My narc husband would argue the point with total disregard for how stupid his reasoning was just to make sure his opinion was the right one. I was always left thinking is this man sane or what . Unbelievable
Exactly right! So you tell them NOTHING!! Then they will try to pry something out of you so they can say "ohhhhhh I will prayyyyy for you." so so so freaking frustrating. Your danged if you talk and danged if you don't.
Betrayal trauma takes the brain time to get over. About 4 days. So the micro aggression and conversational betrayals take their toll. Protect yourself from the trolling of people who are not as healthy, respectful, or considerate as you want to be. They can drag your mental health down.
my father is unfortunately like this, stubborn is an understatement, more like argue until he has a rage fit, it's amazing how far some people are willing to go just to win.
I hear you!!! Two of my favorite lines from Dr C are "they would argue with a stump" and "arguing is like a sport to them." Remember to just ZIP THE LIP!!! 😂😮🙄
Wow! You nailed it!@cologal60 expressing your preference or your likes will be enough to be attacked ! Poor me growing up in different country, different spiritual orientation, I set myself up for being attacked for being me in his country. His large family stood by his side.
My nex didn't like for me to have opinions. Too bad for him. If you're smart though you'll never tell them any of your opinions because you'll never hear the end of it.
Truth is the quality of a statement or belief that corresponds with reality, while knowledge is the justification for believing something is true: Therefore, if we approach our relationship from a place of truth and THEY approach it from their knowledge base (limited as it may be,) it makes for a huge, cavernous disconnect between us. Like one is playing monopoly and the other chutes and ladders. Now how is that gonna work? Exactly! It's a "Nope!" Stay Healthy!!
I've been watching your videos for a while but this one really struck a chord with me. My soon to be ex-husband is very much like this. I remember one day we were having a discussion about having children and he instantly went into a whole rant about how he wouldn't want anything to do with them if they were homosexual or married someone of a different race. When I reminded him that my brother is married to someone of a different race (both white) he said that's not what he means, he means someone of a different skin colour. Fortunately I don't hold the same opinions, but when I expressed mine he got really angry and said that I was trying to change him! He has called me coercive in the past and has accused me of trying to take away his masculinity when I try and voice any opinion that differs from his. I can't wait to be out of my marriage, he's someone I could never understand.
@@SurvivingNarcissism Thank you for your reply, and thank you for sharing your expertise through your videos. I am finding them very helpful and therapeutic.
Wish your information had been available +50 years ago, when in sheer blind instinctive survival I went no contact. SO appreciate of your work here, Dr. C, and that of others. Validation, however belated, is so helpful. Thank you. I KNEW that I'd not go into that hell again. Not I know why, and how, to do that. Great work.
Gus prefers the lounge suite rather than his rug. My ex husband the narc has no empathy, no interest and no understanding of anybody else's views, yet his own opinions have no logic.
The narcissist in my life insisted on telling me in detail about his sex life. I asked him not to as imdont want to know and his response was….’ I can’t do that’. No sense of what is appropriate. I was extremely embarrassed, and shortly after that the narcissist lost his temper, yelled at me and that was the end of our relationship. All I can say thank god. Thanks dr carter.Judy from uk
My 95 year old narcissistic father does that. I think he thinks he impresses people with it. He will say things to his granddaughter or me about sex. We're repulsed by it. Just recently I had a life altering diagnosis of cancer and had to have surgery. He said to me..."oh...must be when your mother and I had sex we didn't make you right!"
Thank you. Opinions are pervasive. Opinions are hard to reject-- they're opinions. And thank you for introducing "opinionated" as a descriptor. (Opinions don't necessarily reflect reality.) I've never considered describing my mother as opinionated but she certainly was. The closest I could come to describing my mother was "hysterical". (and not in the funny sense). I knew it wasn't a good fit but couldn't come up with anything else. Also, thank you for the "pattern recognition" comment. Finally, a sane explanation.
