Top 10 Traits of the Malignant Narcissist

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  • @IzabelaWaniek-i1x
    @IzabelaWaniek-i1x 4 місяці тому +74

    Sometimes Malignant narcissists can be spotted from a distance. It shows in the way they look, move, talk, smirk and at people. Those people are dangerous and we should stay away from any contact with them.

    • @Real2k25
      @Real2k25 4 місяці тому +11

      All snakes are dangerous

    • @majestic-1
      @majestic-1 13 днів тому +1

      The SMIRK though! I've experienced that many times !

  • @The-Vintage-Needlecrafter
    @The-Vintage-Needlecrafter 4 місяці тому +60

    I was exposed to weekly violent rage fits. The last one he had I called 911. I now have a two year order of protection.

    • @edelweissdebergbaldrian7696
      @edelweissdebergbaldrian7696 4 місяці тому +5

      Good!

    • @JenGable-Justeson
      @JenGable-Justeson 4 місяці тому +1

      Are you safe and okay now ?

    • @The-Vintage-Needlecrafter
      @The-Vintage-Needlecrafter 4 місяці тому

      @@JenGable-Justeson yes I am, thank you very much. God is doing amazing things in my life now.🙏💕

    • @debrakarr996
      @debrakarr996 4 місяці тому +5

      Sorry u got screwed. U should be getting away from what u say is happening weekly. Wow why would u stay in such turmoil. I've been no contact since March files divorce and since then he has not left me alone. I had my phone shut off and got new one so he could not contact me. He is showing up at my house beating the door down it's sounds like it anyways. As soon as he comes near me everything in my body trembles it's not a good feeling at all and it last for a week or longer after just one contact. We'll I'm done with him he showed up Friday beating n cussing on door again. I called cops they suggested filing for no contact order. I went to court house filled papers out then I left. Less then 45 mins later my order was approved and we have a court date the order is for 2 yrs just from what I had to say. I still don't feel safe though. Prayers to all.

    • @JenGable-Justeson
      @JenGable-Justeson 4 місяці тому

      @@debrakarr996 I do not want to add to your misery, but if what you are stating is true, I would definitely do one or more of the following:
      1. Contemplate relocating to a trusted friend's house (even if it temporary), trusted relative, or relocate to a housing complex near a police department.
      2. Purchase an inexpensive hidden camera/alarm system, and have it installed ASAP.
      3. Keep an electronic journal (email yourself), especially if something occurs.
      4. For the next six months, be very cautious about who you give your phone number to, traveling to remote locations, or even dating.
      5. Tell your family and close friends what is going on, so they can provide support/accompany you to places, if you need it.
      I do not want to scare you, but if you are ending a volatile relationship, and he is unpredictable/erratic, please, please take precautions.

  • @ckvarnmass
    @ckvarnmass 4 місяці тому +59

    One thing that bothered me about my now x-narc, was how he would see someone get hurt and he would laugh. It would shock me, every time. Once, when I was 9 mo. pregnant with my first baby, a food item from the oven spilled all over the floor. I stood there, crying and started to clean it up. He laughed and walked out the door. I was on hands and knees, sobbing, as I cleaned it up, myself. Sobbing was because of his non-caring.
    When he would see someone fall or have a flat tire and struggling to change it, he would laugh. Never did he ever reach out to help. But if it was a church member, he was there to help, to impress.

  • @demigaines5644
    @demigaines5644 4 місяці тому +35

    Thank You So Very Much For Sharing This I Needed To Hear This My Horrific Experience With A Malignant Narcissit.
    1/ Lacks Empathy /Pathological LIAR
    2/ Sexual.Sadism Disorder.
    3/Lacks Accountability
    4/Paranoia
    5/Aggressive.
    6/Requiring Excessive Admiration
    7/Exploring Others
    8/ Highly Abusive.
    9/ Silent Treatments
    10/ Dominant Immediate Responding..
    Narcissist Abusive Is Brutal.

    • @muma6559
      @muma6559 4 місяці тому +5

      Exploiting others ? #7

    • @muma6559
      @muma6559 4 місяці тому +6

      I think the three main ones are Exploitative, manipulative and entitlement attitude to what is not theirs

    • @demigaines5644
      @demigaines5644 4 місяці тому +6

      THANK YOU AGAIN FOR SHARING THIS I LISTENED TO THIS TWICE.

