Smart woman Dumb girl Syndrome | a way OUT of the cycle

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  • Опубліковано 24 лис 2024

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  • @okikioluwakitansokoya8010
    @okikioluwakitansokoya8010 2 місяці тому +31

    This was my sign to leave him... and i just did. I'm 20 and i don't want to wast my time. Thanks for this

    • @marie-annavandeleijgraaf9254
      @marie-annavandeleijgraaf9254 2 місяці тому +3

      Goodluck love! Hold in tight and keep your head up!

    • @morgansmith334
      @morgansmith334 2 місяці тому +5

      You made a good decision. Find someone that suits you. Don’t try and make someone fit.

  • @bunnyfoster344
    @bunnyfoster344 2 місяці тому +40

    Every video is so in order of what’s currently present in my life right now. I decided not to suffer anymore and left my incompatible partner lastnight

    • @Ms.cosmiquesun
      @Ms.cosmiquesun 2 місяці тому +2

      Same I broke it off a week ago !

    • @tanjaseeger2933
      @tanjaseeger2933 2 місяці тому

      I am happy that you are growing ❤

    • @xfesto5734
      @xfesto5734 2 місяці тому +1

      Girl ! I killed this 17 year long cat & mouse toxic cycle with my ex. It’s literally the dumbest thing ever & I simply cannot entertain the nonsense anymore. This man comes around every few years with his life drama tryna use me as an emotional waste basket - I cannot be that for him anymore it’s hurting my present relationship. Now my man & I aren’t good because of this bs & yeah I’ve had enough.

  • @libelula1715
    @libelula1715 2 місяці тому +27

    feel this so deeply - had many relationships in my 20s, being frank maybe more than I should have probably (heh) - been celibate for over a year now and feel deeply that I have no energy to pull up someone (as you said) - much more worth my time and ultimately fulfilling to pour it into myself. My stomach is no longer in knots, hoping I'll finally be loved. I just turned 33.

    • @Kaneshaa
      @Kaneshaa Місяць тому

      Good for you hun ❤

  • @niemahjai6868
    @niemahjai6868 2 місяці тому +3

    I also turned 30 this year, and it’s been a long mental battle! Contemplating what’s worth it and what am I even doing!

  • @aignergillis7196
    @aignergillis7196 2 місяці тому +22

    Heyy Jasmine! I’m 36. And at this age love to me is compromise, give and take, communicative, an ebb and flow, with the openness to learn and grow together.. It is SECURE..

    • @jasminsirii
      @jasminsirii  2 місяці тому +5

      Oooo this is good! I love that. I’m definitely will keep this comment with me as I embark on my 30s! I’m so excited♥️

    • @3DSuccess
      @3DSuccess 2 місяці тому +2

      That's a great understanding and explanation of what love is to you.
      This can be a universal truth as many people can receive this definition.

    • @TheDallasHopeDealer
      @TheDallasHopeDealer 2 місяці тому +2

      Absolutely agree, 40 years old & I definitely agree. ❤

  • @Lemonadefri23
    @Lemonadefri23 2 місяці тому +27

    It's my birthday today. Turned 21. Jasmin, you are wonderful. I hope to be able to consume this type of content in my growth as a woman.

    • @jasminsirii
      @jasminsirii  2 місяці тому

      HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! Wishing you an amazing 21st year! Thank you so much for watching♥️

  • @marshamarshamarshmallow
    @marshamarshamarshmallow 2 місяці тому +4

    Hey Jasmin! I LOVE your content. I’m 38 years young. For me, love is intimate, graceful, and beautiful in that it allows both myself and my future partner to show up in the relationship exactly as we are, but working toward becoming better versions of ourselves and taking on the world together. It’s joy and peace. It’s understanding and encouraging. It’s part sacrifice when and where appropriate. It’s friendship for my friend future partner in such a way that I see their humanness and extend them grace as we’re both imperfect beings.
    Having said all that, I no longer will accept the love that starts out in struggle. That’s a promise to myself.❤

  • @ElDaCreatrix
    @ElDaCreatrix 2 місяці тому +4

    I’m 19 and I would say I’m still figuring out what love is to me. Love is connecting and ever changing. For me I’ve had relationships formed on this level of disconnect. Where me and said person don’t vibrate on the same level but I try to make them meet me where I am. And it almos always results in my feeling deeply unsatisfied and unloved. So although I’m still figuring out this Love thang but I know I want a love that changes with me and not one I have to change for.

  • @feliciabullard6183
    @feliciabullard6183 2 місяці тому +9

    Im 29 soon to be 30 . Love to me is kindness and patience. It’s so crazy that those two things are something I feel like I mostly lacked in my past relationships and also childhood.