I'm thinking about saltwater crocodiles. Many years ago a lady kayaking in Australia's far north found her kayak attacked by a saltwater crocodile. The croc turfed her into the water, took her into a "death roll" then inexplicably set her free. The victim had the choice between a muddy bank, knowing she would sink into the mud whereas the croc would glide over it, or a low lying mangrove tree. She went for the mangrove. The croc rose from the water, plucked her from the tree and performed another "death roll." Death rolls are called that for a reason: few people survive them. The croc let her go a second time. She went for the tree again: same scenario. Croc rose up and plucked her from the branches. Incredibly she had the presence of mind to understand that between them they were establishing a pattern; crocodiles learn new ways of hunting for food. The croc plucked her from the tree again - another death roll - and she knew that time she would have to go for the bank into which she would sink, while the crocodile would glide. She sank deep into the mud while the crocodile, which had already taken her into several death rolls, sat blinking while she extricated herself from the mud and ran for her life. I believe she ran some distance before realising her leg was broken. I've never forgotten this. To my mind, when confronted, cornered and death rolled by a saltwater crocodile, do the unexepected.
Another "wow" from me. And yes, it resonates a lot with my experiences of facing narc attacks... After studying many "how to survive methods" by narc experts I'm learning more and more how to manage strange situations .. Many times I fall again, though, exactly because I fall in old automatic patterns
Dr. C., thanks to your shared wisdom I have learned to identify narcissism when I encounter it so I can politely disengage from these individuals. It would be interesting to learn about your experience with narcissism in the senior cohort. It seems that narcissistic bullying increases with ageing. Often, seniors find themselves living in group residences or senior's communities where the odds of encountering rates of narcissism are commensurate to the size of the senior community. The harms of age amplified narcissism do not consider those who just want to live their remaining years in peace and harmony.
Yes. Or better, 50 years ago, when I went no contact, blindly following a desperate drive to survive. "Validation," even so belated, is so helpful. Thanks, Dr. C
My narcissistic parents shouted at me for 3 straight months to stop me from getting married to the woman who stood by my side when I had nothing. They told me that if I won’t marry a woman they select for me that means I am hurting them and that I am not their son. All of my siblings sided with them as well. Now I moved out of their house and living in a different continent and they are still trying to control me. Thanks to you and your videos now I have courage to take a stand for me and to protect my gf from their toxicity. I am now also planning to marry her either with or without their permission. My narcissistic parents and flying monkeys are still trying their best to control me and manipulate me. But the good thing is that now I have become financially independent
Ive always thought fear is the root cause of narcisissim. It makes sense if they are so insecure and have deemed themselves the only worthy ones they would be afraid when someone else different than themselves comes along who is liked by others, successful and confident. Im assuming it grips them with fear that they might not be worthy and great. Its not because they arent worthy and great because God creates us all with value. Its because they themselves have made the rule in their own mind that they, their opinions,views etc are the only worthy thing. Its really sad and burdensome that we cant all see the value in others.
This is very timely, and I appreciate the message. I am surrounded by people like this, and it is awful. SO much hate and contempt for those who are not EXACTLY the same as these people. Ugh - so, so awful. Absolutely no connection - Thank Dr. C, I am feeling very lonely and alone out here.
A couple things.. If they are so stubborn that I can't even have a conversation with them then they are harmful to me and I need to learn how to protect myself.. Along with that I need to learn how to be more stubborn in the way that I deal with them.. You could say that I need more resolve.. You could even say that I need to enforce my boundaries..
I'm scared sometimes Dr C. What we do is close to what narcissists do, but there is a difference but can be taken the way the narcissists see it. For instance yes they confuse opinions with facts. Opinions can be debated, but they treat their opinons as facts. They confuse affirmation with seeking approval, when affirmation is about learning and the other person says that's correct and not I approve or reject. In all the cases of confusion we cannot be honest because that's been vulnerable and they are always on a defense and spread that defensiveness which the environment becomes toxic. Honesty is so important for the environment. I'm scared I'm on the wrong side of the confusion many times and it's a environmental pain. You might be a tree hugger with trees been chopped down all around you and you just have to look after yourself.
