BIGGEST MISTAKE NEWLY WEDS MAKE - EP 27 || BITTER TRUTH SHOW
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I honestly think the only way a woman can be able to give required attention to her husband is if she’s not overburdened with the responsibilities of being a mother …. Help her out!
Assalamu alaykum brother! Please help raise awareness about the hijab ban in Tajikistan 🇹🇯. The government has banned the wearing of the hijab and is fining and arresting hijabis on the streets. They imprison anyone who publicly disagrees with them, and we literally don't know what to do. Please pray for us and help in raising awareness.
Astagfirullah when did this happened?
@@Unknownperson-ob7fu This has been going on for more than a decade now. Banning Quran teaching, hijab in government institutions, beards, children under 18 going to the mosque, and young people performing Hajj, and now this complete hijab ban. A lot of people are oblivious to what has been going on here, so we need help in raising awareness.
@@gameoverfr1 astagfirullah may Allah protect you guys why nobody talking about this
@@Unknownperson-ob7fu we are a small country in Central Asia, a lot of people don't even know of our existence. Needless to say, the president's totalitarian regime doesn't allow for any public opposition.
This is sad. That president may have a Muslim name but he is definitely not acting like one. What an evil situation.
It's a dangerous assumption to think you'll be having kids after 50... it can set expectations that will lead to disappointment as it's such a small chance of success at that age. Even after 40 it becomes more and more difficult, I know people say these things to console women but better consolation is.. if you are meant to have children, you will... if you don't Allah saved you from something. Allah Knows Best and is the best of planners.
To expect kids in her 50s is ridiculous.
Most women can't conceive in their 50s. Even in 40s thats difficult. Chances of getting pregnant drops to 5% after 35 for most women.
I know that reading surat al baqara can solves all our problems. Desperate praying is the mist answered prayers subhanallah
Yeah I’d wanna start trying immediately if I got married in my late thirties, I wouldn’t wanna risk waiting too long if it doesn’t work out it’s still better than never being able to have kids.
If I got married at 35+ I’d want to start trying immediately. Can’t afford to wait that long tbh. It’s better to be a single parent than never experience having a child because you waited too long. Age is a huge factor
my IQ drops whenever I see this show you guys should rename it as double standards and incoherent arguments
ur face looks so familiar what country are u from.. u look almost exactly like my brother. subhanAllah. we are arab, are u omani?
@@shadowthefirst5115 I am actually pakistani bro
i don't mind that as much as the fact that its marriage advice from 20 and 30 somethings. Can't we get people with actual successful marriage experience of 10+ years
@@dinomahmutovic3649 bro the reality is all the points they raise are already well know and accepted in society but ali doesn't allow opinions of other people whom maybe a certain part of our mainstream society considers controversial we all saw what happened when mahdi made an appearance the panelist literally took the entire next episode to take cheap shots at mahdi's arguments when he wasn't even present and ali also conveniently excused and left the room
Lesser known fact: men have a 'virility' clock. The quality and viability of sperm decreases for men from the age of 45. So old men although more able to concieve far longer past womens age, there is higher risk of genetic defects, complications and miscarriages as well. So you could argue there are 'geriatric pregnancies' for men too.
Mehdi Always seems to know someone 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Great advice from the sisters for the brothers and just in general a good and much needed discussion 💯💯💯💯
May Allāh guide us all.
Is that young guy whos single the one talking the most on marriage? Looool
25:00 its not a generalisation to say women are less likely to have kids after 40 its just a fact of life, also what fraction of women have kids at 55.. like seriously
Glad you picked up on this, it's a dangerous assumption to think you'll be having kids after 50... it can set expectations that will lead to disappointment as it's such a small chance of success at that age. Even after 40 it becomes more and more difficult, I know people say these things to console women but better consolation is.. if you are meant to have children, you will... if you don't Allah saved you from something. Allah Knows Best and is the best of planners.
It’s hard in the late 30s, let alone 50 or above.
