Nancy, I love your name by the way ❤️ and yes, message whenever ☺️ thank you for your kind words and your support x
This is a great video to show the impact of gaslighting! Someone denying your truth and spreading lies obviously hurts but it’s the questioning and doubt in ourselves their behavior causes is crushing. ESPECIALLY in postpartum with hormones and nutrients all haywire. I don’t even know you and only just found your twin video right before this, but I’m so happy you’ve made it through the hump!
Hi Rebecca, I'm Martha in Arizona, U.S.A. Just this evening, I watched all of your video that talked about your superfetation (which is a new word to me!). I thought it was very interesting, and now I'm half way through this 2nd video. I'm sorry to hear about how cruel someone was towards you. I'm 62 years old (and never had kids, but had lots of sweet nieces an nephews), and I've sort of been lecturing myself just recently about not letting the bad things in life take away from the wonderful good things - especially good things that I might be able to do creatively with my time or things I can do for others (if so much of my time/attention is NOT focused on just trying to keep a good relationship with a certain person in my life). Anyway, I can relate in that way! (But I am NOT saying that you seem like a "cup is half empty" person at all!!! I just have that tendency myself - being tempted to keep focusing on the PROBLEMS in life too much!) I am a Christian and yesterday I wrote out Ephesians 2:10 and have it on my kitchen counter. God bless you! You seem like a lovely lady, and it's great to hear someone say that they love to be a stay-at-home Mom - which is a very important job! :o)
Don’t let anyone take your shine or your spirit enjoy your life and block that awful person
Leo is a gift of love
Thank you so much for posting this, I can't imagine how hard it was for you, and yet, it was therapeutic. I went through something like you did when my third child was born, actually, when my first was born, too, but when the third was born, I suffered postpartum depression, you are a wonderful, strong woman, and a great mother. I will always keep you in my prayers. I am 74 years old now, we started with a foster son, and we are all living in the same state, I now have 2 grandchildren and 2 great-grandchildren with our foster son, and 10 grandchildren, the oldest are 16 (twins) and the youngest is 3 months... God Bless you and Bless you.
Thank you for your kind words ❤️ and thank you for watching x
It's so painful to have someone you trusted lie about you. I am in that situation also. Pray for God to help you forgive and to know your value is not to be measured by another.
It's the worst when it's someone you really value. Feels like your soul is breaking. Hugs to you.
@RebekahLouTaylor I am learning that it's God's evaluation of someone that is true. He loves everyone deeply but some are wounded and/or are doing sinful things. We need to protect our hearts and stay focused on God's unfailing Love for us. You have a family that needs you and needs to learn what abiding in God's love looks like. Spend time in God's word and prayer and ask Him to teach you of His unconditional love for you. My sense is that your 'friend' has a jealously problem with you. Ask God to help you forgive and pray for them.
Hey Rebecca! What a beautiful an amazing mother & person you are xx
Congratulations on your twin pregnancy! 🩷
You look like you are doing so well!
Please know your friend has a problem. Perhaps she is jealous . People do strange things sometimes. I am sure whatever you did or didn’t say you meant no harm. You honestly just seem like a beautiful, kind & caring person. It sounds like your friend has the problem.
I’ve had people say many horrid things & you know you are probably feeling a bit overwhelmed hormonal & tired. Focus on you for a change 😊 Do you ever take a moment to meditate or breathe 🍃🌸🍃(Babies are are a lot of work aren’t they!)
What might also help is checking nutritional levels make sure you are getting enough of the right nutrients (aka topping up your B’s & D’s especially if feeling seasonally affected too! Xxx)
From this side of the web you have nothing to fret about. Make sure you are getting enough rest xx Don’t stress xx And enjoy all these beautiful new moments. Don’t let anyone get to you. And remind yourself You deserve to enjoy every moment of this beautiful journey x Sending you a mental hug🩷 🕊️🍃🌸🍃🕊️
Hi Amanda, what a wonderful comment, thank you so much for taking the time to write it, I appreciate that so much 😀
I wish people would ask to see evidence/hear the other side/find out for themselves before they pass judgement. Especially when you’re an adult. In my case, she believed ill of me and I was totally innocent. She knows this now but obviously won’t swallow her pride to apologise. Oh well, I’ve risen above it, I’m just glad I’m not like that.
