KEY POINTS: 1. A woman's energy. 2. Social conditioning. 3. Social positioning. 4. You're not available. 5. Society has trained men to not commit to marriage. 6. Women who provide sex for nothing is fueling men's reluctance to commit to marriage. 7. Most women are not actually looking for a husband. Most women are looking for an image. 8. You can't attract a good man because you don't accept your own worthiness. 9. Women's superficial requirements will narrow your choices. 10. You may have a very negative view of men. 11. Many women may not have a healthy relationship with God. A relationship with God helps her to hear God and discern. 12. Women should not pursue a man. A woman should attract a man. 13. Celebrate and acknowledge a good man. 14. A woman must have a peaceful continence. 15. A woman must always have boundaries. 16. TRUST GOD!!!
Thank you 💛💛💛 im old skool too, grew near your generation& these were my standards & they work!!!! The problem is #5 is against us, but they are some out there, but few. Thank you for your insight.
#5 and 6...Most men of today are expecting an easy path to a woman. When she has worthiness and love for herself as well as have boundaries...Most men will walk away inside of a week bc he knows he can easily get the same thing from the next woman...I say...bye suga✌🙋♀️..I pray you receive all the desires of your heart..I stand firm in my boundaries, worthiness and love for myself💯😀😀💕
AND SADLY THERE ARE MANY WOMEN WHO ARE PROVIDING FOR MEN JUSTVTO SAY THEY HAVE A MAN!!!! AND THAT SAME MAN ( LOSER) DEGRADE AND STUMPIN' ON HER HEAD , CHEATS, STRIPCLUB, DRINK, DRUGS ETC ETC EVERY TIME AND STILL THOSE WOMEN STAY AND PROVIDE FOR HIM.AND ABOVE ALL THEY FIGHT TO DEAD WITH ANOTHER WOMEN OVER THIS SAME LOSER THAT DON'T WANT HER!!!!
Come on ladies, he’s teaching it. I turned 60 and just learning this stuff. Didn’t know my worth, settled for less, attracted the same type of men-broken like me. Grasp this teaching now so you don’t give away a season of your life. I did and it saddens me now that I’m Queen conscious, trusting God it’s not to late for a Kingdom husband.
Great!! I’m working on myself. God put me in the mindset of being a wife for 2 years. I’m healing myself by getting rid of old doctrines, beliefs, and mindsets such as all men are dogs, as a result of trauma and hurt from some of the men I’ve encountered. I have the faith that I’m very very close to meeting my husband.
I feel you sister I’m 60 also and most of the men that approach me always wants something and has nothing to offer and God they have no clue it is so sad a lot of them think that way I try to break off some word to them and that’s all they can get from me
This is the truth. Women, know your worth and never give a guy who disrespects you a second thought. I wasted 30 years of my life with men who didn’t deserve my time. I now know what I’m looking for and am so thankful God opened my eyes and heart.
Oh yes. Thank you Pastor Blakes. I've watched many of your sermons & have referred friends, family etc. Your advice is loved & valued, big time. We love you here in Namibia (Africa). Keep preaching to us. We appreciate you 🙏❤
I just wasted almost 10 years trapped in a poisonous cycle with a very abusive partner that kept saying he was going to marry me and never did. Im in a psychological hole but at least Im not wasting any more of my days with him.
Most Women Are Not Going To Get A Legal Marriage Contract This Brother Quoting Biblical Christian Text Is Very Smooth Authoriative Sounding But Can't Help These Women He Has No Current Contextual Message For A Time At This Hour With These Mordern Day Draconian Marriage Laws That Are Not Any Good For Men He Is Preaching From A Judgemental Fire & Brimstone Fear Perspective . Many Of These Women Will Never Be Married & They Should Still Live Happy Fufilled Lives . These Marriage Family Court Laws Are Designed To Extract Resources From Men . Quoting Scriptures From A Book Printed In A Book Printed In A White Male Run Warehouse Mean Nothing in This System of Institutional Marriage License State/Government Pair-Bonding Validation Contruct . Some Men/Real Good Men Are Just Not Doing It ... The Preacher Makes Good Points But Is Not Progressive & It Makes Delusional Women Feel Unworthy ... Because Men Are Not Entering These Marriage Contracts .... His Message Is For Women Most Of Whom Are Fantasy Hard-Core Jesus Gonna Send Me A Man After I Hit The Wall Wishful Thinking Types.
@@crazycrimess what are you talking about how are you going to sit up here and say that it's okay for black men to treat women like that and be demeaning to them. Just like Pastor Blakes said don't waste your time on you. You sitting up here saying that a woman don't need to have marriage. All she need to do is lay around and play around with you and have a good time and just see where it goes. When actually it's not going anywhere cause that man already got motives and don't plan on taking it nowhere. What about the woman that grew up with both parents? Her understanding of life and having a meaningful life is being married and having a family and you telling her she don't need that how does that work? And what about the kids black man is the reason that there isn't going to be any more pure black children in the world thank you. You walk off and leave a mother with her kids and act like they never existed and go start a new family somewhere else. Selfish all you care about is yourself don't got the capacity to care about anybody else in your brain. They everywhere prowling around lurking in corners and in the church house. Like Pastor said it be looking like the club up in church sometimes. All man got the potential to be a husband they just ain't came up against the right woman that ain't taken they mess. and a real woman searches for the truth and you before she even consider any type of marriage with you. When a woman dies she wants God she lived a good life and raised her children and had a respectable family on Earth. A man that truly loved her not a bunch of friends goodbye.
@@eaglelensforemay7503 What? On one hand you talkin about Pastor Blake's is telling the truth. However he preaching to the choir he ain't preaching to the women that watch this channel you are a fool. Get out the chat room. What money???? Most of the Women got good jobs or been educated. The have degree, money and established. A man that would say something like that probably ain't got nothing. Check out McBane UA-cam Channel
He saying the reality is separate from the Christian ideology. Sadly but also true. Too much turmoil over the years on men.. no faith in women in mass all over the world
@@crazycrimess the man still has the responsibility to take care of his children and family marry or not but it shouldn’t be up to the court to make them do it. I told my son to put himself up for support.
“A man who finds a ‘wife’ finds a GOOD thing…” loose women stop playing house to boys. Both these type of grown girls and grown boys need to straighten up and stop acting baffled they’re continuously disappointed and reaping weeds.
This is so true. A man told me know one is waiting until marriage now. I stop talking to him. My family said go on a dating Christian app but the men were acting the same. I deleted the Christian app and just decided to wait and maybe I'll start an activity after work like skating. I'm 50 but still believe God will answer my prayers.
@@gwendolynhall2321 and if he dont then what? A. Where you not worthy? Or B. Was he not as omnipotent as you thought How do you know that man you met last week wasnt the man he had for your life but you shot him down because his shoes were cheap or his car was old?
@@broncomcbane6382 sometimes you have to peel back (get to know) the layers to men that may not necessarily be your preference as far as looks. Unfortunately men and women have been looking for preferences, usually based on superficial things (due to conditioning) and it’s when you become mature/truly grown (through knowing Christ and trying to truly live for him) you’re able to see men in a different light, thus giving those men you may have not, in your immaturity, a chance. There are guys in plain sight (have been in plain sight) that don’t get a chance due to a woman’s immaturity. When she matures though he may not be her preference she may give him a chance now and “find” hidden blessings-a blessing.
This is true, I always told men don't expected me to sleep with you unless we are married. The next day I don't get a phone call. And that is ok I refuse to let a man use me for sex, no way.
I heard a woman tell a man that on a podcast, he told her that she may as well get used to being alone because no man is going to wait to have relations with a woman that is not a Virg**, a woman that has kid's already by someone else. Keep hope alive, I am hopeful that we will find a suitable partner someday.....💛💚💙
I work at the police department in town and one of the officers is trying to invite me group sex events/ wipe swapping events, and asking me to meet up with him behind his wife’s back. I’m offended he has the audacity to ask that. Same man who’s on FB all “ I love my wife, she’s a dime.”
I lost a Godly woman four months ago, I’m listening to your videos every day. I don’t know if she’ll ever talk to me again but I’m praying she does. I can’t stop thinking about her. I love you RC Blakes, I’m learning from my mistakes.
@@smartkookie We were together for one year to the day. I had the rings and was planning to propose. She broke up with me two weeks before I was going to propose to her on our spring break vacation. She said I’m codependent, so I’m trying to heal from that. I’m trying to find the difference between being codependent and doing everything I can for my future wife and mother of my children.