@@FactsCanHurt problem today is people don't value truth no more and people want others to cater to their feelings which is not reality,
how do you solve any problem in your life if you're not honest with yourself
@azizrampage sad but true... selfish and self centered culture so our opinions and feelings are worth more than objective truths and facts
Exactly. Women go for possiblities and not probabilities and they waffle and say things on the bitter truth show like this when they don't like hearing it and most men dont check it. They themselves generalize a lot. This is why if Mahdi Tidjani is not here this show is dead. Its far better to look at the redpill and reject what is haram from there and learn what is halal than this show without Tidjani
You need way more than a show to fix marriage issues of today and address zina.
Keep it up Ali, those who came down hard on you and others during this show would never dare to host a similar one themselves because they have little to say.
Some of the talks did get a bit explicit last time but I don't think it was meant to be like that.
they wouldn’t host it because it’s haram 😭😭 don’t support the brother pretending to be his friend, those that lead others to the hell fire are enemies
it's dangerous advise to tell women that the biological clock isn't real (or is a generalization). Yes, Allah's will can make anything happen. Also, Allah doesn't prevent outcomes of poor choices. He's given us freewill to make rational and logical choices in the practice of Islam.
Other women may take the sister's advice and choose to wait till their 50s and then they can't conceive. This advice will have cause women a huge loss. The advise is detrimental and causes harm. I will also argue that it will lead to the breakdown of the family unit if many women take this advise.
Better advise would be to get married young (and when you're ready of course), and plan to have kids, and leave the rest to Allah.
CHINA Demoliished Mosques
May Allah protect innocennt Muslim Brothers Sisters😔all family😔,in China,
Ameen
Aameen
anti-Chinese propaganda!
The Uyghur, Hui and other Chinese Muslims are free to practice their religion. They have mosques. The women can wear hijab. They buy and sell halal food.
When China had the One Child policy, provinces with very large minority groups (like Xinjiang) were exempt from this policy!
Sure, they are not allowed to try to implement the Sharia in China, nor are they allowed to support anti-Syrian terrorism. Good!
The West always has a new anti-Chinese focus; Falun Gong, Dalai Lama, Uyghurs, etc.
Why you are spamming everywhere, have you ever been to china even...!!
@@pogovid
You are liar and spamming
39 innocent family like my truth comment
And you saying spamming
i agree that the husband and wife should live together and adapt to each other before deciding to bring a new baby into this world, before having a baby with someone you should live w them so you know their flaws they know ur flaws and work on ur relationship and communication because kids arent easy, its so weird ppl saying this is a western idea bro what? birth control aint haram bro
We just need to communicate as a couple? We’ve been communicating for 8 years, but not much has changed from her side… Women think they’re good communicators, but the reality is that they’re are just good at expressing their expectations, in the other hand, they’re soo bad at listening and hearing other people needs(I think they just don’t care about others tbh).
Biological clock is a real thing. 30 is old to have your first child. Your child bearing years biologically start when you first get your period. Having a baby at 50 is not normal nor the majority. So many odds are possible but What woman in the right mind would want their first child at 50?
To the ones who think you should wait to get to know your wife before having kids.. DONT! Start having kids asap after you are married. You should have a brief or lengthy period to get to know your spouse before you choose them! People are more alike than not. Everyone thinks they have this unique character when In actuality most of us women and men are the same in terms of what we want and desire from the opposite sex. Obviously if you get specific their are small differences but in the grand scheme of things, it’s all the same. People should stop going in circles, get to the point and work through the tough times. No matter who you choose for marriage or how long you wait to have a child or how long you don’t wait you will always go through trials and tribulations. AND ALLAH KNOWS BEST.
30 is old to have your first child? Says who? You're considered higher risk when you hit 35 years as a first child, 30 is absolutely fine.
Rest of your points, I do agree!
@@ImenBen12 a woman’s ability to get pregnant slowly starts to decline at 27.. so imagine 30. Do you think an 18 year old and a 30 year old are both equally fertile? There could be the rare exception but I’m speaking on majority. Women do not get better with age both externally and internally. I know these are disappointing realities to accept but it’s the truth. Logically our bodies start to lack in strength, flexibility,endurance.. amongst many other things. I’m not trying to discourage women to not get pregnant at 30 or past 30.. Allah makes great things happen. And ALLAH KNOWS BEST.
