I had a dream once that I was pregnant, which felt....(eugkh) weird, & somehow I ended up telling my cis guy friend about it, only for him to say "oh hey me too!" which made me feel much better lmao
I feel, I am a trans man I literally hate it so much I am very pro choice and it feels disgusting it's usually in the form of like a parasite entering me kinda format it really grosses me out a lot
I've had dreams where I"m pregnant before, and I also always felt icky until my cis brother told me has those all the time- so I guess it's just a bad little thing our brains do? ┑(￣Д ￣)┍
Oof I’ve had a couple of those too. Or one where I somehow already gave birth and didn’t remember? Breastfeeding brought such a sense of dread and dysphoria 🙃💔
@@TeddySaxbang5690 oof feel it always feels disgusting it used to happen to me it doesn't really anymore but it was mostly kinda along the lines of me getting infected with a parasite and that was a fetus and it felt so so so disgusting I SWEAR
About the weird dreams, as a cis woman and a lesbian, I can relate. I've had dreams in which I was a man, dreams in which I was in straight relationships but also dreams in which I was a gay man which made me laugh cuz that's double gay. So yeah, our brains love to sabotage us. Many of those dreams made me feel like shit but some were funny or just cool. Brains be wack.
Brains sure are whack. I've had a lot of dreams where I'm suddenly a girl again but I've learned to not take them seriously because I also once dreamt I was kissing my brother🤮 so I know dreams are just fucked up and you can't trust them lmao
@@SolarpunkVince Yoah! The trauma!!! lol. That happened to me when I was still in my teens, messed me up the next day, lmao. Right you are, never trust a dream! 😹
As a trans man who's pre-everything at the time of writing this, I sometimes have dreams where I'm in the right body, and waking up to reality is often depressing afterwards...
i literally had a dream where i was getting surgery, and my family was there supporting me, and i woke up after the surgery and got to live in the body i wanted. then i actually woke up and remembered i was pre everything and my family didn’t know i was trans. it sucks ass
same- This was why my whole childhood was me sleeping because everytime i go to bed i dont have to deal with boobs and period. I also had my first trans awakening from a dream.
My youngest child is a trans woman (she's 20, I'm old). She has chosen not to be open about that with all of our extended family, as she doesn't want to deal with their crap. So, I use neutral pronouns when referring to her in front of those people; I don't use her dead name if I can avoid it. I started this little nerdy thing (me and the kids are all geeky) where I refer to her as "tertiary offspring" or "number three" and our family just thinks "oh, Matt is such a nerdy guy". Also, I absolutely want to meet any significant other my trans daughter wants to bring home.
About the brain misgendering thing, I've had two dreams recently where I misgendered myself out loud to others and it upset me so much I immediately woke up both times
misgendering yourself happens to me a lot, as a nb person who isn't out to anyone i sometimes feel like i am just nothing more than what others see me as and that usually affects my view on myself
As the mama of (among others) an enby who is out, I wish you luck on your journey. May you encounter more acceptance than you expect (which is quite likely) and stay safe. 🙏💛🤍💜🖤
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As a queer cis dude I have had dreams where I'm the 'opposite' gender before. I've talked to my brother and a few friends about it before and yeah, apparently it's just me.
that used to happen before I was trans but basically it's your subconscious trying to explore to see if you are it's pretty common most people just don't remember it
@@gangsta550 Oh, yeah, that makes sense. I did used to outwardly present a lot more non binary, or androgynous i suppose, than I do today, and younger I did get a kind of gender dysphoria too. I wouldn't say that I "grew out of it" per-say, more like I went through a "fck it" phase quite late on in my mid twenties, which I now recognize was due to a severe depressive episode, and since then I've put far less of an effort in presenting outwardly the way that I feel inwardly, kind of thing, anyway... Does that make sense at all? Or am I just rambling? How long have you known you were trans then? If it's not indiscreet of me to ask, of course.
@@littlestone1541 that does make sense. Honestly, I don't remember any dreams of me as my true gender before transitioning. And other than me not understanding why gender stereotypes were a thing and constantly asking others what it meant to "be a man", I didn't know I was trans until quarantine
@@littlestone1541 yeah it makes sense I personally have known since like 5th grade that I was trans (I didn't identify as trans specifically) but I knew somethings was "off" since as long as I remember I always hated my body I was always underweight and I hated how skinny my arms were compared to my male peers and I always felt ugly if you get what I mean so I would over compensate by trying to be femme I broke at 3rd and I would wear just black but yeah that's pretty much it I just always kind of knew
I have tried off and on every few months for the past few years to learn to do the pen flip thingy I actually started shortly after i realized i was trans, it was like one of the first small things i did to try and present more masculine cause in my head i guess peak masculinity is being able to flip your pen in class
Why do I relate so hard to this xD I spent months in my early twenties practising how to do that thing where you mess about with a coin on the backs of your fingers because it felt ~so cool and masc~ lol. Now I am 36 and have gender confusion (clearly the coin turned me trans, new conservative talking point just dropped)
I’ve really been wasting all this time trying to dress and act like a dude when I could’ve just flipped a pen really fast and earned my man card INSTANTLY
I’m non-binary and my gender and sexuality are all over the place in my dreams. I often dream that I’m a gay man, but I’ve also dreamt I’m a trans man as well as a trans woman. Sometimes my gender or sexuality will just swap mid dream too.
I'm nonbinary, I don't think I have a gender in my dreams..? I usually start off as myself in them, but with no explanation I'll be a random fictional character for the latter half, or a disembodied observer. I wish I had gay dreams 😔 I've been having anxious nightmares for several weeks straight now, pun not intended lol
When I first tried to come out as trans to my mother she told me that she dreams of being a man too and that it's normal. Awkward teen me was so disheartened that I didn't try to come out to her for another ten years.