10:45 Interesting the reasons for the opinion. His son getting shot. I have told people about real experiences with violence. Then the next time they don't respect the real experience and just want to speak the same argumentative diatribe, it is disheartening. It's like they don't respect your trauma or experience. It is very rude and uncouth. Not worth the effort of trying to discuss anything when they can't be a good friend and keep that personal trauma in mind as you discuss things. You tend to give up on the highly insensitive people. You don't want to conversate with them due to that insincere behavior they do. You tend to not want any conversations with them. That is a real blind spot for them...Their dense insensitivity.
If you have someone stubborn in a workplace, they inevitably cause chaos. They prevent you from solving problems. Even worse, they make the problem bigger. 😮
They will also take credit for your problem solving ideas, like they thought of it instead of U. This one has been used enough times for me to recognize it 😮😮😮
😂 Gus! ❤ Doggos lol Of course they know the difference between fabrics lol Dr Carter, blankets or towels have to be nicer than the nice sofa fabric! We’ve become educated on that one and many canine “rules” in our house 😊 ♥️🐾♥️🐾♥️ Another helpful video. Ty Dr Carter for more excellent advice and validation; able to take a big sigh of relief as I listen, and feel like someone is actually listening to me… or reading my thoughts. ❤
I went through this over a DIY project. I do wood crafts and I know tips and tricks but because I didn't want to do it the way a professional wood worker did it I was wrong. Literally making wood look aged. That's all it was . There's no science behind it it's just preference. No matter how I tried to explain with detail it was wrong even though it was 100% exactly the same .
My narcissist mother left school when she was fourteen and has never felt compelled to challenge her beliefs by reading a book or watching a documentary. She tells people that psychology, psychiatry and counseling is all rubbish and children all need a good belting. She did a one day first aid course and knows more than a doctor or nurse! This is in contrast to her twin sister who stayed at school, went to theological college, managed a couple of orphanages and became a nationally recognised example on fostering and adoption. My Aunt had three children, plus one adopted child, plus fostered over fifty children. When she received a national award for her service to the community, all my mother could say was, ‘I should have received that award.’ Absolutely no self awareness.
Well i probably have some stubborn Opinions as well sir! I still would like you to test me how much of a Narcissist I “am” I THINK NOT but I DEF have a few things that need healing!!!!! ❤
Hi Dr. C! Would this apply to someone who has borderline as well? I know someone with BPD and they can be highly opinionated and forceful with opinions at times.
It makes you wonder about thinking styles. If your just putting all of this together do you have trouble with analytical skills over critical skills? Where are they with critical skills. I don't know if there is any correlation, it just feels like it takes so long to get to understand what has happened.
Some political opinions put out on here are hateful to the extreme! The hair on my back stood up! Like Carolminke says, Trump is like Hitler. This is not opinion of millions of Americans. “We sure do think differently don’t we! “ Dr. C Respect is lost for a few when hate manifests itself. Civility needs practiced! Peace!
Personally I find it extreme difficult that they can change their opinion from one minute to the next, which creates so much confusion. And especially when they talk about other people: one day they are best friends with s.o. and the next day they talk so bad about them. From the outside they seem to be very flexible with their opinions but from the inside they are stuck into their pathological thinking.
Yes. So often they say one thing then mean another and then triangulate you with other people changing what the mean and say along the way. It's sooo confusing it totally mashes your brain 🤯
@@amandaliverpool3374 Exactly 👍 I've tried to answer you several times on the other chats, but without luck 😏 An hour ago my daughter called. The call lasted 3 minutes - because of playing the victim 🙄 So exhausting... I do hope you are doing a bit better by now? All the best for you 🙏💕🫂
Exactly 👍 I've tried so many times tonight to answer you, but as you know yt does not like all communications 😏 A few hours ago my daughter called me. The conversation ended within 3 minutes - due to blameshifting, twisting opinion in 1 sec. - so exhausting 🙄 Hope, you are doing a bit better by now? 🙏💕🫂
@roxymovie3938 yt can be a pain in the butt! 🙄 I've not spoken to my son in over a week. We text. Conversations can be too triggering, and I can tell if he's had alcohol. I'm still worried and anxious. That never goes away. But I DO keep busy. I'm not over religious, but I say a little prayer for him and anyone else who may need one 🙏 🕯💕✨️🥰
They are neurologically impaired. They can't see someone's pain or point of view..Whether it's from nature or nurture. ..Regardless of how educated they might be..they aren't capable of any introspection or insight or making a mistake..