@@BBflower I agree they're not as fertile as in their early 20's but to say 30 is old to have your first child is incorrect. That was just my point really. 30 these days aren't the 30's from back in the day anyways! Allah knows best.
@@ImenBen12, it takes a 2 second google. They lose 90% of their eggs by 30, and it only declines from there on till early 40s.
@@JEAGERlST I've checked and that was a recent study that found that. There are many other articles that say it gets reduced by nearly 30% only. Of course it declines with time, I did not deny that.
Hahaha Ali definitely good advice on to SHOW excitement when she tells you she’s pregnant. Had to learn the hard way
The Qurān and sunnah is the guide. We don't need to re-invent the wheel. I believe the 2 year thing is bad advice.
People are not animals, would you have a child with someone you don't even know properly? How old are you?
@@purplelove3666I find it ridiculous of you to say people are not animals as if what I'm saying implies that. I stand by what I say. It's bad advice. Had it been the way, it would be found in the sunnah. The way of the sunnah is to procreate. The guidance given in the Qurān is that you should be ready to marry before getting married. That means you must be ready to tackle whatever tests Allāh puts you through. Think before you speak.
@@purplelove3666 Stop thinking about yourself and think of the purpose Allāh created you.
i thought he ended the show😭😭
As salam u alaikum why would I end the show lol.
No he's explained many times he won't, but will improve it and showed who advised him that it's fine from an islamic point of view. If you guys don't wanna watch 3adi don't watch.
@@AliDawahat least dont have women on who dont cover properly
@@goldenfreddy6172they are always covered
Salafi Police crying out of anger. Hahha Toxic Salafi
Love this podcast
52:00 Ali you are wrong bro …generally men are stronger than women ….but also the strength of a man and women aren’t comparable in any way shape or form … Allah gave men the responsibility for being the bread winners the leaders of the household and the duty to protect because we have the physical attributes, mental fortitude and the ability to use critical thinking in high pressure situations…. This is strength , and pressure a woman couldn’t handle…This is not saying women are weak because Allah has given them “strength” in other areas that are incomparable ….women have the “strength” to do things men can’t do …. That’s why we shouldn’t compare the “strength” of a man to a woman when Allah created us differently and gave us “strengths” in total different ways.
There's no reason to stop shows with foreign women, Ali is intelligent, he doesn't invite his wife to the shows, that's why the show continues.
Ali keeps telling us he wants another wife in every video 😂
Excellent show 🎉
Subhan Allah. When did this become so complicated 😮
Wow. Two years is really really long. How can you get married and that you need know each other first before having children? This is like like buying a house without doing any inspection before the purchase. This is a western idea
Your wife is not a house she is human and your wife is not there to bring children for you and look after she is more than that.😏
@@mrironsirtajrahman8487and that's not only the duty of the wife to raise children,it's the duty of the husband too,
no its not western its common sense
The reason is that ppl can lie during the inspection, isn’t that true?
It’s not a western idea but age is a factor if husband and wife are still young they can wait to get pregnant but if they’re older it doesn’t make sense to wait
اتق الله علي
Please stop having this show. If you need marriage advice seek other means rather than watching a show. Listen to the opinions of scholars who deal with marriage/ divorce all the time. Also, speak to your parents, your mom, sisters on some advice as well.
It is better if we all avoid this show
الله اعلم.
The reason why you're giving bad advice is because Islam teaches us to be READY for marriage in order to get married. That means having children. The main reasons for marriage is procreation and avoiding zina. Done. 2 years is a bad idea.
For context, I am over a decade married, alhamdulillāh. So, I believe I know a little about what I'm talking. You also fail to realize that fertility issues are real and asking people to wait for 2 years and then end up having fertility issues or they have it.
