This REALLY it!!!!!!!!!! Speak on it! 🤣😂😭 It’s the underlying FEAR of infidelity that has truly dominated this discussion! I wanted to talk about this and the whole “mistress across the street THAT THE WIFE KNEW ABOUT,” but I said let me leave that ALONEEEEE. It’s a very sensitive topic and I’ll extend some grace here.
I'm married and I cant see myself living in a separate home but girl a different bedroom hell yess. I need something to myself sometimes. My grandparents had different bedrooms growing up and it worked well.
I totally understand! My husband, and I have our separate spaces, within the house. Separate homes can invite infidelity. Marriage isn’t about testing one’s self-control. However, I do believe marriage should be defined by the individuals involved.
Yes! I definitely think marriage should be defined by the individuals involved! I’m glad you know what works for you while being respectful of how others define happiness. I’m not sure space invites infidelity though lol 😂
@@MsPhatGirlSlim 😭😩🥴 THIS!!!!! THANK YOU! Proximity in no way deters or encourages infidelity. The likelihood of somewhat cheating is not based on whether you share the same home/bed/apartment/condo. Some people are indirectly helping me prove my point that their decision to stay close is for purposes of surveillance which is rooted in insecurity/fear 🤷🏽♀️
@@tastePINK I think that it’s not surveillance but focus apart even you said you can focus on other things and be more productive. Yet to much space and focus on other aspects in my opinion (mind you not knocking anyone else) leads to a focus on a different lifestyle for some..instead of you integrating your lives it is much easier to seek solace in your own personal space and develop the mindset of someone that is single. This can lead to a person taking interest in others in their environment that they spend more time with (work associates, gym partners,etc..) yes an in home marriage doesn’t guarantee fidelity but it does enforce the mindset of a union and make it more difficult to cheat than having your (technically own bachelor or bachelorette pad) this is merely my opinion ☺️
Married for 19 years. We lived in the same house we built 20 years ago. I wouldn’t have it any other way. We have enough space for each of us to have our alone time. We only have 2 kids 15 &20, our 20yr is away at school, we practically empty nesters! The key for us is to still be an individual while in a relationship
Shauna El, ABSOLUTELY!!!!!! I've been married for 26 yrs and you are right on point. I as an individual MUST have my own time and space, for my own personal growth, as well as the health (Spiritually, Mentally, Physically, Emotionally,) of our marriage. This is something that my husband had to learn to understand, and now it is wonderful. I don't know what peoples religious or spiritual beliefs are, but being married and living apart is outside of what God ordains as marriage. Also, I can't help but wonder, when Ms. Taste Pink got married did she take the usual marriage vows, or was her marriage ceremony also outside of what God ordains as marriage. Just wondering. Either way, there'd Gods way, and there's our way, AND THE CONSEQUENCES THAT COMES WITH IT.
I agree! Do what works for you, but be open to what may work for you, even if it is unconventional. Based on the commentary, it may be possible some people don’t even know what works for them because they may be shallow thinkers or don’t even know how to initiate a conversation regarding boundaries about space.
Married 22 yrs. Anyone not living with you is an outsider. You may associate with them but living with someone is a whole other level of intimate. You are even closer if you share a bedroom. I have had both worlds sharing a bedroom with my husband AND having separate rooms. We are not as close in separate rooms as when we did sharing one. Living in separate residence would bring in another level of separation. Yes you can have your own space but giving someone an escape route out when things are not as easy is a way to not grow together. I trust my husband I dont have to watch over this man , he has proven his trustworthiness. He is my immediate family. I dont feel anyone outside of your home is your immediate family.
I've been married for 20yrs and I got a job in Boston and my husband lives in Atlanta. I love it. I am my own woman and I love my space and my own place to myself. We still fly out to see one another and our encounters are intense. It works for us and yes... You have to have your own identity separate from your spouse. This helps you to grow and go within. I agree with you 100%. If you don't agree, it's ok. Not everyone is on the same level in their relationship.
Thank you for being receptive. Also, I'm happy you found an arrangement that works for you! Yesss! If someone doesn't agree, that's okay, but unfortunately, not everyone knows how to respectfully disagree 😕 lol.
@@tastePINK You are a Alpha female/ woman and I understand well enough where you were coming from. They can throw you to the wolves with these comments and you'll be the one coming back leading the pack.
Happily married 14 years and going. When people ask us how we made it, our #1 reason is always HONEST COMMUNICATION. We don't argue and fight, we simply have discussions, no matter how tough. Now we are also old school, in the same house but we still make time for our own space when needed. I trust him enough to go out with his friends, and he the same with me. Like Pink said, people do change over time, so it took us at least the first 5 years of our marriage to find what works lol
I appreciate your response. I love that you're happy and you've found what works and you acknowledge it takes time. Thank you for highlighting how important communication is in any healthy relationship/partnership. 💕
See the thing about this subject is that before the pandemic me and my husband were closer than close and spend all of our time together and we love that til this day! We’re the BEST of friends and partners! Don’t get me wrong I have my queendom space aka bedroom, and he enjoys the living room until bedtime and then he comes to bed excited to be with his baby! We are much too close to live separately! Our bond is amazing and we can’t see life without each other which is a true blessing! We are definitely a praying couple and I mean EVERY morning and EVERY night and in between, so we definitely have a special kind of love that we are so thankful for! But I’m not judging anyone else relationship, but that living separate but married thing is DEFINITELY not for us! Blessings! 12 years strong and 4 years married btw💯
I think it's totally fine to want space and acknowledge it. Some people aren't even aware they need space, and hunny, it shows smh. I love living with my partner, but I can respect people who choose not to. I also look forward to us having a 3+ bedroom one day, because ya girl loves a good "diva den" as you said lol. When it comes to marriage, I think people hold on to what they think it is "supposed to be" due to very outdated ideas vs. creating the marriage that truly works for them.
“Some people aren’t even aware they need space.” A WHOLE WORD! I completely respect that you know you enjoy living with your partner, yet still make space for others who may choose to live by different rules/standards. But yess, a good diva den could be a great compromise and offer balance for you and create sustainable peace within the entire shared space. I’m here for it! Thanks for chiming in!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽
A GODLY MARRIAGE IS WHAT TRULY WORKS. However, people can do whatever they choose to do and bare the consequences that come with it. God's way or you way, you decide.
I'm so happy this is working for you! I have family members who had similar arrangements. While each assignment as well as the circumstances can be different, the absence can make the heart grow fonder and deepen the connection. Thank you for sharing 💕🌸
My husband is in the military. He has been in another state for the past few months. People always say to me, “That must be so hard.” I’m like, “Not at all. I love my husband but I love having the house to myself. We FaceTime everyday, that’s good enough.” 😂 I really enjoy my alone time so a long distance marriage work very well for me lol.
I've been married for 11 years and things are getting worse in my life with my partner. My first 2 years unknowingly to me was being controlled by his family 🤔. I left in the 3rd year , but returned after the passing of his mom and then 3 months later my father. Looking back I've been noticing a lot of the things he says he had a problem with me doing he now does if not more! I've been wanting to leave for so long but I'm lost, confused and frustrated! I really appreciate and respect you as a woman for stepping out and finding what suits best for you.i pray I can do the same really soon.
Nothing worse than a relationship with your husband and his family. It should be just the two of you. I pray that you find peace and courage to do what you want and need to do, sis. Give it to God and live your truth. 😘🙏🏽
Anything is possible with an agreement between two people. While I do miss my husband when he’s out of town which is 80% of the time, I am myself I feel when he’s not here. I don’t have to do as much when he’s here. My opinion though.
It is normal to miss your partner when they’re not in the same space as you, especially for an extended period of time. I definitely agree that having an agreement and the tools for healthy communication to honor the covenant of marriage is important.
I know it's been a year but I love this topic & how you aren't afraid of judgement. You have a right to do what works for YOU and not for what a bunch of people on the internet tell you. I plan on having my own space when I get married and my partner is completely on board. The dynamics are changing and I love it.
Yessss. I’m happy you have found what works for you and your partner. That’s all that matters! I’m not afraid of judgment at all, it’s just I’ve found that there are people who are incapable of expanding their thinking (or perspective) beyond their lived experience/circumstances and it lends to poor communication. 😫 But thanks so much for tuning in. 💕🌸
I know two yoga instructors that are married & live across the street from each other. Been going strong for 7 years. The kids think it’s totally normal. Its the second marriage for the man and he said he learned in his first marriage he needs his own space.
