If I were to ever adopt, I would not choose a baby. I would choose an "older" child who had lived their life as an orphan because they aren't given as much of a chance since most people want babies for some reason
BodyLove101 I've done a shit ton of research into adoption because I'm adopted and there are consequences to every adoption I was 10 months when adopted and I suffer from a lot of mental issues such as PTSD and anxiety because of the trauma. I could only imagine being adopted as a 15 year old!and being adopted older comes with a much higher risk of RAD but that could occur in any child!
Trying to talk my husband into adopting a baby girl from China. We have been having fertility issues for 7 years, so adoption may be our only choice for having a baby. He's for adoption (his 2 younger siblings are adopted), but he was basically raised with the mindset that there are plenty of kids here who need homes, so why adopt overseas? I personally want to adopt at least once overseas and once from here in the USA. Wish me luck y'all!!
You should do it. I'm 13 years old, never had the chance to meet my real parents. Children should be given the chance at a better life. Like me, although watching all these videos makes me sad, I'll never know my real parents, it's just sick and twisted reality. I was a foundling, and adopted at age 10 months. People give you a second chance, so you should give someone else that chance too. Good Luck on your endeavor.
Mei Wen My wife and I adopted our daughter who is now 12. Please do me a big favor? Try using the word ( biological instead of real) I'm sure your adoptive parents love you as much as we love our daughter. To us you aren't our adopted kids, your our kids. Consider it. I wish you a life of happiness.
I was adopted from China and it's quite saddening that I don't know anything about my birth family. Having said that, I'm very grateful that I was adopted and that I get to be with my amazing family.
Thank goodness they don't have that policy anymore. I feel bad for all of China's lost girls because they were born when the one child policy was still a thing.
It's sad, but if you think about it they are actually giving these kids and opportunity to live and sometimes even if there wasn't tjis policy, some families would still find it very hard to maintain all the family. I tell you this as an adopted chinese girl in Spain, this is the best thing it could've happened to me.
I'm one of China's lost girls. Watching this video was like getting to see myself in a third person's point of view. I am grateful to be adopted into a loving family. But it still saddens me that I don't know my biological parents. I hope to one day reunite with them and have a relationship with them.
NEVER meet your biological family! I’m from China and I know what is the case. Thousands of healthy babies were abandoned and later be adopted, 99% of them are girls. Why? Because the parents prefer boys and they don’t want girls. That’s the simple as it is. You are abandoned not because your biological parents are unable to raise you, but because they DON’T want you as a girl. Every Chinese knows this culture. I know this is heartbreaking to know but just reminding you, do NOT meet them. They don’t love you. What’s worse, some of them may ask money from you in name of parents once they know you are leading a good life.
Please explain to me why would you want to even just meet, much less have a relationship with people that literally considered you garbage to be dumped by the side of the road? Why would you want to have anything to do with them? So you can bound over your shared love of torturing and murdering and eating cats and dogs vs your Western family that thinks torturing, murdering and eating their pets is an unforgivable crime?
I'm a big strong man but this put tears in my eyes to see these little girls crying when they saw these strangers who did not look like them. If I was little it would make me afraid too.
Things are different now. If you pay money you can keep your second child. Just a bit of information, ethnic minorities and those who live in the countryside are allowed to have a second child without having to pay extra.
Both my mom and I are the only child of the family. And there’re always people talk about this situation with shame as if our families are pathetic. That makes me wanna puke.
"inexplicable joy on everyone's face" ... well everyone but the babies/toddlers lol Good thing kids are really resilient. These make me cry every time! It really is beautiful to see the love these parents have.
sorry but i've gotta say the comment section is not looking all that great. It seems that a lot of people see the Chinese society as "evil". there are, of course, "evil" people in China. I mean, it is huge. But I don't think they are really below that of other countries by such a huge margin, which is why I kinda don't like how a lot of media is trying to portray it that way. I mean, I could say "American society is evil" just cause some girl told that I wasn't American since I was asian. There are screwed up people everywhere. although i did kinda argue with the girl for like 30 min and then when her older sister backed her up, argued for 30 more min...
Just Your Average Guy I agree. While the Chinese Government might not be that great, I have met many people from China who are very kind, loving, and considerate. I think people just have a habit of assuming that people from Countries other than their own are inferior, which I never understood.
Elena C Exactly. I hate it when people from the USA thinks that they are living in so-called "freedom" and "liberty", and then they start to form their own silly ignorant conclusion that "China is evil, trying to consume the whole world", "Communism is bad (while they ignore that fact that capitalism is not completely good either)". All those superficial views make me feel bad. I mean, it isn't entirely parents' fault to place those girls in orphanage. Maybe those parents themselves cannot even provide a secured and bright future for their daughters. Some are even too poor to feed themselves, not to mention children. Who doesn't want to keep their children when they can? The mothers won't want to have nothing return while carrying their girls for ten months.
Хлоя Чанокова I am an American, and I still have to admit that you're right. Most Americans never go out of their way to experience, or educate themselves on other cultures, which is truly a shame. To truly understand your own country, you need to have some perspective, and the only way to do that is to understand other countries and cultures. Nobody benefits from cultural ignorance. I wish people would go out, and learn about the world.
I know what it feels like to be an orphan. I was one. I got adopted to an amazing family, My Mom is a director and my dad is a soccer player. But I do sometimes miss my old family who abandoned me because they couldn't take care of me.
i was too. I sometimes wonder who my birth family was, but im happy because now i can have a better future than if i was still waiting for them in an ophanage.
i might not have the opportunity to adopt a baby from china, the procedure is hard, its gonna cost so much, but i cant help but cry when i hard the woman tell the baby, "im mama, and thats papa" its so sad, too sad, for babies to be abandoned, by any means, yet its happening even as i type
+TheChristianRight09 Chinese culture ... Daughter has no responsibility toward her biological parents once she is married. Lost investment. Sons must take care of their parents even after marriage. Double standard.
