Both my daughters were home-schooled by my wife, which was a sacrifice financially, but they both went to college. The youngest double majored and the other got her Ph.D. in biology. They are sweet, courteous, and respectful of their seniors but have a fierce fight in them when needed when they see injustices happening around them. I give all credit to my wife, she is amazing.
Over several years I have had the pleasure of meeting home schooled children. Every time I came away with the thought that these kids are awesome. They leave everybody else in the dust. As an elderly person I am very comforted to know the world will be just fine with those kids out there.
My homeschooled children are very outgoing and friendly! We get questions and comments often from people in public asking if they are homeschooled because of how bright and loving they are. The world sees the difference night and day.
I was homeschooled and never had friends in public school but made more than ever outside of school because i was able to enroll in extracurricular classes where other kids WANTED to be and were interested in similar things as me because of the classes. If course, not all parents can homeschool, but if your child is in a curriculum you dont agree with or they are simply miserable... find another option when possible.
I get guilt over the fact that I can homeschool when other people can't, until I remember that it's not me failing those families, it's the ed system. It's bullshit. I will back the teachers here striking for better pay and conditions. I'm in the UK, a head teacher recently decided life wasn't worth continuing with here after a harsh inspection from the government mandated inspectors. Whole system is underfunded and no longer fit for purpose.
@@meretriciousinsolent I have friends who home school even through they live near the poverty level. Sure it would make their lives easier to have two incomes... but they prioritize their children over materialistic pursuits. So next time someone implies that only the wealthy can home school, just tell them that the only obstacle they face in doing it is their priorities.
@rms5993 thats good! Children should be associating with kids outside of their schools, too. A wider range of social interaction makes for better people skills overall. Especially when comming into adulthood.
Exactly. Children play and eat together, other than that, they are listening to a teacher, most of the day. The socialization argument is the dumbest thing I've ever heard. It's a bunch of psychobabble BS, so you will send your children into indoctrination centers, for the majority of their little lives. It's pathetic that so many people believe this.
From scouts, town sports, library programs, local museums, homeschool proms and dances, there are many options if the school refuses to allow homeschooled kids to participate in school extra curriculum activities.
In the state of Washington, it is illegal for public schools to refuse to let a child participate in after-school activities solely because of their status as a homeschooling student.
@@melodypaz7247 That is excellent, I know in many states this is not the case. I assume the teachers unions doesn't like homeschooling and any obstacle they can put in place to reduce families from avoiding a gov school is their preference.
We home schooled our kids. Our son was at the county fair and was seeing greeting alot of his friend's from around the county when a local friend asked how he knows all these people, after all your home schooled. Most home schoolers are part of county wide networking and the kids end up having friends from a larger area than public school students do. We don't lock our kids up. Caring about our kids education also means caring about keeping them active in our community and broadening their experiences with their community. The best thing you can do for your children is to be involved in their lives. Don't let strangers raise your children. You don't have to home school, get to know their teachers and coaches.
Homeschooler here, currently a sophomore in High school, I have no lack of socialization. I do a bunch of extracurriculars and meet a lot of people that way, Socialization doesn't have to be a problem for homeschoolers
Don't forget about 4-H. I have some friends who home-school their daughters, and the girls have been involved in 4-H since elementary. I'd say that professional skills are somewhat difficult to develop in the home school environment, but involvement in 4-H can really help.
@@MusicalBotany Does every state have 4-H? My younger sister was homeschooled and did 4-H so I 100% agree, good skills earned there too. But we moved states and Ive not thought to check! Def something I will keep in mind as I get to that next step in life!
That’s exactly what my family did for me, my church has various activities with lots of other children who were raised with morals and values that would uplift me in mine, and I feel that I’m turning out pretty well. I do want to emphasize that I’m by no means perfect. I make plenty of mistakes, but I do know when I’ve done something wrong, and that goes a long way to helping me correct those mistakes. I also want to say that I know plenty of people in my church who aren’t homeschooled, and they haven’t turned out any worse than me. You just need to be careful that they aren’t being overly influenced by bad influences. The points is that whether you choose homeschooling or public schooling, each come with their own challenges, and you have to pay attention to your children either way, just in different ways. I was in danger of becoming a recluse until I started participating more in my church activities.
We homeschooled our son (only child) second grade through graduation. Socialization within the homeschool community is often a much broader experience than in public school. Public school divides students by age, K-12. They spend their lives with others students born within the same 12 period. As homeschoolers, our children experienced a wider age range. This is much closer to the workplace and social lives of adults.
I homeschool and this whole socialization thing is a myth or super rare. Every homeschooler I know has their kids participating in so many different things and interacting with so many people. My 4 year old can hold a thoughtful conversation with a grown adult and also fit in and hang out with all the kids. We have a strong and large homeschooling community here. As public schools get worse, more and more families join our community. There are so many things going on within our community it is impossible to do it all which is super awesome. I love seeing all the parents taking back control and parenting.
I was homeschooled since 6th grade. my husband was homeschooled all his life. while I was shy, it wasn't because I was homeschooled, we had a church community where I participated in choir and alot of other youth activities. now I am homeschooling our boys. we started kindergarten this school year. my 6 and 4 year olds are SMART, well mannered, polite to others, friendly, creative, and people are always saying what sweet boys they are, so no, they are not the stereotypical socially awkard homeschoolers (and so what if they are!!). there are other homeschool families in our area, there are co-ops, and tons of family for them to socialize. the biggest thing I'm grateful for is that homeschool is an option in this country and for our family.
Ha. Yup. I'm in the UK. deregistered my kid after lockdowns, when we saw him miraculously put weight on and grow a bunch once the stress of school was taken off him. We gradually rebuilt the confidence they eroded, his amazing forest school and his sports activities have given him the opportunity to make friends and allowed me to know who he's with too. We're about to embark on sleepovers. There's no way school would have allowed him to do that. He is highly academic, he was being held back both by the work level and the fact that he was so anxious there he couldn't focus. They'll tell you you're making a bad choice, though. Even teachers I know who have left the profession still say kids should be in school. It's wired in so hard!
The folks in my church have a great homeschool group. They have Spanish classes with a native speaker, sports events with other families from the entire county, and cooking classes from older women in the church. Their educations are focused specifically on their needs, and they are well-rounded.
@maskofsan1ty If community learning is cultish, then what do you call public school? The curriculum is the only difference here. (By the way, cults, by definition, are closed to outsiders and outside influence. I don't think that home-school groups deliberately seeking out community involvement fit that bill.)
It doesn’t necessarily have to be religious in nature, but this is a smart idea. Instead of teaching kids to be just competent enough to push a button, or take a test, they learn hands on skills. Real world practical application of skills learned. We all know that the current school model is ineffective and harmful. Start small and be the change you want to see happen
absolutely..plus they learn a skill. A real skill to help them in life. Not a social media influence or all the other horrifying things going on in public school. They learn real history like our history .born 1776.
Yes, I observed with my child and other homeschooled children that they do have a level of adult maturity. I contribute it to real life lessons and training as the curriculum is created by parents.
