16:23 My Grandparents started sleeping in the same bed and as they got older they got two twin beds in the same room and when they moved into an apartment they had separate rooms. It wasn't because they didn't love each other it was because of health issues. My other Grandparents never had separate beds, they shared a bed up until Grandpa passed away in his sleep while they were taking their mid-morning naps. OP needs a support group like AA.
A couple my grandparents were friends with slept in separate rooms for pretty much their entire marriage. The husband got up at 4:30am every day to go swimming before work (and later when he retired just out of habit), and the wife was a night owl and liked to stay up later in the evenings. My grandparents slept apart for the last 10 or so years before my grandma died because my grandma had to sleep in a lift chair, and my grandpa slept in bed. (Though honestly, he fell asleep in his lazy boy out in the living room a lot of the time and didn't end up actually going to his bed until the middle of the night, lol)
They put me on Effexor... Now that I'm going through menopause, I became extremely irritable, emotional, and so much more!! The doctor double the Effexor... It really does help to have a diagnosis... I now know I have a number of medical issue to come to a new diagnosis of fibromyalgia... Please be well...
46:10 Last story, I don't think OP is a child, or at least not as young as you're thinking. He's describing the evolution of his friendships with A - F from the moment they met. English isn't his first or even second language, so the way he writes isn't very natural. They met when he was quite young (A around 7, B and C around 8, etc.) When he talks about name calling, he's talking about the familiar language you addressed. His friends used this familiar language toward him, but he doesn't use it back. In Spanish the only separation is familiar/unfamiliar. But in OPs language, the terms his friends were using can literally be considered insults.
Last story reminded me of being a teenager and being afraid that if you do not talk to a friend for a week or so your friend will misunderstand, then our friendship will be over and they will forever be your enemy. Nowadays we ghost each other for years, and we still are friends.
A couple i know even has 2 different appartments close to each other. He snores like crazy, there is a way to fix that but it would change his voice drasticly. So the decided against it. They work very different hours and the appartment they lived together (the one he lives now) is very small and has 2 rooms. So it was also hard to sleep anyway. So she rented a place nearby where she can work and sleep if she needs to. They are great together and it works perfect.
20:34 OP needs to ask himself what he needs to do to forgive himself, and at what point has he done enough? He's likely going to carry that guilt for the rest of his life - just like anyone else who's hurt people they care about - but that doesn't mean he cannot make ammends for what he's done wrong. We're all people who act out and make stupid decisions sometimes, but those are the moments we learn the most from. I hope OP comes to terms with the entire situation and learns to forgive himself and reconnect with his wife, so he can cherish her as she deserves.
Comfort you??? I'm going to confront you lolol Edit: I take SSRI(s) man. When I realized how "normal" people feel, wooowwwweeeee. Total game changer. Everything has been easier to maintain and much easier for my brain to function. I got MDD. Meds don't replace therapy but it can go along beautifully. Genuinely, I'd rather be on the SSRI for the rest of my life than be in the dark place I've been in since I was like 8 years old. Jordan Lucas, "I'm Sorry" was the vibe essentially.
Some peoples bodies don’t produce the chemicals that balance your moods and emotions there are some people that need medication to fix the chemical imbalance
I’m just here to say noooooooo to letting babies cry it out. Just no no no. Don’t do that to your baby or yourself. There’s a lot of research on this and there are other ways.
LOLI was on the internet forums when I was like 11 years old and I was born in the early early now.Things are ten times easier with apps and phones and everything😂😂😂
Fun story. In the begj ni g of our marraige , we suffered My husband liked to lay down, and sleet in the same t position the whole night. Me , on the otherhand cannot sleep still. I also like to be held, and hold him. So one night I snuggled myself nearer, he shifted up, repeat The next moment , I woke up from him cursing loudly.😂😂 He had fallen off on the other side of the bed! 😂 After that night we decided to change on which side of the bed we sleep. The theory that if one is right handed and the other left handed and you put the the "strong side" in the middel 2 people will walk a straighter line when lost in the desert / wild. ❤ It worked!. I also tended to feel cold , when tired, and he said that my skin was hot then. I said but my core is cold🎉. My mother told me my father was the same. So from jumping when touched by cold feet/ hands over years, we changed from wearing socks , pulling away to warm each other's cold limbs , before he passed away.
Depression medication is the worst thing to take The addiction that comes from it and withdrawals will put you into psychosis do not do SSRIs or SSIs if you do not need to
The last one.. it started when they were kids and the story progressed through the years.. I think.. that's what it sounded like to me. So maybe teens by now? 🤷🏻♀️
16:23 My Grandparents started sleeping in the same bed and as they got older they got two twin beds in the same room and when they moved into an apartment they had separate rooms. It wasn't because they didn't love each other it was because of health issues. My other Grandparents never had separate beds, they shared a bed up until Grandpa passed away in his sleep while they were taking their mid-morning naps.
OP needs a support group like AA.