As a Chinese person I find these adopted kids soooo lucky, I wish I were adopted as a baby lolll I mean these parents love them even more than your real parents would and none of these adopted kids will live a bad life cus the parents were selected. This means they are rich enough, they are mentally ok to have a kid, they are responsible, etc.
Yeah, I agree. There should be more stringent requirements on natural parenthood as well! LOL. But I love my biological Chinese parents. I feel sorry for Chinese kids who grow up in abusive families or who are abandoned/sold because the parents are too poor.
I would say that the adoptive parents and biological parents both love the children equally, y’know, since a majority of orphans came to be, as, well, orphans because of the one-child policy in China. However, I would think that the biological parents have more emotional baggage because they had to give their child up because of the laws in their country.
It's such a stereotype that kids in orphanages had parents that didn't love them. First of all, sometimes their parents died. Second of all, some parents knew they couldn't properly provide and care for their child, so they gave their kid up for adoption so that they would have the opportunity for a good life. Now THAT'S true love...being willing to give up someone you love for their own sake.
Also did you not hear that news story recently? These two moms had adopted SIX kids and accidentally drove off a cliff and died. It's been all over the news. Apparently, those moms were DRUG ADDICTS and abusive...but they had enough money and time to adopt six kids. So just cuz you are able to adopt kids doesn't mean you necessarily love them more or are better parents
Actually no, it's also to make sure that the parents are financially ok to have a kid. You don't want the parents to end up sending that kid to the orphanage again cus they don't have money or lost interest in the baby. They make you pay a high amount so you can cherish the kid. Plus they are basically selling you a person, how much you think a person costs?
FVNT0M IIX Not selling a person, they are recouping funds spent already, and the money goes down the line to pay staff and buy milk clothing for the children that live in the orphanage.
Kya Meilin Hawkins That's why you need to educate your peers when they say things like that. I know it's tuff at your age, kids sometimes say things, just to be cruel. Your parents spent the same amount of funds to adopt you, as their parents spent for the delivery process. BUT it probably took them twice the amount of time to get their little Kya.😄
I don't want them to say 'abandoned' because most are not entirely abandoned. Giving being a parent to these children is the most hardest things they would have to do and these circumstances forces them into doing this. I hope the biological parents have one sense of relief that their child was adopted from an orphanage because that's when they know that they're well looked after by people who would love them; only that relief is what they can feel.
Many parents were forced to give up their kids, especially girls during the family plan time. It was heartbroken experience for many families. If you didn't live during the time of having only one child, you never know how hard it was for many parents to make this decision. Also, some kids were missing kids. They were sent to the daycare for adoption, but their parents might look for them all the time.
I am a "lost girl". China does not throw away their kids( girls). The reason why more girls are abandoned than boys is because of culture and tradition. You have to think of all the possibilities on why a couple has to give up their child. You think chinese people look at their baby and say oh let's throw it away? - No, it could be because of finances or family influences. This does not happen in just China it happens all over the world. It may be "sad and disgusting" but before you comment research what you are talking about.
+Maizie N I think the real problem here is that China and other 3rd world countries (particularly brown cultures) are still behind the times. They never went to school and never learned any manners. They have absolutely no morals, boundaries or filters. They think a baby's gender is something you can choose like a damn slurpee menu! You know there really is a problem when they treat humans WORST over there than we treat ANIMALS in this 1st world countries, right? It seems like only civilized, 1st world countries (like where I live) are accepting of both genders and don't judge or discriminate. Probably because they know that having a baby is NOT like ordering from a damn slurpee menu!
+Maizie N Hi Maizie, my name is Coco Liu. I'm a USC journalism graduate working on a project about the one child policy. I'm looking for girls adopted from China and I wonder if we could talk over email or phone?
It’s so nice to read I’m not the only Chinese girl adopted by an American family. And I was adopted very young (like infant almost) so I’ve lost roots to China. “Skin amongst the Chinese, my head amongst the ‘mericans” I don’t know any of you, but I’d like to accept you all as my sisters
I have a Chinese friend who once told me that it was against Chinese children being adopted by white, American families because they would "lose their culture". I replied by asking her if she really thought these children would have better lives as wards of the state rather than in a loving home, to which she replied reluctantly "Well maybe not." China's culture is so vast, old, and deep that in no way will it ever miss a few of its children who were unwanted anyway. Chinese adoptions work so well for all involved that I'm sure some government bureaucrat or other will soon end them!
GuardianDemonX I'm sorry to hear you say that. Yes, China has some negative traditions, but not all chinese agree with that. I personally have never heard of the idea that chinese children should not be adopted by American families, and I have been in many chinese communities. Besides that, it's not as if other countries have perfect cultures. America, for example, has had a history of enslaving people with darker skin and stealing the land of Native Americans. I have nothing against America. But their past is not so perfect either. So please be more considerate of judging other cultures.
In China, one child policy is supported by people, because when you are one of those 1.4billion people, live, travel,compete with such crowd, you will support it. You are right, it is not a good move in human rights, but China and her people have no choice. This policy can decrease poverty, save basic live supplies, and help government make fair education and health care. By the way, no one can judge a culture, no one can conquer this world with his value, no one should disrespect to another culture.
During my trip in China a lot of men and their Patents tried to get closer to me..invitednme and so with the idea of an date mothers Wege Holding pictures of their sons to find a bride.. Crazy sistem.. It would not be s Problem if you just would respect girls more
Oh my goodness... This is just like my adoption movies my mom had someone put together. I am also adopted from china and i'm happy that there is at least one video i can relate to with all of the young girls adopted from china.
