Being Transparent & Vulnerable | Divorce, Dating, Remarriage
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- Опубліковано 26 лип 2024
- We have some exciting plans for our channel, (including a name change!) but we first want to clear the air and lay a foundation of honesty, transparency and vulnerability with those who choose to follow our journey.
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Shirley: homeandarrows
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My husband and I have a similar story. He was a widower, and I was divorced. God brought us together miraculously 3 years ago. We're a blended family. You're right, it's hard finding resources for those in our situation and we hope to help with that. I found this channel trying to find a way to homeschool our 5 kids. Then I was blessed to find this video to hear your story. I praise God for what He did for us and I praise Him for how he worked in your lives as well.
Thank you for your transparency!
Really, you didn’t have to share any of this with anyone but The Father, but as a follower for years I really appreciate your honesty and openness about it all so that we (your viewers and those who consider you a friend) can better understand where y’all have been and what y’all have come out of.
Thank you for your gentleness with others involved and their stories. I think y’all handled this with grace and love. May you continue to seek the Father and His Word together! Blessings! Looking forward to hearing more!
Your comment seriously means so much. It was our hope that this video would be honest & honoring yet bring clarity to those who have been following along. Whew...hard line to balance sometimes! Thank you for taking the time to watch and write!!
The Holy Spirit just radiates off of you two ❤️ You will know them by their fruit- and whatever people are saying about you, we share the same spirit and operate in the same Body and all I see is two hearts on fire for the Lord, concerned more with His ways than their own. Not that you guys haven’t made mistakes, but you own them and keep moving forward for the Lord. You haven’t let the lies of guilt or bitterness to overtake you and that is huge in this situation. You handle the topic of your exes with respect and not even a hint of a sarcasm through it all. I know Satan would be whispering to me that I deserve to be angry and you two are filled with the joy of the Lord ❤️ There is nothing more beautiful than seeing God’s love flow through people. May God bless you with an honest, transparent marriage- one that shares in the struggle and confesses quickly to one another that you can love each other and have a fellowship that God designed for us ❤️
I’ve been a follower for years! Rooting for you guys, praying alongside you, and looking forward to what God is going to do with your marriage ministry! ❤️
Thank you so much! Praying God can use our story and our brokenness for His glory somehow. xox
So glad to see you back. Really looking forward to these topics. Thank you for sharing!
Shirley , I had thought of you many times as you haven’t shared on UA-cam. I always felt so encouraged from your videos. I just thought of you again today and found your channel again. Was not expecting this at all but i thank you so much for sharing and telling us what happened I know it’s not my business but like you said it really helped to know if I felt comfortable to continue to watch . And biblicaly you are so in the right and it really was a sigh of relief that it is so. I am looking forward to more content especially homeschool I have 4 kiddos now only one is 2nd grade and next year will be adding kindergarten too . I love having a seasoned Christian homeschool momma to look up to .
I am so glad you’re happy! That’s what God wants for his children. I pray that he will continue to hold you close and guide you!
I was just thinking about you the other day and how it has been awhile since I’ve seen a video so it’s crazy that today you uploaded a video
Our Father loves us and wants our happiness. When we do our best to follow His wishes, He supports and leads us. I’m happy you are happy.
So after watching your video I’m amazed. It’s incredible how you managed to go through ALL of this with 5 kiddos and come out as strong as ever. I admire that! And I pray God keeps you happy and healthy 💕
Thank you so much, Alicia! God really has been so good!
I really admire your effort to keep all if the details private. It seems to be a great temptation for many women to rant about the ways they have been wronged. Our stories are similar in many many ways, but my ex husband left the picture entirely and never even met our youngest son who was born before our divorce was finalized. God was so merciful to us, and my now husband adopted my children and loves them as his own.
Shirley, I've followed your story for years now and am constantly encouraged by your faith and walk with Christ. You always spur me to look to Him, trust in Him all the more, and seek Him always. I'm so grateful that you all are sharing your story and seeking to be an encouragement to others! You both will be a blessing to so many, no doubt. God is clearly with you both and it's been an honor to watch your story unfold. ❤️
Thanks for watching and for your super sweet comment, Kelly!!
So excited to see you back here! I’m happy to see you so happy and I am thrilled to see your future videos and I’m grateful for the inspiration and sweet spirit that you bring to me through your channel!