I have 2 friends who have been married a few times. I look at the caliber of a man. All of the men that they married aren't worth a hill of beans. I've also noticed that when I didn't have standards I attracted a lot of low life men. Now, that I have standards I meet less men. I refuse to settle. I trust my intuition. Within 5 minutes of meeting or talking to a man I know he's not the one for me. It's sad because of all my friends are all married to men that I wouldn't want. Women has made men the prize. I know I'm the prize. I will keep myself open to attract true love. I'm also prepared to be alone and I'm okay with it. A man must be a man. You are not here to fix a man. A broken man stay away from him. It's not your fault how the majority men are. I'm not building a man. Ladies, trust your gut instincts and never settle just to have a man and husband. Make your list and work on yourself. Make deal breakers and stick with them. NEVER Settle for less. Know that you're worthy to have the man that God made for you. Ase.
@@busstyflo2520, I know that's right. It's funny how all of my friends are married; and none of them are doing better than me financially. Why get married just to have struggle love? Please, I will pass on that. Most black women think they are better than you when they get married; even if their husbands are a dust ball, dust mites. Lol, I guess any man will do. 🤣🤣
You are telling the truth. The majority have zero standards. One of my old friends a male told me "You are the 1% that won't and there's 99% that will". I couldn't argue or defend it because it's true. Sex is free now these days, women give it away with no effort. Men don't have time for me because my standards are eagle high and I'm not willing to compromise. It's amazing how all these decades later we still having these conversations. When will the human condition heal and get it right. It's not rocket science. Have standards period!
This!!! My opinion is that this is a huge issue. I agree that we need to work on ourselves and our energy but what happens when you do that, you’re working on your purpose, you have your boundaries in place and still run into the very issue you speak of? Also, I find it highly unfair that we as women who desire healthy relationships are not permitted to be attracted to what we’re attracted to. Men in general are visual and rarely do they rely on the inner part of women. To me, attraction is a combination of things not just certain physical attributes so if that’s the focus then I can see the point about superficiality. You can’t force yourself to want to be romantically linked with someone who you don’t see in that way. This should go beyond just looks but at the same time, I feel you should at least desire that person. Otherwise, how is that fair to him? I have yet to witness single men who are willing to court and date without sex in the mix. I agree with many points in this video however, the conversation must continue and many more points need to be addressed. I believe there are great ppl in the world but where it differs is what is valued. Those good men tend to go with the 99%. I think the only hope is to rely on God if it is in your purpose to be married. I think that’s another discussion. Not everyone will be married even if they desire to do so. Then how does one accept that without growing bitter? Nonetheless, this is a great discourse.
Lord please bless me with the Love of MY Life! Not someone else's love but my very own. No justification as to why I desire or deserve. Please Lord, if it's in your will for my life.
Most Women Are Not Going To Get A Legal Marriage Contract This Brother Quoting Biblical Christian Text Is Very Smooth Authoriative Sounding But Can't Help These Women He Has No Current Contextual Message For A Time At This Hour With These Mordern Day Draconian Marriage Laws That Are Not Any Good For Men He Is Preaching From A Judgemental Fire & Brimstone Fear Perspective . Many Of These Women Will Never Be Married & They Should Still Live Happy Fufilled Lives . These Marriage Family Court Laws Are Designed To Extract Resources From Men . Quoting Scriptures From A Book Printed In A Book Printed In A White Male Run Warehouse Mean Nothing in This System of Institutional Marriage License State/Government Pair-Bonding Validation Contruct . Some Men/Real Good Men Are Just Not Doing It ... The Preacher Makes Good Points But Is Not Progressive & It Makes Delusional Women Feel Unworthy ... Because Men Are Not Entering These Marriage Contracts .... His Message Is For Women Most Of Whom Are Fantasy Hard-Core Jesus Gonna Send Me A Man After I Hit The Wall Wishful Thinking Types.
I agree. I look at his heart not his bank account. He could be rich and be poor in heart and character. A rich heart and rich character. Action meeting words.
@@sheilaseniff9338, why can't you have both? If it is in your cards to have it. You will have it. Never settle for less than you deserve. A man's rejection maybe God's blessing. Ase.
@@מתִתיהו-מ4ט for me, He prays, fast, worships, serves in the Kingdom, pays titches, has a Christ like heart for people, leds me to Christ not away from Christ, studies and lives what the Word says( not perfection). These are some examples for me. I’ve met plenty that say they are a Christian. But for them it’s a title. I can ask what church do you attend and they tell me I watch sometimes on line. Me and my husband are going to attend church together.
That’s not a fair assessment. It’s the men you attract. We could say all women are damaged, set in their ways and carry entitlements, however that would not be fair to all of the good women. Pray before you play to avoid being prey.🙏🏿
@@aaroneaton138 You know, you’re right. It wasn’t fair for me to imply that all men in this generation are spoiled and toxic. That was a generalization applied to all men in this generation. Not every man is perverted in this way. It’s the cultural mindset and the value system of this generation that is producing the spoiled toxicity I’m referring to. As for me, My comment was not inspired by men I attract as that would be an unfounded generalization affixed to one woman you haven’t met. It was an observation of what I’m seeing and a response to Bishop Blake’s topical discussion.
Greetings my sister I love effective communication. I am not offended nor intend to offend you. Often times we hear before hearing. I’m sure you are a wonderful person and my prayer is that God will continue you show you favor. Stay blessed. 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
@@aaroneaton138 Thank you brother. I do still think something needs to be done to address this culture though. And it can’t start with how women make men do better by depriving them of sex. I appreciate Bishop Blakes’s attempt to get at these issues but his perspective will only solve 50% of the problem at best. Since all women are not a monolith you will never get them all to act in one accord to straighten out men. We are all image holders of Jesus Christ, however men were designed and shaped to lead and they will not simply change because those whom they are leading try to force them to. Leaders must change on the inside. It’s an inside job. And this culture is purposely trying to defile and pervert men from the inside out so that they will go back to their communities and pervert and destroy them. So while I stand corrected I do hope that Bishop Blakes does more on UA-cam to address the inner change a man must choose to make. Shalom.
Goodafternoon real good man will sacrifice too make you happy n also ask what ‘s you need help with ! A real man will work too bone too take the load off you n also send you roses, help with bills , fuel up your car , car repairs , take you on get way weekend . You judge a good man by his actions n the way he treat you as queen , put first in their life!
For everyone that's reading this, I pray you find healing in your heart from past hurt and trauma and Trust God to bring your next husband/wife into your life, rather in this season or next. Trust God's timing he knows what he is doing, God knows the heart and thoughts of every man. Love, Hugs and Kisses! 🙏
Thank you Pastor Blakes for another wonderful talk! I'm 21, and had recently met a young man I really liked and enjoyed. Very respectful and good energy. Unfortunately, I think god still has work to do with him and he turned me down for a serious committed relationship. He still is in the process of building his kingdom. Its super hard out here in this dating culture, but if I can speak to every lady out there; Keep sex off the table. It makes a man's intentions very clear, and defines the relationship very fast. There is so much less headache, stress, discomfort and worrying when one takes sex out of the equation. And we all know that story of a man who leaves a woman and marries a new one within 3 months. If a man cant stand not getting sex from you, and if he doesn't offer to commit within a timely manner, shwoop! Out the door. I wish everyone the best of luck in finding your husband, and may god bless your day!!!
If HE can't lead and be strong and have standards before marriage HE'S NOT GOING TO AFTER. And if we have all the qualities, who are we supposed to marry??
Its sad that as a society we have given our bodies away for free without any commitment of any kind. In today's world it's virtual impossible to find a good spouse because if you want to wait for marriage for sex, you will most likely be cheated on or they will go else where to satisfy their needs.
There is good men out there. I’m a mother that give birth to two great young men in the twenties not perfect but will become great father one day. Trust GOD and the Process.
Also - it is rare to find a man who has worked on himself. They somehow believe that they are fine just as they are and women always have to manoeuvre, compromise and sacrifice around them. Also where are the videos that teach men emotional intelligence and how to be better men.
Men who are sometimes 75, 80 years old are attracted to women in their 40's 50's. I'm not attracted to grandpa! But some women feel like they are over the hill and because they are in their 50's never been married and since grandpa is the only someone showing interest they settle for grandpa. I just can't!! I choose not to settle for grandpa. I've never been married will be 59 in a few days and I'm just crazy enough to believe that when the time is right God will make it happen for me and others of you desiring marriage. We dont have to settle but we should settle ourselves, wait on God, be patient and in the meantime enjoy the single time of our lives. God's got us! I really enjoyed the teaching on tonight Bishop! Keep going!
God bless you my dear sister💖. I feel this. I am 3 months away from 54. I was never married. I have no children. I went through trauma being raised by a narcisstic mother who is 100% dependant on me now because she is ill. I am taking care of her. I am living one day at a time and trusting God with my life because i have been so heartbroken. But at this now moment of so much truth and revelation, it is time to live our best life in Christ and let go and let God. He will do the rest. I do not want grandpa either.