About the dreams: I'm not trans, but one of my best friends is. After he came out as a trans man, I had a nightmare of me just constantly misgendering him! It was like I was unable to say the pronoun "he/him". It was so awful and when I woke up it felt so real I had to call him and ask if that happened lol! I think I was subconscious so stressed of accidentally making him feel dysphoric or misgendering or using his dead name.
People often have dreams about traumatic experiences. If being assigned/assumed female was traumatic for you, then it's not surprising to dream about it.
I'm pre T transguy and I cherish the little bit of natural facial hair I have. I used to be self conscious of it before coming out, but now I love it and I'm really thankful I come from a very hairy family. It's not great, but I have two little patches of facial hair on the sides of my chin. I just wish it would connect lol
To reply about the dreams, I don't tend to dream as myself. Like I'm obviously someone, but my brain never associates that person with the real me. So it doesn't really ever bother me about misgendering since in some dreams even before coming out I was a guy and sometimes I was a girl, but it never felt like ME. So I guess I'm thankful for that. That being said, I constantly misgender myself in my own head. Sometimes I'll play out potential scenarios of my mom talking to her therapist about me and I often use the wrong pronouns. I mean, could be because I know my mom probably uses the wrong pronouns to her actual therapist but still...
i am pre t barely socially transitioning and have pcos. thinking of growing out what i have and seeing whats up. its kind of a lot. gives me hope for the future. best of luck!
Same! Im not from a particularly hairy family but i have two patches of moustache either side of my mouth. If i put some brow gel on them and the fuzz on my upper lip i have a pretty passable moustache lol
There is a dry cleaners building in my grandma's neighborhood and they have a sign in baby blue, baby pink and white and everytime I drive by that place I scream "trans agenda". It's also a pretty old place, probably from the 90' so the sign has a funky font lmao
Hi Ty, you probably won't even read this. But I'm here to say, thank you. I live in Chile, and many years ago I didn't even have a computer so I worked and saved money to go to the local Café where they had computers. One day I saw your videos, I was completely inlove. I'm the same age as you are, and for me you were the perfect guy. At that time, I started to learn English cuz I wanted to know what you were talking about, so your videos helped me a lot. Then, I went to University in my country so I stopped watching videos as I didn't have much time. Today I was watching tiktok and I saw an interview to trans man. So I watched the video on UA-cam and I realized it was you. It's been so many years, I'm not a trans person but I just wanted to say thank you 🙏 you helped me a lot. I'm a teacher of English as a second language now, I didn't have the chance to be in an English spoken country or even afford lessons and I learned because of you. I'm so happy to see that you're doing great. 🙌 Again, thanks a lot 🙏 ☺️.
I never misgender myself in a dream (and I stopped misgendering myself in my thoughts about one year into transitioning - yay! \o/ ) - but I did dream I was a man / teenage boy A LOT before transitioning. Never really got why that made me feel more comfortable, since I was an egg for 38 frecking years ... XD
As a cis woman, yes I've had a couple dreams that I was a guy, had an ex that had the occasional dream he was a woman too, I think it's more common than you think but many people won't ever admit it 🤷♀️
so funny story: i’m a trans guy and i’m very lucky to have very supportive parents. i’m planning on going on T later this year. my dad told me one day that i’m banned from trying to grow a beard before i’m able to, because nothing annoys him more than scraggly puberty beards. like. literally said he would kick me out. so basically, he won’t disown me for being trans but unshaven puberty facial hair is where he draws the line 💀💀
I got a multi slur $20 binder off Amazon for top surgery bc I needed one with a zipper for recovery and the one I got was actually so good tbh, I was shocked
Idk why but whenever I pop onto one of Ty’s videos I’m like “hi dad!” Because I see him as a trans guidance figure, same goes for Dylan on tiktok I go “hi mum!”
I wasn't female in my dreams, not in all the half century of living as one. I did have nightmares where people would surround me and critique my gender presentation. Oh wait, no, that was real.
I've just got three things to say: 1-The trans flag colored stuff happened to my very cis homophobic dad with a coffee mug...he still doesn't know, I'm saving it for the right moment. 2-Great segway to the Atlas VPN, smooth like butter. 3-The dating a trans girl one killed me! Man! Still can't stop laughing!
Trans woman here, I had the wrong gender dreams for a while after I first realized I was trans, but by the time I was a month or two into transition, I stopped having those dreams entirely. I do sometimes have dreams of not really having a specified gender; I wouldn't say nonbinary, since it was more of a vagueness or blurriness of gender. I guess that sort of counts since I'm a binary trans?
I honestly didn't know anybody had a gender in their dreams? In my dreams I'm usually "me" I guess but there's nothing about my voice or body that hints at being any particular gender
Phew I'm glad I'm not the only one. I can't recall a time that gender was in a dream of mine. Apparently I dream of a world where gender is completely irrelevant and nonexistent.
You ever have a dream that you're still in school? Same thing. Mental muscle memory. A cis person isn't going to have had those past experiences for the brain to dream about.
I'm pretty envious of people having dreams about their gender. To my knowledge, I've *never* had a dream where I could see, hear or feel myself in *any* form. The idea that I could experience such things in dreams sounds wild.
I'm genderfluid and ace and had one hell of an effed up dream. So, I was femme and going to school. Everything was normal until 3rd period. In walked... myself, as a masculine guy (while I was still in class as femme presenting) and said he was the teacher. Then I started flirting with myself.... Then after class we did some stuff. When I woke up I was like, "wtf, that was not supposed to happen?"
I can do the pen flip thing. I'm a drummer and learning drum stick tricks are useful to woo and crowd and spinning a drumstick behind your thumb is a common trick.