Thank you so much, Jennifer!! xo
All I can say is that I’m so in awe of Gods faithfulness! I’m so glad you have the heart to encourage divorced parents. There’s a huge lack of in our church, sadly. Thank you for your honesty! Your heart for the Lord is so evident, I’m so looking forward to see how the Lord uses your marriage for His kingdom!
Yes! I remember looking on UA-cam as a single, Christian mom for someone, anyone with a story like mine. It’s def a passion God has placed in both our hearts...so many broken and hurting families that need encouragement and hope!
This! Thank you so much for your transparency! I loved watching home and arrows and was left with so many questions. Thank you for clearing the air and being transparent! Look forward to the next chapter in your life and continuing to follow you! Dustin, thank you for standing for righteousness and living out the conviction of the Holy Spirit and not trying to justify! That makes all the difference! Thank you you two!
God gave me such a good good man for sure! Thanks for commenting, watching and following! xo
"But in the Christian community divorce (*insert anything else*) isn't supposed to happen, but it does!" YYYEESSS. Can I love this a million times?! Thank you so much for letting us in, and for your vulnerability, your willingness to share, your compassion for others, and so much more! I can't wait to see how God uses you both!
That's my man lol We're so excited to tackle some hard family topics with truth AND grace. Thanks so much for your comment
@@ThisBlendedHouse rooting you on as you cast light into dark places. This should be the next thing the church tackles how to deal with biblically, so thank you for walking this out in faith and with honor and integrity
You guys are amazing!!!! So inspiring! I wish you all the love and blessings of the world!
Thank you for sharing your story. God is good, and I'm happy for you guys and your testimony of His faithfulness even through the mess life threw at you! You are always an encouragement, and I can't wait to see what else God has planned for you and your channel!
Thank you!!
Love your story and y’all seem so great together ❤️ I hope you guys stick around on UA-cam. I have a Christian blended family and relate sooo much to this story!! I’ve seen a lot of family vloggers but not many that are open about their faith. Thank you!
I so appreciate your honesty. Such a blessing and encouragement to follow the Lord with openness. Thank you for sharing your testimony of what God has done. ❤
Thanks for explaining. You didn't have to but I was also stunned and now I understand better. All the best.
Cheering so hard for you both, friend! God had such an amazing plan coming to fruition through some really tough circumstances. You have so many people in your corner praying for you! 🤍
He did. I wish I could go back to myself 2 years ago and tell myself God was gonna work it all out better than I could have ever imagined ♥️😘
Thank you for this video. It’s not so much that you needed to reveal your personal life, but you and Dustin have shown how God works in our lives, even when things don’t go the way you think it should. He heals, blesses, and brings gifts even better than we can imagine to His faithful. May God bless you both and may He give you courage to stand united against those who will judge and persecute. I’m happy to see you so happy, Shirley!
Thank you Katie! We actually prayed and asked God to protect us before filming...we knew the judgements could be harsh. But our hope is to walk our lives out in both truth AND grace. Thanks for your comment and thanks for watching! xo
Love your story ❤️ beautiful display of redemption!
Thanks for addressing this, you guys. It couldn’t have been easy…both your journeys and this video. But I’m thankful God gave you the grace you needed. Continued prayers for you as you minister to people who must often feel alone and ostracized by the Christian community. ❤️
Katie. Thank you so so much for your grace filled comment that actually spurred on the idea for this video. So so grateful. xo
What an amazing testimony and story! Thank you for sharing and for being so vulnerable with us. I love how you both were so respectful and graceful. So amazing, God is so faithful and good to us through it all! Lord willing you will feel lead to share more with us and be a light to others that have similar stories to you both. 🙏 God Bless & Congratulations!
Your mutual desire to honor God, each other, and those around you is inspiring. After watching, I feel like I want to diligently seek to honor God in my relationship with Him and those around me. Your story and marriage is beautiful evidence of God's grace, love and blessing. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for such a sweet comment and for watching! I love hearing about your desire to want to diligently seek God in your relationships. xo
Thank you for sharing your hearts and for being so transparent. It's so refreshing to be following Christians here on youtube that are true followers of God, and who have a desire to be blameless before Him. It seems to be more and more rare these days, unfortunately. I pray God's richest blessings on your marriage! Can't wait to see the name change for the channel. Don't keep us waiting too long!! lol!!
lol I actually have been working on a new UA-cam header this morning with the name change! Hopefully it won't be but just a couple weeks! Thanks for such a sweet comment, Crystal.