I've tended to see the exact opposite. In college/early workforce, you could almost always tell who was homeschooled because they usually weren't prepared for interacting with people of vastly different backgrounds and mindsets, and tended to socially struggle more than public school peers.
@@fluffytheostrich3878That's interesting because I am married to someone who was homeschooled and have tons of friends who were homeschooled and they are all doing just fine in life and have no problems socializing. Me on the other hand, I was bullied and made fun of all through school, and I still have major social anxiety from it and I'm 35 years old, now. Meanwhile, my homeschooled husband has an MBA and a great career, has zero social anxiety, and is well liked by almost everyone. I know dozens of people who were homeschooled. It's very popular where I live, and I don't know any of them that are doing badly in life. Most are married and have families. Several are teachers and counselors. I have so much more trouble making friends and even talking to people I don't know than they do because of the psychological damage being bullied did to me.
Can’t think of another context where my kids being alone with a bunch of strangers I haven’t vetted for safety for 8 hours a day would count as socialization
Take kids to the park, church, family functions, museums, karate or gymnastics classes, community theater, etc etc. You don’t want the socialization of drugs, sex, cursing, defiance, social media, bullying, and other filth that public school has to offer.
Homeschoolers get together with other homeschoolers after making sure they're on close to the same page with all the really important stuff ... We understand they need connections and friends 😊
It's actually false that they need friends, in all honesty. That message got us to push our kids onto one another more than the true connection with their family and thus much easier to manipulate. "Peer orientation" is what Dr.Gabor Maté speaks about in his amazing book called "Hold onto your kids. Why parents should matter more than peers." It's not to say kids shouldn't make friends, however. Our society just puts a much bigger meaning on it for our children than what's actually required. If they didn't, then how could they manipulate the youth masses as they are now doing so clearly and easily.
between the big Homeschooling group we were apart of(about 30 families that met on Thursdays to teach classes for the kids). 4-H, Church, and Civil war reenacting. yeah I was plenty socialized as a kid.
I don’t want my kids to socialize with those sick mentally ill confused people. We work hard to connect with our homeschoolers so that they can have peer age friends who are NOT crazy
my niece and nephew were home schooled and were well socialized. the programs in the states they lived in(military family) would set up trips and group activities and there are alot of those things with in their community.
My kids are actually more socialized than public school kids. They know how to carry conversations with all ages, not just their peers. They also know how to be polite and kind, and have patience with younger children.
We homeschool. Our kids socialize plenty, with all ages. They're very adaptable to being around people of all ages, economic levels, races, genders, etc. They haven't developed the trend of most public school children of bullying and picking on the differences they see in others.
We home schooled our two kids. In regard to socialization, you learn social skills from adults that have social skills and not from other kids that don't.
We homeschool and our kids may not have “best friends” just yet but they socialize in sports and scouts, and with our neighborhood. They regularly pick up trash on our main road (they’ll be in the paper tomorrow to be recognized) and they are constantly stopped by peoples of all ages. It’s so nice to see! Our oldest who is 9 has a friendship with an elderly man who lives down the street… he brings over his War magazine subscription after he’s read it and is always bringing over new war books. The man is amazed our son has the reading capability and also the social skills to hold a conversation with him. When I’m asked how we do it? I reply that we are always together. Most people get a confused look because they can’t see how a mothers influence 100% of the time can be a good thing.
My oldest son and daughter were homeschooled from 6/7 yrs old. Both went on to college (16-18) and then University. (We are in UK) Both have degrees, on has a Masters, are married and have their own homes. I used to say "What social skills does a 7 year old have to teach another? None! They learn it from their parents.
I was home schooled. BSME and MBA from great schools. We make a great living. Married a nurse who is a stay at home mom. More importantly, we have 3 great kids and homeschool.
I couldn’t be homeschooled, but when I wanted to move schools for my senior years I did all the paperwork. I was so determined to move schools and my mum let me because she knew that that was what I wanted. I graduated last year and I am so thankful for that choice.
Socialization is only as good as the social group they’re part of. Be picky. Our public school district was a safe environment for our kids, conducive to their academic, social, physical and artistic development. If it hadn’t been, we would have chosen private school or homeschooling.
SO glad you decided to run for office brother. We need more clear thinkers at all levels. I'm in NC, but would vote for you in a heartbeat if I was up your way. Homeschooling isn't what many people think. The press, and public school systems propagate a lot of disinformation along these lines. It IS work however, so it requires dedicated parents and a network of like-minded people. God bless.
Just saying homeschool kids actually know how to talk to ALL age groups not just their peer group. I was homeschooled and my kids are and will be for the loooong hall
There is an underground community that goes to the wildest places during the day, has the entire place to themselves to wander and explore, the professionals come out and answer all the crazy questions, and even let’s you run the equipment. But shhh! Don’t tell the others or they’ll want to join, too. Basically my kids thought we owned the art museums, history museums, science museums, libraries, and zoos. They learned how to interact with adults of all sizes, colors, and socio-economic levels. Their adult world bosses love them because they’re hard workers, quick to find solutions because they aren’t afraid of failure, and respectful.
We home schooled both of our sons all the way through high school. There are zero socialization issues with either son. Both are married fathers with lovely wives and lovely homes. One went on to college and received two degrees. That socialization argument is a crock. There are children in the school system that have no social skills. childrfen need to be taught how to socialize. Best job for parents to do!
We used to have a “Caution Unsocialized Children on Board “ placard on our vehicles. My response was actually to ask the misinformed person :Just what skills do you want them to know? Was it gang culture, sexual promiscuity of bullying? That usually shut them up. FYI, my kids are now grown, one has a master’s degree and teaches public school, one is an employed Actor and the 3rd graduated Cum Laud from a university.
I went to public school. I graduated 9 years ago, and I can only imagine how much worse it's gotten, especially in the elementary and middle school stages. When I went to elementary school, it was a weird day if there WASN'T a fight. I sent a bully to the hospital with bite wounds, and I was one of the well-behaved kids. Through middle school, most of us were outright savages and teachers were basically incapable of controlling their classes. In high school, I watched one girl slam another's head in a car door 5 or 6 times. Public schools are some of the most violent places in North America, and that's not even touching on other behaviors like drug and alcohol abuse or sexual behavior (and often sexual misconduct). By the time I went to high school, I think more of us were smoking than not smoking, and most of us were smoking pot and drinking. That's how public school will socialize your kids. As someone who went, 0/10, do not recommend.
Homeschooled Kid here, I can confirmed as long as there's Co-ops and activities for us to do. We're much happier. Plus, some kids (like myself) don't do well in large classrooms where our needs might be overlooked.
Forced association is NOT socialization! If children only associate with their peers, how do you expect them to get along with and interact with people who are younger or older than they are? My three children were home schooled, and when all three were still pre-teens, they could talk to/interact with anyone from two to 92 in an appropriate manner.
As a homeschooled student, I would get asked this question by a lot of adults. “Don’t you want friends?” At first, it really confused me. I was part of a massive homeschooling community in my town, and I had many friends of all ages. I had observed my public school friends with their groups, maybe totaling 3-4 kids, all of the same age and opinions. I believe that homeschooling nerdy me was the best thing my parents could’ve done for my social life and self-esteem.