+Emma Gadbois Hi Emma, my name is Coco Liu. I'm a USC journalism graduate working on a project about the one child policy. I'm looking for girls adopted from China and I wonder if we could talk over email or phone?
Coco Liu Hi Coco! I would be happy to help you! But I need to make sure that I'm not being tricked into anything. Please tell me what you want to talk to me about.
Emma Gadbois Good thinking! I'm really in the phase of pitching my story idea to my instructors, so I can't think of all the questions I'm going to throw at you at once. But I'm really curious about how you think of the practice and cancellation of the policy and how you feel about your history. I'm looking to create a documentary on the topic so it would be great if I can meet you in person so where are you?
More traumatizing than being left to starve in the streets? The girls have loving families, maybe you don’t, but don’t push you’re own struggles onto parents who are actually doing their best.
being a chinese adoptee im proud of it and i admire the struggles my birth mother went through, this is a touchy subject. its not something like hollywood people need to understand that these babies are broken their life has been turned upside down and yes adoptions great but they shouldnt forget their heritage amd their china home
i was adopted .... i do not agree with inter country adoption at all. there are so many unwanted children not afopted in our own countries start at home pls. it has been so hard for me.
I never heard the lady say why boy babies are preferred in China. It is because in Chinese culture only boys are expected to take on the financial burden of taking care of the parents in their old age; girls are not. This has a very numbing effect to the idea of love as parents look at children in terms of financial practicality similar to the way farm animals are viewed. I find that heart breaking
This breaks my heart. I can’t imagine how horrible it is to have to give up your child and hope they have a better life. Especially if you didn’t want to give your kid away. I’m so glad these families got to raise these kids.
I’m not feminist, but abandoning girls because of tradition is outrageous. Babies all deserve to be treated equally. Disabled, defected, even if they are this way, they are a gift. Millions of women cannot have babies. Respect to the families who adopted them! ^^
This documentary is at least 10 years old and they tell not even half of the real story, actually, there is everything wrong, compared with the circumstances nowadays in China. Children get adopted there like everywhere else in the world. Anyway, in my opinon it is really the lowerst level of a documentary, but what makes me really suprised is, that most of the comments agree with the host, means they have no clue about the whole and the real story. Shame on National Geographic and i would suggest to inform yourself independently.
Whats the real story? That China doesn't have a one child policy? That Chinese family don't abandon baby girls simply because of their gender? I'd suggest you study English more, you comment is impossible to read or follow and I have no idea what point you're trying to make.
Better to speak english in a bad way, than complaining about language skills of others. English is not my native language, so whats your point Mr. USA. How many language have you learned? Anyway, i hoped the readers would do their own research and not demand answers, but I guess i expected too much. Just a few facts: 1. The one child policy is officially eliminated since about 2 years ago. 2. It was always possible to have more than one child, my former boss in China had actually two, but as far as i know, you must pay then some kind of fee. 3. In very former times and in the countryside it could happen that boys have been prefered, because men could help better at farming. That happened in all cultures all over the world. 4. Why is a girl even more famous in China than a boy? 4.1 ... it is common, that the bride gets at her marriage at least a reasonable amount of money, a new car and an apartment. 4.2 The groom pays all costs of the marriage. 4.3 The groom has to pay as well a higher amount of money to his parents in law as a present and thank you for growing up his wife. 5. Who said these children are abandoned by their parents, because the parents did not want to have a girl? It was just the host, so that must be true. These children were for sure orphans, because of tragical reasons, which happen all over the world. So, this film is just simply propaganda and has 99% nothing to do with the reality. Making out of the fate of these orphans a political massage is really the lowest level ever. Do not believe what others tell you. Thats why I hoped you inform yourself.
The Dee Honestly, not every Chinese family abandon baby girls or find girls inferior to boys. It makes me sad seeing how this video greatly generalizes China.This video didn't have to speak so poorly of the traditions of China as if they were a low moral country.
Hello Please open your eyes and pay attention to these babies. They are very fearful and traumatized by being suddenly put into the arms of strangers. Yes, the parents are very happy - but look at the faces of these little girls. Adoption is not about the happy parents; it is about the child. Really Lisa LIng - did you not see the fear on the faces of these little girls - are you blind...... Duh.....
Actually, young couples want to have another child, but they can't afford another because of education costs. So, they just stick with one. One of my cousins and her husband grew up in China as only children, and so logically, they could have two kids. But instead, they just had one daughter and decided that one was enough.
Katanda Richard S They could have handled the situation in other ways way before without putting a law that has increased drastically infanticide (that is dumping of babies in trash cans...basically killing them) and this phenomenon of overcrowded orphanages especially with girls. If a country like china would have just spent some more effort spreading media awareness about limiting births due to socio-economic reason, and maybe a campaign to make condoms much more available to the public, they could have avoided all this. Germany, one of the wealthiest countries in europe, has the lowest birth rate in the world, and generally europe as well, all thanks to education and awareness about birth control and readily available contraceptives.
Jmarco Cruz WHAT THE HECK?? so to summarize your sentence: YOU hope that a culture, one of the LONGEST culture in history,DIES because YOU have some excuse of them move out of their country because they have a choice and because of finding a better opportunity to start a new life and try to survive by planting their 'shitty' culture around the world..... What are you??? hitler's distant grandson who hates Chinese instead of Jews???? I apologize that my comment is mean but, YOU ARE ONE STUPID RACIST!!! IDIOT! I can't let you insult one of the MOST GREATEST, POWERFUL, AND INCEDIBLY LUCKY culture in the WORLD. As much as I dislike what they are doing, and the whole one child policy along with communism, ( Totally not working, btw)
I was adopted from china. I was from nanchang china and I was only like 5 or 6 months old when my adopted mom got me. My name is Katie and I'm 16years old now and hope to go back to china.
