"i hope death is like being carried to your bedroom when you were a child & fell asleep on the couch during a family party. i hope you can hear the laughter from the next room"
Much gratitude for your generous offering of vulnerable grief and tender love for your brother and all our dead. Sending you much love and solace at this time in your life as you now also journey with your mom with cancer. May the ancestors continue to guide and support you and all of us living. 💗🕊😊🙏🏼
Your songs make me a little more ok being a human that never really felt ok, constantly wanting to be 'more', whatever that is. Just escaping the fact that I am not particularly good at anything - besides talking about life's rabbit holes and religion and hugs. Blessed be you guys. Thanks for another most moving piece.
Thank you so much. I had a similar experience when my mother died. I knew she would die and felt so much shame about it, because my father kept telling us she will gonna be okay, she will get better, the doctors said it's looking good. Nobody was talking about dying. I hided my tears from her. Didn't want to know her what I was thinking. What I was feeling, knowing. And then she died. Nobody helped me to come over it. That was all so weird. We need to talk. It is a Part of life and nothing to be afraid of. We are learning together. I learned to hide. But now I'm coming back to truth. Thank you so much!
As a colon cancer survivor (dx 2006, stage 2B) and breast cancer survivor (dx 2018, stage 2A), this one really hits the sweet spot. At age 71, I can add to my list: DVT, PE, covidx2 and on and on. Laughter is better than crying, and my siblings who surround me are the opposite "they don't wanna talk about dying". So, this is a good one for me. Thanks. Coffs Harbour NSW Australia.
Thank you for your bravery, vulnerability, expression of big love, and your gifts. Hoping your beautiful songs bring a little peace; they surely do to your devoted listeners.
“Don’t want anybody crying” *Watching this regularly and crying EVERY SINGLE TIME* You two sculpt all the elements in your songs which such craft, what a privilege to witness, thank you.
Thank you for talking about dying. It's not only the beautiful poetry but also the authenticity, the vulnerability & the tender loving feeling and the raised hairs I get when I listen to you two.
i've quoted the chorus in my memoir on my mother's death from cancer, the same year i beat cancer. abigail, shawn, you two are my heart. thank you. so much.
I am so sorry that your brother died. What a beautiful song and message. Thank you for sharing your hearts with us. I am sending a hug, if you would like one.
I have been caring for my grandfather - sick with cancer - ever since I was 17. Death kind of hangs in the air but remains unaddressed (And has been all my childhood), for now I try to live with loved ones.. Keeping you in my thoughts! It hurts the same each time news like that hit. Wishing your mother a steady recovery and you and your family some peace of mind
Thank you for the song- I am so sorry for your loss of your beloved brother. Be gentle with yourself grief is a tsunami that turns our lives upside down. My beloved younger brother in 1986 during the horrible maelstrom that was the AIDS pandemic, he was 34 and my soulmate ( we can have other soulmates that are not intimate romantic ones, a friend, a family member, even a critter for some folks); from diagnosis to passing was 6 mths, diagnosed the weekend of his 34th birthday; i now work as a psychic medium and am a retired psychotherapist who specialized in grief and loss, and i know that families are so afraid often to discuss the mortality we all face-but especially when a loved one is dealing with a life threatening illness- Richie and I were so young, not experienced to deal with THIS! we knew he was dying but we didn't talk about it-it was happening so fast. The day he said, "O Sue, I won't get to write that book, make that movie( he was director of home video marketing for Disney studios) have a live in relationship" what words to say to my baby brother? I wish i had talked with him more about his fears, about the losses he was suffering with each new illness assaulting his poor body, insulting it too. Since then I have had these conversations with others who were close to crossing over, it is a gift we give each other, and i have great compassion for the young woman i was who didn't know how to speak about it with my baby brother. I know from my work that those in Spirit don't hold grudges or judgments, once we cross over we see things so differently, we go from narrow tunnel vision to a broad all encompassing vista of understanding and love for the fumblings of our loved ones still embodied.