I was so happy to see your video pop up yesterday bc I had just been thinking of you Sunday morning! Im so thankful that you are doing well, and appreciate your transparent update. Its unfortunately so true that talking about divorce or sin and failures is very taboo in Christian circles. Im thankful that you are being open and real bc God can use us when we put aside fake righteousness and opt for authenticity instead! Looking forward to hearing more about God's faithfulness to you. God bless you both and your children❤
Wow. Dustin and I are driving and I just read him your comment...so good. I def took a deep breath & we def said a prayer before hitting publish on this one :) Thank you!
So happy for you both. Enjoyed meeting Dustin at CC. Thank you for living transparent and encouraging others with your experiences and comforting others in Christ.
Thanks Michael! Glad you and Dustin connected!
Thank you so much for sharing your stories. In July my husband told me he didn’t love me anymore after 13 years of marriage. Since that day I have felt so secure in God. I’ve had to get a full time job and am preparing to be a single (financially and so much more) mom. I’m looking forward to your future videos.
Oh Maggie. I can tell that you are strong and you are brave. And with God, you are not alone. Great joy lies ahead! Just keeping taking the next step. xo
God is faithful always! So glad he has been so faithful to you two! May you two be blessed and protected! 💕
I love you said that. Right before we filmed we literally prayed and asked the Lord for His protection. xo
I am a divorced single mom of 3. Your story really brings me hope. Thank you so much for sharing your testimony. Please keep us single moms/dads in your prayers! I know God isnt done with my story. So happy I found your channel. ❤️
Your transparency will bring glory to God! I was a single mom (not from divorce) other sinful choices and my son was 4 when I met my husband he was a single dad from a divorce (biblical grounds) and his daughter was 11. We had to work through things in our dating as well and once married working through blending a family and the hardship that come with our past choices and people involved (exes). God definitely has grown us and now married 13 years this month and we have three sons together totaling 5 children as a whole family and his daughter is off on her own married and expecting there 3rd baby so we are grandparents I'm in my early 40s hes in his early 50s so we get grand kids young :) God is good!!! He is in the family building business anyway he can get the glory after we mess things up he is still good when we commit to him through it all.
Beautiful story of God's redemption, provision, and blessings. Love how you were honoring in telling the story too. God bless
Brought me to tears! God is making all things new. Bless your sweet family!
Thanks Jaimie! He is!! xox
Just love your RESTORATION story! Both of you deserve the best of the best! Your kids deserve the best of the best! What two better people to help navigate and carry the power of the cross in unity to your children than you two! It’s a true Beauty for ashes season! You both walk uprightly and with great integrity! Miss you guys sooo much! I look forward to your new adventures!
Thanks friend! xo
Thank you so much for sharing! It was such a blessing to me!
Absolutely beautiful!!! ❤ Thank you for telling your stories. I’m am new to your channel and will be following.
Your story really gives me hope! Thank you for sharing! I am a homeschooling mom of five, and my husband of 12 years has decided to divorce me.
I just love you two. I love you together. I love the redemptive story of God on display here❤️
I'm sorry for the hurts that have happened in both of your lives. It sounds like you've handled a hard situation so well.
Love hearing more about your families stories. Thank so much for sharing :)
Thanks for watching and commenting, Vanessa! xo
going through a divorce, entering life as a single mother. I'm so happy to hear all the happy ending (re-marriage or remaining single) stories after divorce!!
Hugs mama. Press into God, He's got you and your babies!
💕 hey friend! 💕you’re kids are so blessed to have you!
You aren’t the only people to make mistakes. Praise God that He puts them from the East is from the west. I pray that God will use your humility in sharing and transparency to honor Him and draw more people to be repentant. Praying for you both and your marriage. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Def took a deep break before hitting "publish" on this one haha :) You open yourself up to a lot of criticism by sharing, but so thankful for people who watch the video with eyes of grace. xo
@@ThisBlendedHouse He who is without sin should cast the first stone!
Thanks for sharing! We are all broken people with a need for Jesus! Thank the Lord we have peace and joy in him. ❤️ I look forward to seeing your channel changes. 😊 Many blessings to you both!
Thankful for His grace upon grace and for people who recognize we ALL have a need for Jesus! xo
So true making life decisions through prayer and listening to The Lord is every step of the way is the ONLY WAY!
Our family had to do that despite family telling us no your crazy! Here we are 4 years later God has provided the entire way we had no idea what was o cone but we trusted and looking back it is AMAZING seeing what he has done! 🥰
yesss! 100% the only way. There will always be so many voices and so many opinions. Godly counsel def has its place, but God's is the only voice we ultimately need to listen to and follow!