  • @daniellahijabi5719
    @daniellahijabi5719 2 місяці тому +8

    Quickly approaching 30 and love is looking different. I've been changing my mindset from needing external love to needing more self love ❤ The most difficult part is I'm in a pretty deep relationship 😢 That I'm constantly re evaluating

    • @jasminsirii
      @jasminsirii  2 місяці тому +4

      ooooo this is exactly me. I realized I wasn’t missing out on anything when I had moments of solitude and being single. That if the love doesn’t look like the ways I would love myself .. why bother, why settle, why waste time in what isn’t a 100% yes to me? (Ahh, thank you for this comment)

  • @yoliswamamane5953
    @yoliswamamane5953 2 місяці тому +5

    The way i want to cry hearing this😢

  • @ivanildabarbosa6605
    @ivanildabarbosa6605 2 місяці тому +3

    I woke up this morning thinking about where my life is and how I had no one to show me different growing up, then this video popped up.

  • @Sweetsabrina8
    @Sweetsabrina8 2 місяці тому +3

    Hi Jasmine, I’m glad I found my way to your video. A lot of things you said in this video resonates with me as far as getting to a certain age where you can’t tolerate a certain type of “love” from someone you’re not compatible with. In my past relationships I never dated intentionally and only used being in a relationship as an escapism from whatever was goin on in my home life. Now that I’ve been single and celibate for about the past 4 or 5 months. I’m able to focus more on myself and my passions as well as my relationship with Christ which has been a great blessing for me. I hope to watch more of your videos soon! ps. your voice is sooo soothing and I loveee your hair 😍

  • @Therealrillasweets
    @Therealrillasweets 2 місяці тому +4

    How does this not have millions of views 😓 this is exactly what women need to hear !

  • @Kaneshaa
    @Kaneshaa Місяць тому

    I’m 29 to me love is safety, respect, honor, passionate, selfless, thoughtful, kind,and graceful . The main the thing for me is safety, to feel safe with someone you know they will never hurt you intentionally. I’ve been settling for 14 years, I’m ready to love me. ❤

  • @christinamoffett7684
    @christinamoffett7684 2 місяці тому

    I'm 30 and listening to your videos are kind of scary how spot on they are. 😅Love to me is many things but at the base it's acceptance, patience and strength. Acceptance for all of who you are and who you may never be. Patience for who you are and who you are growing to be. Strength to make the change from who you no longer are, into who you want to be.

  • @loveyvo
    @loveyvo 2 місяці тому +10

    39. Love starts with me with structured room for another. It's time to chase me❤

  • @Isis11111
    @Isis11111 2 місяці тому +1

    Love to me, feels like a nightmare that you don’t wake up from but if you do wake up from it like what else is really there

  • @ChasesBeauty
    @ChasesBeauty 2 місяці тому +1

    I’m 18. I’m still figuring out what love really is and if that’s what I’ve felt in my relationships. I feel this rush or like pressure to settle down into a relationship. My friends are in long term relationships, moving in together etc. While I’m stuck wondering if the situation I’m in is worth looking or planning into the future for. I do feel that itch you talked about. To explore, Continue having new experiences. I guess I just feel confined to the circle I put myself in? Idk I have lots of reflection to do lol.
    Great Video 💕

  • @octaviashane_
    @octaviashane_ Місяць тому

    I am 34 and rediscovering what love is God's way.... With that, agape love to me is simply selfless repetitive acts of kindness. I believe agape love is you seeing yourself in someone else so you treat them the way you treat your highest self and out of the relationship yields the highest result or form of love! #Shalom🙏🏾💜

  • @avionna1652
    @avionna1652 2 місяці тому +1

    I’m 19 and I think love to me is when someone is patient with you, wanting to learn you, & making sure that you know that you are wanted.. I’m still learning myself while I’m trying to grow as a young woman.

  • @niemahjai6868
    @niemahjai6868 2 місяці тому

    You say the right things at the right time for me always ❤

  • @CorrieD-h1f
    @CorrieD-h1f 2 місяці тому +1

    Too far, too deep, too long. Love this video.

  • @leethomas-gg9ud
    @leethomas-gg9ud 2 місяці тому

    Love free and free Love of self control through discipline

  • @MBJJJ_
    @MBJJJ_ 2 місяці тому +1

    24! So happy I found this, it was so relatable. Definitely have developed a way to look at love for myself.

  • @MoreOfShantiii
    @MoreOfShantiii 2 місяці тому

    I loved everything about this it truly spoke to me and it was beautifully spoken thank you !!

  • @barbaradavis8946
    @barbaradavis8946 2 місяці тому

    We all must experience those who are considered counterfeit. Pay attention to your intuition, it will Never Lie.

  • @giana816
    @giana816 2 місяці тому

    you worded this all so beautifully. god bless you!!

