HELLO!!🙏 I was discarded a month ago. Yet, I've been sleeping like a baby! No more tense conversations before bed, that lasted anywhere from 45mins-2 hours. No more sex being withheld as a means of control or punishment. No more triangulation with other supply or exes of the narc, and me feeling as though I'd have to physically defend myself from those flying monkeys....Though there are moderate traces of pain,loss, and hurt; life is more positive than it ever was with them. The money I would've spent on pointless dates, is being saved. Christmas is coming, and I don't have to buy that person a gift. I now focus on my goals and self-improvement for my future. I feel better knowing that I invited this person to work and build with me, and they used triangulation to distract me from the process, and to express their superiority and self-importance. They didn't want to work towards a better life, or else why was there so much time devoted to drama? We won. I felt like trash a month ago, but that demon-clown actually did me a favor.
Yoko Brian well said. I feel sad at times but I tell myself how can someone bring someone else into the mix and say they love you and want to build with you. Your right the money, energy spent no more. The lies and the sneaky shit they do is crazy. He played me like a fiddle I had no idea he other women. And here I was helping him with all kinds of shit! No more.
ArcherQueen 05 well I didn’t know that he was at first I knew something was off and I always felt like I was competing and I even told him that. I feel like I am competing for you and he said nothing. When I started watching videos and reading that’s when it all clicked on what type of person I was dealing with. Because I could not understand how he could say he loved me but leave me And go be with another woman. But now I know. He ain’t shit
@ArcherQueen 05 most times, that revelation is made clear in hindsight. For me it was hard to spot "fake love" in someone who worked so hard to be my significant other, from the money THEY spent on gifts, dates, even scheduling nights devoted to intimacy, and promising me that they were my soul mate and mother of my future children. It can be hard for people to accept that their "relationship" was actually a chess match, it definitely was for me. Though I dislike the narc at my core, I used to ask if she still "loves" me...truth is she loved my vision & potential, and saw it useful for the stroke of her ego....I don't need anyone around who's waiting and counting on me to become their opinion of successful, just so they can dance in the spotlight. Narcs are gold diggers of the soul...they just want the spiritually richest person they can find. Yet, they're so emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually corrupt, they couldn't nurture "goodness" in anyone. they shouldn't be having kids.
Truest comment. Since I've found out this is the real deal not all the excuses I was giving him I hope he never comes for me and our son. Hes away in feds right now I plan to never let him near me and the baby again
They don't process loss because in their minds it's never over. That's why they never give you closure! They wait for time to pass and treat it like the end never happened. The door is always open for them in their eyes!
Crazy how this is true, mine ghosted me , no explanation at all, it’s been 2 month And I can’t process how he ended almost a year relationship like that
The narcissist thinks of us as their property. They think about what we did for them, how we made them feel. They think about us when there next supply is not giving them what they need. Love from the U.K.
@@alexanderwalle3568 it sounds like you are much better off without her. They are fake, fake love, fake relationship. With a narcissist you take out the word "love" and replace it with "use". Example: "I "use "you so much. I "use"you! That is how they work, and if she was using you for money, you dodged a bullet! Stay strong.
"Used" on the binding of textbooks I have in storage also applies to me; I have a big sticker down my back, too, you just can't see it (and yes, after she left with no complaints really, my money was mine, so was my sanity, it often seemed like something was going on somewhere I didn't know about, one of the last movies we watched together, "Seeing Other People," her choice, such details I don't tell too many people about).
I have never been so emotionally abused like this.. It’s total and utter chaos! Sick and wrong.. I am a feeler. I have empathy.. compassion and this ex of mine needs serious mental help!
Whoever he is with, I know I was the best thing that ever hapoened to him. But now somebody who is worthy and is deserving of me(This isnt comingfrom an arrogant or stuckup place) will get all the good stuff that i have to offer. I am SOOOO GRATEFUL to be free of that Psychopath!!! going on 15 months no contact🌲🌲🌲
i feel the same. Good for you. My ex told me once after he broke up with me"I m talking to everyone about you" silly me, was thinking he loves me. It took me 5 times to do finally NC. Delate, remove and I bloked him everywhere. I know now there wont be any hoovering.
Same here...it's crazy all the put downs and false accusations of me cheating or my spending habits even though I make 5 times more than narc and own 2 homes. I have been in a new relationship for two years and just got engaged. He continues on his hamster wheel of hell no stable employment, arrogance of how hot he is for 62, and with mutiple women and new supply who is mid fifties going on 80 looking to take his money which he pretends to have but doesn't....couldn't build anything solid in life for himself if his life depended on it. I saw thru it 2 yrs ago, called him on it and he ghosted after 8 yrs. and I'm NC. No thanks, hot he's not. No hoovering here.
No accountability. No identity. No ethic. No sense of humility. No love. Just an empty box with glittery wrapping paper. The only thing they process is themselves to people who don't know their dirt.
Me again, I want everybody going through this BS to understand!! . You can't win IN the GAME cuz they don't tell you the rules. But to win even tho you don't know the rules, is to FUXXING STOP PLAYING!!! Yes they will have the next step(new woman/man) but don't care they care they found someone else to PLAY THE GAME, but that they can't PLAY THE GAME with you anymore. That's the people they respect, the ones who know they ain't worth playing with. The thing to know about them is, they only respect the ones too smart/strong to give them the time of day. They will be putting you ( who won't f with them) against the ones who do. Im telling y'all they only respect the ones who don't fall for them.
crystal doran, you are absolutely right! initially, before we were aware the Narc is playing a game, we were learning the hard way, and they the Narc knew we were experiencing their game of hell. life sucks for them more than us! we don't play a game! they do! thanks for pointing out the facts! And I totally agree, once the Narc knows we're on to that game of deceit, only then will they respect us, but don't expect them to come and give you a trophy for discovering their game!
My Narc discarded me almost 5 months ago, early August 2018, in a text message when I was away although I returned two days later. I didn’t realise she had NPD until after the discard (NPD is my label for her because as I have educated myself about this disorder I realised that she has most of the traits). She left me after 6 1/2 years for another supply, someone who was a mutual friend but who has totally ignored me on the couple of occasions I have seen her (in a public place). However, I am so much better off without the Narc. The abuse, bullying, control, manipulation, put-downs, narcissistic rage, blaming and gas-lighting were horrible. I kept excusing her behaviour because she said she had a high anxiety disorder. The first 6 months she love bombed me but then all the dysfunction started. My weight blew up to 106 kgs (I’m only 161 cms). I had bariatric surgery in May and am feeling fabulous! Recovery hasn’t been easy but I truly have my life and my self-esteem back.
Absolutely correct , I’m with a narcissist and I’ve noticed he constantly tries to Hoover back in the old supply but those women are smart and have wised up. I used to be jealous but I admire those women for having enough self love to walk away , but with any a narcissist, any attention is good attention so with that being said , I’m not gonna be like the rest and still carry on conversations with him after I’ve walked away . This man will never get another conversation out of of me now that I know how he rocks . I’m building a case against him and planning my escape as we speak . I’ve already moved on, just playing it cool until I’m completely out of his life.
Yup it hurts so much they have to lie, they are a living lie. Rationalizing with someone who is delusional thinking and believing their lies is a useless rabbit hole chase.
I can't believe how many people are Narcissistic. This was my 1st rodeo if another one ever got close to me they better run. Lol I'm learning but his new supply is all about him I feel sorry for her because I know all his history now that doesn't change. He just role playing
White Dove yes it’s all fake it’s all a show we already seen and unless they had a full lobotomy or brain transplant they have not will not can ever change or be successful in a relationship and also if it does last long that new supply is blind and unhealthy.
This sums it up the best way it took me awhile to get away you fall for their lies & the facade they out on I can't stand how dumb I was to not walk away it took me & his dad to bust him he tried to make everyone look at his dad as a bad person & he told me his dad would say nasty things about me come to find out it was the opposite & his dad would send me screenshots of him saying a bunch of lies to him & in my phone he was saying something different when I broke up with him he left me voicemails begging me to talk to him saying he "loved" me when he was kicked out he tried to live at my grandma's so he had an excuse to be a part of my life & it took me to expose him for the liar and manipulator he was & this was on & off for a year & 11 months & that's not even all of the bullshit he put me through the relationship literally just ended 3 days ago so the healing process just started I pray God protects me from demons like that I never would wish a narcissist on anyone its traumatizing
I kicked my first to the curb 19 years ago and I blocked my second almost 16 months ago with no contact. Sadly, the two are related and the second took me 22 years before I finally stumbled upon a UA-cam video. It took 26 years after meeting the first narc and a UA-cam video video later to understand what kind of monsters I was dealing with! Yikes!
He thought to be rescuimg all women who are needy.! All are wating for him. This is what he wanted to believe. Je is the one who cant be alone, cant have any close relathionship, so preferred to believe women need him (God?). A psychopat
Yes so true. I gave my love and care, attention, home, everything to my ex and he texted women constantly, going on dating sites and flirting. I kept thinking this is not right, all my family were wondering why he did this? They were nothing but kind. Then I looked up narracism and it clicked into place, the lack of remorse,empathy, no self reflection etc etc He had been married three times so I was the fool really.
From my individual experience; I believe they miss the supply you provided them with but not you... real examples: my 'mil' missed having me and the kids around not because she cares for us or loves us! She missed not being able to show off the kids to neighbours or use them to triangulate me... She missed that sadistic pleasure from my facial expressions when she abuses and disrespect me...she missed the power and pleasure she felt when she divided her son and I in our decisions... It's all about power and control !