I’m doing much better now and I think you’re right, I will look into vitamin supplements. I took a certain one all the way through my pregnancy, I guess I’ve just neglected myself since his birth.
Thank you again for your kind words, I hope to see you again in the comments of another video ☺️ take care lovely x
Just found your channel. Love your videos! You are so warm & genuine. Sorry for all you have been through.🥰
Thank you and thanks so much for watching 🥰
Here’s an across the ocean hug. Having a baby/babies is the hardest challenge. Take it one day at a time. Trust in your faith 💖🌹 I know the struggle is real.
Thank you for the hug Elizabeth, what a lovely bunch we have here on my channel. It’s comments like these that make doing UA-cam so worthwhile.🥰 I hope to see you in my next videos comments 😀 x
Hi Rebecca, I don’t know you. I’ve just seen two of your videos. You definitely seem to be a lovely and charming person. You’re someone who cares. I understand why you were so upset about someone spreading negative things about you. I’m glad to see you’re getting on top of it all. You can’t change people. That person must have their own issues. Typically they make other people pay for their own downfalls. It’s a case of grief and managing to get over it.
Sage green is a lovely calming colour. Do it !! Thank you for your very sincere video.
Anita, hi 👋 thank you for your lovely comment. I really appreciate it. No you can’t change people, it’s nice to think they may see the error of their ways but in this case I’m very doubtful.
Sage green is a favourite of mine, green has been my favourite colour for years. We’ve got some paint mixed ready for the kitchen, now I just need to find a few hours to do it 😀
Thanks again and I hope to see you pop up again x
Hi Rebecca, you are doing marvelously well, you are much stronger than you think. All the very best to you and your lovely family. XX
You seem like an amazing woman! Great job getting through all those struggles.
very glad you are feeling better Rebecca, you have been through a lot, happy times are coming for you and your family ,always set your stall out x
I’m trying to think happy thoughts, I’ve got goals I’ve set for myself too. I’m also looking forward to doing decorating. 😌xx
I totally agree if you have a friend who’s just had a baby check on them give them a ring and chat for a bit it really helps I to just had a baby almost 3 months ago I am older 38 and I don’t have any friends anymore I’m alone all the time and feel isolated. I’m also a stay at home mom so I don’t go much of anywhere. It’s not so easy to pack up baby and everything baby needs to go shopping. I just get my husband to bring home things that we need he does work outside of the home and I do have older children, but they are busy with schooling and friends but when they are home, it’s nice to have them around definitely brings my spirits up! I do Have supportive family but they to are super busy with work and their families! I used to be super outgoing before baby now I don’t even wanna leave the house or be sociable sometimes i think I may have PPD but i really don’t even know what that is to say I have it! Other then a quick google search to my symptoms of not wanting to do anything outside of my home I don’t even enjoy dinner out on the weekends it feels like a chore to me!! When I used to look forward to weekend fun and regular shopping trips!!
Rebecca,I want to first of all say how impressive your situation is. Secondly I wish I could give you a hug. It breaks my heart to hear your sorrow and unfortunately I understand it all to well. 16 years ago I had my beautiful daughter and then someone who I considered my best friend and sister walked out of my life while dragging my name through the mud. People then didn't know about pnd as much. It was horrible. Anyways just know that your amazing, and shame on anyone who tries to make you feel bad.
❤All is well. 😊And the nice weather is coming. Remember, you are doing twice what most only do once. Good job!😊🎉
Just stumbled across your IG and followed your message here. Be careful. I’d warn you if the pandemic had never happen but it seems worse now. Poisonous people will tend to keep coming back into your life. They get off on gaslighting. You have this video which this person will watch. Do not be fooled. You can forgive them and even tell this person who may beg for forgiveness that your forgive them but this does not mean you let her back into your life. If you have, keep distance and don’t share personal details. If you haven’t, feel free to be polite and if they beg you to be let back in, just say “look I forgive you but I realize That we have different priorities. That’s it. You do not need to explain further. You will see her true character after this conversation. Please be careful. As you said, you have plenty going on without her. Wishing you the best!