Allāh gave us the option to separate with kindness. Khalas. Our deen is complete. There's no reason to re-invent the wheel. If the marriage fails, it fails. That is part of marriage and life.
Personally 2 years is a super important idea. Those 2 years allowed my spouse and I to discover basic ways we both function, perceive, analyse, and intervene with life problems and each other, solve misunderstandings, and really discover who we are and who we married more and more and more.
Like this helps a lot before having a baby, cause it removes a lot of the drama with each other, before another challenging chapter comes along the way. Dealing with both challenging unfamiliar chapters in your life at the same time can lead to divorce.
Waiting 2 years doesn't mean you're not ready for marriage. It means you're ready to have children when you deeply understand who you're having children with. Being married is not equal to having children, they're two different situations, you can be living one of those situations without the other or experience both. It's about learning how to function smoothly with your teammate before recruitment more "people" into the family business, if you don't have a smooth connection with your business partner, the family business will eventually fail. Of course some people may need less than 2 years or more to settle well with eachother. To each their circumstances. Some may find themselves that they have to face the challenge of navigating those two new experiences at the same time, and they succeed, good for them, but generally most may fail to jungle both.
And Trust me, you'll never know what it feel like to have kids or be married until you actually enter and live through this new chapter of your life. No matter how much you read and think you're ready for.
why brother Mehdi have so much negative assumptions about life in general, he always comes with the worst scenario possible why he do not think about more of positive outcomes.
The matter of having babies after should be left with Allah because we can’t calculate is power and mercy and if it’s his will we can have babies at 90 years old as he says be and it’s and tomorrow is never promised 👍
When is Marriage Documentary Part 2 going to be released?
(I hope you reply to the comments.)
never
Salaam Alaykum, interesting topic which took alot of twists and turns not directly related to the topic at hand. The midwife and the PT have some really good points. A big issue that probably wasn't given alot of attention is telling 3rd parties your issues. Not all have your best interests and may even impact how you see your spouse or would lead to other issues. The dynamics of a newly wed and the culture shock from going from single to couple sharing the same living space.
There needs to be an Ustad present brother, this show is crossing the boundary on what is appropriate.
Im still waiting for the marriage documentary
Get rid of this mehdi guy , he's so annoying , he's not married and has no kids he doesn't know anything about real life all his opinions are based on " oh I heard this, I know this person that said this" honestly it's cringe , grow up and get married then come give some advise and opinions cause right now your talking pure nonsense
I disagree. He brought some interesting points and latitude to the conversation. I actually applaud him because he diverted the conversation into small areas and pockets of marriage that don’t often get spoken about, hence why it’s called the ‘bitter truth’ show. Disqualifying his opinion completely because he’s not married yet is too presumptuous and close minded. Allah may have blessed him with a lot of knowledge; it’s better to listen openly rather than to status check.
Don’t get rid of him. On some shows, he brings strong and valid points but this episode, showed the areas he needs to mature in clearly or maybe evaluate who he keeps as friends/acquaintances; especially using terms such as “a lot of men/alot of circumstances”. It portrays his views as “the norm” and a fair amount of men would disagree with the statements he made “from knowing someone”. Boys may change to their wife after she has a baby. MEN usually show up to Fatherhood and become better partners.
Also - him interrupting or chomping at the bit to interrupt the psychologist when talking about the issue of postpartum depression and psychosis - knowing how ignorant we are to this issue showed immaturity and arrogance.
Actually as a single person he can voice what the single people think of before getting into marriage so his voice is very important
Didn't you say you were going to stop doing these shows?
He probably recorded this before his video saying he’ll stop 🤷🏽♂️
I though he defended this podcast.
he didn't say that
Great podcast as usual :) But, why is the brother in the white on the show? He’s unmarried and no kids so he is speaking with no experience, therefore his opinion comes off as irrelevant and often ignorant.