Was with a narc for a year and didn’t even know til recently, he would project, put me down, gaslight, give me painful silent treatments and lack any empathy or give me any emotional support. Every time I tried to pull away and walked away he would charm his way and get me back. I finally got the strength to move on and block him out of my life. While I’m hurt, i am happier that I made this decision. I really loved him and wanted to work, but it was just my loving someone who had nothing to give me. It was a draining exhausting black hole. He took and took and took but never gave anything in return. I don’t think he misses me or even cared. To him, I was not even human....just saw me as an object he could use and discard. They have no empathy. They don’t care. They’re parasites and will move onto the next victim.
The narcissist never loves the person they are with when they are with them. Is like Aesops fable with the dog and the bone. He see his reflection in the water. The snaps at the mirage in the water and loses what he has.
I needed that reassurance, thank you. Even if the Narc comes back and says "look I'm sorry, (kissing your hand or whatever else) they're full of shit, and haven't processed the pain/hurt and made changes to affect their lives positively other than stroking their ego to fit their narrative, or their god complex. I have to let it sink in DEEP, that this person discarded me. There's no way for them to love me properly from here on out, because I'm recovering ALONE, and repairing my finances, emotions, daily routine ALONE (except with the help of loved ones). I have no interest in seeing or experiencing phase 2 of the narcs tactics. Phase 1 was catastrophic enough.
I can completely understand and identify with your story. I have been there. I am recovering. I am winning. I am much better off now that the narc is out of my life.
If someone punched me in the face, I wouldn't spent hours or days or weeks or months wondering if the assailant was thinking about me. Stop giving away personal power. No contact includes not thinking of the narc.
The Most Hurtful Thing Is Being Discarded And When The Narcissists Go On With There Life. As If U Never Mattered.This Person That Discarded Me Has Absolutely Nothing To Do With Me .This Is What Is So Very Hurtful.
Demetria, I was married for 15 years and brutally betrayed and discarded. It is very difficult to process everything, and accept that it is over, and, you are forced to move on without closure or an acknowledgment of any wrongdoing on their part. Extremely painful process and it is important to find a good counselor who specializes in trauma therapy. If you are a spiritual person, pray and draw near to God. Put yourself first and know that you are valuable, lovable and worthy. One moment at a time.
Rahel T Rocca Thank U Its Very Painful Weekends Are Painful Because I Use To See Him On WeekEnds. And From His Abuse I Suffer From Tinnitus, Severe Anxiety, & PTSD.. I’m Taking Baby Steps Trying To Recover Thank You For Caring.
He thinks about me constantly....ways to destroy me over and over and over. He uses our children now (after I went no contact) to destroy their self esteem because that's the best way to get his revenge on me and to make himself feel good.
Bottom line is if your still in question if she/he was indeed a covert narcissist. Remember this, if you were discarded and not given the proper closure leaving you broken. LET THEM GO!!! Someone that doesn’t want to be in your life doesn’t deserve to be in your life. Everything gets better with time, your have to trust in that. I promise it’s gets better!!
I'm in a mood I guess. I don't want any of you that is wondering why to stay stuck. I'm one of y'all 30 years of and on back and forth I did hurt yes, but if I could tell y'all what I wish I'd done, and y'all do it, my heart would fill that someone learned from MY pain/experience/testimony, then all I went through wouldn't be for naught! They are playing a GAME, all they want is to WIN. You may think (and that what they want) that you lost. I know that's how you feel cuz I did/do sometimes. BUT I know if they feel they lost ( the game) it will eat their as up. Let em lose y'all no matter how it happened...let em lose. Love to everyone seeking answers,. But in the meantime let em lose!!!!!
I'm actually glad I don't know what's going on. It would most likely be too painful and I'm finally doing well after two months of hell and being devastated. Even got new job!
They don’t believe their own lies, they know they are lying, that’s why they know to change their story when caught . I was told this by Jack Trimarco (rip) who was one of the worlds leading experts on lying and pathological behavior.
They miss using you. They miss what you did for them. They miss getting over on you. They don't miss YOU, they never cared for you. If they think of you it's with disdain. Be glad they're gone and never go back EVER.
my ex Narc never spoke of any past relationships...ever..... I thought that was strange but let it go...like alot of other red flags I ignored. I never heard of Narcissism before him. He turned out to be a classic Narcissist...textbook behavior...shocking..out of left field after pushing for marriage came the sudden discard....he had suddenly changed his personality ,dress and everything about him...people asked "who the hell is that"? Then he wanted to be "friends" ....they are so empty,fake and pathetic.....I know I was good to him,took care of him and was there for him.......he said I made his house a home.....then suddenly kicked me to the curb......I hope he does think of me and know what he had is gone.....I lost nothing...thanks to people like David making these videos alot of us can heal and move on to a good life. And I thank David and others for their help to bring light to this disorder.
@@tmichele8922 you would be shocked to hear my entire story. I have spoken to people about writing a book and telling the whole story to try to help others who may fall for the "same Person"...... he was the chameleon type and went from biker dude wanna be (with his friends) to jimmy buffet beach dude(with my friends) to a guy who wore bib overalls and wanted to live in the country and fish and hunt (when he went into hermit mode)....depended on who was in the picture friends wise.....I never mentioned the word marriage..not once..he surprised me on a private dinner/sailboat ride in Key west.. the sunset,the dolphins jumping......an AMAZING ring !! fast forward about 8 months later I almost died.....ended up in ICU on a ventilator ,chest tubes ..had my chest cracked open and three tumors removed from around my heart.. Was told to get may affairs in order. They werent sure yet if it was cancer. During that time he did not shed a single tear! NO EMOTION AT ALL !!.(.should have been a red flag.) We had our beach wedding planned for 3 months down the road! The dress ,the HUGE beachhouse rented,friends and family coming.....NOT ONE TEAR.....I made it thru and thought I was amazing for having pulled thru...the wedding took place as planned (with a huge "pirate scar" on my chest! )Right after the ceremony..before we went back down the isle....he leans over and says."just so you know, the jewelry,the trips,all of that stops today!" ..I thought it was another sarcastic joke.....when we got to the reception....he had changed personalities..his game was over !! It was frightening....it was noticed by everyone there !! It can even be seen in his face in the pictures... They kept asking if he was feeling ok... fast forward one year of watching this and wondering when the real person would come back....He called me at work at the end of a 13 hour shift in the ER and asked if I was coming right home...lets go to dinner and talk he said...I arrived home to find a strange man hiding in my livingroom...someone I had never met...the ex was seated at the kitchen table wearing a hoodie with the hood on which was strange for him and inside the house....I thought I was going to end up in the freezer in the basement....he served me divorce papers. I was never so scared in my life!!! the ex got up in my face and said "YOU did this"""...I was so scared I slapped him in the face to get him to back away and of course he had me arrested.....he wanted me out of the house so he could go thru my belongings I had been packing up to move out.It was nothing of his ..only MY belongings... It took me 3 months and a judges order to get my belongings. And when he finally agreed...I sent movers over to pick it all up and found he had sent bags of his garbage..not my belongings....900$ to have movers move garbage! Judge wasnt amused. These are just a few of the things I went thru with him. During that last year I wasnt aware of the smear campaign he had started. He told his family I threatened to shoot him...I dont know how to use a gun and I am TERRIFIED of guns!!! He kept putting a handgun in the couch cushions ....I wasnt sure why but I now wonder if he had other secrets I didnt know about or if he was waiting for and "accident" to happen and tell people I tried to use it and he had to use it against me... Sick !!! My whole bottom line is...if your gut tells you something isnt right!! IT AINT RIGHT!! GET OUT !! RUN !!! your sanity and safety depends on it !!! Your LIFE may depend on it !!!! I hope someone reads this and says ,,that could be me if I dont get out !!!! It COULD be you !!!! Sending hugs ,love and hope to anyone who reads this and it helps to open your eyes. Narcissist are what they are...you cant fix it ! Its broke! You deserve better! This isnt even my entire story but I hope this helps someone! The part that still haunts me besides all I went thru with this person is that I am educated and should have seen but wasnt aware of Narcissism at the time....I still feel I should have trusted my gut but cognitive dissonance can twist your brain into thinking you can fix things and you stay.....DONT STAY!!..RUN!!!!
The narc kept asking for her and I to "be friends" as well. which is basically being demoted to a random sex buddy, or servant...We ALL deserve better than that, for ourselves and our families.
Awesome video. Just spent 3 and a half years with a narcissist womanizer. Finally walked out. He talked about past relationships all the time. Had no boundaries. After a while I felt pity for him and the shame he endured growing up as the golden child. No contact is challenging and I am doing well. I was an amazing supply for him. Your video made me feel good. Thank you.
If you so happened to cross their mind their only thinking how they lost control their hostage has escaped from prison! They will always burn Bridges they can never have normal relationships ever, they need positive people to feed their pesamistic nature to feed the chaos that dwell on the inside they rather dump their toxicity on to us!
Did anyone else Narc was withholding intimacy and affection? I finally left my husband after 16 years. It started gradually after the wedding and then it was excuses and blaming for a decade as to why we weren’t. He found a new girlfriend two months later. Do they repeat the same neglect with their new supply? Thank you for your video. It is the most genuine, straight forward and pleasant one I have found on the topic. You are a natural. Just like having advice from a friend.
I have a Narc Father and had a Narc ex too. Didn’t realize how much it affected me and my mom for years. I also met a few Narc men at my workplace. I knew there was something wrong. But never really studied Narcissistic personality until few days back. I feel completely in control now that I know I was never at fault. And their behavior is not my problem, it’s theirs. I didn’t love myself so much than what I do today.
Going on 2 years now since I left the relationship. Haven’t heard a peep from her. Somehow this bothers me at times. I wanted her to try to contact me so I could tell her to FO. I know, I know, I’m better off this way, but still. Good videos thank you.
