You're NTAH and your mom needs help, because she is seriously toxic and her thinking is irrrational. Your grandparents did the right thing to get you out of there, but having lilved with "jokes" like that black widow one, and a mother who refuses an ambulance and then blames her child for the resulting death, you probably have some guilt, even if you rationally don't believe the death is your fault or the other sick things you've been hearing, and I'd expect you have some other issues/feelings/ways of thinking that are not good for you that you're not even aware of, and which could you could bring into the light, and get help re-thiinking, with a counsellor/therapist. Sorry for what you've gone through; and hope excaping to your grandparents is the beginning of a much more healthy, supportive living situation.
And did you catch the part where OP said dad was only driving cause mom refused an ambulance.. 👀 its all on the mom and she was clearly projecting all her bs onto her kid
The fact OP said it's her fault her dad died is WILD. She was just sick (as kids sometimes are) and her mom was awful for refusing to call an ambulance. Now she's pulling this shit too? Hell na! Stay with your grandparents for your own safety
The sad thing is that point of view will stick with her long after she leaves. I can tell you first hand as my family would blame me for anything that went wrong.
Although i agree that she’s been conditioned into believing she’s the problem, calling it a ‘doormat mentality’ is gross. She didn’t do it to herself, she was a kid when it happened and her mom must’ve been telling her this day in day out ever since. When you’re that young, that shit sticks with you and even though you might not believe it consciously, you will absolutely believe it subconsciously. ‘Doormat mentality’ implies that she’s ‘letting it happen’. Bitch what? At that age you might still believe everything your mom says, she’s in a vulnerable, gullible stage of life. She’s been conditioned into believing it, she’s not a doormat, she’s brainwashed at no fault of her own. She had no way of defending herself from it, she didn’t have the brain capacity for it yet Sincerely, someone who has cptsd from living in a mentally fucked up household
@Adifferentusername I hear what you're saying but have to disagree. Nobody CHOOSES to be a doormat. As far as I've seen, it ALWAYS is a trained mentality. Someone who **always** lets people abuse them isn't someone who **chooses** what they will accept happening to them. I come from an abusive family as well. It took me years to break the mold they put me in... Once I figured out that it was done TO me. BUT... Yes, "doormat mentality" implied something that the person is **allowing** to be done to them. That person has to 1) Recognize what was done TO them and 2) Work to break the pattern they were trained into.
@@MrGevanderwhere did they say op choose? Unless YT stopped showing when comments are edited, nowhere Wait nevermind realized you were original commenter not the person who was being the asshole took me a bit
It’s the moms fault the dad died because she didn’t want to pay for a ambulance, also the mom has no right to get upset at op for “turning her family against her” the moms parents have a right to turn against her
NTA - tell them if they wanted to not be in trouble, then they wouldn't be blaming you for your father's death. End of the story, but you reap what you sow. So stay with your grandparents and don't let their anger get the better of you, op.
The GPs need to take OP straight to the police station to file a report against OP's Mom and Step Dad. Those 2 need to be charged with child abuse. Mom definitely needs prison time. OP needs Massive amounts of therapy.
Your mom and her family are the a-holes and she constantly blaming you for your father's death is not right it's down right abusive. Your mental, emotional and physical health is important right now. You need time to heal and its not happening when you are living with your toxic mother.
NTA. It’s not OP’s fault her dad died it’s solely on her mother’s shoulders for not wanting to pay for an ambulance. The mother is evil for constantly bringing it up to OP. The mother is blaming OP for her family turning against her when it’s her own actions that have done that. Hopefully the grandparents get OP into therapy as her mother and stepfather have done untold damage over the years of abuse. They will be angry as they will lose some benefits for having OP no longer live with parents. Good on grandma for standing up for and taking OP away from her mother. No child deserves to be treated like that.
Useless mother, blames their child because she can't face the fact that she's to blame for her husband's accident? As a result she has lost her child as well as a husband, and she will no doubt make it that OPs fault as well. Toxic parents don't deserve kids. The grandparents are the heroes here, swooping in like Ironman and saving OP from this dumpster fire.