Hello I just came across your video also congratulations on the new baby also on all of your babies. That s an amazing story about your twins.
Aww Rebecca I'm glad your feeling better now you got it all off your chest don't let people being u down yr a amazing mummy and lovely person I know I don't know you personally but I love watching you on here and missing you on Instagram hope to see you back very soon with your amazing family xx
Hiya, yes, thank fully I’m feeling better, time is also a great healers
I’ll be back there probably tomorrow 🎉 what lovely things to say too, thank you xx
Happy mothersday! Thank you for sharing!
It was a hard way and bad timing to weed out not-friends. But i will suggest you are better of without them. Now there are room for real friends. ❤❤❤ all the best. You are such a sweetheart.
Hi Lilly, yes absolutely bad timing. This person is also a mother so should completely understand how hard it is, especially so soon after giving birth. To be fair it’s hard for a long time to adjust back to even a little close to how you used to be!
You comment was comforting, thank you ☺️ have a lovely evening xx
Thank you for sharing, we love you so much
Hi Rebecca, big hugs 🤗 sweetheart you have gone through a lot I’m so sorry to hear that. Some people can be so spiteful at a time when you have just had little Leo can make things really difficult 😥. You are a wonderful Mum with a wonderful family. I’m so glad things are getting better for you now. Sending you lots of love 🥰 💗🤩
Hi Louise, so lovely to hear from you. How have you been doing since we last spoke?
It’s been a trying time for me over the recent months, but I’m getting past that now. Thank you for your kind message, it’s always nice to see you here. Have a lovely evening xx
Hey girl this person is obviously sick in the head for her to do this about you!!!!!!!!! You are none of those things that she said!!!!!!!!! You are an awesome person and mother!!!!!!!!!! So plz plz plz try not to let that obviously unstable person bring you down!!!!!!!! None of us think you’re a horrible person and you don’t lie and you don’t spread lies about other people!!!!!!!!! Plz don’t let that awful person get to you anymore than you already have!!!!!! We like the person that you are and have been!!!!!!! Have a great day!!!!!!!!
What did the woman say about her? What did she claim she said? It's not mentioned in the video
I'm sorry for what you have gone through.
I’m so sorry that someone would treat you that way! It’s terrible when others feel they have the right to act as though they were God. You don’t deserve that. Be happy with your beautiful family
Thank you for your kind words, Sandra ☺️ yes, I agree, I don’t understand why people think they can go around trying to destroy other people, bizarre!
Thank you for watching as well 😀 xx
Your doing amazing just so much going on i hope you know your a great person. You are allowed to have feelings
I'm 25, married, been trying to conceive for over a year now, haven't had any medical help yet but hoping everything works out naturally.
Sending you baby dust, that’s what the women in the groups I was in called It. I thought it was a lovely thing to say, like passing on hope to someone 🫶🏻 x
People being cruel can happen because they are hiding behind a computer. You have a wonderful heart, your children are beautiful. This person is probably jealous and lonely. We all have days when we don’t be ourselves.
Oh how horrible for you, you are such a beautiful, loving mother and under pressure of 4 childred with PPD. I'm so very sorry this happened to you. Being a mother to littles is stressful enough without a grown woman attacking you. I hope you blocked her from commenting on your channel again. If not, please do this. So please tell us, how does your oldest daughter feel about the little ones? I would imagine her in love with them. Oh I am so glas you get to spend one on one time with each of the littles. Blessings and prayers to you, all of your children and your partner.
Bless you and your family!
Thank you so much 😊 ❤️
Hi. I'm so sorry someone hurt you so deeply. I understand, I do. And I've learned to use a little trick that helps me regain a better perspective... And that is this: If this scenario happened to one of your children, how would you advise him/her? Follow your advice for your loved one. You'll be amazed. You will find strength to say, Okay. That person needs to be gone. (Block her. Etc). And go on.
