How to differ: The ethics of differing: آدابِ اختلاف

How to differ with some one in a more effective and productive way
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[@zubeda4883]

I have a huge respect for Prof Javed Iqbal. He explains everything in a comprehensive manner from all angles and easy to understand.
Please continue with your good work. This world needs people like you. I am learning so much from you. Thank you.

[@zartanshaaki1992]

Yeh shakhs Sahil Adeem ki budtameezion ko downplay kernay mein masroof hai, aur kuch nahi

[@faridaqadir3174]

Sir you are a very wise and a very well educated person. When differing and discussing anything, choice of words is extremely important. I do not know Mr. Adeem much, but I saw this program under discussion. The venom with which Mr. Adeem was generalizing and calling women "jahil" was extremely abusive repulsive. No one has the right to use abusive language even if he claims to be a religious scholar

[@Arslan_writes_yt]

Dr. Javed Iqbal has explained very well MashaAllah. I just want to add that normally we don't watch the whole video for 1hr or 2hr. Sir Sahil Adeem was telling the translation of the verse of Quran which was the same as he said. The thing is that nowadays we are far away from our holy book so we could not understand the actual meaning of an Arabic word. We have to see both sides and definitely we can't attack on anyone's intentions

[@dontlosehope2723]

The thing is that he had arab teachers and in arabic this word is not used like we use it in urdu, in urdu its considered an offensive word...May be he is unaware of the negative impacts of this word as he dint have pakitani teachers.

[@farzanafarooq6117]

​@@dontlosehope2723i don't agree with you. He lives here .he delivers lectures here.

[@dontlosehope2723]

@@farzanafarooq6117 No he might know....but when you have been brought up in Arabic language course you dont find it offensive...i myself when read this word in arabic language in a hadees first time i being a pakistani had a thought that Rasulullah s.a.w is using such a word but then you become aadi hojana...Actually we dont read in Arabic alongwith Urdu tarjuma that is why culturally we get very offended by this word...and also the way how ppl in our society use this word..like a gaali ya ghussa ya apni bharaas nikaalne k taur pay , ghalat "lehjay" main...its just my thinking ,i will keep good gumaan about him as Rasulullah s.a.w told us to refrain from badgumaani , badgumaani sab say bara jhoot hai..something like this.

[@umermunawar5867]

Mr sahil adeem was right but his way of talking as usual was rude n arrogant
He must have same etiquettes which Dr sb is mentioning

[@user-nc5of7hb2b]

🍃🌸اسلام علیکم استاد محترم، میں اپنے رب کی بے انتہا مشکور ہوں جنھوں نے ہماری زندگی میں اس قدر خوبصورت ،تحمل مزاج ، نیک لوگ رکھیں ،جو ہمیں زندگی کو بہترین طریقہ سے گزرنے کا سلیقہ سکھاتے ہیں، اللہ کریم آپکو اپنی امان میں رکھیں آپ نا صرف میری بلکہ بہت سے لوگوں کے لیے روشنی کا باعث ہیں 🍃

[@ghazaliteachings]

سر جی
آپ ساحل عدیم کی بھی کچھ تربیت فرمائیے. ❤️
جزاک اللہ خیر

[@uzmaasher97]

As well as Khalil ur Reman qamar both person need to tolerate other people

[@GADHAZEESHANGONADAL]

💯😢

[@simplestatement1543]

قُلۡ اَفَغَيۡرَ اللّٰهِ تَاۡمُرُوۡٓنِّىۡۤ اَعۡبُدُ اَيُّهَا الۡجٰـهِلُوۡنَ‏ (اے نبی ﷺ !) آپ کہہ دیجئے کہ اے جاہلو ! کیا تم مجھے بھی یہ مشورہ دے رہے ہو کہ میں اللہ کے سوا کسی اور کی بندگی کروں ؟ Az-zumar 39:64

[@GADHAZEESHANGONADAL]

@@simplestatement1543 Acha phir me b keh sakta
Sahii Adeem Ki ma bhe jahil our yeh khud bhe jahil