Throughout middle school-high school, I used to have dreams where I was a cis man & I would wake up crying because it felt so right, til the dream wore off & I was crying because it wasn’t real. Was so repressed that my brain didn’t fully allow itself put the pieces together til I was an adult. But now I’m a year on T & already happier than I’ve ever been. Thankfully haven’t had a dream where my brain misgenders me yet! On a different note: Ty plays DBD? 👀 Hell yeah!
As a cis dude I’ve never had a dream where I was not a dude. But also it’s very rare for me to ‘see’ my body anyway. Like… I can feel my body, and people acknowledge my presence in the dream, but I don’t remember seeing my hands or legs or some other part of my body that would indicate it was there. The only time I ‘see’ my body are the times I see myself from a third person perspective in the dream.
About the beard: Crazy how different our experiences can be. You, a tans guy being so happy about getting a beard, even if the haters in the comments told you to shave it. Me, a trans woman doing everything in my power to eliminate every little strand of facial hair growth, going through electrolysis and laser to burn it off so it never returns. Your current beard looks really amazing also! It suits you!
I had never felt so seen as when I saw Howl from Howl's moving castle in the ftm friend group. I also sometimes have dreams where I am the wrong gender, but I normally don't notice until someone in the dream calls me a woman (which makes sense as my social dysphoria harasses me moreso than body dysphoria).
I usually have either no body or my current, 3 months on T body in dreams. Pre-coming out I never had a body, I was just a pair of floating hands like in an FPS game, but lacking the cool weaponry said game would give me. Cue the side tangent of how much cooler my dreams would be with some Doom Eternal goodness. Also I sent the pen flying. Which cracked me up.
pre transition, do you ever get tired correcting people and them mollycoddling them because "oh i just feel so bad now im so sorry" forthe 100th time that you just stop correcting the same people bc you're fed up and just wanna go home? oh no me neither /sarcasm
I'm barely emerged from my egg and barely started on my transition... All I've got is a name and a haircut so far... But I don't look forward to nightmares in the future :(
How have I only just discovered your content? You are just absolutely mesmerising. I'm 34 and just starting to explore the fact that I'm non-binary/gender apathetic (it's complicated) and always have been. Thank you.
Fellow 34yo here... I don't know how this is the first time I've heard the term "gender apathetic" but that is a perfect description for me. Where is the secret clubhouse? I've gotta join!
oh god nothing I needed to hear more than that I'm not alone with the occasional weird ass dream where I'm the wrong gender again cause that shit always freaks me out
I've questioned my gender several times, but I think me not wanting any facial hair is one part of affirming that I'm not ftm trans. And it's not necessarily the hair itself since I haven't shaved or plucked anything in over a year, so it's just the not wanting facial hair for myself (as much as I like it on other people sometimes). More clues that I'm non-binary... I just casually dream of being a genderless owl spirit.
I thought it was just me who has an ambiguous form when I dream! Like I’m barely even aware of my body in my dream, I’m just a pair of eyes and a vague body. Yeah, I currently identify as transmasculine nonbinary, and the lack of wanting masculine characteristics like facial hair is one of the ways I’m leaning toward just being nonbinary.
I've had dreams when I'm a guy but that's because some of my dreams are just stories and the main character, played by me, can be any gender. It's not really me, it's just the character I see the dream through, like in a video game, you know? I've never had a dream where I'm a male version of me (AFAB and cis here).
kind of same? all my dreams feel like i’m in a video game or *are* a video game that doesn’t exist. one time i heard my voice in the background as if i was streaming it, but i was also the game character? i watch too much twitch and youtube, basically.
Yeah, I definitely have dreams where I'm playing a role as some character in a show or movie I love. I've been Sherlock (Benedict Cumberbatch), as well as Buffy the Vampire Slayer, when I was watching the respective shows a lot. To be clear, I look and act nothing like either character. (I'm a fat old woman. :-) Dreaming is nice when you get to do stuff you can't do in real life!
1) Sorry my good sir, I do not share the Special Pen Flipping Talent. 2) Thank you for another entertaining video. 3) In case anyone cares, a new year recently started for some of us (Jewish.) So, may everyone here have a year of joy and blessings. (If anyone is wondering why I make an issue of religion, I know that some "religious" people are horrible bigots who blame the Bible for their BS. But some of us religious folks are reasonable.) 4) 🙏❤🏳🌈🏳⚧
Fellow pen flipper here!:) I'm only one month into hrt but I'm definitely starting to have my gender flip every now and then in my dreams. The dreams that stick out the most though are where I'm hanging out with other trans homies. Since moving I only know one other trans person and I think my dreams are definitely a reflection of my wanting to meet more people like me.
the pen/cil flip thing was the big fad in the math team groups back in the late 80s. There were a few doing it all the time, not just in one direction but back again in the other direction fluently, some doing it from one finger to the next and back again, in my high school. A few others were seen practicing and trying to learn it obsessively. It was some kind of secret math team merit badge to be able to to that; I think they saw it first from competitors from other countries. Still cool that you can do it! I hadn't seen anyone do that in literally more than 30 years so it made me smile to know it's still going the rounds. Did have a dream once, of me being in a red dress, and I looked down and saw a body not my own, that filled out the dress perfectly. It looked great, it just wasn't me. I didn't even want it to be me, so that left me wondering why I had the dream, but sometimes they just don't have to make any sense.
TY, Ty 5:13 It happens. Dreams are there to process info so that we are going to be ready for stuff happening in the future, worst case scenarios being nightmares (not night terrors, mind you). So, if you've gotten the info "i am supposed to be a girl because of my appearance" you're gonna Dream that. It means nothing so don't worry
Bro that pen thing!! I've been doing it since like middle school, I thought I was the shit, never met anyone who could do it. Guess it really is a trans super power
That last meme was accurate. I’m sure many other archeologists have commented before that the “bones” argument holds up about as well as Flat Earth or “aliens built the pyramids”. The public seems to love using what sounds like science to argue for their prejudices.
