I stepped out of my comfort zone at 58 by moving from the UK to Spain 🇪🇸 I didn’t speak Spanish and still don’t, and now at 72 I have Spanish friends as well as British and other nationalities. And I do work from home and yes you do need to get dressed and out on a regular basis. Nice job John
As a Brit, it is cold here in winter, we pay far far too much for property, and we have lots of scummy teens running around. Sir, I applaud you for moving to somewhere warm!
@@alwayspooh1588 Thank you, it’s bad enough with the drinking Brit’s in Benidorm and you get enough of those. I see quite a bit of it when filming at night. 🙏🙏
As I listened to today's video an old saying kept running through my head. "You can make your future or just let it happen to you,. Which would you prefer?" Obviously you can't control all aspects however, your point is well taken about putting yourself in the position for good things to happen. As usual John, right on target.
Great post. Men investing in relations with new people matters. I was laid off from hi tech at 61. I reached out to organizations to provide "value" for free and met SO MANY NEW GREAT PEOPLE.
Fully subscribe to your don’t say no , turn left instead of right philosophy… Heading to Europe tomorrow for three weeks by myself, have food tours booked, wine tours booked … don’t speak the language… just getting out of the Christmas / New years blues rutt and living life to the full .. thanks for sharing your philosophy John ..
Getting out of the U.S. is always a good idea. Sadly the U.S. is probably one of the worst place to be a single man if want to meet quality women(fun, fit ,friendly). Get your money right and travel when you can ,so many more options out there.
Very true. And one of the things I really need to improve on is eye contact. I have a tendency to look away often. And I don't smile enough. And I cannot smile for pics, but the one video you did on that w/the Tyra Banks reference was helpful
I’m a guy who does care about my appearance and health but pretty much you were describing my life in your video. I’ve not really got back in full swing after lock down and I work from home most of the time ….
Great video! I could feel a slightly different vibe that some of your recent ones. Great message also. If you don't get out, you instantly kill your chances of new relationships.
I've been trying to do my best to get out and socialize like I used to pre-pandemic. To be honest, my outings are relatively back to normal, but I do have to work a little bit on looking my best. Honestly, I don't mind eating at restaurants with others, but I really do like to go by myself most of the time. I am going to start going back to the office again at some point and I can't wait to start socializing with my coworkers, but there are only a handful of people on my team.
Great take John. I take pride in my appearance everyday (including weekends). It's about presenting the best version of yourself to the world and shows that give a shit and haven't 'given up. It's so easy to separate yourself from the herd. "They come runnin' just as fast as they can...'cuz every girl crazy about a sharp-dressed man." ((ZZ Top))
this is true, women are much friendlier to me now that i am in shape and wear nicer clothes. You put out the vibe that you are someone worth talking to...
Your conversation about making opportunities reminded me of a conversation that I had during a foosball game about 30+ years ago. (And for those of you who don't know, foosball is a geeky "table soccer/futbol" game that was regularly played by geeky people who are now middle aged or old.) My opponent was a "speed king" gifted with the ability to move and shoot the ball with *blinding speed* and accuracy. I was a "sleaze lord." I lacked the blinding speed of my opponent. So I relied upon head games, fake-outs, and *setting up more opportunities* than my opponents had in order to outperform my opponents. After winning three games against him, he said, "You're not winning through skill. *You're* winning through luck." I responded: "Doesn't a *consistent level of luck* demonstrate some level of skill?" My foosball opponent was resistant to that suggestion. But a few additional wins demonstrated that I might *not* be winning through consistent blind luck. I didn't beat my opponent by being a better or faster shot. I was simply making 5x, 10x, or 20x as many shots on goal as he was. And *that many* additional scoring opportunities translated into wins (sometimes by slim margins). The same principle translates into dating (and many other aspects of life). The number of opportunities you create for yourself are at least as important as your batting average.