So happy to see your face again!!
Thanks! Feels good to be back :)
What a blessing you both are 🥰
I felt the same as the original commentor. Thank you for sharing!
Love the heart! Praise God!
So proud of y’all!
Thanks so much, friend. xo
Love this!! So happy for you guys and excited for this new season in your life! Xoxo
God bless your marriage. I am on a similar journey.
I know this video is a bit old but were you referring to Tim Keller's sermon on friendship?? I absolutely love that sermon. Probably a longshot but that would be too funny
Thank you so much God bless you 💖🌷🌷
I relate with y’all’s story on SOO many levels. Your vulnerability is refreshing! Though the past 3 years for us hasn’t included marital divorce it has been a major time of separation, loss and depending solely on the Father as we all grieve our prodigal child. It’s now a relationship only the Father can restore in His will and time. We rest totally in Him as we all grieve and learn to live again after our family unit has been forever changed. But through it all we rest in the perfect peace of the Holy Spirit that passes all understanding and leave her in His care as we heal and move forward. Blessings
P.S - I watched your video and was encouraged. I read the closing scripture and I cried! Isaiah 61 is the same scripture the Holy Spirit has laid on our heart. We have spoken it in joy and in tears over the past 3 years and we stand on its promise!
Oh mama. Your comment. I will never forget the pain when the shift happened in our family unit. Never lose hope. God sees the big picture...listen for His voice and follow where He leads. God can untangle the messes of our lives far better than we ever could. Wish we could go grab coffee and talk about all the things. Hugs.
Congratulations! U have a wonderful fiance y'all deserve all the best. Sad that u didn't meet b4
Are you still homeschooling your kids?
Will you make any more videos about homeschooling or parenting?
I've just subscribed (Carlos)
He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her. You are both accountable to God alone, no one else. Dios los bendiga! Espero todo les vaya bien! Les deseo lo mejor!!!
Muchas gracias, hermana!
The thing is that disagreement with your decision wasn’t opinion based, speaking for myself. Scripture literally tells us that God hates divorce. And no, you don’t owe anyone an answer but God. But Matthew 18 addresses how we should address fellow believers when we are in open unrepentant sin.
Yes, God hates divorce. You know what He also hates? Unfaithfulness. Especially repetitive, unrepentant. He hates abuse too.
I think a point that is important to make, is that we agree. Completely. God does hate divorce. He hates that sin destroyed our marriages. But Jesus very specifically discusses this subject in Matthew 5:32. But we aren’t living in an echo chamber. Our divorce and remarriage is not the best outcome. Restored and redeemed families would be. But sin is very real. Neither of us had any control in how things fell apart. My case was particularly extreme in that regard.
So while I do respect what you are saying, I do believe the disagreement you list is opinion and based off your interpretation. An interpretation that I feel I can scripturally refute.
But also, please know that we understand and are never bothered by these disagreements. Some will always feel we are wrong. If we are, we will answer to a just God for our decisions. As you know. Thank you for your input!
The divorce and remarriage for adultery doctrine is based solely on the supposed guilt of the wife in Matthew 5:32 and 19:9. However, the wife, in the above scriptures, is clearly not guilty of fornication because the Jews (that Jesus was speaking to) were still living under the law, and if fornication was discovered, there was a moral obligation to report the offender according to Deuteronomy 22:13-24. The wife, who would have been found guilty of fornication, was subsequently stoned to death, according to the law, which had still governed the Jews up until Christ's death on the cross. The same for a woman caught in adultery, according to Leviticus 20:10. How could a wife, guilty of fornication, or adultery, under the law of Moses, be given a writing of divorcement and be caused to commit adultery with whosoever marries her, that is divorced? Jesus is clear, in these examples, that the wife is not guilty of fornication, but is still caused to commit adultery if she marries another man now that she is divorced. This is the only way that Matthew 5:31-32, and Matthew 19:9 keep harmony with Romans 7:2-3, and 1 Corinthians 7:39.
Unlike the synoptic gospels of Mark and Luke, which were written to evangelize the Gentiles, Matthew was written to the Jews, and has of 24 characteristics that identify it as intended for the house of Israel.
The ancient Jews called the betrothed (engaged) "husband" and "wife" according to Deuteronomy 22:23-24, Matthew 1:18-25, and Luke 2:5-7.
Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage) was never for fornication or adultery. Allowing those guilty of fornication and adultery to remain living and become a prospect for remarriage was against the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22:13-24 and Leviticus 20:10, which commanded that those who were found guilty of fornication and adultery be put away from Israel, and stoned to death.
The law of Moses was not given to the world, only to the Jews. From the exodus, to Christ's death on the cross, the law of Moses governed the Jewish people. Christ's death on the cross caused the Jews to become dead to the law of Moses, so they could be joined to Christ under a New Covenant. This is what Jesus's fulfillment of the law of Moses, including Deuteronomy 24:1-4 (Moses's precept of divorce and remarriage), means. Paul gave several warnings to Christian believers against keeping the ordinances of law of Moses as justification, over following Christ and his commands under the New Covenant with Christ. Keeping the ordinances of the law is no longer possible, for Israel, and that is why Christ prophesied that the temple would be destroyed. These scriptures make it clear that if you choose the law over Christ, that you must keep the whole law: Romans 7:4, Galatians 3:1-9, Galatians 3:10-29, Galatians 4:1-7, Galatians 4:21-31, and Galatians 5:1-15.
Being unequally yoked to unbelievers is not a cause for divorce, once two become one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, according to 1 Corinthians 7:12-14. Many one-flesh covenant marriages between unbelievers are recognized by God in the scriptures, most notably the marriage covenants between Herodias and King Herod's brother Philip, Potiphar and his wife, Ahab and Jezebel, and Ruth to her deceased husband Mahlon by Boaz when he took her to be his wife.
Some are teaching that 1 Corinthians 7:15 implies that those who are abandoned, by an unbelieving spouse, are "no longer bound" in a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The reason this is in conflict is due to the way some translations word it, which gives it an entirely different meaning, and context. 1 Corinthians 7:15, says, "But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace." As you can see, the actual scripture says "not enslaved" which means that the husband or wife is not enslaved to sin with the unbelieving spouse, and is free to worship Christ in peace. Subsequent translations have changed the words to imply that they nullify the marriage covenant, which is not at all the case. The issue that this creates is with 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, which says, "10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife." As you can see, those who claim 1 Corinthians 7:15 shows the Apostle Paul giving those who are abandoned permission to remarry, do not understand the command that Christ gives is to an abandoned husband, in 1 Corinthians 7:11, and that he "must not divorce" his wife, and his wife is commanded to "remain unmarried or else be reconciled" to her husband. The theory that 1 Corinthians 7:15 nullifies two as being one-flesh, due to one's unbelief, puts the Apostle Paul directly at odds with Christ, and himself, by implying that Paul has issued an opposing command to verses 10-14 in verse 15.
Some also teach that 1 Corinthians 7:27-28 is referring to both divorced men and virgin women, and not exclusively to men and women (virgins) who have never been married. This has been falsely taught for some time in churches as referring to anyone who is not currently in a marriage, which, for them, also includes those who are divorced. This is a very false assumption, and puts these verses in a different context, that is at odds with both the teachings of Christ and the apostle Paul. We see Paul refer to virgins, which signifies the unmarried who have never before been wed, which is the proper context here. We see Paul saying clearly that it is good for virgins, which is also speaking to never before wed men here, "that it is good for a man so to be." He goes on to say, "Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife." Who is he referring to here? Men who, like himself, have never married. The word "bound", in these verses, is a clear reference to betrothal (engagement) and not to a one-flesh covenant of marriage. The ancient Jews were considered bound as husband and wife during the betrothal (espousal/engagement) before becoming one-flesh in a covenant of marriage, through consummation. This is affirmed by the context of the term "bound" seen in Numbers 30:14-16.
The Jewish couples in ancient Israel, who were betrothed (engaged) were also bound together until death, either by execution for fornication, or by other causes. Then Paul says, "But and if thou marry, thou has not sinned", which is who? The men who had never married in the congregation at Corinth. So he begins with verses 25-26 speaking exclusively to men that have never married. Paul then says, "and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned", which is speaking directly in regard to virgin women who have never been married, within the congregation, not divorced women. Notice that verse 34 says, "There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband." Paul speaks plainly when he says "there is a difference between a wife and a virgin." Paul goes on to say, "But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry." This is speaking of a virgin who has become of age to bear children when it says, "let them marry." This is a clear command, to a single man, who has taken a virgin to be his wife. Paul then says, "Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well." This is referring again to the single man who decides it is better not to marry, but to stay betrothed (engaged), under the present distress, by saying that he "hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin." Paul then says, "So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better", which again means single men, in the congregation, who have betrothed a wife, do well if they marry, and those who choose not to marry their virgin brides do better, under the current climate. For more proper context of the word "bound", let's look further down in this chapter to verse 39, which says, "39The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord" (1 Corinthians 7:39). For so long, these scriptures, between verses 25-38, have been twisted and used to enable divorce and remarriage, by wayward churches and teachers, and have caused many to stumble and to be trapped in unscriptural unions.