"IGNORE is the root of ignorance." cc. 2004. 👀 🐠 🌊 A sincere, healthy sense of curiosity leads to growth. Questioning authority is paramount. Narcissists put themselves in unquestionable positions of authority. YT censorship...... is a major clue.
Opinion, delusion or bluster. I've run into someone who appears to be a budding narcissist, who is somehow intimidated by me even though I am a temporary "interloper" on her territory. It's very curious. I probably won't see her again after tonight. I wonder what she is? Can narcissists be half-formed? (I'm not used to being considered intimidating, outside of when I'm supposed to be. Generally, I try not to be intimidating.)
So well explained. Thank you!🍃🪷💛🌺It is so helpful to be able to distinguish between having an opinion and being opinionated. And it really helped me to understand what I have been living in. It gets quite confusing sometimes when the other person is so opinionated they just simply can’t hear what the other person is saying. It is like saying sorry but only I exist, and when you’re on the receiving end of it you it can make one feel invisible.
Sadly, they will destroy themselves just to prove you wrong. :(
Dad will destroy me to prove himself right; he ignores me.
Yep! I watched one destroy herself with drugs and alcohol.
My narc husband would argue the point with total disregard for how stupid his reasoning was just to make sure his opinion was the right one.
I was always left thinking is this man sane or what . Unbelievable
It's like you told them who the person was who punched you in the face. And they go and talk well of him. It is a conversational style of betrayal.
Exactly right! So you tell them NOTHING!! Then they will try to pry something out of you so they can say "ohhhhhh I will prayyyyy for you." so so so freaking frustrating. Your danged if you talk and danged if you don't.
Betrayal trauma takes the brain time to get over. About 4 days. So the micro aggression and conversational betrayals take their toll. Protect yourself from the trolling of people who are not as healthy, respectful, or considerate as you want to be. They can drag your mental health down.
my father is unfortunately like this, stubborn is an understatement, more like argue until he has a rage fit, it's amazing how far some people are willing to go just to win.
I hear you!!! Two of my favorite lines from Dr C are "they would argue with a stump" and "arguing is like a sport to them." Remember to just ZIP THE LIP!!! 😂😮🙄
Mine's the same way...... I prove him wrong by a simple Google search and I'm still wrong.....
My mother was the same way!
I am 60, I don't live with him, yet he nitpicks at me and when I complain, he talks over me, invalidating and being dismissive; he is so frustrating!
If you express yourself prepare to be attacked.
I finally learned that one!!! So true!
Wow! You nailed it!@cologal60 expressing your preference or your likes will be enough to be attacked ! Poor me growing up in different country, different spiritual orientation, I set myself up for being attacked for being me in his country. His large family stood by his side.
Amen
i would present reasons why i was right. But she just was right, though she never had to have any reasons why
@JamesBongo They are just not worth it.
My nex didn't like for me to have opinions. Too bad for him. If you're smart though you'll never tell them any of your opinions because you'll never hear the end of it.
So very true! And they will tell everyone else as well! 😞🙄😒
Yes, Dr. C the Narcissists who are currently in my life definitely think differently than those of us who don’t have NPD with their strong opinions !
Ignorance is bliss & narcissism is fool’s bliss
If I could and many times it is extremely difficult, I would leave them just as the way they are while having an argument as less as possible.
The best phrase to use while forced to talk to a narcissist is : let’s agree to disagree! And walk away asap!
One narc told me: "That's how we've always done it." (Even though the way they've always done it never worked!!).
It doesn't mean that way is right!