God and Jesus have nothing to do with this. people say god had a plan for you and his plan was for you to be adopted. No, my opinion is that god did not plan for a mother to have to make a life changing decision. God's plan was for a birth mother to have to give up her child?
That's why I hate the whole"God has a plan" thing. It only makes sense one way, and most of the time it makes no sense either way. It's just a lie you tell to make yourself comfortable.
***** oh but why can't girls carry on the family name? I mean, they can reproduce further heirs to carry the family legacy, plus they do a better job at household chores than most boys.... it makes no sense to me that boys always get an upperhand -.- Tradition? Culture? Religion? or just plain hypocrisy
ManC Sparkles It's because boys are traditionally supposed to have the role of looking after their parents in old age... so if they had a girl and not a boy, they feel they will be worse off in the future. They views boys as a future investment, I guess, and because they can only have one child they want them to be a boy.
Wow, that was one of the most beautiful things I have seen in a long time. It really was like watching a bunch of parents go through labor all at once. I don't have any kids, but I kept thinking about my nephew for some reason. :-) When I get older, I want to adopt a multitude of babies and older kids. Katie and Juliana really remind me of my little sister and I when we were younger. And Juliana is such a cutie patootie!
actually, to be honest.... the little girls who adopted will have a good future whatever in environment or edg or health... i have to say happy to these little girls.
I am remember vaguely watching this on television, I hope each girl was adopted by people who gave them the love, nurturing and education they deserve. There is possibly one existing, but I hope to see a documentary showing where many of these now women are today and if their lives in America helped them.
those babies are very lucky!this video reminds to everyone whats important in life..not material and money but a family and people who love its other..
People must adopt children. Some kids will grow up and not understand. They will think that no one loves them. You have to show kids you care, like me, I will never know the suffering that kids go through, the horrors of foster care and orphanges, I was adopted. People give you a second chance, so you should give others that chance too. You will not regret doing it, I promise. This is coming to you from a Chinese girl, who's now 13, and was adopted at age 10 months.
If I were to ever adopt, I would not choose a baby. I would choose an "older" child who had lived their life as an orphan because they aren't given as much of a chance since most people want babies for some reason
+BodyLove101
They often come with issues.
Early years leave a impression.
same🚺🚺🚹
Same!
By the time I would even be able to adopt I would be an older lady, so it wouldn't make sense for me to adopt a baby.
BodyLove101 I've done a shit ton of research into adoption because I'm adopted and there are consequences to every adoption I was 10 months when adopted and I suffer from a lot of mental issues such as PTSD and anxiety because of the trauma. I could only imagine being adopted as a 15 year old!and being adopted older comes with a much higher risk of RAD but that could occur in any child!
This brakes my heart. I'm one of Chinas lost girls. But I'm happy 2. Cause I have a nice family.
Wow.
Nix 15101
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Nix 15101 wow I’m China to I’m not really a lost girl I’m with my really family
Nix 15101 Yea right!
I just want to find my real parents one day and ask why did you leave me, what reason did you have?
Trying to talk my husband into adopting a baby girl from China. We have been having fertility issues for 7 years, so adoption may be our only choice for having a baby. He's for adoption (his 2 younger siblings are adopted), but he was basically raised with the mindset that there are plenty of kids here who need homes, so why adopt overseas? I personally want to adopt at least once overseas and once from here in the USA. Wish me luck y'all!!
You should do it. I'm 13 years old, never had the chance to meet my real parents. Children should be given the chance at a better life. Like me, although watching all these videos makes me sad, I'll never know my real parents, it's just sick and twisted reality.
I was a foundling, and adopted at age 10 months.
People give you a second chance, so you should give someone else that chance too. Good Luck on your endeavor.
brittanie sidebottom
Best decision ever. We have Jiang Ling 11 years now. Good luck.
Mei Wen Thank you!!
glazierEd Thank you!!
Mei Wen
My wife and I adopted our daughter who is now 12. Please do me a big favor? Try using the word ( biological instead of real)
I'm sure your adoptive parents love you as much as we love our daughter. To us you aren't our adopted kids, your our kids. Consider it. I wish you a life of happiness.
I was adopted from China and it's quite saddening that I don't know anything about my birth family. Having said that, I'm very grateful that I was adopted and that I get to be with my amazing family.
@quin bloom You should definitely check out the new documentary “one child nation” on prime
Seriously. Most biological children aren’t even as lucky as adoptive children. It’s amazing how GOD makes his miracles
good for you , you are in right family that want you
Thank goodness they don't have that policy anymore. I feel bad for all of China's lost girls because they were born when the one child policy was still a thing.
Unfortunately, it’s not all gone yet. Now it’s a two-child policy. A step forwards, but not enough. They just raised the limit a bit.
It's sad, but if you think about it they are actually giving these kids and opportunity to live and sometimes even if there wasn't tjis policy, some families would still find it very hard to maintain all the family. I tell you this as an adopted chinese girl in Spain, this is the best thing it could've happened to me.
Phoebe Veerman yup
VIOLETA you are so lucky I've got bad things throughout life
its actually worse now, they can give birth without limit but still reject the kids that are unhealthy and not boy
I'm one of China's lost girls. Watching this video was like getting to see myself in a third person's point of view. I am grateful to be adopted into a loving family. But it still saddens me that I don't know my biological parents. I hope to one day reunite with them and have a relationship with them.