"date a trans girl and you won't have to meet her parents" as a trans femme, I laughed my ass off so hard. I didn't expect to feel that so deeply, and that's speaking as someone whose mom loves and accepts her. Jeez, talk about murdered by words. I need to have "murdered by words" on my tombstone. Emotional damage if I've ever seen it.
My dream form is usually "ambiguous humanoid" - lots of vivid external details but I rarely look at or perceive my own shape in dreams - but a few nights ago I was inspecting my own breasts and thought "Oh neat I'm specifically and intentionally myself here" so that was nice
I’m AFAB non-binary and my pronouns are they/them. People who know this will accidentally misgender me and apologize profusely thinking they’re going to upset me. I’m like, “Dood, I misgender myself all the time, it’s okay!” My partner (who’s a beautiful transman) and I baby talk our dogs shamelessly and he’s “daddy” (of course) and I go by “mapa” (“ma” and “pa”) and I catch myself calling myself “mama” ALL. THE. TIME.
About the misgendering yourself, I’m a cis girl and even I misgender myself. I’ll be thinking and randomly refer to myself with ‘he’ or ‘they’ or saying kid instead of girl when talking about my past. It always makes me pause and question my brain
I’ve had dreams where I’m me, having transitioned, but I’m back in highschool and I have to wear the girl’s uniform. And the dream rly is just me, Day to day trying to convince management to let me use the boys uniform
Way back in high school we called that special trick a "stupid debator trick" because the whole debate team used to do this. Something like 12 of us on the team.
Every video from you is such a banger tysm. (Also I immediately was like "I can do the pencil thing" only to repeatedly throw the pencil across the room whoops)
Wow I haven’t checked on your channel in like 2 years..? You popped in my head rn. You look so good!!! The beard looks great!!!! I’m glad you still make videos ☺️
Yup the misgendered dreams are a thing... Usually for me I'm going about my dream activities normally and then I suddenly realize I have boobs and no bra and I have to sneak around public places looking for a bra to put on. 🤦
There are penspinning communities online! My friend from high school had a whole group of friends that were bonded by their love of spinning pens. There are quite a few tricks you can learn and the thumb one is the most basic 👌🏻
I don't have the mis-gender dreams, but I do have hella vivid anxiety dreams. Like, I only stopped having the dream about missing the school bus and/or being on the wrong school bus when I was maybe 25 😅
I exclusively dream about myself as a man, never know if cis or trans, but I'm a guy and everyone treats me like one. granted sometimes I have dreams where I got top surgery and get really bummed out after waking up and finding out that it's not reality - yet :'D
Nice bullying a detransitioner about their hair loss with such elevated commentary like “sorry bald”. Being trans does not excuse you or anyone for being a narcissistic a$$. I’m happy that you were able to transtionn in order to live a happy life, now you need to work on what’s inside 😒
I used to do the pen thing all the time in highschool when I was bored. Around the same time I also learned how to flip a quarter between my fingers because I saw someone on some medical show say only really good surgeons could do it
4:46 no I don't have dreams where I'm the wrong gender, but I do have nightmares where friends / people that I care about call me by my deadname and I just have to tell them it's okay. It's funny bc normal nightmares don't scare me at all (legit two nights ago I had pseudo sleep paralysis and the two sleep paralysis demons wound up whispering eldritch horrors into my ears, and every time one of them finished a sentence I'd just make fun of them by repeating whatever they said in a baby voice).
I had a dream once that I was pregnant, which felt....(eugkh) weird, & somehow I ended up telling my cis guy friend about it, only for him to say "oh hey me too!" which made me feel much better lmao
I feel, I am a trans man I literally hate it so much I am very pro choice and it feels disgusting it's usually in the form of like a parasite entering me kinda format it really grosses me out a lot
lmfaoo
I've had dreams where I"m pregnant before, and I also always felt icky until my cis brother told me has those all the time- so I guess it's just a bad little thing our brains do? ┑(￣Д ￣)┍
Oof I’ve had a couple of those too. Or one where I somehow already gave birth and didn’t remember? Breastfeeding brought such a sense of dread and dysphoria 🙃💔
@@TeddySaxbang5690 oof feel it always feels disgusting it used to happen to me it doesn't really anymore but it was mostly kinda along the lines of me getting infected with a parasite and that was a fetus and it felt so so so disgusting I SWEAR
About the weird dreams, as a cis woman and a lesbian, I can relate.
I've had dreams in which I was a man, dreams in which I was in straight relationships but also dreams in which I was a gay man which made me laugh cuz that's double gay. So yeah, our brains love to sabotage us. Many of those dreams made me feel like shit but some were funny or just cool. Brains be wack.
I'm almost never myself in dreams. I'm usually the camera or some character
Brains, indeed, do be wack.
Brains sure are whack. I've had a lot of dreams where I'm suddenly a girl again but I've learned to not take them seriously because I also once dreamt I was kissing my brother🤮 so I know dreams are just fucked up and you can't trust them lmao
@@SolarpunkVince Yoah! The trauma!!! lol. That happened to me when I was still in my teens, messed me up the next day, lmao. Right you are, never trust a dream! 😹
Brains be wack indeed
This man is good at flippin pens
we must get this man a pen-flipping award
I wish I could flip pens that good 😢
It was all fun and games until I poked my eye out, lol
As a trans man who's pre-everything at the time of writing this, I sometimes have dreams where I'm in the right body, and waking up to reality is often depressing afterwards...
i literally had a dream where i was getting surgery, and my family was there supporting me, and i woke up after the surgery and got to live in the body i wanted.
then i actually woke up and remembered i was pre everything and my family didn’t know i was trans.
it sucks ass
@@eternallustformedusa4844 I wish you the best of luck for your future. /gen
Yeah I've had those dreams too
same-
This was why my whole childhood was me sleeping because everytime i go to bed i dont have to deal with boobs and period.
