WOULD YOU TAKE YOUR BABY TO BOARDING SCHOOL IN KINDERGARTEN? | AIRTEL
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- When it comes to taking children to boarding school, for some families, it's a discipline issue and for others, the parents just don't have enough time to help their children grow. Sometimes it's even a school policy.
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Is your child in boarding school? What influenced you to take this decision?
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When it comes to taking children to boarding school, for some families, it's a discipline issue and for others, the parents just don't have enough time to help their children grow. Sometimes it's even a school policy.
What about you?
Is your child in boarding school? What influenced you to take this decision?
We can't wait to hear from you! Let us know in the comments.
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We only have a few years to mold our children into the people we want them to be, parents let's normalize slowing down for our children. We won't get these initial years back. Careers are for the rest of our lives, our children's foundational years are not.
Noooww..
I went to boarding school in p. 4 my other sister was in p. 2 then baby class. Our mam packed us bulunji 😢aaaaahhh. Not that she had no time but......" hhmmm then our father had just gotten a second wife soo everything bad was happening" my mam didn't want us to see her struggling and going through depression then.
So in her own words now that we are grown " I wouldn't let you go hungry because I had no money and your dad was more focused on the new family. I was sure in boarding school you had breakfast, lunch and dinner. 😢😭.
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I love the way Angie talks with classiness and grace.
I like Angie too. She is very graceful , gentle spirited, wise and eloquent.
I agree with Rosette, involving children in the decisions your making on their behalf is important. We underestimate talking to our children
They grow up and feel involved. Like they actually belong to the family
Bravo Rosette!
I went to bording school at a tender age until after high school and I missed a lot especially in building my relationship with my mum. After high school we (my mum and I) realised we had no relationship. During school holidays we barely spent time together because she was busy with work. Due to that I can't take my child to bording, probably in high school but not guaranteed. On the flip side, I appreciate that I matured up early and I'm a very responsible girl...
When I had my son though early and unplanned I knew that I wanted it different for him. I have chosen a career path that allows me to be present in my childs life fully. He is now 12 and I love it
We are sisters darling. I remember leaving a job afyer working for three days and realised i was expectant. Company policy would offer maternity leave and benefits to only those who had spent atleast 2yrs. My baby needed me so i chose a different carreer path that was favourable.
Your special, and their blessed
I hear you! It's important to be self aware and make different decisions if need be.
Thank you dear, this is exactly my point. By S.6, i could see the much love My mum had for me but to me it was past bonding time and now she is gone. I agree with you!
Well said
Pumla's Wisdom ❤. The fact that she does further research prior the show leaves me in Awe❤. Thank you lady for sharing with us your Wisdom 🫂. We actually don't deserve you sweetie 😢
Rahma...what I don't deserve is these your kind words. Thank you.
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35:15 This is an interesting topic. I went to boarding school in p.6 because certain events happened and I didn't have someone to do the daily school runs and supervision. I experienced a certain level of trauma and abandonment that I cannot describe. Seeing those children in p.1 I kept wondering how they felt. Personally, I became so independent that I don't form deep friendships. I learnt to survive and do things on my own. What Pumla is talking about, that's me. Survival mode, scarcity mentality are things I see in my life. But to be fair, I can't conclusively say it was the boarding school part. It was everything else around me😂😂😂😂😂
But at the same time, certain home environments are so toxic that even if a child is in day school, they will still get damaged. Many parents are working long hours. There are many children being raised by domestic staff who have abused them in many ways. At the end of the day, May God protect all children ❤
You said it all…
Piggybacking onto Angie's point,in the 70s/80s/early 90s, not only was attending boarding school a privilege, but it was also prestigious & these schools, esp the private ones excelled academically.
Also, in those eras, the civil/political unrest in the country was unmatched. Without notice,unrest in the city popped off frm 0-100 in a hot minute on any given day.
Parents constantly lived with the fear of,
" if I drop off ma kids this mng,will I be able to pick them up in the evening,let alone be able to get home safely?"
So parents felt that their kids were safer in boarding sch as the element of daily sch dropoffs/pickups was nolonger in the equation.
However, the school administrators took adv of that "security" factor & run the schools like medieval juvenile detention centers with their rigid discipline that no parent dared to question. This in turn bred kids who feared but didn't respect authority. (leaning into Pumla's point of meekiness/timid).
At a certain prestigious,private girls' primary school, the girls only felt like they would breathe whenever the HM(white nun)went home (Ireland)for the summer... trauma much?
These boarding schools presented a case of running frm the physical storm outside, only to encounter more danger(mental & psychological) in the ark u've been sent to for safety.