And, when offered evidence contrary to those opinions~they will double down!
So true.
Truth is the quality of a statement or belief that corresponds with reality, while knowledge is the justification for believing something is true:
Therefore, if we approach our relationship from a place of truth and THEY approach it from their knowledge base (limited as it may be,) it makes for a huge, cavernous disconnect between us.
Like one is playing monopoly and the other chutes and ladders.
Now how is that gonna work?
Exactly! It's a "Nope!"
Stay Healthy!!
And remember agreeing to disagree on a topic is a cop-out way of not listening - as I was told. 😉 His opinions were facts. Period.
I've been watching your videos for a while but this one really struck a chord with me. My soon to be ex-husband is very much like this. I remember one day we were having a discussion about having children and he instantly went into a whole rant about how he wouldn't want anything to do with them if they were homosexual or married someone of a different race. When I reminded him that my brother is married to someone of a different race (both white) he said that's not what he means, he means someone of a different skin colour. Fortunately I don't hold the same opinions, but when I expressed mine he got really angry and said that I was trying to change him! He has called me coercive in the past and has accused me of trying to take away his masculinity when I try and voice any opinion that differs from his. I can't wait to be out of my marriage, he's someone I could never understand.
He sounds like a very confused, bigoted person. At some point, disconnecting is the only reasonable option you have. Thanks for sharing this.
When you leave....don't ever look in the rear-view mirror!!! Take care!
@@SurvivingNarcissism Thank you for your reply, and thank you for sharing your expertise through your videos. I am finding them very helpful and therapeutic.
if you don't agree then you're wrong. You can't have conversations with these people
Wish your information had been available +50 years ago, when in sheer blind instinctive survival I went no contact. SO appreciate of your work here, Dr. C, and that of others. Validation, however belated, is so helpful. Thank you. I KNEW that I'd not go into that hell again. Not I know why, and how, to do that. Great work.
NOW I know why. Sigh
Gus prefers the lounge suite rather than his rug. My ex husband the narc has no empathy, no interest and no understanding of anybody else's views, yet his own opinions have no logic.
The narcissist in my life insisted on telling me in detail about his sex life. I asked him not to as imdont want to know and his response was….’ I can’t do that’. No sense of what is appropriate. I was extremely embarrassed, and shortly after that the narcissist lost his temper, yelled at me and that was the end of our relationship. All I can say thank god. Thanks dr carter.Judy from uk
My 95 year old narcissistic father does that. I think he thinks he impresses people with it. He will say things to his granddaughter or me about sex. We're repulsed by it. Just recently I had a life altering diagnosis of cancer and had to have surgery. He said to me..."oh...must be when your mother and I had sex we didn't make you right!"
You dodged a bullet.
Thank you. Opinions are pervasive. Opinions are hard to reject-- they're opinions. And thank you for introducing "opinionated" as a descriptor. (Opinions don't necessarily reflect reality.) I've never considered describing my mother as opinionated but she certainly was. The closest I could come to describing my mother was "hysterical". (and not in the funny sense). I knew it wasn't a good fit but couldn't come up with anything else. Also, thank you for the "pattern recognition" comment. Finally, a sane explanation.
It was a rude awakening when the honeymoon stage ended.
I'm thinking about saltwater crocodiles. Many years ago a lady kayaking in Australia's far north found her kayak attacked by a saltwater crocodile. The croc turfed her into the water, took her into a "death roll" then inexplicably set her free. The victim had the choice between a muddy bank, knowing she would sink into the mud whereas the croc would glide over it, or a low lying mangrove tree. She went for the mangrove. The croc rose from the water, plucked her from the tree and performed another "death roll." Death rolls are called that for a reason: few people survive them. The croc let her go a second time. She went for the tree again: same scenario. Croc rose up and plucked her from the branches. Incredibly she had the presence of mind to understand that between them they were establishing a pattern; crocodiles learn new ways of hunting for food. The croc plucked her from the tree again - another death roll - and she knew that time she would have to go for the bank into which she would sink, while the crocodile would glide. She sank deep into the mud while the crocodile, which had already taken her into several death rolls, sat blinking while she extricated herself from the mud and ran for her life. I believe she ran some distance before realising her leg was broken. I've never forgotten this. To my mind, when confronted, cornered and death rolled by a saltwater crocodile, do the unexepected.