  • @tonewilhelmsen2425
    @tonewilhelmsen2425 4 місяці тому +20

    Yes, My mother… and one more (dont have the energy to explain here), the two of them together, cooperating. Almost ruined me. But they didnt. I am still here, they Are both dead, one from age, one from suicide (he was found out by a few and couldnt take the consequenses (jail), but of course told everybody frist he was the victim. It really almost destroyed me all they did. I am free, but perhaps not. But taking back My life little by little! ❤
    Thank You all that dare to expose them. I did, to protect My child. Almost killed me

  • @kirkhogan2688
    @kirkhogan2688 4 місяці тому +17

    My female narcassist told me there wasn't a speed camera up the rd , as we'd been on the rd for 4hrs of driving ,I decided to speed to get home quicker,(as it was her hometown and I didn't nw the area) as I rounded the corner I hit a speed camera and boom I saw the flash and ,one week later I got a speeding fine,
    She laughed her head off as she thought it was hilarious, it was the only time I ever saw her really giggle and laugh,
    She also would moan at me that why hadn't I caught covid as she had got it from her school were she worked and had ago at me cos of it,
    I was always wrong, even if I proved a fact or something I had was correct she would shout and scream at me , !
    Bang on with your analysis, Jill.
    Didn't realise that she was malignant though,
    I had a narcassistic mother and middle sister so when I was abused by her presumed that this was normal,as I realise nw that I was abused by both my mother and sister also,
    Enjoyed this👍

    • @kathrynpearse3245
      @kathrynpearse3245 4 місяці тому

      They are looking for light to feed from. They hide behind a Star 🌟 or stars (spouse and/or children). Someone with a bright electromagnetic field. What you are dealing with is demonic entities. That narcissist most likely went to the darkside as a child. They were receptive to demons and are happy with their choice. The Bible uses the word "darkness" when describing them.

  • @warriormom5843
    @warriormom5843 4 місяці тому +13

    And as people start to call them out (ME!), the more frequently they run to their place of worship so that the community that they’ve been trying to snow sees them as having humility (that same community that they’ve been snowing that they’re a normal and decent part of society since targeting you from the very beginning-literally from the first phone call before the first date!!

  • @drumsticksusa
    @drumsticksusa 4 місяці тому +19

    In my case, a consummate Mal Narc derived so much supply from me alone that hiding the personality defect from others was far easier. Masking among friends and other normal contacts is expected, but minor narcissistic slip-ups, like rudeness to wait staff, were not displayed because the hyper-abuse was so intensely focused on me that the supply need was always satiated by a sole victim. If the Mal Narc discovers this as a tactic to improve their masking, you're in even more serious trouble convincing others of what you are dealing with in private.

  • @lisaatkinson6276
    @lisaatkinson6276 4 місяці тому +16

    My sister just described to a tee. It doesn’t get better as they enter older age, but only gets worse… much worse. Add vulnerable senior parent and inheritance in the mix, and it gets extremely toxic and dangerous because they want the money and think they are entitled to it. Siblings are only in the way.

    • @dubaiedge
      @dubaiedge 4 місяці тому +4

      Yep, horrible.

    • @tinalaursen8993
      @tinalaursen8993 3 місяці тому +2

      Yup. Describes my current and past situation with my brother. Your parents( if alive) may be in a precarious predicament especially if the sister takes control and the sister cuts off all other people from their lives. For their sake I recommend having some impartial authority watch over them.

    • @regaininglife9084
      @regaininglife9084 3 місяці тому +2

      This was my sister too.

    • @CindySchumacher-h2q
      @CindySchumacher-h2q 3 місяці тому +1

      My brothers never participated in caring for our mom so my sister took care of her mostly by herself for 16 years until she passed. She left her house to my sister and both of my brothers sued her for it and held up probate for three years out of spite. Her husband was dying of cancer and she ended up settling with them because it had already costs thousands. They have threatened her life multiple times and even tried to trick her into coming to the hospital when our aunt was dying so they could attack her at the hospital and again at the aunts funeral. I am afraid for her because the younger brother has CTE and severe anger issues and he lives 30 minutes away.

    • @truthtriumphant
      @truthtriumphant Місяць тому +2

      This is my brother..

  • @inaina4535
    @inaina4535 4 місяці тому +18

    I am autistic, so I could not tell anyone anything, which became lethal for me. I was stuck in myself. And that made the abuser go on and on....21 years before I committed suicide. But I'm still here.