This! And it IS normal. Some people don’t know what they want or don’t know HOW to communicate what it is that they really need. It’s interesting to me how people are making this correlation between lack of proximity and the likelihood of infidelity. They’re implying that living in the same space means it’s healthier and infidelity is less likely to happen or won’t happen at all.... 🤣😭😩 ummmmmmm 🥴🥴🥴
My people perish for the lack of knowledge Hosea 4:6 aYoga is demonic practice it is evil..God never tells no man to divorce and marry another. Malachi 2:16 God hates divorce. ..Deception is destroying marriage. Generational curses and cycles are in people lives without them knowing. I encourage everyone to seek God first before they speak upon how they feel being in the flesh brings such destruction.
I had an older cousin who was in her 80s. Her and her husband lived in separate homes. He would come over and take care of things atound the house for her. She would cook dinner for them. And then he would go home. I'm sure when they were younger they got together and bounced arounce the bed. But they were happy.
I love this comment! The “bounced around the bed” is SENDINGGGGGG me, please 😩🤣😭 I love it here!!! Thank you for sharing! It just seems like your older cousin did what she wanted to do, no more, no less 💅🏽 yess
Oddly enough I've been thinking about this lately. Older I get the more I enjoy my alone time just not all the time. I also like things done my way. A lot that you said made sense though. To each their own for sure. I don't knock anything. I agree with a lot of folks conforming to what they believe life should look like. I've learned this along the way. It's ok to create your own rules and lifestyle. I do what makes me happy regardless to what others think. I've heard of people that are married living seperately and thriving... Good chat sis
Hey sis. My husband and I have been married for 5 years and we live together in a house. We're looking to move outside the city and have some land. I most definitely want my own room however my husband is not liking that. Being 5 years in I can tell it may not reach 10 unless I get my own space. I have a garden in our current backyard and that's my escape from everything. My little piece of peace, but it's not enough anymore. I really need my own room to reflect, meditate, walk around naked and not be concerned with being touched. Together we have a daughter who is autistic and I stay home with her. I also have 2 other children so it's a little draining running around all day and then having to being a lover at night. Man I really just want ME back and I'll start with just my own room.
Girlll!! I truly feel u baby living with a man can be mentally draining.. Some people are scared to be alone or die alone sometimes they need that extra security.. I believe some people have great spouse and they complete each other. But I always feel this after this relationship I am in I would never want to live with a man .. I just low key enjoy being alone
Marriage is about communication, understanding and empathy! Keeping an open mind is realistic because we as women change over time( we are not the same person we were when we were 20!!)
I get this. I think it depends on your financial situation also. I have a "Diva Den" but I feel blessed though I not only love my husband but I like him so I don't use it that much. I also respect that marriage is based on the couple, everyone is different. For context, my husband and I live in a large home with no children so when the pandemic hit we retreated to our sides of the house to work. I think that helps.
Definitely need to live with my partner full time and in the same bed and bedroom. But also definitely would want to have common space AND private spaces that we could retreat to when needed.
@@tastePINK so many people want. “Non traditional” things in relationships it’s important to remember that they should have them. Religion, culture, and society do not get to dictate how we live our lives.
I know SEVERAL married couples of varying ages who live separately, but are happy. They have children and come together for family functions, travel, etc. Everyone doesn't want to constantly share space.
👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽 I appreciate this comment. It’s so much more feasible than people may think! I believe we will continue to see more of this as people divest from traditional and somewhat antiquated ideologies.
Currently married for 20 years Been together for 23 just recently in the past 2 years we decided that it would be beneficial that he could could get a second house we still stay in the same house with our 2 younger children when we need a breather he’ll go stay at the other house for a night or two I think it makes us come together stronger we have the time to miss one another we’re extremely happy to see each other o and the love making it’s like next level the communication is definitely there you also have to trust each other as well
I love this! I love that you two came together to figure out what works for the both of you! It is perfectly healthy to make such a decision and it doesn’t mean your happiness or emotional well being is suffering as a result! Shout out to you two deciding on two houses!!! This is my kind of energy!!! 💅🏽💅🏽💅🏽 love that for you both! Best wishes!
Love this comment... The separation can really invite depth and depending on the maturity level create bondage between the two esp I'd there are children involved. Not only that but the growth and whereathal to recognize it.
Thanks ladies it after being Together for so long we’re human we have attitudes our energy was off it’s like we were being distracted and distance in The same house I’m on one level he’s on another level we sat down and tried to figure out what was going on just like pink said we didn’t think about the kids it was messing them up too we included them in our decision we let them know we weren’t getting a divorce daddy is just going to get another house when I need my time he’ll take the kids and they’ll stay at his house for a while mental happiness is everything
@@ShatayaSatre maturity is so important! Having one shared space encompasses so much energy. It can be anxiety inducing for some empaths ! Having a place to retreat to can allow one to recharge, especially for introverts/ambiverts. And you can always come together when you wish 💕🌸
I do believe that having time apart from your partner every now in then, or as often as needed is beneficial. In my opinion it will make your bond even stronger 💪 and I can imagine the love making once you get back together ❤ It makes sense to me, but it's not for everyone
[ HOT COMB & KI ] Do you prefer to live with your partner FULL TIME or would you like a separate space/ a completely different space? Loved the discussion in my IG stories and even included some responses from my stories in today’s video! I love hearing from you all! 🙌🏽🙌🏽
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 You can be apart physically, but still be so much more connected than people sharing the same bed! If this arrangement works for you, that’s what matters 💕🌸
When I first got with my husband I would rent a hotel room maybe once every two weeks just to get away from him and we were okay with it married in the game for 12 years and he's a travel nurse which is truly a blessing because we'll get a week apart and 2 weeks together
Marriage is what you make it. I was married for 16 years before my husband passed away. We live together for the entire marriage except two years when his job relocated him four hours away. Trust and communication is key! He hit that highway to come home at least three times a week. God, I miss that man. During that space, I did notice we loved and listened to each other more. The space didn't break us, we appreciated each other's time and space more. So do you. I would recommend separate rooms before apartments because of the cost, but if you can afford two of everything and you both are mature to handle it...go for it.
I definitely feel if when I’m married, i need the space to have my own. We don’t have to have separate residents, but we need to have enough space not to be on top of each other.
I've been married 10 years and I'm not gonna lie it would be nice to have my own place 😂😂😂 I do think couples shouldn't work AND live together. I need that separation 😂
Liiiisten!!! Working with my partner would give me anxiety. We make money together and then we come HOME together to look at each other?! Let me miss you baby!!!!! 😩😂💕🌸 thanks for adding to the discussion!!
If its boyfriend/girlfriend stage, living separately, I agree with 100%. But if we're engaged and planning a future then we should live together.. If I'm going to live separate from my husband then I would perf us to be polyamorous. I agree with needing space (I'm an Aquarius lol) but thats why we would have a diva/ man den. Or just let your partner know you need some you time, thats achievable living in the same house hold.
See, this is a new and different perspective. Living separately to you means polyamory. LOL that’s interesting, indeed. I’d love others feedback on it too Lolol. But this is you knowing what works for you and your partner 👌🏽
“i’ve been living on my own for so long” THAT PART SIS! i’d love to have my own lil house or condo away from him, because what i refuuuse is to be subject to AAANY of my partners knuckle-head, rowdy ass homeboys & his misc. company. you know how disruptive “aLpH4 MaL3z” can be when they’re 3+ deep 😒🙄🤦🏽♀️
I just started back dating a guy I've dated before. He bought me a .25 ct diamond promise ring he's talking about proposal to me later. But I'm so scared to get out my single comfort zone.
Been married for 17 yrs and I couldn't see myself living in a different space than my husband but I'm so for having your own space/alone time b/c everyone needs that time to recoup. Love the discussions
I love living separate from my partner. I have my own place, he has his. It just works, he doesn't tell me how to run my household and I don't tell him how to run his. He is a really intense guy, so I need to just be free lol. I love this. People have their own traditions and the beauty of it is you can create a life that makes you happy and mentally healthy.
I have been married I have been in long-term relationships this is the first time I’ve ever been with a partner and staying in separate household and I love it I have a peace of mind and I need my space girl thank you so much for your time and listening and sharing keep it coming sis💕💕💕
Yes!!! I’m so happy that you’ve found an arrangement that works for you and your partner! Trust me, that peace of mind goes a long way! Yess to maintaining your own space and still having success within your relationship!
I was married for 10 years, I didnt like it. Now I'm single & enjoy dating or having a companion who has their own place & own life. We spend time with each other ..& thats good enough for me. I like it.