Lyndelle Mode I had a narcissistic Mother as well. But it took me 57 years and listening to R C Blakes teach on narcissism that helped me break away from her. I had never heard that word until Bishop taught on it. It was like scales falling off my eyes. I went no contact with her. Sadly she passed away in 2019. The thing that I hate is that we were never close not bc I didn't want it but she didn't. So I understand exactly where you're coming from. I pray that God gives you strength as you continue on your journey of life and that he blesses us with the man that's just right for us. Prayers for your mom also.
In response to the title Pastor, it’s because too many people have completely lost their minds. Could you do a video about the calamity going on in the world today and how to remain faithful, positive and coping mechanisms. Finding love is the last thing on my mind when lives are senselessly being lost more and more each day. Our entire world needs divine intervention!
We are in the time of Great Distress (Mt. 24:29) a ka tribulation- we are in Revelation ch 6 now- the first two seals have been opened and we are on the precipice of seal 3. www.evangelicaloutreach.org/four-horsemen-of-the-apocalypse.htm
The red pill movement and all those other 5 letter groups are growing in numbers by the day. All of my safe channels on UA-cam are now beginning to show these creepers moving in.
Isaiah 45:7 I form the light, and create darkness: I make peace, and create evil: I the Lord do all these things. 8 Drop down, ye heavens, from above, and let the skies pour down righteousness: let the earth open, and let them bring forth salvation, and let righteousness spring up together; I the Lord have created it. 9 Woe unto him that striveth with his Maker!
Thank you for stating that men don't have the desire to commit. 1) Women are also doing too much for men that are not their husband so they don't need to commit. 2) Mistresses are nursing married men that are making excuses why they are cheating instead of her telling him I don't date married men and solve your issues at home. 3) I've seen in my mother's generation and my generation women go to work come home to make sure dinner is on the table and are meek and men verbally, emotional and physically abuse them while cheating because they know they can not financially survive on their own. (what I've seen and heard)
I'm 29 and I greatly appreciate this old school teaching. I am not my mistakes. I'm still working on myself so that the husband God has for me will get ALL OF ME and not my mistakes.
Goodafternoon real good man will sacrifice too make you happy n also ask what’s you need help with , also ask what your futures goals . A real good man will take load off you n willing too send you roses , help with bills , also make should gas in your car , also take you work on your off days .The good one get by pass because a woman not use too it or just scare !
Goodafternoon a real goodman will sacrifice too make you happy n also ask what ‘s you need help with , also ask what ‘s your future goals ! A real good man will send you roses , help with bills , keep gas in your car , car repairs , he has god in life n also put you first too. A real man will work too the bones make should you don’t have work so hard n also communications is the key n trust !
This is good stuff, but the crazy thing is in my experience looking past the superficial, I still ran into problems. The guys that I dated who were considered not as attractive were so insecure and suspicious that they sabotaged the relationship by cheating, being controlling, or being unsupportive. I don't think we all care about height and weight requirements, more so than someone who's healthy enough to connect with.
Because i don't fit most women's preferences, I'm definitely not going to date anymore. I'll just focus on my career and keep it moving. I don't want nobody to settle for me. Thank you sir you've open my eyes to the fact that i was created below the standards.
I would Love to know where they are, unless God is preparing that special person that he has hidden for me @ the right moment and time! His timing isn't like mine waiting patiently and he will send me his Best!!!
I agree with EVERYTHING. I'm over 50, in excellent shape and a woman of honor. I've had so many suitors, I can't count! Received a few marriage inquiries too. All great brothers too. Hardworking, sober and more. Well done, Pastor, WELL DONE!!
All facts! I been been saying this smh.. collectively close our legs and the men will fall back in line… 💁🏽♀️ but the level of desperation is so astonishing it will never happen. 🤦🏽♀️
Pastor. I’m getting tired of you hittin me right in the soul with your messages lol. I’m not gonna lie..sometimes I get so convicted I need to pause and take a breather 😅 I’m learning so much! Please continue to keep pouring into your daughters all over the world. We appreciate you & your family!!
You ladies better take heed to Wise Counsel by Bishop! A lot of women don't realize they could have had the world, but they overlooked the Anti-Type guy you think you were not attracted to. Trust what I'm saying, I'm a man! Great message, Bishop 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I'm in my mid-50's got married in my 30's and got divorced not long after. I have dated since then and have found no such KING. I am happy, healthy, debt free and living my best life and not looking for one.
"Love, like happiness, is the butterfly ; chase it with your net and it will elude you but if you quietly busy yourself , getting on with your life in other areas; it will come and sit on your shoulder "
Well it would be wonderfull if he is in great shape & a Christian man 👞 of character & Godly 💕😘 love, ✌️🕊️, knowledge & wisdom, successful & joy filled!!!
You are correct Pastor Blakes, a man only goes as far as a woman would allow. That's why after 2 years I divorced my ex husband because he refused to get a job and commit to starting his own business, he bought all the supplies and equipment but he never did anything! He was an unmotivated, abusive drunk, that I refuse to take care of. Yes I was stupid for marrying him but I drew my line. Had Enough🎯
Most good men I talk to dont want an easy woman..They say the milk and cookies are too available these days..nothn to fight for...uP your standards ladies.
@@malikastone Exactly! A man who goes for the "milk and cookies" from every woman has no respect for himself. He isn't a high value or high quality man just because he has the high numbers. Any man who thinks that is what matters is too immature to have the mindset of a King.
What a doomsday message. I have no control over finding a good man bc of loose women who give it up with no commitment. Ive done the self healing, changed my energy through higher level thinking & being positive and approachable, lost 80 pounds, grew my hair long and pretty, bought my perfect teeth, worked on my femininity, in order to attract my husband, all while remaining abstinent as I have for the last 3 years…😬
Oh for the women Queens who had a King and now he has passed on What do YOU See NOW? Well yes I'd like to enjoy a Male company but now at this point of my life in this time of where do I go from here? I'm I hoping another KING yes and no I'll know when he approaches me and I have prayed Lord when it's your time send me the BEST man just for me! And he will!! When I'm ready to receive this pandemic and my grief has slowed social but change is coming so I'm preparing for it positive change I'm getting ready for NEW! Yes Bishop the content character of a Man for sure Blessings to ALL
I commend your abstinence I am right there with you with 2 years but please don't be too hard on the women fornicating. We used to be one. The men take advantage of our yearning for them as God has put in us to do. Besides they will continue to feel used and hurt so pray for them 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤
I been gave up on having a “type” and started looking at the heart and character of a man. One thing about being stubborn about having a type, is the lack of consideration for the fact that YOU might not be your type’s type💡
I was in a relationship that I allowed to take up 10 yrs of my life. Now I'm 35 and I'm not the same person I was at 25 and the pickings are even slimmer than they were then. Now it's like I'm trying to rebuild my life. It's tough 😩
2024 now and you still telling the truth.!! Thank you & Mrs Lisa keep teaching us. Stay the course..I’m going to play a portion of your teaching at my wedding as I stand there with my King. If I can do it sisters you can too. Gods no respecter of persons..
Most are in denial and want to seek something “good” however in their heart they aren’t exuding that same essence! Source will match you with your hearts deepest vibration! Are you dealing with and breaking through your insecurities pain let downs there is a lot of spiritual acknowledgment and work that must be done before getting to your high place! Are you saying one thing but thinking feeling and your outside world isn’t a reflection? All must be aligned buckle up and do the work🙌🏾 I love your teachings and your new set up #upgrade!! Loving the growth have a blessed evening ✨🧚🏽💚
I've been watching your videos religiously and never knew a lot of this information. White chic here who grew up in two-parent household rife with addiction and abuse. There was no father-daughter talks or mother-daughter talks growing up. I have wasted decades trying to 'figure it out', losing my 30's to a total loser. At 39, left with him threatening, name calling and more. Thank God I am free! Went back to school and worked hard on myself, my spirit, body, money, education and have cultivated my best life through hobbies and self love. I hope I am not too late now at 40 something....I just want my own family like everyone else. Thank you for all your wisdom and tough love.
Wow this was very incredible teaching very good advice. I'm single woman been for awhile I haven't been dating at all, I'm preparing myself for right person that's God has for me. I'm patiently waiting and doing what God call me to do for kingdom. God blessings make it rich added no sorrows. God bless you RC Blake's and your family
I Know I'm a Good Woman and Ready To Be A Good Wife, I have been married before so I have some life experience! I'm strong enough for husband number 3. Still hoping for a long-lasting, stable, loving marriage. In God's time! 💎💎💎
Honestly the biggest issue as you mentioned comes back to women rewarding men with sex without any commitment. Women set the standard for what will be tolerated. Women have to raise their standards and stop lowering the bar.