IMO,the option of boarding schools for secondary yes, but primary boarding schools shld not even exist at all.
I agree with Rosette. Child participation is paramount in decision making considering the age and maturity of the child. The discussion should be child friendly.
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I enjoyed boarding school ☺️I was even the one wanted boarding school from primary 5 but mine was different I wanted it because I saw my Dad taking my sis to F1 outside the country(Malawi)so I couldn’t allow that to stay alone😂😜😜😜though after reaching there ooh my goodness I enjoyed all my Catholics schools😜.But for me my enjoyment was going outside my country(Tanzania) and finally I came to Uganda to finish my Alevel at Rubaga Girls😍ooh I enjoyed my school life and my Dad took me to all catholic school👏🏽and those are his schools.But I thank God I have never gone to any wrong school🙏🏾,the school condition ,the environment was so favoured for me and the good thing what I have learned once you are a foreigner to a certain country there is some love u get from the hosting country people🥰🥰I enjoyed Malawi and Uganda the most😍.This made me to enjoy my life most at MAKERERE university🥰🥰🥰.Thank you Bump love
Life is too short, kids grow quickly.... I personally don't want to miss any moment with them....Survival life u described is descouraging....
The way I like being with my children. Seeing her every day is the best joy that I can ever have.
Mercy I hope you read this. Long reply alert! It is well. Wow, one topic and so much to unpack. Thank you ladies as usual for the insightful thoughts. I see a lot of the things and I know why my sister (who went to boarding for S. 1, hated it) and I (who went in P.5 and could survive despite being sick half the time) had different experiences yet she was older. I am the hard one, independent, and can self-soothe.
If they do go to boarding please do not separate them. They are better together.
My dad was the sole provider of our family and my mum was a housewife, we used to have all paternal and maternal sides pitch in when we were younger to care for us so it was easy to stay in day school. My dad did drop-offs and pick-ups when he could and if he traveled, he got a driver for that period of 2 weeks mostly. If it was more than that, he would take us to an aunt's home that was closer to the school. Then things changed, the unwritten rule was boarding school after primary school, and everyone was in boarding school except me. The relatives were now also going in different directions to do life, then my mum suffered health issues. It was the next best thing. My dad could not afford a driver, nanny, health bills, etc. all at once. I remember they quarreled about it before and after I went. He was the leader, he led. He said God will help in terms of health. The first visitation was funny, they were still on it. My mum was so worried because I was a sickler but my dad was hopeful that he would get me good caregivers in the school. 😅It was the ghetto really (one belief system, survival of the fittest). But we did not have the finances for better private boarding. He sat me down and explained what was happening, and when we went to the school, he made sure he looked for the nurse, dorm mother, class teacher, and whoever else had close first contact on a daily. He also made it clear they could call him any time even at night. He provided whatever resources he could (airtime, personal medications, groceries). Permission to take me on visitation Sundays for a haircut cut but really it was to breathe different air and have conversations or cry about missing home, and report bad people without the rest judging us. That helped and when he got better pay, he changed my school to a better one. My sister never had these conversations though, so it explains why she is still traumatized by boarding school. The assumption was, that she was older she could handle it, it was a private new boarding school so it had to be nice. She was not sick the dangerous things like autoimmune diseases so by default, there seemed to be no bases to cover. Emotional well-being was what they missed out on. When I hear what Pumla read, I hear my sister. She has never fully shared, it comes in bits and pieces but it seems so sad. And there is not much personally I can do. That healing will be done by her and I will always support how and when I can. But I have paid a price all this while for some of that pain. The anger is directed at anyone in close range that loves them. I really empathise more than anything.😇
Please do all you can if you have the capacity but have that conversation with them so that they will not feel abandoned. Even now that you do not see them often, have the conversations of you are working but it is for them.
You spoke so well. So I guess most of it is knowing the child’s personality, not just basing on age and other things. And also finding other ways to absorb the shock
Hi ladies, I have 4 kids,my first kid is 7yrs and my last is 10months so all need mummy's attention yet their daddy can't help in any way, I don't like maids around so it's too much for me.
Reason 2... School's system from Primary one all children boarding section and yet I feel it's the only better I choose for my kids Herm Junior Sch so am limited I could probably change school.
Thanks for the show,I love you ladies you are smart and inspiring ❤
Ohhh Rosette, your views make so much sense. You speak for the ordinary person who chooses boarding school...Rosie advises to speak to the children etc
But I don't like how they didn't give her chance to explain her point to the fullest towards the end of the episode
I believe they have a voice and should be heard.