Guuurrrrlll, lol, I think you can be a great spouse and parent with having your own space, away or in the same house. I've been with my hubby 22 yrs, and we have 3 children, the last being a baby. My honey has moved to the basement, and baby sleeps with me. It works for us he enjoys the time alone down there doing whatever, and I enjoy my time upstairs, we have intimate and bonding time with each other and the kids. We good! It can definitely work. We got married really young and didnt have that space from each other or knowledge. Whats important is to have a sense of identity and time to yourself
Girl I can’t with you!!! Every wig, crotchet style, every makeup product you post I want the day before yesterday (and I don’t go in for short pixie wigs but youuuu😍😍😍 kill it ALL so I’ve got short wigs on my list of to buys) I’m over here like Santa making my list and checking it twice to get all the wigs and makeup in your videos! Thank you so much, you encourage sistas like me for whom makeup is tinted lipgloss and cleopatra liner to get excited about makeup! Thank you so much!🙏🏾
I am old-fashioned. I think that if you are married, that you should live together. You can still have your own space, living together... I agree that having your own space and time is important. If you don't trust the person that you are marrying, that is a major concern. If you don't want to live together, then maybe you should forget about marriage and keep dating. Not everyone needs to be married with kids. You can still have a fulfilling life if marriage isn't for you.
😩 I feel like a lot of your assumptions may be a bit of a reach. To be honest, having multiple properties is high key a goal of mine and if I can enjoy the perks of living separately at my discretion, of course after communicating with my partner, I think that’s sooooo worth it.
Love being put on to success stories! Was this something you established early on? Or did it take time to arrive at this decision. I appreciate your input 💕🌸
Its refreshing to have someone with a similar mindset of my own. The only way i will ever get married is if we have separate houses. We can sleep in the same bed every other night. And can come and go in each house as we please.
@@jamoni1220 You are correct. Your life to live and you consequences to bare. We have two choices in this life, your way or Gods way. You have made your choice. May God have mercy on your soul.
@@greatfuliam412 me my husband and our souls will be just fine. Because lady no where has god ever told you that living in separate homes is against his word. Your ignorance is amusing.
@@jamoni1220 Laugh if you will, but again YOUR CHOICE YOUR CONSEQUENCES. Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.
Thank you so much for addressing this. Glad to know I'm not the only one who wants to have their cake and eat it too!! Like... love you but your Uber is ready haha 🤣
😂😂🤣🤣 LMAO! Damn you said your Uber is ready! I mean, they could technically live next door, across the street, around the corner lmao! But if you two like a lil distance, ayeee! 🙌🏽
I'm celibate of many years, I could expound much on the blessings, growth and beauty to the Soul of having "self space", but I'm not married, so due to the Wisdom gained thru this Journey... this is where I've learned to keep my 2 cents to myself.. So I sipped my Strawberry Margarita🍓and kept it moving listening and watchin you slay this wig and of course I'm gonna read y'all comments.💗
If my wisdom and insight on things is limited to that of which I have first hand experience with, that would be quite a narrow minded life. I’m an intellectual and I’m quite pensive. For example, you may have never been incarcerated but can still speak on the deleterious effects of prison industrial complex (if you are educated on the matter) like I- ... you lost me lol.
@@tastePINK O wow, you lost me too. Well I'm far from "narrow minded" Sis. I understand what your saying but wrong person. I am educated and I definitely know how to articulate my opinions and ideas. I did express my take on needing space as being highly beneficial to the soul, I just didn't want to impart my personal opinions of it in marriage and I feel that 's fine that I didn't wish to do so. But hey, I like watching you and subscribed and I leave comments so I guess I am just as open to public opinion and judgement as you are even if they come from you. Have a great day Sis.
@@nnaturalheaven3754 😩 this isn’t an attack on you nor how you articulate yourself via text. You can have an opinion lol. I encourage it. You can respectfully share your perspective. I try to make the space safe enough because I want people to engage. I appreciate your follow up comment because your response offered more clarity. Thank you 💕
@@tastePINK Aww, I'm so happy.🤗 Actually what you didn't know was that was my daughter's B-day that day, she turned 26 (Happy B-day to all Gemini's!) So we was sippin the Margarita's and talking about the subject cause i clicked on your video. She's in a long-term relationship where they do everything like they are married, even financially, and they don't live together either and she loves it that way! I was voicing my opinion on the matter, but I'm celibate and always talking about the peace it brings me so she reminded me of that and said "well why aren't you getting married then? (cuz I'm 50 and I lived with a man before and I don't wanna, lol) But.. I wanted them to get married and move in together. Double standard right! (I just want to be a Glam'ma and they aint ready for kids) So she always says Mom, I love you but sometimes you should keep your opinions of my relationship to yourself and just be my Mom. So my Wisdom told me to shet it, do the same for you and watch the video and and sip! Do what works for you beautiful, my daughter sure is, and I wish you both success!
Yes time alone is needed. I’m married and live in a 1 floor house, being crowded on each other can get a bit much. He has his man cave and I have my relaxation room. It works we block each other out when needed. But living separately wouldn’t feel like marriage it’ll just feel like we’re dating again, we got married to build a life together. I would feel like we’re moving backwards. Btw.. u look amazing 😍😍😍
Heyyyyyyy Pink! I'm married with 3 children It's been 15yrs. .... and a lot of change/growth has occurred!! We live in a 5bdrm. apt. So one room is his man cave!! It is imperative to get space in our home!!! However we wouldn't/couldn't be in separate homes... we're both pretty needy!! 🤪🤎... #respectiskey SB.. my grandparents slept in separate beds for 40 plus years... whatever flats your 🚢... is awesomeness 🤎🤎🤎
I agree about the separate living spaces, I have 2 adult children and a 16 year old and I’m about to leave the husband here and get me an apartment for me and my 16 year old. I love my husband but I need my own space right now
@@shakebalettsome3296 Mental clarity and productivity were major factors for people wanting to live alone! Like, it’s a thing! Did you decide early on that you’d live separate from your partner? I’d love to learn more! Thanks for joining the discussion.
I didn't know it was a thing actually. I don't know if I can live with anybody. I love my own space. I'm also incredibly introverted so too many people around in space irritates me.
I been married for 8 yrs and with my partner for 21 yrs.. yes we live in an apartment and we are looking for our first home.. Not to mention we are on our 4th kid and last lol.. but I listened to you and I hear this from some of my friends.. I feel like if you don't get to the point that your best friends that's where those thoughts come in.. I can't imagine living separate but a lil break room smoke room or prayer room is definitely needed once you get a home.. great topic by the way.
I'm a gurl-cave kinda Gal. I'm an only child, so I've always needed my space. My husband comes from a large family. We've been together 24yrs this past April. I love having him close but he understands and always respected my need to be completely alone sometimes.
I’ve been married 17 years and my husband and I have always worked opposite schedules so it’s basically like we don’t live together. We see each other about an hour and then he’s out the door to work and we share weekends together and it works very well...I get wanting your space and couples should discuss what they want prior to marriage so there’s no shock or surprise.
I have been married for 26 years in July and I am old school, love living together with my husband and I have always been my own person. ( but if you want different spaces then don't get married or live together. but sis always do what works for you.
Love the hair! I am a little old fashion yes everyone needs their own space but when people are separate 90% to 50% even you get use to all that separation, your first thought is to go to your space to get away. But to each their own on their marriage.
I love your videos, your lace fronts never show. ❤. I'm married, will be celebrating 13 years on the 13th of June, we live in our house together with 6 children. IMO - When you get married, you and your spouse agree to become 1, support each other, etc., so how do you 2 grow together, learn one another's ways (deeply), etc. if y'all not living together? Once you have a child, you both are equally responsible for that child. You put self 'wants' after your child "needs." Man caves, she sheds, and spare rooms in the home - helps when you need a minute to yourself. If you have a very small child, all you get is a minute🤔 - because they need our constant attention🤦♀️. Trust me, I know that part for sure. To each - their own, what works for one, may not work for the other.
Widow's Peak Crew and new subbie; married for 6 years (together 11) with no kids in a house. The panorama taught us that we need more space for WFH offices and caves/personal space, BECAUSE SANITY!
If you can remember or have watched old tv shows in the 50's, they slept in single beds or what we refer to as ten beds. Some still do in other ethnicities.
My husband thought I was crazy when I said I wanted my own room. We all need our own space. So he has the second owner suite upstairs and I have main one downstairs suite.