[@Sistreeideas342]

A o a Dr sahab ap ki baat itni monasib hai kay dil mutmaeen ho jata hai hum kuch bhi nhi yeh baat bilkul theek hai sahil adeem sahb ko Deen ka bilkul nhi pata or wo quran ko bhi nhi janty sirf kuch references lay atty hn or kuch nhi bhi kash wo ap ki is video say wo baat smjh lain warna yeh itni zada tadabur wali batain sahil sahb ko smjh nhi Anni
Allah ap ko salamt rakhy ameen

[@waseemahmed7762]

Sahil adeem is a public figure and he should control his hate behavior with people. He must respect people.

[@priyankdhyani]

A true momin directs all his respect only to Allah and Rasool pak SAWW. No respect for people who are against Islam.

[@simplestatement1543]

قُلۡ اَفَغَيۡرَ اللّٰهِ تَاۡمُرُوۡٓنِّىۡۤ اَعۡبُدُ اَيُّهَا الۡجٰـهِلُوۡنَ‏ (اے نبی ﷺ !) آپ کہہ دیجئے کہ اے جاہلو ! کیا تم مجھے بھی یہ مشورہ دے رہے ہو کہ میں اللہ کے سوا کسی اور کی بندگی کروں ؟ Az-zumar 39:64

[@MalikMalik-vc9pj]

​@@simplestatement1543 bandagi aur Kisi say tamiz say BAAT krnay different hai.

[@FalconNewsx]

Direct your advice to the rude raging feminist.

[@zartanshaaki1992]

@@priyankdhyani Lanat hai tum per

[@ghulamrasoolshahzadaofficial]

ڈاکٹر صاحب میں آپ کی بات سے سو فیصد متفق ہوں..

[@adnanshokat99]

ڈاکٹر صاحب آپ بڑے آدمی ہیں مالک آپ کو سلامت رکھے۔۔۔

[@ABDULRHEEM-kr1kr]

Convey message of Islam to all people of the world and to everyone who will come also convey message of Islam to all world leaders...................

[@theenlightenedone1283]

علاج
72 فرقوں سے نکل کر 1 جماعت بن جانے کا وقت آگیا ہے
ملت/امت میں شامل ہو جاو
خلیفہ وقت کی اطاعت میں ہی برکت ہے اور پاکستان/ اسلامی ممالک کی بقا ہے
علماء سو سے بچیے/ نام نہاد لیڈروں سے بھی
اسلام = امن و سلامتی
فلاحی ریاست
اللھم' لبیک
پاکستان زندہ باد❤

[@bushrafatima3149]

Sahil Adeem jis level ki baat kartay hein unfortunately masses ki understanding ka woh level nehi hae. Lekin sab say pehlay alfaz aur lehjay ko dheema rakhna aur us k baad samnay walay k understanding level ko samjhay baghair hum kisi ko kuch sikha nehi saktay. Sir Sahil Adeem ki niat par toh shayad he koi ho jo shak karay but human psychology hae k hum niat say ziada alfaz par attention detay hein.

[@Dil-ka-qalam]

I don't know anything abt this incident but want to say that words do matter. None is going to check inside u or ur intention. Atleast we can't expect from the general public. But we shd try to see the real intention but there r very few ppl who do that.

[@simplestatement1543]

True

[@simplestatement1543]

Hindu culture sy he nahi ham nikly

[@sundasa7098]

Alfaaz are extremely important. What exactly are you trying to hint at? Scholars agar masses ko bat samjha nhi sktay to unka faida kia? Yeh acha hai ... bat krni nhi ati to ye bol den k masses k samajh se bahir hai. Wah

[@qabeelbinadam]