Ex replaced me next day with another ex who turns out is exactly what he deserves. He bad mouthed her like crazy when we got together and now she believes I spent years with him knowing he wanted her, not me. My problem was that I believed he meant it when he said he loved me at 8 am but at 5 pm he was drunk and instigated a break up. No explanation, no closure, no warning. I am lucky to see the truth.
i once viewed grief as a very bad thing, but it's a process that is very much for our own good ive learned, when those waves of pain crash over us and take our breath away we need to feel all of that despair , it's temporary moments, we feel better relief after them, and we inch further through the process. The amazing thing is that we run out of it eventually, unlike love,,, we never have limits of how many people in our lives we can love or how many children we have enough love for , it's boundless, it's the best reason for working through every stage of grief, because grief isn't just for those who've passed away,,, it's for losing anything that meant so much to us, and changes our lives in some way. i never underestimate a persons grief if say they lost a pet bird, or their eldest child left home and moved away, im so blessed to have emerged from the worst of it, and feel exited about the future, we DO get through this if we allow it thank you for your wonderful wisdom David. you do an amazing thing for us 🌸👍
That's true. I knew a narcissist who every time he got drunk would cry about stuff that happened 20 or 30 years ago. But when he was sober he wouldn't talk about it.
My experience with a narcissist was not in a romantic couple relationship. I watch all these videos and I try to learn from them in order to understand my friend. We were very close friends joined together by co-authoring art projects. We were very good working together and we made some amazing art. As friends we had arguments from time to time and now I understand why my friend behaved like that now. During a moment when I drew my boundaries was a perfect time for my friend to move on. Now I understand.
This dude helps me tremendously. These clowns are horrible people, but I was the strong one and told mine, "So long, you did me so wrong," I noticed I slightly had this problem, until I met one worse then me. Screw these POS's. Mine tried to add me on her Facebook I laughed and left her hanging. Almost fell the hoover, but came to my senses. These creatures destroyed my life. Wish I was smart enough for this game,, but instead I'm smart enough going no contact.
This is so true. I was engaged to one that mentally always turns things around and blame me all the time when it was him. No job, No Liscense, No car, always wanting beer everyday and cigarettes and always wanting attention from other women and then try to act like he's just being friendly. Then flip on you or start an argument just to break up with so they can go be with someone else. What a drainage and waste of time. Selfish, insecure, demonic spirit, manipulative, lies, but never wants to change to be better.
Spot on. I think it’s important to note they aren’t still thinking about you because they love you. They miss the supply, they think about the appliance they lost they feel still belongs to them. You are like a toaster. They are upset they lost you and think about you when they’re in the mood for toast you provided. But it’s not out of love or missing you because there was a bond or connection.
I was the unaware “other woman” in my narcs life. He came into my life and within 6 months, we had our future mapped out, he was the one, blah blah blah. Due to visa limitations, he had to leave the country for a while and we made plans for me to visit him etc. Up until him leaving I would of never of doubted his word. But obviously narcs cant be alone, without their sources, and I soon discovered the ex wife, he was actually only separated from, and then discovered she had been to visit him, for two weeks. He told me how torn he was, between his responsibilities to this “wreck of a woman” and how I was his “peace and calm” that he so desired.... he loved us both, it was all so traumatic for him .... blah blah blah. I was lucky, I only had him in my life 8 months, when I ended things he returned to his wife in a matter of days (he was running out of money, and I think he was not confident enough that I would be a long term financial source for him too - I refused to put his name on anything until he was divorced) - what is weird is the guilt I feel for “abandoning him” (how he sees it), when I was nothing but loyal and supportive. I still miss him daily, although my main grieving is passed. I feel for his poor wife, who he’s done this to 3 times, twice in there 2 year marriage (10 years in total), shes trauma bonded to him and he will continue to destroy her. I hate that I still wonder “what if?”
The ex narc I was married to told everyone that we were separated, then he told everyone I was dead. Then he had the nerve to want to stay in this marriage? Two other women he got involved with, both lost their 401k and filed bankruptcy because of him.
This is so true he used to compare things I said and did to his ex. I used to always remind him I wasn’t his ex. I tried to reach out to his mum and tell her everything he did when he wouldn’t give me back my Louis Vuitton key holder like he had promised. He tried to act as though I wouldn’t leave him alone lol. When i just wanted my key holder back. He even threatened to get a restraining order, when if he had just given me my property back I would leave him alone. He resaved my number and thought he could come back lol. When I showed him I saw he took another girl on the date he had planned for me. He blocked me. Then started threatening to throw my key holder away and send me a picture when i asked him on iMessage. They are always very aggressive and messy when they don’t get what they want out of you. Or you figure out they are degenerates.
Excellent video and teaching. My Ex-narc does have mental illness with psychosis but won't tell the doctors about the psychosis. He has drugs addictions, both prescription and illegal drugs, and narcissism. He's real gross like that. He's beautiful at times and great at art. He has said, "Who am I today?" but really it's, "Who is he right now?" I feel bad that he is that sick but it's over with me.
My sons dad had his new woman on his social media. All the while telling me he didn't deserve to be in a relationship, down play how close they were, and assuring me this person hasn't been around my son.
Thanks David. It’s really shocking and traumatic to learn about Narcissistic Abuse after 20 years of living with the enemy. I’ve gone no contact for almost 12 months. I’m so grateful to have come across you. Your powerful words have made me so much stronger. Thank you and God Bless you xx
Thank You for this David! I was Faithful and attentive to my ex for 12 yrs, treated her like a Queen literally. Even after she cheated on me twice, I still was naive enough to be Faithful 3 years away from her in a different state away from her. To this day she still tries to text me and she'll talk words of missing me one night, then turn around and drink and blame campaign about my complaining of how she treated me, then hang up on me in mid conversation. It is an endless cycle, I still love her but seems she likes to hurt my heart. I matured and got counseling, But she refuses. Thank You soooo much! Very informative. I realize that the victims of narcissism like myself can benefit continuously from coaching & counseling.
This video was so helpful. My ex narc was violent and abusive, and 2 days post discard he found a new girlfriend. Then one after that. And now a new one. He can’t even admit to hitting me and has even conceded that he’ll be running from the pain eternally.
Learning about A.S.P.D.'s is the most valuable lesson of my life. I have stopped even mentioning the subject of psychopaths/sociopaths/narcissists because people, in general, are fearful of those words. I understand because I use to think a psychopath was a serial killer, a sociopath was merely shy, and a narcissist just liked what they saw in the mirror. Now I know and I wish for everyone to learn about what to listen for and what actions to watch for.....especially children!!! It is vital for children to be taught, as they are taught to not put their hand in a fire! I read his last message to me with educated eyes and I knew the motive. I will not break my 'no contact' stance of three years, ever! Thanks to this site for reinforcing!
I'm dealing with a sociopath/narcissist with severe head trauma. It doesn't get better. He's what he has always been, just with a head injury. Talk about projection! I get it constantly as the filters that once held him in check are all gone. It's my brother, and I have no parents alive or other brothers and sisters to help with him. He is in a living facility several states away with a guardian ad litem. But with todays technology, I'm only a few seconds away, receiving THE nastiest emails and texts. In my personal experience, they do not forget about us. Yes! He thinks of me constantly, and dreams up creative ways to get me to read his emails. All I can say to anyone dealing with a narcissist, just blow them off and ignore their rants, because there's not a lot you can do to stop them.
Believe it or not, I predicted 3 relationship failures before prior to them giving any signs, except the one you mentioned regarding showing off of their couple how great they’re, how happy they’re, holding each other’s arms in public. And I was saying to my self” hope it’s true and genuine, but see you in couple years , and sure enough those couples went into a separations/ divorce afterward.
They think about you. But they won’t tell you. I texted a narcissist once and he says “I was just thinking about you, you must’ve felt it.” Then went on to ignore me for the rest of the day.
Thank you for putting this content out there!! They project so much on us that we think we are the narcissist! The very fact you clicked on this video proves you are NOT a narcissist! You are a caring kind person that has the ability to love. They dont and its a sad reality. Walk away from this knowing you WILL heal. You WILL love again. Shake them fleas off!!!!
The disclosure that a personality disorder undermines relationship developing into healthy unions helps understanding why this is impossible to resolve. Most women know men are not in touch with their emotions. We who are romantic feel we can love them into healing. My mother was one of THOSE but she was blind to her husband messing up her children. That is how the next and worst generation of abusers is born. DO NOT LET HIM HARM YOUR CHILDREN! YOU WILL HAVE TO LIVE WITH THE FRUIT OF YOUR DENIAL AND YOU WON'T LIKE IT.
Yes, finally someone putting it so clearly about the narcs not having relationships. I am a narc and can not have relationships. Except with my kids and grandkids. And this is ENOUGH for me, thank you very much:-)
Narcs are dishonest, liars, manipulators, users, and disrespectful. I wonder where they go when they die?I guess being proud to be a narc would be a nark move.Prideful........I hope you find Jesus because HE has something for you if you repent.And HE has something for you if you dont.Id start figuring out why you cant love...before HE takes away the ones you do ...to shut your pride down.HE will shut it down one way or another!
This guy nailed it! I can vouch I was married to one, going through the divorce now. Let me tell you once you see what the really are, run!!! Love yourself first. You will found someone who deserves your love and the will love you the way you deserve to be loved. As far as the narcissist is concerned, run... most cases there is no saving them so save yourself the heart ache and pain. Trust me. Sincerely, Loving me first. P.S I divorced her, so you can do it!!! Love yourself and know your worth
My ex narc makes it a point to tell me how “ the next guy your with will use you and abuse you”. My reply, don’t worry about who I’m with or what I’m doing anymore, at least I’m away from the devil himself.