Dear Bump Love,
I joined boarding in my Senior one and I thank my maama for this best decision.
The formative years of a child are the 1st 12years, you miss them with your child, you have created a generational gap between parent and child.
Although not all, for many, this has created stingy beings, hunger beings, bitter beings etc.
The hurting one is the generational gap, as we grow older (both parents and their children), the bonding becomes weaker hence some parents are not taken care of by their children.
Then there is visiting day that traumatizes those the parents can't afford to visit, as others are enjoying love and grub, others are crying and growing bitter.
Thank you
U are right i need to bond with my kids
Bonding intentionally. Even if they are at home with you, we have to be intentional in creating these bonding moments. 😍
It's true. It took me time to align with my mother. Up to now, the relationship between us is not good.
Rosette has a very good point, it's a very good idea to speak to your children and see what they think about the idea of going to boarding school, kids might be willing to try it and if it doesn't work, then you can go for plan B.
Yes. It is important that you speak to them. Even with inner work, still speak to them. Let them know the reasons and situation
My reason for boarding school was kibabaana(child theft/kidnapping/sacrifice) around the they year 2000 , it is still vivid in my head. Bambi for all those children may God receive their beautiful souls, and also around that time kids ears were pierced to avoid the same.
Amazing show! I read almost every comment and what was clear to me is the consensus that young children need a loving touch. Whether or not they are in boarding school. People who grow up with absentee parents (whether they are in boarding or at home with maids all day) really harden their hearts and struggle a lot emotionally.
Bump love my dear ones I took the very hard decision to take my baby girls into boarding school due to working from far but seriously I thank God has enabled them to grow well now Kourtney is 11yrs and Karina is 5yrs .Am pleased about it and I don't even call them. But they are good. I feel what those mother's are going through.
Rosetta talked about involving the child in decision making as African parents I have noticed that a child's decision comes last or never comes we have to learn how to also consider what they feel otherwise that's why the guilt comes in when they have grown up.....
It's not only asking them about boarding school, try out asking them if they are comfortable with everything you do if it might affect them negatively or positively because they are family.
This is something we need to normalize.
I agree with you
True. She had a good point which was misunderstood...
I don’t like that they shut her down. Conversations can be heard with all personalities, how you have them may differ.
We really exclude them Bambi
@@aurahkirabodid you notice it as well? The shutting Rosie down?.. not nice
I want to add on Rosette's point, we need to have a conversation with the child as we are taking them to boarding school. I went to a boarding school in P5 and i never at any point faced any trauma, they really took very good care of us.
Good to hear such good testimonies
Fridays are my best days because of bump love🥰 I don’t have kids yet but I don’t think I can, they will join boarding in P5
I could never! ... I still have to work through my own trauma from boarding school... that was a mini prison.
Hey Pumla, you always nail it for me.
Kindergarten is too soon but like you've all said people have different reasons. One thing i've learnt is "never say never"
God bless you all
This has become my healing family I always pray for you ladies becz whn pumula mentioned about her ather friend who has never healed I felt the pain as a child no one shld shld separate u from Yr 1st care giver this effects u way far even as adults we find it had to take in love or give it out becz as a child u felt left out so thank you so much for this shows u heal so many of us
My favorite Banyabossss, muliotya.
Halloooo Angie, you didn’t talk as much as others 😢. I like to see you engaged as I value what your contribution is to the discussions.
On this topic: I went to boarding school at an early age, that made me not have a close relationship with my parents. Upto date I don’t find it necessary to go see my parents because i feel like they abandoned me so why should I miss them or go visiting them? one thing for sure I won’t take my children to boarding school.
The 2 years(2013-2014) I was in Our lady of Africa,Namilyango I have never forgotten the emotional stress knowing I could be cained, hearing and seeing Cains all the time😢😢😢
Boarding school for me helped clarify the person I am in terms of self-discipline and navigating adult responsibilities. My O'level experience was survival mode on steroids (I hated everything about that school, the students, the food, the education culture, the forceful religious norms, etc.). My A-levels gave me space to breathe, self-motivate, fail, and grow. My university hostel days were a breeze for me. I was not phased at all by the freedom and peer pressure.
So where did you develop the ability to not be phased by the freedoms of university? How did you get to that point
Same, I didn’t like my O level school for the similar reasons you’ve listed but the school I went to for A level was amazing and I grew so much.
Great show ladies...as always. I was hoping one of you would be on the side of no boarding school at all. I feel it isn't relevant for these times we leave in. Majority of the world doesn't do boarding school at all. In Uganda, It was started so kids could stay in school instead of harvesting beans and also because schools were far...