A couple my grandparents were friends with slept in separate rooms for pretty much their entire marriage. The husband got up at 4:30am every day to go swimming before work (and later when he retired just out of habit), and the wife was a night owl and liked to stay up later in the evenings. My grandparents slept apart for the last 10 or so years before my grandma died because my grandma had to sleep in a lift chair, and my grandpa slept in bed. (Though honestly, he fell asleep in his lazy boy out in the living room a lot of the time and didn't end up actually going to his bed until the middle of the night, lol)
When I was diagnosed with pmdd I finally realised I don't actually hate myself. Just getting a diagnosis is so liberating
They put me on Effexor... Now that I'm going through menopause, I became extremely irritable, emotional, and so much more!! The doctor double the Effexor... It really does help to have a diagnosis... I now know I have a number of medical issue to come to a new diagnosis of fibromyalgia... Please be well...
46:10 Last story, I don't think OP is a child, or at least not as young as you're thinking. He's describing the evolution of his friendships with A - F from the moment they met. English isn't his first or even second language, so the way he writes isn't very natural. They met when he was quite young (A around 7, B and C around 8, etc.) When he talks about name calling, he's talking about the familiar language you addressed. His friends used this familiar language toward him, but he doesn't use it back. In Spanish the only separation is familiar/unfamiliar. But in OPs language, the terms his friends were using can literally be considered insults.
Yeah, I could follow it and agree with what you said. I don't think OP was TAH. Sounds like they stood up for themselves.
Last story reminded me of being a teenager and being afraid that if you do not talk to a friend for a week or so your friend will misunderstand, then our friendship will be over and they will forever be your enemy. Nowadays we ghost each other for years, and we still are friends.
Mood stabilizers are the best! I'm a mess without my mood stabilizer. It honestly keeps me sane.
A couple i know even has 2 different appartments close to each other. He snores like crazy, there is a way to fix that but it would change his voice drasticly. So the decided against it. They work very different hours and the appartment they lived together (the one he lives now) is very small and has 2 rooms. So it was also hard to sleep anyway. So she rented a place nearby where she can work and sleep if she needs to. They are great together and it works perfect.
That's not how it works with inheritance. If you don't commingle the money, it's not part of the divorce.
20:34 OP needs to ask himself what he needs to do to forgive himself, and at what point has he done enough? He's likely going to carry that guilt for the rest of his life - just like anyone else who's hurt people they care about - but that doesn't mean he cannot make ammends for what he's done wrong. We're all people who act out and make stupid decisions sometimes, but those are the moments we learn the most from. I hope OP comes to terms with the entire situation and learns to forgive himself and reconnect with his wife, so he can cherish her as she deserves.
I need more positive reddit stories.
My parents stopped sleeping in the same bed when I was 8yrs old...I'm 34...they just like it that way
Comfort you??? I'm going to confront you lolol
Edit:
I take SSRI(s) man. When I realized how "normal" people feel, wooowwwweeeee. Total game changer.
Everything has been easier to maintain and much easier for my brain to function. I got MDD.
Meds don't replace therapy but it can go along beautifully.
Genuinely, I'd rather be on the SSRI for the rest of my life than be in the dark place I've been in since I was like 8 years old.
Jordan Lucas, "I'm Sorry" was the vibe essentially.
Happy Friday
Some peoples bodies don’t produce the chemicals that balance your moods and emotions there are some people that need medication to fix the chemical imbalance
I’m just here to say noooooooo to letting babies cry it out. Just no no no. Don’t do that to your baby or yourself. There’s a lot of research on this and there are other ways.
I think the first red flag he need more help is what his dad did. They say it is hereditary.
Antidepressants truly changed my life.
LOLI was on the internet forums when I was like 11 years old and I was born in the early early now.Things are ten times easier with apps and phones and everything😂😂😂
40:51 wtf did I just listen to??? 😲
😂me asf when I was 11-12
Fun story. In the begj ni g of our marraige , we suffered My husband liked to lay down, and sleet in the same t position the whole night. Me , on the otherhand cannot sleep still. I also like to be held, and hold him. So one night I snuggled myself nearer, he shifted up, repeat The next moment , I woke up from him cursing loudly.😂😂 He had fallen off on the other side of the bed! 😂 After that night we decided to change on which side of the bed we sleep. The theory that if one is right handed and the other left handed and you put the the "strong side" in the middel 2 people will walk a straighter line when lost in the desert / wild. ❤ It worked!. I also tended to feel cold , when tired, and he said that my skin was hot then. I said but my core is cold🎉. My mother told me my father was the same. So from jumping when touched by cold feet/ hands over years, we changed from wearing socks , pulling away to warm each other's cold limbs , before he passed away.
I also did squats and my 🍑 and legs hurt a lot😂😂😂
Depression medication is the worst thing to take The addiction that comes from it and withdrawals will put you into psychosis do not do SSRIs or SSIs if you do not need to
Never let a baby cry it out it teaches them they cant rely on you
It can also lead to attachment disorders.
5:18 SήB
The last one.. it started when they were kids and the story progressed through the years.. I think.. that's what it sounded like to me. So maybe teens by now? 🤷🏻♀️
First, anyways off the top I can see why she asked for a divorce 😭