I only recently came across your videos and my wife had been following you for a while. Really appreciate your perspectives and thoughts. We've been considering moving to Virginia and you're certainly helping me lean into that idea more.
Not home schooled myself, but my closest friend in the military was. Not only is he smart as hell, but he also displays a great judge of character. He’s married and has a kid and I believe his family will do well. Kinda hard not to attribute some of his success to homeschooling.
That is a real concern for us homeschooling parents. We have to find safe places to socialize and honestly those are kinda dwindling. Trying to navigate around lefty, churchy, crazy, and/or crunchy to find some well adjusted people is really hard.
I homeschooled through eigth grade and took a homeschool art class and played basketball on the homeschool team. Most of my friends i met through church. I was not unsocialized by any means, and I could communicate with adults very well.
Ohhhh right so they're being.... indoctrinated....by not being allowed to leave your ideological bubble....like the thing you accuse the left and public schools of doing...... The irony that you avoid school BC it's a "indoctrination camp for socialists" but you'll bring your children to the priests personal child brothel is absolutely hilarious. Every conservative accusation is a confession
I’ve watched quite a few of your videos. I just want to commend you on your candid, morally correct speaking on different topics. We need more MEN like you to step up.
And like when in any other aspect of life are we around people the same age as us. My kids get socialization in different ways. From family, friends, going to the zoo.
Yes and no, as someone who was homeschooled for almost for all of elementary, middle school, and high school there were definitely times I struggled a lot. I had to try a lot harder to make up for not being able to grow the social skills as easily as those kids who had to use them everyday in a schoolyard. I feel I am a decently functioning adult now but it was a journey. I know, my siblings struggled as well and some still are to some extent. However, that said, I feel I got a lot better education being homeschooled then the typical student in a public school. Also I do believe it is plenty possible for a homeschool kid to have just as much socialization as a public student; however, it takes more work and parents should be trying to put their kids in as many situations as possible to get that socialization. Whether this is mass get togethers with cousins, family friend, etc... or whether it is sports or some other outlet I do certainly believe it is crucial in aiding in a child all around development
It's actually not. You conservatards just enjoy when you stumble across UA-cam videos that affirm your made up beliefs. You'd have to be educated enough to teach your child anything for one. So it's off the table for 90% of y'all
Homeschooling has gotten better over the years and parents have learned how to socialize their kids. Homeschool kids are more civilized than a lot of the little animals in public schools, some of those kids are straight up monsters at school and home, I've seen of few of those entitled monsters roaming in groups on bikes around the neighborhood. They destroy property, they steal from people's open garages because their patents never made them mind and probably don't care what the brat does as long as it's not near them. I fully intend to homeschool my kids when I have them and I can honestly say that I'd rather they weren't friends with public school kids knowing everything going on in public schools now and how too many parents let their kids act.
There are lots of ways to socialize out side of school. But most the homeschooled kids I've meet are outing and good people to be around. I've only meet 2 homeschool kids that weren't really social and very shy; they were the ones who went from being school to homeschooling, because of very bad bullying issues. They just didn't have the confidence to try to be open towards other/new people. But are still nice people to be around, once they feel okay around you.
Homeschool our kids, plenty of socialization. Large group of homeschool families, great kids and parents and they don't have to go to the insane asylum called public school.
I completely agree, but I can understand the concern. There's a reason I don't keep in touch with my public school classmates, certainly. I had qualms with the public school curriculum even when I attended, and I know it's gotten worse. But I've met some of the home-schooled students who attended my boyfriend's alma mater, a Christian college... and some of those people have no worldly skills nor common sense. Poor hygiene, lack of professional skills, lack of conflict resolution skills, poor money management skills, etc. I fully trust that you are the kind of parent to raise kind, competent, responsible, and intelligent children-but I've also seen what happens when home school parents fail their children.
I am socialized, but I can be awkward in public settings, but that's because my parents ended up homeschooling me due to bullying and when they took me to socialize I would get really shy and I am better at talking about things I studied than playing pretend and I only liked playing on high places where someone could shove me off when either one of my parents was with me on it or I was all alone cause I was scared... The public school made it hard for me to socialize because of fear and no one to help or protect me. With the help of my friends from church, and the home school group meet-ups every other Friday, and my choir friends helped me out of my shell as a teen, it took a lot of work and I am still a bit awkward, but I now have friends and can function in society just fine. Parents who can choose who their kids interact with and remove bad influences from their children before real harm can be done to them is important.
That was my moms reason for not doing homeschool. Now here i am, a truck driver, barely speaking to anyone any day. I totally needed to go to public school for this.
Not to mention that there are homeschool communities that allow for socialization outside the format of a public school system. Usually like minded people and there's lots of debate that can be had on it, but being homeschooled does not necessarily mean you're isolated. However, just like with any random public school, some homeschooling is done properly and some is not.
Homeschooling our kids was the best decision we’ve ever made for them. They get PLENTY of socialization. We just took 23 of them to the Science Museum. 🤓
My kids did go to a private school and public in elementary school. However, their attendance was atrocious because I'd pull them out depending on what activities were planned. I wasn't going to allow them to be influenced by others. The teacher was to teach my kids to read, write, math, and science, not force propaganda down my kids' throats. I had a few nosey-Nellies try to involve themselves in my children's lives, but I shut that shit down in a hurry. I can be aggressive when people overstep their positions.
Homeschool & socializing is two different things ..You can socialize your children without Public school interaction.. Theres homeschool organization that socialize among themselves fine..But your kids need to know life in a good way, NOT skipping, party hardy, backseats or behind the barn extra curricular activity.😉☺️..Theres plenty of activities kids can do..Parks, Sports ( counties & cities have their on team sports, & homeschoolers can join in)..So much..I know homeschoolers who are either awkward around theirs peers, or buckwild....I feel it's up to the parents to provide well-rounded children or until they get to the age where they just don't want to listen whether it be homeschooled private or public...
Homeschooling in the USA has come a long way over past few decades.. many more families realize it is necessary to do. And yes, the public schools are dictated to by the federal, state, and local governments. There have traditionally been many Christians teaching in the public schools of the USA, but their hands are being tied more than ever. Imo all churches with space available should be setting up day school instruction areas and cooperating all they can with homeschooling Co- ops, and enlisting the help of all interested adults in their congregations. Many American churches have been doing these things for years. Perhaps even paying for some basic pedagogy instruction and child psychology training so that more " lay people" can assist productively without a full teaching degree. We are now at total crisis intervention stage in the USA. We cannot permit America's institutions to continue to dominate all areas of our lives if the lgbt agenda cannot be contained. It appears to me that it has already decimated significant numbers of school districts, and now critical race theory is adding to the destruction of American educational systems
It doesn’t even matter what’s going on in the world. In the 20 years I’ve been homeschooling, we have never lacked for activities to do or friends to do them with. It’s the most outdated homeschool question I see and I think it’s ridiculous people still ask it.
Well, it’s because tons of homeschooling parents don’t address the issue properly, and their kids end up being socially awkward and sheltered to an extreme degree. It can be avoided, but it takes extra work from the parents… work that not all of them want to put in.