NO NO NO THAT IS A TERRIBLE MOTHER BLAMING OP FOR HER FATHER’S DEATH IDC IF SHE’S “GRIEVING” THAT IS NO EXCUSE TO SAY SOMETHING LIKE THAT. AND THE FACT THAT THE MOM WAS THE ONE WHO REFUSED TO PAY FOR AN AMBULANCE MAKES IT WORSE
NTA, blaming a child for something not their fault is abuse. Not correcting children for hiding a medical needed device is abuse of both OP and young siblings.
Omg, your father's death was an accident, they are sooo wrong saying that shit to you. You need therapy, so do they, thank God you have caring grandparents
I feel so bad for this girl because it's not her fault her dad died not at all he was being a good father when his wife wouldn't give their child necessary help and tragically it ended wrong
Ur not tah. It's not your fault your dad is gone. Don't let anyone convince of that. An accident is called an accident for a reason. If your mom had called the ambulance, your dad might well stoll be here and you might not need a cane. That aside, your mom step dad are tah's for not disciplining your siblings. I'm glad you moved in with your grandparents!!❤❤❤
This is all moms fault. Shes projecting the quilt off of herself onto OP. The mom is probably glad the dad died. Love to the grandparents for protecting her.
The hypocrisy of that mum is mad. It's her fault your dad died because she wanted to be cheap and refuse to pay for an ambulance,if she just paid your dad would still be here.
NTA, your mom didn't get the ambulance and he was being a good dad, so that isn't your fault. And they should know they shouldn't take the thing that helps you with your disability.
You got loving grandparents❤ Three of my grandparents died😢 And i cqnt communicate with my last one cause she speaks hindi and doesnt know english and i dont know hindi💔
I hate the fact that these two abusive adults have convinced Op that the father’s death is her fault. She needs to share these nuggets of info with grandparents and a judge.
OP is not at fault for anything, mother refused to pay for the ambulance and risked the dad dying because he had to drive, OP did nothing but find a place where she isnt being taken advantage of and being abused by the mom
OP is being gaslighted. The mom is a monster for blaming her own child for an accident that was uncontrollable and then inflicting mental and emotional abuse on OP. An ADULT is taking her emotions out on a CHILD! Wtf?! If I was petty I would say that this wouldn’t have happened if the mom just called the damn ambulance. But this is only if I were petty and vengeful. In actual fact, the accident was just that, an accident nobody could have been blamed for “causing” it. As for ”turning” the mom’s family against her. Excuse me, every sensible adult would turn against you for abusing a minor in the family over something that was not even their fault to begin with!
No. “It’s my fault” no. It isn’t. You deserve better. (I also have a cane and mine gets taken sometimes as well [super annoying]) It will get better for you!!
I’m in the anger phase of healing from my trauma cause I have NEVER immediately wanted to murder a complete stranger more than OP’s mom… real sad that the wrong parent died, should’ve been the mom instead of the dad who actually gaf about his sick child… it’s 2:30 in the morning and I’m RAGING over this story 😭😭😭
Blaming a five year old for causing her dad's death because she needed to go to the HOSPITAL is crazy deranged should-be-imprisoned-for-child-abuse behavior
Mom is deluding herself trying to push the blame on the daughter in a vicious and cruel manner just to feel better about herself and the step dad is an idiot. The mom killed both of her parents.
this poor op :( not their fault for their fathers death, and most definitely nta. their mother definitely has been manipulating them to think they are guilty
Um, I'd argue if anyone is at fault for dad dying in an accident it's MOM's fault because she didn't want to call an ambulance! Are you kidding me? I sincerely hope this OP moved out, stayed out and has some real perspective on her family (her mom in particular) because this is BULLSHIT. Like I'm so angry on their behalf! You don't blame a kid - WHO WASN'T DRIVING - for their parent's death?!? That's effed up. Seriously effed up. OMG I can't believe how riled up I am. I hate this person's mother. She is the WORST. Go - be free OP! Live your best life! (And thank God her grandparents are kind, sane people who recognized that their daughter was absolutely TA and their granddaughter needed them to save her!)