Good morning John. Great video most important thing to always remember in your personal life and your professional life. Be comfortable with being uncomfortable. When you are uncomfortable that means you are growing and learning. On a side note I have been out of the dating world for awhile as you have discussed and others it gets old after a while. I decided to go back online almost a month ago and met somebody my age. I can't believe it my age! She has her own company she is 6 feet tall and brilliant. I haven't figured out what she sees in me yet LOL that's a joke. Slow and strong
That is great and there are thousands of single older women in the U.S. I looked on a dating app a couple of years ago. There were so many older single women on there it would take while to look at them all. Problem is I am not attracted to older women at all. If there is not a physical attraction I would rather just rent a garden tool that is young and pretty. Old women make me soft.
We are doomed as a society if we continue our ways…. by everyone being home…. Not taking care of ourselves… not interacting with humans. I really hope this is the year everyone snaps out of it! #legend.
I was Working From Home years before WFH became a thing. Years before COVID. And I *hated* it. Hated the enforced isolation of sitting in front of my computer (I was a copy-editor for various magazines and book publishers). Hated having to depend on incoming emails, texts, and - very occasionally - phone calls for any sort of human contact. What I especially like about this video is the down-to-earth common sense of the advice which it gives. It doesn't promise miracles, it doesn't peddle snake-oil. To me, an Australian, it embodies an older, much-missed U.S.A. A U.S.A. of unpretentiousness, civility, and a dignity which (as G.K. Chesterton once said) suggests some common ground between the American temperament and the Spanish temperament.
Here's an idea that I think has a two-fold purpose and that is meeting people while doing volunteer work certainly we will collide with someone at functions like that
I heard something a while back that people makes friends in situations where they see others regularly, at random times. So, second grade (or 10th grade) you see others in your school all through the year, rainy days and sunny ones. And where do we get many of our life long friends? From school or college. Same thing for work - you see people everyday, good days and bad. Stuff happens, my best friend is from a job, my (ex) wives are from work (but so is my current GF). If ya don’t get out, you don’t have those opportunities, but as you get older you graduate (hopefully) and the automatic annual mix at school ends. And jobs change and if you don’t go into an office or something things are very limited (unless the Amazon delivery person is cute). This continues up til the time you retire - and that’s a hell of an adjustment, BTW. But you gotta go out and do something to stay in the mix.
Tiege Hanley is sponsoring alot of video. There are alot of reason men don't go out as much especially in the U.S. The dating culture has changed alot and so has the mind set of alot people. Dating App's have alot to do with it. More men then ever are just staying home watching corn and playing video games because it is fun and easy. And the chance of meeting a girl out in public is near zero. And all the bad crap women say about men and the Boss B attitude. Staying home sounds much better then dealing with that B.S. People will always want to do what is fun and the thing that is the most fun win's. Dating today in the U.S. is not fun at all at least not for men.
go live a REAL life, you are a grown man, get off social media and enjoy the world. Get out of your house and experience life you werent made to be bunkered in a house 24/7. There's an exciting world full of interesting things that await you
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I stepped out of my comfort zone at 58 by moving from the UK to Spain 🇪🇸 I didn’t speak Spanish and still don’t, and now at 72 I have Spanish friends as well as British and other nationalities. And I do work from home and yes you do need to get dressed and out on a regular basis. Nice job John
Thank you very much!
As a Brit, it is cold here in winter, we pay far far too much for property, and we have lots of scummy teens running around. Sir, I applaud you for moving to somewhere warm!
@@alwayspooh1588 Thank you, it’s bad enough with the drinking Brit’s in Benidorm and you get enough of those. I see quite a bit of it when filming at night. 🙏🙏
As I listened to today's video an old saying kept running through my head. "You can make your future or just let it happen to you,. Which would you prefer?"
Obviously you can't control all aspects however, your point is well taken about putting yourself in the position for good things to happen. As usual John, right on target.
Thank you Michael!
Thank you john for the positive encouragement
Great post. Men investing in relations with new people matters. I was laid off from hi tech at 61. I reached out to organizations to provide "value" for free and met SO MANY NEW GREAT PEOPLE.