I’m not religious, would even call myself an atheist. And I still feel so privileged and lucky to have found your channel and am able to take part of all your wisdom, even the biblical texts. And it makes me realize that I may have had a childhood but nobody really raised me. An absent abusive father and a mother who’s idea of raising kids was solely cooking and cleaning. No wonder I’ve bounced from one abusive relationship to another. The information you are putting out there is so so so valuable. Thank you.
Amen, sister!!! People just don’t desire the truth. They love the situations they are in. It’s what some of them are used to and comfortable with. Some women would rather have a “piece of a man” than a real man…js 👀🙄🤔🤷🏽♀️
I thank God firstly for this message by using Bishop RC BLAKES as the messenger to send this timely message. I know God is doing a new thing in my life and preparing me for my husband. The classes are going great. Keep teaching Bishop. God richly bless you and your wife
RC, you knocked it out of the park! Your point at 22:00 mins is ancient wisdom that everyone in society understood. Women have been conned, scammed, into thinking that free love works, and cheap sex is ok. We sell ourselves so short! Pornography has contributed to this, and is a symptom of it. I see it as a part of how Narcissism has polluted our culture.
That is so true which is hard swallow for us as women, we made our own beds...thank you so much Mr Blake's for opening our eyes...we will do right going forward
Bravo, bravo, bravo Pastor. I was telling a woman in her early forties the same things you're talking about now. Weak women make it hard for all women.
@23:07 soooo true! That is why I get called weird, get told to grow up, been asked if I am a 14 yr old, told we are not kids, told I am not in grade 5! Here is the Best one yet, I was told I was cursed cause I wouldn't sleep with him! 👀🧐🤔🙄
I would like a man who has amazing character and has a strong belief in God he don't need alot of money but treats me with respect and cares about my feelings.
Honestly Pastor Blakes, I believe good men exists, I am not completely traumatized by past marriage I am more focused on adjusting my crown as a Queen 👑, I have been abstinence for six years and I Trust God to bring me a husband in due season! I'm waiting on God, He knows the heart of man! I'm tired of being wrong.💎💎💎
You said it Pastor Blakes, a feminine man is looking for a woman to hold him down! All the while he ain't really looking for a job! Using Good Women, Facts. This is actually quite sad ☹️
@@emilystevens6335 girl I made up my mind officially that I want to start dating white men because I'm seeing results, our black men are broken and won't seek counseling or guidance
@@socialitenoel no, but if you’re wearing revealing clothing and not dressing modestly/classy, don’t be surprised if you attract a perverted and lustful man.
@@socialitenoel That's a bit too simplistic... but here is the truth in it... if a homeless man steps to you and shoots his shot, he's bold enough to think you might offer him a HOME... he does not sense a big enough GAP between your life and choices and his such that the possibility ISN'T a possibility! So, here is what follows: it is necessary to become and present the aspect likely to attract the type of person you seek to be with and leave a BIG GAP between you and those men who are not eligible!
PastorBlakes....I am so glad that you are " out here" and " there" for us....Your encouragement, insight and wisdom are a " Balm in Gilead" ..... I'm a mature woman now and didn't make the best choices in my life and I'm growing into "myself" now and by God's grace and your soothing explanations...I desire to become 'better' and no longer " bitter". Thank you Pastor.....God bless your"hearts" .( That music background is the " bombdiddy") 😅 👏👏 🙌
Not Against going past my skin tone. I've seen some BEAUTIFUL things happen over that way....💜💜💜 I'm at the Beginning of this recording Pastor....And Ready to hear your Wisdom🙏🏿🙏🏿
I want to let you know how much I love your work. It’s really helped me. It’s expanded my mind. What I love most is that people of all different genders, ages and races can connect and learn from one another. Thank you so much!!
❤❤Thank you Bishop Blakes for your teachings, Merry CHRISTMAS to you Lady Lisa and family🎄🌲♥️Still watching in December 2023 may God continue to bless you my Spiritual Dad❤
When in the presence of a real man all my insecurities all my fears all my problems all my past in the presence of a real Man; a girl becomes a Woman. A Man if Whole and decent and Just Powerful; Very Unique to find.
I don't date. I pray. God knows the path I am on. There are Godly men out there as well as Godly women. Not everyone will marry. I have my moments but more so embracing my singleness. It truly is a gift.
This is EXACTLY why I've been single and celibate for almost 10 yrs. GOD will allow my husband to see ME and when he approaches me, I will surely be ready. EVERY point he makes is EXACTLY how I think!!!! Thanking GOD for confirmation!!!!!!!!!
Thank you so much for teaching me at the age of 50. How I wish I knew this as a teen eager. I’ve shared with my 3 daughters. Every girl/ woman needs to know this truth and the truth will set them free. Bless you for your commitment to make this possible.
KEY POINTS:
1. A woman's energy.
2. Social conditioning.
3. Social positioning.
4. You're not available.
5. Society has trained men to not commit
to marriage.
6. Women who provide sex for nothing is
fueling men's reluctance to commit to
marriage.
7. Most women are not actually looking
for a husband. Most women are
looking for an image.
8. You can't attract a good man because
you don't accept your own worthiness.
9. Women's superficial requirements will
narrow your choices.
10. You may have a very negative view of
men.
11. Many women may not have a healthy
relationship with God. A relationship
with God helps her to hear God and
discern.
12. Women should not pursue a man.
A woman should attract a man.
13. Celebrate and acknowledge a good
man.
14. A woman must have a peaceful
continence.
15. A woman must always have
boundaries.
16. TRUST GOD!!!
Thanks for these pointers I missed certain parts of the live video
Thanks alot
Thank you 💛💛💛 im old skool too, grew near your generation& these were my standards & they work!!!! The problem is #5 is against us, but they are some out there, but few. Thank you for your insight.
Thank you! God bless you!🙏🏾❤️😊
#5 and 6...Most men of today are expecting an easy path to a woman. When she has worthiness and love for herself as well as have boundaries...Most men will walk away inside of a week bc he knows he can easily get the same thing from the next woman...I say...bye suga✌🙋♀️..I pray you receive all the desires of your heart..I stand firm in my boundaries, worthiness and love for myself💯😀😀💕
“A masculine man is trying to hold things down while a feminine man is trying to find a woman to hold him down.” Now that’s a word right there!
See! ❤
Whew!
Very true line!!!
Wow!! That is so true!! Sadly....
AND SADLY THERE ARE MANY WOMEN WHO ARE PROVIDING FOR MEN JUSTVTO SAY THEY HAVE A MAN!!!! AND THAT SAME MAN ( LOSER) DEGRADE AND STUMPIN' ON HER HEAD , CHEATS, STRIPCLUB, DRINK, DRUGS ETC ETC EVERY TIME AND STILL THOSE WOMEN STAY AND PROVIDE FOR HIM.AND ABOVE ALL THEY FIGHT TO DEAD WITH ANOTHER WOMEN OVER THIS SAME LOSER THAT DON'T WANT HER!!!!
Come on ladies, he’s teaching it. I turned 60 and just learning this stuff. Didn’t know my worth, settled for less, attracted the same type of men-broken like me. Grasp this teaching now so you don’t give away a season of your life. I did and it saddens me now that I’m Queen conscious, trusting God it’s not to late for a Kingdom husband.
same here, sister. God can and Will send us our husband. He did it for my sister at 71 and they have been married 10 years and he will do it for us.
Great!! I’m working on myself. God put me in the mindset of being a wife for 2 years. I’m healing myself by getting rid of old doctrines, beliefs, and mindsets such as all men are dogs, as a result of trauma and hurt from some of the men I’ve encountered. I have the faith that I’m very very close to meeting my husband.
I feel you sister I’m 60 also and most of the men that approach me always wants something and has nothing to offer and God they have no clue it is so sad a lot of them think that way I try to break off some word to them and that’s all they can get from me
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This is the truth. Women, know your worth and never give a guy who disrespects you a second thought. I wasted 30 years of my life with men who didn’t deserve my time. I now know what I’m looking for and am so thankful God opened my eyes and heart.
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Oh yes. Thank you Pastor Blakes. I've watched many of your sermons & have referred friends, family etc. Your advice is loved & valued, big time. We love you here in Namibia (Africa). Keep preaching to us. We appreciate you 🙏❤
I just wasted almost 10 years trapped in a poisonous cycle with a very abusive partner that kept saying he was going to marry me and never did. Im in a psychological hole but at least Im not wasting any more of my days with him.
He spoke about me to you not alone. I got out of that cycle of DELUSION.
I too as well was with a man like that for 10 years...finally got out of it and feel so free.
I had the same story. I’ve been out a year and a half.
Never again.
I’m excited for your future!! You are free!! I’m proud of you!!
Your beautiful
I'm taking notes. He giving this $1M class FOR FREE!!!!!!