While OP didn't cause the accident, she IS the reason the accident happened in the first place. Had she not needed the hospital there would be a chance her dad would still be alive. It isn't her fault. THAT solely falls on her mom for not calling an ambulance in the first place.
No, her mom is the reason because mama bear didn't want to pay money to help her sick kid. Mom is 100% the reason because she is the whole reason dad has to drive at all
No, OP isn't the reason for anything. Her mother is 100% to blame for the father dying. If she had just called the ambulance because her child was sick for goodness sake, then OP's dad would still be alive. The father's death is completely on the mother who is just too wicked to accept that her husband died because of her and instead wants to blame her child for it.
I want to give her a big, tight hug. I really hope she realizes the truth and it sets her free. If she's like me, the day she does, if she cries, it will be the hardest she'd ever cried, and it would be the best cry she'd ever cried.
What mother blames a child for her dads death it was her fault if you’re going to apportion blame she wouldn’t pay for an ambulance, but it was just a tragic accident.
I saw the story's title card and immediately thought, "NTBA". I still hold onto this stance firmly. This poor girl doesn't deserve the treatment she's getting
"Mom refused to pay for an ambulance so he drove me to the hospital" no THERE is who killed him she is just a victim of it and this is crazy blaming a child to point the child believes it's their fault.
I am so grateful for grandparents!! They take OP seriously. It dosent matter what anyone else thinks about your cane. It matters what you think. The parents are teaching disrespecting behavior to the children. Even if OP was not handicapped, they should not be doing a scavenger hunt in her room. But even worse useing/taking her cane
NTA, I use a cane as well (21 M) and if I was in your situation I’d ABSOLUTELY be upset about my cane being taken for a scavenger hunt. It’s MY CANE, I have it for a reason, just like it’s YOUR CANE, you have it for a reason and need it, it’s not a prop, it’s not a toy, it’s a medical device, and it’s something you need. Again, NTA
Thank God for your grandparents! That monster and her husband are despicable creatures. BTW OP Is NOT AT FAULT for her mother being selfish for not calling an ambulance when in an obvios emergency. Dad accident not her fault and her choices of consistent cruel gaslighting allowing her new husband to mistreat her child all not OP fault.
NTA . She’s the wrong person you’re not the one who caused your father’s death she is she refused to call the ambulance and that’s what caused him drive and die in a car accident you are a good person
Opposingly, i am 18 and have always been considered relatively healthy, if not a little overweight, my whole life (faster metabolism runs in my family). I've always eaten junk and so much sugar that i unironically considered it my alternative to caffeine. Consequently, i just got diagnosed as prediabetic a month ago despite my young age and body type. It really does have everything to do with genetics. (Btw, im sorry if this was too irrelevant. I just wanted to share my side of things as i do believe it's stupid to make such shallow assumptions about people)
Op won’t read this but it isn’t a 5 year olds fault that they got sick/injured and needed to go to the hospital. It was an accident and if there is someone to blame then it’s the mom who saw her kid sick/injured and in need of immediate medical attention and refused to call an ambulance. And op needs therapy to undo the conditioning that family put her through.
First, it was not OP's fault because accidents happen and OP was a child! Second, good for the grandparents. I hope social services are involved and hopefully OP is in a safe and loving home
Op is not the asshole the mother is and should seriously be ashamed and has absolutely no right to be pissed. I applaud your grandparents for screaming at them and moving you out of that toxic situation👏🏼
Okay. First time commenting before finishing. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! Survivers guilt is one heck of a syndrome. You are never to blame for an accident. Even if you needed to go somewhere and that ride happened to be the last for someone you love. It isnt your fault.
NTA. You’re not responsible for your dad’s death. They’re playing with something that you need for basic function when there’s no need to keep having your cane as part of their scavenger hunts (the fact that it’s often included seems like purposeful harassment). Your mom made her own bed and now she should lie in it. It’s technically neither of your faults that your dad died, but if she’s going to keep accusing you of it when you were five years old at the time, then maybe remind her that she’s the one who refused to pay for a cab or ambulance.