I know my way of thinking is different from most. My comment is not to bash anyone. I think there is nothing wrong with wanting a space so you can decompress. The problem becomes when you feel that space needs to be in another home. I think it is selfish to say I love you and want to be your husband or wife but you can't share my space. Yes, I understand we all get use to being alone. However, marriage is about sharing your space. Overcoming the things that cast fear and doubt in your heart. Marriage is about being one in all things. It's about working through what makes you different and finding common ground. When you do things apart from your wife or husband it leaves the door open for the devil to provide temptation. I am not a religious person and I never will be. I do believe in God and I trust in his word. To be set apart from your husband is aginst what God tells us is correct. We have to be careful what we teach our children. We set the standard for what they think is right in this world. If you need the space find space in the home. Set boundries for the time you need to be alone. Go out with your girlfriends. Get a she shead if need be but separation is not the answer.
Yesss! There are plenty of people who share similar beliefs. There is a space for you and such a living arrangement is possible! A lot of people prefer to live together due to fear of infidelity and I can’t relate 😩
I love your hair! So natural looking. People don't trust God enough. When you marry you are supposed to go through thick and thin TOGETHER. Don't be fooled. Satan will find a way to make you regret the decision to live separately. And they should not expect God to bless a marriage where the home is divided in anyway.🙏🏽🌴🌏
@@tastePINK That's so sad. When He soon reveals Himself on His Great Day of retribution, people will be just like those in Sodom and Gomorrah and the days of the Flood. I am praying everyone gets to know Him before it is too late!🙏🏽
This is a 🔥 topic! I love being married to my husband. We don't have any kids together. However, I have two step daughters, but they are grown and doing their own thang! I love living with my current husband, we live in a condo and trying to move in a house. We give each other space and this helps a lot. Living in separate homes is something I should have done with my first husband. That might've saved me a lot of headaches! Lol, well I'm very happy now😁
Sometimes living separately is key for married couples. It is not for everyone tho. One of my aunts was married over 33 years (until her death a couple years ago) her and my uncle had separate homes, over 100 miles away. She married him when she was in her forties, and in an established career and she did not want to leave her city. But they made it work, spent every weekend together and all holidays. Their love was solid and beautiful.
I've been married for 23yrs, and have wanted to OWN just a small home, where I can go just be ALONE for a week or two, but since I can't afford, I will take time away from home and go to a hotel, for a weekend, til I can get me a She Shed made like "THE PERFECT GETAWAY for MEEE", sometimes, you just want that ALONE time..and just focus on YOU, and it's not the same as being alone in a room, away from the family for an hour or two NOT the same at all...
Everyone has to figure out their own agreements in their own marriage. So I don’t knock people for choosing to live apart. My husband and I are newlyweds and we live apart, but not by choice. It’s because the housing market is crazy right now and we’re having a hard time finding a new place together. We’re a blended family, so we need a bigger place than either of us has right now. I would not want to continue to live in a separate house from my husband, because I love him too much to have to leave him on a regular basis. It’s hard enough now when we have to say goodbye and go back to our separate homes. Also, the struggle is real financially. Paying for two mortgages, utilities, repairs, maintenance, etc. just so that we don’t have to stay in the same house is very expensive while trying to raise kids. That’s a lot of money that could be put towards asset building or savings for the children.
As always another awesome video. Do you do hair? I would love to book an appointment for a crochet style or something lol. Your videos always make me want to get dressed and find something to do.
My Husband and I have our own separate bedrooms. He would prefer us to share the same bedroom, but I need my own space. There is no way he would accept us living in separate homes!
Hot Comb and KI ❤️ it. Loving the curl pattern of this unit you look Gorgeous. I’ve been married for many years and we don’t have separate spaces at the moment and I don’t think nothing is wrong with separate spaces within our home.
New subscriber here (we met in the comments of your most recent vid 😉). I was dating/married during what I call “the best years of my life.” Now in my 40s (the next best years of my life), I enjoy my independence with the occasional intimate moments and quality time. I can certainly appreciate the concept of you, me, and us...just not altogether. SN: I love my Felicia Leatherwood brush ❤️
As an introvert who loves solitude, my biggest concern when it comes to getting married is personal space 😂 I've always thought I'd have an extra room outside reserved as my own space
Y'all new kids this generation wow. Well good luck on finding a man and a husband that share those ideal marriage goals with and it actually working out to bring a healthy yet committing marriage.
A lot of y’all are not in love or really don’t like your husbands 🤷🏾♀️ black men need to be in a home raising their daughters and sons protecting the black family black women are not even getting married like that the women that are coming up now will take your husbands gladly if you don’t don’t want him 🤷🏾♀️ let him go why live separate lives ? Let him find a women that needs or want a man to help her have and raise kings and queens black family’s need to build a real 1 not going for this unless he has a side chick ....anyway you look fabulous darling as usual
This response is giving VERY male identified energy! I’m surprised you decided to attack and defame (Black) women 😩 Thanks for the compliment, but beyond this I have no further comment.
You have to marry someone who believes in separate spaces too. When I brought it up to my ex, it made him feel like I didn't want to be with him. Even after I explained my views on it, it wasn't his definition of marriage and how it's supposed to look. For him it was a big red flag. For me it means providing a place of peace.
Every relationship is different and I truly believe that there should be some compromise. Both parties should do what’s conducive for them. Dolly Parton’s marriage was the same. She’s been married for decades, Dolly and her husband share different houses on the same acre of land and she’ll tell you in a minute that it’s worked for her. I really do believe that different residents makes a marriage last longer but that’s me. If you have trust issues with your partner then TRUST your always gonna have them, then maybe he or she is not for you.
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Sweetie, I am an older woman, and let me tell you I, would love love love to have a place of my own to go to. When these men get older, they can be worst than babies to take care of. They can drive you crazy especially if you were out there with them, and then you no longer want to hang in the streets with them partying, because you have turned your life over to the sweet Creator, and they are not about that life. I have to pray a lot and do a lot of repenting. Please don't let them have a sexual problem and can't perform anymore. They don't trust you at the beginning of their problem, or maybe never again. I must have been crazy to do this a second time. I do look forward to the times when he goes out of town with his buddies. That"s when I really get my peace to praise the Lord like I like to do and not have to cook for anyone if I don't want to, which after getting older I hate more than I did when I was a young woman. Living in an apartment, although I have my computer room, which saves my sanity, it's not like having a house with more rooms. Don't get me wrong I love my husband, and he is very quiet, but when he gets on your last nerve during an argument, although they are few, and you just can't stand looking at him, so yes a place of your own sounds like a piece of heaven although I would probably miss him after a few hours of being alone. We have been together for over 25 years.
Side note... a lot of you guys’ grand daddy’s had separate households and no one knew until 18 years later 😂. Let me stop.... 😩👏🏾
This REALLY it!!!!!!!!!! Speak on it! 🤣😂😭 It’s the underlying FEAR of infidelity that has truly dominated this discussion! I wanted to talk about this and the whole “mistress across the street THAT THE WIFE KNEW ABOUT,” but I said let me leave that ALONEEEEE. It’s a very sensitive topic and I’ll extend some grace here.
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@@tastePINK Facts
@Mz Ahmayzen and DID!
Note to side note: it was for other women or side family he had too. ALSO.... grandma wasn't happy with it either.
I'm married and I cant see myself living in a separate home but girl a different bedroom hell yess. I need something to myself sometimes. My grandparents had different bedrooms growing up and it worked well.
I have separate bedrooms in my home , married at 38 now 65 yrs old. Love it. .
Mine too!!!!
I totally understand! My husband, and I have our separate spaces, within the house. Separate homes can invite infidelity. Marriage isn’t about testing one’s self-control. However, I do believe marriage should be defined by the individuals involved.
Yes! I definitely think marriage should be defined by the individuals involved! I’m glad you know what works for you while being respectful of how others define happiness. I’m not sure space invites infidelity though lol 😂
If your spouse is going to cheat, they will do it whether you sleep in separate homes, or sleeping right next to each other every night.
