Damn, I really enjoyed this video. I don't usually click on these low view count vids, but this one just kind of intrigued me. The length of the vid was perfect, and I thought the stories were poignent but didn't overstay. I really enjoyed this video, thanks.
I'll be 40, December of this year. When I was 18 my grandfather passed away from lung cancer. I was never close to him by choice, he was a bit too blunt, too harsh, and seemed to say things to pick on us as children. He was different the last day I saw him laying there in the hospital. He was skin and bones, almost skeletal like. ( this is likely a mental exaggeration due to trauma) As we were leaving he grabbed my arm as hard as he could and called out to me, telling me he loved me. I could see the fear in his eyes. It felt like maybe he was doing this to make another thing right before he passed. He had never said this to me before. There laid a god fearing man, scared to die. It didn't make sense to me. If you believe you're going to a better place, why are you so scared? Why do you seem uncertain? I honestly left traumatized and have had a major fear of death from that point on. I take an ssri to cope and it helps, but that day was life changing for me. He tried to make things right but he transferred his fear onto me. I don't know where I'm going with this. It sucks. I manage. I live my life, but understanding death is unfathomable. I've tried for almost 22 years now.
Hey man hope it’s going well. What personally helped me cope with my fear of death was the album by my chemical romance. If you love rock and you don’t mind sitting down for a little to research the story around it then give it a shot because for me it totally helped with a similar situation also involving my grandfather. Hopefully it brings you a sense of familiarity.
Life only moves forward until it eventually stops. When I was very young, I had unsettling levels of existential crisis (a strange thing for an 8yo to be bothered with, but different folks and all), and only in my early 20s I got courage to actually think more methodically about these things. What you said about funeral being more about coping with the fact that person is no longer alive is very much on the nose. Pass the death point, for the deceased there is no more joy, suffering, or any other emotion or experience. This illusion of this permanence should be an important guideline for life, as the care and influence they provided to you in their life, will lead to you providing same for your loved ones before your time comes. There is a grander purpose to all of this, but it would be a very long comment for full explanation. But in broader strokes, lets say that every significant action in life leaves an "imprint" into observable reality, like the example from the previous paragraph. So even after death of relationship or beloved person, they still made changes to our world that will lead to other changes through future generations. While this seems poetic, this feature of our reality to pass on the information after death and continue it is, in a way a, form of life by itself.
Damn, I really enjoyed this video. I don't usually click on these low view count vids, but this one just kind of intrigued me. The length of the vid was perfect, and I thought the stories were poignent but didn't overstay. I really enjoyed this video, thanks.
Thank you 🙏🏼
I'll be 40, December of this year. When I was 18 my grandfather passed away from lung cancer. I was never close to him by choice, he was a bit too blunt, too harsh, and seemed to say things to pick on us as children. He was different the last day I saw him laying there in the hospital. He was skin and bones, almost skeletal like. ( this is likely a mental exaggeration due to trauma) As we were leaving he grabbed my arm as hard as he could and called out to me, telling me he loved me. I could see the fear in his eyes. It felt like maybe he was doing this to make another thing right before he passed. He had never said this to me before. There laid a god fearing man, scared to die. It didn't make sense to me. If you believe you're going to a better place, why are you so scared? Why do you seem uncertain?
I honestly left traumatized and have had a major fear of death from that point on. I take an ssri to cope and it helps, but that day was life changing for me.
He tried to make things right but he transferred his fear onto me.
I don't know where I'm going with this. It sucks. I manage. I live my life, but understanding death is unfathomable. I've tried for almost 22 years now.
Hope you can find some peace❤
Hey man hope it’s going well. What personally helped me cope with my fear of death was the album by my chemical romance. If you love rock and you don’t mind sitting down for a little to research the story around it then give it a shot because for me it totally helped with a similar situation also involving my grandfather. Hopefully it brings you a sense of familiarity.
Life only moves forward until it eventually stops. When I was very young, I had unsettling levels of existential crisis (a strange thing for an 8yo to be bothered with, but different folks and all), and only in my early 20s I got courage to actually think more methodically about these things.
What you said about funeral being more about coping with the fact that person is no longer alive is very much on the nose. Pass the death point, for the deceased there is no more joy, suffering, or any other emotion or experience. This illusion of this permanence should be an important guideline for life, as the care and influence they provided to you in their life, will lead to you providing same for your loved ones before your time comes.
There is a grander purpose to all of this, but it would be a very long comment for full explanation. But in broader strokes, lets say that every significant action in life leaves an "imprint" into observable reality, like the example from the previous paragraph. So even after death of relationship or beloved person, they still made changes to our world that will lead to other changes through future generations. While this seems poetic, this feature of our reality to pass on the information after death and continue it is, in a way a, form of life by itself.