NEVER meet your biological family! I’m from China and I know what is the case. Thousands of healthy babies were abandoned and later be adopted, 99% of them are girls. Why? Because the parents prefer boys and they don’t want girls. That’s the simple as it is. You are abandoned not because your biological parents are unable to raise you, but because they DON’T want you as a girl. Every Chinese knows this culture. I know this is heartbreaking to know but just reminding you, do NOT meet them. They don’t love you. What’s worse, some of them may ask money from you in name of parents once they know you are leading a good life.
Please explain to me why would you want to even just meet, much less have a relationship with people that literally considered you garbage to be dumped by the side of the road?
Why would you want to have anything to do with them?
So you can bound over your shared love of torturing and murdering and eating cats and dogs vs your Western family that thinks torturing, murdering and eating their pets is an unforgivable crime?
You are never as beautiful as when you are moved by kindness.
I'm taking this quote for the rest of my life
Adoption is a result of heartbreaking circumstances. This video massively simplifies it by concluding, "it's a beautiful thing."
Yeah... It looks so sad.
I'm a big strong man but this put tears in my eyes to see these little girls crying when they saw these strangers who did not look like them. If I was little it would make me afraid too.
Infants don't see racial differences. The children were just frightened of strangers, not of white people.
Yes, indeed!
@@Fronika Of course they notice differences. That's not a bad thing, it's just an observation.
"I was born China"
precious, I hope to adopt one day.
Cate Lyn she was so cute
I know possibly the cutest thing I've heard ever....
Things are different now. If you pay money you can keep your second child. Just a bit of information, ethnic minorities and those who live in the countryside are allowed to have a second child without having to pay extra.
this made me cry, even as babies... girls are always not an option :(
Both my mom and I are the only child of the family. And there’re always people talk about this situation with shame as if our families are pathetic. That makes me wanna puke.
"Joy on everyone's face"
Well, except for the babies...
"inexplicable joy on everyone's face" ... well everyone but the babies/toddlers lol Good thing kids are really resilient. These make me cry every time! It really is beautiful to see the love these parents have.
sorry but i've gotta say the comment section is not looking all that great. It seems that a lot of people see the Chinese society as "evil". there are, of course, "evil" people in China. I mean, it is huge. But I don't think they are really below that of other countries by such a huge margin, which is why I kinda don't like how a lot of media is trying to portray it that way. I mean, I could say "American society is evil" just cause some girl told that I wasn't American since I was asian. There are screwed up people everywhere. although i did kinda argue with the girl for like 30 min and then when her older sister backed her up, argued for 30 more min...
Just Your Average Guy I agree. While the Chinese Government might not be that great, I have met many people from China who are very kind, loving, and considerate. I think people just have a habit of assuming that people from Countries other than their own are inferior, which I never understood.
Elena C Exactly. I hate it when people from the USA thinks that they are living in so-called "freedom" and "liberty", and then they start to form their own silly ignorant conclusion that "China is evil, trying to consume the whole world", "Communism is bad (while they ignore that fact that capitalism is not completely good either)". All those superficial views make me feel bad.
I mean, it isn't entirely parents' fault to place those girls in orphanage. Maybe those parents themselves cannot even provide a secured and bright future for their daughters. Some are even too poor to feed themselves, not to mention children. Who doesn't want to keep their children when they can? The mothers won't want to have nothing return while carrying their girls for ten months.
Хлоя Чанокова I am an American, and I still have to admit that you're right. Most Americans never go out of their way to experience, or educate themselves on other cultures, which is truly a shame. To truly understand your own country, you need to have some perspective, and the only way to do that is to understand other countries and cultures. Nobody benefits from cultural ignorance. I wish people would go out, and learn about the world.
+Elena C SO SAD BUT VERY TRUE :(
+Just Your Average Guy no but they massacre the students and and every one who oppose the soviet idea , so in that sense they are evil country
So beautiful, you could just see the new parents' happy faces, so good that they got these little angels in their families now :)
I know what it feels like to be an orphan. I was one. I got adopted to an amazing family, My Mom is a director and my dad is a soccer player. But I do sometimes miss my old family who abandoned me because they couldn't take care of me.
i was too. I sometimes wonder who my birth family was, but im happy because now i can have a better future than if i was still waiting for them in an ophanage.
I am so sorry. :(
I almost cried :(
glad to see so many couples so happy to give those baby girls a chance of a family...
xxx
i might not have the opportunity to adopt a baby from china, the procedure is hard, its gonna cost so much, but i cant help but cry when i hard the woman tell the baby, "im mama, and thats papa"
its so sad, too sad, for babies to be abandoned, by any means, yet its happening even as i type
My wife and I have 7 sons,but would of loved them the same if we had 7 daughters....A nation that fails to love it daughters and sons are doomed...
+TheChristianRight09
Chinese culture ...
Daughter has no responsibility toward her biological parents once she is married.
Lost investment.
Sons must take care of their parents even after marriage.
Double standard.
+AirScholar Amazing that a blessing can be thought of in this heartless way.
+AirScholar true.
+TheChristianRight09 A nation full of racists and chauvinists is also doomed. BTW, your grammar, bro.
Zaiyang Guo :) I'm your not Bro!!!!!!!!
As a Chinese person I find these adopted kids soooo lucky, I wish I were adopted as a baby lolll
I mean these parents love them even more than your real parents would and none of these adopted kids will live a bad life cus the parents were selected. This means they are rich enough, they are mentally ok to have a kid, they are responsible, etc.
Yeah, I agree. There should be more stringent requirements on natural parenthood as well! LOL.