When we were considering homeschooling it was one of the top questions we had. It wasn't a gotcha question, it was genuine - I live in an area where homeschooling is rare, and I was genuinely worried that there would be very limited opportunities for my children to socialise with other children. Especially non like-minded families, which was a core value for us in raising our children. I was never saying it was impossible - I was just asking how people do it.
@@josh-jesushexandstonks9878 please kindly reference this “ton” of weird, unsocialized homeschoolers. I find those to be the rare exception, certainly not the rule. So please share your proof of a “ton.” Again, homeschooling does not equal no socialization. Homeschoolers are not cave dwellers. Our kids get out more than school kids and have more time, opportunities and relationships with people of all different ages.
@@bradgatetosudeley I’m not saying it’s a gotcha question. I’m saying if folks actually understood what homeschooling is, it wouldn’t even be asked. Keep researching.
@@preppingmama you could call it an anecdote, because “unsocial” is very hard to measure, and as far as I know there’s no real unbiased studies that can legitimately prove anything. It’s more of a common sense play, If you’re not used to being around random people all the time - ESPECIALLY as a kid - and you’re suddenly thrust into the modern world, you’re going to feel out of place.
Nail. On. Head. I have almost 14 year old daughter and she's in a charter school. She also has adhd. The ONE thing positive I can say for covid was that it showed parents that there are other kinds of learning for kids that work. My kid has learned more effectively and has given her a sense of accomplishment that traditional schools didnt. Oh, there are still challenges. But they are fewer than before.
I had organized classes with other homeschoolers of various ages and backgrounds. On top of that, I competed in formal public speaking and debate tournaments for 7 years in school. They were a week long, and the competitors had to do all the research and preparation themselves. I would say I was pretty well socialized as a kid.
I always thought homeschoolers took care of socialization with organized sports, scouting, church, and private club activities. In comparison to public schoolers who get loaded up on homework.
I remember when I was a kid back in the '60s my best friend went to catholic school and I went to public. We only socialized outside of school hours. Yep, socialization was that hard.
The weird thing is that I go to public school and am very reserved. I have not so close of friends, I don’t talk to them right now, and I have always been socially awkward and anxious.
I was a homeschooled kid. SOCIALIZE YOUR CHILDREN! It doesn't have to be anything crazy, but put them on a little league team, take them to game nights at your local board game store, something, anything. And no, Sunday school doesn't count, that's just having them interact with other versions of themselves. Let them know about others, explain why you disagree with their behavior, teach them that there is adversity instead of mollycoddling them into being obedient drones that don't know how to deal with a situation outside of their norm.
On on hand, covid cancelled my coaching my son’s high school wrestling team, but it was very good that I was able to homeschool my son to finish high school.
My husband's aunt homeschooled all 5 of her kids and they met with other homeschool groups for prom, field trips, or just allowing other parents who excelled in other areas to step up. Like one might be great in chem where another has no business teaching it - her kids are now all functioning members of society.
My mom got asked this a looot in the early 90s. We were pretty early homeschoolers, it became more mainstream when I was about 14. One day, my mom got home from a store where too many busybodies asked this, and she began a rant, saying "socialization? We dress them in brown shirts and march around singing." She was pretty mad.
I worked in a high school for a year, as a teacher, and found that all that happened there was the kids developed power hierarchies, abusive relationships, watching other kids bad habits and then taking them home and perpetuating them at home and in the school system. However, the next year I got a roommate who add been home-schooled. That poor girl is so lost. She didn't even know when she was using and abusing people. Blind and lost and conniving. I've dated people before who were home-schooled too. They're definitely elements missing and both systems. I don't know what the right answer is. I hate both ways. I think we're basically screwed as a society.😂😂😂
I have been a fan of homeschooling, since I became an adult, and this to me, was always the dumbest argument on his face. I know exactly who they would be socializing with because I went to public school. That being said you’ll become responsible for their education. You’re also responsible for their socialization and extracurricular activities. However, most parents that go, this route are doing it to provide a better service to their kid and so are usually into having them do things. That’s why like half the kids in scouts were always homeschooled.
Second generation homeschooler here. It is way easier when I was homeschooled. Today it is all about networking through social media, at least in our area. Example, every Friday our kids play soccer with 70 other kids, broken up by age groups of course. There is also church and their activities within their Sunday school classes.
I ex boyfriend's little brother was homeschooled and screwed him up, no social skills. Unless you homeschool several children, and those kids play with neighbors, friends, sports, visit cousins, Sunday school. This days most children do not have siblings, neighbors to play or cousins close by.
Here's one for you. Our local public school principal doesn't allow any of the kids to socialize at all during school hours this includes at lunch. My opinion is this policy renders the public school useless, just as well shut it down and everyone just homeschool if they can't socialize. Save a ridiculous amount of money
Both my daughters were home-schooled by my wife, which was a sacrifice financially, but they both went to college. The youngest double majored and the other got her Ph.D. in biology.
They are sweet, courteous, and respectful of their seniors but have a fierce fight in them when needed when they see injustices happening around them. I give all credit to my wife, she is amazing.
Tell her this. Her eyes will swell up with tears in the best way. Mine did imagining my husband saying something similar one day.
How many times did our teachers tell us, "You're not here to socialize!!!"
In the classroom or in the cafeteria? There's a big difference. Schooling, no matter where it's done, isn't primarily about socializing.
ALL teachers demand students to be quiet
Over several years I have had the pleasure of meeting home schooled children. Every time I came away with the thought that these kids are awesome. They leave everybody else in the dust. As an elderly person I am very comforted to know the world will be just fine with those kids out there.
It's probably the fact that homeschooled kids mature naturally, and public school kids have peer maturity, which is false maturity.
My homeschooled children are very outgoing and friendly! We get questions and comments often from people in public asking if they are homeschooled because of how bright and loving they are. The world sees the difference night and day.
I was homeschooled and never had friends in public school but made more than ever outside of school because i was able to enroll in extracurricular classes where other kids WANTED to be and were interested in similar things as me because of the classes.
If course, not all parents can homeschool, but if your child is in a curriculum you dont agree with or they are simply miserable... find another option when possible.
I get guilt over the fact that I can homeschool when other people can't, until I remember that it's not me failing those families, it's the ed system. It's bullshit. I will back the teachers here striking for better pay and conditions. I'm in the UK, a head teacher recently decided life wasn't worth continuing with here after a harsh inspection from the government mandated inspectors. Whole system is underfunded and no longer fit for purpose.
@@meretriciousinsolent I have friends who home school even through they live near the poverty level. Sure it would make their lives easier to have two incomes... but they prioritize their children over materialistic pursuits. So next time someone implies that only the wealthy can home school, just tell them that the only obstacle they face in doing it is their priorities.
@@OldSaltyBear 100%. I was homeschooled in a single parent income house + 2 other siblings.
Its not easy, but possible.
@rms5993 thats good! Children should be associating with kids outside of their schools, too.
A wider range of social interaction makes for better people skills overall. Especially when comming into adulthood.