I also had my first trans awakening from a dream.
Yeah, right around when I was denying being trans, I would just have dreams about being a cis guys and hanging out with my friends.
My youngest child is a trans woman (she's 20, I'm old). She has chosen not to be open about that with all of our extended family, as she doesn't want to deal with their crap. So, I use neutral pronouns when referring to her in front of those people; I don't use her dead name if I can avoid it. I started this little nerdy thing (me and the kids are all geeky) where I refer to her as "tertiary offspring" or "number three" and our family just thinks "oh, Matt is such a nerdy guy". Also, I absolutely want to meet any significant other my trans daughter wants to bring home.
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Hell ya, arson!
About the brain misgendering thing, I've had two dreams recently where I misgendered myself out loud to others and it upset me so much I immediately woke up both times
misgendering yourself happens to me a lot, as a nb person who isn't out to anyone i sometimes feel like i am just nothing more than what others see me as and that usually affects my view on myself
Same 💛
As the mama of (among others) an enby who is out, I wish you luck on your journey. May you encounter more acceptance than you expect (which is quite likely) and stay safe. 🙏💛🤍💜🖤
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...i kinda cried a little, i didn't realize that misgendering yourself in your head was a somewhat normal experience.
As a queer cis dude I have had dreams where I'm the 'opposite' gender before. I've talked to my brother and a few friends about it before and yeah, apparently it's just me.
that used to happen before I was trans but basically it's your subconscious trying to explore to see if you are it's pretty common most people just don't remember it
@@gangsta550 Oh, yeah, that makes sense.
I did used to outwardly present a lot more non binary, or androgynous i suppose, than I do today, and younger I did get a kind of gender dysphoria too.
I wouldn't say that I "grew out of it" per-say, more like I went through a "fck it" phase quite late on in my mid twenties, which I now recognize was due to a severe depressive episode, and since then I've put far less of an effort in presenting outwardly the way that I feel inwardly, kind of thing, anyway...
Does that make sense at all?
Or am I just rambling?
How long have you known you were trans then? If it's not indiscreet of me to ask, of course.
@@littlestone1541 that does make sense. Honestly, I don't remember any dreams of me as my true gender before transitioning. And other than me not understanding why gender stereotypes were a thing and constantly asking others what it meant to "be a man", I didn't know I was trans until quarantine
@@littlestone1541 yeah it makes sense I personally have known since like 5th grade that I was trans (I didn't identify as trans specifically) but I knew somethings was "off" since as long as I remember I always hated my body I was always underweight and I hated how skinny my arms were compared to my male peers and I always felt ugly if you get what I mean so I would over compensate by trying to be femme I broke at 3rd and I would wear just black but yeah that's pretty much it I just always kind of knew
Maybe it’s just a queer thing
I swear... literally every binder on Amazon is marketed "for lesbians" and I'm like bro...
😂😂😂😂
I have tried off and on every few months for the past few years to learn to do the pen flip thingy
I actually started shortly after i realized i was trans, it was like one of the first small things i did to try and present more masculine cause in my head i guess peak masculinity is being able to flip your pen in class
yeah lol. I learned it today, it's actually fun
Dangit. I thought it was just cool to try. I am on Estrogen and everything and now I am peek masculine just because I flipped a pen one time. XD
@@tentative_flora2690 I'm sorry to hear that. Hope you recover soon
@@freshwater5544 I think I am fine. Just a girl with peak masculine traits. Probably won't hurt. Might actually help send more lesbian vibes.
Why do I relate so hard to this xD I spent months in my early twenties practising how to do that thing where you mess about with a coin on the backs of your fingers because it felt ~so cool and masc~ lol.
Now I am 36 and have gender confusion (clearly the coin turned me trans, new conservative talking point just dropped)
I’ve really been wasting all this time trying to dress and act like a dude when I could’ve just flipped a pen really fast and earned my man card INSTANTLY
I’m non-binary and my gender and sexuality are all over the place in my dreams. I often dream that I’m a gay man, but I’ve also dreamt I’m a trans man as well as a trans woman. Sometimes my gender or sexuality will just swap mid dream too.
Mine half the time flipflops in dreams it takes me out sometimes
Your gender in your dreams are going, "Parkour!"
I'm nonbinary, I don't think I have a gender in my dreams..? I usually start off as myself in them, but with no explanation I'll be a random fictional character for the latter half, or a disembodied observer.
I wish I had gay dreams 😔 I've been having anxious nightmares for several weeks straight now, pun not intended lol
I’m a cis woman and every now and then I dream I’m a guy. It hasn’t happened in while though.
Same !
@@CINRZ nice
When I first tried to come out as trans to my mother she told me that she dreams of being a man too and that it's normal. Awkward teen me was so disheartened that I didn't try to come out to her for another ten years.
@@Revebjelle I’m sorry, that’s awful.
About the dreams: I'm not trans, but one of my best friends is. After he came out as a trans man, I had a nightmare of me just constantly misgendering him! It was like I was unable to say the pronoun "he/him". It was so awful and when I woke up it felt so real I had to call him and ask if that happened lol! I think I was subconscious so stressed of accidentally making him feel dysphoric or misgendering or using his dead name.
This person...this person has made my day.
Starting T during a pandemic meant it was way easier to not feel forced to shave the early scraggle. That's why I believe in masks for mascs.
People often have dreams about traumatic experiences. If being assigned/assumed female was traumatic for you, then it's not surprising to dream about it.
I'm pre T transguy and I cherish the little bit of natural facial hair I have. I used to be self conscious of it before coming out, but now I love it and I'm really thankful I come from a very hairy family. It's not great, but I have two little patches of facial hair on the sides of my chin.