Just because someone doesn’t have experience specifically, doesn’t mean their input is invalid…. Having no experience can bring a different/ non biased perspective on a topic, the fact that he has no experience means he can separate his feelings and emotions from the topic and potentially better than someone who is experiencing something and has emotions towards a topic
That body builder guy should be removed. The steroids clearly have taken his IQ points
I think its all about education cos most women wen we r ready for mothers. We education ourselves. Man need more education in term of prenatal & post natal care/psychology & everything.
We education ourselves 😂
I thought you were stopping this show?
why on earth would he?
@@UNKNOWN-jk6wv Come on brother this show initself is haram the free mixing come on man
@@GO_142evidence?
@pmoneytunkara191 Evidence ?
The women are wearing makeup and revealing themselves online without the proper hijabs speaking freely with non mahrams in the same room if you don’t see anything wrong with that I don’t know what to say 🤷♂️
Sorry, but the one crucial component you all missed was family and community. Only a couple generations back, men had control over the outer sphere and women had control over the inner sphere. The women would educate and train the next generation of females in all aspects, motherhood, farming, household, husband duties, medicine etc, that was their sphere of influence and eventually when women were old they would be regarded as the matriarchs and would perform duties to serve the community which included the type of knowledge that we now expect men to have. You cannot marry a man and expect him to fill every role that society is meant to fill, best friend, mother, sister, counselor, midwife, husband etc. Your mother, your sister, best friend, the midwife, and the town's matriarch or "aunty" has to fulfil those roles that you demand the man to fulfil. Before you say it, I already know, "in the west this is impossible bla bla bla, we no longer live in small tight knit communities where men and women are separately governing their spheres" BUT STILL, the way these sisters made it out to be like women are walking into marriage as poor helpless orphans is wrong. You have a wealth of information at your fingertips. Stop putting it all on men. Yes, a base level of emotional maturity and understanding of real world affairs is required, but unreasonable to expect a man to just solve allllll the problems you listed. Educate yourself first, learn to communicate better and involve trustworthy elders or relatives, but don't put unrealistic expectation on your partner, whether male or female, because it's unfair
You cant have kids at 50😂😂 is she okay
Everyone commenting on these videos do you not know how to lower your gaze? Where do you guys live and work. Do you not see any women in everyday life 🤦
thats not an excuse, some people can lower gaze better than others. its the duty of the host to make sure there is no women shown on the show
@@slaveofAllah_986 you don’t have to watch if it’s such a problem don’t watch the video
So you are telling us that you don’t leave your house because there are men and women outside? Grow up please
@@shanaz3 exactly
Brother Ali, this show has free mixing and it exposes women to social media (which means to non mehram men to see them and listen to them), its better to avoid this content because it might get you lots of sins. May Allah guide us
Sigh. Everytime I watch this show I’m mind blown at the things said. There is One single mature, level headed MAN on this show. ONE. There’s too much immaturity on this show and excusing of immature mindsets and it’s dangerous for younger boys watching. Ali making comments like “yes you’re tired with the baby - I know. I’m working, I can “help” on my day off. Huh? There is no such thing as “helping with your child”. If you have a child- you own the responsibility of raising that child. Whether they need feeding at 3AM or not. Quite Frankly, it’s annoying to always hear Ali use working as an excuse for not fulfilling your emotional duties in a marriage- like women don’t work? This is not 1930. Sometimes it feels like he has some deep seated resentment to women and is against men doing better and doing away with those toxic “normal” behaviors that are Not serving men or women. He may not but somethings he says come across like that.
Lastly- sister said it best “you are a leader not a boss”. This idea of “ugh my wife had a baby and isn’t paying me attention I’m going elsewhere”. Like who raised yall? That is a clear red flag that you are hands off as a parent because if you were involved as you should be , you wouldn’t have the free time to count the minutes your wife isn’t centering you. Like any human doesn’t need time to breathe and nourish themselves in order to feed into someone else - especially a human who just pushed out another human that needs them 20hours a day. Grow up- your channeling “mummy isn’t giving as much attention to me as my younger sibling” as opposed to “I’m a man, we have a newborn in our family and how should I be showing up as a husband and father during this time?”.