The use of the woman at the well, in regard to marriage, falsely implies that Christ was endorsing remarriage after a divorce. This teaching is in defiance of Matthew 22:23-28, which shows a woman who had been widowed seven times, and entered into each subsequent marriage without any scriptural conflicts with God's law of marriage (one-flesh covenant) seen in Genesis 2:23-24.
Mark 10:1-12 and Matthew 19:1-12 both record Christ's teaching that day beyond the Jordan. There is no mention of the words "fornication", "writing of divorcement", or "divorced" in Mark's Gospel because Mark was not written to the Jews (as Matthew's Gospel was), but to evangelize the Romans, and likewise Luke to evangelize the Greeks, who had no knowledge of the law of Moses in Deuteronomy 22 or Deuteronomy 24. All of these facts draw a clear understanding that remarriage after a divorce, under the New Covenant with Christ, is a scripturally false and baseless teaching. Please use wisdom when living in any situation against what the scriptures command.
@@ajlouviere202 thank you so much for your thorough reply. I will def. go ahead an study this deeper with the references you gave. I have friends in real life that are also divorced and then remarried and also claim their new spouse was part of God’s plan. I am never really sure how to answer to that.
@@ruralmillennial4354 to be sure Jesus's teaching on adultery is very thorough, and there are several references in the Old and New Testament that present a clear difference between what is adultery and what is fornication, so in order to make all of the scriptures regarding this topic harmonize there can only be one conclusion (which is the same as what Jesus is shown as coming to in the scriptures), and that is those who are divorced, then marry another, commit adultery (which Jesus also warns will lead to eternal punishment during his Sermon on the Mount).
Just asking...who would be the primary person in charge of the children... Because it would be very difficult if both of you take charge...
I primarily take charge of my 5 bio kids and he takes charge of his 2 :) That’s at least the short, quick, easy answer!
@@ThisBlendedHouse interesting...so when your children get way out of hand...would you be looking for him to help or would you still take all the load... he has 2 children... Enjoy Your weekend to the MAX!..and thanks for responding
@@jessealvarez5416 I think I’d add on that their dad is very much part of the picture. They work out a lot of the discipline stuff between them. I do my best to recognize and respect my place in their little lives. I’m their stepdad. Not their dad. I can gently enforce house rules but I always cede over to her and their dad whenever things get more serious than that. It’s definitely a balancing act and a daily challenge! Thanks for the questions!
@@dustincooper3483 👍... Wishing you all the best
Do you plan on keeping the old family blogs with your ex husband in them? To be honest it’s was a bit confusing watching them. You all seemed like a happy and Godly family (of course everyone’s life is different off camera) but the blogs make your ex seem like a guy that was pursing the Lord and trying to raise your children that way. It was just confusing watching them especially since I realized it was only 3 years ago! Will you keep those videos up?
I'm so sorry for what you've both experienced. I can't imagine what stupid man would betray such a lovely, sweet, hardworking wife! His (big) loss. Matthew 5:32, Jesus clearly says "except for sexual immorality". Hugs and blessings.
Katie. Thank you. Jesus did say that and it seems to get overlooked so often. Your words are so so kind and encouraging. xo
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I found your channel due to a obedience video you posted. I was really encouraged by that and was excited to follow you for more info. But after coming across this it’s definitely discouraging like hitting a wall.
You believe the Bible is authoritative, what is the justification of Jesus saying this?
“Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.”
Luke 16:18
They both had biblical grounds for divorce via unfaithful spouses. His wife was carrying someone else’s child, & he found out after she left him. This young woman apparently was married to a serial cheater who had betrayed his marriage vows more than once. Sexual immorality is specified as grounds in Matthew 5:32.
I honestly don’t appreciate her justifying her divorce, the Bible is clear that the only reason would be fornication which is not what happened in this situation, sadly churches don’t teach that remarriage is adultery 😢