But I love my biological Chinese parents. I feel sorry for Chinese kids who grow up in abusive families or who are abandoned/sold because the parents are too poor.
I would say that the adoptive parents and biological parents both love the children equally, y’know, since a majority of orphans came to be, as, well, orphans because of the one-child policy in China. However, I would think that the biological parents have more emotional baggage because they had to give their child up because of the laws in their country.
It's such a stereotype that kids in orphanages had parents that didn't love them. First of all, sometimes their parents died. Second of all, some parents knew they couldn't properly provide and care for their child, so they gave their kid up for adoption so that they would have the opportunity for a good life. Now THAT'S true love...being willing to give up someone you love for their own sake.
Also did you not hear that news story recently? These two moms had adopted SIX kids and accidentally drove off a cliff and died. It's been all over the news. Apparently, those moms were DRUG ADDICTS and abusive...but they had enough money and time to adopt six kids. So just cuz you are able to adopt kids doesn't mean you necessarily love them more or are better parents
Adopted parents might be more wealthy but the probabilities of being chosen by a family are not that high.
dude this three minute video made me cry. so sweet
Yup
It's sad that it is so expensive to adopt from China, despite the amount of kids
Actually no, it's also to make sure that the parents are financially ok to have a kid. You don't want the parents to end up sending that kid to the orphanage again cus they don't have money or lost interest in the baby. They make you pay a high amount so you can cherish the kid. Plus they are basically selling you a person, how much you think a person costs?
FVNT0M IIX
Not selling a person, they are recouping funds spent already, and the money goes down the line to pay staff and buy milk clothing for the children that live in the orphanage.
I was adopted from China when I was 9 monthes old and I really don't like being refured to as being sold as if i am murchendise.
Kya Meilin Hawkins
That's why you need to educate your peers when they say things like that. I know it's tuff at your age, kids sometimes say things, just to be cruel.
Your parents spent the same amount of funds to adopt you, as their parents spent for the delivery process. BUT it probably took them twice the amount of time to get their little Kya.😄
glazierEd thanks. I just hate it when people refure to adopting any child from anywhere as if they are buying an object or animal.
So glad they're adopting, that's so great! 😭😄 tears of joy
I don't want them to say 'abandoned' because most are not entirely abandoned. Giving being a parent to these children is the most hardest things they would have to do and these circumstances forces them into doing this. I hope the biological parents have one sense of relief that their child was adopted from an orphanage because that's when they know that they're well looked after by people who would love them; only that relief is what they can feel.
Many parents were forced to give up their kids, especially girls during the family plan time. It was heartbroken experience for many families. If you didn't live during the time of having only one child, you never know how hard it was for many parents to make this decision. Also, some kids were missing kids. They were sent to the daycare for adoption, but their parents might look for them all the time.
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I was also adopted from China.
I almost died from a sickness.
I am a "lost girl". China does not throw away their kids( girls). The reason why more girls are abandoned than boys is because of culture and tradition. You have to think of all the possibilities on why a couple has to give up their child. You think chinese people look at their baby and say oh let's throw it away? - No, it could be because of finances or family influences. This does not happen in just China it happens all over the world. It may be "sad and disgusting" but before you comment research what you are talking about.
+Maizie N I think the real problem here is that China and other 3rd world countries (particularly brown cultures) are still behind the times. They never went to school and never learned any manners. They have absolutely no morals, boundaries or filters. They think a baby's gender is something you can choose like a damn slurpee menu!
You know there really is a problem when they treat humans WORST over there than we treat ANIMALS in this 1st world countries, right?
It seems like only civilized, 1st world countries (like where I live) are accepting of both genders and don't judge or discriminate. Probably because they know that having a baby is NOT like ordering from a damn slurpee menu!
+Maizie N Hi Maizie, my name is Coco Liu. I'm a USC journalism graduate working on a project about the one child policy. I'm looking for girls adopted from China and I wonder if we could talk over email or phone?
We should sponsor a family instead of adopting unless they have no parents to begin with
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It’s so nice to read I’m not the only Chinese girl adopted by an American family. And I was adopted very young (like infant almost) so I’ve lost roots to China.
“Skin amongst the Chinese, my head amongst the ‘mericans”
I don’t know any of you, but I’d like to accept you all as my sisters
THis is my family's story!!!! Thank you Lisa and National Geography!!
beautiful people exist with a beautiful heart :)
All those beautiful little girls getting adopted. Lisa is right, this is a beautiful thing.
I have a Chinese friend who once told me that it was against Chinese children being adopted by white, American families because they would "lose their culture". I replied by asking her if she really thought these children would have better lives as wards of the state rather than in a loving home, to which she replied reluctantly "Well maybe not."
China's culture is so vast, old, and deep that in no way will it ever miss a few of its children who were unwanted anyway. Chinese adoptions work so well for all involved that I'm sure some government bureaucrat or other will soon end them!
GuardianDemonX I'm sorry to hear you say that. Yes, China has some negative traditions, but not all chinese agree with that. I personally have never heard of the idea that chinese children should not be adopted by American families, and I have been in many chinese communities. Besides that, it's not as if other countries have perfect cultures. America, for example, has had a history of enslaving people with darker skin and stealing the land of Native Americans. I have nothing against America. But their past is not so perfect either. So please be more considerate of judging other cultures.
In China, one child policy is supported by people, because when you are one of those 1.4billion people, live, travel,compete with such crowd, you will support it. You are right, it is not a good move in human rights, but China and her people have no choice. This policy can decrease poverty, save basic live supplies, and help government make fair education and health care. By the way, no one can judge a culture, no one can conquer this world with his value, no one should disrespect to another culture.
That is such a sweet moment when the new parents got to hold and take home their new family member that needed them.