Wow! What an illustration.
Another "wow" from me.
And yes, it resonates a lot with my experiences of
facing narc attacks...
After studying many
"how to survive methods" by narc experts
I'm learning more and more how to manage strange situations ..
Many times I fall again, though, exactly because I fall in old automatic patterns
Dr. C., thanks to your shared wisdom I have learned to identify narcissism when I encounter it so I can politely disengage from these individuals.
It would be interesting to learn about your experience with narcissism in the senior cohort. It seems that narcissistic bullying increases with ageing. Often, seniors find themselves living in group residences or senior's communities where the odds of encountering rates of narcissism are commensurate to the size of the senior community. The harms of age amplified narcissism do not consider those who just want to live their remaining years in peace and harmony.
Thank you Dr Carter for sharing your precious experience and knowledge, I would have liked to listen you 20 year ago.
Yes. Or better, 50 years ago, when I went no contact, blindly following a desperate drive to survive. "Validation," even so belated, is so helpful.
Thanks, Dr. C
Glad it was helpful!
My narcissistic parents shouted at me for 3 straight months to stop me from getting married to the woman who stood by my side when I had nothing. They told me that if I won’t marry a woman they select for me that means I am hurting them and that I am not their son. All of my siblings sided with them as well. Now I moved out of their house and living in a different continent and they are still trying to control me. Thanks to you and your videos now I have courage to take a stand for me and to protect my gf from their toxicity. I am now also planning to marry her either with or without their permission. My narcissistic parents and flying monkeys are still trying their best to control me and manipulate me. But the good thing is that now I have become financially independent
Ive always thought fear is the root cause of narcisissim. It makes sense if they are so insecure and have deemed themselves the only worthy ones they would be afraid when someone else different than themselves comes along who is liked by others, successful and confident. Im assuming it grips them with fear that they might not be worthy and great. Its not because they arent worthy and great because God creates us all with value. Its because they themselves have made the rule in their own mind that they, their opinions,views etc are the only worthy thing. Its really sad and burdensome that we cant all see the value in others.
This is very timely, and I appreciate the message. I am surrounded by people like this, and it is awful. SO much hate and contempt for those who are not EXACTLY the same as these people. Ugh - so, so awful. Absolutely no connection -
Thank Dr. C, I am feeling very lonely and alone out here.
A couple things.. If they are so stubborn that I can't even have a conversation with them then they are harmful to me and I need to learn how to protect myself.. Along with that I need to learn how to be more stubborn in the way that I deal with them.. You could say that I need more resolve.. You could even say that I need to enforce my boundaries..
I'm scared sometimes Dr C. What we do is close to what narcissists do, but there is a difference but can be taken the way the narcissists see it. For instance yes they confuse opinions with facts. Opinions can be debated, but they treat their opinons as facts. They confuse affirmation with seeking approval, when affirmation is about learning and the other person says that's correct and not I approve or reject.
In all the cases of confusion we cannot be honest because that's been vulnerable and they are always on a defense and spread that defensiveness which the environment becomes toxic. Honesty is so important for the environment. I'm scared I'm on the wrong side of the confusion many times and it's a environmental pain. You might be a tree hugger with trees been chopped down all around you and you just have to look after yourself.
Love the title 😂so spot on!
Gus sees the blanket as an option!
He is the best Dog isn't he? 😅❤❤
Check out Darren Magee on narcissism in Ireland! He recommends Dr C & also has a good dog named Freud who tries to steal the live chats, too
Obviously, Gus has strong opinions about this topic.
🐶😅❤️😯🐶😇❤️🐶
Thanks again, Dr C! This was exactly what I needed to hear at the moment 👏✨️
Dr. C. time to reposition that blanket closest to you. Handsome Gus knows what Team Healthy likes!