@@MsPhatGirlSlim 😭😩🥴 THIS!!!!! THANK YOU! Proximity in no way deters or encourages infidelity. The likelihood of somewhat cheating is not based on whether you share the same home/bed/apartment/condo. Some people are indirectly helping me prove my point that their decision to stay close is for purposes of surveillance which is rooted in insecurity/fear 🤷🏽♀️
@@tastePINK 😅😅😭😭😖😫😅😅
@@tastePINK I think that it’s not surveillance but focus apart even you said you can focus on other things and be more productive. Yet to much space and focus on other aspects in my opinion (mind you not knocking anyone else) leads to a focus on a different lifestyle for some..instead of you integrating your lives it is much easier to seek solace in your own personal space and develop the mindset of someone that is single. This can lead to a person taking interest in others in their environment that they spend more time with (work associates, gym partners,etc..) yes an in home marriage doesn’t guarantee fidelity but it does enforce the mindset of a union and make it more difficult to cheat than having your (technically own bachelor or bachelorette pad) this is merely my opinion ☺️
Married for 19 years. We lived in the same house we built 20 years ago. I wouldn’t have it any other way. We have enough space for each of us to have our alone time. We only have 2 kids 15 &20, our 20yr is away at school, we practically empty nesters! The key for us is to still be an individual while in a relationship
Shauna El, ABSOLUTELY!!!!!! I've been married for 26 yrs and you are right on point. I as an individual MUST have my own time and space, for my own personal growth, as well as the health (Spiritually, Mentally, Physically, Emotionally,) of our marriage. This is something that my husband had to learn to understand, and now it is wonderful.
I don't know what peoples religious or spiritual beliefs are, but being married and living apart is outside of what God ordains as marriage. Also, I can't help but wonder, when Ms. Taste Pink got married did she take the usual marriage vows, or was her marriage ceremony also outside of what God ordains as marriage. Just wondering. Either way, there'd Gods way, and there's our way, AND THE CONSEQUENCES THAT COMES WITH IT.
I really love this and this is Gods way. No matter how the culture changes Gods will never chnages.
My limit is a man cave or a woman’s nest…within the SAME house…the whole idea of marriage to is oneness…one marriage, one house…
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Marriage is not one size fits all. It’s an ongoing negotiation. Do what works for you.
I agree! Do what works for you, but be open to what may work for you, even if it is unconventional. Based on the commentary, it may be possible some people don’t even know what works for them because they may be shallow thinkers or don’t even know how to initiate a conversation regarding boundaries about space.
Married 22 yrs. Anyone not living with you is an outsider. You may associate with them but living with someone is a whole other level of intimate. You are even closer if you share a bedroom. I have had both worlds sharing a bedroom with my husband AND having separate rooms. We are not as close in separate rooms as when we did sharing one. Living in separate residence would bring in another level of separation. Yes you can have your own space but giving someone an escape route out when things are not as easy is a way to not grow together. I trust my husband I dont have to watch over this man , he has proven his trustworthiness. He is my immediate family. I dont feel anyone outside of your home is your immediate family.
This!
Marriage is about growing together ❤️
I love this statment 💪🏾
I've been married for 20yrs and I got a job in Boston and my husband lives in Atlanta. I love it. I am my own woman and I love my space and my own place to myself. We still fly out to see one another and our encounters are intense. It works for us and yes... You have to have your own identity separate from your spouse. This helps you to grow and go within. I agree with you 100%. If you don't agree, it's ok. Not everyone is on the same level in their relationship.
Thank you for being receptive. Also, I'm happy you found an arrangement that works for you! Yesss! If someone doesn't agree, that's okay, but unfortunately, not everyone knows how to respectfully disagree 😕 lol.
@@tastePINK You are a Alpha female/ woman and I understand well enough where you were coming from. They can throw you to the wolves with these comments and you'll be the one coming back leading the pack.
Happily married 14 years and going. When people ask us how we made it, our #1 reason is always HONEST COMMUNICATION. We don't argue and fight, we simply have discussions, no matter how tough. Now we are also old school, in the same house but we still make time for our own space when needed. I trust him enough to go out with his friends, and he the same with me. Like Pink said, people do change over time, so it took us at least the first 5 years of our marriage to find what works lol
I appreciate your response. I love that you're happy and you've found what works and you acknowledge it takes time. Thank you for highlighting how important communication is in any healthy relationship/partnership. 💕
@@tastePINK You're Welcome 😉💕
See the thing about this subject is that before the pandemic me and my husband were closer than close and spend all of our time together and we love that til this day! We’re the BEST of friends and partners! Don’t get me wrong I have my queendom space aka bedroom, and he enjoys the living room until bedtime and then he comes to bed excited to be with his baby! We are much too close to live separately! Our bond is amazing and we can’t see life without each other which is a true blessing! We are definitely a praying couple and I mean EVERY morning and EVERY night and in between, so we definitely have a special kind of love that we are so thankful for! But I’m not judging anyone else relationship, but that living separate but married thing is DEFINITELY not for us! Blessings! 12 years strong and 4 years married btw💯
I love this post. Prayers 🙏🏾 for many more years to come!
I think it's totally fine to want space and acknowledge it. Some people aren't even aware they need space, and hunny, it shows smh. I love living with my partner, but I can respect people who choose not to. I also look forward to us having a 3+ bedroom one day, because ya girl loves a good "diva den" as you said lol. When it comes to marriage, I think people hold on to what they think it is "supposed to be" due to very outdated ideas vs. creating the marriage that truly works for them.
“Some people aren’t even aware they need space.” A WHOLE WORD! I completely respect that you know you enjoy living with your partner, yet still make space for others who may choose to live by different rules/standards. But yess, a good diva den could be a great compromise and offer balance for you and create sustainable peace within the entire shared space. I’m here for it! Thanks for chiming in!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽
A GODLY MARRIAGE IS WHAT TRULY WORKS. However, people can do whatever they choose to do and bare the consequences that come with it. God's way or you way, you decide.
I’m married but military, so the time away is always a hidden gem. 😂🥴 it’s clarifying and good for the soul.
I'm so happy this is working for you! I have family members who had similar arrangements. While each assignment as well as the circumstances can be different, the absence can make the heart grow fonder and deepen the connection. Thank you for sharing 💕🌸
Girl Yass!!
We have been deployed so many times that I don’t even bat an eye anymore! Lol
My husband is in the military. He has been in another state for the past few months. People always say to me, “That must be so hard.” I’m like, “Not at all. I love my husband but I love having the house to myself. We FaceTime everyday, that’s good enough.” 😂 I really enjoy my alone time so a long distance marriage work very well for me lol.
@@DeniseRene407 as much as we miss each other I believe it actually helps our marriage
Girl yes ! Newlywed and husband just deployed and watching UA-cam to keep me sane 😩😄 glad I finally found her page
I've been married for 11 years and things are getting worse in my life with my partner. My first 2 years unknowingly to me was being controlled by his family 🤔. I left in the 3rd year , but returned after the passing of his mom and then 3 months later my father. Looking back I've been noticing a lot of the things he says he had a problem with me doing he now does if not more! I've been wanting to leave for so long but I'm lost, confused and frustrated! I really appreciate and respect you as a woman for stepping out and finding what suits best for you.i pray I can do the same really soon.
Oh my!! I pray you find what's best for you asap!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Nothing worse than a relationship with your husband and his family. It should be just the two of you. I pray that you find peace and courage to do what you want and need to do, sis. Give it to God and live your truth. 😘🙏🏽
Anything is possible with an agreement between two people. While I do miss my husband when he’s out of town which is 80% of the time, I am
myself I feel when he’s not here. I don’t have to do as much when he’s here. My opinion though.
It is normal to miss your partner when they’re not in the same space as you, especially for an extended period of time. I definitely agree that having an agreement and the tools for healthy communication to honor the covenant of marriage is important.
I know it's been a year but I love this topic & how you aren't afraid of judgement. You have a right to do what works for YOU and not for what a bunch of people on the internet tell you. I plan on having my own space when I get married and my partner is completely on board. The dynamics are changing and I love it.
Yessss. I’m happy you have found what works for you and your partner. That’s all that matters! I’m not afraid of judgment at all, it’s just I’ve found that there are people who are incapable of expanding their thinking (or perspective) beyond their lived experience/circumstances and it lends to poor communication. 😫 But thanks so much for tuning in. 💕🌸
I know two yoga instructors that are married & live across the street from each other. Been going strong for 7 years. The kids think it’s totally normal. Its the second marriage for the man and he said he learned in his first marriage he needs his own space.
This! And it IS normal. Some people don’t know what they want or don’t know HOW to communicate what it is that they really need. It’s interesting to me how people are making this correlation between lack of proximity and the likelihood of infidelity. They’re implying that living in the same space means it’s healthier and infidelity is less likely to happen or won’t happen at all.... 🤣😭😩 ummmmmmm 🥴🥴🥴
My people perish for the lack of knowledge Hosea 4:6 aYoga is demonic practice it is evil..God never tells no man to divorce and marry another. Malachi 2:16 God hates divorce. ..Deception is destroying marriage. Generational curses and cycles are in people lives without them knowing. I encourage everyone to seek God first before they speak upon how they feel being in the flesh brings such destruction.