During my trip in China a lot of men and their Patents tried to get closer to me..invitednme and so with the idea of an date mothers Wege Holding pictures of their sons to find a bride.. Crazy sistem.. It would not be s Problem if you just would respect girls more
made me cry.
So touching.
Oh my goodness... This is just like my adoption movies my mom had someone put together. I am also adopted from china and i'm happy that there is at least one video i can relate to with all of the young girls adopted from china.
+Emma Gadbois Hi Emma, my name is Coco Liu. I'm a USC journalism graduate working on a project about the one child policy. I'm looking for girls adopted from China and I wonder if we could talk over email or phone?
Coco Liu Hi Coco! I would be happy to help you! But I need to make sure that I'm not being tricked into anything. Please tell me what you want to talk to me about.
Emma Gadbois Good thinking! I'm really in the phase of pitching my story idea to my instructors, so I can't think of all the questions I'm going to throw at you at once. But I'm really curious about how you think of the practice and cancellation of the policy and how you feel about your history. I'm looking to create a documentary on the topic so it would be great if I can meet you in person so where are you?
Coco Liu ok! i'll check it out! what time is this project due?
Coco Liu Alright! I'm able to help you! I got my mom's permission.
so touching, my eyes is tearing.
Yeah...so beautiful..for everyone except for the babies. I'm adopted and its such an underestimated trauma
More traumatizing than being left to starve in the streets? The girls have loving families, maybe you don’t, but don’t push you’re own struggles onto parents who are actually doing their best.
being a chinese adoptee im proud of it and i admire the struggles my birth mother went through, this is a touchy subject. its not something like hollywood people need to understand that these babies are broken their life has been turned upside down and yes adoptions great but they shouldnt forget their heritage amd their china home
who else is here from tik tok💀
I don't care how hard you think you are, you have to be moved by this video.
so many emotions
i was adopted .... i do not agree with inter country adoption at all. there are so many unwanted children not afopted in our own countries start at home pls. it has been so hard for me.
so touching almost cried!!
im happy the kids got adopted.So many people want kids but can't have them..and to see china just full of kids in orphanages is so sad.
I was adopted from China when I was 1 years old. I know how these girls feel. So sad
I never heard the lady say why boy babies are preferred in China. It is because in Chinese culture only boys are expected to take on the financial burden of taking care of the parents in their old age; girls are not. This has a very numbing effect to the idea of love as parents look at children in terms of financial practicality similar to the way farm animals are viewed. I find that heart breaking
This breaks my heart. I can’t imagine how horrible it is to have to give up your child and hope they have a better life. Especially if you didn’t want to give your kid away. I’m so glad these families got to raise these kids.
I’m not feminist, but abandoning girls because of tradition is outrageous. Babies all deserve to be treated equally. Disabled, defected, even if they are this way, they are a gift. Millions of women cannot have babies. Respect to the families who adopted them! ^^
Why you don’t are feminist? 🤮
it is sooo nice to see the parents happy to adopt them idk why
I came here from Tik Tok
Wow, made me cry.
Omg my name is Madison and I was adopted from China too
now I'm crying because I completely relate.
This documentary is at least 10 years old and they tell not even half of the real story, actually, there is everything wrong, compared with the circumstances nowadays in China. Children get adopted there like everywhere else in the world. Anyway, in my opinon it is really the lowerst level of a documentary, but what makes me really suprised is, that most of the comments agree with the host, means they have no clue about the whole and the real story. Shame on National Geographic and i would suggest to inform yourself independently.
lets hear ur story then ..mr.genius
Whats the real story? That China doesn't have a one child policy? That Chinese family don't abandon baby girls simply because of their gender?
I'd suggest you study English more, you comment is impossible to read or follow and I have no idea what point you're trying to make.
Better to speak english in a bad way, than complaining about language skills of others. English is not my native language, so whats your point Mr. USA. How many language have you learned? Anyway, i hoped the readers would do their own research and not demand answers, but I guess i expected too much. Just a few facts:
1. The one child policy is officially eliminated since about 2 years ago.
2. It was always possible to have more than one child, my former boss in China had actually two, but as far as i know, you must pay then some kind of fee.
3. In very former times and in the countryside it could happen that boys have been prefered, because men could help better at farming. That happened in all cultures all over the world.
4. Why is a girl even more famous in China than a boy?
4.1 ... it is common, that the bride gets at her marriage at least a reasonable amount of money, a new car and an apartment.
4.2 The groom pays all costs of the marriage.
4.3 The groom has to pay as well a higher amount of money to his parents in law as a present and thank you for growing up his wife.
5. Who said these children are abandoned by their parents, because the parents did not want to have a girl? It was just the host, so that must be true. These children were for sure orphans, because of tragical reasons, which happen all over the world.
So, this film is just simply propaganda and has 99% nothing to do with the reality. Making out of the fate of these orphans a political massage is really the lowest level ever.
Do not believe what others tell you. Thats why I hoped you inform yourself.
The Dee Honestly, not every Chinese family abandon baby girls or find girls inferior to boys. It makes me sad seeing how this video greatly generalizes China.This video didn't have to speak so poorly of the traditions of China as if they were a low moral country.
These orphans 90% has some kind of disease！That means a big money in China！
im crying! this is so sweet♥
Hello Please open your eyes and pay attention to these babies. They are very fearful and traumatized by being suddenly put into the arms of strangers. Yes, the parents are very happy - but look at the faces of these little girls. Adoption is not about the happy parents; it is about the child. Really Lisa LIng - did you not see the fear on the faces of these little girls - are you blind...... Duh.....