Fully subscribe to your don’t say no , turn left instead of right philosophy…
Heading to Europe tomorrow for three weeks by myself, have food tours booked, wine tours booked … don’t speak the language… just getting out of the Christmas / New years blues rutt and living life to the full .. thanks for sharing your philosophy John ..
That’s awesome! Have a great trip!
Getting out of the U.S. is always a good idea. Sadly the U.S. is probably one of the worst place to be a single man if want to meet quality women(fun, fit ,friendly). Get your money right and travel when you can ,so many more options out there.
Very true. And one of the things I really need to improve on is eye contact. I have a tendency to look away often. And I don't smile enough. And I cannot smile for pics, but the one video you did on that w/the Tyra Banks reference was helpful
I’m a guy who does care about my appearance and health but pretty much you were describing my life in your video. I’ve not really got back in full swing after lock down and I work from home most of the time ….
Invest in some new opportunities!
I absolutely agree get out and do something meet people spend time with others.
Great video! I could feel a slightly different vibe that some of your recent ones. Great message also. If you don't get out, you instantly kill your chances of new relationships.
Absolutely!
I've been trying to do my best to get out and socialize like I used to pre-pandemic. To be honest, my outings are relatively back to normal, but I do have to work a little bit on looking my best. Honestly, I don't mind eating at restaurants with others, but I really do like to go by myself most of the time. I am going to start going back to the office again at some point and I can't wait to start socializing with my coworkers, but there are only a handful of people on my team.
Thanks for commenting Matt!
Great take John. I take pride in my appearance everyday (including weekends). It's about presenting the best version of yourself to the world and shows that give a shit and haven't 'given up.
It's so easy to separate yourself from the herd.
"They come runnin' just as fast as they can...'cuz every girl crazy about a sharp-dressed man." ((ZZ Top))
Ha! Well said!
this is true, women are much friendlier to me now that i am in shape and wear nicer clothes. You put out the vibe that you are someone worth talking to...
algo bump, thanks for the vid sir! good stuff and nice to motivate people to continue on with the human experience.
You bet! Thanks for watching!
Your conversation about making opportunities reminded me of a conversation that I had during a foosball game about 30+ years ago. (And for those of you who don't know, foosball is a geeky "table soccer/futbol" game that was regularly played by geeky people who are now middle aged or old.)
My opponent was a "speed king" gifted with the ability to move and shoot the ball with *blinding speed* and accuracy. I was a "sleaze lord." I lacked the blinding speed of my opponent. So I relied upon head games, fake-outs, and *setting up more opportunities* than my opponents had in order to outperform my opponents.
After winning three games against him, he said, "You're not winning through skill. *You're* winning through luck."
I responded: "Doesn't a *consistent level of luck* demonstrate some level of skill?"
My foosball opponent was resistant to that suggestion. But a few additional wins demonstrated that I might *not* be winning through consistent blind luck.
I didn't beat my opponent by being a better or faster shot. I was simply making 5x, 10x, or 20x as many shots on goal as he was. And *that many* additional scoring opportunities translated into wins (sometimes by slim margins).
The same principle translates into dating (and many other aspects of life). The number of opportunities you create for yourself are at least as important as your batting average.
Love this Karl! Thanks for commenting!
Thanks John. 👍🏻
You bet!
Great video glad you posted keep them coming thanks
Thanks, will do!
Good morning John. Great video most important thing to always remember in your personal life and your professional life. Be comfortable with being uncomfortable. When you are uncomfortable that means you are growing and learning.
On a side note I have been out of the dating world for awhile as you have discussed and others it gets old after a while. I decided to go back online almost a month ago and met somebody my age. I can't believe it my age! She has her own company she is 6 feet tall and brilliant. I haven't figured out what she sees in me yet LOL that's a joke. Slow and strong
Congratulations! Glad to hear this!
That is great and there are thousands of single older women in the U.S. I looked on a dating app a couple of years ago. There were so many older single women on there it would take while to look at them all. Problem is I am not attracted to older women at all. If there is not a physical attraction I would rather just rent a garden tool that is young and pretty. Old women make me soft.