  • @justinevillarreal5003
    @justinevillarreal5003 2 місяці тому

    Gawsh you are sooo beautiful!! When you said dangerous (can't find the time stamp) you sho' right!.. Just experienced this whole heartbreak, what 3yrs ago? honestly still feels fresh (dAMM).. I guess im over it.. or how I gave soo much just to be used and and disposed of.. Not clearly thinking of what I thought was to be true.. but its true, my guy friend said, us girls still believe in fairytales, and thats fucked up.. but it is what it is.. Men can be very dangerouss! Its sad that we're soo divided in this way.. Ive always thought more for our culture but seeing the mind controll the social engineering Woman can be just as evil.. Everybody is hurt .. so sad! YESS SELF LOVE IS KEY .. This whole video was on point. True Love shouldn't be toyed with ..

  • @jloyd01
    @jloyd01 2 місяці тому +2

    I feel like I’ve been living as a disembodied intellectual 😣

  • @EarthSignEmpress
    @EarthSignEmpress 2 місяці тому

    Wow I needed this. I’ve been a smart woman & a dumb girl.

  • @bassyflow
    @bassyflow 2 місяці тому +1

    Hey Jasmin! Thanks so much for exploring this topic. Can you share the link to the full video you featured with Amanda Seales? I’m 35 entering my soft girl era. Love for me equals security to be feminine and vulnerable instead of defensive and hard.

    • @jasminsirii
      @jasminsirii  2 місяці тому +1

      ua-cam.com/video/FVe9LGXUT30/v-deo.htmlsi=HJ7KWj3AlV31Aoi0 YES! There is the link !! I hope you enjoy

  • @zenabufarouk5279
    @zenabufarouk5279 2 місяці тому

    You're Exceedingly Beautiful. So Is Your Content ; Articulate , Wisdom And Relaxingly Relatable

  • @InfiniteSoulVibez
    @InfiniteSoulVibez 2 місяці тому

    🎉 Thank you for making this video.

  • @antoniobooker999
    @antoniobooker999 2 місяці тому

    Love is the Highest Elevation of Understanding

  • @alecsandra333
    @alecsandra333 2 місяці тому

    34 loved your video 🌷🕊️🙏🏽
    Love for me means having the courage to be vulnerable with the person we choose, it means consciously deciding to be authentic, committing and recommitting to developing a safe and trustworthy deep bond and approaching the relationship from a space of love, trust, wisdom and integrity. It means being ourselves and having the best interest of both parties as well that of the relationship in mind/heart/ soul instead of playing games or wanting to get something out of the relationship ☀️🌺

  • @leethomas-gg9ud
    @leethomas-gg9ud 2 місяці тому

    leadership

  • @cierrataree3366
    @cierrataree3366 2 місяці тому

    Im 35. Love to me is suport and motion. Genuine

  • @leethomas-gg9ud
    @leethomas-gg9ud 2 місяці тому

    one bond with The Great I Am one

  • @maria6139
    @maria6139 2 місяці тому

    I’m 22 and I’m still trying to properly find the words to describe what love is to me

  • @leethomas-gg9ud
    @leethomas-gg9ud 2 місяці тому

    generation, generation generations to come

  • @leethomas-gg9ud
    @leethomas-gg9ud 2 місяці тому

    rough truth

  • @LeahTheChannel
    @LeahTheChannel 2 місяці тому +5

    If u can’t go to Bella Noches where the hell can u go?!? 4:24

    • @jasminsirii
      @jasminsirii  2 місяці тому

      EZACLY!!!!

    • @SharaOrianna
      @SharaOrianna 2 місяці тому

      Lmaooo the way I literally said this out loud too!!

  • @renae7721
    @renae7721 2 місяці тому

    Can you make a video with these behaviors corelating to attachment styles? I feel like in the situation I am in I am the avoidant but I also wonder if its my intuition telling me its not right vs. I'm not used to stability.

  • @leethomas-gg9ud
    @leethomas-gg9ud 2 місяці тому

    The great I am ring

  • @leethomas-gg9ud
    @leethomas-gg9ud 2 місяці тому

    experiance human life

  • @barbaradavis8946
    @barbaradavis8946 2 місяці тому

    53 and Love is Patient, looks, feels and aligns with all of our senses as Healthy Love, not Toxic (what does not serve us) but Tonic a Healing balm and without question feeds and nourishes the very Core of us. Get to know who you are so when Love comes, you can present the best version of yourself. ❤️‍🩹❤️🙏🏽

  • @alianajoseph8321
    @alianajoseph8321 2 місяці тому +1

    Video so aglinedd left yesterday definitely a sign😭🤍

  • @leethomas-gg9ud
    @leethomas-gg9ud 2 місяці тому

    leadership