Sahil Adeem ka ye permanent tareeqa ha ke vo samne vale se bat nahi karta, vo us ko portal bana ke larger audience ka brainwash karta ha, ab aisa brain wash hua ha ke pooray munafiqistan ma maghaz ki nehri beh Chali hain to ye credit to ha us ka banta ha, maafi mange girl ko BHI credit jata ha, it's all for the better.
Hum aisi qaum numa jathay ka murabba hain ke aise he jab hum ok doosray ko zaleel large to sudhray he or Rah e raast pe range, abhi to Sirf state bank ne raast nikala ha. or ye batae ke Pakistani aurto ko kis baat ka takabbur or akar ha, han mard BHI jahil hain, aur aurten BHI, Sahil Adeem se ittefaq nahi karta, 95 nahi 100% mard or 100% aurten jahil hain. SAHIL ADEEM se sawal ha ke ye 5% ka evidence de ke vo jahil nahi.

[@ednanayub]

قوم کی آبیاری اشد ضروری ہے تا کی فتنوں کی بارش میں اپنی اپنی چھتری کھول لیں اور بچا لیں خود کو ایمان کو مگر پھر بھی یہ ہوائیں سب کو چھو کے گزریں گی۔

[@salmakazi5750]

بہت عمدہ بہترین مگر معذرت کے ساتھ comments پڑھ کر لگا کہ ہم میں نہ مانوں والی قوم سے تعلق رکھتے ہیں
اللہ تعالیٰ ہمیں ہدایت عطا فرمائے آمین جزاک اللہ خیرا

[@anumramay4141]

True ... or es ko hi jahalat hi kahty hain.. And we are into it..

[@zubbrabb]

Bilkul sahi 😊

[@MuhammadKashif-cf1ms]

Sahil Adeem and Khalil ur rehman jesy logo ko iklhaq ky daiery may kisi sy disagree krna chahye aur jazbat py control krna chahye specially in public.

[@S.Sam.01]

100 true words !! jazak Allah khair

[@deenorduniyadonosawaren239]

عمدہ اور اہم نکات

[@user-SSKYT111]

Dr shaib Marey pass ilfaz Nahi
Hein.
Bus inta khena chahoun ga ke ap ki video sekhene waloun KO bohat Gia howa hsi.
❤❤❤❤

[@nosheenahmed3231]

Finally a knowledgable & well mannered person explained it👏👏

[@yasimeendurrani1209]

Please remember ...
"Let us agree to disagree without being disagreeable"

[@haqnawazkhan552]

پروفیسر صاحب۔ بہت عمدہ۔ بہت نفیس طریقہ سے آپ نے یہ بات پیش کی اور سمجھائی ۔

[@EddiePayG]

Boht hi umda tareeka aur mere nazdeek bilkul sehi tareeka, lekin aj kal k doar mei kisi k pas itna waqt nai hota k is process se guzray. Mere aksar is baat ko face karta hun plue mai mehfil k adaab ka hissa samajhta hun kisi ki baat ko pura sun'na aur phir us ki baat ka jawab dena, aksar mai thought process mei ek behtareen jawab de sakun wo moment guzar jati hai aur baat kahin ki kahin nikal jati hai.

[@smssa3627]

Kitni sahi baat samjhae hy ma shaa Allah. Ya Allah logun ko adab ahtram samjh ajaen آمین

[@humeraalvi305]

Beautiful way of explaining, may Allah give hidayah and hikmah to all brothers and sisters....Ameen

[@ahmedabbasi637]

Assalamalaikum,
Bohat umdah.. Doctor sahb apny apny zarf ke hisab se kitni basic bat asani se logo ko samjha di.. Kash log apki batao ko samujh sakain.. Allah apko sehat ata farmain.. Ameen.

[@sajjads2728]

Good advice, Javaid Sahib. Our prophet called only one person JAHIL. Imagine if he would have called all of the Quresh Jahil. He never did, and there are obvious morality reasons for that.