Love this 🙌.
Always good Information 👍🇬🇧
Thank you!
We are doomed as a society if we continue our ways…. by everyone being home…. Not taking care of ourselves… not interacting with humans. I really hope this is the year everyone snaps out of it! #legend.
Thanks Eric! Legend!
I was Working From Home years before WFH became a thing. Years before COVID. And I *hated* it. Hated the enforced isolation of sitting in front of my computer (I was a copy-editor for various magazines and book publishers). Hated having to depend on incoming emails, texts, and - very occasionally - phone calls for any sort of human contact.
What I especially like about this video is the down-to-earth common sense of the advice which it gives. It doesn't promise miracles, it doesn't peddle snake-oil. To me, an Australian, it embodies an older, much-missed U.S.A. A U.S.A. of unpretentiousness, civility, and a dignity which (as G.K. Chesterton once said) suggests some common ground between the American temperament and the Spanish temperament.
Thank you very much Robert! I appreciate that!
Hi John very good video it’s helping people make things happen 👍😊
Regards Christopher Barker
Thank you!
Yes! Legend.
Here's an idea that I think has a two-fold purpose and that is meeting people while doing volunteer work certainly we will collide with someone at functions like that
Good one!
I heard something a while back that people makes friends in situations where they see others regularly, at random times. So, second grade (or 10th grade) you see others in your school all through the year, rainy days and sunny ones. And where do we get many of our life long friends? From school or college. Same thing for work - you see people everyday, good days and bad. Stuff happens, my best friend is from a job, my (ex) wives are from work (but so is my current GF). If ya don’t get out, you don’t have those opportunities, but as you get older you graduate (hopefully) and the automatic annual mix at school ends. And jobs change and if you don’t go into an office or something things are very limited (unless the Amazon delivery person is cute). This continues up til the time you retire - and that’s a hell of an adjustment, BTW. But you gotta go out and do something to stay in the mix.
Absolutely! Thanks for commenting Mark!
Thank you for
I am in my lounging wear watching this!
Great video thank you
Glad you enjoyed it!
Great channel
Thank you!
I’m old fashion 😅have to talk to people in person 😊 don’t really like talking on phone, or texting 😮
I hear that!
Sage advice here. Does that mean you're going to do a second channel about cars?? As some have suggested in the past?
No second channel anytime soon.
Yes! Step outside your comfort zone for new opportunities!
Okay so is part 2 of the "Seattle connection" coming soon? 🤔😁
Haha!
Another good video, John. Summed up, if you want a life, you have to get out and get one.
You got that right!
Just start. Don't wait for "the perfect time" that time is not going to fall in your lap, you must facilitate it
Absolutely!
John, where is the opening? The intro is part of your brand.
Thanks for noticing, but I’m changing up some of the architecture in my videos.
Nice 👌👌👌
Hey John..we’ll it’s been almost two years since my wife passed away and I still haven’t met anybody…I feel like such a loser 😂😅
Definitely not a loser Scott. You’ll know when you’re ready. And when you finally are, fully commit to it.
Tiege Hanley is sponsoring alot of video. There are alot of reason men don't go out as much especially in the U.S. The dating culture has changed alot and so has the mind set of alot people. Dating App's have alot to do with it. More men then ever are just staying home watching corn and playing video games because it is fun and easy. And the chance of meeting a girl out in public is near zero. And all the bad crap women say about men and the Boss B attitude. Staying home sounds much better then dealing with that B.S. People will always want to do what is fun and the thing that is the most fun win's. Dating today in the U.S. is not fun at all at least not for men.
Why anyone would degrade themselves putting themselves on a dating app hoping some damaged bored woman will pick them out of a lineup is beyond me…
go live a REAL life, you are a grown man, get off social media and enjoy the world. Get out of your house and experience life you werent made to be bunkered in a house 24/7. There's an exciting world full of interesting things that await you
I turned 61 last November and people think that I'm about 35
Get out and learn how to dance, so many different styles. Then go dancing.