Heard this live last night for the first time at Lincoln Center, and, mercifully, I'm able to hear these talented folks again! OMG! Brimming with goodness and talent. Utterly unique, IMHO.
Thank you so much - i survived the 6 minutes 😉 it's meaningful and kind to share your grief. This is what I do - talk with people about dying, sometimes i succeed . hugs from mount Carmel (Israel)
I love your honesty and feel the frustration of having my own dear friend currently dying of Cancer. She just stopped talking to me two months ago. I don’t even know if she is alive. I ache that she chose to “go it alone.” I have always loved your songs, no matter how long they are. My first encounter with your magical voice was the “Keep going on song”. Thank you for sharing this with us.
A haunting yet angelic melody. Interspersed with such a painful, difficult story. Thank you for sharing and allowing others to grieve with you. The title of this piece has been following me for days. It begs the question, should we talk about dying more in our culture?
I cry everytime I hear your song. I've shared it with everybody around me. I don't know where it talks to me but it's really stong. When do you come to France to sing Abigail, your sensibility and voice overwhelm me ! Want to commune with you both. With love, Camille
Your soul sings the trees into swaying, The stones into sparkling The mist into falling, gently falling into my own deep grief heart space . The wrapping all around my heart loosens and is pierced by your beautiful song. Mom I love you I miss you I'm sorry I love you.
So very sorry that this was your experience. As a retired hospice chaplain, I can tell you that this does not happen with hospice families, whether the dying person is at home or in a health care facility. Please keep this in mind for the future. Usually a hospice referral is made when the physician and patient agree that further aggressive treatment is no longer a viable plan. However, many physicians are uncomfortable to make the referral, so families and patients need to advocate for themselves. Sending blessings your way -- perfect song.
Not always cut n dry- My dear friend of 40 yrs died from aggressive Cancer, the 2d round only a couple yrs from the 1st which included aggressive surgeries and Chemo including experimental- plus lots of Holistic modalities, and She had screened clear which was a beat the odds situation. Anyway a year or more into the 2d treatments she landed in the hospital and they wouldn’t release her until certain equipment at home was in place, and Hospice care also, which Her family really needed by now. She would not talk about her dying or want anyone to ‘go there’ right up til she fell into the unconscious dying process for 4-5 days. We all said that was so her body n soul could make peace with her passing. She had strong spiritual beliefs and didn’t fear the afterlife. However she truly didn’t want to leave this life or her husband and 2 twenty-something sons, both having struggles especially one with serious unresolved Mental Health problems. Those of us close to her knew she was dying… and it was hard to go along with ‘we don’t talk about dying. That’s not exactly lying’ … She was a very gifted poet and had a few small books published. Deep, symbiotic and moving, wise and sometimes with wit. After she passed her husband shared unpublished poems very much addressing the subject, and there were also some books she had read… RIP dear friend. -We each have our own process. ~And Thank You for your deeply appreciated Hospice Chaplain work! As a multi-cancer survivor I know I will want Hospice when my time has come.
@@trishb2921 this must have ben a very painful experience, and I'm sorry your friend wasn't able to fully experience the hospice offerings. But the 'patient' is the entire family in the hospice philosophy, so I hope the rest of the family benefited some, at least. When my Dad was dying, the rest of my family had a few sessions with the hospice social worker, which was very helpful, and when hospice home care became too much for us, he was admitted to the only free standing hospice in CT. It was a relief for everyone, especially Dad, and many of the hospice staff could stop by for a visit with him and whoever was with him without it seeming beyond usual. So it was a double bonus -- we were all able to relax a bit. Anyway, thank you for sharing your experience. xxoo
Dear Abigail, I'm so grateful you share yourself. These are the deep expressions i feel too intense to share. I love expressing myself like you do. It is my natural state. Im not a hippy. i am natural without suppression. I have to be brave to be myself. I will find my people. You are my people Abigail. Much love, ez
hard to say what we need to say when another is dying among us...your song says it so perfectly~ Thank you Abigail and so sorry for your loss of your brother.