Most Women Are Not Going To Get A Legal Marriage Contract This Brother Quoting Biblical Christian Text Is Very Smooth Authoriative Sounding But Can't Help These Women He Has No Current Contextual Message For A Time At This Hour With These Mordern Day Draconian Marriage Laws That Are Not Any Good For Men He Is Preaching From A Judgemental Fire & Brimstone Fear Perspective . Many Of These Women Will Never Be Married & They Should Still Live Happy Fufilled Lives . These Marriage Family Court Laws Are Designed To Extract Resources From Men . Quoting Scriptures From A Book Printed In A Book Printed In A White Male Run Warehouse Mean Nothing in This System of Institutional Marriage License State/Government Pair-Bonding Validation Contruct . Some Men/Real Good Men Are Just Not Doing It ... The Preacher Makes Good Points But Is Not Progressive & It Makes Delusional Women Feel Unworthy ... Because Men Are Not Entering These Marriage Contracts .... His Message Is For Women Most Of Whom Are
Fantasy Hard-Core Jesus Gonna Send Me A Man After I Hit The Wall Wishful Thinking Types.
@@crazycrimess what are you talking about how are you going to sit up here and say that it's okay for black men to treat women like that and be demeaning to them. Just like Pastor Blakes said don't waste your time on you. You sitting up here saying that a woman don't need to have marriage. All she need to do is lay around and play around with you and have a good time and just see where it goes. When actually it's not going anywhere cause that man already got motives and don't plan on taking it nowhere. What about the woman that grew up with both parents? Her understanding of life and having a meaningful life is being married and having a family and you telling her she don't need that how does that work? And what about the kids black man is the reason that there isn't going to be any more pure black children in the world thank you. You walk off and leave a mother with her kids and act like they never existed and go start a new family somewhere else. Selfish all you care about is yourself don't got the capacity to care about anybody else in your brain. They everywhere prowling around lurking in corners and in the church house. Like Pastor said it be looking like the club up in church sometimes. All man got the potential to be a husband they just ain't came up against the right woman that ain't taken they mess. and a real woman searches for the truth and you before she even consider any type of marriage with you. When a woman dies she wants God she lived a good life and raised her children and had a respectable family on Earth. A man that truly loved her not a bunch of friends goodbye.
@@eaglelensforemay7503 What? On one hand you talkin about Pastor Blake's is telling the truth. However he preaching to the choir he ain't preaching to the women that watch this channel you are a fool. Get out the chat room. What money???? Most of the Women got good jobs or been educated. The have degree, money and established. A man that would say something like that probably ain't got nothing. Check out McBane UA-cam Channel
He saying the reality is separate from the Christian ideology. Sadly but also true. Too much turmoil over the years on men.. no faith in women in mass all over the world
@@crazycrimess the man still has the responsibility to take care of his children and family marry or not but it shouldn’t be up to the court to make them do it. I told my son to put himself up for support.
Ladies stop being wives to boyfriends.
“A man who finds a ‘wife’ finds a GOOD thing…” loose women stop playing house to boys. Both these type of grown girls and grown boys need to straighten up and stop acting baffled they’re continuously disappointed and reaping weeds.
Close them legs!
This is so true. A man told me know one is waiting until marriage now. I stop talking to him. My family said go on a dating Christian app but the men were acting the same. I deleted the Christian app and just decided to wait and maybe I'll start an activity after work like skating. I'm 50 but still believe God will answer my prayers.
Come on now...its all over for you
God is sure to do it for us! I just believe it!
In Jesus name he will...just continue to be obedient
DO NOT LISTEN TO THE LIES OF THE ENEMY! My sister is 71 and God blessed her with her King! Keep believing God!
@@gwendolynhall2321 and if he dont then what?
A. Where you not worthy? Or
B. Was he not as omnipotent as you thought
How do you know that man you met last week wasnt the man he had for your life but you shot him down because his shoes were cheap or his car was old?
I believe a lot of good men are hidden in plain sight. I’m praying this teaching will teach me how to have the eyes & heart to see them. 🌱
The waster spirit.....time stealer...
Exactly 💯
🙏🏾❤💯
In they are in Plain Sight then they arent Hiding. It is that you cant identify them at all and are looking for something Other than a Good Man.
@@broncomcbane6382 sometimes you have to peel back (get to know) the layers to men that may not necessarily be your preference as far as looks. Unfortunately men and women have been looking for preferences, usually based on superficial things (due to conditioning) and it’s when you become mature/truly grown (through knowing Christ and trying to truly live for him) you’re able to see men in a different light, thus giving those men you may have not, in your immaturity, a chance. There are guys in plain sight (have been in plain sight) that don’t get a chance due to a woman’s immaturity. When she matures though he may not be her preference she may give him a chance now and “find” hidden blessings-a blessing.
Quit looking, let go and let GOD do the work!!!!! Work on SELF, live a God filled life
AMEN!!!
This is true, I always told men don't expected me to sleep with you unless we are married. The next day I don't get a phone call. And that is ok I refuse to let a man use me for sex, no way.
I concur! We are so much more than our bodies.
I heard a woman tell a man that on a podcast, he told her that she may as well get used to being alone because no man is going to wait to have relations with a woman that is not a Virg**, a woman that has kid's already by someone else. Keep hope alive, I am hopeful that we will find a suitable partner someday.....💛💚💙
@@lmarie724 Exactly!!!!
That’s how I am, but they always leave. I’m scared I’ll be single forever because of this
@@princess287love better to be single forever o than settling for a basic man
When I was working hard on my relationship with God and family I was minding my business, not looking for a Man. That's when he found me.
How?
Both relationships came that way; real talk.
Bingo! Exactly how it happened for me as well.
God bless you sister. Where/how did you meet?
@@jasminealexia church.
Standards have plummeted across the board. Too many addicted to porn, etc. 💔
And 3 somes... Sad really.💔
@@Nubian77me WHAT? Ugh.
That's exacly right!
@@stacymurphy2599 same thing I said...my situation that's what he and her ar3 into... Not Godly in my eyes. A man's rejection is God's protection
I work at the police department in town and one of the officers is trying to invite me group sex events/ wipe swapping events, and asking me to meet up with him behind his wife’s back. I’m offended he has the audacity to ask that. Same man who’s on FB all “ I love my wife, she’s a dime.”
I lost a Godly woman four months ago, I’m listening to your videos every day. I don’t know if she’ll ever talk to me again but I’m praying she does. I can’t stop thinking about her. I love you RC Blakes, I’m learning from my mistakes.
This is a great space to be. Keep learning and growing.
@@kheriphillip878 Thank you 🙏
What did you do to her?
@@smartkookie We were together for one year to the day. I had the rings and was planning to propose. She broke up with me two weeks before I was going to propose to her on our spring break vacation. She said I’m codependent, so I’m trying to heal from that. I’m trying to find the difference between being codependent and doing everything I can for my future wife and mother of my children.
@@davidrodgers9244 Thanks for answering. She wasn't the one. A better fit for you is on the way. That was no reason to end it with you.
I have 2 friends who have been married a few times. I look at the caliber of a man. All of the men that they married aren't worth a hill of beans. I've also noticed that when I didn't have standards I attracted a lot of low life men. Now, that I have standards I meet less men. I refuse to settle. I trust my intuition. Within 5 minutes of meeting or talking to a man I know he's not the one for me. It's sad because of all my friends are all married to men that I wouldn't want. Women has made men the prize. I know I'm the prize. I will keep myself open to attract true love. I'm also prepared to be alone and I'm okay with it. A man must be a man. You are not here to fix a man. A broken man stay away from him. It's not your fault how the majority men are. I'm not building a man. Ladies, trust your gut instincts and never settle just to have a man and husband. Make your list and work on yourself. Make deal breakers and stick with them. NEVER Settle for less. Know that you're worthy to have the man that God made for you. Ase.
This is soo me...I will rather remain single than marry wrongly
@@busstyflo2520, I know that's right. It's funny how all of my friends are married; and none of them are doing better than me financially. Why get married just to have struggle love? Please, I will pass on that. Most black women think they are better than you when they get married; even if their husbands are a dust ball, dust mites. Lol, I guess any man will do. 🤣🤣
Thank you dear for this write up
@@ombreyarenee3826 we need to exchange contacts babes, we really have the same mentality.
@@busstyflo2520, let's do that.
You are telling the truth. The majority have zero standards. One of my old friends a male told me "You are the 1% that won't and there's 99% that will". I couldn't argue or defend it because it's true. Sex is free now these days, women give it away with no effort. Men don't have time for me because my standards are eagle high and I'm not willing to compromise. It's amazing how all these decades later we still having these conversations. When will the human condition heal and get it right. It's not rocket science. Have standards period!