What a horrible mom! It's really sad that she's convinced OP that it's her fault for the accident. She was 5 years old. If mom wants to play the blame game, then maybe SHE'S the reason he's dead because she refused to call an ambulance. It sounds like mom found somebody as terrible as she is. I hope OP goes no contact with her and that she seeks therapy to understand that the accident wasn't her fault.
Blaming OP for dad's death makes the mom irredeemable. She didn't cause the accident. She didn't choose to get hurt on that day
You're NTAH and your mom needs help, because she is seriously toxic and her thinking is irrrational.
Your grandparents did the right thing to get you out of there, but having lilved with "jokes" like that black widow one, and a mother who refuses an ambulance and then blames her child for the resulting death, you probably have some guilt, even if you rationally don't believe the death is your fault or the other sick things you've been hearing, and I'd expect you have some other issues/feelings/ways of thinking that are not good for you that you're not even aware of, and which could you could bring into the light, and get help re-thiinking, with a counsellor/therapist.
Sorry for what you've gone through; and hope excaping to your grandparents is the beginning of a much more healthy, supportive living situation.
But mom refused to call am ambulance
And did you catch the part where OP said dad was only driving cause mom refused an ambulance.. 👀 its all on the mom and she was clearly projecting all her bs onto her kid
If mom had called the ambulance, OP's dad would be here. So the mom is at fault 🤨
Mom is more likely to blame for the death sense she didn't want to pay for an ambulance...
It is not op's fault for her dad's death and NTA
I feel so bad for her. 😢
what does op mean😭
@@cash_m0neyy1it means original poster
I want to note, mom did pay for ambulance so dad drove and died in crash, it’s the moms fault
Don't. This is some fake-ass r/amitheangel bullshit
@@balthasardenner5216who cares I'm tired of these comments it doesn't have to be real keep your stupid opinions to yourself
The fact OP said it's her fault her dad died is WILD. She was just sick (as kids sometimes are) and her mom was awful for refusing to call an ambulance. Now she's pulling this shit too? Hell na! Stay with your grandparents for your own safety
Proof of the constant abuse they go through by mom every. Single. Day. OP actually believes it was their fault. That's heartbreaking..
the fact that OP actually believes it’s her fault despite it very clearly not being her fault really tells you a lot about the mother..
OP blaming herself is a serious reflection on how she was raised and how she views herself
Exactly what I was thinking
No, its a reflection on how f*cked up the US healthcare system is
Poor girl.
The sad thing is that point of view will stick with her long after she leaves. I can tell you first hand as my family would blame me for anything that went wrong.
@ same. I still blame myself for things and I’ve been out for four years with no contact
This OP has been **THOROUGHLY** trained into the doormat mentality. Everything that happens is THEIR fault, even when it's clearly not.
Although i agree that she’s been conditioned into believing she’s the problem, calling it a ‘doormat mentality’ is gross. She didn’t do it to herself, she was a kid when it happened and her mom must’ve been telling her this day in day out ever since. When you’re that young, that shit sticks with you and even though you might not believe it consciously, you will absolutely believe it subconsciously. ‘Doormat mentality’ implies that she’s ‘letting it happen’. Bitch what? At that age you might still believe everything your mom says, she’s in a vulnerable, gullible stage of life. She’s been conditioned into believing it, she’s not a doormat, she’s brainwashed at no fault of her own. She had no way of defending herself from it, she didn’t have the brain capacity for it yet
Sincerely, someone who has cptsd from living in a mentally fucked up household
@Adifferentusername I hear what you're saying but have to disagree. Nobody CHOOSES to be a doormat. As far as I've seen, it ALWAYS is a trained mentality. Someone who **always** lets people abuse them isn't someone who **chooses** what they will accept happening to them.
I come from an abusive family as well. It took me years to break the mold they put me in... Once I figured out that it was done TO me. BUT...