Yah think?
10:45 Interesting the reasons for the opinion. His son getting shot. I have told people about real experiences with violence. Then the next time they don't respect the real experience and just want to speak the same argumentative diatribe, it is disheartening. It's like they don't respect your trauma or experience. It is very rude and uncouth. Not worth the effort of trying to discuss anything when they can't be a good friend and keep that personal trauma in mind as you discuss things. You tend to give up on the highly insensitive people. You don't want to conversate with them due to that insincere behavior they do. You tend to not want any conversations with them. That is a real blind spot for them...Their dense insensitivity.
Same thing happened to me several times. It is awful. It is sad when your friends don't respect your pain or your experience.
If you have someone stubborn in a workplace, they inevitably cause chaos. They prevent you from solving problems. Even worse, they make the problem bigger. 😮
@yukio_saito Not just bigger but blown out if all proportion!
@@amandaliverpool3374 Yes. They cannot separate issues. They mix up everything.
They will also take credit for your problem solving ideas, like they thought of it instead of U. This one has been used enough times for me to recognize it 😮😮😮
Sadly that is every workplace that I have ever been a part of. The USA and UK have very dysfunctional societies.
They get overwhelmed very easily 😟😳😒
😂 Gus! ❤ Doggos lol Of course they know the difference between fabrics lol Dr Carter, blankets or towels have to be nicer than the nice sofa fabric! We’ve become educated on that one and many canine “rules” in our house 😊 ♥️🐾♥️🐾♥️
Another helpful video.
Ty Dr Carter for more excellent advice and validation; able to take a big sigh of relief as I listen, and feel like someone is actually listening to me… or reading my thoughts. ❤
How many narcissists does it take to screw in a lightbulb...no more than ONE... otherwise it will never get screwed in....
I went through this over a DIY project. I do wood crafts and I know tips and tricks but because I didn't want to do it the way a professional wood worker did it I was wrong. Literally making wood look aged. That's all it was . There's no science behind it it's just preference. No matter how I tried to explain with detail it was wrong even though it was 100% exactly the same .
❤ TY Doc.
My narcissist mother left school when she was fourteen and has never felt compelled to challenge her beliefs by reading a book or watching a documentary. She tells people that psychology, psychiatry and counseling is all rubbish and children all need a good belting. She did a one day first aid course and knows more than a doctor or nurse! This is in contrast to her twin sister who stayed at school, went to theological college, managed a couple of orphanages and became a nationally recognised example on fostering and adoption. My Aunt had three children, plus one adopted child, plus fostered over fifty children. When she received a national award for her service to the community, all my mother could say was, ‘I should have received that award.’ Absolutely no self awareness.
What is "theological college?"
@ A college where students study theology.
@@bigm383 What a horrible name for Catholicism. Why didn't they just call it Catholic college? Oh wait that would be honest.
Gus is "free to be me!"
Free to be asleep. 😊
@@lilithschwarzermond7342 Yes! Free to park my lovely furry chin on the edge of the couch!
Yes, and that is his sofa. ❤
@@denisedevoto5703 😄👍🏼
@@lilithschwarzermond7342 😄
Gus: "You guys don't sit on blankets!"
Well i probably have some stubborn Opinions as well sir!
I still would like you to test me how much of a Narcissist I “am”
I THINK NOT but I DEF have a few things that need healing!!!!!
❤
Gus, cool, love your doggy
Hi Dr. C! Would this apply to someone who has borderline as well? I know someone with BPD and they can be highly opinionated and forceful with opinions at times.
Thanks!
Thank you.
Listening to you is one of Gus favorite times. It is so obvious, just my opinion. 😁
When I get my equipment out to shoot a video, if he's not already in my study, he comes right in and assumes his position. Seriously!
@@SurvivingNarcissism
Love it !! 💚
He knows his important role in Team Healthy 😇
He can feel it ✨✨✨✨
catching "vibes" from all over the world
Gus DGAF. He knows who is the king of the castle haha.