U have said it all, i hope he sees this. He is one of those men that think provision is all there is to being a "man". Taking bout "help," with a child he had! #Smh
Where you been mate? About time.
keep making duas
@alidawah, you often quote the male gaze- undressed women lighting up the tool/pleasure centre of the brain. In the same study, they found the pleasure centre of the womens brain lit up at the sight of a mother and baby. This is the womans biology to ensure the attachment between mother and child, for survival and best chances for humankind.
السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ
Assalamu’alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته
JazakAllah
Ali brother please understand u have to stop it. I do not know what's going on ur mind, but as more and more this kind of videos are being posted on ur channel the respect I have for you is becoming less and less
The brother said he would improve the show. Let's support him in improving. Always look at the greater benefit.
I think, he likes these sort of attention that people are giving him in regards to his shows. The best thing to do, is not watch these sort of shows. Reduces popularity
What's wrong with this show? @selinaa7506
Ali bhai, please translate this video into Hindi or Urdu as well. People in India like you a lot but the problem is the language because no one here knows English or any other language. Please translate your video into Hindi or Urdu as well so that we can understand Islam better.
Aslamu alaykum Ali Dawah this free mixing is not ok my friend please take down this show down
Such type of free mixing show are a joke in the name of Dawah
Um watch the last video about it he explained it is not "free mixing"
@@aurorayt3719 I respect Ali. But he's not a scholar. And Sheikh Assim Al Hakeem said such type of free mixing show are not permissible
@@rustam.07777that was sh hakeem's view other scholars greater than Him say as long as the islamic guidelines are met then it's not free mixing.
I think brother Ali is working towards improving these guidelines. But the sitting arrangement is not free mixing as they are sitting separately.
@@faysalahmed9157are you okay with letting your wife go there and talk about !ntimate with other men? All the women who came here, i am hundred percent sure that their husbands are dayoos
Brother Ali can you please send the link on where you got your Palestine top from
Please bring Dr. Mona Alyedreessy on the show
The real question and issue was asked at the begining of the show no1 realy answered it every1 in this show has had a diffrent start to kids n marriage none of them wana mention some wer dating b4 marriage some had kid after
No to being a Simp.
but you want women to be nice to you, you can do without the redpill,
Ali Dawah is the best!
he is misguided may Allah guide him
what shirt is that and where can i buy it?
2 hours sleep 3 three jobs is cap but sure
43:28 sirtaj contradicts himself. In video start he talks about men being mind reader and reading body lang and mind of wife when she has depression but on 43:28 he says men expect women to be mind reader. Well then why are you mindreader? And you are too flowery about life. Your opinions are wrong sirtaj, men dont change kids nappy be a man.be a man not a simp
If you feel like changing your own kids nappy makes you feel like a less of a man then you won’t a real man from the beginning 😉
What do you think the title father is there for? you don't get married to be useless in the marriage
Why can a man not change a nappy? Any educated and religious man will know that his child has rights and he should not expect his wife to do everything.
What I suggest brother Ali is seperate the section of women and men make a barrier between make some changes to show what important in today's time is the message brother unfortunately this is still wrong
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Masha-ALLAH better the sisters are covered properly
1:15:10
70 percent of this show is just you lot bashing men. Get the Algerian brother Mehdi on because he actually speaks facts. This episode is just everyone saying ‘ the man should do this the man should do this blah blah’
damn hes algerian
bunch of penguins
👍🇵🇸
Listen lads don’t get married, be single and do whatever u want brev
If u want to get married have multiple wives don’t have one that’s boring man
Have 3 or 4 and control em and guide em
That is not the way of a strong Muslim man.
ew redpill follower
Marriage is a disaster
Single life is best
No chikh chikh and no argument
So if yu want peace
Live. Single life
Thank you
Being single may lead you to fornication. It is better to get married and be patient with differences.
If you marry the right person it’s not supposed to be a disaster.
Why do you say these
Peace alone???? 😂😂😂
Bro how to contact anamta, girl on the right? She is beautiful I want to talk to her father.
Avg liberals be like