Yes, "doormat mentality" implied something that the person is **allowing** to be done to them. That person has to 1) Recognize what was done TO them and 2) Work to break the pattern they were trained into.
@@MrGevander They said trained, as in the moms abuse made her that way.
@@MrGevanderwhere did they say op choose? Unless YT stopped showing when comments are edited, nowhere
Wait nevermind realized you were original commenter not the person who was being the asshole took me a bit
abuse.
“If you wanted a caring dad, you shouldn’t have killed yours” Wow. I hope she stays with her grandparents.
"If you wanted your husband so much you shouldn't have forced him to take your daughter to the hospital." 💅🏻
She 100 percent killed her husband by being a cheapskate and refused to pay for an ambulance the audacity if this "mother " is astounding
It’s the moms fault the dad died because she didn’t want to pay for a ambulance, also the mom has no right to get upset at op for “turning her family against her” the moms parents have a right to turn against her
What do you mean kinda? It is entirely the moms fault
Right?
Way to disrespect your parents "I make a mistake and you lash out on ME? Why not lash out on someone else? Idiots."
Basically saying that.
@@Drew.B.not entirely, she didn't cause the crash
@butterflybuttaspider true, but if the mom called an ambulance, then the dad wouldn't have had to drive
@Drew.B.neither of them are responsible for the crash. OP's mom is a monster to blaming the daughter though.
"AITA for existing?" 💀
Essentially what this post is asking and if that isn't sad-..
EXACTLY LIKE WTF 😭
NTA - tell them if they wanted to not be in trouble, then they wouldn't be blaming you for your father's death. End of the story, but you reap what you sow. So stay with your grandparents and don't let their anger get the better of you, op.
If the dad died because the mom refused to call an ambulance it's the mom's fault
She did exactly that. She didn't want to pay for a bus, so Dad had to drive.
OP's grandpa is honestly so nice for packing her stuff for her while grandma took care of the mother
The GPs need to take OP straight to the police station to file a report against OP's Mom and Step Dad. Those 2 need to be charged with child abuse. Mom definitely needs prison time.
OP needs Massive amounts of therapy.
@@lindah3803Also for omission of health care
Blaming your OWN DAUGHTER for your husband's death when it's actually kind of your fault is evil and certifiably insane.
Worse is that daughter agrees
@@steelman6403She surely was gaslighted since she was very young+ normal grief effect
And this is what you get
Your mom and her family are the a-holes and she constantly blaming you for your father's death is not right it's down right abusive. Your mental, emotional and physical health is important right now. You need time to heal and its not happening when you are living with your toxic mother.
ops mom & stepdad are the legit definition OF GUILT TRIPPING.
NTA. It’s not OP’s fault her dad died it’s solely on her mother’s shoulders for not wanting to pay for an ambulance. The mother is evil for constantly bringing it up to OP.
The mother is blaming OP for her family turning against her when it’s her own actions that have done that. Hopefully the grandparents get OP into therapy as her mother and stepfather have done untold damage over the years of abuse. They will be angry as they will lose some benefits for having OP no longer live with parents. Good on grandma for standing up for and taking OP away from her mother. No child deserves to be treated like that.
Useless mother, blames their child because she can't face the fact that she's to blame for her husband's accident? As a result she has lost her child as well as a husband, and she will no doubt make it that OPs fault as well. Toxic parents don't deserve kids.
The grandparents are the heroes here, swooping in like Ironman and saving OP from this dumpster fire.
She has stop blaming herself
NO NO NO THAT IS A TERRIBLE MOTHER BLAMING OP FOR HER FATHER’S DEATH IDC IF SHE’S “GRIEVING” THAT IS NO EXCUSE TO SAY SOMETHING LIKE THAT.
AND THE FACT THAT THE MOM WAS THE ONE WHO REFUSED TO PAY FOR AN AMBULANCE MAKES IT WORSE
She doesn't deserve to be a mom. It wasn't your fault. It's her fault. She wants you there for what? Keep humiliating you????