Married 37 years, had no idea this was happening to me. Last 7 years have been the worst, as listening and watching videos, i can see a lot of these traits in my spouse. I have been through it all in the last 2 1/2 years of the lies, the secrets, the anger when i caught him chesting, all the denial of everything or the coldness of that what hes been doinng when pointed out to him, like its no big deal.. last talk of divorce, he stated that we should be able to remain friends since we have been together so long and grew into adults together .. we met at 18 yrs now we are 56 yrs... and part amicably.. 3 women in 1 1/2 yrs time and all whom were not close friends by any means but met or seen casually with other friends. They all knew he was married.. he even said they instigated it.. when asked, why didnt you tell me then ,, so it could be delt with. He stated " it didnt occur to me" .... another good one ... when we had a discussion about one of ,"them" he told me things that he thought this or said this to me.. later " i dont remember that or what either of us said or we did not even talk about it... and we cant anymore cuz its the past. So heartbreaking seeing all of this now.
If you escaped the climax of thier plot to destroy you, then they definatley think about you..bkus its all a game to them and your the player that got away unscathed...just be careful bkus the same spirit that was working through them to destroy you also works through others..and it knows your name..
Hey got involved with a narcissist about 3 months ago, thought he was the one, he was charming, handsome and literally moved in with me from the start. Told me he had never felt like this about anyone before, that I was his soulmate, he had a soulmate tattoo already on his hand and after 3 weeks had tattooed my name in it. This was all the love bombing stage then he got up 7 weeks later ghost me and went back to his ex. After a week of being blocked I got hovered back in with constant messages at this point I didn't know he was a narcissist. Gave it another go and left me again within 48hrs and has gone back to his ex. Blocked me on everything but all social media is if him and his gf. I've blocked him on everything just getting my head round it all as it's so surreal!! Thanks for the vid will be watching more!!
I just went no contact about a week ago and the intense anxiety is killing me. At time I'll get anxiety while not even thinking about them. I know this is the right move but it sucks realizing that I wasted time with this demonic woman.
I don't trust my ex. I don't want him to think about me. I hope he moved on to Timbuktu. But seriously I like to keep watch, he's evil and always up to something bad.
Thanks David, I assumed that since they did not process things correctly, that they did not hurt from the loss. I broke up with the narcissist, and have really grown since, (starting to love myself, and see where I allowed her to chip away at me) so them (yes more then one over the years) coming into my life certainly flipped it upside down but I know that life is going to get much better, and hers likely will stay the same, regardless of how happy she pretends to be. really enjoying your videos, keep up the great work!
I came to the realization I was in a NARC relationship with, of all people, my teenage foreign exchange student. Oh my, I could have saved myself and my family heartache, my health, my sanity, and 10# lost if I had only recognized the signs. I am researching now so I can share my findings with the national agency and his. He is still here for a few more weeks and I understand that I wont really heal until he returns to his country. I pity him and pray he can get treatment--he is only 15 and perhaps he can recover from this.
They do think about you . When my ex was in rage she was thinking about her ex and now when she’s in rage with her new supply she’ll be thinking about me . Narcs can’t remain idle they can’t remain calm they always got to be doing something because by doing so it occupies their mind and distracts them from reflecting on themselves. They’re like a vampire breed . I’m so glad now that I can spot one . I’m like Wesley Snipes from the movie Blade he can spot undercover vampire’s. Lol
Great video, really interesting thanks. I wondered why he would always talk about his exes, a man in his 50's talking about a girl at school, or girlfriends from his 20's, 30's. He triangulated me with the mother of his child who he claimed to hate. But he talked them all in such a disconnected way, their attributes were so basic as he described them, a two relationship dismissed as "that didn't work out", a real lack of self reflection and ability to learn from past mistakes. The red flags were waving. He was a misogynist no doubt about it. Called his own mother a bitch once and tried to make out he was joking. I should have left much sooner but the cognitive dissonance was debilitating, it was like hypnosis.
Mine has told me he thinks of me all the time, but cuts me off to get me upset. That way I send lots of messages with information about my life. He said he reads all of them to see what I'm up to day to day. I've stopped that incase I got in trouble. But Jesus christ the pain. And when I think back, the thing that made him turn up again was when I told him I went elsewhere (in an attempt to escape him which went comically wrong). Then he heard gossip that I was talking to someone and came back again.
5 months out of a 5 year marriage now David. She's diagnosed BPD but I'd swear she has just as many NPD behaviors so I'm a bit confused. I just found out today she's posting on Facebook "In A Relationship". My Aunt saw her at the store with her new man. I'd bet my life she was talking to him while we were still together. Just blows my mind that a month before she left, she was singing my praises on her page and January 3rd, she discards me, smears me and now a new man. Yeah, I think I've disassociated from the whole thing. I do think I'm happier and more at peace which suprises me. She treated me so badly for so long, I was happy she finally left. I can't decide if I should be watching more BPD videos or NPD videos LOL. It's it possible she's both?
This was awesome and please believe. Mans rejection is God’s protection meaning The Lord stepped in right on time. Pain is only temporary PEACE IS EVERLASTING
Many years ago, not knowing what I was dealing with, my sister crossed my lines once too often. I told her she was not needed, wanted or liked. I have never gone back. My mother and two brothers joined her and started a despicable smear campaign. I am free of them all and I have to love them because they are part of me. But I will never return.
Out of all the comfort, answers and understanding i am searching for as to why I am feeling and dealing with this mess. Nothing has come close to this video. So spot on and my situation in 1.. thank you so much for this i found this 9 minute video has gave me understanding of the last 6 years of my relationship :( x and not to mention a massive weight lifted to confirm what I already doubted for such a long time. Really appreciate this
Thank you so much for making this video. I just got out of a relationship with a narcissist and so many things that you are saying make sense now. He was ALWAYS talking about all his 3 ex girlfriends, like everyday I think and that totally did not make sense at all. Thanks again!
Exactly what happened to me after 4 years together she cheated on me and ghosted me, I broke, .y heart broke 4 months I tried , confuses said let's fix it and it was like she didn't know me. After 4 .months of loosing it I finally went no contact it's been 1 month now, I truly dont give a shit anymore I dont want her ever again how could she do that, I'm thankful now I know the 4 years were fake, and her mask finally fell off, I'm glad I didn't waste another 4 -10 + years. Oh I'm going to get past this and find 10000000000 % better than that betraying, cold, heartbreaking woman. You were dead on my situation. Thank you perfect video.
It’s a really ugly cycle for them, isn’t it? They feel shame so they do anything to prevent feeling shame and what they end up doing to prevent it, causes more shame, regret, etc. Sad.
Who Cares if they Think about You, Remember, the only thing that You LOST is a PROBLEM.
William Heinsinger amen 🙏🏼
HELLO!!🙏
I was discarded a month ago. Yet, I've been sleeping like a baby! No more tense conversations before bed, that lasted anywhere from 45mins-2 hours. No more sex being withheld as a means of control or punishment. No more triangulation with other supply or exes of the narc, and me feeling as though I'd have to physically defend myself from those flying monkeys....Though there are moderate traces of pain,loss, and hurt; life is more positive than it ever was with them. The money I would've spent on pointless dates, is being saved. Christmas is coming, and I don't have to buy that person a gift. I now focus on my goals and self-improvement for my future. I feel better knowing that I invited this person to work and build with me, and they used triangulation to distract me from the process, and to express their superiority and self-importance. They didn't want to work towards a better life, or else why was there so much time devoted to drama?
We won. I felt like trash a month ago, but that demon-clown actually did me a favor.
Yoko Brian well said. I feel sad at times but I tell myself how can someone bring someone else into the mix and say they love you and want to build with you. Your right the money, energy spent no more. The lies and the sneaky shit they do is crazy. He played me like a fiddle I had no idea he other women. And here I was helping him with all kinds of shit! No more.
ArcherQueen 05 well I didn’t know that he was at first I knew something was off and I always felt like I was competing and I even told him that. I feel like I am competing for you and he said nothing. When I started watching videos and reading that’s when it all clicked on what type of person I was dealing with. Because I could not understand how he could say he loved me but leave me
And go be with another woman. But now I know. He ain’t shit
@ArcherQueen 05 most times, that revelation is made clear in hindsight. For me it was hard to spot "fake love" in someone who worked so hard to be my significant other, from the money THEY spent on gifts, dates, even scheduling nights devoted to intimacy, and promising me that they were my soul mate and mother of my future children. It can be hard for people to accept that their "relationship" was actually a chess match, it definitely was for me. Though I dislike the narc at my core, I used to ask if she still "loves" me...truth is she loved my vision & potential, and saw it useful for the stroke of her ego....I don't need anyone around who's waiting and counting on me to become their opinion of successful, just so they can dance in the spotlight.
Narcs are gold diggers of the soul...they just want the spiritually richest person they can find. Yet, they're so emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually corrupt, they couldn't nurture "goodness" in anyone. they shouldn't be having kids.
They don’t miss you. They miss what they can get from you..
Yesssss 💯
Absolutely!!!
She lost the one thing in her life that was empathetic, caring and loved her.
If you've accepted them for what they are instead of what you wished them to be, you wouldn't want them thinking about you or hoovering.
Troy Carpenter love this
Truest comment. Since I've found out this is the real deal not all the excuses I was giving him I hope he never comes for me and our son. Hes away in feds right now I plan to never let him near me and the baby again
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That was perfectly said. So true.
They don't process loss because in their minds it's never over. That's why they never give you closure! They wait for time to pass and treat it like the end never happened. The door is always open for them in their eyes!
BINGO! “Happy me” is %1000 right.