I just wish it would connect lol
To reply about the dreams, I don't tend to dream as myself. Like I'm obviously someone, but my brain never associates that person with the real me. So it doesn't really ever bother me about misgendering since in some dreams even before coming out I was a guy and sometimes I was a girl, but it never felt like ME. So I guess I'm thankful for that.
That being said, I constantly misgender myself in my own head. Sometimes I'll play out potential scenarios of my mom talking to her therapist about me and I often use the wrong pronouns. I mean, could be because I know my mom probably uses the wrong pronouns to her actual therapist but still...
i am pre t barely socially transitioning and have pcos. thinking of growing out what i have and seeing whats up. its kind of a lot. gives me hope for the future. best of luck!
Same! Im not from a particularly hairy family but i have two patches of moustache either side of my mouth. If i put some brow gel on them and the fuzz on my upper lip i have a pretty passable moustache lol
There is a dry cleaners building in my grandma's neighborhood and they have a sign in baby blue, baby pink and white and everytime I drive by that place I scream "trans agenda". It's also a pretty old place, probably from the 90' so the sign has a funky font lmao
Hi Ty, you probably won't even read this. But I'm here to say, thank you. I live in Chile, and many years ago I didn't even have a computer so I worked and saved money to go to the local Café where they had computers. One day I saw your videos, I was completely inlove. I'm the same age as you are, and for me you were the perfect guy. At that time, I started to learn English cuz I wanted to know what you were talking about, so your videos helped me a lot. Then, I went to University in my country so I stopped watching videos as I didn't have much time. Today I was watching tiktok and I saw an interview to trans man. So I watched the video on UA-cam and I realized it was you. It's been so many years, I'm not a trans person but I just wanted to say thank you 🙏 you helped me a lot. I'm a teacher of English as a second language now, I didn't have the chance to be in an English spoken country or even afford lessons and I learned because of you. I'm so happy to see that you're doing great. 🙌 Again, thanks a lot 🙏 ☺️.
This man has the most soothing voice
I never misgender myself in a dream (and I stopped misgendering myself in my thoughts about one year into transitioning - yay! \o/ ) - but I did dream I was a man / teenage boy A LOT before transitioning. Never really got why that made me feel more comfortable, since I was an egg for 38 frecking years ... XD
As a trans guy myself, I tend to just be a disembodied spirit in my dreams. I never perceive myself as having a body at all in my dreams.
As a cis woman, yes I've had a couple dreams that I was a guy, had an ex that had the occasional dream he was a woman too, I think it's more common than you think but many people won't ever admit it 🤷♀️
so funny story: i’m a trans guy and i’m very lucky to have very supportive parents. i’m planning on going on T later this year. my dad told me one day that i’m banned from trying to grow a beard before i’m able to, because nothing annoys him more than scraggly puberty beards. like. literally said he would kick me out. so basically, he won’t disown me for being trans but unshaven puberty facial hair is where he draws the line 💀💀
he was (partially) joking of course but it’s still really funny to me
I got a multi slur $20 binder off Amazon for top surgery bc I needed one with a zipper for recovery and the one I got was actually so good tbh, I was shocked
5:22 yeah it happens sometimes. and still being somewhat early transition as well as current situation it just freaks me out alot
Idk why but whenever I pop onto one of Ty’s videos I’m like “hi dad!” Because I see him as a trans guidance figure, same goes for Dylan on tiktok I go “hi mum!”
I wasn't female in my dreams, not in all the half century of living as one. I did have nightmares where people would surround me and critique my gender presentation. Oh wait, no, that was real.
I SAW THOSE COMMENT DATES 420 days ago, 666 days ago, 69 days ago nothing gets past these eyes
You make my day and really help me with my transition!🫶 keep going!
I've just got three things to say:
1-The trans flag colored stuff happened to my very cis homophobic dad with a coffee mug...he still doesn't know, I'm saving it for the right moment.
2-Great segway to the Atlas VPN, smooth like butter.
3-The dating a trans girl one killed me! Man! Still can't stop laughing!
Trans woman here, I had the wrong gender dreams for a while after I first realized I was trans, but by the time I was a month or two into transition, I stopped having those dreams entirely. I do sometimes have dreams of not really having a specified gender; I wouldn't say nonbinary, since it was more of a vagueness or blurriness of gender. I guess that sort of counts since I'm a binary trans?
I honestly didn't know anybody had a gender in their dreams? In my dreams I'm usually "me" I guess but there's nothing about my voice or body that hints at being any particular gender
Same! The only time a gender was hinted at in one of my dreams was when I was like swaped into someone else one time. It was positive though! :)
Phew I'm glad I'm not the only one. I can't recall a time that gender was in a dream of mine. Apparently I dream of a world where gender is completely irrelevant and nonexistent.
Not me replaying the beginning over and over to try out the pen thing 😂
It be like that haha 🍀🍀
7:00 as a trans girl who is playing to ghost my parents as soon as i can, this is very true lmao
You ever have a dream that you're still in school? Same thing. Mental muscle memory. A cis person isn't going to have had those past experiences for the brain to dream about.
got a Folx ad while watching a video making fun of the word "folx" living the dream
I'm pretty envious of people having dreams about their gender. To my knowledge, I've *never* had a dream where I could see, hear or feel myself in *any* form. The idea that I could experience such things in dreams sounds wild.
I'm genderfluid and ace and had one hell of an effed up dream. So, I was femme and going to school. Everything was normal until 3rd period. In walked... myself, as a masculine guy (while I was still in class as femme presenting) and said he was the teacher. Then I started flirting with myself.... Then after class we did some stuff. When I woke up I was like, "wtf, that was not supposed to happen?"