ALSO, the 30s and 40s are crazy busy for families. Its exhausting. Go go go all the time. Every day, all day. Work, school, doctors, sports, groceries, bills, housework, car expense, sick days, homework ... I'm 71 now. The kids are grown, now they're crazy busy. I loved it all. And now I love living quietly. Soooo peaceful.
Light & love to you & yours ❤
You’re always so classy and gracious. I imagine there is an element of jealousy going on xx
Well thank you very much 🥰 I’ve no idea why she was so spiteful, I’ve always been nothing but nice to her 😩 thank you for commenting and watching too xx
Remember when you’re on an airplane and they tell you,”put the mask on YOURSELF FIRST “! If YOU don’t,you can’t take care of anyone else. I had 5 also. Take it slow. One more thing, betrayal hurts the most from the people the closest. I’m old now, trust me 💙💚💜
There’s a quote that goes something like…….”What other people say about you is none of your business “. In other words, there will always be people who gossip or make up things and you can’t control that. Haters gunna hate. If you have real friends, they will always support you and good riddance to the toxic people that only want to bring you down.
Like Jennifer in the comment below, I am a mother and a grandmother though without the twin experiences. I don't know what you got bashed about but know that some people are uneducated and some are educated and just plain ignorant. Let those of us who care support you and try to ignore the haters. When all else fails, listen to Tay Tay... "Haters gonna hate, hate, hate, hate, hate, hate, hate....shake it off, shake it off.." It's not easy to ignore the negativity but they truly don't deserve your precious energy. You have five kids and you're doing great. I think you are amazing. Love and Reiki to you, Sweet Soul...
I’m so syyhis has happened to you Rebecca,
you don’t need friends like that.Wishing you a healthy happy future with your family.
Two and a half years ago, my sister got a wrong idea in her head about me. She told our brother and half-sister. My sister shunned me and my adult son and developmentally delayed second child. My sister’s two children, and brother’s family, have disowned all of us. They won’t even speak to my delayed adult child on the telephone, or visit without me being present. .It hurt soooo much, off and on for two years. In the beginning it helped to go in the bathroom, punch my fist in the air while whisper-yelling, « f-- you « to my sister. I don’t know if It will make sense, but it felt like it was detaching her bad energy from myself. It was such a very very cruel thing that she did. The last six months it has really not bothered me too much anymore. Sorry you had a very hurtful untrue thing happen to you too. Hang in there and it will hurt less as time passes.
I’m so sorry to hear that happened to you. I totally understand the whisper yelling too, it’s a great idea 👌🏻
I don’t know what’s worse, people who valued you thinking these bad things about you, or the fact that nobody is come to you to try and sort it out.
Let’s normalise speaking to each other rather than taking someone’s word for it! The way I see it is, if you hear something about someone you care about, and you don’t speak to that person to get their side of the story, then you are just plain ignorant. And you’re also causing that person unnecessary distress. 😩
I’m glad to hear you are feeling better. Hopefully see you in my other videos. Comment section. Big hug x
@@RebeccaRobertsSupertwins. Thank you. (The really helpful part is to punch your fist in the air hard at the same time.) Yes I agree, people ought to talk. is so strange to no longer have a relationship with a sibling, to no longer have a family.
I hope you’re feeling better
It is called immaturity. So sad I am so sorry. Do not let people take away your joy. She sounds like a Billy. Believe me when you are older you won't care. And you will become very bold with love. Sorry that people followed her. This happened to my daughter about something else. It was very evil . Just know this to shall pass. ♥️
Don’t give negative people space in your thoughts or your home. Be kind to you, it’s ok, it’s necessary
Thank you for sharing from your heart. I found your videos when you were first sharing about your ‘super-twins’ and found your story so interesting as I am a retired nurse-midwife in Alabama. I had a 10 year gap between my eldest daughter and then 3 younger ones. It has been interesting as they have grown and my life activities have always seemed on a different time line from my age mates - I had young teens while they were planning weddings. And interestingly, a woman here in Alabama has birthed super-twins in the recent past. I should try to find contact information so that I can send her an encouraging message 😊.