My most recent guy friend was like this
I believe that's true. Even in his discards he says things to keep door open....never words to end!!! Very strsnge.
Crazy how this is true, mine ghosted me , no explanation at all, it’s been 2 month
And I can’t process how he ended almost a year relationship like that
@@monicastyle9720 he ghosted you probably cause you put down boundaries or he was pursuing more supply. Not because you aren't lovable.
The narcissist thinks of us as their property. They think about what we did for them, how we made them feel. They think about us when there next supply is not giving them what they need.
Love from the U.K.
I'd poop my pants if mine ever contacted me again. She won't, though; I'm worth less now than I ever was, in the beginning I was a walking mint.
@@alexanderwalle3568 it sounds like you are much better off without her. They are fake, fake love, fake relationship. With a narcissist you take out the word "love" and replace it with "use". Example: "I "use "you so much. I "use"you!
That is how they work, and if she was using you for money, you dodged a bullet! Stay strong.
"Used" on the binding of textbooks I have in storage also applies to me; I have a big sticker down my back, too, you just can't see it (and yes, after she left with no complaints really, my money was mine, so was my sanity, it often seemed like something was going on somewhere I didn't know about, one of the last movies we watched together, "Seeing Other People," her choice, such details I don't tell too many people about).
Morag Magic absolutely i definitely agree!👍🏼
I just heard a tune mine used to communicate to me that we would be forever; now I know I was being lied to with music.
This is what tears me apart on the daily. The thought of them just tossing me aside and not emotionally caring how it affected me.
I'm sorry. Care for yourself now and understand that they do not care for themselves either.
Me too
I have never been so emotionally abused like this.. It’s total and utter chaos! Sick and wrong.. I am a feeler. I have empathy.. compassion and this ex of mine needs serious mental help!
Yes the narcissists thinks about how you got away or saw through the lies. He thinks about how to fool and trick the next clueless victim. :o(
But never heals and takes that pain with him forever. You are healing and giving yourself opportunities.
@@daviddemars Thank You David :}
Yes
Whoever he is with, I know I was the best thing that ever hapoened to him. But now somebody who is worthy and is deserving of me(This isnt comingfrom an arrogant or stuckup place) will get all the good stuff that i have to offer. I am SOOOO GRATEFUL to be free of that Psychopath!!! going on 15 months no contact🌲🌲🌲
i feel the same. Good for you. My ex told me once after he broke up with me"I m talking to everyone about you" silly me, was thinking he loves me. It took me 5 times to do finally NC. Delate, remove and I bloked him everywhere. I know now there wont be any hoovering.
@Diva R Thats way AWESOME Congratulations!!!!!
Same here...it's crazy all the put downs and false accusations of me cheating or my spending habits even though I make 5 times more than narc and own 2 homes. I have been in a new relationship for two years and just got engaged. He continues on his hamster wheel of hell no stable employment, arrogance of how hot he is for 62, and with mutiple women and new supply who is mid fifties going on 80 looking to take his money which he pretends to have but doesn't....couldn't build anything solid in life for himself if his life depended on it. I saw thru it 2 yrs ago, called him on it and he ghosted after 8 yrs. and I'm NC. No thanks, hot he's not. No hoovering here.
Goid job!!
I Can unterstand you. I feel the See.
No accountability. No identity. No ethic. No sense of humility. No love. Just an empty box with glittery wrapping paper. The only thing they process is themselves to people who don't know their dirt.
Empty box with glitter is right... Im so heartbroken. But it will pass.
Girl I wish I could hi-five you!!
So true
Me again, I want everybody going through this BS to understand!! . You can't win IN the GAME cuz they don't tell you the rules. But to win even tho you don't know the rules, is to FUXXING STOP PLAYING!!! Yes they will have the next step(new woman/man) but don't care they care they found someone else to PLAY THE GAME, but that they can't PLAY THE GAME with you anymore. That's the people they respect, the ones who know they ain't worth playing with. The thing to know about them is, they only respect the ones too smart/strong to give them the time of day. They will be putting you ( who won't f with them) against the ones who do. Im telling y'all they only respect the ones who don't fall for them.
crystal doran, you are absolutely right! initially, before we were aware the Narc is playing a game, we were learning the hard way, and they the Narc knew we were experiencing their game of hell.
life sucks for them more than us!
we don't play a game! they do!
thanks for pointing out the facts!
And I totally agree, once the Narc knows we're on to that game of deceit, only then will they respect us, but don't expect them to come and give you a trophy for discovering their game!
Damn, I love this comment!
My Narc discarded me almost 5 months ago, early August 2018, in a text message when I was away although I returned two days later. I didn’t realise she had NPD until after the discard (NPD is my label for her because as I have educated myself about this disorder I realised that she has most of the traits). She left me after 6 1/2 years for another supply, someone who was a mutual friend but who has totally ignored me on the couple of occasions I have seen her (in a public place). However, I am so much better off without the Narc. The abuse, bullying, control, manipulation, put-downs, narcissistic rage, blaming and gas-lighting were horrible. I kept excusing her behaviour because she said she had a high anxiety disorder. The first 6 months she love bombed me but then all the dysfunction started. My weight blew up to 106 kgs (I’m only 161 cms). I had bariatric surgery in May and am feeling fabulous! Recovery hasn’t been easy but I truly have my life and my self-esteem back.
Absolutely correct , I’m with a narcissist and I’ve noticed he constantly tries to Hoover back in the old supply but those women are smart and have wised up. I used to be jealous but I admire those women for having enough self love to walk away , but with any a narcissist, any attention is good attention so with that being said , I’m not gonna be like the rest and still carry on conversations with him after I’ve walked away . This man will never get another conversation out of of me now that I know how he rocks . I’m building a case against him and planning my escape as we speak . I’ve already moved on, just playing it cool until I’m completely out of his life.
Yup it hurts so much they have to lie, they are a living lie. Rationalizing with someone who is delusional thinking and believing their lies is a useless rabbit hole chase.
I can't believe how many people are Narcissistic. This was my 1st rodeo if another one ever got close to me they better run. Lol
I'm learning but his new supply is all about him I feel sorry for her because I know all his history now that doesn't change. He just role playing
White Dove yes it’s all fake it’s all a show we already seen and unless they had a full lobotomy or brain transplant they have not will not can ever change or be successful in a relationship and also if it does last long that new supply is blind and unhealthy.
This sums it up the best way it took me awhile to get away you fall for their lies & the facade they out on I can't stand how dumb I was to not walk away it took me & his dad to bust him he tried to make everyone look at his dad as a bad person & he told me his dad would say nasty things about me come to find out it was the opposite & his dad would send me screenshots of him saying a bunch of lies to him & in my phone he was saying something different when I broke up with him he left me voicemails begging me to talk to him saying he "loved" me when he was kicked out he tried to live at my grandma's so he had an excuse to be a part of my life & it took me to expose him for the liar and manipulator he was & this was on & off for a year & 11 months & that's not even all of the bullshit he put me through the relationship literally just ended 3 days ago so the healing process just started I pray God protects me from demons like that I never would wish a narcissist on anyone its traumatizing
It is not always the narcissist who leave…..it is the target who leave, when fed up with the situation! People might be addicted, but not stupid!
I left
@@TheDiamondtwinsme too
I kicked my first to the curb 19 years ago and I blocked my second almost 16 months ago with no contact. Sadly, the two are related and the second took me 22 years before I finally stumbled upon a UA-cam video. It took 26 years after meeting the first narc and a UA-cam video video later to understand what kind of monsters I was dealing with! Yikes!
He thought to be rescuimg all women who are needy.! All are wating for him. This is what he wanted to believe. Je is the one who cant be alone, cant have any close relathionship, so preferred to believe women need him (God?). A psychopat
You are a help. Thanks
So true. They NEED that attention and those likes from complete strangers rather than the ones who actually cares and love them
Yes so true. I gave my love and care, attention, home, everything to my ex and he texted women constantly, going on dating sites and flirting. I kept thinking this is not right, all my family were wondering why he did this? They were nothing but kind. Then I looked up narracism and it clicked into place, the lack of remorse,empathy, no self reflection etc etc He had been married three times so I was the fool really.
"Borderline Is A Masochist And The Narcisst A Sadist" -Sam Vaknin
He was also mean to me when I was having panic attacks! He'd say "quit breathing like that." Like that's helpful in that situation!!!
Awful, I'm sorry Dawn.
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It was most likely annoying him. Panic attacks caused by him i bet.
@@Tony-dh yep I know right! They are something else, very heartless!
Wowwwwww
I'm just out of relationship with narcissistic charismatic psychopath. It's hard, it hurts but I'll survive.
Thank you for this video
5months no contact. Congrats to me. Found myself back. Happy I was able to escape.
From my individual experience; I believe they miss the supply you provided them with but not you... real examples: my 'mil' missed having me and the kids around not because she cares for us or loves us! She missed not being able to show off the kids to neighbours or use them to triangulate me... She missed that sadistic pleasure from my facial expressions when she abuses and disrespect me...she missed the power and pleasure she felt when she divided her son and I in our decisions... It's all about power and control !
Yes, how you make them feel, what you do for them, etc...
Was with a narc for a year and didn’t even know til recently, he would project, put me down, gaslight, give me painful silent treatments and lack any empathy or give me any emotional support. Every time I tried to pull away and walked away he would charm his way and get me back. I finally got the strength to move on and block him out of my life. While I’m hurt, i am happier that I made this decision. I really loved him and wanted to work, but it was just my loving someone who had nothing to give me. It was a draining exhausting black hole. He took and took and took but never gave anything in return.
I don’t think he misses me or even cared. To him, I was not even human....just saw me as an object he could use and discard. They have no empathy. They don’t care. They’re parasites and will move onto the next victim.