Yes my facial hair looks like your emerging follicles. And I too hang on to every blade. lol
the best feeling is coming home from a tiring day of conversing with the cishets and seeing that you uploaded
I can do the pen flip thing. I'm a drummer and learning drum stick tricks are useful to woo and crowd and spinning a drumstick behind your thumb is a common trick.
Im genuinely impressed by the pen thing
Throughout middle school-high school, I used to have dreams where I was a cis man & I would wake up crying because it felt so right, til the dream wore off & I was crying because it wasn’t real.
Was so repressed that my brain didn’t fully allow itself put the pieces together til I was an adult. But now I’m a year on T & already happier than I’ve ever been.
Thankfully haven’t had a dream where my brain misgenders me yet!
On a different note: Ty plays DBD? 👀 Hell yeah!
10 months on T and I needed to hear that I'm allowed love my dumb little mustache.
As a cis dude I’ve never had a dream where I was not a dude. But also it’s very rare for me to ‘see’ my body anyway. Like… I can feel my body, and people acknowledge my presence in the dream, but I don’t remember seeing my hands or legs or some other part of my body that would indicate it was there. The only time I ‘see’ my body are the times I see myself from a third person perspective in the dream.
him listing members of an ftm friend group and me just screaming HOWL YESSS
i guess the list really was accurate
Ngl, I'm nonbinary but I'm still the transmasc Danny Devito of the bunch
About the beard: Crazy how different our experiences can be. You, a tans guy being so happy about getting a beard, even if the haters in the comments told you to shave it. Me, a trans woman doing everything in my power to eliminate every little strand of facial hair growth, going through electrolysis and laser to burn it off so it never returns.
Your current beard looks really amazing also! It suits you!
I also have dreams of me as wrong gender and it’s jarring
I had never felt so seen as when I saw Howl from Howl's moving castle in the ftm friend group. I also sometimes have dreams where I am the wrong gender, but I normally don't notice until someone in the dream calls me a woman (which makes sense as my social dysphoria harasses me moreso than body dysphoria).
Lmaooo as a trans man 2 months on t I can confirm my moustache is dumb af but i love him 😘
I too can do a triple jacknife thumb twist. However... it does take me 3 or 4 tries each
I usually have either no body or my current, 3 months on T body in dreams. Pre-coming out I never had a body, I was just a pair of floating hands like in an FPS game, but lacking the cool weaponry said game would give me. Cue the side tangent of how much cooler my dreams would be with some Doom Eternal goodness. Also I sent the pen flying. Which cracked me up.
pre transition, do you ever get tired correcting people and them mollycoddling them because "oh i just feel so bad now im so sorry" forthe 100th time that you just stop correcting the same people bc you're fed up and just wanna go home? oh no me neither /sarcasm
I'm barely emerged from my egg and barely started on my transition... All I've got is a name and a haircut so far... But I don't look forward to nightmares in the future :(
How have I only just discovered your content? You are just absolutely mesmerising. I'm 34 and just starting to explore the fact that I'm non-binary/gender apathetic (it's complicated) and always have been. Thank you.
Fellow 34yo here... I don't know how this is the first time I've heard the term "gender apathetic" but that is a perfect description for me. Where is the secret clubhouse? I've gotta join!
oh god nothing I needed to hear more than that I'm not alone with the occasional weird ass dream where I'm the wrong gender again
cause that shit always freaks me out
Love your videos. I’m in the “hold on to that patch of facial hair” stage too. 😅
I've questioned my gender several times, but I think me not wanting any facial hair is one part of affirming that I'm not ftm trans. And it's not necessarily the hair itself since I haven't shaved or plucked anything in over a year, so it's just the not wanting facial hair for myself (as much as I like it on other people sometimes). More clues that I'm non-binary... I just casually dream of being a genderless owl spirit.
YESSS become an owl spirit, I love that for you.
I thought it was just me who has an ambiguous form when I dream! Like I’m barely even aware of my body in my dream, I’m just a pair of eyes and a vague body. Yeah, I currently identify as transmasculine nonbinary, and the lack of wanting masculine characteristics like facial hair is one of the ways I’m leaning toward just being nonbinary.
I’m pre t but other day I found one single thick dark hair on my chin and I had to send a picture to my gf I was way too excited lmao
I've had dreams when I'm a guy but that's because some of my dreams are just stories and the main character, played by me, can be any gender. It's not really me, it's just the character I see the dream through, like in a video game, you know?
I've never had a dream where I'm a male version of me (AFAB and cis here).
kind of same? all my dreams feel like i’m in a video game or *are* a video game that doesn’t exist. one time i heard my voice in the background as if i was streaming it, but i was also the game character? i watch too much twitch and youtube, basically.
Yeah, I definitely have dreams where I'm playing a role as some character in a show or movie I love. I've been Sherlock (Benedict Cumberbatch), as well as Buffy the Vampire Slayer, when I was watching the respective shows a lot. To be clear, I look and act nothing like either character. (I'm a fat old woman. :-) Dreaming is nice when you get to do stuff you can't do in real life!
1) Sorry my good sir, I do not share the Special Pen Flipping Talent.
2) Thank you for another entertaining video.
3) In case anyone cares, a new year recently started for some of us (Jewish.) So, may everyone here have a year of joy and blessings. (If anyone is wondering why I make an issue of religion, I know that some "religious" people are horrible bigots who blame the Bible for their BS. But some of us religious folks are reasonable.)