It's not her fault. It's her moms fault for being cheep on something so important
The mom's incredibly sinister, and the step dad and his kids are all bullies, imagine bullying the blind kid in your house
This poor girl… “I mean it IS my fault” they have her so messed up.
The mom is a quack. If she really cared about the father, she would've been the one to take him in the first place.
NTA, blaming a child for something not their fault is abuse. Not correcting children for hiding a medical needed device is abuse of both OP and young siblings.
Jesus what horrible people! Report them to CPS girl!
Omg, your father's death was an accident, they are sooo wrong saying that shit to you. You need therapy, so do they, thank God you have caring grandparents
I feel so bad for this girl because it's not her fault her dad died not at all
he was being a good father when his wife wouldn't give their child necessary help and tragically it ended wrong
It's not your fault OP 😭 accidents happen. Your father would want you to live your life to the fullest ❤
I hope OP gets help and understands they did nothing wrong. Mom is a piece of work. Glad maternal grandparents have stepped in.
Ur not tah. It's not your fault your dad is gone. Don't let anyone convince of that. An accident is called an accident for a reason. If your mom had called the ambulance, your dad might well stoll be here and you might not need a cane.
That aside, your mom step dad are tah's for not disciplining your siblings.
I'm glad you moved in with your grandparents!!❤❤❤
This is all moms fault. Shes projecting the quilt off of herself onto OP. The mom is probably glad the dad died. Love to the grandparents for protecting her.
Her blaming you for your dads death is straight wrong and horrible! Talk about being a terrible parent!
The hypocrisy of that mum is mad. It's her fault your dad died because she wanted to be cheap and refuse to pay for an ambulance,if she just paid your dad would still be here.
OP's father did not die because of OP, stuff happens, people die.
Why th is OP's mom acting so ridiculously?
NTA, your mom didn't get the ambulance and he was being a good dad, so that isn't your fault. And they should know they shouldn't take the thing that helps you with your disability.
You got loving grandparents❤
Three of my grandparents died😢
And i cqnt communicate with my last one cause she speaks hindi and doesnt know english and i dont know hindi💔
It's funny how your mom was the one that chose not to call the ambulance and yet you're being blamed for your dad dying
I hate the fact that these two abusive adults have convinced Op that the father’s death is her fault. She needs to share these nuggets of info with grandparents and a judge.
Nooooooo this poor person has been soooooo BRAINWASHED!!!!!!!!!😢😢
not your fault.
Nta. It is absolutely not OP’s fault for her dad’s death. Why should she get blamed? She was hurt in the accident, too.
It's not your fault your dad passed! And as a person with a cane, this would drive me to move as well.
OP is not at fault for anything, mother refused to pay for the ambulance and risked the dad dying because he had to drive, OP did nothing but find a place where she isnt being taken advantage of and being abused by the mom
OP is being gaslighted. The mom is a monster for blaming her own child for an accident that was uncontrollable and then inflicting mental and emotional abuse on OP.
An ADULT is taking her emotions out on a CHILD! Wtf?! If I was petty I would say that this wouldn’t have happened if the mom just called the damn ambulance. But this is only if I were petty and vengeful.
In actual fact, the accident was just that, an accident nobody could have been blamed for “causing” it. As for ”turning” the mom’s family against her. Excuse me, every sensible adult would turn against you for abusing a minor in the family over something that was not even their fault to begin with!
Damn they're so traumatized they think they're the one to blame for their dad's death
No. “It’s my fault” no. It isn’t. You deserve better. (I also have a cane and mine gets taken sometimes as well [super annoying]) It will get better for you!!
It's not OP's fault dad died! It's their mom's for not getting an ambulance. How horrible for her to say such a thing to her own child!
NTA. Also how is it op's fault for the crash, the mom is the one who didn't want to pay for an ambulance.
I’m in the anger phase of healing from my trauma cause I have NEVER immediately wanted to murder a complete stranger more than OP’s mom… real sad that the wrong parent died, should’ve been the mom instead of the dad who actually gaf about his sick child… it’s 2:30 in the morning and I’m RAGING over this story 😭😭😭
Blaming a five year old for causing her dad's death because she needed to go to the HOSPITAL is crazy deranged should-be-imprisoned-for-child-abuse behavior
Mom is deluding herself trying to push the blame on the daughter in a vicious and cruel manner just to feel better about herself and the step dad is an idiot.