[@Careercompass178]

@@sajjads2728 He S.A.W called him AbU Jehl...NOT JEHL

[@abdulraufhafiz664]

ساحل عدیم کے بیانات میں اکثر proudness کا پہلو ہوتا ہے

[@redrosered5539]

ye aap ka zavia e nigah hai

[@yasmeenalvi1410]

Agree 💯

[@tabinda460]

It's his aggressive way of talk .so.please calm down why cant we e focus what he said it's right or wrong

[@aamnasajjad113]

Not proudness but rudeness

[@nazs3332]

Arrogance is the right words for his attitude, which is disliked in Islam

[@mrsgilani5488]

Yes,yes aur samjaen. Students aj ka bi ethics ,sa bohat dooor hain.

[@sam35827]

Sir your argument hits jackpot but valid only if arguing parties are equal but in this case
Dr Adeem considers himself above the argument so he wants belittle the other participant
Who is jahil is anybody’s guess

[@kamrannasir1002]

Dr. Sb. words are not enough to appreciate you.
May Allah bless you more.
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@HUSSAINI.5]

Absolute such, Alhumdulillah we have which is Qur'an. Our lens towards things which be Quranic. Our true Identity is Muslim. We are not limited but limited here in this world.

[@Shahkhalid-qv1gq]

Sir aap nay affirmation k baraya may Jo wazahat ki, esi mafhoom say imam Ghazali (r.a) nay b ek osol lika hay munazeray k liy.
Masha-Allah 💖

[@farmeensheikh1206]

Sir you are a humble and polite person and explained this topic very well❤

[@talatzubia9229]

JazakAllah kher Dr sahib buht hi achy Sy aap NY ikhtelaf ko kis Tarah karna chaye samjhaya sehat k Sath Khush rahen

[@jawadhaider2823]

جزاک اللہ ڈاکٹر صاحب بہت ہی اچھے انداز سے اپ نے سمجھایا خاص کر یہ کہ کسی کی نیت پہ شک نہیں کرنا

[@SaleemKhan-vy8nm]

Jazak Allah. Absolutely right

[@mohammadanisains9432]

السلام علیکم
ڈاکٹر صاحب آج بہت سریع و بلیغ باتیں اختلاف پربتاءیں شکریہ

[@mumtazziad2630]

Excellent JazakAllah khair mujhe ap ka andaze guftogo bahut pasand hay ap ki positivity bahut appeal kerti hay salamat rahein sehut o tundurusti key sath Ameen

[@muhammadKhalid-mo1wu]

Very rightly said mainly we should be tolrent to each others.

[@abdulshakoor-dv5cy]

یہ صرف اندازے گفتگو اور الفاظ کا چناؤ ہی ہوتا ہے جو لوگوں کو اپکا گرویدہ بنا لیتا ہے۔ بڑے بڑے پڑھے لکھے اور جہاندیدہ لوگوں کو آپ کہتے سنیں گے کہ میں تو طفل مکتب ہوں، کم علم ہوں اور آپ سے کچھ سیکھنے آیا ہوں
اپنے آپ کو عقل کل سمجھ کر گفتگو کرنے سے مسائل پیدا ہوتے ہیں

[@khanmujeebkhan5776]

Simply, in such cases when people have different views about any notion then listen carefully and say 'we agree to disagree'. Act sensibly, be calm and don't be arrogant or insulting!

[@Ahtshamnasir072]

Thanks to be enlighten my dull soul and mind on this sensitive topic thats are very responsible for goodness and productive to an a relationship just for differancial debate.
So nice of you ... Your fragrance should more be
Allah gave barkat in your life Respected Gentley Mr Eternal/ javed Iqbal .
Javed nama ❤

[@alibinshakeel34]

Subhan ALLAH❤
JazakAllah Bhaiyya🎉

[@user-zq6fj6sn6h]

بہت خوب جزاک اللہ خیر

[@asifaparveen254]

Mujhy lagta hy hamen yh sochna chahye k jis base py females ko lailmi ka kha gya hy Kya us k bary mn males janty hn I think taghoot ka meaning males ko bhe nh pta hoga to males or females ka qasoor nh hy balk yh pori society ka fault hy

[@dancesongs2611]

MASHAHALLAH Kitna Acha smjha rhy ha ye oti ha educated person kasy baat karta hai...