The narcissist never loves the person they are with when they are with them. Is like Aesops fable with the dog and the bone. He see his reflection in the water. The snaps at the mirage in the water and loses what he has.
Good one !
Wow!
Id like to make this a quote if I may. Signed your name of course.
Narcissism is an extreme overcompensation for extreme insecurity...
Narcs should be put to sleep like bad dogs. They serve no good purpose.
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😂Savage! I love it
Wandering Free Right,,, 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Wandering Free that was a good lol!!!
If they refuse to learn , and do right, then they should be put out of their misery.
I needed that reassurance, thank you. Even if the Narc comes back and says "look I'm sorry, (kissing your hand or whatever else) they're full of shit, and haven't processed the pain/hurt and made changes to affect their lives positively other than stroking their ego to fit their narrative, or their god complex. I have to let it sink in DEEP, that this person discarded me. There's no way for them to love me properly from here on out, because I'm recovering ALONE, and repairing my finances, emotions, daily routine ALONE (except with the help of loved ones).
I have no interest in seeing or experiencing phase 2 of the narcs tactics. Phase 1 was catastrophic enough.
I can completely understand and identify with your story. I have been there. I am recovering. I am winning. I am much better off now that the narc is out of my life.
I'm sorry for the late reply but it appears that you have a grip on what happened.
Omega Jireh can I email you?
If someone punched me in the face, I wouldn't spent hours or days or weeks or months wondering if the assailant was thinking about me. Stop giving away personal power. No contact includes not thinking of the narc.
The Most Hurtful Thing
Is Being Discarded And When The
Narcissists Go On With There Life.
As If U Never Mattered.This Person
That Discarded Me Has Absolutely Nothing
To Do With Me .This Is What Is So Very
Hurtful.
Demetria, I was married for 15 years and brutally betrayed and discarded. It is very difficult to process everything, and accept that it is over, and, you are forced to move on without closure or an acknowledgment of any wrongdoing on their part. Extremely painful process and it is important to find a good counselor who specializes in trauma therapy. If you are a spiritual person, pray and draw near to God. Put yourself first and know that you are valuable, lovable and worthy. One moment at a time.
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Demetria Gaines I understand how u feel girl, pray. Your not alone trust in God’s plan for u🙏🏼❤️
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Painful Weekends Are Painful
Because I Use To See Him On WeekEnds.
And From His Abuse I Suffer From
Tinnitus, Severe Anxiety, & PTSD..
I’m Taking Baby Steps Trying To Recover
Thank You For Caring.
He thinks about me constantly....ways to destroy me over and over and over. He uses our children now (after I went no contact) to destroy their self esteem because that's the best way to get his revenge on me and to make himself feel good.
That is awful, I'm so sorry. All of you, please, seek help.
@@rn3542 same here exactly I had to pretend O do not care about my own kids - I oray for them every night.
Nothing is off limits to a narcissist. If you get out, they will target your children to get back at you.
Bottom line is if your still in question if she/he was indeed a covert narcissist. Remember this, if you were discarded and not given the proper closure leaving you broken. LET THEM GO!!! Someone that doesn’t want to be in your life doesn’t deserve to be in your life. Everything gets better with time, your have to trust in that. I promise it’s gets better!!
Very true
I'm in a mood I guess. I don't want any of you that is wondering why to stay stuck. I'm one of y'all 30 years of and on back and forth I did hurt yes, but if I could tell y'all what I wish I'd done, and y'all do it, my heart would fill that someone learned from MY pain/experience/testimony, then all I went through wouldn't be for naught! They are playing a GAME, all they want is to WIN. You may think (and that what they want) that you lost. I know that's how you feel cuz I did/do sometimes. BUT I know if they feel they lost ( the game) it will eat their as up. Let em lose y'all no matter how it happened...let em lose. Love to everyone seeking answers,. But in the meantime let em lose!!!!!
Thank you!
I'm actually glad I don't know what's going on. It would most likely be too painful and I'm finally doing well after two months of hell and being devastated. Even got new job!
They don’t believe their own lies, they know they are lying, that’s why they know to change their story when caught .
I was told this by Jack Trimarco (rip) who was one of the worlds leading experts on lying and pathological behavior.
They miss using you. They miss what you did for them. They miss getting over on you. They don't miss YOU, they never cared for you. If they think of you it's with disdain. Be glad they're gone and never go back EVER.
my ex Narc never spoke of any past relationships...ever..... I thought that was strange but let it go...like alot of other red flags I ignored. I never heard of Narcissism before him. He turned out to be a classic Narcissist...textbook behavior...shocking..out of left field after pushing for marriage came the sudden discard....he had suddenly changed his personality ,dress and everything about him...people asked "who the hell is that"? Then he wanted to be "friends" ....they are so empty,fake and pathetic.....I know I was good to him,took care of him and was there for him.......he said I made his house a home.....then suddenly kicked me to the curb......I hope he does think of me and know what he had is gone.....I lost nothing...thanks to people like David making these videos alot of us can heal and move on to a good life. And I thank David and others for their help to bring light to this disorder.
deb vankoughnet this was my exact same story.. this is crazy.
@@tmichele8922 you would be shocked to hear my entire story. I have spoken to people about writing a book and telling the whole story to try to help others who may fall for the "same Person"...... he was the chameleon type and went from biker dude wanna be (with his friends) to jimmy buffet beach dude(with my friends) to a guy who wore bib overalls and wanted to live in the country and fish and hunt (when he went into hermit mode)....depended on who was in the picture friends wise.....I never mentioned the word marriage..not once..he surprised me on a private dinner/sailboat ride in Key west.. the sunset,the dolphins jumping......an AMAZING ring !! fast forward about 8 months later I almost died.....ended up in ICU on a ventilator ,chest tubes ..had my chest cracked open and three tumors removed from around my heart.. Was told to get may affairs in order. They werent sure yet if it was cancer. During that time he did not shed a single tear! NO EMOTION AT ALL !!.(.should have been a red flag.) We had our beach wedding planned for 3 months down the road! The dress ,the HUGE beachhouse rented,friends and family coming.....NOT ONE TEAR.....I made it thru and thought I was amazing for having pulled thru...the wedding took place as planned (with a huge "pirate scar" on my chest! )Right after the ceremony..before we went back down the isle....he
leans over and says."just so you know, the jewelry,the trips,all of that stops today!" ..I thought it was another sarcastic joke.....when we got to the reception....he had changed personalities..his game was over !! It was frightening....it was noticed by everyone there !! It can even be seen in his face in the pictures... They kept asking if he was feeling ok... fast forward one year of watching this and wondering when the real person would come back....He called me at work at the end of a 13 hour shift in the ER and asked if I was coming right home...lets go to dinner and talk he said...I arrived home to find a strange man hiding in my livingroom...someone I had never met...the ex was seated at the kitchen table wearing a hoodie with the hood on which was strange for him and inside the house....I thought I was going to end up in the freezer in the basement....he served me divorce papers. I was never so scared in my life!!! the ex got up in my face and said "YOU did this"""...I was so scared I slapped him in the face to get him to back away and of course he had me arrested.....he wanted me out of the house so he could go thru my belongings I had been packing up to move out.It was nothing of his ..only MY belongings... It took me 3 months and a judges order to get my belongings. And when he finally agreed...I sent movers over to pick it all up and found he had sent bags of his garbage..not my belongings....900$ to have movers move garbage! Judge wasnt amused.
These are just a few of the things I went thru with him. During that last year I wasnt aware of the smear campaign he had started. He told his family I threatened to shoot him...I dont know how to use a gun and I am TERRIFIED of guns!!! He kept putting a handgun in the couch cushions ....I wasnt sure why but I now wonder if he had other secrets I didnt know about or if he was waiting for and "accident" to happen and tell people I tried to use it and he had to use it against me... Sick !!! My whole bottom line is...if your gut tells you something isnt right!! IT AINT RIGHT!! GET OUT !! RUN !!! your sanity and safety depends on it !!! Your LIFE may depend on it !!!! I hope someone reads this and says ,,that could be me if I dont get out !!!! It COULD be you !!!! Sending hugs ,love and hope to anyone who reads this and it helps to open your eyes. Narcissist are what they are...you cant fix it ! Its broke! You deserve better! This isnt even my entire story but I hope this helps someone! The part that still haunts me besides all I went thru with this person is that I am educated and should have seen but wasnt aware of Narcissism at the time....I still feel I should have trusted my gut but cognitive dissonance can twist your brain into thinking you can fix things and you stay.....DONT STAY!!..RUN!!!!
And thank you too!
The narc kept asking for her and I to "be friends" as well. which is basically being demoted to a random sex buddy, or servant...We ALL deserve better than that, for ourselves and our families.
Yoko Brian mine too. I said no. I still get random txts. Last one was same one she sent my parents for Christmas
She turns up at random as well.
There thinking about how to hurt you more or get revenge from the narc injury you inflicted on them or gloating at how they hurt you. Thats it.
...and they will use your own children to do that. It's SICK.
A lot of the time, narcs don't think...they *assume*.
Love this guy’s voice. Very soothing.
Awesome video. Just spent 3 and a half years with a narcissist womanizer. Finally walked out.
He talked about past relationships all the time. Had no boundaries. After a while I felt pity for him and the shame he endured growing up as the golden child. No contact is challenging and I am doing well. I was an amazing supply for him.
Your video made me feel good. Thank you.
If you so happened to cross their mind their only thinking how they lost control their hostage has escaped from prison! They will always burn Bridges they can never have normal relationships ever, they need positive people to feed their pesamistic nature to feed the chaos that dwell on the inside they rather dump their toxicity on to us!