Exactly. Children play and eat together, other than that, they are listening to a teacher, most of the day. The socialization argument is the dumbest thing I've ever heard. It's a bunch of psychobabble BS, so you will send your children into indoctrination centers, for the majority of their little lives. It's pathetic that so many people believe this.
From scouts, town sports, library programs, local museums, homeschool proms and dances, there are many options if the school refuses to allow homeschooled kids to participate in school extra curriculum activities.
In the state of Washington, it is illegal for public schools to refuse to let a child participate in after-school activities solely because of their status as a homeschooling student.
@@melodypaz7247 That is excellent, I know in many states this is not the case. I assume the teachers unions doesn't like homeschooling and any obstacle they can put in place to reduce families from avoiding a gov school is their preference.
@@davidrn2473 That, and schools don't get government funds for kids not on the school rolls.
Despite parents still paying full local property taxes.
We home schooled our kids. Our son was at the county fair and was seeing greeting alot of his friend's from around the county when a local friend asked how he knows all these people, after all your home schooled. Most home schoolers are part of county wide networking and the kids end up having friends from a larger area than public school students do. We don't lock our kids up. Caring about our kids education also means caring about keeping them active in our community and broadening their experiences with their community. The best thing you can do for your children is to be involved in their lives. Don't let strangers raise your children. You don't have to home school, get to know their teachers and coaches.
Hmmmmmmm. What if your local community does not include any people of color or non Christians?
@@PocketMarmo04 you would be very surprised how many “people of color” and various religions homeschool their kids.
@@PocketMarmo04... what the hell does that have to do with anything
Hopefully your kid knows the difference between your and you're.
@@PocketMarmo04 do you happen to know any places like this? Because I’d much rather live there than a “multicultural” town any day.
Homeschooler here, currently a sophomore in High school, I have no lack of socialization. I do a bunch of extracurriculars and meet a lot of people that way, Socialization doesn't have to be a problem for homeschoolers
Homeschool and socialize them in a sport or church sounds like a good idea for when I have kids in a few years.
The best decision you’ll ever make! 🫶🏼
Don't forget about 4-H. I have some friends who home-school their daughters, and the girls have been involved in 4-H since elementary. I'd say that professional skills are somewhat difficult to develop in the home school environment, but involvement in 4-H can really help.
@@MusicalBotany Does every state have 4-H? My younger sister was homeschooled and did 4-H so I 100% agree, good skills earned there too. But we moved states and Ive not thought to check! Def something I will keep in mind as I get to that next step in life!
That’s exactly what my family did for me, my church has various activities with lots of other children who were raised with morals and values that would uplift me in mine, and I feel that I’m turning out pretty well.
I do want to emphasize that I’m by no means perfect. I make plenty of mistakes, but I do know when I’ve done something wrong, and that goes a long way to helping me correct those mistakes.
I also want to say that I know plenty of people in my church who aren’t homeschooled, and they haven’t turned out any worse than me. You just need to be careful that they aren’t being overly influenced by bad influences.
The points is that whether you choose homeschooling or public schooling, each come with their own challenges, and you have to pay attention to your children either way, just in different ways. I was in danger of becoming a recluse until I started participating more in my church activities.
@@hackysac4528 Hm, I assumed that 4-H was nationwide, so I'm not sure! At the very least, I know that 4-H programs exist all throughout the Midwest.
We homeschooled our son (only child) second grade through graduation.
Socialization within the homeschool community is often a much broader experience than in public school.
Public school divides students by age, K-12. They spend their lives with others students born within the same 12 period.
As homeschoolers, our children experienced a wider age range. This is much closer to the workplace and social lives of adults.
I homeschool and this whole socialization thing is a myth or super rare. Every homeschooler I know has their kids participating in so many different things and interacting with so many people. My 4 year old can hold a thoughtful conversation with a grown adult and also fit in and hang out with all the kids. We have a strong and large homeschooling community here. As public schools get worse, more and more families join our community. There are so many things going on within our community it is impossible to do it all which is super awesome. I love seeing all the parents taking back control and parenting.
I was homeschooled since 6th grade. my husband was homeschooled all his life. while I was shy, it wasn't because I was homeschooled, we had a church community where I participated in choir and alot of other youth activities. now I am homeschooling our boys. we started kindergarten this school year. my 6 and 4 year olds are SMART, well mannered, polite to others, friendly, creative, and people are always saying what sweet boys they are, so no, they are not the stereotypical socially awkard homeschoolers (and so what if they are!!). there are other homeschool families in our area, there are co-ops, and tons of family for them to socialize. the biggest thing I'm grateful for is that homeschool is an option in this country and for our family.
Ha. Yup. I'm in the UK. deregistered my kid after lockdowns, when we saw him miraculously put weight on and grow a bunch once the stress of school was taken off him. We gradually rebuilt the confidence they eroded, his amazing forest school and his sports activities have given him the opportunity to make friends and allowed me to know who he's with too. We're about to embark on sleepovers. There's no way school would have allowed him to do that. He is highly academic, he was being held back both by the work level and the fact that he was so anxious there he couldn't focus. They'll tell you you're making a bad choice, though. Even teachers I know who have left the profession still say kids should be in school. It's wired in so hard!
The folks in my church have a great homeschool group. They have Spanish classes with a native speaker, sports events with other families from the entire county, and cooking classes from older women in the church. Their educations are focused specifically on their needs, and they are well-rounded.
Sounds like a cult.
@@maskofsan1ty yeah...
That's awesome!!
@maskofsan1ty If community learning is cultish, then what do you call public school? The curriculum is the only difference here. (By the way, cults, by definition, are closed to outsiders and outside influence. I don't think that home-school groups deliberately seeking out community involvement fit that bill.)
It doesn’t necessarily have to be religious in nature, but this is a smart idea. Instead of teaching kids to be just competent enough to push a button, or take a test, they learn hands on skills. Real world practical application of skills learned.
We all know that the current school model is ineffective and harmful. Start small and be the change you want to see happen
All the home-schooled kids I've met were far better socially than kids put in schools. Usually they seem like little adults.
absolutely..plus they learn a skill. A real skill to help them in life. Not a social media influence or all the other horrifying things going on in public school. They learn real history like our history .born 1776.
Yes, I observed with my child and other homeschooled children that they do have a level of adult maturity. I contribute it to real life lessons and training as the curriculum is created by parents.
I also learned they are healthier. Meaning they get sick alot less often.
I've tended to see the exact opposite. In college/early workforce, you could almost always tell who was homeschooled because they usually weren't prepared for interacting with people of vastly different backgrounds and mindsets, and tended to socially struggle more than public school peers.
@@fluffytheostrich3878That's interesting because I am married to someone who was homeschooled and have tons of friends who were homeschooled and they are all doing just fine in life and have no problems socializing.
Me on the other hand, I was bullied and made fun of all through school, and I still have major social anxiety from it and I'm 35 years old, now.
Meanwhile, my homeschooled husband has an MBA and a great career, has zero social anxiety, and is well liked by almost everyone.
I know dozens of people who were homeschooled. It's very popular where I live, and I don't know any of them that are doing badly in life. Most are married and have families. Several are teachers and counselors. I have so much more trouble making friends and even talking to people I don't know than they do because of the psychological damage being bullied did to me.