Very touching lyrics and I'm sorry for your loss. I am a fortunate to be a cancer survivor by God's grace. 12 years and counting. Yet it's always on my mind, will the cancer come back? I try and discuss death to my loved ones, and like you said, no one in our culture likes to discuss it. Perhaps I can share this song to open a conversation. Thanks for sharing a difficult topic. Prayers and peace....🙏✌
this is also about Gaza it's about racism it's about ecocide it's about everything we don't talk about that's happening right before our very eyes. and like everything you write it made me cry
I just love you again. I´d love to cover this and would like to kindly ask whether you would contact me here and send me the chords? Loads of love to you both
"i hope death is like being carried to your bedroom when you were a child & fell asleep on the couch during a family party. i hope you can hear the laughter from the next room"
What a lovely hope and I wish it will be true for you.
Much gratitude for your generous offering of vulnerable grief and tender love for your brother and all our dead. Sending you much love and solace at this time in your life as you now also journey with your mom with cancer. May the ancestors continue to guide and support you and all of us living. 💗🕊😊🙏🏼
Bless us all in our ways of dying. Thank you for your doorways to sanity.
Your songs make me a little more ok being a human that never really felt ok, constantly wanting to be 'more', whatever that is. Just escaping the fact that I am not particularly good at anything - besides talking about life's rabbit holes and religion and hugs.
Blessed be you guys. Thanks for another most moving piece.
Thank you so much. I had a similar experience when my mother died. I knew she would die and felt so much shame about it, because my father kept telling us she will gonna be okay, she will get better, the doctors said it's looking good. Nobody was talking about dying. I hided my tears from her. Didn't want to know her what I was thinking. What I was feeling, knowing. And then she died. Nobody helped me to come over it. That was all so weird.
We need to talk. It is a Part of life and nothing to be afraid of. We are learning together.
I learned to hide. But now I'm coming back to truth. Thank you so much!
As a colon cancer survivor (dx 2006, stage 2B) and breast cancer survivor (dx 2018, stage 2A), this one really hits the sweet spot. At age 71, I can add to my list: DVT, PE, covidx2 and on and on. Laughter is better than crying, and my siblings who surround me are the opposite "they don't wanna talk about dying". So, this is a good one for me. Thanks. Coffs Harbour NSW Australia.
What an amazing song. This just came on and I was pulled right in. It’s like you sing my life.
Thank you for your bravery, vulnerability, expression of big love, and your gifts. Hoping your beautiful songs bring a little peace; they surely do to your devoted listeners.
“Don’t want anybody crying”
*Watching this regularly and crying EVERY SINGLE TIME*
You two sculpt all the elements in your songs which such craft, what a privilege to witness, thank you.
Wow! That's one of the most profound and authentic songs I've ever heard. Absolutely beautiful. Such generous grief tending... thank yoy ❤
You Both are an awesome Duo; Vulnerable for The Whole World.
Thank you for talking about dying. It's not only the beautiful poetry but also the authenticity, the vulnerability & the tender loving feeling and the raised hairs I get when I listen to you two.
All 6 minutes are a gift ❤ thank you 🙏
i've quoted the chorus in my memoir on my mother's death from cancer, the same year i beat cancer. abigail, shawn, you two are my heart. thank you. so much.
I am so sorry that your brother died. What a beautiful song and message. Thank you for sharing your hearts with us. I am sending a hug, if you would like one.
I have been caring for my grandfather - sick with cancer - ever since I was 17. Death kind of hangs in the air but remains unaddressed (And has been all my childhood), for now I try to live with loved ones.. Keeping you in my thoughts! It hurts the same each time news like that hit. Wishing your mother a steady recovery and you and your family some peace of mind
This was beautiful. I’m sending you and your family love!💕
Achingly beautiful . . .
Thank you for the song- I am so sorry for your loss of your beloved brother. Be gentle with yourself grief is a tsunami that turns our lives upside down.