I think Communication is key, without it there’s no relationship.....
A WORD!!!!! This is so very true and this is one of the points I’ve been trying to drive home!
I had an older cousin who was in her 80s. Her and her husband lived in separate homes. He would come over and take care of things atound the house for her. She would cook dinner for them. And then he would go home. I'm sure when they were younger they got together and bounced arounce the bed. But they were happy.
I love this comment! The “bounced around the bed” is SENDINGGGGGG me, please 😩🤣😭 I love it here!!! Thank you for sharing! It just seems like your older cousin did what she wanted to do, no more, no less 💅🏽 yess
Oddly enough I've been thinking about this lately. Older I get the more I enjoy my alone time just not all the time. I also like things done my way. A lot that you said made sense though. To each their own for sure. I don't knock anything. I agree with a lot of folks conforming to what they believe life should look like. I've learned this along the way. It's ok to create your own rules and lifestyle. I do what makes me happy regardless to what others think. I've heard of people that are married living seperately and thriving... Good chat sis
Hey sis. My husband and I have been married for 5 years and we live together in a house. We're looking to move outside the city and have some land. I most definitely want my own room however my husband is not liking that. Being 5 years in I can tell it may not reach 10 unless I get my own space. I have a garden in our current backyard and that's my escape from everything. My little piece of peace, but it's not enough anymore. I really need my own room to reflect, meditate, walk around naked and not be concerned with being touched. Together we have a daughter who is autistic and I stay home with her. I also have 2 other children so it's a little draining running around all day and then having to being a lover at night. Man I really just want ME back and I'll start with just my own room.
One lady mentioned a Diva Den 💜 if he gets a man cave or nice grill area, you should get what you need to feel like yourself again.
Girlll!! I truly feel u baby living with a man can be mentally draining.. Some people are scared to be alone or die alone sometimes they need that extra security.. I believe some people have great spouse and they complete each other. But I always feel this after this relationship I am in I would never want to live with a man .. I just low key enjoy being alone
Marriage is about communication, understanding and empathy! Keeping an open mind is realistic because we as women change over time( we are not the same person we were when we were 20!!)
I get this. I think it depends on your financial situation also. I have a "Diva Den" but I feel blessed though I not only love my husband but I like him so I don't use it that much. I also respect that marriage is based on the couple, everyone is different.
For context, my husband and I live in a large home with no children so when the pandemic hit we retreated to our sides of the house to work. I think that helps.
Definitely need to live with my partner full time and in the same bed and bedroom. But also definitely would want to have common space AND private spaces that we could retreat to when needed.
Lol you know you want to be cozied up with your partner full time and I love that for you! I appreciate you sharing respectfully 💕🌸
@@tastePINK so many people want. “Non traditional” things in relationships it’s important to remember that they should have them. Religion, culture, and society do not get to dictate how we live our lives.
I know SEVERAL married couples of varying ages who live separately, but are happy. They have children and come together for family functions, travel, etc. Everyone doesn't want to constantly share space.
👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽 I appreciate this comment. It’s so much more feasible than people may think! I believe we will continue to see more of this as people divest from traditional and somewhat antiquated ideologies.
THEN WHY GET MARRIED AT ALL???? WHAT IS THE POINT??
Currently married for 20 years Been together for 23 just recently in the past 2 years we decided that it would be beneficial that he could could get a second house we still stay in the same house with our 2 younger children when we need a breather he’ll go stay at the other house for a night or two I think it makes us come together stronger we have the time to miss one another we’re extremely happy to see each other o and the love making it’s like next level the communication is definitely there you also have to trust each other as well
I love this! I love that you two came together to figure out what works for the both of you! It is perfectly healthy to make such a decision and it doesn’t mean your happiness or emotional well being is suffering as a result! Shout out to you two deciding on two houses!!! This is my kind of energy!!! 💅🏽💅🏽💅🏽 love that for you both! Best wishes!
Love this comment... The separation can really invite depth and depending on the maturity level create bondage between the two esp I'd there are children involved. Not only that but the growth and whereathal to recognize it.
Thanks ladies it after being Together for so long we’re human we have attitudes our energy was off it’s like we were being distracted and distance in The same house I’m on one level he’s on another level we sat down and tried to figure out what was going on just like pink said we didn’t think about the kids it was messing them up too we included them in our decision we let them know we weren’t getting a divorce daddy is just going to get another house when I need my time he’ll take the kids and they’ll stay at his house for a while mental happiness is everything
@@ShatayaSatre maturity is so important! Having one shared space encompasses so much energy. It can be anxiety inducing for some empaths ! Having a place to retreat to can allow one to recharge, especially for introverts/ambiverts. And you can always come together when you wish 💕🌸
I do believe that having time apart from your partner every now in then, or as often as needed is beneficial. In my opinion it will make your bond even stronger 💪 and I can imagine the love making once you get back together ❤ It makes sense to me, but it's not for everyone
[ HOT COMB & KI ] Do you prefer to live with your partner FULL TIME or would you like a separate space/ a completely different space?
Loved the discussion in my IG stories and even included some responses from my stories in today’s video! I love hearing from you all! 🙌🏽🙌🏽
Living Apart Together
Trust me it's a thing & I love it!
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 You can be apart physically, but still be so much more connected than people sharing the same bed! If this arrangement works for you, that’s what matters 💕🌸
Amen!
When I first got with my husband I would rent a hotel room maybe once every two weeks just to get away from him and we were okay with it married in the game for 12 years and he's a travel nurse which is truly a blessing because we'll get a week apart and 2 weeks together
Marriage is what you make it. I was married for 16 years before my husband passed away. We live together for the entire marriage except two years when his job relocated him four hours away. Trust and communication is key! He hit that highway to come home at least three times a week. God, I miss that man. During that space, I did notice we loved and listened to each other more. The space didn't break us, we appreciated each other's time and space more. So do you. I would recommend separate rooms before apartments because of the cost, but if you can afford two of everything and you both are mature to handle it...go for it.
I definitely feel if when I’m married, i need the space to have my own. We don’t have to have separate residents, but we need to have enough space not to be on top of each other.
I've been married 10 years and I'm not gonna lie it would be nice to have my own place 😂😂😂 I do think couples shouldn't work AND live together. I need that separation 😂
Liiiisten!!! Working with my partner would give me anxiety. We make money together and then we come HOME together to look at each other?! Let me miss you baby!!!!! 😩😂💕🌸 thanks for adding to the discussion!!
We been cooped up too long friend. Married 11 years..... would LOVE to have my own space...... kid free too.... ok my daughter could come. 🥰
@@tastePINK exactly!! 😂😂😘😘
If its boyfriend/girlfriend stage, living separately, I agree with 100%. But if we're engaged and planning a future then we should live together.. If I'm going to live separate from my husband then I would perf us to be polyamorous. I agree with needing space (I'm an Aquarius lol) but thats why we would have a diva/ man den. Or just let your partner know you need some you time, thats achievable living in the same house hold.
See, this is a new and different perspective. Living separately to you means polyamory. LOL that’s interesting, indeed. I’d love others feedback on it too Lolol. But this is you knowing what works for you and your partner 👌🏽
“i’ve been living on my own for so long” THAT PART SIS! i’d love to have my own lil house or condo away from him, because what i refuuuse is to be subject to AAANY of my partners knuckle-head, rowdy ass homeboys & his misc. company. you know how disruptive “aLpH4 MaL3z” can be when they’re 3+ deep 😒🙄🤦🏽♀️
I just started back dating a guy I've dated before. He bought me a .25 ct diamond promise ring he's talking about proposal to me later. But I'm so scared to get out my single comfort zone.
Just so I'm clear, you two dated previously, broke up, then began dating again, to which he offered a promise ring?
If you are afraid, then, please do not get married.
Been married for 17 yrs and I couldn't see myself living in a different space than my husband but I'm so for having your own space/alone time b/c everyone needs that time to recoup. Love the discussions
I love living separate from my partner. I have my own place, he has his. It just works, he doesn't tell me how to run my household and I don't tell him how to run his. He is a really intense guy, so I need to just be free lol. I love this. People have their own traditions and the beauty of it is you can create a life that makes you happy and mentally healthy.
With partner I think so... but marriage that doesn't sound like marriage.