Can’t think of another context where my kids being alone with a bunch of strangers I haven’t vetted for safety for 8 hours a day would count as socialization
They might be less SOCIALIZED but they're definitely more CIVILIZED.
We are socialized. Just with kids who are good friends to us.
My sentiments EXACTLY!
@@ethanthomas5724 exactly!
Well said
Take kids to the park, church, family functions, museums, karate or gymnastics classes, community theater, etc etc. You don’t want the socialization of drugs, sex, cursing, defiance, social media, bullying, and other filth that public school has to offer.
Homeschoolers get together with other homeschoolers after making sure they're on close to the same page with all the really important stuff ... We understand they need connections and friends 😊
It's actually false that they need friends, in all honesty. That message got us to push our kids onto one another more than the true connection with their family and thus much easier to manipulate. "Peer orientation" is what Dr.Gabor Maté speaks about in his amazing book called "Hold onto your kids. Why parents should matter more than peers."
It's not to say kids shouldn't make friends, however. Our society just puts a much bigger meaning on it for our children than what's actually required.
If they didn't, then how could they manipulate the youth masses as they are now doing so clearly and easily.
between the big Homeschooling group we were apart of(about 30 families that met on Thursdays to teach classes for the kids). 4-H, Church, and Civil war reenacting. yeah I was plenty socialized as a kid.
I don’t want my kids to socialize with those sick mentally ill confused people. We work hard to connect with our homeschoolers so that they can have peer age friends who are NOT crazy
my niece and nephew were home schooled and were well socialized. the programs in the states they lived in(military family) would set up trips and group activities and there are alot of those things with in their community.
My kids are actually more socialized than public school kids. They know how to carry conversations with all ages, not just their peers. They also know how to be polite and kind, and have patience with younger children.
Lots of public school students can do all of that. It's really just a matter of choice.
We homeschool. Our kids socialize plenty, with all ages. They're very adaptable to being around people of all ages, economic levels, races, genders, etc. They haven't developed the trend of most public school children of bullying and picking on the differences they see in others.
We home schooled our two kids. In regard to socialization, you learn social skills from adults that have social skills and not from other kids that don't.
Great answer.
Like my kid need exposed to evil at school for socializing.🤦♀️🙏🏼this kind of guilt trip isn’t going to work these days !
We homeschool and our kids may not have “best friends” just yet but they socialize in sports and scouts, and with our neighborhood. They regularly pick up trash on our main road (they’ll be in the paper tomorrow to be recognized) and they are constantly stopped by peoples of all ages. It’s so nice to see! Our oldest who is 9 has a friendship with an elderly man who lives down the street… he brings over his War magazine subscription after he’s read it and is always bringing over new war books. The man is amazed our son has the reading capability and also the social skills to hold a conversation with him. When I’m asked how we do it? I reply that we are always together. Most people get a confused look because they can’t see how a mothers influence 100% of the time can be a good thing.
I am a second generation homeschooler, as is my husband. We still get the socialization question 😂
Homeschooled kids are better socialized than public school kids who are either bullied or the bully.
Lol. Not always. I'm glad we have choices in the us.
My oldest son and daughter were homeschooled from 6/7 yrs old. Both went on to college (16-18) and then University. (We are in UK) Both have degrees, on has a Masters, are married and have their own homes.
I used to say "What social skills does a 7 year old have to teach another? None! They learn it from their parents.
I was home schooled. BSME and MBA from great schools. We make a great living. Married a nurse who is a stay at home mom.
More importantly, we have 3 great kids and homeschool.
I couldn’t be homeschooled, but when I wanted to move schools for my senior years I did all the paperwork. I was so determined to move schools and my mum let me because she knew that that was what I wanted.
I graduated last year and I am so thankful for that choice.
Socialization is only as good as the social group they’re part of. Be picky. Our public school district was a safe environment for our kids, conducive to their academic, social, physical and artistic development. If it hadn’t been, we would have chosen private school or homeschooling.
SO glad you decided to run for office brother. We need more clear thinkers at all levels. I'm in NC, but would vote for you in a heartbeat if I was up your way.
Homeschooling isn't what many people think. The press, and public school systems propagate a lot of disinformation along these lines. It IS work however, so it requires dedicated parents and a network of like-minded people.
God bless.
We homeschooled three kids. I made sure they also took art classes etc with other homeschool kids. It worked well.
I find home schooled children are far better at mature socializing. They perform better at university and excell in the work place.
Just saying homeschool kids actually know how to talk to ALL age groups not just their peer group. I was homeschooled and my kids are and will be for the loooong hall
There is an underground community that goes to the wildest places during the day, has the entire place to themselves to wander and explore, the professionals come out and answer all the crazy questions, and even let’s you run the equipment. But shhh! Don’t tell the others or they’ll want to join, too. Basically my kids thought we owned the art museums, history museums, science museums, libraries, and zoos. They learned how to interact with adults of all sizes, colors, and socio-economic levels. Their adult world bosses love them because they’re hard workers, quick to find solutions because they aren’t afraid of failure, and respectful.
We home schooled both of our sons all the way through high school. There are zero socialization issues with either son. Both are married fathers with lovely wives and lovely homes. One went on to college and received two degrees. That socialization argument is a crock. There are children in the school system that have no social skills. childrfen need to be taught how to socialize. Best job for parents to do!
Yes, agreed... I homeschool, and I hear all the time... Wow, I would have never guessed they were homeschooled, except that they are very polite.
We used to have a “Caution Unsocialized Children on Board “ placard on our vehicles. My response was actually to ask the misinformed person :Just what skills do you want them to know? Was it gang culture, sexual promiscuity of bullying? That usually shut them up. FYI, my kids are now grown, one has a master’s degree and teaches public school, one is an employed Actor and the 3rd graduated Cum Laud from a university.
🙄.... It's the dumbest question I get. And it is often times at extra curricular activities! I told one lady that is why I had more than one kid 😂
I went to public school. I graduated 9 years ago, and I can only imagine how much worse it's gotten, especially in the elementary and middle school stages. When I went to elementary school, it was a weird day if there WASN'T a fight. I sent a bully to the hospital with bite wounds, and I was one of the well-behaved kids. Through middle school, most of us were outright savages and teachers were basically incapable of controlling their classes. In high school, I watched one girl slam another's head in a car door 5 or 6 times. Public schools are some of the most violent places in North America, and that's not even touching on other behaviors like drug and alcohol abuse or sexual behavior (and often sexual misconduct). By the time I went to high school, I think more of us were smoking than not smoking, and most of us were smoking pot and drinking. That's how public school will socialize your kids. As someone who went, 0/10, do not recommend.
Homeschooled Kid here, I can confirmed as long as there's Co-ops and activities for us to do. We're much happier. Plus, some kids (like myself) don't do well in large classrooms where our needs might be overlooked.
Forced association is NOT socialization! If children only associate with their peers, how do you expect them to get along with and interact with people who are younger or older than they are? My three children were home schooled, and when all three were still pre-teens, they could talk to/interact with anyone from two to 92 in an appropriate manner.