Bt pumla was not easy since 4 yrs pumla you have a diehard that's me you're amazing thank you ladies for the
Hahahaaaaaaaaa!
Being a child who went to boarding school at 3 years old, I wouldn't take a child to boarding school at all.
I suffered bullying and abuse as a child and that brought so much anxiety that I am still suffering with till today, since I learned to just cope and survive in my own circle, I have issues socializing. And the worst part was, I resented my mom for that banange I used to hate my mom because "why would she let me suffer that much"
However now that I am grown I am working on myself but the anxiety and that childhood anger is hard to disappear but still working on myself. At 28 I am just learning to have just simple conversations with my mom
For me with boarding school, the negative outweigh the positive
Just sharing my experience
I personally i went to boarding in P1 and i learnt to be independent en strong in all situations
I don't even no why this episode got me extremely emotional😢! Thank you ladies . My take on this is to consistently pray for our children & trust that the God who gave them to us as gifts is always there to watch over & take care of them in whichever circumstances they will ever find themselves in. And then after that, we do our best as we find rest & peace in HIM otherwise "omuntu" can ran mad in trying too hard in there on strength, to be a good parent. Afterall unless God builds a house, they labour in vain they that build it and unless He watches over a city, the night watchmen stay awake in vain. Psalms 127:1
I know - I got triggered….this topic is indeed emotional
africans are sooooooo BLINDED by religion. everything pray, pray, pray. your child is being traumatised in school and you are saying "pray." how is prayer going to stop the trauma you as a parent have chosen to put your child in??. they tell you that they are miserable at this boarding school and you pray. pisses me off so much. all the stories of misery in the comment you think they got through it with prayer? they were being beaten in the Christian schools. look at namagunga... hell away from home. open your eyes and also be realistic. #respectfully
I thank u Manuela for yo UA-cam vlogs u did , they're two, they know wat to do, they know where everything is found, food prep u taught me that and its kawa, so they're developing into this setting, even if we're caught up somewhere the pressure is not that much.
I love testimonies like this. They make me so happy ❤
Absolutely, it’s very important to talk to your kids( not asking them to make a decision), but rather letting them know! Of course every child will react differently but it’s important to always involve the kids( which of course helps you make the right choices -if there’s a chance .
PS-talking to the kids is also a form of educating them a bout the sad realities of life.
Boarding school worked out for me. I went when I was 7 at the start of Grade 1. I was very excited and made friends quickly. My mother is the one who cried when she had to leave. I, on the other hand, was having too much fun already. Showing my new friends all my marked clothes, towels and tuck snacks. You only really have till the age of 7 to influence your children and the template with which they'll go through life. I became a well-adjusted human and all my relationships are healthy. Naturally, I am curious and independent. That has allowed me to give myself permission to brave adventures and have amazing experiences overseas. Boarding school certainly added to that. I got to exercise my decision-making muscle and trust my decisions. Also glad that I wasn't there for the times when my parents fought or went to bed hungry.
As a teacher now, I definitely know which kids are being raised well and which aren't. The values from home are already set then.
Lmao, thank you for mentioning Gayaza Junior School. I’m an old girl of both Gayaza Junior School and Gayaza High School, and wow. So much resilience even through my life today, living in the diaspora. I used to hate how Gayaza Junior School was tough on us, but as i grow up, I’ve come to appreciate the values i received from an early age. Would i take my children to boarding school? Probably not, and definitely not Gayaza Junior School.
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I was in Gayaza High school too but I remember seeing GAJUSH kids hanging around their sickbay (it was just across the High sch art room) and thinking, I would never take my kids to GAJUSH! The kids looked traumatized and malnourished😥. I hope they look better these days
@@ruthiekuku5865 The sickbay was a place of hope, that one day we'd cross over to the other side, that is Gayaza High 😅
I think boarding school can be overrated at times. There are kids in day schools that never get to send time with their parents. Some parents go home (weekdays)when the children are already asleep n even work, party or hangout on weekends. The only difference is that the child shares a roof with the parents but when it to value time, not much is given.
Thanks ladies for the show❤❤😊
You guys just took me back to terrible times in primary boarding school....... I don't even hv words.