I have been married I have been in long-term relationships this is the first time I’ve ever been with a partner and staying in separate household and I love it I have a peace of mind and I need my space girl thank you so much for your time and listening and sharing keep it coming sis💕💕💕
Yes!!! I’m so happy that you’ve found an arrangement that works for you and your partner! Trust me, that peace of mind goes a long way! Yess to maintaining your own space and still having success within your relationship!
I was married for 10 years, I didnt like it. Now I'm single & enjoy dating or having a companion who has their own place & own life. We spend time with each other ..& thats good enough for me. I like it.
Guuurrrrlll, lol, I think you can be a great spouse and parent with having your own space, away or in the same house. I've been with my hubby 22 yrs, and we have 3 children, the last being a baby. My honey has moved to the basement, and baby sleeps with me. It works for us he enjoys the time alone down there doing whatever, and I enjoy my time upstairs, we have intimate and bonding time with each other and the kids. We good! It can definitely work. We got married really young and didnt have that space from each other or knowledge. Whats important is to have a sense of identity and time to yourself
No way I LOVE living with my Husband!!!! But I am a Flight Attendant so I'm not home all of the time either....
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I am old-fashioned. I think that if you are married, that you should live together. You can still have your own space, living together... I agree that having your own space and time is important. If you don't trust the person that you are marrying, that is a major concern. If you don't want to live together, then maybe you should forget about marriage and keep dating. Not everyone needs to be married with kids. You can still have a fulfilling life if marriage isn't for you.
😩 I feel like a lot of your assumptions may be a bit of a reach. To be honest, having multiple properties is high key a goal of mine and if I can enjoy the perks of living separately at my discretion, of course after communicating with my partner, I think that’s sooooo worth it.
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I don't live with my husband either love it's great!!
Love being put on to success stories! Was this something you established early on? Or did it take time to arrive at this decision. I appreciate your input 💕🌸
Its refreshing to have someone with a similar mindset of my own. The only way i will ever get married is if we have separate houses. We can sleep in the same bed every other night. And can come and go in each house as we please.
THAT IS NOT MARRIAGE. If that is how you want to live, then just don't get married
@@greatfuliam412 ma’am you can not define what someone else’s marriage entails. I said what I said. And this will be MY marriage.
@@jamoni1220 You are correct. Your life to live and you consequences to bare. We have two choices in this life, your way or Gods way. You have made your choice. May God have mercy on your soul.
@@greatfuliam412 me my husband and our souls will be just fine. Because lady no where has god ever told you that living in separate homes is against his word. Your ignorance is amusing.
@@jamoni1220 Laugh if you will, but again YOUR CHOICE YOUR CONSEQUENCES. Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. The one who sows to please his sinful nature, from that nature will reap destruction; the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.
Thank you so much for addressing this. Glad to know I'm not the only one who wants to have their cake and eat it too!! Like... love you but your Uber is ready haha 🤣
😂😂🤣🤣 LMAO! Damn you said your Uber is ready! I mean, they could technically live next door, across the street, around the corner lmao! But if you two like a lil distance, ayeee! 🙌🏽
I'm celibate of many years, I could expound much on the blessings, growth and beauty to the Soul of having "self space", but I'm not married, so due to the Wisdom gained thru this Journey... this is where I've learned to keep my 2 cents to myself.. So I sipped my Strawberry Margarita🍓and kept it moving listening and watchin you slay this wig and of course I'm gonna read y'all comments.💗
If my wisdom and insight on things is limited to that of which I have first hand experience with, that would be quite a narrow minded life. I’m an intellectual and I’m quite pensive. For example, you may have never been incarcerated but can still speak on the deleterious effects of prison industrial complex (if you are educated on the matter) like I- ... you lost me lol.
@@tastePINK O wow, you lost me too. Well I'm far from "narrow minded" Sis. I understand what your saying but wrong person. I am educated and I definitely know how to articulate my opinions and ideas. I did express my take on needing space as being highly beneficial to the soul, I just didn't want to impart my personal opinions of it in marriage and I feel that 's fine that I didn't wish to do so. But hey, I like watching you and subscribed and I leave comments so I guess I am just as open to public opinion and judgement as you are even if they come from you. Have a great day Sis.
@@nnaturalheaven3754 😩 this isn’t an attack on you nor how you articulate yourself via text. You can have an opinion lol. I encourage it. You can respectfully share your perspective. I try to make the space safe enough because I want people to engage. I appreciate your follow up comment because your response offered more clarity. Thank you 💕
@@tastePINK Aww, I'm so happy.🤗 Actually what you didn't know was that was my daughter's B-day that day, she turned 26 (Happy B-day to all Gemini's!) So we was sippin the Margarita's and talking about the subject cause i clicked on your video. She's in a long-term relationship where they do everything like they are married, even financially, and they don't live together either and she loves it that way! I was voicing my opinion on the matter, but I'm celibate and always talking about the peace it brings me so she reminded me of that and said "well why aren't you getting married then? (cuz I'm 50 and I lived with a man before and I don't wanna, lol) But.. I wanted them to get married and move in together. Double standard right! (I just want to be a Glam'ma and they aint ready for kids) So she always says Mom, I love you but sometimes you should keep your opinions of my relationship to yourself and just be my Mom. So my Wisdom told me to shet it, do the same for you and watch the video and and sip! Do what works for you beautiful, my daughter sure is, and I wish you both success!
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Yes time alone is needed. I’m married and live in a 1 floor house, being crowded on each other can get a bit much. He has his man cave and I have my relaxation room. It works we block each other out when needed. But living separately wouldn’t feel like marriage it’ll just feel like we’re dating again, we got married to build a life together. I would feel like we’re moving backwards. Btw.. u look amazing 😍😍😍
Heyyyyyyy Pink! I'm married with 3 children It's been 15yrs. .... and a lot of change/growth has occurred!! We live in a 5bdrm. apt. So one room is his man cave!! It is imperative to get space in our home!!! However we wouldn't/couldn't be in separate homes... we're both pretty needy!! 🤪🤎... #respectiskey
SB.. my grandparents slept in separate beds for 40 plus years... whatever flats your 🚢... is awesomeness 🤎🤎🤎
I agree about the separate living spaces, I have 2 adult children and a 16 year old and I’m about to leave the husband here and get me an apartment for me and my 16 year old. I love my husband but I need my own space right now
I'm married and have my own apartment and I love it so much.
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I should have done this years ago. I feel like myself again. I also have mental clarity
How old are you?
@@shakebalettsome3296 Mental clarity and productivity were major factors for people wanting to live alone! Like, it’s a thing! Did you decide early on that you’d live separate from your partner? I’d love to learn more! Thanks for joining the discussion.
I didn't know it was a thing actually. I don't know if I can live with anybody. I love my own space. I'm also incredibly introverted so too many people around in space irritates me.
I been married for 8 yrs and with my partner for 21 yrs.. yes we live in an apartment and we are looking for our first home.. Not to mention we are on our 4th kid and last lol.. but I listened to you and I hear this from some of my friends.. I feel like if you don't get to the point that your best friends that's where those thoughts come in.. I can't imagine living separate but a lil break room smoke room or prayer room is definitely needed once you get a home.. great topic by the way.
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I'm a gurl-cave kinda Gal. I'm an only child, so I've always needed my space. My husband comes from a large family. We've been together 24yrs this past April. I love having him close but he understands and always respected my need to be completely alone sometimes.
Love that for you! You've established boundaries and that's such a healthy approach, as you two come from very different family dynamics.
@@tastePINK We really do. It was culture shock for me. Noise & endless chatter. I would hide from them sometimes, i still do at times😉
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I’ve been married 17 years and my husband and I have always worked opposite schedules so it’s basically like we don’t live together. We see each other about an hour and then he’s out the door to work and we share weekends together and it works very well...I get wanting your space and couples should discuss what they want prior to marriage so there’s no shock or surprise.
I have been married for 26 years in July and I am old school, love living together with my husband and I have always been my own person. ( but if you want different spaces then don't get married or live together. but sis always do what works for you.
I am a firm believer that separate bedrooms can save a relationship!! ( on some role play your place or mine type of thing)
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I am a little old fashion yes everyone needs their own space but when people are separate 90% to 50% even you get use to all that separation, your first thought is to go to your space to get away. But to each their own on their marriage.