The mom killed both of her parents.
If my family hid my hearing aid. I’d BE BEYOND ANGRY. So no. They suck
this poor op :( not their fault for their fathers death, and most definitely nta. their mother definitely has been manipulating them to think they are guilty
Um, I'd argue if anyone is at fault for dad dying in an accident it's MOM's fault because she didn't want to call an ambulance! Are you kidding me? I sincerely hope this OP moved out, stayed out and has some real perspective on her family (her mom in particular) because this is BULLSHIT. Like I'm so angry on their behalf! You don't blame a kid - WHO WASN'T DRIVING - for their parent's death?!? That's effed up. Seriously effed up.
OMG I can't believe how riled up I am. I hate this person's mother. She is the WORST.
Go - be free OP! Live your best life! (And thank God her grandparents are kind, sane people who recognized that their daughter was absolutely TA and their granddaughter needed them to save her!)
That poor baby. Of course it wasn’t her fault.
The mom knows it’s HER (moms) fault. That’s why she is trying so hard to blame OP. To ease her own blame. People do that very often.
Joke’s on the mom because grandparents can fight for custody.
They should get the siblings their own baby canes. Lol
None of it is your fault and they're not your family.
While OP didn't cause the accident, she IS the reason the accident happened in the first place. Had she not needed the hospital there would be a chance her dad would still be alive. It isn't her fault. THAT solely falls on her mom for not calling an ambulance in the first place.
She was a kid/ would you be able to save someone when ur mother does not want to?
Sorry for existing I guess? Op should have died that time instead of her dad or what?
No, her mom is the reason because mama bear didn't want to pay money to help her sick kid. Mom is 100% the reason because she is the whole reason dad has to drive at all
No, OP isn't the reason for anything. Her mother is 100% to blame for the father dying. If she had just called the ambulance because her child was sick for goodness sake, then OP's dad would still be alive. The father's death is completely on the mother who is just too wicked to accept that her husband died because of her and instead wants to blame her child for it.
My heart breaks for this child😢 op is just a victim
I want to give her a big, tight hug. I really hope she realizes the truth and it sets her free. If she's like me, the day she does, if she cries, it will be the hardest she'd ever cried, and it would be the best cry she'd ever cried.
Isn't it the mothers fault that the father died since SHE didn't call an ambulance
CPS CPS CPS
OP could always use the line "well at least he dodged the bullet of growing old with you."
What mother blames a child for her dads death it was her fault if you’re going to apportion blame she wouldn’t pay for an ambulance, but it was just a tragic accident.
I saw the story's title card and immediately thought, "NTBA". I still hold onto this stance firmly. This poor girl doesn't deserve the treatment she's getting
OP should clap back and say: If you wanted my dad alive, you would've call that goddamn ambulance.
In the USA you can move to any relatives home and live with them until you are 18 once you turn 16 or so
"Mom refused to pay for an ambulance so he drove me to the hospital" no THERE is who killed him she is just a victim of it and this is crazy blaming a child to point the child believes it's their fault.
“Aita for not wanting something that helps me function hidden randomly on a daily basis?”
Sweety, your cane is NOT the only thing they’re playing with.
I am so grateful for grandparents!! They take OP seriously. It dosent matter what anyone else thinks about your cane. It matters what you think. The parents are teaching disrespecting behavior to the children.
Even if OP was not handicapped, they should not be doing a scavenger hunt in her room. But even worse useing/taking her cane
I heard the full version a few years back she does get out and she does get therapy and she does stop blaming herself
“If people think you’re a bad parent it’s because you are”.
NTA, I use a cane as well (21 M) and if I was in your situation I’d ABSOLUTELY be upset about my cane being taken for a scavenger hunt. It’s MY CANE, I have it for a reason, just like it’s YOUR CANE, you have it for a reason and need it, it’s not a prop, it’s not a toy, it’s a medical device, and it’s something you need. Again, NTA
In this instance a minor will be able to leave, due to abuse.