Sad
This!!! My opinion is that this is a huge issue. I agree that we need to work on ourselves and our energy but what happens when you do that, you’re working on your purpose, you have your boundaries in place and still run into the very issue you speak of? Also, I find it highly unfair that we as women who desire healthy relationships are not permitted to be attracted to what we’re attracted to. Men in general are visual and rarely do they rely on the inner part of women. To me, attraction is a combination of things not just certain physical attributes so if that’s the focus then I can see the point about superficiality. You can’t force yourself to want to be romantically linked with someone who you don’t see in that way. This should go beyond just looks but at the same time, I feel you should at least desire that person. Otherwise, how is that fair to him? I have yet to witness single men who are willing to court and date without sex in the mix. I agree with many points in this video however, the conversation must continue and many more points need to be addressed. I believe there are great ppl in the world but where it differs is what is valued. Those good men tend to go with the 99%. I think the only hope is to rely on God if it is in your purpose to be married. I think that’s another discussion. Not everyone will be married even if they desire to do so. Then how does one accept that without growing bitter? Nonetheless, this is a great discourse.
Lord please bless me with the Love of MY Life! Not someone else's love but my very own. No justification as to why I desire or deserve. Please Lord, if it's in your will for my life.
AMEN.
Amen
Amen 🙏
I hope to be found by a good man that has good character and righteous standards
Me too!!
Amen
Amen
Amen and Amen.
Most Women Are Not Going To Get A Legal Marriage Contract This Brother Quoting Biblical Christian Text Is Very Smooth Authoriative Sounding But Can't Help These Women He Has No Current Contextual Message For A Time At This Hour With These Mordern Day Draconian Marriage Laws That Are Not Any Good For Men He Is Preaching From A Judgemental Fire & Brimstone Fear Perspective . Many Of These Women Will Never Be Married & They Should Still Live Happy Fufilled Lives . These Marriage Family Court Laws Are Designed To Extract Resources From Men . Quoting Scriptures From A Book Printed In A Book Printed In A White Male Run Warehouse Mean Nothing in This System of Institutional Marriage License State/Government Pair-Bonding Validation Contruct . Some Men/Real Good Men Are Just Not Doing It ... The Preacher Makes Good Points But Is Not Progressive & It Makes Delusional Women Feel Unworthy ... Because Men Are Not Entering These Marriage Contracts .... His Message Is For Women Most Of Whom Are
Fantasy Hard-Core Jesus Gonna Send Me A Man After I Hit The Wall Wishful Thinking Types.
I want to see his heart, his character, his relationship with Christ.
I agree. I look at his heart not his bank account. He could be rich and be poor in heart and character. A rich heart and rich character. Action meeting words.
What should his relationship with Christ look like
@@sheilaseniff9338, why can't you have both? If it is in your cards to have it. You will have it. Never settle for less than you deserve. A man's rejection maybe God's blessing. Ase.
@@מתִתיהו-מ4ט for me, He prays, fast, worships, serves in the Kingdom, pays titches, has a Christ like heart for people, leds me to Christ not away from Christ, studies and lives what the Word says( not perfection). These are some examples for me. I’ve met plenty that say they are a Christian. But for them it’s a title. I can ask what church do you attend and they tell me I watch sometimes on line. Me and my husband are going to attend church together.
Yes ma’am! ALL of those are what SHOULD BE most important.
I agree. This generation of men is not just spoiled they’re toxic.
That’s not a fair assessment. It’s the men you attract. We could say all women are damaged, set in their ways and carry entitlements, however that would not be fair to all of the good women. Pray before you play to avoid being prey.🙏🏿
Bingo
@@aaroneaton138 You know, you’re right. It wasn’t fair for me to imply that all men in this generation are spoiled and toxic. That was a generalization applied to all men in this generation. Not every man is perverted in this way. It’s the cultural mindset and the value system of this generation that is producing the spoiled toxicity I’m referring to. As for me, My comment was not inspired by men I attract as that would be an unfounded generalization affixed to one woman you haven’t met. It was an observation of what I’m seeing and a response to Bishop Blake’s topical discussion.
Greetings my sister I love effective communication. I am not offended nor intend to offend you. Often times we hear before hearing. I’m sure you are a wonderful person and my prayer is that God will continue you show you favor. Stay blessed. 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
@@aaroneaton138 Thank you brother. I do still think something needs to be done to address this culture though. And it can’t start with how women make men do better by depriving them of sex. I appreciate Bishop Blakes’s attempt to get at these issues but his perspective will only solve 50% of the problem at best. Since all women are not a monolith you will never get them all to act in one accord to straighten out men. We are all image holders of Jesus Christ, however men were designed and shaped to lead and they will not simply change because those whom they are leading try to force them to. Leaders must change on the inside. It’s an inside job. And this culture is purposely trying to defile and pervert men from the inside out so that they will go back to their communities and pervert and destroy them. So while I stand corrected I do hope that Bishop Blakes does more on UA-cam to address the inner change a man must choose to make. Shalom.
I'm from the old skool and now I'm all for seeing a man from the inside out! I've learned to date with my eyes, ears and mind, never my heart.
Goodafternoon real good man will sacrifice too make you happy n also ask what ‘s you need help with ! A real man will work too bone too take the load off you n also send you roses, help with bills , fuel up your car , car repairs , take you on get way weekend . You judge a good man by his actions n the way he treat you as queen , put first in their life!
For everyone that's reading this, I pray you find healing in your heart from past hurt and trauma and Trust God to bring your next husband/wife into your life, rather in this season or next. Trust God's timing he knows what he is doing, God knows the heart and thoughts of every man. Love, Hugs and Kisses! 🙏
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I needed this prayer. Thank you beautiful. May God continue to blessed you. 💗🙏🥰
Thank you 🙏🏽🙏🏽💟💕
❤️⭐️
Thank you Gigi I'm waiting patiently while discerning the dates i go on and men i talk to and trusting God to send me his choice.
Thank you Pastor Blakes for another wonderful talk! I'm 21, and had recently met a young man I really liked and enjoyed. Very respectful and good energy. Unfortunately, I think god still has work to do with him and he turned me down for a serious committed relationship. He still is in the process of building his kingdom. Its super hard out here in this dating culture, but if I can speak to every lady out there; Keep sex off the table. It makes a man's intentions very clear, and defines the relationship very fast. There is so much less headache, stress, discomfort and worrying when one takes sex out of the equation. And we all know that story of a man who leaves a woman and marries a new one within 3 months. If a man cant stand not getting sex from you, and if he doesn't offer to commit within a timely manner, shwoop! Out the door. I wish everyone the best of luck in finding your husband, and may god bless your day!!!
I'm so happy you know this at 21! Stay strong beautiful 🙂 never lose your power.
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙏🏽 AMEN🙏🏽!
If HE can't lead and be strong and have standards before marriage HE'S NOT GOING TO AFTER. And if we have all the qualities, who are we supposed to marry??
Facts
I agree with this. I also believe if a woman refuses to let a man lead, that man won’t want to provide for her either
@@ksquareshow4480 correct- it will be out of order and the marriage will fail
Its sad that as a society we have given our bodies away for free without any commitment of any kind. In today's world it's virtual impossible to find a good spouse because if you want to wait for marriage for sex, you will most likely be cheated on or they will go else where to satisfy their needs.
yeah but not from a good man..they go elsewhere..they simply dont go out with you
There is good men out there. I’m a mother that give birth to two great young men in the twenties not perfect but will become great father one day. Trust GOD and the Process.
Pastor RC Blakes is teaching the Word of God. Renewing the mind with the Word of God is changing me when it hurts.
Also - it is rare to find a man who has worked on himself. They somehow believe that they are fine just as they are and women always have to manoeuvre, compromise and sacrifice around them. Also where are the videos that teach men emotional intelligence and how to be better men.
EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Jolene Ashby. men would take getting help as a sign of weakness.
He has a whole Kingology series for men.
Thank you so much for this pastor. Women need to hear this. If we change back to women of virtue, the game would change!
I’m tellin u
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Men who are sometimes 75, 80 years old are attracted to women in their 40's 50's. I'm not attracted to grandpa! But some women feel like they are over the hill and because they are in their 50's never been married and since grandpa is the only someone showing interest they settle for grandpa. I just can't!! I choose not to settle for grandpa. I've never been married will be 59 in a few days and I'm just crazy enough to believe that when the time is right God will make it happen for me and others of you desiring marriage. We dont have to settle but we should settle ourselves, wait on God, be patient and in the meantime enjoy the single time of our lives. God's got us! I really enjoyed the teaching on tonight Bishop! Keep going!
And that is the truth Sister!
God bless you my dear sister💖. I feel this. I am 3 months away from 54. I was never married. I have no children. I went through trauma being raised by a narcisstic mother who is 100% dependant on me now because she is ill. I am taking care of her. I am living one day at a time and trusting God with my life because i have been so heartbroken. But at this now moment of so much truth and revelation, it is time to live our best life in Christ and let go and let God. He will do the rest. I do not want grandpa either.