[@javedjamot4738]

سر رہنمائی کے لیے بہت شکریہ ❤❤❤

[@DrtalkAnimated]

Huge respect for you sir Prof Javed Iqbal

[@engineerbhai5676]

Ma shaa Allah boht acha explain kiya ha Dr sab ne.

[@hometedtalk7994]

JazakAllah for sharing your ideas!
May Allah give me and others the "taufeeq" to implement these procedures in our day-to-day conversations with unlikely-minded people.

[@quratulainmansoor1249]

Assalamu alaekum apki guftagu ne meri soch k bohat se dareechey kholey

[@HifzakhanKhan-eq4gk]

MaShaAllah sir❤🤲

[@muhammadwaqas3369]

Sahil adeem r Khalil ur Rehman ek mental admi h media b en logo ko bulata h or clg uni wale b....Kamal h

[@noor_alanoor]

Aap bohot bada claim kr rhe hain.

[@shaziakamal2650]

"we both agree that we disagree on certain points" well said statement.

[@bahadarkamal9142]

Sir aap ki har video sy bohat kuch sekhny ko mil jata hai Allah aap ko ajar dy Ameen

[@shabanasohail6319]

MashaAllah ashfaq sahib ka bad ap ki bato ma bohat asar h Allah ap ko sehat wali Zindagi dy amen

[@khawar79]

Khoobsoorat ...... bohot bohot shukriya

[@dr.m_amir]

very beautiful message

[@musioo7]

Is waqeay k Baad ab tak ki best video

[@hidayatullah8370]

Ethics of Differing:
" RESPECT" Remember the Ethics of Differing Opinions:
R: Respect
E: Empathy
S: Stay Calm
P: Professionalism
E: Engage Constructively
C: Clear Communication
T: Tolerance

[@salmanahmed6695]

Absolute truth and awareness no one has. U right sir

[@salmanahmed6695]

I think difference in anything or matter one may differ but definitely in a decent way. Nothing shall be taken as personal. Egoist behaviour always damages you

[@nelofarjaffry660]

Boht hi behtreen tareqa se bataya ❤

[@mahnoormuqdis.8181]

Deen se jis jis ne dor kiya h Allah Pak unki akhrt ujden

[@fatimaabbasi6485]

JazakAllah khair, Sir ❤

[@rummankhan4620]

1. What is my true identity
2. Appreciation
3. Affirmation

[@user-lk3ke1yf6d]

AA .main AP ko bht Shok se sunnti hun .AP ny bht zaberdast points btaaiaya Hain

[@user-qo9nh2sk8o]

Wonderful sir,behtreen arguments,defined wonderfully❤❤❤

[@sofiaraza2262]

Specifically socalled scholars ko jazbat pe control kar k bolna chahye

[@Arslan_writes_yt]

Dr. Javed Iqbal has explained very well MashaAllah. I just want to add that normally we don't watch the whole video for 1hr or 2hr. Sir Sahil Adeem was telling the translation of the verse of Quran which was the same as he said. The thing is that nowadays we are far away from our holy book so we could not understand the actual meaning of an Arabic word. We have to see both sides and definitely we can't attack on anyone's intentions

[@drhammadhaider3115]

With all die respect doing all this will make you such a homeopathic person to whome no one will listen and try to understand
I gave example of salman asif siddiqui he is a gem of a person but honestly how much impact he has on society just because he is a gentle soul no one bothers about him

[@genuineidea6043]

Very well said but normally people hate each other inside and they are looking to find something to make fuss with and when they get this chance, they don’t let it go. 90% of people don’t listen to understand, they just listen to respond. The scenario you are presenting here is an ideal scenario which doesn’t exist. People are not that sincere these days, if you ask them “let’s talk” about it, they won’t even want to talk about “it”( any misunderstanding). They want you to say sorry without understanding the matter.
This is very general comment, not about the particular situation you are referring to.
I have something to discuss with someone for a very long time but can’t find anyone who could understand my point. Can i send you my question?