    • @Mudpie68
      @Mudpie68 4 місяці тому +9

      You couldn’t have committed you attempted and thank God was unsuccessful you have a purpose in life tell your story! God bless! 🐝😊🌻

    • @inaina4535
      @inaina4535 4 місяці тому

      ❤​@@Mudpie68

    • @glendaruiz2477
      @glendaruiz2477 3 місяці тому

      Thank God you are here, I tried by pills when I was a teenager but I was saved and still through out my life my narcissistic mother kept tormenting me and I wanted to suicide many times but went and got help and went no contact, I'm so happy you are here, many blessings your way.

    • @kimmonks116
      @kimmonks116 3 місяці тому +3

      I'm autistic too and endured near 30 yrs before separation from covert narcissist, its shocking and very damaging, impossible to cope especially the latter few years 😒🥴

    • @inaina4535
      @inaina4535 3 місяці тому

      I understand your problem. I'm sorry you had to live through this shit😢!​@@kimmonks116

  • @persiamotorman
    @persiamotorman 4 місяці тому +20

    Yesterday, I had taken a taxi to Walmart. I had to wait outside for an hour for my return trip. A husband and wife got of their car and walked toward me (entrance of the store). All along the way I could see the two of them laughing and mocking me. I'm 60 and my energy level is not what it used to be. The extreme heat and long wait for the taxi took everything out of me, and I was literally holding myself up against the wall of the store. They thought this was funny! Just upon finally entering the store, the man put both his hands up and clapped like a seal and both of them laughed. So twisted that people think other people who are suffering is hilarious. I got their number the minute they behaved like that.

    • @RandyDecious
      @RandyDecious 4 місяці тому +7

      DONT LET THE BASTARDS GRIND UDOWN 💪 SIMPLETONS UR BETTER THEN THAT😊

    • @kelly450
      @kelly450 4 місяці тому

      Consider the source-
      "Walmart" shoppers-
      that store ATTRACTS WIERDO'S for some reason!!
      I'm sorry for their VERY CRUEL treatment of you-SO UNACCEPTABLE INAPPROPRIATE & CRUEL
      (I shop there too)
      I recommend home delivery if you can-I do that AVOIDING having to go there in person-
      Have a Blessed day🌷

    • @kelly450
      @kelly450 4 місяці тому

      Consider the source:
      "WALMART" shoppers
      This place ATTRACTS WIERDO'S for some reason-
      (I shop there too)-I'm sorry for their VERY CRUEL INAPPROPRIATE treatment of you-
      I recommend home delivery (if you can)
      I do this to AVOID going there if at all-
      Have a Blessed day🌷

    • @SuzyMartinez-f3n
      @SuzyMartinez-f3n 4 місяці тому +4

      Sick

    • @Hatbox948
      @Hatbox948 4 місяці тому +6

      Wow, that was really way out of line. So sorry!

  • @alienonion4636
    @alienonion4636 4 місяці тому +13

    My mom and brother to a T. And a number of others that I've just about had to surgically remove from my life like the cancers they really are.

  • @fireupyourheartfortruth
    @fireupyourheartfortruth 4 місяці тому +12

    Thank You Jill!😊❤ Prayers and Hugs sent to all here!

  • @VickiBee
    @VickiBee 4 місяці тому +3

    I was born to 2 of them.
    They go to their graves feeling nothing at all for you, feeling sorry for themselves alone.
    I have "non-accidental traumatic brain injury" because she gave it to me and I have medical records to prove it now.
    She didn't care when I confronted her about it. She said in a letter that my life "has been stormy since you were taken away by Children's Services."
    Children's Services didn't beat my head against the wall repeatedly and give me "non-accidental" TBIl, SHE did and cared in no way when I mentioned it to her.
    I had to force the neurologist to say I had "non-accidental" traumatic brain injury. Not even one of them wanted to call it brain injury from abuse. They didn't even want to consider it, but they admitted it when I asked if it's possible. I worked in health care. I knew it could happen, but I needed a neurologist to back it up.

  • @mendotafinest2714
    @mendotafinest2714 4 місяці тому +7

    I was involved with a female covert malignant narcissist. Very highly manipulative. Every interaction with her was a strategic methodical ploy from her, with either selfish intentions or just sadistic pleasure from my pain. I plead with every man, do not accept or tolerate any abuse from a woman just cus society has us believe true strength is ability to endure pain so we must be the rock for a woman. Not if she’s intentionally chipping away at rock.

  • @kikibaycoconut6467
    @kikibaycoconut6467 4 місяці тому +3

    You literally described my mother. Every single word you said sounds like her.

  • @heathersoper6923
    @heathersoper6923 4 місяці тому +3

    The abuse and rage has given me psychogenic tremor.