Hugs love 🫂
I understand and support Rosette’s view of talking to your children with the objective of explaining to them what boarding school is and the circumstances that led you into making that decision but that doesn’t mean that the children are the ones making the final decision (I like that Manuela clarified that). Nonetheless, in my view, taking a child below 13 years to a boarding school should be the very last resort after the parents have done a thorough assessment of the pros and cons. Young children really need their parents and should never have to be in boarding schools - I’m completely against training children for survival mode which unfortunately happens in some traditional boarding schools. I’m a strong believer in raising children at home, understanding childrens unique personalities and raising them appropriately with love and careful instruction. But at the same time, I’m fully aware that its not always easy - May God open doors for parents who are in this situation. 🙏🙏
I like that Manuella mentioned the point of a governess. We need a mind shift in this day and age where pple make their money work for them.
People should start looking to hire pple who are more literate, and reasonably exposed enough to take care of children for such busy households.
Ofcourse due deligence sd be carried out.
When i tell you the trauma that is still haunting from boarding xulz from p1 upto s6🙊💀💀💀i can't make my kid go through that
I love the way Pumla puts emphasis on Introspection before taking major decisions......thank you ladies for the show. As always, educative, empowering & eye-opening.
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I joined boarding in baby class, i might have been three making four years, being naughty, or a child wasnt part of the program 😅😅 please not this was a low class school😂😂 i remember peeing on the bed just once😂😂 the care taker would sit with a long stick so you carry your bedsheets, blankets mattress out side but as you pass her she would be hitting your legs telling you to stop peeing on the bed😂😂 being kids u couldn't carry the things at once the more rounds ferrying your beddings the more kiboko on your little legs😂😂😂. This i remember i got once i didn't pee again.
We were paired a young child with an older child so the older could care for the younger one😂😂 this only worked when we still had grab the moment grab games 😂😂 you are alone,, i developed trust issues, upto now😂 i dont have deep friendships my friends are functional, emotional connection with my parents not there at all, its only when i gave birth that i kinda i understood my mum and her discussions, and navigating through life and economy has also helped me understand my dad and the discussions he made when i was young.
I also learnt to care for my self, independence, coz i was always on my own, i am self centered especially when its comes to communal meals, at school a bell would ring you dont show up on time you miss food and it was never are role to see if everyone is fed😂😂😂. Survival 😮 coz you park once and wait for VD😅
They talked about a child's character i was bullied, i was short with a deep voice with a big nose the kids bullied me but i new my strength i was very very bright they always had to ask for answers from me so they had to come slowly at some point. Although i also bullied some.
There also some nice things to that we learnt from school, this was a Christian school we learnt how to pray and play together etc there were also bu habits of girlfriend and boyfriend 😂 in primary.
But with the changing society there are better boarding schools that provide a good environment for children. I personally cant take my child to boarding because i think i cant afford the kind of school i would wish my child to attend if they are to do boarding. Also i would prefer a child led decision were a child goes like mum take me to boarding am tired of jam, reaching school late etc.
But if am to take a child the intentional work to stay close to my child i will gave to put it in.
Oh love....just reading through this makes me sad. Hugs love.
Found my self laughing and crying as well oooh dia
I swear today am early i need to be appreciated. May have not kept time for work but i am here 🌝
We appreciate you Mbabazi. Receive your flowers please
I’m actually on Rosetta’s side to involve children in decisions that involve them. Not that they’re making the choice for you but for them to understand your reasons for the decisions you made
Nze wanma i involve mine. It gets easier when we involve them
You got that!!. So so right
That is well said
people back home just take that as a privilege and count your selves lucky am in Canada and I wish I could take my kids to boarding..not that am I don't love spending time with them but here we are ever on the run!
Thank you ladies for this discussion. I went to boarding school in primary five and almost all my siblings did....maybe, my first experience was easier because I had siblings in the same school, so we could look out for one another. Anyway, life was hard but we understood that our parents were making a sacrifice to put us in a good school far from home ( in a different town than we lived in) because it offered better quality education, and so we bore with the inconvenience. It made me tough and independent, and I must say, I faired quite well in campus even when I was miles away from family.
Hello bump love , I think we are now ready to hear something from Cindy , not because of what has been going around of the battle but she is a mother who has been resilient in the industry ,who I think we should really know her story and love life in general. Always tuned in live from Dubai we love guys
Nope! I wouod be comfortable taking my child to boarding from about P.5.
I believe the first years of a child should be used to ground them on a foundation with beliefs that work within your family. Teach them, cut out those baf manners that show up early. Boarding schools have kids from all walks of life, imagine your child coming home for a few days of holiday, i don't think it is enough time to study how your child is learning , what they are learning. Personally I went to boarding in S1 and there are things that couldn't erode me/activities I couldn't do because I had a certain foundation from home.
I sent mine to boarding section this very year and she's in P.6.i felt the money I paid when she was in day was slightly lower than those in Boarding and I feel she has become more responsible. Her stuffs are now more organised.