My beloved younger brother in 1986 during the horrible maelstrom that was the AIDS pandemic, he was 34 and my soulmate ( we can have other soulmates that are not intimate romantic ones, a friend, a family member, even a critter for some folks); from diagnosis to passing was 6 mths, diagnosed the weekend of his 34th birthday; i now work as a psychic medium and am a retired psychotherapist who specialized in grief and loss, and i know that families are so afraid often to discuss the mortality we all face-but especially when a loved one is dealing with a life threatening illness- Richie and I were so young, not experienced to deal with THIS!
we knew he was dying but we didn't talk about it-it was happening so fast. The day he said, "O Sue, I won't get to write that book, make that movie( he was director of home video marketing for Disney studios) have a live in relationship" what words to say to my baby brother? I wish i had talked with him more about his fears, about the losses he was suffering with each new illness assaulting his poor body, insulting it too. Since then I have had these conversations with others who were close to crossing over, it is a gift we give each other, and i have great compassion for the young woman i was who didn't know how to speak about it with my baby brother. I know from my work that those in Spirit don't hold grudges or judgments, once we cross over we see things so differently, we go from narrow tunnel vision to a broad all encompassing vista of understanding and love for the fumblings of our loved ones still embodied.
Powerful ballard thank you beloveds for sharing your heart in such difficult times for many.
one of the greatest gifts we could ever be given is the ability to turn pain into beauty. thank you for sharing your gift.
though a particularly hard watch, this was just beautiful. you can feel so much love and grief in every note.
I am so sorry for your loss. You have the power to elicit so much emotion. thank you
Heard this live last night for the first time at Lincoln Center, and, mercifully, I'm able to hear these talented folks again! OMG! Brimming with goodness and talent. Utterly unique, IMHO.
This is extremely beautiful and powerful. Thank you so much for sharing your aching heart and bright spark ❤
Blessings and love to you beautiful people x
Thank you so much - i survived the 6 minutes 😉 it's meaningful and kind to share your grief. This is what I do - talk with people about dying, sometimes i succeed . hugs from mount Carmel (Israel)
Thank you for your beautiful work ❤
I love your honesty and feel the frustration of having my own dear friend currently dying of Cancer. She just stopped talking to me two months ago. I don’t even know if she is alive. I ache that she chose to “go it alone.” I have always loved your songs, no matter how long they are. My first encounter with your magical voice was the “Keep going on song”. Thank you for sharing this with us.
A haunting yet angelic melody. Interspersed with such a painful, difficult story. Thank you for sharing and allowing others to grieve with you. The title of this piece has been following me for days. It begs the question, should we talk about dying more in our culture?
Thanks so much. What a powerful prayer-song. I'm sending lots of love to you and your family. May your brother fly free in joy.
I cry everytime I hear your song. I've shared it with everybody around me. I don't know where it talks to me but it's really stong. When do you come to France to sing Abigail, your sensibility and voice overwhelm me ! Want to commune with you both. With love, Camille
Thank you for making songs that touch our souls (mine at list). Much to you and your family ❤😊
Honesty, intention, and fearlessness = greatness. I just found out about you guys too late to catch your Lincoln Center show. So impressed.
Thank you for sharing this with me, beloved friend. It was devastating and oh so beautiful.
I love you two, and I love your music. And I ache for your loss.
You two give me hope and help me to see the light. Thank you so much for sharing yor prodigious gifts.
Thank you for this song. It feels so real, because it is. Thank you ❤
Your soul sings the trees into swaying,
The stones into sparkling
The mist into falling, gently falling into my own deep grief heart space .
The wrapping all around my heart loosens and is pierced by your beautiful song.
Mom I love you
I miss you
I'm sorry
I love you.
Beautiful….thank you💚
So beautiful! What a wonderful gift to my heart and soul! Healing! Thank you so very much! 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿❤💜💙
Soooo Beautiful….. Thank You both for sharing your incredible gifts ❤
Wow. Thanks for sharing your grief and pain.