  • @sage_forensics_2261
    @sage_forensics_2261 4 місяці тому +31

    This was my mother. Mercifully, she passed away last summer--the anniversary is coming up next month. Her death was a relief. What's hard is that my father (a Covert Narc) made excuses for her, defended her, and allowed her to abuse and Scapegoat me my entire life. He joined in on it all, and they taught my younger sister to do the same. This was a preacher and his wife--my parents. I'm No Contact. Since her passing, my extended family is also buying my father's lies as I refuse to continue with the secrets and lies to cover up the abuse. As part of my grieving, I simply couldn't anymore. My mother was guilty and so was my father and sister of what they had done.
    So now, the family that promised to "be there for me" after her passing disappeared less than a month later. I have been shunned...at least I know where I stand. I'd rather be alone than with a bunch of fake people. That said, It is amazing how much sway someone so destructive has from the grave. I'm starting to rebuild my life, but as far as they're concerned? They will have to answer to God for what they have done. The betrayal has been so much more than grieving the loss of a parent...there are no words.

    • @cindyc
      @cindyc 4 місяці тому +5

      Completely understand 🤗🙏

    • @vickieardley2144
      @vickieardley2144 4 місяці тому +7

      oh my goodness that is EXACTLY my life I am sorry for you

    • @m.f.richardson1602
      @m.f.richardson1602 4 місяці тому +4

      Thanks for sharing ❤

    • @dubaiedge
      @dubaiedge 4 місяці тому +4

      Ouch, I felt this. Take care of yourself right now, firm in the awareness of the situation, & that you're walking the path of light, & they're not capable of that. 💪

    • @alexlaguna3656
      @alexlaguna3656 4 місяці тому +3

      Totally understand you as you are describing the dynamics I witness personally w my own family and extended family. They all want to live a lie or believe what the malignant narcs say naively which at this stage in my understanding of narcissism (I can write a PhD) it's almost like entertainment in that I can predict what will happen w whom so I just sit back and watch...I don't enjoy the show but it is intriguing to see behaviours in action at this point

  • @victoriam9319
    @victoriam9319 4 місяці тому +3

    You have described my father😶
    Thanks for this info.

  • @dubaiedge
    @dubaiedge 4 місяці тому +4

    Incredible situation happening for over a decade with a MN neighbor. Violent rage was so over the top a couple weeks ago. Now shes been exposed beyond second guessing, but I was the target, & the one who finally stood up to her. Witnesa stmts 💯 backed up what she actually did. She denied everything, completely fabricated outrageous lies about me despite of several witnesses to her behavior. She's pushing 70+, & *really thought she could get away with it.* Never experienced anyone like her ever, so came here to see the characteristics. They fit. Just, pure evil. The darkness to her goes through & through. Thanks for the info., very helpful. 🎉edit to say: that gleam in her eyes was *psychotic.*

  • @Free_Bird_Regina
    @Free_Bird_Regina 4 місяці тому +5

    So glad I found your channel

  • @michelleknapp9176
    @michelleknapp9176 Місяць тому

    I was with a covert malignant narcissist for a few years. I’ve been out of the relationship for six years now. You are absolutely right about them being dangerous. I’m lucky I got out alive.

  • @SST4SSG
    @SST4SSG 4 місяці тому +3

    I'm a dude who recently got rid of a male friend who I noticed got too much pleasure from others distress. Recounting what he overheard from their ordeals. Eventually I went NC when I saw too much evidence that he was a secret flying monkey for my hateful family of origin (whom i no longer speak to the 3 siblings of)

    • @latiivz
      @latiivz 2 місяці тому

      huge red flag, drop that friend and never look back.

  • @gma729
    @gma729 4 місяці тому +5

    I hope people learn from the Nightmare I went thru. From false imprisonment to Savage attacks on my home / property my X-gf due to. ( I believe ) her extreme childhood trauma of an absent mother and a biological father who used her as his own private sex toy from age 4-13. , she got herself into serious trouble w the law. She grabbed a butcher knife and her final rage was beyond the worse horror film you'd ever seen. After the police arrived and I ran for the door to the police, she later attacked the police tried to take their weapons. It was unbelievable. All for. ( misplaced car keys. ) Yesssssss misplaced car keys. She's facing a litany of Felonies and other charges. Ultimately she blames it all on me.. But in reality, the root of the cause was her father. He served nearly 20 yrs in Prison for his pedalphelia addiction, but it's his daughter and the people in her life that have suffered and will continue to suffer by the actions of her sadistically perverted father during her yrs. as a small child, til she became a teenager. Acute Childhood Trauma is generally the cause of a young person enveloping themselves into NPD. Though sometimes, some experts think it can be hereditary. She is posessed by Demonic forces I saw it in her eyes.. That day the Demon or Demons in her soul ran wild w terror and destruction. .