You can’t please everyone! Who knows…she might have been going through something too that was causing her to be on edge and have a “chip on her shoulder”. You will find new friends that you will value and they will value you. 😊
My dear you will get trolls that say nasty mean things to everyone. Try and not take it to heart. Some people are miserable and like to be mean to others. You are doing a great job. I wish you all the best and sending hugs your way.
Thank you ❤️
Rebecca can't wait to see you back post on Instagram I'm been meaning to message you to make sure everyone was okay but iv been busy getting ready 4 mi operation tomozs really hope your feeling well again now you have got it all off your chest can't wait to see you and your amazing family back on Instagram soon xx
Hi Carolanne, I’ve missed Instagram so much so I’m looking forward to seeing you guys back over there. Thanks for keeping up with what’s going on over here.☺️I hope all goes well with your op tomorrow 🫶🏻 xx
Hi Rebecca, I watched this video because I watched the video of you getting pregnant while pregnant. As you told your story of your twins pregnancy, I was feeling that there was more emotional stuff to this story. I also remember trying to have a baby and the heartbreak of not being able to conceive. Then, I got pregnant and started spotting only to be told I was losing the baby. The doctor was cold. He said, " You already have two children. What do you want with another." I didn't know how to answer him. He gave me some prenatal vitamins because I was losing blood. . As soon as I took the vitamins I stop bleeding. As weeks past I took a pregnancy test and it came out positive! I couldn't believe it. Then I started taking so many pregnancy test because I kept doubling I was pregnant and feeling I would lose the baby at any moment. I was terrified! When I went to be checked by my midwife at 11 weeks. I thought she would find no baby. Even when I told my mother I think I'm pregnant she said, " Stop copying your sister.' Emotional support when pregnant, after birth and while raising your babes is vital. It's actually lovely to hear you speak of truly loving having children and a large family. It's seem rare. Also, I know a woman who had a baby at 48 years of age so you never know. Thank you for sharing this story with us. it would be wonderful to have another chat. I was totally engaged. 🙂
Hi 👋
I’m sorry to hear you have also had many upsets with people being cold, careless and just damn right rude. I’ve no idea why people think it’s ok to speak so loosely. I hope you are ok? Sending you a hug 🤗
I am so glad to hear so many people say this video has helped them, it helped me too. If this video is of some value to someone, then that’s good enough for me.
I’m sure there will be many more chats videos coming up soon. I’m going to be doing a Q&A video about the twins with my pregnancy etc very soon, so keep a look out for that in my UA-cam channel. I’ll also be asking for any suggestions over on Instagram if you follow us over there too?
Hopefully see you in the comments of another video too, thanks again for commenting. Take care lovely xx
There will always be jealous people out here, people who believe lies about us... It's not always strangers, very often it's family and people close in our life.
You are gorgeous inside and out, you are beyond blessed and so strong. Many people don't like seeing others happy and blessed, they do and say things to break us down, they put negativity on our life our children, it's a evil world out here, we must becareful, here are little good genuine people, I hope this is a safe space 🙏
I no longer post my children on social media, I try to keep my life as personal as possible to protect myself and my children.
All of the best to you and your family, always pray for protection, our God hear us he is amazing, stay the beautiful person and mother you are, shut out negativity and negative people, be safe love, stay blessed 🙏 the right people know who you are and the good people see good people 🌸
I am a newbi and I am excited to begin my binge watch on your earlier video,s but you sound like a wonderful
Mummy and you will always get the trolls who are to stupid to know they are stupid so ignore them darling.
You are the better person, people sometimes can,t be happy unless they are bullying someone else because
they are scum......but just remember that you are not.
Hi Pauline, thank you for finding my channel, I hope you enjoy all the other videos 😀
Thank you for your supportive words too, it’s really lovely to see such a caring community we are building here on my channel. I hope to see you pop up in my comments again. Take care x
Hi, I have never ever heard about you before but with this video you have touched my heart ❤️
You are a first person in my life who said having one child is as hard as having two, three or more. I am a mum of two beautiful girls (3,5 and 10 months) but How many times you can hear that your life is easier because this person has more kids or Is working mum? Yes that maybe is true but you don’t know what is inside the head of this person. We should to support each other instead of this. I hope you know what I mean! I will share your video to every single mum I know! Thank you ❤
Thank you so much for your lovely words. I hope you are doing ok too? Thank you for your support xx
May God bless you and your family. They will grow fast and they will be happy and successful. Mom’s job is the hardest. I have 2 children and to take care of them I quitted my PhD to focus on them. I am happy and proud of my self. So, I feel your emotions ❤ We are mothers, we are strong
Thank you so much lovely. I hope you are doing ok? You are a strong woman 🫶🏻
I am doing great thanks for asking. You too dear 🥰@@RebeccaRobertsSupertwins
You are an amazing woman and Mom.