Shar Hughes well said, take our positive energy and dump their toxic on us.
Did anyone else Narc was withholding intimacy and affection? I finally left my husband after 16 years. It started gradually after the wedding and then it was excuses and blaming for a decade as to why we weren’t. He found a new girlfriend two months later. Do they repeat the same neglect with their new supply? Thank you for your video. It is the most genuine, straight forward and pleasant one I have found on the topic. You are a natural. Just like having advice from a friend.
Danièle Talbot Rinse, repeat and recycle. Yes. Check out Assc Direct.
I have a Narc Father and had a Narc ex too. Didn’t realize how much it affected me and my mom for years. I also met a few Narc men at my workplace. I knew there was something wrong. But never really studied Narcissistic personality until few days back. I feel completely in control now that I know I was never at fault. And their behavior is not my problem, it’s theirs. I didn’t love myself so much than what I do today.
Going on 2 years now since I left the relationship.
Haven’t heard a peep from her. Somehow this bothers me at times. I wanted her to try to contact me so I could tell her to FO.
I know, I know, I’m better off this way, but still.
Good videos thank you.
I feel the same
Their pride is just too sick .
Ex replaced me next day with another ex who turns out is exactly what he deserves. He bad mouthed her like crazy when we got together and now she believes I spent years with him knowing he wanted her, not me. My problem was that I believed he meant it when he said he loved me at 8 am but at 5 pm he was drunk and instigated a break up. No explanation, no closure, no warning. I am lucky to see the truth.
i once viewed grief as a very bad thing, but it's a process that is very much for our own good ive learned, when those waves of pain crash over us and take our breath away we need to feel all of that despair , it's temporary moments, we feel better relief after them, and we
inch further through the process. The amazing thing is that we run out of it eventually, unlike love,,, we never have limits of how many people in our lives we can love or how many children we have enough love for , it's boundless, it's the best reason for working through every stage of grief, because grief isn't just for those who've passed away,,, it's for losing anything that meant so much to us, and changes our lives in some way. i never underestimate a persons grief if say they lost a pet bird, or their eldest child left home and moved away, im so blessed to have emerged from the worst of it, and feel exited about the future, we DO get through this if we allow it thank you for your wonderful wisdom David. you do an amazing thing for us 🌸👍
That's true. I knew a narcissist who every time he got drunk would cry about stuff that happened 20 or 30 years ago. But when he was sober he wouldn't talk about it.
My experience with a narcissist was not in a romantic couple relationship. I watch all these videos and I try to learn from them in order to understand my friend. We were very close friends joined together by co-authoring art projects. We were very good working together and we made some amazing art. As friends we had arguments from time to time and now I understand why my friend behaved like that now. During a moment when I drew my boundaries was a perfect time for my friend to move on. Now I understand.
This dude helps me tremendously. These clowns are horrible people, but I was the strong one and told mine, "So long, you did me so wrong," I noticed I slightly had this problem, until I met one worse then me. Screw these POS's. Mine tried to add me on her Facebook I laughed and left her hanging. Almost fell the hoover, but came to my senses. These creatures destroyed my life. Wish I was smart enough for this game,, but instead I'm smart enough going no contact.
This is so true. I was engaged to one that mentally always turns things around and blame me all the time when it was him. No job, No Liscense, No car, always wanting beer everyday and cigarettes and always wanting attention from other women and then try to act like he's just being friendly. Then flip on you or start an argument just to break up with so they can go be with someone else. What a drainage and waste of time. Selfish, insecure, demonic spirit, manipulative, lies, but never wants to change to be better.
Spot on. I think it’s important to note they aren’t still thinking about you because they love you. They miss the supply, they think about the appliance they lost they feel still belongs to them. You are like a toaster. They are upset they lost you and think about you when they’re in the mood for toast you provided. But it’s not out of love or missing you because there was a bond or connection.
I was the unaware “other woman” in my narcs life. He came into my life and within 6 months, we had our future mapped out, he was the one, blah blah blah. Due to visa limitations, he had to leave the country for a while and we made plans for me to visit him etc. Up until him leaving I would of never of doubted his word. But obviously narcs cant be alone, without their sources, and I soon discovered the ex wife, he was actually only separated from, and then discovered she had been to visit him, for two weeks. He told me how torn he was, between his responsibilities to this “wreck of a woman” and how I was his “peace and calm” that he so desired.... he loved us both, it was all so traumatic for him .... blah blah blah.
I was lucky, I only had him in my life 8 months, when I ended things he returned to his wife in a matter of days (he was running out of money, and I think he was not confident enough that I would be a long term financial source for him too - I refused to put his name on anything until he was divorced) - what is weird is the guilt I feel for “abandoning him” (how he sees it), when I was nothing but loyal and supportive.
I still miss him daily, although my main grieving is passed.
I feel for his poor wife, who he’s done this to 3 times, twice in there 2 year marriage (10 years in total), shes trauma bonded to him and he will continue to destroy her.
I hate that I still wonder “what if?”
Powerfully Ugly sad to hear glad you got out.
The ex narc I was married to told everyone that we were separated, then he told everyone I was dead. Then he had the nerve to want to stay in this marriage? Two other women he got involved with, both lost their 401k and filed bankruptcy because of him.
This is so true he used to compare things I said and did to his ex. I used to always remind him I wasn’t his ex. I tried to reach out to his mum and tell her everything he did when he wouldn’t give me back my Louis Vuitton key holder like he had promised. He tried to act as though I wouldn’t leave him alone lol. When i just wanted my key holder back. He even threatened to get a restraining order, when if he had just given me my property back I would leave him alone. He resaved my number and thought he could come back lol. When I showed him I saw he took another girl on the date he had planned for me. He blocked me. Then started threatening to throw my key holder away and send me a picture when i asked him on iMessage. They are always very aggressive and messy when they don’t get what they want out of you. Or you figure out they are degenerates.
I'm sorry Deborah. He couldn't let you go and I think the keychain is only a symbol of this.
Excellent video and teaching. My Ex-narc does have mental illness with psychosis but won't tell the doctors about the psychosis. He has drugs addictions, both prescription and illegal drugs, and narcissism. He's real gross like that. He's beautiful at times and great at art. He has said, "Who am I today?" but really it's, "Who is he right now?" I feel bad that he is that sick but it's over with me.
My sons dad had his new woman on his social media. All the while telling me he didn't deserve to be in a relationship, down play how close they were, and assuring me this person hasn't been around my son.
Thanks David. It’s really shocking and traumatic to learn about Narcissistic Abuse after 20 years of living with the enemy. I’ve gone no contact for almost 12 months. I’m so grateful to have come across you. Your powerful words have made me so much stronger. Thank you and God Bless you xx
I've never met a human that is so cruel. I was left bamboozle and in shock
Thank you I like your down to earth approach.
Over a year and a half later, I'm still heartbroken. I'm not depressed but deeply heartbroken even though I know better.
Thank You for this David! I was Faithful and attentive to my ex for 12 yrs, treated her like a Queen literally. Even after she cheated on me twice, I still was naive enough to be Faithful 3 years away from her in a different state away from her. To this day she still tries to text me and she'll talk words of missing me one night, then turn around and drink and blame campaign about my complaining of how she treated me, then hang up on me in mid conversation. It is an endless cycle, I still love her but seems she likes to hurt my heart. I matured and got counseling, But she refuses. Thank You soooo much! Very informative. I realize that the victims of narcissism like myself can benefit continuously from coaching & counseling.
This video was so helpful. My ex narc was violent and abusive, and 2 days post discard he found a new girlfriend. Then one after that. And now a new one. He can’t even admit to hitting me and has even conceded that he’ll be running from the pain eternally.
Learning about A.S.P.D.'s is the most valuable lesson of my life. I have stopped even mentioning the subject of psychopaths/sociopaths/narcissists because people, in general, are fearful of those words. I understand because I use to think a psychopath was a serial killer, a sociopath was merely shy, and a narcissist just liked what they saw in the mirror. Now I know and I wish for everyone to learn about what to listen for and what actions to watch for.....especially children!!! It is vital for children to be taught, as they are taught to not put their hand in a fire! I read his last message to me with educated eyes and I knew the motive. I will not break my 'no contact' stance of three years, ever! Thanks to this site for reinforcing!
Thank you. Helpful to be reminded that he’s damaged and I’m better off without that damaging attitude in my life.
Good advice David. You have no idea how much your videos have pulled me out of a huge emotional hole since November 2017.
I'm dealing with a sociopath/narcissist with severe head trauma. It doesn't get better. He's what he has always been, just with a head injury. Talk about projection! I get it constantly as the filters that once held him in check are all gone. It's my brother, and I have no parents alive or other brothers and sisters to help with him. He is in a living facility several states away with a guardian ad litem. But with todays technology, I'm only a few seconds away, receiving THE nastiest emails and texts. In my personal experience, they do not forget about us. Yes! He thinks of me constantly, and dreams up creative ways to get me to read his emails. All I can say to anyone dealing with a narcissist, just blow them off and ignore their rants, because there's not a lot you can do to stop them.
Believe it or not, I predicted 3 relationship failures before prior to them giving any signs, except the one you mentioned regarding showing off of their couple how great they’re, how happy they’re, holding each other’s arms in public. And I was saying to my self” hope it’s true and genuine, but see you in couple years , and sure enough those couples went into a separations/ divorce afterward.
They think about you. But they won’t tell you. I texted a narcissist once and he says “I was just thinking about you, you must’ve felt it.” Then went on to ignore me for the rest of the day.
You are the most aware and best at explaining on this matter that I've seen and listened to. Spot on.
You are kind Sean, thank you.