  • @donnavickery9623
    @donnavickery9623 4 місяці тому +1

    I have lived through this and it is awful !!! Thank you for making this video Jill !!!

  • @litadlita2458
    @litadlita2458 4 місяці тому +2

    OMGOODNESS 💯 spot on!

  • @mikesmith6594
    @mikesmith6594 4 місяці тому +9

    Think my father could be both Covert and Malignant.

  • @m.f.richardson1602
    @m.f.richardson1602 4 місяці тому +2

    You're the best.
    Thank you❤

  • @pwhite5411
    @pwhite5411 4 місяці тому +7

    Jill, can you explain the black eyes and the low guttural tone of voice that comes with the narcissistic rage? That was my mother when we were growing up. It was frigg’in frightening as a little kid.

  • @roderickconstantino5354
    @roderickconstantino5354 28 днів тому

    10+ years going through this, I’m barely starting on trying to protect myself. I’m desperate and I’m still in fact, in it now. I know my past nature of being passive, humble, and friendly has helped this; I just realized now. I’m constantly scouring the web, Written, video, AI and of course music; seems to barely keeping me a float. I do not know if I acquired severe depression; never spoke to anyone about in the past, even now I’m alone with no ears to tell, while she paints a bad picture of me with everyone. I’ve never went to therapy or get diagnosed. My life ending was always a distant fantasy that lingered in my mind. Everyday, I take these small positive things, desperately trying to keep my spirits up.

  • @jeffwinters5362
    @jeffwinters5362 Місяць тому

    Being in a long term relationship with an NPD, BPD, and HPD evolves into eroding you into what feels like being in a realistic version of the game of “Battleship”- your hyper aware and hyper sensitive constantly, strategically having to anticipate and protect yourself from the next painful injury, lie, betrayal, smear, accusation, and infidelity. You anticipate in anxiety when your going to get struck next when’s the next bomb going to drop. Each ship is like a a part of you. One is your self-esteem, one is your feelings, one is your reputation - J.W.

  • @VickiBee
    @VickiBee Місяць тому

    We have a malignant narcissist sitting on death row.
    The first thing he said was, “Whatever sentence I get she (his mom) should get, too, because she made me this way.
    He also told his victims that they HAVE to forgive him based on what christians are told about forgiveness.
    Even his attorney looked embarrassed. The judge told him he was done talking and threatened a gag order because he kept plowing right along, saying more vicious things.

  • @ProfitCatalystSynergy
    @ProfitCatalystSynergy 4 місяці тому +1

    Hey there, thanks for sharing. I have been subscribed to your channel for a few days. However, the fact that the narcissists don't ever apologize, no remorse, not ever wrong with anything, no accountability, no responsibility, no conscience... These are not only applicable to malignant narcissists. These traits apply to all types in the spectrum. We have a severe case where my fiancee's daughter eventually turned the entire family against us, and according to all my thorough research she is an Overt Narcissist (vulnerable type). She has shown a few signs of malicious intent but not many times. She once said in a "lighthearted or funny" way that she would poison someone who she feels gets in her way. I have a lot of evidence from 10 UA-cam videos, four websites describing all the types of narcissists, and a four-month long WhatsApp conversation with her and her daughter where I added my own notes referencing back to the videos and websites. If you know all the types quite well, I would love it if you could just study it and give me your opinion about everything.

  • @sherrydickie8459
    @sherrydickie8459 4 місяці тому +1

    This is my daughter to a T. She takes delight in hurting me. She was so jealous of the loving relationship I had with my granddaughter (her child) that she created a smear campaign to keep us apart. I haven't seen my 7 year old granddaughter in two long excruciating years. I am going through the court system to try to get visitation with her.

  • @MichaelRusso-j7g
    @MichaelRusso-j7g 4 місяці тому +2

    I was. Thank God I got away.

  • @trishiegirl311
    @trishiegirl311 4 місяці тому +2

    Kind of sad this sounds like my late father. I don’t think he necessarily was sadistic, but definitely had no problem at all putting my sister and I in heartbreaking situations and didn’t seem to take how we felt into consideration at all.