As a homeschooled student, I would get asked this question by a lot of adults. “Don’t you want friends?” At first, it really confused me. I was part of a massive homeschooling community in my town, and I had many friends of all ages. I had observed my public school friends with their groups, maybe totaling 3-4 kids, all of the same age and opinions. I believe that homeschooling nerdy me was the best thing my parents could’ve done for my social life and self-esteem.
I still want this man to run for president.
As someone currently in a public high school, I don't get socialization anyways 😅
Honestly looking at today's kids and everyone I ever met in school socialization is a net negative
As a current homeschooled high schooler, this is so true 😂
I only recently came across your videos and my wife had been following you for a while. Really appreciate your perspectives and thoughts. We've been considering moving to Virginia and you're certainly helping me lean into that idea more.
A teacher of mine homeschooled his kids and they all did sports from a young age.
Not home schooled myself, but my closest friend in the military was. Not only is he smart as hell, but he also displays a great judge of character. He’s married and has a kid and I believe his family will do well. Kinda hard not to attribute some of his success to homeschooling.
That is a real concern for us homeschooling parents. We have to find safe places to socialize and honestly those are kinda dwindling. Trying to navigate around lefty, churchy, crazy, and/or crunchy to find some well adjusted people is really hard.
I homeschooled through eigth grade and took a homeschool art class and played basketball on the homeschool team. Most of my friends i met through church. I was not unsocialized by any means, and I could communicate with adults very well.
Our boys (homeschooled) get plenty of socialization time at church, other homeschool kids, and with family.
From a guy who mostly agrees with with the right, you’re just as crazy as the left. Bible thumpers make me almost as sick as pink haired thems.
Exactly!!
Ohhhh right so they're being.... indoctrinated....by not being allowed to leave your ideological bubble....like the thing you accuse the left and public schools of doing......
The irony that you avoid school BC it's a "indoctrination camp for socialists" but you'll bring your children to the priests personal child brothel is absolutely hilarious. Every conservative accusation is a confession
Right. The most well socialized kidsi have met are home schooled
I’ve watched quite a few of your videos. I just want to commend you on your candid, morally correct speaking on different topics. We need more MEN like you to step up.
Nailed it! Socialization is so over rated!
And like when in any other aspect of life are we around people the same age as us. My kids get socialization in different ways. From family, friends, going to the zoo.
Yes and no, as someone who was homeschooled for almost for all of elementary, middle school, and high school there were definitely times I struggled a lot. I had to try a lot harder to make up for not being able to grow the social skills as easily as those kids who had to use them everyday in a schoolyard. I feel I am a decently functioning adult now but it was a journey. I know, my siblings struggled as well and some still are to some extent.
However, that said, I feel I got a lot better education being homeschooled then the typical student in a public school. Also I do believe it is plenty possible for a homeschool kid to have just as much socialization as a public student; however, it takes more work and parents should be trying to put their kids in as many situations as possible to get that socialization. Whether this is mass get togethers with cousins, family friend, etc... or whether it is sports or some other outlet I do certainly believe it is crucial in aiding in a child all around development
@@DanielTheCanadianOne I’m literally in the exact same situation.
@@DanielTheCanadianOne like everything, it's got to be right for the individual :)
It's actually not. You conservatards just enjoy when you stumble across UA-cam videos that affirm your made up beliefs.
You'd have to be educated enough to teach your child anything for one. So it's off the table for 90% of y'all
Homeschooling has gotten better over the years and parents have learned how to socialize their kids.
Homeschool kids are more civilized than a lot of the little animals in public schools, some of those kids are straight up monsters at school and home, I've seen of few of those entitled monsters roaming in groups on bikes around the neighborhood.
They destroy property, they steal from people's open garages because their patents never made them mind and probably don't care what the brat does as long as it's not near them.
I fully intend to homeschool my kids when I have them and I can honestly say that I'd rather they weren't friends with public school kids knowing everything going on in public schools now and how too many parents let their kids act.
All opinions presented as facts.
I never maintained any friends from public high school. All my friends were made from work. Over 30 years later, and we are still just are close.
There are lots of ways to socialize out side of school. But most the homeschooled kids I've meet are outing and good people to be around. I've only meet 2 homeschool kids that weren't really social and very shy; they were the ones who went from being school to homeschooling, because of very bad bullying issues. They just didn't have the confidence to try to be open towards other/new people. But are still nice people to be around, once they feel okay around you.
“You’re killing me smalls” 😂
Homeschool our kids, plenty of socialization. Large group of homeschool families, great kids and parents and they don't have to go to the insane asylum called public school.
I completely agree, but I can understand the concern. There's a reason I don't keep in touch with my public school classmates, certainly. I had qualms with the public school curriculum even when I attended, and I know it's gotten worse. But I've met some of the home-schooled students who attended my boyfriend's alma mater, a Christian college... and some of those people have no worldly skills nor common sense. Poor hygiene, lack of professional skills, lack of conflict resolution skills, poor money management skills, etc. I fully trust that you are the kind of parent to raise kind, competent, responsible, and intelligent children-but I've also seen what happens when home school parents fail their children.
I am socialized, but I can be awkward in public settings, but that's because my parents ended up homeschooling me due to bullying and when they took me to socialize I would get really shy and I am better at talking about things I studied than playing pretend and I only liked playing on high places where someone could shove me off when either one of my parents was with me on it or I was all alone cause I was scared... The public school made it hard for me to socialize because of fear and no one to help or protect me. With the help of my friends from church, and the home school group meet-ups every other Friday, and my choir friends helped me out of my shell as a teen, it took a lot of work and I am still a bit awkward, but I now have friends and can function in society just fine. Parents who can choose who their kids interact with and remove bad influences from their children before real harm can be done to them is important.
That was my moms reason for not doing homeschool. Now here i am, a truck driver, barely speaking to anyone any day. I totally needed to go to public school for this.
I was homeschooled. I always had very deep and meaningful friendships as I grew up.
Not to mention that there are homeschool communities that allow for socialization outside the format of a public school system. Usually like minded people and there's lots of debate that can be had on it, but being homeschooled does not necessarily mean you're isolated. However, just like with any random public school, some homeschooling is done properly and some is not.
I homeschooled my kids and they had a better education than public schools and universities were eager to offer them full scholarships.
Homeschooling our kids was the best decision we’ve ever made for them. They get PLENTY of socialization. We just took 23 of them to the Science Museum. 🤓
My kids did go to a private school and public in elementary school. However, their attendance was atrocious because I'd pull them out depending on what activities were planned. I wasn't going to allow them to be influenced by others. The teacher was to teach my kids to read, write, math, and science, not force propaganda down my kids' throats. I had a few nosey-Nellies try to involve themselves in my children's lives, but I shut that shit down in a hurry. I can be aggressive when people overstep their positions.
Homeschool & socializing is two different things ..You can socialize your children without Public school interaction.. Theres homeschool organization that socialize among themselves fine..But your kids need to know life in a good way, NOT skipping, party hardy, backseats or behind the barn extra curricular activity.😉☺️..Theres plenty of activities kids can do..Parks, Sports ( counties & cities have their on team sports, & homeschoolers can join in)..So much..I know homeschoolers who are either awkward around theirs peers, or buckwild....I feel it's up to the parents to provide well-rounded children or until they get to the age where they just don't want to listen whether it be homeschooled private or public...