So very sorry that this was your experience. As a retired hospice chaplain, I can tell you that this does not happen with hospice families, whether the dying person is at home or in a health care facility. Please keep this in mind for the future. Usually a hospice referral is made when the physician and patient agree that further aggressive treatment is no longer a viable plan. However, many physicians are uncomfortable to make the referral, so families and patients need to advocate for themselves. Sending blessings your way -- perfect song.
Not always cut n dry-
My dear friend of 40 yrs died from aggressive Cancer, the 2d round only a couple yrs from the 1st which included aggressive surgeries and Chemo including experimental- plus lots of Holistic modalities, and She had screened clear which was a beat the odds situation.
Anyway a year or more into the 2d treatments she landed in the hospital and they wouldn’t release her until certain equipment at home was in place, and Hospice care also, which Her family really needed by now.
She would not talk about her dying or want anyone to ‘go there’ right up til she fell into the unconscious dying process for 4-5 days. We all said that was so her body n soul could make peace with her passing.
She had strong spiritual beliefs and didn’t fear the afterlife. However she truly didn’t want to leave this life or her husband and 2 twenty-something sons, both having struggles especially one with serious unresolved Mental Health problems.
Those of us close to her knew she was dying… and it was hard to go along with ‘we don’t talk about dying. That’s not exactly lying’ …
She was a very gifted poet and had a few small books published. Deep, symbiotic and moving, wise and sometimes with wit. After she passed her husband shared unpublished poems very much addressing the subject, and there were also some books she had read…
RIP dear friend.
-We each have our own process.
~And Thank You for your deeply appreciated Hospice Chaplain work!
As a multi-cancer survivor I know I will want Hospice when my time has come.
@@trishb2921 this must have ben a very painful experience, and I'm sorry your friend wasn't able to fully experience the hospice offerings. But the 'patient' is the entire family in the hospice philosophy, so I hope the rest of the family benefited some, at least.
When my Dad was dying, the rest of my family had a few sessions with the hospice social worker, which was very helpful, and when hospice home care became too much for us, he was admitted to the only free standing hospice in CT. It was a relief for everyone, especially Dad, and many of the hospice staff could stop by for a visit with him and whoever was with him without it seeming beyond usual. So it was a double bonus -- we were all able to relax a bit. Anyway, thank you for sharing your experience. xxoo
The second chorus made me cry. Your voices melt so beautiful together it touches me. The six min flew away so fast
Thank you. Your sharing has helped me. If at least feel less alone.
Dear Abigail,
I'm so grateful you share yourself. These are the deep expressions i feel too intense to share. I love expressing myself like you do. It is my natural state. Im not a hippy. i am natural without suppression. I have to be brave to be myself. I will find my people. You are my people Abigail. Much love, ez
Beautiful, thank you both
hard to say what we need to say when another is dying among us...your song says it so perfectly~ Thank you Abigail and so sorry for your loss of your brother.
Thank you for your powerful, beautiful song. You are right. But we can change this....Thank you
🙏 speechless 😢
Very touching lyrics and I'm sorry for your loss. I am a fortunate to be a cancer survivor by God's grace. 12 years and counting. Yet it's always on my mind, will the cancer come back? I try and discuss death to my loved ones, and like you said, no one in our culture likes to discuss it. Perhaps I can share this song to open a conversation. Thanks for sharing a difficult topic. Prayers and peace....🙏✌
This is so beautiful ❤ Thankyou
I was just thinking we need more "protest" songs and then your brilliant song came up. Deep bows.
Thank you so much. Your song deeply touched my heart. 🙏🏻
Thank you. Just that. Thank you.
Thank you guys , i cryed good
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I needed that ❤
Much Love! ❤
Thank you.
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Thank you to the Bengsons … again! Music Medicine. ❤
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this is also about Gaza it's about racism it's about ecocide it's about everything we don't talk about that's happening right before our very eyes. and like everything you write it made me cry
Wow… xxx
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yes
I just love you again.
I´d love to cover this and would like to kindly ask whether you would contact me here and send me the chords? Loads of love to you both
😭We need to talk about dying.