GI² traumatizing the poor children
Poor children, traumatized by a family that truly loves them
cool! Ive been watching Lisa Ling for years now, ever since Channel 1 in high school.
The one child policy has been changed recently, now it's a 2 child policy; lol...
+Elise Kresovic I read somewhere else that if the second child is also a female that that child is still abandoned
Actually, young couples want to have another child, but they can't afford another because of education costs. So, they just stick with one. One of my cousins and her husband grew up in China as only children, and so logically, they could have two kids. But instead, they just had one daughter and decided that one was enough.
They are actually only allowed two children if they have multiple brothers and sisters, if they are an only child then they can have more children
Wow, this is really moving.
one child policy is good for china, so crowded in there.. but poor for children who dont get parental concern :(
especially for a girls
Katanda Richard S They could have handled the situation in other ways way before without putting a law that has increased drastically infanticide (that is dumping of babies in trash cans...basically killing them) and this phenomenon of overcrowded orphanages especially with girls.
If a country like china would have just spent some more effort spreading media awareness about limiting births due to socio-economic reason, and maybe a campaign to make condoms much more available to the public, they could have avoided all this.
Germany, one of the wealthiest countries in europe, has the lowest birth rate in the world, and generally europe as well, all thanks to education and awareness about birth control and readily available contraceptives.
and some people say china is over populating the world
Jmarco Cruz WHAT THE HECK?? so to summarize your sentence: YOU hope that a culture, one of the LONGEST culture in history,DIES because YOU have some excuse of them move out of their country because they have a choice and because of finding a better opportunity to start a new life and try to survive by planting their 'shitty' culture around the world..... What are you??? hitler's distant grandson who hates Chinese instead of Jews???? I apologize that my comment is mean but, YOU ARE ONE STUPID RACIST!!! IDIOT! I can't let you insult one of the MOST GREATEST, POWERFUL, AND INCEDIBLY LUCKY culture in the WORLD. As much as I dislike what they are doing, and the whole one child policy along with communism, ( Totally not working, btw)
this reminds me of the adoption of stray animals in animal shelters...these girls are just like stray animals, unwanted and abandoned. so sad...
I'm glad I'm born in America
so touching
For some reason I wanna adopt a Chinese baby girl now ...
GuardianDemonX agree
i literally teared up watching this! omggg
Who’s here from Tik Tok
Me ?!
I was adopted from china. I was from nanchang china and I was only like 5 or 6 months old when my adopted mom got me. My name is Katie and I'm 16years old now and hope to go back to china.
God and Jesus have nothing to do with this. people say god had a plan for you and his plan was for you to be adopted. No, my opinion is that god did not plan for a mother to have to make a life changing decision. God's plan was for a birth mother to have to give up her child?
That's why I hate the whole"God has a plan" thing. It only makes sense one way, and most of the time it makes no sense either way. It's just a lie you tell to make yourself comfortable.
but what's wrong with having girls?
***** oh but why can't girls carry on the family name? I mean, they can reproduce further heirs to carry the family legacy, plus they do a better job at household chores than most boys.... it makes no sense to me that boys always get an upperhand -.-
Tradition? Culture? Religion? or just plain hypocrisy
ManC Sparkles
It's because boys are traditionally supposed to have the role of looking after their parents in old age... so if they had a girl and not a boy, they feel they will be worse off in the future. They views boys as a future investment, I guess, and because they can only have one child they want them to be a boy.
it's quite sad that some people still possess this same orthodox view on gender
ManC Sparkles agreed. Really, unfortunate, these systematic gender issues that exist in many parts of the world.
Unfortunately there are still many cultures that believe boys/males are superior to females like most Arab countries and India, Bangladesh.
I am so so happy for these babies
Animal jam- play wild!
Even I was crying while watching it
in China， now can have 2 babies.
those precious babies. at least they have good homes now.
Hidden or murdered????
sirjames80 they are not i can assure you, because buddhists actually believe that killing baby girls brings bad karma and 2. Its inhumane
Great story. I interviewed her sister. Question: Why does National Geographic need ads on UA-cam?
I can't help myself crying
Precious little angels
i hope those people are good to them
*Tear* That Was Good.
I cry every time
Wow, that was one of the most beautiful things I have seen in a long time. It really was like watching a bunch of parents go through labor all at once. I don't have any kids, but I kept thinking about my nephew for some reason. :-) When I get older, I want to adopt a multitude of babies and older kids. Katie and Juliana really remind me of my little sister and I when we were younger. And Juliana is such a cutie patootie!
omg the dad that started crying made me wanna cry
A goal of mine is to adopt either twins or sisters from a Chinese orphanage. I am adopted and I want others to be as blessed as I have.
actually, to be honest.... the little girls who adopted will have a good future whatever in environment or edg or health... i have to say happy to these little girls.
Touching
thank you :)
Great video!
I am remember vaguely watching this on television, I hope each girl was adopted by people who gave them the love, nurturing and education they deserve. There is possibly one existing, but I hope to see a documentary showing where many of these now women are today and if their lives in America helped them.
I'm so happy people adopt
Bless these new parents. :')
those babies are very lucky!this video reminds to everyone whats important in life..not material and money but a family and people who love its other..
Amazing.
wow, the katie girl is very intellectual. she will have a bright future.
So beatuiful!
AMAZING!!!
People must adopt children. Some kids will grow up and not understand. They will think that no one loves them. You have to show kids you care, like me, I will never know the suffering that kids go through, the horrors of foster care and orphanges, I was adopted. People give you a second chance, so you should give others that chance too.
You will not regret doing it, I promise.
This is coming to you from a Chinese girl, who's now 13, and was adopted at age 10 months.
it's just beautiful..
Who else felt like crying😭😭