Remember, all children deserve parents, not all parents deserve children
The crash is not OP's fault. It depends on the injury that OP had during the crash. Its the mom's fault for not getting the ambulance.
I would have lost it the first time she said that to me.
Op isn’t the one causing trouble
The adults are just trash worthy
The grandparents rock
Uhm, that is psychological abuse and mom may not want to press the envelope on that.
Thank God for your grandparents! That monster and her husband are despicable creatures. BTW OP Is NOT AT FAULT for her mother being selfish for not calling an ambulance when in an obvios emergency. Dad accident not her fault and her choices of consistent cruel gaslighting allowing her new husband to mistreat her child all not OP fault.
NTA . She’s the wrong person you’re not the one who caused your father’s death she is she refused to call the ambulance and that’s what caused him drive and die in a car accident you are a good person
Opposingly, i am 18 and have always been considered relatively healthy, if not a little overweight, my whole life (faster metabolism runs in my family). I've always eaten junk and so much sugar that i unironically considered it my alternative to caffeine. Consequently, i just got diagnosed as prediabetic a month ago despite my young age and body type. It really does have everything to do with genetics. (Btw, im sorry if this was too irrelevant. I just wanted to share my side of things as i do believe it's stupid to make such shallow assumptions about people)
Adult June: NTA! OP's family are extremely entitled, heartless, and manipulative. Stand your ground ✨️
Op won’t read this but it isn’t a 5 year olds fault that they got sick/injured and needed to go to the hospital. It was an accident and if there is someone to blame then it’s the mom who saw her kid sick/injured and in need of immediate medical attention and refused to call an ambulance.
And op needs therapy to undo the conditioning that family put her through.
First, it was not OP's fault because accidents happen and OP was a child!
Second, good for the grandparents. I hope social services are involved and hopefully OP is in a safe and loving home
IF anyone would be to blame (IF) Than its the mum!
Those monsters are raising two more humans...
IT'S not your fault, it was an ACCIDENT!! If anything it's your moms who is pushing the blame on you for refusing to call an ambulance.
Op is not the asshole the mother is and should seriously be ashamed and has absolutely no right to be pissed. I applaud your grandparents for screaming at them and moving you out of that toxic situation👏🏼
Okay. First time commenting before finishing. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! Survivers guilt is one heck of a syndrome. You are never to blame for an accident. Even if you needed to go somewhere and that ride happened to be the last for someone you love. It isnt your fault.
NTA. You’re not responsible for your dad’s death. They’re playing with something that you need for basic function when there’s no need to keep having your cane as part of their scavenger hunts (the fact that it’s often included seems like purposeful harassment). Your mom made her own bed and now she should lie in it.
It’s technically neither of your faults that your dad died, but if she’s going to keep accusing you of it when you were five years old at the time, then maybe remind her that she’s the one who refused to pay for a cab or ambulance.
Mom has no one else to blame but herself. Not wanting to call an ambulance then blaming OP. She’s not even a mom.
it’s the moms fault that the dad died.
she didn’t driver op
It's definitely not OP's fault!! I'm so sorry, you had to go through that. you are NTA
Maybe she wouldn’t have killed her husband if she took her kid to the hospital 🤭
What a horrible mom! It's really sad that she's convinced OP that it's her fault for the accident. She was 5 years old. If mom wants to play the blame game, then maybe SHE'S the reason he's dead because she refused to call an ambulance. It sounds like mom found somebody as terrible as she is. I hope OP goes no contact with her and that she seeks therapy to understand that the accident wasn't her fault.
OP shouldn't blame herself for her mom not calling an ambulance. That's her moms problem
what's worse is THE STEPDAD is the one to take it and hide it; the chair hes talking about isnt a wheelchair, ITS A OFFICE SWIVEL CHAIR
mom just doesn't want to admit that his death is her fault for not calling an ambulance