  • @bellaluv1070
    @bellaluv1070 4 місяці тому +2

    I have a narcissistic mother who has rallied the entire family against me with exaggerated lies. There is slight truth to a few of her accusations, but her reasoning is purely bullshit.
    She started this against me as a child, when I spoke up about being molested. I clearly remember it, and was confused on how I could " lie again" since it was the ONLY time I had spoken up..
    I'm dealing tho..❤

  • @meiw8358
    @meiw8358 2 місяці тому

    Thank you for this film. My biological sister who is 8 years older than me, and she is a malignant narcissist, she beats me since my nanny no longer work for my parents, and she warned me don’t tell parents, if tell get harder and more beat. When I was married she asked my husband to have sex with her, my husband rejected her, and told me, then she and my mother who is a covered narcissistic together forced me with mentally financially force to make me and my husband divorced, after 10 years long, I was engaged, then she beaten me at least for 20 minutes till I was unconscious , until she was tired and then when I had the strength to get up, I was bleeding from head to toes, I was going to police department to take pictures and make notes for if someday I have disappeared she would be the one to ask where my body went. But my mother strongly against and kneeled to me promised me she will have her apologize to me , My mother took me went to urgent care found right side one of my rib was broken. She yelled “ I don’t have a man you can’t have one! Mom dad mad a big mistake to have you , I should inherit all the houses and money, you should die!” On and on till till I was 53, she did all kinds of vicious evil things to my work and apartment to me, and yelled will beating me up again, I left my mother’s cult, and I do not tell my mother went to court filed restraining order, my mother and her went crazy, she was stalking me, my mother called me 30 times each day and went to my apartment to harassing me to drop the restraining order, I was crying every single day, severe depressed, if was not have my two babies I could be no strength to live, I thought I got two choice, one is allowing them to torture me to death, one is torture me to mental institution. I thought over, then I moved to another state with my daughter, left my son in NM because the police department hired him just wait till he is old enough to 21 year old. I left the dangerous place being called home. Then the malignant made flying monkeys calling threatening me with death consequences to move back to NM drop the restraining order, I remained disagree. I got a job, and went to PVCC college for my degree, then my mother called my husband for talk to me, I accepted the call , my mother asked my phone number and address, was lying to me swear to God will not give my information to the evil sister, then after one week, I got a court services to go to court in NM, I canceled two classes, went to NM and hired a lawyer, lived in a motel, went to court, she slandered me in front of Judge said that I was driving my car run three circles around her house, and jumped up and down slapped her face, Judge asked me , I said I am studying in AZ college, and every Monday to Friday drive my daughter to school, I have my calendar for each day what time, where , when, what I was doing, all have journaled on my calendar book, I have professors, daughter school cameras to proof I have never come to NM since I went to AZ. Judge made judgment and order, the evil will never allowed to sue me for drop the restraining order. Thank you for your channel, I come to learn everyday, to healing myself.

  • @dirkdigler5190
    @dirkdigler5190 4 місяці тому +1

    I was in a relationship with a woman, i didn't know what was wrong with her at the time. I thought she was crazy and evil, she ruined everything including my long term job. She started threatening me and I felt she was testing the water to dee if she could get away with physically attacking me, i knew she was dangerous, when I left i went and stayed with my sister, she was intimidated by her and wouldn't abuse me in front of her. She showed up at my house once after we hadn't seen each other in 3 years and said she wanted to have sex. It was bizarre to me. The first red flag i can remember was she hated small dogs, not that she didn't prefer them she hated them for existing.

  • @mncat7034
    @mncat7034 3 місяці тому +2

    This is my ex, calculated and highly deceptive. Very dangerous.

  • @jameslacroix1028
    @jameslacroix1028 4 місяці тому +2

    Did you see that recent interview with that john paul miller he was about to smile when he was asked if his wife was murdered

    • @jangunning1676
      @jangunning1676 3 місяці тому +1

      Yes, that was so twisted! I saw that! It was intense, his smile and then the held back rage. Justice for Mica!!! ✝️🙏💜💜

  • @Cod12Osc
    @Cod12Osc 4 місяці тому +2

    Define rage ... different kinds of rage. ... would silent treatment be a form of rage?

    • @theenlightenedtarget
      @theenlightenedtarget  4 місяці тому +2

      Sure, that’s essentially how covert narcissists “rage.” However, what I’m referring to here, with the malignant narcissist, they usually violently physically rage. Meaning tons of physical intimidation, screaming and yelling filled with extreme emotional and verbal abuse. My father was a MN and his rages were violent and extreme.