So proud of you! This video was hard for you but you pushed through because you wanted to help others.
Bless you.
Also, how do you have an 18 year old?! I never would have thought you were over 40! You look like you're in your late 20s! Please, tell me your secret! ❤
That’s really nice of you to say, thank you ☺️
Yes she’s 18 and wow what a lovely compliment too. I’m 43 this year! I don’t think I have a secret, it’s definitely not anything to do with sleeping a so don’t get much haha. Thank you for your comments. Looking forward to seeing you in the comments of my future videos too 😀❤️
Think about this now, what kind of person would do something like this.? She’s messed up . As the song goes, let it go. Nothing you can do but live your best life enjoy your family, and be happy.
It is hard when someone you know ( family or friend, or a bit of both) turns on you, uses others as "flying monkeys" and spreeds lies. You are seeing this person as they really are. A very vindictive narcissis They have targeted you, probably bc you're beautiful, eloquent, have an ever growing family and a loving father, husband. And they are full of envy, green from top to bottom. This will be eating at them, to the point of .... The hatefull lies. I don't know why someone couldn't be happy for you. This person is unbalanced and unhappy and probably unwell mentally. Let them go completely from your life. Bared!! And her flying monkeys. You are better, safer without them. Yes, it hurts. But now you see them in a new light. Learn from this, yes, learn. Teach your beautiful children. Confide in your eldest daughter, a good life lesson for her to know. Be strong, be you. You are beautiful...through and through. ❤ much love... from Sydney Australia. Sending some 🌞 shineshine your way.🌻🦘
You don’t want people like that in your life, if they can’t, not on,y trust you but also support you and even forgive you, than they are not worth your time. Because this bigger picture isn’t did you do it or not. The important thing should be, I heard you did this, that or the other thing, but your friendship is important to me so I forgive you and I choose to believe the best in you and that should be the end of this. Don’t let her tear you down, it’s her loss not yours
Don’t let that troll bring you down. Life will get better. Tell all those cows to bring the receipts!
If these so called friends can treat you that way, they are definitely not a crowd you need in your life, a blessing to be without them. They were hidden vipers, better too make a clean break than to wonder when the next attack will come from, or what they’re saying behind your back.
Sounds like someone is jealous of what you have and so she can,t stand it so she will slander your character instead...
She is the saddo and you will come out of this smiling in the future.
First time seeing your channel so much I can relate to. I have a 21 month old daughter who is a twin unfortunately my baby b ended up being a vanishing twin.
I’m sorry about your baby, I hope you’re ok? Thanks for finding my channel, I hope other videos are helpful to you too. Take care lovely x
More videos of any kind please
You seem to be such a lovely lady please ignore the haters I have 4 children and I’m 38 years old my oldest son is 19 two daughters 16,14 and then I have an almost 3 month old son who was a huge surprise to me and my husband as I had the implant birth control I was so worried bcuz of my age it was a high risk pregnancy I also worried that I wouldn’t be able to be the fun and outgoing mom that I was when I was much younger and having to remember how to take care of baby but everything turned out great and my motherly instincts kicked right in and thankfully I was blessed with the most beautiful calm easy going baby ever!! And yes I also had women say nasty things about me and made me feel awful because I physically could not breast-feed like I did with my other children because for some reason my breastmilk did not have enough calories and my baby was loosing weight rapidly so I had to change to formula. I was very disappointed!! But being pregnant at 38 in the US is considered old and most likely the reason I couldn’t breastfeed but I realized it was jealousy coming from these women bcuz I had a beautiful family a whole family I maintained my slim figure even after baby and they didn’t have any of that they had torn relationships with there partners children from different men once I realized it was coming from a place of jealousy I just ignored them and went on with my happy life!! And you should do the same congratulations on your 5 month old and your amazing twin story!! So amazing you’re amazing!! ❤
Hi Angela, I’m so glad you found my UA-cam channel, we have so much in common. My eldest daughter has just turned 18. Obviously my other children are a lot younger than yours, but we are of a similar age with tiny little babies. I hope you have been doing okay. It is a struggle to breastfeed, especially if you wanted to and unable to. I’ve been given some medication from the doctors to help my milk supply. It’s helped a bit but it’s not an ongoing solution. It’s amazing how that mothering instinct can just kick back in, like riding a bike I guess 😀
I feel extremely lucky to have my children, especially as I’ve had the recent 4 in my 40s . This pregnancy with Leo was high risk as some of the test results come back quite close to the danger line. I guess I need to do a video addressing some of the issues that came up in my pregnancy including down syndrome.