Thanks Bump love we appreciate ❤
This is a sensitive topic! I never attended boarding school and I feel like I missed it!! life is funny - Wow Ladies you have done well and Angie you have advised well
I like Manuela's listening face, it's dramatic 🤣🤣🤣
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@@manuelap.mulondo yes, you watch and see🤣🤣🤣🤣
Pumla I totally agree with you. I cannot imagine my baby in boarding school I don't even know if I can adjust at all
Pumla does research on any topic however easy it may look, I've learnt that from you pumla. Welcome🤝
I'm here for you Isaac
Thank you bump love for always speaking on these issues. I think we also need to consider the habits that children pick up in some of these schools. I love boarding schools that don't allow "grab" or "home casual clothes" and they try to make sure that all children are living the same quality of life. Otherwise, vices like jealousy can arise especially for students from families that aren't rich. V.D was always a traumatizing day for me. People receiving so much grab and me sometimes not being visited. Self-esteem issues can also arise and these affect children as they grow. They become timid adults with low esteem who are always jealous of what they don't have. Or like @Pumla said, some become selfish and self centred. Maybe parents can consider these issues too especially as they select the schools.
It's the reality out there......in this world we are not all the same financially
i was sooooo happy to go to boarding school in S.1. i hated my home, it was abusive and ughhh i needed some sort of freedom. i do no know about taking child to boarding school in kindergarten or primary though...seems to me like giving birth to children one(mother and father) can not take care of or have time to take care of.
My nose is here early today 😂😂. Great work virtuous women ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thanks for this show. Am one believer in boarding school. I was on boarding right from P1 at 6 years and so were all my brothers. I appreciated it very much coz it made me grow up very first. Yes the survival mode that Pumla talks about is what we learnt there. Though she brings it negatively. It has enabled us to survive in the hardest times. Today all our colleagues appreciate it. For me its none of the reasons such as time, maids, etc. For me its the early independence and survival mode.
Boarding school all the way
There are also situations like death of a wife or divorce and the remaining parent(usually the father) can't manage alone.
Looking great ladies...❤ y'all glowing especially Angie❤❤
I love you ladies, me no boarding
I didn't go to boarding school till s1. However my partner was taken to boarding school in p3 since he had lost his dad so the mum had to work longer hours but the stories he tells of boarding school,I have learnt that our kids will just go when they are teenagers
Thank you ladies for sharing very valuable insights into critical parenting decisions such as these
Its a Friday 💃💃💃💃. Interesting conversation well done ladies👏👏👏👏. Like the end has suggested follow the leader especially after analyzing the available circumstances.
Thank you ladies.. Actually choosing Her Job could also mean choosing the kids.. because honestly its painful to also quit a job and watch your children lack something that you cant afford anymore...
Sorry ma'am that is a terrible thing to say first of all we need to choose the spouses right because if the man is a responsible father,we women have to stay with our children till 7or atleast 5 let's stop making excuses because of anxiety we can choose to make our kids happy within our means and teach them to be thankful for what is available at home
Nahwera...I tend to agree with you. Sometimes choosing one thing can mean choosing another. In this case, her choosing her job could also mean choosing her kids.
I joined boarding school in p.3 Oh God at the age of 7 it was such a traumatizing experience to go through. I always thought my mother never loved me compared to my little ones who joined in secondary. Growing up l realize because she was a single mom and working far away from home, plus other reasons that didn't really make sense to me . l was tortured mentally and emotionally its too much to deal with am such sensitive right now though tough with so many walls built to protect myself from many things thus the survival mode.
I have no child but l promised myself never ever to take my child to boarding school at an early age learnt through experience to put my children first always .
My boarding school experience wasnt so bad, wasnt all great either. I didnt cry cos i was excited to be alone. The only time i hated it was when bullying became a thing but it was mitigated quickly. I know my experience was way easier than some others that attended school with me cos i had my way around things. ( I made friends with ppl that could make the experience easier for me. It turned me to a people pleaser but i thank God i recovered in my adult year's). Overall it was an okay experience for me but I also acknowledge that others might have had it very rough.
Its important to acknowledge personalities in these thing's. I became street smart early, some people adjusted even earlier than me and others never recovered for the 6 years we were in school.
Honestly boarding school back then was terrible. But i think things have changed for the better.
I went to boarding school in P.6 in Masindi. My mum was in kampala and visited me only one time in the entire year i was there. We used to have bigger girls assigned to take care of the little ones. We used to share sponges, towels everything. I ended up getting a skin infection that took months to treat. The whole experience was traumatizing to say the least.