[@binteismail6444]

Best and wise advice Sir👍

[@amjadfiaz4830]

Mashallaha jnb tnks

[@AzeemKhanAukSunConsultantsLtd]

Respectfully these days people want us to first come to the point and then give the Tamheed.
Thanks

[@C.B.A.gallery]

Sir aap ki videos bohot informative or motivational hoti hain. Aik sawal tha k bachay ager incentive deny se bhi BAAT nhi maan rhy ya kehna nhi maan rhy to kia krna chahiye. Parenting pe aap ki bohot se videos Dekhi Hain or us per Amal bhi kia Jo aap ne hidayaat di parents ko. Thank you JazakAllah Dr.

[@abrarulhaq5768]

Love from Kashmir sir...
Thankyou for the words of wisdom

[@MrAbdullahArif-nr3xf]

Agreed and sir I would say we should respect everyones opinion we should respect each other.

[@sheikhhashimi5082]

شکریہ کے مستحق

[@zebashaheer5173]

Very well said I hope we all learn To be against sin not the sinner

[@MUsman-197]

Sir you always give us the best lessons completely agree to your three points i-e Identity, Appreciation and Affirmation

[@kamranaslam7865]

Sir, you explained very well, i learned many think this discussion, thanks for your wise explanation

[@user-li7to1up1b]

Exactly Sir u are such a asset of our country

[@anchkanch]

Insan KO Dekh kr bhi idea ho jata hey Kay ye reasonable admi hey ya nhi... Rational hey ya emotional hey..... Rational shakal say bhi rational lgta hey, emotional shakal say hi crazy lgta hey

[@ishasaqib2618]

Much needed topic. Jzak Allah sir

[@syedmuizzahmad]

Well said. JazakAllah ❤

[@Mohammadali-tn3ro]

Is this possible to treat the ppl in this society right now,,,,, every single person feels like he is the smartest person in the world 😢

[@asdflkjasdfasdlfkj]

very helpful Thanks ❤

[@uzmashah1839]

ساحل عدیم نے جو کہاسچ کہا انہوں نے بہترین تردید کی ہے اوریا مقبول جان کے چینل سیکھنے سمکھنے والوں کے وہ ویڈیوکافی ہے

[@nasreendar4644]

Thank you for this great information Allah bless you sir and all of us

[@owaissyed1912]

*اختلاف کے آداب*
توجہ کی ضرورت
امام شافعی نے فرمایا:
تمام اختلافات مباحثہ سے جیتنے کی کوشش نہ کریں.. کبھی کبھی "دلوں کو جیتنا"
"مناظرہ اور بحث جیتنے" سے زیادہ اہم ہوتا ہے!
"کہنے والے کی بات " پر تنقید کرلو مگر "کہنے والے" کی عزت اور اس کا ادب کرو...
ہمارا مشن "بیماریوں " کو ختم کرنا ہے… نہ کہ "بیماروں" کو ختم کرنا- اللہ تعلی ہمیں ہدایت دے آمین

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Well done doctor shaib

[@musioo7]

💯 agreed
But wo larki jis agenda k leay bethi thi wo us ne Pura kr lia

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Jazak Allah khair

[@shakilahmad211]

Think Win-Win (Mutual Respect & Benefit) Seek First To Understand Then To Be Understood (Mutual Understanding) Synergize (Creative Cooperation)

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Buht acha smjhaaya❤

[@Islamicstories1309]

Very informative video thank you so much

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You are great sir

[@kashifnazir5973]

Zbrdast ❤️ sir very valuable video for me❤

[@SH-yp2ud]

MashaAllah very well explained.

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Thank you javed saab

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Shukriaaaaa Dr sb😊

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ڈاکٹر صاحب میرے والد مرحوم و مغفور اکثر فرماتے تھے کہ کسی کے عقیدے کو نہ چیھڑو اور اپنے عقیدے کو نہ چھوڑو

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Or maray teachers kahtay thay HAQ kay sath kharay raho chahay Jan jaay par eman na jaay