I love your videos, your lace fronts never show. ❤. I'm married, will be celebrating 13 years on the 13th of June, we live in our house together with 6 children. IMO - When you get married, you and your spouse agree to become 1, support each other, etc., so how do you 2 grow together, learn one another's ways (deeply), etc. if y'all not living together? Once you have a child, you both are equally responsible for that child. You put self 'wants' after your child "needs." Man caves, she sheds, and spare rooms in the home - helps when you need a minute to yourself. If you have a very small child, all you get is a minute🤔 - because they need our constant attention🤦♀️. Trust me, I know that part for sure. To each - their own, what works for one, may not work for the other.
Widow's Peak Crew and new subbie; married for 6 years (together 11) with no kids in a house. The panorama taught us that we need more space for WFH offices and caves/personal space, BECAUSE SANITY!
If you can remember or have watched old tv shows in the 50's, they slept in single beds or what we refer to as ten beds. Some still do in other ethnicities.
My husband thought I was crazy when I said I wanted my own room. We all need our own space. So he has the second owner suite upstairs and I have main one downstairs suite.
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I know my way of thinking is different from most. My comment is not to bash anyone. I think there is nothing wrong with wanting a space so you can decompress. The problem becomes when you feel that space needs to be in another home. I think it is selfish to say I love you and want to be your husband or wife but you can't share my space. Yes, I understand we all get use to being alone. However, marriage is about sharing your space. Overcoming the things that cast fear and doubt in your heart. Marriage is about being one in all things. It's about working through what makes you different and finding common ground. When you do things apart from your wife or husband it leaves the door open for the devil to provide temptation. I am not a religious person and I never will be. I do believe in God and I trust in his word. To be set apart from your husband is aginst what God tells us is correct. We have to be careful what we teach our children. We set the standard for what they think is right in this world. If you need the space find space in the home. Set boundries for the time you need to be alone. Go out with your girlfriends. Get a she shead if need be but separation is not the answer.
Ooooomgggggg this is me ! I swear I want to live separate!
Yesss! There are plenty of people who share similar beliefs. There is a space for you and such a living arrangement is possible! A lot of people prefer to live together due to fear of infidelity and I can’t relate 😩
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People don't trust God enough. When you marry you are supposed to go through thick and thin TOGETHER. Don't be fooled. Satan will find a way to make you regret the decision to live separately. And they should not expect God to bless a marriage where the home is divided in anyway.🙏🏽🌴🌏
Excellent insight.
Not everyone believes in God.
@@tastePINK 🔵I was wondering if you do? I thought I heard you say that you don't, but I wasn't clear.
@@tastePINK That's so sad. When He soon reveals Himself on His Great Day of retribution, people will be just like those in Sodom and Gomorrah and the days of the Flood.
I am praying everyone gets to know Him before it is too late!🙏🏽
@@MiniCuis4u I read my comment again and I never once said, "I don't believe in God."
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This is a 🔥 topic! I love being married to my husband. We don't have any kids together. However, I have two step daughters, but they are grown and doing their own thang! I love living with my current husband, we live in a condo and trying to move in a house. We give each other space and this helps a lot. Living in separate homes is something I should have done with my first husband. That might've saved me a lot of headaches! Lol, well I'm very happy now😁
Sometimes living separately is key for married couples. It is not for everyone tho. One of my aunts was married over 33 years (until her death a couple years ago) her and my uncle had separate homes, over 100 miles away. She married him when she was in her forties, and in an established career and she did not want to leave her city. But they made it work, spent every weekend together and all holidays. Their love was solid and beautiful.
Great conversation I love my time with and without my man. Having separation is good. I enjoy seeing him more with time apart.
I love separate space sis, the way I'm set up.💕
💅🏽 You are seen, sis! It is achievable.
I've been married for 23yrs, and have wanted to OWN just a small home, where I can go just be ALONE for a week or two, but since I can't afford, I will take time away from home and go to a hotel, for a weekend, til I can get me a She Shed made like "THE PERFECT GETAWAY for MEEE", sometimes, you just want that ALONE time..and just focus on YOU, and it's not the same as being alone in a room, away from the family for an hour or two NOT the same at all...
My husband and I sleep in the same room but on separate beds lol I thought we were strange, I guess we’re normal
Everyone has to figure out their own agreements in their own marriage. So I don’t knock people for choosing to live apart.
My husband and I are newlyweds and we live apart, but not by choice. It’s because the housing market is crazy right now and we’re having a hard time finding a new place together. We’re a blended family, so we need a bigger place than either of us has right now. I would not want to continue to live in a separate house from my husband, because I love him too much to have to leave him on a regular basis. It’s hard enough now when we have to say goodbye and go back to our separate homes. Also, the struggle is real financially. Paying for two mortgages, utilities, repairs, maintenance, etc. just so that we don’t have to stay in the same house is very expensive while trying to raise kids. That’s a lot of money that could be put towards asset building or savings for the children.
As always another awesome video.
Do you do hair? I would love to book an appointment for a crochet style or something lol. Your videos always make me want to get dressed and find something to do.
Why get married? Just stay single. Seems to be a waste. Of everyone's time. But to each his own.
You should stay single 👌🏽
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My Husband and I have our own separate bedrooms. He would prefer us to share the same bedroom, but I need my own space. There is no way he would accept us living in separate homes!
Hot Comb and KI ❤️ it. Loving the curl pattern of this unit you look Gorgeous. I’ve been married for many years and we don’t have separate spaces at the moment and I don’t think nothing is wrong with separate spaces within our home.
GOD knows I Love my Husband, but sometimes I could do something bad to him fr fr so spaces to me would be ideal.
So what happens if/when you're spouse wants to move out of town? Do you move with him or stay where you are?
New subscriber here (we met in the comments of your most recent vid 😉). I was dating/married during what I call “the best years of my life.” Now in my 40s (the next best years of my life), I enjoy my independence with the occasional intimate moments and quality time. I can certainly appreciate the concept of you, me, and us...just not altogether. SN: I love my Felicia Leatherwood brush ❤️
As an introvert who loves solitude, my biggest concern when it comes to getting married is personal space 😂 I've always thought I'd have an extra room outside reserved as my own space
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Y'all new kids this generation wow. Well good luck on finding a man and a husband that share those ideal marriage goals with and it actually working out to bring a healthy yet committing marriage.
A lot of y’all are not in love or really don’t like your husbands 🤷🏾♀️ black men need to be in a home raising their daughters and sons protecting the black family black women are not even getting married like that the women that are coming up now will take your husbands gladly if you don’t don’t want him 🤷🏾♀️ let him go why live separate lives ? Let him find a women that needs or want a man to help her have and raise kings and queens black family’s need to build a real 1 not going for this unless he has a side chick ....anyway you look fabulous darling as usual
This response is giving VERY male identified energy! I’m surprised you decided to attack and defame (Black) women 😩 Thanks for the compliment, but beyond this I have no further comment.
You have to marry someone who believes in separate spaces too. When I brought it up to my ex, it made him feel like I didn't want to be with him. Even after I explained my views on it, it wasn't his definition of marriage and how it's supposed to look. For him it was a big red flag. For me it means providing a place of peace.
I been saying that for 10+ years that my husband needs his own place. I might love you but I don't want you breathing near me all the time
Every relationship is different and I truly believe that there should be some compromise. Both parties should do what’s conducive for them. Dolly Parton’s marriage was the same. She’s been married for decades, Dolly and her husband share different houses on the same acre of land and she’ll tell you in a minute that it’s worked for her. I really do believe that different residents makes a marriage last longer but that’s me. If you have trust issues with your partner then TRUST your always gonna have them, then maybe he or she is not for you.
Yes, it's necessary to have own space.👏🏾
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Sweetie, I am an older woman, and let me tell you I, would love love love to have a place of my own to go to. When these men get older, they can be worst than babies to take care of. They can drive you crazy especially if you were out there with them, and then you no longer want to hang in the streets with them partying, because you have turned your life over to the sweet Creator, and they are not about that life. I have to pray a lot and do a lot of repenting. Please don't let them have a sexual problem and can't perform anymore. They don't trust you at the beginning of their problem, or maybe never again. I must have been crazy to do this a second time. I do look forward to the times when he goes out of town with his buddies. That"s when I really get my peace to praise the Lord like I like to do and not have to cook for anyone if I don't want to, which after getting older I hate more than I did when I was a young woman. Living in an apartment, although I have my computer room, which saves my sanity, it's not like having a house with more rooms. Don't get me wrong I love my husband, and he is very quiet, but when he gets on your last nerve during an argument, although they are few, and you just can't stand looking at him, so yes a place of your own sounds like a piece of heaven although I would probably miss him after a few hours of being alone. We have been together for over 25 years.
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