It does seem like some people will just try and put out your light like that Old saying goes, “you can’t make your light shine brighter by blowing someone’s out “ or something along those lines 🤣
Thank you for your comment, and your kind words, I look forward to seeing you pop up in comments section in my future and old videos too ☺️ speak soon xx
What did she claim you said or at least what subject does it have to do with it? It's not mentioned in the video.
I totatlly get what your saying about people being cruel. And douting that your a good person. my so called best friend bad mouthed me made me out to be a bad person. I know its lies but thinking someone could belive bad things about you. It is emtionally draining. Hope your ok.
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Rebecca, I have watched several of your videos and enjoyed them, especially the one about twins. You were bright, funny and very articulate. Now about this one, I can tell you are a good person, it comes across very well. People like your so-called friend was NEVER your friend. People like that are nobodies friend. They care only about themselves. I had one of those and thought she was my best friend, right up til she went behind my back and got my job for herself.
These people are not worthy of your tears, but I also understand the hurt you are feeling. The plain and simple truth she was jealous. Don't try to find the source she says she is quoting from, it's not there. Everyone knows once it's on the web it does not go away. Instead, maybe you should inform her if she does not apologize and print a retraction you are going to sue for defamation of charater. Better yet get your lawer to draft a letter up and send it. You know now she is devious and a liar, so it probably better for you to go no contact.
I am sorry this is so long, please keep up the wonderful videos.
Hi sweetheart! God put you on my screen! I had 6 pregnancies and5 babies! I now have 8 grand babies. You are NOT alone! All my babies were 10 years and down, lol! I love you and understand! PPDepression is hard! It was my 3rd baby that got me, lol! Yep breast fed all of them! But 2 at a time! Ladybug, you rock! Keep up the good work! Great big hugs from Texas, USA
You are loved!
John 3:14-18,1Corinthians 15:1-4, Ephesians2:8-9, Romans 10:8-13, John 14:6,
Titus 2:13, 1John 5:5, 1 Thessalonians 4:13-18! 1 Peter 3:18!
Salvation is God’s Grace alone through Faith alone in Christ Jesus alone!
Our Blessed Hope! Jesus loves you so much, that He died for you so you can spend eternity with Him!
Jesus came, died, was buried and He rose again on the 3rd day proving that He is God and that His blood paid for all sin for all time! You have been Justified! Just-as-if-I’d never sinned! Jesus is the Only Way, the Only Truth and the Only Life, and no one gets to the Father but through Him! Believe and receive Jesus into your heart and you will be Saved! Run to Him! Just as you are! Call on the Lord and you will be Saved!!! The Great Tribulation is fixin start, but those who believe will be Raptured first! Rescued just in time! Times almost up! Don’t be left behind!
Numbers 6:-27 KJV
24 The Lord bless thee, and keep thee:
25 The Lord make his face shine upon thee, and be gracious unto thee:
26 The Lord lift up his countenance upon thee, and give thee peace.
27 And they shall put my name upon the children of Israel, and I will bless them
I love having a big family, congratulations on yours too. Thank you for your lovely words and support xx