And to Mercy, pray to God for guidance. He will surely lead you 🙏
Love you guys and everything you bring to the table.
Me I cried from p5 to s.5 each tym I would go back to school. However I understood there reason, there jobs involved travel too but they often visited.🤗
I went to boarding in P.1. Mostly influenced by my dad cz he wanted the school n it didn't have day option. My dad died 2 weeks after i joined😔😔. So then my mum was a single mum, and now she had to hustle hard. So we stayed, though she pulled my siblings out when they didn't want. Tho for me, i chose to stay all through.
The trauma fiireeee💔. I was beaten on the first day for not knowing how the school ran. I was beaten the second day for peeing on bed... 😢😢😢😢. Boardind school.... ehhhhh.
Now I'm a mum. I chose my kids over a prestigious career, I ran a ka small business.
I think weekly boarding schools are a great option... banange kids need their parents
100% children need their parents. And may all children experience the love and protection of their parents. 🙏🏾
For me the equivalent of boarding school is day care over home before 3. How about discussing that topic some time?
This is timely. This will help me make a decision am thinking about
my kids havent started school yet but i already have it in mind that by p3,they should go to boarding...personally went to boarding in p6 and learnt alot than day schooling.
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Thank you bump love for always speaking on these issues. I think we also need to consider the habits that children pick up in some of these schools. I love boarding schools that don't allow "grab" or "home casual clothes" and they try to make sure that all children are living the same quality of life. Otherwise, vices like jealousy can arise especially for students from families that aren't rich. V.D was always a traumatizing day for me. People receiving so much grab and me sometimes not being visited. Self-esteem issues can also arise and these affect children as they grow. They become timid adults with low esteem who are always jealous of what they don't have. Or like @Pumla said, some become selfish and self centred. Maybe parents can consider these issues too especially as they select the schools.
This journey of life comes to us so differently, weigh through the available options and make decisions. Make research and try outs to see what will be better and give you peace. Primary goal should be peace at the end of it all. The inner work does good like medicine, you will get over it so soon till things adjust for you.
It might not be okay but it's a better option at the moment. Go ahead and trust the Lord. Like Manuela stated that scripture that your children will be taught of the Lord. Declare it over your children, let it be your daily prayer, you will be fulfilled as you see them grow in wisdom and stature.
Rosette was trying to say kasta you will get shoes😂😂
Lol.
Ladies, i went to boarding school in secondary and i was bullied by girls who had been in boarding school in primary. They always blamed me for stuff and called me names.... ehhhh!!
So no boarding school till my kids are able to deal.
Eh, this topic is revealing childhood traumas. I kind of feel like that girl Pumla talks about who was in survival mode.
Circumstances of life forced me into boarding school in P.2 when I was 7yrs old and I was in boarding school mode until I finished university cos I was staying in a hostel and later moved to the halls of residence. I was literally away from home for a long time. My older siblings were in boarding before me but then transitioned to day school. My young sister had the same mixed situation but not me. My extended family chose to keep me there because I was performing well and they worried that changing me would affect my grades.
One thing I can say is, "I wouldn't change anything, but I wouldn't do it again if you asked me to. " 😢
For my kids, I am a bit torn cos I like the discipline and many good things I learnt, but I hated the separations that came at the end of every holiday and at the end of every school term. It got to a point where I liked school more than home and my friends more than my family. Right now, I have trouble really connecting with my family on a personal level. I would like to believe it is because I spent so much time away from them.
I don't want my kids to develop separation anxiety or shut themselves off from deep connections. However, I think I will consider quitting my job before letting them go to boarding before 13yrs. Let hubby work harder. That's why I need to work hard now before they come. 🙏
It's the conclusion for me, follow the leader(mic drop). Ladies you have done a good job.
For someone who was in boarding school fro age of 6, I know I will never put my kids through that experience. And for me it’s not even about the kiboko, when I look back on the hygiene of the toilets it grosses me out. It’s the Cleanliness for me. I don’t know if I can even do a house-help. I like being in control of my sorrounding cleanliness. I always tell my family that I would never take my kids to boarding but as Manuela said it could also come from a position of being privileged that I don’t have pressing conditions.. eeh banange people are strange, nga someone goes to the loos and decides to use their poop to write on the wall by “ never forget!!”. I hated boarding schools for the cleanliness and the terrible food. However I survived so definitely one can survive.
Follow a leader in the ladies voices
Ladies my daughter started school in boarding meaning baby class my husband is an afande in prisons by then he was transferred in a baracks which was a topical village schools were very fanny village setting like studying under the trees we said no our daughter can not go through that so we decided to take her to town in a boarding school but it was hard though we would pick her on Friday evening and take her back on Monday morning.