4) 🙏❤🏳🌈🏳⚧
Fellow pen flipper here!:)
I'm only one month into hrt but I'm definitely starting to have my gender flip every now and then in my dreams. The dreams that stick out the most though are where I'm hanging out with other trans homies. Since moving I only know one other trans person and I think my dreams are definitely a reflection of my wanting to meet more people like me.
the pen/cil flip thing was the big fad in the math team groups back in the late 80s. There were a few doing it all the time, not just in one direction but back again in the other direction fluently, some doing it from one finger to the next and back again, in my high school. A few others were seen practicing and trying to learn it obsessively. It was some kind of secret math team merit badge to be able to to that; I think they saw it first from competitors from other countries. Still cool that you can do it! I hadn't seen anyone do that in literally more than 30 years so it made me smile to know it's still going the rounds. Did have a dream once, of me being in a red dress, and I looked down and saw a body not my own, that filled out the dress perfectly. It looked great, it just wasn't me. I didn't even want it to be me, so that left me wondering why I had the dream, but sometimes they just don't have to make any sense.
TY, Ty
5:13 It happens. Dreams are there to process info so that we are going to be ready for stuff happening in the future, worst case scenarios being nightmares (not night terrors, mind you). So, if you've gotten the info "i am supposed to be a girl because of my appearance" you're gonna Dream that. It means nothing so don't worry
Bro that pen thing!! I've been doing it since like middle school, I thought I was the shit, never met anyone who could do it. Guess it really is a trans super power
As a cis-male, ive had dreams about being a girl. Oh wait, you meant night dreams while youre sleeping.
I died the first time I saw the you don’t have to meet her parents meme 😂😂😂
That last meme was accurate. I’m sure many other archeologists have commented before that the “bones” argument holds up about as well as Flat Earth or “aliens built the pyramids”. The public seems to love using what sounds like science to argue for their prejudices.
"date a trans girl and you won't have to meet her parents" as a trans femme, I laughed my ass off so hard. I didn't expect to feel that so deeply, and that's speaking as someone whose mom loves and accepts her. Jeez, talk about murdered by words. I need to have "murdered by words" on my tombstone. Emotional damage if I've ever seen it.
My dream form is usually "ambiguous humanoid" - lots of vivid external details but I rarely look at or perceive my own shape in dreams - but a few nights ago I was inspecting my own breasts and thought "Oh neat I'm specifically and intentionally myself here" so that was nice
Same. I never dream of myself having a body.I'm always just a disembodied spirit.
I’m AFAB non-binary and my pronouns are they/them. People who know this will accidentally misgender me and apologize profusely thinking they’re going to upset me. I’m like, “Dood, I misgender myself all the time, it’s okay!” My partner (who’s a beautiful transman) and I baby talk our dogs shamelessly and he’s “daddy” (of course) and I go by “mapa” (“ma” and “pa”) and I catch myself calling myself “mama” ALL. THE. TIME.
I can do the pen flip! I stayed up wayy too late on a school night to learn it
About the misgendering yourself, I’m a cis girl and even I misgender myself. I’ll be thinking and randomly refer to myself with ‘he’ or ‘they’ or saying kid instead of girl when talking about my past. It always makes me pause and question my brain
that pen trick is so cool wtf
7:44 Seeing "folx" fills me with rage
I’ve had dreams where I’m me, having transitioned, but I’m back in highschool and I have to wear the girl’s uniform. And the dream rly is just me, Day to day trying to convince management to let me use the boys uniform
Way back in high school we called that special trick a "stupid debator trick" because the whole debate team used to do this. Something like 12 of us on the team.
oh my god what a talented king, I could never flip a pen like that AND grab it!!!!!!
The ugly mustache meme hits a little close to home. (I've been on T for almost 3 months). Also the pen thing is kinda cool.
that segue into the ad tho
Every video from you is such a banger tysm. (Also I immediately was like "I can do the pencil thing" only to repeatedly throw the pencil across the room whoops)
Dropped like 13 pens trying this shit out lol
LOL the pen trick was popular in France for about 15 years from now! Not to be a pain, but at least half of the classroom could do it.
Wow I haven’t checked on your channel in like 2 years..? You popped in my head rn. You look so good!!! The beard looks great!!!! I’m glad you still make videos ☺️
I can flip a pen... As long as you don't expect me to catch it XD
Yup the misgendered dreams are a thing... Usually for me I'm going about my dream activities normally and then I suddenly realize I have boobs and no bra and I have to sneak around public places looking for a bra to put on. 🤦
There are penspinning communities online! My friend from high school had a whole group of friends that were bonded by their love of spinning pens. There are quite a few tricks you can learn and the thumb one is the most basic 👌🏻
I don't have the mis-gender dreams, but I do have hella vivid anxiety dreams. Like, I only stopped having the dream about missing the school bus and/or being on the wrong school bus when I was maybe 25 😅
New video before sleep Less goo!
I couldn't do it!
My thumb is too short or something.
Me feeling proud of my pathetic little patch of five individual whiskers, mostly because I'm not on any hrt yet. Hell yeah.
I exclusively dream about myself as a man, never know if cis or trans, but I'm a guy and everyone treats me like one. granted sometimes I have dreams where I got top surgery and get really bummed out after waking up and finding out that it's not reality - yet :'D
Nice bullying a detransitioner about their hair loss with such elevated commentary like “sorry bald”. Being trans does not excuse you or anyone for being a narcissistic a$$. I’m happy that you were able to transtionn in order to live a happy life, now you need to work on what’s inside 😒
I used to do the pen thing all the time in highschool when I was bored. Around the same time I also learned how to flip a quarter between my fingers because I saw someone on some medical show say only really good surgeons could do it
Ty's bicep game is incredible
The comment about howl from howls moving castle threw me into a laughing fit because that was second place for what I was going to name myself 😂
4:46 no I don't have dreams where I'm the wrong gender, but I do have nightmares where friends / people that I care about call me by my deadname and I just have to tell them it's okay. It's funny bc normal nightmares don't scare me at all (legit two nights ago I had pseudo sleep paralysis and the two sleep paralysis demons wound up whispering eldritch horrors into my ears, and every time one of them finished a sentence I'd just make fun of them by repeating whatever they said in a baby voice).
The dictionary edits were hilarious Ty!
The fucking pen trick was so good