Thank you for putting this content out there!! They project so much on us that we think we are the narcissist! The very fact you clicked on this video proves you are NOT a narcissist! You are a caring kind person that has the ability to love. They dont and its a sad reality. Walk away from this knowing you WILL heal. You WILL love again. Shake them fleas off!!!!
The disclosure that a personality disorder undermines relationship developing into healthy unions helps understanding why this is impossible to resolve.
Most women know men are not in touch with their emotions. We who are romantic feel we can love them into healing. My mother was one of THOSE but she was blind to her husband messing up her children. That is how the next and worst generation of abusers is born.
DO NOT LET HIM HARM YOUR CHILDREN! YOU WILL HAVE TO LIVE WITH THE FRUIT OF YOUR DENIAL AND YOU WON'T LIKE IT.
Yes, finally someone putting it so clearly about the narcs not having relationships. I am a narc and can not have relationships. Except with my kids and grandkids. And this is ENOUGH for me, thank you very much:-)
Narcs are dishonest, liars, manipulators, users, and disrespectful. I wonder where they go when they die?I guess being proud to be a narc would be a nark move.Prideful........I hope you find Jesus because HE has something for you if you repent.And HE has something for you if you dont.Id start figuring out why you cant love...before HE takes away the ones you do ...to shut your pride down.HE will shut it down one way or another!
This guy nailed it! I can vouch I was married to one, going through the divorce now. Let me tell you once you see what the really are, run!!! Love yourself first. You will found someone who deserves your love and the will love you the way you deserve to be loved. As far as the narcissist is concerned, run... most cases there is no saving them so save yourself the heart ache and pain. Trust me. Sincerely, Loving me first. P.S I divorced her, so you can do it!!! Love yourself and know your worth
SO TRUE! Words mean NOTHING unless one gives value to them.
My ex narc makes it a point to tell me how “ the next guy your with will use you and abuse you”. My reply, don’t worry about who I’m with or what I’m doing anymore, at least I’m away from the devil himself.
Q: Does the Narcissist think about you?
A: Does it really matter?
To some people, yes it absolutely matters.. Just saying..
Married 37 years, had no idea this was happening to me. Last 7 years have been the worst, as listening and watching videos, i can see a lot of these traits in my spouse. I have been through it all in the last 2 1/2 years of the lies, the secrets, the anger when i caught him chesting, all the denial of everything or the coldness of that what hes been doinng when pointed out to him, like its no big deal.. last talk of divorce, he stated that we should be able to remain friends since we have been together so long and grew into adults together .. we met at 18 yrs now we are 56 yrs... and part amicably.. 3 women in 1 1/2 yrs time and all whom were not close friends by any means but met or seen casually with other friends. They all knew he was married.. he even said they instigated it.. when asked, why didnt you tell me then ,, so it could be delt with. He stated " it didnt occur to me" .... another good one ... when we had a discussion about one of ,"them" he told me things that he thought this or said this to me.. later " i dont remember that or what either of us said or we did not even talk about it... and we cant anymore cuz its the past.
So heartbreaking seeing all of this now.
If you escaped the climax of thier plot to destroy you, then they definatley think about you..bkus its all a game to them and your the player that got away unscathed...just be careful bkus the same spirit that was working through them to destroy you also works through others..and it knows your name..
And God Almighty knows them..bahahaha🤣
I believe that. I keep meeting the same person,and falling for the BS.
Thank you!! The narcs are lost souls. I'm glad this has happened to me tho. I'm so much smarter!
Hey got involved with a narcissist about 3 months ago, thought he was the one, he was charming, handsome and literally moved in with me from the start. Told me he had never felt like this about anyone before, that I was his soulmate, he had a soulmate tattoo already on his hand and after 3 weeks had tattooed my name in it. This was all the love bombing stage then he got up 7 weeks later ghost me and went back to his ex. After a week of being blocked I got hovered back in with constant messages at this point I didn't know he was a narcissist. Gave it another go and left me again within 48hrs and has gone back to his ex. Blocked me on everything but all social media is if him and his gf. I've blocked him on everything just getting my head round it all as it's so surreal!! Thanks for the vid will be watching more!!
I just went no contact about a week ago and the intense anxiety is killing me. At time I'll get anxiety while not even thinking about them. I know this is the right move but it sucks realizing that I wasted time with this demonic woman.
Love and prayers to all suffering this , please stay strong 💫xx
I don't trust my ex. I don't want him to think about me. I hope he moved on to Timbuktu. But seriously I like to keep watch, he's evil and always up to something bad.
I love your honesty. And your right to the point smart clear and concise.
Dear David. Your video is so spot on, thank you very much! 🙏👍
Thank you Lou!
I could not agree more!Spot on.So helpful
Thank you,I saw,she’s gone off now,with her rich boss,I fortunately still have my children and our home 🙏
Thanks David, I assumed that since they did not process things correctly, that they did not hurt from the loss. I broke up with the narcissist, and have really grown since, (starting to love myself, and see where I allowed her to chip away at me) so them (yes more then one over the years) coming into my life certainly flipped it upside down but I know that life is going to get much better, and hers likely will stay the same, regardless of how happy she pretends to be. really enjoying your videos, keep up the great work!
I came to the realization I was in a NARC relationship with, of all people, my teenage foreign exchange student. Oh my, I could have saved myself and my family heartache, my health, my sanity, and 10# lost if I had only recognized the signs. I am researching now so I can share my findings with the national agency and his. He is still here for a few more weeks and I understand that I wont really heal until he returns to his country. I pity him and pray he can get treatment--he is only 15 and perhaps he can recover from this.
They will tell their next boyfriend or girlfriend how horrible you were. It wasn't their fault, they are the center of the Universe
You hit the nail on the head. The beast narc I was with did everything you just mentioned... But I won...
They do think about you . When my ex was in rage she was thinking about her ex and now when she’s in rage with her new supply she’ll be thinking about me . Narcs can’t remain idle they can’t remain calm they always got to be doing something because by doing so it occupies their mind and distracts them from reflecting on themselves. They’re like a vampire breed . I’m so glad now that I can spot one . I’m like Wesley Snipes from the movie Blade he can spot undercover vampire’s. Lol
Great video, really interesting thanks. I wondered why he would always talk about his exes, a man in his 50's talking about a girl at school, or girlfriends from his 20's, 30's. He triangulated me with the mother of his child who he claimed to hate. But he talked them all in such a disconnected way, their attributes were so basic as he described them, a two relationship dismissed as "that didn't work out", a real lack of self reflection and ability to learn from past mistakes. The red flags were waving. He was a misogynist no doubt about it. Called his own mother a bitch once and tried to make out he was joking. I should have left much sooner but the cognitive dissonance was debilitating, it was like hypnosis.
Thank you very much. I made a video today that explains more detail.
The idea he thinks about me terrifies me. Please don’t. It’s bad enough I know he’s still out there
I am so glad to have found you David! You are soooo on point and resonate 100% with me thanks dear one !
married to a narcissist for 5 years, 2 kids. she always claimed the kids wer JUST hers, not mine also.
Mine has told me he thinks of me all the time, but cuts me off to get me upset. That way I send lots of messages with information about my life. He said he reads all of them to see what I'm up to day to day. I've stopped that incase I got in trouble. But Jesus christ the pain. And when I think back, the thing that made him turn up again was when I told him I went elsewhere (in an attempt to escape him which went comically wrong). Then he heard gossip that I was talking to someone and came back again.
5 months out of a 5 year marriage now David. She's diagnosed BPD but I'd swear she has just as many NPD behaviors so I'm a bit confused. I just found out today she's posting on Facebook "In A Relationship". My Aunt saw her at the store with her new man. I'd bet my life she was talking to him while we were still together. Just blows my mind that a month before she left, she was singing my praises on her page and January 3rd, she discards me, smears me and now a new man. Yeah, I think I've disassociated from the whole thing. I do think I'm happier and more at peace which suprises me. She treated me so badly for so long, I was happy she finally left. I can't decide if I should be watching more BPD videos or NPD videos LOL. It's it possible she's both?
You put a different light to it , Thanks for that
This was awesome and please believe.
Mans rejection is God’s protection meaning The Lord stepped in right on time.
Pain is only temporary PEACE IS EVERLASTING
Many years ago, not knowing what I was dealing with, my sister crossed my lines once too often. I told her she was not needed, wanted or liked. I have never gone back. My mother and two brothers joined her and started a despicable smear campaign. I am free of them all and I have to love them because they are part of me. But I will never return.
Out of all the comfort, answers and understanding i am searching for as to why I am feeling and dealing with this mess. Nothing has come close to this video. So spot on and my situation in 1.. thank you so much for this i found this 9 minute video has gave me understanding of the last 6 years of my relationship :( x and not to mention a massive weight lifted to confirm what I already doubted for such a long time. Really appreciate this
Thank you so much for making this video.
I just got out of a relationship with a narcissist and so many things that you are saying make sense now. He was ALWAYS talking about all his 3 ex girlfriends, like everyday I think and that totally did not make sense at all.
Thanks again!
Exactly what happened to me after 4 years together she cheated on me and ghosted me, I broke, .y heart broke 4 months I tried , confuses said let's fix it and it was like she didn't know me. After 4 .months of loosing it I finally went no contact it's been 1 month now, I truly dont give a shit anymore I dont want her ever again how could she do that, I'm thankful now I know the 4 years were fake, and her mask finally fell off, I'm glad I didn't waste another 4 -10 + years. Oh I'm going to get past this and find 10000000000 % better than that betraying, cold, heartbreaking woman. You were dead on my situation. Thank you perfect video.
It’s a really ugly cycle for them, isn’t it? They feel shame so they do anything to prevent feeling shame and what they end up doing to prevent it, causes more shame, regret, etc. Sad.