Angela was mature 👏 👌 in this discussion
Dear Ladies, Thank you so much for the show. I went to boarding school from P.1 til S.6, I am a first born and my siblings call me Iron woman. They say i have no feelings because it has wired differently because of it and my parents will never know. To put it straight forward, the 10 year and 7 year need love. In boarding school the love is replaced by independence, trust me when i say we survived naye twaguba. I can tell you the truth is you get used to no body being there for you, My mum died an instant death and it affected us differently and it's not that i hated her, I really loved her. Even up to now my husband says i grew up from the army but reality is boarding school groomed me. You are never attached to anybody, Solution for Mercy: You can take the child to boarding school but be ready for the repercussions and try looking for solutions to those repercussions. I agree with Manuella's solution of governance, Remember this is not about you, it's about the children. My resolute is that I will never take my child to boarding school until they're in secondary.
That's exactly me. I don't have attachments to people or places or things 🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭😂😂😂😂😂
Ladies, the one thing we need to emphasize is the personality of the child and whether or not they are ready for such a hostile, traumatic environment all in the name of getting an education!!!
There's the teasing, bullying, battering, poor feeding, caining etc, etc...... that goes on in some boarding primary schools, all in the name of getting an education. I went to Namuganga Primary Boarding School and my experience was nothing short of horrific. I can never put my child through that kind of traumatic boarding primary school environment. Overcoming that trauma is not that easy................!!!
Imagine watching a fellow child in P.6 being cained 50 strokes in one sitting just because they scored 30% in a Geography test. Apparently the passmark was 80 and poor child had scored only 30. Listening to the pleas and groans of that child still haunts me till this day!!!😢😢😢 The girl was from a rich family and was gifted differently. Georgraphy was never going to be her career path. After high school. She went on to pursue a catering career and is an excellent chef in a high end hotel in the US. She is married and settled down in the US. I often wonder what was the point of the pointless beating? Till today that corporal punishment has never made sense to me....!!!. Those of us who were in class watched helplessly, some girls were in tears, as the mean teacher went on rampage beating the poor performing children.
For me boarding primary school is a total No, No especially if the child is a tender hearted soul!
Sorry dear but it seems there are high end boarding schools in this era which offer a much better lifestyle.
they cained us heavily in day school too. that was the norm at kampala parents. food was not bad though.
I have been a victim to this trauma. To date am 44 years,but I can't stand seeing a child being cained
I feel you Agnes dear. I do not think it is worth the long life trauma.
I thank God i found a live out nanny. My son stays with her throughout the week and she also takes him to school. I only have time with him over the weekend.
It has really helped
I did this because my job is equally demanding
But also these days taking children to boarding school is for some form of protection from the society, even though we know evil is everywhere. There are alot of destructions for children who foot to and from school, leave alone those who are picked and dropped by parents
During high school, I consistently felt like an outsider, never truly fitting in or adapting for six long years. I am not taking mine to boarding school. They will leave home for university.
I was in boarding school right from Kindergarten. Honestly, I doubt I would take my kid to boarding school because I was bullied. But on the other side I learned to be independent and make my own decisions at a young age
Sorry to hear that Darling..I personally have never liked boarding school!
Ohh digging out grab😂😂😂 real memories of stella maris since grab wasn't allowed,
I went to boarding school in p5 and I always swore never to take my child to boarding school until secondary. Guess what! I’m single handedly parenting my half sister and boarding school was my only convenient and available option 😂. I had to take her to boarding school at age 7 but i was the one crying after dropping her
I was longing for this 😂
The moments i count with my dad and mom and those when we were young ❤❤ i remember everything they told me.. ❤❤ I wouldn't love my children to go to boarding when they young because eventually they they will leave home 😂😂 at a certain age.. You will hear more calls from them than visits.
Circumstances u gals!!
One time as I was going to school I met a mum with a four years old going to boarding school as a kindergarten and as I was talking to her she said she took her child since when she was 3 yrs🤓.The girl was so charming and clever very clever.And the whites enjoyed having that child as we were together travelling (Uganda).So I was so surprised seen that from Tz to Ug (Aghakhan)a kindergarten school bording😁😁😂.The reason was that they are all working and real so busy ,they were all in a good position✍🏽,even though I enjoyed boarding school as primary but taking a kid at 3yrs🥲🥲🥲🥲ooh God ,I don’t know about my future kids😂😂😊how they will find me
I loved boarding school....l hated being home my parents were so tough. I would be excited to go to school.