  • @boltsdluna
    @boltsdluna 4 місяці тому +2

    Unfortunately my pops extreme Narcissist the man very good too good the time i exposed him to everyone i was rejected by the whole family of hell even the codependents been a lone wolf since.

  • @foxiefair123
    @foxiefair123 4 місяці тому

    Sounds exactly like the person who just dumped me because I yelled back at him because he was verbally abusing me. He actually considered that “drama” on my part. He callously discarded me and apparently all of the loving things he told me were lies. Just like that he cut me off with no feelings whatsoever.

  • @bizarretruth...
    @bizarretruth... 4 місяці тому +2

    I live with the narcissists cos of circumstances but I am in the community gathering enough knowledge about narcissism as much as I can and I went low contact with the narcissists , now that the narcissist has no other way of getting supply , their latest form of devaluation and discard is telling you you stink , they are getting supply out of that , that's an emotionally abuse right there gaslight and devaluation if I'm not mistaken , I'm 28 years old trust me I'd know if I stank cos I got the nose for it can you imagine asking a 28 years old if he took his bath today or not these people are so grandiose , and even if I didn't have my bath in a day that doesn't make me a garbage can , these people will say and do anything just to get supply and make themselves feel better , really disgusting people .

  • @Melvina1975
    @Melvina1975 2 місяці тому

    I learned the hard way a litttle to late😥which I could turn back the hands of time because I would NOT have given him the time of day.

  • @IzabelaWaniek-i1x
    @IzabelaWaniek-i1x 21 день тому

    Leave them in silence.

  • @latinalife2458
    @latinalife2458 4 місяці тому +1

    You describe my ex!

  • @Doit_becomeit1228
    @Doit_becomeit1228 4 місяці тому +1

    Any advice on how to stop contact with a malignant narcissist? My dad is one. We have had low contact most of my life until recently. In a moment where I was vulnerable, he felt like he could take the opportunity to manipulate me. I didn’t say anything as I was still processing, but understood the moment. He also justified a woman demise to DV. I see how my family on his side enables his behavior and no longer want contact with any of them. How do I stop contact safely as he knows where I live?

    • @theenlightenedtarget
      @theenlightenedtarget  4 місяці тому +2

      Every situation is different, so it’s difficult to give advice when I don’t know the specifics, however, in general you want to do it gradually so as not to alarm the MN. Start slowly implementing the gray rock methods, gradually back away until you eventually accomplish complete no contact. Good luck.

    • @Crystalquartz964
      @Crystalquartz964 4 місяці тому +1

      ​@theenlightenedtarget I "learned" to gray rock with my father from a young age, in order to protect myself. He showed absolutely no interest in me or my life whatsoever. The rage went on for hours and he used to have spit flying out of his mouth. He would also stick his tongue out and bite it .... and scream like a toddler

  • @meloneymoore8856
    @meloneymoore8856 4 місяці тому

    These are Absolute FACT about them!!! ⚖️⚖️⚖️⚖️-Xclusyph Icon

  • @Stardusted1
    @Stardusted1 4 місяці тому

    You remind me of the actress Anna Gunn. ❤️

  • @AngelEyes-xm7el
    @AngelEyes-xm7el 3 місяці тому

    My son in laws mother decided that my GrandDaughter needed to know" your Grandma cheated on your Grandpa that is why they divorced " i was divorced back in 2000. Her son was not even married to my daughter. I told my Grandaughter the truth. I was in counseling for 9 months. He agreed to go but never showed up. That is not cheating. My kids have been exposed to my ex narcs lies for 25 years post divorce. Now I am the bad guy one. Yet my daughter hated her father and bought a house at 19 years old. Now i am estranged from them. There choice. I was verbally and physically abused. He used pressure points

  • @tinalaursen8993
    @tinalaursen8993 3 місяці тому

    This is my brother in a video. A rather sad and pathetic shell of a human who is watching everything slip away that used to feed his empty soul.
    Now that our parents are gone and I am his only relative in the country there's nothing left to use against me.
    Unfortunately for him I have had 64 years to learn from him and my parents on how to make someone miserable. Since he has exerted so much effort to smear me and so many have chosen to believe him I figure I might as well be the part.
    I have noticed that when an empath gets to a place where they divorce themselves from their emotions such a person can not only be unyielding but exceptionally cold. I guess if he wants to cry victim I will make very certain he is one first. 🤫

  • @Bigdod81
    @Bigdod81 4 місяці тому

    20 years I dealt with my husband sis. But he dosent let her go he protected her with whole being not to get exposed. I got sick 5 years ago. Story of my life. She’s very pitty.