Sorry but at almost 60? You don't want a grandpa? What age are you looking for?
Lyndelle Mode I had a narcissistic Mother as well. But it took me 57 years and listening to R C Blakes teach on narcissism that helped me break away from her. I had never heard that word until Bishop taught on it. It was like scales falling off my eyes. I went no contact with her. Sadly she passed away in 2019. The thing that I hate is that we were never close not bc I didn't want it but she didn't. So I understand exactly where you're coming from. I pray that God gives you strength as you continue on your journey of life and that he blesses us with the man that's just right for us. Prayers for your mom also.
I completely understand cause Im not signing up to be a nurse maid either!
In response to the title Pastor, it’s because too many people have completely lost their minds. Could you do a video about the calamity going on in the world today and how to remain faithful, positive and coping mechanisms. Finding love is the last thing on my mind when lives are senselessly being lost more and more each day. Our entire world needs divine intervention!
This is exactly how I've been feeling lately.
@@kpg2013 It’s good to hear I’m not the only one
We are in the time of Great Distress (Mt. 24:29) a ka tribulation- we are in Revelation ch 6 now- the first two seals have been opened and we are on the precipice of seal 3. www.evangelicaloutreach.org/four-horsemen-of-the-apocalypse.htm
The red pill movement and all those other 5 letter groups are growing in numbers by the day.
All of my safe channels on UA-cam are now beginning to show these creepers moving in.
Isaiah 45:7 I form the light, and create darkness: I make peace, and create evil: I the Lord do all these things.
8 Drop down, ye heavens, from above, and let the skies pour down righteousness: let the earth open, and let them bring forth salvation, and let righteousness spring up together; I the Lord have created it.
9 Woe unto him that striveth with his Maker!
Thank you for stating that men don't have the desire to commit. 1) Women are also doing too much for men that are not their husband so they don't need to commit. 2) Mistresses are nursing married men that are making excuses why they are cheating instead of her telling him I don't date married men and solve your issues at home. 3) I've seen in my mother's generation and my generation women go to work come home to make sure dinner is on the table and are meek and men verbally, emotional and physically abuse them while cheating because they know they can not financially survive on their own. (what I've seen and heard)
I'm 29 and I greatly appreciate this old school teaching. I am not my mistakes.
I'm still working on myself so that the husband God has for me will get ALL OF ME and not my mistakes.
I’m 29 too, I’ll be 30 in January.., we in this together, it’s time to LEVEL UP.
Much love 💕
Goodafternoon real good man will sacrifice too make you happy n also ask what’s you need help with , also ask what your futures goals . A real good man will take load off you n willing too send you roses , help with bills , also make should gas in your car , also take you work on your off days .The good one get by pass because a woman not use too it or just scare !
Goodafternoon a real goodman will sacrifice too make you happy n also ask what ‘s you need help with , also ask what ‘s your future goals ! A real good man will send you roses , help with bills , keep gas in your car , car repairs , he has god in life n also put you first too. A real man will work too the bones make should you don’t have work so hard n also communications is the key n trust !
This is good stuff, but the crazy thing is in my experience looking past the superficial, I still ran into problems. The guys that I dated who were considered not as attractive were so insecure and suspicious that they sabotaged the relationship by cheating, being controlling, or being unsupportive. I don't think we all care about height and weight requirements, more so than someone who's healthy enough to connect with.
Because i don't fit most women's preferences, I'm definitely not going to date anymore. I'll just focus on my career and keep it moving. I don't want nobody to settle for me.
Thank you sir you've open my eyes to the fact that i was created below the standards.
I would Love to know where they are, unless God is preparing that special person that he has hidden for me @ the right moment and time! His timing isn't like mine waiting patiently and he will send me his Best!!!
I agree with EVERYTHING. I'm over 50, in excellent shape and a woman of honor. I've had so many suitors, I can't count! Received a few marriage inquiries too. All great brothers too. Hardworking, sober and more. Well done, Pastor, WELL DONE!!
All facts! I been been saying this smh.. collectively close our legs and the men will fall back in line… 💁🏽♀️ but the level of desperation is so astonishing it will never happen. 🤦🏽♀️
I'm laughing at this but it's rather sad though.
Pastor. I’m getting tired of you hittin me right in the soul with your messages lol. I’m not gonna lie..sometimes I get so convicted I need to pause and take a breather 😅 I’m learning so much! Please continue to keep pouring into your daughters all over the world. We appreciate you & your family!!
You ladies better take heed to Wise Counsel by Bishop! A lot of women don't realize they could have had the world, but they overlooked the Anti-Type guy you think you were not attracted to. Trust what I'm saying, I'm a man! Great message, Bishop 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I'm in my mid-50's got married in my 30's and got divorced not long after. I have dated since then and have found no such KING. I am happy, healthy, debt free and living my best life and not looking for one.
"Love, like happiness, is the butterfly ; chase it with your net and it will elude you but if you quietly busy yourself , getting on with your life in other areas; it will come and sit on your shoulder "
I want a man with character not a man with a wash board stomach.
Hello!!
Who says you can't have both?
Are they mutually exclusive?
Well it would be wonderfull if he is in great shape & a Christian man 👞 of character & Godly 💕😘 love, ✌️🕊️, knowledge & wisdom, successful & joy filled!!!
Amen, sister!!! 🙌
You are correct Pastor Blakes, a man only goes as far as a woman would allow. That's why after 2 years I divorced my ex husband because he refused to get a job and commit to starting his own business, he bought all the supplies and equipment but he never did anything! He was an unmotivated, abusive drunk, that I refuse to take care of. Yes I was stupid for marrying him but I drew my line. Had Enough🎯
Good for you, sister!!! God bless you!!! 🙏❤
And now you are and adulteress women
@@DW-zd7sc I have been celibate for 7 years. Even if I date another man, my ex-husband has gone on with his life and remarried. Amen 🙏
@@princessgigiking your destroyed your own home and now you have nothing. Smh. God hates divorce.
Most good men I talk to
dont want an easy woman..They say the milk and cookies are too available these days..nothn to fight for...uP your standards ladies.
But if theyre such good men why are they sleeping around, getting so many "milk and cookies"?
True. If women throwing their booty at a man 1st thing why commit...to her at least?
@@malikastone you dont nothing about men do you? Who in their right mind will turn down a free meal?
@@broncomcbane6382 A free meal can be a poison. Free meal on sight but a spiritual venom!
@@malikastone Exactly! A man who goes for the "milk and cookies" from every woman has no respect for himself. He isn't a high value or high quality man just because he has the high numbers. Any man who thinks that is what matters is too immature to have the mindset of a King.
What a doomsday message. I have no control over finding a good man bc of loose women who give it up with no commitment. Ive done the self healing, changed my energy through higher level thinking & being positive and approachable, lost 80 pounds, grew my hair long and pretty, bought my perfect teeth, worked on my femininity, in order to attract my husband, all while remaining abstinent as I have for the last 3 years…😬
Facts. I agree work on yourself and know your worth. Never settle to be with a man. A man is not the prize. You are the prize.
I agree...this message was victim blaming and not uplifting
Oh for the women Queens who had a King and now he has passed on What do YOU See NOW? Well yes I'd like to enjoy a Male company but now at this point of my life in this time of where do I go from here? I'm I hoping another KING yes and no I'll know when he approaches me and I have prayed Lord when it's your time send me the BEST man just for me! And he will!! When I'm ready to receive this pandemic and my grief has slowed social but change is coming so I'm preparing for it positive change I'm getting ready for NEW! Yes Bishop the content character of a Man for sure Blessings to ALL
He said this message doesn't apply to all women.
I commend your abstinence I am right there with you with 2 years but please don't be too hard on the women fornicating. We used to be one. The men take advantage of our yearning for them as God has put in us to do. Besides they will continue to feel used and hurt so pray for them 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤
Awesome Word!!!! I’ve never been one to say, “where’s all the good men?” I truly accept my worthiness!!!
I been gave up on having a “type” and started looking at the heart and character of a man. One thing about being stubborn about having a type, is the lack of consideration for the fact that YOU might not be your type’s type💡
A lot of Men Are Now, Not Working and Intentionally Looking For A Woman To Take Care of Him. 💎💎💎
I was in a relationship that I allowed to take up 10 yrs of my life. Now I'm 35 and I'm not the same person I was at 25 and the pickings are even slimmer than they were then. Now it's like I'm trying to rebuild my life. It's tough 😩
I agree
2024 now and you still telling the truth.!! Thank you & Mrs Lisa keep teaching us. Stay the course..I’m going to play a portion of your teaching at my wedding as I stand there with my King. If I can do it sisters you can too. Gods no respecter of persons..