My kids are able to communicate better than public school kids. They are socialized; sports, dance, church, and friends keep them social.
Homeschooling in the USA has come a long way over past few decades.. many more families realize it is necessary to do. And yes, the public schools are dictated to by the federal, state, and local governments. There have traditionally been many Christians teaching in the public schools of the USA, but their hands are being tied more than ever. Imo all churches with space available should be setting up day school instruction areas and cooperating all they can with homeschooling Co- ops, and enlisting the help of all interested adults in their congregations. Many American churches have been doing these things for years. Perhaps even paying for some basic pedagogy instruction and child psychology training so that more " lay people" can assist productively without a full teaching degree.
We are now at total crisis intervention stage in the USA. We cannot permit America's institutions to continue to dominate all areas of our lives if the lgbt agenda cannot be contained. It appears to me that it has already decimated significant numbers of school districts, and now critical race theory is adding to the destruction of American educational systems
It doesn’t even matter what’s going on in the world. In the 20 years I’ve been homeschooling, we have never lacked for activities to do or friends to do them with. It’s the most outdated homeschool question I see and I think it’s ridiculous people still ask it.
Well, it’s because tons of homeschooling parents don’t address the issue properly, and their kids end up being socially awkward and sheltered to an extreme degree. It can be avoided, but it takes extra work from the parents… work that not all of them want to put in.
When we were considering homeschooling it was one of the top questions we had. It wasn't a gotcha question, it was genuine - I live in an area where homeschooling is rare, and I was genuinely worried that there would be very limited opportunities for my children to socialise with other children. Especially non like-minded families, which was a core value for us in raising our children. I was never saying it was impossible - I was just asking how people do it.
@@josh-jesushexandstonks9878 please kindly reference this “ton” of weird, unsocialized homeschoolers. I find those to be the rare exception, certainly not the rule. So please share your proof of a “ton.”
Again, homeschooling does not equal no socialization. Homeschoolers are not cave dwellers. Our kids get out more than school kids and have more time, opportunities and relationships with people of all different ages.
@@bradgatetosudeley I’m not saying it’s a gotcha question. I’m saying if folks actually understood what homeschooling is, it wouldn’t even be asked. Keep researching.
@@preppingmama you could call it an anecdote, because “unsocial” is very hard to measure, and as far as I know there’s no real unbiased studies that can legitimately prove anything. It’s more of a common sense play, If you’re not used to being around random people all the time - ESPECIALLY as a kid - and you’re suddenly thrust into the modern world, you’re going to feel out of place.
Nail. On. Head.
I have almost 14 year old daughter and she's in a charter school. She also has adhd. The ONE thing positive I can say for covid was that it showed parents that there are other kinds of learning for kids that work.
My kid has learned more effectively and has given her a sense of accomplishment that traditional schools didnt. Oh, there are still challenges. But they are fewer than before.
I had organized classes with other homeschoolers of various ages and backgrounds.
On top of that, I competed in formal public speaking and debate tournaments for 7 years in school. They were a week long, and the competitors had to do all the research and preparation themselves.
I would say I was pretty well socialized as a kid.
I always thought homeschoolers took care of socialization with organized sports, scouting, church, and private club activities. In comparison to public schoolers who get loaded up on homework.
I remember when I was a kid back in the '60s my best friend went to catholic school and I went to public. We only socialized outside of school hours. Yep, socialization was that hard.
The weird thing is that I go to public school and am very reserved. I have not so close of friends, I don’t talk to them right now, and I have always been socially awkward and anxious.
Like we say in homeschool circles, "Not all socialization is *good* socialization. "
"You're here to learn, not to socialize." - every teacher I ever had 😂
LOL so true! And some of us heard that more than others!
I was a homeschooled kid. SOCIALIZE YOUR CHILDREN! It doesn't have to be anything crazy, but put them on a little league team, take them to game nights at your local board game store, something, anything. And no, Sunday school doesn't count, that's just having them interact with other versions of themselves. Let them know about others, explain why you disagree with their behavior, teach them that there is adversity instead of mollycoddling them into being obedient drones that don't know how to deal with a situation outside of their norm.
Community sports, youth activity programs, volunteering, youth group and clubs, neighbors, job, this are things where there is socializing.
On on hand, covid cancelled my coaching my son’s high school wrestling team, but it was very good that I was able to homeschool my son to finish high school.
My husband's aunt homeschooled all 5 of her kids and they met with other homeschool groups for prom, field trips, or just allowing other parents who excelled in other areas to step up. Like one might be great in chem where another has no business teaching it - her kids are now all functioning members of society.
"aren't you scared they won't fit in?"
"Actually that's kind of the point"
My mom got asked this a looot in the early 90s. We were pretty early homeschoolers, it became more mainstream when I was about 14. One day, my mom got home from a store where too many busybodies asked this, and she began a rant, saying "socialization? We dress them in brown shirts and march around singing." She was pretty mad.
I worked in a high school for a year, as a teacher, and found that all that happened there was the kids developed power hierarchies, abusive relationships, watching other kids bad habits and then taking them home and perpetuating them at home and in the school system. However, the next year I got a roommate who add been home-schooled. That poor girl is so lost. She didn't even know when she was using and abusing people. Blind and lost and conniving. I've dated people before who were home-schooled too. They're definitely elements missing and both systems. I don't know what the right answer is. I hate both ways. I think we're basically screwed as a society.😂😂😂
I have been a fan of homeschooling, since I became an adult, and this to me, was always the dumbest argument on his face. I know exactly who they would be socializing with because I went to public school. That being said you’ll become responsible for their education. You’re also responsible for their socialization and extracurricular activities. However, most parents that go, this route are doing it to provide a better service to their kid and so are usually into having them do things. That’s why like half the kids in scouts were always homeschooled.
Second generation homeschooler here. It is way easier when I was homeschooled. Today it is all about networking through social media, at least in our area. Example, every Friday our kids play soccer with 70 other kids, broken up by age groups of course.
There is also church and their activities within their Sunday school classes.
I ex boyfriend's little brother was homeschooled and screwed him up, no social skills. Unless you homeschool several children, and those kids play with neighbors, friends, sports, visit cousins, Sunday school.
This days most children do not have siblings, neighbors to play or cousins close by.
Some church goers that have all or majority in homeschool have a lot of social activities and better education than public school.
In this day and age, they don’t need to be socialized with anyone out there. It’s just become way too dangerous and unnecessary.
Here's one for you. Our local public school principal doesn't allow any of the kids to socialize at all during school hours this includes at lunch. My opinion is this policy renders the public school useless, just as well shut it down and everyone just homeschool if they can't socialize. Save a ridiculous amount of money
Seeing the socialization that occurs in public schools, parents that care dont want our kids socializing with those heathens
We home school our child. She has positive interactions with other kids at activities. Not held back for the slowest learner in the classroom
As long as you realize socialization is important for your child's development.
that painting is so beautiful!!!!
Scouts, church, town sports (not school), and just going to the park at a young age, or other mall activities.