  • @MrsEd-fh2gs
    @MrsEd-fh2gs 4 місяці тому +1

    (6:08) You just described every other person in my neighborhood, which is a shame because it always wasn't that way, at least not to today's extreme.
    The economic fallout from the pandemic has caused an influx of new people of all walks of life to come into the neighborhood and feel entitled to litter upon, vandalize and/or take your property because in their minds, you don't deserve your property they do. Or if they can't have anything nice then neither should you.

  • @taqimahmood8728
    @taqimahmood8728 2 місяці тому

    I know a man married to a malignant narcissist woman and he made her pet , he is an empath

  • @rickybobby5736
    @rickybobby5736 4 місяці тому

    OMG !! That's Trudeau!!

  • @sarahtait1775
    @sarahtait1775 4 місяці тому

    At what age can someone become a malignant narcissistic? I know a small child who checks every box she lists in the video.

  • @Mrsvragica666
    @Mrsvragica666 4 місяці тому +1

    Thank you, Ms. Wise. Your videos have helped me understand my experience more clearly.
    I know they are rotten to the core and would gladly throw people under the bus. A loving person one second and a derailed psycho the next. It is so difficult to wrap your head around it when you long for their good version. But then, it is only an act.

  • @Real2k25
    @Real2k25 4 місяці тому +4

    Are they demons or is this a disorder

    • @debrakarr996
      @debrakarr996 4 місяці тому

      @Real2k25 it is a disorder....with that being said some do have demons attached to them...they are lead by those demons that is why they are so dangerous....really if ur with one rather the disease or demon induced who cares they are all evil and love only them self. U better live for u not them get out if ur with one. It's not safe for u. They will destroy everything about u from the inside out. Prayers

  • @kat-75
    @kat-75 3 місяці тому

    Them >>>>>🗑

  • @auntiesam7583
    @auntiesam7583 4 місяці тому

    #verbal #emotional #psychological #geographical #social #professional #financial … & what’s the word for making home intolerable & your new, isolation in a city on the other side of the planet hateful?

  • @GJCHSMM
    @GJCHSMM 4 місяці тому +1

    9:18 big source of cognitive dissonance

  • @privateprivate8366
    @privateprivate8366 4 місяці тому

    You’ve hit the mail on the head, for me. I’ve dealt with 2. Former sister and former friend.
    When you spoke about how they treat restaurant staff, yeah, it was one of two reasons I got rid of this “friend”. The last time we went to a restaurant, she practically wanted the staff and manager to bow down to her. She was probably thinking, “Lucky you, that you’re here with me! I know how to stomp on these people and get us free meals!” I actually sat there, quietly and with a placid face thinking, “We will NEVER be seen ANYWHERE AGAIN.” I also put “friend” in quotes, because the other reason I got rid of her, was because, although she accepted payment of taking her out to restaurants for helping me occasionally, with clearing clutter from the house I inherited, she was making moves, behind the scenes, so she could move in, without any discussion with me. The closest she got and how I found out, was that she said she had to be out of her apartment by a certain time. My thought was, “Where we’re you going?” But, I think she “decided”, “I’m going to move into your house, decide what I’ll pay, if I pay, be walking around right above you, and you’re not going to do a thing about it!” Guess what!?
    The other malignant narcissist carries all of the other traits mentioned. Probably thinks they’re above the judge, in court, too. Because she’ll lie about things she already told the truth about, to the court and police, even when there’s emails and video. An utter NUT JOB!

  • @exposingfalseteacherreneer6821
    @exposingfalseteacherreneer6821 2 місяці тому

    It's COULDN'T care less. Just sayin'... However it reminds me of a very revealing photo of Meghan Markle on the balcony. An elderly guard frll off his horse and Kate was obviously very concerned for the man and Harry was too -- and Meghan? She's behind them and had to cover her mouth to conceal her glee. She thought it was funny! A picture is worth a thousand words as they say...

  • @songwolf108
    @songwolf108 4 місяці тому +1

    We learned to tolerate the intolerable, those of us raised by narcs (& pedophiles).
    My ex I believe was not only a grandiose narc but because he enjoyed setting traps on the subway so strangers get hurt or fall on the tracks, yes that’s sociopathic. No one believed it cuz they only saw the narcissism.
    To this day when I hear someone was hurt on the subway I get sick to my stomach!
    Bless us all & continue healing🪷