Gus is King!
Gus is a smooch-pooch
It makes you wonder about thinking styles.
If your just putting all of this together do you have trouble with analytical skills over critical skills?
Where are they with critical skills. I don't know if there is any correlation, it just feels like it takes so long to get to understand what has happened.
Some political opinions put out on here are hateful to the extreme! The hair on my back stood up!
Like Carolminke says,
Trump is like Hitler.
This is not opinion of millions of Americans.
“We sure do think differently don’t we! “ Dr. C
Respect is lost for a few when hate manifests itself.
Civility needs practiced!
Peace!
Personally I find it extreme difficult that they can change their opinion from one minute to the next, which creates so much confusion.
And especially when they talk about other people: one day they are best friends with s.o. and the next day they talk so bad about them.
From the outside they seem to be very flexible with their opinions but from the inside they are stuck into their pathological thinking.
My ex-friend told me how he cared about me, he didn't care about me.
@@yukio_saito Unfortunately words can tell anything, while behaviour shows everything.
Yes. So often they say one thing then mean another and then triangulate you with other people changing what the mean and say along the way. It's sooo confusing it totally mashes your brain 🤯
@@amandaliverpool3374 Exactly 👍
I've tried to answer you several times on the other chats, but without luck 😏
An hour ago my daughter called. The call lasted 3 minutes - because of playing the victim 🙄 So exhausting...
I do hope you are doing a bit better by now?
All the best for you 🙏💕🫂
@amandaliverpool3374: Exactly 👍
Tried to answer you on the other chats several times, but without luck 😏
🙏💕🫂
To them, their thinking and opinions make sense, but it's only to them. If we disagree or question things, we're the ones being awkward 😳
Exactly 👍
I've tried so many times tonight to answer you, but as you know yt does not like all communications 😏
A few hours ago my daughter called me. The conversation ended within 3 minutes - due to blameshifting, twisting opinion in 1 sec. - so exhausting 🙄
Hope, you are doing a bit better by now? 🙏💕🫂
They blame-shift you for being stubborn. 😦
@roxymovie3938 yt can be a pain in the butt! 🙄
I've not spoken to my son in over a week. We text. Conversations can be too triggering, and I can tell if he's had alcohol. I'm still worried and anxious. That never goes away. But I DO keep busy. I'm not over religious, but I say a little prayer for him and anyone else who may need one 🙏 🕯💕✨️🥰
@@yukio_saito Yes 🌻
Narcissists are ignorant of their ignorance.
Good way to put it, Fred.
They are neurologically impaired. They can't see someone's pain or point of view..Whether it's from nature or nurture. ..Regardless of how educated they might be..they aren't capable of any introspection or insight or making a mistake..
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"IGNORE is the root of ignorance."
cc. 2004. 👀 🐠 🌊
A sincere, healthy sense of curiosity leads to growth. Questioning authority is paramount. Narcissists put themselves in unquestionable positions of authority.
YT censorship...... is a major clue.
Precisely put, Fred, precisely put. 🤙
Opinion, delusion or bluster.
I've run into someone who appears to be a budding narcissist, who is somehow intimidated by me even though I am a temporary "interloper" on her territory. It's very curious. I probably won't see her again after tonight. I wonder what she is? Can narcissists be half-formed? (I'm not used to being considered intimidating, outside of when I'm supposed to be. Generally, I try not to be intimidating.)
Narcissists live in dreaded fear of those who might see behind their mask.
Before I blame the narc for something, I have to self reflect to make sure I'm not doing or acting the same ways the narc is ❤
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"The way to truth stands open only to those without intentions".
-Dr. Carl Jung
So well explained. Thank you!🍃🪷💛🌺It is so helpful to be able to distinguish between having an opinion and being opinionated. And it really helped me to understand what I have been living in. It gets quite confusing sometimes when the other person is so opinionated they just simply can’t hear what the other person is saying. It is like saying sorry but only I exist, and when you’re on the receiving end of it you it can make one feel invisible.
Thanks!
Thank you.