Most are in denial and want to seek something “good” however in their heart they aren’t exuding that same essence! Source will match you with your hearts deepest vibration! Are you dealing with and breaking through your insecurities pain let downs there is a lot of spiritual acknowledgment and work that must be done before getting to your high place! Are you saying one thing but thinking feeling and your outside world isn’t a reflection? All must be aligned buckle up and do the work🙌🏾 I love your teachings and your new set up #upgrade!! Loving the growth have a blessed evening ✨🧚🏽💚
Thank you Lord I didn't miss this. I would love to know and my sisters in Christ would too.
I've been watching your videos religiously and never knew a lot of this information. White chic here who grew up in two-parent household rife with addiction and abuse.
There was no father-daughter talks or mother-daughter talks growing up.
I have wasted decades trying to 'figure it out', losing my 30's to a total loser. At 39, left with him threatening, name calling and more.
Thank God I am free!
Went back to school and worked hard on myself, my spirit, body, money, education and have cultivated my best life through hobbies and self love.
I hope I am not too late now at 40 something....I just want my own family like everyone else. Thank you for all your wisdom and tough love.
"Offering ourselves on the altar of broken men's lust!" WOW!
Wow this was very incredible teaching very good advice. I'm single woman been for awhile I haven't been dating at all, I'm preparing myself for right person that's God has for me. I'm patiently waiting and doing what God call me to do for kingdom. God blessings make it rich added no sorrows. God bless you RC Blake's and your family
Pastor you are off the chain! I love it. Thank you for the absolute TRUTH.
My "type" was killing me! Word!! 🙌🗣
I Know I'm a Good Woman and Ready To Be A Good Wife, I have been married before so I have some life experience! I'm strong enough for husband number 3. Still hoping for a long-lasting, stable, loving marriage. In God's time! 💎💎💎
I've have not come across anyone on the same spiritual level. This has been my challenge.
Honestly the biggest issue as you mentioned comes back to women rewarding men with sex without any commitment. Women set the standard for what will be tolerated. Women have to raise their standards and stop lowering the bar.
I’m not religious, would even call myself an atheist. And I still feel so privileged and lucky to have found your channel and am able to take part of all your wisdom, even the biblical texts. And it makes me realize that I may have had a childhood but nobody really raised me. An absent abusive father and a mother who’s idea of raising kids was solely cooking and cleaning. No wonder I’ve bounced from one abusive relationship to another.
The information you are putting out there is so so so valuable. Thank you.
This video deserves more views and likes because it's very honest and true!!
Amen, sister!!! People just don’t desire the truth. They love the situations they are in. It’s what some of them are used to and comfortable with. Some women would rather have a “piece of a man” than a real man…js 👀🙄🤔🤷🏽♀️
I thank God firstly for this message by using Bishop RC BLAKES as the messenger to send this timely message. I know God is doing a new thing in my life and preparing me for my husband. The classes are going great. Keep teaching Bishop. God richly bless you and your wife
I receive that anointed ending Prayer as well as the Message!! God bless you Bishop and Lady Lisa!!! 💕
You said a mouth full Pastor. I have been saying that for years 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
The Queen's role is not to find a good man but by attracting the good man the right way...good 1sir...well noted.👍
RC, you knocked it out of the park!
Your point at 22:00 mins is ancient wisdom that everyone in society understood.
Women have been conned, scammed, into thinking that free love works, and cheap sex is ok.
We sell ourselves so short!
Pornography has contributed to this, and is a symptom of it. I see it as a part of how Narcissism has polluted our culture.
That is so true which is hard swallow for us as women, we made our own beds...thank you so much Mr Blake's for opening our eyes...we will do right going forward
I’m clear on my worth, I’m not clear on the value of men in my life- this needs prayer for sure
Spiritual Dad, i detected no lies told in this video. Amen. 🙏🏾
Insightful teaching as always! Thank you Pastor 😄
Bravo, bravo, bravo Pastor. I was telling a woman in her early forties the same things you're talking about now. Weak women make it hard for all women.
Amen!!!
God bless you Pastor. You are good soul.
Thats right as long as women play the fool and the men are getting everything on credit they will never marry u
So true sister...
@23:07 soooo true! That is why I get called weird, get told to grow up, been asked if I am a 14 yr old, told we are not kids, told I am not in grade 5! Here is the Best one yet, I was told I was cursed cause I wouldn't sleep with him! 👀🧐🤔🙄
I would like a man who has amazing character and has a strong belief in God he don't need alot of money but treats me with respect and cares about my feelings.
Love you & Lisa, thank you for this very important reminder‼️🙏🏼
Honestly Pastor Blakes, I believe good men exists, I am not completely traumatized by past marriage I am more focused on adjusting my crown as a Queen 👑, I have been abstinence for six years and I Trust God to bring me a husband in due season! I'm waiting on God, He knows the heart of man! I'm tired of being wrong.💎💎💎
Thank you Pastor...you have confirmed everything I've pondered over my years of waiting.❤
You said it! I gave up a WHOLE decade 😔 dealing with someone I shouldn’t have given the time of day if I had on five watches.
This is soooo good. Thank you so much 😊
You said it Pastor Blakes, a feminine man is looking for a woman to hold him down! All the while he ain't really looking for a job! Using Good Women, Facts. This is actually quite sad ☹️
I had to go to a white man to get a man who would nurture and NOT use me.
@@emilystevens6335 girl I made up my mind officially that I want to start dating white men because I'm seeing results, our black men are broken and won't seek counseling or guidance
I just said this earlier, if I’m attracting a certain type of man, its becomes I’m doing something wrong. You are what you attract.
So if a homeless man is attracted to you that means that you’re homeless too. Smh
@@socialitenoel no, but if you’re wearing revealing clothing and not dressing modestly/classy, don’t be surprised if you attract a perverted and lustful man.
@@socialitenoel That's a bit too simplistic... but here is the truth in it... if a homeless man steps to you and shoots his shot, he's bold enough to think you might offer him a HOME... he does not sense a big enough GAP between your life and choices and his such that the possibility ISN'T a possibility! So, here is what follows: it is necessary to become and present the aspect likely to attract the type of person you seek to be with and leave a BIG GAP between you and those men who are not eligible!
@@hymnodyhands a homeless man ain’t got nothing to lose so he gonna shoot his shit regardless. It ain’t got nothing to do with the woman
@@socialitenoel finally some one else that understands all kinds of people are attracted to people that are beautiful inside and out.
Bless you Pastor Blakes and thank you❤️🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
PastorBlakes....I am so glad that you are " out here" and " there" for us....Your encouragement, insight and wisdom are a " Balm in Gilead" ..... I'm a mature woman now and didn't make the best choices in my life and I'm growing into "myself" now and by God's grace and your soothing explanations...I desire to become 'better' and no longer " bitter". Thank you Pastor.....God bless your"hearts" .( That music background is the " bombdiddy") 😅 👏👏 🙌
Not Against going past my skin tone.
I've seen some BEAUTIFUL things happen over that way....💜💜💜
I'm at the Beginning of this recording Pastor....And Ready to hear your Wisdom🙏🏿🙏🏿
I want to let you know how much I love your work. It’s really helped me. It’s expanded my mind. What I love most is that people of all different genders, ages and races can connect and learn from one another. Thank you so much!!
Thank you Pastor for the good word..i'm waiting on God to send my husband!
Wow!!! This conversation really hit home. I have to admit that I'm hooked on superficial men. I need help with this.
"Wasting time with somebody you KNOW is not a husband!"
❤❤Thank you Bishop Blakes for your teachings, Merry CHRISTMAS to you Lady Lisa and family🎄🌲♥️Still watching in December 2023 may God continue to bless you my Spiritual Dad❤
RC Blake’s always has a good
lesson ♥️🥰🥰🙏🏽
I'm praying my 3 grandson's find your ministry...ages now are 14,6 and 11..I'm leaving written instructions in my will.🙏🙏🙏
When in the presence of a real man all my insecurities all my fears all my problems all my past in the presence of a real Man; a girl becomes a Woman. A Man if Whole and decent and Just Powerful;
Very Unique to find.
❤ thank you for sharing. Very insightful and difficult truths to acknowledge.
I don't date. I pray. God knows the path I am on. There are Godly men out there as well as Godly women. Not everyone will marry. I have my moments but more so embracing my singleness. It truly is a gift.
I love Pastor Blakes comedic but honest perspective. God will always point you in the right direction. Trust God 🙏🏽
This is EXACTLY why I've been single and celibate for almost 10 yrs. GOD will allow my husband to see ME and when he approaches me, I will surely be ready. EVERY point he makes is EXACTLY how I think!!!!
Thanking GOD for confirmation!!!!!!!!!
Thank you so much for teaching me at the age of 50. How I wish I knew this as a teen eager. I’ve shared with my 3 daughters. Every girl/ woman needs to know this truth and the truth will set them free. Bless you for your commitment to make this possible.