It reminds me that so many people will never feel the true freedom of quitting a job without having the next one right to come. I quit 4 times in my life and only one time I already had a new job afterwards and that felt somehow unnecessary and even pissed me off at some point. Taking your time will almost always be the best option. At least for 'seekers' like some of us are.
thank you for raising this point! this has been so present for me. this period of unemployment is so freeing for me - but this is a new experience. i also didn’t have anything lined up after grad school and it was terrifying. I think the societal expectation on me to have the job title - the thing I’m doing was so strong. I fell so deep into shame. And it’s because I didn’t know who I was outside of other’s definitions / my obligations. We’re told we are what we do - it is your social identity. And now I’m like oh no honey, you do what you gotta do to be who you are. Claiming that - no obligations no hierarchy is true freedom 💗
Do what you feel. To be honest I'm working a "corporate" job now but it's my 16th job at 26, and it's by far the best job I've had so far. Any job I've had that really made me feel miserable I left freely. Sometimes I had other work lined up, sometimes not. My work has only gotten better by being willing to leave. Sometimes it's hard to leave. It's totally normal to feel bad or be anxious or second guess your choice. It might even feel like a fatal mistake depending on how things pan out, but at least you will feel alive instead of trapped in hell. At the end of the day, while it's almost never true for individuals, work should be impersonal. You have nothing to feel bad about for leaving a job. A company will use you efficiently, it's fine to do the same.
Thanks for your wise comments. Agreed non attachment is key to moving on and moving up (whatever that means to you). I am driven by passion and care, so I will continue to seek out work that adds meaning and depth to my life. I am glad impersonality works for you though.
@@one_hot_witch I totally understand being attached to the people you serve and the work you do with/for them (my last job was in a refugee center), I meant attachment to an employer and the feeling of disloyalty/betrayal/failure that often comes with leaving them.
that’s an interesting distinction you make. for me, i experience my work as the people involved and the cause we are striving towards. and i see all people - colleagues, management … as people. i could see how the disembodied idea of “employer” could help one stay detached. i have always struggled with recognizing abstract concepts of authority though … “manager”, “parent” … and admittedly experienced friction where the people claiming these titles weren’t able to earn my respect. alas.
you seem so spiritually in line with your emotions but you cry a lot. It was a corporate job, not your life's work. The day I quit, I'll walk out. period.
@@christopherhurley8694 I would counter I am spiritually aligned BECAUSE I cry a lot. I experience my emotions fully in order to let them pass and move on with life. They may be more intense and veer towards grief more than yours would. But so it is.
You did the right thing separating from that job. Things will work out for the better.
It reminds me that so many people will never feel the true freedom of quitting a job without having the next one right to come. I quit 4 times in my life and only one time I already had a new job afterwards and that felt somehow unnecessary and even pissed me off at some point. Taking your time will almost always be the best option. At least for 'seekers' like some of us are.
thank you for raising this point! this has been so present for me. this period of unemployment is so freeing for me - but this is a new experience. i also didn’t have anything lined up after grad school and it was terrifying. I think the societal expectation on me to have the job title - the thing I’m doing was so strong. I fell so deep into shame. And it’s because I didn’t know who I was outside of other’s definitions / my obligations. We’re told we are what we do - it is your social identity. And now I’m like oh no honey, you do what you gotta do to be who you are. Claiming that - no obligations no hierarchy is true freedom 💗
Do what you feel. To be honest I'm working a "corporate" job now but it's my 16th job at 26, and it's by far the best job I've had so far. Any job I've had that really made me feel miserable I left freely. Sometimes I had other work lined up, sometimes not. My work has only gotten better by being willing to leave. Sometimes it's hard to leave. It's totally normal to feel bad or be anxious or second guess your choice. It might even feel like a fatal mistake depending on how things pan out, but at least you will feel alive instead of trapped in hell. At the end of the day, while it's almost never true for individuals, work should be impersonal. You have nothing to feel bad about for leaving a job. A company will use you efficiently, it's fine to do the same.
Thanks for your wise comments. Agreed non attachment is key to moving on and moving up (whatever that means to you). I am driven by passion and care, so I will continue to seek out work that adds meaning and depth to my life. I am glad impersonality works for you though.
@@one_hot_witch I totally understand being attached to the people you serve and the work you do with/for them (my last job was in a refugee center), I meant attachment to an employer and the feeling of disloyalty/betrayal/failure that often comes with leaving them.
that’s an interesting distinction you make. for me, i experience my work as the people involved and the cause we are striving towards. and i see all people - colleagues, management … as people. i could see how the disembodied idea of “employer” could help one stay detached. i have always struggled with recognizing abstract concepts of authority though … “manager”, “parent” … and admittedly experienced friction where the people claiming these titles weren’t able to earn my respect. alas.
you seem so spiritually in line with your emotions but you cry a lot. It was a corporate job, not your life's work. The day I quit, I'll walk out. period.
@@christopherhurley8694 I would counter I am spiritually aligned BECAUSE I cry a lot. I experience my emotions fully in order to let them pass and move on with life. They may be more intense and veer towards grief more than yours would. But so it is.